I definitely judge people by their appearance and the way they carry themselves. Walking outside in sleepwear,bonnets, unbrushed hair, body odor etc DOES say a lot about a person’s self esteem and character. I prefer to always be as polished as I can. Some type of jewelry is a personal must. When you look good, you feel good🥰
Agree. And when will women stop wearing workout clothes all day - particularly leggings so tight that we're forced to see every detail of their backside. Yuck. What happened to proper adult clothing?
I always wear the same jewelry to simplify this. And it's small enough that I never have to take it off. I know some people may have a different style so it may not work for them, but i went for high clarity diamonds with 18k gold in classic cuts to streamline the accessorizing.
It’s amazing you said this because one of the biggest trends this year is the beat up luxury bag and it made me so angry. First, the fact that people are so hyper focused on having/saying they have a particular bag that they are willing to buy one that is beat to oblivion is just terrible! Secondly, oh my goodness, please don’t spend your money on beat up bags! Just wait and save and get one that is new or in great condition.
It's absolutely true but while it shouldn't matter what we look like, being put together in no way has to be expensive. I also look at this from the etiquette standpoint. Really what we're doing when we take the time to look put together is showing respect for others.
We ALL judge people by their appearance. Sometimes that’s all the information we have to make certain assumptions. I think how you present yourself is a personal decision, and you should do so knowing people will form opinions based on what you present. If you don’t care and make little effort, don’t be surprised when you aren’t taken seriously or may be overlooked. You don’t have to be flashy or runway ready, just presentable. You’ll feel better and have confidence when you look good.
Growing up, I remember my mom always getting dressed better, putting on some makeup and doing her hair to go to the grocery store. Now it's anything goes, and I honestly do think this lax behavior has contributed a bit to some of the crazy behaviors we see in public these days. We don't always have to look perfect, but at least put forth an effort to look neat and tidy when out and about. I know I feel better about myself when my appearance is good. And inevitably, that one day I don't take the time, I'm going to run into a million people I know! LOL
Yes I know what you're talking about. There are also some implications. If a person is not able to take care of oneself and groom oneself, they are probably struggling with stress, mental health, or money. If the girl in the experiment looked poor or like she had a problem, people didn't want to help, because they thought that would encourage her to come beg next time. But if she looked well-off, like it was really just a one-off thing, they were more comfortable to help. I have also some experience from this unfortunately. I used to struggle with deppression and at the time, I didn't have the energy to go shopping so when my jeans broke, I would just wear my old sweat pants all the time. I felt like putting up an outfit in the morning took out all my mental energy of the day. Sometimes even showering and washing my hair was a huge task, that I would try to put off. People didn't bother me, they sort of left me alone. However afterwards, I heard that some people had talked ill behind my back at my school about my clothes. Whereas, sometimes when I would feel more refreshed, and put on heels, maybe even makeup, and have freshly clean and brushed hair, people would be kinder to me than usual; even cashiers at grocery stores would smile at me more. I think 'scruffy' people must look scarier, that's why people are reserved. Other than that, it must be classism. People who haven't experienced being in the scruffy position don't know that it could happen to anyone, and they're not so different.
Excellent point. I'm currently dealing with an injury that makes it more difficult to do basic stuff, and there are days when I just can't deal with all of it. Fortunately, this is temporary and after surgery in April, I'm hoping to be back to my old self. But what about someone who struggles with an ongoing issue like you mentioned?
Very valid points! Thank you for sharing!! Ps: I totally get what you mean- looking put together does take time and effort and sometimes we're just not in the right place to do those things. I had a surgery done 2 months ago and I was in bed a lot of the time. Looking nice was the last thing I could care about xx
Posture clothing hairstyle And attitude reveals a lot about us This non verbal communication is powerful and tells a story about who we are ,how to relate to others and how we feel about ourselves
Thank you Eileen for yet another thoughtful video. I honestly do not understand people who claim online we should not judge a book by its cover. They come across as very hypocritical and 'holier than thou'. These sort of statements never hold up in real life. Do you really not mind dealing with dishevelled, stinky, rude, loud, impolite and dirty people? You really do not mind keeping that sort of company? You wouldn't mind exposing your children to that kind of people? Being clean, wearing presentable clothes, taking care of your teeth, skin, hair and hands costs next to nothing. There is no excuse.
