I feel obstructed mostly by my mom where even at the mention of ANY guy, she would think "you need protection", don't get raped, etc. she is suspicious of any friendships with guys and she really only emphasizes the possibilities of bad situations and basically lives out of fear: every man is a sexual predator. it really sickens me. it's silly how parents say "you can come to me for anything" for support yet when you do, all you get is yelling, getting scolded, and lectures. they do come from good intentions, but that's where parents become helicopter parents and do more harm than good to your self-confidence, esteem, and love life.
I think its a scary world out there for a lot of people. I learned about a term called Mean World syndrome in college. It basically states that we are bombarded with negative stories in the media constantly and that begins to shape our view of the world. Unfortunately you see more and more people acting like this :( -Allen
Girl, I'm not even Asian but this is so relatable. I used to think that all man are good for nothings that only wanted to hurt you (emotionally or physically) due to this upbringing. Typing this out sounds so absurd. It's sad and ironical I learnt a lot about social interaction by talking to friends on the internet but I'm glad about it. I learnt that not every man is there to screw your life over. I used to be in shock that when I met my SO one day and realised that there are many wonderful kind men like him, who really care about you. I hope that every girl in a similar situation will be able to figure out things for her and find someone who loves and appreciates her 😊
My parent said not to have boyfriend until collage. When I'm collage, they say focus on my studies. When I finished my studies, now focus on your carrier. So, until now (26 y.o) I never have boyfriend. Same thing happen to my siblings. We sometime think we want to try dating, but don't really want to.
That is how Asian parents ruined their children's life.I 've heard of many cases just like yours.These girls later realized all the decent guys are taken even during college years. Clueless Asian parents still think prevent them dating is " For Their Own Good"
Daaamn. Did Felicia just come out of a photo-shoot? She looks gorgeous! Btw, they picked great hosts for this video. You can tell the two are really compatible(showing the male and female side of dating).
My mom is just like that! XD My dad is just like, " No dating until collage!" But my older brother, he is in collage, and my parents are always asking, " Why don't you have a girlfriend?
in my family my mum is vietnamese and dad is Chinese my mum is actually the opposite to what most Asian mums are like when the approach comes to dating she basically is like if your happy with that girl (even a non asian girl)it's fine but same sex marriage would be a diffrent story. my Chinese dad is also similar expect it's more traditional so I can't even get a relationship until after university and that i need a stable job and income so those are the 2 diffrent sides for me.
I'm honestly pretty rebellious about relationships. I'm in high school, and have a boyfriend even though I'm not allowed. As they've said, "18 is pushing it". Thankfully, my boyfriend is really understanding about it.
I was quite an obedient kid ^^ I'm the eldest and understood at that time that things were not easy for my mum...and just wanted to please her...make life easier. Even I wanted to rebel from time to time 😆 I didn't want to have regrets if something happened to her or to people I know ^^
I'm not young anymore and I never had the chance to rebel or obey...I just focused on studying and never thought of the possibility of having a relationship..My parents both say that it is all about destiny, no need to search for it..idk what do you guys think? xD
I’ve always been to uncomfortable talking about relationships to my parents. My dad is a western guy, and my mom is Cambodian. So you would think I would get the best of both worlds having a chill white dad and a strict Asian mom but that’s not the case. My mom says I can’t date until I’m out of college, but I feel like while I’m too busy trying to get my life together after graduation, finding a boyfriend would get harder and harder, then eventually I’ll end up alone and single because I was restricted from doing those sort of things as a teen. I feel like the experience would be more awkward too when I have a relationship when I’m older. My dad is too scary to talk to about these types of things and it makes me the most uncomfortable talking to him, he’s a nice person and all, but he holds grudges, is passive aggressive, and really scary. I feel like if I ever told him I had a boyfriend he would kill him and disown me. :(
I'm Chinese and this is so true that my parents have never told me ANYTHING about dating. So I've never been in a relationship until now (I'm 26) and I have to learn everything all at once or as I go. It's tough.
My parents keep on telling me to take my time with relationships (I'm 24 and never dated), but lately they'd ask occasional questions about my female friends, like, oh, does she take care of you well, or is she a good friend, repeatedly, over and over again, to the point I literally stop telling my parents whenever I'm hanging out with a female friend.
I'm too socially awkward to get into a romantic relationship, let alone to make friends! So "having a relationship" was never a real topic. :P My mom brings it up sometimes though, saying stuff like "You need to know how to do - - - to be a good mother." The most annoying are my Asian relatives and acquaintances. Every time they see me, they ask "Texting your boyfriend?" or something like "Do you have a boyfriend?", I'm always like ........... no. No. Idk I think that it's super embarrassing.
It's just me or the way Asians in general relate socially is just by way of keeping good appearance in front of the public eyes by avoiding gossips and scandals. Social interactions in a more Western way are usually more open, and the word awkward don't apply so much to the insiders but Vice Versa.
Great video guys! Really enjoying some of the new content...this is so true of us who experienced the blessing/curse of an asian upbringing! BTW the backing track is a little loud at times...u could maybe sidechain compress it more with the vocal track @ higher ratio or maybe just turn it down a smidgen when Allen and Felicia are talking :P
Growing up in China, this is what parents around me do (excluding mine, they are cool, crazy by Chinese standard. My mom never said lying is bad, just that if you lie and get caught, you will face consequences, resulting in me having no concept of right and wrong but will follow the law due to fear of prison) My friends told me: "focus on study they say, don't get relationship until you finish PhD they say, and immediately afterward, they would say you are 24, why don't you have boy/girlfriend, and they will sign you up for all kinds of dating for marriage agencies"
I absolutely love your channel . it's so entertaining. it inspires me to make a youtube channel but for Hispanic & Latino 😊 thanks for always being funny and making me laugh .. lots of love 💕💕
yeah I'm Hispanic too and I really enjoy watching this channel. love the culture and everything about asians. don't get me wrong I love my culture too, but i really enjoy learning about Asian's.
Could you guys do a video about homosexuality on asian society/culture? I had a coworker who was a Japanese gay man, and he told that his parents would never say anything to him about it, but every time the subject was brought the disappointment on their faces was very visible, and they never allowed him to introduce any of his boyfriends to them, they would always make an excuse to avoid it, and overall in Japan he never faced direct homophobia like he faced when he moved back here to Brazil, so that made me curious if that is the case with other Asian cultures, or even if it's a commonplace or it is just his family who acts that way.
Interesting how your coworker's sexual orientation was more of a "hush hush" sort of deal over in Japan. It doesn't sound like he was bluntly harassed for it, no?
***** at least in contrast to what people suffer here in Brazil it's absurdly different, in his words, it was more a "let's not delve into this topic" kinda of thing, but everyone would treat him normally as long as he would not "demonstrate" most people were indifferent, while here in Brazil there's a wide spectrum from people who would be really excited to show support, to people who are beat to death just for "looking kinda gay".
