Online Dating Nightmare: The Dirty John Story
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Kendall Rae - Ahhh I missed your videos 🥺🦋
The little doggies in the back ground😌💚😍
Thanks so much for the upload! I know you work hard and I really appreciate that!
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I will never understand how women can choose men over their own child!!
Trin Esparza its truly so....disturbing....my friend was raped for 5 years by her stepdad and her mom was like jealous and i think she lowkey knew and once it finally got out she told her she probably liked it because she didn’t say anything sooner....she was 10-15 !!!
Same. Its sickening. I'd choose my children over their own father or anyone... ANY DAY
I actually had a friend in my early 20s who once told me her husband would be nmber one over her kids because he husband would be there first and because he made them. Wtf🤦🏽♀️ not sorry we stopped being friends. Not because of that but because she was a compulsive dirty lying person.
Same, It pisses me off so much.
@@flxwercxrpse1871 your poor friend hope she is doing well now.. best wishes for her
In these abusive relationships they are usually so brainwashed that they choose the abuser before anyone else. That's why these situations are so dangerous and sad.
The fact that Terra fought so hard, kicked the knife out of his hand and then stabbed him 13 times, makes me so proud!
I cheered and fist pumped the whole time! I'm just glad she didn't face any legal ramifications.
That fact that she says her watching The Walking Dead made her feel like she could fight him off made me so proud! TWD is LIFE.
@@MaryTheresa1986 EXACTLY what I was thinking! What if there wasn't a witness? Would the D.A. then play devil's advocate, flip the script and attempt to convict?? With our unjust justice system, it wouldn't have been surprising.
Did you say stabbed 13 times 😨
I cheered.
Kendall: “She stabbed the FUCK out of him”
Me: *sips tea* “good for her”
😂
Add a spoon of sugar to the mix 🍵
@@alexagurrola170 period😂😭😭
💩
And he’s a fuckin cockroach 😂😂😂
I love how you're so detailed but also say shit like "so they call an ambulance for his ass" lmaoooo you're the best
"She grabbed that knife and started to stab the fuck out of him" :D
She got the crazy white girl in her trying not to get demonitized. 😂
"this guy was like a damn cockroach"
Riiiiight
@Kristian Alexis 🤣🤣🤣🤣
SPOILER ALERT:
abused women his whole life and was killed by a woman. Karma works
me while the girl was stabbing him: *yaaas queen get into it*
we have no choice but to stan
J J I wish you had posted a spoiler alert!
It was hard to miss your comment because it was at the top spot.
@@melodymeyers-spears4181 sorry! I edited it.
My mom is recently separated. I told her she has to watch this documentary before she considers dating again, lol.
@Jenny I remember after my dad left when I was a child, my mum started to date again. And her first boyfriend was amazing! So kind and caring, he ended up having a heart attack after around three years of them meeting. My mum, my siblings and I were devastated. My mum didn't date again for around two years, and her next boyfriend was an abusive jack ass! Hed lay hands on my mum all the time, and she eventually got rid of him, only for him to stalk her for a year. Eventually he broke the restraining order, broke into her house and held her hostage for two days and was jailed, he left her alone after his release. My mum has been with her current husband now for eight years he is a lovely guy. I worried so much for her and her love life after her psycho stalker ex, but thankfully she met the kindest guy. I hope ur mum also finds her Prince charming! I think it's hard for us to imagine any guy potentially hurting our mum, but I guess she has to find her own way. And all we can do is be there to support and love her.
@@alexcarlson4344 I'm so happy that things turned around for you guys
Smart move
Kamarca Lol... funny 😄 but wait....yeah, she DOES need to watch this
Aww please don’t be mean to your mom try to do everything to make her happy she’s probably so devastated right now❤️
You forgot to mention Tara's dog, Cash! He helped fight off Dirty John as he attacked her. She was able to get an upper hand on the attack due to the dog's intervention. Poor Cash passed away a couple of months ago. RIP Cash!
RIP cash ❤️❤️❤️❤️🐾
So the dog barking distracted John or did it bite him?
@@MikeyReadman Attacked him! ^^
Omg this made me tear up 😭😭😭 we dont deserve dogs
Where did you hear that? I'd like to hear that story too.
Let me get this straight: John acts horrible to Debra’s daughters and even jokes about shooting one dead and Debra just laughs it off. When he shows his shitty side to her THAT is when she gets suspicious?
MissPopeyes22 i know it’s not the same thing of course, but i just binged the netflix series tonight, and that scene where he said that was so unsettling, i just can’t imagine what it was like in real life. just cannot fathom how crazy this was and i am glad that terra is okay she is really brave
MissPopeyes22 right about her in the first place she was married four times.
jared diamond what’s the series called
Noe Moneytoya Dirty John on Netflix. It’s pretty good!
ALEA LOVE thank you!
She had my empathy until she went to the hospital, forgave him, and took him back. There are such things as mistakes and then, there is just stupidity.
mimo 3433 same here
mimo 3433 It actually got me upset😡
it's a dumb thing to do but also Stockholm syndrome?
annie hall thank you, a lot of people who are hating on her have never been in or have never seen what a toxic and abusive relationship can do to someone. Especially how mentally manipulated they become
@Rach Or threatened her with harm or the harm of her children. He could have done a number of things to keep her within his grasp. Abusers, especially seasoned ones, know how to play people like a fiddle. They can be subtle, but also aggressive. It's fucked up, but some see it as a profession. A conman or conwoman. It's fucking wild how good some people are, too.
