@@sofia-ig1os I kinda wanna do that too, except I'm the only virgin one in the relationship but I don't know how it will be since I'm mostly scared of it hurting and then what if I get pregnant
My mom tried to tell she didnt lose her verginity till she maried my dad...i was at her wedding Edit: virginity* married* for the 2 people I almost killed
Am i the only one who is scared of doing it cause of the way my body looks cause like sometimes theres bumps down there and i dont have a flat stomach....anyone else? Sorry for all the info..
Same. Same. Same. But u just gotta like embrace urself right, and then find a guy/girl who is like chill about all of that and is gonna be on your side, not against you.
Aileen Moreno Girl I’m scared to do it for different reasons but if you self conscious about the way your body looks and you can change it work on your self (it can be working on your mind to feel more comfortable in your body or working on your body for the same reason) I don’t mind the details as girls we have (now) a lot of information about how our bodies and psyches work and how to take care of them but you also have to feel ready feeling safe with your partner will make you more comfortable being able to see a naked body (yours as well) also prepares you for “it”.
I hate it when people shame virgins. It's disgusting how many times I've seen people make fun of a virgin. 😔 To all the other virgins out there: don't let anyone shame you into doing something you're not comfortable with. And just cause you haven't had sex yet, doesn't mean your not as worthy as people who have. 💞
Everyones experiences are different but i think that only happens in high school. Usually teens think that having sex makes you cool I guess. When you get to your 20s and are still a virgin, people will praise you trust me 😅 which is dumb but 🤷🏻♀️. Of course if you're a teen and feel ready, go ahead (but be smart about it and take care) but, in my opinion waiting until your 20s is better and here's why I think that, and of course this might not apply to everyone, these are just things that I noticed about myself and friends: 1. the body insecurities you had in your teenage years will most likely disappear because you understand better that all bodies are different and there's nothing wrong with you, 2. Relationships in your 20s are usually more meaningful/serious so you'll be more comfortable with your partner, 3. You have more information and interest on how to take care of your self and your health.
Am I the only girl that is scared the guy isn't going to like how I look down there? I feel like that's weird but that's one of the things that kinda scares me. If that makes any sense.
Jordan Smiles yes I agree I'm ready to do it its just I am just so insecure how it looks down there. Like I shave and its smooth it's just the hyper color that going on down there that i hate😳😳
Okay listen up you probably will be self conscious about it especially if youre not used to people seeing that part of you but if someone truely and genuinely likes or loves you and already wants to have sex with you then that opinion isnt going to be changed from what they see (unless theres something genuinely badly wrong and unhealthy which im sure there isnt) they will love you for who you are just the same as your face or hair or whatever if that makes sense and also at the time they probably wont even give a shit what you look like xxx
Best dressed has a video that totally explained a lot that helped me understand bc I am REALLY innocent😂my mom did a good job of explaining but my dad told me about it to, and he said it very calmly and I didn’t feel as awkward as I thought I would. Some videos or books are nice so let her know that it’s okay to watch these videos if they need to know. Not telling you how to be a parent this is just something that I feel like I’d love to hear when I got the talk
I wouldn't worry about that, if you worry about that then you're not ready to have sex in my opinion, either that or you're not with the right person if they make you doubt your body. Every person is different and beautiful in their own unique ways. Everyone's downstairs looks different, don't let that be your deciding factor. It's whatever makes you confident to say that you're beautiful just the way you are that counts. ♥️
You shouldn't be insecure! Like i said to another girl if he or she don't like you the way you are then they can go find someone else and you can just find someone better bc you are beautiful just the way you are!!!
thank you for this :) i'm 17 and still a virgin, never been in a relationship, never had my first kiss so i felt behind, but as you said, it's up to me when i lose it and no one else's opinions about it matter :)
JoieAlina_cx agreed! I didn't have anything with a boy (not even kissing)until I was 17 and that was my first boyfriend ever and it felt right :) I had to deal with stupid comments from female friends and I felt odd but in the end it's the most important to care about yourself and not what others make out to be right or ""normal""
Respect X well I could give you some advice of you need it so just comment again! But communication is the key (I know is sounds like a broken record) so just talk to her about it!
Respect X well it depends on the situation but girls generally are doing the same thing you are now. At least for me because guys can be confusing. Also depending on the girl she could be thinking when certain things will happen. Idk if you kissed her yet but we think about that a lot especially for the first time because that’s very special to us. And if you’ve been dating long term then (also depending on the girl) she could be thinking about what this video is about. Now my advice for you is just to get it our there and ask her to tell you what she’s thinking about. I know it’s awkward and hard but girls find that really attractive when a guy takes initiative like that. Again this will all depend on the girl but once you know it’s easier to figure out what she’s thunking about and it just makes the relationship stronger. (Sorry I sound like a broken record sometimes😂)
Mihael Keehl I don't mean her telling us what we have to be for boys to like us I meant the standards that girls think we have to be and feeling self coincence about them :)
Judgement or no judgement, I'm just gonna go and tell when I lost my virginity. I'm 15 and I lost my virginity a little under two weeks ago. I know, a lot of people say that I'm "too young" or I'm "stupid" and "irresponsible." In my opinion, losing your virginity is an important thing and it's not entirely about age. It's a lot more about when you're ready. It's when you can be 1000% confident with your decision and you're smart and using protection. Just be smart about it, be confident about it, and, my opinion again, you should lose your virginity to someone you are not going to regret losing it to. I think that's a very important part of losing your virginity and sex in general. About the actual experience, for me personally, it didn't really hurt. It was more of an odd feeling and a feeling of a lot of pressure in between my hips. Like she says in the video, not everyone bleeds but I did, personally and I bled for about 4 days. I read online that you can bleed for up to a week but it wasn't heavy bleeding. I didn't cry or yell or anything during actually losing it. The more you think about it and the more tense you are, it will most likely hurt more due to your muscles being tense and tighter than usual. Just breathe and be comfortable. Never feel weird about asking him to stop or to wait a minute so you can adjust. If you need to adjust or you wanna stop all together, girl, that's fine. But if you're not comfortable and you're having doubts, it's without a doubt fine. If you read this whole comment, you're the real MVP and thank you lmao. Have an amazing day. 💜
I am 17 and I never had a boyfriend, like I never kissed someone or was in a relationship and some people are rly shocked when I tell them ... and it actually really pisses me off
finally i found someone else in the same situation (i'm also 16 btw). i've never really been in love or had a crush on someone in real life either, only when i was younger but it wasn't something serious of course because i was still young and immature and didn't know what love felt like. now i'm suddenly 16, turning 17 this year and everyone has a boyfriend, had their first kiss, lost their virginity and i'm still here like?? when will it happen to me?
Don't even think about that . Everybody's different, right? But be careful when you choose the person . Not meant to scare you. I'm 16 and I'm in my second relationship. It's been 8 months and he respects me so much . If I'm not ready and he knows it he doesn't even talk about it. He waits for me to feel ready . I hope you find a person who really loves and respects you. xoxo
I was in your situation when I was 16. Well, I had been kissed but it was by guys I didn't like and they were desperate to find a girl. Now at 17 almost 18, I found someone that I truly love..so wait a little! I'm sure you'll find the one
Yeah same. But I feel like my daughter if I had one wouldn't want to talk about it. Because I am 14 now and I wouldn't want my mother to talk to me about that
Kari The Light This is exactly how I wish my mother would have talked to me about it because this is exactly how I will talk to my kids. Instead my mom compared me losing my virginity to doing “damage” and made a bunch of assumptions about why I did it and who I did it with even tho she never had and will never meet the guy. All I wanted her to tell me was it was okay, I was comfortable and happy with who I decided to do it with, I was safe, and I was content with the timing. She was extremely bothered by what I did with my body and said if I open my legs too fast to a man he will never take me serious. I pray I don’t become that mom to try and dictate what my child does with their body or make them feel like I am disappointed in them for making that decision. I would just want my children to be safe and never regretful of their decision, to not be coerced into doing something but doing it because THEY want to do it. Doing it with someone they trust and with no doubts in their mind because it’s something that can’t be taken back.
I lost my virginity at 16. I remember being so ready for it. But my boyfriend at the time completely rushed it & made me feel like he just wanted to get it over with. Not only that but my mum caught us. After that I was traumatized that I didn't want to have sex again till 3 years later with my current boyfriend. He is an amazing lover that a part of me wishes I lost my virginity to him instead of my ex. She's right about the regret, it never truly leaves you.
Right he rushed for me too mainly because he wasn't a virgin but he rushed it and that made the first time hurt but u kinda get used to it after a while
@@potatoesandtomatoes6817 if it really didn't mean anything to you. You would not care if you lost it or not. Personally, I think it has a tendency to speak poorly about one's sense of selfworth if they jump into bed with anyone.
