I love that he offered breakfast dates since he was coming home late most of the time. This is such a good idea . On my end I was just thinking “oh ok. If my husband gets home too late I could wear sexy lingerie or be naked more often”. I liked the fact that he took the initiative to organize things in the morning and not ask that his wife wear sexy stuff when he arrives . It’s great when we are all thinking about what we can do to solve the problem easily without putting the blame on our partner. You see! This is why I refuse to date a man who doesn’t educate himself on healthy relationships!
I don’t think it is wearing make up and stuff that makes and keeps a man attracted to a woman, I think it’s the self care (whatever that is to a woman) that attracts and keeps a man. I think the best thing a woman can do for herself for always and forever is take care of herself in the way that feels good to her period.
Yeh, simple sandbag kettlebell circuits at home are the best. squats and overhead press is the fastest and simplest way to burn fat and build muscle and boost happy hormones.
Every morning I get up 2 hours before she does. I start the day taking a piss and brush my teeth, before I make coffee and relax with calm and quiet until the first hour passes. Then I get on the dumbells and get myself a little pump to start the day. I've done this for a while now, but let me tell you, it changed my life immediately once I started doing it. Not only am I staying in shape, I also see how my girl is respecting me more. Whenever I put my foot down before, we had fights about things. Nowadays she's kinda submissive, but not due to me making her submissive, but it seems that she's doing more to hold on to me. Also, don't let your girl keep male friends. It's a downhill slope. Get that into her head immediately. Like Steve says, a male friend is someone who's waiting for your girl to give them the opportunity. And no, I will never trust anyone 100%. I trust myself, cus my mind is the only mind I'm able to know 100%.
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Men as well as women love to see their partners looking good and sharp. Just don't over do it. Make up not paint up. Look like yourself when the make up is off.
Would say also that females should not over do it with terrific long nails as doesn't look good or inflated disproportionate lips. Some balance/face simetry and feminility has to be.
@@kimmy8703 so what should men do? Go after an unattractive woman on purpose with great personality and wait for her to turn into a sex goddess? And if she doesnt, then what?
@@Dancediva240 Never die for man that have good looking (beauty is not everything). I find men normally die and blind for attractive women in a weird way. The truth is man die for sex when they see atractive women, sex is love to them, LOL. Smart women won't fall for that.
My fiance brought his intentions onto the table straight up. We met online, and on our first online date he brought up his previous lifestyle to make it clear he wasn't looking to pretend he was a saint on the website (religious dating site) but that his new lifestyle in the Lord was what he was pursuing now. I really respected his honesty, and he was open from the get go of what his intentions were in dating/courtship, he was serious in looking for a good woman to settle down with, he had wasted a portion of his life and he wasn't going to do that anymore. Major fireworks and chemistry when we first met up in person for the both of us. And the second time I showed without makeup and he didn't 'notice' as in when I brought it up, he was like "you look the same, some women look like a whole different person, so you wear a good amount because without you still are the same person just less done up". (keeper lol) Always just so blunt and honest, the bluntness hurts sometimes but it all comes from a good place and it makes the nice things even more nice because there's no doubting that he truly means what he says :) Goodness, I can't wait to marry this man!!
Seriously Steve, you are the only person ever who could explain to me that bumming out every day has an impact on my husband. I understood before, but your explanation sealed the deal for me. Please keep all your answers to questions coming!!!
Which LORD would that be? Is it Lord Vader? Lord Mandelson? The Lord of Bones? Why is being afraid of something your parents told you was true an admirable quality?
Hyndergogen9 fearing as in revering. Not scared or afraid. And nobody makes you believe anything, not your friends and not your parents. We have free will.
@@itsmidtrib1569 True, you have free will, but you're also a product of your environment. And let's be honest here your parents raised you religious didn't they? There's nothing abnormal with that, lots of people don't question the paradigms they were raised in, there's just nothing admirable about it either. Furthermore you didn't specify a Lord and that's interesting. Would you praise someone who believes in a different Lord? Or someone who believes in the same lord but worships a different way or believes he had different prophets? My point is essentially that if you follow through with all of the commands and statements made by literally any religious doctrine you could name to their logical conclusion they do not make sense at all.
Hyndergogen9 I am not going to defend myself or argue with someone like you who obviously thinks is very smart and self righteous. (And who didn’t read the Bible) how can you argue about God with Christians if you never read the Bible.
So thankful to be married to a man who doesn't give a **** wether I wear make-up or not or dress up or not. He still loves me and desires me just the same.
We'll see how long that lasts......it usually doesnt.....why would it? As women we are supposed to be like precious dolls all the time not like Raggedy Ann lmao
I see . . . however, on the flipside the lady who took off all of her makeup when she got home was sending a signal to her date that she felt comfortable enough with him to ne transparent about her looks and even comfortable with herself. It was a compliment in some respects. That takes trust.
This doesn't make any sense. It sounds like an excuse for not wanting to look your best. Why would you randomly take off your makeup? Not reapplying, I get. But removing it?
I agree with you. She was confident in herself and if the man wasn't into it she knew he was not for her so why waste her time on him? I saw weakness in the man that couldn't handle it . Too shallow.
Exactly, because I know the rapper Eve said her husband saw her in her natural state. I know a lady who refuses to have her husband see her without make up, I’m like you’re not a corpse. They even had this surgery where you can get permanent make up. Some women can’t be without makeup.. for nothing. I’ve seen women where heels at 7 am and face full of makeup at Walmart. Just to be seen beautiful just in case they see a man. 🤔 the beauty industry is so big because they prey on women to have so much make up. My make totals $11 lol 😂
This is true! Steve always speaks facts! Ladies, keep it interesting for your man, not just sexually. He will keep coming back for more. You both have to put in the effort. Don't get into a relationship if you won't make an effort. Happily married woman here 😊
Because his dog ass dogged put his other 2 wives when he didn't have shit,and this wife now is so perfect after marrying 2 first cousins who where drug dealers!!
Steve Harvey most definitely does not always speak facts. He is a dangerous combination of immense confidence and rampant stupidity. He"s a certain kind of stupid though who believes that observing is the same as understanding.
@@Hyndergogen9 You knew what he meant though. If you think he's that stupid, I don't know why you are watching him. If people want to take every word he says as gospel, that's their choice.
