Fix Your Communication With Your Spouse! II Steve Harvey
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- Stephanie and her husband Rashidi are struggling to communicate effectively. Can @SteveHarvey get their relationship back on track? #steveharvey #relationship #advice
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“Everything you going through is God preparing you for what you asked God for “ 🔥🔥🔥🔥these words really gave me goosebumps
God brings you together, but it's up to them to make it work.
Relationships are not guaranteed by God.
This word caught me for real
Quite frankly
Friendship and communication is always the key to a great marriage.
For me I think for any Relationship to be Successful, there needs to be loving Communication & Understanding..
Ella , amen amen amen !!
What a beautiful and healthy couple. They're so respectful of each other. They seem like they get a long we'll and have a string union.
The translations were hilarious
My Ex used to say that all the time and NEVER gave anything and the spontaneous never came to be . He would always say "you made me mad or pissed me off so I just didn't get you anything. ".
Glad he’s an ex now
Thanks God for letting me find this program. Thanks Steve... May God grant ease and goodness as well as good health. Amin
I just wanted to say I don’t know what you might he going through Or what situation you’re in right now but I no god is there for you and he loves you God bless everyone who came across.🇧🇸❤️Marcia
Listening to Steve takes me to learning ,have fun and develop my life experience most of all
WOW! I felt like this conversation is for me and my husband. Thank you Steve!
Steve Harvey you‘re the best!
I agree with Mrs Steve , her days is okay , her birthday is first , just put her feels first.
It is so wonderful to have a relationship with my best friend ...
We have been married coming up to 54 years...
Oh are we grateful to have the opportunity to be ourselves with one another ...
Loving ourselves ,to love another ... boundaries set and respect ...
Thank you Lord ❤️
One of the few interviews I've seen where the couple seems to be very mature and not foolish like some of these other couples you see out there.
Very proper
Like "what did you hear". Steve looks sharp and love that he always refers to,Marjorie
$5 can be a lot if you don't have it/hard times.
He is not stupid. I like that as well, when I least expect it. I am with him!
A great couple that love each other needs to be friends
I love this show
Love from East Africa Burundi 🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮.
My dad's line for most things was "it's not what you say, but how you say it.". (btw, one of my great-grandmothers was a Hennessey of Hennessey brandy.)
Rashid looking so stressed out
They are mature and good people. I like them. Good luck
Dad’s always overlook things 🤦🏽♀️
Control issues. Respect is needed. Not perfectionism.
I think their marriage is in trouble?? She is dealing with a man who is trying to find himself and he is in his Ego..
Agreed. He seems short fused and lacks EQ
Women stop defending him. Let's be clear. He need to honor her. Let go of the Ego. He need to get something for her Birthday... I know for sure I will not be able to let that go. I celebrate me on every Bday and anyone I am with will get the memo. It doesn't matter what you believe. Love your woman that is her love language.
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She was just asking a question. What’s the issue?
It’s not the question… it’s the perception of what the question implies. It’s akin to asking an overweight person struggling to lose weight how’s the diet going. Additionally, certain circumstances for men can create a feeling of being inept(ex. not being able to provide for his family). Questioning a man’s actions can be perceived as passive aggressive emasculation.
@@gregorypayton486 I get what you saying. However, in any body’s defense, she was simply asking a question, that didn’t warrant to become defensive
@@brendah4773 depends… and it didn’t say he became defensive. It said how he received what she said.
@@gregorypayton486 I definitely hear you. I think people just gotta be more empathetic and imagine how they'd feel if roles were reversed. That and checking in with the "what I heard you say is..." to prevent and correct hurt from misunderstandings. It's a very effective communication/therapy technique.
This goes to show that we all insert subtext into people's words to us (not just women) and therefore sometimes we have to work in opposition of how we feel because it may just be our individual perspective that's making something look bad to us...
They have little disagreements which can be fixed by 1- acknowledging if thats actually what the person said or if its my interpretation of what they said and 2 - if it's my interpretation, asking for clarity in a nice/solution-orientated way.
