The first story is essentially the reason Sonic the Hedgehog drives a car in racing games. He knows he can win on foot, but gives everyone a fair chance
First story easy: Just make the prize, instead of cash, be a donation to the shelter in the winner's name. Then everyone can have fun and she has no reason to spoil it.
This is the easiest solution where everyone that deserves to win, does. Most of the people competing share the same goal of raising funds for a shelter in need that has given them their pups so by changing the rules, everyone but poodle lady gets what they want and I feel like the hOA won't want to go against a charity that could give them fantastic PR.
If that happens, the woman would probably go ballistic about how dare they make the price not cash. This shows her true colors and is simply using her dog for easy money.
NONONO the winner gets a prize made by the HOA's kids the runner-up gets a cash prize Way more of a middle finger to the poddle lady The kids have fun the rightful winner get a prize and the poddle lady gets put on a place were she would offend everyone for criticising her prize or withdrawing from the competition
Dog Olympics solution: no one dog can win more than one or two events. She can continue to compete but she is disqualified from winning once she's hit her quota
Or that competition doesn't win the cash, instead all cash won is donated in the winners names to a shelter of their choice if they don't want to support the one OP and everyone else has been. Give ribbons to the dogs and their humans and cash to shelters. Everyone wins.
i think disqualifying the win still ruins the feeling of getting 1st place. They should limit dogs per event. like one family can only enter 2 events at maximum.
@@comostella88 my only worry is that there aren't enough dogs for that. You might have to cut entire events or have only two dogs in each. Maybe a better way to do it would be: you can compete in the events until you've hit your quota of wins and then you have to sit out of the rest of the competition. It's had to figure out how to keep it fun but fair when people aren't playing fairly
2nd story had an update: MIL "apologized" and husband didn't understand at first but then apologized to OP. MIL isn't allowed in the house for the time being.
I was thinking that it might be over for that marriage if the husband couldn't see what was wrong in that situation. Hopefully, he sees this as an issue going forward with his mother.
Poodle owner here. My dogs and I compete in various dog sports. When I see competitive handlers/trainers at local fun events, it’s always been as the demonstration team, guest judge, giving a performance, or a combination of those. I’m horrified a competitive handler would crash an event like that and then throw a tantrum when asked not to crash the party again. As a side note, in dog sports, they have a system to prevent things like this. There are levels for owners handling their own dogs, Jr Handlers (Kids & Teens), and professional handlers. Once someone competes in the pro level, they can’t go back to the other levels.
The pro / amateur division is common in all kinds of competitions. The fact that the HOA board ignored this, tells me that they are either clueless, or might have some kind of relationship / deal with the trainer.
@@jaimedritt4622 Makes we wonder if the person posted to her social media about them going to the neighbourhood fun match. Wouldn't people see through her post and call her out for being a butthole?
I also handle sport dogs and it kinda wasn’t fair to exclude them the way they did. It’s clear they didn’t talk at all to the poodle owner and knowingly let a professional handler and dog enter. It’s not really the handlers fault here that they were let to enter then had unfair rules set in motion to exclude them. It sounds beyond misleading to call it the dog Olympics, offer cash prizes, and then get upset when competitive dogs compete in a small event called the dog OLYMPICS and get mad at them when they keep the cash prizes they’re told they can keep. You’re making a really harsh judgement to another dog owner who was clearly mislead, and excluded against privately rather than them having an adult conversation and talking to the dogs owner. They opted to do it in a really immature manner, and while I don’t think the poodles owner should’ve tried entering next year, but I would two if my neighbors were behaving so childishly They could’ve put in the effort to have an adult conversation or the effort to train their dogs, instead they avoided any text messages and confrontation and decided to keep the event exclusive to everyone they like. I may be misunderstanding here, but not once did the OP even TALK to the poodle owner, followed their ig, and let them enter knowing the situation and decided to exclude them the next year for no reason and avoided an adult convo about it. I don’t see how you can blame them here? I blame them for pushing the issue, but not for how the neighborhood treated them.
My grandmother was a hobby baker. Her cakes looked phenomenal. There used to be a cake competition in my hometown. She won 3 years in a row and then they stopped doing it. It's just not fair to everyone when the same person wins everything.
@@survivedandthriving moral integrity is the opposite of my grandmother. She's a vulnerable narcissist lol. Also, the cakes looked amazing but they tasted awful. I got stuck eating my 13th birthday cake until my 14th because my dad doesn't throw out food.
Another solution to the first story is that you need to make a minimum donation to the dog shelter in order to compete. Considering that OP said that the competitive Karen didn't donate _anyting_ last time, this might deter her from entering or show her true colours.
I think there should be minimum entry fees per event, and that no one should be allowed to enter more than 2 events. That way, she can’t just pony up once and then run the table of all the events.
@@JosieJOKhe skipped over the edit OP put up where after four days of negotiations, poodle lady was insisting on being allowed to compete in 80% of the events.
Story 4: There's something else to note here. The father's wife didn't want OP to read the book because the main character is bisexual, so I think it's safe to say she's homophobic. The dad siding with her, assuming he knows the reason why she wanted to prohibit it, tells me that if OP were to ever come out as gay or bi, he would still side with his wife over his kid
I myself prefer girls over boys (but am open about it to my family and close friends) romantically (I was 7 when I announced I was gay). Wonder what OP's dad's wife thinks about me?
Dapne: "Do you know why I don't run at full speed while chasing my daughter?" Me: Because you're bad at running? Dapne: "BECAUSE SHE'S A 2 YEAR OLD AND I AM A FULLY GROWN ADULT" I wouldn't make it as a parent
My father did something similar but in a shoe tying race so I would learn how to tie shoes. I was approaching the 2nd grade and had others help (might be an Autistic thing). So he decided we would tie shoe race and he was failing (on purpose) miserably. My family was giggling along.
Third story: so NTA. She paid her niece $22/ hour for watching her kids *and* she was living there rent free?! I would've LOVED that kind of opportunity when I was in college. That niece has no idea how good a deal she has. I mean, bruh, come on!
I understand niece is beginning her internship but this is a step in adulthood. She moved out of her parents to go to school. Now she needs to move out of OPs so she can do her internship. The terms and conditions for her to stay at OPs no longer apply since she can’t provide childcare anymore.
Or you know have her pay rent? I swear meeting in the middle is a good idea, have a nanny work till she comes home, her paying less than student housing/apartment would allow her to save money, she could still watch the kids at night and the day nanny could be paid by her rent, everyone wins.
As someone who’s read the Trials of Apollo books, they are not marketed as LGBTQ+ nor are the characters sexualities and genders treated as a big deal. They’re LITERALLY just existing. The stepmother would have no inclination that Apollo is bisexual based solely on the book’s title or description, so it sounds like she purposely looked it up to see if she could forbid her stepson to read it for any reason??
As a Nico di Angelo cosplayer my eyes were rolling. Will Solace being bi like his Dad is awesomeness in my book. In my headcannon Hades and Apollo see thier boys as thier OTP
Well they banned a childrens book because the authors last name was "Gay". Those people who judge books do not do proper research. They just look at the books, filter them for buzzwords and then ban them without ever reading them. Back when Twilight was the trend among teenagers my class deceided to have the first book as a class book for that year. As i was attending a catholic all girls school run by nuns they we're all very concerned we kids wanted to read a "horror book" because they heard Vampire and thought it was horror. Well, Sister Claudia read it and became a huge fan and we were allowed to read it. The later years also had less strict rules about what books should be read in class. The classes before us usually had to read teen books from the 80s which were so out of touch with recent time and often had horrible messages like the one were a girl dates her little brothers bully to get revenge on him only to realize he was "not so bad after all" and falls in love for real. Or the one were the girl dates the guy who killed her pet rabbit and ate it only to realize he is not so bad after all and falls in love for real. We also had to read one classic literature book and well i hate Schiller since then. Had to read every sentence like 5 times.
12:20 that book doesn't have any bi people in it. I think you're thinking of a different book that has the Apollo in the title. Besides you're 16 not 18 and ghat book is whoIIy inappropriate. Im not saying your father snd stepmom are good people at all but moraIIy they are in the clear even though i disIike them.😊
About Story 4, OP made another post, after 20 days the "dad" asked him to meet up. Then he said his wife is pregnant and they wanted OP to become a nanny for 3 hours every day, and the wife still expected op to not read nor bring any books in the house, he was also not allowed to even touch the remote. Of course Op laughed in their faces and left. He later said that his "dad" is delusional to think that a 16 year old could take care of a newborn, he also said that he hopes that his "dad" would be a better father to the baby than to op before blocking him.
Omg what a delusional man, he was a deadbeat father and now he's asking his 16 year old that he couldn't bother to help raise, to raise his baby. Unfortunately it's not looking good that he will actually step up this time either if that was his plan.
@@EmilyLennoxchannel i really don't understand people who want to be in a relationship and have kids with someone who abandoned their first children. i mean, if they can do it to those kids, they can do it to yours.
Story 1: I don't think OP is being unfair, the poodle and owner get a lot of attention and money anyways, so why ruin it for everyone else?? I feel like another solution to the problem is making it a doggy fashion contest instead. That way it's not the best trained dog that wins, it could be the most creative costume.
The main problem is that the poodle owner seems to be in it for the money and glory, not for neighborly activities(which was the point of the whole thing)
The poodle owner is just trying to show off. I'm willing to bet the lack of interest in the pup Olympics is BECAUSE of the poodle owner. I think the no competition dogs rule was fair.
@@1musamuneespecially since she didn’t give the prize money to a charity like the other winners did. So she’s literally stealing candy from babies (or puppies in this case). Like others said it’s so unfair to have a professional dog competition winner play against puppies, it’s like an able body person playing against a severely handicapped person.
“Is she so narcissistic…” Well, she has a competitive poodle, so…yeah, she probably is. That’s the stereotype for competitive dog breeds. Paticularly poodles.
Thank you 90s cartoons for the characuture for one of the oldest dog breeds in the world. Poodles are eager to please and super smart. Training them is super easy and they look pretty. we have had them since at least the 15th century.
Hm. Wanna disagree but my granddad is a world famous dog breeder and cheated on my grandma/mom (first wife) but...he never cheated again after marrying that woman...so... True enough.
Story 2. The husband claims that OP disrespected his mom. Okay, then what would you call stealing OP's stuff and throwing it out/donating it? Because that is a far bigger disrespect as far as I am concerned. Story 4. The fathers' wife is straight up homophobic and he sides with her. That relationship is not worth salvaging.
And I bet MIL has the donation slip in her name so she can claim this on taxes. My issue is, why hasn’t anyone told her sooner to back off?! Don’t get me wrong MIL is completely at fault along with OPs spouse for enabling this, but I didn’t see where anyone expressed their issues with her
It is not "homophobic" to not want non-traditional lifestyles taught to children. Or sexual predilections taught to pre-pubescent children. However, a) OP was late teens, b) the book was not written for children, and, most importantly, c) OP was not her child to parent.
