Once my sister told me "when you're buying something, you're not spending money, you're spending time, all the time it takes you to work to earn that amount" and that has helped me to be more mindful about what do I spend my money on. Because, even if you feel like you can make that money back, you can't get time back.
It's the same mindset I have when it comes to loaning money. I'm very careful who to let borrow money and how much regardless the need coz it may never be returned to you. And money isnt just money, it's my sleepless nights, my stress, cravings I deprived myself with to save it, effort to stay in my budget, etc. And I treat unpaid loans as disrespect to a point.
My mother was a seamstress, she would ask my sisters and I to choose outfits from the clothing catalogue. Mum would buy the fabric and make exact replicas for us to wear. Today I enjoy making my own clothes to wear, recently I bought a book on shoe making. R.I.P Mum!
I love that so sweet about your Mom. My Mom made all of my baby clothes and clothing up until kindergarten. She passed while I was in kindergarten. Today I love making my own clothes 2 winters ago I made 3 Gorgeous coats I stitched by hand. I get compliments on them every time I wear them because they’re unique and one of a kind.
@@LaBelleJouJou My condolences for the early loss of your mother. I would like to make a rain coat next or a leather jacket. My neighbour was a designer and she made some lovely winter coats for herself that received many lovely compliments like your unique creations. Thank you for your kind words for my mother-Peace be with you!
@@bakeranita6040 Yes-mum was very skilled with various stitching, nothing was too hard for her to make. She made a martial arts uniform with replica embroidery for my brother. It would have cost him £200.00 in 1993, my brother was a broke student, so he bake her two cakes and gave her a hug and a kiss,...Lol!
Yes but personally, I’d have a bag that can secure that money(physically and all else). And bag is like a front that boost self, like an accessory. I am an art person, that’s why I’m saying this. I’d hate to be guilty liking something but not getting it just because it isn’t necessary. Edit: Oh my gosh I just thought (just a thought) telling someone, “I like you but I don’t need you, you aren’t necessary. Shoo!”😭
@@runi2453But don’t you wish you didn’t need an over-priced, mass-produced bag to boost your identity? Spend your money on education and experiences, so you can develop a self that doesn’t need a front.
The woman that reacted to staff rudeness by going back and buying thousands in the same store gave me whiplash, like... Why? You're rewarding them, reacting exactly how they want! You're not "showing them" lmao
I went to a Rolex store with my Mom & Nephew, we were treated very well by the salespeople. (My Nephew is into watches and was just browsing and curious to see what a real Rolex looked like)
I once walked through a Harvey Nichols shop just looking at the bags. I was about 19 or so and working in a supermarket at the time. I saw the staff looking down their noses at me. It did not make me want to shop there, I just found it amusing because someone who is getting paid the same minimum wage as me is looking down on me. Truly outstanding.
I worked in the "Goods receiving room and maintenance department" within Harvey Nichols in the 1980s. Yes-there was a culture of snobbery and staff would change their accents and manner of speaking to fit in. Some of the sales staff did earn a small fortune in sales commission and the buyers were on very high wages BITD. They would buy plain cashmere jumpers imports for £1.00 each and sow a Harvey Nichols label on the jumper, scarf etc and sell it for £200.00+. Working in high end retail at a young age made me realise the illusions of the modern world.
Though this also applies to the uber rich. Their simple appearance is actually not out of preference but is by design. Socialism is once again on the rise world wide so they try to look as mundane as possible to avoid the ire of the population. People like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are some of the most hated people in the world. When it comes to moments when the cameras aren't on them they have no problem engaging in conspicious consumption with megayachts, enormous summer estates and even buying up entire islands.
It blows my mind that a handbag could cost 10K plus. I saved up several years to buy an upright piano for that amount. If you look at the inside of a piano, the detailed and precise mechanisms of the key actions for 88 keys, the soundboard, etc, then compare that to...a literal bag...it is a just mindboggling.
@CountryCarReviews I didn't realizing sewing a bag together counts as French artisan. My grandma is a French artisan too. She also knits and darns socks.
You can't compare luxury items to any other kind of stuff. Luxury items profit margin are insane. That piano cost that much, cause it's value is that much (materials, craftsmanship, transport etc.)
I like the fact that you said they target the poor. It’s exactly that ! Look at the people queuing at Hermes or Vuitton … They prey on the lack of self esteem. And people confuse bling with class….
Something ive noticed after years of working in the service industry is its always the people in flashy name brands mad about prices. Its so weird seeing someone holding a hermes or kate spade bag and dressed up head to toe in chanel and Gucci blowing up because i could give them a dollar off on their 20 dollar order
Being free from debt makes you richer than 99% of people. Sleeping well and not being scared of the mailman walking up the driveway with letters, priceless!
Not all debt is bad. Jesus Christ man. Debt is actually important too, to fulfill your dream of a house. A safe car for your children.. people don’t understand that credit card debt is bad but not all debt. Also using Amex and some credit cards actually give you advantages
@@patrik3450 Saving for a down payment is a significant barrier for many prospective homebuyers. The ability to save and accumulate a substantial down payment can greatly influence whether someone can afford a home. Saving $$$ is a significant issue in the United States. Most people live paycheck to paycheck, forget about savings for emergencies or retirement...
Nowadays Gorgeous bag, however, for saving money and high-quality bags, try t *suluxs* the rest of the money goes to needy students at schools to pay for their education, not much, but do help them a little.
In the electronics market, they are also designed to fail after a few years, forcing you to upgrade. Apple even went through the trouble of intentionally slowing down older phones to force the upgrade to 5G. This practice is infecting entire industries.
I agree designer brands are targeted to the poor, like LV and Gucci, but not Hermes. With how difficult it is to get for just anyone, it actually is for the rich.
Try traveling to Tokyo Japan they sell Original lux brands for less like LV , Channel , Gucci ,Coach ,YSL etc for less its still more pricey than the fakes and still in good condition i just dont know how the costoms works in the USA if they will still tax you 2nd hand lux items but sure either buy the brand new *esluxs* you want or travel half the world away to buy 2nd hand lux items for few days that also includes your plane ticket hotel accomodations for how many days food and goodie stuffs for families and friends and other expencess but they said " original LV Bag from Japan for less " or just travel to Bangkok thailand and visit the Platinum Mall buy as many replica bags all you want w/o the hassel
You have no idea how many are out there who instead of buying a house or put money into savings they buy this kind of stuff. When she says poor she means also well to do people ( doctors, executives etc) who put all their money into that stuff and they end up poor.
there's mainstream brands (LV, Gucci, Chanel, Prada) and then there's actual luxury brand (Hérmes, Loro Piana), ppl are getting poorer with designer items because they're going out of their way to buy it/have it
lol you can buy Hermes items. I have seen broke people and bank tellers at my small community bank wearing smaller pieces. Birkens are the only hard item to get for broke people but even then, i’ve heard of people whose only goal is to collect items from these fashion houses and are completely broke doing it
A better option would to buy a bag from a local craftsman. It supports the community and you can directly trace it's origin. One of a kind! Not to mention it will cost a lot less.
For the most part these small artisans actually have better quality items because they're made individually and the materials are specifically chosen.. unlike in big brands that are mass manufactured. Support small artisans and small business owners
My favorite bag is from Oberon Design. They have beautiful embossed & hand tooled leather goods, along w/Brittania (sp?) silver accessories. My bag is their Streamline Tote in the Tree of Life design, in dark brown. It is absolutely stunning, extremely well-made w/high quality leather & other materials. It wasn’t cheap, at around $230, but worth every penny. It’s definitely a Forever bag!
My grandfather is 99 years old this year. He had been making leather goods such as saddles, leather shoes and bags for 70 years. Some the best quality I've ever encountered.
My cousin and I were once treated extremely poorly in a Prada store. Where as I wanted to leave and never step foot in that store again, my cousin spent over $1000 on a pair of sunglasses, just to prove that she actually did have money. The woman who was rude to us, profited off of her disrespect and belittling… this is so eye opening
Designer store sales staff and other luxury salespeople are intentionally rude and dismissive to make customers buy stuff in order to prove how rich they are or that they belong there.
@@sunnywynn56 It would be funnier to organize a flash mob of dirty and poor people to stay in the store, drive away customers and sour the prestige of the brand on social media. Faux-rich people don't want to be associated with dirty and poor people.
So sorry to hear that...Unfortunately rude sales people are in all levels of society, Your cousin should have asked for another sales person to help her out. Better yet say okay I'll spend my money at your competitor's store. Never be intimidated by a snooty sales person.. Talk to manager, get a name report it to corporate. I've been to Walmart in a small town and was treated like crap ... I was in Paris last month and was treated very well by the staff at Bvlgari & Chanel. It all depends on the sales person you get ,snootiness happens on all levels. on another note, You have gorgeous hair by the way.
jus remember tat the sales person is most likely making just above minimum wage and some of them are on a commission. So the more u pay the more they make.
Simple rule is: buy the goods you really like, for your own satisfaction and self reward, not to impress other people. Its not a mistake to buy luxury brands as long as you really like it and can afford it.
Yes exactly I don't know maybe I'm a narcissist but I only buy things because I think it looks good I couldn't care less what another person thinks, and designer brands are exactly that to get the recognition of others.
The problem is the line of liking and afford is very blurry for a lot of the people purchasing these items. Social media tricks you into thinking that these items will be the envie of the people that surround you and that only people that matter can afford them. Thus brain washing people into thinking they desire these items because they will show other people "hey look what i can afford". And "affording" something is a thing that a lot of people don't understand completely. People think that if they have the money for something that they can afford it, and while yea that has some truth to it, a lot of the people are barely affording items that they sometimes even get on an account just to be able to "afford" them. Or save up enough money to spend on an item that is not even worth the sweat and time that it took to get it. In small words middle class people trying their best to be able to afford rich people items.
Its an understatement to just call you as a TH-camr...This is some honest, pure high class JOURNALISM with excellent research and a deep message.... Mad respect for you girl ❤ Be blessed...
Loved the video! I have a Small *esluxscom* in black calf leather, and absolutely love it. Not necessarily the most practical because of the narrow opening, but you can fit so much in there!
Yes I know not everyone can afford these bags, but wouldn't people want to know other people's experiences with this bag before wasting their money? Like other TH-camrs have said about this bag, I got a *preluxz* and I'm very happy with my bag. Thanks to the blogger, I showed this video to my sister and now she will definitely get the Louis Vuitton bag she has always wanted! Love this kind of videos!!
My dad REALLY falls for the whole salesperson-treating-you-poor tactic. My mom, who grew up in a comfortably well-off home, will immediately leave, whereas my dad, who grew up in a cabin, will take it as a challenge and buy multiple expensive items. It’s nice to hear this reaction explained so eloquently! Thanks for that! ❤
@@Haplo-san that's not what they are going for. They are trying to dissuade him by calling him a pretty woman. I think most men want to be called handsome
The key difference being that Julia Roberts spebt all her money at other boutiques and showed up at the one that treated her poorly with all the fancy shopping bags, rather than spending a dime at the place that treated her poorly😄
@@FUUUUU1111 Honey, if you drop a vague comment, you can't get bitchy if someone doesn't interpret it exactly the way you meant it. BE SPECIFIC if you don't want to hear how stupid your comment really is.
What she said about the pretty woman effect is so true. Yeah, you flipped the table on those rude sales people by buying their stuff but you still end up with the same table and walking out wasting your money on a brand that doesn’t appreciate their followers.
I used to buy a lot of Kate Spade since it was within my budget, it was what a lot of people around me wore during school and I liked the designs. I was generally treated really well (invited to exclusive events) until there was one day I went to their store while dressing very “poorly”. If shocked me how differently I was treated. When I told someone else about this, they told me I should’ve gone and bought the bags to “flaunt it”. I was like wut? Why? I guess I understand why now. I didn’t buy anymore Kate Spade since I didn’t like their new designs, but I never felt that I needed to fit in, because I am that Kate Spade buyer. They aren’t even a luxury brand, why are they using these same crappy sales tactics 😅 I think I’m just done with the brand, I still have like 6 bags that I use, but time to move on.
Right? Same what I thought, like the woman still ended up the "loser" in this situation, where she both got treated bad, but now thousands from her wallet went to the brand that didn't appreciate her. A better own would have been to boycott the brand and tell her friends and relatives to do the same, because of how they treat people.
I had seen a video about how Mark Zuckerberg’s seemingly plain shirt was actually a $400 custom-made shirt. Just because there is no logos on rich peoples clothing does not mean that they didn’t spend exorbitant amounts on it. I’m not saying that’s the case for all rich people, but we need to be careful when assessing what other rich people are doing and trying to compare it to what we should, or shouldn’t do
The point is that he doesn’t care what you think about what he’s wearing. He doesn’t care if you think it’s from Walmart. It’s comfortable and that’s what his focus is on - his own comfort and not what other people think about it.
About the "Pretty Woman" effect, it's crazy to me that people are applying it in real life as buying a bunch of stuff FROM a store where you were disrespected, because that's the opposite of what happens in the movie! Julia Roberts's character goes on a shopping spree at every OTHER designer store on the block, then goes back to the shop where the sales lady insulted her and waves her bags around like "see this? You could've been making commission on all this"
Women have some F'ed up psychology. I learned a long time ago the better you treat a woman, the less she will respect you. The worse you treat a woman the more she will be attracted to you. It is like that Stockholm syndrome. Women love being mistreated.
Yes I won't spend a dollar in a shop that has disrespected me but most especially if they have disrespected my mother. No chance. I might even make them work like go in and shop and try on things for an hour and pile it all up at the cash wrap - then ask if they remember the incident of disrespecting my mother and tell them to put it all back as I tuck my Amex back into my wallet and place it into my designer handbag. I can't stand retail employees who forget how they earn their paychecks - by selling the items in their shops. When I worked at Laura Ashley and later Ralph Lauren, I treated everyone who walked in like they had a no-limit AmEx and they just wanted to be treated with dignity by the clerks.
@@d.lightfultv2231 If they are willing to part with their money, I'd take both, I don't care. I'm not going to ask for their bank balance to determine who's poor and who's not.
@@vdochev that’s my whole point. Ferrari doesn’t build cars for people making $50k a year…..they build for a certain demographic and focus on getting money from them. To say it’s easier to get money from a poor person means you might be poor yourself.
@@d.lightfultv2231 No, mate. The point is a poor person is more willing to buy expensive sh*t they can barely afford, so they can feel the sensation of being rich, while a rich person doesn't need that.
I work in non-fashion retail, and we are forced to destroy unsold merchandise at the end of each season as well. Employees aren't allowed to purchase the items either. It's so wasteful and sickening the scale this is happening on!!!!! Someone could being enjoying those things. Smh.
It seems like the *esluxs* one looks better than the real one though. Who cares? Nobody is gonna spot it when you wear it in a nightclub or a night out. People are busy with their own lives. And people just don't bother you wearing a real or fake one. Just saying.
My teenage son went through a hypebeast phase that drove us up the wall. It was to the point of having meltdowns because he couldn't have the cool thing "everyone" at school had. It didn't help that his mother convinced him we were wealthy, in part because of how I dress. She was spending a couple grand a month because of how she thought I dressed. So I showed him my "designer" wardrobe, which is mostly inexpensive or thrifted pieces with the clothing tailored to fit well. My highest end pieces are all Fluevog shoes because they're fun and odd, not popular, and half of them were bought second hand. He actually got angry at me for managing to look good on a budget then got *more* angry when I explained that I will continue to dress this way even if I become wealthy. It took a few deep conversations about how marketing works and how real wealthy people spend their money to get him over all that.
@lilacpetal2406 ideally, this would shut them up, but I can already tell that if the kid is already this spoiled, he may play the "you don't love me" guilt trip. Don't underestimate the power children have over their parents when they threaten to withhold their love, attention, respect, etc. Many parents would rather cave into the guilt trip than create a rift in their family dynamics.
@@franks8462 ...Did you miss the part where he got over it after we spoke to him? Here's the thing; he wasn't spoiled. His mother bought *herself* the designer stuff, he got whatever was on sale at Walmart and convinced him we were wealthy (which we aren't). When he landed on our doorstep he had it in his head that we were living large and would get him anything he asked for. We talked with him, full on conversations about marketing, FOMO, designer fashion, fast fashion, thrift shopping, hyper consumerism, you name it. He did try to pull the "You don't love me" card a few times when he was begging for the latest designer thing but it was met every time with, "Things are not love. Things do not make you a better person." Took about 6 months to get him through it. Was it rough? Absolutely, but we didn't budge. It's been 4 years. He still likes looking at designer stuff but prefers inexpensive but well made things, is a thrift store wizard, and pretty good at managing his own finances (better than a lot of muxh older adults I know).
@lilacpetal2406...Where did you get that we bought him designer things? His mother bought *herself* the high end stuff, he got what was on sale at Walmart. She did the bare minimum expected of a parent. We don't believe in humbling our kids. We believe in *teaching* them so they can navigate to the world with awareness. It blew his mind when he learned just how little I spend on clothing for myself and that very little of it is designer. What he got from us was clothing that didn't fall apart in 2 months but nothing expensive either and a lot of lessons in how to shop smart. The most important lesson he got was that expensive things do not make you a better person.
@laskosyarelis...I don't care about spending cheap to look the part. I refuse to wear anything with obvious tags or logo patterns. My self worth is not tied up in what others think I'm wearing.
Steve Job's turtleneck sweater was designed by Japanese Issey Miyake and Jobs had plans for the look to be a kind of uniform. It was always a look driven by an intense interest in high fashion design from the start, it is just that most tech bros are so clueless about fashion that they never realised it and keep repeating this myth that Jobs just wore some generic turtleneck.
Wow! At last somebody who takes their time to comment something smart and factual. People forget, that these people also live in mansions, have mega yachts, etc. They may not wear a rolex or sport Gucci or have a Birkin bag but they do have expensive stuff and it is their right if they want to. God bless
@@alonry This video is focused on luxury/designer brands, not a video saying "but but but Rich people don't own expensive things." You completely missed the point lol
@@Mega-zi7ys no clothing would be significantly priced to Jobs. Whether NB shoes or the most luxurious sweater. The point is that he wasn’t someone who “did not care about fashion.” He was not trying to be an Everyman. NB shoes were trendy in the 70/80s. Especially in the tech world. Again, it wasn’t about being humble lol. He wanted to be fashionable.
