Reasons to Stay Alive
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 พ.ค. 2024
- In this video, author and mental health educator Douglas Bloch says that looking at your life and finding reasons to keep on living can keep you going during the dark times. For more information on how to survive a suicidal crisis, please visit my suicide prevention website, www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com
To visit my personal website which contains links to all of my books, websites, and newsletters, go to douglasbloch.com
To visit my depression recovery website, go to healingfromdepression.com
To visit my website on suicide prevention, go to www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com
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I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and have done since I was a child. I am now 21. You’ve saved me. I’ve watched your videos for years and years. Every time I feel unable to cope, I watch one of your videos and it calms me right down. You are incredible. You’re so soothing healing to listen to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are very welcome.
Imagine a place where it’s always night and you are holding on faith for a dawn that never comes
Perhaps the dawn is just around the corner. Are you reaching out for support?
Thank you Douglas for not editing that part out at the end when you got emotional. It shows how invested you are in your work. As far as I know, there's no one else on TH-cam doing what you do. Man, I can really relate. There's no pain like psychological pain. You are extremely strong for going through depression and making it through multiple times like you have. Your videos have given me hope that I can make it too.
Thanks Rachael.
Douglas how are you?? I'm concerned. You don't know me but your videos have helped me immensely over the past couple of years. Thank you for everything you do. I hope you are well ❤ You have supported all of your viewers in hard times. Please reach out to US if you need help.
Thanks for your concern. I am surviving the pandemic and working on my new book on suicide prevention. If you know of anybody who would like to give me feedback on the manuscript, they can email me.
Amen 🙏
It's an adventure to heal from mental illness
All I have valued and cared for were taken away from me by others. 19 years of relationship, work I loved for the first time in my life, friends, love of my life, self respect, belief in my abilities.... I fought hard, but last 2-3 years is a never ending rolling down.
Only my kids keeps me here. Nothing else. Everything I look at is meaningless, half translucent. It's hard to open my mouth to speak, to raise eyes to look at something. I don't look forward anything.
Yep. My family ghosted me because spouse is covert narcissist. Now just waiting until my mom dies. She is the onky reason I am still here.
When depressed everything is utter pointless even I know this too shall pass .
Me too.
We are all human. Douglas, I commend you for not cutting out the segment at the end. I admire your humility and your willingness to show emotion. The willingness to show emotion is a sign of strength. Thank you for all you do for the community.
You are welcome
every waking moment is a war but i realize i more resourceful about surviving so much hell to keep moving forward.
Sometimes I don't know how I will get out of depression but I try to gather all the hope I can to keep going, and for all of you who are struggling too I want you to know that I love you and you can overcome the pain you're facing
Thank you for your encouraging comment
Love you too ❤
@@tarathe.creator At the end, I did get out of depression, and now I'm certain you all can too, depression too shall pass, as peace and contentment too shall arrive
I’m still trying to find my reason to stay alive. I’m in my late 20s, single. So much of my life has been a struggle, I feel it’s all been one huge depressive episode. I can find things that make me happy, but nothing gives me joy. When things get worse I’m so afraid I’m not going to be able to go on. The past couple months have been extremely tough with everything going on in the world. Thanks Doug for the videos.
Hang in there. The 20s are tough decade. Things get better as you get older. Your best days are yet to come
So true what he said. I had such horrible time in my 20s ugghh. Things got so much better once I reached my 30s
World is a beautiful place to experience
Did you find one? Are you there?
I'm coming to the end of my training as a counsellor. As a man who has been conditioned not to show emotions, I still sometimes struggle to show them and, when I do, I can feel ashamed. Your humility when showing your own shows me that I can do the same. I shall remember this when working with my clients. Thank you Douglas.
Tortoise Gamer I encourage and celebrate your success of awareness, best wishes in your chosen profession.
How are you doing 1 year later?
I want to keep living for my family, and also my sweet parents who gave me life and love and I want to honor them and complete the journey successfully
Beautiful ❤
Just at the end when you got very emotional it showed your humility and humanity.I look foreward to seeing and listening to YOU again Douglas.Keep strong!
