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Update from a local to the district: “I know it’s been a minute but just wanted to update you on your favorite school board ever (Fairbanks, AK).
Maggie Matheson & April Smith (two of the anti-LQTBQ and transphobic) board members were voted off of the school board yesterday 🎉🎉🎉. They are replaced by Bobby Burgess and Meredith Maple who are just great humans.”
Love the updates! Thanks for keeping us in the loop MDJ!
Thanks for the update...my head was about to explode.
wow, i was dropping by this video to show a friend how expert supplemental circulum can disrespected and disreguarded in the education system. And I didn't expect such a positive update. thank you for adding this. brightened my day
and big get fucked to Maggie and April
I just want to say that, as a Christian mother, I use your videos and information to educate MY kids on sex ed. Many of your videos have helped a lot to anticipate the questions they will ask or the questions they will be afraid to ask and I appreciate what you are doing. I love having this available to me, to pick and choose videos that are age appropriate to each of my three daughters. I'm able to teach my kids our own family morals/values (sex AFTER marriage is ideal, for example simply because sex does create an emotional bond and could always result in pregnancy) while giving them information for whatever decisions they make for themselves. My kids are not, and should not be completely oblivious to all other paths and lifestyles, even my youngest at age 8. I cannot believe that they completely removed all of your videos from being used. Sorry, a bit of a rant, but it's frustrating. Honestly, sex ed SHOULD start at home and these sex ed classes shouldn't be a complete Suprise to them. If you are open with them at an early age, they will already be familiar with the subject and open to asking questions. Thanks so much again @mamadoctorjones We don't all have to agree on every little thing to educate on factual information that is a necessity to a child's development.
I rise to address the Meeting and say that Friend @@lindsey4178 speaks my mind in this matter.
When people say "this should be taught in the home," all I hear is "children with neglectful or absent parents should be left in the dark"
Or only hear religious views which are always biased.
It should be taught in the home. But I'm so glad that schools can provide other safe adults for kids to go to on these topics! For both the kids with present parents and without.
what they mean is "this shouldn't be taught at all." because they know none of the people who believe it "should be taught in the home" are actually going to teach it in the home.
Right or parents who weren't taught this themselves
I grew up in a strict religious household. I knew NOTHING and it was a serious detriment. I wish I had access to Dr. Jones. I was not taught at home or school. I was terrified.
Petition to make this expert roast mandatory viewing for anyone who is voting in the next Fairbanks North Star Borough School Board election:
(Edit: Y’all it’s a joke, there is no actual petition 😆 the video is available if they want it, my time discussing this is done)
Please email them or something this is soooo painful to watch
Signed!
Why does anatomically correct terminology and facts offend small town twits? These people are as dumb as dirt and my son and daughter have been pointed to your videos. Keep it up Mama!
Oh my goodness I can’t believe this is actually happening smh
Can you not sue these people!!? This is slander and totally undermines your credentials!!! This is shocking!!!!
12:36 oh I am SO angry about that little “what about special Ed kids” dig there. Denying disabled people access to sex ed and giving us incorrect information about our bodies has caused material harm for centuries. We deserve to have the same education as about these topics as our peers. Denying that makes us MORE vulnerable.
I remember reading a story from a man who uses a wheelchair about how he was made to leave the room when they taught sex ed at his school. How dehumanizing can you get?
@@sheilaross1449 an easy discrimination lawsuit btw.
But I guess that man was abused this way in like 80s.
Nor because I think this never happens now, just assuming from the fact that you said man and not boy.
I consider most United Statesians special ed
the rage i felt when she said that ignorant and evil shit. i wanted to slap her thru the phone soooo bad. the people most vulnerable to abuse need to be educated the most!! they deserve to know.
@@drew8305LOL. Sad, but true.
This board seems very uncomfortable talking about sex themselves let alone to be qualified on teaching it.
Probably bc no one taught them about sex when they were children, or that they were explicitly taught NOT to talk about it 🙃
For sure!!!
Well most of them probably have a social security number between 1 and 30 so lol
School boards are not teachers. It's another flaw in the system.
For sure!
Accurate sex education is often the ONLY thing that empowers children to avoid or stop sexual abuse.
😂😂😂 yea right.
@@sheenakarr5572 Yes. That's reality. Endulging in fevered fantasy only serves to ENABLE CSA. As someone who worked directly in prevention and treatment of ACTUAL survivors, I can assure you that young children who are given no education about their bodies and boundaries are left completely vulnerable to the manipulations of older children and adults. YOU are empowering abusers of children through your smug ignorance. I hope you can think of a convincing excuse for that when you meet your maker, because it will need to be answered for.
@dianemurray6550 as a SURVIVOR of child sexual abuse I can tell you:
1. It is not the ONLY thing.
2. The abuse many times starts at such a young age that unless you want to start making episodes on Sesame Street, by age 10
one on 5 girls have already been molested if not raped.
My issue was not with education tho, it was with the use of the word ONLY WAY ... the only time those words are 100 % true is with salvation through Jesus Christ.
@@sheenakarr5572 Mine started when I was a toddler. And children don't need to be much beyond the diaper stage to begin to learn about bodily autonomy and that areas covered by a swim suit are private. As not only a survivor, but also degreed in Early Childhood Development and experienced in the field, I can assure you that waiting until a child is 10 to introduce self-protecting concepts is needless and irresponsible.
@@sheenakarr5572 And sadly, Jesus Christ hasn't been effective in keeping children safe, even in their churches. Empowering and educating young children is a critical aspect of preventing CSA. Abusers prey on ignorance and naivete .
As the stepmom of an adult woman with Downs Syndrome, it is very very concerning that special education students are routinely deprived of sex ed.m, when they are most vulnerable to exploitation. They need information.
I'm going to repeat what I said to someone else on this topic. I don't mean to add fuel to your fire, but I'm 100% on your side here:
I worked for 14 years in disability services. First off, the statistics on persons with disabilities being sexually assaulted/abused is much higher than the general public. Second off, they often are left in a position where they do not know how to tell, or who to tell. and they have histories of not being believed, so often will remain quiet. Lastly, often their abuser is someone caring for them, so they are afraid to report because of retaliation and/or if their care taker is fired they may be afraid of no one to care for them. All the issues around this are so complex and too much to discuss in this comment. Oh, and I'm going to add that in the case of an individual who is non verbal or has limited verbal skills all the issues I just mentioned get compounded exponentially.
HOWEVER, I want to share one experience I had with this issue in my work. I was a day habilitation manager, and one day I was supporting a woman who lived in our residential programs. She was an older woman, and she grew up on a farm. She tried to tell me(I should not say "tried" she got her message to me) about being sexually abused by a house staff member. Her descriptions all related to her child hood farm. She had little clue about human sex, at the very least what the words were. This was so long ago I can't remember the exact words to quote her, so just call this "close" to what she said. She described her attacker as "he showed me a part only the man people have." She said "he tried to do what the horses do to make a baby." It was obvious enough, yet interviewing her to get more information on the assault for my report was difficult. What pissed me off was the house manager refused to believe it, and policy(plus state law) states we have to treat all such situations as true. I had to escalate the report above her head. As it was for a different department I never did hear the outcome, and honestly now that I'm thinking back the state should have interviewed me as part of an investigation and that never happened, so I'm concerned the ball got dropped.
Sadly, I watched more than one investigation on this topic in my time in the field. It was one of the most heartbreaking things.
One of my favorite things about the parents who demand "teach them nothing about sex, leave it to parents to decide what they know" is that these are the same ones that end up with pregnant children
Same ones who end up with pregnant children, and are also often the ones who end up doing the impregnating.
Conservatives dont like sexual education because a lot of them know that it teaches kids how to identify if theyre being groomed, and how to tell a trustworthy adult that theyre being sexually abused.
As an autistic person, April's tangent about "vulnerable students" felt incredibly infantilizing to disabled people. We have sex too. Why can't people get through their thick skulls that disabled adults are indeed adults?
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Ok. So I do not defend April’s perspective AT ALL as an ASD adult woman and mother of four ASD kids (all adults now) her argument is the exact opposite of what you want for kids in “vulnerable populations” which are not just disabled and neurodiverse cultures. However, in her defense I think her concern was vulnerable middle school aged children with disabilities. And given the frequently required “inclusion” programs, I can see how this would be difficult as each and every different vulnerable middle schooler would require a custom sex Ed curriculum to have the information presented to them in a way accessible to each.
@@tinacayford7549 I was a special Ed para for our middle school and our ASD kids were in the room with everyone else. They asked well thought out questions, and ones that seemed to personal, we directed them to talk to their parent or the nurse when they had time. We split them up between the male and female sex for each video. We had a problem where one child had recorded the video and shared it on a private FB group chat after school, and that caused some problems for the kids that saw it and missed school. I guess what I'm trying to say is, technology is a part of our lives and its not the 70s anymore. We want them to learn from us and responsibly, not from a possible predator online or learn whats not true. You know how many men at my college ACTUALLY thought that if a women pees after sex, that clears out the semen?? Thats a problem! My Friends and I all have variations of the ASD and we need more time and have more questions to understand better, sure, but we didn't feel abnormal when we were included in those talks and the boys and girls appreciated our 'odd' questions back then. I've been the kid, been the teacher, and been the student on the receiving end of this and I think having it like this (both parents and the shared class) are important too.
Preach. I’m physically disabled w/ many conditions including RA & fibromyalgia (& I strongly think that I am autistic although I haven’t been officially diagnosed) and the degree to which I, a 32 year old woman, am constantly infantilized is absolutely infuriating. It’s ridiculous.