That's actually a good idea my daughter's gay and dating a Taiwanese girl for a year now and living with her family in Taiwan but she's never told her parents she is gay and they never asked even though it's obvious
Hello, I'm Lily, and I'm not sure if it matters but I'm hispanic and obsessed with your culture and way of life and I really want to say that I really enjoy your videos. I love learning about your history, philosophy, legends and spiritualism. also enjoy fictional and historical dramas along with the martial arts and the food is heaven to me. Watching your videos really help me understand more and make me want to learn more and more. so I just wanted to say thank you for making great videos. Your team is great and funny. not trying to sound corny but you guys are awesome. definitely subscribing!!
I'm Filipino and Puerto Rican but I was adopted into a very European rooted family in the US. One thing I'm grateful for is that my adoptive mom never tried to hide or dismiss anything, even if I didn't have a clue, she knew that it was important to me that she listen and try her best to be my mother and teach me.
i'm 22. and you know what my mom said when i was 12 which till this day still fresh in my mind? "Don't have a boyfriend until you have a job." I'm starting to think that would be a lie as well. And I could relate so much to 'Now what do we do for first relationship?' Honestly, I have no idea 😂
First off guys I think that those video clips from those movies are absolutely hysterical and the points you guys have a pretty relevant but you also have a put in the perspective that a lot of fathers are extra per extra extra protective of their daughters due to the fact that they know most men think about 23 hours out of the day so because of that you know you can't really get mad at them because their you know protecting of the parents and for them to protect the sons is because they don't want the sons knocking up every woman that comes the hump in front of their house Lotta pregnant bellies flopping around I don't want that, so great video all in all you guys are wonderful
Oh one other difference I noticed was talking to my parents just about guys I am attracted to. For example when I was I think 16 there was this guy I was writing letters to as a pen pal, later I found out he liked but I didn't think of him that way so I told him about this guy I liked and when he responded he gave me advice about the guy. Well normally I would read his letters out loud to my family so they could have an up date one him and how he was too g to, vut.tgis time I didn't read the whole thing because I left out the part about the guy I liked, well my dad noticed that it wasn't the whole letter and asked why I didn't read it, he thought that may be the boy had said something inappropriate to me and I didn't want to read it, but I ended up handing over the letter and he read the part, then my parents took me into their room for a talk. They were mad but not for the reason that you might think. They were mad that I hadn't felt comfortable telling them about the guy I liked, they were disappointed that i felt I needed to hide that part of the letter. So after that I always would tell them those things cause I didn't want to hurt them
I've learnt that the worst thing to do is talk to asian parents about dating in the first place, especially if you're going out with a westerner. They don't have a freaking clue how the dating game works for our generation so just do it and don't tell them. ✌
That's awesome I think my experiences are mainly with mainland Chinese parents but maybe southeast asian parents are different? I remembering while traveling in thailand and the philippines people definitely seemed warmer!
@@NTDOffTheGreatWallmaybe the others...but for me it still the same.. I'm Filipino.I have four older brothers and they never been in a relationship even chatting with women..and so do I..Its not bcoz our parents told us that we shouldn't be dating in early age..maybe because they don't open this kind of topic to us..it's really awkward for us..that's why we become introverted..As I grow I find my parents never hold hands while walking,kiss,hugging( except taking pictures.)..when I saw their old photos before..they don't even close together even they were dating already..In school I have so many friends had a bf and gf but most of them were their parents never know about it..it's always like study and career first..before relationship.. especially in provinces area.. But even My parents are like that we received so much love and care Saying I love you also..I never heard it to them..But We are so rude to each other..and sarcastic..haha
Jason Cheung My Vietnamese mom is different maybe because I’m a girl but still she’s like “I had so much expectations in you” and “my boy is more beautiful “ and stuff my dad is chill he’s speechless 😂 my grandpa is like just being friends my grandma is like “YOUR ONLY 12 IF YOU KEEP MAKING TROUBLE I WILL COME AND BEAT YOU UP” she’s nice though 😂
I'm 28 years old and my parents would still flip out if they found out if I was in a relationship. They would start plotting my boyfriend's murder if they found out I moved in with him. -_- God, the amount of control is unbelievable and, you know what, they think they are actually being LENIENT!
I'm in a Thai family. When I was younger, my mother would always be cautious of me hanging out with males, friend or not, and always said "make sure there's another female". I can understand why since we both have had bad experiences with males, but it got annoying after a while. I'm older now (still a teenager though) and I've had much more freedom with who I hang out with and who's house I can go to. Either she's okay with it or just very oblivious because I never hide the fact that I'm going to a male's house or hanging with one alone, so I'm always double checking like, "Hey I'm hanging out with *male name* today. I'm going to HIS HOUSE and we're playing video games in HIS ROOM. Then we're cooking in HIS kitchen. Okay mum???". I'm not one to lie to my mother lol I recently got into my first relationship and well she thinks I'm too young (which is true tbh) but she hasn't really tried to stop me. It took me a week to tell her I got into one because she didn't pick up my hints- so I had to be direct. Went better than I expected but I'm still a bit worried haha
Fortunately, I've never had to worry about talking with my parents about relationships. Also, unfortunately, I've never had to talk with my parents about relationships. In my family though, it's just if it happens it happens, and as long as the person in a relationship is happy they are fine.
Hey Alan! It was great meeting you guys in the Philippines when you were there! We were the group that studied abroad in Japan. 2 Germans, 1 Italian, 1 South Korean, and me (the Asian American)! Thank you for inviting us to dinner in Tagbilaran or was it Panglao? Anyways keep up the good work!
We've all made it back home and all separated =/ Clemens was the last person traveling and he returned almost 2 weeks ago from Thailand to Germany! It was a great adventure in Philippines! I see your channel in the link. We'll reach out to you and stay in touch!
That's so interesting, my parents are also very strict but they also gave us the reasons etc., so I do understand their point of view. And we speak openly about it nowadays, but I realized that I had to open up the conversation and once I did the ice was broken and since then I can speak openly with them - even though I'm not even dating. I think because we are so open about it and talk a lot, I don't have the drive and desire to even date HAHA We are Filipinos and we hug each other, even in public, I also do with my siblings, it's totally normal to me :D
yea once that initial barrier is broken everything seems to click in place. I love how much importance Filipinos seem to put on family and hugs are the BEST! Unfortunately a lot of my Chinese friends aren't comfortable with hugging my parents.
Off the Great Wall Like you said, communication is key. I have to remind myself sometimes that not everyone is a hugger...I even hug my sisters friends without thinking - so being so open and "HUGGING" can turn out to become an awkward encounter for them (I only realized after someone tells me haha) But is it really common among Chinese families to not show affection physically? Hugging, Kiss on the cheek etc.? When our parents come home all siblings have to come to the front door greet them through a kiss on the cheek or "Mano po" (taking the back of their hand to your forehead)
I can't speak for everyone but it seems that way for the majority of Chinese families I've seen. It's not that we don't love each other of course but I guess we don't do a great job expressing emotion. I think to be honest a lot of it also has to do with the cultural revolution it really scarred a lot of families. I've noticed for instance when I travel to Taiwan that Taiwanese people are a little more warmer, and the majority of them avoided that terrible time in Chinese history.
Off the Great Wall Of course, it's just a different way to express love. I think Filipinos are the way they are because of the Spanish influence, because we also have a huge Chinese background. Maybe you can do more Videos with Southeast Asians and speak about similarities and differences on various topics - would definitely watch! :) Have a great weekend :)
I'm going through that and I'm only 13. I don't really talk about dating with my mom except in Asian movies. I had to learn about these things with my friends.
