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- Hi guys, just to clarify I do not own any of these videos I just thought it would be interesting to see the reasons behind the declining birth rates, sending prayers and well wishes to you 🤍
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I am a 57 year old woman, who never wanted kids, like them, just didn't want them. I have NEVER regretted my decision
I'm not even mad about that.
Thank you for sharing. I'm 37 and have never wanted children but I've heard the "you'll regret it later" comment so many times. 😅
@@el4242 I am well past my child bearing years. I have never wanted kids. Even when I was married,. And I have never regretted it. Unlike many women who think they were put on the earth to have kids or want to have kids I was not.
42. Same here
@@el4242lol I am 37 too and I heard the same since I am childfree. I’ll be like, “oh realllyyyyyyyyy?” 😂
When I was 9, I knew I would never have kids after watching a traumatizing birthing video. However, when I was considering marriage, I sat down and wrote a list of pros and cons to having kids. My pros list had 5 things, my cons list had 68. No kids for me thanks. 😂
Good for you. And you stay by that decision. Don't let anyone judge you for the reasons why you don't want to get married and have kids.
I don't even know one pro
I want cancerous, so I will never have reproduction 😢
@@kazania7653People think that their pro is going to be not dying alone. But honestly most people at the age of 50 kind of wanna get rid of their parents. They can't take the burden of taking care of their parents with dementia, Alzheimer's, etc.
I definitely felt that way too after watching a birthing video. I felt so ill that I had to leave the room so I didn’t vomit
Can somebody explain to me how not wanting kids is “selfish”? Like, to me wanting kids is selfish…
Wanting kids is taking resources from already existing life, worsening the overpopulation problem and climate change, it creates a lot of trash (diapers etc) and unwanted items like small clothes when the kids grow, old toys etc. I have never understood how not making a new human is selfish. Like, how?? Parents are jsut so jealous to childfree people who can do what they want with their lives.
Unless you live off the grid, then having kids automatically increases the family consumption and consumerism exponentially.
@@sparrowtakesflightLiterally how is it selfish? If you consider being childfree “selfish” you must also consider literally everything you do for yourself as being selfish. When you eat food you’re being selfish. When you decide to watch a movie you’re being selfish. When you get a pet you’re being selfish. When you listen to music you’re being selfish. Etc etc.
There's this deeply ingrained idea that women are meant to serve others, and if we don't want to spend our lives serving others in the prescribed way (husband, kids, etc), then that means we're spending our lives only serving ourselves, which some people are as selfish. I don't get it either. It's insane.
If a woman doesn't have kids, she doesn't have to sacrifice herself daily, it's easier life. That's why people perceive as wanting to be selfish because caring for a child is very hard.
I’m currently running on 4 hrs of sleep. Had a kid 5 months ago, holy shit it’s hard. Don’t have children unless you really really really WANT one!
Agree, I need my beauty sleep, as a man.
And are able to afford it. There's a reason rich people have nannies. No way in hell anyone can do it themselves without working themselves to the bone. No thanks.
@@Ja50nkAt😂😂😂😂🙌🏾
Oh boy, you have long way to go. I hope your partner is helping at night too, so that you don't lose your mind.
i don’t
I’m 41 and childfree and never wanted kids being a parent seems miserable and stressful 😊
I'm 23 and I feel the same :)
I’m 33, don’t want them, but do struggle with the stigma. 😞
@@Tangerinetaco Just ignore people and live your life the way you want :)
Its easy to say when your young and pretty and people want and actively seek to be with you. As you age, your friends will drift away a long with your looks and further on they will die as will your family/extended family. Ageing sucks but kids are out best chance at a graceful end. I know plenty of childless women in the 50/60's and they are permanently heartbroken for the most part. At that age, no one really wants to make you a part of their life, unlike when your young and vibrant. Its really sad to see them at family gatherings, they feel like they are just being pittied and have very little to talk about due to missing out on such a big gap of their life compared to others. I used to think like you, then I realized it was short sighted. I have a little girl and I gotta say, if your financially stable and have a decent relationship, a kid is not miserable and stressful, its the opposite. The love you feel and the new things to look forward to are rejuvinating.
@@jasonm7684 You know pretty toxic people and families if they act like this. I know plenty of old women who have had kids and grandkids but they are always alone, holidays are the hardest for them. Having kids just bacause you fear you will be alone is a bad reason to have kids.
Im a huge introvert and that’s why I’m so scared to be a parent. No kid deserves to feel like a burden
Yep. I’m introverted too. And telling me to have kids sound like living with strangers 24/7 and working at home where I should rest. Exhausting.
I have theory that maybe introverts are less likely to have kids.
Me too I like being by myself wayyyyy too much a child would interrupt
You are not less of a woman or man for opting out of parenthood… not everyone should have children… the news proves this everyday…
Evolution is all about reproduction, people that do not desire to have children will cease to exist from the gene pool and be replaced by those who does.
