To all the ladies who havent been with a guy: please don't worry or rush into it. Most men arent good at *it* and having a partner who loves and cherishes you is WAY more important. Stay safe and happy girlies
I'm a guy, but when I wasn't ready to have sex I literally told my boyfriend straight on "Hey I'm not ready" and he just said it was okay. That's the ONLY acceptable answer. Do NOT let anyone pressure you :(
I had a pretty good first time- it DID last 2 mins but i dont have any complains. However it was ruined later by finding out he was cheating in that time so if it makes you feel better know that even good first times can become horrible later 🥲😅
my first time was awful lol, my bf at the time struggled to get it in and it was so painful and i was bleeding all over the place. i was comfortable and ready but my hymen said not todayy
The trick to shaving without getting razor bumps is to shave WITH the grain!! Shave downwards, if you are starting from the top (towards your belly button) shave downwards towards your lips, then shave from your inner thigh towards your labia. I NEVER get razor bumps when shaving like this. If I were to do it the way she explained she does I’d probably have loads of scars from ingrown hairs!!
@@gracecoyne3851 maybe your razor is dull? maybe you’re simply sensitive? it could be many reasons. in that case i would recommend a calming lotion to use afterwards.
As a girl, I was with a guy who was pressuring me to go on birth control so he could take my v card. Now, im with a guy who constantly asks to binge shows with me and prefers that over sex. Upgrades girlies!
it feels like everyone knows exactly what they need to do to take perfect care of their face and private parts and it’s honestly overwhelming to me i feel v lost
Uff, feel that. I think what works best for me is actually just applying normal moisturizer to my face every day and for the privates... my bf doesn't mind if I'm shaven or not so I just let the bush be a happy little bush xD Just make sure it's not smelly or sweaty, but that's really easy if you shower regularly. :D
yep seconded - people only know cos of a lot of trial and a lot of error too - i've got some stuff down pat but its taken yeeeaaars to figure out what works for me
For the private parts-- girlie literally dont do anything to them, just wash with water and NOTHING ELSE. Let her be natural and healthy 😌💅 for the face honestly i used to use all kinds of crap for the moderate acne i get and nothing worked and i literally just wash with water. Find what works for you! 🤗
As a 17 year old, hearing all the girls talking about the things they have done already makes me feel so horrible. I'm genuinely dont know how to do anything because my parents never forced me to do a lot of things and they never educated me. I'm so left behind on pratically everything honestly. Its to the point i rely on other people to teach me these things but i dont have anyone. I am all alone. This video helped me sooo much thank youuu 💖😊
Girls who like girls, the 'boy' advice here goes for us too! Just cause it's directed towards men doesn't mean the same rules around consent, trust, communication, drive, ect, ect goes for women too.
Thank god.. watching this video I felt so left out and unheard like I don’t even exist. I was just scrolling endlessly trying to find a comment about including queer women. So glad I found one. ❤️
17f here, it's so normalized in highschool or atleast my highschool..it's pretty gross tbh what ever happened to cute little dates or a walk in the park 😮💨
to anyone feeling like they are running out of time: i promise u aren't. wait for the right person who you have a deep connection with. it is so crucial for the first time to be really comfortable with that person.
Girls who never been with a man, from a man: A lot of men don’t know what to do nor are good at it. If you’re not someone who just goes around but wants to settle and have something actually good, here are some factors that show if he’s a keeper. He does aftercare! He makes sure that everything’s okay during and after. He won’t force anything or talk you into stuff. He likes your down Stairs ;) and he’s probably obsessed with it trust me. He appreciates your body and loves it
When I was young I shaved 🐱 I trimmed I did it all. Then when I met my husband at 22 & was getting married at 24 he told me he likes it all natural 🌳 😂 so I just trim it now & shave the bikini line. Marriage is so stress free, you feel so confident in lingerie, naked etc. All those fears from when your young worrying about what guys will think goes away.
Idc what gender is reading this; please don't rush into sex, cause you have so much time and find a person you trust. I lost it with my best friend at the time and honestly im glad i lost it with him. This vid is so helpful!! Thank youu, im also a little tipsy btw lol
If your sex drive is down, it’s not always “depression”. Sometimes, you’re literally busy, and it’s the last thing on your mind, and that’s okay. Relationships and life are more than sex.
@@tylajo.moonflowerthis might actually be a hormonal problem. I’m assuming you’re a girl. If so, tell your OB/GYN about low libido and see about getting blood work done. Sometimes even young women don’t produce enough of certain hormones. The main ones for sex are estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Yes, women produce testosterone too, and if we don’t produce enough, it can really kill your sex drive. My GYN ran labs to check my hormone levels. Turns out my testosterone levels were low. Now I have a topical testosterone cream I rub on my underarm every day. It’s a much milder way of getting a little extra testosterone than pills or shots. You don’t want TOO much of that or else you start getting more “manly” effects like extra body hair, reducing breast size, and other things you really don’t want! I get just enough of the hormone that it’s helped my libido get back to “normal” (for me)
@@marleywolfdog I think so too but it’s something to figure out. I go through phases of being in the mood for days and then not have those feelings at all for weeks or so.
Love these girl talks … they make us feel more connected and it’s just so awesome to be real and know that even you go through the same things as us … thanks for opening up to us girly much love ❤️
hopping into this comment section super late to add: used to shave, mostly because i was really insecure about what men would think. stopped shaving (just trimming) when i got to uni and lo and behold! not a single man cares even one tiny bit. tbh not shaving has been the most liberating decision i’ve made for my s*x life so far. do what makes YOU comfortable, like she said the men do not care !! and if they do, they are not worth your time (seriously). Edit: just finished the vid and don’t worry about things like smell/taste etc. just make sure you’re drinking water/eating fruit and a healthy diet and that’s all you need! also on orgasms: most women cannot finish from penetrative s*x, so the key is head, cl*toral stimulation with their hands, and toys :) good luck all
Its so weird that i got into a relationship with my bf over 2 and a half years ago not even knowing these were "expectations." He never brought a thing up to me about any of the things in this vid and he never made me feel like i needed to be rushed for anything. Tbh he never once made me feel uncomfortable with these topics. Im glad i got a good one! ~MD stay safe girlies ❤
him since I was 12. He’s super respectful and kind. He recently asked me if I was up to do “stuff.” He said whatever I’m comfortable with is ok. And if not at all that’s ok. I feel like it’s too early, I’m fifteen!!! But I am ready for that. But I don’t know how to do ANYTHING!! I don’t want people to look down on me because I’m so young. Any advice Anyone???