Eileen, you always have such Wisdom & a Unique way of Expressing that Wisdom to others! That's why I enjoy your Videos so much! What you say always makes such sense & if followed, one can begin to form Values for the Right Things in Life! When one gets on the path of Wisdom, Peace follows! If we are not out constantly shopping, shopping, shopping, for "Things" tht don't satisfy, not only are we practicing Wisdom & Financial Sense, but we can use that time to Relax, Reflect & Rejuvenate ourselves! Bc as you said, taking Care of Oneself is necessary for Good Health & Longevity! It's better to make Good Choices to Direct our Lives than to just Endure what Life hands us! I wish you Good Health, Happiness & Peace, as you continue your Life Journey! 🥰🇺🇸
I was concerned that this video might make me feel bad for neglecting my appearance, but it made me feel gently empowered! Thank you for communicating this important information in such a kind way. I always love your videos. You have such a peaceful and wise essence.
@@ColourfulNoir I so appreciate your response! I have been doing my skincare and haircare much better after watching your video. I feel more confident. 😊❤️
Hi Eileen, I live in New York City and I once did the experiment! It was about 10 years ago. I like Saks Fifth Avenue and Bergdorfs so I did my test at both of those on the same day, it’s a short walk from one to the other. I went on a Saturday because I was off work that day. My hair was kind of frizzy, I had no makeup or even lip gloss on, and a really bad outfit! I swear to you I couldn’t get a sales person to help me at either store! Nobody would go near me. But the following Saturday I went more like how ( I hope) I usually look and dress. Nice outfit, hair blown dry, makeup. I had salespeople crawling all over me! People do look. People do notice. Life is hard enough. Why make it harder for ourselves by presenting ourselves to the world looking scruffy? I won’t do that again.
Haha! Omg! Same here in London! I don’t even go to high end places if I look scruffy! If you are carrying a designer handbag etc in Selfridges/Harrods etc the sales associates are all over you and genuinely helpful as compared to if you turn up with your longchamp bag 😂
@@nida1990 we both had the same experience! It does make a difference, how you present yourself to the world. People do notice. This proves it. We should have done this together - but I’m in NYC, I made the comment above about my experiment.
@@ColourfulNoir yes! I wouldn’t believe the difference in the way I was treated, if I didn’t do this test myself. We need to look our best, and make that effort on a regular basis
It's true when we take care of ourselves it first makes us feel more complete and confident. That frees us to embrace others as our true selves and for others to reciprocate in return. And let's me honest we all judge in some form so let's just put our best foot forward and see where it takes us 😉
It is about humans communication and perception. Humans don’t exchange only by words. So, judging a book by it’s cover might not be the most accurate way of know someone but it’s the only one way we have when we don’t have way to know someone personally. Sometimes it’s a question of safety. I don’t equate the concept with negative.
Thankyou for your time with making these videos . I find these very useful and rewatch every now and again. A great resource for those of us who didn't necessarily have the opportunity to learn the things you are teaching from our homelives. Much love from Melbourne, Australia.
Yes it's true,looks matter. Attitude and other things comes later but at first it's the looks. Not everyone will really have the time to spare so they can actually know you and know you're real character. It hurts but it's true, we can comfort ourselves that we can trump that with better attitude but yes ..at first glance..the eye beholds.
