Can't stop thinking about your ex?

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ค. 2024
  • Al writes, “Hi Susan, thank you for your insightful videos. I'm trying to move on from my feelings for someone but it has been difficult. I know you recommend focusing on wellbeing & on self-improvement. But there are days when I find myself thinking of him FIRST thing in the morning, making it most difficult to shake off the feelings. What do I do then? Getting up & busy doesn't cut it. Advise plz. Thanks.”
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  • @chinsters7644
    @chinsters7644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    That's a really hard topic to get over. Many people can go years thinking each day about a love that was different than any other love they ever had. Not even time heals instances like these sometimes. It can feel like death, but the person is a living ghost. It's a crazy hard human emotion to handle.

    • @32987
      @32987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Me

    • @katyxo8972
      @katyxo8972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wow thats the way I would of put it ..
      :(

    • @chinsters7644
      @chinsters7644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@katyxo8972 Yeah. I only know because I went through it. Two years ago, but it doesn't haunt me anymore as I've found ways to let her go.

    • @katyxo8972
      @katyxo8972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Ray LeBaron I think I struggle because i feel i lost him through my own mistakes and its also been 2 years but..still not really much better..I’m trying to let go

    • @chinsters7644
      @chinsters7644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@katyxo8972 Originally, I thought it was my own mistake, but I later analyzed it to death and realized it was her, not me. Although something made her fall out of love but she never told me what. We were basically engaged, and she just left one day and I never heard from her again.
      Did you try to fix it with him when you made the mistake?

  • @lilbabyangel125
    @lilbabyangel125 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    i had a break up 3 years ago yet I still think about my ex despite having no contact. We should not punish ourselves over these thoughts because i think it's human nature to remember those who had an impact on our lives --in one way or another. I feel that it is important to not dwell on the thought of the ex and just let it pass...like a season let it have its' moment and then let it go.

  • @skyaboveme1
    @skyaboveme1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    It's not that easy - Love is illogical.. so sad but so true!

  • @rehammua
    @rehammua 4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Yaaaas. Sometimes you know their not good for you but you still think of them !

    • @DiduFuski
      @DiduFuski 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Indeed. Dont worry this holy month of Ramadan will take your worries away.
      Ramadan Mubarak 🍀

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DiduFuski insha Allah brother. I'm just praying to Allah that he helps me move on quickly. It's really horrible this feeling especially when you the one still thinking about them and they are likely moved on / married

  • @zachp419
    @zachp419 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    “Oh focus on yourself and love yourself” oh my god thank you, people always say that and I’m like I do love myself and focus on myself, that doesn’t stop the sadness. But taking them off the pedestal does

    • @ericnikkolas2676
      @ericnikkolas2676 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

    • @ericnikkolas2676
      @ericnikkolas2676 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ✝2 3 4 9 1 5 2 0 5 2 0 6 3......

  • @KatieShep1722
    @KatieShep1722 4 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    I'm so hurt, I just want this feeling to be over 😔 xx

    • @bryanw5951
      @bryanw5951 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Katie: It’s truly brutal, a genuine punch to the gut. It’s been one year for me and I’m just now coming back around and rediscovering life. My life. My way. Without her. I’m not going to lie, it’s been a long, hard road. Susan helped me tremendously (I did a session with her). Try to give yourself the time and space to go through, and not around, this. I found parts of me I’d lost and other parts I didn’t know existed. I’m a better man now, imo. Peace.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@bryanw5951 thank you dear man!!!

    • @DS-ft6sd
      @DS-ft6sd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      going thourgh the same thing Katie, it is hard and it hurts big time.

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's a horrible feeling. I liked this girl in secondary school and college and haven't seen her since for 4 years now. We both liked each other but we weren't really dating or going out. She didn't seem to want my number plus she doesn't have social media. Over these years I slowly reduced the amount of times I'd think about her until recently before lockdown I heard she might of gotten married and has a child. Now I'm just miserable with life and feel empty. There isn't any other girl I looked at but I think I should give it time as I don't want to look at a girl as a form of 'bandage' for the hole I have

    • @oaklandsoldier5920
      @oaklandsoldier5920 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel the same way. I wish I could die soon.

  • @mifasola1
    @mifasola1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I'm thinking of him now more than ever but my feelings for him have moved to disdain. And that is because during this most horrible time it took a world pandemic to show me his true colors. Not once has he picked up the phone to call and ask how I'm doing. I have absolutely no idea how he is either. I am so glad he is out of my life because maybe some day I'll find someone who truly values me.

