There's an update on the Get Ready story. The husband kept 'fixing' his car whenever the wife and kids needed anything. OP(wife) read a bunch of the comments from the original thread and realized that the husbands behavior was off. She spoke to her kids and found out that the husband has been aggressive with them and treating them poorly. OP confronted the husband and he's checked out and wants out of the marriage and no longer wants anything to do with the kids as well. So they are divorcing.
The one with the husband and the birthday dinner- that showed up on BORU. She got around to realizing that hes only ever late to THEIR stuff [stuff for the kids, stuff for her] but NEVER late to his own stuff. Turns out he was also awful in other ways. I believe shes seeking a split and he immediately said he wanted nothing to do with the kids. Sad, but at least shes getting out
quickly popping onto this to say that the husband was mega shitty if the fact that he was late to OP's MOTHER'S FUNERAL is anything to go on frankly he should have been booted out the door like a loony tune the second he pulled that, and his excuse for it was that "He WaS iN a MeEtINg aT WorK"
Fourth story: NTA. She's not "feeling nothing", she's being intencionally demeaning for no good reason. I think she wants to manipulate OP by making him feel pathetic.
She has a much better sex life than most women her age have ever had, historically. Treating women as... well, people is a very recent thing, relatively speaking.
Definitely, but boy does this not make her look good to her friends either. And, like what else does she want from him? A pony? If she had problems, she should've brought it up in private because it will guaranteed get the opposite reaction from all parties involved as seen by literally everyone feeling awkward after.
It’s nice to see someone actually saying something about this one. Too often guys are thought about as just get their rock off and be done. Some actually do care about their partner’s enjoyment as well.
She sounds like a really mean person. Not only was what she said of course going to hurt OP, but it would also have humiliated him. She doesn't appear to realise how horrible she would have appeared to her friends. And what the heck... 10 months! If she cared anything for her husband she would have sought counselling.
Story 2: I'm Moroccan myself. Based on both social, cultural and religious experiences, the parents are at least 80% likely to be homophobic, and the rest is definitely classism. I feel terrible for OP and I hope the boyfriend has a serious sit down with his parents.
@@damienhailey118I really feel for him. It's incredible the parents haven't disowned his boyfriend already, maybe he's an only child and he's their only son But if he wants to keep OP he needs to step up
“Culture” in a million quotes if this is how their government officials act like. Culture is supposed to be enriching, not oppressive. Those two need to take a flying leap to present time.
@@HobieInTheBox that or they want to keep appearances. So they act like they support their son being gay, but push out any partner he could have with stunts like the food one
First Story, NTA: OP's gf is using straight up manipulation against OP. Her dad's death is not OP's fault. Insane how she used this form of manipulation when SHE cheated
There is update to 3 story: - Op child had a football match, she left with her kids without her husband cause he again was not ready. - Another week op kids were going to friends b-day part and father was suppose to drop kids and ofcourse father was working on his car again, when kids complained to father he called them whiny brats. Op left her friends and took her kids to b-day party, but kids missed most of the fun times because of late. - Op is divorcing her husband, she has enaugh of his constant late or not showing up at all. When op mother died, not only her husband was very late at the funeral, he also didnt showed any emotional support to her. - He told OP that he no longer wants any involvement in anything to do with the family and will move out ASAP. OP sons and she will go about their lives, and the soon-to-be-ex-husband will go about his.
Story 3: I am a chronically late person, I was late to work this morning even, and that husband just sucks. You work on your car THIRTY MINUTES before your WIFE's birthday?? *your* *WIFE* ...do you even like her dude???
I was thinking the same thing. GF's dad died in an accident that OP didn't cause. GF is trying to make herself the victim. OP should ask GF one question: "How does your father's death years ago excuse you cheating on me?" And then he should break up.
The channel said 4 out of five one way and 5 out of five the other way. I think either way you slice it. It's 5 out of 5 maybe even six out of five. That is a scummy thing to do, and I would've ended it on the spot. Manipulation games should be an instant no for everyone, at least in my opinion.
Yeah, later in he was supposed to take the kids to a friend's birthday and he decided last minute to work on the car again. OP took the kids and the kids were an hour late to the party. The husband was saying the kids were being to sensitive.