@@alonryMansions and yachts are usually pretty expensive in the making (material, manpower, working hours). Designer brand products are not more expensive in production than non-designer brands. With them, you just pay for the illusion of luxery suggested by the brand name.
I strongly doubt that when death comes, our last thought would be: thank god i had my Birkin bag it made my life so much better and it made me a good person 😄
I think when we are about to die we will be glad we enjoyed whatever we enjoyed and didn’t let others’ opinions of what we should or shouldn’t buy affect us :)
that is the thought of a poor narrow- minded person. Maybe it is a very big thing to you, but just a small thing for those who can earn much higher than you. If you are poor, try to work smarter to earn more. Dont make your poor status a representative for other people. Just live truely and fully to your capabilities, that is wisdom.
@@honeychan87😂it's quite laughable you feel that triggered to call a complete stranger you know nothing about they must be poor. I can see how superior and smarter and better than them you feel.... There's rich people who buy expensive bags and still think they're unimportant meaningless stuff. Just because you buy it doesn't mean you have to give it some artificial importance or fake meaning
@@HikaruYamamoto I understand that pretty well, I'm probably hitting the pearly gates in circa 2040 due to my crappy immune system, but hey. If you have a will, then give it to someone you love. If all you have at the end of the day is your own enjoyment, then that's a very sad story to me. But either way, invest as soon as you can to get compound interest. Remember that 1$ when you're 18 can be 40$ when you're 50. It's important to invest especially when it has better inflation than the average salary.
@@dianaquill9969 $1 at 18 is going to snack at a vending machine... and $40 at 50 is nothing. With inflation things are getting worse. Most are saddled with insane college debt they can never escape. Mine was only forgiven due to it being a scam. Nobody has hope for the future anymore and thats why a lot of us are not having children either. So I say enjoy it now, before Putin throws a tantrum and destroys us all.
No. 10% goes to retirement now as a plot to get everyone's money in the stock market. Cooperate America took away our pensions. That's money we should have always had.
I have a friend who once said “why would I buy a $1500 purse when I don’t have that same amount in the bank”. I worked with a woman before that was obsessed with having designer items. Had a Benz (that she swore she bought brand new but turns out it was preowned), had numerous LV purses, bragged about getting her fiancé a Versace Robe for Christmas one year, etc. For Christmas 2019, she offered her home to host our work Christmas party. Because she lived in a really upscale part of town and was renting a new build house, we were expecting for her to show out. This Bih had no furniture. She had a breakfast table in the kitchen, a couch and a TV in the family room. Foyer and dining room were empty. My coworkers and I were pretty astounded. I’m never going to forget one time she offered to buy me Jamba Juice and when she came back she didn’t have my drink, I asked what happened and she deadass says “I’m not paying no $6 for an orange juice, sorry” Why offer then? You don’t have money to buy a healthy drink, but you’ll pay ridiculous amounts for designer? That’s how I knew she was broke. ETA: holy shit, a month later a thousand likes! But just wanted to come here real quick for those that are pointing out, yeah, I get it, Jamba Juice is not healthy per se, but the point is she offered to buy me something and it so happen I wanted an orange juice. Like if I know I can’t afford to pay for everyone, I don’t offer. It’s that simple. I have no problem paying for my own, which I did after that scenario cause again, I wanted an orange juice. Healthy, not healthy, I still wanted it. Someone else asked about the house being a rental and that’s why she didn’t furnish it. Who doesn’t furnish a rented house? As far as I know, she had a year long lease. Not sure where you’re located, but in the US, people typically furnish their rented houses/apartments cause it’s still a home. Who wants to live in an empty house? That’s just weird IMO. Lastly, the point of my comment was to explain how broke people prioritize appearing wealthy when really they’re not. This video reminded me of this coworker. If you couldn’t understand the gist of my original comment, then you missed the whole point of the video.
Thw same with an ex college at work… she had a lot of expensive bags and clothes… even Versace kitchen items…😂 why!? And one day she was telling me that she buys ready food for her daughters… and she was saying that she wouldn’t buy so much fruts and some type of food because is expensive… To be honest I don’t get it… I prefer to eat health food and enjoy a ballet concert than spend money in brand clothes and bags.
@@judas1523 not all poorer people own luxury bags, some just don't have enough income to support themselves and therefore don't care about designer bags.
@@ultron374 never said all poor people did… and i never said they had the income to be able to afford them… and what part of debt did you not understand? do you even know what credit is? how old are you? i said more poor people own luxury bags than rich people
I think it’s dangerous to think that you are immune from FOMO just because you don’t like designer brands. There will be something else that grabs you and gives you that feeling. Pick your poison! However by becoming aware of the tactics brands/influencers use we can lower there power over us
yeah there are so many things vying for our attention (and money) these days 😩 though I challenge the idea that we all are destined to FOMO, specifically for material goods! I think we can reduce our "FOMO" impulses over time, and/or channel them more into FOMO for positive experiences rather than items.
Why does missing out cause fear (fomo)? I am always excited for what's coming in the future!! For example, traveling abroad, weddings and divorces, retirement planning, and even PlayStation 6 and 7!! I don't really care about what I missed because new opportunities are always coming.
Wish I saw this video a couple years ago... 😂 sadly, I have purchased many designer handbags (mostly because I do love them & try to get investment pieces --Chanel and LV) but now with the economy being in its current state, it's scary to carry them. And even though resale values have gone up, I feel like it's a burden to sell them or even keep them. I have not looked at it as robbing me of my time until you mentioned it that way. I am going to have to get myself out of the lux hole. I will definitely watch more videos. Thanks for your insight. I just subscribed and liked. 😊❤👍🏼
Buying local would probably help your community better. I bought a locally made artisan leather totebag in 2016 in Jogjakarta for $80, and I'm still using it now! The leather is now so soft and comfortable to touch, and the style I chose is timeless. Now, that's an investment piece!
A 40ish unemployed single mom living off her middle class parents was bragging how she’s on Hermes’ customer list and is covered head to toe in designer clothing … she’s exactly what you are describing.
I always wondered as a kid why I heard that my dad made a lot of money but we never seemed to act like it. We never bought expensive clothes and drove a Volkswagen. My dad told me exactly that, about the millionaire next door. I’m so glad my parents were smart with their money and savings. Although we experienced troubles during the recession in 2008 (having been laid off) it could have been much worse
this reminds me one time my mom was telling my dad "look! Betty´s husband gifted her a new video camera!" (back when that was a new luxury thing) and he just said "Tell her husband to better buy her a house" (they were renting and we were not) hahahaha. My mom has never been one to spend money frivously but also she was a stay at home mom so she never really think or worry about money, even when my dad told her it was open to buy a certain thing she rarely accepted (she did used to work when she was single)
Same Even though we're not that upper-class type, it makes our lives saved rather than being distracted by wasteful items. It's also great that I watched this because I can be ungrateful sometimes, thankfully I can hold myself falling into the trap.
I think what gets ignored a lot in the designer discourse is how much wealthy public figures rely on tailors. Wearing clothes that look everyday but are tailored to your body really give off the "average but imperceptibly better" look which is what most rich people are actually striving for.
Yup, and a lot of the tailors don't make things from scratch - the wealthy people buy everything one or two sizes bigger and then have them tailored to fit.
That is true for some. The truly rich do not care about appearances, they have nothing to prove to anyone. I know a few multi-millionaires and you would think they are janitors by how they dress and drive 30 year old cars with peeling paint. They know looking rich makes them a target for all the wrong people. My neighbor is one of these that wears expensive and flashy items, drives a flashy car etc. He gets followed home by robbers and burglars constantly. His house has been burglarized about every other week. I told him he is the problem, not the thieves and burglars. He still hasn't learned his lesson yet.
I used to get clothing (sometimes even designer stuff) that was in good condition from the thrift store then have it tailored. Tailoring is worth it to me because it feels good to have clothing that fits well.
Cara, I just discovered your video last week, and I am blown away to say the least. What an educational, insightful, and intelligent video! Hopefully people will be inspired enough to make significant life changes. Thank you my friend.
It's disingenuous that Hermes portrays itself as incredibly exclusive, picking their customers by hand, yet every Kardashian has a full collection of their bags. I'm thankful people are realizing now that certain labels do not make you "classy".
My mother reserved a Place on the waiting list for a hermes bag. She had to wait almost 5 years. We are not rich, but my mother is a kind of women, who loves designer brands. So when the time got near to receive her bag she asked the shop when her bag will arive. They Said in a month. After a month the shop didt reach out to her so she asked them again per phone. They acted like they didnt know her and that she Never was on the waiting list. My mother theorizes that they handeled over her bag to someone more wealthier and with more Status without the waiting. She still loves Brands things, but i hate them. Such an disrespect just because you dont belong too the upper class. F**** them.
@@carmengrauwels If I remember correctly, Oprah wanted to shop after hours and they said no. Then she called them out on national television, and they caved and asked her to come back to shop.
I can't believe a lot of people reward brands by buying more when they are treated poorly. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said. If someone is rude to me or to someone I care about the last thing I'm going to do is give them money or promote them. It's a very negative spiral.
I had a beautiful, kind girlfriend for 5 years. One of the main reasons I had to break it off with her was her compulsive obsession with buying "designer" things. We both made good money, but she spent most of her monthly disposable income on shoes, handbags and clothes to the point she was running out of places to store them. One time she bought a $500 handbag. When we arrived home, she she put it in the armoire where she kept her other bags. I watched her initial elation quickly give way to anticipation of the "next thing" she could buy. In the 3 years that followed, I never once saw her use that bag. I realized the excitement for her wasn't the stuff she bought, it was the quickly-fleeting "high" she got from buying it. It was a sad vicious cycle.
@@cinnabarite does having an addiction make you an unkind person? These two words are just not related at all. You never know why she had that addiction, even if it’s a weird one.
I don't mean to seem rude, but did you at least help her get over this? Like encourage her to get help instead of breaking up with her? I mean, you said she was beautiful and kind. That seems like the kind of person who's worth trying for.
@@drewteves8326 You're not rude at all and I get your point. There were other issues that I won't get into. I actually suggested we go to therapy to talk things out. I figured a good Therapist could be a good mediator, but she said, "if I went to therapy, it'd be for you, and I don't want to go." Her Mother called me a few years after we split and said she was engaged, put on a lot of weight and her fiance called it off. I always hoped she'd get some help. I told her if she did, I'd consider re-connecting. You have a nice voice...are you a Filipina?
Every piece of nice or expensive clothing I own I bought at Thrift stores. Same with stuff like sunglasses and watches. You would be astonished what you can find if you spend some time looking.
I buy £400+ designer t shirts on ebay second hand. If you look around you can still buy those Gucci/Louis V items to "flex" in LMAO!! Without paying silly prices...
My father always told me that prior to any major purchase, to consider how long (hours/days/weeks) I would have to work to be able to afford it with post-tax money. This has helped me throughout my own life to make better buying decisions and avoid unnecessary spending.
My mom is the same but she eventually gave away the slightly ugly ones to some relatives and friends. At least her taste became more refined at least 😂
That's the worst bit! The ugliness. There's a Dior style of handbag that's called the saddlebag and it was designed by John Galliano who was inspired by a photo shoot by Helmut Newton who did models who were semi naked, in poses using real saddles and whips, it was almost porn. I find it incredible that this bag is so popular given this origin. It's also quite impractical and ugly.
Birkin...the most hyped and overrated product there is. People are so easily manipulated by their marketing. I don't even think it's a very pretty bag. Yes, they definitely target the less than truly rich that are seeking to look like they have more money than they do. It is exactly what you say. You did a great job with the insight you provided in this video. You nailed the psychology of this perfectly. You are very articulate and I enjoyed listening. Thanks.
I still am befuddled by the Birkin hype. When I went to go look at the brand since I had never heard of Hermès before the Birkin hype, I was looking at the history and it felt like the Kelly bag was the IT bag especially since its been stated that after that bag was made, lots of other brands had their own inspired Kelly like bag. That felt to be a bigger deal than the Birkin and imo looked better too. So the hype around the Birkin bag just confused me.
the ultra rich views it as a mere beach bag, the mistake was for the regular middle class or high middle class tries to squeeze into a higher social status. Their own faults.
I still will buy it. You better believe it. A nice bag is a nice bag. I am pro-wealth, like nice things, and love stylish clothings. I like fashion & cosmetics. I am glad I stopped the poverty mindset and toxic mentality years ago as a teenager. Nothing wrong with buying a bag and loving it. Y’all groupthink & have no true identity. I believe it’s jealousy deep down but y’all hate to admit that. These videos always prove why so many people are failures or lazy or losers or they truly don’t have nothing accomplished in life so they make these miserable videos to self project their low self esteem onto the world. These anti-wealth agendas are dangerous. If y’all wanna be in poverty minds or scarcity keep that stuff over there and don’t spread it. Frugality is another poverty mind to. Money should always be circulating and having more than enough money to never worry about money or losing anything. Wealthy people who let poor minded people & jealous failures oppress them from not buying nice things are poverty minded to and still brainwashed. Condemning money is bad and you’re writing blank checks to let the subconscious mind know you’re fine with poverty, frugality, debt, and all sorts of failure financial problems y’all always whining about. I still buy regular brands to that look TF good. If something is gorgeous imma buy it, you damn right and jealous or poor people won’t make me not buy it. That’s why they have articles saying millennials & Gen-Z going to be poor ass people, it shows why. I’m a millennial but I won’t be there with y’all. Live in poverty or frugality or always struggling paycheck to paycheck or in chronic debt with no money in circulation so you can live nice. If you feel you’re better than money then you are on your own being in poverty. Don’t spread this among the world.
I was surprised to hear that non-designer purses were discarded after a year. My purses are either thrifted or from low cost sources (TJ Max, Walmart, Amazon). I keep them for years before they start showing wear. Same with my clothing. Clothing can more easily be mended, so I have clothing articles in my closet that I have been wearing for decades. I am conscious of the environmental impact of consumerism.
My favorite quote “don’t go broke trying to look rich”. Don’t buy what you can’t afford to lose and appearing like you got it with designer while being in credit card debt is not a flex.
Hey I'm broke and I look broke and know what - I still enjoy life a lot and I feel happy and not worried about status or other kinda crap. I never had a single designer item in my life. ;)
They missed the mark with the “pretty woman” effect. She didn’t buy clothes from the rude associates, she went to other high end stores and went back to show them she could afford to purchase from their store but she doesn’t want to now.
@@LSSYLondonyeah but they kinda didn't because at the end of the day, she went out of her way to spend a lot of money and came back to prove to them that "she had money." So essentially, by treating someone like they don't belong and don't have any money, these stores actually provoke people to prove they belong by spending more than they normally would. That's the "effect" part, feeling like you have something to prove when they look down on you.
Great personality. Great video. Looking at bag Oh no the bag is too light. My purses are too heavy after i put what i need in that I leave stuff I need at home. Maybe I am weak. Light weight sounds really really good for me hahabut maybe without structure it would just fall apart on me. so thank you! I have more to think about now in terms of weight and structur *esluxs*
i am completely addicted to your content!! is so well done, you bring so much information. is clear how much effort you put in your channel, thank you for the videos
I'm really glad you pointed out the psychology behind it. A secure person would NOT want to be associated with a brand if they were treated poorly. An insecure person would try harder to be treated like a human being or win approval to be 'in the club' as if they gain exclusivity. I went to a fragrance store anc I was watched & judged by security/ staff. I was appalled and left. I vowed never to part with my money on them or support their business. I went to another fragrance store, a few doors down. The staff couldn't do enough for me and treated me like a human being. Just as I was paying for some fragrances & and leaving the store, two of the staff from the other store were passing by and just stared at me. It was hilarious 😂😂
Why are staff judging customers ? A customer is the one spending money . They are the ones making money. So Customer has all rights in world to decide where ,what and when to buy /not to buy
i’ve had some friends with old money and dated a girl who’s dad was the CEO of a fortunate 500 company. One drove a new hyundai elantra and the other drove her moms old lexus. Neither of them wore designer anything despite their families being uber wealthy. what they did have is insanely nice places to live that their parents bought for them. NYC penthouses, beach houses in hawaii, etc
@Clem Fandango And no one knows or cares what you are wearing . A pair of $20 dollar jeans made of cotton are no worse than a pair of cotton jeans made by armani for $200. If I had lots of money I would buy a big home and a nice car and travel around the world but not designer clothes.
The non-flashiness of some rich people is actually a poor-person costume, they make their money by exploiting workers and they need to hide their wealth and pretend to be philantropists. But usually those simple looking clothers are expensive high quality stuff, just without logos. Also, designer clothes is not only about flashiness, most of the actual designer stuff is higher quality and has details, materials and design that you can't find for cheap. No matter what you tell yourself, clothes are part of you, it's like a second skin, and there is no excuse for looking boring, other than being a poor, boring or tasteless person. You shouldn't wear designers to look rich, many people wear designers in order to look good, and most of those are not something an average person would recognise as expensive without a closer look.
@@pabo-qv3nx I can guarantee you that the 20$ dollar jean wouldn't last a years even if you took care of it, you would have spent much as that designer jean by having to buy a new one once every time because of wear and tear. It's the reason why there's the saying "it's expensive to be poor". I live in the south of France we get a metric shit ton of rich people coming here, a lot of them look like they are wearing normal regular clothes but once you go see the price of what looks like the most generic pieces of clothing you've seen you will get a heart attack, a lot of time their fit's cost more than the bling rich type cloths. For a example, the billionaires given as example has for "wearing" normal clothing, it probably cost around 4 or 5 figures if not more, much much more than the stereotypical rich looking clothes. Rich people almost exclusively buy designer clothes, it's just that you wouldn't notice they are designer clothing if you don't look closely at the tag inside.
