@@rydersyder its 100% no justification to cheating. If you aint happy bounce out that person life we are all adults we aren't in high school playing around as adults we sit down and talk if nothing changes thats key indication that person not willing to change what upsets you what causes arguments so you let em go lifes too short to deal with ppls nonsense
@@JUJU-._.- but when you love someone you dont want them out of your life so easily, people arent perfect, so if you going threw something and and someone else gives you comfort things can happen, god knows us best and even he said for a woman to look good for your husband and dont do things that can cause him to stray. Js.
@@rydersyder that is true but i leaned that i cannot forgive a cheat my ex of 10years cheated i honestly don't know why we didn't even argue much everything looked perfect subtraction of him being a narcissist 90% of the time but i mean i did everything for him support him dressed up never refused sex clean his mama house so she comes to just relax from work told showed i was supporting his dreams so i felt if I did everything i had to do and wasn't still enough to be loyal to me he's got no place in my life. 5years after the break up I'm in a new relationship with someone always puts me first makes me feel loved and respected its not all about him is not all about me we put each other as #1
Ladies, take this from a man. Don't ever settle for being the "main chick". Make sure you are the ONLY chick. Don't ever underestimate the "side chick". She has improved over the years. She used to be ole faithful. Now the side chicks look like models. Their getting your man's time, sex, money, gifts, vacations and a baby. Don't sleep. Love yourselves! Know your worth and only settle for what you can live with.
wow...you are so right...BUT the "ONLY CHICK" who doesn't settle will never get a man THESE DAYS...men are so disrespectful and they have no integrity or character and if you have any respect for yourself, men run the other way...my dog on EX-PASTOR had 12 side chicks #ijs #sad
True, but men don't do this for looks tho. Because they can have a beautiful woman (by every definition) and still have a side chick. So men def don't do this because they "look" like models (that gets old fast and probably was old before it started). And men giving these "extra" women sex, gifts, money (even a baby) doesn't mean anything either. Because he's only pacifying that woman, while getting he wants out of the situation. A baby only complicates things even worse. A man doesn't want that type of attachment to a side chick. Men get sober real fast when a possible baby is in the mix. And not just a baby but diseases. Because chances are, that side chick has more than one man on deck. Please don't think the main chick is sitting around waiting for you to straighten up. She can have a side dude too. They do exist as well. Men just aren't smart enough to figure it out. 9 times out of 10, a woman already knows what you did before you make up your first lie. We're natural investigators.
+mavishill that is true. it takes two to tangle. we shouldnt toss all the blame on the side chick or the man. assuming that both are adults(if they are not both adults then we have a whole other problem) then both people share the blame. cheating is kinda childish too. has noone heard of ending one relationship before starting another. #adulting #commondecency #whatsdoneinthedark
Facts. Why am I gonna stay with a man that's gonna disrespect me like that when I could have a man that's gonna treat me with the same amount of love, loyalty and respect that I will give him
Its not but unfortunately many people find these types of women empowering. They interpret it as “Shes strong and doesn’t need to be tied down, she knows how to play men”.......sad
Why is this even a question??? No one wins. Men, be faithful to your woman and vice versa. If she isn't enough, then move on and get into a different relationship. Simple. They up and wasted 5 minutes talking about this bs.
Ugh so many men of today are pure trash. The fact that we have to even discuss "side chicks" and "main chicks" is disgusting. If you cheated on him he would be gone in an instant.
Thank you! I'm pissed this is even a conversation. The message it's sending is if there's a side chick she's a mess, broke etc. (you can't put ppl in a box for why they do what they do). The focus should be if you find out your man has something on the side know your worth and leave. Why tolerate this "main chick" nonsense!? ONLY WOMAN is what you should be the standard. Put the blame on the man and the responsibility on the "main" to not tolerate it. If the shoe was on the other foot 9 times out of 10 the man would leave.
People are so focus on side chicks. But what about men who get involved with other men? That's the biggest betrayal right there. A woman can deal with her man cheating with another woman, but a man? Let's just say a woman might catch a case if she catches her man with another man.
***** I agree it's been going on for all times. But I think now a days it has increased because society, the media and the main culture has embraced it. People used to once value being married and spending their lives with the mother of their children. That used to be an important moral issue. No morals have gone out the window.
Zhane Doe You think that this is something new? If anything its gotten better recently. (sad to say but its true.) It was a lot easier to hide before cell phones and social media, not to mention now women have the power to support themselves.
MIMI ESQUIVEZ thank you. Beats me what’s the completion of main chick and side chick competition is all about? Why would any self respecting woman wanna be the main with a man who has a side chick?
Right her own insecurities! I wish someone else would say something to her on the panel and just shut her up one day!!! Come on Loni give Tamar the real!!!
Anisha Renee - it all depends on how you see yourself in those situations. What if he was your side guy, what if you didnt care about that dude anyway, what if he was just something to pass your time. Side of what? If any ex told me I was a side chick i would laugh right in their faces and be like oh really? What was you getting from me that i wasnt getting from you? Hahaha
blakebymharris I hear what ur saying but the meaning is still the same even if u benefit from it. A prostitute can see themselves as respectable all they want but it won't change how other people them as long as they are doing what they are doing. If ur guy has a main woman that he lives with and still messes with u, whether u know it or not, u are the chick on the side, the mistress. And mistresses always get the benefits. So it doesn't matter.
Every single day, another man leaves his main chick for a side chick. So, the saying "a man never leaves his main chick, wife or girlfriend for a side chick or mistress" is incorrect.
Something is seriously wrong if you pride yourself in being somebody's side chick, KNOWINGLY. It's a blatant disregard for the other woman's feelings, relationship, and it's selfishness.
Lol. I was going to rob your house, then I thought about how hard you must have worked to buy all the things you own, so I decided to rob someone else’s house down the street. Aren’t we all selfish creatures? It’s called being a human being.
To be honest, there's nothing great about being a main chick or a side chick. The prize is being the "only chick." With that said, I really dislike the glorification of the main chick role. IMO when someone invites someone into your already established relationship (cheating) it would hurt more to be the main chick than the side chick. There's nothing like investing time into someone and throughout the day they're stopping at every-other side chicks house to only to get to the main house (yours) at the end of the night and they're bring all that nastiness to you. That's the utmost disrespect. There's no winning for either role, but main chicks tend to put too much glory into being main when you can't be winning if your sharing. Side chicks tend to come in knowing they're sharing depending on the situation. In the end, you have to strive to be the only chick.
A real man is all in. He is so consumed with the life that he is building that he is not thinking about having a side chick. A real woman is not a main chick. A real woman can tell if she is dealing with someone who wants her to be the side chick.
+Ressurrection Graves that is temporary , then it gets old, as it is in human nature to do..that is why compatibility is very important, no one is going to eat steak 7 days per week , 365 days per year and still be happy after year 3 and 4 and 5 , LMFAO ... all this real man , real woman stuff has to go , we need to get back to biology and chemistry, science is reality
SouFLoTV @ TH-cam True complacency hurts relationship a lot. But if that is the case, then leave and find another person. I don't agree with having someone on the side because your other half isn't on good terms.
Osuman M. well, you are right , but then again, i am a polygamist and the rules you speak of and problems we are addressing belong to monogamous people
I do not understand why women entertain a cheating guy anyway. Its like women look past the cheating man and go for the throat of the side chick...well what if she doesnt know shes a side chick? And why fight to keep a guy who cheats on you? You never see men fighting each other to keep a girl that slept with both of them.
Because most of the time the girl is in love with the guy and has invested too much time and emotion to let it go, plus, some women even try to get out of it, but then the men won't leave them alone and it becomes too hard to cut ties. Also the women fight because they are so infatuated that they want to believe that if it were not for the other woman trying to steal their man, he never would have stepped out of the relationship, placing the blame on the other girl instead of on the guy, because it hurts too much to admit to themselves that the guy they are with is no good and doesn't love them....it's an ego thing too...that's just my opinion
I'm 19 years old and I know better than to be someones "side chick". If a man truly has respect for his wife, then no matter what happens between the both of you, you should be able to work on your issues and enjoy play time together. Your wife is the one who you go to for bills, issues, work stress and nagging but you buy some other girl gifts and take her to the movies every week? DON'T YOU THINK YOUR WIFE DESERVES TO WATCH MOVIES TOO? That girl is also disrespectful messing with a married man! Don't get this twisted either, because women have "side men" too. RESPECT YOURSELF AND RESPECT THE FEELINGS AND LOYALTY OF OTHERS.
