I am currently in this area of rebuilding my self-confidence. I am starting to realize and see that I have quite a few different talents. When I was on benzos, I could not clearly see any of them and even if I did it seemed like I was still doing less than I was capable of. I am at a point where I am starting to look at things I actually want to do in life. When I was on benzos it really ruined my confidence, and I was only doing jobs that I thought I was good enough for. One of the scary parts of this process is time because I am still learning patience. My confidence is slowly growing, and I can see that I have a lot to offer to the world and myself. I deserve to have a good life and great things happen to me. When opportunities come my way again, I will have the confidence to take them and appreciate it. I used to think I was never good enough and just didn't have a winning mindset. I was pretty beat down and it is understandable why I was like that, but times are changing. I have the ability to do whatever I want in life, and I just have to keep on the right track. I am starting to Win at life and all this work is going to pay off one day when opportunities come up because I will be ready to pounce. I am good enough Bob Bobarino (a work in progress)
That’s beautiful Bobarino. I used to be the same way. I have begun learning how to be my own best friend and encourager. I’m the only one who ever holds myself back from being able to do ANYTHING. You’re 💯 right- you’re being forged in fire while going through this, and with the amount of growth you’re going through- when opportunities present themselves(and they will) you’ll be the best version of Ben you’ve ever been in your entire life!
@@lidiyas7153 I understand what you are saying. I can't do this alone. I also learned to reach out for help whenever I need it. To continued healing and I am proud of you.
Thanks Dan, Now everyone say Crack my finger!!! Now say it backwards 😂😂😂, I'm Tina from NY and I'm tapering off Valium after 11 yrs...November 18th 2022 started my taper, it's May 6th 2023, down from 10mg to 4.5 mg...You guys can do this, love and light to u all, and a sense of humor ❤❤❤
This is exactly how I feel ...ugh its terrible...I feel like I'll never be myself again ...thank you for these videos it's so helpful.its so hard when noone believes me .
Yes, so many of these symptoms are beyond comprehension. Unless you’ve experienced it, it’s impossible to understand. It’s given me so much compassion for what others have been through that I know nothing about.
I pushed myself out of my comfort zone today and removed a driveshaft out of a truck. Took it up to a shop to replace and press in some u joints. I spoke with people in the shop and felt like I was able to function back in society somewhat (my anxiety was still nuts, but I was able to manage). I took the driveshaft back home and installed it in a transmission. It fixed the trucks problems and was a good test for me. I had to work thru some obstacles mentally, but I was able to do it. I just need to take it slow and keep pushing myself a little more and more. I hope everyone had a great day. Bob-Ben (a work in progress)
@@philosophicalfishing I just typed something really cool and I clicked to the side and it all went away. I was laughing because before I would probably think I am going to take this computer and smash it with a bat LOL😇 Well in summary what I was trying to explain was that I am just really focusing on letting my past go, forgiving myself/others, appreciation, gratitude and just being so blessed to find this community and you Dan. It has given me a safe place to really dig deep going thru this. You are sooo right this process gives you an option of really healing and I mean everything for some reason, or you can choose to push things back down. It is really hard to explain but for me benzos and the looping thoughts etc really will find anything going on with me good or bad. I am exploring and healing both sides. It is intense but cathartic as well. I completely agree and understand what you are saying that nothing will compare to the suffering and benefits gained from this process. You are a pretty cool dude Dan Much love and respect I have grown in the past five months more than my entire life and will have the rest of my life to explore the good and bad the ups and downs. I am getting to a good place, and I need to just take it easy on myself and not rush this too fast. I am getting along with my parents better than ever really strange but great. If things really go sour again it will not really bother me the same way. I would just offer compassion because that would mean they haven't dealt with whatever they need to deal with. Funny thing I am learning thru this is that they actually really do love me and were just doing the best they could do. I believe in a way that me healing is also healing our relationship because if I am not getting better than I am no good to myself or anyone else. Bob Bobarino is growing up look out world LOL. 🤪 I am a massive dork at times. Well, I am going to go take a TV outside and smash it in honor of the good old times just kidding LOL. I hope you and your family have a great weekend and talk with you later buddy B0b-Ben
@@philosophicalfishing You are being to kind but thank you. I could identify with you, and it woke something up inside me that I could do this. It was the spark I needed. I remember looking at your before and after pictures and I recognized that look in your eyes. I was there before as well. I still have a way to go but I have seen enough to know that I can do this. May you and your family be blessed & you have a friend for life in me that's for sure. (Bob Bobarino LOL)