My mom was always like '' Y'know, I'm telling you how everything goes, then you do it your way and face everything yourself " so I suppose this kinda gave me freedom, but at the same time made me not really want to do some things, mostly because I was scared. Dating wise ( as someone who's gay ) well she doesn't really care, like besides the sex talks that go like " ALWAYS USE CONDOMS, DON'T DO IT WITHOUT ONE " I guess it's pretty chill, but I'm still gonna hide my relationships from her >.> I feel like it's not her bussiness to know that
You guy got it easy. I got in grounded because a girl called me about a homework problem. Talking about strict parents. I wasn't aloud to interact with the opposite sex. For the longest time, I had no idea how to talk to girls.
My Asian parents are soo strict, they don't like small crush topics when I try to open up, soo ofc not the big things too. At first when I'm in high school they said I'm allowed when I turn 18, but I'm now 20 and they want me to graduate a degree in college first before any courting and dating stuff, but I kinda fell in love at 18 and being secretive to avoid fights, cause they may disown me just because of that bruh.. I've missed the fun teen stuff in movies, it's sad tbh.
I think the reason why they don’t want you to date is because, they don’t want you left heartbroken because when you break up I imagine it being a rough time.
My parents are like "No dating until you're 24, then marry when you're 25" They also get really touchy when I'm talking to a girl or just around a girl/s even thought they know that I wouldn't date that person. Im asian btw
Exactly! And I think that since (most) Asian parents restrict dating and stuff like that it really affects our self-confidence and we don't dare to approach the opposite gender... like we don't dare/don't know how to express our feelings to someone we like without coming off as weird xD.
I am 15 now and I feel like having a girlfriend. However I have never had a crush until now. I feel Asian parents don’t allow their children to date until we are in our 20s. Then when we are older and have no interest in dating anymore, they want us to quickly get married. So many Chinese, including my family members, already in their mid 30s nearing 40s are still single. For western countries, teenagers as young as 13/14 can date and kiss in front of their parents and they support that
I think it's nice that they are like this but at the same time if they are you can't make mistakes so you can't learn from them and you don't know what to do if your child makes this mistake
from watching this videos other people that come from other countries have similar backgrounds! I started dating when I was almost 19 because the way my parents raised us! my little niece is 12 and most of her friends have been dating for almost 2 years but my sister won't let her date or put make-up on or wear tight clothes, which I agree on that! be a kid enjoy it, it only happens once. then you won't be able to sleep or have free time or do what you like!!
My parents are Asian. I don't think they have ever limited me in dating. But how would I know? I never dated. Now, I am in my mid-20s and still single. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life. It keeps things simple. My mother grew up in China and lived in China until her 30s. During her 20s, she dated several men with the aim of finding a spouse. She had a full-time job as a doctor and lived with her parents, so there was likely no hanky-panky going on in any of the relationships, if you know what I mean. My father never dated anyone in his 20s or earlier. My mother was my father's first date. They met through a dating advertisement, and they stayed together ever since.
I liked my parents approach. They were like they didn't like the idea of being in a serious relationship before you turn 18, they were ok with us likeing someone and bring them over to our house and hang out with my family. But we can have a serious relationship after we turn 18. And they don't stop us from dateing who we like, cause they raised us how to find a good person. My 3 older sisters are married to 3 amazing men. One of the questions when I call my parents is if I have anyone I like right now. Cause they know that's gonna happen even if they didn't want it to..... It sounds like I am bragging about my parents doesn't It? 😶 sorry, I will stop now
I actually grew up in a conservative christian Russian home where dating is kinda seen as a sin. You either get married, or you keep every person of the opposite sex at arm's length #bibledistance. It's been really tough on me because I am 18 now and I want to date, but I don't want my family finding out and at the same time, I don't know how to properly have a relationship with a guy. I never wanted to have a teen relationship because I knew that shit wasn't serious, but we all want a bit of romance sometimes. Just feels like I'm missing out.
Now I understand..I was dating a girl from China and she is very shy .I felt like she was hiding our relationship so I decided to break up.MIA I love you wherever you are lol
Well , I'm 16 and have never had a boyfriend before. By the way I'm chinese and my parents are really strict. So half a year ago when i was still 15. I liked this guy and we had a few dates but nothing too serious. But when i had my second date i asked my mom if i could meet him. It wasn't really a date. We hung up at his house and watched a few filmes. But my mom said no and talked with me about not being allowed to have a boyfriend because i should focus on my studies. Well ,i was a little rebellious and always went out with him without telling my mom. At the end it didn't work out between him and me but it was still my first experience with a boy and being rebellious the first time.
I'm a 20 year old Chinese guy. My parents never really talked to me about dating and relationships really because I've never been in a relationship yet. They think that I'm just attracted to white women and not Chinese women (which isn't true, I like all women of different races). The thing is, I grew up i a predominantly white neighborhood so I've been more exposed to white girls instead of Asian girls. They're not really opposed to me dating outside my race just as long as I eventually marry a Chinese woman.
i understand but i mean .... if you're going to date someone then you're in love with them and would want to spend the rest of your life with right ? so if it's a white girl that you're actually dating and want to marry her , you're not allowed to ? then why bother date a white girl in the first place ?
Well that's my parent's logic for you. I guess they'd rather me gain experience in dating and relationships first. Plus I'm only 20 so it's not like I'm planning on getting married anytime soon.
well ! i'm 20 too and where i live age deosn't matter that much in marriage , but you're right it's good to gain experience in dating but it's bad dating girls you don't have real feelings for ... i'm not judging btw , just trying to understand the point here ! lastly , parents know best ...for real tho
Well as much as I'd like to respect my parents wishes, I can’t help that I'm attracted to someone who's not my own race. Plus like I said, I grew up mostly around white people and white girls so that’s what I'm exposed to. I guess I'm just trying to say that it's hard for me to do what they want because of those factors.
i perfectly get it ! you do you boo , your parents will accept and respect the decision you make because they love you .. years from now i'm sure what they said when you were a teen won't be as important XD
I look forward to seeing that video! and by the way thank you for such a quick response to my post it means a lot! I really like this channel and I look forward to more amazing videos in the future!
I wish, I am half Jewish and half Colombian, but I have cousins on my mother's side who are half Japanese and I have a half Japanese Great aunt somewhere in Hawaii both whom I have never met! Tashi was nickname i was given at age of 3 month because my babysitter could not say my first name(Tatiana) I added KO to the end of because people were getting me confused with the name Toshi...I am very surprised you knew I was of Jewish ancestry most people don't think of Jews as an ethnicity so I am very impressed!
When I was little, I was not allowed to hang out with boys. My only friends at the time were boys. When my sister got a rose from her friend Rosa, My mom thought a boy gave it to her. My sister and I are both heartless creatures now.
My parents aren't so strict or anything. But they'd prefer it if I dated/married a girl from a family they know of, so that they're already sure she's from a good family rather than a stranger. I tell them that I can literally meet any girl all around this world of 7+billion people you know. I don't want to limit myself to just one ethnicity or even more specifically the girls from families my parents know. To be honest though, if I do have to think about it, I don't think it's such a bad deal in itself. Other cultures can be so demanding/different. I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up marrying a girl like that.