I love how much you have been more open on ur channel. as the years have gone by you have changed so much and I'm loving it ❤❤❤ your amazing keep being you beautiful 😘
my first time was not w my boyfriend but w someone i trusted not to make fun of my or judge me for it being my first time. we dont talk anymore for good reasons but im eternally grateful that he made me feel safe at that point and time and listened to me.
I just wanna applaud you for being so cool and being there for girls who have questions! When I was younger and needed advice on something with a boy, I talked to someone I thought was my friend, and she gave me advice but then she ended up telling everyone in class and she started avoiding me. She told people I was weird or coming onto her lol when I wasn't. Looking back, I know she was the weirdo lol. Talking to friends about intimate things should be normalized. I just wanna thank you for setting a healthy example!
him since I was 12. He’s super respectful and kind. He recently asked me if I was up to do “stuff.” He said whatever I’m comfortable with is ok. And if not at all that’s ok. I feel like it’s too early, I’m fifteen!!! But I am ready for that. But I don’t know how to do ANYTHING!! I don’t want people to look down on me because I’m so young. Any advice Anyone???
I'm 14, and I am always asked whether or not I've lost my v card yet or not- which to me is crazy- but at my school theres ppl doing it in bathrooms so i guess it doesn't surprise me. Everybody always sees me as the literal outcast cause i dont have no boyfriend, i havent lost my v card, and i dont look as pretty as everyone else. Like- there is no reason to judge a book by its cover. I'm a fun person with some good friends regardless if ive lost my v card or if i got a boyfriend. Don't change yourself for others! Don't get pressured into it if you dont want to! Go according to your own pace.
i was in middle school 5 years ago and that was the same situation. i was mortified to see 13yr olds vaping n hooking up like i thought we were kids?! ppl wanna encourage growing up too fast these days .sad to hear it's still continuing and probably getting worse.
righttt, , don’t rush into having sex. Wait until you’re married. Trust me, once you do it, you might end up regretting it. That person you’re with is not guaranteed to stick around forever.
I’m 23 and I’ve never been in any relationships or had much romantic experiences. This video makes me feel more prepared for a future relationship if it happens, and people here in the comments make me feel less alone about being a late bloomer. 💖💕
To all the girlies out there. Don't rush yourself into a relationship even if your ready you have to know that your really ready. You don't need to rush and get yourself into stuff you may not like. If your partner is pressuring you they are a red flag because you need to know when your ready to do stuff with your partner. You need to get to know that person very well don't go at it in the first few days. (If there is anymore you want add on please do!)
I have an older sister but she’s also inexperienced and we don’t talk about things like this. I don’t talk with my mom about it either. This is so so comforting to have as a resource so thank you for putting some of my fears to rest😅
If a guy ignores your feelings/concerns about him watching p-rn just tell him “Okay, I guess I’ll start an OnlyFans since it’s not cheating.” And see how he responds. 😂 You’re a Queen , if he continues to watch it he does not respect you. Know your boundaries. ❤
@@nalintina I don't think they will. Watching, and becoming a sex worker are different. The emotions might be the same.... jealousy. But still extreme and different.
Ladies if your bottom region smells “off” but you don’t have anything obvious going on like (yeast infection, STI, etc.) look into boric acid suppositories. I’m older, almost 40 haha but after having babies, a hysterectomy and being with the same partner for years and years. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get things “under control” in that area. I thought it was just age and related to having sex with my SO but I found out that it was BV which I am sure many of us have and are already familiar with. However, we are never told about this and we are also not told u can order a cheap bottle of boric acid suppositories online and have this problem fixed PERMANENTLY. They seriously saved my self confidence and sex life. My partner didn’t go “down” on me for years bc I am sure he never knew when I would be “off” but I also wouldn’t let him bc I was so self conscious about it. Now he always wants to haha sooo if this is something ur not aware of. Look into it!!! I’m telling u it is life changing.
I think this has to be my most favorite hygiene video I’m 15 soon 16 and it’s not that I’m growing up fast or nothin, but I like knowing how to carry myself and what to expect if I do feel like I wanna do something, AND I’m watching this video because I’m very picky about my hygiene so I like knowing everything and what’s normal and what’s not and how to carry myself.
The end where you got on your feet 😭😭 AHHHH, one of my favorite videos everrr literally loved how real u were, it’s nice to see we all think and go thru a lot of the same things!💘😭 You should def make a part 2!!❤️
Love how confident you are, very encouraging (I am a lesbian so there is a language barrier so to speak but I'm still very glad that I get to hear all this info because it's good knowledge in general)
I told my partner I was too afraid to kiss and he waited till I was ready to finally kiss him. Very sweet. Although when it comes to sexual gestures or affectionate ones, I definitely cherish the affectionate ones, I laughed incredibly with him yesterday and it's all I think of, hand on my waist and hugging me tightly, he asks me which of his gestures I liked, and I told him it's funny because it's not the sexual things that are on top, but that one about the waist. It makes me roll in my bed at night with butterflies.
I think the biggest thing to having a good first time is to communicate with your partner. Tell them if it hurts, if you want something else, or if you want to stop. If you don't communicate these things, you probably are going to have a bad time. If you don't feel comfortable communicating these things, you shouldn't be having sex. The person you have sex with should make you feel comfortable enough to have those talks, both before, during, and after.
Melissa you need to try laser! I used to get waxed at EWC for YEARS and I loved it, but I switched to laser & I’ll never go back. It’s about the same price and I’ve gotten amazing results. I barely grow any hair after 10 sessions & haven’t had ingrowns since the beginning sessions. My skin has never been more soft and light. Loved your video btw 💖 been watching you for years
OMG you answered my question!!!! I didn't think you would notice my question. I have been fangirling 🤗for like 30 mins lol. I appreciate the answer and I will take it into consideration !!! Thank you Melissa 💛
I wish I had videos like this from someone like you when I was younger oh my goodness, but I’m so so happy I have this now, you’re so helpful in lessening stigma and most importantly teaching so many of us really important things about our own bodys thank you so much
honestly girls, just learn to wax your private parts yourself. I swearrr it hurts less the second time you do it, you just prepare mentally for it. Also it saves you lots of money and you don't have to shave each day.
