Me and my wife are newlyweds. Whoever reads this comment, could you please pray for me (Kelsey-Bernard) that I am a Godly husband to my wife. I desire to display the love of God to her and be an example of His love to those who witness our marriage. I want to make it to the 20, 30, 40, 50+ years.
I declare in the name of Jesus Christ you are and will continually be a good husband throughout your marriage . Follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit and it shall be well with your marriage.
simple...b4 marrying....just ask...if i had a million dollars, will i marry the same person....if your answer is ..YES...go ahead marry that person....if no....dont do it...simple.
That never going to bed mad, that number one thing people should emulate.God it what I say to my self I will do with Help of God. The thing is that we can forgive but we cant forget that's just the truth but whenever we remember the past we just smile.
And it seems so impossible to execute! Some spouse like to maintain the anger for months over any small detail. And that is a killer of the relationship. One month later you don’t even remember what was the topic you were fighting over! But the love is permanently damage for the long duration of the anger
simple...b4 marrying....just ask...if i had a million dollars, will i marry the same person....if your answer is ..YES...go ahead marry that person....if no....dont do it...simple.
Biggest mistake people make BEFORE getting married... not spending enough time alone to figure out who you are. Have your own likes and dislikes. You need to be happy on your own. You do not need another person all the time to be happy. Some people get married and are way too clingy. We all need space... especially in a marriage. Stay busy ladies... let that man miss you. If he needs you all the time and doesnt allow you to have time time yourself that's a red flag of someone who is possesive.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 I think she just means you don't have to be together every minute. If your partner is away ex: work, out of town or where ever, then you will be ok until they return.
Love the no secrets, no lies, communication, willingness to compromise, having a mindset of serving, loyalty, respect, appreciating one another, always be teachable and so on and so forth
I'm not yet in marriage but lm taking advantage of this platform to learn and prepare myself to be a better husband..thumbs up..NO to lies,be truthful and currently working on anger issues .
Before you get married Put everything on the table No secrets First talk about Faith Let me hear what you believe about God Talk about money Talk about family Talk about everything NO SECRETS NO BIG BLOW UP
Hmmmm. I have had uncountable talks! All positive responses, with attitude that are completely opposite 4 months down... I have learnt to keep my mouth shut, eyes and ears open... Pay attention to the actions, talk is cheap 💯
I ask my husband questions that would normally cause arguments and we discuss them honestly. No attitude, no feelings, just an objective honest discussion.
We made a promise never to give up on each other. We had so many changes in the 1st year of marriage including undiagnosed health problems. Our rules: always respect each other, there is no topic off limits, be gentle and intentional with feedback, always give each other space to settle down before discussing the issues and most importantly we check in with each other everyday because it's the little things that can breed resentment. Be honest and choose to be adults and not maliciously petty
I love my family or was my family before my divorce but it's okay, I will be fine . Am going through early stages of divorce right now, but I will try and be myself
Be strong my Love it's ain't easy trust me I've been there and what helped me was my intuition and I acted aright. Made some connections with people with value and one was exceptional, she open my eyes her name is *Kara Daly Sherman* cheer up ❤️
@@alvarezvanessa2248 Thanks so much ❤️ this is comforting, although I got a good share of money but I don't know exactly what I should do, I am actually a mother of 2 ATM and I love them so much and want the best for my kids, and I will love to get in contact with your comforter too Kara, how can I?
@@rebeccacasey9419 Yes sure Kara can be more than a friend, you can chat her up Anything you wanna know about family, investment and advice she is definitely the one Bunny 🐰. Just say hi on
My husband and I have been together for about 15 years and married for 10. We just went to the court house and got married. We both knew we wanted to be together and knew we wanted to be life long partners. We still had obstacles to over come and lots of learning of one another. I used to always have an issue talking to him, and I used too always hold onto things. We would start a fight and all of a sudden I’m still mad about something from months or a year ago. We had to both learn how to grow and to let things go! Today we have two beautiful kids, and we are stronger than ever! We are one another’s best friends!
Being best friends before getting married helps to reduce the misunderstanding and issues one will face in marriage. Being friends will always birth understanding, trust and will help you let go of things or issues that may want to pop up in the nearest future. You made a good decision to become besties ma'am. God bless your home.
I just got married at 33 . We have known each other sense I was 13 . We dated And he proposed and I said no the first time. We split and now we’re together and married. Communication is everything! Honestly.
My wife and have been married 36 years! We got married in Hawaii (we live in Ohio) then we went back 30 years later for our 30th anniversary. That was 6 years ago! My tip is, if your wife leaves you, go with her!
For a long lasting marriage...it's all about Trust, understanding, Love, loyalty and communication. Once you have these all will be ok. Was married for 37 yrs till death do us part. I'm a widow now at the age of 59...my beloved husband my best friend passed away 4 years ago of diabetic complications...I missed him dearly 😭💔.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 Of course they are and as long as you are picking up the good base of it you can at least try to use it and it may workout... doing is so different from just talking
All the comments are so helpful, my mind is not in a good place right now as I was just told from my wife that she wants a separation..if you all could pray for my marriage
My biggest mistake was marrying after only 3 mths of knowing the person... highly recommend waiting at least a yr seeing the person is in all aspects of his/her life along with premarital counseling to learn conflict resolution skills. And discuss things that matters to you... kids, religion, finances (current debts, expectations, and how it will be jointly managed). Also do a background chk... later found out my ex (stbxh) also went to jail for domestic violence before me and that info wouldn't saved me... life goes on... may your journey end in happiness.