*Get Back To The BASICS!!!* I believe when a person is Whole and Complete on the inside, there outside will always be Complete. When you've Mastered that Inside Completion, there is nothing the outside can do to affect you. It's pretty hard to crack what's Completely Whole....it's hard to Master Complete Wholeness. It's my desire to just keep pushing. Eileen Amazing Share.💯💛✨
I was a lot more invested on working on the outside when I was younger. Now in my 30s, I'm definitely working more on the inside. It definitely has affected how much I want to invest into polishing the outside xx
I believe the environment and what people are used to seeing also plays a part. For example, Singapore is highly urbanised, so you can expect to see smartly dressed people, but due to the hot weather, our national uniform is actually the t-shirt, shorts and sandals lol. And when it comes to makeup, we are also quite lax compared to some other Asian countries. So I believe the social experiment will have different results if carried out out here 😅
TBH I think your aesthetic is classy, possibly wealthy, elegant and chic! But it isn't due to your exact items; it's down to your demeanor and then the lines of your clothes, bags and shoes. I think someone of fewer means could have this aesthetic without real designer goods. Since you can afford them and feel good using them, I think it's great you use the designer goods; but not necessary.
It just goes to show what I've been saying for ages. In the infinite universe we are probably the most primitive species. Personally I always try to defy expectations. Going out? Never heels or make up. Jeans and tshirt? Heels and make up. Even as a young woman I'd never conform to social expectations and I truly belive I've never judged people by appearances. It doesn't matter what you look like and what you wear, it's who you are as a human that makes you my friend. The words that come out of your mouth matter, not how 'frumpy' or 'put together' you look. That being said I do expect humans to respect themselves and others and not to smell to strongly or show their intimate parts too much🤣
You know, I'm going to sort or agree and disagree with you, I think its about how your carry yourself and attitude. I have never had a issue from store clerk, car salesman, realestate agent ect like a few stories I've hard. I dress pretty casual sundresses and sandals most days, nothing fancy unless I am going to dinner or a event. Also I just wanted to send you another thankyou - I just purchased my first New Car with Cash and its a much nicer car then I ever thought it would own and I was able to negotiate for a great price with lots of extras and accessories included. Previously I would have spent all that extra money on bags, and jewellery.
No disrespect here, but shouldn't how we behave and treat others be more important than our appearance? I know that people judge, but that could change if each of us made the effort to look beyond the exterior. I realize that's not what this video is about, but I just wanted to include it in the discussion.
Thank you for sharing! I agree individual qualities are really important too. I included them in the end of the video but they definitely don't take the littlest priority xx
In a perfect world we could look past physical appearance. But since we’re not in a perfect world it’s good to remember that we have a certain control how people view us.
It’s true our old lizard brains do size each other up for safety reasons. I definitely believe in the “look good, feel good” adage & it definitely doesn’t take money to do so.
New here and It’s so lacking in integrity not to announce ads, if even just in writing. People should know when you get paid to say you like something.
Hi Miranda, thanks for the feedback! I usually declare sponsored videos on my channel (it should show up as a little sign in the first few seconds of the video) and in my description too. I will however take this on board to make sponsorships more visible. Thank you!
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I definitely judge people by their appearance and the way they carry themselves. Walking outside in sleepwear,bonnets, unbrushed hair, body odor etc DOES say a lot about a person’s self esteem and character. I prefer to always be as polished as I can. Some type of jewelry is a personal must. When you look good, you feel good🥰
Agree. And when will women stop wearing workout clothes all day - particularly leggings so tight that we're forced to see every detail of their backside. Yuck. What happened to proper adult clothing?
I always wear the same jewelry to simplify this. And it's small enough that I never have to take it off. I know some people may have a different style so it may not work for them, but i went for high clarity diamonds with 18k gold in classic cuts to streamline the accessorizing.
@@AD-wm9if love this! I do the same thing with a lot of my staple pieces 😇
@@Breonaleonard @AD Yes! For me it's silver bracelets and a particular ring!
Oh yes, jewelry is that magic touch for me too! xx
Good posture and reasonable grooming go a long way. A scratched up and stained 5,000$ hand bag is still a scratched up and stained hand bag.
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Nicely put! Thank you for sharing! xx
It’s amazing you said this because one of the biggest trends this year is the beat up luxury bag and it made me so angry. First, the fact that people are so hyper focused on having/saying they have a particular bag that they are willing to buy one that is beat to oblivion is just terrible! Secondly, oh my goodness, please don’t spend your money on beat up bags! Just wait and save and get one that is new or in great condition.