I am married and still hear all the time about how not only I should see myself as lucky that my husband hasn’t left me yet because I’m unable to do everything I want/need to, but I should just have a hysterectomy instead of trying to preserve my fertility (I have a huge amount of fibroids & still want to have kids, so I’d need to have them removed) because I would be a “terrible mother” because I would need assistance with certain things sometimes depending on how bad my pain was on any given day. And that’s from my own family who has been abusive & neglectful of me since I was a baby. But somehow I wouldn’t make a good mother because I have physical disabilities, although I would never treat anyone, much less my own child, the way I was treated my whole life. 🙄😒
Unsurprisingly, I was never taught anything about sex ed, not given any answers when I had my first period, not told anything about sex (other than don’t do it), nothing at all. Thank goodness my dad was a computer engineer and I had internet access & my own computer in my room well before most people my age, so I searched for answers on my own, otherwise I don’t know what would have happened. I also managed to get on birth control for excruciating periods at 16, against my fathers will, because I was missing 3-5 days of school each month. Otherwise I probably would have quickly ended up pregnant at 18 when I first started having sex, since the relationship was extremely abusive and I couldn’t say no.
We don't just also have sex, even asexual disabled and neurodivergent folks like myself with no interest in fucking still have the sex organs and need to know how to care for them. How to clean the parts, what's abnormal discharge, how to avoid infections, et cetera.
people who feel that sex education is about glorifying sex is EXACTLY why there should be a standardized and comprehensive sex education.
I can't say this enough. The alternative is adult entertainment or figuring it out yourself.. yeah, my experience is that doesn't work very well at all.
Preach Veronica! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I had to draw a uterus and ovaries and name all the parts with arrows on my 3th grade (that's high school Freshman in the USA) biology exam. I was stressed, studied all evening 'til well into the night, under pressure, and tired. There was nothing glorious about it. I'm from Belgium btw and that exam what surprisingly difficult, detailed, and neutral.
It's when people think that learning about your body and reproductive system is " glorifying sex" then you know they have some issues and might be sexually oppressed or ashamed.
Kinda sad really.
@@amberlytheharpyqueen or they are perverts. There's nothing wrong with her videos
"I'd rather not have to sift through these and pick what's good and identify what's bad"
My brother in Christ, that is part of your job.
I hate how some parents don’t view their kids as future adults. Your kid will one day (sooner than you expect) be an adult just like you. They have to learn things that are beneficial to know in adulthood BEFORE THEY MAKE IT TO ADULTHOOD.
My grandparent did not believe children should learn about sex until their wedding day. They did not even let my mother know what her period was, and hygiene around it. She had to learn from a college room mate what a pad was. This all messed her up good.
My mother passed when I was 15. I had already gotten sex ed in school, but her parents took over raising us, and had my sister opted out of sex ed on "religious grounds". I'm honestly surprised this didn't mess her up as bad as our mother.
"Teaching kids about Plan B means they will have unprotected sex."
"Teaching kids about airbags means they won't use the breaks."
Hmmmm.......those correlations seem to be equivalent. Now if that school board could recognize that they're equally false...
Different levels of safety, period 💅🏿
Just because one could immediately kill/ruin your life doesn't mean the other is less bad. STDs can really ruin your health and having an unwanted child or even wanted but you're just not ready for it yet can ruin your life (and child's too).
@@Lenlon703 knowledge doesn't make people do more stupid things. Quite the opposite,
@@GreenGorgeousness my point was to support that.. I was talking about how people think having unprotected sex is 'less' dangerous than unsafe driving even though it could sometimes even be 'worse'
I lost it when that man said "Mama what have you". The fact he won't even acknowledge that you are a DOCTOR to try and discredit your videos and mislead the board into being on his side. DISGUSTING
Probably he saw the past video and was furious with her because the. members of the school board should not be voting about the school matters because they are not qualified (I am not saying she is incorrect, but that I don't believe they were happy about it) and the "sexist assholes" comment because they refer to her as "OB-GYN Daniel Jones" instead of. "OB-GNY Dr Daniel Jones" 😂 I believe that the comment was directed to the reporters, or maybe to both, but even if she is right it's pretty clear that this dude wasn't going to be happy about it.
I teach in this district. He does that ALOT. He did it to Dr. Zink who was the forefront of providing us on Covid info at the beginning of the pandemic.
Misogyny in action
Agreed!
@@jaimeduncan6167 she recorded these two videos at the same time, so he couldn't have been responding to that
I think that a good comparison would be that if I tell a child how to act in case someone is choking with food, I would not be encouraging them to choke on food because they suddenly know that it is possible.
Well, but you can teach kids that they shouldn't run around while eating, because you can choke on the food. The only way to make sure your child doesn't choke on food, is to not let him eat.. But they will anyway. So it is better to teach them that is something great, but also when it is dangerous, And sex ED in kindergarten (Switzerland) is naming the bodyparts (arms penis, legs, throat, Vulva, fingers etc.) and learning to say no if you feel uncomfortable (an often use example is that you are allowed to say no to the aunt who always plasters a wet kiss on your cheek if you don't like that). If it doesn't feel right, it is ok to say no. This augmets the chance a kid can say no if an adult gives inappropriate touches, even if the adult says that this is normal. Of course an adult is still more powerfull and can further manipulate, but he has more fear, because a kid who voiced his discomfort is more likely to tell his parents. And if anything has happens, a kid who can say "my uncle touched my vulva" is more likely to get protection than a kid saying "my uncle touched me near the legs." If the kids ask about where the babies come from, it is something along the lines "parents loving eachother, the baby grows in mamas belly". But often it goes further, because often the kids with younger siblings know a lot more, and explain it to the others, and the teacher only corrects some inaccurancies. I think this is a good way, as a kid will explain it in a childfriendly way. In upper classes, it gets more and more secific, but also then: Sex education isn't so much about sex itself, but about bodyfuntions, selfesteem, social behaviour and health. And there are topics like how your body changes and so on. And a big difference in Europe vs. America is, that nakedness or your body in general doesn't directly mean sex. The US is pretty sexed up.
Thinking of the story about the one kindergarten boy who Heimliched his buddy in the bathroom when he was choking on Doritos (apparently easy to choke on, have heard a couple other stories of kids choking on them!). You see the boys, and the lifesaver is roughly twice the size of his little choking buddy, and it all makes sense and was also so heartwarming! 🥰 But yeah, even kindergarteners need enough information to stay safe and healthy! 👍
I don't think it is a good comparison because choking on food doesn't feel good. But comparing these videos to playboy isn't a good comparison either.
What I'm taking away from this school board is that they think that ignoring the topoc alltogether will mean their children will miraculously jump over sexual development until they are 18 and parents can say that it's not their problem or responsibility anymore 😂
That's exactly what my parents did, just pretended it wasn't happening
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Silence is where abusers triumph. The only people who win from keeping our children uninformed are the molesters and abusers who should be in jail.
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Well said! And that’s why we fight for children to be educated about their bodies, sex, and consent!
I find it interesting that the group of people who are against sex ed are also more likely to be pedophiles.
I literally clapped for you. Well said!
There are better ways of dealing with this though.
Educating children on consent and sex only halves the problem - it doesn't eradicate it.
And if we could find an actual solution to the issue, then there would be no need to educate kids on consent and sex.
Claiming that disabled students shouldn't get sex education is super dangerous. Knowledge is power and withholding will make people already vulnerable to abusive situations even more vulnerable.
Its almost like they want to groom kids so they are easy to abuse... oh wait
I was in a special ad for most of my life, and I went to a school that didn’t teach sex Ed to special ed student. I didn’t have any sex education until college. Luckily for me I didn’t really start to experience any sexual urges until I was in my 20s. But that’s not the same for everybody. I’m sure there are a lot of disabled students to do experience sexual urges when they are in their teens, and therefore should have access to sex education.
@@palesgensler3099 Something that is overlooked about sex ed is that it doesnt just cover the sex part. It talks about things like consent. The concept of consent is something extremely important that should be taught at a very young age. By baring special ed kids from having sex ed, you are also not teaching them explicitly about consent. Which I think is especially dangerous for such a vulnerable group of people
@@RemsHusbandit’s like if they are defending a specific group of people from being ousted 🤔🤔
@@abramgd8557Its because they get paid by them or are employed by those "special p3d0 people".
Ms. Mama Doctor Jones: PLEASE DON'T STOP DOING WHAT YOU DO. It's only getting more and more important every day.
Sincerely,
The child of two parents (may they rest in peace) who were both educators
I love how people are saying sex education should be left up to the parents when the only reason a lot of these people even ARE parents is because they have a poor understanding of sex.
This whole hearing is just them saying the quiet part out loud: "We want our children to be too afraid to have sex, and if this woman teaches them sex isn't something to be afraid of, we lose the tool of fear that we have over them."
I'm hearing a whole lot of: "how dare you suggest teaching kids about plan B. If a dirty little harlot wants to open her legs she must be punished with pregnancy. Oh the guy? Good for him, get some my dude!" "How dare you suggest teaching sex ed in school, it is up to parents to decide not to teach their kids about sex or consent to make it easier for creepy uncle Bob to abuse kids". "How dare you ask me to raise my kids to be a healthy functioning adult, what is wrong with you? They need to live their lives in fear and shame of sex, yet also I will double shame them for not having kids of their own yet at every social gathering." It is mind-blowing how much of its basic shit America still needs to get together.
All of it was them just talking out their buttholes tbh.
Preach!
Like on Mean Girls! Don't have sex x you will get pregnant and DIE!!!!
THIS.
"Curriculum is not required to include instruction on consent." WTAF? The fact that CONSENT is literally singled out as something that is not required teaching is a travesty. Utterly detrimental to all involved. It should be a PRIORITY.
Surely that goes along with the abstinence/ purity culture ideal… that consent isn’t necessary when a woman has submitted to her husband and obeys him?
I’m not, for one second, implying or even hinting that they’re right to think that. But just giving a glimpse of their ideas. Consent extends far far far beyond sex and relationships, and kids needs to know they’re allowed to say no (or yes)
Especially in a room full of adults town crying for their right to PARENTAL CONSENT!!! Irony!?!