I love the energy you give girl 🫶🏻 you definitely are a whole vibe! I love how comfortable you are and open! You definitely know what your speaking about ❤️ love watching your videos 🥰🥰
Today for the first time ever i wink wink ykyk to myself 😅 and it it has been hard coming to terms with growing up and having those feelings but it is getting easier a tiny I think. It’s hard when you are in the middle of child and adult. These types of videos help me a lot, I love having open conversation about it in a world where not a lot of people do, thanks ❤
I needed that reassurance from this video so much because recently a guy ghosted me after he realized I wasn’t going to be the easy type on the first date. He dropped me off early too :( I really liked him but true colors are showing now
I was fully ready for this vid to be like all the others just mentioning a period and then talking about guys but this was real asf and I felt like I was right there talking to u. love this vid
I’m SO late to this video, so no one will probably see this comment. But I just had to pause the video to agree with you about the lingerie thing. You are SO right! When you step out in sexy lingerie in front of your man, he is NOT seeing that cellulite you think you have on your thighs, or some stretch marks on your belly or boobs (I have a TON of boob stretch marks bc mine grew son fast… I’ve made comments about them to past BF’s, and they legit only ever noticed it when I pointed it out. But they still didn’t care), they are not noticing if one boob is slightly bigger than the other -like we ALL have, or noticing a mole you don’t like, or whatever you are self-conscious about. I promise that all they see is the hot woman they are already attracted to highlighting her body with some sexy lingerie, and then all the blood leaves their head and goes somewhere lower! 😂 I have learned this through experience, bc there are a lot of things I used to be super self conscious about. But ladies, I promise that guys are not analyzing you, looking for any “problem areas”. They are trying to figure out how quickly they can get that lingerie on to the floor… 😉
You are right. They also don’t care if we have hair down there or not. Guys also have their insecurities. A lot of girls joke about guys being small or how a gigantic size is better or how they prefer circumcised or not. Imagine how they feel.
I definitely agree with going out by yourself sometimes. And stay off the phone. Doing this every now and again gives me a sense of pride. Even though I don't want to go out by myself a lot lol
Am I the only one who feels horrible after shaving? I’ve only tried that once and it was the worst experience ever. I only shaved my legs but just looking at them without any hair on them filled me with dread, and nearly made me cry. I’ve never seen anyone talk about this, and I’m starting to think I’m just a freak. Cause all over the internet I see girls talking about how amazing not having hair on their legs, arms, armpits, ect makes them feel. I’ve never seen someone with the same struggle, and on top of that I’m a lesbian so I rarely ever see girls talking about liking other girls too. And this video honestly hurt. No hate to her, but if anyone knows a lesbian exclusive tips video on stuff like this, please give it to me. Cause media is honestly making me feel like I just don’t exist atm, and I’d love to have a video making me feel heard.
Yeah I don’t really shave my legs I don’t like it 😭 idk why honestly, it just feels unnecessary for me. Im a lesbian too & I agree I haven’t found any videos or creators like that, but I hate feeling so left out like damn.
well she's probably straight so it's not her fault if you feel that way...I understand but you should consume content that is made for someone like you instead of posting comments like these under someone else's work 😭
@@solange3172 Thing is, there is barely any type of content for people like me. That’s my point, there are no creators that I can easily find that make stuff for queer women. It’s all for straight women.
This video is great for anyone who is struggling with anxiety when it comes to dating. The relatable anecdotes and tips make it a helpful and entertaining watch.
something embarrassing i have to admit is that when i saw the summer's eve feminine wash, it reminded me of when i used it as a body wash because nobody taught me what it was and what it's used for. especially being physically active and seeing the "Active" on the bottle omg 😭😭
We love an honest Queen🤗❤❤❤❤❤!!!!! I wish you had a podcast with just you. I love hearing you talk and you're so real I could listen to you on a range of topics all day. You feel like a bestie🤗!
Megan knees 😂😂😂😂 I am dying. Lmao this video was so good! Thank you for being honest about these things esp because I’m sure so many women, including myself agree with you! We gotta be more open about this topic 🙌🏽
I have been dating my bf for a year now and I lost my card at 15 and I waited 4 months to do the deed with my boyfriend. He knew I had never done anything with any guy I had ever dated before and he made me feel so comfortable, we talked about doing it before we did anything, and I told him I was ready and we talked about it and made sure I wanted todo it w him and he made it so memorable because it was just a few days till valentines day and he was so gentle and made sure I was ok right after and after that we went to the park and played catch and watched movies for the rest of the day.
I’ve had guys ask me for my snap before (I’m 15), but I’m not sure how to actually snap them? A couple problems: 1. They usually text first but most of them just ask for me to send a snap of myself because they “forgot what I look like”. I don’t generally take photos of myself and they stop texting when I tell them that. 2. In my experience, any guy who uses Snapchat is so dry. This is probably just a me thing because I’m not someone who texts or calls people, not even my best friends. This is since I prefer talking to people in real life, but how am I supposed to get to know the friendly side of boring but attractive guys over text? 3. My preference for getting a boyfriend is to know them in person, usually just because we might have a lot of classes together in school. But the problem with this is that I’m in an extension program (smart kid class) so I’m stuck with one class of kids for my whole timetable. I know all these people since I’ve been around them for almost 3 years and there are people I’m attracted to physically and I get along with them but I’m not romantically interested in any of them. I know the first advice people would give here is to join extracurricular activities but that is not an option for me. How else can I get into the dating scene?
ur still a teen so i dont think dating or talking to guys is rly important rn. these r the years of self discovery. dating is a desired thing for teens (such as me) but its not the best idea to get into it without knowing everything about urself. discover what u like, dont like before u start dating or anything like that. most teens also dont know how to love properly and that could hurt both u and the other party. heal, grow, discover. this is purely from my experience and my take on it so if u dont agree u dont have to listen to me! im also a teenager so i get the desire of wanting to be special to someone and wanting to have a special someone. im sorry if this wasnt helpful ma:( let me know what u think!