I’m sure the Olsen twins care what you think.
It's absolutely true but while it shouldn't matter what we look like, being put together in no way has to be expensive. I also look at this from the etiquette standpoint. Really what we're doing when we take the time to look put together is showing respect for others.
100% agree!! xx
We are showing self respect.
We ALL judge people by their appearance. Sometimes that’s all the information we have to make certain assumptions. I think how you present yourself is a personal decision, and you should do so knowing people will form opinions based on what you present. If you don’t care and make little effort, don’t be surprised when you aren’t taken seriously or may be overlooked. You don’t have to be flashy or runway ready, just presentable. You’ll feel better and have confidence when you look good.
Definitely! It's hard to look beyond the surface when all we have is the surface xx
Growing up, I remember my mom always getting dressed better, putting on some makeup and doing her hair to go to the grocery store. Now it's anything goes, and I honestly do think this lax behavior has contributed a bit to some of the crazy behaviors we see in public these days. We don't always have to look perfect, but at least put forth an effort to look neat and tidy when out and about. I know I feel better about myself when my appearance is good. And inevitably, that one day I don't take the time, I'm going to run into a million people I know! LOL
Haha I get what you mean! You never know who you'd run into! xx
Yes I know what you're talking about. There are also some implications. If a person is not able to take care of oneself and groom oneself, they are probably struggling with stress, mental health, or money. If the girl in the experiment looked poor or like she had a problem, people didn't want to help, because they thought that would encourage her to come beg next time. But if she looked well-off, like it was really just a one-off thing, they were more comfortable to help.
I have also some experience from this unfortunately. I used to struggle with deppression and at the time, I didn't have the energy to go shopping so when my jeans broke, I would just wear my old sweat pants all the time. I felt like putting up an outfit in the morning took out all my mental energy of the day. Sometimes even showering and washing my hair was a huge task, that I would try to put off. People didn't bother me, they sort of left me alone. However afterwards, I heard that some people had talked ill behind my back at my school about my clothes.
Whereas, sometimes when I would feel more refreshed, and put on heels, maybe even makeup, and have freshly clean and brushed hair, people would be kinder to me than usual; even cashiers at grocery stores would smile at me more.
I think 'scruffy' people must look scarier, that's why people are reserved. Other than that, it must be classism. People who haven't experienced being in the scruffy position don't know that it could happen to anyone, and they're not so different.
Excellent point. I'm currently dealing with an injury that makes it more difficult to do basic stuff, and there are days when I just can't deal with all of it. Fortunately, this is temporary and after surgery in April, I'm hoping to be back to my old self. But what about someone who struggles with an ongoing issue like you mentioned?
Very valid points! Thank you for sharing!!
Ps: I totally get what you mean- looking put together does take time and effort and sometimes we're just not in the right place to do those things. I had a surgery done 2 months ago and I was in bed a lot of the time. Looking nice was the last thing I could care about xx
Posture clothing hairstyle
And attitude reveals a lot about us
This non verbal communication is powerful and tells a story about who we are ,how to relate to others and how we feel about ourselves
Oh yes, posture does make such a difference! XX
Thank you Eileen for yet another thoughtful video. I honestly do not understand people who claim online we should not judge a book by its cover. They come across as very hypocritical and 'holier than thou'. These sort of statements never hold up in real life. Do you really not mind dealing with dishevelled, stinky, rude, loud, impolite and dirty people? You really do not mind keeping that sort of company? You wouldn't mind exposing your children to that kind of people? Being clean, wearing presentable clothes, taking care of your teeth, skin, hair and hands costs next to nothing. There is no excuse.
The little things really do count! xx
Eileen, you always have such Wisdom & a Unique way of Expressing that Wisdom to others! That's why I enjoy your Videos so much! What you say always makes such sense & if followed, one can begin to form Values for the Right Things in Life! When one gets on the path of Wisdom, Peace follows! If we are not out constantly shopping, shopping, shopping, for "Things" tht don't satisfy, not only are we practicing Wisdom & Financial Sense, but we can use that time to Relax, Reflect & Rejuvenate ourselves! Bc as you said, taking Care of Oneself is necessary for Good Health & Longevity! It's better to make Good Choices to Direct our Lives than to just Endure what Life hands us!