Everything right here in these comments was the topic of one day of my university women and gender studies class. Teenagers and young adults need proper information before they get to college and make the choice to take a class that talks about everything wrong with how sex education in public school and purity culture.
@@hannahgazeley3662 That was my thought also. Those who favor abstinence generally feel that one shouldn't be having sex outside of marriage in the first place and the idea of non-consensual sex in a marriage just doesn't occur to them at all. The frequent use of the slippery slope fallacy also leads me to believe they're opposed to any form of sex ed in general because they fear that knowledge will turn their kids into sex fiends.
This. I can understand it not being mentioned at all, but to specify it as not required is basically justifying not having to get it
The anti-educational movement going on in this country is so dumb.
TEACHERS DON’T PREACH MORALS behind the subjects they teach. That job is still up to parents. Ignorance over something as important as education should never be the preference of parents.
When the new conservative line is that teaching factual information IS moral and political "grooming", this is the result.
Teachers definitely shouldn't teach morals behind the subjects they teach, but they sometimes do. It's often unfortunate when they do, but it definitely happens.
For the record, I'm a sexual health/ women's/labor and delivery nurse who has taught countless sex ed programs for mostly late teens and young adults, and cared for tons of pregnant and parenting teens, including some in middle school. I've seen the effects of no and inadequate sex ed. I'm 100% in support of sex ed, with the basics starting in very early elementary school or before.
I just wanted mention that in real life, some teachers do introduce their own morals into the lessons they teach to their students.
As an autistic child my RN mother taught me about sex ed, had a huge anatomy book so I could embrace who I was. She also told me about consent and inappropriate touch at 5..before school. School had The Talk in 6th grade, boys n girls separated.
As a Mom of a 14 year old autistic daughter, I'd like to weigh in. April is saying that special ed children are the most "vulnerable students". Yes, they are, but not in the way she thinks! People with special needs may have issues with communication and not understand how to ask for help. Knowledge is power, and knowing about sex is extremely important. My daughter has sex ed class in school, which has taught her about condom use, birth control, about consent, about rape, etc. So... I'd like to ask Ms. April if my child shouldn't be able to be in sex ed because she is "vulnerable"? Should she not know to tell someone if anyone is pressuring her to do sexual things that she doesn't want to? Should she not be able to come to me or a trusted adult if she needs the morning after pill? Should she not be able to tell the school nurse that she has leaked through her pad and needs a new one? Should she not understand her body? If she gets serious menstrual pain and/or abnormal discharge should she not be able to tell her me so I can make her a doctor's appointment? As a special needs Mom, I'd really like to have a talk with April over here! Keep doing what you do Mama Dr. Jones! I absolutely love your channel.
You get ‘em big mama. All kids need sexual health education it is very important. I am so happy to see that you are a huge advocate for your daughter getting the education she needs. Thank you. It’s refreshing.
I "LOVE" when people speak on behalf of special ed kids... like damn, i'm studying to become a specialized nurse where autism and intellectual disorders are a large part of my educational focus. We have sex ed as part of our curriculum bc WE need to learn how to talk to kids and teens with different levels of comprehension about the anatomy, sex etc bc sex ed is often too poorly structured and opposite of helpful for majority of kids - and at times downright dangerous for kids with autism and/or intellectual disorders bc it is too poorly taught. These people need to actually listen to parents of kids with different needs and physicians instead of speaking on their behalf w/o the knowledge and judgments clouded bc they are prudes. Ridiculous. Sex ed is not encouraging sex, it teaches kids SAFE sex, bodily functions, consent....
I'm pretty sure these teachers and also the parents that agree with them, think they are "protecting" teir kids by never tellingn them anything. "they will not have sex if tey don't no what it is. And yea, maybe ignorant conservative boys and girls from the same school will not, but wait until they go out to the word? meet new people? then, they will be in danger 'cause of their ignorance. is wais easy for them to be manipulated and abused if they don't know anything about life
It’s like they think that because your daughter is autistic (I am too) that she either won’t be interested in sex or won’t have the mental capacity to understand her own body. I hate when I see this. Autistic people are people, we go through puberty, relationships and reproductive issues just like the rest of society. Our education shouldn’t suffer because of that. It’s so frustrating that neurotypical people in positions of power won’t even consider the fact that we want to do normal things with our lives. Keep fighting for your child, please. I know it can be hard at times, but you’re doing well.
As I've read your post, I know now exactly why and how mainstream sex ed would benefit your child and many more like her. And I am more confident in my support.
I love how that April chick was so concerned about vulnerable children being abused at home, but then wants to insure those same children only receive knowledge about sex from those abusers, ensuring those children can’t speak up about their abuse!
So the bs cycle continues
Yes its effin disgusting. She should NOT be a sbm.
As a survivor, when I was a child I viewed people like her as near equals to my abusers, because they are.
Thank you! I was in such a situation when I was growing up. I think that she is enabling abuse rather than preventing it!
April is OBVIOUSLY the stereotypical privileged white female and I hate to put people in stereotypes, but because of how naive she is I just feel like it's the only right thing to describe her as.
I'm just watching this now. I'm "old" (77) and when I was growing up there was "health class" that didn't really teach anything and my parents didn't discuss anything about sex either. I'm so glad that my older sister was thoughtful enough to give me a book written by a doctor about what happened when people had sex since she knew that I wouldn't hear about the correct information from school or my parents and that anything I heard from my peers probably wouldn't be factual.
What a great move by your sister ❤ This information is so important to have...
I love your channel! We have an 8 year old daughter that we've already starter teaching the basics (because she started asking questions before anyone gets on the "you're a groomer!" train). I use information from your videos to explain things to her in an honest, open, and (most importantly) correct way. As a woman that was the victim of sexual assault from 10 years old onwards, I wish I had of known half the stuff you teach. I wouldn't have grown up blaming myself, thinking I was dirty just because I'm a girl with a vagina (this is how misogynistic people in my life made me feel, that because I'm a woman I'm naturally dirty and beneath men), I would have known what was happening to me and known that it was wrong, I would have done something to stop it. It's too late to change my past, but with correct information taught to children you will dramatically reduce their risk of beings victims of SA, of teenage pregnancy, of catching an STD. On the flip side, you will greatly increase their chance of having wonderful, healthy, fulfilling, and safe sex lives when they're grown up by learning things about consent, self worth, body autonomy, anatomy, etc.
Teenagers are going to do what they're gonna do, it is our jobs as parents to make sure they have the information needed to ensure they'll make good decisions, to be safe, and protect themselves and others.
Children on the other hand do not have sex drives yet, teaching them the basics is not going to turn them into sex crazed maniacs. 😂 anyone saying sex ed is "grooming" children is ignorant and probably a predator themselves. Who else would want children to stay completely clueless about their bodies and consent?
These people shouldn’t represent a school. Period. They’re so uncomfortable talking about sex education and so unbelievably misinformed. Did they even watch your videos?? Education is SO important!! I’m disgusted
These same people voted to end mandatory masking in schools. Some of us desperately want them voted out.
This is a perfect example where a lack of common sense is blatantly obvious in the people who get to decide what and how kids are taught. Alaska isn’t a high population state and has very limited access to medical providers who are “experts” meaning adults aren’t predisposed to accepting information from people with titles that would normally imply trust. Until people learn the difference between contraception and abortion there will be no way to achieve an accurate and easily understandable sex ed curriculum.
I'm pretty sure if any of them actually watched the content, they assumed every suggested video shown by YT was part of the original channel. They clearly do not understand YT. It's like having illiterate people weigh in on the reading curriculum.
"What are all these demonic symbols?"
"Uh, you mean the letters?"
well it sounds like a typical 'merica to me idk why its so surprising
It is not the school place to teach kids about sex. Schools need to teach reading, writing math, physics, earth science, zoology, oceanography, computer science, critical thinking etc.
As a german mom and kindergarten teacher I am horrified about these accusations at the school board. Sex education starts in Germany in the kindergarten by teaching the children how to propper name their body parts and how to set boundaries in EVERY situation they feel uncomfortable. Formal sex education starts in the 3rd or 4th grade. In fact that is standard to protect vulnerable children. I love your content to update my knowledge to teach my children properly about their bodies (at the dinner table - just as any other conversation). Keep up your good work!
This is really nice to hear as an American. It's just so frustrating to have been put through the American public education system and see the insane effects it has on our ability to talk about these topics in any kind of educated way. The fact that we are not putting actual doctors in charge of the information that's given to children is WILD.
I wasn't even taught that in public school, I went to homeschool after 2nd grade and my online school hasn't said anything so far and I'm 16 rn and my parents never once named any body parts/sex ed, so now I have to figure it out by the internet
@@lisasmith8272 - Lisa, good on you for looking it up on your own! It is sad that you’ve had to, I’m sure you would prefer to have open and frank conversations with your mother.
It was the one topic my own mother wasn’t capable of discussing - although, at least she recognised that it was something we did need to know, so there were several books on our shelves to cover the topic. Unfortunately, it was a few years late, for me. I was abused by a family member from 10 - 14 (and many years later, I discovered that he moved on to abusing my little brother, once I got too old for him) I couldn’t tell anyone about it, because I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know the names of any body part, other than ‘down there’.
When my daughter was born, I was determined to make sure that she DID know - I didn’t use any cutesy euphemisms for “vagina” or “vulva”, or any other body parts. (During that time I discovered that some of my - both female and male - classmates, at university, didn’t know that there was another hole, ‘down there’, and that girls don’t pee out out of my our vaginas. I was surprised that the boys didn’t know, but shocked that the girls didn’t.) As a result, several of my daughter’s friends started coming to me, with questions, in their mid teens.
But, as I said - well done for being proactive, and researching the topic for yourself! I am a believer in the saying that knowledge is power, and by doing that, you are empowering yourself. You should be proud of yourself.
i might just have to move to Germany if I ever get pregnant.
When I grew up there was no internet but we had Bravo😉 Greetings from Austria.
It's so important to give our children the confidence that talking to us about their body isn't just "ok" but much appreciated!