I don't think either wins. The main chick has someone that can't keep it in the pants and the side chick is an after thought. I want to be the ONLY chick.
@@StalinsFather1945 So you're saying out of the billions of men in the world that none remain faithful ? Lol. Please!! Staying faithful is as easy as a choice. Some men don't care to do it and some men choose to do it because they have integrity. Anybody can cheat, yes. Some won't for their own reasons.
I agree with Tamera! As soon as I start feeling like any kind of “side chick” I’m out! I’m out so fast he won’t even know why. The feeling is already there and i know it will haunt me so I just leave. I like to feel special and important because that’s how I feel about someone when I give myself to them and you can’t tell someone to treat you, it has to come natural and from the heart.
The point of the side chick that they skipped over is why. Usually the reason they are the side chick is because they just want fun. They don’t want feelings in the relationship. Which is why they don’t mind being the side
Not really I knew a girl who willing became a side chick to my ex all because she really didn't like me at all and thought she was so much better than me and that she could take my man at the time but really she was extremely jealous of me and have been for years, always picking fights me, competing with me, and litterally copying my personailty traits, looks, and literally everything. She even successfully turned a lot of people against me with so much gossip and lies she told them about me. Funny thing is she fell in love with my ex and she thought he was in love with her. But come to find out, he was only using her for her money and sex because she was very easy. She was really mean and a complete bitch to everyone, mostly other girls and she was not attractive at all, but she had a nice ass. My ex knew me and her had issues way before we dated, she was trying to turn him against me too and she did for a minute. All had no idea about him and her or what she was doing. But As soon as I found out he was messing around with her I left him for good. Still until this day he doesn't want anybody to know he was sleeping around with her. He was so embarrassed of her. Then she got into another relationship with another dude after being a side chick to my ex. The new guy ended cheating on her all the damn time and abusing her and using her for her house and money. KARMA!!!
ive only been a side chick once. that was when i was 17 and the guy lied to me like a dog. but once i found out, i never spoke to him ever again. and in the end, his main gf found out he cheated on her with me, and she left him too. so he had nothing in the end. that's karma.
I've been on both sides too, cheated on by a loser who wanted me to look like someone else and also when the husband turns around takes his wife back after she done cheated with the whole county, that's enough to keep you single for a long time.
naaaa. in my situation, i have been here longer than the guys girlfriend, i was here first we've been fucking around longer than theyve been together and longer than hes had a kid. the main chick needs to open her fucking eyes and make sure you arent with someone you cant trust. its on the guy , and if the guy doesnt stop it, thats not my fault.
naaaa. in my situation, i have been here longer than the guys girlfriend, i was here first we've been fucking around longer than theyve been together and longer than hes had a kid. the main chick needs to open her fucking eyes and make sure you arent with someone you cant trust. its on the guy , and if the guy doesnt stop it, thats not my fault.
Let's talk about the man for a second. He the one steppin out yet the side chick catchin all the heat for it. Yes, she should have respect for the other woman and for herself to not be put in the situation but the man is also o blame and in a lot of conversations about side chicks people mainly coming at the side chicks but not they man who's play both women.
They are blaming the men they are just asking women why be a side chick which means if you didnt know you were a side chick this dont relate.. Girls knowingly being a side chicks to a relationship marriage whateva more relatable to what they saying
I agree with Tamar. I really hate when women start that Main vs. Side chick battle, because they don't have that anger towards the liar and the coward who gave them those titles without their permission. There are so many dudes out there that lie,put on an act like they care and make false promises, just so they can say how many chicks they have. So yeah there will be times where you are the side chick and don't even know it (especially when your young) until you sit and think and add things up. HOWEVER if you decide to continue seeing him after you've figured it out you're no longer innocent. All you have to do is look at it this way, Main chick or Side chick either way it goes you're not his one and only. That should be enough to make any woman want to walk away.
Let's be honest...a man will NEVER leave his main chick. Ladies, please value yourselves more. As Steve Harvey says, a man will only do to you what you allow...#dropsthemic
Joshua McDowell You have a point, and this all could be debated for days because it could go a number of ways. The bottom line here is simple, no man or woman, should be comfortable settling as anyone's "side" anything. It does not bode well for either party.
I highly doubt Tamara has been a side chick, lol. I'm almost willing to bet money. Seriously, what would a dude be getting out of her? He wasn't going to have sex. Let's be REAL! If you feel differently let me know. :)
Maybe she has been but didn't know and maybe he thought he could change her mind. Men think differently to us women don't forget. Plus men can have side chicks for different reasons..chilling and hanging out and having a laugh could be one reason especially if he feels stressed at home with the main chick then over time feelings and emotions get involved.
miw mw There's a difference between being a side chick and the main chick that's being cheated on. I don't remember the incident you are referring to but in all likelihood Tamera was the main chick whose boyfriend was cheating on her because she didn't want to put out. I highly doubt Tamera was ever a side chick.
Butter Fly EXACTLY...Tamar aint side chick material...she has too much mouth and attitude...side chicks seem like they are dumb push overs with no self esteem #ijs
In my opinion, in the case of main chick vs side chick, nobody is winning! Why? Because you are not the only one. I'm too good for cheating and if you know you are not ready to be faithful and be committed to one person, don't get into a relationship! Getting into a relationship while you still act and feel single brings unnecessary drama that could have been prevented!
Side chick...been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, keyring and the postcard. Being the side chick might be fun in the very beginning, but after a while it gets really old and lonely. As women we really need to step up our game and not settle for a part-time/some of the time/"whenever I can" man. Also remember, as a sidechick, if he cheats WITH you...he'll cheat ON you.
Can we just talk about the fact that we've made being a main chick the goal when in actuality you should be the ONLY chick. Why are ppl ok with feeling if they are the main chick that they have won? He's still cheating on you. I just don't get it.
I been the side chick without knowing. There he was wooing me, making it work, telling me he has a crazy ex to explain the hate mail LOL red flags. He couldn't tell me he was on a break with is woman + child.
just because I can have a side dude doesnt mean im gonna go out and do that and cheat on my boyfriend. there being side chicks available isnt an excuse for the guy to go out and have one.
I have to say in the very beginning i was the side chick and it was the worse for me cause i was putting in my all and was only get half. But now we are married and im pregnant with our 2nd baby. At that time i felt very low about myself then we took a break and he would keep calling and blah blah blah. So i told him if u want me gotta leave her alone unless it concerns his daughter and he made his choice finally. 3 months after they got divorced we got married. After being together almost 4 years. In my case (not all cases) it hard for the man to leave something he was so used to. But it still doesnt make it right for any man to treat a woman that way. Luckily we were able to get past it and now we joke about it
@@jlenegonzalez1054 Wow. 3 months after he devorced you got married to him. So that mean he can have another side chick and do the same to you. Probably is ex wife became side chick. Its a difficult situation you put yourself into. I hope you have a good life with him and that what happened to his ex wife doesn't happen to you.
No there is a huge difference. I also like woman and im poly. So we have dated woman together. And it wont happen to me. I know the signs and im smarter then that. And he knows i wont stick around for that...she knew about me and the chick before me and she stayed. They were legally separated for 8 of the almost 10 years they were married
Jlene Gonzalez LOLL that’s what they all say... Until karma decides to be a bitch and bite em in the ass that is. That’s when the rose coloured glasses of delusion comes off and you wouldn’t be able to walk it like you’re talking it now. Hence if I were you I would never say never lmaoo. Plus take in the fact that you two are in a poly relationship (I’m sure there’s a reason for it).
Tamar had good points but that Egyptian Sphinx head hair piece was distracting me. Love yourself ladies, never settle for something beneath your worth.
Would it be distracting if it was on another woman, Tamera, or a white woman, or is it just distracting because it's on Tamar? Could it be that you're saying that to get a chuckle or two? If that's the case we could get a chuckle or two off your idol there in your profile pic.
Janet Smith A chuckle off his skin disease, false accusations or $1 billion net worth? Be my guest. When Tamera had her hair like that, it looked better anyway. You offended ?
It's not my hair, so how would I be offended. I'm just wondering how every episode you have something to say about her. Like your idol didn't have faults either. Yes she has the same skin disease, but I'm talking about the nose job that completely fell off lady.The billions he blew away before he died girl? He was about to get it back because his tour, yes. I'm talking about your idol that talked with a light voice, but actually had a deep voice. How he walked around with a woman's wig on girlfriend. Yes him!