@@nieno9760 I've had jeans for $20 and have lasted me more than a year, also had a t shirt that cost me $5 dollars and lasted me years washed and tumble dried and the print never faded. Bought a leather jacket about $100 and saw one in a Armani shop in Abu Dhabi and the leather was the same as mine but this one cost over $500 and was made in India for a few bucks. And once I saw a program about the fashion industry, they did an experiment. The presenter took 5 pair of jeans to a tailor at saville row in london where all the rich folks go.This tailor had many years of experience and was asked to put the 5 jeans in order from the expensive to the least and the tailor got it wrong. Some of the designer clothes may be better but most is the same quality. Personally you'd have to be a SCHMUCK to pay for a Gucci t shirt with Donald duck printiled on it for $500 or any other print or any other item of clothing which costs more than some people's monthly pay packet.
There’s a difference between buying designer clothes and buying clothes that are somewhere in the middle. I prefer to spend $70 on a pair of Levi’s because they have lasted me 3-4 years than a pair of $30 target jeans that lasted me 6 months. Many rich people tend to dress boring but they are wearing designer labels where the tshirt is $300. Sometimes I luck out and my $30 jeans last a little longer lol
I lived in Tokyo for five years working in a top law firm and I saw myself falling into this world. I now live in Ohio in my dream house under $200k and couldnt be happier. This video was spot on.
Agree. I live in LA and there's a lot of this display of wealth in certain crowds and areas. And I'm also a lawyer. 😂 as I get older I start to feel less interested in the brand names though, but I went on a date with another lawyer not long ago who is doing very well, and he literally asked me such pretentious questions and also flaunted his wealth. On our first phone conversation, he asked how big my house was, how many bedrooms and Baths, whether I had any house keeping, told me that he had multiple cars including a Ferrari. I felt like he was both trying to size me up and also show off. It's just ridiculous.
@@gigiflaner3568 Omg. I had brunch with these nice ladies and her mom was talking about how hard it was to make friends as adults. And I was just saying how as adults the first thing they ask you is, what is your job? What is your purse? What’s your house! When you’re in school, your friends don’t ask you all that, as if you’re applying for a job!
Love the way you present *gtdupe* ! You really pay attention to presenting the bag. I don't think there is any other TH-camr who can present the bag in such detail as you do.
I recently was influenced to buy a designer scarf as an “award” for all my hard work and because I’d seen plenty of designer items around me and felt like I needed one too. It wasn’t a hit to my budget at all. I regretted the purchase almost immediately. I left feeling like an idiot who got tricked into believing a tiny piece of silk is worth a few hundreds. In the shop, I felt like I didnt belong there. I’m just an average person, why open the door for me? I love the design of the scarf and I wear it all the time, but that experience definitely cured me from the need to buy anything designer
If you get a ton of use out of it and it makes you happy, I don’t think you should feel bad or guilty about buying something expensive for yourself. I think there’s a huge divide of people that either think designer items are the end all be all, and the people that think they’re the worst things you can buy. I think as long as you can afford it and your buying something for you and not for appearances, buy whatever you want. It’s your money.
If the scarf prevents you now from wasting money in the future, it's well invested learning money. ;D Opening the door for you has nothing to do with what person you are. It's just a nice gesture/service. (In this case: to make you feel well and appreciated, so you will be more likely to buy things from them.)
Every now and then, I'll watch a TH-cam video which I feel like practically everyone in the world ought to watch. It only happens a couple times a year. This is one of those videos. Great job.
An old uni friend once told me, that his sister worked in a factory sewing jeans for Uniqlo. Halfway through the shift, they would change the badges sewn on the jeans from Uniqlo to Gucci.
a lot of clothing factories are actually independently contracted by brands to manufacture their clothing. the same people that make designer brands are also the same that manufacture for zara or GAP. the whole factory including the workers are independent contractors. this is also a method to feign ignorance when these some of these factories are found to have human rights violations lol
Sis, your just as funny on here than TikTok...lol! I purchased a *esluxscom* from Rainbow... and I get so many compliments on that bag and the chain is heavy. Then I came across a Chanel tote bag. (I only use it to travel) every time I'm in the airport, women stop me about that tote. Side note: Chanel uses gold plated now for the logo.
I really enjoy your videos and look forward to them. They are honest and forthright, and you behave in a very friendly (sometimes even apologetic) and humble manner without the slightest hint of bragging *hotdups* .
Coming from a fairly wealthy family, I used to believe that designer brands = quality and durability. I couldn't be more wrong. I once walked into a high-end store and decided to buy a Christian Dior pair of jeans for 350 dollars. Not really convinced that it had better quality than a pair of Levis that cost 300 dollars less, she told me that those so-called high-end jeans used better threads and had a cross-in-out sowing method that was not used in normal jeans, which, according to her explained that those jeans were much more durable than a Levis. Of course, this also means that to maintain the quality, it was not recommended to wash those in a normal washing machine, they needed dry cleaning. Well, I had money to spend that day and I was absolutely stupid as well. At the same time, I did buy a pair of Levis the same day for 75 dollars. Guess which pair lasted 10 years and which one didn't even make three years? Well, that was eye-opening and now my motto is if the so-called designer agrees to wear a t-shirt with my name on it for 300 dollars, then I'd accept to wear his clothes with his name on it. I stopped being a fashion billboard. Never will I buy again a pair of socks for 80 dollars because it's written Dior on it, my grandmother made better and long-lasting clothes than any designer would ever do.
@@jjacobmdelachahahahaha first off, if you knew anything, you’d know Dior jeans would never be 350$ 😂 try 1000+, second, you’re wearing a gucci hat in your profile. LOLOLOL. Third, you don’t come from wealth if you have to say your family has wealth.
@@Twelvefourtyseven Oh, and I guess that you know who I am better than I do. The first Dior Jeans in 2001 were $350, and it was the lower end, there were jeans at 250 all the way up to 3000. Who told you that the picture on my profile is me, and what tells you it's not a fake Gucci hat? And yes, it is okay to say you are from a wealthy family, but it doesn't matter if keyboard warriors like you think it's false based on your own crappy assumptions. Again, if you knew anything, you'd learn to shut the hell up and not try to make sense of things you don't understand or that you do not have evidence for. Last but not least, who are you, and why should I care what you think?
I’m an RN out of a surgical hospital in NYC, I’ve taken care of a few founders and CEOs of the brands you’ve mentioned here in the video. I can tell you, you could NOT tell they were rich and they did NOT even bring their own luxury brand bag to the hospital, but rather a regular old backpack. But if you were to see a consumer of their brand next to the CEO of the company, someone might be fooled to think the consumer had more money than the CEO! Whole point is the CEOs of these companies are not even flashey bc they don’t care to prove their wealth!
Wealthy people definitely by expensive items that’s why they are there. But many people may not know unless you really know the fashion house Many fashion houses have items that are very understated. Or they spend on a massive house or fancy car or boat or lavish vacations
It depends on how they spend it. Some like spending on vacations,boats,houses,etc… but they don’t care about clothes and luxury bags. It just depends on where their interests lie too.
Only poor people or people who don’t have money believe this. Every rich person I know acted like they were rich. It’s just jealousy or a realization that you may never achieve this status so you find a way to relate to people you have nothing in common with.
It still hurts my heart when i bought my mother Louis Vuitton for her birthday. She was really grateful, I know it was a dream of hers and I felt great seeing her so happy, but i think the money is not worth it. Especially when all the sales people either don't care what you want or are rude. My fam is slavic and sadly most balkan people have some kind of an obsession with luxury brands. But whatever makes my mother happy. I just wouldn't buy it for myself.
My mother always told me that if a wealthy person wears fake diamonds, people will assume they’re real, but if a poor person wears real diamonds, people assume they’re fake. Don’t go broke buying designer items to show off your money; no one will think they’re real anyway!
I buy extremely niche artisan brands. Basically, I can contact the person or team that produces each garment/bag. Super high quality and I have never spent over $500. If I get bored with the item, I can usually get my money back or have a decent ROI. I’ve been building my wardrobe and purse collection like this for a few years and it felt like I haven’t actually spent money on clothing. I also purchase these brands 2nd hand. Only downside is that it takes a lot of time. For example, it can take months just finding a nice shirt from a good artisan. I enjoy the process though and it feels each garment is truly personal.
Tailor in my town does bespoke suits and jeans, I buy a new suit every few years, upto 4 of them now, 2 extra slacks, few extra dress shirts, 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of shoes made from them, still cheaper than those bags lol
I'm Asian and it's mainly Asian women here who actually buy things from luxury stores so the staff flocked to me like birds. I felt pressured, spent a lot, and I regret it so much. From what I've seen with past friends, they'll take out personal loans just for people on the street to think they're wearing fakes. Truly sad.
If you felt pressured to buy the things, but actually don't want them, you can return them without giving a reason. (At least where I live.) Even if they ask you about it, just say you changed your mind.
@@derrickdavis862 The ones that legally emmigrate in the US are often the best of the best in their country. Some were already rich and/or famous/powerful to begin with. Even if they were not rich back in their home country their families are often very smart and goal driven hence why many end up being successful. Also their education outside the US lets them save money (college loans isn't a thing outside the US, as it should). Also if you are new to a country and was accepted there through hard work you tend to be cautious/smart in spending money because you are focusing on how to dig new roots (have no one else to rely on except maybe some distant relatives, ect.)
Thank you for saying that out loud. I lived in Sydney, and there were always lines outside of designer stores of young Chinese students (~40% of all students in Australian universities are from China). I always wondered how they can afford this, since they’re here on student visas and can’t work more than 20 hours a week. The news here reports that now with the steep rise in food and rental prices, many students turn to food banks and charities. I often wonder if the same people “invested” in Hermes bags.
One of my coworkers and friends is obsessed with designer stuff to such a point that her life has become a misery and a struggle. She spends all her money to fancy dresses and bags, but then she has almost nothing to eat. She is persuaded that her value in the society is literally defined by the number of fancy items she owns. Despite of what she has, it’s obviously never enough. She she can’t have enough, every night she cries to sleep. I haven’t seen another person in my life who has so much, yet is so miserable.
And if you show her this video, and educated her on designer brands and whah they do, she would get mad at you or defend her buying decisions. So, I say, put this kind of educational videos out there, but make that money from people who don’t care.
Here is the thing about Rolex: the manufacturer actually banned dealers from requiring purchase histories in order to get one. Most of the shops I’ve actually visited, assuming they are in stock, had no issue of selling the watch whatsoever. I’ve been the watch world long enough to know there are far more expensive brands than even Rolex, namely Patek, AP, Vacheron Constantin, Jacob & Co, GP, FP Journe, and a handful more.
I own a company now that is doing quite well. For the first time in my life I decided to walk into Saks to find a pair of Loubs for my wedding. They were literally the MOST uncomfortable shoes I've ever put my feet in. Then they were slipping everywhere and the Saks rep was like "oh you're supposed to get insoles and sole protectors" hold up, so Im buying 1k shoes and have to spend even more money on buying stuff to make them wearable? It is such a scam. I bought one bottle of Killian Paris perfume which is the one thing I actually splurge on and walked out. Even though I now can afford it, making this much money has only opened my eyes to investing and wanting to make even more instead of blowing it on stupid status symbols. I buy Michael Kors at department stores, they are high quality and relatively cheap but I've had 2 MK bags i wear almost daily that are going on 8 years and still look great. I've also really gotten into ordering custom stuff from people who make it themselves, it's high quality and you aren't supporting the fashion industry. Bought a leather dog set (collar, harness, leash) from a leatherworker in Italy, amazing quality, custom measurements and only cost me about $180. Buying local and handmade is the way to go. You can use the highest quality materials on earth but it will never add up to what they charge for one of those bags, you are paying for the name and that is it. If you care about looking rich or whatever just buy knock-offs, no one will know the difference and if you buy real ones but arent wealthy people will think they are knock offs anyway.
I just finished pharmacy school and I’ve always wanted a LV bag. I like how they look and it’s one of those “I’ll finally be able to have one” things all throughout. However, I decided I will buy one off of poshmark. There’s tons of them in good condition, it’s more affordable, and I’m not being wasteful.
get yourself a good quality replica instead... trust me... my sister used to be obsessed with bags like that, she would take out loans to buy one, until friend of hers showed up with a replica, and she only gets replicas ever since!
That's a great idea. Some bags in this category have lowered in quality due to any number of factors (cost cutting materials, outsourcing production, etc.) yet their prices have increased, way above inflation levels. If you can find a good bag that you like in the second hand market, there is a chance that it might be made to a higher standard than today's version of the same bag (depending on when it was made I guess).
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I think Hermes actually does sell Birkin bags without previous spending with them, just not to people they see as ‘middle/lower class’. If you have enough money they will give it to you no problem
I fell into this trap when I was younger. I remember being obsessed about the feeling when I obtained some of these luxury items. I remember the feeling of excitement when I finally got my hands on those luxury items. The issue was that after a few months, the dopamine rush wore off, and that luxury bag just became a regular bag.
I even get this with my vintage bags...but have paid a fraction for them and they're cheaper than buying new generic bags. I love to have them in circulation and admire the craft skills in making them. So now and again I look at them with great satisfaction. I love them for their own qualities.
It would be better for you to get a dopamine rush from having a regular bag and knowing you didn't waste any money on hype and marketing. I have always avoided women that were trapped in the brand worship mindset. My wife is a designer but she will never spend on these ridiculous overpriced brands. My friends wives are the ones always wanting the current bag and they are not getting ahead financially.
same feeling but i think it has to do with capitalism as a whole. when you have the money to afford something that you desire and you buy it: you are happy. but as time passes by that specific thing loses value and your interest is immediately captured by something else. i like to make the comparison with Christmas presents which children long for and yet once they obtain it they will be discarded and replaced.
@@deborahcurtis1385 Buying vintage pre-loved is the best. I celebrated a promotion 5+ years ago with a vintage lambskin Chanel Classic Flap and caviar card holder and those are my only Chanel items. The leather quality is incredible-any scuffs just buff right out! Chanel's recent quality issues are egregious and they just keep raising the prices. Big nope.
I would not shop at dior if they treated me poorly. I would definitely do the "big mistake" thing but shop literally EVERYWHERE else and NEVER again at dior. I hold grudges :)
Absolutely. Girl in the video should have taken her mom to a chanel shopping spree then gone back with all the bags ( or just a couple of empty bags, lol)
It’s so easy to get suckered into spending way more than you should in a designer store. I went shopping to treat myself after a little promotion at work. I went straight into the Burberry store and they made me feel so special in there, giving me Burberry branded chocolates and champagne. And because of this, I almost felt obligated to spend a little more than I initially wanted to. I ended up buying a dress, a belt, and a pair of shoes…which put me back $4,500. I immediately started getting anxiety when we left the store. What’s funny though is now, a few years later after advancing my career, I make a lot more money than I did then and I wouldn’t dream of doing something like that now. Instead, I’d rather take my extra money and invest it. Im currently paying my way through a Masters program, which I look at as a true personal investment. And that feels a lot more rewarding than a Burberry dress.
Wow thank you algorithm for recommending me this video! It’s so refreshing to see someone talk about this! Money most definitely doesn’t grow on trees and it takes years for many people to earn what one bag would cost.
I collected a few Hermès scarves in my early twenties, a few years ago now. People often portray going into these shops like its a bloody magical experience. It really is not. It felt pretty normal, just with a really nice staff. No they dont kowtow to you, but they’re just nice. They even told me its not even that hard to obtain a Birkin (this was London, i don’t know about other countries). In fact, being a stuck-up wannabe is actually not helpful, but being nice to the staff and just be normal might actually help more, without spending a penny. I didn’t spend that much at Hermès compared to the majority of customers, in fact a meagre amount compare to those buying their leather goods etc. But the staff offered to put me on the fast -track list for a Birkin, but I declined. I was dressed very normally, not wearing anything fancy and was carrying a Cocicinelle bag. I like nice things and carefully curate my wardrobe, but hate coming across as flashing or even hate for people to think I’m rich. Our house and premises are on a larger side, but we try our hardest to tell people that we’re not rich, we just value our domestic space and invested a bit in our house. PS. By the way, I no longer buy designer items. The most foolish purchase I ever made was a pair of Valentino rockstuds costing €750 in 2017, and no they’re not worth it. Give me torturous blisters every time I wear them.
You must be kidding saying you are not wealthy. Buying scarf in early 20s from Hermes. I know one girl, in her 20s she has branded things like LV bag, Chanel earrings, so yeah..you are not ‘rich’
@@NiinchaSm A trip to Norway from my country would easily get to 3~4k Euros, 1k would be just the flying cost 💀 But yes, I sure wouldn't mind being 'non-wealthy' and able to splurge on Designer brands lol
I think you mean popcorns🤣. I think everyone should buy what they want, I have a few designer bags, never spent more that £300 and have never paid full price for any. Honestly I always default to bags from TK Maxx or brands with little or no logo. After all who wants to be hit on the head because you carry a Birkin or Kelly bag😳.
I have always found these "high status" brands incredibly tacky and a sign of someone trying to convince the world that they arent as poor as they are, and your video explained it so well! Great video!
I agree! Designer labels is the easiest way to identify a poor person or someone deep in debt. I would NEVER be caught with designer labels, and before anyone comes for me, I can afford them.
Fr. I don't think much of it if the item actually looks good and unique, but when it's something that looks awful or basic, I automatically assume it was bought for the logo
I've never bought a designer item in my life, now it's clear my reasons are exactly what you say, you said it all so well. I have no desire (insecurities) about "looking good" or socially tagged, no interest. I certainly do not want to waste money on silly products, it simply does not align with my value system. Thank you for shedding light on the industry, well presented!
I think we all want to look good but looking good has nothing to do with wearing these f**king expensive clothes or jewelry. Just wear which we can afford, we like and suit on us, that's enough.
I really like this video! I do buy designer but it’s almost always resale. That doesn’t always mean that it’s cheaper (I don’t buy if it isn’t) but it does at least mean that every time I buy with resale I’m at least not contributing to more waste.
I think you’re mistaken… the Uber rich are wearing designer brands, just not the ones that the poor usually wear. They wear quiet luxury brands that makes high quality products without showing their logo so you would have to guess if it’s either from Loro Piana/Brunello Cucinelli or from Target
I was obsessed with designer stuff back in 2015-2016 and then just completely stopped because it was pointless. Now I buy $10 tshirts from Amazon and wear them for years lol
You want credit for something you're supposed to do?! Like you're supposed to not waste obscene amounts of money on overpriced stuff, when half the world is starving, and the planet is burning. Well done, you saw sense and its saving *you* money; must be nice to have the choice! Most of us wear 10$ t shirts our whole lives because we can't afford much more than that!