Anyone who is reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, overthinking and doubt exit you mind. May peace and calmness fill your life 💕
I've had a few girlfriends and married once. I wasn't completely honest when we started dating. I wanted to be the best person I could. After decades of failed relationships and a divorce I realized I should be my authentic self. I start off slow and let my date see the good side. But after a few dates, when I decide to be exclusive, I start letting her know the bad side. Now I just tell her things that come to mind. Sometimes it is something most people like. Sometimes it is something most people dislike. But if she doesn't like the honest, authentic me then i want to know before we get married. I want her to do the same for me. If I feel she is hiding anything and she isn't okay with telling me and losing me then I'd leave her.
@@MyVlogTherapy I don't want to scare someone off with all negative at first. I usually want to have 3 to 4 dates before I want to start talking about my negatives. I suspect my timeline is different from most people. I will have maybe 4 dates before being exclusive. Within usually 1 or 2 dates I can see reasons I don't want to date someone. If I can't see any reason to stop dating you after 3 or 4 dates then I'll give you 100% of my focus and stop dating anyone else, i.e. exclusive. So for me, we go on 1 or 2 dates. If either of us see red flags, we part ways. If we seem compatible, we might go on 1 or 2 more dates. At this point, I will be exclusive with her. We will then get to know everything about each other. It might take months but during that time, if I really like you and see nothing I can't live with, we keep dating. Essentially, I like to focus on one person at a time. I know most people like to date multiple people but I don't. If we've had a few dates and I think there is potential, I work on us and stay exclusive. Until there is a deal breaker, I do not date anyone else. And if there is a deal breaker, I let you know and we agree to go our separate ways.
@@zraj3433 I do work on my red flags. I agree with you that you always want to improve yourself. I am constantly working on my financial, mental and physical health. I didn't word things correctly. When I said "red flags" it included things that another person might see as a red flag but that is not a red flag for me. Different people will have different values. I prefer to be on time or early for important events. If you hate this about me and feel it is fine to be fashionably late, this would be a red flag to me. There are probably hundreds of little things which could expose values I disagree with. The big ones like politics, religion, kids, family, money, etc. should be talked about right away. Essentially, I will tell a woman I'm dating my core values right away. I actually put my core value in my online dating profile so women won't swipe right on me. Bottom line, if a red flag for you might be normal for me. In that case, I'm not going to change. If it is something which is preventing me from loving myself then I'm going to work on it.
I have struggled in my marriage for six years going to seven. As I write this, I am in my daughter's room following a difficult two days. Please pray for me if you are reading this 🙏
Wow, I just forward a link to my girlfriend to watch the video. We share a lot together and I believe this piece of saying from the marriage moguls is going to strengthen our relationship and marriage life. In Sha Allah.
I think it’s important not to too attached to the person you are dating cos it makes harder to leave him/her when you see the red flags. You tend to justify and rationalise those points.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 It means get to know each other. It doesn’t have to end in a commitment if you realise he/she is not the one for you. Becoming emotionally attached to the other make things overlook. Either you won’t see the red flags or you rationalise them.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 I’m serious in finding out he’s the right one but I need to have room to fall out in case I have to. I did the opposite and got married to him but I couldn’t take it anymore when he started controlling me, trying to isolate me from my family and try to manipulate me to have access to my finances. I later realised I saw the red flags before marriage but I ignored them. I’ve learnt the lesson hard way. I won’t let my heart totally fall in to the person until I feel I’m safe and comfortable. Every mistake is a lesson learned.
I would recommend taking the same time you spend planning your wedding day, which often amounts to many months of preparation, to planning your actual marriage. I have been with my husband for almost 20 years now and those questions of where to live, how many kids, which denomination to follow, finances, buying a house or not, career planning and so on and so forth are crucial. As are rules of communication, how to spend your spare time, how to deal with your in-laws etc. etc. Unfortunately, many young brides devote their time mainly to picking out the wedding dress and the cake and many young grooms cannot be bothered - they are forgiven, but I strongly believe this should be practised going into the biggest deal of your lives. Many people who get married for a second time will then take these matters much more seriously as those above mentioned issues, if not addressed prior and left unresolved, may have led to marriage breakups.
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
This video was perfect timing. I was watching a video about someone that is getting ready to be proposed to and she was saying she hasn’t fully told her partner how much she makes because she’s scared he’ll be insecure and I think that woman needs to see this video. How can you marry someone without telling them all the things that will be crucial to the marriage?
Hello Mr. Harvey I just want to say thank you. Thank you for all these years of laughs advice and every thing. This past week I have been sick as a bastard your show is the only thing that I enjoy watching. So thank you Mr. Harvey have a wonderful day sir.