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my mom is angry and exhausted everyday - ive never gotten a “good morning, have a nice day”. I never want to live like this.
yess parent are so miserable
YOU can be that parent that love your child, your parents are not a mirror of your future self, you are not them!
@@Danuxsy oke but why would they conjure hardship? For what? Life is hard enough in the modern slavery system. Smart people aren't going to have kids. Only the idiots are left breeding incessantly, and we can all see the results. Ain't good.
Having children so you are not alone at Christmas is a bizarre reason to have kids. Childfree people still have families who involve them in holiday plans. And there is always Japan for Christmas- they don’t do Christmas so it’s a great place to be at that time of the year… skiing down the mountains of Hakuba. Absolute bliss!
Yes that's a stupid reason to have a child because someday the child will leave and have it's own life
I am a Woman and I approve this message. Definitely do not want to bring an innocent soul into a corrupt world we live in where Adults alone are struggling to keep up with ends meets.
I don't understand how someone can raise a kid these days and not be a millionaire. Seriously. And I'm not just talking about day to day expenses but paying for college and helping with a down payment.
@@zuzanazuscinova5209 100%
Although I don't mean to sound disrespectful, I don't agree that the world is just simply too corrupt and troubled as a reason not to have kids. This world has been corrupt, troubled, and terrible for centuries, and yet, women still have children. My grandparents were raised during World War I. My parents were raised during the Great Depression and World War II. I was raised during the Vietnam War. Watergate. The drug culture. the riots in the inner cities and on college campuses. The Civil Rights movement. The assassinations of both the Kennedy brothers, Martin Luther King, and Medgar Evers. The Bay of Pigs Invasion. Castro taking over Cuba. Protests against the Vietnam War. The war and violence in the Middle East. The energy crisis. Draft card burnings. The murders of those eight student nurses in Chicago by Richard Speck. The Manson Family murders. And the list goes on and on and on.
However, I do agree that it's just way too expensive to raise a child. Food. Clothing. Shelter. Utilities. Insurance. Transportation. Medical expenses. School expenses. Activities and recreation. Child care. I even heard that it costs about $250,000 a year just to raise a child; although I might me wrong. Either way, it just too expensive to raise a child. Even with both parents working full-time jobs today, the cost of living is so sky high that it's not even funny. By not having kids, you're saving over $200,000 a year right there. Now that's a good reason why shouldn't have kids in the first place.
This is my primary thought... there is sickness in this world... not going to bring my baby here
Nope, having multiple kids, and warehousing them in a trailer doesn't sound "fruitful."
I swear I thought second woman was saying LIONS! 😆😆 she said lay-in, as in naps throughout the day 😂 I was about to say, geez how many pet lions does one lady need?? Haha
Ikr 😂😂
Same 🤣🤣🤣. I needed to know what country or area allows unlimited lion ownership.
😂😂 thanks now I know she was not talking about lions
I thought she had pet 🦁♌ lions in cages like Siegfried and Roy
😂😂😂😂
Saying someone who doesn't want kids is selfish is the stupidest statement I've ever heard. To have a kid just because you can is not a reason to have one. By the way yes I have kids and respect people's choices
My grandmother had 12 children. She has passed but when she was in need of caregiving she had 9 living children. My is one of the 3 who passed and I am an only child. Anywho, my gram called me to help be her caregiver because all her children wanted to put her in a nursing facility. I feel so blessed to have had to opportunity to be there for her. However, I realized she had the most God awful children. In regards to me not having children, she told me that not all women a meant to have children; some women are meant to do other things. And this is a woman who loves children and nickname is Mother.
I once remember I was called a racist by a random woman at a party for saying I don't want to have kids, literally, I was single in a party just saying in a conversation that I personally don't want to have kids. It was years ago and I still don't understand how that was racist!
Parents have the most stupid arguments when someone says they don't want kids, even if you are polite about it. They will tell you to k*ll yourself, that you hate life and that you are waste of air. (i've got to hear all of those)
I was once said that I’d have a c section if I ever was pregnant and a colleague (who I wasn’t even stating this too) comes up to me and says ‘people like you shouldn’t have children’ 😂. Mothers can be so nice!
@@whitneyanders5945 I don't get it😆 Maybe parents are mad, because someone chooses other way to give birth? I have head ppl say that section is not giving birth!
@@lioness2000I’m so sorry! those people want bombing! I’ve had it relatively easy with the patronising smiles and “wait till your….older……married…..biological clock starts ticking (or insert random nonsense here)”. And I could just say “we’ll see”. Glad I’m in the uk where people are generally too British and inhibited to give it both barrels. 💜 enjoy your childrenless life and sod them!
@@Acehigh-Jenkins Thank you so much❤️ Those people aren't really part of my life anymore luckily, I don't need that kind of energy in my life.. I will enjoy my life with my partner ans show everyone we are not going to have kids!
I don’t want no screaming crying gremlin, nope I’m done
Ha ha. I love when I tell men that (men who want kids) and they always tell me "they don't ALL scream and cry!" I just laugh. Some kids are definitely well behaved but you don't know what you're going to get with kids.