If a man replied to my text implying he was the 'best thing that ever happened to me', he'd be deleted from my life so fast. LOL
I literally huffed loudly enough at that part that my husband texted me from upstairs and asked, "did you just 'humfph'? Why'd you say 'HA!' twice?" That part was so ridiculous
Amen Sis. I once dated a guy that everyone said nobody has ever broke up with him. Next day, i dismissed him lmao
Lol right? Haha I'd be like..dude..you don't know my life. Hahah
Happened to me. He continued to say it. I found out he was lying about so much. Important things
@@kimsmith819 1
The scrubs thing cracked me up! As a retired RN ,I remembered meeting a guy who wore scrubs to Club Med on vacation, a sure sign that someone is NOT a doctor.
I was just coming to say this. 🤦🏽♀️
I would never forgive her if I was her daughter. Her lack of caring about her family’s advice got her daughter kidnapped, stabbed, and made her a murderer (out of self defense of course, but still). I understand leaving an abusive relationship is hard but like Kendall said, it’s hard to feel bad for her when she allowed her husband to threaten her children
I mean, her own mother chose her other daughter's literal KILLER over her...so she clearly didn't have a great example.
I mean, loneliness pushes people to suicide. They're probably just happy their mum is alive. Imsread of agreeing with an ignorant victim blamer 🙈
Don't justify what you said by sayimg Kendal agrees she literally said we can't judge her
@@kirstybrown1185 There's a difference between victim blaming and holding people accountable for their actions.
@@waste_of_grace do you know the person to hold her accountable or are you judging a stranger while not knowimg what you're talking about? You aren't helping her so get your head out your arse.
The perks of being single and unbothered
When you really have no overwhelming want to be with anyone else
That’s really the way to be ✨
I’m Emily Meehan, John Meehan’s daughter. I LOVE your channel. I can’t believe you’re talking about it! Tonia Bales is my wonderful mother. ☺️
I hope you have been able to live your best life and not let it affect you too much. And yes, your mom seems to be an awesome person. ETA: Wow, good for you, becoming a nurse. Thank-you from someone who practically grew up in the hospital.
Crazy!
You're a bad ass
I'd love to hear your input about him.
Wishing you the best💗
Love to you, sweet girl! 🥰
Terra and Jacqueln are my cousins and Debbie is my aunt. During this time I was spending a lot of time with Jacquelyn helping her investigate John and witnessed a ton of the horrible things he was doing. I think you told the story pretty well and straightforward. They are all really good people and this was a situation where someone was blinded by love. I remember putting my Aunt in hotel rooms under my name and credit card so he could not find her. This was a true life very scary story, and thank God it's over. Hopefully people learn from this to do research on the people you meet online.
Tell Tara she is my hero! I saw her story on some ID true crime program and was amazed by her courage.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family this is no joke people are dangerous out there know telling who they really are
Jesus! Sorry this happened! John is a major POS!
The fact that his sister hated him and took him off live support after only a few days I feel should really tell about what type of person he was.
Well why waste the electricity? HAHAHAHAHAHA
Yeah, why take up a hospital bed for that piece of crap.
lol!
@Mary Lee 🤣
If the sister pulled the plug out of malice, she will answer to God.
Moral of this story: Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. And there is so much more to life than love. What the media deems as love is a fallacy, and most people are not capable of it. So just live your life, be smart, and be free.
great advice!
That was remarkably wise advice! I'll bite off a chunk of that! 😎 Mmm. I imagine good advice tastes crispy, like a good apple. Juicy, too.
Yes! 💜
I’m going through a rough time right now.. that was nice words I needed to hear. Thank you so much keyoka.
BLOOP
Terra is a badass, holy shit. I can't even imagine being put in that situation. Her quick thinking (and heavy boots) likely saved her life and maybe even her mom's. Such a scary cautionary tale-
Jacklyn was sassy, strong and took shit from no one while Tara looked weaker and more of an easy target that’s why he tried to kidnap her instead of jacky who he hated more but boy oh boy he underestimated Tara lmao her daughters are savages
Yes! She is definitely bad ass. Beat a big tall dude and saved her own life. I'm proud of her
John was a pussy, picking a fight with a girl. That's shameful.
@@satob7690 That's my kind of woman!
@@bibleguy1207 TELL EM KING
If it wasn’t for the kids, I would feel sympathy for her. But I cannot help but feel true disgust with her decision after knowing her children suffered like that. Absolutely amazing the children didn’t all just abandon their mother like she did them.
One of the lessons of this tale is that even an extremely successful, highly intelligent person can routinely slip into a mode where their considerable intelligence isn't even being used because they're on emotional override in how they see the world. Just like all the extremely successful, highly intelligent people who got scammed by Bernie Madoff. People see what they WANT to see. Or what their psychological debilitations NEED them to see.
Wow what a true story.
They were adult women with an issue overstepping on her personal life. Stop with the "children" bullshit. She is a WOMAN and a mother, not just a mother.
Yes!
@@Bubbleguppy_sometimesVR what a sad take. that's their mama, my sisters & I would do the same. who 💩 in ur cereal lil bro?
Bruh why is no one talking about how Debras daughter is a literal detective
Please stop saying Bruh. Sounds so unintelligent.
Paladium lmao. The comment section isn't an email to a teacher or boss. It's a TH-cam comment section. Slow down.
@@palladium607 bruh
Paladium bruh
@@palladium607 B R U H
It's difficult to have sympathy for anyone who puts a partner before their children .
BWC make girls go crazy
Absolutely, I have zero respect for this woman, such a joke
I completely agree I don’t buy for a nanosecond that she didn’t see any red flags ( NOT YELLING IN CAPS POINTING OUT) I BELIEVE SHE WAS SO DESPERATE for male companionship that was WILLING TO IGNORE THE RED FLAGS SHE SAW. She heard him yelling and going off on her youngest daughter before she married him. THAT ALONE SHOULD HAVE BEEN ENOUGH FOR HER TO KNOW THAT HE WAS BAD NEWS SHE HEARD HIM SAY THAT HE WANTED TO TAKE OUT ANOTHER DAUGHTER WITH A GUN. Yet she went back and TRIED TO PLAY THE VICTIM BECAUSE HER KIDS DID NOT WANT TO SEE HER AND DID NOT LET HER SEE HER GRANDKIDS.