@@nevinhernandez448At least the kids got to see why mom felt as she did on her birthday. Dad totally disrespected everyone, not just his family but all other party-goers.
@@shannonp1656 oh they already knew, kids are very observant, this was just final straw situation. OP could tolerate more of the husband's disrespect, but not when it comes to the kids.
The last story about the husband who has to clean their swimming pool because of his lazy ass wife is that the husband needs to call in a construction company to remove the pool and then sit down and watch the shit hit the fan afterwards
OPs wife is the adult version of a child promising to take care of a dog. When the kids are more on board about cleaning the pool is telling. I don’t think OP should get rid of the pool yet just in case the kids use it. However he should hold up to his word which he should’ve done in the first place. Either she cleans the pool or pays for pool maintenance out of her own money
Absolutely! I’d have it done on a Saturday. Put out my lawn chair with a fresh pot of coffee and enjoy the show. 😂 I’m 53f and I don’t do a thing with with hot tub my husband bought. Yes, it’s lovely to use but I told him when he said he wanted one that I would not have anything to do with maintenance at all. He agreed and we’ve no issues at all. That wife is a git!
Last story - No, rSlash, the best bet isn't to "hire someone to do it." The best bet is to not bluff, and *stop cleaning it*. If the wife wants to use it, she can clean it. That was the agreement, and she refused to hold up her end of the bargain. She can't have her cake and eat it too. As a "married man" you should know that a marriage relies on mutual respect as one of the cornerstones. This wife, clearly, does not respect her husband or the effort he puts in for her, at least not regarding the pool. So, the price of that lack of respect is that *her* pool doesn't get cleaned.
thank you, Rslash had a horrible take on that story imo. The problem isn't that the pool isn't getting cleaned it's the blatant disrespect the wife has towards op, especially with that "stop bluffing" comment.
OP has some an extremely severe case of survivor’s guilt and an absolute garbage girlfriend. She doesn’t actually blame OP, she just used the most hurtful thing she could think of to hurt and manipulate him. Dump the girl and find a therapist. Good luck.
from what OP said, this seems like a _normal_ survivor's guilt scenario- all he really said is that he felt guilty when the subject came up, which is completely natural. but therapy is probably still a good idea, since it's still a terrible situation and the manipulation would have made that worse.
Last story: don't bluff, ignore the pool until she brings it up, tell her you meant what you said and forced her to clean it. She agreed to your turn start making her live up to it.
Intimacy story: OP, there is nothing wrong with what you bring to the bedroom. If your wife has issues, she needed to bring them up in the privacy of your marriage, not to others. If it’s true that you complete her 3-4 times per session, BRAVO! I know that being married for a while and having children, can put a damper on your intimate life, but we all go through these ups and downs. Your wife is ungrateful and selfish.
Story 1: NOPE, NTA. LEAVE HER RIGHT AWAY. The moment ANYONE blames you for an accident and tries to use that to get their way with you, YOU RUN. “My dad is dead because of you, so you shouldn’t break up with me even though I cheated on you” is HORRIFYING. That almost sounds like the set up for a horror movie about a crazy stalker, it’s so bad.
For the last story, I’m petty enough to explain to the kids that the pool is sick, so he needs to sleep it off until mommy can help heal him with the rest of the family. Then use a pool cover and allow my “employees” to reprimand the issue.
Story 2: NTA. You stood up for yourself. You were challenged and you won. (PS I did this to my dad once in a much less vicious setting.) Flush the "better person" nonsense.
rSlash: An eight year old who asks someone to buy them a toy is not responsible for someone's death. Agreed. Reminds me of a line in the show Lomgmire; Jacob Nighthorse says this to Walt Longmire: "So if a man who works at a fracking company books a room in my hotel, suddenly I'm responsible for Global Warming?"
I do agree OP got to GTFO and isn’t the AH because he was a kid but the girlfriend is a solid 5/5 AH because that’s evil to hold something over someone’s head that they did when they were 8 years old
@@GalliaUchiha its like if i asked for someones dad to make me a steak on the grill and the grill out of sheer randomness decided to explode is that now my fault? or would it have likely exploded regardless and he would still met the same fate?