Janet Smith I've actually praised Tamar quite a bit, and my observations are something a lot of ppl agree on. And *Yawn* at the MJ jabs, those are so 2005. I'm not bothered, you should move on, you're truly wasting your time. Beat It (pun intended)
In my opinion, neither the "main chick" or the "side chick" wins. I wish that women would really value and respect themselves. No woman should put up with being on the down low as a side chick, and no woman should be satisfied with being someone as their official gf or wife and knows that your man has other things going on. That's wrong, for both women and men. Tamar's right though. Whether or not you know, most of us have been a "side chick." LOL! Love the girls and the show!
Uniquely Shonique too many desperate are who are out there looking for reasons to stay, reasons to be with the guy ,looking for attention..chasing men..WOMEN CANT HANDLE BEING ALONE AND GUYS KNOW THIS. They know women are obsessed with being in a relationship or having a guy period that they'll do almost anything to keep them. Even lying to themselves,friends and family everything is fine.
I’ve never knowingly been a side chick, when I was growing up side chicks were called home wreckers, it was never cute to be a home wrecker and it’s still not.
The sexisit version was "home wrecker" as if it's a woman's fault that a man is cheating on his wife. Side chicks is the real term because the "main chick" is also a fool for staying with a man that can't seem to keep his pecker in his pants. The side chick doesn't really want the guy at least the ones that aren't emotionally caught up. The ones that see the man for what he is, get theirs and are out.
My ex boyfriend had a sidechick and I had no idea until the end ! She even got mad when she found out I left him !! Like, is your self esteem that low sis ??
I knew a girl who willing became a side chick to my ex all because she really didn't like me at all and thought she was so much better than me and that she could take my man at the time but really she was extremely jealous of me and have been for years, always picking fights me, competing with me, and litterally copying my personailty traits, looks, and literally everything. She even successfully turned a lot of people against me with so much gossip and lies she told them about me. Funny thing is she fell in love with my ex and she thought he was in love with her. But come to find out, he was only using her for her money and sex because she was very easy. She was really mean and a complete bitch to everyone, mostly other girls and she was not attractive at all, but she had a nice ass. My ex knew me and her had issues way before we dated, she was trying to turn him against me too and she did for a minute. All had no idea about him and her or what she was doing. But As soon as I found out he was messing around with her I left him for good. Still until this day he doesn't want anybody to know he was sleeping around with her. He was so embarrassed of her. Then she got into another relationship with another dude after being a side chick to my ex. The new guy ended cheating on her all the damn time and abusing her and using her for her house and money. KARMA!!!
What does all the smacking while talking and moving her hand and head around have to do with what she has to say. She can still be coy and get her point across.
I thought I was the only one having a hard time understanding. There is a time and a place for everything, and when you want your point to hold people's attention, you should let your words do the talking and not the animations.
Joan Rivers was very animated. They wanted Tamar for her flamboyant attitude. Boring doesn't sell. They wanted them to talk how they talk around their girlfriends, and not the fakeness that most give off now. What's that bogus bougie.
I beg to differ most side chicks are NOT younger their over 30. Young girls are generally jump offs. There is a difference between how side chicks and jump offs operate. Jump offs generally know the score (he's not leaving his wife) and use the situation to their advantage whether its money or sexual satisfaction. They usually don't have a deep connection with the man as long as they get what they want their cool. A side chick and the married husband have a deep emotional connection her main objective is to become the main chick that's why she hangs around.She will seek to devalue the wife in the husbands eyes, And that's who he takes on holiday and goes on dates with when he tells his wife he's going out of town.
Jump offs, side chick, hoes...they're all the same if they know that he's married and he's not leaving. Basically low self-esteem trash that's settling.
I agree with Tamar, as women we are sometimes gullible to the charms of men. They deceive us with or without sex. It's difficult for some people to understand Tamar because she's a bit brash in her reponses, but other than the neck twirling she tries to speak the truth and I respect her for that. #loveallthegirlonthereal
Dumbbells.......how can a wife win when she lost from the moment "the one", she chose and made a promise to her, was cheating on her? You need to ask yourself than.....what exactly is mine perception of "winning"?😊 When you are with a man who does not think you are enough for him, and lies to you to be with another woman, making love to her, buying her stuff, telling her things that ONLY you supposed to hear, are you winning????? Because if *that* ...is winning, I rather lose.
Who's winning? Simple: none. Also, a lot of the "side chicks" love the idea of a man telling them they're going to leave their wives or girlfriends for them. They love to compete with other women and want to win. If a guy really does pick them they realize they're not that into him. I'm not saying all of them but most of them are. And a girl who chooses to be in a relationship where her partner disrespects her that way has just as low of a self-esteem as the side chick, just shows it in a different way. Most of them are afraid he's going to leave if they put some boundaries. But guess what, that man leaving you is the best blessing you could ask for. Be better, don't compete with your sisters. We're in this together. We don't need the "validation" of a little boy who doesn't want to grow up and need to hold on to the idea of the beginning of a relationship while having the perks of a long term and committed one. You deserve better
Don't be anyone's "side chick" or "main chick" be the quenn, the one and only in his life, be the wife/fiancee . if he's using the word 'chick' or 'bitch' to refer to you you can do better anyways.
I wish i was there to bring this up. Every 20 something girl is NOT stupid. Some of them dont care or want them dudes. They there to get fabulous sex, rent paid and some trips and they happy not to hear about kids and bullshit. I know these type of women and they got about 3 dudes they deal with at once and they dont mind being on the side. I grew up with chiks like this so i know. I dont roll that way or agree with it but ive seen these girls work and they are not catching feelings.
Josie Mcleod - oh for sure lol! but the way they used to roll i dont think they cared about that. People underestimate youth. Some of them were fast, always had new jewelry and going on trips.
Anisha Renee -oh i am not.friends with them anymore. This was growing up and yes they were sleeping with these some of the men. These were damaged girls who was out to het theirs from men so of course they had no feelings involved just money and gifts. It was such an education for me to watch because men always think they have the upper hand and women are so stupid but in reality men have feelings too, they want love too and young pretty girls can play them out and not even care about the sex part. It meant nothing to these girls at all. Thats how I know and I wish i could have been the one to break that down to Tamar. Some women dont mind being the side chick because they dont even consider themselves that way. They gettin over whereas the wife has to pick up all the broken pieces and that other girl can just go to another dude she already has.
a side chick is not allowed to hold hands or hug or kiss the guy in front of his family or friends and the main chick the side chick is kept a secret from everyone and if the side chick starts to fall in love with the guy she has to put her feelings aside and act like she is a nobody this happened to a friend of mine
@Al Wa off course not anyone willing have relationship with someone in a relationship dont have respect for their self let alone love someone. They insecure they cant even love their self to see they deserve better for themselves they like being a secret to someone else relationship...And trust that man seen her standard which was none so why not nobody gotta know.. Why I go brag on my main cause I know she the one but you gonna give it to me for free and its new vagina he all in he a man at the end of day....Dont forget Eve was the one who was decieved then decieved Adam....But Adam was given the message from God not eve......Please make it make sense PLEASE
side chick, main chick.. who is winning? no one is winning, the main chick isn't winning because she's being cheated on and looks like an idiot especially when they find out and stay with the man. and the side chick always gets dumped, and he might get dumped. if not then i guess he is winning which sucks.
I was a sidechick before but it WASN’T intentional. Come to find out he had a gf all a long and he would always be dry with me but text me the next day. Let me tell you, it’s such a horrible feeling and I just felt so low and broke my morals. Smh. I lost myself.
The hell. Why would any man/woman get involved in a relationship with a married man/woman. If you are unhappy in the relationship then you should leave.
Sidechicks aren't just young. They're 40 and older walking around here training their daughters to do the same. It's embarrassing and humiliating. Grow up.
At the end of the day the wife has power of his life, she handles any legal business ijs. The problem is mistresses believed their punani is better than the wives.
No you don't understand. The side chick doesn't want power over a man that clearly isn't really under her control. Like his wife has all of the power yet he's the one cheating is he not? So no the woman isn't competing with the wife as she doesn't have to be his "everything" she's just fun and she get "money and gifts".
