Reasons to Stay Alive

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  • @gracebasma
    @gracebasma ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and have done since I was a child. I am now 21. You’ve saved me. I’ve watched your videos for years and years. Every time I feel unable to cope, I watch one of your videos and it calms me right down. You are incredible. You’re so soothing healing to listen to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @Rmoralez2704
    @Rmoralez2704 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Thank you Douglas for not editing that part out at the end when you got emotional. It shows how invested you are in your work. As far as I know, there's no one else on TH-cam doing what you do. Man, I can really relate. There's no pain like psychological pain. You are extremely strong for going through depression and making it through multiple times like you have. Your videos have given me hope that I can make it too.

  • @AlexisLynn10
    @AlexisLynn10 4 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    Douglas how are you?? I'm concerned. You don't know me but your videos have helped me immensely over the past couple of years. Thank you for everything you do. I hope you are well ❤ You have supported all of your viewers in hard times. Please reach out to US if you need help.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Thanks for your concern. I am surviving the pandemic and working on my new book on suicide prevention. If you know of anybody who would like to give me feedback on the manuscript, they can email me.

    • @briandickson7674
      @briandickson7674 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Amen 🙏

    • @josejimenaz
      @josejimenaz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's an adventure to heal from mental illness

    • @Instkarma9765
      @Instkarma9765 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too Douglas. Your videos have helped me during the darkest times. I’m soon to be retired and feel there’s nothing for me since I’m childless and single and cannot seem to find a partner. The apps are not the best method since we’re just number. Friends seem to fall away too. I need to learn not to share innermost thoughts with people so they use against me. At this point, i don’t have reasons…just up until it’s time to retire i guess.

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    every waking moment is a war but i realize i more resourceful about surviving so much hell to keep moving forward.

  • @Alexandra-fr1rz
    @Alexandra-fr1rz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Imagine a place where it’s always night and you are holding on faith for a dawn that never comes

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Perhaps the dawn is just around the corner. Are you reaching out for support?

    • @josejimenaz
      @josejimenaz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tats why we reach out positively😊

  • @tortoisegamer5804
    @tortoisegamer5804 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I'm coming to the end of my training as a counsellor. As a man who has been conditioned not to show emotions, I still sometimes struggle to show them and, when I do, I can feel ashamed. Your humility when showing your own shows me that I can do the same. I shall remember this when working with my clients. Thank you Douglas.

    • @luguy8347
      @luguy8347 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Tortoise Gamer I encourage and celebrate your success of awareness, best wishes in your chosen profession.

    • @aprilmetz1770
      @aprilmetz1770 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      How are you doing 1 year later?

  • @leonardoandresvetencourtp3869
    @leonardoandresvetencourtp3869 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Sometimes I don't know how I will get out of depression but I try to gather all the hope I can to keep going, and for all of you who are struggling too I want you to know that I love you and you can overcome the pain you're facing

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for your encouraging comment

    • @tarathe.creator
      @tarathe.creator 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Love you too ❤

    • @leonardoandresvetencourtp3869
      @leonardoandresvetencourtp3869 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@tarathe.creator At the end, I did get out of depression, and now I'm certain you all can too, depression too shall pass, as peace and contentment too shall arrive

  • @mila7809
    @mila7809 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I don't want to leave my dog 😔 He is the only reason I am here... living hell
    Can't leave him 🐾❤️

  • @Thereal_prettyinblack
    @Thereal_prettyinblack 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    All I have valued and cared for were taken away from me by others. 19 years of relationship, work I loved for the first time in my life, friends, love of my life, self respect, belief in my abilities.... I fought hard, but last 2-3 years is a never ending rolling down.
    Only my kids keeps me here. Nothing else. Everything I look at is meaningless, half translucent. It's hard to open my mouth to speak, to raise eyes to look at something. I don't look forward anything.

    • @sana-cm7oc
      @sana-cm7oc 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep. My family ghosted me because spouse is covert narcissist. Now just waiting until my mom dies. She is the onky reason I am still here.

  • @వంశీ-ఱ7ఞ
    @వంశీ-ఱ7ఞ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    When depressed everything is utter pointless even I know this too shall pass .

  • @NZHeike
    @NZHeike 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We have lots of animals; 2 goats, 3 sheep, 2 horses, 2 cats and one dog. When I went away for one week, one of the cats was really upset and screamed so that my partner was really concerned about the cat's health. The day I came back, the cat was healed. He just missed me so much. I love my animals so much.

