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lol I really liked this video. my mom always told us, a man will go as far as u let him. we cannot control men but we can control what we accept from them. make yourself worthy and stand apart.
Bbb Jaba Yes that's True Men only go as far as you let Him, My Granny always told me you can Never Stop a Man from Cheating BC No matter how Good you look😘,No matter how Big your Ass is, Bomb sex, Bath water ready Dinner Ready, Light-Skinned U Name it. U Never Can Change a Man's Mind that totally made uo on what he want's to do Period😑😑🙍🙍
Right. Make every situation work to your advantage. Make as many of them "safe" practice opportunities and improve your relationship dynamics. It's a lot of fun; it's safe; you can learn a LOT about men , to your advantage. I love these phone/text "relationships (wrong!). It saves you from investing time and money and more importantly not risking your reputation being out with an unworthy man. Gurll don't allow a man to mess up your sexual market value! Make it work for you ladies
Lol. So many of you are forgetting that a person can cheat no matter how good they have it. Regardless of anything the desicion to be unfaithful is on said partner all on thier own. Thier spouse didnt put a gun to thier head and say cheat on me or else so thier spouse didnt force them to do as they did. Plain and simple. Its not easy but come on people be responsible for the decisions you make. It is no ones fault but your own.
men keep side chicks because, most side chicks have a stable life, home,money, car, etc. so when ever they have conflict with the main woman, they run to the other woman for a peaceful relationship.
Damn men!!! So you want both of them? Make up your minds! Just make up your minds. You ruin a woman's trust level. Even the "main chick" would love to have a "side man" but she upholds dignity and doesn't do that. Unfortunately for men you are unsatisfied fools.
Lillie stephens that is tbe most ignorant statement I have heard yet, side chicks are severly mentally ill ask yourself why would a woman want to knowly share bodily fluids with a married man knowing shes number 2 then he goes home and gets in the bed with his wife
Because most likely that side chick saved your relationship. You have no idea how many times your man almost left you but stayed cause he bust one off in the side chick. Monogamy is the killer of relationships...
Excellent comments from the pastor. He certainly spoke the truth. Nowadays, many people are desperate to have a fling in the sack. That creates problems because each partner doesn't take time to know one another. In turn, this is why the divorce rate is very high.
It's called oxytocin. A hormone that causes a bonding between the two. Sexually active individuals are confused because of multiple partners so it's hard to stay faithful to one person.
people need to realize, everyone you have sex with, becomes your mate by nature, this is what is called soulties for life. They will always be on your mind. so you have to ask, your self, how many mates do I want. God want's you to have one mate. But some men's religion said, you can have more. Men can barely take care of one woman more least than two to four. You can not please 4 women at the same time.
what woman is willing to admit that she wants multiple dicks inside of her?! Please! Stop trying to be like men or "one up" us. Think about it, if a woman has a main dude, and decided to get a side dude. All she's done is make it easier for THAT side dude to have a side chick. Thus keeping the side chick problem going. Ladies, be careful what you ask for.
*Great video! Yes most women KNOW the signs, see the truth but because they have low self esteem or have been lonely (not alone) to long, they submit to disrespect and lack then make excuses. That's why a woman needs to learn the game, disqualify wrong males and have a beneficial goal in mind instead of expectations. A woman must work on HERSELF and learn her plan in God universe, have her own hobbies etc. Women HOLD almost ALL the power in relationships so she must start being accountable for what she accepts and allows.*
It's more than just a sexual encounter in my opinion because every person that someone has been sexually involved with does not have the same effect... it's the one to me that can get inside your mind as well and put it on you
Interesting. Bottom line its what we allow as women. We have upper hand in reality. I had to learn by trial and error. Be ya self. Have good self worth and chill. If he not the one u can't force it.
Bee I agree with what you said. Even tho its the mans fault for choosing to do wrong, it is equally wrong to enable that man to bring diseases and abuses and heartbreak into your life. I've experienced it all. Tryna learn to love myself enough to be able to turn away from my fantasies and open my self wide open to the truth of the matter. Truth will hurt but I'd rather hurt from truth than from a delusion.
I also was lied to as well before. I was the side thinking I was the main. This topic can go any direction. It all depends why. Like I said I agreed in the past years to be the side because it was all about the sex. Wasted time though. That was the exchange for that type sex with a man who is in a relationship.
I rather be a side chick vs a Main chick. When you the Main chick Man will not be honest with you. When you a side chick a Man is more honest. I love being a side chick 💙💜❤🤎💚💛🧡
Men aren't more honest to you when you're a side chick. Absolutely not. If anything, you're more likely to be manipulated, because the man already assumes you have low self-esteem and are emotionally needy based on your willingness to be a side chick.