@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 but honestly that money, fun and those gifts worth the karma that people would get bk 10 fold done to them for knowingly fucking someone else man....its not the if u dont know you a side chick its the ones that know he in relationship (yes he in a relationship) but one they start have sex with him they in the relationship too see people dont realize sex so sacret thats people dont even realize when they lay down with someone they taking a piece of ya soul ya body ya demons and problems drama etc and you taking theirs but yall not ready for the real talk .thats why its so many mentally and messed up minded people. People who have bad perspectives holding on to baggage they dont even know where it came from and all walking around messed up cause they did bumm Stuff like this plus they done laid down with not only him other men and everyone you lay down with you getting up with something from them attacted to you period.... My opinion its not worth it when they can get their own man to have fun with and give them money and only them gifts...plus its single people who can do that stuff...they rather sex somebody elses for money and gifts and maybe a disease one day Its just make it make sense to meeeeeeeee🤷 they just be some insecure little girls.(no matter age). For 1. A real woman would never agree to this bull 2. Real women dont like to share. sSad part yall vagina be new not better cause they always 9/10 stay with the main chick that 9/10 dont know about the side ( the side knows about the main) cause he making sure he keeps it away from home until he try leave side cause he tied of paying and playing and she threatening to tell wife then it turns into extortion you give me you do or imma tell.. Them lil sides be a sad story waiting to be destroyed by karma
The real question is why you want a man with a side chick? Y'all are not special if your man needs an extra in his life. Period. There is NO good thing being a side kick and a main chick. Strive to be the ONLY chick.
I love how these women are so accommodating to each other and able to have sensitive conversations from a realistic point of view without losing control.
If you're a side chick and you know that deep in your heart you love that man and will go through just about damn near everything to be with him start praying.
I disagree with Tamar saying that ALL women have been a side chick before because not ALL men are the same. Also disagree with the whole age thing... age and maturity are not simultaneous IMO. You can be 20/21 and know better than to be the side chick, all comes down to values and knowing your worth. Loved the discussion though!
I am sick and tired of men, they always say that they love you but turn their backs on you and start cheating on you with someone else, but most of the time they always be like I never cheated on you with nobody else and we always believe them, I am sick and tired of always hearing this crap😠
+Crystal Downer She was right thats how she got her husband...she told the story on the Real. Vince had a girlfriend he was living with and he was also messing with Tamar and Tamar "snatched him up."
Give women more opportunities and more money and there would be a whole lot less side chicks. Let the little girls know that with intelligence they can take care of themselves and not have to depend on a man in any form
to be honest if you have never been in that type of relationship how would you know well I have been the side chick and the main chick. and they up there talking some of them would probably be somebody side chick
Ya'll all getting yelled at each other and arguing for a cheating man!!🤦♀️and nope the wife never wins if her husband cheated on her and break their bond !! Side chick or a main chick both are used by a cheater What sounds fair is that every main chick should have a side boyfriend and every side chick should have a main boyfriend
This 💯 all these comments saying the wife wins.. wins what lol a cheating man is no prize! They are delusional if a man has had a side chick he’ll just get a new one when she falls off!
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The fact that you're a "main chick" and not the only chick means he doesn't respect you anyway. That's not rocket science.
+Groud Frank lol exactly its just simple logic dear
Depending on why he cheated doesnt mean that
@@rydersyder its 100% no justification to cheating. If you aint happy bounce out that person life we are all adults we aren't in high school playing around as adults we sit down and talk if nothing changes thats key indication that person not willing to change what upsets you what causes arguments so you let em go lifes too short to deal with ppls nonsense
@@JUJU-._.- but when you love someone you dont want them out of your life so easily, people arent perfect, so if you going threw something and and someone else gives you comfort things can happen, god knows us best and even he said for a woman to look good for your husband and dont do things that can cause him to stray. Js.
@@rydersyder that is true but i leaned that i cannot forgive a cheat my ex of 10years cheated i honestly don't know why we didn't even argue much everything looked perfect subtraction of him being a narcissist 90% of the time but i mean i did everything for him support him dressed up never refused sex clean his mama house so she comes to just relax from work told showed i was supporting his dreams so i felt if I did everything i had to do and wasn't still enough to be loyal to me he's got no place in my life. 5years after the break up I'm in a new relationship with someone always puts me first makes me feel loved and respected its not all about him is not all about me we put each other as #1
Ladies, take this from a man. Don't ever settle for being the "main chick". Make sure you are the ONLY chick. Don't ever underestimate the "side chick". She has improved over the years. She used to be ole faithful. Now the side chicks look like models. Their getting your man's time, sex, money, gifts, vacations and a baby. Don't sleep. Love yourselves! Know your worth and only settle for what you can live with.
Preach!
wow...you are so right...BUT the "ONLY CHICK" who doesn't settle will never get a man THESE DAYS...men are so disrespectful and they have no integrity or character and if you have any respect for yourself, men run the other way...my dog on EX-PASTOR had 12 side chicks #ijs #sad
Well said AJH. 😃👌
I was just saying this at lunch to some co-workers. He did that!
True, but men don't do this for looks tho. Because they can have a beautiful woman (by every definition) and still have a side chick. So men def don't do this because they "look" like models (that gets old fast and probably was old before it started). And men giving these "extra" women sex, gifts, money (even a baby) doesn't mean anything either. Because he's only pacifying that woman, while getting he wants out of the situation. A baby only complicates things even worse. A man doesn't want that type of attachment to a side chick. Men get sober real fast when a possible baby is in the mix. And not just a baby but diseases. Because chances are, that side chick has more than one man on deck. Please don't think the main chick is sitting around waiting for you to straighten up. She can have a side dude too. They do exist as well. Men just aren't smart enough to figure it out. 9 times out of 10, a woman already knows what you did before you make up your first lie. We're natural investigators.
How about not having a side chick at all....
I'm saying...
Amen to that 🙌🏻
guys don't. care. xD
Black Women again lol
+mavishill that is true.
it takes two to tangle.
we shouldnt toss all the blame on the side chick or the man. assuming that both are adults(if they are not both adults then we have a whole other problem) then both people share the blame.
cheating is kinda childish too.
has noone heard of ending one relationship before starting another.
#adulting
#commondecency
#whatsdoneinthedark
I feel like Tamera may have been the only non-sidechick in this conversation...lol
Yup 😂
Lol
As far as we know 🤔🤔
No she said in another video that she caught an ex cheating on her during college so...
@@SoshiStars yes and she said her husband was seeing other ppl too when they were first dating, and she was shocked when she found out.
Imma be the only chick or nothing, ain’t nobody got time.
Facts. Why am I gonna stay with a man that's gonna disrespect me like that when I could have a man that's gonna treat me with the same amount of love, loyalty and respect that I will give him
The whole side chick mentality is awful point plank period I don't think it's cute at all
+Lilly Yarney Hey please go watch my new video on Side chicks VS Main chicks :) plz . ill subscribe to all who comment under the video too :)
Its not but unfortunately many people find these types of women empowering. They interpret it as “Shes strong and doesn’t need to be tied down, she knows how to play men”.......sad
I don't either.
It’s toxic and a waste of everyone’s lives involved for no logical reason😒
@@Beaneabean it's really backwards thinking. We need to tear that down wooteoot
I don't want to be the side chick or the main chick but THE ONLY CHICK smh
+Janiyah Connor Thank you
Exactly 👏👏👏
Preach sista
Amen to that
Wife only!
How about we stop just blaming the side-chick and blame the disgusting guy who's being a "h-word."
hi five
hi five
Even Tamera knew that
Thank you! Men always get away with cheating and we berate the women for it!
Blame both if she knew about the other woman
This entire conversation assumes the premise that the concept of a side chick is normal. That’s where the problem lies, normalizing bad behavior.
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Facts.
Why is this even a question??? No one wins. Men, be faithful to your woman and vice versa. If she isn't enough, then move on and get into a different relationship. Simple. They up and wasted 5 minutes talking about this bs.
for real.....say that....PREACH!!!!CHURCH!!!!!
You never get into this situation that's why you don't understand.
Amen.
The man does
@@victoriavilla9531 ???? That doesn’t matter. It’s common sense.
Ugh so many men of today are pure trash. The fact that we have to even discuss "side chicks" and "main chicks" is disgusting. If you cheated on him he would be gone in an instant.
Thank you! I'm pissed this is even a conversation. The message it's sending is if there's a side chick she's a mess, broke etc. (you can't put ppl in a box for why they do what they do). The focus should be if you find out your man has something on the side know your worth and leave. Why tolerate this "main chick" nonsense!? ONLY WOMAN is what you should be the standard. Put the blame on the man and the responsibility on the "main" to not tolerate it. If the shoe was on the other foot 9 times out of 10 the man would leave.
People are so focus on side chicks. But what about men who get involved with other men? That's the biggest betrayal right there. A woman can deal with her man cheating with another woman, but a man? Let's just say a woman might catch a case if she catches her man with another man.
Exactly. I would catch a murder charge if there was a side chick when it came to my husband!
