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- Ever find yourself craving deeper connections with the people around you? You're not alone. In this video, we're going to discuss the art of truly connecting with others in a meaningful way. From simple tips on how to connect with people to fostering genuine human connections, we're exploring it all.
Whether it's building friendships that last a lifetime or nurturing relationships that truly matter, we've got you covered. So, if you're ready to elevate your connections and experience the beauty of meaningful relationships, this one's for you. Let's embark on this journey together and discover the magic of connecting with others on a deeper level. Hit play and let's get started!
#relationship #love #friendship
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Sarimopi (IG: sarimopi)
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Derlega, V. J., Wilson, M., & Chaikin, A. L. (1976). Friendship and disclosure reciprocity. Journal of personality and social psychology, 34(4), 578.
Hallinan, M. T. (1978). The process of friendship formation. Social networks, 1(2), 193-210.
Vaquera, E., & Kao, G. (2008). Do you like me as much as I like you? Friendship reciprocity and its effects on school outcomes among adolescents. Social science research, 37(1), 55-72.
Franco, M.G. (2022 Sept 6). "7 Secrets to Making Friends as an Adult." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/platonic-love/202209/7-secrets-to-making-friends-as-an-adult
Skowron, C. (2023 Feb 15). "How to Make Friends as an Adult." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/a-different-kind-of-therapy/202302/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult
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I'll definitely try to more frequently show appreciation and gratefulness, and also try to dig deeper when they/we enjoy talking about a topic :)
The part I love most about your videos is probably the practical examples that can be directly applied to real life. It makes it easy to try out these things and see if they work :D
Thanks for the feedback. We will incorporate more examples into our vids :)
Honestly, this video came up at the perfect time :0 I just had a pretty big fight with my sister because I don't show affection the way she does, and we're both trying to work on our friendship and relationship ❤️
I can't think of any improvements! One thing I will apply to my life from this video would be the mirroring their body language and saying more affection to make them more comfortable!!
I want to connect with others, but I always feel the need to work on myself before trying to make a meaningful connection with someone.
Relatable
💯💯 I’m trying to step into the unfamiliar and accept that it’s ok to not be 💯 okay. The people who join your journey are the ones that will also help you heal different areas of yourself so opening up to others is a way of also working on yourself. It allows the healing to begin. Well that’s my opinion anyway. Cheers! ✨
Same I can relate
Same.
Same :/
"How do I talk to people?"
"Stand in front of them and press X."
I understand your suffering fellow gamer
Try it in real life you'll see it literally works, like your mind will be so scared it will always find something to say.
Then as you try more and more, reflect and ask for feedback on your experiences, you'll get better and more comfortable over time.
But if there's one thing you must remember it's that there's no "hack" or "tip" that will make you good at talking, if you want to be able to do something, you need to practice, and nothing else. Sorry if it was hard to hear that... :(
Underrated
Accidentally click the "rude" dialogue option
Ah yes fellow gamer can wr be friends?
Timestamp!
-0:38 Find shared enemies
-1:10 The "7 levels deeper" conversation
-1:59 Reciprocal liking
-2:32 Reciprocal self-disclosure
-3:12 Mirror their body language
-3:38 An attitude of gratitude
-4:04 The friendship formula
fast- nice!
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Awesome!!😮😮🎉🎉
@@Mushroom321-thank you too!
@@alliara289 no! Tank YOU😊
this is so weird. I scrolled through my notifications and was having a realisation that part of my trauma is that I feel like a fraud and a pos whenever I say or do things that make people like me, cause I find my autistic self not pleasant and I'm so much work. I think I'm told I'm sweet and likable, but feel like a bad person when I do things that make people like me. sorry for posting this. but it's so weird to then see this. I do send much love to psych2go and everyone that needs this video and I wish you all endless days of love and support from people that care about you. even if it's just that one friend, thank god or whoever for that friend. ❤
In the description, the animator
@@semi_dott what about it? :)
@@anXiaryMusic oh no i replied on wrong comment, someone asked the person who drew the thumbnail xD
Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes, putting ‘extra’ effort into things can feel foreign to us. Especially if we feel that we are not being true to ourselves. But I can feel that you are genuinely a very kind and likeable person. You will definitely find the confidence that you are looking for. We are always growing and rediscovering ourselves.
I clicked on this faster than I’d like to admit.
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Same ! 👍🙂😁😄
lol I know 😅
Same I want to make same gender friends
@@leetv9491 I want to eat ur friends.
Reciprocal liking - such a simple yet important concept in building a stronger bond with someone. We can't be rude, mean, or disingenuous towards others, and then have the expectation that more people will like us. Giving out positive energy of kindness and appreciation greatly increases the chances that you'll receive it back.
