Is there a way to affair-proof your relationship? “The Real” ladies chat about ways to minimize their risk of infidelity, in this Girl Chat. Check it out and share your comments below.
But irrelevant, she's not sticking to the point. Because giving men respect does not prevent affairs which is the question. Giving your husband respect is necessary for a good marriage not to prevent affairs
@@Grace-mr8bc exactly, tamera wants to bring up women needing to be cherished whilst condoning men cheating. How sway? Why not hold the man accountable & tell him to cherish his woman before cheating instead of retaliating to what he THINKS is a lack of respect like that's going to help. He needs to grow up or leave. Not cheat
Thats why most of them do it though. Cause they think they wouldn't get caught. & not all of them get caught so they tend to do it more cause they got away with it before. Which is fucked up :-/
LMAO cheating happens everywhere in the world Jerre..take your racist bullshit elsewhere! Blaming the white person for you getting cheated on...damn you guys crazy nowadays...
Fatima Insecurity selfishness afraid immature that's why they cheat not ready to face the truth don't know how to speak the truth don't know how to live in the truth so it's easier to punk out and cheat then come back to say I'm sorry it was an accident
Even sexy, good, self-respecting women get cheated on, happens to the best of us, it's solely based on the other person in the relationship. It's their prerogative to cheat.
I love how they gave Adrienne a reality check. They turn to her as though she is a relationship expert. At this time she was naive and inexperienced. Thank you.
She was agreeing with the girls though. She was just saying don’t be unnecessarily mean to him, constantly putting him down basically bullying your man.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been facing trauma from my breakup. We were so compatible together, six years together, and then he called off our engagement just 3 months before our wedding. I’ve been so sad, I still want him so badly, I can still feel his touch around me. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t get over him, I need him back.
This is a familiar experience. It was hell for me when my husband left, and if it wasn’t for a spiritual counselor who helped me, I’m not sure how I would have survived.
His name is Father Akabu He is a spiritualist who helps restore broken relationships with his powerful abilities. I’m very certain he can help you get your partner back.
I honestly miss Tamar because she was real (a little loud sometimes and a little extra but I'm a black South African 80% of my family and friends are like her) I've been cheated on and I have never heard a man say "You weren't respectful/nice enough" it's always "I didn't think you would find out" or "It just happened" it was never about me
Thank you!! Most often cheating is a symptom of a deeper psychological, emotional dysfunction. Cheating is often a pattern of behaviour for people REGARDLESS of their partners. In the U.S. the culture is to blame the victim. The culture is to put the responsibility on the victim. Cheating, and how to stop it is the problem of the person who cheats. NOT the person who was cheated on.
Thank you. Tamar might've been loud but she's always been wise. I'm a quiet person myself but I don't like how people think being loud makes your horrible or stupid person.
Exactly, I'm over this 'rude' narrative because Loni is rude when she feels like and no one says anything. All of them can & have been shady about other celebrities but when they do it they're 'keeping it real' & being funny. When Tamar did it she was a 'bully'. 😒
Mariam morjan To this day we really don't know !We can just assume that she got fired maybe because she was rude sometimes and she was acting too much like a diva or that her husband didn't get a long with the production . Only God knows.....
mariyaa111 communicating effectively and communicating often would definitely not hurt. You're right but there's definitely something YOU can do to help...
She didn't hit nothing... Jeannie is the one that broke it down for them this time. Some men are just trash, no doubt ijs, but if a good man is taken for granted to long and she feeling herself so much to where the woman just dog the brother out cause she think he wont leave. It could definitely push him into the arms are someone "sweeter"
@True Brother America is one big melting pot of Adulturers and fornicators if you're really trying to go there but Jeannie made a valid point here. That's all I was speaking on. Who wants to live long-term with a mean-spirited, nagging, woman when you don't have to?
Kirikou 94 how do u know she’s proud of it? Maybe she’s just honest since the show is called THE REAL!! God forbid a woman admits to something = being proud 🙄
It’s facts. If you’re mean and have a nasty ass attitude no ones gonna want to be around you, especially your man. He’s gonna go find someone who treats him like a human being with feelings
I get what Tamar was saying. We tend to blame the one cheated on instead of the cheater for causing the person to stray. Especially, if we are the ones cheated on, usually our first instinct is to think "What did I do wrong". But we shouldn't! If someone wants to cheat, they will. It has nothing to do with you and what you are doing or not doing, its on them. The problem is with the cheater, not with the person being cheated on. If you aren't happy in a relationship then bounce. why cheat.
True Brother Naaw man, most of the times bad guys PREY on good ,trusting, naive girls. Abusers in general, no matter if they are male or female, tend to look out for victims they can exploit,people with little to no boundaries who are willing to give a LOT
yeah shes the realest. im not saying all the other girls are lying but jeannie is more open so to speak to like talking about the sad parts of her marriage
Which it looks like he did, if so it's not about her, it's about him and was his fault. I'm not gonna blame her even though she blamed herself in advance
Exactly. I’m married but nvr have and won’t ever ask for or take someone else’s advice on marriage. Only I (and my spouse) know wats right and how we chose to navigate life together.
Jeannie is undeniably the realest on the show. She talks about her marriage so openly and shares intimate details that know other host would share. That must take a lot of courage
Jeannie has the best advice. The shade is real up in these streets. it Seems like everyone is turning against her. why they had to cut her out like that. i needed to hear the rest of her advice.
I think they cut her out because they sense the bullshit. I want to like Jeanie. However, that stem from me always rooting for the underdog. Jeanie definitely makes good points at times. But, she gives off a fake vibe that makes me unable to really connect with her persona. I feel like she's an actress.
In their most recent videos, Tamar and gamers are ALWAYS ganging up on Jeannie ... And they always say she doesn't understand because she doesn't have a baby. I used to like tamera and Tamar, but they are just mean now.
+nanophomonique because at the end of the day even with marriage problems which you're going to have anyways if you can communicate properly with your spouse then you have the best marriage. Just because people seem to be without issues or they aren't as obvious doesn't mean they're nonexistent, I think Jeannie's biggest issue is the kids thing without that her and Freddy probably have the best marriage. They fully understand the needs and wants of their spouse and that's obvious they respect each other's opinion which from what I've saw of both of them generally is sound advice.
I heard a story of a woman who learned in the worst way. She was marries for fifteen years, with children. She wasn't feeling well, went to the hospital and she had HIV. Her husband had it for five years and didn't tell her because he made the mistake of cheating. Cheating has consequences, and sadly, your only safe from it if both parties don't want to cheat.
I agree with Tamar & Lonie. A cheater is going to cheat! It doesn't matter how good you look, how many degrees you have, how much money you have. If a hater gone hate then cheater is going to cheat.
But that’s what makes this show so good. There’s the naive woman, the experienced woman, the blunt woman, and other personalities on the show that makes it interesting.
I 100% agree with you. She's the only one that can have a successful talk show out of all members of this panel. Tamera and Adrienne have their acting careers (TV and Film) but Jeannie is the only one that has had a variety show(How Do I Look on TSN) and still has a variety show(How Do I Look Asia) and has hosted, is still hosting shows on various entertainment channels. She's best cut out for this and she's the most experienced at it. Besides I feel she has the best attitude amongst all the ladies
+Aanuoluwapo Ogunkoya I really thought it was going to be Tamera. I wanted it to be her, but she's still scared to state her opinion and although I relate to her values as a Christian, it's something about Jeannie that's more REAL or realistic...can't put my finger on it but I love me some Jeannie Mai.
Tamar was just not getting it! I agree with what Jeannie was saying. You have to respect your bf/husband. You can't be calling him names and cussing him out all the time. He going to eventually hate you and go cheat with the next woman that makes him feel good and like a man. Now I agree that if a man want's to cheat he going do it regardless of what you do to try to keep him. However, you not suppose to help him by making the decision to cheat by trying him like trash.
i'm sorry, but that sounds why too much like making excuses for a cheater. if you have a problem with the way someone is treating you in a relationship, you should either tell the person how you feel or just leave. There is NO excuse for cheating...EVER. Also, it's all up to interpretation what constitutes "mean" behavior. The guy may think his significant other is being mean, but she might disagree. He might be leaving messes all over the house, not picking up after himself, not doing the fair share of housework. if she speaks up for herself by addressing it again and again, he might interpret that as nagging or her being "mean." What else is she supposed to do? Do you think he's justified in cheating on her in this situation because she's being "mean" to him? People are way too comfortable blaming a woman for a man's actions.