  • @BossmanCCrowder1
    @BossmanCCrowder1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I’m still trying to find my reason to stay alive. I’m in my late 20s, single. So much of my life has been a struggle, I feel it’s all been one huge depressive episode. I can find things that make me happy, but nothing gives me joy. When things get worse I’m so afraid I’m not going to be able to go on. The past couple months have been extremely tough with everything going on in the world. Thanks Doug for the videos.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Hang in there. The 20s are tough decade. Things get better as you get older. Your best days are yet to come

    • @Frantictoad
      @Frantictoad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true what he said. I had such horrible time in my 20s ugghh. Things got so much better once I reached my 30s
      World is a beautiful place to experience

    • @DishantKothia
      @DishantKothia 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Did you find one? Are you there?

  • @clairejohnson1059
    @clairejohnson1059 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m here right now because of this video. A year later and I just ran across of this video. Thank you

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks Claire. I received your email and sent you a reply. Let me know if you received it. Thanks.

  • @ght0412
    @ght0412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I know one day I’ll be in an airport, moving to the city of my dreams and think « I’m glad I made it »

  • @XinTian100
    @XinTian100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your presence has made me survived.. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and for being here.. You are a hero to me.. Thank you from all my heart

  • @LauraWoods
    @LauraWoods 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When you paused near the end of the video, I finished your sentence. Life has tested me severely many times. Going into my fifth year of treating Lyme, mold, thyroid/adrenal issues, and insomnia while living with my abusive ex husband and disabled son. I searched for help on TH-cam and you were there! Profound thanks! God bless you!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Laura what Sentence was it that you mentioned

    • @LauraWoods
      @LauraWoods 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DouglasBloch That you hang on minute to minute sometimes.

  • @Cat-bz7tm
    @Cat-bz7tm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Quality is in the small things. Sitting in the garden , with a cup of tea, reading a book ,walking in nature, seing the trees and wildlife .

  • @jessicawassung8431
    @jessicawassung8431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Every day, while I'm getting dressed, I listen to your videos so that I don't have to start my day feeling alone. You have helped me so much. You help me to keep my recovery first and foremost in my mind everyday and be aware of my thoughts and what my brain is doing, and help me to fight back. I'm still only living a half life; my kids don't have the mom that they deserve yet, and my husband is a saint for having to deal with a wife that can only make it out of bed 3 to 5 hours a day. But I haven't given; I keep listening to your videos, I keep getting out of bed, and I keep praying. And seeing your tears today tells me that you truly care about what you're doing here, and now I know that I'm not doing this alone. Thank you so much.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks you for kind words. I've always said that people who suffer from depression are more courageous than the ordinary person, because it takes strength to fight on in spite of the pain. Have you read any of my books?

    • @jessicawassung8431
      @jessicawassung8431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@DouglasBloch I haven't yet, and I really, really hope to in the future. I have to say, it doesn't feel so courageous hiding here in my room most of the day, being afraid to leave my home. But I just keep trying to push myself.

    • @genesisperez-caban3350
      @genesisperez-caban3350 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jessicawassung8431 how r u feeling now?

    • @brianw.5230
      @brianw.5230 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you feeling, Jessica?
      God Bless.

  • @Sceneuzimd
    @Sceneuzimd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Douglas. Although this is the first video of yours I've watched, I feel somewhat better. I've found that one of my reasons to keep living is because of my little brother. He is going to turn 7 in December. I want to see him grow, and help him. Even though we fight alot, I really love him. That's why. He would not want to grow up and remember his dead sibling, instead of having them there with him. I'm gonna turn 14 next month, and that seems like something I could look forward to. And that's all. :)

  • @VIncentSunflowers
    @VIncentSunflowers 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You're such a kind beacon, Douglas. Thank you for your presence on TH-cam. From my teen years until my early thirties I struggled with my identity and felt unworthly of life. Although I never tried to take my life, the thought honestly plagued me. Long story short, AlAnon and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) helped me find self-worth as well as place my personal issues in manageable order. I am nearly sixty now! I hope everybody here comes to know how valuable they are.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's a beautiful testimony. Aren't 12 step groups wonderful?

  • @jpmcfluffies9451
    @jpmcfluffies9451 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you Doug. I was getting so much better in April and into May and then things took a turn for the worst again. This crap is just not easy. I hope you know how valuable your videos are. You are changing lives. Thanks Doug.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm glad they have been helpful

  • @Gumsheils
    @Gumsheils 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Reading scripture is very helpful, it helps put things into perspective. As Jesus said 18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. (John 15:18-19). So Jesus proves any dislike by the world is not personal its just because a person is behaving a way that the world doesn't like.