    • @africanfufu
      @africanfufu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      mi fa so la not once did you check on him as well. So why are you complaining? He might be saying the same thing about you not reaching out. Move on and be happy 🙂. Be safe

    • @mifasola1
      @mifasola1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@africanfufu I can't reach him because I don't know his number.

  • @Dreamsareareality
    @Dreamsareareality 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    It is a process. Especially if you were blindsided. It has happened in a bad relationship but when it was good it hurts. Only time helps. Day by day my lovely people. Day by day. I agree with Susan. I got to take him down Thank you. ♥️

  • @alyserhyne9336
    @alyserhyne9336 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Such a classy lady.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Alyse Rhyne Thank you

  • @ryanrudnik1251
    @ryanrudnik1251 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    He left after a year and half with no explanation. Got engaged to someone else 3 months later. He once told me that after conversations with his therapist I was the only man he ever truly loved and everyone else he was just in lust with. I think about him everyday. Its exhausting.

  • @kes1582
    @kes1582 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I'm going through this ATM. I know I have to let go and move on...again...I always get dumped...at 54, it's not easy to start again.

  • @MikeJackson690
    @MikeJackson690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Over a year later. Still miss her. She was everything to me, even if it was far from perfect.

    • @MikeJackson690
      @MikeJackson690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Liakman Tips I hope so. Thank you. 😌

    • @unconditionallove4289
      @unconditionallove4289 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I feel the same way about my ex girlfriend. A bit over a year ago too. Trying to move forward everyday and move on. I'd have married her... We will all get through this together! Your not alone @General Waste

    • @MikeJackson690
      @MikeJackson690 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@unconditionallove4289 Thank you for your message and sorry to hear you're in a tough time yourself. It takes a while and you'll have more good days than bad soon. I've been well since I wrote that but on a downer today. Miss the intimacy (that had died) and the company, ya know? Maybe more than the person herself, ha!

  • @lynnmarieanderson1744
    @lynnmarieanderson1744 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Some people, to get over an ex, try to start a new relationship with whoever seems handy. It's a really bad idea. You will just end up feeling ten times worse and dazed and confused. Right now I'm 49 but I'd rather be on my own then going for someone who isn't first rate. I don't want to make mistakes anymore, I want to learn from them and truly become someone that someone else would say they are lucky to have. Susan, you are an inspiration to me.

    • @philipwhitcomb5358
      @philipwhitcomb5358 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can you please elaborate how it can make the feeling ten times worse please? This sounds like my ex girlfriend.

    • @Tgoddx123
      @Tgoddx123 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My problem exactly! When I’m going through a tough breakup I find myself using someone else as a distraction then I end up falling for that person and the cycle repeats over and over again! Lol

    • @cherryblossom9482
      @cherryblossom9482 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are wrong. Starting over with someone new is a survival technique.
      People are comfortable holding on to what's familiar even if it's a toxic situation.
      People are usually afraid to move on because it's unknown territory.
      A new chapter can be better than the old chapter. LET GO & BE BOLD TO START OVER.

  • @amadeo-mysticmusic1542
    @amadeo-mysticmusic1542 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Its weird because it goes in phases , maybe for two months you dont think about an ex at all and suddenly one month youre like: wow.. If only he was here. and you feel like youll never find someone like that again, But hopefully there is hope in love.. its hard nowadays to find True love

  • @nicolewinters
    @nicolewinters 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is fucked after another break up I haven’t forgotten my ex from 5 years ago and damn it’s killing me 😫

  • @LadyofCleves65
    @LadyofCleves65 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Wow that was powerful info. I never looked at it that way. It was my love that poured out on him. I can love again.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes, yes and yes!! You OWN YOUR LOVE>

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think that's what hurts me with the girl I liked. We'd talk about stuff I'd say a little personal. I remember we talked about what time we'd get up in the morning to go college back then 😂. I remember her saying she'd wake up a little early and she'd press the snoooooze button on her clock. I think she was the only person I'd open up to. Sadly as a Muslim most girls don't be actually open about liking someone plus seems like the decent girls get married to people in their family / family friends from the same country and city as them

  • @terrylaguardia6838
    @terrylaguardia6838 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Make sure you give yourself credit “for having the courage to love in a time period where people are paralyzed”. Soooo truuuuue