I’m 51 keep my self in shape, have more lingerie than Ann summers . I have catered to every fantasy he has ever expressed . Some have gone well out my comfort zone . I cook , I clean, I work full time and pay half of everything even though he earns far more than I do. I never cheat, I rarely go out as I prefer spending time with him . I put him first and his wants an needs before my own Still doesn’t stop my husband chasing other women . He is soon to be my ex husband. I want a man who cherishes me and thinks I’m worth it .
Yeah. This is one thing I try to mentor to the younger generation. You have to have principals of what is acceptable for u. You can’t sleep, cook, etc your way into his heart. Either he receives u or he doesn’t. But you still stay true to yourself. And set the tone as to how u expect to be treated. You don’t have to act as his wife to catch/keep him.
Men DONT let her see you looking shitty, and especially in the early stages of dating . It will make her NOT attracted to you. She will RUN 🏃♀️ especially when she makes the effort to look good for you. After you both get each other keep do things to make you to REMAIN attracted to each other.
When I was married, I would put on really sexy nice outfits, and makeup. He would say: "What you putting that on for? You don't need no makeup." I'm sure the OW were wearing makeup.
I’m not a marriage type of guy but here are a few pointers ladies: 1) wear no make up 2) talk about intellectual topics not BS t.v. nonsense 3) be yourself - goofy, nerdy, etc. it’s actually very sexy
What if he pretends he's a provider then complains about a ten dollar skirt at forever 21 that he offered to pay for.... universe do your thing I cannot 🙏
If he offered to pay then got salty after then that’s not right. But if you want your man to be a provider what are you doing for him and his requirements? Submissive?
This makes sence. I had 3 husbands who all cheated on me. Now I feel God telling me I made it too easy for them. I'm a hot chick now that is learning men need to work for my attention
I've had guys give up on me pretty easy. I used to feel so rejected and disappointed. My hubby told me he saw me as a challenge but in an exciting way.
So she took off her make up too soon and that's a problem?? I think she did him a favor by being honest!! Little to no time invested and that's a good thing for both parties I.M.O!!
Exactly. He's a jerk anyway. That's the kind of guy who sucks in bed because he's worried about her breasts being perky enough. If a man really likes you, he does NOT CARE about any of that superficial nonsense.
@@datingdiaries1681 Yeah. I think that was the issue, and I have seen some women look totally different with make-up on. I don't think it should alter your appearance that much.
I cant stand the "chase" the "game" or whatever you wanna call. Im straight to the point, she anything other than yes etc, i dont waste my time at all. I dont play stupid games
I agree. My ex was so mad when I tooked my wig off. After one year of being engaged he proposed after 30 days of us dating. He said he did not know I looked like that 😂. I said what that mean. He said put that wig back on 😂🤣. We both was laughing, then he kept starring at my at hair lol. When I got mad he said I scared him 😂. I was so upset. I put him out and called off the wedding. Do u know this fool begged me to take him back. We went to counseling and everything. And the counselor laughed too and j had to take my wig off I front of the male counselor he said it ain't that bad. But make a long story short. He got used to it and then started wanting me to wear my real hair more often since he got used to it. Then started to say I look better with natural hair. I end up leaving him after 4 1/2 years. Come to find out he was cheating on me since day one with multiple women
Yeah. You shouldn't have married him to begin with. And I feel you are only laughing as a coping mechanism. Because nothing about that story is funny. I pray that what you shared help someone to know what to look for when it comes to red flags. But that is not a funny story. Look for self love. Self love is key. You will not settle for just anything if you truly love and appreciate yourself.
"You don't have to like what I'm telling you about us. (men) It don't change us though. We are who we are. And if you don't understand that, you can't get what you want."
I was bare faced when I met my man. As time went on I made the choice not to wear makeup most days when I was with him. I don't know-personally I just wanted him to see the real me. Flaws and all. Guess it worked cs almost a year later and we in lovvvvvveeee 🙂 lol
My husband is 24yrs my senior. And I am soooo happy and in love with him. He hunted me for 2 yrs before I even gave him a chance to date me. But let me say this, after that first date, I knew I wanted to be his wife and today we've been married for 5 plus yrs. Jesus Is King FOREVER!!!
How to stop comparing ourselves to others First of all we should know There is a postive comparing leads to working And There is a negative comparing leads to depression And every person is different And they can’t be a complete version ( copy ) of the other person * realizing that things are not as they seem * Someone could smile and happiness is not in his heart * You are not seeing the whole picture your only seeing the part that they are showing you * Stop following people’s news * Focus on what you did today So that you reach your goals in the future * You might get depressed just because someone posted a picture of themselves on paris here you will fall in to the comparing trap even though you don’t know how much hard work it took them to get to paris * So don’t follow people’s news * You are a different person * And your life is not connected to them * Re_program your self and say thank you * Being grateful to what you have makes you careless about what others have * Say thank you to the simplest things people do for you and you will be happy in your life
yes that is true!! i agree// there are so many reasons as to why men are the way they are. breaking the cycle of unhealthy toxic relationships never easy!! you love what you are use to loving
My boo was in my dms for 4yrs trying to finally meet . We finally met in person , everything is good , talk everyday straight for 3 months , I hope we keep growing ❤️
@@wshelby83 girl he end up being a cheater !! Lol but I’ve been in a happy relationship for a year now , so this is going great 💕♥️ moral of the story,always trust your intuition
He's 100% right ladies. Doesn't matter how you feel, it doesn't change the facts. He's gonna love you regardless wheather by expresses how much he misses how you jazzed it up or not, but he prefers the you he first met.
Broke up with him today and I’m hurt I give you chance after chance dude and I don’t even do that so I went against what I believed in for you trying to be nice and see the good in people. I’m like maybe this can be good since he in a better place in life and seems happy. It just hurt so much because I let myself down 🥺☹️ I could care less about someone doing me wrong ! I then went through worse but to know you haven’t changed and I let myself down that’s deep for me because I’m all I got I love myself
This is on point, and I appreciate the honesty. Thank you Steve! I often feel like the man in my relationships. Or maybe I just need to "upgrade" to a better significant other. I think this video helped me figure that out. Yep, that's def it.
