How can I Mourn Mario when he's still Alive

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  • @sablestew
    @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +696

    Thank you everyone so much for watching and your overwhelming support. I wasn't expecting such an outpouring of shared experiences and sentiments from you all regarding friendships and Mario. It's a fantastic reminder that we are not alone and we share so much more than we realize.
    Please bear with me as I will read all your comments and reply to as many as I can. It warms my heart to see all of them and I hope you are all doing well! Don't forget to take care of yourselves too!

    • @RarGamez
      @RarGamez 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      this is an essay

    • @RarGamez
      @RarGamez 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      this got sad fast

    • @Jelly_shy_guy_man
      @Jelly_shy_guy_man 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You made peak

    • @Sunflower_SM64
      @Sunflower_SM64 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You deserve way more views and subs than this!

    • @indigo22284
      @indigo22284 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Consider your friend Mario never existed in the first place. Perhaps he was showing a mask and what you saw in Japan was the real Mario.

  • @jinxsterr_Dispenser3741
    @jinxsterr_Dispenser3741 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2989

    This is the "mario the idea VS mario the man" essay, in its true entirety.

    • @damasterofskitsees
      @damasterofskitsees 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +232

      @@jinxsterr_Dispenser3741 Perchance

    • @Sacky_The_Artist
      @Sacky_The_Artist 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +168

      @@damasterofskitsees you can’t just say perchance

    • @Ralzone
      @Ralzone 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +66

      @@Sacky_The_Artist yes he can, persay

    • @SuperXzm
      @SuperXzm 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +39

      The lifekind...

    • @mastahmaxtah9339
      @mastahmaxtah9339 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +32

      I love and hate this so much... perchance

  • @EggZu_
    @EggZu_ 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2317

    i expected from the title that this would be like "mario games used to be good and now they're not" but honestly this was way way better

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  23 วันที่ผ่านมา +130

      @@EggZu_ I'm glad you enjoyed it! Thank you so much for watching!

    • @venomase5572
      @venomase5572 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      Thought the exact same thing and was suprised in the best way

    • @chrisheartman9263
      @chrisheartman9263 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      I mean, when *someone* continues to shoot in the foot their games by limiting writing innovation and bigger stories it's really pretty logic that games that used to be good just... aren't anymore. Also, I'm not saying that old mario games aren't good and that modern mario games aren't also good... it's just that modern mario games feel already old even when they've just come out.

    • @deeb13243
      @deeb13243 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I completely agree! I was going to make my own comment about this but funnily enough the top one was it already 😁
      While games in some ways have gotten worse, I still love them and always will. I'm kinda glad that this video wasn't negative and depressing like some others stating the objective flaws with Mario games, and I'm *very* glad this video was what it was. It gives me more knowledge than any schooling could.

    • @KiiBon
      @KiiBon 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@chrisheartman9263 odyssey was goated idk bro

  • @ThischannelIsNullNVoid
    @ThischannelIsNullNVoid 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +855

    I legit just lost a 20 year friendship over something that wasn't true and this video made me cry my fucking eyes out.

    • @benonaru
      @benonaru 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

      GET THE FRIENDSHIP BACK. NEVER LET BULLSHIT LIES EAT YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.

    • @FerinitheBloodHusky
      @FerinitheBloodHusky 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +118

      @@benonaru its not possible at times

    • @decodescow
      @decodescow 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Oh god I know that feeling 🤍

    • @marnenotmarnie259
      @marnenotmarnie259 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      yeah this one was a bit stabby in the emotions

    • @marnenotmarnie259
      @marnenotmarnie259 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      (not in a bad way, just in an effective way)

  • @kxdsh
    @kxdsh 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +1507

    the "before we married" made me so happy to hear

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +319

      Made me incredibly happy to say it!

    • @dumaass
      @dumaass 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

      @@sablestew Hell yeah!!

    • @TheKorenji
      @TheKorenji 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +74

      @@kxdsh almost felt like a spoiler, but hearing the whole thing I'm just glad it was mentioned AT ALL.

    • @jackatk
      @jackatk 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +53

      I saw this comment before watching the video and I was so concerned it was about Mario lmaooo
      But yeah, it was really wholesome and I’m happy he found love :)

    • @DoseOfRandom137
      @DoseOfRandom137 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      the opposite side of the coin compared to ''before we broke up''
      or the even worse ''went out separate ways''

  • @docrobotonic
    @docrobotonic 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +985

    It is absolutely uncanny that this video was recommended to me as I am currently in Japan with someone who I am seriously questioning my friendship with. Time will tell if our friendship survives this trip, but at least I don’t feel so alone right now.

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  23 วันที่ผ่านมา +192

      @docrobotonic I hope your trip to Japan goes well and whether your friendship continues or ends, I hope you take care of yourself and still enjoy your time! Japan is lovely. Glad I could make you feel not so alone right now

    • @necrodeus6811
      @necrodeus6811 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      I hope your able to come away with some fond memories despite the friendship drifting!