Thanks John. I was wondering if anybody was going to comment on that. By the way I love that Joni Mitchell painting from her album clouds. Or perhaps it’s a different album.
@@DouglasBloch You are a wonderful man Douglas. Thank you for all you do. It upset me to see you upset. Thank you for being here.
@@richardccarrot I got so upset about it too. I'm sending you so much love, Douglas ❤ And to everyone reading this, I love you guys, we can do it.
Every day, while I'm getting dressed, I listen to your videos so that I don't have to start my day feeling alone. You have helped me so much. You help me to keep my recovery first and foremost in my mind everyday and be aware of my thoughts and what my brain is doing, and help me to fight back. I'm still only living a half life; my kids don't have the mom that they deserve yet, and my husband is a saint for having to deal with a wife that can only make it out of bed 3 to 5 hours a day. But I haven't given; I keep listening to your videos, I keep getting out of bed, and I keep praying. And seeing your tears today tells me that you truly care about what you're doing here, and now I know that I'm not doing this alone. Thank you so much.
Thanks you for kind words. I've always said that people who suffer from depression are more courageous than the ordinary person, because it takes strength to fight on in spite of the pain. Have you read any of my books?
@@DouglasBloch I haven't yet, and I really, really hope to in the future. I have to say, it doesn't feel so courageous hiding here in my room most of the day, being afraid to leave my home. But I just keep trying to push myself.
@@jessicawassung8431 how r u feeling now?
i will survived just to show my critics i CAN do it one day at a time
The last minute of this video has played on repeat inside my head. Very powerful. It's been a painful week due to a sudden flare up of sciatica, a bad head/chest cold, and typical mental tumultuousness on top of all that...
You are my rock, Douglas Bloch. 🙏
I'm glad the vet last-minute was helpful. What did I say? Have you heard from Robert
@@DouglasBloch Yes I heard from Robert. Thanks again for putting me in touch with him. I'm referring to the part when you say "All it takes to survive is to hold on not a day at a time, not an hour or a minute at a time but a breath at a time. If you can do that you will survive whatever you're going through." Plus seeing you get emotional from it makes it feel very relatable to us.
Quality is in the small things. Sitting in the garden , with a cup of tea, reading a book ,walking in nature, seing the trees and wildlife .
Yes
It's like living dead and numb 😭 , feel like Utter pointless to live. Mental Epidemic and it's resistant.
Try to change your environment and it may drastically change you.
i love you. you have a purpose
We are gonna all be gone eventually so might aswell stick around as long as we can😂
Been there too. But life is better than the alternative. Have hope 🌞🙏🏻
me too
Why depression is worst in the morning or when you wake up and gets better and better as the day progress .
That is the way that depression cycles
@@DouglasBloch . Haha 😂. Claire weeks also said the same thing about anxiety 😂. I wish there is some alien technology to cure it. Haha
Oh sweet a list of 5 things I don't have nice. Staying alive a breath at a time is about right. Whenever I here someone say things will get better always makes me so angry. I've been told this for 30 years. Yeah for some things get better. Some of us are just broken into small pieces that there's no putting ourselves together again.
When I was suicidal, I could not think of any reasons to stay alive. However, there were some reasons that I did not want to die, such as the fear of death or not wanting to who people who would be left behind. Here is a link from my new website that lists reasons not to die instead of reasons to stay alive. Let me know if you can identify with any of them. I hope you can. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com/home/reasons-to-stay-alive/reasons-not-to-make-an-attempt-2/
One breath as a time
I do hope I can get through this episode.
Am just exhausted I tried to go with it but some days I feel like I'm in a battle with me when I feel dispair frustrated suicidal I'm just tired doug
Iv cryed that much am exhausted.
Iv had shingles 12 times so far this year and I have M.E.
I'd love to get back into my hobbies
But at the moment all I can do is rest up.
Thank you doug
Peace love and light xxx
Peace and love to you. Keep reaching out. Keep being courageous. I have a chapter in my new book I would love to send you that I think will help. Send me an email and I will respond
We have lots of animals; 2 goats, 3 sheep, 2 horses, 2 cats and one dog. When I went away for one week, one of the cats was really upset and screamed so that my partner was really concerned about the cat's health. The day I came back, the cat was healed. He just missed me so much. I love my animals so much.