I watched my mom be mean to my dad. I knew I never wanted that to become me. It's going past "babe can you put your shoes up" to "you can never put your fucking shoes up are you stupid or something". But nagging doesn't equal mean. It's when you don't even want to be around that person bc they're so negative
I agree. It's about ownership of oneself and communication. If there is a problem and it's bothering me I will have to address it and I will keep addressing it until you understand.
Jeannie's right tho. Women mostly cheat bc the other person is doing everything their spouse isn't doing. so what makes you think a man isn't gonna do the same? he gon' get with the person who makes him feel good about himself.
Yeah, I think men and women cheat because something is missing in their relationship. But with women it seems to be more about emotions, men it seems to be more about sex.
+chany85 some people cheat just because they get in a monogamous relationship when they're not ready. I think that monogamy is not natural, but it's a choice. so some people cheat because they just want more than one person, doesn't mean they're a bad person tho, just my opinion
+chany85 some people cheat just because they get in a monogamous relationship when they're not ready. I think that monogamy is not natural, but it's a choice. so some people cheat because they just want more than one person, doesn't mean they're a bad person tho, just my opinion
I'm sorry. You're wrong. For men, sex is how you show your emotions. If you reject a man in bed repeatedly, you might as well tell him you don't love him.
I mean if you really havin to do all this to try to “prevent” him from cheating. He prolly ain’t the right man and you needa find someone better who loves you enough to not cheat💅🏽🤷🏽♀️👀
@@janetmecham1059 That's called holding him accountable. You respect him by expecting him to live up to HIS standard. Treat a man like the man that he says he is. If he acts out of character, call him out. That's accountability.
No she was not right. A lot of women sacrifice and make men feel important even more than they kids and a man will still cheat. It’s never about the woman because if you live someone no matter what happens I’m that relationship, if you love the person you would rather walk away then to cheat so that’s a bs excuse. A man who ain’t happy and gonna waste time like women, they will just leave or stay because they ain’t got nowhere to go and the woman is supporting them but Tamar is right! A man gonna cheat with no reason at all if that’s what he wants to do
I wish the ladies did a segment where they look back and discuss how they feel about the same topics and their opinions at the time. This exact episode would be gold because the ladies here we're probably having a bad morning🥴
I'm gonna have to disagree with Adrienne about catering to your man when she said "if you don't do it, someone else will" (using it as incentive to stop your man from cheating) , I feel that if my man likes something that is out of my comfort zone to keep him interested, then I'm gonna have to say 'dueces' and keep it moving. I'm not about to forfeit my happiness to make others feel happy. Cause as Loni and Tamar said, if he's gonna cheat, he's gonna cheat😕
One last thing, I agree with Tamar, about the reason that men cheat. Personally, it is not my job to build up a man's ego/self esteem or make him feel like a "man". That is something he needs to workout on his own with a helpful person called a therapist. Because how is he going to successfully be in a relationship when he relies on others to build his self confidence in his 'manhood? Also this just sounds like victim blaming, instead of blaming the cheater your blaming the victim saying that it's their fault for not stroking their ego enough or that they could have done better to prevent it. Idk man maybe I'm just not seeing the other side, but then again, there is no excuse for cheating.
+Jay Kitad Simply put: Allow the natural role/position of a man to take place. Meaning allow him to lead, respect and value what he brings to the table.(provider,protection sound mind etc..) Treat him how you would want to be treated. Men place a enormous about of value on being respected not just in marriage but in life.
+Jay Kitad but the thing isn't that you're building him up because he can't do it himself it's more of a you love someone and you're putting your energy into loving and supporting that person with any and everything you can because when you give someone your heart you're vulnerable to that person. Your emotions are tied to that person and you want to feel safe and secure with them at all times , I wholeheartedly think couples should lift each other up to their highest potential and want the absolute best for them. If he has a dream support him don't tell him hey that's stupid and it'll never work and beat him down and emasculate him because he's not say making as much as your friends husband or he doesn't do things others or yourself thinks he should , nurture the things he does offer and that'll end up being better for the both of you he'll want to be better for the both of you because you see so much in him and he wants you to have the world.
idk I think it also has to do with culture. for example in india, arranged marriages are a part of the culture (not so much these days though), and statistically it shows that very few people in arranged marriages get a divorce. they end up loving each other and stay together forever. I also think that virginity plays a huge part. people cheat because they want to have sex with others, if you and your love share the experience for the first time then you have no desire to have sex with anyone else (this is why arranged marriages work, because majority of the people in india are basically a virgin).
A guy could have a woman who gives him 99% of what he wants and he will still go out looking for the woman who can give him 100%. If a guy is inherently selfish and wants to cheat, he'll cheat.
I don't know why ppl are criticizing Tamar when her opinion is absolutely rt. If a man wants to cheat he will cheat anyways. You are just becoming his maid by doing everything he wants just to "please" him. A relationship should be mutual by pleasing and respecting each other and not taking advantage of a person or kissing his ass just to keep him. Ppl should learn to love each other with loyalty and respect in order to have a successful relationship.
What Jeannie said at the end was real. Communication is key! Let each other know how you feel, before doing the wrong thing. And never blame yourself for being cheated on!!!!!! Lets ask the question in the different direction, what do the men have to do, so that their partners don't cheat on them? I'm sick of people always asking "well what could you have done to make him/her stay". NAhh, if they cheated is because they don't respect you.......!!!!!!
Even if you're the most beautiful woman in the world, if your man doesn't know how to be contented, he will cheat on you because cheating is a choice and no one can prevent that from happening. Don't blame yourself because every woman deserves to love and be loved.
Adrienne needs to pick an opinion and stick to it lol! the minute they disagree with her she agrees with them looool.. but bless jeannie for being so REAL
It’s okay to have more than one opinion about a certain topic. It’s all about being able to understand other people’s perspective and thus that may add to if not change your opinion entirely. Her agreeing with another opinion doesn’t make her a people pleaser.
Until this day, I don't understand the point of asking someone on the table a question, then start harping at them once they start to answer. lol. Like what was the point of asking Adrienne. Just ask yourself so you can hear yourself talk. How bout that?!
+Gladys Rose i think mainly because of the whole israel situation. like how can she talk about relationship goals when your whole tea got spilled out there saying she was his mistress etc
Nicole Lopez lol i know i was being sarcastic. my point is when you ask for that different perspective. let the person express it, don't jump on them for having it. After all, you asked!
Even though I almost always agree with her and I think Jeannie was the best one in how she gave her opinion (waiting for her turn instead of yelling over everybody). But I'm more inclined to agree with Tamar (never thought I'd say that). I know for a fact that most cheaters are of a cheating type. The cheating Jeannie is describing where the cheater is purely reacting to abuse from the other partner is like less than 1%. Most cheaters would cheat as soon as an attractive situation presents itself, and then blame the partner. Because the person Jeannie is describing, if they are indeed a regular good person, would just be more inclined to end the relationship than to cheat. They'd feel torn down by their partner and then they'd realise there are better options and date them. Breaking up with someone takes 5 seconds. Especially if they are making you feel bad all the time. Most cheaters however, just couldn't be stopped. They'd get bored eventually. They'd get in some situation with someone flirting with them and that'd be enough to make it happen. All most cheaters need is an opportunity. The "reason" they can make up afterwards.
Adrienne made it sound like if a man cheats it’s your fault lol don’t matter if someone’s nice to him if he wanna chest he’s gonna cheat whether you’re nice or not
and claiming that being 4 years younger than her made him cheat...i don't understand her argument. Why didn't he break up with her if he wasn't comfortable about her age and busy schedule? same with Tamera's ex. Tamera had already told him she wasn't gonna have pre-marital sex, he just have broken up with her
@@janejustin1788 I think she was trying to say he was still just trying to have his fun and was not settled yet (his young age). Be well and be at peace.