Omg one time I had a guy get hard on the ride back to drop me off at my house after seeing a movie. I literally only had on jeans and a blouse. Wasn't saying anything provocative. And he said it was my fault for getting him hard and I had to take care of it. Like boooyyy... I did NOTHING. And I'm not taking care of anything. Ladies, you do not need to do anything you don't want to do. It was honestly a lil scary cuz he seemed very annoyed & frustrated. And this girl has never had to physically protect herself. Lol maybe go take a self-defense class.
As a middle eastren girl, i have hair EVERYWHERE and they grow so fast that shaving it clean is just impossible for me. Its still good for when i need it done quickly tho.
Same but italian 😭 ik its not common but I just dont shave anything and trim some stuff. Theres nothing wrong with keeping body hair but it's fine if you wanna get rid of it too
Love your videos and thank you for sharing your life with us! You definitely don’t need to but I think I can speak for a lot of us when I say we feel like your besties lol you’re so real with us and it’s so refreshing! So thank you:)!
Girl honestly love your videos !!!!! The amount of times you make me actually laugh is insane because when I watch others “acting” I just watch like 😑 but you legit make me LOL 😂 I Appreciate your videos & your personality because I can relate a lot to you! Your video took me on an emotional rollercoaster 😂🥹🥺
I’m currently in my very first relationship and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year now so sometimes I do get anxiety every now and then. Thanks Melissa! this really helped me wit a few questions I had especially riding lol ;)
I wish more girlies knew that we don’t and SHOULDNT use any washes down there. Ask any gyno and they’ll tell you the same. Water is the best thing to clean with and all it needs :)
Laser, laser, laser ladies (gentlemen, and everyone in between)!! I learned that from a stripper who had the smoothest 😽 I’ve ever seen. Also stick deodorant on the area will stop chaffing / razor rash - absolute game changer!!
I really wish i saw this video sooner, now i can't get my virginity back..EVER so please ya'll be careful out there and don't let any ANY one make ya'll feel pressured.
To all the ladies who havent been with a guy: please don't worry or rush into it. Most men arent good at *it* and having a partner who loves and cherishes you is WAY more important. Stay safe and happy girlies
thank you miss lawless
Again
@@Zauberhafte I mean depending how old u are that shouldn’t be that major lol
This.
Noted, but then why sleep with them if they arent that good and how do u remain attracted in that way...?
I'm a guy, but when I wasn't ready to have sex I literally told my boyfriend straight on "Hey I'm not ready" and he just said it was okay. That's the ONLY acceptable answer. Do NOT let anyone pressure you :(
I think im pretty approachable tbh lol
Fucking PERIOD, hun, damn straight. No means no, you don’t need to give a reason.
um ok
@@sirenhood ?
Gay ahahahahahahaha
it’s so crazy to hear that some people don’t have a bad first time. y’all who had a good first time are so lucky. i’m jealous
@@silfverjessicaI think you are definitely correct sex ed plays a really good role on top of feeling comfortable with yourself as well
mine wasn’t bad but it wasn’t good. it was sooo weird and awkward i didn’t do anything cuz i didn’t know what to do or say
I had a pretty good first time- it DID last 2 mins but i dont have any complains. However it was ruined later by finding out he was cheating in that time so if it makes you feel better know that even good first times can become horrible later 🥲😅
my first time was awful lol, my bf at the time struggled to get it in and it was so painful and i was bleeding all over the place. i was comfortable and ready but my hymen said not todayy
@@-bexxomg that would of stressed me outtt
The trick to shaving without getting razor bumps is to shave WITH the grain!! Shave downwards, if you are starting from the top (towards your belly button) shave downwards towards your lips, then shave from your inner thigh towards your labia. I NEVER get razor bumps when shaving like this. If I were to do it the way she explained she does I’d probably have loads of scars from ingrown hairs!!
I always do it this way but still get the worst razor bumps. I dont know why, any advice?
@@gracecoyne3851 maybe your razor is dull? maybe you’re simply sensitive? it could be many reasons. in that case i would recommend a calming lotion to use afterwards.
But then you don’t get that close shaveee 😭😭😂
@@decemberchristiansen562 you do with the correct razor
shave with the grain at first, and then go left, right, and up. its the only safe way to get a close shavee
As a girl, I was with a guy who was pressuring me to go on birth control so he could take my v card. Now, im with a guy who constantly asks to binge shows with me and prefers that over sex. Upgrades girlies!
So happy for you girl ☺️
As a guy if a guy only wants sex he is playing you 100% don’t believe the jokes “you make me horny” “your too hot” all shi he just wants to use you
it feels like everyone knows exactly what they need to do to take perfect care of their face and private parts and it’s honestly overwhelming to me i feel v lost
Don’t worry, a lot of people had to try a lot of things to find something that works for them. Personally I’m still figuring it out😭
Uff, feel that. I think what works best for me is actually just applying normal moisturizer to my face every day and for the privates... my bf doesn't mind if I'm shaven or not so I just let the bush be a happy little bush xD Just make sure it's not smelly or sweaty, but that's really easy if you shower regularly. :D
just be patient with yourself and experiment x
yep seconded - people only know cos of a lot of trial and a lot of error too - i've got some stuff down pat but its taken yeeeaaars to figure out what works for me
For the private parts-- girlie literally dont do anything to them, just wash with water and NOTHING ELSE. Let her be natural and healthy 😌💅 for the face honestly i used to use all kinds of crap for the moderate acne i get and nothing worked and i literally just wash with water. Find what works for you! 🤗
As a 17 year old, hearing all the girls talking about the things they have done already makes me feel so horrible. I'm genuinely dont know how to do anything because my parents never forced me to do a lot of things and they never educated me. I'm so left behind on pratically everything honestly. Its to the point i rely on other people to teach me these things but i dont have anyone. I am all alone. This video helped me sooo much thank youuu 💖😊
yes literally i was on ft today with 2 friends and this girl said that her bsgf did it yk and then js turned 14 ummm??