Biggest weakness is the mind. We've have to start continuously practicing honesty with self and spirit. God moves through all of us, but we just don't get it.
it's 2018 and my husband and I keep a girlfriend (together). I shake my head at these fake women! Let's be honest, how many of you have been with a woman anyway?? So why not stop the BS and make it one big happy home! 100% of men will think about, have been with, or WILL be with another woman. Take away the lying and cheating by picking a good person for both of you.
My only comment on this is we need to stop saying men are visual, that gives a bit of impairment that simply does not exist. Who said this? There is absolutely no science that supports this old wives tale. A lusty man may see a woman then think of sex, a gold digging woman may see a car and think of sex... there is no gender specific law, just mere people lacking control of their thoughts
I guess, I'll be single for the rest of my life☹☹. I am currently married, but my husband left me for his girlfriend. And I ended up a side chick for another man for 7 years. I thought he loved me and would leave his wife like my husband (we are not divorced) left me. I can't win for losing😭😭
@@delilahmode9536 I'm not sure what you mean by "treat him right" 🤔. I worked 3 jobs to support him and our children, while he took all the money while I was deployed with the Army. He explained to me that I was growing too big for him. I wanted a house; not an apartment or trailer. I wanted to be financially stable; not living paycheck to paycheck. I wanted my children in private school and he didn't. I did ALL these things without him. I never tried to change him, but I didn't respect him. Thanks for asking.
Pastor you don’t realize just how careful and unemotional and blank faced a woman has to be just so men can “get a clue” that she’s not thirsty - then they want to get offended because their ego is hurt. SMH.
ok this advice kinda sucked theres more to it then what is being said please. Men cheat because they want to. lets talk generational curses my husbands parents cheated on each other thats all he know is abuse. He is not as bad as his dad but soul ties can be broken, so can generational curses. Its soo much more to this more than what they are saying way more
I agree with generational curses because I was in a 10 year relationship with a man that was never shown what a healthy loving relationship look like. With that being said, I think that their message was point on. I don't care what a mans background, if you give give him your body from day one he doesn't get the chance to get to know you as a person. There is nothing to respect and you pretty much established a relationship on the wrong thing. At that point you have to blame YOU for setting yourself up for failure. Yes, men cheat because they want to and not all men that cheat come from broken homes. Women hear and see what we want to because in a sense we can chase after a man because we are so anxious or like he said "thirsty" to be with someone. When we hold on to a man after he showed you his true colors you allow certain behavior and that only perpetuates the generational curse you speak of. You can't fix/change a man or get him to be what you want him to be especially when you can't see beyond what you expect him to be. A man show you up front who he is. It's just we get blinded and caught up by superficial things like looks, money and him telling us how good we look or how good the pussy is. In reality pussy is pussy to a man and just like he can tell you all of those things he can pump the next women up to believe the same thing. I think what they were saying is give him something other than ass to chase and respect yourself. Not saying this is the case with all women but I think I've lived long enough to hear and see women set themselves up for failure. I was one one of them.
Michelle Thomas yeah this whole making women responsible for men’s actions or finding every angle to make it women’s fault for men’s bad behaviors is getting quite old. When will men take accountability for their own mess? What really gets me is the level to which they will justify their behavior and then have the nerve to be upset when a man treats the women in their family or their daughters the same way. I say this to my brothers all the time, “Karma has a creative way of finding her revenge. For every woman you treat like shit, think of how much you don’t someone treat me or your niece the same way.” The unfortunate part is that this is basic. Treat ppl the way you want to be treated. When a person struggles with basic concepts like that, they need to work on themselves.
Ladies, whatever u do, please don't take the rev's advice & "set your man up". All that's gone get u is one less girlfriend, mad at ur man & in a state of disbelief, cuz he done fucked ya potna. That was some of the WORST advice I've ever heard! Even Steve Harvey & Derrick Jackson are somewhere like really nigga? U cain't be out here givin advice THAT BAD!!!!
Both of them lays togethe so both of them leaving something. People cheat for various reasons. I'll admit when I didn't understand what this was really all about I was a side. I had a career,3 degrees, own my on home, multiple vehicles, loving, caring and more. He didn't HVE more than i had. It was about we were sexually attracted to each other. The sex was phenomenal. Now, I wouldn't do this.
nimat shaheed HUGE DIFFERENCE between sista wives and a secret side chick. Polygamy works only in truth. Can't merge unions if one was built on lies, betrayal, deception & manipulation.