I must admit people such as steve harvey are made for purpose is not that much schooled nor spiritual but he seems to get things very right at simplicity ....GOD is preparing you for what you have asked HIM for.... many hate the process including me often times we questions GOD's intent during the interval
This man needs to drop his ego a little bit
Thanks Steve, so much!!!
That’s why txting sucks and always better to go old school: call or talk in person
Exactly!! When my husband and I were dating, he told me whenever I am upset with him about something he’d rather I call or we talk face to face but no texting. That’s because texting can be read the wrong way and escalate the issue at hand.
Her hubby says that he gives when he feels like but what about what she wants and when. Majority of the world celebrate birthdays & Christmas & to many it’s a time to show love. My “surprises” should do well to also dance to this tune. It doesn’t stop him from the one he invented - tru surprises.
The gift thing...if he won't give her that, he's not loving.
High percentage of men behave the same live alone urs is 38 even my younger cousins when you live them on their own to do house chores high chance they will be busy playing P .S not what you ordered . if u are facing financial crisis l believe one should focus on important things eg basic needs presents 🎁 will come later give what you can afford don't struggle to give a car and you can only afford a bicycle Live Within your means
Thank you sir
Love your analysis
God bless
Getting your hair done for a couple hundred bucks NOT a gift girl, he had you looking extra lovely I'm sure! You best be thankful because hard times is actually affording the $5 gift only!!!
Thank you! I’m like he spent that much money on her hair she should be HAPPY. Material things mean nothing!
@@FF-fd4tm Exactly there is a difference of being born surrounded by Caribbean waters it keeps you grounded and vitalizes humbleness! So many couples wish they had that $100 bucks to feed their kids much less do something nice!
@@FF-fd4tm I'm a Caribbean Queen that lived in Brooklyn for a while. There are just different mindsets I've learned but couples should be reaching for the same wave length or someone going to get wiped out!
@@aieshadaniels6104 exactly. If she don’t stop this I wouldn’t be surprise if they end up divorcing. He looks 😣
Being in to relationship or marriage with out financially can cause big problems.and some time depends on the person you get in to relationship. Is not every woman will work with you till things get better , some lady u will not get any sex . No hugs ,no kisses . They just ignore you.
Some ladys lock down on you .
When this happens,this raise a lot of alarms in the thoughts of the man . This is what I being through. I have being lock out . I feel bad because If I don't do this now ,are because am in financial situation,you lock me out ,
I should of listened to my momma's she was always right
Rashidi on point, he ain't doing nothing wrong.
2:32 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I agree with him all them holidays are made up.. if I think you will like it fine if not then don't complain.
I'm a woman and she got on my nerves. 🤦🏽
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Your best wishes
Andrew Ryan.
Is it me or is all the criticism coming from her side? I think this is a great opportunity for us to learn the lesson of how not to treat a good man who is also a good partner.
Facts.. she knew they had a hardship.. he spent HUNDREDS of dollars on your hair and got stuff for their son and you mad he ain't spend $5 on you. Though you're not materialistic? Lol get out of here
She appears to act like his mother versus his wife.
Does she talk to him while raising her hands like that???
Unfortunately he is not mature enough and considerate enough. He doesn't seem to truly love her as well. She defended him constantly and he didn't say a word. He is constantly defensive taking to her. He doesn't refer to her in a loving and caring manner. This man doesn't love his wife. He never took her side as she took his. He seems to dislike her a lot and she is so much in love with him not seeing the reality.
she's not materialistic but she wants something from him even if it cost $5... lol.. ok
Make a gift or cook special meal sentimental gift from how fist dated
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Sigma male...