But if that is applied both ways then neither will love to their fullest potential because of the wall they set for not loving too hard. That's not always good either
Lol, Adrienne contradicted herself when she said her ex cheated because he was curious and it didn't mean anything was wrong with her. That's the point Tamar & Loni were trying to make. She could've not been traveling and at home all the time, and he STILL would've cheated out of curiosity.
Kind of confused about everyone opposing Adrienne's suggestion to not be mean. That's wonderful advice! If you can get your point across without being mean, he might listen more, he might be receptive to it, and it'll definitely make him want to stay. No one wants to be around a mean person. What works for my boyfriend and I is- we are ALWAYS communicating. Any concerns we have, things we want in the relationship, things we would rather not have in the relationship- it's talked about. It allows us to always be in sync and therefore feel 100% fulfilled with each other. Communication sparks understandings and any changes that might need to happen for a successful relationship.
I think what Adrienne is trying to say here is not just to be nice, shes saying, in essence, dont be a SHREW. No one wants to be arouvd some shrill overbearing harpie who only cuts them down and is always argumentative, much less be in a marriage or other comitted relationship with them. Additionally, how about picking a man with character who is respectful of his relationship, partner, and himself enough to not need to cheat?There are men out there, for example, who believe in God's Covenant enough to do the right thing in holy matrimony because they simply want to lead a Godly life for His glory and His alone. It can be done. I see it every day. If it doesn't hapoen for you or those sround you, then examine the character and integrity of all involved.
Unfortunately I've seen plenty of women who are just "B's" period...guys, too. Some people simply just have terrible communication skills, and think bullying over overwhelming any given situation is the key to life. Life can be a lot simpler when you choose a person who simply "fits" you, and together you choose to work as a team and respect each other. I've seen the Vince & Tamar show, and all that strife and infighting between them and the family members raises my blood pressure. Life really can be a lot smoother...if you WANT it to.
Also: don’t examine any life other than your own. Take life day by day and ask God to help you live life and see the right way to go as each challenging day comes IN THAT MOMENT. What WOULD you do, what IF, and BUT MAYBE: are all things that absolutely don’t MATTER. I have THIS day and this moment. Why do people share horror stories if they don’t actually have answers? Just tell the truth and say: Why are you looking at problems you do NOT have SO closely? I swear, people act like they have never seen ‘til death do you part’ relationships. Plus, once to die and once to live: why let yourself keep dying over and over in your mind because a hellacious paranoia about your marriage won’t leave you alone?!?
stylecollective then leave. Simple if you don't want to be with a agree leave. Once you cheat rather she's a great woman or terrible ass that's ok you for being a lieing cheater
Adrienne is the only one now that acknowledges and agrees with Jeannie and the sensible things she says. It's like Tamar and Tamera feel some type of way about how wise she is. They hardly ever agree w. her when it comes to the topic of marriage. I mean she's been married for 8 years, I would think she knows what she's talking about.
Tamera and Tamar are entitled to their own opinion. Personally, I feel that the agreement that Adrienne and Jeannie have is based upon a superficial friendship. In this particular clip Jeanie is only agreeing with Adrienne because her husband is probably cheating on her. Honestly, Jeanie doesn't come across as a woman that has married the man that she's fallen in love with. That explains why she felt the need to mention the race of her husband every chance she got. She married for status. I'm sure he has someone on the side. Adrienne is a complete a kiss ass. I don't why she makes my skin crawl. I believe it's because she's sooooo fake on 'The Real'. It's annoying to watch her, Tamar and Jeanie.
I 100% agree with Tamar no woman or man for that matter should be having to think about how to get their spouse to not cheat on them, that is not a normal thing, which is why you should know who you are marrying inside amd out cause that's not something you should have to worry about and if its gonna happen its gonna happen there's nothing you can do or should do about it.
+wwe creative how do you know? They haven't even aired after her departure. I for one only watch as long as Tamar is on the show, I mean if I SEE her on an episode, I will watch it. But once the new season starts WITHOUT Tamar, I'm out🖖🏽✌🏽The Real who? The real what? This show won't be the real if THE REAL Tamar isn't on the show, the only one who keeps it a Hunnid percent real
We have to also remember that a lot of people didn't watch the show because of Tamar, so they'll probably pick some more viewers up. Plus, people are in their feelings, but they'll be watching out of curiosity.
I feel like what was left out of this conversation to really bring home Tamera and Jeannie's points that a man will go where he's respected and treated like a man is that an affair doesn't start with sex. There's stages before that. A man and a coworker don't just wind up in a hotel room together there's a period before that where the 2 realize they're getting to close and if the man is happy, respected, and feels like a man in his relationship he's more likely to shut it down then and not move forward and cross any more lines.
More likely. But there are NO guarantees. It's the culture in America to blame the victim. To put the RESPONSIBILITY on the victim. She got raped.....what was she wearing? She got slapped....what did she say to provoke him? Cheating is often a pattern of behavior. Cheating is often a symptom of a deeper, underlying issue. It is NEVER the other persons fault. Your actions are yours and yours alone.
@@LevityBrevity I agree everyone is responsible for their actions and their actions alone not another person's however we kid ourselves to think that the way we act doesn't have an influence on those we are close to. Every moment you have with a loved one either brings you closer together or farther apart
@@smeak9246 We can agree to disagree. My final word is I hope ALL humans learn to take responsibility for themselves and their actions. Self control begins with the SELF. "Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it" No one could ever turn me into a cheater. When you have integrity, when you know yourself and respect yourself, cheating just isn't an option. It has NoTHInG to do with anyone else's behavior, it is intrinsic.
I don't think Adrianne is saying be happy and nice always (like that's wrong to do) but you should have more happy days as a couple verses miserable disrespectful days everyone has a mood but to stay mad and angry at your spouse all the time yes a man/woman will cheat if they want to no matter what but some of Yall get too comfortable and like the saying say what you won't do someone else will
+Sheila C but you cannot always believe what you read she Cleary cleared up that rumor he was not married and Adriane was just in a relationship a year ago engaged she was with her ex for 6yrs I feel like even though ppl get the truth straight from the horses mouth they still don't believe it like she ever publicly Lied before we need to expand our minds beyond blogs and drama you can't go off of hear say
@@lateshashampreeoh please shut up trying to defend her lol, she was DEFINITELY the side chick to Israel this is a own fact she not slick at allll with her shady commentary 🙄
Listening to Jeannie then fast forward 2 years and her husband disrespected her by cheating with their friend AND conceived 2 babies after 10 years of marriage is just heartbreaking.
I'm so tired of everyone complaining about Tamar 🙄 when you sit around and have a deep conversation with your girls do y'all take turns to talk.......? I'll wait .......
right like everyone at the table has strong opinions on deep subjects. get over it they are grown women like shut up with all this complaining. 'Tamar's a bully!" shut upppp damn.
+Bebe Heart okay 😒 I'd like to see that. No one does that in a deep conversation. Not with your girls not at the family reunion not even in a class discussion (college). So Everybody is just sitting there nice and quite until Suzie has her turn.... I'm done lol Stop the lies
+yo mama inc. and what's crazy is she's not the only one doing it. The other girls do the same thing. Tamar is just loud lol. It's how any group of women have a conversation. Rather people 👆🏾 want to admit it or not
It doesn't matter WHAT you do, if a man wants to cheat, he's going to do so. You can be the perfect partner and still get the short end of the stick. I personally think there is NO excuse for cheating.
Listen people you can respect a man, upkeep your appearance, give him sex every night and he'll still cheat. Like Loni and Tamar said "A Man Gonna DO What He Wants To Do." We've all know someone who's done all those things Adrienne and Jeannie said and still get cheated on because the man wanted to cheat. When it comes to cheating its not the victims fault but the suspect. Like they said in everything else never blame the victim. A cheaters gonna do what a cheater wanna do, just accept this and move on with your life. Please...