Once when I had my period, my 5-year-old walked in on me changing my sanitary pad and she saw the blood. Of course she asked me why I was bleeding.
I told her that my body simply is practicing and preparing everything in case of there being another baby in my belly one day and if what my body prepared isn't needed, it just cleans it all up and starts preparing again.
That certainly doesn't mean I took away her innocent mindset and set her on a path to be sexually active as soon as possible.. x)
Yes!! I had the same conversation with my younger sibling at the same age for the same reason. They followed me into the restroom and were concerned about why I was "wearing a diaper" and had "blood in my butt", so I explained the whole "people with vaginas usually have a uterus, where a baby might grow, so the body practices for that-" the whole shebang. When sibling got to middle school and I occasionally got to meet their friends when driving around, I found myself answering questions for them AND their friends, because I was an adult they felt safe asking. And isn't that wild? Their classmate's oldest sister was the best person they could ask body questions about without judgement while getting good information.
@@firemoonlily I think it's awesome they trusted you that much :)
@@EvilSinx It was both humbling and scary! They trusted me!! They were certain I would give them accurate and inclusive information!!! But then oh fuck I have to live up to these expectations ah shit
@@firemoonlily I feel like I'm tearing up reading your post because I never really had anyone to ask these questions to. I wish I had that. I'm only now feeling like I'm catching up on this knowledge with internet sources (as anecdotal evidence to support Dr. Jones' point in the video regarding lack of at home education and a need for standardized public health education in this area). Everyone I had as an authority figure growing up that I would ask any curious questions to regarding anything of a sexual health nature would generally immediately dismiss me.
This school board is incredibly misinformed and I would be absolutely terrified of these people being responsible for my child's health education. So sad that we as a society allow nutjobs like this to be in charge of anything regarding care of children. This is so dangerous and toxic. You go, MDJ, keep your videos coming, because obviously we need you!!!
Teaching kids what a GOOD SOURCE on the internet is and what a BAD SOURCE on the internet is SOOO IMPORTANT. This school board is failing their students.
It was literally part of the English curriculum when I was a teacher! It should also be part of health curriculum but to heck with that I guess.
This!
SO much THIS! Finding GOOD sources of info in the garbage bin that the internet is, IS super important! So easy to step into some 'thought bubble' tar pit and getting stuck there due to 'the algorithm' (tm).
This was the most valuable info I learned in school. Especially nowadays kids are fked if they don’t hunt for accurate research
These “adults” need to go back to school
As a parent of children in this district, I know who I'm NOT voting for next election season.
Also, I know who's TH-cam channel I'll watch more often with my children. Omg, the school board is ridiculous
I guarantee her children are learning poor sex education from their friends or on the bus. I learned so many things that weren't true when I was in 6th grade. I think these parents just wanna bury their head in the sand. Give them age appropriate education.
@@heathershepard3944 I for one heard countless peers talk about sex when I was in high school before I knew anything about it. I can say it would be much better to hear about it from mama doctor Jones than how I did and how most kids will. These ppl are in denial (I'm 29 with a daughter now)
Please share this video and channel with other parents in your district. It's astounding these people have any input on how children are educated
You should bring this video to a school board meeting, watch the heads roll, and let them know that things like this will be the reason you will not vote for them. Spread the word to other parents in your district. It takes more than a vote to stop this stuff from happening, sadly, although it does help. We have to do more than vote these days, in my opinion.
They do are! They waste so much money. Like a PR firm on that you know what an incident which then continue to release absolutely no information on said incident.
You mentioned teaching what's abuse and what's not. I love that idea because unfortunately there are so many children like myself 10 yrs ago who had parents that were abusive and being abused just to turn around and say oh that's how it is. ITS NOT OK! Sexually abusive relationships that are advertised in the home as ok are in my opinion one of the biggest problems in teens getting pregnant and kids ending up in sexually abuse relationships themselves. And your also right about the opt out options being harmful. If the sex Ed was more education and less emotion it could be a real game changer for those vulnerable kids as they put it.
When I went to college, there was a mandatory lecture for incoming students on consent. I’m so glad they did that (back in 2009) because so many of us genuinely had no idea.
Dr. Jones, I am a MtF transgender woman. I would like to say that thanks to you and your content, I feel like I know more about the female body and reproductive system than 90%+ of men and many women. Thank you very much. The problem these parents and school board members have is that they are embarrassed and humiliated by their own body and sexual urges/functions. That is not just a problem in Alaska, it is a nationwide problem, due largely to Christianity, mainly Evangelical Christianity.
I'm reeling from watching a room full of grown adults who are so terrified of sex.
My oldest daughter is 7 and I've already started explaining the basics of anatomy to her. It's not perverted or inappropriate. It's her body and she should know how it works and that it's okay to talk about these things.
These people are not making decisions based on what is best for children. They're making decisions based on what makes them the least uncomfortable.
I definitely agree!!
Exactly. And people seem to forget that these are kids. Younger kids especially aren’t sexualizing things the way adults do.
my mom did the same thing starting at the same age! I had a book on anatomy/biology that explained how the human body worked and there was a section that explained where babies came from and it had these clear pages that showed the gestation stages. It was really cool I loved that book. It was really helpful learning about other things too not just reproductive health. any questions I had about how the body worked if she didn't know we would go to the library and look them up (this was in the 90s lol).
Completely agree. My mom would answer all my questions in an age-appropriate way. Generally, if a kid is old enough to ask questions, they're old enough to know more.
@@blade5521 100% agree
The no consent thing REALLY bothers me. That doesn't even have to be a sex-related topic, but it is NECESSARY for sex. If there is no consent that is not sex--that's a crime.
And consent is not only about sex, consent is about respect. If you teach someone that they don't have to do something if they don't want to or if it hurts them, you loose control over them. You lose the fear system that most of these conservative families use to teach their kids.
THIS
@@azulmendez6946 exactly this!
@Rikki SAME!
Alaska has the highest numbers of intimate partner violence, and sexual assaults in our country among many other tragic statistics. Consent should be taught but in many school districts they are only allowed to teach abstinence only education. No sex and that’s the education they get. Do they have gun shows at high schools… yup. Does any of this make sense, nope.
This is why we have shows like "Teen Mom" and " I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant!"Maybe if there is a jail term for the parents of an under age child's pregnancy they may open their minds.
"Stop listening to your feelings and start listening to the facts" is a message wholly lost on most people. They aren't interested in facts. They want their world to remain exactly as it's always been, so they feel comfortable in it. Their feelings will trump the facts every time.
Yep!!!
School board: We can't have the kids educated! They'll learn to think for themselves - that's dangerous!
The concern they have is probably nothing about the materials...it's the fact she supports gay and trans rights. Let's be honest.
In a nutshell!
I think the other issue is that Mama Doctor Jones discusses abortion in neutral terms rather than emotionally loaded terms.
@@deedeeiam agree with your intent, but let's not forget about the inherently abusive purity subculture going on in a lot of religious circles in countries like America.
If a child is experiencing abuse, they need the words to describe what they are experiencing. That's why sex ed needs to start so early
In UK it starts at age 7/8 and happens every year until you leave education system
Heck form birth I used correct names for body parts for my kids and practice concent when hugging them... it's really not that difficult to start these concepts from birth.
And so they know they have the right to say no, and to tell anything to their parents. Fact is people who harm children like this rarely victimize well informed kids, the risk is to high, the go for kids whose parents keep them ignorant sadly
I’m disabled and my mom was a nurse. She made sure I knew the proper words for things, allowed me to ask questions, and taught me about sex. It’s one of the most helpful things she had done for me.
I remember trying to explain the abuse I had experienced. But I couldn't really properly explain, I was very young when it started with that close family friend, I had also be taught to he was someone I was "safe" with. I didn't even understand why I felt uncomfortable during the times he molested me, I didn't know what he was doing was wrong. But my stomach would get knots in it and I'd be very quiet or preoccupied with something else. Only when I saw him excuse himself to use the bathroom after one time, and the door was broken between his and his wife's bedroom and the bathroom that I saw him 'pee white stuff', and it sound painful. That day I got very confused and upset. I didn't understand. It was a few weeks afterward that my class had that lesson. They gave me a doll told me to point and explain, then they'd want to know details like how, with what, etc. I had a difficult time. I was young, and while I knew the functions that created babies, I had vague details because I was only in elementary school at the time. My dad still feels like he failed to protect my sister and I. I have lost a good chunk of my childhood memories, I can't recall summer trips my parents, my sister and I went on, even though no abuse happened during these times. I really wish there was a part of school every year that just focused on important and practical health education.
I laughed out loud when April Smith said "in the _peripheal_ of this information" with total confidence, 100% sure that "peripheal" is actually a word and means what she thinks it means.
I feel like this kind of misguided "confidence in my ignorance" thing is a big part of the problem, although it's obviously also just about exerting/maintaining ideological control over kids.
"peripheal" is a word but probably not the correct one in this context. Periphery is probably what what she intended. It seems a minor error though, certainly nothing big.
I only learned abstinence only in 8th grade and how periods cycles work in high school (which was not in health class, but a unit in honors biology attempting to make up for the fact that our health class was not teaching anything). I started watching these videos my senior year of high school to fill in the gaping whole in my understanding about my health and wellbeing. It has been a few years since then, and 2 weeks ago I was talking with my mom about politics and abortion rights came up (we are both pro-choice), and my mom mentioned that I should watch your videos, because she had started watching them lately and though that were a great educational resource. I have been subscribed for 4 years. I'm glad that you post this content in order to help spread education and awareness about our bodies. Thank you for all your videos! This school board is dumb.
This is what April means: Actual knowledge disrupts purity culture. PLeASE keep doing what you are doing MDJ!
Definitely hints--no outright purity culture tropes--"real info on sex makes kids want to do it, etc. etc.
Which has repeatedly, throughout modern history, proven to be false. If they want their children to wait until marriage, they actually have a better chance of that with a full and proper sex Ed, as education students have proven to delay their first experiences with sex.