Last week I decided not to kiss my husband goodbye and wish him a wonderful day like I usually do. I woke up mad at him because I felt ignored on the bed; I didn't get to sleep in his arms or make love to him like I wanted to because he was tired and slept off. He went to bed early and didn't even kiss me good night so I told myself if he doesn't want to kiss me at night, why should I kiss him in the morning? Sounds silly right? He tried to kiss me but I avoided it and he said: "What's wrong baby? Don't you know that I may leave and not come back? This may be the last time you're seeing me you know." I felt so bad and ran to him outside and kissed him passionately. Never leave angry or with an unresolved problem. This is a very interesting video. I love everything they said.
My husband was a good man but couldn’t control his tongue when he got angry. What broke our marriage was when he said ‘you are a woman who can not satisfy a man’. That was the end. We got separated after 12 years of marriage and then I went for a divorce. I could never forgive those words until he passed away…. All men should know that ‘happy wife is happy life’.
Happy wife is not always happy life ma'am! I think society forgets that a lot of wives are happy with that saying while their husbands are going through hell emotionally. How about we try the other way and happy husband happy life and then find a common ground to exist. If most men in marriage want to take the demeaning words their wives use on them, a lot, and I mean a lot of marriages would be gone. Marriage is about two imperfect human beings with flaws committing to live together in forgiveness and falling in love everyday of their lives. No one is and will ever be perfect.
i have had enough words shared by my husband were now we are so toxic eachother,we call eachother words that after the argument am extremely exhausted and i honestly dont know why am even still here,am scared what society will say and my baby to grow without her father😩,i can feel am losing myself
Putting God 1st in every thing you serving, praying and work together as a team and team is about 2 or more person or people working together allowing God to guides us froward with him covering in your union and business with blessings . Without God None of us would be successful and be living in and on this world 🌍
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
The one thing we have to keep remembering is both are on the same team not in the opposite team that clears half of the problem..and to keep ur spouse as priority.. because whether it's a successful life or shaky life that person is the first person to deal with it
Great points here. But realistically, there will be some things you dont forget even though you have chosen to forgive and continue to love that person.... the healing of what they did will take time and that person needs to understand and act accordingly.
I'm 25 years old and I been married to my wonderful husband for 6 years and we been apart of each other's lives since I was 14. I pray we stay married happily for our entire life. So far doing very well and still happy as ever. We practice not having pride in marriage. I pray we both continue learning about one another everyday. ❤❤❤❤ hope yall have a great life 💐
Steve this is a very good topic. This type of discussion about maraage is not only good for American but all over the world. Steve thanks for bringing this topic.
Thank you Steve Harvey for this show. I was married for 25 years and it didn't work out. However, I'm thankful for the more wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Sometimes we have to work on ourselves in order to be ready for a successful relationship. Steve I love seeing you and Marjorie together (great couple) and you make it known that you love your wife and the great thing about it she loves ❤️ you back. Communication is an important part of any relationship and when you have friends of the opposite sex (some same sex) the wife and husband should make it known that how much you love each other. Steve you just so down to earth. Pray that God keeps elevating you and your family in every area of your lives. God Bless - Wanda
Mr. Harvey you are so dynamic to your personalities. That teaching is for some of us to work on it. The young lady in the red ♥️ said the right thing . In their relationship they don't bring up old talked in their arguments. In any relationships couples don't need to bring old stuff that have past. I personally don't go over a spill milk. The milk that has been spill it has alreadyspill When lover discover this true they will not have any problems in their relationship. Don that advice is some how hard to tell your partners about the man or woman that they slept with, that one is not easy to confessed to your partners. It takes the grace of God to relate it to each other. Mr. Karen said it takes the grace of God for the will of God to be done in their martial home. Nice story discussion. Mr. Harvey to married to the wrong person is like lifting burdens on your head. Some partners sounds so negative to each other. Some are positive that you will ever remain to live your life for them. Nice discussion show
They said: Quote: "Everybody you are attracted to, you are not necessarily compatible with... or able to live with" (and get along) Thanks for sharing wisdom. ❤
Yes Sir, you hit the nail right on its head. I do just the same but most people think I am an idiot. But this makes me happy. Avoid conflicts are the best idea if you are looking for life longdivity and happiness.
So much wisdom but can I ask for an advice my partner and I have been together more than six years,he has a daughter my stepdaughter,he wants to marry but I feel I do not want to because he doesn't communicate with me when he does things for his daughter like when she comes for holidays and some finances he used I always get a suprise,I just feel he sideline me ,it's like hey the child is mine stay away.the daughter is very disrespectful towards me,she will pass me without greeting,get in our room also with asking,when she is asked by her dad about the behavior she will say she didn't see me knowing very well that she did see me,so when I talk to my partner he respond by saying he didn't see her doing those things but I mean she won't do those things round her dad so I just feel like no to his proposal I do not want to be with someone who is always taking his child side,he doesn't discipline or punish her a whole 15 year old but he keeps saying she is a child and I must be patient with her.
I know this comment will go unnoticed but keep me in your prayers please. I used to have 5 brain tumors, but now I have only 1 left to go. In the past I became deaf, and also started having seizures. If you’re reading this I hope things get better for you and your family. One luv
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
Me and my wife are newlyweds. Whoever reads this comment, could you please pray for me (Kelsey-Bernard) that I am a Godly husband to my wife. I desire to display the love of God to her and be an example of His love to those who witness our marriage. I want to make it to the 20, 30, 40, 50+ years.