You'd never believe the amount of parents that openly admitted that they wanted to slap or beat their child hard but restrained.
I don't want kids cause I saw how much my mom struggled in life. From age 7 to 18, my mom wore the same hand me down clothes everyday (some had holes in them!) she got when I was a baby. Didn't go clothes shopping for herself or buy something nice for herself at all, she couldn't afford to, she had me and my siblings to feed and clothe.
Also, I watched flies fly out of her wallet, she had no money left as soon as the paycheck came in.
I remember being 9 and thinking to myself "This is no way to live, barely scraping by."
It only finally got a little better for her when my siblings and I got to college age and had our own jobs.
My mom only then finally went and bought herself something nice, *20 years later* mind you. 20!
😢
And then, husbands scowl the wife for "letting herself go."
I also saw by example and it traumatised me. I never want kids.
i don't need a baby to have someone look at me like i'm the most important thing in the world because my dogs and cat already do that
😂because you feed them but I get what you mean
I have always known I don't want to be pregnant, give birth and give up my freedom just to bring another human to this world and probably worry about them for the rest of my life. My relationsjip with my partner is too important to ruin with the lack of sleep, lack of free time and ruining my body. Also my hobbies are the thing keeping me sane, and if I had kids I would never hve time for just myself anymore, and it would be a nightmare.
For the first time ever women have choices and people are shocked we are exercising those rights.
What's funny is that those women will cease to exist and the ideas along with them and they will be replaced by women who don't have those choices, it's a cosmic comedy 😂😂
@@Danuxsy What the f¥ck kind of logic is this???
It's evolution but for thoughts.@@digimonalvatrax2738
@@Danuxsyyou can’t kill an idea. The legacy of these women is the idea of a choice and future women will know they have a choice
ideas evolve like everything else, if people decide to be child free then their genes will not be part of the next generation and neither will their idea. @@SkycometFallen
I've known since 1st grade pretty much and I'm 35 now, my mind hasn't changed once.
also this whole mindset of 'you'll be alone when you're older' well yeah I might be, but so might you. just because you've had children doesn't guarantee you won't be alone when you're older. there are all sorts of reasons why you might end up alone...
Absolutely true. My dad and landlord (same age) both had 7 kids. We all love our dad. We take turns visiting him and having cookouts. The landlord treated his family badly, so he was all alone after he became a widow. He was also alone when he was diagnosed with cancer and during all his appointments. Then finally he ends his own life leaving a note saying he wished he had treated his family better. I think the loneliness during the time of cancer treatment was the final straw. We don't prepare for being over 65 anymore.
tbh I think you are just a victim of your environment, somewhere else and with the right partner you would probably love to have children, at the end of the day that is the reason for your existence (if we look at it from the perspective of evolution) but I also sympathize with you and understand why you might not desire them in modern society (unfortunately).
maybe we would want kids if we had better examples of ppl having healthy relationships where they share the load of taking care of kids and not just the mum being stressed out sm
Yep. Exactly. Moms really do get a short end of the stick.
Nope, I wouldn't want kids if I had all the help, money and good examples in the world. I just have no desire to gestate a foreign being that will burst out of my vagina or be cut out of my belly. And I definitely don't want to waste time being a parent to humans. I'm fine with cats.
That would definitely help. Many women just don't want to be single mothers despite not setting out to be single mothers. Of course many of us also just don't have any desire to have kids, regardless. But role models do help for a lot of people.
My sister (late 20s) have two children and she's really happy, they recently purchased their first home and we (her family) support her from time to time when they come to visit n stuff, of course it has been hard on them too (especially with sleep) but having children is what she has always wanted so it's all good.
@@MK-hh1vo100%. I don’t gv a sh- abt healthy relationships etc. I am not interested in getting a child and that’s that.
i really dont want kids and i think it's mainly cos i was emotionally parentified as a kid and i think that's okay. i love being alone and having quiet. i have a nephew and he always snuggles up to me so close and i also dont like that. i dont like ppl being so close up under me and i think it would be suuuper selfish to have a kid knowing i dont like those things and to then put that on a kid.
nah you are selfish for not wanting children, you are just trying to justify your selfishness, pathetic. Through memetic evolution those thoughts and ideas presented by yourself and in the video (anti-life) will cease to exist by itself and actors (people) with the opposite ideas (more children the better) will continue to thrive in society.
You being parentfied is and will never be okay. It's a form of abuse..
This seems to be a pattern. A lot of childfree women were forced to parent their younger siblings when they were still in elementary school.
My mom tells me to not have kids😂. Imma listen to my mom. I don’t listen to strangers. I remember someone said, parents favorite day is without kids and to do their hobbies or sleep.
what does your dad say? lol
As a mom or 2 boys I dnt recommend having kids. I love my kids but in this world we are in nw. I can barley feed them I've lost 40 lbs so they can B4 me cause food is too much. I work a full time job n I'm drowning wit bills on top of my kids needs. I love my kids to death but If knew how this world was goin be I wouldn't have had them. I'm scared there won't be a future for my kids
Don’t tell other people to not have lots because you are a failure of a parent. Where is the father ? Maybe that’s part of the problem .