You're leaving out a whole group of folks. I agree that cheaters will cheat. But, every person that has cheated or been cheated on didn't necessarily start off with the intentions of cheating. What they're trying to explain is when people lose communication, attraction, trust whatever it may be...it gives the enemy within and the enemy without a chance to creep in. Everyone isn't a cheater but everybody has the potential to cheat.
The point is, you can only “keep” a man that wants to be “kept”. Bc as Loni said, he’s gonna do whatever he wanna do. He doesn’t care about the extra factors you bring in. Respect is a given in the relationship, if you don’t know how then find a man that can tolerate disrespect more than the usual. Most important, as tamera stated, a man that’s going to stray will stray. As Tamar said, if he wants to cheat on you then he will cheat on you. So basically, they will do what they want to do no matter what so just be careful when choosing your man and you’ll be okay.
Tamar only listens to respond. She always tries to see where the other person is "wrong" so that she can jump in and show them how wrong they are and how right she is, gosh!
People cheat for different reasons and you can't control what they do. Each person is responsible & accountable for their actions. Cheaters have to take accountability for cheating and the partner depending on the situation & reason have to take accountability for their behavior that may have contributed to their spouse cheating. Whether you want to accept it or not your actions, the way you treat your mate and the way you carry out your role as a spouse has the ability to leave your spouse feeling empty, disrespected, unloved, unsatisfied and vulnerable to temptations. Failures in relationships are not usually one sided. Two people can make a marriage and often it's both people that break a marriage.
The only thing that can keep a man is a man that wants to be kept.
Preachers like Pastor David Crank suggest sex everyday, especially in the morning.
It is always easier to destroy something than to build something up.
Jerre Jackson
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psdeadat29 As long as you're trying to build and not destroy, you'll be alright.
Breeny Lee you better tell it girl
"that other girl is going to be nice to him" -A
"that other girl's a heffer!" -Tay
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Facts. A man will do what he wants. Women Just need to respect themselves first and not settle.
“Women want to be cherished and men want to be respected.”
There ain’t truer words👀
Women want to be respected too. Ch'a.
Real talk!!!!!!
But irrelevant, she's not sticking to the point. Because giving men respect does not prevent affairs which is the question. Giving your husband respect is necessary for a good marriage not to prevent affairs
@@Grace-mr8bc exactly, tamera wants to bring up women needing to be cherished whilst condoning men cheating. How sway? Why not hold the man accountable & tell him to cherish his woman before cheating instead of retaliating to what he THINKS is a lack of respect like that's going to help. He needs to grow up or leave. Not cheat
Gtfoh
I got cheated on before and I actually asked him why he did it and he said "I didn't think you would find out."
I was told the same thing #fuckry
Did u stay? Did u try to work it out? Was it even a serious relationship?
Thats why most of them do it though. Cause they think they wouldn't get caught. & not all of them get caught so they tend to do it more cause they got away with it before. Which is fucked up :-/
Exactly!!!
damn harsh honesty
I don't understand why people cheat! Just break up with the person first, no matter how hard it is
Cheating is part of AMERIKKKAN culture, Some of the FIRST white women to set foot on American soil were prostitutes from England and Australia.
LMAO cheating happens everywhere in the world Jerre..take your racist bullshit elsewhere! Blaming the white person for you getting cheated on...damn you guys crazy nowadays...
Fatima
Insecurity selfishness afraid immature that's why they cheat not ready to face the truth don't know how to speak the truth don't know how to live in the truth so it's easier to punk out and cheat then come back to say I'm sorry it was an accident
Exactly
Ikr
"I can't do that , my wife respects me" 😂😂😂😂
only what real men would say
Still takes me out 😂😂😂
True Brother no such thing as good men
Lmao soooo true😹😹
😂😂😂😂
"If you don't do it, someone else will".... LET that Someone else do it then, not changing myself for someone who thinks I can be replaced 👋🏻
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thank you, at least i'm not the only one
lol u CAN and will be replaced.
Exactly
Lol smh
Even sexy, good, self-respecting women get cheated on, happens to the best of us, it's solely based on the other person in the relationship. It's their prerogative to cheat.
Amy Simone Aries all of them except loni and tameraare having marital problems
Ya like Beyoncé got married with Jay Z
lovi vaughn lmao
Patrick Mwakitwange but the man is still the one cheating.... those other women aren’t in his relationship. It’s his responsibility to be faithful
Patrick Mwakitwange Many men cheat with other men especially black men. DOWNLOW is very common
I love how they gave Adrienne a reality check. They turn to her as though she is a relationship expert. At this time she was naive and inexperienced. Thank you.
She was agreeing with the girls though. She was just saying don’t be unnecessarily mean to him, constantly putting him down basically bullying your man.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been facing trauma from my breakup. We were so compatible together, six years together, and then he called off our engagement just 3 months before our wedding. I’ve been so sad, I still want him so badly, I can still feel his touch around me. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t get over him, I need him back.
This is a familiar experience. It was hell for me when my husband left, and if it wasn’t for a spiritual counselor who helped me, I’m not sure how I would have survived.
For real? Please, how did this counselor help? And how did you find them? It would feel like a miracle if someone could help me.
His name is Father Akabu He is a spiritualist who helps restore broken relationships with his powerful abilities. I’m very certain he can help you get your partner back.
That’s very kind of you, thank you. Can I find him online? I hope he can help me get my man back.
Yes you can, he is a very powerful man, I’m sure he can help you, he helped me.
“It’s not my job to make you feel like a man, I can’t make you something you’re not”
Crazy rich Asians
THANK YOU TO CRAZY RICH ASIANS FOR THE BEST LINE EVER!
I honestly miss Tamar because she was real (a little loud sometimes and a little extra but I'm a black South African 80% of my family and friends are like her) I've been cheated on and I have never heard a man say "You weren't respectful/nice enough" it's always "I didn't think you would find out" or "It just happened" it was never about me
Thank you!! Most often cheating is a symptom of a deeper psychological, emotional dysfunction. Cheating is often a pattern of behaviour for people REGARDLESS of their partners.
In the U.S. the culture is to blame the victim. The culture is to put the responsibility on the victim. Cheating, and how to stop it is the problem of the person who cheats. NOT the person who was cheated on.
Thank you. Tamar might've been loud but she's always been wise. I'm a quiet person myself but I don't like how people think being loud makes your horrible or stupid person.
Exactly, I'm over this 'rude' narrative because Loni is rude when she feels like and no one says anything. All of them can & have been shady about other celebrities but when they do it they're 'keeping it real' & being funny. When Tamar did it she was a 'bully'. 😒
@@missNCW righr
TALK ON IT
I'm going to miss Tamar lol. She's so loud....but she is lowkey right. Loni and Jeannie made some good points.
Empressive *Highkey, She is ALWAYS right. And loud? Pleaaassee She is/was the life of the show. 😂
Empressive so did Adrianne
why did she leave?
Mariam morjan To this day we really don't know !We can just assume that she got fired maybe because she was rude sometimes and she was acting too much like a diva or that her husband didn't get a long with the production . Only God knows.....
Empressive TAMAR WAS THE LEMON IN THE ICE TEA ,YOU DON'T REALLY WANT TO EAT A LEMON ALONE ,BUT ADD IT AND THINGS ARE BETTER
There is NOTHING YOU can do to stop anyone from doing anything!
mariyaa111 true and sad
mariyaa111 communicating effectively and communicating often would definitely not hurt. You're right but there's definitely something YOU can do to help...
mariyaa111 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@@gu3sswh075 ....if they want to cheat, they’re going to cheat.
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I loveee watching these old clips with Tamar. #igetmylife😂
Me too, I woke up a wreck today but she just made me feel better
Me too girrll oh my gawsh 😅I love her
Me too. Her dramatic character is entertaining
Me too
That’s the only ones I watch.
Tamar hit the nail on the head, you can do damn near everything for him & a man will STILL cheat if that's what he wants to do lol
@True Brother bitch what? Hell no, I don't obey anyone.