And purity culture is pedo culture!!!
@@Veronica-fc9td there is a disturbing level of overlap, yes.
@@hotarubinariko I sooo agree. I'm 50yos and have learned so much from MDJ. My parents believed that if you talked about sex, the child would go wild. Instead, I was raised clueless and made some bad choices in my sexual life. I was determined not to raise my child in the same way. Whenever my daughter asked I would answer her honestly and age appropriate especially the changes both physically and emotionally at puberty.
That school board were making far too many "I FEEL" statements for an official meeting that is going to determine the education of the next generation
I hate that whole 'I feel' americanism trend that took over. I often call people out on it. I suspect it's a way of not having to qualify or take responsibility for thoughts
I’ve read that in business, women will often make the mistake of using “I feel” statements in emails etc with co workers and bosses and it automatically makes it so they are not taken as seriously and their opinion is not deemed as valuable as someone who just go for the whole subject verb thing.
@@215juliusgirl Which is biological discrimination imo. The female brain is literally wired to make more emotional connections than the male brain. Which is why woman can make connections to things that men just don't see. Also, that is why women are "more emotional" and the women brain holds memories based on emotional response more than anything else, while the male brain just doesn't make those connections at all and actually goes over the same thing over and over instead.
@@celianunn2070 I said I read it, not that I agreed with it. Unfortunately, the only industry in the United States (and there is only one) with more females that own/run companies than males is legal weed. Most bosses are male and already judge women differently whether they even realize it. And although I know a lot of women who would never think to say “I feel” and are much more logical than emotional, and vice versa, I do say it. I think the point of the study was to be more sure of yourself which is really their word for that American brand of arrogance so that i stead of “I feel” it’s just the statement like the difference between “I feel we cannot sustain these numbers at the current rate of i flation” or “we can not sustain these…..” The point was that women type with a lot of qualifiers and it reads as not confident enough in their words. And business can be….. Heartless capitalist bottom line shit. I don’t think they were talking about, for instance, me writing to the other social workers and PsyDs I work with. More big glass buildings filled with suits and no conscience type of places.
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I was born and raised in Alaska and had no idea this was a problem here. I found and love all of your videos and would love to have them shared in school. It's very sad that sex education was not at all provided as a class in school, especially high school. Watching this video blew my mind at how they represented you and your videos. Any school would be incredibly lucky to have your videos used in school ❤
Not a single person in that room has ever had sex completely naked and the lights on ...... Repression isn't the word. How are we letting people who have never had a mutual orgasm with their partner speak on sex at all.
😂💀😂💀😂💀 you may be right. People react from a personal place. It's a privilege to have a narrow view of life. I'm wondering if they had a peer on the board? Especially from the upper grades about younger, post grad about upper grades, disabled community. As part of the steering committee.
@@GrandmasBeLike omgoodness me! Are you suggesting they be *gasp* inclusive in some way?
As a teacher in Alaska, I appreciate you advocating for us! I wish people could acknowledge teacher's and doctor's expertise.
As a parent in Alaska, thanks for not leaving.
As a citizen, I'm sorry we can't do much more, I'm furious at this school board. Can we start a petition to reinstate this or to have an expert gyn on the stand to advocate for the teacher and parents?
Ps I'm half way though this video and still angry.
Thank you for all you do for the youth of the world. Thank you for those long nights, and busy weekends getting your weekly teaching plan together. Thank you for the missed time with family, so you could be there for others children. You are a hero!
I wish you the absolute best. You deserve so much more respect and consideration.
Wowww. See they don’t even listen to the main ones in their system,…. THE TEACHERS!!!
As a person who is a teacher in a country where sex ed is considered very normal, I am actually shocked by the response and unprofessionalism of these board members.
Unfortunately, most school boards in the US are elected positions and if theres not enough people running then its whoever signs up to do it so they can fill seats on it.
Yeah I graduated quite a bit ago and we had very comprehensive sex ed, from 5th grade until 11th grade. My head hurts watching this.
As someone who has lived in the USA their whole life, I am not. I once had to argue with the school board that black face was not appropriate. Not even joking.
@@changingmyself unfortunately that is something that I had to deal with as well. But it was not a school thing but rather a colleague. Luckily when I addressed it with her she kind of softened.
When I heard school board I felt like these people were just parents who had their kids go to that school and they were just volunteering to chip in. These people did not sound like experts of anything. In my country we don't really have issues you bring up to the school board. There is a syllabus and curriculum but all materials and lessons may be completely freely planned without anyone's approval.
Of course, if something is offensive or is addressed by a parent, the high ups in the school do have a chat with you but there is no "asking for permission".
Welcome to the United States. We have this weird switch in perspective here where sexuality is scary and inappropriate for teens, but violent content and instruments of violence draw much less ire.
"I would rather not sift through these to find what's good and what's not..." I'm pretty sure that sums this entire meeting up right there. They'd rather not check the entire channel and keep themselves up to date on it, so better to nix the whole idea.
"People who are experiencing abuse" 💀 literally your videos have helped me recover from my history of abuse so much and made me feel so much less horrified of my own body
"I have delivered babies to kids that are thirteen." Dear GOD, that is depressing. Your videos are needed more than ever. Especially in Alaska, from the sounds of it.
Plus, coming from someone who graduated with special needs this school board needs to understand not all special needs children learn the same way as neurotypical students do or the same as others with special needs!!!
I lived in AK for two years. This does not make me an expert on AK then or now.
However, if teen pregnancy is at about national average. According to the cdc 2% of teens 15-19 nation wide (in 2018-19) successfully deliver live babies. (The rates are determined that way, because births are tracked, many pregnancies fail before they are even recognized by the mother and many others do once she is aware, and rates of positive tests in obgyn offices would not be as easily tracked as there are billions of dr offices. Fewer hospitals. LOL.
Anyway, AK’s rate is approximately 2% (in 2019) [on a positive aside, teen pregnancy is on the decline nation wide.] So, it is on par with the national average. But their population is skewed slightly higher male to female in ratio. Either way though, Alaska’s measured teen pregnancy rate is on a declining trend (on par with the National rate) over the last few years prior to Covid. I am interested to seeing what change in those rates will have happened in the last two years.
That said, “”“U.S states whose residents have more conservative religious beliefs on average tend to have higher rates of teenagers giving birth.” Of the ten most conservatively religious states in the United States, eight are among the states with the highest teen birth rates.”” (Taken from worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/teen-pregnancy-rates-by-state)
Of the top ten teen pregnancy states, Texas is number nine, according to that site. I didn’t research that site’s references so take this with a grain of salt. So, MDJ’s passion for factual science based sexual education is both understandable and admirable!!
And remember many of those 13 year olds that age giving birth were only 12 when they got pregnant. I was a high risk Ob/gyn Rn and we had a 12 year old deliver. She had never had her period and did not know that the "affection" she had been receiving from a male relative was sex much less abuse because no one had ever talked to her about these things.
@@clipperrn Oh my god. That's absolutely disgusting. See, situations like that just underscore the fact that we can't rely on families to provide sex ed, particularly in regards to abuse: sometimes the families are the ones sexually abusing the kids. To the one woman going on about how this shouldn't have this material in classrooms because it's inappropriate for children with bad home lives...they're the ones that need it most!
As a mom to a 13 year old daughter, I agree
These people are so uneducated about reproductive health 🤦🏼♀️
"I don't want my child to know anything about their body or modern medicine"
I find it hilarious that they do not find a licensed OBGYN a reliable source of information.
They are probably also the same people who demand to see a “real doctor” when the provider on call in a hospital is a person of color, gay, female or young.
Honestly, I think it's not the reliable part that's the problem for those people, just that they are terribly afraid their children will start to have questions because of some of the things learned that parents (due to their own serious lack of good education on the subject) might feel unable to answer, or feel absolutely awkward about.
And then there's probably also the thing about the fear of education spark their curiousity up to the point that "if you teach them about this they will want to try even more!"
@@Dutch3DMaster I was never afraid of a question that I couldn't answer, I simply replied that I didn't know and would get back to them when I got an honest and realistic answer.
And I learned most of my OB/GYN knowledge from Benson's Handbook of OB/GYN, a gift from one of my old unit PA's. I've since replaced it with the current version, as it was a 1976 issue and medicine's advanced a great deal since.
Thankfully, none of our kids asked anything about endocrinology, as that's a field that can induce severe migraines. ;)
PCOS, yes, as one of our kids has it and metabolic syndrome, which I suspected and doctor confirmed and I ended up explaining some of the more time consuming technical parts to her.
Really? It's 2022 we just had the largest medical scandal in history and you think people are going to trust doctors?
@@theancientsam I could not agree more. Unfortunately, from the looks of these comments, people are too busy being "woke" and it's literally lulled them to sleep.
It hasn't even been five years since I graduated high school. The minimal sex ed that we had taught me absolutely nothing. Thankfully I have learned much more in the years since, through social media and other contexts, and I am much more informed. I still wish that I had been taught this stuff in middle school, and the fact that these people are actively resisting methods that will better teach the next generation sickens me
'concern is valid, management of the concern is counterproductive' is such an excellent summary of a lot of what's going on, it made my brain melt with pleasure.
So, I was one of the “vulnerable” students who was being abused at home that April is so interested in protecting. I went to school in Texas and our sex Ed didn’t happen until high school. I was sexually abused in some capacity from 5 years old til I was 15 and was sent to live with another relative across the country. If I had been given the words to name what was happening to me, and to know that it was not only not okay, but I could say no and get help… I would be a different person. Since my school system decided to go the way of the ostrich (and apparently April), here we are. I worked so hard to fix all of the damage done and make sure my son experiences a much more educated and fulfilling childhood. Thank you for your content, humor, and obvious care for your patients and viewers. 💜💜💜
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I definitely understand. Hugs to both you and hubby.