    • @whiteroseguidance157
      @whiteroseguidance157 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝

    • @whiteroseguidance157
      @whiteroseguidance157 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰

    • @whiteroseguidance157
      @whiteroseguidance157 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Text him on whatsap

    • @whiteroseguidance157
      @whiteroseguidance157 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2 3 4 9 0 5 6 7 3 1 5 3 4

  • @RG-hf4et
    @RG-hf4et 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I still think about a few ex's many years later..............probably because I do not have a relationship now and haven't had one in a long time, partly by choice and partly because I think the good ones are all taken. I try watching comedies to stay happy.
    :-(

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Good remedy

    • @KB-jl9nl
      @KB-jl9nl 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      2&a half men works wonders

  • @AmandaNicolexo
    @AmandaNicolexo ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The part that trips me up the most is the attraction piece. I am so beyond attracted to him and because it’s so rare that I get these strong feelings of admiration and attraction- it makes me want to hold on even when there’s nothing there.

  • @giomukti8595
    @giomukti8595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    YES, YES, YES....& we (TH-cam NATION) officially declare our love for too Susan !!!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gio Mukti Ha ha ha ha Ha you made me laugh and I absolutely adore what you’ve written

  • @jaymean44
    @jaymean44 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Fabulous as always! I’ve recently split up and initially wanted her back. She said she didn’t know how she felt but needed space. Cruel of me to say but I’m not hanging around waiting (well I am because coronavirus has got me stuck at home 24/7) but I’m determined to get my life on track. If she comes back.... then I’ll see how I feel at the time but god now I’m concentrating on me. That doesn’t mean I don’t love her it means I’m moving forward and not prepared to put my life on hold for someone that may not even want me! You’ve helped me so much Susan 🙏 amazing as always ❤️

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I LOVE THIS!! Terrific work Steph.

    • @lv5310
      @lv5310 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Agree. Most times those "I need space" comments are BS. They need space to decide whether it suits them to choose you or the other person they might have lined up. There's alot of space in this world, one doesn't need that much lol

    • @thomastheoalvanov772
      @thomastheoalvanov772 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your story 100% related with mine, stay strong bro!! We will be able to get over this..

  • @wormemc
    @wormemc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Like grief it come in waves for me, both the pain and the thinking about her. But she is no longer on the pedistel. I'm actively distancing myself from her. It's getting better every month so I know I am on the right path. Thanks you the video you are helping me and many others.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Liflow I’m pleased to read that you are feeling better and stronger. Congratulations for the hard work that you have applied to shift your perspective and Liberate your heart

  • @Serita2006
    @Serita2006 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We are so lucky to have your wisdom Susan. Thank you for all you do for your viewers.

  • @Moonstruck292
    @Moonstruck292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you Susan. I was balling my eyes out until you told me I will find love again. I have been thinking of my first love since December 14th. He was my first time. Then he pulled away and slowly stopped texting. Then he blocked me in March. I don’t know what happened. We were talking for nearly 8 months. I love him to this day even though he wronged me. I love him so much. I cry and cry until I can produce no more tears. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest cavity.

    • @CC-br9qg
      @CC-br9qg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This comment reminded me of my situation too, I'm so sorry. Sending hugs ❤️ You are strong

    • @Moonstruck292
      @Moonstruck292 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      C C thank you so much, 2 months later and it’s a little better but he’s my true lover and I can still feel him even if we never see one another again.

    • @saphiresh
      @saphiresh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      a true love would have treated you with the respect you deserve. i would say this person is a stepping stone in your life that will help you understand yourself and what you really want. It always takes a negative occurrence to see this, unfortunately.

    • @Moonstruck292
      @Moonstruck292 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      saphiresh I need to let him out of my soul. I just wanted love back. You are right.

    • @richardeliasjames5190
      @richardeliasjames5190 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Moonstruck292 Never beg for a love. Who doesn't want you don't cry for who don't love you from your soul, let them walk away and rejoice in the christ, you was same as I was she done same with me as you are suffering right now...remember that winners used to do commitment buy the loser always make the promises...

  • @analeahgotay-heart854
    @analeahgotay-heart854 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i’ve been going through a hard time and this randomly popped up on my feed. this really helped and is genuinely making me fix my thought process.. thank you so much.

  • @Alex-yy5oh
    @Alex-yy5oh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love you Susan. Your videos have helped me lots since my breakup and are always therapeutic whenever I feel down.