@@s.h.6858 yes it is homophobic. To explain that Uncle Don married Randy to a five year old is not a big deal. The kid just says, "Oh, Ok" and runs off to play. No one talks about their sex life to young children, but to not talk about a relationship as if it should be hush-hush tells the child that this is not a good thing and should be kept a secret. THAT is homophobic.
@@s.h.6858 It is homophobic. Think of this. And if you are gay. And most your life media force straight cis stuff. Deep down you don't like it. But never complain about it. Because that how the story teller want to tell the story. And if we going to do that. We all get rid straight relationship out kid story too. Since that also they should not be reading too. I tell you something. I am trans. And from the time that people did not accept it. I never learn to be one in school. Or watch a movie. Or read a book. Or played a video game. So on and so on to be one. And with that in mind. It never learned. I was that when I came in this world. And if you are straight cisgender. What class in school tell you to be straight and cisgender. What movie you watch tell you are straight and cisgender. What book beside the bible tell you straight and cisgender. And what video game you played tell you are straight and cisgender. And if I making you think on those. Then media and school has not barring's if are gay, trans, straight, cis, bi and gender non binary. It just part of your personality. And that how it should be taking. And nother more or nothing less of that.
@@s.h.6858 ive read the book and it doesnt "teach sexual predilections" it just has lgbt characters and shows it as normal (cause it is), so shut up with your "oh kids cant learn that stuff" cause an easy counterpoint to what you say is replace "sexually attracted" with "romantically attracted"
"Is she just so self-obsessed and narcissistic that she can't understand, hmmm...maybe I shouldn't have my dog compete in these competitions?" Answer: She's owns a poodle that's won national competitions, and she displays her dog on social media. Yes, she is self-obsessed and narcissistic. Had she donated all of her prize money to a shelter, everything would have been copacetic.
The OP in the censorship story was not threatening anything, he was promising something. It’s actually a good parenting guideline-never make threats, make promises.
There's an update. They asked to meet at a restaurant. OP went to see why. New wife is pregnant and expects him to babysit his half-sibling for 3 hours each day so they can have "alone time" She also demanded that he still not read and won't let him even watch tv in their house, so OP noped out and blocked them.
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 yup there it is. alot of people, myself included expected that OP's dad wanted something from OP and lo and behold he does. (thank you for the update btw!)
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 Surprise surprise! What horrible horrible people. At least OP knows now, and he can say he at least tried. Thanks for the update.
Anyone with a modicum of humility would refrain from entering their competition dog in a neighborhood contest. It's like adults submitting entries into kid's art contests. Not only are you ruining it for everyone else, you're hurting the feelings of literal children just for an ego boost.
I had a fun little dog show hosted by local vet students that I joined with my mutt puppy. I expected everyone else to also be local people just there to have fun, but there were so many people with actual show dogs there that it completely ruined the fun for us commoners with our regular mutts
I've used to participate in a sport where certain tournaments prohibited higher ranking athletes. It helps build the community letting people not get absolutely smashed. They're a bit boring or even painful to watch, but it's fun for the noobs.
I like the best-dressed and peanut butter event ideas. They could also do more specific divisions, like toy breeds only, puppies only, amateurs only… Of course the feasibility of that depends on the size of the neighborhood.
First story: My mum has purebred dogs that she puts in shows, we also have rescue mutts. We sometimes go to dogvevent days and there will be fun/mock dog shows that anyone can enter. Mu mum COULD enter her multiple rosette winners and sweep, but instead she enters one of the mutts, or perhaps a new puppy that needs practice, or only enters the shows with silly themes like waggiest tail, because it's meant to be fun
Story 3. I'm just doing the calculations. The niece lived free there for 2 years without paying rent and likely utilities, laundry, internet, and in many cases groceries or household products. If anything she likely paid for her own transportation, phone, and food when she was out. So for 22/hr at 9.5 hours 3 days a week for 50 weeks (lower end for holidays or vacation) for 2 years (22 * 9.5 * 3 * 50 * 2) = 62,700 with minimum expenses that she possibly didn't get taxed on if the aunt just paid in cash and she didn't claim it. And she can't afford to move out???????
That was my thought - what was she doing with her money? And, what would she have done if OP didn't give her free housing for all of that time? I get that she was upset for losing the good deal, but what was her plan? She had to know this arrangement wouldn't last forever.
To be fair, we have no idea how expensive the school she's attending is. Also, it's not thay she CAN'T move out. It's that she'll start bleeding money, like 90% of college students, of she moves out. Depending on the school, housing can be as much if not more than tuition. So it potentially doubles her cost of living while making far less. I still think OP is in the right btw. I also think that niece should've talked to OP before this, and it seems like the niece naively thought that she'd still get to stay regardless.
Story 2: Wouldn't that be stealing too? Like, OP could get her arrested for basically throwing out her stuff. If OP having a lot of stuff in her room is an issue, just keep the baby out of there
Story 4: it’s hilarious in the update how the dads wife is “trying to do what she thought was best for me” by denying Op to read a book that’s based around LGBTQ lol.
And in another update others provided, she’s pregnant and expects OP to babysit three hours a day, not read his books, nor can he watch TV. He told them no and has blocked their numbers
The book isnt even about the LGBT community. In I think 1 maybe 2 chapters do they mention it. And apollo is literally just saying he supports his son for being bi because he himself is bi
for the niece nanny story, I will say that apartments are freaking expensive these days. If the internship is minimun wage, then she might not be able to afford it. However there's a lot of ways around it, like getting roommates or asking for help from parents or OP (who offered it) so there really shouldnt be a problem.
it's also a decision that the niece made on her own, an opportunity she pursued on her own, without mentioning it to OP because she knew it would be an issue. she probably hoped revealing it in that way would emotionally manipulate OP into letting her stay. judging based off of how generous OP was with their arrangement thus far, she might not have been too off base, but in this situation her plan backfired. i'm with you, Rslash, who takes advantage of a widow with young kids?? part of being an adult is making decisions and navigating the results of those decisions. welcome to the real world, kid.
I have a dog, a husky mix (found at a local bar begging for food). My husky and I signed up for obedience classes for something to do. I now have a really eager to learn husky who does tricks and likes to show off. I'd never compete on the same grounds as a kid and their muttador in obedience. It's just rude since I know my dog has ribbons and can do this stuff. Now, I'd totally race them in jumping, because my husky goes through jumps instead of over them. The point is, the poodle owner needs to be in their lane. Compete in your weak areas, not your strong ones. Side note, we literally got our CGCA title yesterday. I'm so proud of my girl.
With the first story, I wonder if she would be open to not competing but being a feature dog. For example, she puts together a routine with her dog to showcase that she is the best. I get this idea from when I was in high school my high school band wanted to be in a competition, but our audition tape was too good and they asked us not to compete her to come and be a feature band to perform in front of the other bands instead of compete alongside them.
@@AzureKyleand I'm assuming you've met the woman then? You have no idea why she dies what she does, so hoe do you know what works and what doesn't? You just make assumptions based on a 500 word post
You know…if the niece’s parents think OP is in the wrong…they can ohhhh I dunno…COUGH UP THE MONEY TO GIVE TO THEIR DAUGHTER SO SHE CAN HAVE A PLACE TO STAY AND KEEP PAYING HER RENT
Story 3; Definitely NTA. Niece and her family are super entitled to think OP owes their niece anything more after everything the niece has benefitted from and been paid. You don't get to free ride and save forever sweetheart. It's super messed up of you to expect your widowed aunt to let you take more without any kind of payment in return because a "better" opportunity came along. Niece should be eternally grateful for the kindess OP bestowed upon them.
For the dog competition. Have all of the admission fees (after material cost) be donated to the charity, no cash prices. Then make/buy ribbons. Set some limit for successfully doing each competition (like bringing back the dummy in a fetch competition or clearing all the obstacles in agility) and every dog that clears gets a ribbon. That way she'll be competing with equal rules to everyone else, but there won't be any money or prestige in it for her. And if everyone is competing against the clearing limit in stead of each other people can even be happy for her in stead of justifiably angry.
1st story, I'm 100% with R/ make it foolish and subjective so it can still be fun. OR maybe make it that the slowest/worst performer takes the prize lol.
Or cancel the whole affair completely. The Dog Olympics was supposed to make the neighbourhood _interesting,_ and standing around watching a show dog clean up against amateurs isn't interesting.
they should have competitions for being the worst, because you can be the best at being the worst. something like the clumsiest dog, the most silly-behave dog, or such. i bet my dog would win in the best tail wagging, he move it so fast that sometimes i think it may fall off lol
Adjust the games to have two tiers. One for dogs that have participated in actual competition and one for the just for fun crowd. Prize money pots are also contributed for each tier by people participating in that tier. Her dog can compete alone and win back her own money. Other dogs can compete as before and everyone has fun again.
Story 5; It absolutely sounds like either weaponized incompetence or arrogant ignorance. Either way, it's happened too many times to call it anything other than a pattern and OP absolutely needs to set his foot down or he will set a precedance that daddy will forever bail her out, no matter what.
This she’s got to learn sometime she can’t just do whatever she wants fuck yo and then call daddy for help. Especially since OP had warned her going into it and she decided nah I think I will any way and then has the gall to be surprised that daddy actually meant it. How privileged do you gotta be, I mean from the story pretty privileged. But still can’t fault someone for helping their kid out. You can fault the kids for not appreciating the help and respecting her loving family’s wishes. It sounds like she’s just trying to take advantage of them and is sour she can no longer.
Story 4: "Best for me" my arse, he doesn't truly care, and neither does his wife, she just wants power over OP. The wife sounds like the type of person to burn books just because she doesn't agree with them. Like, OP is an adult, not a child, if he wants to read a book with a bisexual protagonist, let him Edit: OP is an older teen, not an adult, but still the wife has no right to dictate what he can read
OP should just avoid that dumpster fire and let deadbeat have fun with his do over wife and spawn do over kids only for him to likely fail as a husband and father to them too.
To add more fuel to it. OP can change the book to another book with a homosexual protag who does the "naughty stuff" 😏 It wouldn't help, but it would be interesting to see🤪
Also the book is targeted at elementary/middle schoolers its not going to have anything inappropriate if that's what the mom is worried about (it's not🙄🙄)
first story: you know? if you want to ruin it for her, you can , you know, don't give prizes to the owner, or more like, give a very stupid prize, like a bag of cookies and the money you all donete for the competition goes to the shelter stray away, let's see if she still want to compete. r/slash's idea is good too, maybe mix it.
The poodle owner ruined this, bar none. She's already likely making money off the dog's Insta, & still chooses to pocket the money & throw a fit when things don't go her way.
With the fourth story, if it's the one I read a few days ago. They contacted op, told him they are having a child and want him to babysit....for free....no access to tv(doesn't want op touching the remotes)and no books....basically so they can have time to themselves. He told them no.