South Asian families are the same I can't date openly I have to in secrecy and only a few close friends and cousins know I rather never let my parents know I was lol but they mean best getting heartbroken is not a good feeling
Once asked my mother for advice about dating, only response I got "Go study, finish college first." It was followed by after Med-school "Get job, make money, go buy a house first." LOL
My sister started dating this is what happened. Sister: Hey mom. I just wanna say that I found someone I want to spend my life with. Mom: What you mean. You too young. And she's like fricking 20 years old
I think the ages of 13 to 27 or so are a period of ignorance. I think parents should talk to their kids openly and let them fail at certain things depending on their age and maturity level. Also what they've already been thru. But no parent is perfect. And GOOD parents do what they do purely out of love. So i appreciate everything my parents did; whether i think it was right or wrong when i think about it now
I don't know about you guys but man as a hmong dude it felt like it was an interview for top level military clearance It was like: 'state yours, your father's, your grandfather's name with your designated clan, city, state, and village in the home country'
khaoula chatt im asian and muslim and people always compare me to japenese and chinese people because when i smile i look like one here how it goes me: Hi (random name) nice to meet you! *smiles* (random name): Hi! Are you japenese or like chinese? me: .....im from bangladesh (random name): oh like half japenese and half indian! me: *walks away* im not dealing with this again
hahahahhaha ! i'm dead at that conversation 😂 ikr ? i totally get it , people where i live always call a fair skin asian chineese and a dark skin asian indian wich is so funny but really upsetting at the same time lol
The traditional Asian mentality sees dating as a distraction. All Asian parents really care about is for their child to study so that they can get good grades. Their belief is that more education translates to establishing a career that makes a lot of money. Anything that deviates from this is seen as a hindrance towards that goal.
Growing up, it was not okay to be dating boys. So when I had a crush on someone of the opposite sex, I just didn't know how to handle it. I would bottle it up, not reveal anything and actively try to avoid them.
the trick is for all you guys: finish college, or prove the job, save a ton of $, buy the house for your lady. invite the in law parents to come over. rest is down hill.
Try “hiding” relationship from parents. So what I mean by “hiding” is they knew we hung out, but never knew how close we were. He is Asian American born in America, I was born in Asia. His parents are very Americanized and mine are very traditional. Well naturally my parents mentally attacked him. My dad is a city police officer so he really got on him!!! Anyway he asked me to marry him and we kept trying to introduce this to my parents... well growing up back and forth between japan and America I had no Asian friends till high school. I was always the outcast that no one understood and I got very depressed and my mental health use to be very bad until me and him were together. And I had enough at a certain point and well... instead of my parents accepting his marriage proposal other things happened and now we had to tell them I was pregnant with our first son! They were very happy it was a boy and actually took this better than the marriage thing. We have two sons and have been together for 4 years now. I hope to get married to him when I finish college. I am 19 he is 20, we had our babies very young! My parents looked at it as we were being selfish and disrespectful that we would do this without being married but they are now very happy, and so are we! It all works out! BUT I am still treated like child 😂
Well, I'm 22 years old now, but my parents still don't want me to have a boyfriend. They just want me to focus on my career... They don't know how lonely I am... And sometimes I wonder how they will surprise if they know that i used to be in a relationship when I was in grade 9 😅
Also, if I don’t have a girlfriend next time, I’ll probably get scolded or forced... well, Asian parents are protective and closed minded compared to western parents
Are religious ideas involved in this? Because for most of the western cultures that traditionally followed the Abrahamic religions, sex before marriage was/is regarded as a sin, which is absolutely stupid but is there a similar element in chinese/east asian cultures?
Sam Eastern religions are not like your religions of the book, instead they are like values systems that are passed on from generation to generation over centuries. There are no strict, hard and fast rules but values and rules based on what is universally considered right and moral. It's like listening to your conscience to figure out what's right and what's wrong.
Sunny Nexxt That is very realistic to how people actually get their moral codes and what religion is turning into nowdays. The east always amazes me how modern it is in a pre-modern kind of tradition.
I feel obstructed mostly by my mom where even at the mention of ANY guy, she would think "you need protection", don't get raped, etc. she is suspicious of any friendships with guys and she really only emphasizes the possibilities of bad situations and basically lives out of fear: every man is a sexual predator. it really sickens me.
it's silly how parents say "you can come to me for anything" for support yet when you do, all you get is yelling, getting scolded, and lectures. they do come from good intentions, but that's where parents become helicopter parents and do more harm than good to your self-confidence, esteem, and love life.
I think its a scary world out there for a lot of people. I learned about a term called Mean World syndrome in college. It basically states that we are bombarded with negative stories in the media constantly and that begins to shape our view of the world. Unfortunately you see more and more people acting like this :( -Allen
Girl, I'm not even Asian but this is so relatable. I used to think that all man are good for nothings that only wanted to hurt you (emotionally or physically) due to this upbringing. Typing this out sounds so absurd.
It's sad and ironical I learnt a lot about social interaction by talking to friends on the internet but I'm glad about it. I learnt that not every man is there to screw your life over. I used to be in shock that when I met my SO one day and realised that there are many wonderful kind men like him, who really care about you. I hope that every girl in a similar situation will be able to figure out things for her and find someone who loves and appreciates her 😊
My parent said not to have boyfriend until collage. When I'm collage, they say focus on my studies. When I finished my studies, now focus on your carrier. So, until now (26 y.o) I never have boyfriend. Same thing happen to my siblings. We sometime think we want to try dating, but don't really want to.
isnt it spelt "college"?
That is how Asian parents ruined their children's life.I 've heard of many cases just like yours.These girls later realized all the decent guys are taken even during college years. Clueless Asian parents still think prevent them dating is " For Their Own Good"
@@somedude9878 Get of here! Stop shaming Asian parents
Inez it’s not shaming, it’s true and it’s horrible for people who grow up with it.
Cicil I can’t have a boyfriend until I’m out of college... UR LUCKY 🍀
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Yeah I think it's just fair to put in at least 3 of them in the next video haha
Off the Great Wall and go
Interesting! I have had similar experiences but I am not Asian. I am 18 and have never dated, I am Irish and French American.
Is it true that Asians are smarter then normal people
Daaamn. Did Felicia just come out of a photo-shoot? She looks gorgeous!
Btw, they picked great hosts for this video. You can tell the two are really compatible(showing the male and female side of dating).
My mom is just like that! XD My dad is just like, " No dating until collage!" But my older brother, he is in collage, and my parents are always asking, " Why don't you have a girlfriend?
I died R.I.P. Me 2003-2016
in my family my mum is vietnamese and dad is Chinese
my mum is actually the opposite to what most Asian mums are like when the approach comes to dating she basically is like if your happy with that girl (even a non asian girl)it's fine but same sex marriage would be a diffrent story.
my Chinese dad is also similar expect it's more traditional so I can't even get a relationship until after university and that i need a stable job and income so those are the 2 diffrent sides for me.
Did you rebel against your parents when it came to relationships? Or were you obedient? And do you regret that decision now?