@@jimtaggert42 Sorry, Jim.....what is BWC.....?
@@wet_jojo1015 No, dummy. If I knew I wouldn't have asked. Bye.
Can we talk about how TERRIFYING it would be to find a woman literally straight out of The Ring in your living room?? I would never sleep again.
Mia Draper random but yeah
Lmao yes i thought the same
Jordyn Lopez he set that up, but yes, I’d be traumatized!
No cus I dont have a tv in my living room for that exact reason
Literally the worst part
Loneliness cannot be worth sacrificing relationships with your children. Sigh…I’m glad all of these ladies are alright.
I mean Debrah did exactly what her mom did. She chose to believe the partner instead of protecting her kids.
Good point
You mean her daughter's husband ....
✨No victim blaming please✨
@@pretzeldough2959 I don't believe that you should believe "victims" whatever they say or do. Adults have responsibility to care for their children in the beat possible way. And she and her mom failed theirs. Psychoanalytically she seemed to have learned that from her mom, and your "woke" stance here is irrelevant
@@Hera4 Excellent point, and I totally agree. The whole "victim blaming" thing wants to absolve every victim of responsibility, even if whatever terrible thing happened to them was a direct result of really bad, stupid choices. These people should be used as examples to help other people learn from the victim's poor choices and not make the same mistakes. Deborah IS to blame for everything that happened, and what she did almost got her daughter killed. She was responsible for her daughter being attacked and almost killed, and she was responsible for her daughter having to kill a man in self defense.
Bruh I’ve been on enough tinder dates to give the advice, if he has a shirtless mirror selfie, he’s a narcissist. Swipe left.
Thank u dr. 👏🏻
someone who move too fast in a relationship. someone who say i love u too fast or just praise u too much. man this guy have all the red flags.
thought the same. it's such a clear indicator right from the beginning and almost as clear to recognize as if they would have written it on their foreheads :-D
Yep, shirtless mirror selfies and pictures of them holding dead animals. Run as FAST AS YOU CAN in the other direction.
so true
Kendall: “what do people do in Vegas?”
Me: “GAMBLE!!”
Kendall: “they get drunk and they get married”
Me: “oh yeah, that too”
I thought the same thing lmao
Lmao
balmain addict glad I wasn’t alone lol
Exactly my internal monologue lol
Casey O'Leary lmao kinda like dora
I went on a date with a doctor once and he wore his scrubs to the date. I was not as impressed as he thought I'd be 🙄
"Was taken off life support by his sister who also hated him"
Boy I love a happy ending
Then his sister called their mom and said "Hes dead! Let's have a party."
Celebrating someone's death is awful, no matter the circumstances.
@@MikeyReadman I don't think so, now Deborah and her daughters can finally live peaceably without having to worry constantly about their safety and lives... Isn't that worth celebrating?
@@MikeyReadman Mikey, buddy. You're defending a man that was extremely abusive. fuck. off.
I'm sorry.... But I find it hard to empathize with Debra. She went back to him... She had the *means* to leave him... Most women don't. He was threatening to murder her kids... And finally attempted to murder her daughter.... Idk... Maybe it's just me.
Shes hard to watch in some interviews. Sometimes it seems like she misses him. Watching the show on Netflix drove me insane. I had so much anxiety watching this woman be so blind to abuse. I know abusers have this weird control over their victims, but she only knew this guy a few weeks before they were married, and there was already red flags from day one.
Yeah, for being such a successful woman she wasn't very smart.
Ugh watching the Netflix show, I got sooo anxious and would yell at the tv lol. Listening to her on the podcasts was torturous. If I were one of her daughter's, I'd find it hard to forgive her. I guess ignorance is bliss. Lol
It's not just you...
i kinda feel that way too, but i figure debra will punish herself for the rest of her life, and doubt that she’ll make that mistake again :””) your opinion is perfectly valid though, i completely seems where you’re coming from
“A really nice penthouse.. Like the type that us commoners only see in movies” Lmaoo sis you ain’t have to do us like that 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gladys Andrade deadass😭
Fr tho
Gladys Andrade lmfao glad I wasn’t the only one low key offended
😂😂😂😂😬
I legit screamed haahhahhha 😂😂😂
This reminds me of a crazy guy a friend of mine dated. He told her he was in the US Navy and told her not to tell me when she informed him I had been in the Navy. I couldn't help but ask him questions after finding out and he couldn't give me answers that made any sense about where he went to bootcamp or his rank. One day he told her that his sergeant called him to duty so he wouldn't be in reach. I told her to dump him because there aren't any sergeants in the Navy. Thank God she listened to me.
😆😆😆
I need friend like you in my life 😭❤
@@lavenderlovee Bad luck finding decent people friend?
as someone who once was in an abusive relationship, if everyone else hates the guy, they’re probably right. listen to the people he doesn’t kiss up to, if he has multiple “crazy exes that might call or try to contact” dump him.
Too true
Yes that’s so true. My best friends mom married this guy that everyone hated. Before they got married my dad intervened and so did her mom and said “don’t marry this guy.” But she did and now 20 or 30 years later they’ve gotten a divorce with two kids. The mom actually went kinda crazy and had to go to court because her husband was driving her insane. Now she’s a very happy woman. If everyone hates him, he’s a bad dude
Kendall is the only way I’m getting through this virus
ikr i’d be so bored without her videos🥴
same ❤️
Me rn.... 1am and i cant sleep
Sameee
the office and curb your enthusiasm as well
I would have a hard time speaking with mom after this crap. She is half of the reason this happened. He was a creep but hello mom. You are crazy!!!