Yes, in fact, it’s one of the key determinant in the start of romantic interest too. Sometimes, the simple fact of liking someone can cause them to like you back. But of course, with cautions ;)
We have seriously hit the big lows, we need guides and tutorials on how to be human.
There’s a reason why books like “How to win friends and influence people” got so popular too. We are always on our lows, we just don’t know it yet ;)
I’m doing my psych final on making and keeping meaningful connections, your videos are a great help for finding effects to research and studies to look into!
HOW THE F*CK ARE U 6 DAYS AGO WHEN THIS VID IS 23 SEC AGO💀
Bro this comment is older than the video...
How was this comment six days ago but this video was made one minute ago?
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That’s amazing. Do you mind sharing some of the things you have learned so far?
How is this even possible, I am having a breakdown right now because I feel lonely and sad because I never had a close friend, I only have that “surface” friendships where I go to school, talk to them but I don’t really know them that much. So I am venting in my notebook and meanwhile I checked my phone and I am in shock. I scrolled a bit and saw a notification on “how to make deeper connections with someone” IS THIS A SIGN YOU KNOW WHEN TO UPLOAD THESE VIDEOS. ITS THE PERFECT TIMING ON WHAT I FEEL RIGHT NOW THANKS!
I hope you are feeling better.
@@GenRN thank you I feel a lot better now..
Timestamps
1). Find shared enemies 0:36
2). The "7 levels deeper" conversation trick 1:09
3). Reciprocal liking 1:58
4). Reciprocal self-disclosure 2:31
5). Mirror their body language 3:11
6). An attitude of gratitude 3:36
7). The friendship formula 4:03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I have been seeing my parents fighting since I could remember so far. As a toddler I used to be so afraid of my parents. So afraid that I couldn't really talked with them freely. In 3rd grade, I overcame that fear. I wanted them to smile and laugh together like healthy couples so I did everything I could to see them happy. But in return, all I got pain. My mom abused me physically and my dad abused me mentally. In 7th grade I changed totally. That kid who used to make others smile forgot to smile herself. As a 9th grader I understand everything around me is toxic and I can't take it anymore. I wanna get out of here but I can't. I only have one best friend and I love her so damn much but I mess up everything. I am highly sensitive and I feel I can't even keep a friendship for sensitivity. Sorry for this long shit btw, I hope I can build a meaningful friendship with her and keep it until I die
I'm sorry. I never got hit unless I deserved it, and coming between my parents' fights was never the reason. I wanted to bring them together too. Now it's at the point I just want them to divorce. Luckily they might be moving to separate areas. The way they always use me as a pawn, even now, in college, as a way to blame the other for their crappy life, always makes me feel guilty for anything I messed up. Now I try to hide screw-ups and it's separated me from connecting with others who don't know.
As for keeping friends from high-school, it's an effort on both people's parts to make time for one another and see/text each other, so while it's prudent to learn to be social without her, it's also important to never lose that spark that makes you want to be her friend. I wish you the best of luck
@@jjaa_joyjoyartist my parents almost divorced 3 times but never fully. Cause they can't live without each other but fight all day. I am still a teenager, only if they understand how much their shits affect me...
@@mymuna4689 My little brother and i went through the same thing pretty much, we were abused mentally & physically by both. I guess your & my parents didn't know any better because that's how they grew up like.. Only when i turned 16 and defended myself against my mom for the first time by pushing her away, did something start to change for me & my brother.
The next time my father laid a hand on me i also threatened with the Police and actually called them for abuse. My father scared for his life & that they'd lose us, told me to report that it was a one time only thing lol.. so i did just that, but after that it got better slowly and they realized their ways and potential danger if they continued like they did before.
I also went through that phase where everything seemed like sh*t and toxic. Eventually you'll meet the right people who will push you up mentally. Hopefully sooner than later. Stay strong!
All that said, i can't promise you that it's gonna get better if you do the same thing i did, but i can say that it will get better over time. I guess you can give it a try though, maybe a little scare wiuld do them good. It seems only they themselves can bring their happiness back if they want a healthy partnership.
Anyways, don't give up, keep working on yourself and make it your priority. Eventually you'll be able to get outta there. Try to find a job where you earn enough for a small apartment. I think & hope eventually when they notice that you're gone, they won't have anyone to vent on and they'll change for the better. I wish there was more i could do to help, i was in the same shoes after all and feel with ya.
Feelin your pain, you will rise above and be happy! Be well
FINALLY! A clear and step by step guide for BEGINNER in how to talk to people, it's been 23 years I wanted to figure this out 💀
although i do appreciate all the people working behind psych2go, Amanda’s voice is still my favourite. just so soothing 😌
I NEED A LOT MORE OF THIS TOPIC. THIS IS GOLD!!!
Glad to hear. What do you want us to follow up with?
Awww. The thumbnail is adorable. Who's the artist?
Sara~ it’s in the description of the vid.