  • @elfe1982
    @elfe1982 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That went Deep... “You will find love again“ -thank you, l needed to hear this ❤✨

  • @paulasmith3577
    @paulasmith3577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Unfortunately, it’s been 38 years for me. Time DOES NOT heal all wounds. Love never not dies.

    • @RG-hf4et
      @RG-hf4et 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Maybe it's not love but just a very strong emotional attachment and we are calling it love.....?

    • @saltof1
      @saltof1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same happens to me, exactly 38 years. And nothing works! Still missing that person:(

    • @elviafernandez5903
      @elviafernandez5903 ปีที่แล้ว

      how old are you if you don't mind me asking?

    • @nezrinriyas
      @nezrinriyas ปีที่แล้ว

      Whattt??? 🥺 38 years?

  • @elliottstephie
    @elliottstephie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    How wonderfully the Universe is using you, dear Susan, for channeling it’s messages to me. I’ve been still, hooked to the story you already know, since last year. I’ve tried everything, even another relationship, but it broke, because this person still hookes my mind and heart. But I know, that the love I felt or feel is mine and I’m aware that it is in my power to build the happiness I thought I was finding there, on my own and that’s the focus. The problem is, when they call once in a while and then disappear again. Sometimes you are strong and it doesn’t get you, but at isolation times like these... then you are vulnerable. So, when that happens, the only way to get through it (Without giving them the reaction they expect) is to honor that feeling and do your Yoga, ask the Universe for guidance, reach out to friends and focus on doing another step towards your happiness, even if it is a little one, like sending an Email with an application for a new job, or write your affirmations, manifest the qualities that your new love will have and also, work on gaining those qualities in your own persona. It’s a process, longer than I thought. Anxiety is my companion, but I‘m learning how to Deal with It. So, when I wake up, instead of checking My messages, I first go to My Yoga Matt and then meditate. I think, this helps us all to unwhire, little by little. And it’s okay not to get over a person so quickly... When I tell myself that, then I feel that love, I was hoping to get from this person.
    Susan, you saved my sanity back then, and your friendship is a blessing. Please take care!
    Love, Stephanie

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Stephanie Elliott. Sopran Stefanie my dear, I absolutely love what you’ve written. And I hope that other people are reading it. This hot and cold business is absolutely maddening. One minute you’re loved and the next minute you’re confused. And I think it’s that frustration and illogical equation that puts our mind in a tailspin. Nothing makes sense because they are unclear

    • @elliottstephie
      @elliottstephie 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Susan Winter it can really drive you Crazy... So many of us have also developed unhealthy ways of communicating because of this! Sometimes, I feel like Oliver Twist, locked in a basement, looking out the window and asking myself... When did all this madness Beginn? Is it a side product from capitalism? Raise the children to become narcissistic, autistic, codependent, so that they will not connect and fill the void with consumerism? We all need to heal!

    • @terrilee734
      @terrilee734 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      That was deep.i didn't have yoga Matt and will try this in the a.m.

  • @thaismacedo8124
    @thaismacedo8124 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Certainly, Susan. Thank you for the support!

  • @oliviadunkley1146
    @oliviadunkley1146 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Susan, thank you for making these videos. You have such incredible insight into these things, and I love your no-nonsense, calm, positive attitude. Watching your videos is the therapy I need!

  • @angelastewart7327
    @angelastewart7327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was so perfect and timely. With the virus I've been missing him and thinking I wish things could've been different, feeling lonely. Excellent point how we think or worry the person is irreplaceable and fear maybe we'll not meet someone new. And how we have love inside for the next person. Thank you so much, stay safe and love and blessings to you and everyone.

  • @danmilliken
    @danmilliken 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every word of this video is on point. Love your work, Susan. Thank you.

  • @dd-pw8tw
    @dd-pw8tw 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video gave me a whole new perspective on missing him,,,and a beautiful thought to focus on ~
    love flowed (and continues to flow)from me in the first place.
    He was a detached soul who played hot&cold. My self esteem started to seriously suffer from the confusion of his complete immersion in me when together and crazy making distancing when not.
    Susan as you stated in one of your previous videos,,, if you are a clear person who knows what they want then WHAT are you doing with a confused person who doesn’t know what they want. BAM! Game changer here,,,so happy this discussion subject popped up now! stay safe wonderful lady❤️ and thank you for being you

  • @worldtraveller1900
    @worldtraveller1900 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you , Susan.
    You are ALWAYS spot on !