I declare in the name of Jesus Christ you are and will continually be a good husband throughout your marriage . Follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit and it shall be well with your marriage.
@@Carol_shirley Thank you sister! ❤️🙏🏽 ❤️
Praying for you bro
All best. You will make it
May God bless you rooting for your blessing
One thing that is clear from here is that successful marriages are of two people genuinely ready and committed to making it work.
This video should be mandatory for all couples to watch before marriage. Great video. 20 years here!
Hi marcus
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Very good Bro !! Go on , respect for your personality
simple...b4 marrying....just ask...if i had a million dollars, will i marry the same person....if your answer is ..YES...go ahead marry that person....if no....dont do it...simple.
My husband and I have been together for 14 yrs and we don’t argue. We always discuss everything. If he makes me mad I pray about it then talk to him.
Awesome 👌
Yes prayer always change the other person for the better
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Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
Wow… that takes discipline
My husband and I celebrated 61 years anniversary wasn't perfect had some real trying times but thank God for his goodness and his grace that kept us
Wow... 61years in marriage... That's really awesome... I celebrate you both sir/ma
Glory to GOD. May GOD continue to Bless you and your marriage 🙏🏾
Wow. Congratulation
Amazing!!
Woowwwwww
My hubby and I will be married 34 years next month. It hasn't always been perfect but it's pretty darn close. Putting Jesus first is our Great help 🙏.
The secret is plenty money and wealth
Jesus first always! Amen 🙏
Glory Hallelujah 🙌🏽
Come on Somebody!!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!
Amen.Love it.Look up Andrew Wommack's A Better Way To Pray and How To Hear God's Voice series on TH-cam.Two of the greatest gifts Jesus ever gave me.😇
Saying what you want,no secrets,no agendas and never going to bed mad at each other 👌🏾 great lessons.
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That never going to bed mad, that number one thing people should emulate.God it what I say to my self I will do with Help of God. The thing is that we can forgive but we cant forget that's just the truth but whenever we remember the past we just smile.
Absolutely, true
And it seems so impossible to execute! Some spouse like to maintain the anger for months over any small detail. And that is a killer of the relationship. One month later you don’t even remember what was the topic you were fighting over! But the love is permanently damage for the long duration of the anger
simple...b4 marrying....just ask...if i had a million dollars, will i marry the same person....if your answer is ..YES...go ahead marry that person....if no....dont do it...simple.
" Everybody you attracted to you aint compatible with. Cause it look good to you, don't mean it's going be good to you." Love this.
🙁. I know but that ones I’m not attracted too usual be okay guys but the problem is I’m not physically attracted to them 😟
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person" : Mignon McLaughlin..
I never knew that a successful marriage requires falling in love many times always with Ella.
WTH
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There is no secret. You must keep GOD in your marriage and let HIM lead, guide and direct your marriage. #33years
If only Jesus guides and leads ur couple , you ,you will do what ? 😂😂 u will stay there doing nothing? Hhhhhh
And that right there is the secret to happiness into a great marriage. God has to be part of your marriage.
Biggest mistake people make BEFORE getting married... not spending enough time alone to figure out who you are. Have your own likes and dislikes. You need to be happy on your own. You do not need another person all the time to be happy. Some people get married and are way too clingy. We all need space... especially in a marriage. Stay busy ladies... let that man miss you. If he needs you all the time and doesnt allow you to have time time yourself that's a red flag of someone who is possesive.
Yes let him miss you and enjoy your own "me time". I say that all the time!
This is a good tropic to discuss, the biggest mistake Steve Harvey make was whenever he sees a red flag he just ignored it.
Not a good idea, I'm a man, I will find someone else to spend time with me.
My advice for you would be "stay single" if you want to spend time alone.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 I think she just means you don't have to be together every minute. If your partner is away ex: work, out of town or where ever, then you will be ok until they return.
The biggest note I'm taking away is "everyone you're attracted to, you're not compatible with" 🔥
That hit me deep as well
True
Agree
Real talk
Once you are married it doesn’t matter anymore if you are compatible or not. You are married and you need to make it work
I always say dating is a "job interview," engagement is the "training", and marriage is the "JOB"
Absolutely 💯 💯
I like this
That's so true 👍
Sure
And divorce is getting fired 😅
Love the no secrets, no lies, communication, willingness to compromise, having a mindset of serving, loyalty, respect, appreciating one another, always be teachable and so on and so forth
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I'm not yet in marriage but lm taking advantage of this platform to learn and prepare myself to be a better husband..thumbs up..NO to lies,be truthful and currently working on anger issues .
Goodluck
Me too mate
Nice
Goodluck
Best of luck to you
I like about how these couples don't talk over one another... Even if they sound like they're going interrupt...they do it politely.