My Father told me this exact thing that a man is hunter & if the guy wants to pursue me court me he would put in work & come get me & I would never have to wonder & that I’m not the one supposed to be finding him when he should be coming to me in the first place 🥇💯
I am the exact same way though. A man MUST keep himself up if not I just can’t get close to them. Some men really let themselves go thinking we don’t mind? Like hell we don’t. Shave, brush your teeth and keep yourself fresh. Men can be nasty
That's true.. one guy said to me " Is how it is now, tables have turned ". Was weird to listen to a guy that had such calm " l give in (up) " vibe. Then l figured out why.. he liked it. She did 80% of everything at home, taking care of 3 kids, while he had only his work and could cheat freely : )
@@88niteowl88 Then again though.. I wouldn't take advice from someone who never been through it. He knows what he is talking about cause he has experience.
It goes both ways. And not all couples are the same. Some people love the companionship and the friendship they have with the person. They’re not looking for someone who is modeling lingerie for them every second. He makes it sound like he’s only with his wife for her looks. And I doubt that’s the case. I’m sure they’re also good friends and get along well too. If it’s just a physical attraction and nothing else then it won’t last.
This definitely as far as what I already thought about him when he divorced his first wife and got what a light skin woman it's all about looks for him not the person
True but people also change over time especially if you've been together for years. We ALL are always changing. PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY you want to make sure you are good for YOU first and of course your spouse and family.
What a sad world where people focus on what's on the outside...you want a prize...look inside yourselves and look to GOD. Non spiritual relationships all over this world .. I'm way happier alone that trying to please the external world. Gladly turning people down to focus on who matters most, me 😚
Some men prefer the no make up look, just saying. A lot of Caribbean men are like that, they are ok with the make up, but they prefer, minimum (powder, lip gloss, eyeliner) or none at all. You know, I don't know if I can deal with all that, I like being myself & if you cannot handle knowing that when some women get home, they want to relax & take their make up off, well you know I don't have time to hold your hand to explain it to you. The woman probably has a particular skin routine. Like for me, I need to get that make up off otherwise I won't be able to see the next morning.
@@stephaniephilip8995 Help with the make up allergies?? You can post the info right here, thank you. I do not have whatsapp, right now. Thanks for the offer. Blessings
That's not the goal at all. Steve is a misogynistic relic who would be better suited to the 1940's. Having a partner is merely supposed to be an accessory to an already happy life. You should be comfortable with yourself and what you're doing before you worry about finding someone to share it with.
This is True. Before i gave my number And i was Nice. Now i make them work for me from day one. And i never let it down. I am So sorry. But They are hunters. Listen To Steve!
I need you to give advice to men, because lord knows im tired of asking my partner to be masculine. I am working on my femininity and not seeing him work on himself is bothering me and i am doing this for myself but I know it is going to help us as a whole.
Steve always gives advice to men. Unfortunately, these days..Men are encouraged not to be masculine. It's toxic feminism that did it and demonic activity.
It’s funny I’ll friend zone people and they’ll see the “bum” me but my skin is glowing and my hair is gorgeous at 9pm still. Dudes get confused how I look that good at night. Natural beauty 😂 God blessed me.
Ohh.. Is it ?... Women like men who r bad guys... Who doesn't care them.. Instead guys being nice will be thrown away from chase. Hence women pretend to be they r nice but inreality they r not... This is the bitter truth
Sorry but all men are not hunters. I've gone out with plenty of women in my time and have never chased and chased a single one. If she doesnt give me a sign she's interested, I move on. Show me you're interested I'll pursue you. Play the not interested and hard to get. I'm out.
@skully Maybe it has to do with the fact that men love a long chase, and if a woman show's interest too soon, It makes the men cool down? I don't know. My theory.
@xxbabyxx Or, you're in the presence of a lost and confused man whom are more interested in causing confusion and complications in your own life in that case. Walk quietly away. You DO NOT want, need, nor desire those problems. I promise you.
Yea right,like he was with his 2 ex-wives who took care of his broke ass,now his new wife is a first class gold digger,who was married to two first cousins ,one went to prison as a drug dealer so she married the 1st cousin who where a drug dealer too!!
@@bridgetsmith5962 You are right. That, though, has got nothing to do with what he said, which was....honest.🤷♀️ Ask the men around you. You will hate the truth, but it doesnt care about your feelings
THIS IS /WAS A REALLY, REALLY. IMPORTANT. POINT .I DON'T KNOW IF MR STEVE HARVEY REALIZED THAT HE HIT ON ONE OF THE REAL REASONS WHY SOME MARRIAGES DON'T WORK...WOW!!!!!.
I'm just glad that I know that not _all_ men are as shallow as Mr. Harvey is supposing they are. I do acknowledge that most men (not "all" men as some identify as asexuals) have that primal urge to "hunt." But, perhaps what Mr. Harvey is disregarding is that different men hunt for different things. Yes, many men are caught up in a woman's physical appearance for the most part. But some men appreciate the woman they love for more than just her physical appearance, but also her mind, her soul, her heart. I know there are some men who think like Mr. Harvey and think I'm just being naïve, trying to be in "denial." BUT, I also know men out there, like my own FH, who appreciates me for more than my body - but also my mind. Sure, he might be attracted to my physical appearance. But, if he had found out after getting to know me that I was vapid, superficial, shallow, and dense, he would have lost interest in me right away. Also, I'm overweight. Sure, I might be pretty, but, I'm no Ms. Supermodel. That's not speaking low of myself, its just stating facts. So, I appreciate my FH for being more attracted to my mind and who I am as a person - because that means he's not objectifying me to merely something nice to look at and have sex with. More importantly, he appreciates me for who I am as a whole person. I'd rather be hunted by a man who appreciates all of who I am, and not merely chasing me because they "saw something shiny they liked that they wanted to chase" like a rabid dog. Yes, I get that we as humans still have basic, primal urges - but that doesn't mean there can't be more to us.
I'm in a crazy situation with this guy. He's been pursing me for over 3 years now. I want to be just friends but he wants more, but he doesn't want to take the time to date me. Go out, eat out that type of stuff. He keeps begging me to come over and watch movies with him. I would tell him no. Then he'll get all upset. Then I have to cut him off and tell him that I don't want to talk to him anymore. He will stop texting and calling for days. Then he'll come back all over again. I like the chase but I feel like I'm m being chased by the wrong man.