Story 4: note that she'll say anything but sorry and won't give any of these excuses to the group of people she embarrassed you in front of. In the way did she mean that, no way did she give that answer and meant because she couldn't feel anything after childbirth, even if I want the case why did she wait days later to explain herself in privet? Not to mention she could have mentioned what you did in foreplay giving up with a better answer the question.
^^^^^ Like, crazy how she only clarified what she meant _after_ the fact when they were by themselves, but when in front of everyone, she kept it vague enough to make people think Op sucked overall rather than that she just couldn't really feel a specific part of it
Story 1: Nonononono, run run run. Not only is her dad's death not his fault, but who uses her dead father to blackmail OP into a relationship? She's an actual psycho.
The ol' "I'll do 100% of the work if you agree to get it" switch. I'm kind of glad I'm not the only one who fell victim to it. For me, it was a fish tank... She loved looking at the fish, buying the fish, decorating the tank and enjoying it but I did about 90% of the work maintaining it and keeping it healthy. I also ended up being the emotional support when the fish died and she got sad about it... I was also the driver to all the pet stores to find the ones she wanted. XD
This is my dad and my sister to my mum every time they want to grow tomatoes. Always ends up mum doing 99% of the work and me helping her. I don't even like tomatoes!!
Story 2: the boyfriend AND the parents are TA, but especially the boyfriend for not IMMEDIATELY shutting the father down BOTH times OP was given tampered-with food. BF should've given his father the spicy food to demonstrate how well he could handle it and chewed him out for being rude.
Last story - Dude never should have done anything to the pool in the first place. Now his choices are: A- stop and let her deal with green, icky water, or B- give her the number a good pool service and make sure she knows she is paying for 100%, or C- (and this is my fav one) call a contractor to fill it in with cement and be done with it entirely.
Story 2 Okay but if Op didnt eat the food then the dad would be upset about him wasting food. The dad gets a bigger score. And honestly he never would have eaten it if his bf stood up for him more. Dad gets 2 outa 5 for basically poisoning Op and being such a horid host. Bf gets 1 outa 5 for not sticking up for Op and not getting Op the new seasoned food himself since he knew his parents didnt like Op Op gets 0 outs 5 hes the victim, taken to a hostile environment, being judged by home country, and had he refused the food at any point would be judged for that. ... O problems story Its cuz they are using the toys wrong 😂 Use the buzzer while shes on top. Get a s*x therapist now!
Story 3-- I HATE it when people are late. My job involves a lot of time-based things, and when people are late, it means their experience is cut short and they lose the money they put into it. This has translated into my personal life-- if you make plans and someone doesn't value your time, either by arriving late or blowing off those plans, then why spend any more time on them or wait around for them? NTA. OP had a commitment, and her husband didn't value her time.
Story 4: Especially with context, that was a really mean comment, like she straight up told OP that he is ULTRA terrible at s3x, heck based on the reactions from other people, it made everyone THAT uncomfortable. "Too sensitive" my arse, I guess everyone else was "too sensitive" then since they weren't comfortable from the comment either
It could’ve been the drinks that made her say it like that for sure. She should apologize for saying that to them. I did however think that she meant by penetration when she said that. She probably misses enjoying that. Straight women have told me there is a difference between the real thing and a toy.
Story 3: He didn't want to go out. It doesn't matter what he was doing there is no kind of working on your car that takes 5 minutes, and even then he would still doing it when it was time to go. But it wasn't enough for him to get out of going he wanted you to miss your own birthday celebration because he didn't want to go, so he can take his her feelings and shove it where the sun don't shine. This was your day and the barebone minimum he could do is not try to ruin it by being selfish and petty.
As someone who works on and does mods to their car, even what should be a 15 minute project can turn to multiple hours. I would never start something 30 minutes before I needed to go to my wife's birthday dinner.
like rslash said, that first girl is either psychopathic for getting with the guy she believes killed her dad just so she can cheat, or sociopathic for manipulating OP with his own displaced guilt - which by the way, that accident was no-one's fault, especially not OP's.
Last story: it’s only a losing battle until you give in. The wife is clearly acting like a child. It’s time to show her that actions have consequences.
Last Story: I think OP's best course of action is to just do nothing. Let your kids know that it's the mom's responsibility to handle the upkeep and wait to see how long before she complains about it. She's calling you on your bluff, so prove your point. Do not handle it anymore. She'll either cave or want it gotten rid of.