I wish you Good Health, Happiness & Peace, as you continue your Life Journey!
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Thank you so much! It's always lovely to see you here xx
I was concerned that this video might make me feel bad for neglecting my appearance, but it made me feel gently empowered! Thank you for communicating this important information in such a kind way. I always love your videos. You have such a peaceful and wise essence.
Thank you so much, Heather xx
@@ColourfulNoir I so appreciate your response! I have been doing my skincare and haircare much better after watching your video. I feel more confident. 😊❤️
Hi Eileen, I live in New York City and I once did the experiment! It was about 10 years ago. I like Saks Fifth Avenue and Bergdorfs so I did my test at both of those on the same day, it’s a short walk from one to the other. I went on a Saturday because I was off work that day. My hair was kind of frizzy, I had no makeup or even lip gloss on, and a really bad outfit! I swear to you I couldn’t get a sales person to help me at either store! Nobody would go near me. But the following Saturday I went more like how ( I hope) I usually look and dress. Nice outfit, hair blown dry, makeup. I had salespeople crawling all over me! People do look. People do notice. Life is hard enough. Why make it harder for ourselves by presenting ourselves to the world looking scruffy? I won’t do that again.
Haha! Omg! Same here in London! I don’t even go to high end places if I look scruffy! If you are carrying a designer handbag etc in Selfridges/Harrods etc the sales associates are all over you and genuinely helpful as compared to if you turn up with your longchamp bag 😂
@@nida1990 we both had the same experience! It does make a difference, how you present yourself to the world. People do notice. This proves it. We should have done this together - but I’m in NYC, I made the comment above about my experiment.
I get what you mean! The contrast in the kind of service we receive can be so dramatically different based on how we look xx
@@ColourfulNoir yes! I wouldn’t believe the difference in the way I was treated, if I didn’t do this test myself. We need to look our best, and make that effort on a regular basis
It's true when we take care of ourselves it first makes us feel more complete and confident. That frees us to embrace others as our true selves and for others to reciprocate in return. And let's me honest we all judge in some form so let's just put our best foot forward and see where it takes us 😉
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It is about humans communication and perception. Humans don’t exchange only by words. So, judging a book by it’s cover might not be the most accurate way of know someone but it’s the only one way we have when we don’t have way to know someone personally. Sometimes it’s a question of safety. I don’t equate the concept with negative.
Quite true! It's hard to look beyond the surface when we hardly know someone. Besides, humans are naturally very visual creatures xx
Thankyou for your time with making these videos . I find these very useful and rewatch every now and again. A great resource for those of us who didn't necessarily have the opportunity to learn the things you are teaching from our homelives. Much love from Melbourne, Australia.
It means a lot, thank you so much xx
Yes it's true,looks matter. Attitude and other things comes later but at first it's the looks. Not everyone will really have the time to spare so they can actually know you and know you're real character. It hurts but it's true, we can comfort ourselves that we can trump that with better attitude but yes ..at first glance..the eye beholds.
You've put it so well! It's a bit harsh but a reality xx
*Get Back To The BASICS!!!*
I believe when a person is Whole and Complete on the inside, there outside will always be Complete. When you've Mastered that Inside Completion, there is nothing the outside can do to affect you. It's pretty hard to crack what's Completely Whole....it's hard to Master Complete Wholeness. It's my desire to just keep pushing. Eileen Amazing Share.💯💛✨
I was a lot more invested on working on the outside when I was younger. Now in my 30s, I'm definitely working more on the inside. It definitely has affected how much I want to invest into polishing the outside xx
we are visual creatures of course appearance and looks matter! Most important is you yourself must like the way you look
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I believe the environment and what people are used to seeing also plays a part. For example, Singapore is highly urbanised, so you can expect to see smartly dressed people, but due to the hot weather, our national uniform is actually the t-shirt, shorts and sandals lol. And when it comes to makeup, we are also quite lax compared to some other Asian countries. So I believe the social experiment will have different results if carried out out here 😅
Very true lol! I hardly ever used make up in Malaysia-- it melts away in no time!! xx
TBH I think your aesthetic is classy, possibly wealthy, elegant and chic! But it isn't due to your exact items; it's down to your demeanor and then the lines of your clothes, bags and shoes. I think someone of fewer means could have this aesthetic without real designer goods. Since you can afford them and feel good using them, I think it's great you use the designer goods; but not necessary.