I'm honestly pretty rebellious about relationships. I'm in high school, and have a boyfriend even though I'm not allowed. As they've said, "18 is pushing it". Thankfully, my boyfriend is really understanding about it.
i dont have a relation ship i dont love anyone idk why but still it would be fun to have a gf but i dont love someone
I was quite an obedient kid ^^ I'm the eldest and understood at that time that things were not easy for my mum...and just wanted to please her...make life easier. Even I wanted to rebel from time to time 😆 I didn't want to have regrets if something happened to her or to people I know ^^
I'm not young anymore and I never had the chance to rebel or obey...I just focused on studying and never thought of the possibility of having a relationship..My parents both say that it is all about destiny, no need to search for it..idk what do you guys think? xD
Aliska Shirley aww that really sweet
I’ve always been to uncomfortable talking about relationships to my parents. My dad is a western guy, and my mom is Cambodian. So you would think I would get the best of both worlds having a chill white dad and a strict Asian mom but that’s not the case. My mom says I can’t date until I’m out of college, but I feel like while I’m too busy trying to get my life together after graduation, finding a boyfriend would get harder and harder, then eventually I’ll end up alone and single because I was restricted from doing those sort of things as a teen. I feel like the experience would be more awkward too when I have a relationship when I’m older. My dad is too scary to talk to about these types of things and it makes me the most uncomfortable talking to him, he’s a nice person and all, but he holds grudges, is passive aggressive, and really scary. I feel like if I ever told him I had a boyfriend he would kill him and disown me. :(
I'm Chinese and this is so true that my parents have never told me ANYTHING about dating. So I've never been in a relationship until now (I'm 26) and I have to learn everything all at once or as I go. It's tough.
They really hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm almost 19 and I haven't even been on a date yet 😖
Me too, I'm 18 and have never dated. But I am actually Irish and French American XD
My parents keep on telling me to take my time with relationships (I'm 24 and never dated), but lately they'd ask occasional questions about my female friends, like, oh, does she take care of you well, or is she a good friend, repeatedly, over and over again, to the point I literally stop telling my parents whenever I'm hanging out with a female friend.
I'm too socially awkward to get into a romantic relationship, let alone to make friends! So "having a relationship" was never a real topic. :P
My mom brings it up sometimes though, saying stuff like "You need to know how to do - - - to be a good mother."
The most annoying are my Asian relatives and acquaintances. Every time they see me, they ask "Texting your boyfriend?" or something like "Do you have a boyfriend?", I'm always like ........... no. No.
Idk I think that it's super embarrassing.
you have to be positive: if you say yes, they'll be asking you everything. literally everything.
I’m too scared to answer yes to those questions of “do you have a boyfriend?”
It's just me or the way Asians in general relate socially is just by way of keeping good appearance in front of the public eyes by avoiding gossips and scandals. Social interactions in a more Western way are usually more open, and the word awkward don't apply so much to the insiders but Vice Versa.
Great video guys! Really enjoying some of the new content...this is so true of us who experienced the blessing/curse of an asian upbringing!
BTW the backing track is a little loud at times...u could maybe sidechain compress it more with the vocal track @ higher ratio or maybe just turn it down a smidgen when Allen and Felicia are talking :P
good call didn't compress the audio this time around for the voices
Growing up in China, this is what parents around me do
(excluding mine, they are cool, crazy by Chinese standard. My mom never said lying is bad, just that if you lie and get caught, you will face consequences, resulting in me having no concept of right and wrong but will follow the law due to fear of prison)
My friends told me: "focus on study they say, don't get relationship until you finish PhD they say, and immediately afterward, they would say you are 24, why don't you have boy/girlfriend, and they will sign you up for all kinds of dating for marriage agencies"
I absolutely love your channel . it's so entertaining. it inspires me to make a youtube channel but for Hispanic & Latino 😊 thanks for always being funny and making me laugh .. lots of love 💕💕
Do it!
Call it. "Off the Border"
of donald Trump's wall
yeah I'm Hispanic too and I really enjoy watching this channel. love the culture and everything about asians. don't get me wrong I love my culture too, but i really enjoy learning about Asian's.
+saphiremoon1984 I agree
Could you guys do a video about homosexuality on asian society/culture? I had a coworker who was a Japanese gay man, and he told that his parents would never say anything to him about it, but every time the subject was brought the disappointment on their faces was very visible, and they never allowed him to introduce any of his boyfriends to them, they would always make an excuse to avoid it, and overall in Japan he never faced direct homophobia like he faced when he moved back here to Brazil, so that made me curious if that is the case with other Asian cultures, or even if it's a commonplace or it is just his family who acts that way.
Traditional Vietnamese family and bi af lord have mercy
Interesting how your coworker's sexual orientation was more of a "hush hush" sort of deal over in Japan. It doesn't sound like he was bluntly harassed for it, no?
***** at least in contrast to what people suffer here in Brazil it's absurdly different, in his words, it was more a "let's not delve into this topic" kinda of thing, but everyone would treat him normally as long as he would not "demonstrate" most people were indifferent, while here in Brazil there's a wide spectrum from people who would be really excited to show support, to people who are beat to death just for "looking kinda gay".
Happens in my family and we're Chinese.
That's actually a good idea my daughter's gay and dating a Taiwanese girl for a year now and living with her family in Taiwan but she's never told her parents she is gay and they never asked even though it's obvious
Haha... All very true. But then when you get to a 'certain age', all your relatives start to ask you when you are getting married and kids.
+Viv Leung haha yea I wonder what is the catalyst that starts this?
Hello, I'm Lily, and I'm not sure if it matters but I'm hispanic and obsessed with your culture and way of life and I really want to say that I really enjoy your videos. I love learning about your history, philosophy, legends and spiritualism. also enjoy fictional and historical dramas along with the martial arts and the food is heaven to me. Watching your videos really help me understand more and make me want to learn more and more. so I just wanted to say thank you for making great videos. Your team is great and funny. not trying to sound corny but you guys are awesome. definitely subscribing!!
Awww thanks! Its always nice to hear back from people :)
I'm Filipino and Puerto Rican but I was adopted into a very European rooted family in the US. One thing I'm grateful for is that my adoptive mom never tried to hide or dismiss anything, even if I didn't have a clue, she knew that it was important to me that she listen and try her best to be my mother and teach me.
i'm 22. and you know what my mom said when i was 12 which till this day still fresh in my mind? "Don't have a boyfriend until you have a job." I'm starting to think that would be a lie as well. And I could relate so much to 'Now what do we do for first relationship?' Honestly, I have no idea 😂
First off guys I think that those video clips from those movies are absolutely hysterical and the points you guys have a pretty relevant but you also have a put in the perspective that a lot of fathers are extra per extra extra protective of their daughters due to the fact that they know most men think about 23 hours out of the day so because of that you know you can't really get mad at them because their you know protecting of the parents and for them to protect the sons is because they don't want the sons knocking up every woman that comes the hump in front of their house Lotta pregnant bellies flopping around I don't want that, so great video all in all you guys are wonderful
+TheLongshot1982 definitely a good point in the end parents have the best intentions
omg god grandma!