I'm so sorry for everything you had to go through. I am glad you are finding a path for yourself and your son. Sending you love.
I'm so sorry that something like that happened to you.
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As a teacher, getting blamed by the school board members for trying to do your job is pretty much norm 🙃
That's so upsetting. 😔
i love teaching children but between what you just said and the pretty much general rule that the parents are horrible, i no longer do it.
Many of the parents on this school board seem to think that just because they have had sex, and have made a child, that that automatically makes them experts in sex ed and equipped to teach it to children "properly."
Also, from my experience with sex ed in school, my fellow students and I were often more open and vulnerable in class discussions then we would have been one on one with our parents. Many of my class mates had very traditional relationships with their parents and I doubt that they would have asked about sex ed on their own or at least at the level of detail that we discussed in class. We learned everything and it was all tought in ways that were easy to understand and not at all inappropriate.
I am from Denmark by the way. Thigs are a little different here I guess...
Kids often know more about sex then parents realize because of the internet. Not to talk about it or understand body is dangerous and wrong because so much of the information is wrong. Your videos are great.
I lost brain cells listening to this school board meeting… this is why Critical thinking skills should also be a huge part of the school system. You can tell they’re regurgitating what they’ve heard other people say without even knowing the subject or actually educating themselves on the matter. 🤯
THIS, exactly
So the children don't deserve to be properly informed because of the parents personal beliefs? Absurd.
The 'murican way
Pretty much
@@emmafrost3115 I'd call it the Bureaucratic way.
@@Asubatsu nah they got it right.
@@Asubatsu Yeah, it's true. The number of public school board members that have themselves tried to "re-teach" offensive subject, or submitting to the community outrage from the parents if not, is staggering. I live in TX, but know the fight continues in LA, VA, WV, and GA. The attacks aren't just on health either. They've (the terrifyingly loud minority of parents and teachers of said schools) and the Texas State Board of Education are now trying to eliminate or "clean up" is ecology with climate change, history (LA had a textbook that claimed Moses of the bible existed as depicted), science and the scientific method as a whole with the whole evolution fiasco, as well as sex ed. Even modern history is under attack. The TSBOE's meeting can be found online. Minority religions and POC have pointed out the inaccuracies when talking about their groups, but they were ignored. The one I remember was a Sikh correcting some mention of the religion in a TX textbook.
As a parent of 3 children (21,19,17) I agree with you completely. Information has the best deterrent for my children to not engage in sexual activities without thinking first. My girls both got their periods around 11 years old. I was so glad I started educating them early on what to expect with puberty. We also talked about the basics of where babies came from. Once my children started going through puberty the conversations became more in depth. I was surprised by the amount of questions that I received and that sex Ed at school wasn't covering.
I am thankful I was able to answer those questions or find the correct answer for them. Armed with this information my children have abstained from sex for most of their teen years and when they were thinking about having sex, they came and talked with me about it.
I applaud you for supplying this material online as it all coincides with what I have been teaching them myself.
Keep up the good work. Love the channel. ❤❤❤
Well… I am grown 🍑 woman and still come here for information. I’ve learned a lot about what’s actually normal or what we should be paying attention to… I’m with you doc!
My mother opted me out of sexED as a child. I was molested from the time I was 6 to 13. I had no clue what I was experiencing was not normal. SexED is SO IMPORTANT!!!!
I'm terribly terribly sorry and thank you for openly stating the problem. Showing a real life example of what their lack of education feeds, instead of what proper sex ED could prevent.
I’m so sorry this happened to you
Yeah I was opted out as well and also molested :( I didn't know what was happening to me but knew it was wrong and how uncomfortable I felt. I wasn't even allowed to wear tampons because my mother believed they would somehow affect my virginity at the time lol.
I am so sorry to hear that. Hope you are doing well now.
@@RedRoseSeptember22 So sorry to hear that. Hope you are doing well
This is really worrying, coming from someone who went to school in Alaska, who was told in "sex ed" that being molested as a kid meant I was no longer a virgin, that you could get pregnant from a toilet seat, and your boyfriend can't rape you if you're not a virgin.... Your videos have really helped me learn things I should have learned in school. I'm sorry, this is crazy.
😮 your kidding! Awful awful.
@Lissy Mcfee I am so so sorry you were taught that. I can't imagine the trauma and fear of sex that would instill especially with how inaccurate it all is. I can not believe they told you that it's not rape if you are not a virgin. That's truly horrific. I was SA and R***d at 8 years old I couldn't have survived that if someone had told me that was my fault. The childhood abuse I endured caused me to become a cutter and even now over 25 years later I still have a bad habit of hurting myself either by cutting or burning my wrist to deal with emotional pain. I wish adults realized how much the things we are taught will impact us as we grow.
WOW. I have no words
I heard the "molested means you ain't a virgin" one in Texas, too. IN church, in school, you name it.
@@Sixx323 So it's not normal to scald your hands with really, really really really hot water after reliving trauma over and over in your head?
This just makes me really glad that students have the internet today to find channels like yours. So they can actually be informed. Smh.
My only concern with my children's school being responsible for teaching sex ed is her going to a school like this. Dear God that is a terrifying thought...
As a person that was raised my a father and was a very confused teen. I thought I was deformed at one point, I thought I was going to die because I was bleeding so much and didn't know what was normal, guys at school said that just the tip doesn't count, and oral is not sex, that no condom means they like you more and that they trust you.... so not teaching safely means that streets or peers will teach them unsafely.
Well that's sad for you and your father. I also raised my daughter and taught her everything probably more than any teacher could.
@@tommac21 ❤❤
That must have been scary! My mother told me the barest minimum about periods, (basically, “you’ll bleed from there, every 4 weeks or so, until your old”) I was 11, and my period started about 3 weeks later. She didn’t explain why, or that it had anything to do with how babies are made - which would have been important to know, since I was being abused at the time, and up until I was 14. It’s pure luck that I didn’t get pregnant, I still occasionally have nightmares about the “what if’s”!
I'm so sorry that happened to you. None of it was your fault! I wish you healing and peace
fair, unfortunately some teachers are engaging in unsafe teaching and some handbooks are too perverse for adults let alone teenagers, which is why some parents opt their children out of these classes, which is also fair I think
Imagine if the school board was like this over any other health topic.
"How dare you teach my kid to eat a balanced diet?"
"How dare you teach my kid how their muscles work?"
"How dare you teach my kid what kidneys do?"
It's the same damn thing. Learning how their bodies work.
That's the kind of reasoning people use against the transgender community. It's not fact-based. It's all based on bad inferences and emotions. They just like to use the word "fact" while they flit from subject to subject, never substantiating a single thing they say.
68.7% of statistics are made up on the spot. I don't remember the exact number so I just made it up.
@@r-platt oh I'm unfortunately well aware of that. Feelings do not trump facts, no matter how "strongly" you feel them. I've literally had people cite opinion articles as their sources.
@@waffles3629 forgive me, where did feelings and facts come from?
@@r-platt huh? I wasn't saying you believed those things, just that I've come across those attitudes a lot. Transphobes citing their feelings as facts.
@@waffles3629 I see. Thank you for explaining.
I had sex-ed when I was 10 (and again at 12 in a catholic school and it was quite comprehensive), I only started really thinking about that at 15, I only did it after I was an adult.
I also lost count of how many times I saw a news headline about a kid denouncing a relative for abusing them
my “sex ed” was:
In 4th/5th grade they split up all the girls and boys and took us to different rooms to watch videos about puberty. I vaguely knew what a period was and about body hair, but the specifics made me pretty uncomfortable and scared for the future. (I knew about sex itself already too) Like telling a 4th grader that they’re going to start bleeding every month for the rest of their young adulthood is really scary, BUT 9 year olds ARE literally starting their periods nowadays. Teaching about it should come way earlier than some places teach it. And after the videos were shown to the girls & boys separately, the rest of the day boys & girls were arguing whether they have it worse. I distinctly remember my friend talking with a boy who said boners hurt more than period cramps(?) and she was like 🤨
THEN in 7th grade health class (Too late to teach about periods in my opinion, everyone I know started in 6th grade.) Our teacher was this older bostonian lady who was sweet and stuff but she taught us that sex should come after marriage. It didn’t surprise me because I thought she was just sticking her personal opinions into it, like how a grandmother might so you ignore it. Only now do I realize how many crucial details she left out. I kind of assumed she wasn’t supposed to teach it like that, not that my state actually wanted her to. I also remember one particular time: the teacher mentioned most girls choosing to shave their underarms and legs and this girl in my class mentioned that she shaved her arms and the teacher was like “you shouldn’t shave your arms though” like… with no reasoning. And we discussed contraception for STDs vaguely, and she basically said as long as you’re married you shouldn’t have to worry about that. I don’t remember if she mentioned that married people sometimes don’t want a baby too but whatever 💀
Wow. Your story is interesting.
In 4th grade I had the same scenario with the boys and girls separated. The girls learned about periods and could ask questions at the end. It's been so long that I don't remember the details, but I did learn that periods were normal and that if you start it soon, and don't have a pad, you can wrap a ton of toilet paper around your underwear until you do. However, when the girls and boys reconvened the boys said that they just watched a movie (which I suspected was a lie, but if not, then that's bad). I do know though that the boys were not taught about girls having periods and that made me angry even as an 11 year old. And from what I've learned from many men later in life was they were only taught about womens body's in very vague terms and had to learn more from the internet or their girl friends.
What I find most interesting is your experience with sex ed in 7th grade. The sex ed I got after 4th grade was sporadically throughout middle school. I was shown a penis diagram, described the act of sex with a condom to stop ejection, and taught the existence of a plan B pill. Nothing else. Better than most, but not ideal. I've been lucky where all the abstinence talk was enough for me because I thought I'd give it no chance.
I'm just upset that sex ed is still so stigmatized in the United States. The next generation is living in the time of information, and you want to just tell them nothing and leave them with piles of misinformation? The public education system has always needed to be fixed, but even more so in the area of sex education.