I feel for the wife in the third story, my mom does the same thing with my families things. Anything from towels to expensive collectibles to my Tupperware containers and breathing masks. She does it to “make the place cleaner”, but the second you ask or get upset then she gets so outraged. There’s no reasoning with her, she just looses it and plays the victim for doing a “good deed”. I hope her husband gets some sense about the matter. On a better note, I love your suggestions for the first story! That sounds AMAZING 😂
When you go to her house, do the same thing, and then get outraged when she predictably gets upset at you. Then act like you don't understand why she is so upset, you are doing a 'good deed' by throwing useless junk she clearly doesn't need out of her house. See if she repeats it, and if she does, do it right back every time. If she continues even after that, it must be because she clearly enjoys throwing stuff out and getting her stuff thrown out. And if she enjoys this game, oh well, at least you get to make your mother happy, an acceptable cost to have some stuff thrown out of both homes to make her happy ey?
Last story: she knew what she was getting into, it's not your responsibility to go out of your way to help her fix a very avoidable mistake because she doesn't want to pay for it. Your daughter is an adult now it's time to act like it and accept responsibility for what she did.
My mom almost threw out some of these Animal Figurines that I enjoy collecting. Each figure is handmade, painted with platinum, gold, or vibrant enamel glazes coating. Depending on the figure, they range from $55 to $600 with my most expensive one so far was an Owl that cost me around $700. Based on what I have so far, I would have to spend over $11,531. Some of these figures have the same animal but in different colors or different poses, which is probably why my mom criticized me for spending my hard-earned money on same useless items I only get to touch once. She actually took a few of my Owls, Cats and Fish figures that cost me around $1,500 to ether sell or give them away. I told her that she shouldn't have taken them in the first place since these are collectables and they cost a lot of money, which I enjoy collecting occasionally. She got annoyed at me for spending my money on the same figures and argued with me saying that having the same figure does not mean wasting money on it. As a response, I said, "Well If you really want to get rid of things, how about cleaning out the garage? It's filled with over thousands of dads tools, screws, and other things I haven't seen him use since I was a kid!" To which she replied " No! Your father likes to collect tools! It doesn't matter if he doesn't use them, he enjoys collecting... Oohh don't be a smartass!" We may be in the same house but I have the right to spend my money however I want and she shouldn't be throwing out things I paid for. Note, I do have a well paying job, making $23 an hour as a Dietary which I use to pay bills and such, I have a hobby of drawing commissions and house sitting which I use to purchase these collectibles. So I am very careful of how much I am spending on these figures.
Third story - This girl makes about 2K a month when accounting for 20% put aside for taxes. And given that rent on average is about 1200 dependent on area (this is approx a national average), she's got 1200 in value just living with OP. Of course OP isn't going to let her keep living there when she isn't working anymore! That was her job, and the salary package came with room and board. Quit your job, lose your benefits, lose your salary. Easy NTA.
The last story about the daughter and the dad makes me wonder if she js doing it to get her dad to visit and hang out at her place. I have seen stranger dynamics. A lot of dads struggle to find common interest with their daughters, and she could have started doing home improvement projects to get him to pay attention to her. Wild speculation. But it was the first explanation that came to mind.
While I’m not saying you’re wrong, it feels far fetched. It sounded like OP was actively involved in her life and these antics would be unnecessary. Plus she has been made well aware how this burdens OP physically and financially
First Story: NTA. This honestly feels like smurfing in games like Valorant or Overwatch. When Radiant or Top 500 players stomp/bully low rank players trying to do their best, and overall make things unfair. And the poodle is that smurf. So I completely understand that, no fault to the dog though. It's the woman who wasn't even humble about it and doesn't donate a penny and then goes ballistic when she couldn't enter, this means she's angry she couldn't get the money, which is a lot worse. She is using her dog for easy money. Cancelling is the best option, as the prizes is going to that woman anyway
Story 2; Definitely NTA. You'll know what needs to be baby proofed and what doesn't more than MIL ever will because _you live there._ I had this issue with my own parents my entire life. Even when I moved out and they promised to let me take my time, my dad burnt basically everything of my 30 year existence. It's traumatizing actually. If she was concerned you were a hoarder, this was the worst way to go about it; this kinda trauma is what creates that tendancy in the first place.
That one was updated. A lot of the 'clutter' were items MIL had to go into cupboards and closets to look for and throw out. Clothes that OP had bought at sales and altered, geodes, and other things. While she kind of got hubby to understand that what MIL did was not cool, MIL gave a begrudging apology and responded to OP's assertion that she's not in charge of the home and baby with, "but you work." The takeaway by readers has been that she's not sorry, she's paying lip service with that apology, and she showed that she finds OP inadequate and in need of being controlled with that comment.
First story: Judging by OP’s edit poodle lady is either competitive or wants all the money. Most likely both. They had 4 DAYS of meetings trying to negotiate with this lady. She refused to do less than 8 events out of 10. OP has chosen not to spend their money on setting up the dog show and just straight up donate instead.
Not when the woman is throwing a tantrum and accusing people of singling her out. Because they ARE singling her out, because she’s a professional competing in an event for children.
First Story, NTA: This poodle owner isn’t making things fair for everyone else. Whats the point of the dog olympics if this poodle is going to win it every year? I think OP is in the right because at that point all of the prizes will just keep going to this woman Second Story, NTA: OP's MIL wouldn’t be an asshole if she had done one simple thing: ask. MIL needs to ASK OP if she can do xyz. Instead of that, she just does what she wants without a care in the world. OP's husband is getting mad at the wrong person; sure MIL intentions were good but no one likes things being done without at least some permission or heads up Third Story, NTA: I mean I don’t see anything unfair. OP told her niece from the start that the room and free rent is for a live in nanny, now that she isn’t a nanny anymore so she shouldn’t expect to live there rent free. OP would’ve been an asshole if she didn’t tell the niece that fact and just now told her Fourth Story, NTA: OP's dad's wife is trying to push her homophobic views onto OP and if OP's dad doesn’t want to stop his wife then OP doesn’t have to visit him Update: So this man is picking his wife over his own child....father of the year everyone. This man is pathetic and honestly deserves to lose whatever form of relationship he has with OP Fifth Story, NTA: Well I mean this has been an ongoing occurence until it caused major damage. So I mean OP was right, he did tell her so.
Story 3: what gets me is dad didn't simply asked he not bring the books to the house to avoid drama, he wants his son to never read something he enjoys again to appease his wife, and actually tried to argue she was going to be a parent to the 16 year old. Your father Hastings completely wrong, you were doing fine without him all these years, if he wants a relationship with you then he needs to work to make it happen not the other way around. Let him be a switch over to his judgmental wife you don't have to put up with it.
13:00 I’m sorry, Stepmom is getting mad over a *Rick Riordan* book? This is “old man yells at cloud” levels of ridiculous. I’d understand if it was something outright explicit, but it’s literally middle grade fiction. It’s about as sexually explicit as the Babysitter’s Club.
That second story with the mother-in-law. I think older people feel entitled to their kids stuff. I recently kicked my own mother out of my house. For not respecting my boundaries. A.k.a. waking me up when I have to be at work stealing my stuff. She would drink my alcohol. She would buy too much food and I won’t have any space for myself. there’s a lot more to it but that’s just the tip. She acted like it was her house I blatantly said this is my house. You will follow my rules or you will leave. This is not a debate
For the story in 11:45 Dude I love the Uncle Rick's books, and I'm about to start the trails of Apollo The books are not at all like seggual or pushing anything like the parents say, but Ancient Greece was just like that, they didn't have as many labels as us but the consept Sorry for the slight rambling
First story: OP added that they tried to add a limit to the amount of events each dog could compete in but the poodle lady would only agree to cap it at 8 out of 10 events and wouldn’t agree to anything lower. L remember there’s a senior dog category that this dog can’t enter so essentially this dog could still win a majority of the competition if they agreed to that. OP’s NTA, I love baking amaturely and I would definitely be annoyed if I entered a cookie contest and found out one of the other contestants was Paul Hollywood
First story: I saw an episode of Midsomer Murders that had a scruffiest dog competition. That immediately came to mind when you started making suggestions.
I think the one with the book had another update where the dad and stepmom had a baby, and the dad called about asking if the son would babysit, and the son asked if he was still banned from reading certain books or something, and then said he won't babysit his half-siblings at all.
That poodle owner is the worst kind of party pooper. There's serious competition and then there's fun spirited competition. People that takes every competition 100% seriously are way too self-centered
I agree. I'm one of those people that get competitive and get mad if I have a bad game even if it's just meant to be fun. I still cheer for my friends/team but I have to remind myself that we're not actually competing. We're just here to have fun.
I used to be extremely good at a trading card game. In my area there were a couple of people on the same level but otherwise I was leagues better then most players. So in friendlies and small tournaments I played worse decks, tried interesting but less consistent strategies and when I played younger players I would gloss over when they didn't perfectly follow the rules. Because its not fun to always win, and no one wants to play against the person they know will flatten them. OP didn't prevent the HOA continuing the event, but once the show dog made a mockery of it no one wanted to do it anymore so the event collapsed. Proof if ever needed that NTA.
If you have someone in your life that is capable of fixing your attempted DIY projects (or fuckups)... how about you ask that person for assistance or insight BEFORE starting said project? "Do you think it is fairly easy to do ____?" or "Do you think my plan [Explain plan] will work to achieve [goal]?" And let the more knowledgeable one either help or assist you. My father is one of said people and I ask him for help or assistance all the time (possibly annoyingly so), rather than making a bad choice and needing to feel guilty asking for help after it's too late to choose a different method. Plus, if we do something together, it's some nice bonding time as adults that we, regrettably, don't get as much of anymore.
Story 3: I was glad rSlash raised the butthole score. I was thinking at least three stars. OP's niece wants to take advantage of her aunt, who is a widow, and prevent her from getting adequate childcare. OP's niece had an awesome gig for two years; it's time for her to move on now without complaint.
right! she literally _chose_ to move on! if that's what's best for your career, that's what's best for your career, but you have to also deal with the consequences of that decision 🤷🏽♀
Seriously for the first story, that poodle owner is TAH. I want to try and get a Halloween get together and have a costume competition for my HOA. I am a cosplayer, I have competed with my stuff. I wouldn’t dream of competing in a fun neighborhood event, I would ask if I could judge.
3rd story, OP needs to contact the place or places the items were taken to, and advise they were basically stolen items. Might need to explain things, but, if they refuse, they become accomplices to the theft.
I'll say this as a nanny: Ignoring the fact it's her niece, being paid to live in a house rent free on the condition you watch the kids is every nanny's dream job! But if the nanny finds a new job, yes, it is expected that she will no longer be getting room and board. At least OP was nice enough to help her niece look for new housing with three months' notice. And you mean to tell me in 2 years the niece hasn't saved up at least a little? $200 a week may not be much in the long run, but surely she set SOME of it aside. If not, why doesn't the mom help with housing fees? OP has been more than generous. But she needs care for her kids and if the niece can't provide that, the room should go to the new nanny.