@@ianlloyd4301you are not very smart 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She just told you she’s doing it alone
FATHERS UP AND LEAVE . . EVERYDAY
That is the problem . . A woman can end up alone struggling cause a man decided to leave
And she’s saying just don’t do it
Cause when that happens
An utter idiot will come and blame you for struggling after being abandoned with his kids
Unfortunately there isn't much of a future for anyone. Let alone children.
And you didn't know all this before you decided to have kids. We're you living in Siberia with no access to media?
@@Childfree334I gotta agree.How in the hell would someone have kids with all of the mass shootings,food price gouging etc etc going on for decades?
One thing that terrified me when I thought about motherhood was the sleep deprivation. This was before the internet.
Now, on mom subreddits, women talk about the absolute torture of sleep deprivation. Moms whose kids didn't sleep through the night for FOUR years. The nuclear family combined with our economy pushes young families far from the intergnerational familial sharing of child-rearing and mothers are just scorched.
I hear a lot of dads rhapsodize about parenthood. Turns out they get plenty of sleep and take 45-minute bathroom breaks all by themselves.
My mom told me she was not interested in being with grandchildren. Leaning heavily on family for child care is not fair or realistic.
Yeah, add the sleep deprivation to the physical changes in your body due pregnancy and labour, messy house and no free time. Sounds like a torture to me.
My biggest fear is the birth itself and the responsibility for years. But yeah, sleep depravation sucks a lot too. I would be a complete Zombie
People who are scared of birth and not getting regular sleep for a couple of months should definitely NOT have kids… lol … weaklings
@@lioness2000Torture, long term, NO FREAKING THANKS :)
I’ve always had a problem with my parent’s terrible relationship and the constant complaints about having children. They really look at me sideways about being in a lovely relationship and still not having children.
You are not your parents hun, you can be different from them.
Now that I'm in my 30s I see the reality of how all childrearing falls on women and I am SO RELIEVED I never let anyone knock me up lol. I am looking forward to enjoying ALLL my money for MEEE
This is the mindset of most child free women, egocentric losers with thoughts that will cease to exist naturally through the evolutionary process.
@@Danuxsybased woman?
I'm part of the large majority of women around the world. Genes that don't procreate tend to vanish from the gene pool lmao, we call it natural selection.@@asdasd-dm1hd
@@Danuxsy do you realise all humans are 99% genetically similar? Lol
Also, why should people care about pieces of deoxyribonucleic acid more than about persons, including themselves? Also, why should we care about whether anything of us is left after we die? We have time while we live, that is enough
Lonely for the holidays?? Are u effing kidding me??You could be married, you could be at a New Year’s Eve party w/200 people - and yet feel like the loneliest person on the planet. No kids - no effing regrets here!
Right? Holidays are ranked among the biggest stressors for so many people as a result of dealing with family and spending way more than they would like to. I knew a lady who started saving for her kid's Christmas presents in January. I'm sure the gifts were broken or forgotten about within weeks. I'd rather sip hot chocolate and watch Christmas movies with my cat every year.
I didn't have a kid till 35. Personally worked out really well for me, but I can totally see how it's not for everyone. Live your best life, whatever that looks like for you
The only time I ever want kids is when I’m playing the sims……..
If being parents is so great well then why are they trying to dump them for a childfree holiday any chance they get. You need a break is not an excuse. People around you probably need a break from you and your kids.
Agreed. I would assume parents would want to spend the holidays and their free time with their kids, since they had them.
People just need to let people have their preference. If you want kids fine. If you don't great. Let them live.
The uncommon reasons: I have a snake too! And no, I would not want a kid near him.
Another one I have is the spite one. My parents were verbally abusive to me growing up so I made the decision that they don't deserve grandkids, they can settle with my pets.
Thank you for the lesson. "Do no sow wrath among your children". I have sons and daughters that have been educated and treated well. Sorry to hear that your parents' foul mouths, but thank you for choosing to end their lineage as recompense. The more degenerates that exist in this generation make it easier to sort out the gene pool for my family's future. One daughter appears to have chosen to be child-free due to fear of the present and future, while the others are willing to work, endure, and sacrifice for a family. All the respect, enjoy the freedom.
Snakes are cuter anyway!
@@genevieve7676 Just not any huge ones, the smol bois are the cutest.
That's exactly my point! A lot of women complaining how hard it is to be a mum and when I tell them I don't want to have kids, they get so offended. I'm 27 and never had a desire to have kids, but I respect people who want to have kids, so I don't get why I don't get the same respect back? I love my lifestyle, I love my body and I love to do whatever I want! Getting pregnant and having kids there's a lot of changes to your body and your lifestyle and it's something I don't want. Every woman has a choice in life!