Lovely story
When one considers how much a funeral costs these days, it's a pretty good argument for hanging around.
(A little light entertainment).
I know one day I’ll be in an airport, moving to the city of my dreams and think « I’m glad I made it »
Beautiful video, Douglas. You really add a unique and personal human touch to your mental health videos. Some great practical solutions in this video too! Keep on truckin’, and know that you are a loved man, Douglas Bloch! ❤️
Thankyou for this I’ve survived my tw suicidal episodes as well and I’m doing much better thanks to many things including what you do Thankyou so much 👏🏻💛
If you have survived a suicidal episode perhaps you might be interested in looking at my manuscript of my new book on suicide prevention. I write about tools and coping strategies and I'm looking for people who have been suicidal to give me feedback on whether or not the information is helpful. If you would like me to email you a few chapters please email me, douglasbloch@gmail.com
Douglas Bloch yeah absolutely I’ll give you my email!
Are you going to email it to me or simply place it here
Douglas Bloch Hi! I believe my email went through if not I can send it through again!😊👍🏻
Douglas thank you so much! Your videos are helping as I go through this 6th round of relapse. But you give me so much hope and inspiration!! I always try to tell myself like you always say ...... “this too shall pass!” Take care Douglas, see you on the next live chat!!
I’m here right now because of this video. A year later and I just ran across of this video. Thank you
Thanks Claire. I received your email and sent you a reply. Let me know if you received it. Thanks.
And they say everything happens for a reason but sometimes I feel like I see no reason why some things are happening in my life.
Dude I love your channel! I love how honest and vulnerable you are! It’s actually comforting to know that a psychologist has felt these feelings too. Thanks for all your advice!
Thank you so much!!
When you paused near the end of the video, I finished your sentence. Life has tested me severely many times. Going into my fifth year of treating Lyme, mold, thyroid/adrenal issues, and insomnia while living with my abusive ex husband and disabled son. I searched for help on TH-cam and you were there! Profound thanks! God bless you!
Thank you Laura what Sentence was it that you mentioned
@@DouglasBloch That you hang on minute to minute sometimes.
Awe bless you Douglas for not missing a day xxxx 💚
Oh Douglas......❤️❤️❤️ So well spoken, straight from the heart, that’s what makes you so special. Thank you.
You're such a kind beacon, Douglas. Thank you for your presence on TH-cam. From my teen years until my early thirties I struggled with my identity and felt unworthly of life. Although I never tried to take my life, the thought honestly plagued me. Long story short, AlAnon and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) helped me find self-worth as well as place my personal issues in manageable order. I am nearly sixty now! I hope everybody here comes to know how valuable they are.
That's a beautiful testimony. Aren't 12 step groups wonderful?
Excellent video! I'm so glad you are here, you are invaluable!
Sending you hugs and love! 🤗😊
Thanks Douglas! I've been suffering from Anxiety for 3 years. This video really helps.
I think this is your best video yet, it’s so true about just taking it a minute and breath at a time. Thank you Doug and I’m so grateful that you are alive. Reason #7- Doug needs to live to make people have hope!
You are very welcome
Thank you Doug *SUBSCRIBER HUGS* 🥰 I'm still here partly because of you as well. I enjoy your videos, your jokes/funnies at the beginning of your videos as well, sometimes you're the only one who can make me smile! I appreciate that you are here 🤗
Thanks so much. Nice to here from you Chris.
Douglas, you are a big inspiration! Your videos are super helpful. Life is worthy for people like you!
Thank you for your kind words
Thank you Douglas! You have a very calming effect on me. Keep up your great work!
That is my intention. I'm working on a new book on suicide prevention called "when it hurts too much to live."
Bless you Douglas, I hope you're doing okay in these strange times
Thank you Douglas! As both a new therapist, and one who struggles with depression and anxiety - this information is invaluable! So funny I was just talking about Viktor Frankl - and the girl who spoke of "those three" the tiny leafs she could see from her window. Thanks again - look forward to reading your work!💚
Who is the girl who spoke of those tiny leafs. Was she in Victor Frankl's book? Are you thinking of reading my book healing from depression?