James Roscoe if someone wants to sleep with anyone then it doesn’t effect you,, like it’s their life and as long as they are being safe and not hurting anyone. You shouldn’t judge people or try to discourage people from doing what they want
Rosemary Moore-Cooper Are you Deaf? she said years and days you need to have your ears checked out because you definitely have an hearing problem, listen before you speak 😐 am sick and tired of people like you Listen before you Speak!!! Jesus!!!!
the only thing i’m scared of is the guy acting like he cares, but then when i’m ready, he won’t be gentle and won’t make sure i’m ok and comfortable so i’ll hurt
Wish this video came out before I lost mine. I was pressured into losing my virginity and then I got dropped two days later. Which led to me being depressed. Just wait until you're ready girls and guys and it's on your terms because there's no point in losing yourself so that someone else can be happy.
CrazyNakia this is *exactly* what happened me .. he stopped talking to me after 2 days and i was really stressed about it but i guess it'll be okay because he was messing with my happiness anyway
CrazyNakia same exact thing happened to me too, except we broke up 2 weeks later which was before our anniversary .. he got a new girl after 4 days and broke up with her after 2 months lol, some guys just aren't worth it
Lisette is honestly one of the most beautiful and down to earth girls on TH-cam 😩💕 thank you for spreading the message that it's all about personal comfort
I feel some of these girl talks should be labelled “let’s talk” cause I feel guys have to be educated about the female body too. I know this is controversial, but what do you think?
I agree. I think this is definitely directed towards girls because this is for their point of view but a guy could definitely watch this to understand how they feel and things they might be worried about to help someones first time feel more comfortable.
I lost my virginity not too long ago... My boyfriend and I were together for 5 months. We both were virgins and we both agreed to it, we both waited and we were ready for it at that time. It was a really special moment and we trust each other a lot. I can’t believe how close we became to each other afterwards. We were close before but this really made us connect! It doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone will become closer to their partners but that’s what happened to us. I love how and who I lost my virginity with and I wouldn’t change a thing. No regrets!
hanlo lo we have been talking for like a week, and he asked me if i was a virgin, and i didn't want to tell him but he kept pushing the question and saying "come on, u really aren't a virgin are u :/", "how old are you again," and "its really awkward and bad to have sex with a virgin if u are just saying" he did say it wasn't a problem if i was but like idk i felt what he said was really rude and insensitive.
I'm 25...never had sex or even a kiss...LOL.. There are couples in my circle of friends and they never talk about sex when I'm around because they are thinking that I might feel bad about being the only virgin in the group.. I was like "whut? I really don't mind! Hahhahaha" I don't know when I'm going to do "it" but I hope it's with the person I love. Thank you so much for this talk. I can feel that you can be a very good adviser or mother in the future...and you're soooo pretty!
Delena Stelena .. Yeah.. not even a kiss on the lips... Well, one high school friend of mine suddenly kissed me on the cheeks when we were teens.. just because he wanted to be the first to kiss me and my first boyfriend (I was 16 then.. we broke up when I was 18 and I'm still single until now LOL) was never able to kiss me! HAHAHHAAH
Can i just say it is not all up to the girl. If you are wanting to loose it and the boy isn't ready please don't push him. Some people feel very insicure and it works like that for both genders. Edit: wow you lot liked the shit out of this haha btw I don't label my gender just to clarify
You know, I never really thought about it like that.... I generally don't try and force people to do anything they don't want, but I guess I always imagined that he would just be ready and okay with it and so would I. Thank you for pointing that out.
I assumed that the guy would be ok with losing his virginity.. But not all guys are ok with it I guess, I think that if your going to lose your virginity in a relationship, you both should agree when your ready
Exactly. You need to be respectful with people, even if you're feeling all hot and bothered. Some guys are a little more smooth and persuasive, some guys are kinky and aggressive, while some are more patient and gentle. Both parties still need to show respect for eachother and themselves.
That's true, one of my guy friends was pressured into it,because she thought that since he is a boy he would definitely want sex. Please yall don't assume like ever, he dealed with some deep shit for a couple of years, because he felt like he was not the master of his self. Just please dont assume that since someone is a male he will be okay with sex all the time.
I'm 15 years old, still a virgin and proud of it. I used to be in a class where some boys or girls had sex very young (like at 12-13 years old) and some of them acted like they were cool for being non-virgins and mocked other people for being one. That made me feel really uncomfortable because, back when I was in that class, I didn't even gave my first kiss and my self-steem wasn't very good and I just pretended not to be one because I was scared of being bullied. I feel so stupid for doing that to be honest.
Oh my god the exact same at my school Half the people in my year lost their virginity when they were like 12 and I'm here just like... Absolutely not And I'm absolutely terrified like I don't think I'm gonna lose it until I'm like way way older (like 19 even though that's classed as "old" ) :)
@@ashleycarolan9074 Same, I know that everyone is different and I don't want to judge anyone but in my opinion 12 is too young like I'm 15 and I still feel like a kid..
@@ashleycarolan9074 yeah, I mean anyone can lose it whenever they want but now It's like a thing to mock virgins when losing your virginity shouldn't mean anything, only to yourself. I feel like some people just do it just to feel important and not because they really want to.
@@mariaescapil4514 complete agree with you I don't personally see anything wrong with someone being a virgin even in the later years of life cuz it's their opinion and it's not something that should be frowned upon
seeing as you're mixed, i'd like too see you do a girl talk about interracial relationships and your experience in dating being mixed. like has it ever been an issue with boys in the past, or whatever advice you can give to people who are open to interracial relationships or dating a person who is mixed. being mixed myself i'm always intrigued to know the experience of another who i have that in common with. PLEEEAASSSEEE pleeeeaassseee read and consider~♥ if anyone else sees this, like so she can see pleeeeaaasssseee ♥
Good topic I'm mixed myself ,and I have a white boyfriend, and I love him but people can be down to earth rude about it! Like my school when me and my boyfriend ran for homecoming king and queen. People said they weren't going to vote for us because we're a interracial couple , and we've been made fun of because of it also but we made it threw all the rude discussions.We won homecoming king and queen and showed the haters how to love someone of a difference Race . So don't be afraid to date someone of a different race if you want to date that person do it people will talk no matter what so might as well give them something to talk about.
Not to be that ass, but there are husbands who hate the thought of kids and would bounce in the case of an unprecedented pregnancy, and there are boyfriends who would stick around and give you all the support you need. I get your school of thought, but I just really want to make sure that is not the main/only reason you want to wait. Men are a puzzle; it’s not that simple.
Samantha-M. Well, you see, here’s the thing, your partner definitely is going to know you’re a virgin so, let’s say if you want kids with them you’re not going to just tell him not to use a condom ofc you’re going to talk with them to make sure they want a child first that’s not how it works, because either way if the condom breaks then you know if you get pregnant they want a baby because y’all had a talk to make sure
That good you are making an good choice.Your husband married you because he loved you if she stays for long time it is because he wants you to be in his life.Wife who stays an virgin before marriage experience the best marriage.
I recently turned 18 and honestly I was basically telling myself "Oh, you're 18 now better lose your virginity." because everyone my age has basically already lost theirs. I think when you turn 18, your kind of almost pressuring yourself into doing it (not all girls but some). Becuase by now it just feels like I should already know about sex. But this video helped a lot. I think it's important to wait until your 100% sure you want to do it.
Ashley this comment is awesome, i’m 16, never dated anyone, still have my virginity and haven’t had a first kiss because i feel like nobody is serious about anything these days but everybody i talk to can’t relate so i feel a little pressured, but i’m not about that life, not yet anyways.
I'm in the same position, 18 and have never had a boyfriend, never even had a real first kiss, and have never had sex. I feel so weird because everyone else has and I'm in college now, so when the time does come it'll be awkward to let them know I have never had sex yet
Amazing Dancers girl u feel you I’m the same way never done anything I feel so embarrassed at times cause people always think your lying or your weird or something but it’s honestly at times such a good thing cause you have that opportunity to actually wait till your ready sooooo many girls end up regretting it.
I lost mine with my first boyfriend at almost 22. We’ve been together for 3 and a half years now and I’m soooo glad he was my first and I never wasted my time with immature boys. I felt comfortable with him and I decided when I was ready.
Ashley remember just because everyone is doing something doesn't mean its right for you! really. just wait until you feel ready girl! Whether you're 18, 30, 86, or....never! Haha.
precious dumebi - I mean this in the best way possible. I'm much more likely to subscribe to a persons channel who doesn't comment on other peoples videos promoting their channel than someone who does. It's always okay to promote your channel but I think that because this is someone else's video you should respect there channel and find another way to promote yourself. I was in your shoes once too but learned the hard way that's is best to let other people promote themselves on there videos and to promote yourself on yours. xoxo, Krista Nicole.
I value my virginity immensely. I almost lost it to a guy that I probably shouldn't have even been associated but long story short, I got him out of my life & my "cookies" remained unopened💗
I totally agree with you Boo. People can do as they please. Virginity isn't a definite variable in who we are. I have friends who have done it hundreds of times and some that havent even contemplated the idea. I wish people wouldn't shame for doing/not doing the deed.