True Brother I swear I hate females like you just go away
She didn't hit nothing... Jeannie is the one that broke it down for them this time. Some men are just trash, no doubt ijs, but if a good man is taken for granted to long and she feeling herself so much to where the woman just dog the brother out cause she think he wont leave. It could definitely push him into the arms are someone "sweeter"
@True Brother America is one big melting pot of Adulturers and fornicators if you're really trying to go there but Jeannie made a valid point here. That's all I was speaking on. Who wants to live long-term with a mean-spirited, nagging, woman when you don't have to?
“Why did you cheat?” .... “coz I wanted to” 🤣🤣 I’m done.
Shawna M it’s a shame she is proud of it
Kirikou 94 how do u know she’s proud of it? Maybe she’s just honest since the show is called THE REAL!! God forbid a woman admits to something = being proud 🙄
@@axel1lover so you prefer her to lie about it?
Funny that Adrianne who asked why? Just stated some weeks ago that she has cheated in a relationship too.
“I CAN’T DO THAT, MY WIFE RESPECTS ME!!” HAHAHAHAH CHILEEEE
I can always count on Jeannie for some wisdom. & I always agree with her!
yessss
agree. btw i love your picture lol
yea, that was good and REAL
+Nancy Higareda Haha! Thanks. 😊
She really be throwing out some gems & I don't feel like she gets enough credit for it
"girl please"
Tamar: "Thank you, thank you and thank you"
I died 😭😂😂😂😂
“that’s the attitude that gets you cheated on” damn adrienne
Right?!
xoBlair omg I was about to comment that exact quote and saw yours! Adrienne girl you been cheated on so please step off your high horse!
I honestly hate it when her pick me attitude shows. She's a cool girl in a lot of ways, but her attitude with men can honestly annoy me.
It’s facts. If you’re mean and have a nasty ass attitude no ones gonna want to be around you, especially your man. He’s gonna go find someone who treats him like a human being with feelings
I agree with adrienne though
I get what Tamar was saying. We tend to blame the one cheated on instead of the cheater for causing the person to stray. Especially, if we are the ones cheated on, usually our first instinct is to think "What did I do wrong". But we shouldn't! If someone wants to cheat, they will. It has nothing to do with you and what you are doing or not doing, its on them. The problem is with the cheater, not with the person being cheated on. If you aren't happy in a relationship then bounce. why cheat.
EXACTLY!
This guy gets it! Lol it takes a lot of maturity to communicate in order to fix issues or decide to leave.
True Brother
Naaw man, most of the times bad guys PREY on good ,trusting, naive girls. Abusers in general, no matter if they are male or female, tend to look out for victims they can exploit,people with little to no boundaries who are willing to give a LOT
Jimylee Melo Medeiros Yes! Well said!
Preach
In my opinion Jeannie gives the best marriage advice
Yes, I agree.
+Christina Thomas nope
yeah shes the realest. im not saying all the other girls are lying but jeannie is more open so to speak to like talking about the sad parts of her marriage
I agree
They way she consistently disrespects Freddy? She definitely wants a black rapper for a husband.
watching this is 2020 when both tamar and jeannie are divorced
@Surya but she alluded to him cheating
Which it looks like he did, if so it's not about her, it's about him and was his fault. I'm not gonna blame her even though she blamed herself in advance
A ho will be a ho
Exactly. I’m married but nvr have and won’t ever ask for or take someone else’s advice on marriage. Only I (and my spouse) know wats right and how we chose to navigate life together.
chantelle r yeah because he got a girl pregnant before they were divorced
Jeannie is undeniably the realest on the show. She talks about her marriage so openly and shares intimate details that know other host would share. That must take a lot of courage
Tamera and Jeannie always have the best advices...
FrenchyBelgian they’re the ones that have had therapy prior to this show
It’s actually ADVICE
Jeannie rarely gives good advice..
jeannie just wants an applause
jeannie insinuated that a woman needs to do some work to make sure her man dont cheat. HOW is that good advice
The emphasis is always on the woman to keep things tight, fresh and new..Please..what about what he needs to do?
The older men get, the more “attractive” they become. Opposite for women. It’s nuts.
@@benjaminisler6731 errr nope
Carmi* Okoye per societal “standard” yeah.
Right.
This is the new generation of woman ladies and gentlemen. Want to be with a man but have an F*** him attitude. Makes no sense!
Jeannie has the best advice. The shade is real up in these streets. it Seems like everyone is turning against her. why they had to cut her out like that. i needed to hear the rest of her advice.
I think they cut her out because they sense the bullshit. I want to like Jeanie. However, that stem from me always rooting for the underdog. Jeanie definitely makes good points at times. But, she gives off a fake vibe that makes me unable to really connect with her persona. I feel like she's an actress.
In their most recent videos, Tamar and gamers are ALWAYS ganging up on Jeannie ... And they always say she doesn't understand because she doesn't have a baby. I used to like tamera and Tamar, but they are just mean now.
Meant to write tamera, not gamers (autocorrect)
+nanophomonique because at the end of the day even with marriage problems which you're going to have anyways if you can communicate properly with your spouse then you have the best marriage. Just because people seem to be without issues or they aren't as obvious doesn't mean they're nonexistent, I think Jeannie's biggest issue is the kids thing without that her and Freddy probably have the best marriage. They fully understand the needs and wants of their spouse and that's obvious they respect each other's opinion which from what I've saw of both of them generally is sound advice.
i know she brought it home with that last one
Yes jeannie yes, love you girl! Always respectful of what others says , you give them their time to talk, and you voice your opinion respectively.
Say*
Say*
Jeanie hit the nail on the head with that loving yourself and loving your spouse as yourself
Jeannie. The way you handle yourself woman. I love it.
I like that biblical wisdom Jeanie said that at the end.
i hate that it was cut off. i like when she shares, her stories are so REAL.
Loves Music Yeah they are.
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How to affair proof a relationship: find u a man that won't have an affair just bcs things don't go how he want🙄
Loni is slaying today 😍😍😍😍
right 😍😍😍
She looks RADIANT!
She surely is!
Yasss
Yes she is. Take notes.
Jeannie's answer hit a surface.
we love Tamara but when she smiles her nose is in the middle of her mouth which indicates that she can smell her breath before anyone can smell it.
@@ruthierodgers177 lol
She did not realise it was happening to her?
Jeannie always gives intelligent answers
My mom always says, if they’re gonna leave you/cheat on you they’re gonna do it. Doesn’t matter what you do. It’s them it’s not you.
I heard a story of a woman who learned in the worst way. She was marries for fifteen years, with children. She wasn't feeling well, went to the hospital and she had HIV. Her husband had it for five years and didn't tell her because he made the mistake of cheating. Cheating has consequences, and sadly, your only safe from it if both parties don't want to cheat.
Who cares that’s their marriage
I agree with Tamar & Lonie. A cheater is going to cheat! It doesn't matter how good you look, how many degrees you have, how much money you have. If a hater gone hate then cheater is going to cheat.
Adrienne sounds young and naive here.
But that’s what makes this show so good. There’s the naive woman, the experienced woman, the blunt woman, and other personalities on the show that makes it interesting.
@@leahvictoria7447 the naive women is annoying asf
She sounds like she's been influenced by a man ****coughs**** the one she's married to now.
She still holds the same beliefs
Jeannie is the MVP of this show. Don't debate me.
I 100% agree with you. She's the only one that can have a successful talk show out of all members of this panel. Tamera and Adrienne have their acting careers (TV and Film) but Jeannie is the only one that has had a variety show(How Do I Look on TSN) and still has a variety show(How Do I Look Asia) and has hosted, is still hosting shows on various entertainment channels. She's best cut out for this and she's the most experienced at it. Besides I feel she has the best attitude amongst all the ladies
she the REAL MVP
i agree...she is the break out star ⭐⭐⭐⭐
+Aanuoluwapo Ogunkoya I really thought it was going to be Tamera. I wanted it to be her, but she's still scared to state her opinion and although I relate to her values as a Christian, it's something about Jeannie that's more REAL or realistic...can't put my finger on it but I love me some Jeannie Mai.
trueeeeeee
Tamar was just not getting it! I agree with what Jeannie was saying. You have to respect your bf/husband. You can't be calling him names and cussing him out all the time. He going to eventually hate you and go cheat with the next woman that makes him feel good and like a man. Now I agree that if a man want's to cheat he going do it regardless of what you do to try to keep him. However, you not suppose to help him by making the decision to cheat by trying him like trash.
i'm sorry, but that sounds why too much like making excuses for a cheater. if you have a problem with the way someone is treating you in a relationship, you should either tell the person how you feel or just leave. There is NO excuse for cheating...EVER.