Rasheed this is America culture bro. And they created the idea of making “pagan holidays” important but all other black cultures get the spontaneity with “pleasantries” and it’s based on inconsistent financial standings due to poverty but it’s not “weird”, in my opinion.. Steve is rich now and forgot the rules of economic instability so we can’t all follow his guidelines. 🤔😎😍
She is doing too much and will drive him away and crazy
When I am in an argument, I don’t have time to play “he said, she said”
Why women have to compare themselves if they don't get something for birthday? And be jealous when the other one gets something. Yes she is wrong for being pissed over a nonsense, she should grow out of it when she was 9. You should be appreciative of him coming home, be financially and emotionally supportive and generous and loving spontaneously. Consider yourself the luckiest on the planet cause a bunch of women don't see that in their daily life and thank God that you do.
Can't stand greedy self centered wives, um hair done he just said financial issues appreciate what you have and who you have death is real sister. Women can work to. 💜
I thought she was his mother, first of all ...... And also she has double standards because she says she "doesn't want anything" because he's a good husband ...... then goes on to bemoan the fact that he didn't buy her something! This is heading for the divorce courts, sorry.
The wife sounds overbearing. Gosh she needs to back off. I would never text or ask my husband if he washed and brushed our children teeth. He is loving caring and responsible father. Sometimes you need to stop being too controlling as a female
I completely disagree. obligatory gifting is useless and means NOTHING it is just like saying I love you, just to hear it back. This man has a pure heart. he IS a GIVING man! She meant to send it to her husband, no doubt about it. This woman is passive aggressive and demanding. when ANYONE makes a situation about what they get in stead of what they can give it makes me sick. The very first time I met my mother-in-law, we had a nice dinner, talked etc. when it came time to wrap it up and leave, she said "i like you AND I also like perks ( i have a buck or two and it is obvious). I instantly replied to her " Just because you just said that you have guaranteed that you will never receive any from me" I haven't given her one single "perk" since that very day. and I never will. greedy entitled people make my stomach turn. My wife gets to spend up to and including 20 bucks on her mother for gifting.
It means nothing TO YOU. When you love someone, their perspective should matter. If it's important to your partner, it should be important to you. And disrespecting and mistreating her mother indefinitely for one thoughtless remark reflects more poorly on you than your MIL. You should be ashamed but instead you are bragging. I don't know how your wife puts up with you.
@@fayepatrice1672 🙌🙌🙌
She too bossy and they need to divorced
Why would you say they need to divorced? This is something they can work on pray on
@@kimoybrown9206 exactly people advise divorce for the smallest things .
Why do they need to be divorced when they clearly love each other and this is something they can work on? ❤
Girl please stop... He needs to step up and you are making excuses for him. He is in his EGO. Girl get off those egg shells or you will always be making excuses. None of this is her fault. You need to ask. Girl those egg shells hurt.
He screams red flag to me
Me too
You are the red flag! That man just wanna be appreciated and to have peace!
Her husband does not look impressed by this conversation 😂
She keeps apologizing and seems insecure about losing him.
Yup he is a good guy
Shes very unhappy, you can tell the way she keeps defending him but he doesn't do the same for her. He's not walking on eggshells when he talks to her but she is constantly. She needs to open up and be very honest with what she needs in order to truly be happy in her marriage.
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Again, she only asked a simple question. Why he got to be defensive?
It's about time and the understanding of the reader... remember these are messages not verbal questions...
He could have just answered yes dear, not yet dear or thanks for the reminder dear, etc. Instead he texted a defensive response. End of conversation. But is she somehow causing him to feel inadequate in his roles and duties as a father, husband, provider and protector. Worse thing during the interview was Steve’s insult that he is stupid…. That was so disrespectful.
Wow great conversation, I love this couple already 😘, and Thank you to Steve 😍
Thank you Uncle Steve for sharing your wisdom about communicating with your partner. Enjoy your day
Uncle Steve, you are indeed on a mission. God Almighty is using you, well done for availing yourself.
People need to get out of their feelings and realize that the world isn’t against them. Take my words for exactly what they say, don’t add your insecurities or chip on your shoulder to them.