  • @missamericausa
    @missamericausa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m glad I’m over that part in time I do remember how heartbreaking. I feel u guys. I’m sorry. Try n let go.

  • @AshleyNord
    @AshleyNord 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks for this Susan! I made me own video about this last week, specially mourning the loss of an ex during quarantine, as we all know these are very unique circumstances. If there’s one thing I learned, moving on from an ex takes full acceptance. Full acceptance of your pain, where you are at, and also full acceptance that you may still love them. Once you can accept your experience for what it is, the quicker healing can take place.

  • @_rabia_demir_
    @_rabia_demir_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just WOW. This is perfect. Everything you said literally made my jaw drop, it's all so true and you are incredible.

    • @ericnikkolas2676
      @ericnikkolas2676 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

    • @ericnikkolas2676
      @ericnikkolas2676 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ✝2 3 4 9 1 5 2 0 5 2 0 6 3......

  • @marshmellowclouds
    @marshmellowclouds 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wow. This made me break down and cry. Thank you though, as i needed to hear this. A new perspective too ❤️❤️❤️
    Thank you Susan for all your advice! Really appreciate all of it!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hope you feel stronger and clearer... let me know what I can do to help

  • @totonchyms
    @totonchyms 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I needed this today. Thank you Susan.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Excellent. thanks for letting me know

  • @Th3Fab3
    @Th3Fab3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Courage to love in a time period where people are paralyzed.
    Yes, Susan!
    I shall continue to love with courage

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mama Mab Fantastic!

  • @RotationAxle
    @RotationAxle 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Susan, I know you made this in response to a question about someone's ex, but I find that some of this applies to obsessive crushes as well, which is what I'm having problems with. I was never with the coworker I obsessed over, but he rejected me a while back. He has recently left our organization to move on to bigger and better things, and the things you say are helping me survive it and move beyond it so that I can grow my self confidence and live for myself instead of someone else and their shallow expectations. I really appreciate what you said about logic vs. emotions and the "pedestal" that we put these people on, which is only exacerbated by the shallowness highlighted by social media and hook up apps. Thanks for doing what you do.

  • @lisacadogan
    @lisacadogan 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you. I agree that if you don't really have much going on in your life you'll look back and you think that person holds all the happiness you will ever feel. It's hard though. When you've had a number of affairs and you know in your heart and soul you've never felt anything like this and now they have moved on and are with someone else it's enough to drive you crazy!

  • @flopsychdoc4386
    @flopsychdoc4386 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Phenomenal. Thank you so much! Needed this right now and it really helped me move forward a bit.

  • @theodore5511
    @theodore5511 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant! The video just popped out of nowhere when I needed it the most. Thank you

  • @meggyespite424
    @meggyespite424 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are the best. I loved the part about the peeling piece by piece. X

  • @amyleblanc3531
    @amyleblanc3531 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this. I thought I was doing so much better yesterday. Today was hard and what you are saying is true.

    • @amyleblanc3531
      @amyleblanc3531 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      And of course he emailed me yesterday! Crazy how things work. Need to re listen and get myself back on track.

  • @jadehalliday6636
    @jadehalliday6636 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You will find love again 💯💃❤🙏
    That's all I needed to hear. Thank you, Susan! 😘

  • @thk5317
    @thk5317 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't know how to say it more simple, but you have some of the best videos on TH-cam ever. The things you say are so helpful. Thank you so much!

  • @dominiccobb6470
    @dominiccobb6470 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is beautiful! And very wise, I love it

  • @traciezou3768
    @traciezou3768 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is such a touching beautiful share, thanks Susan!!

  • @moonmaiden4197
    @moonmaiden4197 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It’s been 3 years and I’m still obsessed. I dream about him at least 2 times a month. I left HIM btw. Wtf.

    • @steveloafe
      @steveloafe 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Moon Maiden I’ve wondered how much this happens. I wonder if mine does that as well.

    • @moonmaiden4197
      @moonmaiden4197 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      steveloafe ask her

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's been 4 years for me however me and her never really dated or went out though I'm sure we both knew we liked each other. Sadly when you like someone you don't really know one side of they life. I grew up with her in school and don't know what her family life is. I heard she might be married now which really hurt me but I think the 4 years not seeing her may have reduced the severity to how bad id of taken this news.