"I want lions" 🦁🤣 best reason ever.
8:13 LITERALLY
i ALWAYS say " IF I WANTED KIDS I WOULD HAVE HAD THEM!!" when i'm forced to babysit my brothers kids omg and now his first is 15 which is fine and i'd love to spend time w her now but he went and got another girl pregnant and now he is 3 and i can't even spend time w my niece quietly and get to know her. all of our time together REVOLVES around a toddler.
and now SHE is like " i dont want kids!" so is my cousin who HATES the way this bad behaved toddler acts.
I honestly think ppl have kids for the wrong reasons
No all do.
32. Child free AF! Still no desire to have babies. I would consider marriage tho if it benefits me financially 🤭
Right thinking girl. You don't need kids, you DO need money. I want you to meet a rich childfree guy.
Hot damn!
And this is exactly why most of the members of hellfire are women
@@asdasd-dm1hd
What the hell is hellfire?
Childfree life is the best. I am free to do what I want when I want, that's something parents give up the moment they have their babies.
I have always been perplexed by why NOT wanting a child is selfish when those who have babies are doing it all due to selfish reasons.
There is no way having kids is more selfish than not having kids
You won't be asked about your career or degree on your deathbed. You'll only be remembered for your kids
@kc6810 no woman on her deathbed has been asked about her career ever. At that point, wealth has no meaning, all that matters is your heritage
@@asdasd-dm1hdso why do you think last day of my life will matter more than the previous 50 years? 😂 Your logic is flawed. Also why should I care about what other people ask or talk or think about when I am dying or dead? I don't think their opinions matter that much, sorry
@KateeAngel most important thing in life is whT you will be remembered and respected for, not your career and how many different mixtures of alcohol you tried
Any parent who tells people they are selfish for not having children should ask that critic if their child is biological or not. Those who only want their own children and won't consider adoption should be called out for their own selfishness.
Thank you for your input. Sorry it took a while for my reply.@@kc6810
All my life i would never get sick my mother would brag to everyone that i was her only child out of 8 who never has to go to the doctor except for checkups. Had my first child at 25 my health went out the window every bug i catch its crazy after my secound it got worse. This is crazy i just want my body back the way it was honesty.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish more people realised that childfree life is better before they have kids.
Some ppl seem to forget that ppl have family that doesn't consist of their own children. I feel sorry for the parents of these ppl. But also one of their reasons for having children is that they will take care of you and keep you company when you are older. But they are also forgetting their own parents? Weird.
many kids live miles away. kids are not insurane pol
I'll be 66 on October 2, and I never had kids myself. In fact, I never wanted to get married and have kids period.
I was raised in a family of eight kids. Six brothers, one sister, and myself. (I'm the third oldest.) Four of my brothers are mentally handicapped. But unfortunately, one of them passed away back in July of 2000. I just don't have any patience with kids. I would go to jail for what I would do to the. I strongly believe what both the Bible and the Catholic Church teaches us about sex, marriage, family, and relationships. Therefore, based on my family life growing up, as well as my Catholic upbringing, I decided not to get married and have kids. I chose instead to work full time and travel instead.
I was in the workforce for 40 years. By being single and childfree, I was able to get to work on time and put in a full day's work without having to worry about my child getting sick, child care/babysitting issues, if my child's school closes early due to bad weather, my child's having problems in school and I have to go see his or her teacher, and so forth.
Also, if you love to travel, you can always plan your vacations around your job schedule instead of a school's calendar. A lot of these schools don't allow you take family vacations during the school year because of each state's mandatory school attendance laws. Family vacations during the school year are unexcused absences. For example, here in Pennsylvania, where I live at, K-12 students have to be in school for 180 days a year. Also, back in April of 2015, there was this guy, who lives right here in the Philadelphia area, who took his two kids out of school, and up to Boston because he was running in the Boston Marathon. He then got a letter from the school's principal saying that it was unexcused absence. He wrote the principal back and he told her that his two kids learned more up there in Boston instead of sitting inside of a classroom; and that he would do it again.
Don't let anybody judge you simply because you choose not to have kids. That's both your choice and your decision. In fact, St. Paul says that the single person pleases The Lord; whereas the married person pleases the spouse. After all, getting married and having kids isn't for everybody; especially me. And it's going to stay that way also.
You would go to jail for what you would have done if you had them? Um well I'm glad you didn't have any either because you're obviously nuts. Wtf. Why even say that? I hope everyone has also kept their kids far away from you😠
Not everyone is this way. I am a mom and grandma and think everyone should be able to make there our choices. As well as keep their noses out of other peoples business. Nothing gives anyone the right to guilt anyone else into living the way they dictate.
Also just think about how hard it is to live in this current economy and then add in another human to pay for
And the average cost for kids now is something like $21k a year. I really don't know how parents afford that. I mean, sure if you're upper class you can, but most people aren't anywhere near that and many mothers are largely caring for the kids disproportionately to the husbands. I just don't get it.