I’m 16 but same..
same
@@ale_playzWTF why do children have sex these days
exactly itss so messed up@@gliorchisonocomelecipolle
Girls who like girls, the 'boy' advice here goes for us too! Just cause it's directed towards men doesn't mean the same rules around consent, trust, communication, drive, ect, ect goes for women too.
Thank god.. watching this video I felt so left out and unheard like I don’t even exist. I was just scrolling endlessly trying to find a comment about including queer women. So glad I found one. ❤️
FACTS!!!!
Same goes for us mlm guys, lol
I always feel left out in the sorts of videos for this reason thank you
@@Avi-qn1sm mlm guys are still guys, this isn’t for you
Y’all I didn’t do the deed till I was 23!! Don’t ever feel rushed queens, take your time you’re a dime and worth it
Thats so nice to read!! Im 21, never ever did anything, ive never dated anyone in my life, and only kissed a total of four boys through my life
17f here, it's so normalized in highschool or atleast my highschool..it's pretty gross tbh what ever happened to cute little dates or a walk in the park 😮💨
@L0n3_03 100%!! Good thing you’re not like the others, you’re a prize 🏆
I'm 22 and I am soo happy I waited til now to do it
to anyone feeling like they are running out of time: i promise u aren't. wait for the right person who you have a deep connection with. it is so crucial for the first time to be really comfortable with that person.
Girls who never been with a man, from a man: A lot of men don’t know what to do nor are good at it. If you’re not someone who just goes around but wants to settle and have something actually good, here are some factors that show if he’s a keeper.
He does aftercare! He makes sure that everything’s okay during and after. He won’t force anything or talk you into stuff. He likes your down
Stairs ;) and he’s probably obsessed with it trust me. He appreciates your body and loves it
Thank you for this!
Tysmmm for this
When I was young I shaved 🐱 I trimmed I did it all. Then when I met my husband at 22 & was getting married at 24 he told me he likes it all natural 🌳 😂 so I just trim it now & shave the bikini line. Marriage is so stress free, you feel so confident in lingerie, naked etc. All those fears from when your young worrying about what guys will think goes away.
Idc what gender is reading this; please don't rush into sex, cause you have so much time and find a person you trust. I lost it with my best friend at the time and honestly im glad i lost it with him. This vid is so helpful!! Thank youu, im also a little tipsy btw lol
If your sex drive is down, it’s not always “depression”. Sometimes, you’re literally busy, and it’s the last thing on your mind, and that’s okay. Relationships and life are more than sex.
I also think not having a high drive all the time is normal, at least for me. I feel it every once in a while then don’t feel it again for months.
@@tylajo.moonflowerthis might actually be a hormonal problem. I’m assuming you’re a girl. If so, tell your OB/GYN about low libido and see about getting blood work done. Sometimes even young women don’t produce enough of certain hormones. The main ones for sex are estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Yes, women produce testosterone too, and if we don’t produce enough, it can really kill your sex drive. My GYN ran labs to check my hormone levels. Turns out my testosterone levels were low. Now I have a topical testosterone cream I rub on my underarm every day. It’s a much milder way of getting a little extra testosterone than pills or shots. You don’t want TOO much of that or else you start getting more “manly” effects like extra body hair, reducing breast size, and other things you really don’t want! I get just enough of the hormone that it’s helped my libido get back to “normal” (for me)
@@tylajo.moonflower could be greysexual. Its more common then people think! And its totally cool :p
@@marleywolfdog I think so too but it’s something to figure out. I go through phases of being in the mood for days and then not have those feelings at all for weeks or so.
@@tylajo.moonflower I'm the same. I don't particularly feel the need for a label though :)
Love these girl talks … they make us feel more connected and it’s just so awesome to be real and know that even you go through the same things as us … thanks for opening up to us girly much love ❤️
My 30 year old self realizing how dumb i was when i was younger. Melissa you’re an amazing role model, Love these videos🥰
hopping into this comment section super late to add: used to shave, mostly because i was really insecure about what men would think. stopped shaving (just trimming) when i got to uni and lo and behold! not a single man cares even one tiny bit. tbh not shaving has been the most liberating decision i’ve made for my s*x life so far. do what makes YOU comfortable, like she said the men do not care !! and if they do, they are not worth your time (seriously). Edit: just finished the vid and don’t worry about things like smell/taste etc. just make sure you’re drinking water/eating fruit and a healthy diet and that’s all you need! also on orgasms: most women cannot finish from penetrative s*x, so the key is head, cl*toral stimulation with their hands, and toys :) good luck all
Solid advice!
Its so weird that i got into a relationship with my bf over 2 and a half years ago not even knowing these were "expectations." He never brought a thing up to me about any of the things in this vid and he never made me feel like i needed to be rushed for anything. Tbh he never once made me feel uncomfortable with these topics. Im glad i got a good one! ~MD stay safe girlies ❤
him since I was 12. He’s super respectful and kind. He recently asked me if I was up to do “stuff.” He said whatever I’m comfortable with is ok. And if not at all that’s ok. I feel like it’s too early, I’m fifteen!!! But I am ready for that. But I don’t know how to do ANYTHING!! I don’t want people to look down on me because I’m so young. Any advice Anyone???
I love how much you have been more open on ur channel. as the years have gone by you have changed so much and I'm loving it ❤❤❤ your amazing keep being you beautiful 😘
Yesss !!! This comment
my first time was not w my boyfriend but w someone i trusted not to make fun of my or judge me for it being my first time. we dont talk anymore for good reasons but im eternally grateful that he made me feel safe at that point and time and listened to me.
this feels like real sister talk omfg 😭 i love itt
I just wanna applaud you for being so cool and being there for girls who have questions! When I was younger and needed advice on something with a boy, I talked to someone I thought was my friend, and she gave me advice but then she ended up telling everyone in class and she started avoiding me. She told people I was weird or coming onto her lol when I wasn't. Looking back, I know she was the weirdo lol. Talking to friends about intimate things should be normalized. I just wanna thank you for setting a healthy example!
him since I was 12. He’s super respectful and kind. He recently asked me if I was up to do “stuff.” He said whatever I’m comfortable with is ok. And if not at all that’s ok. I feel like it’s too early, I’m fifteen!!! But I am ready for that. But I don’t know how to do ANYTHING!! I don’t want people to look down on me because I’m so young. Any advice Anyone???