    • @moonmaiden4197
      @moonmaiden4197 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I don’t think time heals all. Time makes you forget IF you have other things in your life to distract you from thinking about them but most people lead a very normal basic life: work, groceries, home, bed. Plenty of time for the loneliness and feelings to creep back up from past loves. I think once a heart is broken it will always be broken. The key is to find someone who will love your broken heart. I haven’t found him yet.

    • @CC-br9qg
      @CC-br9qg 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      same exact story here

  • @AkaHeart1
    @AkaHeart1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I normally would comment Susan....but you said it all verbatim!! 😊
    I would, however, leave off with one piece of advice to Al, if you don’t mind, and that is “The greatest gift 💝 that GOD blesses us with is the ability to LOVE. Many people have never experienced that kind of LOVE.
    How blessed that AL felt that connection because if you did it once, you’ll do it again!!

  • @lulu_america8855
    @lulu_america8855 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, Susan.

  • @dee0731
    @dee0731 ปีที่แล้ว

    Exactly what I needed to hear today

  • @cinemaria
    @cinemaria 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Susan, as always I love your videos! Thank you for sharing the best advices. You are the best!!

  • @littleman787
    @littleman787 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    All the wisdom out there does say to realise that the person you built up in your head isn't real. But I just know in my heart of hearts that she is that person and could have been for me. It's really tough.

  • @ShivamPandey-qs5su
    @ShivamPandey-qs5su 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much ma'am. All your videos regarding relationship issues are so helpful. Thanks again!!

  • @M_elliote34
    @M_elliote34 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tears. BEST video on TH-cam

  • @terrone346
    @terrone346 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you for your posts. Recently ended a deeply involved relationship, it hurts at times. Watching some of your posts gives me hope to go forward. I go back and forward, not trusting my insights, but that voice of hope is getting louder and clearer. Thank you

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is wonderful to read. Yes, key into that voice of hope

  • @vini648
    @vini648 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're amazing 🙂... I feel more confident now thanks to you

  • @barron4755
    @barron4755 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm struggling to get over a 6 Month Relationship in which I grew extremely attached to Her. The final 60 Seconds of this Video summed it all up for me - What an Brilliant Synopsis, from the Mind of a Brilliant Woman - Thank You, Susan.

  • @saidaelkebir7383
    @saidaelkebir7383 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello Susan love every bit of this video. Thanks for that.

  • @faithsandstrom3883
    @faithsandstrom3883 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful perspective!! Thanks for the pep talk. Im so ready to date but ugh...pandemic and I have my boundaries up so its limited.. working on my recovery of money, house and me. Xoxo

  • @xzuajkgka3479
    @xzuajkgka3479 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the video i never thought i needed. thank you

  • @trinijoyl1720
    @trinijoyl1720 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Its great u all are sharing. we all want love and was hurt in d past. But all tru my life its broken relationships. Am 54! still paying and trusting God to send that person who thinks am Iconic!

  • @vincentruffo5948
    @vincentruffo5948 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hope you and all yours are healthy and well ❤️🤗

  • @vm2958
    @vm2958 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your so awesome I love your way of explaining this to us thank you 🙏🏼

  • @themadmattster9647
    @themadmattster9647 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    2.5 months since breakup. If it weren't for the lockdown, I'd be too distracted out there flirting or going on dates to care.. it just made it worse since its harder to find someone else..that said though..

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      TheMadMattster I agree. People are much more emotional in the time of this quarantine. Hang in there

  • @sejalnansi2757
    @sejalnansi2757 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your an amazing lady Susan .. I absolutely love listening to you ❤️

  • @jennifercarroll7668
    @jennifercarroll7668 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a great summation of how as an individual we can wind back that overflowing love we gave to our ex, and after reeling it in feeling it lodge back in our hearts, ready to spring forth again, hopefully next time on someone who may reciprocate that love.

    • @ellenmichael7833
      @ellenmichael7833 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello you need help

    • @ellenmichael7833
      @ellenmichael7833 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Watapp him

    • @jennifercarroll7668
      @jennifercarroll7668 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ellenmichael7833 isn't that why all of us subscribe to these videos, including you?
      Don't be so judgemental

  • @morwien
    @morwien 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video Susan. Thanks. It’s nearly a year since I broke up with him and not a day I never thought about him. In this time of crisis I have noticed I thought about him so often. Maybe because I still care or sometimes I dont have anything to do, even chatting to guys on online dating is becoming a bore. I want to experience love again. I dont want to rush it but at the same time I want it soon so that I can move on.