Every person berating people for not wanting children somehow ALWAYS forget about the people who medically can’t have children. They hate that childless people make the choice
I don't hate but I acknowledge evolutionary processes.
@@Danuxsyyou know nothing about evolution sorry
That Tik-Tok mom that just got arrested the other day on child abuse. It never looks good to go on camera holding your baby saying I regret being a mom 😂😂
I’m in Australia and we just had a case of 14 children from the same family being tortured and abused by their parents. They were held hostage within the home by their crazy parents, living in squalor. So much for all the unconditional love and children being the catalyst to making people better versions of themselves by becoming parents.
Me to people that ask what I’ll do when I’m old…”When I’m old and have no kids to care for me I’ll be paying yours to do it because they’ll need jobs and that job will take them away from you. I expect I’ll be quite comfortable thanks.”
32, childfree, my choice. MINE. Not randos trying to feel better about their own choices.
You won't be feeling so great at 40 when all your friends have families and you are still going on your super fun holidays drinking every night and sharing those experiences with
No one
@@asdasd-dm1hd typical man answer.
@@WhiteNoiseValhalla typical woman answer
@@asdasd-dm1hd men are inherently void of value, especially these days. That's why they lash out so much at women. Because now that women don't need to be slaves anymore to the whims of men, men actually have to be likeable. And they just can't be, because they never were. That's why men clamor to bring the 'women are cattles to be used as slaves by men' dynamics back. It's truly the only way most men throughout human history even got to ''have'' a woman. Not gonna happen.
I’m just trying to figure out why ppl are trying to control women wombs. Got a whole kid n I’m happy for those that don’t tf.
Kid free life = 🎉
I’ve been told I’m selfish…. Sure no problem if it means freedom to do whatever I please and seriously not spin my head off going broke in todays structural living… I’m cool with being selfish and exploring what is my Life.
Being alone on a holiday saves money you can even work and get paid extra money!
Someone actually said to me one time when I revealed that I didn't want kids, "But what if they grow up to be doctors?!?!?! Who will take care of you when you're old?!" 😂
Im 25, engaged, and literally can barely take care of myself and my cat. We love spending holidays just the 2 of us. Every day im like "should we have a baby or should we just be happy forever" lmao
You won't be "happy forever" at 40 when all your friends and family members have a heritage and something to be proud of while you dont
@@asdasd-dm1hd why are you so bitter?
@@moshiachgirlie ok
@@kc6810 no she wont
I’m the oldest and my childhood was spent taking care of little kids. All i thought then was as soon as I get out of this situation where i had no choice to have to take care of kids im going to be free the rest of my life and never have to deal again.
I have two kids, I love them, but it’s hard. Your whole life and schedule revolves around them. You can’t even go the bathroom by yourself. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you. Not to mention the expense.
People need to learn how to mind their own business.
When he was 15, my son told me, "I wish I didn't have YOU as MY father." God heard that earnest plea, and granted my son's wish, removing both him and his mother from my life before I had met her, resulting in her son being fathered by someone else rather than me. I never did have any children. At the age of 60, that's not likely to change.
That was confusing as hell
Just say you don’t have kids 😂😂😂😂
That's boring! May way has more... pathos, I guess you'd call it.@@ruffandrelax290
I read this about 4x and still confused
I don't get it
🤔 So your stepson?
Yeah...I don't care if parents think I'm selfish or lonely for not having kids. I am not having kids for the sole purpose of them keeping me company and/or to not be found selfish. So thanks for your concern, but I'll just keep enjoying my quiet time, my schedule exactly the way I want it, doing exactly what I want, my free time, my sleep and my money.
tbh even if i had a better childhood i probably wouldn't consider having children unless i felt financially stable enough to have them, and even then- i can barely handle my niece and nephew, i feel like having a child would just make me a worse person
"BuT yOu'D bE a GoOd PaReNt" hell no dawg
2:59 I don't celebrate holidays. Plus, I thrive being alone. The 2 year lockdown was the best time of my life. I actually miss it.
I am a mom - that rare type of mom who rebelled against my own parental pressure by delaying having kids and produced each of my two children ONLY WHEN I FELT F-ING READY! NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND. JUST MOI.
ZERO REGRETS WITH MY SELFISHNESS!
Raising a complex child into an even more complicated adult with a real future in an uncertain, unfair world is so hard!
It's not for everyone,
It was NEVER about me.
It is 100% about them.
They know I love them.
Because they know I chose to have them.
People who are not in my position to be able to commit completely and take full ownership of what follows - my kids included - don't.
And then there are no guarantees. You can raise kids to the best of your abilities with good ethics and to be kind, and they can be the absolute opposite of that. And vice versa- a kid raised badly can turn into a kind, empathetic human being. Tis a gamble!
I don't like children.
Not going to do the daily grind.
Having children is the hardest and most stressful thing you can do, so expensive to boot and you have to give up your past life (to raise them properly that is). I have two and they were the best thing that ever happened to me. I wouldn't change it for the world.