Also, it's all up to interpretation what constitutes "mean" behavior. The guy may think his significant other is being mean, but she might disagree. He might be leaving messes all over the house, not picking up after himself, not doing the fair share of housework. if she speaks up for herself by addressing it again and again, he might interpret that as nagging or her being "mean." What else is she supposed to do? Do you think he's justified in cheating on her in this situation because she's being "mean" to him?
People are way too comfortable blaming a woman for a man's actions.
I watched my mom be mean to my dad. I knew I never wanted that to become me. It's going past "babe can you put your shoes up" to "you can never put your fucking shoes up are you stupid or something". But nagging doesn't equal mean. It's when you don't even want to be around that person bc they're so negative
+peanutjelly thank you thank you thank you!
if he cheats he aint a man thats a boy. point blank
I agree. It's about ownership of oneself and communication. If there is a problem and it's bothering me I will have to address it and I will keep addressing it until you understand.
Tamar : “The other girl is a heffa”🤣🤣🤣
Tamar was so funny...i miss her
Carla Maddison me toooo😭
I love Tamar with dark hair and black glasses. . . Sooooo cuteeeee
Jeannie's right tho. Women mostly cheat bc the other person is doing everything their spouse isn't doing. so what makes you think a man isn't gonna do the same? he gon' get with the person who makes him feel good about himself.
Yeah, I think men and women cheat because something is missing in their relationship. But with women it seems to be more about emotions, men it seems to be more about sex.
+chany85 some people cheat just because they get in a monogamous relationship when they're not ready. I think that monogamy is not natural, but it's a choice. so some people cheat because they just want more than one person, doesn't mean they're a bad person tho, just my opinion
+chany85 some people cheat just because they get in a monogamous relationship when they're not ready. I think that monogamy is not natural, but it's a choice. so some people cheat because they just want more than one person, doesn't mean they're a bad person tho, just my opinion
jeanie is the mvp
I'm sorry. You're wrong. For men, sex is how you show your emotions. If you reject a man in bed repeatedly, you might as well tell him you don't love him.
I mean if you really havin to do all this to try to “prevent” him from cheating. He prolly ain’t the right man and you needa find someone better who loves you enough to not cheat💅🏽🤷🏽♀️👀
Jeani was correct about a man going to where he feels like a man
Hers did.
I guess my issue is when the man isn’t acting like the man, it seems unfair for the wife to have to treat him like he is.
That explains her marriage
@@janetmecham1059 That's called holding him accountable. You respect him by expecting him to live up to HIS standard. Treat a man like the man that he says he is. If he acts out of character, call him out. That's accountability.
No she was not right. A lot of women sacrifice and make men feel important even more than they kids and a man will still cheat. It’s never about the woman because if you live someone no matter what happens I’m that relationship, if you love the person you would rather walk away then to cheat so that’s a bs excuse. A man who ain’t happy and gonna waste time like women, they will just leave or stay because they ain’t got nowhere to go and the woman is supporting them but Tamar is right! A man gonna cheat with no reason at all if that’s what he wants to do
Jeannie is absolutely amazing!! I love her spirit and her commitment to her faith, self, husband and family!
She’s TWICE divorced lmao this didn’t age well…
I wish the ladies did a segment where they look back and discuss how they feel about the same topics and their opinions at the time. This exact episode would be gold because the ladies here we're probably having a bad morning🥴
I love it when the co-hosts praise and agree with Jeannie as much as I always do.
I'm gonna have to disagree with Adrienne about catering to your man when she said "if you don't do it, someone else will" (using it as incentive to stop your man from cheating) , I feel that if my man likes something that is out of my comfort zone to keep him interested, then I'm gonna have to say 'dueces' and keep it moving. I'm not about to forfeit my happiness to make others feel happy. Cause as Loni and Tamar said, if he's gonna cheat, he's gonna cheat😕
Also, I'd really like to know what Tamara meant by "giving your man respect" if anyone has answers❔
One last thing, I agree with Tamar, about the reason that men cheat. Personally, it is not my job to build up a man's ego/self esteem or make him feel like a "man". That is something he needs to workout on his own with a helpful person called a therapist. Because how is he going to successfully be in a relationship when he relies on others to build his self confidence in his 'manhood? Also this just sounds like victim blaming, instead of blaming the cheater your blaming the victim saying that it's their fault for not stroking their ego enough or that they could have done better to prevent it. Idk man maybe I'm just not seeing the other side, but then again, there is no excuse for cheating.
+Jay Kitad Simply put: Allow the natural role/position of a man to take place. Meaning allow him to lead, respect and value what he brings to the table.(provider,protection sound mind etc..) Treat him how you would want to be treated. Men place a enormous about of value on being respected not just in marriage but in life.
That's the way, indeed. All day, everyday!!
+Jay Kitad but the thing isn't that you're building him up because he can't do it himself it's more of a you love someone and you're putting your energy into loving and supporting that person with any and everything you can because when you give someone your heart you're vulnerable to that person. Your emotions are tied to that person and you want to feel safe and secure with them at all times , I wholeheartedly think couples should lift each other up to their highest potential and want the absolute best for them. If he has a dream support him don't tell him hey that's stupid and it'll never work and beat him down and emasculate him because he's not say making as much as your friends husband or he doesn't do things others or yourself thinks he should , nurture the things he does offer and that'll end up being better for the both of you he'll want to be better for the both of you because you see so much in him and he wants you to have the world.
"The other girl is a Heifer, Okay!" Tamar come back 😂😂😂😂😂
Tameras right ear must be relieved these days 😂
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msjuicy ツ lmaooo😂😂😂😂😂
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There is no such thing as affair proofing a relationship. if a man wants to cheat, He will! Women too!
do you think us humans are truly meant to be monogamous?
+ALF ! Nope, but it is possible.
+EmmanuelxMusic People cheat period! Gay or straight.
idk I think it also has to do with culture. for example in india, arranged marriages are a part of the culture (not so much these days though), and statistically it shows that very few people in arranged marriages get a divorce. they end up loving each other and stay together forever. I also think that virginity plays a huge part. people cheat because they want to have sex with others, if you and your love share the experience for the first time then you have no desire to have sex with anyone else (this is why arranged marriages work, because majority of the people in india are basically a virgin).
A guy could have a woman who gives him 99% of what he wants and he will still go out looking for the woman who can give him 100%. If a guy is inherently selfish and wants to cheat, he'll cheat.
You could be the greatest woman to that man and he still gon do what he wanna do
I don't know why ppl are criticizing Tamar when her opinion is absolutely rt. If a man wants to cheat he will cheat anyways. You are just becoming his maid by doing everything he wants just to "please" him. A relationship should be mutual by pleasing and respecting each other and not taking advantage of a person or kissing his ass just to keep him. Ppl should learn to love each other with loyalty and respect in order to have a successful relationship.
clarivellyss aguayo it’s prolly the way she express her opinions she cuts off the other women to be heard.
@Yoshiyahu Yisrael just break up, u cheat-ur disgusting.
What Jeannie said at the end was real. Communication is key! Let each other know how you feel, before doing the wrong thing. And never blame yourself for being cheated on!!!!!! Lets ask the question in the different direction, what do the men have to do, so that their partners don't cheat on them? I'm sick of people always asking "well what could you have done to make him/her stay". NAhh, if they cheated is because they don't respect you.......!!!!!!
Even if you're the most beautiful woman in the world, if your man doesn't know how to be contented, he will cheat on you because cheating is a choice and no one can prevent that from happening. Don't blame yourself because every woman deserves to love and be loved.
Adrienne needs to pick an opinion and stick to it lol! the minute they disagree with her she agrees with them looool.. but bless jeannie for being so REAL
It’s okay to have more than one opinion about a certain topic. It’s all about being able to understand other people’s perspective and thus that may add to if not change your opinion entirely. Her agreeing with another opinion doesn’t make her a people pleaser.