Yep, my sex ed was Freshman year highschool, a point where that info was long past due and the info provided was extremely limited and sub par.
“We should have these materials reviewed by a medical professional“ 🙄
What do you think a "Board Certified OBGYN" is...?? 😤
The Stupid, it burns…
They mean MALE medical professional.
I found it bit funny that men thought nothing wrong with material and the woman was so..... Absurd.
Yeah lady, as long as we don't teach kids anything about our bodies or say that awful word s-e-x... They stay out of it.
They think Mama Dr Jones is a FEMALE Board Certified OBGYN, which for some reason makes them think she has the education of a Nurse and did not attend med school to the same degree as other Doctors.
Everyone knows lady doctors aren't real doctors.......... The hypocrisy in that room was disgusting.
If they did, they'd end of feeling dumb as hell, but there's nothing wrong at all with having new materials reviewed by a medical professional. After all, not all teachers are good judges of online material. Some of them are even anti-vax, Q believing, Trump voters who wear shirts that say "grab my pussy." So, maybe that's a good idea, even if it feels insulting to THIS TH-cam creator. In the end, they'll be told this is good content, and maybe they will even learn something in the process.
They've used you as a scapegoat here to say "im uncomfortable with my children learning about sex because i cant accept the fact that they will one day have sex" these are people terrified of their children learning how the world works simply because they want their children to stay young forever.
Exactly! I 100% agree!
Bingo
So sad. Your channel is important. I am a parent of children with special needs who have been adopted. It is super important for them to be included. They need to know how to protect themselves and appropriately label body parts. My child have been labeling their body parents since coming into my home. They almost need it on repeat to understand and have the knowledge. Keeping them in the dark puts them at risk!
Not me, a teacher being in this channel to help me explain some things better to my students 😂
"Oh no! INFORMATION! We must protect the children!" Is basically how I'd sum up their thought process. Shameful for a school board.
Exactly lol
They should have a board certified obgyn to come to the schools and teach directly
Children shouldn't be traumatized to gore lol let them be safe
@@divine555 Let them watch violent movies but lord forbid they learn about their damned bodies. Have fun with your daughters being teenage moms ig
Right! These board of education members are basically arguing that school isn't the correct forum to provide education. 🤦 So much for "Knowledge is Power".
There's information that can lead you to do bad things. Information is not necessarily good all the time. Also wrong information is even worst.
I know I'm late to the party here. I'm a now retired RN, but I will never forget doing my OB-GYN rotation through our free clinic in the city I trained, where a 12 year old young lady was pregnant with her 3rd. (yes, that is NOT a typo) child, in her 8th month checkup. She had one toddling, one crawling and her mother out in the waiting room with them. While she was alone with me, she said, "I just can't figure out why this keeps happening!!" I was a little confused. I asked "What happening?" "Me getting pregnant!" "Oh, is your birth control failing?" She looked at me blankly. "What's birth control? No, I don't know how I keep getting pregnant!!" I was very shocked and kinda slow on the uptake and finally asked, you mean, you don't know what Physical Act is getting you pregnant? "YES! I don't know how I get pregnant over and over!"; When I explained... She was.. I'm gonna kill him, he told me that wouldn't do anything.... And that. right. there. Is why we MUST have sex ed in schools. When I explained to my instructer and then her mother, her mother said "Well, when she got pregnant, I figured she KNEW how she got that way and didn't need to know anything else!"
::::Bangs head on desk::::::
I think banging the mother's head on the desk would be more helpful, at least for your mental health.
That mother should be in PRISON
So basically she was repeatedly victimised. Jesus..😢
With a girl that young, I'm also concerned who "he" is - is this a relative? Brother or father?
Oh, my goodness. I feel so sorry for that child.
your content is so educational and helpful which is why when i just saw this in my recommended I had to see wtf these wild people are saying is wrong. You’re doing a service for so many and you don’t even have to, you’re choosing to share your knowledge and opinions and I think that is commendable. We need more doctors in practice that are more like you.
13:55 I hear her saying "They won't opt their kids out of something that I think is inappropriate, so make it opt in, which they also won't do and I win."
This has to be the most uneducated "education board" in the country. They should be embarrassed but I don't think they have the sense enough to know that they should be embarrassed. Absolutely vile.
I wish that i could believe this is an anomoly, but honestly given the issues in much of modern north american education, i wouldnt be surprised if this is the norm and its just now becoming something that we see because of the situation here
@@qiae I've seen videos of other school boards over the years. It's not an anomaly. Some of the worse I've seen have been from Texas. And the reason I saw them is because many school districts nation wide textbooks are based on Texas' decisions.
This isn't even close to the worst. Let that sink in.
Ummm... I thought this was the average intellectual capacity of all boards of education.
Yeah, like the others have said, this is pretty typical for school boards in the U.S.
It's depressing that we're nearly 20 years out from Mean Girls, and the joke of the terrible Health teacher is still relevant.
I literally got the Mean Girls sex ed. They put up a PowerPoint of all of the diseases we WILL get if we have sex (not risk getting, will get), complete with nasty pictures. Then they said just don't have sex.
"Don't have sex. You WILL get pregnant and you WILL die." -Coach Carr
@@christinaglahn8036 "... have some rubbers"
Chlamydia: K-L-A…
@@esteemedcharacteractressma58 I'm around the age where I should learn about it, however I'm homeschooled through an online program and most schools in the area are Christian schools, so they probably wouldn't have sex ed. The South really hates teaching people about it
I’m glad that people like you are out there teaching people this stuff and bringing awareness to these detrimental things going on in our society
Thank you for trying to provide educational resources. I am sorry that some Alaska school board folks had issue with your material. I hope that there are not too many 13 year old mothers, but the fact that you say you have indicates there are. I hope you are able to continue providing content. I hope that Alaska School Board does not implement restrictions on the internet.
"This should be taught in the home" is essentially children being sexually abused in the home can continue being abused. An abuser isn't gonna tell a child about safety and consent.
Honestly the parents fighting without info are already a red flag to me and should probably be checked out.
First thing that runs through my head
Should be taught in the home is shorthand for: this makes me uncomfortable so I'm not gonna talk about it at home, but you can't teach it at school because my kid might ask icky questions when they get home.
Not all children have a doctor or nurse or even a relative in the health field that could teach them. Whereas in a school they can invite a doctor to come and talk to the students.
I 220% agree. People pushing for this are trying to protect their asses by having the kids never find out they are being abused.
Lack of education on those below you is power to stay above them.
Teaching kids about basic sex Ed like your own body parts and what those parts do or are for should be a parents job first. Mother's should be open to their daughters about puberty and same with father's to their sons. I believe it should start in the home. I also think Sex Ed should be in schools at an appropriate age or grade but schools should give a notice to parents that it will be discussed to give parents the opportunity to talk to their kids ahead of time if they wanted. The majority issues come from families who do not talk about these things. My mom never told me about menstrual cycles and I thought I was dying.
Them: What if kids are being abused at home? We have to look out for vulnerable kids!
Also them: sex ed belongs in the home! It's for parents to teach!
Yesss! What if the at home abuse is sexual in nature? The kid should have the resources to know their options
One very important situation where parents shouldn't "teach by example" 😣🤢
@@catnipaddict88 I learned what my dad was doing to me was wrong because of school! Sometimes an outside source has to be the teacher.
Because parents do such a great job right? Ha
You have to have sex ed within education and here in the UK it begins from the age of 3 years this is age appropriate sex ed so teaching kids about their personal space and boundaries. People are actually against teaching kids about anything connected to sex. This is a bad idea that means more unwanted pregnancies because these kids have no clue what sex leads to later also that many are in danger from abuse. Please don't stop your children learning about sex which is age appropriate. It's important and health and safer for them.
"Mama what have ya!" 😂 These people are ridiculous. I am a 46 year old woman and I would trust these videos for my teen to watch. I dont have a teen, but when I do, I would trust your videos to help me explain things to him.
Watching this again a year later, I live in Alaska & am scared for our children! Right now HIV & syphilis are at an all time high in our older teens & young adults! Not to mention problems with consent & DV! Alaska needs people willing to educate!
As a young woman, who honestly didn’t feel comfortable going to my personal doctor or mother with certain topics, you have helped me dramatically. You’ve even answered questions I didn’t know I had. I don’t see anything “inappropriate” with your content. The school board and the parents are being immature over a topic that everyone will have to be exposed to at sometime in their lives.
As a woman who has a primary care physician who LISTENS to me (which can be a problem with male doctors and female patients of child bearing age), I'd strongly advise you to TRY to find a PCP you're comfortable going to with basically any health problem you have. It can be VITALLY important. I understand that's much easier said than done with the healthcare "system" in this country, but at the very least I hope you can find a gynecologist you feel comfortable with who LISTENS to you and believes you know your body best.
I say that because I lost a friend to cervical cancer when she was only 28 years old, and it was all because her male gynecologist didn't listen to her when she told him something was wrong. She wanted to be screened, but he wouldn't do it and told her she was too young to have cancer. He didn't listen to her until she could feel a mass inside herself and it was bleeding. By then it was already stage IV. She left behind a three-year-old daughter and a husband who adored her.
Please don't get the wrong idea that I'm trying to scare you with that story; I'm absolutely not. I just try to stress the importance to other young women of having a gyno you trust and to get your regular screenings done! And most importantly of all, to trust your intuition if you think there's something wrong.
I couldn't agree more!!! I'm 42 yrs old mother of 3 ages 23(male), 19(female) & 10(female) I didn't even get the "period" talk from my own mother so how was I supposed to approach sex? After I was sexually active & she found out I was screamed at & basically called a slutty whore. I love MDJ & she has taught me things I didn't know & answered questions I too didn't even know I had!!! Keep up the great job MDJ !!!!!!
@Leslee Lane Your daughter was who I was as a teen. I'm now MDJ's age. As someone who was that "shy"/"modest" teen: *Thank* you. You are a good mom.