She stopped being a victim in my eyes as soon as she took him back after finding out about who he actually was.
I always give my mom so much respect, she raised 3 kids alone and probably went on 2 dates during the whole time we grew up. Once I hit 15 (I'm the baby and the only girl) she started to date in earnest but she never allowed any guys to be alone with me or alone in our house. Now that I'm an adult with my own kid I understand how this isnt necessarily common. Mad respect to any other parents who ACTUALLY put their kids above themselves
Yes! I am a single mom, and when my son was around 7, he told me he didn’t want me to get a boyfriend. He probably has several good reasons for that, and I chose to respect his wishes. I had a work friend chastise me for “letting your kid dictate your life”, but I’ve never felt like I was missing out, or as if that makes me somehow a “pushover parent”. I am perfectly happy, and will have time to date when my kids are all grown. It’s not my kids’ fault that I’m divorced from their dad. I made some bad decisions when I was young and now I’m trying hard to raise happy, well adjusted kids. I don’t need the distraction of dating, anyway. I’m busy enough as it is.
@@yellowmelancholy4875 I'm a single mom and my son is seven. I'll date when he's older. If you work take care of your kid and take time for yourself there is no time to date much. And I would never move a guy in. I had 4 step parents growing up and it was terrible. I respect family's that make it work but I don't have the energy.
I don't know your mom, but give her a hug from me. She sounds like an incredible mom and so selfless.
Your mom rocks! I didn't date for almost three years after my divorce. My boys were 6 and 12. I didn't let them meet anyone either until I knew he was the one...their future stepdad. ❤
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 to all ladies in this thread!!!!
all I gotta say is, Terra is a fucking legend. A real hero, that woman.
Totally agree!!!!
I can’t believe he was gunna abduct her. I’m so happy she won that struggle. I’m so tired of listening to true crimes of abductions :/
This should be made into a movie
called "Women sure know how to pick`em"
@@planetfourthreich3022 the guy was literally a psychopathic manipulator and y'all will STILL find ways to blame the woman...
👁 👈👀👉🧠 🤔👍
As someone who is married to an anesthesiologist, I can tell you they work ALL THE TIME. My husband is up at 5am and home around 6. Like all doctors, he works insane hours.
Surprised Deborah's mom didn't hold a memorial for him 🙄
@La’Rae M. I probably shouldn’t be laughing so hard! Huh! 🤭
Right ?
@@janetturner1931 same
I wonder how her husband treated her.
For real. :-/ Her mom is a piece of work.
John’s biologically daughters went to high school with me! They are the sweetest. I know this becoming what it did was challenging for them. I have been praying for them!
Wow! What a small world!
that’s fucking crazy ! glad they are sweet and turned out better than their sperm doner
Aww haha
Omg that’s crazy
Wow!
Imagine defending someone who MURDERED YOUR CHILD. That blows my mind.
Riiiiiight
@Jenny Unfortunately, they wanna stop the wrong people from having kids
I agree, but your TH-cam name is all i can think about...lol. Love it!
I honestly can't understand that. Disgusting
Think about how her daughter felt... oh
So a man kills his wife he gets 5 years, but if a child murders someone they get life? The justice system is not justified!
Cristie Hatcher also he got six years on a drug charge and five for murder. What the fuck
its unconstitutional to give a child a life sentence
@@ellamiller6889 Unfortunately, that's not true. In 2012 the Supreme Court ruled that minors cannot be sentenced to life _without the possibility of parole_ . They can, however, be sentenced to life imprisonment.
@@Cloudancer2024 sorry thankyou for clearing that up
Beth B uuuuuuuuuuu
Just a side note: CRNA's don't just take care of patients before and after surgery. They basically fulfill the role of the anesthesiologist in cases. Sometimes you will have an anesthesiologist in a procedure, sometimes a CRNA. Not even big cases have the anesthesiologist and smaller cases have a CRNA. They can be the provider in any size of surgery. Some places don't even have an anesthesiologist. CRNA school is extremely tough to get into and graduate from/pass boards. Which is why they are compensated extremely well.
My sister is a CRNA says the same, she works with John's first wife Tonya
CRNA School is so tough to get into that this criminal with addiction issues and criminal background got it and passed so easily
@@rubinaameeralican’t explain specifically this case. But that doesn’t diminish the fact that it is tough to get into CRNA school and that it is a lot of work.
John: *TOO busy doing doctor stuff to change out of scrubs*
Also John: *Has PLENTY of time to sit and play video games*
😂😂 this comment made me laugh so hard, I nearly spit my coffee out
@@fallingforyoudarling IM NOT WRONG THO!! 😂
Shawna Alice_xo red flag💀
@@dylananthony It's sooo true!!! 😂
Why did she not see it?
When some of his friends drop the nickname “Dirty John” and just call him “Filthy” that’s a major red flag
The only time "Philthy" is an acceptable nickname is in rock n roll. Motorhead.
@@roxannemoser His nick name should be CRAZYJOHN!
It is SUCH a red flag when you start feeling like you need to hide your relationship from people who were your support system before the relationship. My best friend got in a toxic relationship with a potential psychopath and i never met the man because she KNEW that if her friends met the guy that we would instantly see through him.
The worst part is that when you love someone you mostly see only the good side to that person, or tend to justify some things you normally wouldn't. It's so scary how love can blind you to the point where you can't even recognize the danger right before your eyes.
You know what's a red flag? Having 4 ex husbands. That woman is toxic.
@@lucylucydelulu also loneliness..people want or need someone to validate them so desperately that they deliberately ignore any signs or bad things people say about the toxic person
Going through this with a friend at the moment, I barely see her without her partner. He doesn't let her see us without him there, because he knows we'll all tell her to get out
No it's actually not. Sometimes you realize people in your life are toxic af and u dont want them in your life or in your private business.