Wow, wonder how long that girl was holding on to that card for. She really thought she had the ultimate "get out of jail free" card If she really blamed him she wouldn't have dated him
Story 2:OP was in a battlefield of hell and survived,let's all pay respects to his tongue,stomache and especially his AH Man,That first comment was golden😂😂😂
Story 1: OP that's not your fault, you didn't cause the accident, and you couldn't have predicted it was going to happen. So if anything you should dumper her for cheating, and go completely NC for the horrific guilt tripping she tried to pull on you. Her reasoning doesn't matter, no answer is going to make her less toxic.
The pool story had me roaring with laughter! ‘My employees had to take time off to attend school’! 😂😂😂 When my husband and I were house hunting in the States, neither of us were interested in a pool. If the right house can along and it had a pool, the first we’d have done is hire a company to fill that thing in! No thank you. He did want a hot tub, which is lovely to have, but I told him he was in charge of that bad boy. I’ve never done anything with it other than enjoy it. We’ve no issues at all. OP should have stuck to his guns from day one! It’d be fabulous if he hired a company to fill it in, remove it, on a Saturday. Set up his lawn chair and enjoy the shite show! His wife is a prat. How much does she actually use the pool? Probably once every few months.
While everyone’s commenting on Story 1, I’m gonna comment on Story 4: as a women, I can vouch that 3-4 o’s in one session is INCREDIBLE. Personally I’ve only experienced maybe 2-3 via one session, and a majority of the time having to do it myself. So I don’t know what the hell OP’s wife is talking about when she says she isn’t satisfied, and I agree with rSlash that her comment was just straight up mean.
Both of my parents are notorious for running late. Mum gets distracted so is late getting ready. Dad tends to not even start getting his shoes or coat on until mum's going to start the car, then forgot something upstairs or had to use the bathroom, or had to give the cat water... when everyone is already in the car. And he gets pissed if she honks lol
Story 2: “You should have been the bigger person…” Me: queue the worlds biggest eye roll. “GFY dude.” Also, for the record, NTA. That father is a stubborn POS who lost his own game, and OP was expected to apologize!? My dude, run. This is NOT a family you want to affiliate yourself with.
Seriously, how is this a EHS??? OP literally didn't do anything to deserve getting mistreated. Putting himself thru pain just made his BF's family uncomfortable WHICH IS THE POINT. They're the one singling him out. Also i definitely feel there is homophobia going on, even if they say they accept him. It's not just classism.
Eh OP lost imo, yeah he ate the food, but all he did was give the father the satisfaction of watching him suffer In his shoes I’d have been like “oh this is a little too much for me” and poured a bunch in the fathers meal, then the balls in his court, either he shuts up and eats it, or he has to admit he made it too spicy for even himself, the former has him in pain and the latter makes him look like the jackass he is
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012Yeah that is easier said than done, the parents could've easily turned around and accused OP of being disrespectful for not eating with them. OP loses either way
The last story feels like such a weird take. "I cant believe you didn't expect your wife to lie to you! Silly OP, you should've seen it coming." Like...huh?
I'd really like to believe that Rslash isn't in a toxic relationship, but yeah I think he's misjudged the seriousness of the situation a bit. Maybe he lowered his guard because of the lighthearted jokes OP made, or maybe his partner being a bit irresponsible with chores isn't a dealbreaker for him. We don't know what OP's overall relationship dynamic is either, and they didn't indicate that there's any underlying issues with the wife. Maybe, even, Rslash is just tired of having to judge toxic people and wants to give her the benefit of the doubt? Anyway, imo OP shouldn't just brush it off. The wife keeps frustrating and invalidating him, so they should have a serious talk about it before problems build up. Hopefully, it turns out to be a minor issue that they can find compromise on.