***** I agree it's been going on for all times. But I think now a days it has increased because society, the media and the main culture has embraced it. People used to once value being married and spending their lives with the mother of their children. That used to be an important moral issue. No morals have gone out the window.
Zhane Doe You think that this is something new? If anything its gotten better recently. (sad to say but its true.) It was a lot easier to hide before cell phones and social media, not to mention now women have the power to support themselves.
Hell no! I would leave my husband is a heart beat if he had a side chick
MIMI ESQUIVEZ check out his i.g. see who he follows. I.G. is where most guys cheat lately. They create fake accounts and follow chics.
skorpia g actually it’s Snapchat!!
GIRL YES IF I FOUND OUT MY HUSBAND HAS A SIDE CHICK NOOOOOOO!!!!
@Cindy John Wow, feel bad for your friend.
MIMI ESQUIVEZ thank you. Beats me what’s the completion of main chick and side chick competition is all about? Why would any self respecting woman wanna be the main with a man who has a side chick?
I love Tamar but I feel like she was trying to force that every woman has been a side chick before which I don't believe.
Just because she was. I was never a side chick or drive by. She does make it seem like all broads are like HER.
Right her own insecurities! I wish someone else would say something to her on the panel and just shut her up one day!!! Come on Loni give Tamar the real!!!
blakebymharris but she said u may not have known. And since men lie, u may have been a side chick and just didn't know it
Anisha Renee - it all depends on how you see yourself in those situations. What if he was your side guy, what if you didnt care about that dude anyway, what if he was just something to pass your time. Side of what? If any ex told me I was a side chick i would laugh right in their faces and be like oh really? What was you getting from me that i wasnt getting from you? Hahaha
blakebymharris I hear what ur saying but the meaning is still the same even if u benefit from it. A prostitute can see themselves as respectable all they want but it won't change how other people them as long as they are doing what they are doing. If ur guy has a main woman that he lives with and still messes with u, whether u know it or not, u are the chick on the side, the mistress. And mistresses always get the benefits. So it doesn't matter.
Tamar's body movement when she said everybody been a side chick took me out 😂😂😂😂😂
Every single day, another man leaves his main chick for a side chick. So, the saying "a man never leaves his main chick, wife or girlfriend for a side chick or mistress" is incorrect.
When they say " never" they don't mean it literally, but figuratively. Normally the man doesnt leave the main chick for the sided piece, its rare.
That's wat I just commented earlier and say, men do leave their wives
Exactly, these women are delusional. A ring don't stop a man from doing what he wants ti do.
I got left for the side chick. Yet I’m the one that had the car and job and apartment and money. And I got left for p*ssy
Something is seriously wrong if you pride yourself in being somebody's side chick, KNOWINGLY. It's a blatant disregard for the other woman's feelings, relationship, and it's selfishness.
THANK YOU!
Agreed.
If you pride yourself in being a side chick, you really need a psychiatrist first off all
Dionté Wilkens karma is a bitch, and when she come to collect , she not taking no excuses..
Lol. I was going to rob your house, then I thought about how hard you must have worked to buy all the things you own, so I decided to rob someone else’s house down the street. Aren’t we all selfish creatures? It’s called being a human being.
To be honest, there's nothing great about being a main chick or a side chick. The prize is being the "only chick." With that said, I really dislike the glorification of the main chick role. IMO when someone invites someone into your already established relationship (cheating) it would hurt more to be the main chick than the side chick. There's nothing like investing time into someone and throughout the day they're stopping at every-other side chicks house to only to get to the main house (yours) at the end of the night and they're bring all that nastiness to you. That's the utmost disrespect. There's no winning for either role, but main chicks tend to put too much glory into being main when you can't be winning if your sharing. Side chicks tend to come in knowing they're sharing depending on the situation. In the end, you have to strive to be the only chick.
In the end, we should strive to blame the MEN in the relationship and hold them accountable. Not have so much focus on the poor women
Yea at least the side chicks usually knows what's up.
A real man is all in. He is so consumed with the life that he is building that he is not thinking about having a side chick. A real woman is not a main chick. A real woman can tell if she is dealing with someone who wants her to be the side chick.
+Ressurrection Graves that is temporary , then it gets old, as it is in human nature to do..that is why compatibility is very important, no one is going to eat steak 7 days per week , 365 days per year and still be happy after year 3 and 4 and 5 , LMFAO ... all this real man , real woman stuff has to go , we need to get back to biology and chemistry, science is reality
+SouFLoTV @ TH-cam That's why you spice up the relationship instead of finding another person to screw on the side.
Osuman M. that is true but many times spicing up does not work and remember it takes two. Some people get complacent and happy with the bare minimum.
SouFLoTV @ TH-cam True complacency hurts relationship a lot. But if that is the case, then leave and find another person. I don't agree with having someone on the side because your other half isn't on good terms.
Osuman M. well, you are right , but then again, i am a polygamist and the rules you speak of and problems we are addressing belong to monogamous people
Wtf. How about men just be faithful?
How about no
@@StalinsFather1945 why not.?
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 to many sexy girls
@@StalinsFather1945 just choose one of em and settle down with her
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 doesn't work
if you ain't the only chick you losing.
I do not understand why women entertain a cheating guy anyway. Its like women look past the cheating man and go for the throat of the side chick...well what if she doesnt know shes a side chick? And why fight to keep a guy who cheats on you? You never see men fighting each other to keep a girl that slept with both of them.
+PhdMusic03 Wow that is one of the most intelligent, eye opening statements ever
+AraE seriously why do women do that?
Because most of the time the girl is in love with the guy and has invested too much time and emotion to let it go, plus, some women even try to get out of it, but then the men won't leave them alone and it becomes too hard to cut ties. Also the women fight because they are so infatuated that they want to believe that if it were not for the other woman trying to steal their man, he never would have stepped out of the relationship, placing the blame on the other girl instead of on the guy, because it hurts too much to admit to themselves that the guy they are with is no good and doesn't love them....it's an ego thing too...that's just my opinion
Afros & Cosmos well I wouldnt go that far
Harlin Miller It's true..
I'm 19 years old and I know better than to be someones "side chick". If a man truly has respect for his wife, then no matter what happens between the both of you, you should be able to work on your issues and enjoy play time together. Your wife is the one who you go to for bills, issues, work stress and nagging but you buy some other girl gifts and take her to the movies every week? DON'T YOU THINK YOUR WIFE DESERVES TO WATCH MOVIES TOO? That girl is also disrespectful messing with a married man! Don't get this twisted either, because women have "side men" too. RESPECT YOURSELF AND RESPECT THE FEELINGS AND LOYALTY OF OTHERS.
Fatima Fofana thank you ♥ thank my parents :)
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I don't think either wins. The main chick has someone that can't keep it in the pants and the side chick is an after thought. I want to be the ONLY chick.
It's nice to dream.
Amen ✋
@@StalinsFather1945 So you're saying out of the billions of men in the world that none remain faithful ? Lol. Please!! Staying faithful is as easy as a choice. Some men don't care to do it and some men choose to do it because they have integrity. Anybody can cheat, yes. Some won't for their own reasons.
@@JM-fo2qn yeah thats exactly what I'm saying.
Deal with it.
@@StalinsFather1945 Fortunately, I don't have to deal with it. 😊
I agree with Tamera! As soon as I start feeling like any kind of “side chick” I’m out! I’m out so fast he won’t even know why. The feeling is already there and i know it will haunt me so I just leave. I like to feel special and important because that’s how I feel about someone when I give myself to them and you can’t tell someone to treat you, it has to come natural and from the heart.
The point of the side chick that they skipped over is why. Usually the reason they are the side chick is because they just want fun. They don’t want feelings in the relationship. Which is why they don’t mind being the side
Amen
Amen
Not really I knew a girl who willing became a side chick to my ex all because she really didn't like me at all and thought she was so much better than me and that she could take my man at the time but really she was extremely jealous of me and have been for years, always picking fights me, competing with me, and litterally copying my personailty traits, looks, and literally everything. She even successfully turned a lot of people against me with so much gossip and lies she told them about me. Funny thing is she fell in love with my ex and she thought he was in love with her. But come to find out, he was only using her for her money and sex because she was very easy. She was really mean and a complete bitch to everyone, mostly other girls and she was not attractive at all, but she had a nice ass. My ex knew me and her had issues way before we dated, she was trying to turn him against me too and she did for a minute. All had no idea about him and her or what she was doing. But As soon as I found out he was messing around with her I left him for good. Still until this day he doesn't want anybody to know he was sleeping around with her. He was so embarrassed of her. Then she got into another relationship with another dude after being a side chick to my ex. The new guy ended cheating on her all the damn time and abusing her and using her for her house and money. KARMA!!!