No he ain’t the one for you! A real man will take out his woman out. Take her to places she’s never been before , take her to nice dinners , and shower her with love and gifts. He would treat you like a queen. Don’t commit the same mistake like I did. You deserve a lot better ❤
He thinks he will wear you down and eventually you will say yes to his persistent low efforts. This man is selfish. He is not really your friend. Please stop talking to him immediately for your sake.
He's not pursuing you if he wants his own convenience and showing no effort. Don't go to his house because you'll end up sleeping with him and premarital sex will cause problems. He should take you out. I'd leave him be .
You have a great content. Thank you for sharing those tips. Love doesn't have to be complicated sometimes with the right mindset. I am really grateful I found @t as this also inspired me to attract a high value man. I hope this helps others too.
I agree and I disagree on certain things. I do believe men are definitely aesthetic beings 😆 it is important to get dressed up and show him your beauty. He had it until he said something about her taking off makeup .. that should not matter. A man she not be as superficial..again some women do look totally different w makeup too I guess . Still, a woman is beautiful with or without that was a lil superficial to me and I know some guys are deeper than that.
@@leslieangela9114 She told the truth though, with websites like Tinder & a few others, guys can get someone over to their home in 30 minutes to have sex with them. Then they deal with multiple women, all the while making you believe you're THE ONE.
Women don’t want to be hunted, we don’t want a hunter. They need to accept the fact that women hunt to but not the same way. There are things about us that men may not like but that don’t change her either. I think the shortcomings that men have, attitudes ect just plane fuck up relationships
All men chase. The beta males will not if your energy is more masculine than theirs. You have to be extremely feminine for them to do that kinda work... and they will!
I love that he offered breakfast dates since he was coming home late most of the time. This is such a good idea . On my end I was just thinking “oh ok. If my husband gets home too late I could wear sexy lingerie or be naked more often”. I liked the fact that he took the initiative to organize things in the morning and not ask that his wife wear sexy stuff when he arrives . It’s great when we are all thinking about what we can do to solve the problem easily without putting the blame on our partner.
You see! This is why I refuse to date a man who doesn’t educate himself on healthy relationships!
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Stephanie Philip thank you for this ! I’m single ! I was thinking about this with my future husband
If it doesn't come naturally, you are screwed!
I don’t think it is wearing make up and stuff that makes and keeps a man attracted to a woman, I think it’s the self care (whatever that is to a woman) that attracts and keeps a man. I think the best thing a woman can do for herself for always and forever is take care of herself in the way that feels good to her period.
love this
Yes!
Amen
But then we are called “high maintenance” lol
@@YasminYoruba high maintenance is when you think you better than everyone else. Also someone who thinks their shaat don't staank.
Real Talk.. Brothers we have to stay in shape also!!
Yeh, simple sandbag kettlebell circuits at home are the best. squats and overhead press is the fastest and simplest way to burn fat and build muscle and boost happy hormones.
Yep. Always talking about a woman's weight. Check that gut at the gym.
@@voraciouschild9226 😂🤣😂😂 Lol
Please please please
Every morning I get up 2 hours before she does. I start the day taking a piss and brush my teeth, before I make coffee and relax with calm and quiet until the first hour passes. Then I get on the dumbells and get myself a little pump to start the day.
I've done this for a while now, but let me tell you, it changed my life immediately once I started doing it. Not only am I staying in shape, I also see how my girl is respecting me more. Whenever I put my foot down before, we had fights about things. Nowadays she's kinda submissive, but not due to me making her submissive, but it seems that she's doing more to hold on to me.
Also, don't let your girl keep male friends. It's a downhill slope. Get that into her head immediately. Like Steve says, a male friend is someone who's waiting for your girl to give them the opportunity.
And no, I will never trust anyone 100%. I trust myself, cus my mind is the only mind I'm able to know 100%.
*It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. --Friedrich Nietzsche*
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What's a relationship without friendship?
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God bless you and yours in Jesus name. Amen and Amen and Amen.
That's deep
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Amen thank you
Thank you
@@donje31 Maybe. Why do you ask?
Thank you
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Haha it took me 3 months to get a date with my wife. But the fight was all worth it. Going on year five now
Madison Hopson U got lucky to get a date because most men don’t get dates at all .
@@donniereiter3646 I called it blessed lol
Congratulations!
At least you didn't give up, very blessed
Congratulations! treat her right!
Men as well as women love to see their partners looking good and sharp. Just don't over do it. Make up not paint up. Look like yourself when the make up is off.
Would say also that females should not over do it with terrific long nails as doesn't look good or inflated disproportionate lips.
Some balance/face simetry and feminility has to be.
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Very truth. If you fall in love for beauty, it won't last long. Your beauty will fade the next day.
we all like the beauty first, then later we discover the personality. Keep it real, buddy.
@@Dancediva240 when man discovered the personally, they already involved in the mess and it's too late to fix.
@@kimmy8703 so what should men do? Go after an unattractive woman on purpose with great personality and wait for her to turn into a sex goddess? And if she doesnt, then what?
And also, what makes you think unattractive people are automatically nice and good?
@@Dancediva240 Never die for man that have good looking (beauty is not everything). I find men normally die and blind for attractive women in a weird way. The truth is man die for sex when they see atractive women, sex is love to them, LOL. Smart women won't fall for that.
My fiance brought his intentions onto the table straight up. We met online, and on our first online date he brought up his previous lifestyle to make it clear he wasn't looking to pretend he was a saint on the website (religious dating site) but that his new lifestyle in the Lord was what he was pursuing now. I really respected his honesty, and he was open from the get go of what his intentions were in dating/courtship, he was serious in looking for a good woman to settle down with, he had wasted a portion of his life and he wasn't going to do that anymore. Major fireworks and chemistry when we first met up in person for the both of us. And the second time I showed without makeup and he didn't 'notice' as in when I brought it up, he was like "you look the same, some women look like a whole different person, so you wear a good amount because without you still are the same person just less done up". (keeper lol) Always just so blunt and honest, the bluntness hurts sometimes but it all comes from a good place and it makes the nice things even more nice because there's no doubting that he truly means what he says :) Goodness, I can't wait to marry this man!!