Just turned 31 and waiting until marriage so hopefully this encourages any woman who wants to wait. It is a faith-based decision I made at 18. There should be no peer pressure, only peace of mind. My advice would be to see a gynecologist beforehand so you understand your body and how everything works.
2017 business you're gona want to obviously ,,,, its called temptation. BUT the beautiful thing about waiting is then you and you husband/wife come together you have like a gift for each other and then you Know youre disision is honored by God, cause He designed sex for a man and woman to become ons after marriage.
Zamira Campbell when you’re with someone you love it won’t matter, and if you do feel insecure then he’s not the one for you (or she cause I don’t wanna assume)
It proves that women are cursed by God because of Eve's sin (eating the forbidden fruit). As punishment, God gave women many biological weaknesses such as: 1. Painful first time intercourse. 2. Bleeding after losing virginity (if the hymen was present). 3. Virgin vagina's lack of muscle control which makes intercourse painful for her. 4. Menstrual Cramps. 5. Vaginismus, Vulvodynia and other physically painful sexual problems. 6. Painful childbirth. While men are punished with hard labor because Adam supported Eve's defiance. After Eve ate the fruit, God made women so weak that even losing virginity is painful for most women but painless for most men. I am now an enlightened man.
That’s how my bestfriend is. She keeps trying to get it over with. I keep telling her that’s not okay she needs to chill before she gets raped so I’m trying to figure out how to tell her.
@@teenage.nosferatu3297 i don't think it's a matter of getting raped or anything, you know, no matter what you do you're never asking to get raped. I understand she's your best friend and you care about her but point of view it's just different and that's okay. Many people like myself think the same way as her, so I suggest just letting her be. Hope everything turns out okay ❤️
I really needed this video to remind me that it's okay to still be a virgin. I'm 20, still a virgin & out of all of my friends I still haven't lost my virginity yet. Sometimes I feel left out but like you said it is up to me. When the time is right it'll happen. Thanks for the video.💕
Savannah Jahrmarkt Don't worry, I also went into collage not having my first kiss. In my freshmen year, this guy just kissed me unexpectedly at a social (the seniors in the frat dared the freshman to kiss someone that night) then it lost that special thing about it for me, because he just took it from me. After that I went on a kissing rampage (just like 7, don't worry haha) and only kissed one other guy while sober, the rest, not completely sober.(where I live you can be 18 to drink) I wish I can take that back now. If you feel like it is a special thing, don't let anyone take that away from you. And I suggest not kissing guys when you are drinking. lol.
I'm almost 26 and a virgin.....we do exist. Not saying it to brag or act superior as I felt bad about it for a while, but for anyone my age reading this, you aren't the only one. I felt like an outcast among my friends and peers because I hardly ever dated and was the only virgin.
26, still a virgin. Met a guy I like so much but I'm scared of the pain and honestly I think my muscles are so tight down there and it doesn't seem normal. Any advice?
My tip for virgins. Piggy backing off what you said, if you are in the position where you're about to have sex and you have even a little bit of doubt, I would say don't do it.
Kaytlan Dudek hey! Social media is made for connecting the world and making unlikely friends! And I agree I love being able to help out people on here!
yesenia Rosales yeah I think that would be a good topic x like there's so much pressure at my school to lose my virginity and date a bunch of people even tho everyone in my year is only like 15. And since I haven't lost it I feel so pressured to do since a lot of people have already :(
batata influence from members of ones peer group. When the people around you such as your friends effect your behavior or decisions, but not always in a bad way.
I’m 20 about to be 21 in October and I’m still a virgin. I don’t feel like I’m ready yet. I feel like I’ll wait til marriage, when I marry my best friend. Because when I do it I don’t wanna feel like “ why I did it “ I wanna say “ I love you” the next morning waking up to my husband.. well it’s just me but I don’t wanna feel guilty. And I’m the type of person who gotta wait years to feel comfortable with 1 Person.(: I loved this video❤️ but we all are different. It’s okay if you feel ready by 17..18..19 etc just make sure you’re doing it with someone you’re in love with.
antonia rocha thats a really good desicion i agree, virginity is so important in life like its some kind of treasure u have to keep until u find someone who u can trust and who will not leave u. Marriage is the best time for it.
I'm just scared to tell my future boyfriend that I'm still a virgin and also haven't had my first kiss yet at the age of 20... I don't want him to think I'm weird or anything. Is anyone feeling the same pressure or am I the only one?
Honestly girls, hold onto your virginity as long as you feel necessary. I was pressured to do things that I wasn’t ready for and I regret it so much. Stay strong! Xoxo
Frances O'Connor it’s always good to have this information handy because you know this information and you could also make your mind up on certain areas dealing with this❤️
I feel like virginity is such an over discussed topic for no reason, everyone has a choice and everyone loses their virginity under different circumstances. I see it as experimentation WITH someone I TRUST to experiment with my body. Others see it as something deeper (which I respect) but I feel like it shouldn’t be such a heavy topic when it’s simply something new that is introduced into people at different ages and times in their life.
Kim L I think it's because lots of people are uncomfortable with themselves and their bodies, and when someone who feels that way, loses their virginity, it's a big time in their lives. For me when I was younger, I absolutely hated myself, and I thought that no one would EVER love me, or went to... ya know with me, and when it did happen it was a big time in my life, and it made me love myself, and know that I was wanted and that I wasn't completely worthless.
Kim L it depends on where you grew up. Sex is a taboo topic where I'm from. I never got any sex ed except for my mom demonising masturbation and telling me to push any thoughts of boys from my head. (Which was fine because I'm bi haha.) So yeah, my country REALLY needs an honest open talk like this about it because religion and traditions are just so strongly followed.
Kim L It’s heavily discussed because SO many kids are getting pregnant from experimenting. I feel like sex is underestimated (probably not the right word!?), I think people are starting to forget that sex has meaning.
i dont even know how girls here in the comments at like age 15-18 have sex and not talk about how they got caught by their parents/friends. i cant even date a boy without telling my parents, i cant even go to someones house without my parents getting 100% approval. at least you all are somewhat free into doing whatever, i cant do shit.
Omg this is def my parents!! They are so overprotective about everything and I'm 14 and I doubt it's going to get better soon I feel like it's going to get worse in the next few years as I am going to drive etc omg
LMAOOOO im definitely in the group that “doesn’t really care”. i actually never seen it as a big deal to “wait until you’re married...blah blah blah” but then again its my opinion lol. i know that relationships aren’t for me sooooo im damn sure not waiting until never-uary to do the business LMAOOOO 🤷🏾♀️. i have high standards and morals! i just feel as though do it when you want and with who you want!!! it shouldn’t be as big of a deal but you should be careful:)
I am sure most of the viewers are not middle aged moms lol but I have 3 daughters and one of them who is almost 15. She talks to me about EVERYTHING. she went through some stuff when she was younger and I was told that she would possibly become active at a younger age due to it. Of course my husband & I talk to them about safe sex, drugs & alcohol...the usual stuff lol. But we are also realistic. Well my daughter has recently come to me and told me she felt she needed to be put on birth control. She said she doesn't have intentions to have sex yet but does not want to be caught up in a situation one day when feelings over take her common sense.
nameless wanderer not trying to call her out but usually when kids ask and they say that and they usually ask because there gonna do it ...from my own personal being and kids today
Bailey Michelle I asked my mother for birth control 3 years ago (still a virgin) it great for acne, hormone regulations, period regulation and mainly well birth control but her asking for it I think is really mature, she’s very self-conscious and reflected on being able to do the best with the needs she might have and not getting caught up in situations like getting pregnant or whatever
my boyfriend and i were together for a year and 5 months before we did. & it was actually a really good experience & i didn't and i don't regret it at all. i was 100% comfortable and it was because it was with the right person.
For all the people thinking they're gonna be laughed at if they don't get it done before college or smth, I'll tell you my personal experience. Not a single guy or girl made fun of the fact that i am virgin,( im saying this cause obviously we have conversations about the topic) and actually they were really mature about it,as they should be. To conclude, you can do it at whatever age you feel comfortable,no mature person is gonna judge you and why care about the immature ones :) So you do you ,live your life with your own terms. Also, it's not such a big deal tbh
@@nikkinorman4254 Thank you! It's like she discussed that it's all about what the person wants and when the person is comfortable. For someone to judge that shit because they want to wait until marriage is dumb af.
I think me being awkward about the subject has a lot to do with growing up, and how my parents,grandparents, etc. always made it seem like a bad thing.
I'm waiting for marriage. Omg thank you for this video. I love you. It helps so much that you talk openly about this, because hardly anyone does. So thanks!!!!!!!!
i'm so scared because of pain, insecurities, what if its awk, what if he think it smells, what if im not fit enough, what if it goes wrong. im so scared.
the only thing i’m worried about is awkwardness, insecurity’s, and it hurting
mole rose same same
Yea me too
If your nervous, your muscles will tense up causing it to hurt. Maybe have foreplay before getting straight into it. Good luck 🤎
Bro same. Me and my boyfriend are gonna lose our virginity on Valentine's day. I am......