  • @ddog5858
    @ddog5858 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I want to keep living for my family, and also my sweet parents who gave me life and love and I want to honor them and complete the journey successfully

  • @karengriffiths9549
    @karengriffiths9549 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One breath as a time
    I do hope I can get through this episode.
    Am just exhausted I tried to go with it but some days I feel like I'm in a battle with me when I feel dispair frustrated suicidal I'm just tired doug
    Iv cryed that much am exhausted.
    Iv had shingles 12 times so far this year and I have M.E.
    I'd love to get back into my hobbies
    But at the moment all I can do is rest up.
    Thank you doug
    Peace love and light xxx

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Peace and love to you. Keep reaching out. Keep being courageous. I have a chapter in my new book I would love to send you that I think will help. Send me an email and I will respond

  • @samikalastaja
    @samikalastaja 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Douglas for your videos. Last week I watched some of them and now I watch this and paused at 1:54 to write down these questions and trying to answer them. People who are reading - don't give up. I'm 44 and I've had struggle with my mental health since the age of 23.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome. And I agree with your message. Don't give up five minutes before the miracle

  • @veggiemetal7812
    @veggiemetal7812 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The last minute of this video has played on repeat inside my head. Very powerful. It's been a painful week due to a sudden flare up of sciatica, a bad head/chest cold, and typical mental tumultuousness on top of all that...
    You are my rock, Douglas Bloch. 🙏

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm glad the vet last-minute was helpful. What did I say? Have you heard from Robert

    • @veggiemetal7812
      @veggiemetal7812 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DouglasBloch Yes I heard from Robert. Thanks again for putting me in touch with him. I'm referring to the part when you say "All it takes to survive is to hold on not a day at a time, not an hour or a minute at a time but a breath at a time. If you can do that you will survive whatever you're going through." Plus seeing you get emotional from it makes it feel very relatable to us.

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    yes doug life happens very very fast so be consistent about pursuing your dreams.

  • @rachitjoshi23
    @rachitjoshi23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Why depression is worst in the morning or when you wake up and gets better and better as the day progress .

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That is the way that depression cycles

    • @rachitjoshi23
      @rachitjoshi23 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DouglasBloch . Haha 😂. Claire weeks also said the same thing about anxiety 😂. I wish there is some alien technology to cure it. Haha

  • @karentemprendola8806
    @karentemprendola8806 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your raw emotion and tears you shared. It shows that we are all only human, and we need others to love, listen, and be there for us. You have so much great knowledge to share. This helps me and probably so many others. I want to see my grandchildren only because it is my son's choice that he wants children, and to be there for my pets and loved ones. This alone gives me a purpose to get up in the morning. We really don't realize most of the time how much our family and good friends really need us.

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Memories bout goin to fine dining places or restaurants keeps me alive

  • @life5161
    @life5161 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't think I'd have made it through these last couple years minus Douglas videos. Thank you again Sir

  • @miriamcedillo4431
    @miriamcedillo4431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God Bless You Dr. Bloch! Personally I harbor a somewhat perverted sense of 'Pride' in not really having a good reason to stay alive!...Yet I do! Being alone in my 70s now, with no loved ones and only a few distant cousins that I don't contact that often because they have their own busy lives and families to care for, only the last two reasons you listed above; to experience the Future, and to enjoy the little things in life, would probably apply to me. Here's a reason I think few would ever had listed, thought I'm sure I'm not the only who uses the following reason to stay alive. About 8 years ago I suffered both a Pulmonary Embolism and a resulting heart attack on the same day. I think the only reason I survived this devastating medical crisis combo is that I was in a hospital parking lot, to visit my dying father in an end-of-life care ward there, and was assisted to Emergency by kind visitors who noticed my distress. To make a long story short, while I was recovering I thought, "Why did God keep me alive?" To my way of thinking, of ALL the people who was dying or close to death that same day, who deserved to live for all the reasons you listed, but unfortunately did die, why did HE keep me alive? The last person I truly loved, and cared for, for the last 18 years of his life, was dying (he passed while I was still in Intensive Care). I invested so much of my life in taking care of him that I really didn't know what to do with my life after he was gone. But, as I thought about it more, the only logic I could see from it was that "God'; Creative Source; All-That-Is, etc. MUST have had a reason for me to stay alive. So 'Alive' I will stay, just to see, day by day, what is happening to this World and my Fellow Man...and hoping for a "Happy End' for us all.

  • @johnmccann8319
    @johnmccann8319 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Just at the end when you got very emotional it showed your humility and humanity.I look foreward to seeing and listening to YOU again Douglas.Keep strong!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks John. I was wondering if anybody was going to comment on that. By the way I love that Joni Mitchell painting from her album clouds. Or perhaps it’s a different album.

    • @richardccarrot
      @richardccarrot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@DouglasBloch You are a wonderful man Douglas. Thank you for all you do. It upset me to see you upset. Thank you for being here.