I applaud the daughter for fighting him back! I couldn't imagine putting my child in the position to have to kill someone
And what makes it worse is the fact that the so called “mother” still is constantly trying to play the victim and tries to justify her actions. (Not yelling in caps pointing out)
In a book she wrote she said she KNEW her kids would be angry and would disown her if they knew she was living with John so early on yet she went right ahead and moved in she lied and tried to hide it and was caught HOW DOES THAT MAKE HER THE VICTIM?
After Thanksgiving she wants to whine because the kids where not coming to visit her but yet SHE TOLD them if they wanted to come over and see her they had to get along with John and her attitude was they HAD TO ACCEPT that John or live with the consequences. How does that make her the victim
Despite the fact she knew her relationship with her kids was at there breaking point she clearly didn’t learn that lying to her kids and hiding things from her kids does more harm then good she married John and hid it from them. How does that make her the victim?
She wants to whine about Christmas being a disaster yet she the one who told the kids John is coming and if your gonna start drama over it then it be best if you not come and she the one who refused to stick to the agreement she made with Tara and said her kids where acting childish how does that make her the victim?
Yet somehow she was blindsided when the kids refused to see or speak with her and wouldn’t let her see there kids how does that make her the victim?
She wants to whine and justify her actions because her kids didn’t like anybody she dated before she met John yet she been married 4x and dated man who used and abused her is it any wonder they had 0 faith in there mom ability to pick good guys?
She SAW John going off on Tara at a time when all her kids w
can we talk about how fucking AMAZING HER CHILDREN ARE
This would’ve gone completely different if they wasn’t in her life.
Tara is a BEAST!
Yes
"She stabbed him through the eye into the brain" OH hell yes!
"But he was still alive" 😑
"He died a few days later" 😲
those boots should be credited
me scrolling thru the comments tryin to find spoilers like
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He died in the hospital not from the calloused hand of a man, but by the soft hand of a woman! LOL!
@@janetwestwood9194 Imagine if Hitler had been killed by a woman and she had killed him in the same way that Terra killed John! LOL!
4 failed marriages is a sign telling you to focus on better things in life like personal health,vacations, your kids(if one has any).
It's okay to be single.
Exactly it’s ridiculous that Debra tried to use the fact that her kids never liked anyone she dated before to justify not listening to them and really making them the bad guys for not liking John. When she married 4x and they saw her date bad guys is it any wonder that they had no faith in her ability to chose a good guy.
Rich people don’t know how to enjoy being rich.
It's the desperation for me
I understand where she was coming from. She was lonely, her children are grown adults and they have their own lives. She's wealthy so finding genuine friends can be tough. Wealth isn't a doorway to happiness. Also her mom is an oddbod, defending someone that killed your daughter, wtf? She must've done damage to Debra and her sister growing up.
It IS ok to be single. It seems like an assumption that a person is married or in a committed relationship, or desperately looking for a partner. Some people are better off single. You can still be social, have fun, go on dates, love the special ones in your life romantically, make out in the car, etc. It's ok to go to a party or a BBQ by yourself. Then you can leave when you want... And stop at Del Taco or 7-11 cuz you got the munchies.
I am 48, never married ( or divorced--a horrible episode to go thru). My last serious GF was 4 years ago. She was great, but it didn't work out. As much as I miss so many things in that relationship, I am just as happy now. And nobody hassles me or cares that I am single and most likely will never get married or have kids.
No one tells a story like you, Kendall. It's like being in a living room after dinner just hearing you spill the latest tea.
When you see red flags but red is your favorite color.
Love does blind some people. Others simply choose not to see and ignore *ALL* the red flags. Those are the ones to cry the hardest once they end up in a messy place.
🚩🚩🚩 👈👀 🏳️🌈🇬🇧
Me af
Ahhh so true
@@lucylucydelulu I just can't respect a "man" who would carry the purse in public.
This may sound horrible, but it’s nice to hear that the bad guy died and the victims survived!
I agree!
How is that horrible??
@@kellyjohnson5663 cause someone died
@@Amanda_Bulldog_Mom yeah but it's the villain this time
Celebrating someone's death is awful, no matter the circumstances.
Lol when she said “He told her on the third date he wanted to marry her it took josh 6 years to propose to me” 😂😂
It made me laugh...It is still taking my girlfriend over 10 years 😂😂 but no rush we have talked about it. it is also b/c we both did grad school and more so in these times of need I am in no rush but to save 😂😂
😂 😂 😂
That's a huge red flag honestly. Be wary of anyone who's extremely eager to jump into marriage, moving in together, etc--thats not how honest/psychologically healthy people behave.
Hahahahaha honestly though. I have been with my fiancé for almost 6 years. And we had talked about getting engaged for a while. But we only agreed it was time when we had been together for 5 years
I’ve been engaged to John for 25 yrs! 😂 We discussed dates on 2 different occasions. Keep in mind we had both been married twice before. We’re both comfortable in our arrangement and know we’ll always be together so I will just remain eternally engaged. Actually have 2 engagement rings 💍. 😂. Still getting to know him and not wanting to rush into another marriage. We are both in our early 60’s now. I think if we actually did get married, our kids would think we were kidding. 😂😂💕💚. Growing old together has been pretty cool. ✌️
I was so mad at Debrah when I was watching the series. Like when he got mad at Terra the first time they met, the relationship was pretty much new, but she still chose him also when he made the joke about shooting the other daughter.
She stabbed him in the EYE. Damn, girl. How do we get her a humanitarian award?
I love how she was inspired by the zombie TV show and I guess went for the headshot so to speak I think that saved her life and I’m so sorry that happened to her and that she has to live with that memory but good for her good for her strength I think the TV shows name is The Walking Dead
I’d have gone for the nuts but that’s just me.