@@Loveheartcorian karma I love her
and because theyre not the ones getting heir feelings hurt. Theyre not the ones getting cheated on essentially.
ive only been a side chick once. that was when i was 17 and the guy lied to me like a dog. but once i found out, i never spoke to him ever again. and in the end, his main gf found out he cheated on her with me, and she left him too. so he had nothing in the end. that's karma.
I've been in both positions with the same guy, and honestly, don't let yourself become low enough to be the side chick.
So true. How you get em is how you lose em.
I've been on both sides too, cheated on by a loser who wanted me to look like someone else and also when the husband turns around takes his wife back after she done cheated with the whole county, that's enough to keep you single for a long time.
naaaa. in my situation, i have been here longer than the guys girlfriend, i was here first we've been fucking around longer than theyve been together and longer than hes had a kid. the main chick needs to open her fucking eyes and make sure you arent with someone you cant trust. its on the guy , and if the guy doesnt stop it, thats not my fault.
naaaa. in my situation, i have been here longer than the guys girlfriend, i was here first we've been fucking around longer than theyve been together and longer than hes had a kid. the main chick needs to open her fucking eyes and make sure you arent with someone you cant trust. its on the guy , and if the guy doesnt stop it, thats not my fault.
+Bryaan Cast its your fault if you know he has a girl but youre still fucking with him. ita his fault too but youre just as much to blame
Tamera looks like Tia with that weave.
+Amma Appiah So true.
She looks like her all the time
+cassiuswatt Not to me.
+Amma Appiah they're identical twins...
+cassiuswatt well aware of that and I still stick to my initial statement. My opinion.
Let's talk about the man for a second. He the one steppin out yet the side chick catchin all the heat for it. Yes, she should have respect for the other woman and for herself to not be put in the situation but the man is also o blame and in a lot of conversations about side chicks people mainly coming at the side chicks but not they man who's play both women.
oh yes, cuz men are never responsible for anything, nor do they ever take responsibility for anything. they just run away and escape like lil boys...
They are blaming the men they are just asking women why be a side chick which means if you didnt know you were a side chick this dont relate.. Girls knowingly being a side chicks to a relationship marriage whateva more relatable to what they saying
You can never have someone for yourself if they were never yours in the first placeeee
Kay Cee PREACH HONEY PREACH!!!!!!
Right
I agree with Tamar. I really hate when women start that Main vs. Side chick battle, because they don't have that anger towards the liar and the coward who gave them those titles without their permission. There are so many dudes out there that lie,put on an act like they care and make false promises, just so they can say how many chicks they have. So yeah there will be times where you are the side chick and don't even know it (especially when your young) until you sit and think and add things up. HOWEVER if you decide to continue seeing him after you've figured it out you're no longer innocent. All you have to do is look at it this way, Main chick or Side chick either way it goes you're not his one and only. That should be enough to make any woman want to walk away.
So true! They all cheat…. well… most.
That should be enough to make her walk away, unless she's just desperate.
Some willingly take the title
Shemashay True!
Risse H 💗💗💗💗 exactly women are always willing call each other out instead of getting mad at the story teller a.k.a MAN
Let's be honest...a man will NEVER leave his main chick. Ladies, please value yourselves more. As Steve Harvey says, a man will only do to you what you allow...#dropsthemic
And...no one wins when people cheat!
Preeech sister! Sorry but I'm really feeling that comment lol..sooo true
Exactly. Some women underestimate their own power.
Not always. Some men do leave their main chick for their side chick.
Joshua McDowell You have a point, and this all could be debated for days because it could go a number of ways. The bottom line here is simple, no man or woman, should be comfortable settling as anyone's "side" anything. It does not bode well for either party.
I highly doubt Tamara has been a side chick, lol. I'm almost willing to bet money. Seriously, what would a dude be getting out of her? He wasn't going to have sex. Let's be REAL!
If you feel differently let me know. :)
I agree because aint no man putting up with that mouth but Vince lol
Maybe she has been but didn't know and maybe he thought he could change her mind. Men think differently to us women don't forget. Plus men can have side chicks for different reasons..chilling and hanging out and having a laugh could be one reason especially if he feels stressed at home with the main chick then over time feelings and emotions get involved.
she has been. she said on the show on the trial season, but she didn't know and broke things off when she found out.
miw mw
There's a difference between being a side chick and the main chick that's being cheated on. I don't remember the incident you are referring to but in all likelihood Tamera was the main chick whose boyfriend was cheating on her because she didn't want to put out. I highly doubt Tamera was ever a side chick.
Butter Fly EXACTLY...Tamar aint side chick material...she has too much mouth and attitude...side chicks seem like they are dumb push overs with no self esteem #ijs
In my opinion, in the case of main chick vs side chick, nobody is winning! Why? Because you are not the only one. I'm too good for cheating and if you know you are not ready to be faithful and be committed to one person, don't get into a relationship! Getting into a relationship while you still act and feel single brings unnecessary drama that could have been prevented!
However more likely than not, the guy is having his one foot out the door already and ending up with sidechick is very likely
Side chick...been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, keyring and the postcard. Being the side chick might be fun in the very beginning, but after a while it gets really old and lonely. As women we really need to step up our game and not settle for a part-time/some of the time/"whenever I can" man. Also remember, as a sidechick, if he cheats WITH you...he'll cheat ON you.
I don't feel bad then
Can we just talk about the fact that we've made being a main chick the goal when in actuality you should be the ONLY chick. Why are ppl ok with feeling if they are the main chick that they have won? He's still cheating on you. I just don't get it.
exactly...the competition to 'win' something that isn't even a prize!! lol is ridiculous.
I guess women who say I’m the main chick are the same women in the at least I have a man group… Desperate.
I been the side chick without knowing. There he was wooing me, making it work, telling me he has a crazy ex to explain the hate mail LOL red flags. He couldn't tell me he was on a break with is woman + child.
Sucks being the side chick without even knowing
+Lavi Nia if he says his ex is crazy, then that is a ref flag right there
More chics should admit it.
Happened to me as well. It’s humiliating to find out you were just their side piece. Smh never AGAIN
@@itsfriday9139 she may ACTUALLY be crazy though.
I hate the ideal of main chick and side chick. I will not be your main prize and let you have a 2nd prize to the side or vice versa.
this discussion shouldnt even be happening. what this disgusting men. are doing is cheating
theyre both in the wrong but the men are most wrong for deceiving their innocent girlfriend.
I mean if i want I Can go get myself a willing prostitute but would I do it???? It is the man's fault.
just because I can have a side dude doesnt mean im gonna go out and do that and cheat on my boyfriend. there being side chicks available isnt an excuse for the guy to go out and have one.
They're referring to women who mess with guys knowing they're married
thtktgrl Not necessarily.
Sometimes they stay with the side chick (mistress). Nobody wins.
Unfortunately side chicks find a way to become the wife, sad but true.
zizi matos yes it does happen, but in a lot of cases it doesn’t. Remember, each and every situation is different.
I have to say in the very beginning i was the side chick and it was the worse for me cause i was putting in my all and was only get half. But now we are married and im pregnant with our 2nd baby. At that time i felt very low about myself then we took a break and he would keep calling and blah blah blah. So i told him if u want me gotta leave her alone unless it concerns his daughter and he made his choice finally. 3 months after they got divorced we got married. After being together almost 4 years. In my case (not all cases) it hard for the man to leave something he was so used to. But it still doesnt make it right for any man to treat a woman that way. Luckily we were able to get past it and now we joke about it
@@jlenegonzalez1054
Wow. 3 months after he devorced you got married to him. So that mean he can have another side chick and do the same to you. Probably is ex wife became side chick. Its a difficult situation you put yourself into. I hope you have a good life with him and that what happened to his ex wife doesn't happen to you.
No there is a huge difference. I also like woman and im poly. So we have dated woman together. And it wont happen to me. I know the signs and im smarter then that. And he knows i wont stick around for that...she knew about me and the chick before me and she stayed. They were legally separated for 8 of the almost 10 years they were married
Jlene Gonzalez LOLL that’s what they all say... Until karma decides to be a bitch and bite em in the ass that is. That’s when the rose coloured glasses of delusion comes off and you wouldn’t be able to walk it like you’re talking it now. Hence if I were you I would never say never lmaoo. Plus take in the fact that you two are in a poly relationship (I’m sure there’s a reason for it).