Your voice is my therapy ❤
Thanks for the compliment!
Honestly I want that but at the same time I want to work on myself and I want to improve myself organically before I start making meaningful connections
I've been trying to make friends but I'm not too good at it. But this really teaches me how to connect to the people around me. Thank you. 🙂
I like to think that I'm already pretty good at talking to people and getting them to open up, but I really like the "7 levels deeper" trick because it invites the other person to talk more about themselves and their passions, and I also get to learn more about what makes them who they are. I'm eager to try this trick as soon as I get the chance!
This video summarizes how others see me whether I communicate well or not to others. Always about appearance and beliefs !
Instead of being present on oneself. The person do "Overthinking" on how people perceive me and will create beliefs that do not even exist . . .
Where was this two years ago when I needed it 😂
trying to make my crush, friends, and classmates happy before we separate, so this would help
Connecting with people is why I have a hard time dealing with people and trusting people. Nobody likes to talk to me or hang out with me. I'm terrible at connecting and communicating. Depression doesn't help the situation.
"This video beautifully captures the essence of meaningful connections. In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to overlook the importance of truly engaging with others. Meaningful connections are built on authenticity, empathy, and active listening. It's not just about being present, but about being truly engaged and caring about the person in front of you. Let's strive to make our interactions more genuine and heartfelt, fostering deeper relationships that enrich our lives and the lives of those around us. Thank you for this insightful reminder!"
This came at the right time. Although I made new friends i haven't found someone that I could share deep conversation I can't call someone a best friend. I don't know the friends I have now are great but I just want my own personal friend not casual ones. Someone I could share my thoughts and stories with.
This video offers such valuable insights on building deeper connections. I especially appreciated the emphasis on active listening and empathy. Thank you for sharing these practical tips!
I really needed this! Thank you so much! It’s been hard for me to have deeper connections with people around me
Thank you, I've been needing a vid like this. IMA WATCH IT!!
I feel like me and one of my longest friends have been falling apart. Every time she comes to visit she just lays down on my bed and goes on her phone, I know her past self more than I know her present one, and I bearly even know her past self. This came in at just the right time! Also, quick question, how do you make friends? I know it probably seems stupid but I've been homeschooled my whole life (other than maybe like 1, 2 years?) and the only time I really get to socialize is on Sundays and Fridays and I want to make more friends, but I have only ever made 1 friend. Every other time was either their parent(s) were visiting or I was just at a friend's house and some of their friends came, and most of those "friends" were really just acquaintances, and I had no real connection with them and I bearly saw them ever. PLEASE HELP 😭
I want to apply the "7 levels deeper" concept to my conversations. I haven't thought about getting to deep talk in that way before
I love watching these types of vids you help alt thank you!
Wanna build meaningful relationships before middle school
No wonder your channel has over 12m subs! Amanda is definately a big part of that magnificent goal! Until next time!
We do lot great thing to do really appreciate
When I meet another a dyslexic. Icelandic grammar, and grammar SS troopers are always great topics to get into.
Ya craving deeper connections. 😇🤞🏻
How do they always manage to make videos about the advice I need most at the time?
This is so beautiful 😭❤
This video took me back to when I made my childhood friend back in school 😌
Good advice!
I love this 🥰
Meaningful advice
Great topic !!😮😮😊🎉🎉
Hope this video can help you out!
And… another good video, thx from 🇦🇷 ❤️
Thanks for watching!
I really want to watch a video on how to work in a team. More specifically, what to do when ideas and opinions differ and the other person doesn't trust anything you speak and orders you around. And the other person is like superior than you in someway.(for example: this situation happening when you are trying to find some document for submission and the other person is your mom(unrelated to the project). And while this situation is happening you are dealing with words like "well, what were you doing all day then?" or invalidating any actions you are trying to take and then talking about this all with other people.
Or Just working on a project together with somebody and this exact situation(this time they are related to the project.) And stuff like the way they said it and so on starts irritating you. (somehow always in these type of situations the tempo of conversation just like.. moves up rapidly. And even if you are able to calm yourself and be reasonable about it, the other person is still stuck in that tempo, And even if you try to detach from the situation you feel angry/frustrated, and even though you know that shouldn't compress it within, you also can't let it out to them because it will make situation even worse.) Thank you! Great work!!!
When i open my mouth to speak , i kinna stutter and all the vocabularies i know instantly disappear ,.i pause in midst of a statement and say stuffs like " you get me "
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I feel like these videos always come at crazy times 😂😂
Hope this video can help you :P
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Haven't even watched it yet, but I need this cause I've lost ao many connections because they think I'm not trying, even tho I am and I just have no social skills. Plus I'm not good with words, and I mostly interact over text so-
Hi psych2go! Do you think you could make a video on Histrionic Personality Disorder? I feel like that one always gets left out..