I'm 14, and I am always asked whether or not I've lost my v card yet or not- which to me is crazy- but at my school theres ppl doing it in bathrooms so i guess it doesn't surprise me. Everybody always sees me as the literal outcast cause i dont have no boyfriend, i havent lost my v card, and i dont look as pretty as everyone else. Like- there is no reason to judge a book by its cover. I'm a fun person with some good friends regardless if ive lost my v card or if i got a boyfriend. Don't change yourself for others! Don't get pressured into it if you dont want to! Go according to your own pace.
i’m 14 and i have a boyfriend but i don’t plan on losing my v card anytime soon 😭 it’s actually crazy that people are doing that at our age 🙏
@@hcmikos ikr I hear that there is at least one hook up in the bathrooms at break every day
@@hcmikosso real. But I’m 16
i was in middle school 5 years ago and that was the same situation. i was mortified to see 13yr olds vaping n hooking up like i thought we were kids?! ppl wanna encourage growing up too fast these days .sad to hear it's still continuing and probably getting worse.
righttt, , don’t rush into having sex. Wait until you’re married. Trust me, once you do it, you might end up regretting it. That person you’re with is not guaranteed to stick around forever.
I’m 23 and I’ve never been in any relationships or had much romantic experiences. This video makes me feel more prepared for a future relationship if it happens, and people here in the comments make me feel less alone about being a late bloomer. 💖💕
Can we all just appreciate the amount of effect Melissa
puts into these videos I love watching ur videos love you Melissa your my comfort TH-camr
To all the girlies out there. Don't rush yourself into a relationship even if your ready you have to know that your really ready. You don't need to rush and get yourself into stuff you may not like. If your partner is pressuring you they are a red flag because you need to know when your ready to do stuff with your partner. You need to get to know that person very well don't go at it in the first few days. (If there is anymore you want add on please do!)
I love how open she is, the girl showed us her armpits to prove that you should wax instead of shave😭❤️
I have an older sister but she’s also inexperienced and we don’t talk about things like this. I don’t talk with my mom about it either. This is so so comforting to have as a resource so thank you for putting some of my fears to rest😅
If a guy ignores your feelings/concerns about him watching p-rn just tell him “Okay, I guess I’ll start an OnlyFans since it’s not cheating.” And see how he responds. 😂
You’re a Queen , if he continues to watch it he does not respect you. Know your boundaries. ❤
I'm ngl, those feel different
@@Mariposarana the point is men will understand about how the woman feels abt them watching pron
@@nalintina I don't think they will. Watching, and becoming a sex worker are different. The emotions might be the same.... jealousy. But still extreme and different.
My question is wth is wrong with a guy watching porn. I mean like... that's what it exists for 💀💀
@@Mariposarana it is the same, just switched around.
Ladies if your bottom region smells “off” but you don’t have anything obvious going on like (yeast infection, STI, etc.) look into boric acid suppositories. I’m older, almost 40 haha but after having babies, a hysterectomy and being with the same partner for years and years. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get things “under control” in that area. I thought it was just age and related to having sex with my SO but I found out that it was BV which I am sure many of us have and are already familiar with. However, we are never told about this and we are also not told u can order a cheap bottle of boric acid suppositories online and have this problem fixed PERMANENTLY. They seriously saved my self confidence and sex life. My partner didn’t go “down” on me for years bc I am sure he never knew when I would be “off” but I also wouldn’t let him bc I was so self conscious about it. Now he always wants to haha sooo if this is something ur not aware of. Look into it!!! I’m telling u it is life changing.
I have BV ! And same thing 😩 do you have a link ? ☺️
YESSS GET THAT KITTY EATEN
Please do not recommend that any girls put things inside themselves besides tampons 😑 it can throw off your ph balance so bad
I think this has to be my most favorite hygiene video
I’m 15 soon 16 and it’s not that I’m growing up fast or nothin, but I like knowing how to carry myself and what to expect if I do feel like I wanna do something, AND I’m watching this video because I’m very picky about my hygiene so I like knowing everything and what’s normal and what’s not and how to carry myself.
Same
The end where you got on your feet 😭😭 AHHHH, one of my favorite videos everrr literally loved how real u were, it’s nice to see we all think and go thru a lot of the same things!💘😭 You should def make a part 2!!❤️
As a girl I felt so safe watching this video ♥️ I have been subscribed for years and I love the growth Melissa 💕
This is actually my first time watching Melissa and i already feel comfortable 😭😭
I know im Late but samee😭😭
Love how confident you are, very encouraging (I am a lesbian so there is a language barrier so to speak but I'm still very glad that I get to hear all this info because it's good knowledge in general)
how do sexuality and language connect
No fr I was so lost💀
@@sjakeyuns bc a lot of 'terms' used in this video are more known to hetero sex and not lesbian sex
@@user-od1lu7tt3g OHHH SORRY I READ IT WRONG
I’m 31 and still heavily benefitted from this video as a single lady with some crazy anxiety 😂🎉
I told my partner I was too afraid to kiss and he waited till I was ready to finally kiss him. Very sweet. Although when it comes to sexual gestures or affectionate ones, I definitely cherish the affectionate ones, I laughed incredibly with him yesterday and it's all I think of, hand on my waist and hugging me tightly, he asks me which of his gestures I liked, and I told him it's funny because it's not the sexual things that are on top, but that one about the waist. It makes me roll in my bed at night with butterflies.
I think the biggest thing to having a good first time is to communicate with your partner. Tell them if it hurts, if you want something else, or if you want to stop. If you don't communicate these things, you probably are going to have a bad time. If you don't feel comfortable communicating these things, you shouldn't be having sex. The person you have sex with should make you feel comfortable enough to have those talks, both before, during, and after.