@@nhmooytis7058 That's not a killer blow.
@@bibleguy1207 but fun to watch the ensuing pain.
"She started stabbing the fuck out of him!"
- Kendall Rae, 2020
And he died four days later in a hospital bed, unconscious and knocked out from Terra stabbing him!
Good. He deserved no fuck to be in him. Good riddance, throw the whole man out.
@@_rainey right
Dont forget that she called him a damn cock roach lol
I was so hyped at that part. Yes Terra!!
Moral of the story: lack of self worth, emotional intelligence and independence can land you in psychotic situations or even cost you your life. Deborah and her family are so lucky they got out alive.
Moral of the story: just buy a damn vibrator!
@@MaryTheresa1986 o my god
That One Girl I mean it’s much better than getting a psycho bf
Also: be extra careful online, look for red flags if their present, and listen to your families concerns
Definitely, it’s a design fault in humans, people can be so competent and successful in one area but have huge deficits in another.
So not only did John's sister pull the plug on him, but the other sister visited Terra and gave her flowers in the hospital. He deserved what he got.
If someone ever tells me they're a "doctor", I better see your license, your degree, your board certification, all of it. You don't get an MD without flaunting that shit. If you ain't got proof, there's the door!
ThatGirlIsAwkward exactly!!!
My mom usually looks up the persons license
@@laiahfats3869 or usually call the board to ask if that person is actually a doctor
If a guy ever tells you that he is "the best thing that has ever happened to you", RUN as fast as you can AWAY. He sounds like such a narcissist. That just creeps me out.
That is definitely a big red flag.
Same if a woman does it, friend of mines ex and all her friends say she was the best thing that ever happened to him and he that he lost her - said ex would isolate him from people he'd known for 20 odd years, control his finances, only let him go to work and back again and even when they were together used their son to control and or upset him (regulate their time together, remove him from what they werr doing if she was annoyed with him etc). She loses her sh*t whenever he refers to his current partner as the best thing that has ever happened to him purely because she trusts and supports him
Not always. I’ve been with mine nearly 10 years now. We’re married, I’m off drugs, we have an amazing 2 year old together. So it’s not always bad
@@fartass9849 I think it def depends on context and the couple, like for some people that’s very much the truth and their partner has changed their life and made it immeasurably better but a lot of the time it’s said as a manipulation tactic but it’s not always easy to tell which is the truth in the situation
There have been a couple of times where my mom has warned me about past "friends" and every time she has been right. If you have a trustworthy family member or even close friend warning you about someone I highly reccomend listening to them.
It sucks that my mom wont listen to me when I tell her I dont truat a guy shes seeing. she just hasnt had a relationship since my dad cheated then he passed away so it ruined her bc she thought for a sec that she might be able to have a future with him. So she just desperately wants to be happy with someone. And I just hate that this guy is using her.. shes jist like a littl school girl that has a crush when it comes to dating men bc she hasnt had one since she was a young adult into her adult years .. i just hope and pray god will find somebody that is perfect for her.
"John looked like a good guy." So did Ted Bundy.
Lmao! Ain’t that the damn truth!😂
Lmao right hell’s no this is just plain scary
That's what I said!
Question Your World hahaha 😂
It was always in the eyes, listen to your gut pipl
When Kendall said " This guy wouldn't die, he's a damn cockroach" Hilarious!!! 🤣🤣🤣
She didn't say "this guy wouldn't die" I'm lil confusion
@Crystal Lewis I know right! lol 😂
I laughed so hard to that :O)
Yasss i died laughing😂😂😂
Puhaha
The fact that mom even let him talk to her kids like that… I’m so proud of Tara!!!! U go girl. Kicked his evil ass!!!!
I was really worried that he was gonna kill her, but was pleasantly surprised when he was the one who died.
shoutout to karen for taking him off life support
A Karen we respect
Don't piss off your next of kin!
TurboCMinusMinus lmao what?did you watch the whole video 😂
@TurboCMinusMinus....I know where you are coming from with that comment and I would normally sympathize. But, in this particular instance, this guy got what he deserved.
TurboCMinusMinus 🥰
WHY WHY WHY, are there so many successful, intelligent and wealthy women who run businesses, who are at the top of the ladder, some described as ruthless, yet when it comes to their love lives their intelligence and common sense seems to have been left "at the office"???
I Know right! like it blows my mind, it's like they rather have a man that is trash then not have a man at all, it blows my mind, I would not call these woman victims, because some of them have had multiple times to dumb the guy, and see red flags and also have your kids say they don't like them, so I would call them desperate and stupid woman.
They are clearly desperate to be loved . Blinded!
There often is no good balance when it comes to overachievers. They achieve alot because they trust things will work out fine for them
Money can't buy self esteem and common sense. She used luxuries like plastic surgery, designer clothes and make up to mask how she felt about herself. Lost all common sense when she chose to put that stranger ahead of her own kids. Constantly lying to protect him vs her family. Her desperation was so apparent, which made things easier for a "Dirty John" to take over her life. This was far beyond clouded judgment.
probably spending all energy on work, achievement, money etc. and none on introspection, relationships, knowing people on deep levels, and boundaries.
Kendall starting the segment on John's life by describing him as a "sketchy fuck" is exactly why I watch her channels
i felt bad for Debrah until she visited him at the hospital and took him back. wtf.
mary kate pear it's called abuse and brainwashing these con artist's are MASTER manipulators. It's a craft. Don't blame the victims. It's a huge issue. If you haven't been in such an abusive relationship, you simply are completely ignorant to what it does to a person.. it's unbelievable the things you overlook and things you forgive in such situations..you would Not get it. But don't "lose" empathy. Don't be that person.
Sheena Alexis87 exactly! Thank you!