    • @RGamePlayXtreme
      @RGamePlayXtreme 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      How are things going now?

    • @helmaroc259
      @helmaroc259 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Same man, same. Love from America❤️❤️

    • @briggy4359
      @briggy4359 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

      I travelled in Japan in January of 2020 with my oldest friend, about 3 months before he developed severe schizophrenia.
      I had been questioning his behavior for a few years before that, worried that he was manipulating me and other people.
      Japan was great, and it's the last good memory I have with him; a pocket in time between my anxiety over his narcissism and the meteoric impact of his identitive dissolution.

  • @joeokeefe2771
    @joeokeefe2771 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +299

    This video made me cry real tears, not because I miss my past but because it means i wasn’t alone in how I felt in high school

  • @CarlsCozyCorner
    @CarlsCozyCorner 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +659

    "I would have used wikihow better" dude that sentence broke me

    • @RobinGutierrez-y5u
      @RobinGutierrez-y5u 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      Same, man, the way his voice sounds in that part absolutely demolished me

  • @masterlasheron
    @masterlasheron 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +454

    It's beautiful how we can give something so simple as a chubby red wahoo man a deeper meaning just by existing in a very specific moment of our lives and realizing that, no matter what, we keep changing while the time passes
    What a beautiful video

    • @MaximumAddition
      @MaximumAddition 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Gotta agree there, you never know when something that at the moment might seem so... innocuous, can turn into such a formative moment for you, for better or worse... Life is fascinating, isn't it?

    • @pinokio9951
      @pinokio9951 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      😮 masterlasheron is that you 👀?
      Also yea, its a very pretty video

    • @PankoBreading
      @PankoBreading 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      This comment is on-brand with your latest videos, no longer the milkman, you're a whole ass creamery now

    • @cynical_08
      @cynical_08 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      El frot

    • @Josuh
      @Josuh 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      EL LASHERON?!?!?!?!?

  • @krakios3950
    @krakios3950 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +701

    I was expecting this to be yet another video where people complain about the Mario franchise during the Mario Mandate era, but instead I got a beautiful story.
    Thank you for sharing.

    • @toadcube
      @toadcube 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      Me too 😭

    • @Luxembourgish
      @Luxembourgish 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      The Mario Mandate era did suck though

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  23 วันที่ผ่านมา +47

      @krakios3950 Thank you so much for watching! I'm glad you enjoyed it
      Though the Mario Mandate era is something I wasn't a fan of. I think the originality and uniqueness of the grand adventures we go on with Mario is something to appreciate

    • @MisterSandmanAU
      @MisterSandmanAU 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@Luxembourgish whats the mandate era?

    • @vdpt9911
      @vdpt9911 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +45

      ​@@MisterSandmanAU
      The "Mario Mandates" era is a (former) conspiracy formed largely by the Paper Mario and NSMB fans that theorized that Nintendo, during the Wii U and 3DS days from around 2012-2016 or so, with certain exceptions, mandated that Mario's games couldn't modify existing characters, get too crazy with the worlds and stories, make tons of OCs, basically do anything overly creative. I say 'former' because it was kinda proven true 4 years ago by Kensuke Tanabe's remarks that they were no longer able to modify Mario characters ever since Paper Mario: Sticker Star, which is also considered to be 'patient zero' for this issue.
      It isn't confirmed if this is just a Paper Mario thing and everyone else just had to...do that, but the whole creativity thing seems like something Nintendo might've, could've, possibly done in a desperate attempt to drive sales. There are many theories: playing it too safe, recovering from the excesses of both the PM and M&L series, just trying to probe the casual market that flooded in from the Wii and DS, and of course, the inevitable cries of 'selling out'.
      From what it looks like, even if it wasn't the mandate specifically, this mindset similar to this mandate of sanding down Mario's rough edges in this era touched pretty much every Mario game (except 2013's M&L Dream Team and certain 'indirectly Mario' spinoffs like Wario, DK and Luigi), like PM Sticker Star, Color Splash, Origami King, M&L Paper Jam, Mario Sports Superstars, NSMB 2, NSMB U, NSLU, 3D Land and 3D World. Note that a lot of these games have fun gameplay and are still a decent to great time, some even fairly refined in their series (ex. PJ's combat system), but naturally it looks very strange for a AAA company known for their innovation, creativity and risk-taking to do something like this.
      People have been notoriously critical of this era and its' games (RelaxAlax is really loud about it, but that's all his content anyway), but I'm also glad people are realizing the inherent fun gameplay, interesting ideas and refinements that can still be found in some of these titles. If you'd like to learn more about the Mario Mandates era in context of more details, current Mario games and the potential future, Lizardy made a great, pretty level-headed video on this very topic.

  • @tiborvarga2782
    @tiborvarga2782 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +933

    Came for the title, stayed for the story

    • @NoGoodNameHelpPLZ
      @NoGoodNameHelpPLZ 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Same

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +71

      Hope you enjoyed the story. Thanks for watching!