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@@sofia-ig1os I kinda wanna do that too, except I'm the only virgin one in the relationship but I don't know how it will be since I'm mostly scared of it hurting and then what if I get pregnant
My mom tried to tell she didnt lose her verginity till she maried my dad...i was at her wedding
Edit: virginity* married* for the 2 people I almost killed
u adopted honey.
😂 oh no
Virginity *
SKJSKSJSKSK
1. It dont work like that
Kah
2. @Rebekah Stone right u adopted
Am i the only one who is scared of doing it cause of the way my body looks cause like sometimes theres bumps down there and i dont have a flat stomach....anyone else? Sorry for all the info..
Same. Same. Same. But u just gotta like embrace urself right, and then find a guy/girl who is like chill about all of that and is gonna be on your side, not against you.
Aileen Moreno Girl I’m scared to do it for different reasons but if you self conscious about the way your body looks and you can change it work on your self (it can be working on your mind to feel more comfortable in your body or working on your body for the same reason) I don’t mind the details as girls we have (now) a lot of information about how our bodies and psyches work and how to take care of them but you also have to feel ready feeling safe with your partner will make you more comfortable being able to see a naked body (yours as well) also prepares you for “it”.
Aileen Moreno me too x(
Yeah me too, :/ it's okay tho x
Aileen Moreno yeah
I hate it when people shame virgins. It's disgusting how many times I've seen people make fun of a virgin. 😔 To all the other virgins out there: don't let anyone shame you into doing something you're not comfortable with. And just cause you haven't had sex yet, doesn't mean your not as worthy as people who have. 💞
If you're a virgin that lasted longer you have self restraint and discipline to not mess up your love life choices.
ɪᴠʏ exactly like, just bc ur a virgin doesn’t mean your “pure” or don’t know anything about sex.
Everyones experiences are different but i think that only happens in high school. Usually teens think that having sex makes you cool I guess. When you get to your 20s and are still a virgin, people will praise you trust me 😅 which is dumb but 🤷🏻♀️. Of course if you're a teen and feel ready, go ahead (but be smart about it and take care) but, in my opinion waiting until your 20s is better and here's why I think that, and of course this might not apply to everyone, these are just things that I noticed about myself and friends: 1. the body insecurities you had in your teenage years will most likely disappear because you understand better that all bodies are different and there's nothing wrong with you, 2. Relationships in your 20s are usually more meaningful/serious so you'll be more comfortable with your partner, 3. You have more information and interest on how to take care of your self and your health.
some people make fun of me for having no boyfriend 🙃 I just don't think I'm prepared yet
Come to India you will find that every unmarried girl is a virgin
Am I the only girl that is scared the guy isn't going to like how I look down there? I feel like that's weird but that's one of the things that kinda scares me. If that makes any sense.
Jordan Smiles yes I agree I'm ready to do it its just I am just so insecure how it looks down there. Like I shave and its smooth it's just the hyper color that going on down there that i hate😳😳
Okay listen up you probably will be self conscious about it especially if youre not used to people seeing that part of you but if someone truely and genuinely likes or loves you and already wants to have sex with you then that opinion isnt going to be changed from what they see (unless theres something genuinely badly wrong and unhealthy which im sure there isnt) they will love you for who you are just the same as your face or hair or whatever if that makes sense and also at the time they probably wont even give a shit what you look like xxx
Harriet O'keefe thank you so much love !! 💕💘😊
Harriet O'keefe That is so true! Thank you!
Jordan Smiles no I'm totally like that.
am i the only one who scared to do it because its gonna hurt ?
Taylor rodgers nope you aren’t the only one
It only hurts if you’re nervous or scared because your muscles tighten up.
No 😩me too
Taylor rodgers it’ll hurt the girl more than the guy when they’re together
it doesn’t hurt for everyone don’t worry! just make sure to warm up down there with fingers before you do it and use lube xx
I’m a single dad I’m just trying to figure out how to go about the talk lol
Joey Vaughn awww
Joey Vaughn we need more dads like you, seriously you’re kids are greatful
Aww hope everything goes well
Best dressed has a video that totally explained a lot that helped me understand bc I am REALLY innocent😂my mom did a good job of explaining but my dad told me about it to, and he said it very calmly and I didn’t feel as awkward as I thought I would. Some videos or books are nice so let her know that it’s okay to watch these videos if they need to know. Not telling you how to be a parent this is just something that I feel like I’d love to hear when I got the talk
Ur kids should be grateful. U are a fantastic dad
I’m like to insecure bout my 🐱 so that’s y I’m scared..😔
poppy I RELATE TO THIS IS MUCHHH AHHHHH
Oh dont worry i think a lot of people are, im a little too and its totally normal. Youll find the right person
Girl same!
I wouldn't worry about that, if you worry about that then you're not ready to have sex in my opinion, either that or you're not with the right person if they make you doubt your body. Every person is different and beautiful in their own unique ways. Everyone's downstairs looks different, don't let that be your deciding factor. It's whatever makes you confident to say that you're beautiful just the way you are that counts. ♥️
You shouldn't be insecure! Like i said to another girl if he or she don't like you the way you are then they can go find someone else and you can just find someone better bc you are beautiful just the way you are!!!
she would be a really good mom
mackayla H I agree 100% lol
mackayla H I love her sooooo much she has helped me the so much.
Agreed.
mackayla H omg yes so true
She's too young she needs to live her life
thank you for this :) i'm 17 and still a virgin, never been in a relationship, never had my first kiss so i felt behind, but as you said, it's up to me when i lose it and no one else's opinions about it matter :)
JoieAlina_cx Girl same!I kinda feel like the odd one out at times 😭.But it's all about timing ☺
JoieAlina_cx agreed! I didn't have anything with a boy (not even kissing)until I was 17 and that was my first boyfriend ever and it felt right :) I had to deal with stupid comments from female friends and I felt odd but in the end it's the most important to care about yourself and not what others make out to be right or ""normal""
same girl. but i also don't want to rush into something i will regret later on
I'm almost 20 and I am in the same boat haha.
JoieAlina_cx same girl! I'm glad you commented this because since I'm the same age, I feel less alone of not having any of those experiences either😂😩
I feel like you would be a good mom
Holly bath haha i was just about to say it she's gonna be a great mom
Holly bath same💕💕
TRUTH
Holly bath She really would! Her future daughter is going to be super lucky!
Same
Im a dude, *BUT* Im just trying to understand what goes on in my girl's head.
Respect X bahahaha
Respect X well I could give you some advice of you need it so just comment again! But communication is the key (I know is sounds like a broken record) so just talk to her about it!
@@danorose9746 tbh that would be great
Respect X well it depends on the situation but girls generally are doing the same thing you are now. At least for me because guys can be confusing. Also depending on the girl she could be thinking when certain things will happen. Idk if you kissed her yet but we think about that a lot especially for the first time because that’s very special to us. And if you’ve been dating long term then (also depending on the girl) she could be thinking about what this video is about. Now my advice for you is just to get it our there and ask her to tell you what she’s thinking about. I know it’s awkward and hard but girls find that really attractive when a guy takes initiative like that. Again this will all depend on the girl but once you know it’s easier to figure out what she’s thunking about and it just makes the relationship stronger. (Sorry I sound like a broken record sometimes😂)
@@danorose9746 nah u sound great lol, thank you for the tips
Girl talk topic idea: Body image, self confidence, and "boy standards"
Serenaa omg that would be amazing
Yes please do " body confidence " and trying to impress boys because you feel pressured too.❤❤ love you !!
Serenaa no, it will make girls unhappy and sad, if the standards wouldn't fit them
Mihael Keehl I don't mean her telling us what we have to be for boys to like us I meant the standards that girls think we have to be and feeling self coincence about them :)
Serenaa yep 👍👍
Judgement or no judgement, I'm just gonna go and tell when I lost my virginity. I'm 15 and I lost my virginity a little under two weeks ago. I know, a lot of people say that I'm "too young" or I'm "stupid" and "irresponsible." In my opinion, losing your virginity is an important thing and it's not entirely about age. It's a lot more about when you're ready. It's when you can be 1000% confident with your decision and you're smart and using protection. Just be smart about it, be confident about it, and, my opinion again, you should lose your virginity to someone you are not going to regret losing it to. I think that's a very important part of losing your virginity and sex in general. About the actual experience, for me personally, it didn't really hurt. It was more of an odd feeling and a feeling of a lot of pressure in between my hips. Like she says in the video, not everyone bleeds but I did, personally and I bled for about 4 days. I read online that you can bleed for up to a week but it wasn't heavy bleeding. I didn't cry or yell or anything during actually losing it. The more you think about it and the more tense you are, it will most likely hurt more due to your muscles being tense and tighter than usual. Just breathe and be comfortable. Never feel weird about asking him to stop or to wait a minute so you can adjust. If you need to adjust or you wanna stop all together, girl, that's fine. But if you're not comfortable and you're having doubts, it's without a doubt fine. If you read this whole comment, you're the real MVP and thank you lmao. Have an amazing day. 💜
xdHermosa 15 is the average age. Stay safe ok
Thank you for that...