    • @user-u7u8b
      @user-u7u8b 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@richardccarrot I got so upset about it too. I'm sending you so much love, Douglas ❤ And to everyone reading this, I love you guys, we can do it.

  • @mikeh5431
    @mikeh5431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Douglas! You have a very calming effect on me. Keep up your great work!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That is my intention. I'm working on a new book on suicide prevention called "when it hurts too much to live."

  • @colinbrown1351
    @colinbrown1351 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i will survived just to show my critics i CAN do it one day at a time

  • @thomasangelo4629
    @thomasangelo4629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you I need it to hear this

  • @Joe_Parmesan
    @Joe_Parmesan ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What if none of this applies? I drove away all family and friends, don't have pets, don't really look forward to anything. Even after a year of having a general upswing (work, school, working out, good diet, consistent sleep schedule, etc.), I've fallen back down to a pit of no hope. What's next? Why stay?

  • @PMW42
    @PMW42 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are so inspirational, Douglas and are very easy to listen to. I purchased your "Healing from Depression" book. I'm already on chapter 10, the first weekend of receiving it. You truly are a God send to many people suffering and are loved and looked up to. Be very proud of yourself. I wish you continued success in all aspects of your life as you enrich so many other lives.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad the book is helpful. Unfortunate only sold about 200 copies a year. I hope that one day it is available to more people

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    another amazing way is to look at extraordinary videos and determination memories of your past tat can help u through so much hell

  • @naturesrhythm8506
    @naturesrhythm8506 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Bless you Douglas, I hope you're doing okay in these strange times

  • @JKRoman
    @JKRoman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think this is your best video yet, it’s so true about just taking it a minute and breath at a time. Thank you Doug and I’m so grateful that you are alive. Reason #7- Doug needs to live to make people have hope!

  • @blakeparker6588
    @blakeparker6588 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks Douglas! I've been suffering from Anxiety for 3 years. This video really helps.

  • @einsteindarwin8756
    @einsteindarwin8756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Douglas this is one of my favorite videos. Thank you! And our of all the TH-cam channels I’ve seen, this one received the most positive feedback. If you were a restaurant or hotel you would be a 5 star!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for Your kind words

  • @mandieeleaver3321
    @mandieeleaver3321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So many people have sad moments. I’m having a sad moment. Thank you for the good information. It’s important to remember.

  • @EMC-08
    @EMC-08 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Douglas thank you so much! Your videos are helping as I go through this 6th round of relapse. But you give me so much hope and inspiration!! I always try to tell myself like you always say ...... “this too shall pass!” Take care Douglas, see you on the next live chat!!

  • @k.ravishankar5063
    @k.ravishankar5063 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks Douglas. Hope you are doing well 😊

  • @steffc6914
    @steffc6914 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Douglas, your channel saved my life. Thank you for being here ❤

  • @wordscaninspire114
    @wordscaninspire114 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Awe bless you Douglas for not missing a day xxxx 💚

  • @riverjao
    @riverjao 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks so much for your videos Doug! I’m a father, husband, and pastor who has chronic back problems which cause suicidal depression and incessant anxiety attacks. I’m currently on Lexapro which has helped tremendously with anxiety attacks and quite a bit with depression. I watch your videos from time to time and I really appreciate all you do to help people. Today was a rough day and your videos have helped me a lot! Thanks 🙏

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're more than welcome. What part of the world do you live in?

    • @riverjao
      @riverjao 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Douglas Bloch I’m originally from TN but I’ve lived in Kalamazoo, MI since 2013.

    • @brianw.5230
      @brianw.5230 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@riverjaoHow are you feeling now?
      I'll pray for you. God Bless.

  • @PhilWard-v7o
    @PhilWard-v7o 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Douglas the reason for you to stay alive is for all the wonderful assistance, advice and help you offer in guiding us who suffer. I send you much gratitude for all you do and for the help you have offered me.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m glad I can be of help

  • @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776
    @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thankyou for this I’ve survived my tw suicidal episodes as well and I’m doing much better thanks to many things including what you do Thankyou so much 👏🏻💛

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If you have survived a suicidal episode perhaps you might be interested in looking at my manuscript of my new book on suicide prevention. I write about tools and coping strategies and I'm looking for people who have been suicidal to give me feedback on whether or not the information is helpful. If you would like me to email you a few chapters please email me, douglasbloch@gmail.com

    • @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776
      @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Douglas Bloch yeah absolutely I’ll give you my email!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Are you going to email it to me or simply place it here

    • @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776
      @plantxarmybtsgrowth5776 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Douglas Bloch Hi! I believe my email went through if not I can send it through again!😊👍🏻