Because cameras
Before you get married
Put everything on the table
No secrets
First talk about Faith
Let me hear what you believe about God
Talk about money
Talk about family
Talk about everything
NO SECRETS
NO BIG BLOW UP
Hmmmm. I have had uncountable talks! All positive responses, with attitude that are completely opposite 4 months down... I have learnt to keep my mouth shut, eyes and ears open... Pay attention to the actions, talk is cheap 💯
@@damiphilip4286 pay attention to the action talk is cheap 💯
100% agree
I ask my husband questions that would normally cause arguments and we discuss them honestly. No attitude, no feelings, just an objective honest discussion.
We made a promise never to give up on each other. We had so many changes in the 1st year of marriage including undiagnosed health problems. Our rules: always respect each other, there is no topic off limits, be gentle and intentional with feedback, always give each other space to settle down before discussing the issues and most importantly we check in with each other everyday because it's the little things that can breed resentment. Be honest and choose to be adults and not maliciously petty
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I love my family or was my family before my divorce but it's okay, I will be fine .
Am going through early stages of divorce right now, but I will try and be myself
Be strong my Love it's ain't easy trust me I've been there and what helped me was my intuition and I acted aright.
Made some connections with people with value and one was exceptional, she open my eyes her name is *Kara Daly Sherman* cheer up ❤️
@@alvarezvanessa2248 Thanks so much ❤️ this is comforting, although I got a good share of money but I don't know exactly what I should do, I am actually a mother of 2 ATM and I love them so much and want the best for my kids, and I will love to get in contact with your comforter too Kara, how can I?
@@rebeccacasey9419 is that how bad he treated you? What happened what did you do to him in the first place but still so sorry 😐
@@rebeccacasey9419 Yes sure Kara can be more than a friend, you can chat her up Anything you wanna know about family, investment and advice she is definitely the one Bunny 🐰. Just say hi on
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"Everyone attracted to you are not compatible with u"
"BCS they look good to you doesn't mean they will be good to you "
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
My husband and I have been together for about 15 years and married for 10. We just went to the court house and got married. We both knew we wanted to be together and knew we wanted to be life long partners. We still had obstacles to over come and lots of learning of one another. I used to always have an issue talking to him, and I used too always hold onto things. We would start a fight and all of a sudden I’m still mad about something from months or a year ago. We had to both learn how to grow and to let things go! Today we have two beautiful kids, and we are stronger than ever! We are one another’s best friends!
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That's really beautiful, that's how you learn and grow as a couple.
Absolutely beautiful!!! RESPECT mam
Being best friends before getting married helps to reduce the misunderstanding and issues one will face in marriage. Being friends will always birth understanding, trust and will help you let go of things or issues that may want to pop up in the nearest future. You made a good decision to become besties ma'am. God bless your home.
"Alot of people say I do but what they really mean is I will try"and when they are hit with the reality they backoff
I just got married at 33 . We have known each other sense I was 13 . We dated And he proposed and I said no the first time. We split and now we’re together and married. Communication is everything! Honestly.
Oh I understand
Caprice is very talkative 😂😂😂.. she’s so beautiful though
Watching this after going through a breakup hurts💔💔 . These couples look really happy I hope they continue to prosper ❤️
Sorry about that. I pray you heal and find your forever person
@@ayeeshahm9078 thank you so much ❤️
@@ayeeshahm9078 Girrrrl, I'm with you, but our men will find us, don't worry. 💕
Don’t allow the pain to dwell. Use this as a manifestation tool to design the life/love you desire❤
God bless you and heal your heart
My wife and have been married 36 years! We got married in Hawaii (we live in Ohio) then we went back 30 years later for our 30th anniversary. That was 6 years ago! My tip is, if your wife leaves you, go with her!
Sounds funny but true. Till death do us part.
Does it not matter where she leaves to? ....lol
@@thomasagorhom1139 ha! No! And if she moves in with another man, you sleep on the couch! LOL!
For a long lasting marriage...it's all about Trust, understanding, Love, loyalty and communication. Once you have these all will be ok. Was married for 37 yrs till death do us part. I'm a widow now at the age of 59...my beloved husband my best friend passed away 4 years ago of diabetic complications...I missed him dearly 😭💔.
Be strong, he is always with you
Sorry for your loss, you all will always be joined together spiritually 🙏❤
These couples are giving some treasure advice... One of the best honestly ❤️❤️
it's not gonna work for evrybody though because after many years of crap they understand by themselves
@@sarahrean7174
If they understood that late they wouldn't have been together for 40+ or even 20+ ... Strong fundamental means strong building
There's always ups and downs in a marriage, they're only telling the good part.😂
@@YourRoyalHighness88
Of course they are and as long as you are picking up the good base of it you can at least try to use it and it may workout... doing is so different from just talking
How about telling your spouse, sorry 😔 "I slept with who and who" Don't ever tell this to your spouse.
All the comments are so helpful, my mind is not in a good place right now as I was just told from my wife that she wants a separation..if you all could pray for my marriage
It's definitely gonna be fine.....
Stay strong.. life got alot of great stuff
Are u guys ok
My biggest mistake was marrying after only 3 mths of knowing the person... highly recommend waiting at least a yr seeing the person is in all aspects of his/her life along with premarital counseling to learn conflict resolution skills. And discuss things that matters to you... kids, religion, finances (current debts, expectations, and how it will be jointly managed). Also do a background chk... later found out my ex (stbxh) also went to jail for domestic violence before me and that info wouldn't saved me... life goes on... may your journey end in happiness.