    • @animating_pains
      @animating_pains 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      i thought he was going to kill mario

    • @Chris_Husk
      @Chris_Husk 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      For real

    • @TheAdventuresOfJimiJaden
      @TheAdventuresOfJimiJaden 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@tiborvarga2782 me too

  • @pis5ball
    @pis5ball 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +547

    I was expecting like a meme video or something, but getting a very thought provoking and emotional video is also very nice. It kinda makes me wanna handwrite a letter to my friends and tell them how I feel.
    Hopefully you're doing alright though mate, and everything is treating you well though.

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  28 วันที่ผ่านมา +67

      Thank you so much for watching! I am glad it resonated with you even though you didn't expect it. Hope you do write those letters and hope your friends appreciate them.
      As for me, I'm doing fine now thank you!

    • @CamiKitty3
      @CamiKitty3 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

      I actually do have letters to my friends lol. I was planning to give it to them for grad but I guess I was scared it would make things awkward. I still have them tho incase something happens :P

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

      @CamiKitty3 I think that'd be a lovely grad gift! I think sharing how you feel can be daunting, but very worth it, especially since they may not realize how much their friendships mean to others. If you do send it out, let us know how it goes!

  • @supertiki500
    @supertiki500 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +330

    Came for a silly Mario video, ended in tears

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  23 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

      @@supertiki500 Came for a few comments, ended in tears
      I am in awe of all the support and the sharing of stories in the comments. Hope you enjoyed the video!

  • @AngelBridgeford
    @AngelBridgeford 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +107

    You’re not mourning your friend. You’re mourning the relationship you had. The platonic love that was shared. The memories that you had. And you will move on.

  • @HiImNoahMiguel
    @HiImNoahMiguel 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +122

    Dude you're an incredible storyteller, and your editing is just as good. I can't believe I'm almost crying at diddy kong mario pics 😭

  • @four-en-tee
    @four-en-tee 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +251

    This gave "you can now play as Luigi" a pretty depressing meaning

    • @DoseOfRandom137
      @DoseOfRandom137 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +31

      it feels more like ''you must now play as Luigi''
      there is no going back to Mario, he is already long gone
      you can either stop playing altogether, or carry on with the next

    • @yoshipeamachinespawn3658
      @yoshipeamachinespawn3658 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Thing is, Luigi's my favorite of the two Mario bros. There's times where I've deliberately gamed the system JUST to play as him in singleplayer in some games(Letting Mario die out in SMB3 and World, and recently, Gecko Codes on NSMBW). Heck, in games where he's unlockable, I actually look forward to unlocking him.
      I love a good underdog. I really do.
      But this video, and these comments kind of just hit me in the feels, y'know? Didn't consider the whole depressing part about it until just now.

    • @fisshbone
      @fisshbone 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      “Mario doesn’t fw u anymore bro here’s Luigi” 💀

  • @axoleons
    @axoleons 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +59

    “But above all else, no matter how I may feel at times, I need to remind myself that I am truly not alone. The sky is filled with stars, all waiting to be seen. And even if your best friend leaves your orbit, they have changed the entire trajectory of your life.”
    So profound. I love it. There are still so many things to see and do in this world, and although our friends may not hang around forever, they can still change our whole outlook on life. Thank you for sharing all of this. 💖

  • @MadelineMyujikaru
    @MadelineMyujikaru 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +57

    This video is phenomenal oh my lord.
    It's like somebody finally put words as to why some characters make me feel so strongly

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      @MadelineMyujikaru it's an amazing thing to have characters and media like games mean so much to people. We're all looking for connections, and stories always have a way of bringing that to light. Glad to know I could put words to your feelings and hope you enjoyed the video!

  • @abandoned__
    @abandoned__ 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +74

    came in for a gameplay critique , stayed for the most heart wrenching story. i am glad to have stayed

  • @YannickJur
    @YannickJur 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +106

    I've never had a friend who stuck for long, no 'best friend' or 'one true love'. But Mario and Luigi were always there for me. Glad to know I'm not entirely alone with this feeling. I feel really sorry for you and I am glad you are doing good.
    I was crying when I found out a new Mario & Luigi is coming, being my favorite games that shaped both my personality and my childhood. It feels like meeting an old friend after a decade of not seeing eachother. Even if it won't feel the same, I know it will feel great.

  • @grav3yardshawty
    @grav3yardshawty 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +36

    the idea of struggling to read a games box art between the light from street lamps unlocked such a core memory for me. i can’t recall specifically what game had me in that scenario, and i know that i haven’t been there more than once or twice, but that sort of scenery and moment is ingrained into my memory

    • @fetterkeks2796
      @fetterkeks2796 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@grav3yardshawty totally, same for me!

  • @jacklesc3133
    @jacklesc3133 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +189

    this really spoke to me!!
    It's nice to hear about grieving friends- as i only really hear about it when grieving family or romantic relationships. Your story really reminded me of my childhood and my relationships with my longest known friend and my older brother
    Amazing video ⭐

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  28 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

      Thank you so much for watching! I'm really glad it resonated with you

  • @Blue_Boy_Official
    @Blue_Boy_Official 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    I have no words to describe how great this video is.
    Hope you're doing okay man, everything about this story sounds like it hurts to have gone through.