  • @Mma-Guy
    @Mma-Guy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just have no friend left Doug, I don't want to be alone anymore, being as alone as I am makes life not worth living
    Ether way I still appreciate your videos

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Have you thought about reaching out to a therapist for joining support groups. Or maybe even joining a club or taking a class. These are ways that you can meet people. Having a counselor can be very helpful and supportive. I encourage you to reach out if you can

    • @Mma-Guy
      @Mma-Guy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DouglasBloch I did martial arts which really was the spark to my life, something happened the last time I was at a new gym and I never felt comfortable, or right to go back there. Maybe I need to find a new gym, but I just took it as it was that part of my life ending because I never had the motivation or want to go to another gym, but yes I need some form of group. Thank you

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I suggest you try another gym. You might have a different experience. Also if you go to the website of the national alliance on mental illness you might be able to find support groups in your area. nami.org you might also want to look at the website of the Depression bipolar support alliance

  • @gaellemaz3727
    @gaellemaz3727 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My best friend was Cannelle. She was a beautiful dog. She passed away last summer at the good old age of 13 years old. It took me weeks to get over her death and still when I think of her, I get emotional. She gave me unconditional love. A year before she passed away, I had rescued a little terrier mixed (a little male). He is now my companion. I also rescued a little black cat who had been abandoned by its mother. He too is my friend. He is the feral cat who meows at my window every morning because, he wants to come in. I am allergic to cats but I let him in. I prefer the company of animals to the company of humans. I have made my home a "human-free zone". It is going to stay that way.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Like many others kind of you have discovered the healing power of pets

  • @stopkafirophobia
    @stopkafirophobia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Beautiful video, Douglas. You really add a unique and personal human touch to your mental health videos. Some great practical solutions in this video too! Keep on truckin’, and know that you are a loved man, Douglas Bloch! ❤️

  • @megg.1610
    @megg.1610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m really enjoying your videos! I feel more hopeful and inspired now. Thank You!

  • @luguy8347
    @luguy8347 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh Douglas......❤️❤️❤️ So well spoken, straight from the heart, that’s what makes you so special. Thank you.

  • @roxyskittens
    @roxyskittens 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Excellent video! I'm so glad you are here, you are invaluable!
    Sending you hugs and love! 🤗😊

  • @catmando4448
    @catmando4448 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes, one breath at a time. It sounds like it may help me. Thank you, Douglas.

  • @BellydancingAmazon
    @BellydancingAmazon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    For me its definitely my dogs that keep me going.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, that is very common for a pet to be a reason to stay alive

  • @meghanwilcox5453
    @meghanwilcox5453 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dude I love your channel! I love how honest and vulnerable you are! It’s actually comforting to know that a psychologist has felt these feelings too. Thanks for all your advice!

  • @epicmage82
    @epicmage82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh sweet a list of 5 things I don't have nice. Staying alive a breath at a time is about right. Whenever I here someone say things will get better always makes me so angry. I've been told this for 30 years. Yeah for some things get better. Some of us are just broken into small pieces that there's no putting ourselves together again.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When I was suicidal, I could not think of any reasons to stay alive. However, there were some reasons that I did not want to die, such as the fear of death or not wanting to who people who would be left behind. Here is a link from my new website that lists reasons not to die instead of reasons to stay alive. Let me know if you can identify with any of them. I hope you can. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com/home/reasons-to-stay-alive/reasons-not-to-make-an-attempt-2/

  • @tritonefreeze4058
    @tritonefreeze4058 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for the video, Douglas. I will try to go one breath at a time and focus on things to look forward to in the coming weeks. Stay well sir.

  • @coffeebunnyxo
    @coffeebunnyxo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Douglas. Such an uplifting video. Great advice as always. I nearly cried when you cried too! You have come so far and I hope I get there too

  • @Dead00017
    @Dead00017 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I never thought I'd be searching for this kind of video:'\ ....i dont know what is the purpose of life anymore ugh
    So young yet my life so hard
    (Thanks sir!)

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are welcome

    • @magdalenakedzior6716
      @magdalenakedzior6716 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you today? I hope better. Sending hugs 😊

  • @marianocimmino9939
    @marianocimmino9939 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    God bless you Doug. You're a beautiful soul!

  • @k.ravishankar5063
    @k.ravishankar5063 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Douglas. U r a brave soul.became little emotional.dont worry

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    biking around a nice neighborhood might help with nice trees and nature

  • @Lauren-mz2dh
    @Lauren-mz2dh ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow this is unbelievably comforting. Feel I’m in the room with you. What a blessing you are happy to have found your videos

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m very glad my videos have been helpful to you

  • @analiunajar857
    @analiunajar857 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Douglas, you are a big inspiration! Your videos are super helpful. Life is worthy for people like you!