Police: Sorry we can’t do anything until it’s too late
just made ur likes 470 Thank me later
Same.
Why did I get a satisfaction feeling when you said “and she stabbed him in the eye deep into his brain” lol I’m so glad this girl was strong enough to fight this creep!!!
I love that she stabbed him to death, and I hope that Terra is well and happy.
And he died in a hospital bed four days later!
Classic story of a relationship with a narcissist!
I lived it and survived it too! BUT.. I LISTENED TO MY KIDS!
I love a story where the bad guy gets what they deserve.
This is literally like a life time movie plot
Abby Cullen or a Bravo one
So is your mom
Plz don't give them ideas
They already did this story on Lifetime as a movie.
@@Elle_M717 they already did your mom.
I had a step dad that hated me like John hated Jaclyn, I was young too, but he felt extremely threatened by my existence, it was like a constant competition, the man was crazy. I was eleven, and this man threatening to kill me because I’m what’s standing in the way of he and my mom, in his mind.
That’s awful I hope u r ok 😢
Oh no you didn't deserve this ❤️❤️❤️😭😭
I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you're ok
Been there too, my mom's fiance saw me as a wall. He claimed that the issues in his and my mom's relationship came from me🙄
audibly said “LETS FUCKING GO” when it got to her stabbing tf out of him. was so worried this would end horribly and I’m so glad everyone made it out safe
Never choose a man over your kids.
If they tell you something is up, you believe it.
Kendall just has a way of making cases so interesting
Totally agree!! Love her murder/mystery stories
Sydney LeBeau I have and they’re amazing!!
@@leahkathleen545 YES!! I LOVE his content!!
LOL "all my clothes were stolen in Iraq" And she BELIEVED it? 🥴🥴🥴
No he said "all my GOOD clothes' sooo he must keep a pile of shit shit clothes just in case that happens hes prepared and don't have to buy more decent ones lol
Right and I have a bridge for sale😝
Why would his good clothes be stolen in Iraq who brings good clothes to Iraq while in the army 🤔😅
Right!! Like his WHOLE wardrobe LMAOOOOO kay.
Lol yeah If that’s true I’m straight
With all their money could they not get a background check or something? It’s such a sad story and a reminder that love bombing is a thing and to be careful
It becomes so hard to feel empathy for Debra at some point. I'm sorry but as soon as you choose a stranger over a person you brought into this world, you lose all respect from me. Those poor girls only wanted her to be safe. She owes them her life honestly, and I would understand if they never forgave her.
Zoe Mariella don't ever fall hopelessly and stupidly in love...you may surprise yourself, at how many things you overlook not realizing.
I'm too busy questioning how the hell she bileved the guy she only knew a month over HER CHILDREN
Starr Smith a month in she had no proof yet of anything. Sometimes our kids have a hard time when parents date and give them a very hard time about it. Will nit pick and find anything wrong with someone simply because they want their parents attention etc...it's very common. She probably thought this was the case. I've even been through it before my daughter matured.
Deborah sounds like a dumb dumb
You have to be in that kind of abusive relationship to understand. people outside of it don't get it at all and it's so hard to explain it sometimes the words that come out sound so stupid but at the time it convinced you enough to stay.
Why would you EVER let a man that's NOT your child's father YELL AT YOUR KIDS!?!???
TurboCMinusMinus it’s not about being a “step-dad” because these children are adults. They weren’t ever, and will never, be raised by him in any way. If a persons child chooses to accept the new partner once they are an adult, that new partner has absolutely no right to punish that persons child. They are adults. Beyond the care and discipline of their parents, especially one that held no role in their life up until that point. 100000% step parents can be worth equal, in some cases more, to a child than their natural parents; however these children maintain the right to deny these new people their love and affection. Especially when they-themselves are functioning adults.
TurboCMinusMinus FYI, when I was saying child/children, I was referring to the offspring of a person. Not specifying someone who is a minor/not-legal.
In this specific case, the children and nephew of Deborah
It’s the biological mom or dad responsibility to choose the CORRECT person!
Unless they adopted them
Hello Qutie exactly, so inappropriate and disrespectful
The part of John jumping out the ambulance with the drug kit GOT ME 😂😂😂😂😂
hi ! My name is _________ what ?! Who ?! like its fucking GTA or something
They included that part in the show too and it seriously made me laugh way too hard
hi ! My name is _________ what ?! Who ?! Fr i imagined a crackhead lmaooo
I married someone I'd known and didn't even realize that he'd put himself up as a victim of his ex, and being a protector, I took it hook, line and sinker feeling sorry for Mr. Selfless. Years later, when he went total deadbeat, I left. Would you believe my Gram had told my Aunt that she didn't trust him - the FIRST time she met him. Unfortunately, neither told me at the time. Even my dad said he thought he was a phony but I was so happy. UGH. See something; say something!
as a victim of emotional and physical abuse from a s/o, it is extremely difficult to leave an abusive relationship. you stay stuck in the fact that they could possibly change and then they don’t.
I think abused people stayed because they figured, or at least are lead to believe, the consequences of leaving will be worse.
It’s not nearly the same as far as severity and I know this, but I kind of compare it to the feeling I had when I was being bullied very badly in middle school. I knew I should have let someone know about it before it got out of hand, but I couldn’t do it because I felt like it would make things worse if I told anyone. I felt like maybe it would be get better, maybe I could just ignore it and deal with it on my own...I was wrong.
This is something that is very hard to understand for those who never have been in a situation like this.
@@PungiFungi this is certainly one of the reasons, but not the only one.
I love how she uploads when im lying in bed and can’t sleep
Sophie Daly littaraly same
Sophie Daly Ik righ
same, i love it though 😅
Was just thinking the same. Perfect timing! Overthinking about work tomorrow 😢 stay safe everyone 🙏
I wouldn’t be able to watch videos like prior to going to sleep lol!