I am so, so thankful to my mother that at the ripe age of 13, put a debit (not credit!) card in my hand and said "I will always pay for essentials like school-related costs, food, clothing essentials, etc... but if you want something you don't need? You want a luxury item? You want a concert ticket? You have to pay for that with your own money, not someone else's." It was such an effective lesson that it made me think about every single 'splurge' purchase well into my adult years. Every time I go to buy something, I ask myself 'is this something I really need?' and in addition to that, I've started asking myself 'can I get this second hand?'. Genuinely saved me thousands of dollars.
I have developed a habit over a course of the last few years. When ever I feel like I need a new shiny car, a new mobile while my existing one works just fine or any new shiny object I calculate the amount they would cost and I would invest that amount into mutual funds, etf and dividend paying stocks. Best habit I have ever aqquired to date
I am so thankful that material possessions mean nothing to me. I got excited over cotton black tshirts because they were like 75% off and that was the most exciting clothing purchase I've made for years.
I’m a sucker for a deal, but only when I need the thing and the price is lower than usual, not the fake discount when they increase the price the day before only to put the discount after giving it the normal price.
"Millionaire next door" is such a real thing. A few years back, I took the time to calculate my parent's net worth and discovered they were technically millionaires (just barely, but technically). I told my mom, who was at the the time clipping coupons and and padding ground beef with bread crump, and she genuinely didnt believe me until I broke down the math for her. They didnt even know.
A Million doesn’t go as far as it did 50 years ago tho, so it still sounds like unimaginable riches (and don’t get me wrong, it’s a lot of money any way you slice it), but it’s not a crazy ridiculous amount.
@@AlexHider Yeah, it's pretty simple if you're old enough. Just own a house purchased around 40-50 years ago in any major city. The key to being rich is to not be young.
My sister in the UK is a millionaire, she is the most working-class person you could ever meet. She just happened to buy a house with land at the right time [1990] and started a small business. Her car is a 15 year old Kia.
One thing I learned from these designer brands and luxury cars is not to buy the goods sold but to use that same money to buy the shares in the company 😂
My go to place is my neighborhood Goodwill. I got a fairly new Kate Spade bag, designer clothes (with tags in it) for prices between $5-$20, thanks to my ultra posh neighbors who like to buy fine things only to dump it to charity stores, winner!
Who cares what someone has or doesn’t have. It doesn’t make you any better than anybody else. Real or fake. It’s nobody’s business unless you’re paying their bills. I think some people are just butt hurt by the fact that they spent $5,000 on a handbag and anyone can get *esluxscom* that looks identical for a few hundred bucks or less. Stop worrying about stuff that doesn’t matter.
I still love my LV reverse monogram *hotdups* clutch! It's versatile, fits a variety of items, and is definitely a workhorse! I think seeing it everywhere (like the LV speedy) is proof that it's already a classic
I really love your taste and style always so chic. My faves would be the *amzclothes* leather jacket and the Swarovski pave diamond ring so gorg. Thank you for your recommendations.
I think you make some great points and I mostly agree with everything you said. My mother would purchase high end luxury brands my whole life but she was doing very well financially. I think because she was born In Detroit and grew up dirt poor, she felt the need to show(herself and others)that she had made it. She loved to enjoy life, travel, buy whatever she wanted, and eat well because she could. My mother passed away this year at 52 years old and left me and my younger brother basically set for life. I do not but expensive brands and she would get me a pair of the same black pants every year for Christmas (that I asked for)among other things and I keep the older pairs over the years. One for painting,one brand new etc. My mom had a great life that she created and didn’t hold anything back which made saying goodbye somewhat easier. Not all of us will live to retire, in fact I was set as a beneficiary on her retirement. I’m getting 1/2 of it every month for the rest of my life. I feel that if you want something, for the right reasons and can afford it, you should purchase it. No one knows how long we will be here and the future is incredibly uncertain for our generation. It’s important to enjoy life and if that makes someone Happy, I say go for it. Anyways awesome video, keep educating people, and remember(I hate this term) yolo.
I've felt this way since I was a teen.. but sometimes as an adult I find myself still looking at fashion and bags :/ they really have pulled us in! Even if we don't agree. I know I don't make enough to afford those bags but something to remember is how we spend our money is more vital than voting. We could be supporting brands that are more sustainable and affordable. Make them desired and cool if celebrities would pick up partnerships with those brands. They must know they're a part of this and should hold more accountable with their platform
I'm really impressed with and loving how well put-together your videos are on such important topics. You've compiled them in such a way that makes them so easily approachable and digestible. Thanks!
I grew up in the city of Atlanta in a highly impoverished section of town & I can’t even begin to explain the amount of importance was placed on having luxury items. I was made fun of because at the beginning of the year I got one pair of Adidas and one nice pair of sandals because having 2 pairs of shoes was considered “poor” “busted” “broke”. As soon as I was able to I got a job dancing and spent THOUSANDS over about 5-8 years on designer brands. At that time future was rapping about “robins jeans with the wings” this was before online shopping was a big thing and you could only get robins jeans from one boutique store in a rich part of the city. They ran between $300-$700 and I now almost 10 years later have 20+ pairs that 1) I can’t even fit bc I was a 24 waist in my early 20s 2) I cannot sell even my most expensive pair for $100 bc just as fast as they came into style they went out of style. The MCM & LV bags have worn and become damaged and all I can think of now is how I wish I could go back and not have bought this useless shit and put a down payment on a house or even just saved it. It’s taken so long to get out of the mindset I grew up in and realize who truly gives a fuck? If you have nice designer stuff it’s not truly for you it’s for other people to notice you and usually when they do they’re either envious and think you’re a snob or they are attracted to you to try to use you and get that stuff for themselves. Save your money. Treat yourself but don’t spend $700 on a bag so small it can’t even fit your phone when you could put it towards rent or invest or just save it!
Exactly!!! It’s just like how people will chastise adults over 22 who live at home still, but be the same people who lack financial literacy and dong know how to invest 🤷🏾♀️
100% my SIL has a big family, 6 kids and her husband. The kids are ALWAYS in expensive shoes that easily are costing over $150+, their teenage daughter has fake lashed and gets her nails done and hair dyed just to look top knotch for high school. They do not have any savings, don't own a home and I'm sure they've never had a vacation as a family. The pressure they put on themselves to make sure the world perceives them as worthy and having money is so exhausting. I really feel like it's a poverty mindset and sadly if you can't wake up and see that your status isn't in your clothing you will rarely leave a treasured legacy behind for your family.
My niece ran away to live with some boy she met playing fortnight who lived in the projects in NYC. After the boy's mother found out that she was a runaway and contacted my sister in law, she was dragged home. After she came home, she said that the most important thing she learned about "surviving in the hood" is to "have expensive things so you don't look poor".
At some point during my teen years, I had a phase of wanting branded stuff until I entered college where I felt more comfortable with hand-me-downs (which majority of my jackets are still in top quality despite being decades older than fast fashion brands). Also having worked in a fashion company after my college, I can guarantee no one gives a damn what brand you wear. Just be creative and buy when you need or feel like it as long as you know what you are doing with it.
Loved the video! I have a Small *esluxscom* in black calf leather, and absolutely love it. Not necessarily the most practical because of the narrow opening, but you can fit so much in there!
i was that person too. as a kid/teenager, people bullied you for not fitting in with all the brands. it's more about flaunting your looks over using products til it falls apart. btw, i still have some branded clothes, still buy some branded (mid-range stuff) stuff, but also accepted wearing hand-me-downs, no-name clothes, and plain stuff. i also kept my aunt's old designer wallet for myself, used the hell outta it, and it's still my wallet to this day. came a long way after struggling with shopping addiction.
I think the most remarkable analogy is that those things are bought with TIME OF OUR LIVES. And that not only applies to designer clothes but anything that we use to buy us status. Everything you said is pretty obvious to me but there is definitely a lot of people who need to hear this
Hi Cara, just found your very informative channel. I’m a retired person, who never believe in spending money in designers anything. Thank God for that or else I probably wouldn’t be enjoying retirement. I admire you for making videos like this to help people understand the value of money and the importance of saving.
Funny enough, a friend of mine said a designer handbag was the best purchase he ever made. He gave the bag as a Christmas gift for the dispatcher at the company he contracted for. His trucks were getting way more hours after that, and were put on easy jobs. He made the 7k back in 2 months.
Great video. I’m new to your channel and I love your vibe. And, I can’t tell the difference in the two goods and the *amzclothes* is close enough and it’s cute so that’s good enough for me.
My Mom used to say, “You can always tell when someone isn’t used to having something.” Meaning every single time you see them, they have to “prove” they have money or can afford all sorts of stuff now. 🤷🏽♀️ Personally, I think folks are going to do what makes them happy, which I also do. However, there are ways to have and do things wiser. No way I’m going “broke” and I value my time immensely (which you cannot control or get back). Priorities are what is most important but of course, these vary from person to person. What I can appreciate about your video is sparking the conversation, healthy debates, knowledge and information that some may not have been privy to or just unaware. There is no “right or wrong”, for the exception of being treated like crap when going into any establishment. Restaurants, high-end stores, car dealerships or even a car wash. You treat me like crap, I’m not returning AND I’m writing a bad review…I digress.😂 Any-who, good video. 😊
Hi there, does your company ship to customers in the USA? I emailed your company regarding for a birkin and was told to contact the location in Dubai for *esluxs* ?
I'm an older lady who is a big tipper and likes an occasional bottle of fine perfume. Because I'm older, the ladies who work the beauty counters ignore me, don't offer me promotions, etc. We need to stop profiling people. The snobs of the world will hate it.
ALSO: I don't know if this is a more recent development, but I never considered Uniqlo to be a fast fashion brand. I used to shop there when I lived in Japan for everyday items at not-too-bad prices, and many of the things I've bought there have lasted me between 5-10 years. I especially loved the fleece-lined sweatpants and flannel shirts. But as I said in my first comment, quality is going down all over the place, so maybe that accounts for the comments made in the video?
went looking for this comment! bashing uniqlo was completely undeserved. + it was mentioned by the side of shein which makes even less sense - why not asos or whatever else
I was looking for this comment too! Always considered Uniqlo more along the lines of affordable but decently priced basics that are more or less the same no matter what year or season you walk into a store, so not really the trend-chasing, 52-seasons-a-year vibe I associate with fast fashion.
@@yoanakochkova7250 @thebrownpixl totally agree! i still have items some of which i bought 7 years ago in great condition. moreover, they use whimsical fabrics of their own production to create thermal wear which i heavily rely on both summer and winter. Summing up, it's actually the only daily wear brand I ever felt was worth investing into.
![ประสบการณ์ จ้าง Developer ที่ผมจะไม่มีวันลืม [ภาค2]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/pZbsSDRrmXA/mqdefault.jpg)
Once my sister told me "when you're buying something, you're not spending money, you're spending time, all the time it takes you to work to earn that amount" and that has helped me to be more mindful about what do I spend my money on. Because, even if you feel like you can make that money back, you can't get time back.
It's the same mindset I have when it comes to loaning money. I'm very careful who to let borrow money and how much regardless the need coz it may never be returned to you. And money isnt just money, it's my sleepless nights, my stress, cravings I deprived myself with to save it, effort to stay in my budget, etc. And I treat unpaid loans as disrespect to a point.
I like to roughly work out how much time i spent to make the money I am about to spend, great way to visualise whether something is worth it.
This is also how I view spending money. Instead of a price in dollars I figure out how many hours I needed to work to afford it
I like this❤
What a great motto, and a smart sister.
My mother was a seamstress, she would ask my sisters and I to choose outfits from the clothing catalogue. Mum would buy the fabric and make exact replicas for us to wear. Today I enjoy making my own clothes to wear, recently I bought a book on shoe making. R.I.P Mum!
That's so sweet. Plus it was likely made way better than any modern designer goods today.
I love that so sweet about your Mom. My Mom made all of my baby clothes and clothing up until kindergarten. She passed while I was in kindergarten. Today I love making my own clothes 2 winters ago I made 3 Gorgeous coats I stitched by hand. I get compliments on them every time I wear them because they’re unique and one of a kind.
@@LaBelleJouJou My condolences for the early loss of your mother. I would like to make a rain coat next or a leather jacket. My neighbour was a designer and she made some lovely winter coats for herself that received many lovely compliments like your unique creations.
Thank you for your kind words for my mother-Peace be with you!
@@bakeranita6040 Yes-mum was very skilled with various stitching, nothing was too hard for her to make. She made a martial arts uniform with replica embroidery for my brother. It would have cost him £200.00 in 1993, my brother was a broke student, so he bake her two cakes and gave her a hug and a kiss,...Lol!
@Quiet Storm Valley aww so precious!!
A wise man once said he'd sooner have a plastic bag with 5k in it rather than a 5k bag with nothing in it.
Yes but personally, I’d have a bag that can secure that money(physically and all else). And bag is like a front that boost self, like an accessory. I am an art person, that’s why I’m saying this. I’d hate to be guilty liking something but not getting it just because it isn’t necessary.
Edit: Oh my gosh I just thought (just a thought) telling someone, “I like you but I don’t need you, you aren’t necessary. Shoo!”😭
“i rather have 5k than spend 5k”
@@runi2453you can get a bag that can secure money for way less than 5k. Even a coach bag is nice and that shit is not nearly as expensive
Amen
@@runi2453But don’t you wish you didn’t need an over-priced, mass-produced bag to boost your identity? Spend your money on education and experiences, so you can develop a self that doesn’t need a front.
The woman that reacted to staff rudeness by going back and buying thousands in the same store gave me whiplash, like... Why? You're rewarding them, reacting exactly how they want! You're not "showing them" lmao
New friend here sending may full support *hotdups* .
I went to a Rolex store with my Mom & Nephew, we were treated very well by the salespeople. (My Nephew is into watches and was just browsing and curious to see what a real Rolex looked like)
There is currently no *gtdupe* Dior due to controversy…
Love *jklux* the way you show it! You really focus on showing off the bag. I don't think any other TH-camr can show off bags in as much detail as you.
😂 Yeah! I will not go back. If someone else has it, I go elsewhere or order online.
I once walked through a Harvey Nichols shop just looking at the bags. I was about 19 or so and working in a supermarket at the time. I saw the staff looking down their noses at me. It did not make me want to shop there, I just found it amusing because someone who is getting paid the same minimum wage as me is looking down on me. Truly outstanding.
Corporate probably gives them training in that look.
Do they get commission?
I worked in the "Goods receiving room and maintenance department" within Harvey Nichols in the 1980s. Yes-there was a culture of snobbery and staff would change their accents and manner of speaking to fit in. Some of the sales staff did earn a small fortune in sales commission and the buyers were on very high wages BITD. They would buy plain cashmere jumpers imports for £1.00 each and sow a Harvey Nichols label on the jumper, scarf etc and sell it for £200.00+. Working in high end retail at a young age made me realise the illusions of the modern world.
@@quietstormvalley9010In my country you can buy a shirt for 2/5€ that is the same one that they then sowed the Lacoste logo and sell for 60€
@@weird-guy Wow! The world capitalism is just crazy at times.
"They're selling you a costume so you can pretend to look rich." - that's deep. Thank you!
Right on!!!!
This isn't self evident?! We need some dumbass 19 minute video from some bimbo that obviously bought into this at some point?!
The reality is much worse. The marketing is making you feel terrible about yourself and designed to make you insecure and poor.
Though this also applies to the uber rich. Their simple appearance is actually not out of preference but is by design. Socialism is once again on the rise world wide so they try to look as mundane as possible to avoid the ire of the population. People like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are some of the most hated people in the world.
When it comes to moments when the cameras aren't on them they have no problem engaging in conspicious consumption with megayachts, enormous summer estates and even buying up entire islands.
@@davidparker9676yep!
It blows my mind that a handbag could cost 10K plus. I saved up several years to buy an upright piano for that amount. If you look at the inside of a piano, the detailed and precise mechanisms of the key actions for 88 keys, the soundboard, etc, then compare that to...a literal bag...it is a just mindboggling.
Agreed. I don’t think the value of the engineering, craftsmanship, and materials of the bag are equally as great as that of the piano.
One is made by French artisans the other bag is made by a Chinese sweatshop
@CountryCarReviews I didn't realizing sewing a bag together counts as French artisan. My grandma is a French artisan too. She also knits and darns socks.
You can't compare luxury items to any other kind of stuff. Luxury items profit margin are insane. That piano cost that much, cause it's value is that much (materials, craftsmanship, transport etc.)
@@soxnation1000Well if it's French it's obviously "luxury artisan". Don't you know the French invented food as well? 😂
I like the fact that you said they target the poor.
It’s exactly that !
Look at the people queuing at Hermes or Vuitton …
They prey on the lack of self esteem. And people confuse bling with class….
And yes, *hotdups* handbags! I'm wearing candy pink and I've been rocking my "Barbie" bag all summer long. yeah!
Something ive noticed after years of working in the service industry is its always the people in flashy name brands mad about prices.
Its so weird seeing someone holding a hermes or kate spade bag and dressed up head to toe in chanel and Gucci blowing up because i could give them a dollar off on their 20 dollar order
This is the plot to Madame Bovary. She should do a video covering that. It was written in 1857 and is still relevant today.
Victoria Beckham is poor? Kim Cartesian? You guys want the target to be poor but not.
Being free from debt makes you richer than 99% of people.
Sleeping well and not being scared of the mailman walking up the driveway with letters, priceless!
Couldn't agree more. Debts are enslavement. Took me forever to learn this simple concept.
Not all debt is bad. Jesus Christ man. Debt is actually important too, to fulfill your dream of a house. A safe car for your children..
people don’t understand that credit card debt is bad but not all debt. Also using Amex and some credit cards actually give you advantages
@@patrik3450 Saving for a down payment is a significant barrier for many prospective homebuyers. The ability to save and accumulate a substantial down payment can greatly influence whether someone can afford a home. Saving $$$ is a significant issue in the United States. Most people live paycheck to paycheck, forget about savings for emergencies or retirement...