I have bin in two relationships with dogs they said, not to me as soon that these men get with me, they done with the streets, no cheating boring, I thought then when I was younger lady Don't have that problem at all, I loved the drug dealers lifestyle, but as they got with me everything changed no dealing no popping up in the club, nothing But now I changed my way of thinking and settled with 2 kids and a man that's loves me and he was never a drug dealer, normal job 925 And now I know what real love is So not all women are looking for mister right guy, sometimes you just like being the sidechick
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lol I really liked this video. my mom always told us, a man will go as far as u let him. we cannot control men but we can control what we accept from them. make yourself worthy and stand apart.
+Bbb Jaba PREACH! LOL
Amen.
Bbb Jaba Yes that's True Men only go as far as you let Him, My Granny always told me you can Never Stop a Man from Cheating BC No matter how Good you look😘,No matter how Big your Ass is, Bomb sex, Bath water ready Dinner Ready, Light-Skinned U Name it. U Never Can Change a Man's Mind that totally made uo on what he want's to do Period😑😑🙍🙍
Bbb Jaba Amen
Right. Make every situation work to your advantage. Make as many of them "safe" practice opportunities and improve your relationship dynamics. It's a lot of fun; it's safe; you can learn a LOT about men , to your advantage. I love these phone/text "relationships (wrong!). It saves you from investing time and money and more importantly not risking your reputation being out with an unworthy man. Gurll don't allow a man to mess up your sexual market value! Make it work for you ladies
Lol pastor is speaking the truth. "if you are over 25 saying that all man are dogs, maybe you're a dog catcher.💀💀
Any time you are cheating, It,s not peaceful.
You can ask the right questions. But if he a liar, where does that get you?
Be smart
We have to trust our intuitions because we always know in our hearts when we're being lied too. I say we cuz girl I hear you!👍🏾
Lol. So many of you are forgetting that a person can cheat no matter how good they have it. Regardless of anything the desicion to be unfaithful is on said partner all on thier own. Thier spouse didnt put a gun to thier head and say cheat on me or else so thier spouse didnt force them to do as they did. Plain and simple. Its not easy but come on people be responsible for the decisions you make. It is no ones fault but your own.
men keep side chicks because, most side chicks have a stable life, home,money, car, etc. so when ever they have conflict with the main woman, they run to the other woman for a peaceful relationship.
Damn men!!!
So you want both of them?
Make up your minds! Just make up your minds. You ruin a woman's trust level.
Even the "main chick" would love to have a "side man" but she upholds dignity and doesn't do that. Unfortunately for men you are unsatisfied fools.
So they want an unstable wife and a solid side chick? Why
Until she snaps lol
Kansas City Living
Until who snaps?
Lillie stephens that is tbe most ignorant statement I have heard yet, side chicks are severly mentally ill ask yourself why would a woman want to knowly share bodily fluids with a married man knowing shes number 2 then he goes home and gets in the bed with his wife
Don’t try to change him, change yourself. - this resonates so deep.
Why can't you just leave the main chick and let her find love from someone whos worthy
Because most likely that side chick saved your relationship. You have no idea how many times your man almost left you but stayed cause he bust one off in the side chick. Monogamy is the killer of relationships...
@@antjuanbrowder7795 True!
Bc they are selfish
@@antjuanbrowder7795 if that’s the case another man save a relationship too!
@@charity1041 that’s the devil trying to get you to get vengeance. Just live him and find someone else because what he did is adultery.
Excellent comments from the pastor. He certainly spoke the truth. Nowadays, many people are desperate to have a fling in the sack. That creates problems because each partner doesn't take time to know one another. In turn, this is why the divorce rate is very high.
+TheCoachRC Thanks for the love and support bro. You're absolutely right.
+Clarence Brown So True.
Lack of accountability is an epidemic
*ABSOLUTELY* ☝
“Man’s biggest weakness is his mind”
Soul ties are real, pastor is on point
true indeed. So many people think its a joke.
It's called oxytocin. A hormone that causes a bonding between the two. Sexually active individuals are confused because of multiple partners so it's hard to stay faithful to one person.
Truth 100% soul ties are real!!!!!
*ABSOLUTELY*
Exactly!!!!
people need to realize, everyone you have sex with, becomes your mate by nature, this is what is called soulties for life. They will always be on your mind. so you have to ask, your self, how many mates do I want. God want's you to have one mate. But some men's religion said, you can have more. Men can barely take care of one woman more least than two to four. You can not please 4 women at the same time.
neither can you please two.
LILLIE STEPHENS you can break a soul tie
Thank u i agree wit u 100 percent playgroundpreachers.com
Every woman should have a few side dudes!
