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My Mom used to try to tutor me in math.. She was from Vietnam, so being bad at math was a BIG problem to her. She was extremely impatient, unclear, and our study sessions would often end in fights. Study sessions would go on for hours on end, on vacations, weekends, and would prevent me from doing any actual homework. She wouldn't even allow me to do homework the way I wanted to do it (listening to music while studying, only doing it for 2 hours). I had a lot of anger and mental issues growing up because of it, which only stopped when she realized what she was doing was wrong. I hate school now, and won't marry an Asian woman because I don't want my children to go through what I went through. I feel you man. Culture or no, no child should have to go through that.
I can relate to this. I'm Asian myself and during my high school summers, I used to take every summer course possible to get ahead of others just to feel good of being ahead. It didn't make much of a difference at the end of the day because when school started, I was half-way burnt out already.
Bro you got my support, keep going, i belive that ibetween the age of 20 and 25 it's our time to discover ourselves, it's a whole process but it's worth it in the end. God bless you man, stay strong.
Very good narration. I went through something similar. I am old now. I was never able to recover and have lived alone in the countryside with my dog for the past 22 years. I regret spending the time and effort attempting to become somewhat normal and fit in society and trying find a partner.
Wow that sounds rough. It is tough to fit into society after going through this kind of stuff, I've experienced it as well. I hope u are finding some peace out in nature tho
You’re on a good path now man. Playing catch-up with social skills is brutal but just keep at it. I’m happy to hear that you woke up now instead of years into a career that was draining your soul so there’s at least that…though I’m sure you feel like you’ve lost a lot of time. All the societal pressure to perform at a high-level is so stupid when you really look into it. Like then, what? We all just collectively get better and work harder to outcompete each other and see who can be the most miserable? Line must go up?! 😂 humans need to evolve past this. There’s gotta be more to life. Anyways, just a rant of a comment for the algo.
just wow I am also asian and I can relate to most of what you said to a certain extent. Where I live, everyone wants their child to be the best and my biggest misfortune was that I realized this toxicity late because everyone was Asian and everyone worked hard like I did (There were almost no children in the playgrounds because they were attending the weekend courses you mentioned.) so I didn't have to look at other kids and compare myself. After learning English, I discovered the other side of TH-cam and everyone was talking about Asian parenting and it was really shocking because I had never thought of it like that before. Now I am a senior in high school and this time i can truly feel my parent support It wasn't easy to get to this point. There were a lot of fights and disappointments, but it's better than nothing.
Sorry to hear this bro. Your video about physics spoke to me. It is very brave to speak about how you were wronged by your parents, and I hope you can find healing and discover your true sense of self.
Just signed up for your Patreon. You went through hell and are stronger because of it. You are helping and will help a lot of young people. You’re an inspiration, brother. Left this comment on the last video, but it got buried (a good sign-a lot of people are watching your vids!).
You are so brave for sharing your story❤I have been in a similar journey of detaching my self-worth from academic performance, it is tough. Sending love from the DR🇩🇴
Hey man, I’ve been going through a rough time lately but luckily the algorithm blessed me with this video, and I think it’s because I watched one of your other vidoes and subscribed. As someone in a position very similar to yours, I really needed this video. Thank you.
1:59, a huge problem is people keep buiying into the mindset of that "oh there is a course, send them to that course", isntead of just letting the child play and develop and try out their own cocktail to really appreciate their abilty to create and not just copy and paste, this is how you turn a potential Mozart to a regular normie
im so lucky to have chill parents lol all they tell to just pass the classes in whatever im in but they do try to convinve me time to time to join an ap or honors but at the end of they day they still say its my choice which i agree with
Nah cause I low key high school college and all that stuff ( I’m in 8th grade) and my mom crashes out when I have bs or b+ and my mom wants me to be in a iv league college with a scholarship which kinda scares me when I’m not doing well because I always have bs and as but never just as
I may not be from the same country as you are, but I too have lived the same suffering you went through and can relate with pretty much everything. I hope you recover from what you had gone through. " Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child "
There comes a day when most of us realize that we are nothing but bags of carbon compounds and water with a shelf life of roughly 70 years. No matter how high your math scores are or how skilled you are at playing piano, the Reaper comes for all.