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  14 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

      Thank you for watching! Though it brought a lot of pain, it did bring a lot of growth too which I am grateful for. I hope you're doing ok too and hope you're taking care of yourself

  • @notcooldudette5035
    @notcooldudette5035 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +51

    I was never able to mourn my best friend. It wasn’t a dying friendship but his untimely passing at the beginning of our journey. I’ve almost gotten over all of it but recently his sister died and this video made me think over what their absence means to me. I regard him as a brother to me but I don’t know where his grave is. Most of the memories I have of him are faded. All I have left are the remaining emotions of a foggy past, I’ll never have that connection with anyone else. Your video helped me to understand that I may never be able to truly mourn for my best friend but I can carry the value of that friendship with me.

    • @ShinyHunterMuck
      @ShinyHunterMuck 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@notcooldudette5035 I’m so sorry for your loss :(

  • @marblemew
    @marblemew 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    Growing up neurodivergent, I always felt broken. Even when I was sure I did well, and that I could rest knowing I did my best, it was never enough to satisfy the people around me. Thank you for making this video.

  • @SilkieOV
    @SilkieOV 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +86

    Man, this was beautiful, genuinely. Someone else said but i wholly agree "before we got married" made me so happy to hear, and the rest of the essay felt like someone out there has gone through pain so reminiscent of the pain many of us feel, that even through relationship turmoil, escapism, depression, and whatever else gets thrown at us, you can just keep going, keep breathing and things will get better. Its extremely encouraging. I wish you, and anyone fellow people out there "goin thru it" the absolute best, and future hope.

  • @h20verlord20
    @h20verlord20 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    man
    this hit me in a way i didn't know a youtube video could
    i'm still in the process of mourning some friends. it comforts me to know i'm not alone. thank you.

  • @baronesscatfish
    @baronesscatfish 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    It’s amazing how seemingly unique but deeply relatable the story you tell is. From the depression and eating disorder in high school, to moving on to college hoping for better, to losing that dear friend… and video games being there as a parasocial friend through it all. Although I relate to you directly, this story also helped me reflect on times that I was “Mario” in the lives of others, where they valued me in a way that I didn’t reciprocate. I suppose it’s important to be mindful of your connections with others. Thank you for sharing, and for taking the time to wrap these experiences into such a strong narrative.

  • @bluecrazy2005
    @bluecrazy2005 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    you grieve the lost of the friendship and the person you once knew. im with you man keep up the good fight

  • @lovelyunknown
    @lovelyunknown 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +70

    This is such a personal story, but really meaningful. I have been in similar situations. I especially remember feeling isolated with my best friend who did not view me the same way. I'm in college now, and thankfully I found people. I still fear this kind of confrontation, but I also know that I'll be able to tackle whatever comes my way.
    Very impactful video, this is the kind of lesson many kids need. It's more than just halfheartedly saying "you're not alone!" It's a message of grieving relationships and moving on. Really, truly beautiful.

  • @temra7063
    @temra7063 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    I know how it is to lose a friend this way... The lack of communication is painful. If only they told me sooner... Maybe I would still be friends with them. I've moved on but I still think about them from time to time, and this video made me remember them again. Thank you for this absolutely beautiful video. I had tears in my eyes near the end.

  • @StarEco64
    @StarEco64 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    You ever click on a video thinking it'll be kinda mellow or simple background noise but then you start crying while you try to finish your work? I'm at a loss of words but just returning from a trip to Japan with my friend, not going through the same struggle but understanding how it could have gone just as bad, I feel for you friend. Thank you for making this emotional piece.

  • @dysbot1405
    @dysbot1405 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +43

    This video hit me right in the feel, really resonated with it. Remind me of a friend I held dear for many years, but who slowly drifted away form me, probably one of the worst feeling ever. Seeing him reply less and less to my message, taking up to two weeks sometimes, for a simple text, when we used to have hours long discussion on random topics for hours before, feeling more and more like being a burden. I remember asking him about it, asking him if it felt like a chore talking to me, and he admitted that sometime yeah. How much it hurts to see someone you value so much putting you lower and lower in his importance list. For years I felt like everything was my fault, that he was changing and maturing while I wasn't, not ready to accept that we were simply growing apart, his interests were changing while I still enjoyed video games, I wanted to play Splatoon 3 with him, but he only bought Mario party, event though he promised me he'd buy it and play with me, as we had played ton of Splatoon 2 together before, it isn't a big deal, but things like that made me realize he just was looking for something different than before. It wasn't until i met new friends who valued me as muc has i valued them that i really understood how much it was hurting me. This video was great to remind me on how good those memories were, even if it was hurting when it ended, those are years I'll neverg et back, so I'm glad I had fun and helped him for those years.
    Anyway, I really hope you're doing okay and wish you the best, thank you for this video.