Ok. But that’s not a life for everyone. Some people don’t want to adopt a dog. Some people don’t want to enlist in the military. Some people don’t want to go to college. Some people don’t want to have kids
@@SkycometFallenit’s so funny to me how people say shit like how hard it is and then immediately say they don’t regret it even though it seems like it is definitely not worth it
I’m a mama one and I still get crap for that. A lot of people only want a new one in phase but as soon as that child has her own opinions and wants to be alone that there’s a problem because they have autonomy. My child is a little older and lives her best life I don’t limit her or try to 430 or so away. She’s her own person I my own person. We should encourage that instead of wanting our kids to be mini me’s.
I think many women these days have kids just so they can walk around dressed the same as their baby and call them their mini me's, but, just like you said, when the baby grows and starts to become it's own person, then it's not fun to be a parent anymore. Most people should just get a doll or plushie to dress up and cuddle if they don't want their babies to grow up to be their own person.
I was just thinking of a famous Reddit post about a single dad. The birth control failed, and his partner at the time wanted an abortion but he refused. She gave him full custody, but other than child support wanted nothing to do with the kid. He had somehow gotten into his head that once the kid was born, the maternal instinct would somehow kick in and was disappointed to find out it didn't.
He was tired all the time. The kid cost a ton of money. He had to rely on his mom and sisters for child care. He wanted advice on how to "make" his baby mama take the kid every once in a while so he can go on dates.
The comments section *savaged* him, pointing out that he more or less that he had it coming, and what did he expect would happen when he forced this woman to have this kid against her will. Told him that he had to suck it up.
The redhead thinks along the same lines as myself. I love kids, I love good parents... but I also like not sacrificing the freedom clawed back after a bad relationship, I like putting myself first after being a people pleaser, we're not swimming in money, my identity doesn't hinge on being a mother to be "a real woman", I've never had the maternal instinct to the degree I want to incubate life in my womb and expend a load of minerals and health that I have also just clawed back. Also I'm too sensitive to over stimulation, I know the attention to detail would fall to me and in the future I would like to live in a motorhome and tour the country on a motorbike. All good reasons to never do it. If you are on the fence you probably don't want kids. I also have a husband I want to focus my time ans energy on..he is enough for me and maybe a dog or dog fostering in the future.
I don't like kid, i don't like teenagers, i don't like people! Nothing could convince me to have a kid 😂
Lol this world is absolutely off its nut....im not brining a child into it.
I am 55 years old, very very happily married for 33 years and knew l never wanted kids from being about 10yrs old (inter-generational trauma stops here).
Made it abundantly clear to my husband when we met that was my position- he was of exactly the same mind (zero desire for kids) and it was THE best decision of my/our lives. We have never regretted it for 1 second. We semi-retired at 40. Fully retired at 50. Spend every day together doing what ever we want.
Life is amAZING ❤
Having a kid because you are afraid of being alone on 3 days out of 365 a year is ridiculous.
I want those treats at the end. They look so good.
Just letting you people know, that although babies are cute, I've tried to babysit somebody else's two year old toddler... And although she gives very nice hugs and sometimes says some cute and funny stuff... When she's in a bad mood... Oh be prepared!, it's gonna be terrible, you offer her food and toys and all you get is: "I DON'T WANT IT!" "I DON'T LIKE IT!" "I DON'T LIKE THIS" "I DON'T WANT THIS I WANT ICE CREAM!" and she'll keep screaming that at you for a veeeeery long time. Also if you're having a kid be prepared that she's gonna get all grumpy and angry even when you didn't do anything bad, she's gonna take out her anger on you when her bad day wasn't her fault... She's gonna cry and complain and then cry and complain some more and then a little bit more and then again and again. This is what you're getting yourself into. Oh and you'll have to tidy up her mess, she's gonna trip over and hurt herself and she'll act like it's your fault
Is there a dating site that women and men that don’t want children can date?
Being a parent is amazing if it's what you actually want.
But if you don't that's also ok, it's not for everyone and that's ok.
Nothing is ever going to be for everyone ffs why is that a hard concept to grasp.?
I'm 47 and a childfree woman. My simple, quiet life with my lovely husband is a dream.
If I passed on my genes to a child, it would be cruel to them. We have a history of severe mental illness, including bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, autism, and any number of addictions, not to mention abuse. I would have been a terrible mother. There's no way I would put a child through that.
Someone 👏 not 👏 wanting 👏 kids 👏 is not 👏 an attack 👏 on 👏 parents 👏
Just because one person doesnt have kids and is happy about that, it doesn't mean that they think no one should have them or that people are stupid for having them.
Not everyone should have kids. Not everyone would make good parents. Some people are happy being child free and fuck the people who keep trying to gaslight them into thinking they arent. Everyone has a different view on personal fulfillment and if you find fulfillment in being a parent, great! Being a parent is hard and its awesome that you find that to be your best life, but someone else might not find happiness in the same way and it has ZERO consequences for you, so bug out. It doesn't hurt you that another human doesn't want to do what YOU do. We're all different.