Yo bro I was just wondering, what do you do now to still well live? I really envy your lifestyle and want to know how you’re making enough money to get by?
i have indian parents they are not striced and they break the steryotype on so many ways lol maybe its just because we are crhistan and not hindu or a tad bit americanized lol
13:30 - This is not necessarily true, but what is true is that you can't force every kid to be whatever you want them to be. The father of the Polgar sisters, who are right now some of the best women chess players, had his kids and trained them to be chess prodigies in order to prove his theory that he could nurture a kid to be anything. But he didn't force his kids to be into chess. No, he exposed his kids to chess from a young age and kept positively reinforcing any interest in chess that he saw from them.
and now, a lot Asian parents actually also treat physical training the same way they treat academic training: I saw parents beating their kids for not running fast enough or something like that. I was like, dude just because you are a loser and gave birth to children without their consent, doesn't mean they have to suffer? You send them to all these piano/math class, and you ALSO expect them to perform well in physical training? Damn just let kids be kids.
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I feel you have gift in doing “smart” things
If you know what i mean..
“No human being was meant to live the way I was raised” ….me and you both brother. I’m sorry for your suffering.
U as well. Hope things are well in ur life!
I hope you guys find healing
had the same childhood. I'm glad we survived brother.
Talent is like a seedling, water it too little and it will shrivel up water it too much and will drown.
Wow that's a great quote...
My Mom used to try to tutor me in math.. She was from Vietnam, so being bad at math was a BIG problem to her. She was extremely impatient, unclear, and our study sessions would often end in fights. Study sessions would go on for hours on end, on vacations, weekends, and would prevent me from doing any actual homework. She wouldn't even allow me to do homework the way I wanted to do it (listening to music while studying, only doing it for 2 hours). I had a lot of anger and mental issues growing up because of it, which only stopped when she realized what she was doing was wrong.
I hate school now, and won't marry an Asian woman because I don't want my children to go through what I went through. I feel you man. Culture or no, no child should have to go through that.
Sorry to hear about what u went through. I actually feel the same way when it comes to not marrying an Asian woman lmao
I can relate to this. I'm Asian myself and during my high school summers, I used to take every summer course possible to get ahead of others just to feel good of being ahead. It didn't make much of a difference at the end of the day because when school started, I was half-way burnt out already.
Yeah lmao those summer courses are wild. I didn't know u had a similar story, and nice to hear from u as always.
Bro you got my support, keep going, i belive that ibetween the age of 20 and 25 it's our time to discover ourselves, it's a whole process but it's worth it in the end. God bless you man, stay strong.
So true... early 20s is definitely the time for that. Hope u are figuring things out as well!
@official_awei Indeed!
15:10 “But if you make money, and you enjoy it, then who gives a fuck?”
Words to live by
Very good narration. I went through something similar. I am old now. I was never able to recover and have lived alone in the countryside with my dog for the past 22 years. I regret spending the time and effort attempting to become somewhat normal and fit in society and trying find a partner.
Wow that sounds rough. It is tough to fit into society after going through this kind of stuff, I've experienced it as well. I hope u are finding some peace out in nature tho
@official_awei Yes I love my place. Ones a week I go to town but after 2 or 3 hours I can't wait for the bus to arrive and take me back to my place.
You’re on a good path now man. Playing catch-up with social skills is brutal but just keep at it. I’m happy to hear that you woke up now instead of years into a career that was draining your soul so there’s at least that…though I’m sure you feel like you’ve lost a lot of time. All the societal pressure to perform at a high-level is so stupid when you really look into it. Like then, what? We all just collectively get better and work harder to outcompete each other and see who can be the most miserable? Line must go up?! 😂 humans need to evolve past this. There’s gotta be more to life. Anyways, just a rant of a comment for the algo.
Very well said, and much appreciated.
just wow I am also asian and I can relate to most of what you said to a certain extent. Where I live, everyone wants their child to be the best and my biggest misfortune was that I realized this toxicity late because everyone was Asian and everyone worked hard like I did (There were almost no children in the playgrounds because they were attending the weekend courses you mentioned.) so I didn't have to look at other kids and compare myself. After learning English, I discovered the other side of TH-cam and everyone was talking about Asian parenting and it was really shocking because I had never thought of it like that before. Now I am a senior in high school and this time i can truly feel my parent support It wasn't easy to get to this point. There were a lot of fights and disappointments, but it's better than nothing.
Sorry to hear this bro. Your video about physics spoke to me. It is very brave to speak about how you were wronged by your parents, and I hope you can find healing and discover your true sense of self.
Really appreciate the message!
Just signed up for your Patreon. You went through hell and are stronger because of it. You are helping and will help a lot of young people. You’re an inspiration, brother.
Left this comment on the last video, but it got buried (a good sign-a lot of people are watching your vids!).
Thanks so much man, I actually messaged u on there!
Going through the same thing, all I can say is thank you. I feel a bit less lonely going through this
You are not alone!