I think she sees their perspective an gets it. Thats all relax
Tye Howard-Wilson yes I agree. I think she just listens and agrees with their opinions
i totally agree with Tamar a man will do what he wants ... doesn't matter if he's respected , honored or all the other bs
Adrienne was talking about Rob kardashian lol they’re 4 years apart
Yeah he was like 20 when they dated
Until this day, I don't understand the point of asking someone on the table a question, then start harping at them once they start to answer. lol. Like what was the point of asking Adrienne. Just ask yourself so you can hear yourself talk. How bout that?!
I agree. I think Tamar and Loni were being a little bias with their answers every time Adrienne spoke on it.
lol so many people like this. just talk to yourself hunny. you're right everyone is wrong
+Gladys Rose i think mainly because of the whole israel situation. like how can she talk about relationship goals when your whole tea got spilled out there saying she was his mistress etc
I think it's because they have a show and they need to have different perspectives on a question/topic.
Nicole Lopez lol i know i was being sarcastic. my point is when you ask for that different perspective. let the person express it, don't jump on them for having it. After all, you asked!
i will miss tamar but honestly, i won't miss how much she screams over her co-hosts. she really needed to tone it down
I miss her too however in this episode she was loud and obnoxious.
@@luzhernandez5321 yes and I also think it was around the time she found out she got fired. So she probably was even more tense....
They all do it tbh
Luz Hernandez when she’s louder that just means she really cares or passionate about the subject.. she’s not trying to be rude.
An affair-proof relationship is one where you have chosen a faithful partner who wants to be kept and be faithful to you.
Jeannie coming with that advice today ! yes girl ! I always make sure I go to my man about things I have a problem with and how I'm feeling.
I'm sick of them talking over each other but I really think Jeanie was right with what she said.
She was.
Jeanie to me gave the most ACCURATE advice! Men always go to the women that make them feel respected!
Even though I almost always agree with her and I think Jeannie was the best one in how she gave her opinion (waiting for her turn instead of yelling over everybody). But I'm more inclined to agree with Tamar (never thought I'd say that). I know for a fact that most cheaters are of a cheating type. The cheating Jeannie is describing where the cheater is purely reacting to abuse from the other partner is like less than 1%. Most cheaters would cheat as soon as an attractive situation presents itself, and then blame the partner.
Because the person Jeannie is describing, if they are indeed a regular good person, would just be more inclined to end the relationship than to cheat. They'd feel torn down by their partner and then they'd realise there are better options and date them. Breaking up with someone takes 5 seconds. Especially if they are making you feel bad all the time.
Most cheaters however, just couldn't be stopped. They'd get bored eventually. They'd get in some situation with someone flirting with them and that'd be enough to make it happen. All most cheaters need is an opportunity. The "reason" they can make up afterwards.
I don't agree with her... if you mistreat him and he's a good man. HE WILL LEAVE YOU AND not cheat on you!
@@4.titude4 sometimes. The men that I know that get mistreated stick right there stressing over their woman.
Adrienne made it sound like if a man cheats it’s your fault lol don’t matter if someone’s nice to him if he wanna chest he’s gonna cheat whether you’re nice or not
and claiming that being 4 years younger than her made him cheat...i don't understand her argument. Why didn't he break up with her if he wasn't comfortable about her age and busy schedule? same with Tamera's ex. Tamera had already told him she wasn't gonna have pre-marital sex, he just have broken up with her
@@janejustin1788 I think she was trying to say he was still just trying to have his fun and was not settled yet (his young age).
Be well and be at peace.
Jeannie is so truthful and real talking about her mind straying from her husband.
Jeannie is so wise, i love her!
I love her too
Jeannie is such a smart lady. Very wise and articulate while speaking.I love hearing her opinion in such matters.
Jeannie speaks some real stuff
"He gonna do whatever he wanna do." You better preach Loni!
F ALL of this. I love you ladies but Mama Mai said it BEST.
MARRY SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE THEM.
But if that is applied both ways then neither will love to their fullest potential because of the wall they set for not loving too hard. That's not always good either
Thats right
@@Mshabbak God bless you💕
Lol, Adrienne contradicted herself when she said her ex cheated because he was curious and it didn't mean anything was wrong with her. That's the point Tamar & Loni were trying to make. She could've not been traveling and at home all the time, and he STILL would've cheated out of curiosity.
Jeanie is speaking the gospel today!!! Totally agree with what she said at the end! Amen to that!
Kind of confused about everyone opposing Adrienne's suggestion to not be mean. That's wonderful advice! If you can get your point across without being mean, he might listen more, he might be receptive to it, and it'll definitely make him want to stay. No one wants to be around a mean person. What works for my boyfriend and I is- we are ALWAYS communicating. Any concerns we have, things we want in the relationship, things we would rather not have in the relationship- it's talked about. It allows us to always be in sync and therefore feel 100% fulfilled with each other. Communication sparks understandings and any changes that might need to happen for a successful relationship.
I think what Adrienne is trying to say here is not just to be nice, shes saying, in essence, dont be a SHREW. No one wants to be arouvd some shrill overbearing harpie who only cuts them down and is always argumentative, much less be in a marriage or other comitted relationship with them. Additionally, how about picking a man with character who is respectful of his relationship, partner, and himself enough to not need to cheat?There are men out there, for example, who believe in God's Covenant enough to do the right thing in holy matrimony because they simply want to lead a Godly life for His glory and His alone. It can be done. I see it every day. If it doesn't hapoen for you or those sround you, then examine the character and integrity of all involved.
Unfortunately I've seen plenty of women who are just "B's" period...guys, too. Some people simply just have terrible communication skills, and think bullying over overwhelming any given situation is the key to life. Life can be a lot simpler when you choose a person who simply "fits" you, and together you choose to work as a team and respect each other. I've seen the Vince & Tamar show, and all that strife and infighting between them and the family members raises my blood pressure. Life really can be a lot smoother...if you WANT it to.
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Tobias Brown ok boo "I" what? What happened did yo woman cut you off the internet? Wha happen boo? Let us know and we can help
Also: don’t examine any life other than your own. Take life day by day and ask God to help you live life and see the right way to go as each challenging day comes IN THAT MOMENT. What WOULD you do, what IF, and BUT MAYBE: are all things that absolutely don’t MATTER. I have THIS day and this moment. Why do people share horror stories if they don’t actually have answers? Just tell the truth and say: Why are you looking at problems you do NOT have SO closely?
I swear, people act like they have never seen ‘til death do you part’ relationships. Plus, once to die and once to live: why let yourself keep dying over and over in your mind because a hellacious paranoia about your marriage won’t leave you alone?!?
stylecollective then leave. Simple if you don't want to be with a agree leave. Once you cheat rather she's a great woman or terrible ass that's ok you for being a lieing cheater
Adrienne is the only one now that acknowledges and agrees with Jeannie and the sensible things she says. It's like Tamar and Tamera feel some type of way about how wise she is. They hardly ever agree w. her when it comes to the topic of marriage. I mean she's been married for 8 years, I would think she knows what she's talking about.
because they are entitled to their own opinions...this is the REAL!
Yeah Tamar and Tamara have a hard time hearing Jeannie speak the truth.
HEIRLESSful they def do. They never agree with her and she is speaking the TRUTH.
Now y'all know that Tamar and Tamera can't trust what anyone says if they don't have kids...lol
Tamera and Tamar are entitled to their own opinion. Personally, I feel that the agreement that Adrienne and Jeannie have is based upon a superficial friendship.
In this particular clip Jeanie is only agreeing with Adrienne because her husband is probably cheating on her. Honestly, Jeanie doesn't come across as a woman that has married the man that she's fallen in love with. That explains why she felt the need to mention the race of her husband every chance she got. She married for status. I'm sure he has someone on the side. Adrienne is a complete a kiss ass. I don't why she makes my skin crawl. I believe it's because she's sooooo fake on 'The Real'. It's annoying to watch her, Tamar and Jeanie.