If your daughter is old enough, help her learn how to make her own doctor's appointments. First, it's a skill she's going to need as an adult, and second, if she isn't comfortable telling her mom "Hey, I think my vagina is sick and needs to go see a doctor," she may be more comfortable just making that appointment and telling you "Hey, I scheduled a doctor appointment for myself Thursday after school. Can I get a ride, please?" Obviously as a parent, you're going to know something's up, but that may or may not occur to her.
@@kriscynical Sincere condolences to you and your friend's loved ones.
Yess
I hope April sees my comment as this is directed towards her specifically…
You are the type of parent I had where I was not taught anything at home and when I was assaulted at 14, it seemed like my fault. I didn’t understand what happened because I didn’t know about how sex worked or why what happened to me happened, but I knew it was wrong. 20 years later, I still cannot open up on a therapist’s couch to unpack this shame and trauma. I wholeheartedly believe if I would’ve had sex ed at school, I wouldn’t carry so much shame in my life and feel empowered within my own physical existence. I hope you can unpack your own personal issues and learn that proper education is key.
It's true when people say education is power. It gives a person the ability to make better decisions, know when something is wrong or bad, and the tools to speak up when they are. I hope you are able to heal from the trauma you experienced.
I hope you will one day overcome your trauma. Please know it was 100% not your fault. * Hugs *
I hope she sees it too in the 6th grade I was "accidentally" touched multiple times I didn't understand that they were on purpose and I didn't think I should talk to teachers about it I have been touched a lot without doing anything about it cuz I didn't understand it at the time it happened
@@FroggyFreg hope you have someone you can trust that you can talk to about what you experienced. Take care!
@@cynthiaandvern I do
They probably want to opt out their children so they don't understand what's happening to them at church hour.
Thank you for always being an amazing resource for education! I will always share your videos with my nieces.❤
"Students are going to believe that this is a trustworthy source." Did you not just say MDJ is a board-certified OBGYN?
Not only that but later in the video someone else commented that they would prefer to hear certain things from a "medical professional" to see if they're accurate. Umm....she is one?!
I suspect that's the board's bias showing. Since they didn't really go into specifics, my assumption is their biggest complaint with MDJ's videos is that she doesn't discourage sex outside of marriage and that she makes an effort to use inclusive vocabulary. They'd much rather have experts that are opposed to anything that isn't sex between a man and his wife.
@@randomstuff-qu7sh what small town school board isn't biased 😭 it's really horrible. My school board is super biased and had to be reminded of STATE AND FEDERAL LAWS while making decisions because they were going against them. It was horrible.
@@KassieR329 school boards really are horrible. When I was in high school the school board was actively working to try and ban my blind friend from the district because he "was a liability to the district". Some of the stuff these boards do in the name of "education" is messed up.
@@TheSuefriend in the USA there is a law/right that is something about “no student left behind” or something like that.
"We need to protect our vulnerable students"
She says as she's arguing for a course of action which will make her students MORE VULNERABLE TO ABUSE!
April, you're not protecting anyone from a real threat. You're making abusers more powerful
“We need to protect our vulnerable students,” she exclaims while blocking education about consent
Very true. Those who are vulnerable have statistically shown to be also more vulnerable to sexual abuse.
Exactly
Yes! I was just about ready to scream at the screen at that point.
These people are so ignorant! Either that, or they are deliberately making things worse because that's how stupid people who have been indoctrinated by fundamentalist religion think.
@@resourcedragon I agreed with everything you've said except for one thing: NOT EVERY SINGLE PERSON WHO ENDS UP INDOCTRINATED (by anything fundamentalist or radical or weird or whatever) IS STUPID!! THEY WERE VULNERABLE. I have worked with people who have been indoctrinated by different religions and faux-religions (or actual cults around religions, sex, terrorism, etc) and none of them were stupid (and I'm using the dictionary term of stupid here and which is also a synonym for unintelligent). These were smart people who for some reason never received proper (aka scientifically based) education surrounding a particular topic (aka religions from around the world and what indoctrination was regarding them and what faux-religions are) or were never given a chance to properly learn in the first place because they had been born into indoctrinated families or cults. Some of these people actually tested as genius-level intelligence, but if their ability to learn is cut off, derailed or full out taken away... not EVERYONE has internet access still in this world or it's highly monitored and access to certain sites is cut out. Just because you and I have our free speech and unmonitored ability to access ways to get educational information DOES NOT MEAN THAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES. Tbh, this really is a debate for another time, but PLEASE stop returning to school-yard thinking when you are frustrated with certain people and call them stupid... Because now you are acting stupid (please note that I "acting" not that you really are because I think you are a smart person, you are just frustrated and I totally understand that as well because I feel it too.) But calling someone stupid during this conversation is showing those who you are disagreeing with or those who are tormenting you that they've actually gotten to you and made you frustrated (or worse). By staying above it and choosing a different descriptor, they won't be able to see the frustration through your words.
MDJ is able to show her anger and frustration because she is on camera and therefore we see it and hear it, but one thing we don't hear her say is that they (the people who are trying to besmirch her) are stupid. Uneducated, deliberately or not? Yes. That they are frustrating her by being misogynist a$$ holes, obtuse, and not allowing her incredibly educational, factual and tbh, kind education for anyone in the world who can access her content especially young teens /pre-teen children especially those who are not receiving amazing education from their schools or parents? Of course she's frustrated and ready to take on the people who are causing harm to her reputation! But she never actually calls those people "stupid" or other school-yard terms because she knows that if she did, she's letting them win.
So, you've just shown people that are frustrating you, trying to get to you by talking smack about you, that they've won.
And I'm so sorry that you did get this frustrated. I always enjoy reading your comments because you are great with the comebacks... Except for this one time.
So I didn't write this to be snarky or mean to you. I just wanted to encourage you to watch your words, especially when you are frustrated... So that you won't lose. 💙
I know this is over a year old, but as a student in Alaska (not Fairbanks, but my sex ed still sucked) I have been binging your videos and those by other OBGYNs in order to learn about my body and cycle. I was never taught these things in school, so I've taken it upon myself to learn them. It makes me concerned how schools don't teach these things, especially because my sex ed was abstinence only. Keep making videos, you're a wonderful resource and have helped me learn a lot!
You have helped me a lot. You are more important to us than the board. They don't want people getting advice online because they make no money. You are a brave warrior. Thank you for what you do. ❤
"We need to protect children who are survivors of/enduring abuse" she says, while actively making it harder to do that
Seriously
#logic 🤦🏼♀️😂
13:00 She also then continues "students who are experiencing humiliation at home by being exposed to these kinds of things." She thinks it's humiliating to talk about sex, and that they need to protect children at least at school, because "Those parents aren't going to be opting their kids out of something that isn't going to be appropriate for them." Based on that she most certainly opts her children out of sex ed, and on top that seemingly thinks that everyone else should too.
"They are vulnerable because of their marginalised situation at home." She thinks that children who are taught sex ed at home are in a marginalised situation, that it isn't normal to talk/teach about sex at home, so they need to protect those children.
As someone who survived CSA, I WISH I was taught at school what is and isn't OK. Mayne then I won't have had to go through 2 years of it, and reasoning with myself thinking what was happening was normal. Not to mention the unhealthy relationship with my mind, body, and sex due to what happened. I'm not ashamed to admit, I became addicted to sex in high school (started freshman year) because I didn't see a big deal, and because of ongoing abuse at home, I took what I could get (the feeling of being wanted and loved) even if it was for the wrong things. I didn't see anything wrong with it at the time.
As a survivor of SA in a relationship, I was never tought what SA could look like in a relationship, how to handle it (during and after) and to not put up with it. We need to to teach this somehow.
Also kids/teens need an adult that give resources/talk to if something is going on.
As a trauma counselor for children who have experienced sexual abuse and assault, I love your response. Naive children are much more likely to accept inappropriate sexual experiences because they don't understand, and unless someone talks about abuse, they are extremely unlikely to disclose.
My friend was one. Her stepdad showed her porn and taught her about her vulva, and then proceeded to sexually abuse her. She had no idea. She thought it was what people did.
Completely agree. I was that kind of child . I was abused by a family member just cause i had no ducking idea what was Happening (at freaking 18 years old!!) cause i was kept in a stupid bubble where no one talked about anything& when i asked i was punished. Not to mention that i freaked out entirely when i got my period & was so ashamed of it ! Sex ed is so important! It would have changed my life completely in many situations. I‘m so sick of adults denying info to kids that is of such importance ..
@@rayesafan9628 I honestly question if that is where this brainwashing comes from..... the parents that want to keep their children ignorant are likely ignorantly listening to the abusers who want their kids ignorant so they find sex with dad and brother normal. If you are empathetic and open to listening its shocking how many people admit this happened or they know someone. For me my 2nd cousin showed me what I recall as the first porn I saw. Believing what abusers want over what is actually healthy harms us all and it is sad how effective this is. Thank you for helping kids like me, the burden shouldn't be on the kids anymore and I am glad to see this is more of a thing now. Sending you love! 💖
I was that kid. 5-7, I thought it was normal. Didn't help that my mom and dad were divorced and I believed that what was happening was the "normal" thing and they reason my dad left was because he didn't want to do those things with me. Luckily, I was able to put the guy away for 20 years
Doctor Mama you’re an absolute hero. Keep calling these idiots out, they’re a danger to children and should not be allowed to have a say in their education!
I imagine they also discussed book burnings. They strike me as the type
I have honestly had my 11 year old watch a few of your videos and it’s so positive for her. She feels less embarrassed but can ask me questions after AND DOES! I’m lucky I was raised by a Mom who gave me a factual talk then raised by a male parent who took me a OBGYN Doctor to learn the basics. It’s because of that I learned so much correct information and it’s why I decided on my terms with my consent pressure free when I took the big step with my boyfriend. It’s why I’ve used the anatomical terms since birth with my daughter.