Melissa you need to try laser! I used to get waxed at EWC for YEARS and I loved it, but I switched to laser & I’ll never go back. It’s about the same price and I’ve gotten amazing results. I barely grow any hair after 10 sessions & haven’t had ingrowns since the beginning sessions. My skin has never been more soft and light. Loved your video btw 💖 been watching you for years
OMG you answered my question!!!! I didn't think you would notice my question. I have been fangirling 🤗for like 30 mins lol. I appreciate the answer and I will take it into consideration !!! Thank you Melissa 💛
which question was yours? if ur okay w answering-
I wish I had videos like this from someone like you when I was younger oh my goodness, but I’m so so happy I have this now, you’re so helpful in lessening stigma and most importantly teaching so many of us really important things about our own bodys thank you so much
we need more of these i feel like we’re on ft and drinking together 💗💗
honestly girls, just learn to wax your private parts yourself. I swearrr it hurts less the second time you do it, you just prepare mentally for it. Also it saves you lots of money and you don't have to shave each day.
I love the energy you give girl 🫶🏻 you definitely are a whole vibe! I love how comfortable you are and open! You definitely know what your speaking about ❤️ love watching your videos 🥰🥰
Today for the first time ever i wink wink ykyk to myself 😅 and it it has been hard coming to terms with growing up and having those feelings but it is getting easier a tiny I think. It’s hard when you are in the middle of child and adult. These types of videos help me a lot, I love having open conversation about it in a world where not a lot of people do, thanks ❤
I needed that reassurance from this video so much because recently a guy ghosted me after he realized I wasn’t going to be the easy type on the first date. He dropped me off early too :( I really liked him but true colors are showing now
I was fully ready for this vid to be like all the others just mentioning a period and then talking about guys but this was real asf and I felt like I was right there talking to u. love this vid
This might be one of my favorite videos yet! I’ve been watching you for years and I see so much growth 😭💛 keep doing you boo!! 😘
I’m SO late to this video, so no one will probably see this comment. But I just had to pause the video to agree with you about the lingerie thing. You are SO right! When you step out in sexy lingerie in front of your man, he is NOT seeing that cellulite you think you have on your thighs, or some stretch marks on your belly or boobs (I have a TON of boob stretch marks bc mine grew son fast… I’ve made comments about them to past BF’s, and they legit only ever noticed it when I pointed it out. But they still didn’t care), they are not noticing if one boob is slightly bigger than the other -like we ALL have, or noticing a mole you don’t like, or whatever you are self-conscious about. I promise that all they see is the hot woman they are already attracted to highlighting her body with some sexy lingerie, and then all the blood leaves their head and goes somewhere lower! 😂 I have learned this through experience, bc there are a lot of things I used to be super self conscious about. But ladies, I promise that guys are not analyzing you, looking for any “problem areas”. They are trying to figure out how quickly they can get that lingerie on to the floor… 😉
You are right. They also don’t care if we have hair down there or not. Guys also have their insecurities. A lot of girls joke about guys being small or how a gigantic size is better or how they prefer circumcised or not. Imagine how they feel.
I definitely agree with going out by yourself sometimes. And stay off the phone. Doing this every now and again gives me a sense of pride. Even though I don't want to go out by myself a lot lol
Am I the only one who feels horrible after shaving? I’ve only tried that once and it was the worst experience ever. I only shaved my legs but just looking at them without any hair on them filled me with dread, and nearly made me cry. I’ve never seen anyone talk about this, and I’m starting to think I’m just a freak. Cause all over the internet I see girls talking about how amazing not having hair on their legs, arms, armpits, ect makes them feel. I’ve never seen someone with the same struggle, and on top of that I’m a lesbian so I rarely ever see girls talking about liking other girls too. And this video honestly hurt. No hate to her, but if anyone knows a lesbian exclusive tips video on stuff like this, please give it to me. Cause media is honestly making me feel like I just don’t exist atm, and I’d love to have a video making me feel heard.
Yeah I don’t really shave my legs I don’t like it 😭 idk why honestly, it just feels unnecessary for me. Im a lesbian too & I agree I haven’t found any videos or creators like that, but I hate feeling so left out like damn.
@@avabackupaccount Yeah.. like, we exist too😭. And our sex drives are way different than straight girls too.. so that makes it even harder to relate
well she's probably straight so it's not her fault if you feel that way...I understand but you should consume content that is made for someone like you instead of posting comments like these under someone else's work 😭
@@solange3172 Thing is, there is barely any type of content for people like me. That’s my point, there are no creators that I can easily find that make stuff for queer women. It’s all for straight women.
@@solange3172how body hair related to being straight tf
This video is great for anyone who is struggling with anxiety when it comes to dating. The relatable anecdotes and tips make it a helpful and entertaining watch.
something embarrassing i have to admit is that when i saw the summer's eve feminine wash, it reminded me of when i used it as a body wash because nobody taught me what it was and what it's used for. especially being physically active and seeing the "Active" on the bottle omg 😭😭
Oooh girl I did the same thing 😂😭
I did the same thing until my parents taught me what it was 😂
you being tipsy just made it funny while being highly informational lmao
We definitely need more of these girl talks!!! 🤍
I love how open-minded you are with the audience. 🤩🤩💗💗💗 Definitely following you now!
This is the first video I’ve ever seen of yours but I love how open you are, you seem like you have such a great personality! Def subscribing ❤️❤️❤️
THE SHAVNG PART IS SO TRUE, I GET COMPLETELY CLEAN AND THE NEXT DAY I ALR GOT SUM GROWING
I love watching your videos you can be talking about nothing & I’ll still watch! keep doing you sis, I hope you’re doing swell ❤️🔥
We love an honest Queen🤗❤❤❤❤❤!!!!! I wish you had a podcast with just you. I love hearing you talk and you're so real I could listen to you on a range of topics all day. You feel like a bestie🤗!
This girl is soo funny, interesting, and pretty!!! I love this video and her attitude!