    • @box700
      @box700 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I am right there with you, that has also happened to a friend I have known for so long. It is sad to see them go after so many good memories. After a while it just felt like they didnt value me as much, as they hardly ever reached out and frequently ignored me.

  • @waze3174
    @waze3174 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Every once in a while, you dtumble onto a video you didnt know you needed.
    Thank you for this one, ive had a similar falling out 5 years ago now. And youve put into words so many feelings i couldnt describe

  • @kaylewolf
    @kaylewolf 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    It's not your fault ❤
    I miss many Marios too
    What a beautiful story yet sad, strong and powerful

  • @spritesensation
    @spritesensation 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +59

    To me, this is the best mario video on youtube by a surprisingly small margin

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      @spritesensation thank you for the incredibly high praise! Glad you enjoyed it and there are so many great Mario videos out there! Feel free to let me know others so I can watch them as well

  • @thirstycrow6393
    @thirstycrow6393 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    One of the best TH-cam videos I’ve seen in a long time. Made me cry. Echoed my feelings of complete isolation and loneliness, but also gave me hope for my future. Thank you for uploading such a masterpiece

  • @becomeanother
    @becomeanother 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +198

    personally, i believe thinking that having to gain something from a friendship is unnatural and unhealthy, friendships shouldn't consist of people expecting things from each other, they're something to make memories with and reflect back on, and to have fun with. a friend is someone you enjoy and have fun doing activities and making memories with. expecting something from someone as the basis of a friendship seems extremely negative and unhealthy.

    • @LilacMonarch
      @LilacMonarch 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +28

      exactly. if someone is friends with you because they expect something from you, they're not a true friend. you become friends with someone because you care about them. it's that simple.

    • @OtakuUnitedStudio
      @OtakuUnitedStudio 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      The only expectation you should have is that you get as much as you give. But people who talk about "I'm not getting as much out of you as I wanted" often don't give anything in exchange.

    • @OtakuUnitedStudio
      @OtakuUnitedStudio 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      ​@@LilacMonarch Exactly. It's not a business deal.

    • @autumn-vl5ez
      @autumn-vl5ez 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I really needed to hear this. Thank you

    • @duckles9784
      @duckles9784 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      My thoughts exactly. Who ends a friendship over not gaining anything?

  • @GamingBren
    @GamingBren 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +60

    I understand this struggle. I'm 17 years old and in the middle of my senior year at high school, plus I happen to have autism, which makes it a bit harder to make friends.
    I wish you the best of luck.

  • @NeXaSLvL
    @NeXaSLvL 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +158

    i thought this was gonna be about the state of modern gaming or something, but it turns out to be very original, personal, and relatable. great work!

  • @tsizzle7883
    @tsizzle7883 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Words cannot describe how deeply I needed this video at this time in my life. Thank you.

  • @cdwillson3293
    @cdwillson3293 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    parts of this video are saying things out loud that i've hidden in my head for a decade. this video is beautiful. thank you.

  • @liammcnicholas918
    @liammcnicholas918 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    As a longtime Mario fan, this video is beautiful. Just goes to show you how powerful of a medium video games can be.

  • @Down_Low_B
    @Down_Low_B 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    Dude I don’t think I was ready to relate so hard. High school was the first height of my depression, and I found comfort in both my real best friends (whom I still hold close today) and my virtual best friends in characters like Mario or Sonic. This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing

  • @BlueTakBlur
    @BlueTakBlur 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +73

    this made me cry. extremely relatable. I didn't even know what to expect. this was just raw beauty.

  • @andykazoo
    @andykazoo 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Perchance the best youtube recommendation ever, perchance.
    Wonderfully written. Well done.

  • @chozolady
    @chozolady 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    your relationship to mario is what i have with samus ❤

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

      @@chozolady I'm incredibly excited for Metroid Prime 4 whenever that finally comes out!

    • @concept8192
      @concept8192 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@chozolady oh hey, more Metroid fans!

    • @LilacMonarch
      @LilacMonarch 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      metroid is goated

    • @rubub8455
      @rubub8455 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      sorry bud, i'm the only one who gets to have a relationship with samus

    • @liammcnicholas918
      @liammcnicholas918 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@rubub8455 There can be only one!

  • @zincpodzzz
    @zincpodzzz 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    This video is extremely personal, I love that you put yourself out there and told this story! It really is special, and a very unique perspective on Mario and friendship as a whole, great video!

  • @mrcoolguy32
    @mrcoolguy32 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    The part where you talked about your former friend abandoning you and throwing you under the bus during the Japan trip hit too close to home and broke my heart. I also relate to mourning a previous version of a person. And also understanding they going to change one day to something different and you just gotta accept that. Very good video.