I'm in my early 40's. I haven't wanted kids since my teens. I don't want to have something growing in me, I dont want to birth, I dont like babies. I like kids, but I dont want to be a mother to them. They are expensive and I can just afford to care for my own basic lifestyle and care for my mental health.
When I tell people I didn't have kids and I have a dog, TO PARENTS, they say, 'Good decision!'
So yeah, we are going to be proud and happy with our decisions.
How many parents are totally ignored by their adult children? Most of them. Don't believe me? My mothers nursing home, when she was in one, was full of unvisited,crying, sad old people who were literally screaming for their kids. Where were they? Waiting ON THANKSGIVING TO VISIT. 😅😂😅😮😂😂😂
Imagine if their parents told them the reason why they regret having them… that would be kind of sad…
Change my KNICKERS!!! aaaahhhhh kills me every time, love it😂😂😂😂😂😂
To the woman at 6 minutes: I know. I never had them, but I know. I was the eldest of 6 kids. I'm the oldest. I KNOW. Big factor in why I'm child free.
The first video sounds very narcissistic to say everyone should have a baby because they way they look at you. That’s a horrible reason to bring a whole a$$ human into the world. And why do people who don’t want kids need to convince anyone why they’ve come to that decision? Just because you have your kids doesn’t guarantee they’ll love you, care for you in your elder years or on the true crime level, kill you for a plethora of dumb reasons. Just saying 🤷🏽♀️
I want kids, I just don't have any, nor am I in a position where I could reasonably have any. Oh well, life goes on.
I've been trying to come to terms with the fact that while I do want kids, I most likely won't have them. My autism makes it hard to function without a routine and I'm not in a position where I can raise a child completely on my own, leaving me in a position where I would have to mostly rely on my partner (something I'm not comfortable doing) to survive. I have maybe 10 years where I could still have a healthy child without any extra help but I'm making peace with the fact that if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen and I'd rather regret having a kid than regret having a kid I couldn't take care of.
My son doesn't want kids and I fine with that. He has to live his own life, the same way I live mine.
5:35 🤣🤣 parents complain about their kids when they minors and adults 🤣🤣
A lot of these people seem to forget that some of us have grown up in less than ideal conditions,, I am HIGHLY autistic ( I am diagnosed, which a lot people seem to think I MUST be lying about because they view us as incapable of making decisions, but that’s another topic ) and I also suffered a variety of abuses, not to mention I have genetic problems, WHY would I want to bring a child into this world when just that alone could kill me!? What if that child has the things I have? I do not think that I should allow a child of my own blood to suffer with what I’ve suffered just cause I want to further some stupid bloodline, WHO CARES if I die alone? Atleast I’ll have lived a fulfilled life knowing that I’ve not caused irreparable harm to a new life by simply allowing it to exist, I will be at peace knowing that atleast even if the rest of my life is hot garbage.
The baby obsession has always been insane to me. I never understood it, then I realized people have it because it's about them, not the kid.
Plenty of people can have kids. It doesn't make you special. All you're doing is adding to the pile.
You do you. Parent is HARD. Parenting is rewarding, but it's not for everyone. I'd rather have people that want children to have children. If you don't, it would be awful for everyone involved. Go do your life. Other people's choices aren't necessarily best for you. I love seeing people living their live in the fashion they would like.
I don't blame them, the way things are going, everything is very expensive and this inflation seems will not stop
Someone told me that my desire and ability to travel wouldnt be affected with children 😂😂😂😂 i gave them an actual example of when i went to South Africa. I heard about the group trip, I payed my deposit, and the subsequent installments after for another 14 months. I didnt tell a soul. The family that found out three weeks before was simply because they came by my place in the middle of me planning outfits to pack. 😁 I would have had to figure out and talk to others long before i even paid the deposit if i had a kid. Thats one of the reasons why its so easy to do so much without children.
When the mother said every woman should have a baby because they look up to you think you the greatest person on earth you know what’s a dog can do the something they can think you are a greatest human being on earth to I don’t ever want kids in my life
My poor mother worked way too hard. Yay to willingly childless women, all over the world :)
I’ve been told it’s “selfish” not to have kids, selfish to whom? My fully supporting mother? The fucked up world? A baby that doesn’t even exist? 🤔
I have a very low pain tolerance and child birth look extremely painful to go through I can imagine it feel like you’re being ripped apart from the inside out😰😰. I also have no patients so having kids isn’t for me tbh I would rather be a cat parent than a regular parent
I'm a teenager and I refuse to have kids. Based on how hard adult life would be according to adults, why would I want to bring a kid into that? I'm not an incubator, I am capable of more than having kids. Honestly in this day in age its more selfish to have kids. Overpopulation exists, and animal species are dying every year due to us. I hate when people worry about underpopulation of humans.
They broke my bookshelf 😂💀