I 100% agree with Tamar no woman or man for that matter should be having to think about how to get their spouse to not cheat on them, that is not a normal thing, which is why you should know who you are marrying inside amd out cause that's not something you should have to worry about and if its gonna happen its gonna happen there's nothing you can do or should do about it.
If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat. Doesn't matter how "perfect" you are to him.
8mins!!!!! they're really celebrating this Tamar departure
They trying to get back the viewers they lost.
They aren't losing viewers over Tamar.
+wwe creative how do you know? They haven't even aired after her departure. I for one only watch as long as Tamar is on the show, I mean if I SEE her on an episode, I will watch it. But once the new season starts WITHOUT Tamar, I'm out🖖🏽✌🏽The Real who? The real what? This show won't be the real if THE REAL Tamar isn't on the show, the only one who keeps it a Hunnid percent real
We have to also remember that a lot of people didn't watch the show because of Tamar, so they'll probably pick some more viewers up. Plus, people are in their feelings, but they'll be watching out of curiosity.
+Mary Taylor and when they see its boring they are going to die..out by 2017.the show will decline ...watch.
If there’s gonna be an affair there’s gonna be an affair. You can be the best mate and still get cheated on.
Praise Jeannie, THAT WAS REAL!
I agree with the keeping things new , and keep things exciting because keeping things new and fresh is a big part of the relationship !
you dont have to go the extra mile to keep tgings fresh.if you both love the same things you dont get bored thats all
+Maddie C I mean yeah..but...nvm I agree with you tho 😂
I feel like what was left out of this conversation to really bring home Tamera and Jeannie's points that a man will go where he's respected and treated like a man is that an affair doesn't start with sex. There's stages before that. A man and a coworker don't just wind up in a hotel room together there's a period before that where the 2 realize they're getting to close and if the man is happy, respected, and feels like a man in his relationship he's more likely to shut it down then and not move forward and cross any more lines.
More likely. But there are NO guarantees. It's the culture in America to blame the victim. To put the RESPONSIBILITY on the victim.
She got raped.....what was she wearing? She got slapped....what did she say to provoke him?
Cheating is often a pattern of behavior. Cheating is often a symptom of a deeper, underlying issue. It is NEVER the other persons fault. Your actions are yours and yours alone.
@@LevityBrevity I agree everyone is responsible for their actions and their actions alone not another person's however we kid ourselves to think that the way we act doesn't have an influence on those we are close to. Every moment you have with a loved one either brings you closer together or farther apart
@@smeak9246 We can agree to disagree. My final word is I hope ALL humans learn to take responsibility for themselves and their actions. Self control begins with the SELF.
"Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it"
No one could ever turn me into a cheater. When you have integrity, when you know yourself and respect yourself, cheating just isn't an option. It has NoTHInG to do with anyone else's behavior, it is intrinsic.
The fact that at your big age you sitting here going OUT of your way to justify cheating is embarrassing…
I don't think Adrianne is saying be happy and nice always (like that's wrong to do) but you should have more happy days as a couple verses miserable disrespectful days everyone has a mood but to stay mad and angry at your spouse all the time yes a man/woman will cheat if they want to no matter what but some of Yall get too comfortable and like the saying say what you won't do someone else will
i understand that point if view but its almost as if she was talking for herself israel houghton like she proud or something she was the other one
+Sheila C but you cannot always believe what you read she Cleary cleared up that rumor he was not married and Adriane was just in a relationship a year ago engaged she was with her ex for 6yrs I feel like even though ppl get the truth straight from the horses mouth they still don't believe it like she ever publicly Lied before we need to expand our minds beyond blogs and drama you can't go off of hear say
@@lateshashampreeoh please shut up trying to defend her lol, she was DEFINITELY the side chick to Israel this is a own fact she not slick at allll with her shady commentary 🙄
Jeanie is always so real about her relationship, she gives great advise.
Listening to Jeannie then fast forward 2 years and her husband disrespected her by cheating with their friend AND conceived 2 babies after 10 years of marriage is just heartbreaking.
As Jeanie stated a man will go where he's appreciated.oop
I'm so tired of everyone complaining about Tamar 🙄 when you sit around and have a deep conversation with your girls do y'all take turns to talk.......?
I'll wait .......
Yes, because some of us were actually taught how to hold a conversation.
right like everyone at the table has strong opinions on deep subjects. get over it they are grown women like shut up with all this complaining. 'Tamar's a bully!" shut upppp damn.
+Bebe Heart okay 😒 I'd like to see that. No one does that in a deep conversation. Not with your girls not at the family reunion not even in a class discussion (college). So Everybody is just sitting there nice and quite until Suzie has her turn.... I'm done lol
Stop the lies
+yo mama inc. and what's crazy is she's not the only one doing it. The other girls do the same thing. Tamar is just loud lol. It's how any group of women have a conversation. Rather people 👆🏾 want to admit it or not
Exactly‼️‼️‼️ that's not how it goes in real life. Jeannie have everybody fooled and delusional
I agree with Jeannie, very on point and christian, I believe that is the way to go.
Low-key miss Tamar... Was never my favourite but she always kept it real !!!
It doesn't matter WHAT you do, if a man wants to cheat, he's going to do so. You can be the perfect partner and still get the short end of the stick. I personally think there is NO excuse for cheating.
Listen people you can respect a man, upkeep your appearance, give him sex every night and he'll still cheat. Like Loni and Tamar said "A Man Gonna DO What He Wants To Do." We've all know someone who's done all those things Adrienne and Jeannie said and still get cheated on because the man wanted to cheat. When it comes to cheating its not the victims fault but the suspect. Like they said in everything else never blame the victim. A cheaters gonna do what a cheater wanna do, just accept this and move on with your life. Please...
You're leaving out a whole group of folks. I agree that cheaters will cheat. But, every person that has cheated or been cheated on didn't necessarily start off with the intentions of cheating. What they're trying to explain is when people lose communication, attraction, trust whatever it may be...it gives the enemy within and the enemy without a chance to creep in. Everyone isn't a cheater but everybody has the potential to cheat.
And what do you do to avoid this from happening.
The point is, you can only “keep” a man that wants to be “kept”. Bc as Loni said, he’s gonna do whatever he wanna do. He doesn’t care about the extra factors you bring in. Respect is a given in the relationship, if you don’t know how then find a man that can tolerate disrespect more than the usual. Most important, as tamera stated, a man that’s going to stray will stray. As Tamar said, if he wants to cheat on you then he will cheat on you. So basically, they will do what they want to do no matter what so just be careful when choosing your man and you’ll be okay.
8 mins??? I can eat a meal whilst watching this lol
Hahaha I actually did lol
But its not exactly 8min tho. Its just a repeated video after that..
Hallelujah we got 8 mins
I know right! Not one of those 1/2 minute clips PRAISE THE LORD!
yes! yes! yes! i love these longer videos
I will
This was so good. Loni ..was shot on really. It's important to not let women think it's always their fault cuz the man cheated.
Tamar only listens to respond. She always tries to see where the other person is "wrong" so that she can jump in and show them how wrong they are and how right she is, gosh!
People cheat for different reasons and you can't control what they do. Each person is responsible & accountable for their actions. Cheaters have to take accountability for cheating and the partner depending on the situation & reason have to take accountability for their behavior that may have contributed to their spouse cheating. Whether you want to accept it or not your actions, the way you treat your mate and the way you carry out your role as a spouse has the ability to leave your spouse feeling empty, disrespected, unloved, unsatisfied and vulnerable to temptations. Failures in relationships are not usually one sided. Two people can make a marriage and often it's both people that break a marriage.
Tamar & Loni reactions towards Adrienne speaking was me while watching 😂🤣
What's wrong with respecting your husband though??
respecting your spouse just shows how you lack character, being ignored,rude,obnoxious shows you've got character.
kuja huh
kuja um… what? Being respectful to yourself and others shows character
@@Harmonious028 I'm pretty sure it was sarcasm. Even though that translates poorly over text.
Nothing ... that’s not what they are saying. Even respecting your husband won’t make your relationship ‘ affair proof ‘ ... cheaters will cheat.