  • @KatOgKatKar
    @KatOgKatKar 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    this video is vulnerable and invites vulnerability, this video is quite beautiful keep it up

  • @golemguyyt5646
    @golemguyyt5646 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +67

    I went through something really similar with a person I considered my brother, not by birth but by choice. We had been inseparable as kids, and as teenagers we were there for each other as we matured. I received an over 2000 word text at around 9:20pm on the 11th (I think) of July about how much of a horrible person I am, how selfish and disgusting I am. This was out of nowhere and crushed my soul, the person I confided in more than anyone, my best friend. Betrayed my trust. Thought of me as scum. Bringing up stuff from when we were mere children, things I had already apologised for. I sent a response offering to hear him out and repair things. I never heard back. Since then we have not spoken, he has been kicked out of his home and now lives alone at 18. He came after me, and my family in that message, calling us horrid things. He made no effort to reconcile. I don't know whether to hate him or to miss him. I'm mourning someone who is still alive, yet doesn't exist.

    • @GraymaulkinGD
      @GraymaulkinGD 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      are you doing ok???

  • @velociraptorplanet
    @velociraptorplanet 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    This video essay about funny Italian plumber man had no business being this heartbreaking. But it *was* absolutely beautiful.

  • @muhnoodles
    @muhnoodles 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Beautiful video, loved every second of it. And the quote "I'm missing a person that doesn't exist anymore" hits too hard. Thank you for sharing.

  • @nickclute6199
    @nickclute6199 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This video got me fucked up. I was not prepared for an introspective look into friendship but damn was it good

  • @mappelletier1893
    @mappelletier1893 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I honestly relate to this story in many ways; lost many friends in my time. However, I’m still young and have many more adventures to go through. I hope I can become a better person and be content with myself and everything else ahead of me. I wish you the best and hope life will be fortunate for you (Hopefully for me as well)

  • @NotUrProfile
    @NotUrProfile 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    beautifully well made video. thank you

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Thank you so much for watching!

  • @TheJedwardo
    @TheJedwardo 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +200

    insanely underrated, thought this would have thousands of views. I related to this to an insane degree

    • @SleepyLuigi
      @SleepyLuigi 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Yep.

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

      So incredibly grateful for the high praise and I'm glad my video resonated with you. I hope you are doing well!

    • @DogeKingOfficial
      @DogeKingOfficial 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@sablestew HI SABLE!

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@DogeKingOfficial 👋 hi!

    • @DogeKingOfficial
      @DogeKingOfficial 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@sablestew OMG HE ACTUALLY REPLIED NO WAY!! 😭😭😭😭👍👍👍

  • @nanobean576
    @nanobean576 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +53

    I did not expect to cry to this video when i first clicked on it

  • @heracrotix7244
    @heracrotix7244 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m experiencing something similar, and this video has helped give me hope. Wishing you all the best ❤

  • @ShiroIsAnArtist
    @ShiroIsAnArtist 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Having had a very similar experience with Mario and a best friend I went to Japan with, this hits pretty darn deep. Thank you. For letting me know I wasn't alone in feeling the way I did.

  • @BlooperKid64Official
    @BlooperKid64Official 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I clicked this video because I was curious on the title thinking it would just be a video about the mario games but holy shit man, this video's amazing. You have such an incredible story!! :D

  • @Sky_Firez
    @Sky_Firez 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    *Thank you for being a pretty damn good Mario for us.*

  • @c4nvm
    @c4nvm 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +23

    this video just made me sob like a big baby. ive been mourning the death of a friend group for almost 2 years and this hit the spot just right.
    thank you for making this. it made me feel like i wasnt alone, and that there is hope for me :)

  • @FTLGuillotine
    @FTLGuillotine 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    I feel like i relate to this video a lot. I'm only 18 now, but my family had moved a lot, from Kansas to Iowa, back to Kansas, and then to Washington State, and then moved within Washington State. I didn't go through high school as I was homeschooled. I started college over 2 years ago at a community college, where my family then moved again and I transferred, and now I'm 350 miles away at university. I have made new friends, my girlfriend changed, and didn't have feelings for me anymore.
    I still feel just as close to my extroverted best friend from my 2nd community college, despite the fact that I haven't seen him in months. I too hope to have him as my friend forever, but even if we don't I hope I can forever appreciate the adventures we went on.

  • @Moonfallrosa
    @Moonfallrosa 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    the grief of a friendship and more specifically of the person you once knew is soul crushing. this video was really sweet and makes me feel less lonely in my experience.

  • @autumn948
    @autumn948 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This parallels my life so deeply. I miss my friends, the relationships we had. And their betrayals never stop hurting me.
    I am so alone...
    Trapped here in my room, estranged from all the people i thought loved me.
    I mourn what people i once knew

  • @puppetsarewonderful
    @puppetsarewonderful 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I absolutely love your storytelling and I'm so sorry all of this happened to you, coming from someone who lost a person I deemed my best friend because I just wasn't enough. It only happened a couple months ago and I'm finding it very hard to make friends again without them. Thank you for posting this

  • @abstractcities
    @abstractcities 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    Beautiful story. This was not what I expected from this video but it’s so much more impactful than I could’ve imagined. I lost my best friend as well. We still exchange messages every now and then. But it’s never been the same. And I have no one now. Except my wife who I love deeply, and my family. But I don’t have a best friend anymore. Nor do I think I could even have the time to invest in a friendship. I don’t think I know how to be a friend anymore. I too in this moment feel very alone.