Wow this is unbelievably comforting. Feel I’m in the room with you. What a blessing you are happy to have found your videos
I’m very glad my videos have been helpful to you
Thank you Doug. I was getting so much better in April and into May and then things took a turn for the worst again. This crap is just not easy. I hope you know how valuable your videos are. You are changing lives. Thanks Doug.
I'm glad they have been helpful
Your presence has made me survived.. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and for being here.. You are a hero to me.. Thank you from all my heart
Thank you Douglas, your channel saved my life. Thank you for being here ❤
You are so welcome
biking around a nice neighborhood might help with nice trees and nature
You are so inspirational, Douglas and are very easy to listen to. I purchased your "Healing from Depression" book. I'm already on chapter 10, the first weekend of receiving it. You truly are a God send to many people suffering and are loved and looked up to. Be very proud of yourself. I wish you continued success in all aspects of your life as you enrich so many other lives.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad the book is helpful. Unfortunate only sold about 200 copies a year. I hope that one day it is available to more people
I love you Doug!!! Thank you for all the hope ur giving me ♥️ the antidepressants are starting to help me, but i still have down moments and then i reach out to ur beautiful videos full of hope! When i saw u get emotional i felt it, u sure are one hell of a strong warrior! I look up to you and that makes me believe i will survive! ♥️
Thanks Valentina. I love your name. You will survive. Keep setting the intention to heal and reaching out for support. You might want to look at my video called setting the intention to heal
Douglas Bloch I’ve watched it so many times ♥️ it’s in my favorites 😊 You are truly a hero to me and such an amazing person, i hope someday i find a man like you! Hope u are well and thank you for doing all this work to save us and teach us how to handle these difficult moments in life! Your mission is appreciated and highly valued ♥️
I ❤ your videos Douglas, thank you for your time and care in making them.
You are very welcome
I'm sorry we're all here but we're going to be okay. We really are, please stay safe.
Thank you Douglas. Such an uplifting video. Great advice as always. I nearly cried when you cried too! You have come so far and I hope I get there too
Wow, thank you
I don’t have any reason to live I’m homeless jobless no children no family no friends no relationship no one cares about me and someone stole my dog there’s no reason for me to live. I’ve already attempted suicide 3xs and was unsuccessful I’ve been diagnosed with MDD anxiety which comes along with panic attacks I’m also Bipolar 2 and suicidal tendencies I’m a hopeless person
I'm sorry to hear you are in so much suffering. Is there anybody you can talk to about your pain. In Portland there is free and low cost Counseling
For me its definitely my dogs that keep me going.
Yes, that is very common for a pet to be a reason to stay alive
Thank you, Doug! You are an amazing, wonderful human being.
Thanks so much for your videos Doug! I’m a father, husband, and pastor who has chronic back problems which cause suicidal depression and incessant anxiety attacks. I’m currently on Lexapro which has helped tremendously with anxiety attacks and quite a bit with depression. I watch your videos from time to time and I really appreciate all you do to help people. Today was a rough day and your videos have helped me a lot! Thanks 🙏
You're more than welcome. What part of the world do you live in?
Douglas Bloch I’m originally from TN but I’ve lived in Kalamazoo, MI since 2013.
Yes, one breath at a time. It sounds like it may help me. Thank you, Douglas.
Thank you for all the videos you, have made and still make
More to come!
Thank you very much for all comforting yet empowering words of motivations sir. May you have a blessed day♥️♥️
Thanks for sharing Douglas !
Bless you and thank you Douglas. What a wonderful, perfect, practical video. So helpful, useful, meaningful, and true 💙☀️💙☀️
You are welcome. Did you get my email about sending in the chess problem?
Thank you Douglas for your videos. Last week I watched some of them and now I watch this and paused at 1:54 to write down these questions and trying to answer them. People who are reading - don't give up. I'm 44 and I've had struggle with my mental health since the age of 23.
You're welcome. And I agree with your message. Don't give up five minutes before the miracle
Thank you! Bless you!🙏🏾
Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency. You are doing a great work.❤
Hi Douglas, thank you very much for your videos. They are extremely helpful. I wish you great moments of life!