You are so brave for sharing your story❤I have been in a similar journey of detaching my self-worth from academic performance, it is tough. Sending love from the DR🇩🇴
Love the DR! Best to you on your journey
Not asian, but ive also gone thru some terrible shit because of my parents. World's crazy man
Hey man, I’ve been going through a rough time lately but luckily the algorithm blessed me with this video, and I think it’s because I watched one of your other vidoes and subscribed. As someone in a position very similar to yours, I really needed this video. Thank you.
Of course, hope things get better for u
Your videos are great and have good narration. Keep up the good work and have a wonderful day.🙂
1:59, a huge problem is people keep buiying into the mindset of that "oh there is a course, send them to that course", isntead of just letting the child play and develop and try out their own cocktail to really appreciate their abilty to create and not just copy and paste, this is how you turn a potential Mozart to a regular normie
Schools also elsewhere do not promote creativity. But as adult you have a choice.
It's not you brother, it's your family
You're still young you still have time to change
It's not over
Im just trying to diversify my portfolio to move out of my emotionally abusive parents
Hope your parents never retire and work till they collapse man
Hope you are doing good now man
only through the first minute; just commenting for your sake and mine. Thanks for the video!
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Ur a legend
They called me The Thinker in my grade school.
You're smart, but you were never given the validation.
im so lucky to have chill parents lol all they tell to just pass the classes in whatever im in but they do try to convinve me time to time to join an ap or honors but at the end of they day they still say its my choice which i agree with
Nah cause I low key high school college and all that stuff ( I’m in 8th grade) and my mom crashes out when I have bs or b+ and my mom wants me to be in a iv league college with a scholarship which kinda scares me when I’m not doing well because I always have bs and as but never just as
Lmao that sounds rough...
I may not be from the same country as you are, but I too have lived the same suffering you went through and can relate with pretty much everything. I hope you recover from what you had gone through.
" Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child "
Appreciate it, I hope ur also doing alright nowadays
There comes a day when most of us realize that we are nothing but bags of carbon compounds and water with a shelf life of roughly 70 years. No matter how high your math scores are or how skilled you are at playing piano, the Reaper comes for all.
Tfw having absent parents has its advantages sometimes
Bro, this is exactly my life, except I am a woman.
Yo bro I was just wondering, what do you do now to still well live?
I really envy your lifestyle and want to know how you’re making enough money to get by?
Freelance writing, online tutoring, and this channel lol. Maybe I'll make a video about it since a lot of ppl ask!
The thumbnail is both hilarious and sad.
I…. I don’t know what to feel 😂
My parent don't want to have anything to do with me or help me unless I can become an Engineer or Healthcare worker.
So Mildly Gifted compared to my sister who is Moderately Gifted.
the ai pictures r killing me
Except from beating, You are spelling out my life
what video is playing at the start? grt video overall
Just from some documentary I found, don't remember the name
The title of it is Strict Asian Parents and Stressed, Pressured Youth
th-cam.com/video/3xz05GUU9I0/w-d-xo.htmlsi=jDbhDD9GqDkZC6HU
indians are also like this
So True
i have indian parents they are not striced and they break the steryotype on so many ways lol maybe its just because we are crhistan and not hindu or a tad bit americanized lol
13:30 - This is not necessarily true, but what is true is that you can't force every kid to be whatever you want them to be. The father of the Polgar sisters, who are right now some of the best women chess players, had his kids and trained them to be chess prodigies in order to prove his theory that he could nurture a kid to be anything. But he didn't force his kids to be into chess. No, he exposed his kids to chess from a young age and kept positively reinforcing any interest in chess that he saw from them.
I think the AI photos look so artificial but the video is so heart breaking.
God Bless. 🕊️
I failed so many times and never got A+ in GPA. Its like a fantasy to me
Well other things in life are much more important
and now, a lot Asian parents actually also treat physical training the same way they treat academic training: I saw parents beating their kids for not running fast enough or something like that. I was like, dude just because you are a loser and gave birth to children without their consent, doesn't mean they have to suffer? You send them to all these piano/math class, and you ALSO expect them to perform well in physical training? Damn just let kids be kids.
Envy and Money.
What GPA you've ended up having in colleage after all?
I think exactly a 3.7
Ur parents not allowing u to quit playing piano is too crazy 😧
You’re saying it gets worse after high school!
bro tried everything to not cry while explaining
I'm smart enough to be a Salesman.
I'm considered Bright not a genius.
type shit
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Day 1000 of tryna get pinned
Albert? Is that you?
@Jungleali yeah bro haha
Going through the same thing, all I can say is thank you. I feel a bit less lonely going through this