He's really blessed. May God bless both of you.
Sweet dreams
May God bless your union. Such a beautiful story.
Seriously Steve, you are the only person ever who could explain to me that bumming out every day has an impact on my husband. I understood before, but your explanation sealed the deal for me. Please keep all your answers to questions coming!!!
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Which LORD would that be? Is it Lord Vader? Lord Mandelson? The Lord of Bones? Why is being afraid of something your parents told you was true an admirable quality?
Hyndergogen9 fearing as in revering. Not scared or afraid. And nobody makes you believe anything, not your friends and not your parents. We have free will.
@@itsmidtrib1569 True, you have free will, but you're also a product of your environment. And let's be honest here your parents raised you religious didn't they? There's nothing abnormal with that, lots of people don't question the paradigms they were raised in, there's just nothing admirable about it either.
Furthermore you didn't specify a Lord and that's interesting. Would you praise someone who believes in a different Lord? Or someone who believes in the same lord but worships a different way or believes he had different prophets? My point is essentially that if you follow through with all of the commands and statements made by literally any religious doctrine you could name to their logical conclusion they do not make sense at all.
Hyndergogen9 I am not going to defend myself or argue with someone like you who obviously thinks is very smart and self righteous. (And who didn’t read the Bible) how can you argue about God with Christians if you never read the Bible.
@@itsmidtrib1569 Also you didn't answer my question, your parents raised you religious didn't they?
Thanks for validating our biggest insecurities
So thankful to be married to a man who doesn't give a **** wether I wear make-up or not or dress up or not. He still loves me and desires me just the same.
We'll see how long that lasts......it usually doesnt.....why would it? As women we are supposed to be like precious dolls all the time not like Raggedy Ann lmao
Lucky you
@@Calichick310 it's lasted over 13 years so far. It's not like I never dress up. It's just that wether I do or not doesn't seem to matter to him.
Trust me he’s got women in his DM’s or a side chick. You just don’t know…
Dont be lazy, because that guy will get tired of a stail unatractive look, you can fool your self, but that truth is, men are 100% visual.
I see . . . however, on the flipside the lady who took off all of her makeup when she got home was sending a signal to her date that she felt comfortable enough with him to ne transparent about her looks and even comfortable with herself. It was a compliment in some respects. That takes trust.
This doesn't make any sense. It sounds like an excuse for not wanting to look your best. Why would you randomly take off your makeup? Not reapplying, I get. But removing it?
@@SeveredLegs Because she was ar home. You know wearing make up every day and to long Are not good for the Skins it makes you age faster
I hear what you are saying, but if she really felt that way. Then she should have had little to no makeup on from the start.
I agree with you. She was confident in herself and if the man wasn't into it she knew he was not for her so why waste her time on him? I saw weakness in the man that couldn't handle it . Too shallow.
Exactly, because I know the rapper Eve said her husband saw her in her natural state. I know a lady who refuses to have her husband see her without make up, I’m like you’re not a corpse. They even had this surgery where you can get permanent make up. Some women can’t be without makeup.. for nothing. I’ve seen women where heels at 7 am and face full of makeup at Walmart. Just to be seen beautiful just in case they see a man. 🤔 the beauty industry is so big because they prey on women to have so much make up. My make totals $11 lol 😂
This is true! Steve always speaks facts! Ladies, keep it interesting for your man, not just sexually. He will keep coming back for more. You both have to put in the effort. Don't get into a relationship if you won't make an effort. Happily married woman here 😊
@Joe S that sounds like someone not ready for a committed relationship real grownups communicate and talk to one another. Ijs :)
Because his dog ass dogged put his other 2 wives when he didn't have shit,and this wife now is so perfect after marrying 2 first cousins who where drug dealers!!
@Joe S I don't know what u saw in my comment it simply talked about communication no fault or other issues. Please have a great day I will :)
Steve Harvey most definitely does not always speak facts. He is a dangerous combination of immense confidence and rampant stupidity. He"s a certain kind of stupid though who believes that observing is the same as understanding.
@@Hyndergogen9 You knew what he meant though. If you think he's that stupid, I don't know why you are watching him. If people want to take every word he says as gospel, that's their choice.
I’m 51 keep my self in shape, have more lingerie than Ann summers . I have catered to every fantasy he has ever expressed . Some have gone well out my comfort zone . I cook , I clean, I work full time and pay half of everything even though he earns far more than I do. I never cheat, I rarely go out as I prefer spending time with him . I put him first and his wants an needs before my own Still doesn’t stop my husband chasing other women . He is soon to be my ex husband. I want a man who cherishes me and thinks I’m worth it .
Good for you sister
As you said,You put him first , his wants & needs before your own ! That's the biggest blunder ! There should be a balance !
Youre doing EVERYTHING wrong girl.
Yeah. This is one thing I try to mentor to the younger generation. You have to have principals of what is acceptable for u. You can’t sleep, cook, etc your way into his heart. Either he receives u or he doesn’t. But you still stay true to yourself. And set the tone as to how u expect to be treated. You don’t have to act as his wife to catch/keep him.
That's because he knows u putting him on a pedestal. Big mistake.
Men DONT let her see you looking shitty, and especially in the early stages of dating . It will make her NOT attracted to you. She will RUN 🏃♀️ especially when she makes the effort to look good for you. After you both get each other keep do things to make you to REMAIN attracted to each other.
I read the best analogy to your subject Steve & it said..."Sperm chases the Egg...the Egg doesn't chase the Sperm"..👍
When I was married, I would put on really sexy nice outfits, and makeup. He would say: "What you putting that on for? You don't need no makeup." I'm sure the OW were wearing makeup.
That's why he is an Ex. Some men that say that are insecure in themselves. Secure men love to see their wives looking good and feeling good.
I’m not a marriage type of guy but here are a few pointers ladies:
1) wear no make up
2) talk about intellectual topics not BS t.v. nonsense
3) be yourself - goofy, nerdy, etc. it’s actually very sexy
I met my man without makeup on our first date to avoid all that extra issues.
I do this when I meet people I don’t have time for you to think I’m flawless 24/8 😂
Smart!! Less is more... and no shapewear for me too on the first few dates. I need them to see the real deal!