I don't know about that. lololo
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So when the man with his side or main then what's the other suppose to do.. lay and wait? ....please hahahahahaha 😂😂🤣🤣
🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏👏
what woman is willing to admit that she wants multiple dicks inside of her?! Please! Stop trying to be like men or "one up" us. Think about it, if a woman has a main dude, and decided to get a side dude. All she's done is make it easier for THAT side dude to have a side chick. Thus keeping the side chick problem going. Ladies, be careful what you ask for.
Thank You, I enjoyed that. It's already been said but, I'll say it again "real talk straight no chaser."
No, thank you so much!!! share share share
Love hearing advice from the Pastor !
Very smart man ...
thank you. Please share
Honestly for real that's your guidance spiritual leader! Dude all I can say is may God be with you!
*Great video! Yes most women KNOW the signs, see the truth but because they have low self esteem or have been lonely (not alone) to long, they submit to disrespect and lack then make excuses. That's why a woman needs to learn the game, disqualify wrong males and have a beneficial goal in mind instead of expectations. A woman must work on HERSELF and learn her plan in God universe, have her own hobbies etc. Women HOLD almost ALL the power in relationships so she must start being accountable for what she accepts and allows.*
This Pastor Dozier is on point with his opinions. Thanks for keeping it real
Wow straight talk no chaser...well done gentlemen love it keep the coming women needs to know the truth
Earthangel171 stay tuned, more on the way
+Clarence Brown We all will be Judged by the Creator. Good or Bad.
Love the real talk from brothers. :)
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It's more than just a sexual encounter in my opinion because every person that someone has been sexually involved with does not have the same effect... it's the one to me that can get inside your mind as well and put it on you
Interesting. Bottom line its what we allow as women. We have upper hand in reality. I had to learn by trial and error. Be ya self. Have good self worth and chill. If he not the one u can't force it.
Facts. Preach.
Bee I agree with what you said. Even tho its the mans fault for choosing to do wrong, it is equally wrong to enable that man to bring diseases and abuses and heartbreak into your life. I've experienced it all. Tryna learn to love myself enough to be able to turn away from my fantasies and open my self wide open to the truth of the matter. Truth will hurt but I'd rather hurt from truth than from a delusion.
I also was lied to as well before. I was the side thinking I was the main. This topic can go any direction. It all depends why. Like I said I agreed in the past years to be the side because it was all about the sex. Wasted time though. That was the exchange for that type sex with a man who is in a relationship.
They are not thirsty, they desperately.
Your pastor was on point! Great episode!
thanks a lot katie
I rather be a side chick vs a Main chick.
When you the Main chick Man will not be honest with you.
When you a side chick a Man is more honest.
I love being a side chick 💙💜❤🤎💚💛🧡
Men aren't more honest to you when you're a side chick. Absolutely not. If anything, you're more likely to be manipulated, because the man already assumes you have low self-esteem and are emotionally needy based on your willingness to be a side chick.
THank you soooo much for this advice. OMG I wish I had known this before.
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I like your talk!! You are more down to earth than most people.-----
LMBO...."Maybe your a dog catcher". That was funny.
lolololololol
Biggest weakness is the mind. We've have to start continuously practicing honesty with self and spirit. God moves through all of us, but we just don't get it.
The prophets of the Bible had more than one woman (wife)...
nimat shaheed that was during a time when we needed to increase the population... we dont need that anymore.
it's 2018 and my husband and I keep a girlfriend (together). I shake my head at these fake women! Let's be honest, how many of you have been with a woman anyway?? So why not stop the BS and make it one big happy home! 100% of men will think about, have been with, or WILL be with another woman. Take away the lying and cheating by picking a good person for both of you.
@@cherylvaughn2215 so is this a Sister wife situation or a polygamorus relationship?
The kings did. Not the prophets.
They also had multiple wives finances
Real men.. real talk.. I like this one
That was on point.
My only comment on this is we need to stop saying men are visual, that gives a bit of impairment that simply does not exist. Who said this? There is absolutely no science that supports this old wives tale. A lusty man may see a woman then think of sex, a gold digging woman may see a car and think of sex... there is no gender specific law, just mere people lacking control of their thoughts
I guess, I'll be single for the rest of my life☹☹. I am currently married, but my husband left me for his girlfriend. And I ended up a side chick for another man for 7 years. I thought he loved me and would leave his wife like my husband (we are not divorced) left me. I can't win for losing😭😭
That is a quiet a story Shawn; how come your husband left you did you not treat him right?