When i watched it was"59min before"
I would say the quality of my friendships matter then the quantity.
In my opinion, I don't thunk that dates are about the place you take them or the food you get, because you arent dating the food, the main reason for a date is to connect and love each other
You need to grow up a little. Women will make a ton of judgements based on first impressions.
Connect with me in a deeper say here is your chance ☺️
I am 33 and have none. I only feel like its a problem because of how others would view it.
May I ask..... I I've been following you for two years and trying to be... Normal like others but... Nobody cares. I feel like I'm not there.... Yesterday I tried not to talk and wait for who will care, but yesterday at school and today no one talked to me.... And I love your content. Keep going🎉🎉
Here’s the thing: other people don’t know what’s going on inside your head. You are responsible for your own happiness. You cannot wait for other people to make you happy or fix your problems. You need to be the kind of person you would like to be around. You need to give people the kind of energy you would like to receive.
Chances are you tend to have closed off body language and give off the impression that you don’t want to interact with anyone. People have no way of knowing that you wish to connect and interact if you don’t communicate it through body language or through your actions.
All the points:
Find enemies
7 Levels deeper conversation
Personal experiences
Reciprocal liking
Reciprocal self disclosure
Mirror their body language
Attitude of gratitude
Friendship formula (proximity, duration , intensity and frequency)
600th view!
Can you do one that about “How to connect with friends that live far away from you”
The portrail of the friendship formula here had some errors:
Proximity is actually how close the interaction is with the person, like whether you share a class together or sitting next to each other during said class. Whether you grab lunch together or spend the night in the same bed. You get the idea.
Duration and Intimacy are described accuratly.
Frequency is what is here described as Proximity; how often you happen to encounter someone.
You have to appreciate the Shrek reference! 😂👍
You voice could make a great ASMR
Friendship formula 4 components:
Proximity ◇ Duration ◇ Intensity ◇ Frequency
Couldn't see it 😊
I was born at 27 weeks and weighing 1 kilo. I worked hard for 1 year in high school and couldn't work at all for 1 year. My face shakes involuntarily when I am embarrassed or afraid. I am 19 years old. What's wrong with me? Could I have a mental illness? And how do I know if I'm faking it
If you want more you can read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Great read that goes deep into all the ways we interact with people
I've always struggled with other people, in friendly or hostile interactions. It feels super awkward and confusing, and intimidating at times. I am often trying to get what they want to say, because people are so indirect and passive aggressive. I hate being object of sarcasm. I guess I'm antisocial. I hate people more than I wish to admit
I feel like I need to destroy everything and start over once I graduate from 8th grade and move in to high school like how in San Francisco in the 1906 earthquake because I feel like I already missed my chance to change
How do I nicely get out of a relationship
Mmm, interesting...
Make a video on highlighting dangers of arranged marriage from india mainly (i am from there)
Friends are great to have, but what do you do when they’re all coupling up and you still haven’t found anyone you like?
Make video on debunking aspergers syndrome stereotypes
Im told i have to date out of necessity..not date someone i actually like of have something in common with.
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I never went into a relationship what should i do?
why?? you can try
Just take your time sometimes it's good to be single if you meet the right person great but don't do it to please others
What have you tried so far? Do you go outside, for anything (job, sports, hobby, interest, volunteering, etc)? And why do you want (or need) a (asumingly) romantic relationship?
@@thelordcommander5i have done nothing i am still sad even after my friends death was 6 years ago
@@doctors8966ok :)
I can't really do it.😪😓😞
Take 4 gs of 🍄’s and you won’t have to “try”, you just will.
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Hello
It either clicks or it doesn't. Don't force it.
Step 1: Get a game called “How Deep Will You Go?”
Step 2: Find someone to play it with
Step 3: Play the game and watch your success unfold
I only feel attrackted to woman after i have deep connection to her
Uu...
Hmmm.... I hate dogs, who's with me? Anyone? Dang it...
First one sounds a little toxic lol. Hopefully even if that's how they initially click they'll move on to better things to bond over 😅
Our 🤬lousy 😈POTUS #46 is a common dislike!
Friend crushes>>>>>>opposite gender crushes
Nobody knows me. I want no connections with strangers.
what are the rest of the 7 levels?
I wrote this comment down. 🗿
Extrovert
Here ,tell me what you say when talking to random people
Mine is
"Yo wa you name?"
U should make a how to get rizzy vid 🗿👇
Immediately no. Bonding over shared enemies is bad focus. Focus on positive things, bond on goodness.
I went into this video thinking I don't know how to communicate the problem is I do know how I just can't 🫤
I was born at 27 weeks and weighing 1 kilo. I worked hard for 1 year in high school and couldn't work at all for 1 year. My face shakes involuntarily when I am embarrassed or afraid. I am 19 years old. What's wrong with me? Could I have a mental illness? And how do I know if I'm faking it