Lolol I was literally saying the same thing to my man. He met me when I was wearing no makeup so that became the standard.
@@rowang88haha 😂
Men do t even notice
chase me hunt me down, my man,my soulmate, i m ready for you
A woman without make up is her true beauty.
Beauty comes from within
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It’s not about beauty it’s about effort
What if he pretends he's a provider then complains about a ten dollar skirt at forever 21 that he offered to pay for.... universe do your thing I cannot 🙏
I can't stand a pretender
sherrysynthesis i hate that type of men
If he offered to pay then got salty after then that’s not right. But if you want your man to be a provider what are you doing for him and his requirements? Submissive?
@@lennarthomas Probably she cook and Clean for him
@@lennarthomas submissive? WOW. SEXIST!! I WILL NOT SUBMIT. I AM NOT LESS THAN HIM!!
This makes sence. I had 3 husbands who all cheated on me. Now I feel God telling me I made it too easy for them. I'm a hot chick now that is learning men need to work for my attention
I've had guys give up on me pretty easy. I used to feel so rejected and disappointed. My hubby told me he saw me as a challenge but in an exciting way.
So she took off her make up too soon and that's a problem?? I think she did him a favor by being honest!! Little to no time invested and that's a good thing for both parties I.M.O!!
Exactly. He's a jerk anyway. That's the kind of guy who sucks in bed because he's worried about her breasts being perky enough.
If a man really likes you, he does NOT CARE about any of that superficial nonsense.
Maybe she was wearing so much makeup and fake lashes and extensions etc..
so in this case she was fake!
Apparently her make up was so heavy she was unrecognizable
@@datingdiaries1681 Yeah. I think that was the issue, and I have seen some women look totally different with make-up on. I don't think it should alter your appearance that much.
It sounds like sexy time was gonna go down(for the first time) and taking make up off was not his favorite form of seduction 😂
I cant stand the "chase" the "game" or whatever you wanna call. Im straight to the point, she anything other than yes etc, i dont waste my time at all. I dont play stupid games
Well I wish I can meet someone who thinks like that
Agreed.
I totally agree with this.
Exsctly. Games are for kids
Yeah! 😂😂that is because they haven't really sparked ur interest.
I agree. My ex was so mad when I tooked my wig off. After one year of being engaged he proposed after 30 days of us dating. He said he did not know I looked like that 😂. I said what that mean. He said put that wig back on 😂🤣. We both was laughing, then he kept starring at my at hair lol. When I got mad he said I scared him 😂. I was so upset. I put him out and called off the wedding. Do u know this fool begged me to take him back. We went to counseling and everything. And the counselor laughed too and j had to take my wig off I front of the male counselor he said it ain't that bad. But make a long story short. He got used to it and then started wanting me to wear my real hair more often since he got used to it. Then started to say I look better with natural hair. I end up leaving him after 4 1/2 years. Come to find out he was cheating on me since day one with multiple women
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Yeah. You shouldn't have married him to begin with. And I feel you are only laughing as a coping mechanism. Because nothing about that story is funny. I pray that what you shared help someone to know what to look for when it comes to red flags. But that is not a funny story. Look for self love. Self love is key. You will not settle for just anything if you truly love and appreciate yourself.
Damn
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"You don't have to like what I'm telling you about us. (men) It don't change us though. We are who we are. And if you don't understand that, you can't get what you want."
I was bare faced when I met my man. As time went on I made the choice not to wear makeup most days when I was with him. I don't know-personally I just wanted him to see the real me. Flaws and all. Guess it worked cs almost a year later and we in lovvvvvveeee 🙂 lol
Now, be a wife.
Same with women. We are who we are as well.
My husband is 24yrs my senior. And I am soooo happy and in love with him. He hunted me for 2 yrs before I even gave him a chance to date me. But let me say this, after that first date, I knew I wanted to be his wife and today we've been married for 5 plus yrs. Jesus Is King FOREVER!!!
Amen
He's just being honest!
i honor the diversity of all perspectives via the comments 💜
So glad am single dodged this bullet
Suzanna Andrea , single is the way to go , I’m much happier with low stress.
Single for almost 20 years and I couldn't be happier to live my life.
Being single is amazing and all, but sometimes I just wish I had a girl.
It’s just easier. All the games is just too much
Maintains youth
How to stop comparing ourselves to others
First of all we should know
There is a postive comparing leads to working
And There is a negative comparing leads to depression
And every person is different
And they can’t be a complete version ( copy ) of the other person
* realizing that things are not as they seem
* Someone could smile and happiness is not in his heart
* You are not seeing the whole picture your only seeing the part that they are showing you
* Stop following people’s news
* Focus on what you did today So that you reach your goals in the future
* You might get depressed just because someone posted a picture of themselves on paris here you will fall in to the comparing trap even though you don’t know how much hard work it took them to get to paris
* So don’t follow people’s news
* You are a different person
* And your life is not connected to them
* Re_program your self and say thank you
* Being grateful to what you have makes you careless about what others have
* Say thank you to the simplest things people do for you and you will be happy in your life
yes that is true!! i agree// there are so many reasons as to why men are the way they are. breaking the cycle of unhealthy toxic relationships never easy!! you love what you are use to loving
My boo was in my dms for 4yrs trying to finally meet . We finally met in person , everything is good , talk everyday straight for 3 months , I hope we keep growing ❤️
How’s it going?
@@wshelby83 girl he end up being a cheater !! Lol but I’ve been in a happy relationship for a year now , so this is going great 💕♥️ moral of the story,always trust your intuition
@@thewise2443 oh wow, I’m glad everything is working out for you now!!!
He's 100% right ladies. Doesn't matter how you feel, it doesn't change the facts. He's gonna love you regardless wheather by expresses how much he misses how you jazzed it up or not, but he prefers the you he first met.
My last boyfriend of 10 years hated makeup and so do I and so do many men. You have to know what your partner likes.
Exactly.
Totally agree, I will only wear extremely light smoke grey eyeliner with light mascara. Anything more than that is a total turnoff for my husband.