Guys should 9 times out of 10 make the first move, but in my opinion its what makes them more attractive
If a guy has the courage to talk to a girl knowing he could get shot down, thats a W in my books
Megan knees 😂😂😂😂 I am dying. Lmao this video was so good! Thank you for being honest about these things esp because I’m sure so many women, including myself agree with you! We gotta be more open about this topic 🙌🏽
I never grew up with a mom or older sister and you have helped me so much, thank you love you
Argan oil is really helpful with razor burn/bumps down there and under your armpits. It also help with making hair softer for shaving
I have been dating my bf for a year now and I lost my card at 15 and I waited 4 months to do the deed with my boyfriend. He knew I had never done anything with any guy I had ever dated before and he made me feel so comfortable, we talked about doing it before we did anything, and I told him I was ready and we talked about it and made sure I wanted todo it w him and he made it so memorable because it was just a few days till valentines day and he was so gentle and made sure I was ok right after and after that we went to the park and played catch and watched movies for the rest of the day.
Are you still together?
Hahaha I LIVE for this Melissa!! More drunk 2am girl talks & q&a’s 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 HERE FOR IT! FAVE VIDEO EVER
I’ve had guys ask me for my snap before (I’m 15), but I’m not sure how to actually snap them? A couple problems:
1. They usually text first but most of them just ask for me to send a snap of myself because they “forgot what I look like”. I don’t generally take photos of myself and they stop texting when I tell them that.
2. In my experience, any guy who uses Snapchat is so dry. This is probably just a me thing because I’m not someone who texts or calls people, not even my best friends. This is since I prefer talking to people in real life, but how am I supposed to get to know the friendly side of boring but attractive guys over text?
3. My preference for getting a boyfriend is to know them in person, usually just because we might have a lot of classes together in school. But the problem with this is that I’m in an extension program (smart kid class) so I’m stuck with one class of kids for my whole timetable. I know all these people since I’ve been around them for almost 3 years and there are people I’m attracted to physically and I get along with them but I’m not romantically interested in any of them. I know the first advice people would give here is to join extracurricular activities but that is not an option for me. How else can I get into the dating scene?
ur still a teen so i dont think dating or talking to guys is rly important rn. these r the years of self discovery. dating is a desired thing for teens (such as me) but its not the best idea to get into it without knowing everything about urself. discover what u like, dont like before u start dating or anything like that. most teens also dont know how to love properly and that could hurt both u and the other party. heal, grow, discover. this is purely from my experience and my take on it so if u dont agree u dont have to listen to me! im also a teenager so i get the desire of wanting to be special to someone and wanting to have a special someone. im sorry if this wasnt helpful ma:( let me know what u think!
Focus on school and making friends and yourself preferably
You gave me alot of good advice!! Thank you so much Melissa I’m sharing this with my younger sisters 🥰💗
Omg one time I had a guy get hard on the ride back to drop me off at my house after seeing a movie. I literally only had on jeans and a blouse. Wasn't saying anything provocative. And he said it was my fault for getting him hard and I had to take care of it. Like boooyyy... I did NOTHING. And I'm not taking care of anything. Ladies, you do not need to do anything you don't want to do. It was honestly a lil scary cuz he seemed very annoyed & frustrated. And this girl has never had to physically protect herself. Lol maybe go take a self-defense class.
To all the girls who are worried about sex and relationships: I’m aroace ( aromantic asexual) and been the best I’ve ever been:)
As a middle eastren girl, i have hair EVERYWHERE and they grow so fast that shaving it clean is just impossible for me. Its still good for when i need it done quickly tho.
Same but italian 😭 ik its not common but I just dont shave anything and trim some stuff. Theres nothing wrong with keeping body hair but it's fine if you wanna get rid of it too
sneaking into girl talk 😈‼️
love the vibes in this vid, would love to see more of ur advice ✌🏾
this has been in my recommended for 2 years so im finally watching
Love your videos and thank you for sharing your life with us! You definitely don’t need to but I think I can speak for a lot of us when I say we feel like your besties lol you’re so real with us and it’s so refreshing! So thank you:)!
Girl honestly love your videos !!!!! The amount of times you make me actually laugh is insane because when I watch others “acting” I just watch like 😑 but you legit make me LOL 😂 I Appreciate your videos & your personality because I can relate a lot to you! Your video took me on an emotional rollercoaster 😂🥹🥺
I love how she ended the video with a demonstration 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are so freaking pretty omg I’m in love with your lashes💗
I’m currently in my very first relationship and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year now so sometimes I do get anxiety every now and then. Thanks Melissa! this really helped me wit a few questions I had especially riding lol ;)
I wish more girlies knew that we don’t and SHOULDNT use any washes down there. Ask any gyno and they’ll tell you the same. Water is the best thing to clean with and all it needs :)
This my first time seeing your channel and I love how blunt u are, your advice seems good and I’m gonna try it out
I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm super religious but it's not about that. I believe the wedding ring is the best protection one can have . ❤
This is cool I grew up with a mom who never really showed me any of these things so thank you.
Honestly love videos like this. Would love to see a video with some of your favorite hairstyles or Instagram hairstyles that you have done. ❤️❤❤
finally someone who understands my hispanic struggles😭😭
Definitely loving how open you have become 💖 loving the girl talk thank you 💕💕
This taught me a lot and made me very comfortable, thank you
The red wine on the white bed your nerving me out😭
Dude I loveee these videos, it makes me feel safe tbh 😭💕
Sameeeee 😭
I love these girl talks 😭🤍
Im 13 and this is one of the best video a teenager could ever watch so thanks ((:
Turn to Jesus
@@samuelfakelastname7464 stop
@@samuelfakelastname7464wtf thats so random
Laser, laser, laser ladies (gentlemen, and everyone in between)!! I learned that from a stripper who had the smoothest 😽 I’ve ever seen. Also stick deodorant on the area will stop chaffing / razor rash - absolute game changer!!
What about when it goes darker from shaving
i’m tipsy too watching this. i just found you from this video and i love your energy sm.
‘Don’t expect it to taste like a rainbow- it’s not fucking skittles it’s a Virgina’😂😂icon
18:20 the dog listening to her like he understands everything😭
I get so excited when I get the notification of a new video from you. I just love watching your videos
Please do more of these types of videos! I really enjoyed watching it ☺️
Thank you for answering these questions I don't even know that I need it lol is nice to know that someone else have the same problems or thoughts
I really wish i saw this video sooner, now i can't get my virginity back..EVER so please ya'll be careful out there and don't let any ANY one make ya'll feel pressured.
this video is such a perfect vibe
as an asexual love watching these lmao