  • @venupreethi
    @venupreethi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    U will find love again....how positive...love your videos

  • @nomvula4676
    @nomvula4676 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you😞that hit hard.

  • @michelelodi9538
    @michelelodi9538 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so helpful thank you

  • @mymayapapaya
    @mymayapapaya 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I liked this video a lot and I’ve watched so many break up videos

  • @viciga8801
    @viciga8801 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your inspiring words.

  • @user-lb6sx9sg7f
    @user-lb6sx9sg7f 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's really normal to think about your ex specially the recent ones, sometimes I find myself thinking about an ex from decades ago, she crosses my mind and I think about her for awhile not too much but it happens. You see, each person is a new page in our life and they have an impact somehow therefor, you find yourself reminiscing about that person in a positive way and your emotions get ignited for a moment then the flames wind down, then you shake your head and back to reality.
    Yes, life goes on, and this is part of life.

  • @grahamdoyle3168
    @grahamdoyle3168 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Susan this really helps me.

  • @saullandiof5768
    @saullandiof5768 ปีที่แล้ว

    always such solid advice!

  • @lunallena2933
    @lunallena2933 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Susan!❤❤❤

  • @trannyglitter12
    @trannyglitter12 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    preach GURLFREN. PREACH. thank you

  • @secureconnection5245
    @secureconnection5245 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    A lot of times adrenaline pseudo-love is mistaken for real love. Would be good to hear a video on pseudo-love induced by adrenaline dependency and how to distinguish the two. Thank you so much for your wonderful work!

  • @meenalaregina7770
    @meenalaregina7770 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi! My counsellor helped me to develop an angry poster in which I listed his flaws. I placed that poster in front of my bed and I always had a reminder that he was imperfect. It was a helpful tool. I still miss him but I am conscious that nothing is perfect.

  • @dmalina3
    @dmalina3 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Susan ❤️

  • @jooooosh5281
    @jooooosh5281 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I start to get over her but every once in a while something will remind me of her and it hurts. The song that I associate with her the most came on while I was driving and it reminded me of the great times we had 😓 I get so far into rewiring my brain but then stuff like this comes up and ruins it

  • @elenabelacastre7789
    @elenabelacastre7789 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    JUST DROPPING IN 🐾🐾🐾🦋💃
    HOPE UR DOING WELL, UR A HARD LADY TO FORGET!🐣🐥🦋🦉

  • @Cinder1987
    @Cinder1987 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    ‘Learning how to ride this tiger 🐅’. Great analogy and I don’t mean regarding the Tiger King story either! Lol

  • @teodorgochev3455
    @teodorgochev3455 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Stunning.

    • @godmankyosmutuwa3437
      @godmankyosmutuwa3437 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I recommend you to a man who can help bring your ex within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

    • @godmankyosmutuwa3437
      @godmankyosmutuwa3437 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ___+ 2::3::4::90::18::08::73::01...

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello lovely I know a man who can manifest your love one back to you without delays he was the one that helped me to get back my love within 48 hours

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348051176313⏯⏯⏯⏭⏭

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348051176313⏯⏯⏯⏭⏭

  • @nezrinriyas
    @nezrinriyas ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't wanna love anymore. I just want to heal. I can't imagine of another one in my life. I don't need another one.

  • @edt8535
    @edt8535 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    In between the tears from a broken heart I say thank you…thank you so much for your wise, kind, healing words. It is such a gift in my time of sorrow 😢

    • @godmankyosmutuwa3437
      @godmankyosmutuwa3437 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

    • @godmankyosmutuwa3437
      @godmankyosmutuwa3437 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Whattapps him

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello lovely I know a man who can manifest your love one back to you without delays he was the one that helped me to get back my love within 48 hours

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348051176313⏯⏯⏯⏭⏭

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348051176313⏯⏯⏯⏭⏭

  • @tempsdeloisir938
    @tempsdeloisir938 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    just amazing!

  • @brentwgraham
    @brentwgraham ปีที่แล้ว

    Been two and a half years. She's still wrapped up in my soul. Letting go is very hard.