Oh one other difference I noticed was talking to my parents just about guys I am attracted to. For example when I was I think 16 there was this guy I was writing letters to as a pen pal, later I found out he liked but I didn't think of him that way so I told him about this guy I liked and when he responded he gave me advice about the guy. Well normally I would read his letters out loud to my family so they could have an up date one him and how he was too g to, vut.tgis time I didn't read the whole thing because I left out the part about the guy I liked, well my dad noticed that it wasn't the whole letter and asked why I didn't read it, he thought that may be the boy had said something inappropriate to me and I didn't want to read it, but I ended up handing over the letter and he read the part, then my parents took me into their room for a talk. They were mad but not for the reason that you might think. They were mad that I hadn't felt comfortable telling them about the guy I liked, they were disappointed that i felt I needed to hide that part of the letter. So after that I always would tell them those things cause I didn't want to hurt them
I've learnt that the worst thing to do is talk to asian parents about dating in the first place, especially if you're going out with a westerner. They don't have a freaking clue how the dating game works for our generation so just do it and don't tell them. ✌
relationships are easy when whoever you are with is committed to you
I was just gonna learn some basics on Mandarin, but then I ended up marathoning your videos. Worth it.
my mother is Thai, but she openly talks about relationships... Is any other Asian parents like this or...?
That's awesome I think my experiences are mainly with mainland Chinese parents but maybe southeast asian parents are different? I remembering while traveling in thailand and the philippines people definitely seemed warmer!
yes my vietnamese mum is open to talk about it even when it comes to non asian girls.
@@NTDOffTheGreatWallmaybe the others...but for me it still the same.. I'm Filipino.I have four older brothers and they never been in a relationship even chatting with women..and so do I..Its not bcoz our parents told us that we shouldn't be dating in early age..maybe because they don't open this kind of topic to us..it's really awkward for us..that's why we become introverted..As I grow I find my parents never hold hands while walking,kiss,hugging( except taking pictures.)..when I saw their old photos before..they don't even close together even they were dating already..In school I have so many friends had a bf and gf but most of them were their parents never know about it..it's always like study and career first..before relationship.. especially in provinces area..
But even My parents are like that we received so much love and care
Saying I love you also..I never heard it to them..But We are so rude to each other..and sarcastic..haha
Jason Cheung My Vietnamese mom is different maybe because I’m a girl but still she’s like “I had so much expectations in you” and “my boy is more beautiful “ and stuff my dad is chill he’s speechless 😂 my grandpa is like just being friends my grandma is like “YOUR ONLY 12 IF YOU KEEP MAKING TROUBLE I WILL COME AND BEAT YOU UP” she’s nice though 😂
I would honestly hid it from my asian parents and if it was in “high school” I will tell them when I graduate
I'm 28 years old and my parents would still flip out if they found out if I was in a relationship. They would start plotting my boyfriend's murder if they found out I moved in with him. -_- God, the amount of control is unbelievable and, you know what, they think they are actually being LENIENT!
I'm in a Thai family. When I was younger, my mother would always be cautious of me hanging out with males, friend or not, and always said "make sure there's another female". I can understand why since we both have had bad experiences with males, but it got annoying after a while. I'm older now (still a teenager though) and I've had much more freedom with who I hang out with and who's house I can go to. Either she's okay with it or just very oblivious because I never hide the fact that I'm going to a male's house or hanging with one alone, so I'm always double checking like, "Hey I'm hanging out with *male name* today. I'm going to HIS HOUSE and we're playing video games in HIS ROOM. Then we're cooking in HIS kitchen. Okay mum???". I'm not one to lie to my mother lol
I recently got into my first relationship and well she thinks I'm too young (which is true tbh) but she hasn't really tried to stop me. It took me a week to tell her I got into one because she didn't pick up my hints- so I had to be direct. Went better than I expected but I'm still a bit worried haha
it really does sound like you have an awesome relationship with your family! I hope everything goes well with your new relationship :) -Allen
Thank you ^^
And your videos are entertaining as always, keep up the good work :)
ALLEN IS NOT FIRED!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
+Michelle Im woohoo!
Fortunately, I've never had to worry about talking with my parents about relationships. Also, unfortunately, I've never had to talk with my parents about relationships.
In my family though, it's just if it happens it happens, and as long as the person in a relationship is happy they are fine.
I really miss Carmen...
Hey Alan! It was great meeting you guys in the Philippines when you were there! We were the group that studied abroad in Japan. 2 Germans, 1 Italian, 1 South Korean, and me (the Asian American)! Thank you for inviting us to dinner in Tagbilaran or was it Panglao? Anyways keep up the good work!
Hey! How are you? Are you guys still traveling in south east asia or back home?
We've all made it back home and all separated =/ Clemens was the last person traveling and he returned almost 2 weeks ago from Thailand to Germany! It was a great adventure in Philippines! I see your channel in the link. We'll reach out to you and stay in touch!
Yea sure thing, I miss the Philippines already!
That's so interesting, my parents are also very strict but they also gave us the reasons etc., so I do understand their point of view. And we speak openly about it nowadays, but I realized that I had to open up the conversation and once I did the ice was broken and since then I can speak openly with them - even though I'm not even dating.
I think because we are so open about it and talk a lot, I don't have the drive and desire to even date HAHA
We are Filipinos and we hug each other, even in public, I also do with my siblings, it's totally normal to me :D
yea once that initial barrier is broken everything seems to click in place. I love how much importance Filipinos seem to put on family and hugs are the BEST! Unfortunately a lot of my Chinese friends aren't comfortable with hugging my parents.
Off the Great Wall Like you said, communication is key. I have to remind myself sometimes that not everyone is a hugger...I even hug my sisters friends without thinking - so being so open and "HUGGING" can turn out to become an awkward encounter for them (I only realized after someone tells me haha)
But is it really common among Chinese families to not show affection physically? Hugging, Kiss on the cheek etc.?
When our parents come home all siblings have to come to the front door greet them through a kiss on the cheek or "Mano po" (taking the back of their hand to your forehead)
I can't speak for everyone but it seems that way for the majority of Chinese families I've seen. It's not that we don't love each other of course but I guess we don't do a great job expressing emotion. I think to be honest a lot of it also has to do with the cultural revolution it really scarred a lot of families. I've noticed for instance when I travel to Taiwan that Taiwanese people are a little more warmer, and the majority of them avoided that terrible time in Chinese history.
Off the Great Wall Of course, it's just a different way to express love. I think Filipinos are the way they are because of the Spanish influence, because we also have a huge Chinese background. Maybe you can do more Videos with Southeast Asians and speak about similarities and differences on various topics - would definitely watch! :)
Have a great weekend :)
Good idea! you too
I'm going through that and I'm only 13. I don't really talk about dating with my mom except in Asian movies. I had to learn about these things with my friends.
My mom was always like '' Y'know, I'm telling you how everything goes, then you do it your way and face everything yourself " so I suppose this kinda gave me freedom, but at the same time made me not really want to do some things, mostly because I was scared. Dating wise ( as someone who's gay ) well she doesn't really care, like besides the sex talks that go like " ALWAYS USE CONDOMS, DON'T DO IT WITHOUT ONE " I guess it's pretty chill, but I'm still gonna hide my relationships from her >.> I feel like it's not her bussiness to know that
Dude im learning dating from kdramas😂😂😂
Omg XD don't do that, relationships are nothing like that.