@@philosophicalfishing After I meditated this morning, I was calmly thinking about this topic anxiety and confidence. I can clearly see that most of my anxiety has everything to do with my past and or thoughts of the future. I would loop in my past causing my anxiety to spike sometimes without even knowing. Meditating is helping me practice being present which calms me down and how thoughts just come and go. Granted I am still healing from benzos and my body is still out of wack but I am working at things every morning. This constant working to improve things I have never really focused on is starting to see benefits in my healing. I can see how consistent meditation, gratitude, learning skills, letting go, stop holding on, letting things be and many more tools added to my arsenal will really benefit my life in the long run. "I am OK and good enough". I am going to write this down and post it in the house. This is a big thing for me. This is the hardest thing that I will ever do in my life. I would never have started working on all these things if I wasn't going thru this really tough time. It has gotten so much better in these 5 months clean I can't even believe it to be honest. Where I was at oh man, I would never think I could even make it to where I am this morning. The fact that I am self-aware of this is really motivating and keeps pushing me to get better for the rest of my life. I mean I can't even put into words where I was at during the first 3 months that was some next level stuff. Your right Dan, it does give you confidence to sometimes look back at those dark times and the fact I was able to pull thru. I don't think a lot of people would make it thru that and that is sad. This gives me some extra drive to do it for them and maybe one day help some people in need as well. It is almost impossible to do this alone that is just cruel. Well, I got off topic a bit again LOL. In conclusion my anxiety and confidence will just naturally keep growing with all the work I am putting in during these hard times. I will one day look back at this and say WOW Bob you were not weak like you thought at all. It was the benzos. I am actually very strong to go thru this even if it's still hard to really see this right now. I am going to head outside and chip some golf balls around helps quiet my mind as well. I am blessed to have the time to really focus on this right now. I have lost a lot of things going thru this, but I think it will pay off. It will. 🦾👀 I hope everyone has a great start to there week Bob-Ben
Nice video..... Anxiety is not one single symptom, but it comes with fear, shaking, blurry vision, heavy head, and manifests mental symptoms also like negative thoughts, and it again increases the anxiety. So it's a frustrating loop, where I find myself struck. Now I am almost 5 months off xanax, but due to this anxiety, I feel brain fog, out of my mind, and lost my confidence over my mind. Will it calm down as time passes? How it will subside as our nervous system is triggered by this anxiety every day? Please help
I am currently in this area of rebuilding my self-confidence. I am starting to realize and see that I have quite a few different talents. When I was on benzos, I could not clearly see any of them and even if I did it seemed like I was still doing less than I was capable of. I am at a point where I am starting to look at things I actually want to do in life. When I was on benzos it really ruined my confidence, and I was only doing jobs that I thought I was good enough for. One of the scary parts of this process is time because I am still learning patience. My confidence is slowly growing, and I can see that I have a lot to offer to the world and myself. I deserve to have a good life and great things happen to me. When opportunities come my way again, I will have the confidence to take them and appreciate it. I used to think I was never good enough and just didn't have a winning mindset. I was pretty beat down and it is understandable why I was like that, but times are changing. I have the ability to do whatever I want in life, and I just have to keep on the right track. I am starting to Win at life and all this work is going to pay off one day when opportunities come up because I will be ready to pounce.
I am good enough
Bob Bobarino (a work in progress)
That’s beautiful Bobarino. I used to be the same way. I have begun learning how to be my own best friend and encourager. I’m the only one who ever holds myself back from being able to do ANYTHING. You’re 💯 right- you’re being forged in fire while going through this, and with the amount of growth you’re going through- when opportunities present themselves(and they will) you’ll be the best version of Ben you’ve ever been in your entire life!
@@philosophicalfishing 🙏You are helping guide me into the light.
Great content Dan! This is such an important message. People in the height of withdrawal can’t here this enough. Thank you brother! -R
Dan you're saving lives, God Bless You🙏🏼
🙏🏻❤️
He is saving mine
@@bobbobarino6213 Oh mine too... I'm finding comfort and hope in his videos as I go through this hardest time of my life... I hope we will survive😭😭😭
@@lidiyas7153 I understand what you are saying. I can't do this alone. I also learned to reach out for help whenever I need it. To continued healing and I am proud of you.
@@bobbobarino6213 Thank you so much.... I'm so scared😔
Your channel is one of the most positive in the whole benzo community ♥️
Thank you! ✌🏻
Thanks Dan, Now everyone say Crack my finger!!! Now say it backwards 😂😂😂, I'm Tina from NY and I'm tapering off Valium after 11 yrs...November 18th 2022 started my taper, it's May 6th 2023, down from 10mg to 4.5 mg...You guys can do this, love and light to u all, and a sense of humor ❤❤❤
Keep laughing!!
Hi Dan thanks for continuing to carry the message. God bless you💙
Thanks Peggy!
Good man
This is exactly how I feel ...ugh its terrible...I feel like I'll never be myself again ...thank you for these videos it's so helpful.its so hard when noone believes me .
Yes, so many of these symptoms are beyond comprehension. Unless you’ve experienced it, it’s impossible to understand. It’s given me so much compassion for what others have been through that I know nothing about.