Tamar had good points but that Egyptian Sphinx head hair piece was distracting me. Love yourself ladies, never settle for something beneath your worth.
Would it be distracting if it was on another woman, Tamera, or a white woman, or is it just distracting because it's on Tamar? Could it be that you're saying that to get a chuckle or two? If that's the case we could get a chuckle or two off your idol there in your profile pic.
Janet Smith A chuckle off his skin disease, false accusations or $1 billion net worth? Be my guest. When Tamera had her hair like that, it looked better anyway. You offended ?
It's not my hair, so how would I be offended. I'm just wondering how every episode you have something to say about her. Like your idol didn't have faults either.
Yes she has the same skin disease, but I'm talking about the nose job that completely fell off lady.The billions he blew away before he died girl? He was about to get it back because his tour, yes. I'm talking about your idol that talked with a light voice, but actually had a deep voice. How he walked around with a woman's wig on girlfriend. Yes him!
Janet Smith I've actually praised Tamar quite a bit, and my observations are something a lot of ppl agree on. And *Yawn* at the MJ jabs, those are so 2005. I'm not bothered, you should move on, you're truly wasting your time. Beat It (pun intended)
I've never seen you praise her, but whatever. Yeah I did notice you liking your own comments too...go figure. No jabs, just facts.
In my opinion, neither the "main chick" or the "side chick" wins. I wish that women would really value and respect themselves. No woman should put up with being on the down low as a side chick, and no woman should be satisfied with being someone as their official gf or wife and knows that your man has other things going on. That's wrong, for both women and men. Tamar's right though. Whether or not you know, most of us have been a "side chick." LOL! Love the girls and the show!
Preach!!!!
Uniquely Shonique too many desperate are who are out there looking for reasons to stay, reasons to be with the guy ,looking for attention..chasing men..WOMEN CANT HANDLE BEING ALONE AND GUYS KNOW THIS. They know women are obsessed with being in a relationship or having a guy period that they'll do almost anything to keep them. Even lying to themselves,friends and family everything is fine.
I’ve never knowingly been a side chick, when I was growing up side chicks were called home wreckers, it was never cute to be a home wrecker and it’s still not.
The sexisit version was "home wrecker" as if it's a woman's fault that a man is cheating on his wife. Side chicks is the real term because the "main chick" is also a fool for staying with a man that can't seem to keep his pecker in his pants. The side chick doesn't really want the guy at least the ones that aren't emotionally caught up. The ones that see the man for what he is, get theirs and are out.
I feel like the term homewrecker is putting all the blame on the other woman. The husband is the one wrecking the home. He made the vow
My ex boyfriend had a sidechick and I had no idea until the end ! She even got mad when she found out I left him !! Like, is your self esteem that low sis ??
I knew a girl who willing became a side chick to my ex all because she really didn't like me at all and thought she was so much better than me and that she could take my man at the time but really she was extremely jealous of me and have been for years, always picking fights me, competing with me, and litterally copying my personailty traits, looks, and literally everything. She even successfully turned a lot of people against me with so much gossip and lies she told them about me. Funny thing is she fell in love with my ex and she thought he was in love with her. But come to find out, he was only using her for her money and sex because she was very easy. She was really mean and a complete bitch to everyone, mostly other girls and she was not attractive at all, but she had a nice ass. My ex knew me and her had issues way before we dated, she was trying to turn him against me too and she did for a minute. All had no idea about him and her or what she was doing. But As soon as I found out he was messing around with her I left him for good. Still until this day he doesn't want anybody to know he was sleeping around with her. He was so embarrassed of her. Then she got into another relationship with another dude after being a side chick to my ex. The new guy ended cheating on her all the damn time and abusing her and using her for her house and money. KARMA!!!
@@Loveheartcorianglad you got your justice in the end. Hope she learned a valuable lesson
Real Talk. Tamar I would listen to you more without all the animation...tone it down a little
Well I guess that wouldn't be her keeping it "Real" now would it?
What does all the smacking while talking and moving her hand and head around have to do with what she has to say. She can still be coy and get her point across.
I thought I was the only one having a hard time understanding. There is a time and a place for everything, and when you want your point to hold people's attention, you should let your words do the talking and not the animations.
Exactly!!! And it is very unprofessional TooCute1890
Joan Rivers was very animated. They wanted Tamar for her flamboyant attitude. Boring doesn't sell. They wanted them to talk how they talk around their girlfriends, and not the fakeness that most give off now. What's that bogus bougie.
"Cause y'all have been too ladies, GETCHYO LIFE!" Lololol, Tamar always has me cracking up!
I beg to differ most side chicks are NOT younger their over 30. Young girls are generally jump offs. There is a difference between how side chicks and jump offs operate. Jump offs generally know the score (he's not leaving his wife) and use the situation to their advantage whether its money or sexual satisfaction. They usually don't have a deep connection with the man as long as they get what they want their cool. A side chick and the married husband have a deep emotional connection her main objective is to become the main chick that's why she hangs around.She will seek to devalue the wife in the husbands eyes, And that's who he takes on holiday and goes on dates with when he tells his wife he's going out of town.
That makes sense..totally agree.
either way this "side chick" need to figure out her worth because she's degrading herself and it's disgusting.
skecre very true agree !!!!
Jump offs, side chick, hoes...they're all the same if they know that he's married and he's not leaving. Basically low self-esteem trash that's settling.
faithsy89 I know you didn't. I was just making a general comment.
Tamar and that wig..like why🤦🏾😂
i don't want to be the main or the side chick. i want to be the only chick
I agree with Tamar, as women we are sometimes gullible to the charms of men. They deceive us with or without sex. It's difficult for some people to understand Tamar because she's a bit brash in her reponses, but other than the neck twirling she tries to speak the truth and I respect her for that. #loveallthegirlonthereal
You gotta love tamar ! She makes the show , she read her co host and the audience and they still laughed with her. She 'so really keeping it real.
All this side chick, main chick stuff is just crazy. There should be only ONE chick. But to answer the question, the main chick should be winning.
I think they both are losing.
Dumbbells.......how can a wife win when she lost from the moment
"the one", she chose and made a promise to her, was cheating on her?
You need to ask yourself than.....what exactly is mine perception of "winning"?😊
When you are with a man who does not think you are enough for him, and lies to you to be with another woman, making love to her, buying her stuff, telling her things that ONLY you supposed to hear, are you winning?????
Because if *that* ...is winning, I rather lose.
Who's winning? Simple: none.
Also, a lot of the "side chicks" love the idea of a man telling them they're going to leave their wives or girlfriends for them. They love to compete with other women and want to win. If a guy really does pick them they realize they're not that into him. I'm not saying all of them but most of them are.
And a girl who chooses to be in a relationship where her partner disrespects her that way has just as low of a self-esteem as the side chick, just shows it in a different way. Most of them are afraid he's going to leave if they put some boundaries. But guess what, that man leaving you is the best blessing you could ask for.
Be better, don't compete with your sisters. We're in this together. We don't need the "validation" of a little boy who doesn't want to grow up and need to hold on to the idea of the beginning of a relationship while having the perks of a long term and committed one. You deserve better
Don't be anyone's "side chick" or "main chick" be the quenn, the one and only in his life, be the wife/fiancee . if he's using the word 'chick' or 'bitch' to refer to you you can do better anyways.
Loni's story was eye opening.
shes probably talking about herself. 🤦♀️🤷♀️
It happens and what makes it worst is when the wife knows and doesnt even care.
I wish i was there to bring this up. Every 20 something girl is NOT stupid. Some of them dont care or want them dudes. They there to get fabulous sex, rent paid and some trips and they happy not to hear about kids and bullshit. I know these type of women and they got about 3 dudes they deal with at once and they dont mind being on the side. I grew up with chiks like this so i know. I dont roll that way or agree with it but ive seen these girls work and they are not catching feelings.
Just diseases
Josie Mcleod - oh for sure lol! but the way they used to roll i dont think they cared about that. People underestimate youth. Some of them were fast, always had new jewelry and going on trips.
I'm a man and I like women, but have people not heard of these new incurable diseases? I just work in healthcare and it's scary as hell man.
Are ur friends sleeping with all the men they are dealing with?
Anisha Renee -oh i am not.friends with them anymore. This was growing up and yes they were sleeping with these some of the men. These were damaged girls who was out to het theirs from men so of course they had no feelings involved just money and gifts. It was such an education for me to watch because men always think they have the upper hand and women are so stupid but in reality men have feelings too, they want love too and young pretty girls can play them out and not even care about the sex part. It meant nothing to these girls at all. Thats how I know and I wish i could have been the one to break that down to Tamar. Some women dont mind being the side chick because they dont even consider themselves that way. They gettin over whereas the wife has to pick up all the broken pieces and that other girl can just go to another dude she already has.