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your kind words

  • @willdepaula3902
    @willdepaula3902 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ok, with all due respect, those reasons to stay alive strike me more as excuses to keep going out of fear of death. Life, like anything else in it, is a cost-benefit endeavor. Do the benefits justify the cost? Sooner or later, if we're honest with ourselves, the answer becomes inevitably a hard no. In my 20s I had barely seen or experienced much of what life had to offer. So yes, life at that point was a promising situation packed full of still-to-be-fulfilled dreams. At 50 I have traveled the world, loved, been loved, gotten stoned, drunk, taken a selfie with the Monalisa, been to many concerts, been married, and done everything I ever wanted. There's nothing else left but the routine of being alive. Either through aging or lack of resources to fulfill our dreams many of us come to that one moment of clarity when it's obvious that we have outlived life's benefits.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maybe there are still some experiences awaiting you. Perhaps You can ask to be shown a purpose in life

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i want to live for the library wealth of knowledge and wisdom there

  • @JD-rn8er
    @JD-rn8er 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Douglas, May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and at ease. A Blessing for you and all you do for others.

  • @youtubeneedsfix
    @youtubeneedsfix 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was helpful. Thank you for sharing this one and good luck for future ones.

  • @galacticgirl2286
    @galacticgirl2286 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Douglas! As both a new therapist, and one who struggles with depression and anxiety - this information is invaluable! So funny I was just talking about Viktor Frankl - and the girl who spoke of "those three" the tiny leafs she could see from her window. Thanks again - look forward to reading your work!💚

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Who is the girl who spoke of those tiny leafs. Was she in Victor Frankl's book? Are you thinking of reading my book healing from depression?

  • @unknownname9893
    @unknownname9893 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    cured my depression thank you

  • @astridriver
    @astridriver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much, Douglas

  • @pianonites
    @pianonites 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Living is difficult for people with mental health issues . I think that support it absolutely key here. The more resources you have around you, the better your chances, in fact the certain your chances are of surviving. Unfortunately, not everyone survives happily, but it is better than the carnage presented by the alternative. Good luck everyone.

  • @josejimenaz
    @josejimenaz ปีที่แล้ว

    A smart way of answering tat question ask yourself where wat who do you see myself happily ever after.

  • @shiaaboi4282
    @shiaaboi4282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    And they say everything happens for a reason but sometimes I feel like I see no reason why some things are happening in my life.

  • @jemgem9593
    @jemgem9593 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bless you and thank you Douglas. What a wonderful, perfect, practical video. So helpful, useful, meaningful, and true 💙☀️💙☀️

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are welcome. Did you get my email about sending in the chess problem?

  • @వంశీ-ఱ7ఞ
    @వంశీ-ఱ7ఞ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    It's like living dead and numb 😭 , feel like Utter pointless to live. Mental Epidemic and it's resistant.

    • @rustinholliday2252
      @rustinholliday2252 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Try to change your environment and it may drastically change you.

    • @graciedzuba6698
      @graciedzuba6698 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      i love you. you have a purpose

    • @alexevans7478
      @alexevans7478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      We are gonna all be gone eventually so might aswell stick around as long as we can😂

    • @wordscaninspire114
      @wordscaninspire114 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Been there too. But life is better than the alternative. Have hope 🌞🙏🏻

    • @juniemom1
      @juniemom1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      me too

  • @euanelliott3613
    @euanelliott3613 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When one considers how much a funeral costs these days, it's a pretty good argument for hanging around.
    (A little light entertainment).

  • @847lifestyle
    @847lifestyle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    life sentence for a crime I don't remember committing.. it's been decades and yet the feels do not change, it almost feels that this is a divine destiny to leave on my own regard.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      When I was suicidally depressed, I was convinced that my life was over and that I had no more purpose for which to live. But it turned out my brain was not telling me the truth. After I got better, life improved in a way that I could not have imagined. What kind of things have you tried to feel better? Have you Benn able to talk to a counselor?