You’re all good, most people in my class lost theirs at 12/13. As long as you’re ready it doesn’t matter
Meanwhile I’m 20 and barely been kissed
I read the whole thing💜
i didn't choose to wait 86 years, i just know it's probably going to take me 86 years
I am 17 and I never had a boyfriend, like I never kissed someone or was in a relationship and some people are rly shocked when I tell them ... and it actually really pisses me off
finally i found someone else in the same situation (i'm also 16 btw). i've never really been in love or had a crush on someone in real life either, only when i was younger but it wasn't something serious of course because i was still young and immature and didn't know what love felt like. now i'm suddenly 16, turning 17 this year and everyone has a boyfriend, had their first kiss, lost their virginity and i'm still here like?? when will it happen to me?
Don't even think about that . Everybody's different, right? But be careful when you choose the person . Not meant to scare you. I'm 16 and I'm in my second relationship. It's been 8 months and he respects me so much . If I'm not ready and he knows it he doesn't even talk about it. He waits for me to feel ready . I hope you find a person who really loves and respects you. xoxo
I was in your situation when I was 16. Well, I had been kissed but it was by guys I didn't like and they were desperate to find a girl. Now at 17 almost 18, I found someone that I truly love..so wait a little! I'm sure you'll find the one
I’m 14 and a lot of my friends have had their first kiss and boyfriends and I’ve had none
Same here... And I'm 16 too
This girl is very smart.
repent Jesus is coming soon
No sex before marriage
Tavonga Donly it don’t work like that for everyone
it's me annah ikr!!!
Well ofc she is, she's a girl 😂👏
I'm 18, but you're like a big sister. Love these girl talks.
She’s so open-minded. This is exactly how I want to talk to my daughter about virginity.
Yeah same. But I feel like my daughter if I had one wouldn't want to talk about it. Because I am 14 now and I wouldn't want my mother to talk to me about that
Nelly P samee
Nelly P i think it depends on ur relationship w ur daughter. if u were really close like friends close, i’m sure she’d be comfortable
Kari The Light This is exactly how I wish my mother would have talked to me about it because this is exactly how I will talk to my kids. Instead my mom compared me losing my virginity to doing “damage” and made a bunch of assumptions about why I did it and who I did it with even tho she never had and will never meet the guy. All I wanted her to tell me was it was okay, I was comfortable and happy with who I decided to do it with, I was safe, and I was content with the timing. She was extremely bothered by what I did with my body and said if I open my legs too fast to a man he will never take me serious. I pray I don’t become that mom to try and dictate what my child does with their body or make them feel like I am disappointed in them for making that decision. I would just want my children to be safe and never regretful of their decision, to not be coerced into doing something but doing it because THEY want to do it. Doing it with someone they trust and with no doubts in their mind because it’s something that can’t be taken back.
You can just show her this video
I haven’t even had my first kiss yet soooo 😐😐
Hahah me either!! I am 17!!...I just kissed someone on truth or dare....but it was nothing...
I’m nearly 14 and still haven’t had my first kiss😩
I'm 20 and still in a state of dilemma
Babyyy Tomato3 i had mine today oop-
(I am 13 btw)
i had my first kiss when i was 16😭
I lost my virginity at 16. I remember being so ready for it. But my boyfriend at the time completely rushed it & made me feel like he just wanted to get it over with. Not only that but my mum caught us. After that I was traumatized that I didn't want to have sex again till 3 years later with my current boyfriend. He is an amazing lover that a part of me wishes I lost my virginity to him instead of my ex.
She's right about the regret, it never truly leaves you.
Yeah he was. He was a virgin too
Right he rushed for me too mainly because he wasn't a virgin but he rushed it and that made the first time hurt but u kinda get used to it after a while
At least u lost it. It really doesn’t mean anything to me I just wanna lose it already
@@potatoesandtomatoes6817 if it really didn't mean anything to you. You would not care if you lost it or not. Personally, I think it has a tendency to speak poorly about one's sense of selfworth if they jump into bed with anyone.
James Roscoe if someone wants to sleep with anyone then it doesn’t effect you,, like it’s their life and as long as they are being safe and not hurting anyone. You shouldn’t judge people or try to discourage people from doing what they want
Girl Talk Topic: What happens after 18 & how to lead yourself in the right directions 🙌🏽
SundaiK yes amazing topic
SundaiK YES
YES👐
SundaiK pleasee omg 🙏🏽
Ok please
me : “ ugh she’s so pretty “ *subscribes*
Meeeee xD
MOOD
LMAO
Lmao sameeee! 😂
Lol same 😂
I'm a virgin because I never lose 😎
Ya no ur trying too hard bruh bi
Omg Loser
lool
LOOOOOL ICONNNN
😂😂ima use that
86 years it is
Nugget :3 I rather have it dry, no man wants an exhausted soul. After I have slept with, James, Bobby,mark etc and then nothing left for my husband. 🤷
jo Lady love" it)
jo Lady same hahahhaha
She said 86 days not years🙄🙄
Rosemary Moore-Cooper Are you Deaf? she said years and days you need to have your ears checked out because you definitely have an hearing problem, listen before you speak 😐 am sick and tired of people like you Listen before you Speak!!! Jesus!!!!
If she ever had children they would be very lucky
TRUE!!!!
Undoubtedly
HAIR 😍😍😍
Takara Oneá is she Hillary from Fresh Prince of Bel Air?????
Takara Oneá omg i love your videos!!
hey teeks! i know i was like OH my gawd her hair is so beautiful
she does look similar but i think she would look a little older if she was her.
Tori Kelly vibesss
Roses are red
Violets are blue
yay i got a like!
but why is it blue?
😂😂
I love this too much🤣🤣🤣
Fuck off
Roses are red
Violets are blue
Stop copying comments
You’re really not cool
It's not blue...
*ahhh love ur hair*
Your beautiful
Ikr
Totally off topic but Yas :o
Your curls are POPPIN in this video PLLLLLZZZ do an updated curly hair routine
Makayla Mack YES!
Makayla Mack she has plenty of them...
Heavenlee joy I know... but I just want to see what she is doing to her hair now
Makayla Mack Yeah. It changes a lot. we need an update! ☺️
Makayla Mack YEEEES
Off topic your hair looks pillow soft
the only thing i’m scared of is the guy acting like he cares, but then when i’m ready, he won’t be gentle and won’t make sure i’m ok and comfortable so i’ll hurt
then you punch him in the throat
@@cyaragarcia9408 😂😂😂😂 damn right
Saaameee
Wish this video came out before I lost mine. I was pressured into losing my virginity and then I got dropped two days later. Which led to me being depressed. Just wait until you're ready girls and guys and it's on your terms because there's no point in losing yourself so that someone else can be happy.
CrazyNakia this is *exactly* what happened me .. he stopped talking to me after 2 days and i was really stressed about it but i guess it'll be okay because he was messing with my happiness anyway
Same here. I really wish there were more talks like this when I was 16
CrazyNakia same exact thing happened to me too, except we broke up 2 weeks later which was before our anniversary .. he got a new girl after 4 days and broke up with her after 2 months lol, some guys just aren't worth it
CrazyNakia this happened to me too , honestly wish I waited .
CrazyNakia I feel so bad that is terrible it's ok i bet your amazing
Lisette is honestly one of the most beautiful and down to earth girls on TH-cam 😩💕 thank you for spreading the message that it's all about personal comfort
ily!!!
Luhhsetty your videos are so amazing lysm luhsette I am in awe of your videos ❤❤❤❤
Akilah Williams yesss !!
I feel some of these girl talks should be labelled “let’s talk” cause I feel guys have to be educated about the female body too. I know this is controversial, but what do you think?
Jaee Ponde I don't agree
I agree
I agree. I think this is definitely directed towards girls because this is for their point of view but a guy could definitely watch this to understand how they feel and things they might be worried about to help someones first time feel more comfortable.
Love your profile picture
Jaee Ponde I see your point, but a lot of these videos aren’t for guys, it is directed for their POV
idk why I'm here I'm gay
SJSKSKKS IF THIS AINT MY GAY ASS
you dou know you can still lose your virginity right ;p
Strap onsssssssss 🤷🏻♀️
RIGHTOMFKSKSKS
Mood😂
I lost my virginity not too long ago... My boyfriend and I were together for 5 months. We both were virgins and we both agreed to it, we both waited and we were ready for it at that time. It was a really special moment and we trust each other a lot. I can’t believe how close we became to each other afterwards. We were close before but this really made us connect! It doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone will become closer to their partners but that’s what happened to us. I love how and who I lost my virginity with and I wouldn’t change a thing. No regrets!