It's a BIG difference in knowing you're a side chick and not knowing.
Tamar was the show. I miss her personality and perspective
Tamar had the most INSIGHT. HOWEVER, she turned people off with the loud talking and acting GHETTO.
Just be real.
Can't stand her.
Yhu ha.a
She is obnoxious af.
Shelley Sheri I agree 😢 why did she leave
a side chick is not allowed to hold hands or hug or kiss the guy in front of his family or friends and the main chick the side chick is kept a secret from everyone and if the side chick starts to fall in love with the guy she has to put her feelings aside and act like she is a nobody this happened to a friend of mine
@Al Wa off course not anyone willing have relationship with someone in a relationship dont have respect for their self let alone love someone. They insecure they cant even love their self to see they deserve better for themselves they like being a secret to someone else relationship...And trust that man seen her standard which was none so why not nobody gotta know.. Why I go brag on my main cause I know she the one but you gonna give it to me for free and its new vagina he all in he a man at the end of day....Dont forget Eve was the one who was decieved then decieved Adam....But Adam was given the message from God not eve......Please make it make sense PLEASE
side chick, main chick.. who is winning? no one is winning, the main chick isn't winning because she's being cheated on and looks like an idiot especially when they find out and stay with the man. and the side chick always gets dumped, and he might get dumped. if not then i guess he is winning which sucks.
Side chick gets dumped? Lol hes most likely ending with side chick since hes fed up with main but has no balls
You can definitely tell who the goes are on this thread. lol. I'm too good to be a side chick. I don't have to share a man. I'm worth more 😘
amen
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I was a sidechick before but it WASN’T intentional. Come to find out he had a gf all a long and he would always be dry with me but text me the next day. Let me tell you, it’s such a horrible feeling and I just felt so low and broke my morals. Smh. I lost myself.
2:10 “If I find out if I’m the side chick, I’m out” too funny 😂
The hell. Why would any man/woman get involved in a relationship with a married man/woman. If you are unhappy in the relationship then you should leave.
Exactly.
Why would any married man step outside his marriage?
Im sorry but tamar really needs to pluck her wig. Just being real with it.
koi hamilton it's on fire
I wouldn't want to be a side chick, I'd rather be the ONLY woman in that man's life. It's sad that there are even side chicks nowadays.
I love how Tamera's like: "Get out, just get out!"
Right on gurl!!!
Sidechicks aren't just young. They're 40 and older walking around here training their daughters to do the same. It's embarrassing and humiliating. Grow up.
If you're going to be in a relationship, why get a side piece? You might as well stay single and not even think about poppin filling into a hot pocket
This is the best contribution Loni has brought to the show(based on TH-cam clips). She was rational, light yet not too silly!
At the end of the day the wife has power of his life, she handles any legal business ijs. The problem is mistresses believed their punani is better than the wives.
No you don't understand. The side chick doesn't want power over a man that clearly isn't really under her control. Like his wife has all of the power yet he's the one cheating is he not? So no the woman isn't competing with the wife as she doesn't have to be his "everything" she's just fun and she get "money and gifts".
@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 but honestly that money, fun and those gifts worth the karma that people would get bk 10 fold done to them for knowingly fucking someone else man....its not the if u dont know you a side chick its the ones that know he in relationship (yes he in a relationship) but one they start have sex with him they in the relationship too see people dont realize sex so sacret thats people dont even realize when they lay down with someone they taking a piece of ya soul ya body ya demons and problems drama etc and you taking theirs but yall not ready for the real talk .thats why its so many mentally and messed up minded people. People who have bad perspectives holding on to baggage they dont even know where it came from and all walking around messed up cause they did bumm Stuff like this plus they done laid down with not only him other men and everyone you lay down with you getting up with something from them attacted to you period.... My opinion its not worth it when they can get their own man to have fun with and give them money and only them gifts...plus its single people who can do that stuff...they rather sex somebody elses for money and gifts and maybe a disease one day Its just make it make sense to meeeeeeeee🤷 they just be some insecure little girls.(no matter age). For 1. A real woman would never agree to this bull 2. Real women dont like to share. sSad part yall vagina be new not better cause they always 9/10 stay with the main chick that 9/10 dont know about the side ( the side knows about the main) cause he making sure he keeps it away from home until he try leave side cause he tied of paying and playing and she threatening to tell wife then it turns into extortion you give me you do or imma tell.. Them lil sides be a sad story waiting to be destroyed by karma
@@antoinettebunch25 yes soul ties...ppl don't know how deep & demonic that really is.
The main chick and the side chick both could use some therapy. Right along with the cheating husband.
Jeanie looks like she is going to throw up at any moment. I’ve never seen her look so uncomfortable and quiet.
Side chicks are only okay if you're not exclusive. Otherwise, it's cheating. Case closed.
Rule #1...never be #2.
The real question is why you want a man with a side chick? Y'all are not special if your man needs an extra in his life. Period. There is NO good thing being a side kick and a main chick. Strive to be the ONLY chick.
I love how these women are so accommodating to each other and able to have sensitive conversations from a realistic point of view without losing control.
If you're a side chick and you know that deep in your heart you love that man and will go through just about damn near everything to be with him start praying.
Don't be any of them. Be the Only chick or get out
What about side doods? 🙊
Genine Shaw what about a side chick for the wife instead...and I don't mean 3some I mean she got her main man and her side chick...yea
just don't get pregnant
What if you do.
Maria Rios tell him or have an abortion
What about don't be a side chic at all!
Are you really a side chick if you thinking you are the only women he is dealing with?
This is why I miss Tamar!!!!
After Loni talked said "The wife always wins" I litteraly started clapping along with the audience 😂 I'm obsessed with this show
How does the wife win if the husband stepped out on her? Staying with a cheating husband is giving desperate.
I'm so glad Tamar is on this show! She's so R-E-A-L on the topics!
Adrienne's look is so on point here! Gorgeous!
I disagree with Tamar saying that ALL women have been a side chick before because not ALL men are the same. Also disagree with the whole age thing... age and maturity are not simultaneous IMO. You can be 20/21 and know better than to be the side chick, all comes down to values and knowing your worth. Loved the discussion though!
I am sick and tired of men, they always say that they love you but turn their backs on you and start cheating on you with someone else, but most of the time they always be like I never cheated on you with nobody else and we always believe them, I am sick and tired of always hearing this crap😠
Same ..That's all I ever heard too
yep...none of them are worth the time or energy.
True I try but if men cheat what can somebody do ?
If you are a main chic or a side chic, your relationship is not in a healthy space. Let's work on healing, people.
Tamar Lmfaoo “cause y’all have been too ladies , getcha life”
I'm not surprised that Tamar was a side chick
i think thats how she got with her husband, he was with a girl and Tamar went and snatched his ass from her lol
+Bryaan Cast I'm pretty sure it wasn't. She's just being real about girls who are young and dumb.
+Crystal Downer She was right thats how she got her husband...she told the story on the Real. Vince had a girlfriend he was living with and he was also messing with Tamar and Tamar "snatched him up."
+Ty Monae ♡ ohh...ok smh. I did not know that.
I felt some type away when she said that everyone has been a side chick before. Like no...not everyone is like you Tamar
Give women more opportunities and more money and there would be a whole lot less side chicks. Let the little girls know that with intelligence they can take care of themselves and not have to depend on a man in any form
So true. I'm glad I was taught that I'm more than a man's play thing. I'm worth more than half a man.
I agree
CT K.
When she said everyone in this Table been A side chick before 😂😂😂Soooo truth
They should have keep her on the show !!!
No body is winning but the guy if both of them are accepting this
this is why I'm not in no relationship
to be honest if you have never been in that type of relationship how would you know well I have been the side chick and the main chick. and they up there talking some of them would probably be somebody side chick
Thanks for your insights it's really appreciated 🙏 😊
Ya'll all getting yelled at each other and arguing for a cheating man!!🤦♀️and nope the wife never wins if her husband cheated on her and break their bond !!
Side chick or a main chick both are used by a cheater
What sounds fair is that every main chick should have a side boyfriend and every side chick should have a main boyfriend
This 💯 all these comments saying the wife wins.. wins what lol a cheating man is no prize! They are delusional if a man has had a side chick he’ll just get a new one when she falls off!