I love the older couple. Wisdom speaking... Good advice from the other couples, as well.
This is so awesome. The show should be casted in all TV stations. Thanks Steve. Watching all the way from Kenya 🇰🇪.
Awesome mwana a mwaitu
A good marriage long last when the couple lives as a friend each other....
Anyone who is reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, overthinking and doubt exit you mind. May peace and calmness fill your life 💕
I've had a few girlfriends and married once. I wasn't completely honest when we started dating. I wanted to be the best person I could. After decades of failed relationships and a divorce I realized I should be my authentic self. I start off slow and let my date see the good side. But after a few dates, when I decide to be exclusive, I start letting her know the bad side. Now I just tell her things that come to mind. Sometimes it is something most people like. Sometimes it is something most people dislike. But if she doesn't like the honest, authentic me then i want to know before we get married. I want her to do the same for me. If I feel she is hiding anything and she isn't okay with telling me and losing me then I'd leave her.
Just curious why you don’t tell the bad side while dating, instead of waiting until your exclusive? Seems its best to be 💯 real from jump.
@@MyVlogTherapy I don't want to scare someone off with all negative at first. I usually want to have 3 to 4 dates before I want to start talking about my negatives. I suspect my timeline is different from most people. I will have maybe 4 dates before being exclusive. Within usually 1 or 2 dates I can see reasons I don't want to date someone. If I can't see any reason to stop dating you after 3 or 4 dates then I'll give you 100% of my focus and stop dating anyone else, i.e. exclusive.
So for me, we go on 1 or 2 dates. If either of us see red flags, we part ways. If we seem compatible, we might go on 1 or 2 more dates. At this point, I will be exclusive with her. We will then get to know everything about each other. It might take months but during that time, if I really like you and see nothing I can't live with, we keep dating. Essentially, I like to focus on one person at a time. I know most people like to date multiple people but I don't. If we've had a few dates and I think there is potential, I work on us and stay exclusive. Until there is a deal breaker, I do not date anyone else. And if there is a deal breaker, I let you know and we agree to go our separate ways.
Do you work on your bad sides/ red flags/negatives? Why would you not want to improve yourself?
@@zraj3433 I do work on my red flags. I agree with you that you always want to improve yourself. I am constantly working on my financial, mental and physical health.
I didn't word things correctly. When I said "red flags" it included things that another person might see as a red flag but that is not a red flag for me. Different people will have different values. I prefer to be on time or early for important events. If you hate this about me and feel it is fine to be fashionably late, this would be a red flag to me. There are probably hundreds of little things which could expose values I disagree with.
The big ones like politics, religion, kids, family, money, etc. should be talked about right away. Essentially, I will tell a woman I'm dating my core values right away. I actually put my core value in my online dating profile so women won't swipe right on me.
Bottom line, if a red flag for you might be normal for me. In that case, I'm not going to change. If it is something which is preventing me from loving myself then I'm going to work on it.
Hi darrell
I have struggled in my marriage for six years going to seven. As I write this, I am in my daughter's room following a difficult two days. Please pray for me if you are reading this 🙏
When you're dating you're dating that person's representative; when you get married you marry that person real self...
When I got married, the representative was so far from the real self; I had to get out of there fast, sad but true.
This has taught me conflicts are normal in a relationship it's how you handle it with love 🥰
Wow, I just forward a link to my girlfriend to watch the video. We share a lot together and I believe this piece of saying from the marriage moguls is going to strengthen our relationship and marriage life. In Sha Allah.
It’s the dishwasher argument for me. 🤣 it’s my way and it’s the right way. I can teach you! Lmao
Everything is so true. Wish everyone watching this learns something.
I'm just grateful i have watched this clip, so phenomenal. ❤️❤️
This is a heavy duty talk. Just in time.
I want a successful marriage 😌
I came here after i find the successful marriage. I saw that i am a famous. 😻
Me too.
Tell them who you slept with in the past 🤣
Me too,I want a successful marriege
I pray you find it someday.
Me too....because I dont believe in divorce at all...I believe in forever until I die....
I think it’s important not to too attached to the person you are dating cos it makes harder to leave him/her when you see the red flags. You tend to justify and rationalise those points.
Then what's the point of dating?
So very true, cause I use to do it as well.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 It means get to know each other. It doesn’t have to end in a commitment if you realise he/she is not the one for you. Becoming emotionally attached to the other make things overlook. Either you won’t see the red flags or you rationalise them.
@@sisds So you're not serious from the beginning.
@@YourRoyalHighness88 I’m serious in finding out he’s the right one but I need to have room to fall out in case I have to. I did the opposite and got married to him but I couldn’t take it anymore when he started controlling me, trying to isolate me from my family and try to manipulate me to have access to my finances. I later realised I saw the red flags before marriage but I ignored them. I’ve learnt the lesson hard way. I won’t let my heart totally fall in to the person until I feel I’m safe and comfortable. Every mistake is a lesson learned.