Kendall is the only reason I’m not eating everything in my fridge right now
Jimena Moreno Every female friend I have plus my Mom has said the same thing 2 me since this all started. It will be ok. Eat the cookies
I’m watching and still eating everything in my pantry!
Totally
Jimena Moreno me too! I’ve probably gained 20 pounds! I’m a stress eater and when I’m bored. Bad combo!
it’s going to be hard, but, please, try to not focus as much on how much and of what you eat during this quarantine and in general. your body isn’t for aesthetic pleasure and if you feel hungry or want a random snack, go ahead and eat some tasty food!
Kendall: be cautious when online dating
Me: eyeing my husband suspiciously
Heather Countryman Lmfaoooo
Hahahaha
OMG LOL!!!!! (But kinda sameeeee?)
😂😂
There is no trust at this point 😂😂
When she said "stabbing the fuck out of him." I smiled a bit.
I did too. 😇
@Mad Max No, it was actually because she said the f word. Not the stabbing part for me.
@@growwiththeflow4854 No, I was happy about the stabbing part. If somebody brings a knife to try to kidnap/kill me and I kill him defending myself I’ll be pretty damn happy
@@laurieawesomeness7221 get it, boo!! No judgment from me! ♡
I really liked the way she used a lot of 'colorful phrases' in this video 😁 👍 ❤
I loved hearing about a case where the good folks won. So often in true crime there's never a "good ending," but let's be real. There was no good ending with him around. Thank you for this!!
Having met several potential soulmates on dating sites, I've learned to spot the red flags. This guy is flying red flags all over the place. I'm truly amazed that Debra didn't recognize those red flags and head for the hills. In my opinion, he really does exhibit an extreme narcissistic personality. Very interesting video.
This story sounds like it occured in a span of years. This wasn't even 1 year. He is a trash individual but he has the gift of gab to do all of that in such little time.
mtj7289 As I understand it was more than a year, but less than two
It was a year and a half, but still, no less insane.
2014-2016.
Going to ‘Dating Psychos’ immediately after this.
Bitchy Babysitter apparently it got taken down after some women posted false information and got sued
I looked and it’s gone. I’m honestly thinking about making a similar website.
What’s Dating Psychos?
Chicken Nuggets Kendal explained it in the video. it’s a site where people post about their crazy exes so people are aware
Courtney Michelle Oh thank you. I commented before she got to that part
Parents need to listen to their adult children. My mother wouldn’t listen to me when I told her that I had a really bad vibe about this younger guy she’d been dating. I woke up one morning to my friend blowing my phone up, saying the guys mugshot was online with domestic battery charges... he broke bones in her face. Never saw her like that before. It broke my heart. She went back to him.. was still seeing him the week she died (auto accident). Older women can be very emotionally vulnerable. Watch over your single mamas. Protect them. I regret not doing more.
So so sorry
I am so, so sorry but please know you did everything you could. All you can do is tell people and whether or not they agree or hear you out is up to them. You did all you could. May your mom rest in peace ❤
Mine wouldn't listen. Removed her from the situation NUMEROUS times. Had her set up in a place he didn't know got her on her feet. The next week she was calling over to her new place. Eventually, I just walked away for my own safety and mental health.
Mine absolutely won’t listen and has been putting up with bs from the same dude for 11 years. I’ve pleaded til I’m blue in the face. She’s chosen him over me and her grandchildren time and again.
I had to let go for my own sanity. I wish she would listen. But I’m done holding my breath.
@@TheRunawayTradwife PRAY......and keep praying.
Wait wait wait... Dealing coke, eating glass, & throwing himself in front of cars... All the while getting his pre-law degree.
Sorry, what??
Gotta find the money somewhere for that law degree lol
he did that as a kid, teen
🤷🏿♀️
slipping johnny
Studying will do that to ya
This sounds EXTREMELY similar to the relationship my mom is in... she won’t listen to anyone so I guess I’ll send her this🤷🏻♀️
Yup reminds me of my MILs boyfriend
I hope it helps 🤞🏻
call the police girl !
She will prolly turn it off once it hits close to home...that's how my mom is
I hope she rUNS FOR THE HILLS!
Debra should spend the rest of her life apologizing to her daughters for exposing them to a psychopath
I'm sure she does. All you people are terrible and think the way you act is so much better. Millions of women get scammed , ota never their fault
Period
I've been in abusive relationships and even worked at Coda. I learned so much, things that at least half these people commenting could stand to learn
@@aprilsilvers381 Hey hey hey man. I agree with most of this, but not the part where you say that’s they’re all terrible people. They are definitely acting wrongly but they probably don’t realize because, like you said, they haven’t experienced it. Think before you speak please.
right? One of her daughters almost died.
But she probably won't
My mother use to say u could do wrost even went she knew he was not right for me
Also hurrah for Terra’s little doggo Cash, who bit the cr*p out of John’s legs and ankles when he was attacking Terra (he’s in the pic when she’s in the hospital). He = little hero doggo
Debra's story proves that no matter how established you are in life that low self-esteem can and will wreck havoc in your life. Also cause you to make bad decisions when it comes to what you accept in the name of "love"
Yes...if women love themselves before looking for love....when bullshit walk into your life u would spot it and reject out of your life.....but must women are too needy and vulnerable...
Let's all take a moment to appreciate Tara's strength and courage. I can't even imagine how scared she was, yet she still fought like a total warrior! Such a horrifying story, I am glad that the family is recovering. :)
LogicalCoconuts she’s such a badass tho. She was able to disarm him and turn the knife on him she’s like Lara Croft or something.
The “SWEET” one LOL
@@Lemon_squee YES! Such an amazingly strong woman. ♥