Nowadays Gorgeous bag, however, for saving money and high-quality bags, try t *suluxs* the rest of the money goes to needy students at schools to pay for their education, not much, but do help them a little.
You don't need a car if you don't live in the middle of nowhere.
“Designer brands are selling a costume to pretend to look rich.” Gurrrrl you are brilliant.
This was a bar
Genius way to put it!
Most of designer items are ugly😂
We have the same exact *esluxscom* ... the color and the leather I’m in love to death
I like everything with good texture, whether it is LV, Dior or *esluxs* , texture comes first
What annoys me most is that more and more expensive brands are actually using cheap materials. So you don't even have that going for it anymore
They are counting on the fact that you can't tell the difference. Always check what things are made of.
Sometimes I see loose threads on luxury items. It’s insane.
Husband got me a YSL sac de jour and there were loose threads, the edges were damaged EASILY. Luxury is not tantamount to quality.
Yeah so you buy it again when it breaks.
In the electronics market, they are also designed to fail after a few years, forcing you to upgrade. Apple even went through the trouble of intentionally slowing down older phones to force the upgrade to 5G. This practice is infecting entire industries.
I agree designer brands are targeted to the poor, like LV and Gucci, but not Hermes. With how difficult it is to get for just anyone, it actually is for the rich.
Try traveling to Tokyo Japan they sell Original lux brands for less like LV , Channel , Gucci ,Coach ,YSL etc for less its still more pricey than the fakes and still in good condition i just dont know how the costoms works in the USA if they will still tax you 2nd hand lux items but sure either buy the brand new *esluxs* you want or travel half the world away to buy 2nd hand lux items for few days that also includes your plane ticket hotel accomodations for how many days food and goodie stuffs for families and friends and other expencess but they said " original LV Bag from Japan for less " or just travel to Bangkok thailand and visit the Platinum Mall buy as many replica bags all you want w/o the hassel
You have no idea how many are out there who instead of buying a house or put money into savings they buy this kind of stuff. When she says poor she means also well to do people ( doctors, executives etc) who put all their money into that stuff and they end up poor.
LV you will also don't buy everything! How you are not regular customer ! Even you place the order they will cancel !
there's mainstream brands (LV, Gucci, Chanel, Prada) and then there's actual luxury brand (Hérmes, Loro Piana), ppl are getting poorer with designer items because they're going out of their way to buy it/have it
lol you can buy Hermes items. I have seen broke people and bank tellers at my small community bank wearing smaller pieces. Birkens are the only hard item to get for broke people but even then, i’ve heard of people whose only goal is to collect items from these fashion houses and are completely broke doing it
A better option would to buy a bag from a local craftsman. It supports the community and you can directly trace it's origin. One of a kind! Not to mention it will cost a lot less.
For the most part these small artisans actually have better quality items because they're made individually and the materials are specifically chosen.. unlike in big brands that are mass manufactured. Support small artisans and small business owners
My favorite bag is from Oberon Design. They have beautiful embossed & hand tooled leather goods, along w/Brittania (sp?) silver accessories. My bag is their Streamline Tote in the Tree of Life design, in dark brown. It is absolutely stunning, extremely well-made w/high quality leather & other materials. It wasn’t cheap, at around $230, but worth every penny. It’s definitely a Forever bag!
My grandfather is 99 years old this year. He had been making leather goods such as saddles, leather shoes and bags for 70 years. Some the best quality I've ever encountered.
The bags are made better as well by a craftsman.
@@wendyfairclothnorwood4376 This stuff looks so lovely! thank you for dropping names, def checking them out.
My cousin and I were once treated extremely poorly in a Prada store. Where as I wanted to leave and never step foot in that store again, my cousin spent over $1000 on a pair of sunglasses, just to prove that she actually did have money. The woman who was rude to us, profited off of her disrespect and belittling… this is so eye opening
Designer store sales staff and other luxury salespeople are intentionally rude and dismissive to make customers buy stuff in order to prove how rich they are or that they belong there.
@@sunnywynn56 It would be funnier to organize a flash mob of dirty and poor people to stay in the store, drive away customers and sour the prestige of the brand on social media.
Faux-rich people don't want to be associated with dirty and poor people.
Truth? Be rude. Your loss. You do not deserve my money.
So sorry to hear that...Unfortunately rude sales people are in all levels of society, Your cousin should have asked for another sales person to help her out. Better yet say okay I'll spend my money at your competitor's store. Never be intimidated by a snooty sales person.. Talk to manager, get a name report it to corporate. I've been to Walmart in a small town and was treated like crap ... I was in Paris last month and was treated very well by the staff at Bvlgari & Chanel. It all depends on the sales person you get ,snootiness happens on all levels. on another note, You have gorgeous hair by the way.
jus remember tat the sales person is most likely making just above minimum wage and some of them are on a commission. So the more u pay the more they make.
Simple rule is: buy the goods you really like, for your own satisfaction and self reward, not to impress other people. Its not a mistake to buy luxury brands as long as you really like it and can afford it.
I agree with you 💯 I only buy items I really love whether they have logos or no logos. I buy them because they make me happy and not to show off.
Brands are dumb.
Thank you for saying that. In my neck of the woods it's rare to hear people talk like this.😊
Yes exactly I don't know maybe I'm a narcissist but I only buy things because I think it looks good I couldn't care less what another person thinks, and designer brands are exactly that to get the recognition of others.
The problem is the line of liking and afford is very blurry for a lot of the people purchasing these items. Social media tricks you into thinking that these items will be the envie of the people that surround you and that only people that matter can afford them. Thus brain washing people into thinking they desire these items because they will show other people "hey look what i can afford". And "affording" something is a thing that a lot of people don't understand completely. People think that if they have the money for something that they can afford it, and while yea that has some truth to it, a lot of the people are barely affording items that they sometimes even get on an account just to be able to "afford" them. Or save up enough money to spend on an item that is not even worth the sweat and time that it took to get it. In small words middle class people trying their best to be able to afford rich people items.
Its an understatement to just call you as a TH-camr...This is some honest, pure high class JOURNALISM with excellent research and a deep message....
Mad respect for you girl ❤
Be blessed...
Loved the video! I have a Small *esluxscom* in black calf leather, and absolutely love it. Not necessarily the most practical because of the narrow opening, but you can fit so much in there!
It doesn't matter where they are made. It depends on the craftsmen and quality inspection. My family and I bought *hotdups* .
Yes I know not everyone can afford these bags, but wouldn't people want to know other people's experiences with this bag before wasting their money? Like other TH-camrs have said about this bag, I got a *preluxz* and I'm very happy with my bag. Thanks to the blogger, I showed this video to my sister and now she will definitely get the Louis Vuitton bag she has always wanted! Love this kind of videos!!
I agree. It’s a whole documentary!!! Quality work!
My dad REALLY falls for the whole salesperson-treating-you-poor tactic. My mom, who grew up in a comfortably well-off home, will immediately leave, whereas my dad, who grew up in a cabin, will take it as a challenge and buy multiple expensive items. It’s nice to hear this reaction explained so eloquently! Thanks for that! ❤
Just tell your dad it's called "pretty woman syndrome", that'll make him stop lol
Yeah if I go to a place with crappy service I just leave.
@@archygrey9093 or "handsome man syndrome" in this case.
@@Haplo-san that's not what they are going for. They are trying to dissuade him by calling him a pretty woman. I think most men want to be called handsome
@@sadcena7204 no pretty woman is literally a movie that has that exact scenario of " you don't think I'm good enough so I'll prove I am"
The key difference being that Julia Roberts spebt all her money at other boutiques and showed up at the one that treated her poorly with all the fancy shopping bags, rather than spending a dime at the place that treated her poorly😄
Should’ve just bought the bags and saved a ton
it's a movie anyway, not how real life works xD
@@FUUUUU1111 Are you implying that customers do not, in fact, have the ability to choose where they shop?
@@Serai3 NoOoOoOo. You’re a weirdo if you think that way, because I didn’t write anything like that.
@@FUUUUU1111 Honey, if you drop a vague comment, you can't get bitchy if someone doesn't interpret it exactly the way you meant it. BE SPECIFIC if you don't want to hear how stupid your comment really is.
What she said about the pretty woman effect is so true. Yeah, you flipped the table on those rude sales people by buying their stuff but you still end up with the same table and walking out wasting your money on a brand that doesn’t appreciate their followers.
I used to buy a lot of Kate Spade since it was within my budget, it was what a lot of people around me wore during school and I liked the designs. I was generally treated really well (invited to exclusive events) until there was one day I went to their store while dressing very “poorly”. If shocked me how differently I was treated. When I told someone else about this, they told me I should’ve gone and bought the bags to “flaunt it”. I was like wut? Why? I guess I understand why now. I didn’t buy anymore Kate Spade since I didn’t like their new designs, but I never felt that I needed to fit in, because I am that Kate Spade buyer. They aren’t even a luxury brand, why are they using these same crappy sales tactics 😅 I think I’m just done with the brand, I still have like 6 bags that I use, but time to move on.
Right? Same what I thought, like the woman still ended up the "loser" in this situation, where she both got treated bad, but now thousands from her wallet went to the brand that didn't appreciate her. A better own would have been to boycott the brand and tell her friends and relatives to do the same, because of how they treat people.
It is a sickness to give your money to someone that was abusive to you.
I just do not understand people's willingness to be manipulated this way. Slavery is real people!
Didn't she end up going to another store though?
I had seen a video about how Mark Zuckerberg’s seemingly plain shirt was actually a $400 custom-made shirt. Just because there is no logos on rich peoples clothing does not mean that they didn’t spend exorbitant amounts on it. I’m not saying that’s the case for all rich people, but we need to be careful when assessing what other rich people are doing and trying to compare it to what we should, or shouldn’t do
All of this speculation is so funny, the poor are poor because someone has to be poor in capitalistic society.
Same with Steve Jobs 300$ turtleneck
That's it, old fashion expensive. Those rich people pay for the material and quality rather than logo(s), unless they are buying Zara, H&m and Uni qlo
The point is that he doesn’t care what you think about what he’s wearing. He doesn’t care if you think it’s from Walmart. It’s comfortable and that’s what his focus is on - his own comfort and not what other people think about it.
@@LeahIsHereNow He cares he pretends not to. Its just an image to seem relatable and more trusting. No kidding its more comfortable its Brunello
About the "Pretty Woman" effect, it's crazy to me that people are applying it in real life as buying a bunch of stuff FROM a store where you were disrespected, because that's the opposite of what happens in the movie! Julia Roberts's character goes on a shopping spree at every OTHER designer store on the block, then goes back to the shop where the sales lady insulted her and waves her bags around like "see this? You could've been making commission on all this"
True
I'd think it would make more sense to get a bunch of items to buy and specifically ask for someone else to give the commission to.
Women have some F'ed up psychology. I learned a long time ago the better you treat a woman, the less she will respect you. The worse you treat a woman the more she will be attracted to you. It is like that Stockholm syndrome. Women love being mistreated.
RIGHT!!!
Yes I won't spend a dollar in a shop that has disrespected me but most especially if they have disrespected my mother. No chance.
I might even make them work like go in and shop and try on things for an hour and pile it all up at the cash wrap - then ask if they remember the incident of disrespecting my mother and tell them to put it all back as I tuck my Amex back into my wallet and place it into my designer handbag.
I can't stand retail employees who forget how they earn their paychecks - by selling the items in their shops. When I worked at Laura Ashley and later Ralph Lauren, I treated everyone who walked in like they had a no-limit AmEx and they just wanted to be treated with dignity by the clerks.
A wise man once said: It's way easier to get much money out of a poor person than little money out of a rich person.
Would you rather get $100 from a poor person or $100k from a rich person? Keep bottom feeding….
@@d.lightfultv2231 If they are willing to part with their money, I'd take both, I don't care. I'm not going to ask for their bank balance to determine who's poor and who's not.
@@vdochev that’s my whole point. Ferrari doesn’t build cars for people making $50k a year…..they build for a certain demographic and focus on getting money from them. To say it’s easier to get money from a poor person means you might be poor yourself.
@@d.lightfultv2231 No, mate. The point is a poor person is more willing to buy expensive sh*t they can barely afford, so they can feel the sensation of being rich, while a rich person doesn't need that.
@@vdochev you’re projecting…maybe that’s how you feel but most folks aren’t poor because they spend money on Gucci….
I work in non-fashion retail, and we are forced to destroy unsold merchandise at the end of each season as well. Employees aren't allowed to purchase the items either. It's so wasteful and sickening the scale this is happening on!!!!! Someone could being enjoying those things. Smh.
That’s sad.
Because they don't want the unwashed masses wearing their crap. Classism 💯
I'd straight up steal that shit by boxes and sell online lmao
So home/furniture retail?
😮 that should be illegal
Love your use of the word "superlative". It brought back memories of learning English grammar.
It seems like the *esluxs* one looks better than the real one though. Who cares? Nobody is gonna spot it when you wear it in a nightclub or a night out. People are busy with their own lives. And people just don't bother you wearing a real or fake one. Just saying.
My teenage son went through a hypebeast phase that drove us up the wall. It was to the point of having meltdowns because he couldn't have the cool thing "everyone" at school had. It didn't help that his mother convinced him we were wealthy, in part because of how I dress. She was spending a couple grand a month because of how she thought I dressed. So I showed him my "designer" wardrobe, which is mostly inexpensive or thrifted pieces with the clothing tailored to fit well. My highest end pieces are all Fluevog shoes because they're fun and odd, not popular, and half of them were bought second hand. He actually got angry at me for managing to look good on a budget then got *more* angry when I explained that I will continue to dress this way even if I become wealthy. It took a few deep conversations about how marketing works and how real wealthy people spend their money to get him over all that.
@lilacpetal2406 ideally, this would shut them up, but I can already tell that if the kid is already this spoiled, he may play the "you don't love me" guilt trip. Don't underestimate the power children have over their parents when they threaten to withhold their love, attention, respect, etc. Many parents would rather cave into the guilt trip than create a rift in their family dynamics.
@@franks8462 That is where the slap comes into play
@@franks8462 ...Did you miss the part where he got over it after we spoke to him? Here's the thing; he wasn't spoiled. His mother bought *herself* the designer stuff, he got whatever was on sale at Walmart and convinced him we were wealthy (which we aren't). When he landed on our doorstep he had it in his head that we were living large and would get him anything he asked for. We talked with him, full on conversations about marketing, FOMO, designer fashion, fast fashion, thrift shopping, hyper consumerism, you name it. He did try to pull the "You don't love me" card a few times when he was begging for the latest designer thing but it was met every time with, "Things are not love. Things do not make you a better person." Took about 6 months to get him through it. Was it rough? Absolutely, but we didn't budge. It's been 4 years. He still likes looking at designer stuff but prefers inexpensive but well made things, is a thrift store wizard, and pretty good at managing his own finances (better than a lot of muxh older adults I know).
@lilacpetal2406...Where did you get that we bought him designer things? His mother bought *herself* the high end stuff, he got what was on sale at Walmart. She did the bare minimum expected of a parent. We don't believe in humbling our kids. We believe in *teaching* them so they can navigate to the world with awareness. It blew his mind when he learned just how little I spend on clothing for myself and that very little of it is designer. What he got from us was clothing that didn't fall apart in 2 months but nothing expensive either and a lot of lessons in how to shop smart. The most important lesson he got was that expensive things do not make you a better person.
@laskosyarelis...I don't care about spending cheap to look the part. I refuse to wear anything with obvious tags or logo patterns. My self worth is not tied up in what others think I'm wearing.
Steve Job's turtleneck sweater was designed by Japanese Issey Miyake and Jobs had plans for the look to be a kind of uniform. It was always a look driven by an intense interest in high fashion design from the start, it is just that most tech bros are so clueless about fashion that they never realised it and keep repeating this myth that Jobs just wore some generic turtleneck.
Yeah but he wore new balance shoes.
Likewise it's all relative to his net worth. Issey miyake to him is less than 0.05cents.
It's not apples to apples
Wow! At last somebody who takes their time to comment something smart and factual. People forget, that these people also live in mansions, have mega yachts, etc. They may not wear a rolex or sport Gucci or have a Birkin bag but they do have expensive stuff and it is their right if they want to. God bless
@@alonry This video is focused on luxury/designer brands, not a video saying "but but but Rich people don't own expensive things." You completely missed the point lol
@@Mega-zi7ys no clothing would be significantly priced to Jobs. Whether NB shoes or the most luxurious sweater. The point is that he wasn’t someone who “did not care about fashion.” He was not trying to be an Everyman. NB shoes were trendy in the 70/80s. Especially in the tech world. Again, it wasn’t about being humble lol. He wanted to be fashionable.
@@alonryMansions and yachts are usually pretty expensive in the making (material, manpower, working hours). Designer brand products are not more expensive in production than non-designer brands. With them, you just pay for the illusion of luxery suggested by the brand name.
I strongly doubt that when death comes, our last thought would be: thank god i had my Birkin bag it made my life so much better and it made me a good person 😄
I think when we are about to die we will be glad we enjoyed whatever we enjoyed and didn’t let others’ opinions of what we should or shouldn’t buy affect us :)
that is the thought of a poor narrow- minded person. Maybe it is a very big thing to you, but just a small thing for those who can earn much higher than you. If you are poor, try to work smarter to earn more. Dont make your poor status a representative for other people. Just live truely and fully to your capabilities, that is wisdom.
@@Clairebanxwell said
😂😂😂😂😂
@@honeychan87😂it's quite laughable you feel that triggered to call a complete stranger you know nothing about they must be poor. I can see how superior and smarter and better than them you feel.... There's rich people who buy expensive bags and still think they're unimportant meaningless stuff. Just because you buy it doesn't mean you have to give it some artificial importance or fake meaning
I heard on the radio a recent survey, most people will remember how you treat them rather than the bag you carry, watch you wear or car you drive.
Everyone's forgotten that like, 10% of our paychecks are supposed to go to retirement. We shouldn't consume just because we can. Great video!