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @abstractcities I'm so glad you resonated with this video, and I hope you are doing well. I totally hear you. Having enough time to foster friendships is tough, but I know that given time and resources, we can all be amazing friends to others.
      I'm glad you have your wife and family there with you. Never feel like a burden to reach out. Wishing you all the best, and thank you for sharing!

  • @gaming_bigfoot
    @gaming_bigfoot 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +67

    Had a semi-snarky comment from the title baiting me in, but after watching in full... yeah, I don't have it in me to leave it here. Not after how close it all hit.
    I'm sorry to hear about how many similar pains you've experienced. Hearing just how common it can actually be as time's gone on is... demoralizing. It shouldn't be this way.
    Time can heal, yes, but... time also allows wounds to fester. So many people somehow look at it positively, but... I just don't see it... but I don't need to understand it for others to recover.

    • @Dingleburry37
      @Dingleburry37 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@gaming_bigfoot hey, as a person who’s gone through a lot and continues to go through it, just know that there’s always hope. Tomorrow is always around the corner, and any day of your life could be your best or worst. The road ahead may be hard, but the roads go on without end. There is always hope in this darkness

  • @wysteria3263
    @wysteria3263 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    As someone who just started TH-cam, this video is what I aspire to make in my own videos, finding a deeper meaning in things that may seem shallow at first. Good job man!

    • @CamiKitty3
      @CamiKitty3 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yeah, super intriguing title too. Kudos to the creator 👏👏

    • @sablestew
      @sablestew  26 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      @wysteria3263 Thank you for the high praise. It's touching to have videos of mine be inspirations for creators out there. I've checked your videos out and I think you've definitely got some great insights! Wishing all the best and luck for you!

    • @wysteria3263
      @wysteria3263 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@sablestew thanks I appreciate that best of luck to both of us lol.

  • @sonicrulez111
    @sonicrulez111 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +41

    This video had me crying so hard I couldn't even breathe, incredibly written, I think it's helping me to heal from past relationships

  • @jaredjouben3342
    @jaredjouben3342 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    This is crazy I just broke up with someone because I felt like we were growing apart and I made sure she know I still cared for her. I’m still sad about it but I hope we can move past it, and I hope I didn’t make her feel like you did. Beautiful video

  • @rplg7016
    @rplg7016 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Really emotional video, really well made as well, hope you have a good life and good friends

  • @JamieCodeCraft
    @JamieCodeCraft 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    This is not what I expected clicking on this video, such an amazing and unique way to tell a story, especially for a TH-cam video. Definitely was not at all expecting such an emotional story that I could relate to, good stuff! Heavily underrated for sure.

  • @slim8130
    @slim8130 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    I'm sorry that you had a rough falling out Stew, but I am very thankful for you sharing your story. You've shown me and many other viewers that other people do think about something as normal as Mario with the same level of depth. I've had a similar relationship with Mario and best friends too. How you mention the pain of changing and not being able to join Mario on ever single adventure really got to me before you even mentioned real life relationships. Throughout my life I've had many friends that I got separated from and we both changed and I always find myself missing the version of them that I knew. It's really hard to grasp that the person I miss no longer exists, and that usually keeps me from reaching out again after so long. I always feel we'd be too incompatible now, but it is still nice to have known them in the first place. Lately I've been struggling to make new friends as I am introverted too. As I am excited for the Switch 2 and new adventures with Mario, I am hopeful that there's more opportunities to make friends in the future and go on adventures with them too. I hope everyone who shares these sentiments can keep moving forward and keep finding people who share similar values with them.

  • @mushroomdude123
    @mushroomdude123 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Jesus this was an emotional ride. Letting go of an attachment to someone you cared about that much is always hard. In some ways, the scar never fully heals, but like you said, there’s always room for others in your heart.

  • @toadcube
    @toadcube 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Beautiful video. I honestly went into this expecting something so much different, but this is the way better scenario. Thank you so much for telling your story, honestly, it's made me realize some things about my own life that I would have never noticed previously.

    • @marioluigibros.8176
      @marioluigibros.8176 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      what did you expect? complaining about modern mario games? cause thats what i expected

    • @toadcube
      @toadcube 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@marioluigibros.8176 yep that's exactly what I expected LMAOOO

  • @Poyostar
    @Poyostar 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Man, what a story...
    Like, I have no words to describe it, it's just... wow. Losing one's best friend can be hard, but I have faith that you will persevere.

  • @TnTPlays-v8x
    @TnTPlays-v8x 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I honestly thought that this would just be something about the Mario Odyssey death theory or something but......
    this is just so much
    deeper than that.
    I've watched MANY, MANY video essays...but this one actually made me feel something. It actually made me..cry.
    Thank you so much for telling me this story of pain, redemption, loss, and moving on from the past troubles.
    Thank you. 😢

  • @SB2749
    @SB2749 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Wow. What a video. As someone currently dealing with loneliness and recently reevaluated the friendships I've had throughout my life, this video hit hard. The not wanting to bear burden to others bit, falling to video games, especially Mario as escapism... I am thoroughly resonated.