Anna Wang that’s actually really cute
Isabella Higueras tbhhh
U better marry him lmao
I’m jk
Thats so cute honey💕💕
that’s so sweettt :)
a guy just made me feel really bad about being a virgin at 20 years old. i was crying all night. thank you for this video. 💘
hanlo lo we have been talking for like a week, and he asked me if i was a virgin, and i didn't want to tell him but he kept pushing the question and saying "come on, u really aren't a virgin are u :/", "how old are you again," and "its really awkward and bad to have sex with a virgin if u are just saying" he did say it wasn't a problem if i was but like idk i felt what he said was really rude and insensitive.
hanlo lo i know ): thank you.
This guy sounds like a douche bag.
Lynn Rossi omfg can I slap him in his face
Joshua52391 he really is. :/
I'm 25...never had sex or even a kiss...LOL.. There are couples in my circle of friends and they never talk about sex when I'm around because they are thinking that I might feel bad about being the only virgin in the group.. I was like "whut? I really don't mind! Hahhahaha" I don't know when I'm going to do "it" but I hope it's with the person I love. Thank you so much for this talk. I can feel that you can be a very good adviser or mother in the future...and you're soooo pretty!
Heidi Matsumoto you'll find that person one day 💪
This should not be rude but not even a kiss? Whutt
Heidi Matsumoto same I’m 22 not a kiss or sex 😂 that’s fine i like it that way until I find the right man 😂😂
RAT WAK ... Thank you!!! I hope so!
Delena Stelena .. Yeah.. not even a kiss on the lips... Well, one high school friend of mine suddenly kissed me on the cheeks when we were teens.. just because he wanted to be the first to kiss me and my first boyfriend (I was 16 then.. we broke up when I was 18 and I'm still single until now LOL) was never able to kiss me! HAHAHHAAH
You’re the big sister every girl needs❤️
Rachel Dawson i agree
I completely agree!
I turn 24 in a week and a half and I’m still a Virgin!! 🦄
I'm nearly 27 and I never had sexual intercourse.
Turned 26. And same. Never had a single kiss.😂
Btw you're so beautiful nakayala😍
This is making me feel so much better. IM NOT ALONE!!!!
Danm
This is so ironic, you always post certain topics that i need in the exact same time i need them😭
Maddy Hemmo It's a sign!
Maddy Hemmo Girl same :/
Maddy Hemmo literally same omg
Can i just say it is not all up to the girl. If you are wanting to loose it and the boy isn't ready please don't push him. Some people feel very insicure and it works like that for both genders.
Edit: wow you lot liked the shit out of this haha btw I don't label my gender just to clarify
You know, I never really thought about it like that.... I generally don't try and force people to do anything they don't want, but I guess I always imagined that he would just be ready and okay with it and so would I.
Thank you for pointing that out.
I assumed that the guy would be ok with losing his virginity.. But not all guys are ok with it I guess, I think that if your going to lose your virginity in a relationship, you both should agree when your ready
Exactly. You need to be respectful with people, even if you're feeling all hot and bothered. Some guys are a little more smooth and persuasive, some guys are kinky and aggressive, while some are more patient and gentle. Both parties still need to show respect for eachother and themselves.
I'm so glad this comment exists 🙏🙌
That's true, one of my guy friends was pressured into it,because she thought that since he is a boy he would definitely want sex. Please yall don't assume like ever, he dealed with some deep shit for a couple of years, because he felt like he was not the master of his self. Just please dont assume that since someone is a male he will be okay with sex all the time.
I'm 15 years old, still a virgin and proud of it. I used to be in a class where some boys or girls had sex very young (like at 12-13 years old) and some of them acted like they were cool for being non-virgins and mocked other people for being one.
That made me feel really uncomfortable because, back when I was in that class, I didn't even gave my first kiss and my self-steem wasn't very good and I just pretended not to be one because I was scared of being bullied. I feel so stupid for doing that to be honest.
Oh my god the exact same at my school
Half the people in my year lost their virginity when they were like 12 and I'm here just like... Absolutely not
And I'm absolutely terrified like I don't think I'm gonna lose it until I'm like way way older (like 19 even though that's classed as "old" ) :)
@@ashleycarolan9074 Same, I know that everyone is different and I don't want to judge anyone but in my opinion 12 is too young like I'm 15 and I still feel like a kid..
@@mariaescapil4514 same I'm not one to judge but just personally I'd rather not :(
@@ashleycarolan9074 yeah, I mean anyone can lose it whenever they want but now It's like a thing to mock virgins when losing your virginity shouldn't mean anything, only to yourself. I feel like some people just do it just to feel important and not because they really want to.
@@mariaescapil4514 complete agree with you I don't personally see anything wrong with someone being a virgin even in the later years of life cuz it's their opinion and it's not something that should be frowned upon
i really really enjoy those kinda topics. because no one is talking about it but i think its actually pretty important to do that. so thank u
seeing as you're mixed, i'd like too see you do a girl talk about interracial relationships and your experience in dating being mixed. like has it ever been an issue with boys in the past, or whatever advice you can give to people who are open to interracial relationships or dating a person who is mixed. being mixed myself i'm always intrigued to know the experience of another who i have that in common with. PLEEEAASSSEEE pleeeeaassseee read and consider~♥
if anyone else sees this, like so she can see pleeeeaaasssseee ♥
sjesse18 YESSSSS LISETTE PLEASE!!!!
sjesse18 YES definitely! I was literally thinking about interracial relationships the other day. I am mixed too and it would help a lot :)
sjesse18 literally me I'm mixed and get judged if I date a race and not the other
Good topic I'm mixed myself ,and I have a white boyfriend, and I love him but people can be down to earth rude about it! Like my school when me and my boyfriend ran for homecoming king and queen. People said they weren't going to vote for us because we're a interracial couple , and we've been made fun of because of it also but we made it threw all the rude discussions.We won homecoming king and queen and showed the haters how to love someone of a difference Race . So don't be afraid to date someone of a different race if you want to date that person do it people will talk no matter what so might as well give them something to talk about.
sjesse18 i'm your 100 like
In my opinion I'm going to wait until I'm married, so I know that if I get pregnant I will have support from him❤️
Not to be that ass, but there are husbands who hate the thought of kids and would bounce in the case of an unprecedented pregnancy, and there are boyfriends who would stick around and give you all the support you need. I get your school of thought, but I just really want to make sure that is not the main/only reason you want to wait. Men are a puzzle; it’s not that simple.
Samantha-M. Well, you see, here’s the thing, your partner definitely is going to know you’re a virgin so, let’s say if you want kids with them you’re not going to just tell him not to use a condom ofc you’re going to talk with them to make sure they want a child first that’s not how it works, because either way if the condom breaks then you know if you get pregnant they want a baby because y’all had a talk to make sure
R Glennon aww same
That good you are making an good choice.Your husband married you because he loved you if she stays for long time it is because he wants you to be in his life.Wife who stays an virgin before marriage experience the best marriage.
R Glennon couldn't agree more
I love how she thinks before she speaks. A lot of TH-camrs and people in general don’t do that. Good for her 👏
I recently turned 18 and honestly I was basically telling myself "Oh, you're 18 now better lose your virginity." because everyone my age has basically already lost theirs. I think when you turn 18, your kind of almost pressuring yourself into doing it (not all girls but some). Becuase by now it just feels like I should already know about sex. But this video helped a lot. I think it's important to wait until your 100% sure you want to do it.
Ashley this comment is awesome, i’m 16, never dated anyone, still have my virginity and haven’t had a first kiss because i feel like nobody is serious about anything these days but everybody i talk to can’t relate so i feel a little pressured, but i’m not about that life, not yet anyways.
I'm in the same position, 18 and have never had a boyfriend, never even had a real first kiss, and have never had sex. I feel so weird because everyone else has and I'm in college now, so when the time does come it'll be awkward to let them know I have never had sex yet
Amazing Dancers girl u feel you I’m the same way never done anything I feel so embarrassed at times cause people always think your lying or your weird or something but it’s honestly at times such a good thing cause you have that opportunity to actually wait till your ready sooooo many girls end up regretting it.
I lost mine with my first boyfriend at almost 22. We’ve been together for 3 and a half years now and I’m soooo glad he was my first and I never wasted my time with immature boys. I felt comfortable with him and I decided when I was ready.
Ashley remember just because everyone is doing something doesn't mean its right for you! really. just wait until you feel ready girl! Whether you're 18, 30, 86, or....never! Haha.
gosh i love your hair
Same
Me too!
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Um girl , why dont you have over a million subs??? You totally deserve it. The most down to earth girl❣️
precious dumebi - I mean this in the best way possible. I'm much more likely to subscribe to a persons channel who doesn't comment on other peoples videos promoting their channel than someone who does. It's always okay to promote your channel but I think that because this is someone else's video you should respect there channel and find another way to promote yourself. I was in your shoes once too but learned the hard way that's is best to let other people promote themselves on there videos and to promote yourself on yours. xoxo, Krista Nicole.