I hope you were being sarcastic.
THAT BOYS OVER FLOWERS SCENE THO OMG
In my country relationships start forming at the age of 14 usually, I'm from Poland
You guy got it easy. I got in grounded because a girl called me about a homework problem. Talking about strict parents. I wasn't aloud to interact with the opposite sex. For the longest time, I had no idea how to talk to girls.
10:39 Is it just me or did the audio just pop blurry?
My Asian parents are soo strict, they don't like small crush topics when I try to open up, soo ofc not the big things too. At first when I'm in high school they said I'm allowed when I turn 18, but I'm now 20 and they want me to graduate a degree in college first before any courting and dating stuff, but I kinda fell in love at 18 and being secretive to avoid fights, cause they may disown me just because of that bruh.. I've missed the fun teen stuff in movies, it's sad tbh.
I think the reason why they don’t want you to date is because, they don’t want you left heartbroken because when you break up I imagine it being a rough time.
There was 151 comments like there were Pokemon, but now I change this
+The Charliezard noooooo whyyy
btw, I like these discussion videos about these types of topics
+The Charliezard awesome thanks!
My parents are like "No dating until you're 24, then marry when you're 25" They also get really touchy when I'm talking to a girl or just around a girl/s even thought they know that I wouldn't date that person. Im asian btw
+slaypker wow that's kind of a small window to find "the one" haha
Exactly! And I think that since (most) Asian parents restrict dating and stuff like that it really affects our self-confidence and we don't dare to approach the opposite gender... like we don't dare/don't know how to express our feelings to someone we like without coming off as weird xD.
slaypker I have to learn everything about expressing my feelings, or really just talking, to the opposite gender by myself.
I'm Indian and also an Asian, so my parents doesn't allow us to be in a relationship until we make our career 😥
I am 15 now and I feel like having a girlfriend. However I have never had a crush until now. I feel Asian parents don’t allow their children to date until we are in our 20s. Then when we are older and have no interest in dating anymore, they want us to quickly get married. So many Chinese, including my family members, already in their mid 30s nearing 40s are still single. For western countries, teenagers as young as 13/14 can date and kiss in front of their parents and they support that
I think it's nice that they are like this but at the same time if they are you can't make mistakes so you can't learn from them and you don't know what to do if your child makes this mistake
from watching this videos other people that come from other countries have similar backgrounds! I started dating when I was almost 19 because the way my parents raised us! my little niece is 12 and most of her friends have been dating for almost 2 years but my sister won't let her date or put make-up on or wear tight clothes, which I agree on that! be a kid enjoy it, it only happens once. then you won't be able to sleep or have free time or do what you like!!
My parents are Asian. I don't think they have ever limited me in dating. But how would I know? I never dated. Now, I am in my mid-20s and still single. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life. It keeps things simple. My mother grew up in China and lived in China until her 30s. During her 20s, she dated several men with the aim of finding a spouse. She had a full-time job as a doctor and lived with her parents, so there was likely no hanky-panky going on in any of the relationships, if you know what I mean. My father never dated anyone in his 20s or earlier. My mother was my father's first date. They met through a dating advertisement, and they stayed together ever since.
I liked my parents approach. They were like they didn't like the idea of being in a serious relationship before you turn 18, they were ok with us likeing someone and bring them over to our house and hang out with my family. But we can have a serious relationship after we turn 18. And they don't stop us from dateing who we like, cause they raised us how to find a good person. My 3 older sisters are married to 3 amazing men. One of the questions when I call my parents is if I have anyone I like right now. Cause they know that's gonna happen even if they didn't want it to..... It sounds like I am bragging about my parents doesn't It? 😶 sorry, I will stop now
I actually grew up in a conservative christian Russian home where dating is kinda seen as a sin. You either get married, or you keep every person of the opposite sex at arm's length #bibledistance.
It's been really tough on me because I am 18 now and I want to date, but I don't want my family finding out and at the same time, I don't know how to properly have a relationship with a guy. I never wanted to have a teen relationship because I knew that shit wasn't serious, but we all want a bit of romance sometimes. Just feels like I'm missing out.
Don't worry too much :) 18 is still pretty young you have your whole life ahead of you!
Now I understand..I was dating a girl from China and she is very shy .I felt like she was hiding our relationship so I decided to break up.MIA I love you wherever you are lol
Well , I'm 16 and have never had a boyfriend before. By the way I'm chinese and my parents are really strict. So half a year ago when i was still 15. I liked this guy and we had a few dates but nothing too serious. But when i had my second date i asked my mom if i could meet him. It wasn't really a date. We hung up at his house and watched a few filmes. But my mom said no and talked with me about not being allowed to have a boyfriend because i should focus on my studies. Well ,i was a little rebellious and always went out with him without telling my mom. At the end it didn't work out between him and me but it was still my first experience with a boy and being rebellious the first time.
So how will you react as parents? Will you be more open?
I may not be Asian but sounds like my life. I seriously started dating after I turned 18.
My filipino mom is encouraging me to date while my white dad is banning me till I'm basically 30. 😂😂😂
+Nicole Davis hehe dads are always so protective!!
I'm a 20 year old Chinese guy. My parents never really talked to me about dating and relationships really because I've never been in a relationship yet. They think that I'm just attracted to white women and not Chinese women (which isn't true, I like all women of different races). The thing is, I grew up i a predominantly white neighborhood so I've been more exposed to white girls instead of Asian girls. They're not really opposed to me dating outside my race just as long as I eventually marry a Chinese woman.
i understand but i mean .... if you're going to date someone then you're in love with them and would want to spend the rest of your life with right ? so if it's a white girl that you're actually dating and want to marry her , you're not allowed to ? then why bother date a white girl in the first place ?
Well that's my parent's logic for you. I guess they'd rather me gain experience in dating and relationships first. Plus I'm only 20 so it's not like I'm planning on getting married anytime soon.
well ! i'm 20 too and where i live age deosn't matter that much in marriage , but you're right it's good to gain experience in dating but it's bad dating girls you don't have real feelings for ... i'm not judging btw , just trying to understand the point here ! lastly , parents know best ...for real tho
Well as much as I'd like to respect my parents wishes, I can’t help that I'm attracted to someone who's not my own race. Plus like I said, I grew up mostly around white people and white girls so that’s what I'm exposed to. I guess I'm just trying to say that it's hard for me to do what they want because of those factors.
i perfectly get it ! you do you boo , your parents will accept and respect the decision you make because they love you .. years from now i'm sure what they said when you were a teen won't be as important XD
when I was in 4th grade I liked a girl I told my parents I liked her my parents said you are to young and you don't know what love is!!!😂
could you do a video of bringing home someone of a different ethnicity? i would love to see it one!
Tashiko Weinstein that sounds like an interesting topic actually something that I definitely have experience doing -allen
I look forward to seeing that video! and by the way thank you for such a quick response to my post it means a lot! I really like this channel and I look forward to more amazing videos in the future!
+Tashiko Weinstein quick question if you don't mind you're not half Japanese half Jewish are you?