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Here is a website I created on Overcoming Suicidal Pain I published. You might find something helpful on it. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com

    • @847lifestyle
      @847lifestyle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@DouglasBloch I have not bothered with talking to counselor because it will never give me what I need. I rather just wait for it all to get to the point of no return and then I will set out for the get back. I have felt this way my whole life... I realised this world is cold and heartless and no one really truly ever cares, it's alway about the personal wellbeing before anything. what bothers me is people think they can act this way and expect to not get a return on their wrong doings and I am supposed to just keep taking it in strive..well I am at the point where I am going for the get back. there's point where someone just doesn't have anything else keeping them grounded, call me crazy but I'm not looking forward to more and more future let downs of the long arm of life. i've learned nothing works out for me like it does everyone else. I always get the short fuck of it and I am sick of it and yearn for the world to feel what I felt for this past 20 years. it's time to go for me and the world wont stop, people will still be awful to each other and if I stay I kno mylife just gets worse and worse, that is proven. all I know is sorrow and dark clouds that follow

  • @9facts661
    @9facts661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Yeah I'm 18 and ive attempted suicide several times im trying to fight it though

    • @hogarthay
      @hogarthay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I`m sorry for your pain Isaiah. I am going through a depression at the moment and the pain is so difficult. Please accept my love and best wishes

    • @VanessaParedes
      @VanessaParedes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Fight Isaiah. Trust me, you're worth it

    • @9facts661
      @9facts661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@hogarthay same to you frank if I can fight it so can you I'm not perfect but we can get through it

    • @AlexisLynn10
      @AlexisLynn10 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Love and healing to all of you ❤

    • @9facts661
      @9facts661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@VanessaParedes thank you Vanessa😊

  • @chanphoieng1650
    @chanphoieng1650 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much for your advice. such very valuable. Sometimes, I feel that way but at the moment, my mind snapped back to the positive and good things. Like one side of my shoulders is a devil and the other side is angel/spirit ancestors.

  • @JanasSpace
    @JanasSpace 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It have always believed when we can not find anything to go on , when it is all just suffering , we get no breaks and there is nothing to look forward to....it is a time to go to light, leave space for otherson this Earth. I t costs so much energy and money to keep humans here who do not want to.....maybe one day a law and understanding will come fr those who suffer and society help to relieve their pain the most human possible way....(if there is something like it)...No..I am not in need of any suisicde hot line number just deeply reflecting on my feelings to the matter...J

  • @k.ravishankar5063
    @k.ravishankar5063 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Without a reason people Will perish.Thanks Douglas

  • @blackblack697
    @blackblack697 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don’t have any reason to live I’m homeless jobless no children no family no friends no relationship no one cares about me and someone stole my dog there’s no reason for me to live. I’ve already attempted suicide 3xs and was unsuccessful I’ve been diagnosed with MDD anxiety which comes along with panic attacks I’m also Bipolar 2 and suicidal tendencies I’m a hopeless person

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm sorry to hear you are in so much suffering. Is there anybody you can talk to about your pain. In Portland there is free and low cost Counseling

  • @Olokunslove777
    @Olokunslove777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this video. I’m going through a very very hard time and I’m just trying to make
    It. I will try this out.

  • @dianawatson-speakingseed751
    @dianawatson-speakingseed751 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, Doug! You are an amazing, wonderful human being.

  • @junkoenoshima2756
    @junkoenoshima2756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The problem for me is I can't figure out what the problem is and I don't know how to approach somebody about it yet I won't be able to figure out what the problem is without telling anybody

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Why not go to a therapist or psychiatrist and talk to them about what is bothering you?

  • @pmbluemoon
    @pmbluemoon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Doug *SUBSCRIBER HUGS* 🥰 I'm still here partly because of you as well. I enjoy your videos, your jokes/funnies at the beginning of your videos as well, sometimes you're the only one who can make me smile! I appreciate that you are here 🤗

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much. Nice to here from you Chris.

  • @graciegomez9416
    @graciegomez9416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate you so much Douglas. Thank you.

  • @HeWhoFlewFromInwood
    @HeWhoFlewFromInwood 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I no longer have any pets, any friends or any family that I’m close to. Many people have hated me even though I’m an empathic nice person. Humanity is quite insane and I’ve been here for some reason that is no longer worth staying for so I wait for my soul group to take me home but why can’t I decide to make the decision myself rather than waiting like a fool?

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm sorry that you're in pain and are feeling so isolated. Do you have a counselor or therapist to talk to you about your situation?

  • @elizabethalbert8703
    @elizabethalbert8703 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Doug I agree with you.The small things in life which gives me joy while I am suffering from pain everyday caused to me by alienation from my children and grandchildren.

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for your feedback

  • @Grungefan2018
    @Grungefan2018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    A lot of is depressed people don't have "people" we've isolated and lost connection this wanted to end it. Also anhedonia is hell and finding a purpose can seem impossible. If we could find a purpose and more important find real connection which is hard because depression robs you of that. Next if we could find something to look forward to is what we long for as well but profound hopelessness robs is of that . When none of the mess work and when you've been robbed of all of the above you just run out of life force. I wish this wasn't so true but it is. To add insult to injury we seem to go through a dark night of the soul and feel cut off from God so there goes spirituality. So tell me where does someone go who is completely screwed ?