Thank you so much for your kind words! xx
Can you please make a video of skin care routine ❤
Noted! Thanks for to the suggestion xx
Been following you for a while everytime i did impulsive decision making always go back your page help me remind myself to come down.
I even can’t look myself without hair done…naturally it is not quite curly and I look like Bon Jovi in ‘80is 😅
Oh I do spend a bit of time on my hair too- it makes quite a different in my mood xx
I'm sure it looks lovely. I'd love to have Bon Jovi hair...my hair looks like a dandelion!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Lady Eileen hello 🕊️ Thank You so much 🌸 Stay Elegant 🍷
Thank you! xx
It just goes to show what I've been saying for ages. In the infinite universe we are probably the most primitive species. Personally I always try to defy expectations. Going out? Never heels or make up. Jeans and tshirt? Heels and make up. Even as a young woman I'd never conform to social expectations and I truly belive I've never judged people by appearances. It doesn't matter what you look like and what you wear, it's who you are as a human that makes you my friend. The words that come out of your mouth matter, not how 'frumpy' or 'put together' you look. That being said I do expect humans to respect themselves and others and not to smell to strongly or show their intimate parts too much🤣
Thank you for sharing!! xx
You know, I'm going to sort or agree and disagree with you, I think its about how your carry yourself and attitude. I have never had a issue from store clerk, car salesman, realestate agent ect like a few stories I've hard. I dress pretty casual sundresses and sandals most days, nothing fancy unless I am going to dinner or a event. Also I just wanted to send you another thankyou - I just purchased my first New Car with Cash and its a much nicer car then I ever thought it would own and I was able to negotiate for a great price with lots of extras and accessories included. Previously I would have spent all that extra money on bags, and jewellery.
Thank you for sharing! xx
what I see most of rich people they dress up low and poor people dress up more to impress
I couldn't agree more. 💟
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Glad you enjoyed it xx
Love your videos and gentle reminders of how we can be more mindful of how we take care of ourselves and spending 😊
Thank you!xx
My parents always said to his kids “Never walk out of our house unmade”.
No disrespect here, but shouldn't how we behave and treat others be more important than our appearance? I know that people judge, but that could change if each of us made the effort to look beyond the exterior. I realize that's not what this video is about, but I just wanted to include it in the discussion.
Thank you for sharing! I agree individual qualities are really important too. I included them in the end of the video but they definitely don't take the littlest priority xx
In a perfect world we could look past physical appearance. But since we’re not in a perfect world it’s good to remember that we have a certain control how people view us.
@@Benintende1952 That world wouldn't be a perfect world, but a nightmare. In a big city people meet dozens, maybe hundreds of strangers every day.
If your shirt is a $1000 silk shirt, but it smells funky and has pit stains, you may as well be wearing a $10 shirt. So. Hygiene. Big factor.
Nicely put! Lol xx
It’s true our old lizard brains do size each other up for safety reasons.
I definitely believe in the “look good, feel good” adage & it definitely doesn’t take money to do so.
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New here and It’s so lacking in integrity not to announce ads, if even just in writing. People should know when you get paid to say you like something.
Hi Miranda, thanks for the feedback! I usually declare sponsored videos on my channel (it should show up as a little sign in the first few seconds of the video) and in my description too. I will however take this on board to make sponsorships more visible. Thank you!
in my opinion, every girl should not spend less than $200 on replica, because there is high potential that would be bad replica. real leather,box,dustbag, that is only on #dupbags
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Thank you so much! xx
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