(Am a woman myself) What I'm going to comment on here is not true for every woman, afab person, etc. Just want to share what I've learned in my own s3xual wellness journey and by doing some research. A lot of women are generally able to "finish" multiple times in a session (they have the potential to, sometimes it takes work to find out what works for them in the first place though) as it doesn't take most of our bodies the extra cooldown time that most men/amab people generally need between finishing. Some women are able to finish from penetration, but not all. It's only a small percentage who can (can't remember exact numbers but I am pretty sure it's less than 40%). But that's why what the OP is doing in the bedroom is important: if both partners are able to finish, regardless of the ways that that is happening, as long as it's consensual then that's awesome! OP sounds like he works hard to prioritize her pleasure, and I appreciate that. There have been relationships where I have felt used if it is just penetration, as I typically do not finish from it without outside help (toys are great, highly recommend). What I'm trying to say is - in the intimacy story, from what we're hearing from OP, he sounds like a great partner in the bedroom. He gets her off, and then afterward gets to finish himself. It sounds like a great time to me, and I've always appreciated when partners are willing to prioritize my pleasure first before they finish themselves (as their "cooldown" time is longer than mine and I can keep going for them). If his wife is having issues, she should talk to him privately about those rather than embarrassing him in front of people (friends, even) in public. That's super disrespectful, and just straight up mean. Like, what the heck? Do you even like him?? I'm not a huge fan of public shaming in general, and will say that in this situation it's even MORE uncalled for because if OP's story is truthful, he is a very good and thoughtful partner. I feel bad for him. If what's going on isn't working for her, she needs to communicate about it. He seems like a reasonable guy, and like he would be open and receptive to trying to help her receive pleasure in other ways if the current ones are no longer working. OMG it's like he loves her or something! Lol I wish him the best.
The bf who got mad at his partner for eating the overspiced food and barely even attempted to defend his boyfriend is actually the biggest AH in that story.
5:34 bro what? No! Also as someone who has gorged down painful spicy foods, I never had it bother me the next day. Not even in my stool 5:57 I mean what? No one was questioning that! 6:43 I just don’t agree. OP is petty revenge. Not the same thing! 14:25 obvious bait and switch? Seen what coming? Nothing came! Wha-? She’s gonna do the pool whether she likes it or not
Capsaicin remains active even after exposure to stomach acid and the alkalinity of the rest of the gi tract, a lot of people regret eating spicy foods because of the dreaded round 2. Not everyone is affected granted, but still
Story 4: It's disrespectful to EVERYONE attending the dinner for him to be late, but especially to OP when the dinner is to celebrate her birthday. Since she provides the context that he makes them late to everything she just needs to keep leaving him for events to hold him accountable.
Story 2: no argument here the dad is the worst person in this entire story, and I get what OP was trying to do. But in the end I'm pretty sure the guys not losing sleep over you almost killing yourself eating food that you described "unedible". Plus you ended up cutting your BF 3 days of his vacation taking care of you. I got nothing against being petty and flexing on some dirtbag, but not at your own risk.
Blaming OP for the GF’s dad’s death is like blaming the holocaust on ArchDuke Franz Ferdinand’s limo driver. Like, yes. *Technically* they are responsible for the circumstances that allowed the tragedy to happen, but it’s not like they knew the butterfly effect of their innocent action in the moment, and also that’s ignoring that there’s someone else who is directly responsible. In the case: whoever was at fault for the accident.
Story #1. 1, it's not his fault there was a car accident. 2. He was 8 YEARS OLD! How is an 8 year old responsible for a car accident? 3. I'm guessing he's got a long history with the gf and she's been manipulating him for years but his guilt doesn't see it. She's toxic and he's better off without her.
I have PCOS too but have as many O’s. as I want, Especially with toys. Trying to figure out what PCOS has to do with an orgasm unless it’s just pain involved with your fiancé being inside?? Maybe adding some toys to your bedroom time would help? I think everyone deserves a good O in the bedroom!
1:20 honestly it would never have occurred to me that I should feel guilty because *_I wasn’t there_* 6:10 there was nothing to apologise. You could’ve had your spicy meal and eat it too. And do what Discount Mithral said for you to tell them as well as the fact that you are self made high ranking in your career and all that. Do they not know? Better wait until they change. The 2 of you should go no contact and if they don’t try and then tell them about your job and money that way they can realise their mistake while knowing their son won’t talk to them again. Ya know?
RSlash really puted himself on the "O" count 😬 3-4 doesn't even qualify for a quickie in my household. I know it's different for different sets of partners but 15-20 is her current average for the usual 2 hours start to finish, about 6-8 for a quickie.