Broke up with him today and I’m hurt I give you chance after chance dude and I don’t even do that so I went against what I believed in for you trying to be nice and see the good in people. I’m like maybe this can be good since he in a better place in life and seems happy. It just hurt so much because I let myself down 🥺☹️ I could care less about someone doing me wrong ! I then went through worse but to know you haven’t changed and I let myself down that’s deep for me because I’m all I got I love myself
This is on point, and I appreciate the honesty. Thank you Steve!
I often feel like the man in my relationships. Or maybe I just need to "upgrade" to a better significant other. I think this video helped me figure that out. Yep, that's def it.
Better significant will be fine.
*other*
My Father told me this exact thing that a man is hunter & if the guy wants to pursue me court me he would put in work & come get me & I would never have to wonder & that I’m not the one supposed to be finding him when he should be coming to me in the first place 🥇💯
I think mine has been eaten by a lion in the jungle! 😜🤪🤣😂
Too cute
Makes sense. Most people won't admit it. Couples need to discus what they want them to wear at night when you chilling. Sounds great.
I am the exact same way though. A man MUST keep himself up if not I just can’t get close to them. Some men really let themselves go thinking we don’t mind? Like hell we don’t. Shave, brush your teeth and keep yourself fresh. Men can be nasty
amen. soooo many people forget these things. women and femininity is dying out 😭
y333 because men are so effin weak these days
y333 because these men aren’t worth it 😂 they don’t provide or do anything useful
That's true.. one guy said to me " Is how it is now, tables have turned ". Was weird to listen to a guy that had such calm " l give in (up) " vibe. Then l figured out why.. he liked it. She did 80% of everything at home, taking care of 3 kids, while he had only his work and could cheat freely : )
*Surprise your partner and keep things spicy 🌶*
I agree. In marriage, things can get monotonous and predictable. Spice and change it up.
It took me 18 months to get a date with my partner. Best decision i ever made
Somehow this just doesn't motivate me.
Me either. Be wary taking relationship advice from someone that has had multiple failed marriages.
true
@zadose Beauty is relative. Good looking men don't have to hunt down good looking women because they are their equal.
@@88niteowl88 Then again though.. I wouldn't take advice from someone who never been through it. He knows what he is talking about cause he has experience.
Very superficial. This is why he’s in show business
It goes both ways. And not all couples are the same. Some people love the companionship and the friendship they have with the person. They’re not looking for someone who is modeling lingerie for them every second. He makes it sound like he’s only with his wife for her looks. And I doubt that’s the case. I’m sure they’re also good friends and get along well too. If it’s just a physical attraction and nothing else then it won’t last.
Love this! Steve you always ON POINT! 🌟🙌
This definitely as far as what I already thought about him when he divorced his first wife and got what a light skin woman it's all about looks for him not the person
@@hatshepsutiv yes n that's my point look like he wanted a light skin
True but people also change over time especially if you've been together for years. We ALL are always changing. PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY you want to make sure you are good for YOU first and of course your spouse and family.
Look and feel good for yourself and you'll look good for your man
He's right! And you can't argue with right.
My wife didnt wear make up when I first met her shes attractive to me without it.
What a sad world where people focus on what's on the outside...you want a prize...look inside yourselves and look to GOD. Non spiritual relationships all over this world
.. I'm way happier alone that trying to please the external world. Gladly turning people down to focus on who matters most, me 😚
I agree with Steve. I am a huge fan.
Some men prefer the no make up look, just saying. A lot of Caribbean men are like that, they are ok with the make up, but they prefer, minimum (powder, lip gloss, eyeliner) or none at all. You know, I don't know if I can deal with all that, I like being myself & if you cannot handle knowing that when some women get home, they want to relax & take their make up off, well you know I don't have time to hold your hand to explain it to you. The woman probably has a particular skin routine. Like for me, I need to get that make up off otherwise I won't be able to see the next morning.
I was once in a similar situation, just thought maybe you needed, well I can help you
Message me on WhatsApp
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@@stephaniephilip8995 Help with the make up allergies?? You can post the info right here, thank you. I do not have whatsapp, right now. Thanks for the offer. Blessings
Yeah this is stupid. If a man cannot accept her for being herself when she gets home then he ain’t the one lol
If the goal is for me to be catched by a man I give up 🤦🏾♀️
lols like a fish
That's not the goal at all. Steve is a misogynistic relic who would be better suited to the 1940's. Having a partner is merely supposed to be an accessory to an already happy life. You should be comfortable with yourself and what you're doing before you worry about finding someone to share it with.
Hyndergogen9 good point
This is True. Before i gave my number And i was Nice. Now i make them work for me from day one. And i never let it down. I am So sorry. But They are hunters. Listen To Steve!
Thank you Uncle Stevie!
I need you to give advice to men, because lord knows im tired of asking my partner to be masculine. I am working on my femininity and not seeing him work on himself is bothering me and i am doing this for myself but I know it is going to help us as a whole.
Your man won't change unless he wants tk
Steve always gives advice to men. Unfortunately, these days..Men are encouraged not to be masculine. It's toxic feminism that did it and demonic activity.
If you sleeping as a hunter, you will miss good prey. #nosleepsteve
It’s funny I’ll friend zone people and they’ll see the “bum” me but my skin is glowing and my hair is gorgeous at 9pm still. Dudes get confused how I look that good at night. Natural beauty 😂 God blessed me.
Like me blessings from God
In my opinion men never settle they marry the woman of their dreams we women settle just because the guy was nice
Ohh.. Is it ?... Women like men who r bad guys... Who doesn't care them.. Instead guys being nice will be thrown away from chase. Hence women pretend to be they r nice but inreality they r not... This is the bitter truth
Sorry but all men are not hunters. I've gone out with plenty of women in my time and have never chased and chased a single one. If she doesnt give me a sign she's interested, I move on. Show me you're interested I'll pursue you. Play the not interested and hard to get. I'm out.
Jonathan Collins True.
@skully Maybe it has to do with the fact that men love a long chase, and if a woman show's interest too soon, It makes the men cool down? I don't know. My theory.
Simple!!! 🤔👌🏽
@xxbabyxx Or, you're in the presence of a lost and confused man whom are more interested in causing confusion and complications in your own life in that case. Walk quietly away. You DO NOT want, need, nor desire those problems. I promise you.
That's because you didn't like any of them, you see the one you want,your speed will surprise you
If you ask a predator about dating advice, of course he's going to say "all men are hunters."