Dabney! You're a genius! Your ideas for the dog competition games are absolutely brilliant!!! So creative!!! Also, I absolutely love hearing you tell anecdotal stories about your daughter ❤❤❤ I have one too, she's an all grown up 23-year-old, aren't daughters the best?? 😊❤
First story, love all of Rslash's silly competition ideas. XD I'll throw in my suggestion: allow competitors to play as much as they want, but each pet is only allowed to get the grand prize once. Like, Fetch game, Fido wins, here's your grand prize for Fetch, but Fido can no longer qualify for receiving first prize in the other events, though they can still compete for enjoyment.
Story one, you just modify it to where all the dogs get to play puppy Olympics together, but instead of cash prizes, people pool their money at a set amount per person for each category and whoever wins the category takes that money and donates it to their shelter/charity of their choice.
3rd story: Nta what did your niece do to the money that you gave her when she babsits her cousins and then claims she doesn't have enough money to rent a dorm?
Story 2: Fortunately there was an update and OP and her husband talked and the husband just said he was worried about his mom in the moment and that he understood why OP was upset.
Story 4: What are the odds OP's dad and his wife are simply too old to have a kid of their own and that's the only reason he tried to reconect with OP ?
Story 4, it's worse than you're recognizing. The niece got free rent, but also got paid to watch her cousins. Childcare is tough, but these children were young and likely were put to bed fairly early. She probably had many hours where she was making 22/hr non taxed. Assume the kids were put to bed at 9, that's 3 hours a night largely uninterrupted to do hw, watch tv, hang out, or whatever. So, $66 per night, 198 for 3 days. Getting paid 200 to chill at home watching your cousins, probably eating free food, paying no utilities, and just living a cake walk of a time as a college kid. This kid was given so much. Then to get mad over needing to move out? That's super ungreatful. Then the sister is also ungreatful. Like why is it on the widowed mother to provide for the college kid daughter? The niece is unbelievably unrgeatful and the sister is complete trash. 4/5 buttholes at least.
First story, NTA but how many things are wrong with this lady? You bring this gold medalist to amateur hour then throw a massive fit when people think it's unfair and don't want to compete anymore? Then try to go to a HOA for help? I do agree with the idea someone else had that no cash prize but whoever wins gets a donation done in their name or that there's other competition ideas that aren't a straight race. Edit: OP did make a comment after the video was recorded or maybe Rslash didn't catch it, they actually tried to talk with this lady with the HOA as mediators but it went nowhere. OP wanted to make other categories for 'serious' racers, HOA shot it down because they can't make it appear serious. OP wanted to restrict the amount of categories people can enter out of 10, she wanted 8 and the HOA backed her. So OP did try to make things fair but after realizing the HOA was siding with her, they decided to cancel and cut a check for the shelter directly.
Omg Dabney 100% on point with your idea for doggie Olympics! Wtf is wrong with that lady scraping in all the prizes and taking the excitement right out of the good time your neighborhood was having. I hope OP does exactly what you suggested! Edited for typo!
NTA, you could add a clause to limit the amount of categories a dog is allowed to win, or create a class for 'show dogs'. In some dance competitions we have a championship section, where dancers compete for higher level prizes, we also offer a restricted section, for dancers who haven't placed in top 3 in previous 2 years. So just create a section specifically for show dogs, and write a clause that if dog has placed in top 3 in certain competitions they aren't eligible for class X, Y, Z
Fourth story: NTA. What's the best for him? Is being homophobic the best for OP. Also, the first thing the father do to try to mend the relation with OP is to blindly suport his homophobic wife against OP's literature preferences.
First story - That "social influencer" deserves a 4/5 rating as far as I'm concerned. People were just trying to have fun and she has to ruin it for "likes". Money and prizes are extra bonuses for her. She is scum.
*First OP:* The Pup Olympics was OP's idea, and she (?) had the right to cancel it for whatever reason. Also, she came up with Pup Olympics, so that makes OP NTA. As for the bonus question, it's too bad the poodle owner didn't donate the money to the shelter, she wasn't obligated to do so. I'd say OP is TA in that context, albeit a soft YTA. *Second OP:* OP's MIL shouldn't have gone through and thrown out OP's things from OP's house without OP's permission. OP is NTA. If her husband has a problem with it, he can stay with his mom at the hotel, assuming OP has someone else to take her to her appointments. *Third OP:* OP's house, OP's rules. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* Like in the third story, OP's dad's house, OP's dad's (wife's) rules. That said, OP had the right not to stay there because of said rules. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* OP _did_ warn his (?) daughter more than once to hire a professional to work on home improvement projects. I normally don't like when someone says "I told you so", but in this case, OP is NTA.
On story two; I am 1000% on op's side. We used to have this storage unit years ago that my grandmother looked after while my mum and me both lived out of state, and my sister and brother stayed behind in mum's house. I got a furious phone call from my mum one day who told me my sister had rung her in tears bc grandma had gone through the storage unit WITHOUT PERMISSION, and ONLY got rid of anything that was my sister's. I had the most stuff and it was untouched. But my sister is a cosplayer, an artist, and so so creative, and it was all gone. None of us have forgiven my grandmother for this, my sister barely speaks to her, and my brother has nothing nice to say about her anymore. it was horrible, so I am 1000% on op's side
Story 2: nta you disrespect the owner you don't get there kindness. Also tell your husband to go live and marry his mother then if that's how he acts to her disrespecting the mother of his future kid.
Stories about people throwing away others stuff like that make my skin absolutely crawl. I’m very heartbroken for OP. That’s one of the worst forms of disrespect in my book.
First story NTA at all. Poodle lady seems entirely narcissistic and probably would lose her mind if her dog lost even your silly fun competition. I wouldn't be surprised if she complained to all those Instagram followers with a super embellished story. Also, I absolutely LOVE the suggestion of subjective categories.
But this will be on niece and her sister. Niece can longer provide childcare and no nanny wants to travel after midnight. There is no reason for niece to stay. She has to go into savings to live in a dorm or apartment? Welcome to adulthood
Why would a nanny have to be off moms schedule if the neice still lives in the house? It's an internship, unless she found a magic overnight internship the neice will work what? 9 to 5. Just have the neice pick up the kids from an after school program those three nights a week. I feel like any amount of talking and scheduling like human beings has flown out the windows
story 3: I think giving op 0 out 5 is right, her niece however gets maybe like 3.5 or 4 out of 5 cause op gave her a great deal and now since the niece is going to collage then yea her free ride is over like op said, if the niece wanted to stay then she should not have went to collage, i mean yea going to collage is good to get a better job, but however when you can't do another thing for someone then it happens and you move on.
The first story is essentially the reason Sonic the Hedgehog drives a car in racing games. He knows he can win on foot, but gives everyone a fair chance
Explain the running events in Mario & Sonic At The Olympic Games.
He's holding back because once again, he wants it to be fair
But the woman in question would rather win over and over again cause she doesn’t want fair chances
@@danielbrant6740 He is wearing the slow shoes from Sonic Labyrinth.
@@danielbrant6740holding back
And driving a car through the Olympics is equally unfair lol
First story easy: Just make the prize, instead of cash, be a donation to the shelter in the winner's name. Then everyone can have fun and she has no reason to spoil it.
This is the easiest solution where everyone that deserves to win, does.
Most of the people competing share the same goal of raising funds for a shelter in need that has given them their pups so by changing the rules, everyone but poodle lady gets what they want and I feel like the hOA won't want to go against a charity that could give them fantastic PR.
If that happens, the woman would probably go ballistic about how dare they make the price not cash. This shows her true colors and is simply using her dog for easy money.
NONONO the winner gets a prize made by the HOA's kids the runner-up gets a cash prize
Way more of a middle finger to the poddle lady
The kids have fun the rightful winner get a prize and the poddle lady gets put on a place were she would offend everyone for criticising her prize or withdrawing from the competition
I was thinking to have it so each dog can only enter one event, but that might be more unfair to others. Your idea is better
@@wahababdul4529i was thinking of "each dog can only get 1st place once"
Dog Olympics solution: no one dog can win more than one or two events. She can continue to compete but she is disqualified from winning once she's hit her quota
Or that competition doesn't win the cash, instead all cash won is donated in the winners names to a shelter of their choice if they don't want to support the one OP and everyone else has been. Give ribbons to the dogs and their humans and cash to shelters. Everyone wins.
i think disqualifying the win still ruins the feeling of getting 1st place. They should limit dogs per event. like one family can only enter 2 events at maximum.
@@comostella88 my only worry is that there aren't enough dogs for that. You might have to cut entire events or have only two dogs in each. Maybe a better way to do it would be: you can compete in the events until you've hit your quota of wins and then you have to sit out of the rest of the competition.
It's had to figure out how to keep it fun but fair when people aren't playing fairly
@yurikim4503 you can still hit first place in an event, just not the whole competition.
I'm with r/ change the events
2nd story had an update:
MIL "apologized" and husband didn't understand at first but then apologized to OP. MIL isn't allowed in the house for the time being.
Good!
Thank goodness! I was thinking if OPs spouse didn’t wake up, OP would wind up dropping them both off at Goodwill
I actually read the update they talksed it out yes but MIL is still angry and acting the victim,
@@lorilancaster5917and they will stay there forever nobody will buy that
I was thinking that it might be over for that marriage if the husband couldn't see what was wrong in that situation.
Hopefully, he sees this as an issue going forward with his mother.
Poodle owner here. My dogs and I compete in various dog sports. When I see competitive handlers/trainers at local fun events, it’s always been as the demonstration team, guest judge, giving a performance, or a combination of those. I’m horrified a competitive handler would crash an event like that and then throw a tantrum when asked not to crash the party again.
As a side note, in dog sports, they have a system to prevent things like this. There are levels for owners handling their own dogs, Jr Handlers (Kids & Teens), and professional handlers. Once someone competes in the pro level, they can’t go back to the other levels.
The pro / amateur division is common in all kinds of competitions. The fact that the HOA board ignored this, tells me that they are either clueless, or might have some kind of relationship / deal with the trainer.
@@RBrown-uk4xt Also, they might be blinded to having a "celebrity" at their event since OP said this person has a million followers.
@@jaimedritt4622 Makes we wonder if the person posted to her social media about them going to the neighbourhood fun match. Wouldn't people see through her post and call her out for being a butthole?
I also handle sport dogs and it kinda wasn’t fair to exclude them the way they did. It’s clear they didn’t talk at all to the poodle owner and knowingly let a professional handler and dog enter. It’s not really the handlers fault here that they were let to enter then had unfair rules set in motion to exclude them. It sounds beyond misleading to call it the dog Olympics, offer cash prizes, and then get upset when competitive dogs compete in a small event called the dog OLYMPICS and get mad at them when they keep the cash prizes they’re told they can keep.