You are very welcome
Douglas this is one of my favorite videos. Thank you! And our of all the TH-cam channels I’ve seen, this one received the most positive feedback. If you were a restaurant or hotel you would be a 5 star!
Thanks for Your kind words
Thank you so much, Douglas
You're welcome.
I’m really enjoying your videos! I feel more hopeful and inspired now. Thank You!
You are very welcome.
I don't think I'd have made it through these last couple years minus Douglas videos. Thank you again Sir
I'm glad they helped.
Thank you for another wonderful video!
The painting behing you is really beautiful. A path forward and light ahead. 😍
Thank you for the video, Douglas. I will try to go one breath at a time and focus on things to look forward to in the coming weeks. Stay well sir.
Thank you.
Thank you Douglas - that was powerful, especially at the end. Moment to moment.
You're welcome
I love your videos! Thank you!
yes doug life happens very very fast so be consistent about pursuing your dreams.
I appreciate you so much Douglas. Thank you.
You are very welcome
Thanks Douglas. Hope you are doing well 😊
God bless you Doug. You're a beautiful soul!
Wow, thank you
Thank you I need it to hear this
Thank you so much Douglas
You are welcome
Douglas, May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and at ease. A Blessing for you and all you do for others.
Thank you
Thank you Douglas. This video has helped me a lot xx
Glad it helped
Thank you Douglas
That was a huge help. I followed along with notes; thank you.
You’re welcome
Thank you for all your help!
You’re welcome.
Good one about Italy!Thank you Douglas.
What did I say about Italy
I don't want to leave my dog 😔 He is the only reason I am here... living hell
Can't leave him 🐾❤️
another amazing way is to look at extraordinary videos and determination memories of your past tat can help u through so much hell
Thank you for this.
You're welcome. I'm glad it was helpful.
I might be feeling really low right now, but at least there's a chance I'll see a dog tomorrow :')
Thank you Douglas. ❤️💜💙
Thank you Doug.
You’re welcome.
My best friend was Cannelle. She was a beautiful dog. She passed away last summer at the good old age of 13 years old. It took me weeks to get over her death and still when I think of her, I get emotional. She gave me unconditional love. A year before she passed away, I had rescued a little terrier mixed (a little male). He is now my companion. I also rescued a little black cat who had been abandoned by its mother. He too is my friend. He is the feral cat who meows at my window every morning because, he wants to come in. I am allergic to cats but I let him in. I prefer the company of animals to the company of humans. I have made my home a "human-free zone". It is going to stay that way.
Like many others kind of you have discovered the healing power of pets
I just have no friend left Doug, I don't want to be alone anymore, being as alone as I am makes life not worth living
Ether way I still appreciate your videos
Have you thought about reaching out to a therapist for joining support groups. Or maybe even joining a club or taking a class. These are ways that you can meet people. Having a counselor can be very helpful and supportive. I encourage you to reach out if you can
@@DouglasBloch I did martial arts which really was the spark to my life, something happened the last time I was at a new gym and I never felt comfortable, or right to go back there. Maybe I need to find a new gym, but I just took it as it was that part of my life ending because I never had the motivation or want to go to another gym, but yes I need some form of group. Thank you
I suggest you try another gym. You might have a different experience. Also if you go to the website of the national alliance on mental illness you might be able to find support groups in your area. nami.org you might also want to look at the website of the Depression bipolar support alliance
Subscribed..THANK YOU..🙏
I stay alive for my parents, especially my mama. But there are days like I just wanted to die but I kinda feel like it's a selfish act because your gonna leave your family broken. 😭
It’s good that you have this reason to stay alive. Keep persevering and reach out for support and things can change.
Thank you
Thank you Douglas, I hope you are well. You have helped me today. God bless,
You’re welcome. Nice to hear from you again
@@DouglasBloch bless you, yep i have had a relapse. Was doing so well, but many hard stressors the last four months, all came together. I cant tell you how much your video helped me. Truely. You are a God Send. Bless you, and hope you are well. Hugs x
Your helping so many 👏
beautiful video, thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you too