🤔yee she dise
I value my virginity immensely. I almost lost it to a guy that I probably shouldn't have even been associated but long story short, I got him out of my life & my "cookies" remained unopened💗
Good for you!👍😁 thats amazing!!😄
I love how you said that your cookies stayed unopened.. Lol😆
Lmao.
YAY and even when that special person is PRIVILEGED to EARN some of your cookies, just remember you are not losing innocence, just sexual naivety.
Amazinggg I value mine too soo muchh
Cookies? I’m sorry I don’t understand I shouldn’t even be here I’m 11
I totally agree with you Boo. People can do as they please. Virginity isn't a definite variable in who we are. I have friends who have done it hundreds of times and some that havent even contemplated the idea. I wish people wouldn't shame for doing/not doing the deed.
Ang R Totally agree.
Ang R if I did it my mom would kill me...and if she seen me in heaven she would kill me again😂😂😂
Ang R I agree. My friend, who hasn't done it before, has a few friends who has done many times
Just turned 31 and waiting until marriage so hopefully this encourages any woman who wants to wait. It is a faith-based decision I made at 18. There should be no peer pressure, only peace of mind. My advice would be to see a gynecologist beforehand so you understand your body and how everything works.
Minimal Assembly oMg you're a virgin at 31
2017 business that's her decision 🙄
Minimal Assembly YESSSSW IM ALSO WAITING
2017 business you're gona want to obviously ,,,, its called temptation. BUT the beautiful thing about waiting is then you and you husband/wife come together you have like a gift for each other and then you Know youre disision is honored by God, cause He designed sex for a man and woman to become ons after marriage.
Same I’m 18 still pure as can be 👏🏼🙂
You're honestly the only person I will watch about girl talks
GlamXo same
I’m scared that it’s gonna hurt and be awkward and that I’m going to be insecure about my body
Zamira Campbell when you’re with someone you love it won’t matter, and if you do feel insecure then he’s not the one for you (or she cause I don’t wanna assume)
It proves that women are cursed by God because of Eve's sin (eating the forbidden fruit). As punishment, God gave women many biological weaknesses such as:
1. Painful first time intercourse.
2. Bleeding after losing virginity (if the hymen was present).
3. Virgin vagina's lack of muscle control which makes intercourse painful for her.
4. Menstrual Cramps.
5. Vaginismus, Vulvodynia and other physically painful sexual problems.
6. Painful childbirth.
While men are punished with hard labor because Adam supported Eve's defiance. After Eve ate the fruit, God made women so weak that even losing virginity is painful for most women but painless for most men. I am now an enlightened man.
Kinda unpopular opinion but I kinda just wanna loose it and forget about it and loose it to someone who I’ll probably not see again
I see where you’re coming from though at the end of the day it’s your body u can do what u want with it x
That’s how my bestfriend is. She keeps trying to get it over with. I keep telling her that’s not okay she needs to chill before she gets raped so I’m trying to figure out how to tell her.
Camille Ross same like i would feel weird seeing the person i lost it to every day like at school or something
Same ugh
@@teenage.nosferatu3297 i don't think it's a matter of getting raped or anything, you know, no matter what you do you're never asking to get raped. I understand she's your best friend and you care about her but point of view it's just different and that's okay. Many people like myself think the same way as her, so I suggest just letting her be. Hope everything turns out okay ❤️
You slay my life! I love your hair!!!😍
Yass
yaaaass girl thank u for this and having the courage to help us out
Why is today all about sex 😂🤔? Hank on Vlogbrothers just uploaded a video called, "On Condom Failure."
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Am I the only one who wants to lose her virginity but don’t do it because you’re afraid if your parents discover it?
You're not alone((
Me too
valeria romero yes yes yes exactly I’m terrified of my mom beating me or sum 😂😂
@@izzyb6278 exactlyyy
valeria romero I was the same way and honestly it just happens when it happens that’s all I can really say about that
I really needed this video to remind me that it's okay to still be a virgin. I'm 20, still a virgin & out of all of my friends I still haven't lost my virginity yet. Sometimes I feel left out but like you said it is up to me. When the time is right it'll happen. Thanks for the video.💕
Ty- Vibe yessss same!
Ty- Vibe same here! Never dated or kissed a guy while sober. I've been feeling so pathetic about it but that doesn't have to be the case
Ty- Vibe I feel this! I just started college and I'm 18 but haven't had my first kiss yet!
Savannah Jahrmarkt Don't worry, I also went into collage not having my first kiss. In my freshmen year, this guy just kissed me unexpectedly at a social (the seniors in the frat dared the freshman to kiss someone that night) then it lost that special thing about it for me, because he just took it from me. After that I went on a kissing rampage (just like 7, don't worry haha) and only kissed one other guy while sober, the rest, not completely sober.(where I live you can be 18 to drink) I wish I can take that back now. If you feel like it is a special thing, don't let anyone take that away from you. And I suggest not kissing guys when you are drinking. lol.
Bryanna Walley Same girl, don't worry.
I'm almost 26 and a virgin.....we do exist. Not saying it to brag or act superior as I felt bad about it for a while, but for anyone my age reading this, you aren't the only one. I felt like an outcast among my friends and peers because I hardly ever dated and was the only virgin.
J no I in
Same here i'm 23 and no boyfriend and everyone (family and friends); tease me about it, I just hope to find someone
26, still a virgin. Met a guy I like so much but I'm scared of the pain and honestly I think my muscles are so tight down there and it doesn't seem normal. Any advice?
yup 25. same here!
Im 24 and a virgin lmao. I scare of first sex pain.
You are legit THE prettiest girl I have ever seen💕💕 u slay🤩
I'm 19 still i haven't had my first kiss 😂......
SAAAME
18 & same
I just turn 20 same i feel old omg
Same
Same 😂
In my head I was singing, "Let's talk about sex baby! Let's talk about you and me." Anyways I love you Luhhsetty. Thank you for this video.💛💛
Let's talk about sex baby. Lets talk about luhhsetty.
Lola B i was ur 100th like yayyy
Lola B I WAS SINGING THAT SONG BEFORE I READ IT
Lola B yess I love sex with my mate of course
Lola B be my girl
My tip for virgins. Piggy backing off what you said, if you are in the position where you're about to have sex and you have even a little bit of doubt, I would say don't do it.
This.
Yes! Agree 100%
Omg why are u so pretty
Victoria Manning because.... I got nothing. She is just natural I guess
yep she is
Ik😍
I love you
I love the way you handled hygiene
I love your tutorials
they are so good and important to me
thumbs up baby
Try not to use the Lord’s name in vain pls :)
Yo, my favorite comment section in the WORLD
Hailey Gardner facts
Kaytlan Dudek hey! Social media is made for connecting the world and making unlikely friends! And I agree I love being able to help out people on here!
Kaytlan Dudek the most wholesome comment section i’ve seen, even if the topic is sex 😅
😂😂
@@danorose9746 yes!!!
You should talk about peer pressure next !!!!!
yesenia Rosales that's a good idea !
yesenia Rosales yeah I think that would be a good topic x like there's so much pressure at my school to lose my virginity and date a bunch of people even tho everyone in my year is only like 15. And since I haven't lost it I feel so pressured to do since a lot of people have already :(
batata influence from members of ones peer group. When the people around you such as your friends effect your behavior or decisions, but not always in a bad way.
batata BATATA
yesenia Rosales yeaaaah
Your hair looks amazing 😍😍
thank you!!
Luhhsetty you're welcome 😇
Luhhsetty I don't be in a relationship right now I wanna focus on school I want my hair grow longer and curly healthier I wanna take care of my hair
Jamie Fortenberry same girl
Jamie Fortenberry Thats my aim too. love myself up, you know? Take care of myself, get good grades and then probably get into a relationship. ..
I’m 20 about to be 21 in October and I’m still a virgin. I don’t feel like I’m ready yet. I feel like I’ll wait til marriage, when I marry my best friend. Because when I do it I don’t wanna feel like “ why I did it “ I wanna say “ I love you” the next morning waking up to my husband.. well it’s just me but I don’t wanna feel guilty. And I’m the type of person who gotta wait years to feel comfortable with 1 Person.(: I loved this video❤️ but we all are different. It’s okay if you feel ready by 17..18..19 etc just make sure you’re doing it with someone you’re in love with.
antonia rocha thats a really good desicion i agree, virginity is so important in life like its some kind of treasure u have to keep until u find someone who u can trust and who will not leave u. Marriage is the best time for it.
Antoñita Rocha that’s exactly how I feel!!
That good your an beautiful rare treasure like an diamond.
the fact that you are still virgin is amazing to me because it shows how much you respect yourself.