You’re making a really harsh judgement to another dog owner who was clearly mislead, and excluded against privately rather than them having an adult conversation and talking to the dogs owner. They opted to do it in a really immature manner, and while I don’t think the poodles owner should’ve tried entering next year, but I would two if my neighbors were behaving so childishly
They could’ve put in the effort to have an adult conversation or the effort to train their dogs, instead they avoided any text messages and confrontation and decided to keep the event exclusive to everyone they like. I may be misunderstanding here, but not once did the OP even TALK to the poodle owner, followed their ig, and let them enter knowing the situation and decided to exclude them the next year for no reason and avoided an adult convo about it. I don’t see how you can blame them here? I blame them for pushing the issue, but not for how the neighborhood treated them.
My grandmother was a hobby baker. Her cakes looked phenomenal. There used to be a cake competition in my hometown. She won 3 years in a row and then they stopped doing it. It's just not fair to everyone when the same person wins everything.
It sucks to have to deal with a large skill level in competitions. But I don't think it would be fair to ban her from competing.
It sounds like she was a classy woman with strong moral integrity.
@@survivedandthriving It does??? Where?
@@survivedandthrivingfound the grandma
@@survivedandthriving moral integrity is the opposite of my grandmother. She's a vulnerable narcissist lol. Also, the cakes looked amazing but they tasted awful. I got stuck eating my 13th birthday cake until my 14th because my dad doesn't throw out food.
Another solution to the first story is that you need to make a minimum donation to the dog shelter in order to compete. Considering that OP said that the competitive Karen didn't donate _anyting_ last time, this might deter her from entering or show her true colours.
I think that’s a good idea! To me her not donating was the clicker for me. It screamed that she’s using her pooch to rain in everyone’s parade.
I think she saw it as winning an easy competition to help fund her dog's more expensive shows.
I think there should be minimum entry fees per event, and that no one should be allowed to enter more than 2 events. That way, she can’t just pony up once and then run the table of all the events.
@@JosieJOKhe skipped over the edit OP put up where after four days of negotiations, poodle lady was insisting on being allowed to compete in 80% of the events.
Story 4: There's something else to note here. The father's wife didn't want OP to read the book because the main character is bisexual, so I think it's safe to say she's homophobic. The dad siding with her, assuming he knows the reason why she wanted to prohibit it, tells me that if OP were to ever come out as gay or bi, he would still side with his wife over his kid
I myself prefer girls over boys (but am open about it to my family and close friends) romantically (I was 7 when I announced I was gay). Wonder what OP's dad's wife thinks about me?
He is just doing everything to please her. What a doormat.
He's one of those dreadful people who put their partner above all else and suck up to them and expect everyone else to no matter what they've done.
HoMoPhObIc
@@KazeShikamaru Agreed!
Dapne: "Do you know why I don't run at full speed while chasing my daughter?"
Me: Because you're bad at running?
Dapne: "BECAUSE SHE'S A 2 YEAR OLD AND I AM A FULLY GROWN ADULT"
I wouldn't make it as a parent
Honestly same lmao
He has said he’s incredibly clumsy
My father did something similar but in a shoe tying race so I would learn how to tie shoes. I was approaching the 2nd grade and had others help (might be an Autistic thing). So he decided we would tie shoe race and he was failing (on purpose) miserably. My family was giggling along.
just commenting to let you know his name is spelled like "dabney" 😊
@@ihategmailpasswords I was only 1 letter off, feels like that's pretty good
Third story: so NTA. She paid her niece $22/ hour for watching her kids *and* she was living there rent free?! I would've LOVED that kind of opportunity when I was in college. That niece has no idea how good a deal she has. I mean, bruh, come on!
I understand niece is beginning her internship but this is a step in adulthood. She moved out of her parents to go to school. Now she needs to move out of OPs so she can do her internship. The terms and conditions for her to stay at OPs no longer apply since she can’t provide childcare anymore.
She made 600 USD A WEEK! Rent free! Kids go to bed around 8-9pm so 3-4 hours are free money! Man that niece took serious advantage of the situation!
@@jimdob6528probably tax free too because I doubt they both reported it.
Or you know have her pay rent? I swear meeting in the middle is a good idea, have a nanny work till she comes home, her paying less than student housing/apartment would allow her to save money, she could still watch the kids at night and the day nanny could be paid by her rent, everyone wins.
@@jimdob6528SERIOUSLY!!! I would jump at that opportunity.
As someone who’s read the Trials of Apollo books, they are not marketed as LGBTQ+ nor are the characters sexualities and genders treated as a big deal. They’re LITERALLY just existing. The stepmother would have no inclination that Apollo is bisexual based solely on the book’s title or description, so it sounds like she purposely looked it up to see if she could forbid her stepson to read it for any reason??
As a Nico di Angelo cosplayer my eyes were rolling. Will Solace being bi like his Dad is awesomeness in my book. In my headcannon Hades and Apollo see thier boys as thier OTP
Well they banned a childrens book because the authors last name was "Gay". Those people who judge books do not do proper research. They just look at the books, filter them for buzzwords and then ban them without ever reading them.
Back when Twilight was the trend among teenagers my class deceided to have the first book as a class book for that year. As i was attending a catholic all girls school run by nuns they we're all very concerned we kids wanted to read a "horror book" because they heard Vampire and thought it was horror. Well, Sister Claudia read it and became a huge fan and we were allowed to read it. The later years also had less strict rules about what books should be read in class. The classes before us usually had to read teen books from the 80s which were so out of touch with recent time and often had horrible messages like the one were a girl dates her little brothers bully to get revenge on him only to realize he was "not so bad after all" and falls in love for real. Or the one were the girl dates the guy who killed her pet rabbit and ate it only to realize he is not so bad after all and falls in love for real. We also had to read one classic literature book and well i hate Schiller since then. Had to read every sentence like 5 times.
@@Jessidafennecfoxbut t that's still not even a little bit true. Dp you know what otp means? Its not the same as bffs or brothers sooo wth
@@sabinemetzger3219now you're just making things up.
Out of touch? How are those bad messages??
12:20 that book doesn't have any bi people in it.
I think you're thinking of a different book that has the Apollo in the title.
Besides you're 16 not 18 and ghat book is whoIIy inappropriate.
Im not saying your father snd stepmom are good people at all but moraIIy they are in the clear even though i disIike them.😊
About Story 4, OP made another post, after 20 days the "dad" asked him to meet up. Then he said his wife is pregnant and they wanted OP to become a nanny for 3 hours every day, and the wife still expected op to not read nor bring any books in the house, he was also not allowed to even touch the remote. Of course Op laughed in their faces and left. He later said that his "dad" is delusional to think that a 16 year old could take care of a newborn, he also said that he hopes that his "dad" would be a better father to the baby than to op before blocking him.
Jesus. What a piece of shit deadbeat. That poor child.
Thanks hope this gets up to the top!
OP is going places.
Omg what a delusional man, he was a deadbeat father and now he's asking his 16 year old that he couldn't bother to help raise, to raise his baby. Unfortunately it's not looking good that he will actually step up this time either if that was his plan.
@@EmilyLennoxchannel i really don't understand people who want to be in a relationship and have kids with someone who abandoned their first children. i mean, if they can do it to those kids, they can do it to yours.
Story 1: I don't think OP is being unfair, the poodle and owner get a lot of attention and money anyways, so why ruin it for everyone else?? I feel like another solution to the problem is making it a doggy fashion contest instead. That way it's not the best trained dog that wins, it could be the most creative costume.
The main problem is that the poodle owner seems to be in it for the money and glory, not for neighborly activities(which was the point of the whole thing)
@@royalbluegaming7763That's what I'm saying, although the biggest problem is her not donating to the charity
@francescaperron2003 oh, I did NOT get that from your comment. I thought you were on her side
@@royalbluegaming7763I edited the comment a bit to hopefully clear it up, I speak 4 languages so I guess it wasn't clear enough haha
@@francescaperron2003yep, a bit better to understand 👍
The poodle owner is just trying to show off. I'm willing to bet the lack of interest in the pup Olympics is BECAUSE of the poodle owner. I think the no competition dogs rule was fair.
I personal thought of it as her being greedy and prideful and thinking 'Free Money Yes Please'
@@1musamuneespecially since she didn’t give the prize money to a charity like the other winners did. So she’s literally stealing candy from babies (or puppies in this case). Like others said it’s so unfair to have a professional dog competition winner play against puppies, it’s like an able body person playing against a severely handicapped person.
“Is she so narcissistic…”
Well, she has a competitive poodle, so…yeah, she probably is. That’s the stereotype for competitive dog breeds. Paticularly poodles.
Thank you 90s cartoons for the characuture for one of the oldest dog breeds in the world. Poodles are eager to please and super smart. Training them is super easy and they look pretty. we have had them since at least the 15th century.
I have a poodle and he's just a lazy, cuddly dog. There are crazy competative dog owners everywhere, purebred or not.
I blame rich people
Hm. Wanna disagree but my granddad is a world famous dog breeder and cheated on my grandma/mom (first wife) but...he never cheated again after marrying that woman...so... True enough.
Literally!
Fourth story: anyone who thinks avoiding media about a marginalized group is what's best for you isn't worth being near.
But what if OP learns the lesson that it's *checks notes* okay to be gay?
@@OneEyeShadowomg my travesty! the propaganda!
@@OneEyeShadowthe horror!
It was nice of her to take time out of her busy schedule of binging FOX hysteria to warn him about the dangers of being impressionable.
@@OneEyeShadow gasp! how terrifying!
Story 2. The husband claims that OP disrespected his mom. Okay, then what would you call stealing OP's stuff and throwing it out/donating it? Because that is a far bigger disrespect as far as I am concerned.
Story 4. The fathers' wife is straight up homophobic and he sides with her. That relationship is not worth salvaging.
And I bet MIL has the donation slip in her name so she can claim this on taxes. My issue is, why hasn’t anyone told her sooner to back off?! Don’t get me wrong MIL is completely at fault along with OPs spouse for enabling this, but I didn’t see where anyone expressed their issues with her
It is not "homophobic" to not want non-traditional lifestyles taught to children. Or sexual predilections taught to pre-pubescent children.
However, a) OP was late teens, b) the book was not written for children, and, most importantly, c) OP was not her child to parent.
@@s.h.6858 yes it is homophobic. To explain that Uncle Don married Randy to a five year old is not a big deal. The kid just says, "Oh, Ok" and runs off to play. No one talks about their sex life to young children, but to not talk about a relationship as if it should be hush-hush tells the child that this is not a good thing and should be kept a secret. THAT is homophobic.