"we shouldn't consume just because we can" - I love that!
while saving for the future is nice, dont forget to live in the present. There is no guarantee you are going to reach retirement age.
@@HikaruYamamoto I understand that pretty well, I'm probably hitting the pearly gates in circa 2040 due to my crappy immune system, but hey. If you have a will, then give it to someone you love. If all you have at the end of the day is your own enjoyment, then that's a very sad story to me. But either way, invest as soon as you can to get compound interest.
Remember that 1$ when you're 18 can be 40$ when you're 50. It's important to invest especially when it has better inflation than the average salary.
@@dianaquill9969 $1 at 18 is going to snack at a vending machine... and $40 at 50 is nothing. With inflation things are getting worse. Most are saddled with insane college debt they can never escape. Mine was only forgiven due to it being a scam. Nobody has hope for the future anymore and thats why a lot of us are not having children either. So I say enjoy it now, before Putin throws a tantrum and destroys us all.
No. 10% goes to retirement now as a plot to get everyone's money in the stock market.
Cooperate America took away our pensions. That's money we should have always had.
I have a friend who once said “why would I buy a $1500 purse when I don’t have that same amount in the bank”. I worked with a woman before that was obsessed with having designer items. Had a Benz (that she swore she bought brand new but turns out it was preowned), had numerous LV purses, bragged about getting her fiancé a Versace Robe for Christmas one year, etc. For Christmas 2019, she offered her home to host our work Christmas party. Because she lived in a really upscale part of town and was renting a new build house, we were expecting for her to show out. This Bih had no furniture. She had a breakfast table in the kitchen, a couch and a TV in the family room. Foyer and dining room were empty. My coworkers and I were pretty astounded. I’m never going to forget one time she offered to buy me Jamba Juice and when she came back she didn’t have my drink, I asked what happened and she deadass says “I’m not paying no $6 for an orange juice, sorry” Why offer then? You don’t have money to buy a healthy drink, but you’ll pay ridiculous amounts for designer? That’s how I knew she was broke.
ETA: holy shit, a month later a thousand likes! But just wanted to come here real quick for those that are pointing out, yeah, I get it, Jamba Juice is not healthy per se, but the point is she offered to buy me something and it so happen I wanted an orange juice. Like if I know I can’t afford to pay for everyone, I don’t offer. It’s that simple. I have no problem paying for my own, which I did after that scenario cause again, I wanted an orange juice. Healthy, not healthy, I still wanted it.
Someone else asked about the house being a rental and that’s why she didn’t furnish it. Who doesn’t furnish a rented house? As far as I know, she had a year long lease. Not sure where you’re located, but in the US, people typically furnish their rented houses/apartments cause it’s still a home. Who wants to live in an empty house? That’s just weird IMO.
Lastly, the point of my comment was to explain how broke people prioritize appearing wealthy when really they’re not. This video reminded me of this coworker. If you couldn’t understand the gist of my original comment, then you missed the whole point of the video.
Thw same with an ex college at work… she had a lot of expensive bags and clothes… even Versace kitchen items…😂 why!?
And one day she was telling me that she buys ready food for her daughters… and she was saying that she wouldn’t buy so much fruts and some type of food because is expensive…
To be honest I don’t get it… I prefer to eat health food and enjoy a ballet concert than spend money in brand clothes and bags.
@@KarolsstudioI agree
poor people aren’t usually good with money. more poor people own luxury bags than rich people. it’s why they’re in debt
@@judas1523 not all poorer people own luxury bags, some just don't have enough income to support themselves and therefore don't care about designer bags.
@@ultron374 never said all poor people did… and i never said they had the income to be able to afford them… and what part of debt did you not understand? do you even know what credit is? how old are you?
i said more poor people own luxury bags than rich people
I think it’s dangerous to think that you are immune from FOMO just because you don’t like designer brands. There will be something else that grabs you and gives you that feeling. Pick your poison! However by becoming aware of the tactics brands/influencers use we can lower there power over us
yeah there are so many things vying for our attention (and money) these days 😩 though I challenge the idea that we all are destined to FOMO, specifically for material goods! I think we can reduce our "FOMO" impulses over time, and/or channel them more into FOMO for positive experiences rather than items.
Why does missing out cause fear (fomo)? I am always excited for what's coming in the future!! For example, traveling abroad, weddings and divorces, retirement planning, and even PlayStation 6 and 7!! I don't really care about what I missed because new opportunities are always coming.
Wish I saw this video a couple years ago... 😂 sadly, I have purchased many designer handbags (mostly because I do love them & try to get investment pieces --Chanel and LV) but now with the economy being in its current state, it's scary to carry them. And even though resale values have gone up, I feel like it's a burden to sell them or even keep them. I have not looked at it as robbing me of my time until you mentioned it that way. I am going to have to get myself out of the lux hole. I will definitely watch more videos. Thanks for your insight. I just subscribed and liked. 😊❤👍🏼
Their. Great write up!
FOMO for not having a bag? Nope, thank you!
Buying local would probably help your community better. I bought a locally made artisan leather totebag in 2016 in Jogjakarta for $80, and I'm still using it now! The leather is now so soft and comfortable to touch, and the style I chose is timeless. Now, that's an investment piece!
As a leather artisant from jogjakarta, i would say thank you so much for your endorsement..
A 40ish unemployed single mom living off her middle class parents was bragging how she’s on Hermes’ customer list and is covered head to toe in designer clothing … she’s exactly what you are describing.
WOW.
You're better off being on Hermes' shareholders list.
the comments. I'd rather buy a $100 bag with $1000 in it than *esluxscom*
I hope she gets the deep inner healing she needs.
That’s crazy.
Haha, I'm the *condupcom* 6th like! I really like your video *condupcom*
I always wondered as a kid why I heard that my dad made a lot of money but we never seemed to act like it. We never bought expensive clothes and drove a Volkswagen. My dad told me exactly that, about the millionaire next door.
I’m so glad my parents were smart with their money and savings. Although we experienced troubles during the recession in 2008 (having been laid off) it could have been much worse
Financial security is truly more valuable than any trinket. The lack of stress is liberating.
this reminds me one time my mom was telling my dad "look! Betty´s husband gifted her a new video camera!" (back when that was a new luxury thing) and he just said "Tell her husband to better buy her a house" (they were renting and we were not) hahahaha.
My mom has never been one to spend money frivously but also she was a stay at home mom so she never really think or worry about money, even when my dad told her it was open to buy a certain thing she rarely accepted (she did used to work when she was single)
Same
Even though we're not that upper-class type, it makes our lives saved rather than being distracted by wasteful items.
It's also great that I watched this because I can be ungrateful sometimes, thankfully I can hold myself falling into the trap.
How about your mom?
I think what gets ignored a lot in the designer discourse is how much wealthy public figures rely on tailors. Wearing clothes that look everyday but are tailored to your body really give off the "average but imperceptibly better" look which is what most rich people are actually striving for.
Yup, and a lot of the tailors don't make things from scratch - the wealthy people buy everything one or two sizes bigger and then have them tailored to fit.
That is true for some. The truly rich do not care about appearances, they have nothing to prove to anyone.
I know a few multi-millionaires and you would think they are janitors by how they dress and drive 30 year old cars with peeling paint. They know looking rich makes them a target for all the wrong people.
My neighbor is one of these that wears expensive and flashy items, drives a flashy car etc. He gets followed home by robbers and burglars constantly. His house has been burglarized about every other week. I told him he is the problem, not the thieves and burglars. He still hasn't learned his lesson yet.
Tailor my own clothes, met a customer who tailored her own clothes, can confirm.
@@shanereynolds8651 how did you startt? i don't have a sewing machine and i'm terrible in needlework
I used to get clothing (sometimes even designer stuff) that was in good condition from the thrift store then have it tailored. Tailoring is worth it to me because it feels good to have clothing that fits well.
Cara, I just discovered your video last week, and I am blown away to say the least. What an educational, insightful, and intelligent video! Hopefully people will be inspired enough to make significant life changes. Thank you my friend.
Wow, thank you! I really appreciate the kind words!
It's disingenuous that Hermes portrays itself as incredibly exclusive, picking their customers by hand, yet every Kardashian has a full collection of their bags. I'm thankful people are realizing now that certain labels do not make you "classy".
Yes and thats why Oprah (one of the richest women in the world) got refused to door at 🤔 (this is some years ago) at Chanel or Hermes 💁🏻♀️
My mother reserved a Place on the waiting list for a hermes bag. She had to wait almost 5 years. We are not rich, but my mother is a kind of women, who loves designer brands. So when the time got near to receive her bag she asked the shop when her bag will arive. They Said in a month. After a month the shop didt reach out to her so she asked them again per phone. They acted like they didnt know her and that she Never was on the waiting list. My mother theorizes that they handeled over her bag to someone more wealthier and with more Status without the waiting. She still loves Brands things, but i hate them. Such an disrespect just because you dont belong too the upper class. F**** them.
Very true😊
@@carmengrauwels If I remember correctly, Oprah wanted to shop after hours and they said no. Then she called them out on national television, and they caved and asked her to come back to shop.
It’s immature For anyone to think that if you don’t own this bag you can’t be classy. People just need to grow up.
I can't believe a lot of people reward brands by buying more when they are treated poorly. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said. If someone is rude to me or to someone I care about the last thing I'm going to do is give them money or promote them. It's a very negative spiral.
I agree. I had that happen to me at my Nordstrom. Look I’ll purposely dress for comfort. Didn’t expect such shoddy service.
I had a beautiful, kind girlfriend for 5 years. One of the main reasons I had to break it off with her was her compulsive obsession with buying "designer" things. We both made good money, but she spent most of her monthly disposable income on shoes, handbags and clothes to the point she was running out of places to store them. One time she bought a $500 handbag. When we arrived home, she she put it in the armoire where she kept her other bags. I watched her initial elation quickly give way to anticipation of the "next thing" she could buy. In the 3 years that followed, I never once saw her use that bag. I realized the excitement for her wasn't the stuff she bought, it was the quickly-fleeting "high" she got from buying it. It was a sad vicious cycle.
Damn son the woman is playing Gacha with Gucci lmao😂
Kind of sounds like the vicious cycle of addiction.
@@cinnabarite does having an addiction make you an unkind person? These two words are just not related at all. You never know why she had that addiction, even if it’s a weird one.
I don't mean to seem rude, but did you at least help her get over this? Like encourage her to get help instead of breaking up with her? I mean, you said she was beautiful and kind. That seems like the kind of person who's worth trying for.
@@drewteves8326 You're not rude at all and I get your point. There were other issues that I won't get into. I actually suggested we go to therapy to talk things out. I figured a good Therapist could be a good mediator, but she said, "if I went to therapy, it'd be for you, and I don't want to go." Her Mother called me a few years after we split and said she was engaged, put on a lot of weight and her fiance called it off. I always hoped she'd get some help. I told her if she did, I'd consider re-connecting. You have a nice voice...are you a Filipina?
Every piece of nice or expensive clothing I own I bought at Thrift stores. Same with stuff like sunglasses and watches. You would be astonished what you can find if you spend some time looking.
I buy £400+ designer t shirts on ebay second hand. If you look around you can still buy those Gucci/Louis V items to "flex" in LMAO!! Without paying silly prices...
My father always told me that prior to any major purchase, to consider how long (hours/days/weeks) I would have to work to be able to afford it with post-tax money.
This has helped me throughout my own life to make better buying decisions and avoid unnecessary spending.
My mom is so susceptible to luxury brands its insane. She really buys them just for the brand even if the style is sometimes kinda ugly.
My mom is the same but she eventually gave away the slightly ugly ones to some relatives and friends. At least her taste became more refined at least 😂
My mom never cared for that stuff. She was extra frugal as we were extremely poor growing up.
That's the worst bit! The ugliness. There's a Dior style of handbag that's called the saddlebag and it was designed by John Galliano who was inspired by a photo shoot by Helmut Newton who did models who were semi naked, in poses using real saddles and whips, it was almost porn. I find it incredible that this bag is so popular given this origin. It's also quite impractical and ugly.
That's it..the designer stuff is not pretty..
Birkin...the most hyped and overrated product there is. People are so easily manipulated by their marketing. I don't even think it's a very pretty bag. Yes, they definitely target the less than truly rich that are seeking to look like they have more money than they do. It is exactly what you say. You did a great job with the insight you provided in this video. You nailed the psychology of this perfectly. You are very articulate and I enjoyed listening. Thanks.
I still am befuddled by the Birkin hype. When I went to go look at the brand since I had never heard of Hermès before the Birkin hype, I was looking at the history and it felt like the Kelly bag was the IT bag especially since its been stated that after that bag was made, lots of other brands had their own inspired Kelly like bag. That felt to be a bigger deal than the Birkin and imo looked better too. So the hype around the Birkin bag just confused me.
I think it's a gorgeous bag, but It is indeed overrated.
the ultra rich views it as a mere beach bag, the mistake was for the regular middle class or high middle class tries to squeeze into a higher social status. Their own faults.
Yeah bragging rights basically
I still will buy it. You better believe it. A nice bag is a nice bag. I am pro-wealth, like nice things, and love stylish clothings. I like fashion & cosmetics. I am glad I stopped the poverty mindset and toxic mentality years ago as a teenager. Nothing wrong with buying a bag and loving it. Y’all groupthink & have no true identity. I believe it’s jealousy deep down but y’all hate to admit that. These videos always prove why so many people are failures or lazy or losers or they truly don’t have nothing accomplished in life so they make these miserable videos to self project their low self esteem onto the world.
These anti-wealth agendas are dangerous. If y’all wanna be in poverty minds or scarcity keep that stuff over there and don’t spread it. Frugality is another poverty mind to. Money should always be circulating and having more than enough money to never worry about money or losing anything. Wealthy people who let poor minded people & jealous failures oppress them from not buying nice things are poverty minded to and still brainwashed. Condemning money is bad and you’re writing blank checks to let the subconscious mind know you’re fine with poverty, frugality, debt, and all sorts of failure financial problems y’all always whining about.
I still buy regular brands to that look TF good. If something is gorgeous imma buy it, you damn right and jealous or poor people won’t make me not buy it. That’s why they have articles saying millennials & Gen-Z going to be poor ass people, it shows why. I’m a millennial but I won’t be there with y’all. Live in poverty or frugality or always struggling paycheck to paycheck or in chronic debt with no money in circulation so you can live nice. If you feel you’re better than money then you are on your own being in poverty. Don’t spread this among the world.
Thank you for saying all these things out loud. I completely support you on this topic.
I was surprised to hear that non-designer purses were discarded after a year. My purses are either thrifted or from low cost sources (TJ Max, Walmart, Amazon). I keep them for years before they start showing wear. Same with my clothing. Clothing can more easily be mended, so I have clothing articles in my closet that I have been wearing for decades. I am conscious of the environmental impact of consumerism.
My favorite quote “don’t go broke trying to look rich”. Don’t buy what you can’t afford to lose and appearing like you got it with designer while being in credit card debt is not a flex.
Even if I get rich I won't buy anything that doesn't justify it's value......we asians think differently.
“don’t buy what you can’t afford to lose” great tip!
@@lovelyPink464 One of the greatest advice I have ever had in long time.
Hey I'm broke and I look broke and know what - I still enjoy life a lot and I feel happy and not worried about status or other kinda crap. I never had a single designer item in my life. ;)
@@Izabela-ek5nhgood, keep that up and don't fall for any fashion industry tricks.
They missed the mark with the “pretty woman” effect. She didn’t buy clothes from the rude associates, she went to other high end stores and went back to show them she could afford to purchase from their store but she doesn’t want to now.
Thank you! I was so irritated with that I posted the same comment.
@@LSSYLondonyeah but they kinda didn't because at the end of the day, she went out of her way to spend a lot of money and came back to prove to them that "she had money." So essentially, by treating someone like they don't belong and don't have any money, these stores actually provoke people to prove they belong by spending more than they normally would. That's the "effect" part, feeling like you have something to prove when they look down on you.
Also to make a point that it was their loss
Great personality. Great video. Looking at bag Oh no the bag is too light. My purses are too heavy after i put what i need in that I leave stuff I need at home. Maybe I am weak. Light weight sounds really really good for me hahabut maybe without structure it would just fall apart on me. so thank you! I have more to think about now in terms of weight and structur *esluxs*
i am completely addicted to your content!!
is so well done, you bring so much information. is clear how much effort you put in your channel, thank you for the videos
I'm really glad you pointed out the psychology behind it.
A secure person would NOT want to be associated with a brand if they were treated poorly.
An insecure person would try harder to be treated like a human being or win approval to be 'in the club' as if they gain exclusivity.
I went to a fragrance store anc I was watched & judged by security/ staff. I was appalled and left. I vowed never to part with my money on them or support their business.
I went to another fragrance store, a few doors down. The staff couldn't do enough for me and treated me like a human being. Just as I was paying for some fragrances & and leaving the store, two of the staff from the other store were passing by and just stared at me. It was hilarious 😂😂
Why the hell would you support someone who treats you like shit. Don't buy from the store and let it get shut down
@@MitChHic That's what I'm saying! That's why I went elsewhere/ another brand entirely.
@@MitChHic Exactly and expensive brand names are a want not a need.
Yes, treating me badly directly means you don't want my money. That's ok, someone else may want it.
Why are staff judging customers ? A customer is the one spending money . They are the ones making money. So Customer has all rights in world to decide where ,what and when to buy /not to buy
i’ve had some friends with old money and dated a girl who’s dad was the CEO of a fortunate 500 company. One drove a new hyundai elantra and the other drove her moms old lexus. Neither of them wore designer anything despite their families being uber wealthy. what they did have is insanely nice places to live that their parents bought for them. NYC penthouses, beach houses in hawaii, etc
@Clem Fandango
And no one knows or cares what you are wearing . A pair of $20 dollar jeans made of cotton are no worse than a pair of cotton jeans made by armani for $200. If I had lots of money I would buy a big home and a nice car and travel around the world but not designer clothes.
The non-flashiness of some rich people is actually a poor-person costume, they make their money by exploiting workers and they need to hide their wealth and pretend to be philantropists. But usually those simple looking clothers are expensive high quality stuff, just without logos.
Also, designer clothes is not only about flashiness, most of the actual designer stuff is higher quality and has details, materials and design that you can't find for cheap.