I strongly agree that couples must watch this before marriage and married must watch this to resolve conflicts. Very helpful video ❤️❤️❤️
I would recommend taking the same time you spend planning your wedding day, which often amounts to many months of preparation, to planning your actual marriage. I have been with my husband for almost 20 years now and those questions of where to live, how many kids, which denomination to follow, finances, buying a house or not, career planning and so on and so forth are crucial. As are rules of communication, how to spend your spare time, how to deal with your in-laws etc. etc. Unfortunately, many young brides devote their time mainly to picking out the wedding dress and the cake and many young grooms cannot be bothered - they are forgiven, but I strongly believe this should be practised going into the biggest deal of your lives. Many people who get married for a second time will then take these matters much more seriously as those above mentioned issues, if not addressed prior and left unresolved, may have led to marriage breakups.
Well, people bring up the past when the issues from the past are still unresolved and haunting.
THANK YOU.
I'm not married yet and all the advice given here are helpful. I know now what I need to do when my time comes. BTW, love your shows.
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
All I am hearing is communication, respectfully, n disagree respectfully❤
Great show. Biggest point that stood out.. "alot of ppl say I Do but mean I'll try"
This video was perfect timing. I was watching a video about someone that is getting ready to be proposed to and she was saying she hasn’t fully told her partner how much she makes because she’s scared he’ll be insecure and I think that woman needs to see this video. How can you marry someone without telling them all the things that will be crucial to the marriage?
Steve thanks alot for this. Thanks to the amazing couples you brought on the show.
Hello Mr. Harvey I just want to say thank you. Thank you for all these years of laughs advice and every thing. This past week I have been sick as a bastard your show is the only thing that I enjoy watching. So thank you Mr. Harvey have a wonderful day sir.
Hi Jimmy
Would love to be your friend
Wow steve please take more time in these program that gone helps the whole world please I just really love it
I was just going Thru the website hoping to meet someone nice and I came across your profile and I decided to say Hi
Last week I decided not to kiss my husband goodbye and wish him a wonderful day like I usually do. I woke up mad at him because I felt ignored on the bed; I didn't get to sleep in his arms or make love to him like I wanted to because he was tired and slept off. He went to bed early and didn't even kiss me good night so I told myself if he doesn't want to kiss me at night, why should I kiss him in the morning?
Sounds silly right?
He tried to kiss me but I avoided it and he said:
"What's wrong baby? Don't you know that I may leave and not come back? This may be the last time you're seeing me you know."
I felt so bad and ran to him outside and kissed him passionately.
Never leave angry or with an unresolved problem.
This is a very interesting video. I love everything they said.
My husband was a good man but couldn’t control his tongue when he got angry. What broke our marriage was when he said ‘you are a woman who can not satisfy a man’. That was the end. We got separated after 12 years of marriage and then I went for a divorce. I could never forgive those words until he passed away…. All men should know that ‘happy wife is happy life’.
Happy wife is not always happy life ma'am! I think society forgets that a lot of wives are happy with that saying while their husbands are going through hell emotionally. How about we try the other way and happy husband happy life and then find a common ground to exist. If most men in marriage want to take the demeaning words their wives use on them, a lot, and I mean a lot of marriages would be gone. Marriage is about two imperfect human beings with flaws committing to live together in forgiveness and falling in love everyday of their lives. No one is and will ever be perfect.
I believe you ALSO do offend God almighty and ask for forgiveness?
You have forgiveness issues
i have had enough words shared by my husband were now we are so toxic eachother,we call eachother words that after the argument am extremely exhausted and i honestly dont know why am even still here,am scared what society will say and my baby to grow without her father😩,i can feel am losing myself
Hey Steve, thank you so much for the beautiful experiences, I'll make every single day my best day.
I'm engaged 💍 ☺️
Putting God 1st in every thing you serving, praying and work together as a team and team is about 2 or more person or people working together allowing God to guides us froward with him covering in your union and business with blessings . Without God None of us would be successful and be living in and on this world 🌍
This better to watch that all the modern day garbage that makes Marriage look awful. You get what you focus on. Thanks to all the lovely couples. ❤
"You get what you focus on" 🙌🏾 Indeed!!
I have watched this video soo many times and nothing else comes close to it. ❤️❤️
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
The one thing we have to keep remembering is both are on the same team not in the opposite team that clears half of the problem..and to keep ur spouse as priority.. because whether it's a successful life or shaky life that person is the first person to deal with it
@Steve Harvey 🙏🙏🙏 my pleasure sir.. It's an wonderful idea.. Love to.. We enjoy every episode of ur shows...
"The best thing about arguing is that we make up".. That's some beautiful stuff that I agree with right there
We do that my husband and I. We have been married 20 years.
How are you doing?
This segment was so good...thanks to Steve Harvey and the four amazing couples...👍🏽
Great points here. But realistically, there will be some things you dont forget even though you have chosen to forgive and continue to love that person.... the healing of what they did will take time and that person needs to understand and act accordingly.
One of the best videos I've ever watched on YT. So helpful.
Being friends
Being your authentic self
Another mistake is not looking at each other's credit report before marriage to how each other handles money
Or talking about who and who you slept with.
Some great couples with great wisdom, thank you for your pearls.
Steve Harvey bless
Amazing conversation,thumbs up 👆, to all the couples 👫,#Steve Harvey.