I pushed myself out of my comfort zone today and removed a driveshaft out of a truck. Took it up to a shop to replace and press in some u joints. I spoke with people in the shop and felt like I was able to function back in society somewhat (my anxiety was still nuts, but I was able to manage). I took the driveshaft back home and installed it in a transmission. It fixed the trucks problems and was a good test for me. I had to work thru some obstacles mentally, but I was able to do it. I just need to take it slow and keep pushing myself a little more and more. I hope everyone had a great day.
Bob-Ben (a work in progress)
You’re going to heal Bob- I just know it. Keep trucking man!
@@philosophicalfishing I just typed something really cool and I clicked to the side and it all went away. I was laughing because before I would probably think I am going to take this computer and smash it with a bat LOL😇
Well in summary what I was trying to explain was that I am just really focusing on letting my past go, forgiving myself/others, appreciation, gratitude and just being so blessed to find this community and you Dan. It has given me a safe place to really dig deep going thru this. You are sooo right this process gives you an option of really healing and I mean everything for some reason, or you can choose to push things back down. It is really hard to explain but for me benzos and the looping thoughts etc really will find anything going on with me good or bad. I am exploring and healing both sides. It is intense but cathartic as well. I completely agree and understand what you are saying that nothing will compare to the suffering and benefits gained from this process.
You are a pretty cool dude Dan
Much love and respect
I have grown in the past five months more than my entire life and will have the rest of my life to explore the good and bad the ups and downs. I am getting to a good place, and I need to just take it easy on myself and not rush this too fast. I am getting along with my parents better than ever really strange but great. If things really go sour again it will not really bother me the same way. I would just offer compassion because that would mean they haven't dealt with whatever they need to deal with. Funny thing I am learning thru this is that they actually really do love me and were just doing the best they could do. I believe in a way that me healing is also healing our relationship because if I am not getting better than I am no good to myself or anyone else. Bob Bobarino is growing up look out world LOL. 🤪 I am a massive dork at times.
Well, I am going to go take a TV outside and smash it in honor of the good old times just kidding LOL.
I hope you and your family have a great weekend and talk with you later buddy
B0b-Ben
@@bobbobarino6213 you continue to be an inspiration to myself and others. You’re healing journey is so powerful!
@@philosophicalfishing You are being to kind but thank you. I could identify with you, and it woke something up inside me that I could do this. It was the spark I needed. I remember looking at your before and after pictures and I recognized that look in your eyes. I was there before as well. I still have a way to go but I have seen enough to know that I can do this.
May you and your family be blessed &
you have a friend for life in me that's for sure. (Bob Bobarino LOL)
@@philosophicalfishing After I meditated this morning, I was calmly thinking about this topic anxiety and confidence. I can clearly see that most of my anxiety has everything to do with my past and or thoughts of the future. I would loop in my past causing my anxiety to spike sometimes without even knowing. Meditating is helping me practice being present which calms me down and how thoughts just come and go. Granted I am still healing from benzos and my body is still out of wack but I am working at things every morning. This constant working to improve things I have never really focused on is starting to see benefits in my healing. I can see how consistent meditation, gratitude, learning skills, letting go, stop holding on, letting things be and many more tools added to my arsenal will really benefit my life in the long run. "I am OK and good enough". I am going to write this down and post it in the house. This is a big thing for me.
This is the hardest thing that I will ever do in my life. I would never have started working on all these things if I wasn't going thru this really tough time. It has gotten so much better in these 5 months clean I can't even believe it to be honest. Where I was at oh man, I would never think I could even make it to where I am this morning. The fact that I am self-aware of this is really motivating and keeps pushing me to get better for the rest of my life. I mean I can't even put into words where I was at during the first 3 months that was some next level stuff. Your right Dan, it does give you confidence to sometimes look back at those dark times and the fact I was able to pull thru. I don't think a lot of people would make it thru that and that is sad. This gives me some extra drive to do it for them and maybe one day help some people in need as well. It is almost impossible to do this alone that is just cruel. Well, I got off topic a bit again LOL.
In conclusion my anxiety and confidence will just naturally keep growing with all the work I am putting in during these hard times. I will one day look back at this and say WOW Bob you were not weak like you thought at all. It was the benzos. I am actually very strong to go thru this even if it's still hard to really see this right now. I am going to head outside and chip some golf balls around helps quiet my mind as well. I am blessed to have the time to really focus on this right now. I have lost a lot of things going thru this, but I think it will pay off. It will. 🦾👀
I hope everyone has a great start to there week
Bob-Ben
Nice video..... Anxiety is not one single symptom, but it comes with fear, shaking, blurry vision, heavy head, and manifests mental symptoms also like negative thoughts, and it again increases the anxiety. So it's a frustrating loop, where I find myself struck. Now I am almost 5 months off xanax, but due to this anxiety, I feel brain fog, out of my mind, and lost my confidence over my mind.
Will it calm down as time passes?
How it will subside as our nervous system is triggered by this anxiety every day?
Please help
You're a little more positive. I like it. Maybe do some comic relief too.
🙏