No matter what you tell yourself, clothes are part of you, it's like a second skin, and there is no excuse for looking boring, other than being a poor, boring or tasteless person.
You shouldn't wear designers to look rich, many people wear designers in order to look good, and most of those are not something an average person would recognise as expensive without a closer look.
@@pabo-qv3nx I can guarantee you that the 20$ dollar jean wouldn't last a years even if you took care of it, you would have spent much as that designer jean by having to buy a new one once every time because of wear and tear. It's the reason why there's the saying "it's expensive to be poor".
I live in the south of France we get a metric shit ton of rich people coming here, a lot of them look like they are wearing normal regular clothes but once you go see the price of what looks like the most generic pieces of clothing you've seen you will get a heart attack, a lot of time their fit's cost more than the bling rich type cloths.
For a example, the billionaires given as example has for "wearing" normal clothing, it probably cost around 4 or 5 figures if not more, much much more than the stereotypical rich looking clothes. Rich people almost exclusively buy designer clothes, it's just that you wouldn't notice they are designer clothing if you don't look closely at the tag inside.
@@nieno9760
I've had jeans for $20 and have lasted me more than a year, also had a t shirt that cost me $5 dollars and lasted me years washed and tumble dried and the print never faded. Bought a leather jacket about $100 and saw one in a Armani shop in Abu Dhabi and the leather was the same as mine but this one cost over $500 and was made in India for a few bucks. And once I saw a program about the fashion industry, they did an experiment. The presenter took 5 pair of jeans to a tailor at saville row in london where all the rich folks go.This tailor had many years of experience and was asked to put the 5 jeans in order from the expensive to the least and the tailor got it wrong. Some of the designer clothes may be better but most is the same quality. Personally you'd have to be a SCHMUCK to pay for a Gucci t shirt with Donald duck printiled on it for $500 or any other print or any other item of clothing which costs more than some people's monthly pay packet.
There’s a difference between buying designer clothes and buying clothes that are somewhere in the middle. I prefer to spend $70 on a pair of Levi’s because they have lasted me 3-4 years than a pair of $30 target jeans that lasted me 6 months. Many rich people tend to dress boring but they are wearing designer labels where the tshirt is $300. Sometimes I luck out and my $30 jeans last a little longer lol
I lived in Tokyo for five years working in a top law firm and I saw myself falling into this world. I now live in Ohio in my dream house under $200k and couldnt be happier. This video was spot on.
I totally agree! I have lived through that myself it’s not worth it!!
Agree. I live in LA and there's a lot of this display of wealth in certain crowds and areas. And I'm also a lawyer. 😂 as I get older I start to feel less interested in the brand names though, but I went on a date with another lawyer not long ago who is doing very well, and he literally asked me such pretentious questions and also flaunted his wealth. On our first phone conversation, he asked how big my house was, how many bedrooms and Baths, whether I had any house keeping, told me that he had multiple cars including a Ferrari. I felt like he was both trying to size me up and also show off. It's just ridiculous.
@@gigiflaner3568 I would have hung up real quick once he mentioned how many rooms. Sounds very suspicious and not a date
@@gigiflaner3568 Omg. I had brunch with these nice ladies and her mom was talking about how hard it was to make friends as adults. And I was just saying how as adults the first thing they ask you is, what is your job? What is your purse? What’s your house! When you’re in school, your friends don’t ask you all that, as if you’re applying for a job!
Law firms are rife with this nonsense. The PAs are all obsessed with designer handbags.
Love the way you present *gtdupe* ! You really pay attention to presenting the bag. I don't think there is any other TH-camr who can present the bag in such detail as you do.
I recently was influenced to buy a designer scarf as an “award” for all my hard work and because I’d seen plenty of designer items around me and felt like I needed one too. It wasn’t a hit to my budget at all. I regretted the purchase almost immediately. I left feeling like an idiot who got tricked into believing a tiny piece of silk is worth a few hundreds. In the shop, I felt like I didnt belong there. I’m just an average person, why open the door for me? I love the design of the scarf and I wear it all the time, but that experience definitely cured me from the need to buy anything designer
I can totally relate
If you get a ton of use out of it and it makes you happy, I don’t think you should feel bad or guilty about buying something expensive for yourself. I think there’s a huge divide of people that either think designer items are the end all be all, and the people that think they’re the worst things you can buy. I think as long as you can afford it and your buying something for you and not for appearances, buy whatever you want. It’s your money.
If the scarf prevents you now from wasting money in the future, it's well invested learning money. ;D
Opening the door for you has nothing to do with what person you are. It's just a nice gesture/service. (In this case: to make you feel well and appreciated, so you will be more likely to buy things from them.)
Every now and then, I'll watch a TH-cam video which I feel like practically everyone in the world ought to watch. It only happens a couple times a year. This is one of those videos. Great job.
wow thank you so much, that means a lot!
An old uni friend once told me, that his sister worked in a factory sewing jeans for Uniqlo. Halfway through the shift, they would change the badges sewn on the jeans from Uniqlo to Gucci.
a lot of clothing factories are actually independently contracted by brands to manufacture their clothing. the same people that make designer brands are also the same that manufacture for zara or GAP. the whole factory including the workers are independent contractors. this is also a method to feign ignorance when these some of these factories are found to have human rights violations lol
I don’t like bags that make the name so boisterous and loud. I feel it’s tacky and loud, superficial *esluxscom*
Sis, your just as funny on here than TikTok...lol! I purchased a *esluxscom* from Rainbow... and I get so many compliments on that bag and the chain is heavy. Then I came across a Chanel tote bag. (I only use it to travel) every time I'm in the airport, women stop me about that tote. Side note: Chanel uses gold plated now for the logo.
Love thiss..every summer I pull out my little black *esluxscom* clutch and this summer I'm coming out with new heels so that will be my summer wear
I really enjoy your videos and look forward to them. They are honest and forthright, and you behave in a very friendly (sometimes even apologetic) and humble manner without the slightest hint of bragging *hotdups* .
Magnificent. Interesting. Intelligent, Informative. You’re doing real service here, Cara.
Coming from a fairly wealthy family, I used to believe that designer brands = quality and durability. I couldn't be more wrong. I once walked into a high-end store and decided to buy a Christian Dior pair of jeans for 350 dollars. Not really convinced that it had better quality than a pair of Levis that cost 300 dollars less, she told me that those so-called high-end jeans used better threads and had a cross-in-out sowing method that was not used in normal jeans, which, according to her explained that those jeans were much more durable than a Levis. Of course, this also means that to maintain the quality, it was not recommended to wash those in a normal washing machine, they needed dry cleaning. Well, I had money to spend that day and I was absolutely stupid as well. At the same time, I did buy a pair of Levis the same day for 75 dollars. Guess which pair lasted 10 years and which one didn't even make three years? Well, that was eye-opening and now my motto is if the so-called designer agrees to wear a t-shirt with my name on it for 300 dollars, then I'd accept to wear his clothes with his name on it. I stopped being a fashion billboard. Never will I buy again a pair of socks for 80 dollars because it's written Dior on it, my grandmother made better and long-lasting clothes than any designer would ever do.
Lmao the rule about the designer wearing a shirt with your name on it is gold, I am adopting it 😂😂
@@NonaMoreau Well it's true no? And I have a fairly long name, so it will go all around the shirt hahahaha
@@jjacobmdelachahahahaha first off, if you knew anything, you’d know Dior jeans would never be 350$ 😂 try 1000+, second, you’re wearing a gucci hat in your profile. LOLOLOL. Third, you don’t come from wealth if you have to say your family has wealth.
@@Twelvefourtyseven Oh, and I guess that you know who I am better than I do. The first Dior Jeans in 2001 were $350, and it was the lower end, there were jeans at 250 all the way up to 3000. Who told you that the picture on my profile is me, and what tells you it's not a fake Gucci hat? And yes, it is okay to say you are from a wealthy family, but it doesn't matter if keyboard warriors like you think it's false based on your own crappy assumptions. Again, if you knew anything, you'd learn to shut the hell up and not try to make sense of things you don't understand or that you do not have evidence for. Last but not least, who are you, and why should I care what you think?
Moi aussi, j'ai un nom à rallonge et j'adorerais le faire porter sur le t-shirt de ces cons de designers.
I’m an RN out of a surgical hospital in NYC, I’ve taken care of a few founders and CEOs of the brands you’ve mentioned here in the video. I can tell you, you could NOT tell they were rich and they did NOT even bring their own luxury brand bag to the hospital, but rather a regular old backpack. But if you were to see a consumer of their brand next to the CEO of the company, someone might be fooled to think the consumer had more money than the CEO! Whole point is the CEOs of these companies are not even flashey bc they don’t care to prove their wealth!
Wealthy people definitely by expensive items that’s why they are there. But many people may not know unless you really know the fashion house Many fashion houses have items that are very understated. Or they spend on a massive house or fancy car or boat or lavish vacations
It depends on how they spend it. Some like spending on vacations,boats,houses,etc… but they don’t care about clothes and luxury bags. It just depends on where their interests lie too.
Only poor people or people who don’t have money believe this. Every rich person I know acted like they were rich. It’s just jealousy or a realization that you may never achieve this status so you find a way to relate to people you have nothing in common with.
andwhy would they bring their designer items in the hospital in the first place?
@@d.lightfultv2231 Im from one of the richest counties in the United States. Ppl who are actually wealthy do NOT look or act like it 😂
It still hurts my heart when i bought my mother Louis Vuitton for her birthday. She was really grateful, I know it was a dream of hers and I felt great seeing her so happy, but i think the money is not worth it. Especially when all the sales people either don't care what you want or are rude. My fam is slavic and sadly most balkan people have some kind of an obsession with luxury brands. But whatever makes my mother happy. I just wouldn't buy it for myself.
Inferiority complex on a scale of whole nations. I know because I'm slav
My mother always told me that if a wealthy person wears fake diamonds, people will assume they’re real, but if a poor person wears real diamonds, people assume they’re fake.
Don’t go broke buying designer items to show off your money; no one will think they’re real anyway!
I buy extremely niche artisan brands. Basically, I can contact the person or team that produces each garment/bag. Super high quality and I have never spent over $500. If I get bored with the item, I can usually get my money back or have a decent ROI. I’ve been building my wardrobe and purse collection like this for a few years and it felt like I haven’t actually spent money on clothing. I also purchase these brands 2nd hand. Only downside is that it takes a lot of time. For example, it can take months just finding a nice shirt from a good artisan. I enjoy the process though and it feels each garment is truly personal.
Tailor in my town does bespoke suits and jeans, I buy a new suit every few years, upto 4 of them now, 2 extra slacks, few extra dress shirts, 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of shoes made from them, still cheaper than those bags lol
I like vintage too.
Where do you shop? I’m into bags too but I want some nice quality ones. Thank you.
I'm Asian and it's mainly Asian women here who actually buy things from luxury stores so the staff flocked to me like birds. I felt pressured, spent a lot, and I regret it so much. From what I've seen with past friends, they'll take out personal loans just for people on the street to think they're wearing fakes. Truly sad.
If you felt pressured to buy the things, but actually don't want them, you can return them without giving a reason. (At least where I live.) Even if they ask you about it, just say you changed your mind.
How do Asians in America amass so much wealth and real estate? I’ve always been fascinated seeing immigrants able to come up so quick here.
@@derrickdavis862 The ones that legally emmigrate in the US are often the best of the best in their country. Some were already rich and/or famous/powerful to begin with. Even if they were not rich back in their home country their families are often very smart and goal driven hence why many end up being successful. Also their education outside the US lets them save money (college loans isn't a thing outside the US, as it should). Also if you are new to a country and was accepted there through hard work you tend to be cautious/smart in spending money because you are focusing on how to dig new roots (have no one else to rely on except maybe some distant relatives, ect.)
@@bmona7550 and these are things we should all learn from, apply and benefit
Thank you for saying that out loud. I lived in Sydney, and there were always lines outside of designer stores of young Chinese students (~40% of all students in Australian universities are from China). I always wondered how they can afford this, since they’re here on student visas and can’t work more than 20 hours a week. The news here reports that now with the steep rise in food and rental prices, many students turn to food banks and charities. I often wonder if the same people “invested” in Hermes bags.
One of my coworkers and friends is obsessed with designer stuff to such a point that her life has become a misery and a struggle. She spends all her money to fancy dresses and bags, but then she has almost nothing to eat. She is persuaded that her value in the society is literally defined by the number of fancy items she owns. Despite of what she has, it’s obviously never enough. She she can’t have enough, every night she cries to sleep. I haven’t seen another person in my life who has so much, yet is so miserable.
And if you show her this video, and educated her on designer brands and whah they do, she would get mad at you or defend her buying decisions.
So, I say, put this kind of educational videos out there, but make that money from people who don’t care.
@@steverogers7601 it's easier to scam someone than to convince them they have been scammed.
It’s probably a shopping addiction. Like any other addiction, it’s usually out of the sufferer’s hands.
Maybe she needs to go to see psychologist.
I used to be like your coworker. Wanting everything, buying and thinking about what to buy next, never being satisfied...
Here is the thing about Rolex: the manufacturer actually banned dealers from requiring purchase histories in order to get one. Most of the shops I’ve actually visited, assuming they are in stock, had no issue of selling the watch whatsoever.
I’ve been the watch world long enough to know there are far more expensive brands than even Rolex, namely Patek, AP, Vacheron Constantin, Jacob & Co, GP, FP Journe, and a handful more.
I own a company now that is doing quite well. For the first time in my life I decided to walk into Saks to find a pair of Loubs for my wedding. They were literally the MOST uncomfortable shoes I've ever put my feet in. Then they were slipping everywhere and the Saks rep was like "oh you're supposed to get insoles and sole protectors" hold up, so Im buying 1k shoes and have to spend even more money on buying stuff to make them wearable? It is such a scam. I bought one bottle of Killian Paris perfume which is the one thing I actually splurge on and walked out. Even though I now can afford it, making this much money has only opened my eyes to investing and wanting to make even more instead of blowing it on stupid status symbols. I buy Michael Kors at department stores, they are high quality and relatively cheap but I've had 2 MK bags i wear almost daily that are going on 8 years and still look great. I've also really gotten into ordering custom stuff from people who make it themselves, it's high quality and you aren't supporting the fashion industry. Bought a leather dog set (collar, harness, leash) from a leatherworker in Italy, amazing quality, custom measurements and only cost me about $180. Buying local and handmade is the way to go. You can use the highest quality materials on earth but it will never add up to what they charge for one of those bags, you are paying for the name and that is it. If you care about looking rich or whatever just buy knock-offs, no one will know the difference and if you buy real ones but arent wealthy people will think they are knock offs anyway.
I just finished pharmacy school and I’ve always wanted a LV bag. I like how they look and it’s one of those “I’ll finally be able to have one” things all throughout. However, I decided I will buy one off of poshmark. There’s tons of them in good condition, it’s more affordable, and I’m not being wasteful.
Congrats on graduation! 🩷
get yourself a good quality replica instead... trust me... my sister used to be obsessed with bags like that, she would take out loans to buy one, until friend of hers showed up with a replica, and she only gets replicas ever since!
That's a great idea. Some bags in this category have lowered in quality due to any number of factors (cost cutting materials, outsourcing production, etc.) yet their prices have increased, way above inflation levels. If you can find a good bag that you like in the second hand market, there is a chance that it might be made to a higher standard than today's version of the same bag (depending on when it was made I guess).
@@Ernesto-ir8ds Some replicas are actually made to a higher standard than the originals they try to imitate, lol.
@@CaptainHentai yup, and many of them are made in very same factories, from very same materials as originals...
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I think Hermes actually does sell Birkin bags without previous spending with them, just not to people they see as ‘middle/lower class’. If you have enough money they will give it to you no problem
So do you have to present them with your bank statements?
@@Peridot07 you get your rich friends who have a birkin to introduce you to the sales person
The restriction is just there to make it seem like it's exclusive. They'd gladly take your money regardless.
Your closet is simple a dream! Not just the *amzclothes* clothes but the bag you own are absolutely amazing too
I fell into this trap when I was younger. I remember being obsessed about the feeling when I obtained some of these luxury items.
I remember the feeling of excitement when I finally got my hands on those luxury items. The issue was that after a few months, the dopamine rush wore off, and that luxury bag just became a regular bag.
I even get this with my vintage bags...but have paid a fraction for them and they're cheaper than buying new generic bags. I love to have them in circulation and admire the craft skills in making them. So now and again I look at them with great satisfaction. I love them for their own qualities.
Luckily I never cared for or liked these designer brands. They are a big waste of money. I only get a few Coach bags or some decent and cheap brand.
It would be better for you to get a dopamine rush from having a regular bag and knowing you didn't waste any money on hype and marketing.
I have always avoided women that were trapped in the brand worship mindset. My wife is a designer but she will never spend on these ridiculous overpriced brands. My friends wives are the ones always wanting the current bag and they are not getting ahead financially.
same feeling but i think it has to do with capitalism as a whole. when you have the money to afford something that you desire and you buy it: you are happy. but as time passes by that specific thing loses value and your interest is immediately captured by something else. i like to make the comparison with Christmas presents which children long for and yet once they obtain it they will be discarded and replaced.
@@deborahcurtis1385 Buying vintage pre-loved is the best. I celebrated a promotion 5+ years ago with a vintage lambskin Chanel Classic Flap and caviar card holder and those are my only Chanel items. The leather quality is incredible-any scuffs just buff right out! Chanel's recent quality issues are egregious and they just keep raising the prices. Big nope.
I would not shop at dior if they treated me poorly. I would definitely do the "big mistake" thing but shop literally EVERYWHERE else and NEVER again at dior. I hold grudges :)
I'll send my condolences to Dior for losing such a valuable customer. The 0.0000001% hit in their annual revenue must be terrible.
@@itsgonnabeanaurfrommeI mean, if you like to be treated like dirt, more power to you.
Are you a scorpio 😂
Absolutely. Girl in the video should have taken her mom to a chanel shopping spree then gone back with all the bags ( or just a couple of empty bags, lol)
Still thinking with a poverty mindset.
When you stop caring about what other people think you will finally be free.