  • @buttercandraw
    @buttercandraw 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Hey so, I’m crying… in all seriousness though. Like others I was expecting something completely different from this video but wow was this a much welcomed surprise. Thank you for this beautiful story and for being so vulnerable with us all. Wishing you all the best⭐️

  • @neekodachi
    @neekodachi 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    0:45
    literally gave me chills, you reawakened so many memories where i'd pick up a game from gamestop late at night as i drove home. the lights on the road hitting the the back cover for a second at a time trying to read it. being so excited to get home and try it out.
    edit: this was a beautiful video. thank you for sharing, i cried the whole way.

  • @tophtopherson8920
    @tophtopherson8920 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is so good.
    So thoughtful and resonant to me.
    Thank you for sharing, it is a very tough thing to lose a relationship like that.
    I've heard people talk about the needs and mourn the passing of a friendship the same way you would mourn the passing of a loved one.
    Because for us in many ways it is the same thing; a death. A cutting off.
    But it is possible to find a kind of peace in that too.
    You really communicated that idea. Extremely eloquently here, at least for me is very easy to understand.

  • @freezeburn9875
    @freezeburn9875 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I wish I could triple like a video, this is a really insightful and thoughtful story and it's relatable or going to be relatable to all of us even if the friend who we've lost isn't or won't be a video game character. Sometimes it's easy for me to wonder what I could've done better or worry that the legacy I've left behind for a friend isn't good enough, but life moves on, thank you for your story.

  • @Itz_YoshiMelon
    @Itz_YoshiMelon 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Wow. I can’t believe that you’ve been through that much in your life. I also can connect to the story of your best friends, and how they weren’t really best friends. And Mario being one of my best friends is another thing I related to. I really respect you for sharing your story and struggles. Great video!

  • @autumn948
    @autumn948 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is how I can mourn my friends, when they still live.
    I spend all my time either mourning, or distracting myself from how alone i am.
    Waiting for someone to pull me out of the darkness again

  • @Matsubusa69
    @Matsubusa69 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    This video is possibly one of the best videos I've seen. The way you describe your experience is so moving, and it makes me sad to know that you've experienced these lessons so early in your life. It also makes me happy to know I'm not alone in my thoughts about friends. It makes me so worried when I tell someone they're my best friend, even though I know I'm not theirs. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

  • @lordiro
    @lordiro 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for sharing this story 🫶🏽

  • @superabudy
    @superabudy 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I thought you were gonna say the old mario was good and the new mario bad etc, but I was watching a masterpiece it made me sad not gonna lie because I was able to relate to your problems.

  • @thegoodmudkip3652
    @thegoodmudkip3652 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This video brought me to tears, phenomenal beyond words. I'm in my third year of college right now and I feel like I don't really have anyone that I could really truly call a friend who isn't just some text on a screen. I can connect with that feeling of loneliness and the fear of being too much of a burden. I hope that you are doing well on your own path, and that you have lots of people in your life that you know you can really call friends.

  • @Fishystyxx
    @Fishystyxx 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This was a very pretty video, thank you for sharing

  • @Antonon07
    @Antonon07 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    this is probably one of the most interesting videos i've ever seen on youtube

  • @FoxerGaming
    @FoxerGaming 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    First video that has resonated this deeply with me in a while

  • @JonnyfromElma
    @JonnyfromElma 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This video really took me by surprise. Your delivery and title made me expect another video essay about the feeling of playing Mario over the years.
    Well, it was also that, but it was so much more.
    Great job on this, thank you for sharing :)

  • @theshowershow
    @theshowershow 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    Thank you so much man for having the courage to pour your heart in an new internet that is seldomly sincere, talking about real stuff that has happened probably to most introverts; meeting somebody then unknowingly mishandle it and mess it up forever

  • @invadercat3505
    @invadercat3505 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    This is beautiful. You really made me realise that the people and things that were with me when I was thirteen, that I thought would stay with me my whole life, just haven't had any real presence in my life for some years now. Thank you for sharing.

  • @andynelson323
    @andynelson323 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I can relate a lot with what you shared, especially with the problems that come with an eating disorder. Sometimes I avoided meetups just because of the awkward moments and remarks I'd receive because I didn't want to eat what was in front of me. I'm getting better in that regard, but making and maintaining friendships is still a struggle. Thanks for this video. It's extremely well-written, by the way!

  • @TheTacoTruckSupporters
    @TheTacoTruckSupporters 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is one of the best videos I’ve seen in a while. Amazing work, amazing story, thank you for sharing it.

  • @examinethewitness4172
    @examinethewitness4172 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Oh, this nearly made me cry. Thank you for sharing this. I feel a lot of similar ways as you have in the past. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

  • @freezasama5802
    @freezasama5802 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What a beautiful video that touched my heart bless you man and thank you for such a heartfelt story 😢 much love