😭😭
@@delilahmode9536 I'm not sure what you mean by "treat him right" 🤔. I worked 3 jobs to support him and our children, while he took all the money while I was deployed with the Army. He explained to me that I was growing too big for him. I wanted a house; not an apartment or trailer. I wanted to be financially stable; not living paycheck to paycheck. I wanted my children in private school and he didn't. I did ALL these things without him. I never tried to change him, but I didn't respect him. Thanks for asking.
Hope your doing well now. Did the married man stay with his wife? Just wondering.
Pastor you don’t realize just how careful and unemotional and blank faced a woman has to be just so men can “get a clue” that she’s not thirsty - then they want to get offended because their ego is hurt. SMH.
yes
Don't put sweet potato pie on me cause I'm chunky 😂
Yup this is why im celebet until marriage.
ok this advice kinda sucked theres more to it then what is being said please. Men cheat because they want to. lets talk generational curses my husbands parents cheated on each other thats all he know is abuse. He is not as bad as his dad but soul ties can be broken, so can generational curses. Its soo much more to this more than what they are saying way more
I agree with generational curses because I was in a 10 year relationship with a man that was never shown what a healthy loving relationship look like. With that being said, I think that their message was point on. I don't care what a mans background, if you give give him your body from day one he doesn't get the chance to get to know you as a person. There is nothing to respect and you pretty much established a relationship on the wrong thing. At that point you have to blame YOU for setting yourself up for failure. Yes, men cheat because they want to and not all men that cheat come from broken homes. Women hear and see what we want to because in a sense we can chase after a man because we are so anxious or like he said "thirsty" to be with someone. When we hold on to a man after he showed you his true colors you allow certain behavior and that only perpetuates the generational curse you speak of. You can't fix/change a man or get him to be what you want him to be especially when you can't see beyond what you expect him to be. A man show you up front who he is. It's just we get blinded and caught up by superficial things like looks, money and him telling us how good we look or how good the pussy is. In reality pussy is pussy to a man and just like he can tell you all of those things he can pump the next women up to believe the same thing. I think what they were saying is give him something other than ass to chase and respect yourself. Not saying this is the case with all women but I think I've lived long enough to hear and see women set themselves up for failure. I was one one of them.
Michelle Thomas yeah this whole making women responsible for men’s actions or finding every angle to make it women’s fault for men’s bad behaviors is getting quite old. When will men take accountability for their own mess? What really gets me is the level to which they will justify their behavior and then have the nerve to be upset when a man treats the women in their family or their daughters the same way. I say this to my brothers all the time, “Karma has a creative way of finding her revenge. For every woman you treat like shit, think of how much you don’t someone treat me or your niece the same way.” The unfortunate part is that this is basic. Treat ppl the way you want to be treated. When a person struggles with basic concepts like that, they need to work on themselves.
Good!
Thanks!
Interesting conversation
preach
Wise words.
interesting.
Accurate
Ladies, whatever u do, please don't take the rev's advice & "set your man up". All that's gone get u is one less girlfriend, mad at ur man & in a state of disbelief, cuz he done fucked ya potna. That was some of the WORST advice I've ever heard!
Even Steve Harvey & Derrick Jackson are somewhere like really nigga? U cain't be out here givin advice THAT BAD!!!!
Both of them lays togethe so both of them leaving something. People cheat for various reasons. I'll admit when I didn't understand what this was really all about I was a side. I had a career,3 degrees, own my on home, multiple vehicles, loving, caring and more. He didn't HVE more than i had. It was about we were sexually attracted to each other. The sex was phenomenal. Now, I wouldn't do this.
I just don't date how about that
Even good men cheat
We all not thirsty
In my opinion, if done RIGHTEOUSLY, polygamy can be a positive thing. NATION BUILDING. SISTERHOOD. COMMUNITY. It takes a VILLAGE...
nimat shaheed HUGE DIFFERENCE between sista wives and a secret side chick. Polygamy works only in truth. Can't merge unions if one was built on lies, betrayal, deception & manipulation.
I have bin in two relationships with dogs they said, not to me as soon that these men get with me, they done with the streets, no cheating boring, I thought then when I was younger lady
Don't have that problem at all, I loved the drug dealers lifestyle, but as they got with me everything changed no dealing no popping up in the club, nothing
But now I changed my way of thinking and settled with 2 kids and a man that's loves me and he was never a drug dealer, normal job 925
And now I know what real love is
So not all women are looking for mister right guy, sometimes you just like being the sidechick
Men lie, so I say do u, that's the reason l rather stay single.
there was no gems dropped im sorry
A Pastor mentioning soul ties is crazy. It has no biblical basis. They become one flesh but not one soul.
You're suggesting woman conspire to snare a man to test him? That's how christians roll?