It’s so easy to get suckered into spending way more than you should in a designer store. I went shopping to treat myself after a little promotion at work. I went straight into the Burberry store and they made me feel so special in there, giving me Burberry branded chocolates and champagne. And because of this, I almost felt obligated to spend a little more than I initially wanted to. I ended up buying a dress, a belt, and a pair of shoes…which put me back $4,500. I immediately started getting anxiety when we left the store.
What’s funny though is now, a few years later after advancing my career, I make a lot more money than I did then and I wouldn’t dream of doing something like that now. Instead, I’d rather take my extra money and invest it. Im currently paying my way through a Masters program, which I look at as a true personal investment. And that feels a lot more rewarding than a Burberry dress.
So, do you still own and/or regularly wear the Burberry dress, belt, and a pair of shoes that you paid $4,500 for?
Wow, $4500 is probably more than the value of my entire wardrobe of clothing
Smart woman!
What do you do for work ?
@@T.S.000 I do still own them and will wear occasionally but I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve worn them
Wow thank you algorithm for recommending me this video! It’s so refreshing to see someone talk about this! Money most definitely doesn’t grow on trees and it takes years for many people to earn what one bag would cost.
I collected a few Hermès scarves in my early twenties, a few years ago now. People often portray going into these shops like its a bloody magical experience. It really is not. It felt pretty normal, just with a really nice staff. No they dont kowtow to you, but they’re just nice. They even told me its not even that hard to obtain a Birkin (this was London, i don’t know about other countries). In fact, being a stuck-up wannabe is actually not helpful, but being nice to the staff and just be normal might actually help more, without spending a penny. I didn’t spend that much at Hermès compared to the majority of customers, in fact a meagre amount compare to those buying their leather goods etc. But the staff offered to put me on the fast -track list for a Birkin, but I declined. I was dressed very normally, not wearing anything fancy and was carrying a Cocicinelle bag. I like nice things and carefully curate my wardrobe, but hate coming across as flashing or even hate for people to think I’m rich. Our house and premises are on a larger side, but we try our hardest to tell people that we’re not rich, we just value our domestic space and invested a bit in our house.
PS. By the way, I no longer buy designer items. The most foolish purchase I ever made was a pair of Valentino rockstuds costing €750 in 2017, and no they’re not worth it. Give me torturous blisters every time I wear them.
Def old money 😂 Not everyone can afford few $500 scarves in their 20s
You must be kidding saying you are not wealthy. Buying scarf in early 20s from Hermes. I know one girl, in her 20s she has branded things like LV bag, Chanel earrings, so yeah..you are not ‘rich’
@Mel C I went to Norway for 3 weeks, spent 1k in total so I don't know how you manage to spend so much on a trip to a 'nice country'
@@NiinchaSm A trip to Norway from my country would easily get to 3~4k Euros, 1k would be just the flying cost 💀
But yes, I sure wouldn't mind being 'non-wealthy' and able to splurge on Designer brands lol
I think you mean popcorns🤣. I think everyone should buy what they want, I have a few designer bags, never spent more that £300 and have never paid full price for any. Honestly I always default to bags from TK Maxx or brands with little or no logo. After all who wants to be hit on the head because you carry a Birkin or Kelly bag😳.
I have always found these "high status" brands incredibly tacky and a sign of someone trying to convince the world that they arent as poor as they are, and your video explained it so well! Great video!
Sorry you're poor.
I agree! Designer labels is the easiest way to identify a poor person or someone deep in debt.
I would NEVER be caught with designer labels, and before anyone comes for me, I can afford them.
Yeah, now y’all doing too much. Some people can afford it and be okay, that’s not everyone who has designed.
Fr. I don't think much of it if the item actually looks good and unique, but when it's something that looks awful or basic, I automatically assume it was bought for the logo
@@AbbyC543 You must live in Ohio LOL certain not California. You can't afford anything, stop lying.
I've never bought a designer item in my life, now it's clear my reasons are exactly what you say, you said it all so well. I have no desire (insecurities) about "looking good" or socially tagged, no interest. I certainly do not want to waste money on silly products, it simply does not align with my value system. Thank you for shedding light on the industry, well presented!
I think we all want to look good but looking good has nothing to do with wearing these f**king expensive clothes or jewelry. Just wear which we can afford, we like and suit on us, that's enough.
I really like this video! I do buy designer but it’s almost always resale. That doesn’t always mean that it’s cheaper (I don’t buy if it isn’t) but it does at least mean that every time I buy with resale I’m at least not contributing to more waste.
I think you’re mistaken… the Uber rich are wearing designer brands, just not the ones that the poor usually wear. They wear quiet luxury brands that makes high quality products without showing their logo so you would have to guess if it’s either from Loro Piana/Brunello Cucinelli or from Target
This, basically. They're still expensive high end brands but just not well-known to the average consumer.
Super rich wear designer logos all the time.
@min_blogs28 Landing Yes they tend to wear both from what I've seen.
100% correct.
You can tell the difference between Target clothing and Brunello Cucinelli
I was obsessed with designer stuff back in 2015-2016 and then just completely stopped because it was pointless. Now I buy $10 tshirts from Amazon and wear them for years lol
You want credit for something you're supposed to do?! Like you're supposed to not waste obscene amounts of money on overpriced stuff, when half the world is starving, and the planet is burning. Well done, you saw sense and its saving *you* money; must be nice to have the choice! Most of us wear 10$ t shirts our whole lives because we can't afford much more than that!
@@drc4168 are you slow? Why are you so triggered by this comment lmao. Calm tf down with your holier than thou attitude. Weirdo.
@@drc4168 damn bro its not that deep, chill
@@drc4168 u need calm down
@@Kat-zi2tb just stating the obvious while sipping an iced tea!
I am so, so thankful to my mother that at the ripe age of 13, put a debit (not credit!) card in my hand and said "I will always pay for essentials like school-related costs, food, clothing essentials, etc... but if you want something you don't need? You want a luxury item? You want a concert ticket? You have to pay for that with your own money, not someone else's."
It was such an effective lesson that it made me think about every single 'splurge' purchase well into my adult years. Every time I go to buy something, I ask myself 'is this something I really need?' and in addition to that, I've started asking myself 'can I get this second hand?'. Genuinely saved me thousands of dollars.
I have developed a habit over a course of the last few years. When ever I feel like I need a new shiny car, a new mobile while my existing one works just fine or any new shiny object I calculate the amount they would cost and I would invest that amount into mutual funds, etf and dividend paying stocks. Best habit I have ever aqquired to date
I am so thankful that material possessions mean nothing to me.
I got excited over cotton black tshirts because they were like 75% off and that was the most exciting clothing purchase I've made for years.
I’m a sucker for a deal, but only when I need the thing and the price is lower than usual, not the fake discount when they increase the price the day before only to put the discount after giving it the normal price.
Omg me too. I get so excited when I get a good deal. I bought some nice dresses that were 90% off cause the store was offloading product.
Yup and the expensive brands are so ugly too.
"Millionaire next door" is such a real thing. A few years back, I took the time to calculate my parent's net worth and discovered they were technically millionaires (just barely, but technically).
I told my mom, who was at the the time clipping coupons and and padding ground beef with bread crump, and she genuinely didnt believe me until I broke down the math for her. They didnt even know.
A Million doesn’t go as far as it did 50 years ago tho, so it still sounds like unimaginable riches (and don’t get me wrong, it’s a lot of money any way you slice it), but it’s not a crazy ridiculous amount.
@@AlexHider Yeah, it's pretty simple if you're old enough. Just own a house purchased around 40-50 years ago in any major city.
The key to being rich is to not be young.
How wonderful it must be to be so rich and white you don’t even realize it
My sister in the UK is a millionaire, she is the most working-class person you could ever meet. She just happened to buy a house with land at the right time [1990] and started a small business. Her car is a 15 year old Kia.
That’s because a million dollars isn’t really as impressive as it once was unfortunately. 🥲
I love the term "manufactured exclusivity" excellent description! Just subbed to you.
Thank you so much! ❤️
they didn't make it up though.
@@philipdahl8767 she just said she liked the term used bro
Such GREAT comparisons! Allllll soooo lovely! Especially the LYXBAG tote. Their styles are so chic, sleek, elegant and understated!
One thing I learned from these designer brands and luxury cars is not to buy the goods sold but to use that same money to buy the shares in the company 😂
If u not a car guys 😢I didn’t better
Veblen good never depreciate because millionaires don care about inflation look at lvmh the first half a billion company in Europe 😂
Brilliant! Yes! ❤
Such a great video. So many people are faking rich for social media and putting themselves in serious debt.
My go to place is my neighborhood Goodwill. I got a fairly new Kate Spade bag, designer clothes (with tags in it) for prices between $5-$20, thanks to my ultra posh neighbors who like to buy fine things only to dump it to charity stores, winner!
I bought a Burberry overcoat at my local Goodwill and it was on a holiday so it was half off. 🤔
Who cares what someone has or doesn’t have. It doesn’t make you any better than anybody else. Real or fake. It’s nobody’s business unless you’re paying their bills. I think some people are just butt hurt by the fact that they spent $5,000 on a handbag and anyone can get *esluxscom* that looks identical for a few hundred bucks or less. Stop worrying about stuff that doesn’t matter.
I still love my LV reverse monogram *hotdups* clutch! It's versatile, fits a variety of items, and is definitely a workhorse! I think seeing it everywhere (like the LV speedy) is proof that it's already a classic
I was in Turkey recently and had a empriente multi pouchette with me. They show me a *suluxs* bag and it looked just like it.
Thred up is great too
I really love your taste and style always so chic. My faves would be the *amzclothes* leather jacket and the Swarovski pave diamond ring so gorg. Thank you for your recommendations.
I think you make some great points and I mostly agree with everything you said.
My mother would purchase high end luxury brands my whole life but she was doing very well financially. I think because she was born In Detroit and grew up dirt poor, she felt the need to show(herself and others)that she had made it. She loved to enjoy life, travel, buy whatever she wanted, and eat well because she could.
My mother passed away this year at 52 years old and left me and my younger brother basically set for life. I do not but expensive brands and she would get me a pair of the same black pants every year for Christmas (that I asked for)among other things and I keep the older pairs over the years. One for painting,one brand new etc. My mom had a great life that she created and didn’t hold anything back which made saying goodbye somewhat easier. Not all of us will live to retire, in fact I was set as a beneficiary on her retirement. I’m getting 1/2 of it every month for the rest of my life.
I feel that if you want something, for the right reasons and can afford it, you should purchase it. No one knows how long we will be here and the future is incredibly uncertain for our generation. It’s important to enjoy life and if that makes someone Happy, I say go for it. Anyways awesome video, keep educating people, and remember(I hate this term) yolo.
I've felt this way since I was a teen.. but sometimes as an adult I find myself still looking at fashion and bags :/ they really have pulled us in! Even if we don't agree. I know I don't make enough to afford those bags but something to remember is how we spend our money is more vital than voting. We could be supporting brands that are more sustainable and affordable. Make them desired and cool if celebrities would pick up partnerships with those brands. They must know they're a part of this and should hold more accountable with their platform
if you really want something like this, buy a replica for 10x less than original...
The problem isn't Hermes. The problem is our way of thinking.
Exactly.
We are conditioned to buy buy buy and you have to have it attitude-
Vid should be called how we are keeping ourselves poor by buying into designer
Designer brands are just a symptom
The problem is consumerism, its brother materialism and their mother capitalism.
I'm really impressed with and loving how well put-together your videos are on such important topics. You've compiled them in such a way that makes them so easily approachable and digestible. Thanks!
I grew up in the city of Atlanta in a highly impoverished section of town & I can’t even begin to explain the amount of importance was placed on having luxury items. I was made fun of because at the beginning of the year I got one pair of Adidas and one nice pair of sandals because having 2 pairs of shoes was considered “poor” “busted” “broke”. As soon as I was able to I got a job dancing and spent THOUSANDS over about 5-8 years on designer brands. At that time future was rapping about “robins jeans with the wings” this was before online shopping was a big thing and you could only get robins jeans from one boutique store in a rich part of the city. They ran between $300-$700 and I now almost 10 years later have 20+ pairs that 1) I can’t even fit bc I was a 24 waist in my early 20s 2) I cannot sell even my most expensive pair for $100 bc just as fast as they came into style they went out of style. The MCM & LV bags have worn and become damaged and all I can think of now is how I wish I could go back and not have bought this useless shit and put a down payment on a house or even just saved it. It’s taken so long to get out of the mindset I grew up in and realize who truly gives a fuck? If you have nice designer stuff it’s not truly for you it’s for other people to notice you and usually when they do they’re either envious and think you’re a snob or they are attracted to you to try to use you and get that stuff for themselves. Save your money. Treat yourself but don’t spend $700 on a bag so small it can’t even fit your phone when you could put it towards rent or invest or just save it!
Exactly!!! It’s just like how people will chastise adults over 22 who live at home still, but be the same people who lack financial literacy and dong know how to invest 🤷🏾♀️
100% my SIL has a big family, 6 kids and her husband. The kids are ALWAYS in expensive shoes that easily are costing over $150+, their teenage daughter has fake lashed and gets her nails done and hair dyed just to look top knotch for high school. They do not have any savings, don't own a home and I'm sure they've never had a vacation as a family. The pressure they put on themselves to make sure the world perceives them as worthy and having money is so exhausting. I really feel like it's a poverty mindset and sadly if you can't wake up and see that your status isn't in your clothing you will rarely leave a treasured legacy behind for your family.
My niece ran away to live with some boy she met playing fortnight who lived in the projects in NYC. After the boy's mother found out that she was a runaway and contacted my sister in law, she was dragged home.
After she came home, she said that the most important thing she learned about "surviving in the hood" is to "have expensive things so you don't look poor".
@@FlayvorOfEvilFunny.
At some point during my teen years, I had a phase of wanting branded stuff until I entered college where I felt more comfortable with hand-me-downs (which majority of my jackets are still in top quality despite being decades older than fast fashion brands). Also having worked in a fashion company after my college, I can guarantee no one gives a damn what brand you wear. Just be creative and buy when you need or feel like it as long as you know what you are doing with it.
Loved the video! I have a Small *esluxscom* in black calf leather, and absolutely love it. Not necessarily the most practical because of the narrow opening, but you can fit so much in there!
i was that person too. as a kid/teenager, people bullied you for not fitting in with all the brands. it's more about flaunting your looks over using products til it falls apart.
btw, i still have some branded clothes, still buy some branded (mid-range stuff) stuff, but also accepted wearing hand-me-downs, no-name clothes, and plain stuff. i also kept my aunt's old designer wallet for myself, used the hell outta it, and it's still my wallet to this day.
came a long way after struggling with shopping addiction.
I think the most remarkable analogy is that those things are bought with TIME OF OUR LIVES.
And that not only applies to designer clothes but anything that we use to buy us status. Everything you said is pretty obvious to me but there is definitely a lot of people who need to hear this
Hi Cara, just found your very informative channel. I’m a retired person, who never believe in spending money in designers anything.
Thank God for that or else I probably wouldn’t be enjoying retirement.
I admire you for making videos like this to help people understand the value of money and the importance of saving.
I have and love the *esluxscom* in the same colour and have the marmont in the small in the velvet. Judith is on my list.
Funny enough, a friend of mine said a designer handbag was the best purchase he ever made. He gave the bag as a Christmas gift for the dispatcher at the company he contracted for. His trucks were getting way more hours after that, and were put on easy jobs. He made the 7k back in 2 months.
Cool, then some light corruption then?
moral of the story: bribery works
@@cronoz7 Nah, a showing of appreciation was reciprocated. ;)
Great video. I’m new to your channel and I love your vibe. And, I can’t tell the difference in the two goods and the *amzclothes* is close enough and it’s cute so that’s good enough for me.
My Mom used to say, “You can always tell when someone isn’t used to having something.” Meaning every single time you see them, they have to “prove” they have money or can afford all sorts of stuff now. 🤷🏽♀️ Personally, I think folks are going to do what makes them happy, which I also do. However, there are ways to have and do things wiser. No way I’m going “broke” and I value my time immensely (which you cannot control or get back).
Priorities are what is most important but of course, these vary from person to person. What I can appreciate about your video is sparking the conversation, healthy debates, knowledge and information that some may not have been privy to or just unaware. There is no “right or wrong”, for the exception of being treated like crap when going into any establishment. Restaurants, high-end stores, car dealerships or even a car wash. You treat me like crap, I’m not returning AND I’m writing a bad review…I digress.😂
Any-who, good video. 😊
Hi there, does your company ship to customers in the USA? I emailed your company regarding for a birkin and was told to contact the location in Dubai for *esluxs* ?
I'd rather get the *esluxs* for $500 us and put $4,500 us in my bank account.
I'm an older lady who is a big tipper and likes an occasional bottle of fine perfume. Because I'm older, the ladies who work the beauty counters ignore me, don't offer me promotions, etc. We need to stop profiling people. The snobs of the world will hate it.
ALSO: I don't know if this is a more recent development, but I never considered Uniqlo to be a fast fashion brand. I used to shop there when I lived in Japan for everyday items at not-too-bad prices, and many of the things I've bought there have lasted me between 5-10 years. I especially loved the fleece-lined sweatpants and flannel shirts. But as I said in my first comment, quality is going down all over the place, so maybe that accounts for the comments made in the video?
yess idk why it hasn’t expanded worldwide how do i shop their cute outfits huhhh
went looking for this comment! bashing uniqlo was completely undeserved. + it was mentioned by the side of shein which makes even less sense - why not asos or whatever else
Yeah I agree with everything else in the video but just anecdotally my uniqlo stuff has served me well over the years.
I was looking for this comment too! Always considered Uniqlo more along the lines of affordable but decently priced basics that are more or less the same no matter what year or season you walk into a store, so not really the trend-chasing, 52-seasons-a-year vibe I associate with fast fashion.
@@yoanakochkova7250 @thebrownpixl totally agree! i still have items some of which i bought 7 years ago in great condition. moreover, they use whimsical fabrics of their own production to create thermal wear which i heavily rely on both summer and winter. Summing up, it's actually the only daily wear brand I ever felt was worth investing into.