@@s.h.6858 It is homophobic. Think of this. And if you are gay. And most your life media force straight cis stuff. Deep down you don't like it. But never complain about it. Because that how the story teller want to tell the story. And if we going to do that. We all get rid straight relationship out kid story too. Since that also they should not be reading too. I tell you something. I am trans. And from the time that people did not accept it. I never learn to be one in school. Or watch a movie. Or read a book. Or played a video game. So on and so on to be one. And with that in mind. It never learned. I was that when I came in this world. And if you are straight cisgender. What class in school tell you to be straight and cisgender. What movie you watch tell you are straight and cisgender. What book beside the bible tell you straight and cisgender. And what video game you played tell you are straight and cisgender. And if I making you think on those. Then media and school has not barring's if are gay, trans, straight, cis, bi and gender non binary. It just part of your personality. And that how it should be taking. And nother more or nothing less of that.
@@s.h.6858 ive read the book and it doesnt "teach sexual predilections" it just has lgbt characters and shows it as normal (cause it is), so shut up with your "oh kids cant learn that stuff" cause an easy counterpoint to what you say is replace "sexually attracted" with "romantically attracted"
"Is she just so self-obsessed and narcissistic that she can't understand, hmmm...maybe I shouldn't have my dog compete in these competitions?" Answer: She's owns a poodle that's won national competitions, and she displays her dog on social media. Yes, she is self-obsessed and narcissistic. Had she donated all of her prize money to a shelter, everything would have been copacetic.
TBH, I’d actually be slightly more pissed if she donated it.
Cuz at least when she keeps it, there’s no need to debate that she’s a bad person.
The OP in the censorship story was not threatening anything, he was promising something. It’s actually a good parenting guideline-never make threats, make promises.
And I bet the “dad” is mostly upset because he needs OP more than OP needs him and he hates that
Both the “Step-Mom” and the “Dad” are extremely upset that they made their own bed and now have to lay in it
There's an update. They asked to meet at a restaurant. OP went to see why. New wife is pregnant and expects him to babysit his half-sibling for 3 hours each day so they can have "alone time" She also demanded that he still not read and won't let him even watch tv in their house, so OP noped out and blocked them.
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 yup there it is.
alot of people, myself included expected that OP's dad wanted something from OP and lo and behold he does. (thank you for the update btw!)
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 Surprise surprise! What horrible horrible people. At least OP knows now, and he can say he at least tried.
Thanks for the update.
Anyone with a modicum of humility would refrain from entering their competition dog in a neighborhood contest.
It's like adults submitting entries into kid's art contests. Not only are you ruining it for everyone else, you're hurting the feelings of literal children just for an ego boost.
For the sake of the dog, she could just enter and disqualify herself, but let the dog perform and reward with lots of praise.
It’s a Karen we’re talking about here that would imply she would care about anyone outside of herself
I had a fun little dog show hosted by local vet students that I joined with my mutt puppy. I expected everyone else to also be local people just there to have fun, but there were so many people with actual show dogs there that it completely ruined the fun for us commoners with our regular mutts
Idk, my drawing skills aren't better than an average child
I've used to participate in a sport where certain tournaments prohibited higher ranking athletes. It helps build the community letting people not get absolutely smashed. They're a bit boring or even painful to watch, but it's fun for the noobs.
I like the best-dressed and peanut butter event ideas. They could also do more specific divisions, like toy breeds only, puppies only, amateurs only… Of course the feasibility of that depends on the size of the neighborhood.
First story: My mum has purebred dogs that she puts in shows, we also have rescue mutts. We sometimes go to dogvevent days and there will be fun/mock dog shows that anyone can enter. Mu mum COULD enter her multiple rosette winners and sweep, but instead she enters one of the mutts, or perhaps a new puppy that needs practice, or only enters the shows with silly themes like waggiest tail, because it's meant to be fun
OMG I feel like we've all felt Lily grow up listening to you and your personal stories Dabney. And I can't believe little Mini-Slash is almost 3! 😍😍😍
Right i rember when he first got hugo and now hugo is all big too homestly the wholesomness makes me want to spend time with my younger cousins
Calm down per vert
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681???
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681Ayo???
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681 Can I ask how the comment makes them a pervert??
Story 3. I'm just doing the calculations. The niece lived free there for 2 years without paying rent and likely utilities, laundry, internet, and in many cases groceries or household products. If anything she likely paid for her own transportation, phone, and food when she was out. So for 22/hr at 9.5 hours 3 days a week for 50 weeks (lower end for holidays or vacation) for 2 years (22 * 9.5 * 3 * 50 * 2) = 62,700 with minimum expenses that she possibly didn't get taxed on if the aunt just paid in cash and she didn't claim it. And she can't afford to move out???????
That was my thought - what was she doing with her money? And, what would she have done if OP didn't give her free housing for all of that time?
I get that she was upset for losing the good deal, but what was her plan? She had to know this arrangement wouldn't last forever.
To be fair, we have no idea how expensive the school she's attending is. Also, it's not thay she CAN'T move out. It's that she'll start bleeding money, like 90% of college students, of she moves out.
Depending on the school, housing can be as much if not more than tuition. So it potentially doubles her cost of living while making far less.
I still think OP is in the right btw. I also think that niece should've talked to OP before this, and it seems like the niece naively thought that she'd still get to stay regardless.
Story 2: Wouldn't that be stealing too? Like, OP could get her arrested for basically throwing out her stuff.
If OP having a lot of stuff in her room is an issue, just keep the baby out of there
Throwing out someone's stuff isn't stealing, but it can be considered destruction of property, especially if it gets damaged.
@@AzureKyleI doubt the MIL sees that way at all
@@bibigamer502I'm sure she doesn't. rSlash hit the nail on the head.
@@AzureKyle Throwing out might not be stealing, but giving it away to someone else is. She said the MIL donated a bunch of the stuff.
It was stuff from the entire house. It's OP's house.
Story 4: it’s hilarious in the update how the dads wife is “trying to do what she thought was best for me” by denying Op to read a book that’s based around LGBTQ lol.
And in another update others provided, she’s pregnant and expects OP to babysit three hours a day, not read his books, nor can he watch TV. He told them no and has blocked their numbers
The book isnt even about the LGBT community. In I think 1 maybe 2 chapters do they mention it. And apollo is literally just saying he supports his son for being bi because he himself is bi
for the niece nanny story, I will say that apartments are freaking expensive these days. If the internship is minimun wage, then she might not be able to afford it. However there's a lot of ways around it, like getting roommates or asking for help from parents or OP (who offered it) so there really shouldnt be a problem.
Very true however maybe she can roommate with others in the program? Regardless it’s no longer feasible for her to live with OP
Lots of internships aren't paid either
it's also a decision that the niece made on her own, an opportunity she pursued on her own, without mentioning it to OP because she knew it would be an issue. she probably hoped revealing it in that way would emotionally manipulate OP into letting her stay. judging based off of how generous OP was with their arrangement thus far, she might not have been too off base, but in this situation her plan backfired. i'm with you, Rslash, who takes advantage of a widow with young kids??
part of being an adult is making decisions and navigating the results of those decisions. welcome to the real world, kid.
This why is it ops obligation to help her niece out. If her parents are so worried why don’t they do it
I have a dog, a husky mix (found at a local bar begging for food). My husky and I signed up for obedience classes for something to do. I now have a really eager to learn husky who does tricks and likes to show off.
I'd never compete on the same grounds as a kid and their muttador in obedience. It's just rude since I know my dog has ribbons and can do this stuff.
Now, I'd totally race them in jumping, because my husky goes through jumps instead of over them.
The point is, the poodle owner needs to be in their lane. Compete in your weak areas, not your strong ones.
Side note, we literally got our CGCA title yesterday. I'm so proud of my girl.
With the first story, I wonder if she would be open to not competing but being a feature dog. For example, she puts together a routine with her dog to showcase that she is the best. I get this idea from when I was in high school my high school band wanted to be in a competition, but our audition tape was too good and they asked us not to compete her to come and be a feature band to perform in front of the other bands instead of compete alongside them.
That wouldn't work, because she wants to win and get the money. She doesn't care about anything else.
@@AzureKyleand I'm assuming you've met the woman then? You have no idea why she dies what she does, so hoe do you know what works and what doesn't?
You just make assumptions based on a 500 word post
You know…if the niece’s parents think OP is in the wrong…they can ohhhh I dunno…COUGH UP THE MONEY TO GIVE TO THEIR DAUGHTER SO SHE CAN HAVE A PLACE TO STAY AND KEEP PAYING HER RENT
Story 3;
Definitely NTA. Niece and her family are super entitled to think OP owes their niece anything more after everything the niece has benefitted from and been paid.
You don't get to free ride and save forever sweetheart. It's super messed up of you to expect your widowed aunt to let you take more without any kind of payment in return because a "better" opportunity came along. Niece should be eternally grateful for the kindess OP bestowed upon them.
For the dog competition. Have all of the admission fees (after material cost) be donated to the charity, no cash prices. Then make/buy ribbons. Set some limit for successfully doing each competition (like bringing back the dummy in a fetch competition or clearing all the obstacles in agility) and every dog that clears gets a ribbon.
That way she'll be competing with equal rules to everyone else, but there won't be any money or prestige in it for her. And if everyone is competing against the clearing limit in stead of each other people can even be happy for her in stead of justifiably angry.
1st story, I'm 100% with R/ make it foolish and subjective so it can still be fun. OR maybe make it that the slowest/worst performer takes the prize lol.
Or cancel the whole affair completely. The Dog Olympics was supposed to make the neighbourhood _interesting,_ and standing around watching a show dog clean up against amateurs isn't interesting.
@slytherinlibrarian3501 Right. Thats why not making it a thing a professional dog show dog could dominate would make it fun.
they should have competitions for being the worst, because you can be the best at being the worst. something like the clumsiest dog, the most silly-behave dog, or such.
i bet my dog would win in the best tail wagging, he move it so fast that sometimes i think it may fall off lol
Adjust the games to have two tiers. One for dogs that have participated in actual competition and one for the just for fun crowd.
Prize money pots are also contributed for each tier by people participating in that tier.
Her dog can compete alone and win back her own money. Other dogs can compete as before and everyone has fun again.
Story 5;
It absolutely sounds like either weaponized incompetence or arrogant ignorance. Either way, it's happened too many times to call it anything other than a pattern and OP absolutely needs to set his foot down or he will set a precedance that daddy will forever bail her out, no matter what.
This she’s got to learn sometime she can’t just do whatever she wants fuck yo and then call daddy for help. Especially since OP had warned her going into it and she decided nah I think I will any way and then has the gall to be surprised that daddy actually meant it.
How privileged do you gotta be, I mean from the story pretty privileged. But still can’t fault someone for helping their kid out. You can fault the kids for not appreciating the help and respecting her loving family’s wishes. It sounds like she’s just trying to take advantage of them and is sour she can no longer.
Story 4: "Best for me" my arse, he doesn't truly care, and neither does his wife, she just wants power over OP. The wife sounds like the type of person to burn books just because she doesn't agree with them.
Like, OP is an adult, not a child, if he wants to read a book with a bisexual protagonist, let him
Edit: OP is an older teen, not an adult, but still the wife has no right to dictate what he can read
Book burning? Censorship? Banning? Why does that sound familiar?