I wish, I am half Jewish and half Colombian, but I have cousins on my mother's side who are half Japanese and I have a half Japanese Great aunt somewhere in Hawaii both whom I have never met! Tashi was nickname i was given at age of 3 month because my babysitter could not say my first name(Tatiana) I added KO to the end of because people were getting me confused with the name Toshi...I am very surprised you knew I was of Jewish ancestry most people don't think of Jews as an ethnicity so I am very impressed!
wow that's a cool nickname! yea I grew up around a lot Jewish people :D
When I was little, I was not allowed to hang out with boys.
My only friends at the time were boys.
When my sister got a rose from her friend Rosa,
My mom thought a boy gave it to her.
My sister and I are both heartless creatures now.
Is the audio flipped on this video?
Wow Mia's living da Life! XD
Wow, this girl is beautiful!! :)
My parents aren't so strict or anything. But they'd prefer it if I dated/married a girl from a family they know of, so that they're already sure she's from a good family rather than a stranger.
I tell them that I can literally meet any girl all around this world of 7+billion people you know. I don't want to limit myself to just one ethnicity or even more specifically the girls from families my parents know.
To be honest though, if I do have to think about it, I don't think it's such a bad deal in itself. Other cultures can be so demanding/different. I wouldn't be surprised if I ended up marrying a girl like that.
South Asian families are the same I can't date openly I have to in secrecy and only a few close friends and cousins know I rather never let my parents know I was lol but they mean best getting heartbroken is not a good feeling
Once asked my mother for advice about dating, only response I got "Go study, finish college first." It was followed by after Med-school "Get job, make money, go buy a house first." LOL
My sister started dating this is what happened.
Sister: Hey mom. I just wanna say that I found someone I want to spend my life with.
Mom: What you mean. You too young.
And she's like fricking 20 years old
Im 26 and we still dont talk about relationship at home Asian dad
I think the ages of 13 to 27 or so are a period of ignorance. I think parents should talk to their kids openly and let them fail at certain things depending on their age and maturity level. Also what they've already been thru. But no parent is perfect. And GOOD parents do what they do purely out of love. So i appreciate everything my parents did; whether i think it was right or wrong when i think about it now
I don't know about you guys but man as a hmong dude it felt like it was an interview for top level military clearance
It was like: 'state yours, your father's, your grandfather's name with your designated clan, city, state, and village in the home country'
My parents are the saaaaame. I have Japanese father and Chinese mother and talking about love or relationships is sooo tabooo
this is until 18years or even when you are an adult?
Haha nooo soo wrong
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is it me , or is the audio all over the place in this ep?
I know this video was uploaded a while ago but I have a question are Asian parents against their kids dating foreigners???
I feel like if i had a boyfriend, my parents will try to kill him but if we break up, they will also try to kill him so?
very good
anyone here not asian ! but still relate so freaking much to this ? like girl ... those are exactly how most arab parents are lol 😂
boi
+Natalie xx yes but East Asian culture is more similar to each other if that makes sense.
morocco is north africa dear ! arabs aren't all asians
khaoula chatt im asian and muslim and people always compare me to japenese and chinese people because when i smile i look like one here how it goes
me: Hi (random name) nice to meet you! *smiles*
(random name): Hi! Are you japenese or like chinese?
me: .....im from bangladesh
(random name): oh like half japenese and half indian!
me: *walks away* im not dealing with this again
hahahahhaha ! i'm dead at that conversation 😂 ikr ? i totally get it , people where i live always call a fair skin asian chineese and a dark skin asian indian wich is so funny but really upsetting at the same time lol
Actually this is true yet my mom has been staying in America long enough to understand this stuff.......It is complicated just Asian perspectives
lmfao awks because my parents keep telling me to get a boyfriend :')
John Doe that's exactly their logic 😭
No black, no white, no nothing, but chinese boyfriends!!!
kent zheng my mom: Asians boyfriends:No Chinese no Korean no Thai no anything besides Vietnamese and white 😂
You should do Asian Parents Vs Western Parents PRAYERS!
The traditional Asian mentality sees dating as a distraction. All Asian parents really care about is for their child to study so that they can get good grades. Their belief is that more education translates to establishing a career that makes a lot of money. Anything that deviates from this is seen as a hindrance towards that goal.
Can you talk about the LGBT and asians?
Elizabeth Lau I have talked about it once and they were like okay I see
Growing up, it was not okay to be dating boys. So when I had a crush on someone of the opposite sex, I just didn't know how to handle it. I would bottle it up, not reveal anything and actively try to avoid them.
My mom attempted to tell me about sex at 18. She forgot she signed a waiver for sex ed in 5 grade...
i am not asian but i can not talk to my parents about relationship
Keep up the great work and i will sub
Oh wait i already did 😎😎😎
You are so correct about Nigerian parents. They will probably won't let me go too prom.
What do you mean when you say Western Friends?
the trick is for all you guys: finish college, or prove the job, save a ton of $, buy the house for your lady. invite the in law parents to come over. rest is down hill.
Try “hiding” relationship from parents. So what I mean by “hiding” is they knew we hung out, but never knew how close we were. He is Asian American born in America, I was born in Asia. His parents are very Americanized and mine are very traditional. Well naturally my parents mentally attacked him. My dad is a city police officer so he really got on him!!! Anyway he asked me to marry him and we kept trying to introduce this to my parents... well growing up back and forth between japan and America I had no Asian friends till high school. I was always the outcast that no one understood and I got very depressed and my mental health use to be very bad until me and him were together. And I had enough at a certain point and well... instead of my parents accepting his marriage proposal other things happened and now we had to tell them I was pregnant with our first son! They were very happy it was a boy and actually took this better than the marriage thing. We have two sons and have been together for 4 years now. I hope to get married to him when I finish college. I am 19 he is 20, we had our babies very young! My parents looked at it as we were being selfish and disrespectful that we would do this without being married but they are now very happy, and so are we! It all works out! BUT I am still treated like child 😂
Well, I'm 22 years old now, but my parents still don't want me to have a boyfriend. They just want me to focus on my career... They don't know how lonely I am... And sometimes I wonder how they will surprise if they know that i used to be in a relationship when I was in grade 9 😅
+Lan Anh Nguyen Thi hahaha well they can't get mad at you for something that happened that long ago!
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I don't have a crush but my Asian mum wants me to like a person not in the family.
To get more views, I suggest stop hooking up the China Uncensored guy.
African parents are exactly like this!
I am actually watching my second video on channel
asian yet old school traditional mindset parents, you're all set.
Also, if I don’t have a girlfriend next time, I’ll probably get scolded or forced... well, Asian parents are protective and closed minded compared to western parents
Are religious ideas involved in this? Because for most of the western cultures that traditionally followed the Abrahamic religions, sex before marriage was/is regarded as a sin, which is absolutely stupid but is there a similar element in chinese/east asian cultures?
Sam Eastern religions are not like your religions of the book, instead they are like values systems that are passed on from generation to generation over centuries. There are no strict, hard and fast rules but values and rules based on what is universally considered right and moral. It's like listening to your conscience to figure out what's right and what's wrong.
Sunny Nexxt That is very realistic to how people actually get their moral codes and what religion is turning into nowdays. The east always amazes me how modern it is in a pre-modern kind of tradition.
Lose the background music. It's very distracting and too loud on top of that. Please.