Preach!
Low esteem no confidence man doesn’t hunt, he will just wait for a woman to tell him or show him first
Sis, got comfortable too soon..lol
There ain't no man that wants me 😭 single forever, real life Bridget Jones.
Straight up it's mostly about the thrill of the hunt so you'll better keep them hunting keep switching on them every once in a while ♥😇
Pamela Cooper Sad, that we refer to each other in such terms.
No body has time for those mental gymnastics. I'm trying to raise a child, work, and build a stable happy home.
Hollo
“Men don’t listen to Steve Harvey” -The Godfather
Steve is always honest
Yea right,like he was with his 2 ex-wives who took care of his broke ass,now his new wife is a first class gold digger,who was married to two first cousins ,one went to prison as a drug dealer so she married the 1st cousin who where a drug dealer too!!
Right for the jugular
@@bridgetsmith5962 You are right. That, though, has got nothing to do with what he said, which was....honest.🤷♀️ Ask the men around you. You will hate the truth, but it doesnt care about your feelings
No I LOVE IT OG!!
Thank You for putting us ladies on game
Time to level up Gentlemen...I am not playing this kind of B.S. ...inside out.
THIS IS /WAS A REALLY, REALLY. IMPORTANT. POINT
.I DON'T KNOW IF MR STEVE HARVEY REALIZED THAT HE HIT ON ONE OF THE REAL REASONS WHY SOME MARRIAGES DON'T WORK...WOW!!!!!.
I'm just glad that I know that not _all_ men are as shallow as Mr. Harvey is supposing they are. I do acknowledge that most men (not "all" men as some identify as asexuals) have that primal urge to "hunt." But, perhaps what Mr. Harvey is disregarding is that different men hunt for different things. Yes, many men are caught up in a woman's physical appearance for the most part. But some men appreciate the woman they love for more than just her physical appearance, but also her mind, her soul, her heart. I know there are some men who think like Mr. Harvey and think I'm just being naïve, trying to be in "denial." BUT, I also know men out there, like my own FH, who appreciates me for more than my body - but also my mind. Sure, he might be attracted to my physical appearance. But, if he had found out after getting to know me that I was vapid, superficial, shallow, and dense, he would have lost interest in me right away. Also, I'm overweight. Sure, I might be pretty, but, I'm no Ms. Supermodel. That's not speaking low of myself, its just stating facts.
So, I appreciate my FH for being more attracted to my mind and who I am as a person - because that means he's not objectifying me to merely something nice to look at and have sex with. More importantly, he appreciates me for who I am as a whole person. I'd rather be hunted by a man who appreciates all of who I am, and not merely chasing me because they "saw something shiny they liked that they wanted to chase" like a rabid dog. Yes, I get that we as humans still have basic, primal urges - but that doesn't mean there can't be more to us.
Nice guys finish last.
Sensible, Aesthetics Is Important
Men should change their mindset about women and start to see them as human beings!
Uncle Steve Harvey 👑
I'm in a crazy situation with this guy. He's been pursing me for over 3 years now. I want to be just friends but he wants more, but he doesn't want to take the time to date me. Go out, eat out that type of stuff. He keeps begging me to come over and watch movies with him. I would tell him no. Then he'll get all upset. Then I have to cut him off and tell him that I don't want to talk to him anymore. He will stop texting and calling for days. Then he'll come back all over again. I like the chase but I feel like I'm m being chased by the wrong man.
No he ain’t the one for you! A real man will take out his woman out. Take her to places she’s never been before , take her to nice dinners , and shower her with love and gifts. He would treat you like a queen. Don’t commit the same mistake like I did. You deserve a lot better ❤
@@marissa21211 Thank You
He thinks he will wear you down and eventually you will say yes to his persistent low efforts. This man is selfish. He is not really your friend. Please stop talking to him immediately for your sake.
He's not pursuing you if he wants his own convenience and showing no effort. Don't go to his house because you'll end up sleeping with him and premarital sex will cause problems. He should take you out. I'd leave him be .
@@dch1421🎯You mailed it. He's lazy and doesn't think enough of her to pursue. He's lying in wait for that "friends with benefit" card.
🗣 TALK !!!!!!
You are so smart Steve Harvey! Thank you !
Darn it, the video ended when the most important part came! When Steve stated he wanted to hear the audiences opinion😕🤔
Once a player they don't know how to stop so it still goes on no matter what
Keep telling yourself that 👌
1:46 the money of course 😂
I agree with the little sassy girl , Ima pray for you to "Stop cussing Mr. Harvey".
I love you steve♥️
I will always dress nicely most of the time. I love it.
Hollo sweet baby
He’s right
what does break down mean? is it giving the cookie? is it being emotionally invested?
You have a great content. Thank you for sharing those tips. Love doesn't have to be complicated sometimes with the right mindset. I am really grateful I found @t as this also inspired me to attract a high value man. I hope this helps others too.
Correct....
Raw truth
I agree and I disagree on certain things. I do believe men are definitely aesthetic beings 😆 it is important to get dressed up and show him your beauty. He had it until he said something about her taking off makeup .. that should not matter. A man she not be as superficial..again some women do look totally different w makeup too I guess . Still, a woman is beautiful with or without that was a lil superficial to me and I know some guys are deeper than that.
Yeah Women with a ton of makeup on is a huge turn off.
There are so many women, esp African American, a man can hunt for several at a time and leave the ones he didn't want as road kill. ☺☺
@@olgasa6943 I'm not a boy I'm afraid, just a bitter black female. lol! All jokes aside, I didn't mean any harm.
Gross and that's why you don't deserve a good woman
@@leslieangela9114 She told the truth though, with websites like Tinder & a few others, guys can get someone over to their home in 30 minutes to have sex with them. Then they deal with multiple women, all the while making you believe you're THE ONE.
Women don’t want to be hunted, we don’t want a hunter. They need to accept the fact that women hunt to but not the same way. There are things about us that men may not like but that don’t change her either. I think the shortcomings that men have, attitudes ect just plane fuck up relationships
Not all men but, some men who carry masculine energy yes.
All men chase. The beta males will not if your energy is more masculine than theirs. You have to be extremely feminine for them to do that kinda work... and they will!