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Loved this. Need more shows like this.
Really enjoyed this segment. Very informative!
Absolutely awesome 💯. Thanks for sharing this episode. Very helpful and inspiring ✨ love this ❤❤❤❤
Great clip! Continue most like it. It is so needed!
I'm 25 years old and I been married to my wonderful husband for 6 years and we been apart of each other's lives since I was 14. I pray we stay married happily for our entire life. So far doing very well and still happy as ever. We practice not having pride in marriage. I pray we both continue learning about one another everyday. ❤❤❤❤ hope yall have a great life 💐
Steve this is a very good topic. This type of discussion about maraage is not only good for American but all over the world. Steve thanks for bringing this topic.
Thank you Steve Harvey for this show. I was married for 25 years and it didn't work out. However, I'm thankful for the more wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Sometimes we have to work on ourselves in order to be ready for a successful relationship. Steve I love seeing you and Marjorie together (great couple) and you make it known that you love your wife and the great thing about it she loves ❤️ you back. Communication is an important part of any relationship and when you have friends of the opposite sex (some same sex) the wife and husband should make it known that how much you love each other. Steve you just so down to earth. Pray that God keeps elevating you and your family in every area of your lives. God Bless - Wanda
If you don’t mine me asking, what happened after 25 yrs that changed?
Hello Gail, how are you doing today, I hope you had a pleasant day?
best video i've ever watched my whole entire life. Great lessons learnt from here!!...kudos to Steve and his team!...God richly bless you all!🙏
“Put everything on the table”
Amen
Mr. Harvey you are so dynamic to your personalities. That teaching is for some of us to work on it. The young lady in the red ♥️ said the right thing . In their relationship they don't bring up old talked in their arguments. In any relationships couples don't need to bring old stuff that have past. I personally don't go over a spill milk. The milk that has been spill it has alreadyspill When lover discover this true they will not have any problems in their relationship. Don that advice is some how hard to tell your partners about the man or woman that they slept with, that one is not easy to confessed to your partners. It takes the grace of God to relate it to each other. Mr. Karen said it takes the grace of God for the will of God to be done in their martial home. Nice story discussion. Mr. Harvey to married to the wrong person is like lifting burdens on your head. Some partners sounds so negative to each other. Some are positive that you will ever remain to live your life for them. Nice discussion show
We are not allowed to leave angry or w/o saying I love you. When we call each other we say hey baby, you okay? I've been married 7 years.
Just made it 25 years thanks to the Lord! These people had wonderful advice.
This is a GREAT video!!! People should heed ALL of this advice.
Great conversation 👌 👏 👍 🙌 😊 ❤
The secret of good marriage is let go minor failings and deal with serious failings without blaming. Just peacefully set matters straight.
I enjoyed this do it more often
Thankful for this 🙏🥺
This was so educational ❤️ Thank you Steve
They said: Quote: "Everybody you are attracted to, you are not necessarily compatible with... or able to live with" (and get along) Thanks for sharing wisdom. ❤
If she is hot enough I'll make it work damnit.
Yes Sir, you hit the nail right on its head. I do just the same but most people think I am an idiot. But this makes me happy. Avoid conflicts are the best idea if you are looking for life longdivity and happiness.
Awesome wisdom from all of the couples!
Thank you uncle, Steve, and all.
So much wisdom but can I ask for an advice my partner and I have been together more than six years,he has a daughter my stepdaughter,he wants to marry but I feel I do not want to because he doesn't communicate with me when he does things for his daughter like when she comes for holidays and some finances he used I always get a suprise,I just feel he sideline me ,it's like hey the child is mine stay away.the daughter is very disrespectful towards me,she will pass me without greeting,get in our room also with asking,when she is asked by her dad about the behavior she will say she didn't see me knowing very well that she did see me,so when I talk to my partner he respond by saying he didn't see her doing those things but I mean she won't do those things round her dad so I just feel like no to his proposal I do not want to be with someone who is always taking his child side,he doesn't discipline or punish her a whole 15 year old but he keeps saying she is a child and I must be patient with her.
Great lessons. Thank you Steve and lovely couples ❤
Oooo I absolutely love 💓 this episode 💞
I really appreciate particular 1
Right here, Right now this is on point for me 👰🤵
I know this comment will go unnoticed but keep me in your prayers please. I used to have 5 brain tumors, but now I have only 1 left to go. In the past I became deaf, and also started having seizures. If you’re reading this I hope things get better for you and your family. One luv
I pray for your full recovery
Will be praying for you!
Get well ❤
Receive your healing in Jesus name
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We need more talkshows like this
There's much wisdom in this video!
Marriage is so beautiful 🥰
Hello pretty lady you look stunning I must confess... I feel lucky running into a beautiful angel such as yourself on here ☺ 😘 and please forgive me if I bumped into your privacy, I just couldn't help it cos your beauty is so charming ☺🌹💋😘😍
@uchenna chibueze stfu ur leaving this post to every woman on TH-cam. Be original and stop trying to be a player
Be right or be happy,don't involve friends and family,don't call each out of their names
Steve you're life changer for bringing this, I appreciate you
I love this topic it needs to be seen and heard.👏🏾👌🏾