*glares at conservatives*
I mean, op is 16, not an adult, but an older teen. However, the father lost all parental rights, so has no leg to stand on.
OP should just avoid that dumpster fire and let deadbeat have fun with his do over wife and spawn do over kids only for him to likely fail as a husband and father to them too.
To add more fuel to it. OP can change the book to another book with a homosexual protag who does the "naughty stuff" 😏
It wouldn't help, but it would be interesting to see🤪
Also the book is targeted at elementary/middle schoolers its not going to have anything inappropriate if that's what the mom is worried about (it's not🙄🙄)
I feel like Dabney actually does sprint full tilt at his daughter.
first story: you know? if you want to ruin it for her, you can , you know, don't give prizes to the owner, or more like, give a very stupid prize, like a bag of cookies and the money you all donete for the competition goes to the shelter stray away, let's see if she still want to compete.
r/slash's idea is good too, maybe mix it.
The poodle owner ruined this, bar none. She's already likely making money off the dog's Insta, & still chooses to pocket the money & throw a fit when things don't go her way.
With the fourth story, if it's the one I read a few days ago. They contacted op, told him they are having a child and want him to babysit....for free....no access to tv(doesn't want op touching the remotes)and no books....basically so they can have time to themselves. He told them no.
I feel for the wife in the third story, my mom does the same thing with my families things. Anything from towels to expensive collectibles to my Tupperware containers and breathing masks. She does it to “make the place cleaner”, but the second you ask or get upset then she gets so outraged. There’s no reasoning with her, she just looses it and plays the victim for doing a “good deed”. I hope her husband gets some sense about the matter.
On a better note, I love your suggestions for the first story! That sounds AMAZING 😂
When you go to her house, do the same thing, and then get outraged when she predictably gets upset at you. Then act like you don't understand why she is so upset, you are doing a 'good deed' by throwing useless junk she clearly doesn't need out of her house. See if she repeats it, and if she does, do it right back every time.
If she continues even after that, it must be because she clearly enjoys throwing stuff out and getting her stuff thrown out. And if she enjoys this game, oh well, at least you get to make your mother happy, an acceptable cost to have some stuff thrown out of both homes to make her happy ey?
@@N0xiety but if they did that, then avatravis would be "rocking the boat" and "causing drama" and be asked to stop.
Last story: she knew what she was getting into, it's not your responsibility to go out of your way to help her fix a very avoidable mistake because she doesn't want to pay for it. Your daughter is an adult now it's time to act like it and accept responsibility for what she did.
Story 4: Anyone who attempts to ban Rick goddamn Riordan is not a good person, full stop.
My mom almost threw out some of these Animal Figurines that I enjoy collecting. Each figure is handmade, painted with platinum, gold, or vibrant enamel glazes coating. Depending on the figure, they range from $55 to $600 with my most expensive one so far was an Owl that cost me around $700. Based on what I have so far, I would have to spend over $11,531. Some of these figures have the same animal but in different colors or different poses, which is probably why my mom criticized me for spending my hard-earned money on same useless items I only get to touch once. She actually took a few of my Owls, Cats and Fish figures that cost me around $1,500 to ether sell or give them away. I told her that she shouldn't have taken them in the first place since these are collectables and they cost a lot of money, which I enjoy collecting occasionally. She got annoyed at me for spending my money on the same figures and argued with me saying that having the same figure does not mean wasting money on it. As a response, I said, "Well If you really want to get rid of things, how about cleaning out the garage? It's filled with over thousands of dads tools, screws, and other things I haven't seen him use since I was a kid!" To which she replied " No! Your father likes to collect tools! It doesn't matter if he doesn't use them, he enjoys collecting... Oohh don't be a smartass!" We may be in the same house but I have the right to spend my money however I want and she shouldn't be throwing out things I paid for.
Note, I do have a well paying job, making $23 an hour as a Dietary which I use to pay bills and such, I have a hobby of drawing commissions and house sitting which I use to purchase these collectibles. So I am very careful of how much I am spending on these figures.
Third story - This girl makes about 2K a month when accounting for 20% put aside for taxes. And given that rent on average is about 1200 dependent on area (this is approx a national average), she's got 1200 in value just living with OP. Of course OP isn't going to let her keep living there when she isn't working anymore! That was her job, and the salary package came with room and board. Quit your job, lose your benefits, lose your salary. Easy NTA.
Story 4;
Thank goodness he has no legal rights to you child because the audacity! Absolutely NTA.
The last story about the daughter and the dad makes me wonder if she js doing it to get her dad to visit and hang out at her place. I have seen stranger dynamics. A lot of dads struggle to find common interest with their daughters, and she could have started doing home improvement projects to get him to pay attention to her.
Wild speculation. But it was the first explanation that came to mind.
While I’m not saying you’re wrong, it feels far fetched. It sounded like OP was actively involved in her life and these antics would be unnecessary. Plus she has been made well aware how this burdens OP physically and financially
First Story: NTA. This honestly feels like smurfing in games like Valorant or Overwatch. When Radiant or Top 500 players stomp/bully low rank players trying to do their best, and overall make things unfair. And the poodle is that smurf. So I completely understand that, no fault to the dog though. It's the woman who wasn't even humble about it and doesn't donate a penny and then goes ballistic when she couldn't enter, this means she's angry she couldn't get the money, which is a lot worse. She is using her dog for easy money.
Cancelling is the best option, as the prizes is going to that woman anyway
Story 2;
Definitely NTA. You'll know what needs to be baby proofed and what doesn't more than MIL ever will because _you live there._
I had this issue with my own parents my entire life. Even when I moved out and they promised to let me take my time, my dad burnt basically everything of my 30 year existence.
It's traumatizing actually. If she was concerned you were a hoarder, this was the worst way to go about it; this kinda trauma is what creates that tendancy in the first place.
That one was updated. A lot of the 'clutter' were items MIL had to go into cupboards and closets to look for and throw out. Clothes that OP had bought at sales and altered, geodes, and other things. While she kind of got hubby to understand that what MIL did was not cool, MIL gave a begrudging apology and responded to OP's assertion that she's not in charge of the home and baby with, "but you work." The takeaway by readers has been that she's not sorry, she's paying lip service with that apology, and she showed that she finds OP inadequate and in need of being controlled with that comment.
First story: Judging by OP’s edit poodle lady is either competitive or wants all the money. Most likely both. They had 4 DAYS of meetings trying to negotiate with this lady. She refused to do less than 8 events out of 10.
OP has chosen not to spend their money on setting up the dog show and just straight up donate instead.
1st story: limit how many contests a dog can win.. there are so many solutions to this dilemma other than to cancel
Not when the woman is throwing a tantrum and accusing people of singling her out. Because they ARE singling her out, because she’s a professional competing in an event for children.
First Story, NTA: This poodle owner isn’t making things fair for everyone else. Whats the point of the dog olympics if this poodle is going to win it every year? I think OP is in the right because at that point all of the prizes will just keep going to this woman
Second Story, NTA: OP's MIL wouldn’t be an asshole if she had done one simple thing: ask. MIL needs to ASK OP if she can do xyz. Instead of that, she just does what she wants without a care in the world. OP's husband is getting mad at the wrong person; sure MIL intentions were good but no one likes things being done without at least some permission or heads up
Third Story, NTA: I mean I don’t see anything unfair. OP told her niece from the start that the room and free rent is for a live in nanny, now that she isn’t a nanny anymore so she shouldn’t expect to live there rent free. OP would’ve been an asshole if she didn’t tell the niece that fact and just now told her
Fourth Story, NTA: OP's dad's wife is trying to push her homophobic views onto OP and if OP's dad doesn’t want to stop his wife then OP doesn’t have to visit him
Update: So this man is picking his wife over his own child....father of the year everyone. This man is pathetic and honestly deserves to lose whatever form of relationship he has with OP
Fifth Story, NTA: Well I mean this has been an ongoing occurence until it caused major damage. So I mean OP was right, he did tell her so.
Ew you were doing good for a minute there 🤮
@buddyburrows what did the commentor do to you?
@@your_local_questerianthey have been stalking me for over a month. All because I edit my comment
@@xKCAZxLEADER 9-10 days now. Really bad at math too
@@buddyburrows¿Por qué estás mintiendo?
Story 3: what gets me is dad didn't simply asked he not bring the books to the house to avoid drama, he wants his son to never read something he enjoys again to appease his wife, and actually tried to argue she was going to be a parent to the 16 year old. Your father Hastings completely wrong, you were doing fine without him all these years, if he wants a relationship with you then he needs to work to make it happen not the other way around. Let him be a switch over to his judgmental wife you don't have to put up with it.
13:00 I’m sorry, Stepmom is getting mad over a *Rick Riordan* book? This is “old man yells at cloud” levels of ridiculous. I’d understand if it was something outright explicit, but it’s literally middle grade fiction. It’s about as sexually explicit as the Babysitter’s Club.
New wife is homophobic so the protagonist being bisexual makes it inappropriate to her even if the spiciest thing the MC did was hold hands.
That second story with the mother-in-law. I think older people feel entitled to their kids stuff. I recently kicked my own mother out of my house. For not respecting my boundaries. A.k.a. waking me up when I have to be at work stealing my stuff. She would drink my alcohol. She would buy too much food and I won’t have any space for myself. there’s a lot more to it but that’s just the tip. She acted like it was her house I blatantly said this is my house. You will follow my rules or you will leave. This is not a debate
For the story in 11:45
Dude I love the Uncle Rick's books, and I'm about to start the trails of Apollo
The books are not at all like seggual or pushing anything like the parents say, but Ancient Greece was just like that, they didn't have as many labels as us but the consept
Sorry for the slight rambling
First story: OP added that they tried to add a limit to the amount of events each dog could compete in but the poodle lady would only agree to cap it at 8 out of 10 events and wouldn’t agree to anything lower. L remember there’s a senior dog category that this dog can’t enter so essentially this dog could still win a majority of the competition if they agreed to that. OP’s NTA, I love baking amaturely and I would definitely be annoyed if I entered a cookie contest and found out one of the other contestants was Paul Hollywood
First story: I saw an episode of Midsomer Murders that had a scruffiest dog competition. That immediately came to mind when you started making suggestions.
I get why there's no more puppy bloopers cuz yugo is all grown up, but I still really miss em
omg I was just thinking about yugo's puppy bloopers
I think the one with the book had another update where the dad and stepmom had a baby, and the dad called about asking if the son would babysit, and the son asked if he was still banned from reading certain books or something, and then said he won't babysit his half-siblings at all.
That poodle owner is the worst kind of party pooper. There's serious competition and then there's fun spirited competition. People that takes every competition 100% seriously are way too self-centered
I agree.
I'm one of those people that get competitive and get mad if I have a bad game even if it's just meant to be fun.
I still cheer for my friends/team but I have to remind myself that we're not actually competing. We're just here to have fun.