  • @MrDroenix
    @MrDroenix 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Watched so many of your videos yesterday, they've been helping a lot! Thank you so much Susan for your wonderful videos -- you are a dear soul and you are so blessed! Thank you for your gifts. You have helped so many. You approach the topic of love and relationships from a different angle, a more holistic angle which is needed now by many. I'm curious about your thoughts of synchronicities when it comes to love and relationships? I feel that when I fell for the woman I've never had such a strong feeling of love/attraction for, all the synchronicities, angel numbers, and my spiritual path had opened right up. It was as if she was the awakening for me to correct the dark path I was going down, and opened me up to growth in many ways. Thank you Susan again.

    • @MrDroenix
      @MrDroenix 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Additional note: Would you call her a twin flame? What are your thoughts about twin flames (Divine Masculine, Divine Feminine)?

  • @shellybean826
    @shellybean826 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was with my guy for 3 yrs long distance. It was hard. But I thought we were happy. I actually felt he was my soulmate. I didn’t believe in that. We had been fighting for about two months. He had a friend staying with him and she was getting all his attention. One night we argued. And I thought made up. He said. Ok baby goodnight. I love you. The next day he was gone. Said he was confused. Wanted us to back off and go with the flow. Everything was unacceptable. He really left. After another 10 days he went no communication. Not answering the phone or texts. Which for some reason. I would just text and text pouring out my heart. It’s been two months. I sob everyday. I see him I. The online community. It rips my heart out. I know acting crazy isn’t going to help he is probably over there saying. Whew I dodged a bullet. She is nuts. I want so badly to stop the cycle.

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Really sorry to reading this shelly 😢. Time is the best medicine for something like this. Sounds like he got really hurt also if he said he feels confused. I liked someone but haven't seen them for 4 years until recently I heard she might be married and has a child. I feel miserable, empty and I'd say confused also now. I hope you take care of yourself ❤️

  • @carmenmichaelian8307
    @carmenmichaelian8307 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, that's helpful.

  • @dkay6176
    @dkay6176 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I always love the fact that you will love again. I'm 33 and I went against everything I believed in and fell in love with a 18year old when I said I would never go out with someone that's younger than 23. I wish I listened to not only my life experience but also my gut that told me I should move on and break it off.
    But I'm so lucky that I have had many experiences with break ups so even though we separated I know that life goes on and I will meet someone else.
    I agree with what you said in this video but the only difference with me is that I have to make changes to myself before where I am isn't where I should be.
    But no matter what we will think of our ex's for a long time but it will get less and less until you don't even think of them anymore specially if you fall in love again

    • @ellenmichael7833
      @ellenmichael7833 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello you need help

    • @ellenmichael7833
      @ellenmichael7833 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Watapp him

    • @dkay6176
      @dkay6176 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you but in australia that's a normal thing to be honest

    • @dkay6176
      @dkay6176 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      And trust me from now on im going with my gut feeling and past experiences

  • @smilebecauseyourworthit553
    @smilebecauseyourworthit553 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video. It resonates especially well since my name is also Elle 😭🥺 felt like you were directly addressing to me on the similar situation.

    • @isaacodunayo586
      @isaacodunayo586 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      + 2 3 4 9 0 7 5 7 1 2 9 8 3

    • @adepejufelicia9736
      @adepejufelicia9736 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello lovely I know a man who can manifest your love one back to you without delays he was the one that helped me to get back my love within 48 hours

  • @cbarry88
    @cbarry88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Susan

  • @faithfuldesire8136
    @faithfuldesire8136 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved him beyond life itself. I never let distance and work hinder my ability to be the best I could be to him. He's the one who chased me and promised me faithfulness yet I find numerous other people on his phone by sheer accident. He never sit off a single red flag.
    It took 6 months to work up the courage and confront him only to accuse me of spying and invading his "privacy". Not very private when you leave your notifications on and forget your phone in the bathroom. I cared for him more than his family and that's by his testimony. I never told him no and never angered him. When my mom was sick, he couldn't even bother to ask me why I'm silent. It's like he doesn't notice me anymore. All I'm left with is a gaping wound in my heart. I wish I never cared for anyone. I wish I never was gullible.

    • @peter8283
      @peter8283 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Here's his Whatsapp number

    • @peter8283
      @peter8283 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      +234 8150679296

    • @saphiresh
      @saphiresh 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      We always have a lot of love to give. unfortunately, some recipients do not deserve it. I guess this is all like a drug. we all want that chemical feeling again. im still going through the process of finding something to replicate it, which helps a bit.