    • @rustinholliday2252
      @rustinholliday2252 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Hello. My advice is, step one, to walk out your house and start walking, walk as much as you can everyday. When this becomes effortless and your health is ok then start jogging, but if not then walking is good enough. Step two, wake up in the morning and write a list of small manageable things you want to do that day, try and do as many as possible but if you do none of them because you cant be bothered then that's ok too, so dont attach your self esteem to the list, treat the list like a friend not an enemy. Step three , stop reading or watching anything to do with psychology or self help etc and get yourself a book to read in the form of a novel but stay clear of psychology or existential novels etc and find something light hearted full of laughter and adventure etc. I say to stay away from psychology because ignorance is bliss. Step four would be to try and find ways that suit you to socialise more, like throwing yourself off a cliff into a cookery course or something, or take guitar lessons. And if you struggle to look forward to things you've got to try and fake it until you make it. Hope this helps, start walking today!

    • @Grungefan2018
      @Grungefan2018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you. What you have listed here is more than ny therapist has done for me. It a really great outline that I think I can follow. Thank you so much for the very thoughtful reply.

    • @rustinholliday2252
      @rustinholliday2252 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Grungefan2018 No problem friend. Good luck on your journey forward :)

  • @quintenbruggink1595
    @quintenbruggink1595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for all the videos you, have made and still make

  • @phily8093
    @phily8093 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't have loved ones. My constant persistent depressive disorder robs me of any pleasure, and I find no satisfaction from a purpose and could never find one. I'm not allowed to have a pet in this tiny one room council flat. I will never have any positive future experiences, and will never be able to afford or be well enough to to on holiday, or do something out of the ordinary. I get no pleasure from the little things, they are not enough when set against the pain and misery. My memories are not pleasant, and even the few nice ones I have hurt me to recall because I will never have them again. I have nothing to live for. Your video was very kind and compassionate. I don't wish to be rude. You will have helped thousands I have no doubt. For me, life was a mistake. All the best.

  • @clairebear2975
    @clairebear2975 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Douglas, I hope you are well. You have helped me today. God bless,

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re welcome. Nice to hear from you again

    • @clairebear2975
      @clairebear2975 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DouglasBloch bless you, yep i have had a relapse. Was doing so well, but many hard stressors the last four months, all came together. I cant tell you how much your video helped me. Truely. You are a God Send. Bless you, and hope you are well. Hugs x

  • @DTvidsx20
    @DTvidsx20 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Hey doug I had a question. How did you know you were out of a major depressive episode? Granted you have had a few by now. Did one morning you wake up feeling a little joy. Because this 6 month episode feels permanent. Was fine before this and now it feels like brain damage. But you got through it right?

    • @DouglasBloch
      @DouglasBloch  4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      One of my episodes came to an end when I woke up one morning and felt better. But even after that it took another four months to fully recover. The other Healings occurred gradually. I was keeping a 1-10 scale with 10 being the highest pain. My psychiatrist told me that if I could keep it at two or below for six weeks, then that would mean I was out of the episode. Your depression is not permanent. It only feels that way. You can and will recover

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
      @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      If in terrible distress, it wouldn't hurt to look up (or Google) a licensed neurologist (or call the hospital to ask where you can find one). The way that your brain communicate messages to itself (and chemical imbalances) can be better detected, and from what I have learned, can lead to a more accurate diagnosis and treatment for very specific faulty connections inside of the brain. A professional licensed neurologist could very well lead you in the right direction of what to do and where to go to after taking brain scans and deciding on a treatment. And just keep asking and asking them any small question every step of the way, so that you can find out how you can get from here to there, and where you want to be. 🙂

    • @DTvidsx20
      @DTvidsx20 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Megz8008 hmm interesting definitely makes sense. But other than antidepressants theres really not much else for treatments right? So what would be examples of a neurologist helping you?

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
      @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DTvidsx20 I personally haven't been to a neurologist, but have thought about it from time to time. But there is a neurology center in my city (and I am sure to God that there would be one in every city, since neurologists are also used to give brain scans concerning other matters such as head trauma, and determining whether or not someone has a condition such as schizophrenia, autism, alzheimers, and many more dehabilitating conditions). Dr. Phil also sends many of his clients to a neurologist if he wants to get a more accurate idea of what is going on in someone's brain, to see why messages in the brain aren't being communicated properly with itself. But in any case, give your local hospital a phone call and ask and ask what you can do and where you can go. Don't hang up without a full answer, because sometimes receptionists aren't the best people to talk to. If the receptionist doesn't know then ask them, "Well can you please transfer me to someone who DOES know?!" The times we live in . . . I tell you!