I’m happy for them that they have a good marriage, I wish the problems they have would have been my only problem in my marriage, but sadly being married to a narc for 16 years with 2 kids, my problems are way worse…
nothing for her bday , i can’t accept that you know every year her bday is coming , he could have cooked for her, anything to make her feel special. It sounds like they need a solid financial plan.
It’s the issue of having BUILT IN LOVE LANGUAGES yall!! It’s a tough one to conquer. Thank you for bravely putting your hearts out there ❤ we love and appreciate this insightful segment 🙏
Communication is key 🔑 👌🏾 💯 got it!
Steve was right . I am sure the lady was scared when Steve said “You have been stupid for a while “ her facial expression said it all but I loved how Steve went about it . Although I love spontaneous gifts; I love to be treated special on my birthdays
Exactly, I saw the expression on the woman's face like, "oops! this will cause a quarrel when we get home". She quickly rose in her husband's defence. And Steve maneuvered his way around it to give him accolades. Lastly, there was Calm
My BD is six days before Christmas and I feel the same way as well. Two different days, don't attach them
Please speak out and help The Christians in Nigeria 🇳🇬 🙏
She seems a little Older than Him, She is thinking like a older or Just Matured Some seems like in a way.
Men Have feelings too though, Delivery is Important. The Holy Spirit helps me to communicate Gentle even through text. If I let the Holy Spirit Guide me
She doesn't seem like a woman feeling free to speak her heart and mind. I think she's just afraid to lose him so is walkng on egg shells. I also think he went there b/c he thought Steve would agree with him. I don't care if It's a handmade gift or $5, it's not hard to give your spouse something for Chrsitmas or their b-day. Paint a freaking rock with "I love you" on it for her desk at work. Make a cute little book with craft paper of you and your son doing things for mom or telling her what she means to you. YT is full of ideas if you're looking for something. It's not about the money. My darling could make me a ring or a piece of jewerly, which some guys have done, and it would mean more to me than any from a store.
Harvey is so full of it by degrading the man instead of providing constructive feedback. This is no way to be an elder in the community?
Great show today!
She is too damm petty.. you got a great Caribbean man be thankful
Love ya Steve but I'm checkin you on that: had a beautiful home, lost it from a bipolar husband.
The man I ended up with now, divorced and 12 yrs later same bunch of crap.
God didn't have a dang thing to do with any of it...
Sorry about that I hope you move forward happily,nice to meet you can we be pretty friends here?
Steve ur a man+ thank u,keep helping & shining
He's too young for him
Caribbean upbringing is the best; the culture, morals and standards
Any Trinis here thinking this brother is one of us??
My nephew loved beef jerky. We always knew even at 2,3 and 4 that he had had it because his breath would peel the bark off a tree, so Steve yes some four-year-olds specially if they're eating beef jerky, their breath is RANK..
Caribbean stand up!!!
First one watch this video
Rashidi is me 100%
am the second 😂
That’s right.
❤😂
Great show
Steve, I was disappointed when you acted like toothbrushing is unimportant! If the habit is not established and maintained by both parents, there will be hell to pay in the teen years. Most boys do not like brushing their teeth so, if his father does not help him in a pleasant way, it makes things worse. PVEL.
Relationship between husband and wife is a two person circles to make it work, don't let a third party involved. Even God can't help you.
Lol if God can't help my marriage I don't want it
@@Bkrunz Then you have to learn how to live alone. LMAO! 🤣
@@Bkrunz God brings you together but it's up to you to make it work, relationship are not guaranteed.
God can't come and fix your issues. Otherwise where will be test? This life is a test.
God gave mind and free will so you can find your way out in any given situation
@@sadagathajiyeva5 That's what I'm trying to say.
The women only needs respect and give chance to talk with you thats the best solution about relation
A loving husband a beautifull couple. But this is so me I am like the wife don't need much just the taught but do think of me and also the texting for the kid 🙋♀️
Love from Pakistan dear