@@melisarucogoza5850 virgins femeals are beautiful queens who deserve the best they are like diamonds rare but precious
Her: If you're uncomfortable with saying sex...
Me: Sex "Giggles"
Her: And If you laugh, this is not the video for you.
Also Me: *Continues to watch*
Strangest Weirdo you kinda deserved that tho
Lmao😂😂😂
Lmao me in 5th grade
People who laugh at the word sex are so immature
The word makes me uncomfortable since my past relationships were toxic but I wanna move on lol
I'm just scared to tell my future boyfriend that I'm still a virgin and also haven't had my first kiss yet at the age of 20... I don't want him to think I'm weird or anything. Is anyone feeling the same pressure or am I the only one?
Jolien Coppens It's ironic that they would actually prefer that you had prior relationships. That's pretty ironic!
I feel the same , and i'm 21 ... 22 soon .
you are not alone
Jolien Coppens I'm 22 a Virgin and never Kiss a Guy
Sameeee. 20, virgin and still haven't kissed anyone 🙊
I feel exactly the same . I'm 23
Honestly girls, hold onto your virginity as long as you feel necessary. I was pressured to do things that I wasn’t ready for and I regret it so much. Stay strong! Xoxo
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Pregnancy scares would be a good girl talk/story time
im literally not planning on losing my virginity anytime soon what am I doing
Lmao me watching this, preparing myself for when I do plan to lose it
Frances O'Connor it’s always good to have this information handy because you know this information and you could also make your mind up on certain areas dealing with this❤️
that’s what i said too, and here i am now i-
Same 😂
Honestly how she handled this situation is so mature I love how open she is and how she's so kind. Keep making videos love you 😜😘
I feel like virginity is such an over discussed topic for no reason, everyone has a choice and everyone loses their virginity under different circumstances. I see it as experimentation WITH someone I TRUST to experiment with my body. Others see it as something deeper (which I respect) but I feel like it shouldn’t be such a heavy topic when it’s simply something new that is introduced into people at different ages and times in their life.
Kimoni Jay I completely agree
Kim L I think it's because lots of people are uncomfortable with themselves and their bodies, and when someone who feels that way, loses their virginity, it's a big time in their lives. For me when I was younger, I absolutely hated myself, and I thought that no one would EVER love me, or went to... ya know with me, and when it did happen it was a big time in my life, and it made me love myself, and know that I was wanted and that I wasn't completely worthless.
Honestly I agree!!
Kim L it depends on where you grew up. Sex is a taboo topic where I'm from. I never got any sex ed except for my mom demonising masturbation and telling me to push any thoughts of boys from my head. (Which was fine because I'm bi haha.)
So yeah, my country REALLY needs an honest open talk like this about it because religion and traditions are just so strongly followed.
Kim L It’s heavily discussed because SO many kids are getting pregnant from experimenting. I feel like sex is underestimated (probably not the right word!?), I think people are starting to forget that sex has meaning.
i dont even know how girls here in the comments at like age 15-18 have sex and not talk about how they got caught by their parents/friends. i cant even date a boy without telling my parents, i cant even go to someones house without my parents getting 100% approval. at least you all are somewhat free into doing whatever, i cant do shit.
I feel you, my parents are still kind of like this and I’m 19!!! It’ll get better as you get older :-)
Just remember that you’re not alone
Omg this is def my parents!! They are so overprotective about everything and I'm 14 and I doubt it's going to get better soon I feel like it's going to get worse in the next few years as I am going to drive etc omg
zoë 지혜 i know my parents are like that too, but im grateful tho because i avoided lots of bad situations just by listening to them ❤️
Syngnathidae Antheia so true im 15 and just by obeying my parents i avoided lots of bad situations ❤️
LMAOOOO im definitely in the group that “doesn’t really care”. i actually never seen it as a big deal to “wait until you’re married...blah blah blah” but then again its my opinion lol. i know that relationships aren’t for me sooooo im damn sure not waiting until never-uary to do the business LMAOOOO 🤷🏾♀️. i have high standards and morals! i just feel as though do it when you want and with who you want!!! it shouldn’t be as big of a deal but you should be careful:)
samee :)
i love your energy, go queen! 💗
amourkaddia I agree with you and I’m like that too. Honestly for me when it happens it happens
I feel the same way , like why does it have to be such a big deal
do a girl talk on self confidence!
Cali Lynn true
Cali Lynn OMG yass beochh
I am sure most of the viewers are not middle aged moms lol but I have 3 daughters and one of them who is almost 15. She talks to me about EVERYTHING. she went through some stuff when she was younger and I was told that she would possibly become active at a younger age due to it. Of course my husband & I talk to them about safe sex, drugs & alcohol...the usual stuff lol. But we are also realistic. Well my daughter has recently come to me and told me she felt she needed to be put on birth control. She said she doesn't have intentions to have sex yet but does not want to be caught up in a situation one day when feelings over take her common sense.
nameless wanderer not trying to call her out but usually when kids ask and they say that and they usually ask because there gonna do it ...from my own personal being and kids today
Bailey Michelle I asked my mother for birth control 3 years ago (still a virgin) it great for acne, hormone regulations, period regulation and mainly well birth control but her asking for it I think is really mature, she’s very self-conscious and reflected on being able to do the best with the needs she might have and not getting caught up in situations like getting pregnant or whatever
Or unprepared for “it”... 👌🏽👍🏽
L-M -S-Rs I take it for endy and yea I understand where your coming from
@i'm just saying what a responsible and honest daughter lol. but srsly, u should be proud! thats awesome!
You seriously are so mature, like I can't even explain how much you inspire me and how much you help me. Thank you so much for every video you do😊
*Girl talk idea* : Makeup and easy cute outfit ideas (things to help a girl feel more pretty)
You’re so mature and intelligent. You literally answered all of my questions
sameeee
You should make a girl talk about body confidence
Vicky Pinedo yasss
my boyfriend and i were together for a year and 5 months before we did. & it was actually a really good experience & i didn't and i don't regret it at all. i was 100% comfortable and it was because it was with the right person.
Ratchet Banana did it hurt, that's really the most thing I'm scared about
Adara Johnson same
Adara Johnson same every time I try it feels uncomfortable ruins the mood & I just stop. :(
She should do a podcast with girl talks
How to glow up & survive your "awkward stage."
Puberty.
La•Di•Da Beauty YES
Omg when she said she had the image of there being blood everywhere I was like sammmee bc I was thinking the same thing
Kathryn Owen me too!
Try not to use the Lord’s name in vain pls :)
she never said god and she may not be religious just saying...
Brianna Ibanez not sure how it's in vain
kate_ 0836 same
Why am I questioning my virginity when I'm literally 12
Heidi Sugars sameee but I’m 13😂😂😂
Im 15 turning 16 and i know for sure i dont want it 😂✌🏼
Heidi Sugars saammee. why am I even here?
Same im 13 though
Bluu sexuality is what u like ...like boys or girls ...but I think she means like whether or when she should Loose it lol
For all the people thinking they're gonna be laughed at if they don't get it done before college or smth, I'll tell you my personal experience. Not a single guy or girl made fun of the fact that i am virgin,( im saying this cause obviously we have conversations about the topic) and actually they were really mature about it,as they should be. To conclude, you can do it at whatever age you feel comfortable,no mature person is gonna judge you and why care about the immature ones :) So you do you ,live your life with your own terms. Also, it's not such a big deal tbh
she looks so bomb
I'm waiting until I get married because I don't want to give that away to someone I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with.
You look 11. Your current thoughts will change
@@lindseytaylor3793 you look 15 (am i right i wanna know )
222222 p that’s not even me in the pic lmao
@@lindseytaylor3793 Leave her alone. If she wants to do that, just let her. You don't gotta be so extra
@@nikkinorman4254 Thank you! It's like she discussed that it's all about what the person wants and when the person is comfortable. For someone to judge that shit because they want to wait until marriage is dumb af.
Lisette is one of the most realistic TH-camrs keep doing what you do.
Dachelle Joseph ❤️❤️
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I think me being awkward about the subject has a lot to do with growing up, and how my parents,grandparents, etc. always made it seem like a bad thing.
I'm waiting for marriage. Omg thank you for this video. I love you. It helps so much that you talk openly about this, because hardly anyone does. So thanks!!!!!!!!
Chloe Hoffman I'm waiting on marriage to
I am too!!
Same. 😊
Chloe Hoffman am also waiting for marriage 🙏🏼🌹
Thanks God, there are still normal girls who don't spread their legs at the age of 16...
This is why you are my favorite TH-camr ever ❤
Jauregui's Wife true
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Does anyone else think she looks like Madeline from Everything Everything?
Omg yasss
Juliana Gomez yes lol
THEYRE INDENTICAL
Juliana Gomez no she looks absolutely nothing like mandala steinberg
Kaliah Hill deadass
i'm so scared because of pain, insecurities, what if its awk, what if he think it smells, what if im not fit enough, what if it goes wrong. im so scared.