@@callanightshade8079 that's good! Being competitive is fine, but so is self awareness like you have
@@callanightshade8079I’m like that too, but even I know to cool it when my competitors are literal children.
She even offered to help her find a place , she is the nicest aunt ever
I used to be extremely good at a trading card game. In my area there were a couple of people on the same level but otherwise I was leagues better then most players.
So in friendlies and small tournaments I played worse decks, tried interesting but less consistent strategies and when I played younger players I would gloss over when they didn't perfectly follow the rules.
Because its not fun to always win, and no one wants to play against the person they know will flatten them.
OP didn't prevent the HOA continuing the event, but once the show dog made a mockery of it no one wanted to do it anymore so the event collapsed. Proof if ever needed that NTA.
If you have someone in your life that is capable of fixing your attempted DIY projects (or fuckups)... how about you ask that person for assistance or insight BEFORE starting said project? "Do you think it is fairly easy to do ____?" or "Do you think my plan [Explain plan] will work to achieve [goal]?" And let the more knowledgeable one either help or assist you. My father is one of said people and I ask him for help or assistance all the time (possibly annoyingly so), rather than making a bad choice and needing to feel guilty asking for help after it's too late to choose a different method. Plus, if we do something together, it's some nice bonding time as adults that we, regrettably, don't get as much of anymore.
Story 3: I was glad rSlash raised the butthole score. I was thinking at least three stars. OP's niece wants to take advantage of her aunt, who is a widow, and prevent her from getting adequate childcare. OP's niece had an awesome gig for two years; it's time for her to move on now without complaint.
right! she literally _chose_ to move on! if that's what's best for your career, that's what's best for your career, but you have to also deal with the consequences of that decision 🤷🏽♀
Seriously for the first story, that poodle owner is TAH. I want to try and get a Halloween get together and have a costume competition for my HOA. I am a cosplayer, I have competed with my stuff. I wouldn’t dream of competing in a fun neighborhood event, I would ask if I could judge.
3rd story, OP needs to contact the place or places the items were taken to, and advise they were basically stolen items. Might need to explain things, but, if they refuse, they become accomplices to the theft.
I'll say this as a nanny:
Ignoring the fact it's her niece, being paid to live in a house rent free on the condition you watch the kids is every nanny's dream job! But if the nanny finds a new job, yes, it is expected that she will no longer be getting room and board. At least OP was nice enough to help her niece look for new housing with three months' notice. And you mean to tell me in 2 years the niece hasn't saved up at least a little? $200 a week may not be much in the long run, but surely she set SOME of it aside. If not, why doesn't the mom help with housing fees?
OP has been more than generous. But she needs care for her kids and if the niece can't provide that, the room should go to the new nanny.
Dabney! You're a genius! Your ideas for the dog competition games are absolutely brilliant!!! So creative!!! Also, I absolutely love hearing you tell anecdotal stories about your daughter ❤❤❤ I have one too, she's an all grown up 23-year-old, aren't daughters the best?? 😊❤
First story, love all of Rslash's silly competition ideas. XD
I'll throw in my suggestion: allow competitors to play as much as they want, but each pet is only allowed to get the grand prize once. Like, Fetch game, Fido wins, here's your grand prize for Fetch, but Fido can no longer qualify for receiving first prize in the other events, though they can still compete for enjoyment.
Hearing him say my 2.5 year old, from hearing him say "so my wife had a baby". ❤ I can't believe it's been that long.
Story one, you just modify it to where all the dogs get to play puppy Olympics together, but instead of cash prizes, people pool their money at a set amount per person for each category and whoever wins the category takes that money and donates it to their shelter/charity of their choice.
3rd story: Nta what did your niece do to the money that you gave her when she babsits her cousins and then claims she doesn't have enough money to rent a dorm?
She paid her niece 600+ bucks a week. That's roughly how much I get paid for 36 hours of hvac work. I should quit and become a live-in nanny.
Story 2: Fortunately there was an update and OP and her husband talked and the husband just said he was worried about his mom in the moment and that he understood why OP was upset.
Story 4: What are the odds OP's dad and his wife are simply too old to have a kid of their own and that's the only reason he tried to reconect with OP ?
It's actually the opposite, they're having a kid and thought OP would be a free babysitter for them. There was an update.
Gotta say...Story 1's Pup Olympics is an excellent example of what an HOA should be doing.
At least until they took the prize pup owners side.
At that point they can get fucked.
Until they ruin it by siding with the prize-winning poodle owner.
Story 4, it's worse than you're recognizing. The niece got free rent, but also got paid to watch her cousins. Childcare is tough, but these children were young and likely were put to bed fairly early. She probably had many hours where she was making 22/hr non taxed. Assume the kids were put to bed at 9, that's 3 hours a night largely uninterrupted to do hw, watch tv, hang out, or whatever. So, $66 per night, 198 for 3 days. Getting paid 200 to chill at home watching your cousins, probably eating free food, paying no utilities, and just living a cake walk of a time as a college kid. This kid was given so much. Then to get mad over needing to move out? That's super ungreatful. Then the sister is also ungreatful. Like why is it on the widowed mother to provide for the college kid daughter? The niece is unbelievably unrgeatful and the sister is complete trash. 4/5 buttholes at least.
First story, NTA but how many things are wrong with this lady? You bring this gold medalist to amateur hour then throw a massive fit when people think it's unfair and don't want to compete anymore? Then try to go to a HOA for help? I do agree with the idea someone else had that no cash prize but whoever wins gets a donation done in their name or that there's other competition ideas that aren't a straight race.
Edit: OP did make a comment after the video was recorded or maybe Rslash didn't catch it, they actually tried to talk with this lady with the HOA as mediators but it went nowhere. OP wanted to make other categories for 'serious' racers, HOA shot it down because they can't make it appear serious. OP wanted to restrict the amount of categories people can enter out of 10, she wanted 8 and the HOA backed her. So OP did try to make things fair but after realizing the HOA was siding with her, they decided to cancel and cut a check for the shelter directly.
Omg Dabney 100% on point with your idea for doggie Olympics! Wtf
is wrong with that lady scraping in all the prizes and taking the excitement right out of the good time your neighborhood was having. I hope OP does exactly what you suggested!
Edited for typo!
The woman in the first story is the real life equivalent of players who unalive you for no reason in GTA 5 online
NTA, you could add a clause to limit the amount of categories a dog is allowed to win, or create a class for 'show dogs'. In some dance competitions we have a championship section, where dancers compete for higher level prizes, we also offer a restricted section, for dancers who haven't placed in top 3 in previous 2 years. So just create a section specifically for show dogs, and write a clause that if dog has placed in top 3 in certain competitions they aren't eligible for class X, Y, Z
Dog Olympics? I think I'm out of touch
I wonder if it's all bark
@@chriscarpenter3370all bark no bite... where the illegal stuff😢😢😢
Back in 2017, I witnessed a dog show once that was kinda like a Dog Olympics. They basically trained dogs to do tricks in front of a large audience.
I’m basically picturing a more entertaining version of a dog show with the dog Olympics thing
Every February there's a puppy bowl too!
Fourth story: NTA. What's the best for him? Is being homophobic the best for OP. Also, the first thing the father do to try to mend the relation with OP is to blindly suport his homophobic wife against OP's literature preferences.
First story - That "social influencer" deserves a 4/5 rating as far as I'm concerned. People were just trying to have fun and she has to ruin it for "likes". Money and prizes are extra bonuses for her.
She is scum.
0:20 Wait, an HOA that *wants* people to have fun?
Those silly competitions are an excellent idea!
*First OP:* The Pup Olympics was OP's idea, and she (?) had the right to cancel it for whatever reason. Also, she came up with Pup Olympics, so that makes OP NTA.
As for the bonus question, it's too bad the poodle owner didn't donate the money to the shelter, she wasn't obligated to do so. I'd say OP is TA in that context, albeit a soft YTA.
*Second OP:* OP's MIL shouldn't have gone through and thrown out OP's things from OP's house without OP's permission. OP is NTA. If her husband has a problem with it, he can stay with his mom at the hotel, assuming OP has someone else to take her to her appointments.
*Third OP:* OP's house, OP's rules. OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* Like in the third story, OP's dad's house, OP's dad's (wife's) rules. That said, OP had the right not to stay there because of said rules. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* OP _did_ warn his (?) daughter more than once to hire a professional to work on home improvement projects. I normally don't like when someone says "I told you so", but in this case, OP is NTA.
Ruining the Dog Olympics!? Yugo would not approve!
On story two; I am 1000% on op's side. We used to have this storage unit years ago that my grandmother looked after while my mum and me both lived out of state, and my sister and brother stayed behind in mum's house. I got a furious phone call from my mum one day who told me my sister had rung her in tears bc grandma had gone through the storage unit WITHOUT PERMISSION, and ONLY got rid of anything that was my sister's. I had the most stuff and it was untouched. But my sister is a cosplayer, an artist, and so so creative, and it was all gone. None of us have forgiven my grandmother for this, my sister barely speaks to her, and my brother has nothing nice to say about her anymore. it was horrible, so I am 1000% on op's side
Story 2: nta you disrespect the owner you don't get there kindness. Also tell your husband to go live and marry his mother then if that's how he acts to her disrespecting the mother of his future kid.
Stories about people throwing away others stuff like that make my skin absolutely crawl. I’m very heartbroken for OP. That’s one of the worst forms of disrespect in my book.
First story NTA at all. Poodle lady seems entirely narcissistic and probably would lose her mind if her dog lost even your silly fun competition. I wouldn't be surprised if she complained to all those Instagram followers with a super embellished story.
Also, I absolutely LOVE the suggestion of subjective categories.
I could imagine R/ disciplining his kid and just going.
I'm giving you 0.5 out of 5 buttholes for not doing the dishes. 😂
Rshalsh has great dog competition ideas!
_"Welcome to the Your Town Pup _*_Charity_*_ Competition. All prizes will be donated to the XYZ Animal Shelter in the winner's name."_
Done.
The aunt is NTA but she should be prepared for this to ruin or outright end her relationship with her niece.
"I see this as an absolute win"
But this will be on niece and her sister. Niece can longer provide childcare and no nanny wants to travel after midnight. There is no reason for niece to stay. She has to go into savings to live in a dorm or apartment? Welcome to adulthood
Why would a nanny have to be off moms schedule if the neice still lives in the house? It's an internship, unless she found a magic overnight internship the neice will work what? 9 to 5. Just have the neice pick up the kids from an after school program those three nights a week. I feel like any amount of talking and scheduling like human beings has flown out the windows
story 3: I think giving op 0 out 5 is right, her niece however gets maybe like 3.5 or 4 out of 5 cause op gave her a great deal and now since the niece is going to collage then yea her free ride is over like op said, if the niece wanted to stay then she should not have went to collage, i mean yea going to collage is good to get a better job, but however when you can't do another thing for someone then it happens and you move on.
Love me an AITA vid, ty rslash
First story: They added cash prizes, so they should have seen it coming.