Last Story... imagine if this was a man skipping out on some housework, whether or not explicitly agreed to, and an OP wife complaing. Don't be a misandrist.
What idiot suddenly decides to work on their car half an hour before an important family event? Especially since (apparently) OP had her own vehicle? That was totally deliberate. The husband was pulling a power trip, plain and simple. Good for OP not letting him get away with it. And the fact that he didn't bother showing up at the restaurant shows how little he cared about spending time with his family on his wife's birthday. Major red flags there.
Growing up, my dad was also notoriously late. We got to the point of telling him things were earlier than they actually were so he could be some semblance of on time. Unfortunately that didn't effect Christmas one year. I was about 13 years old. We had all of my siblings and I, my stepmom, and both of my dad's parents waiting patiently for my dad to.................. FIX THE BATHROOM FAUCETS. We still haven't let him live it down. I'm 40 now. How many kids were left sitting, starting at their presents with forlorn looks on our faces? 4. There were 4 of us with two other parents holding cameras and one trying to keep breakfast warm. Edit: I forgot to add that any time a new person would come over for Christmas after that (like spouces to be and such) we would continue to get him back for that one Christmas 27 years ago, by telling them the story. It's almost its own tradition at this point lol.
Intimacy story is a bit strange you can’t tighten yourself up… it doesn’t work that way! Toys or tools doesn’t matter, it doesn’t loosen after childbirth!
11:50 I'd say if the data is only percentage of women who finish during sessions and not number of times per session, then your answer is "less than once every session"
12:15 I don't think I've ever had a partner in at least the last 10 years or more that didn't finish a bare minimum of 10 times every single session...
Late husband story has a couple updates. OP mentions that she used to be a SAHM up until a few years ago, which is also when her husband began being late to all types of family events. She mentions that he's always on time for work and when he's supposed to hang out with friends. She went out with her friends and her husband was supposed to drop their kids off at a birthday party. OP gets a phone call from her oldest when they were supposed to be at the party, tells her that their dad refused to take them and berated them for asking if he could. OP takes them to the party, makes up her mind about the divorce; and in another update she tells him that she wants one and he tells her it's fine, that he wants nothing to do with the family
Anyone who uses a family member's death to guilt trip their partner into staying, regardless of whether or not cheating took place, doesn't deserve the joy of a relationship, period.
God, first story reminded me of the book, The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Main character had blamed himself for the death of his aunt, who died in a car crash while she was on her way to get him a birthday present. Of course, if you've read that book yourself, then you'll know that is nowhere near the saddest part of the book.
I honestly don't think Wife did anything wrong in the orgasm story. All she said is "Sex with him does nothing for me" She's not complaining about not having orgasms SHES ANSWERING A QUESTION THAT WAS ASKED And 90% of the time when someone says "sex" they're usually referring to some form of penetration. It is NOT an insult to your partner to say "I get nothing from penetration" it's a fact. Is it upsetting to hear that? Yes, but that doesn't mean she's trying to emasculate OP. She stated a fact.
Most hetero men I've known consider 0-1 "O" for their partner to be enough. The women who passionately hug women that I've known tend to see 4-6 "O"s as normal. So, in my opinion, the dude giving his partner 3-4 "O"s before starting to do what gives him his "O" is ahead of the curve
@@bethanyboarder7751 oh yeah, like the time he listened to a story where a narcissist detailed the most elaborate and brutal workplace psychological abuse I’ve ever heard, described how she make the work-place EXTREMELY hostile and the only justification for it she gave was that “he disagreed with her.” That’s real BTW. It was a few years ago, and it’s really hard to find (so take what I have to say with a grain of salt until you do). Credit where it’s due, OP was a narcissist so the vast majority of the comment section ALSO missed it, but that doesn’t change the fact that OP explicitly labeled her abuse ACCURATELY, and he described all this as “genius” and went on to say how “satisfying it is to see the tables get turned on this guy,” despite the fact that no one said he did the things OP was doing. Not to OP, or anyone else. I’m forced to assume that the “tables being turned” are that it’s workplace bullying being done by a woman to a man, and not the other way around, which is SUCH a fucked up thing to think. Also, there have been countless times over the years where he’s said these objectively, by giving women lower scores than nearly identical situations where the genders are reversed.
@@RealCoolstriker64 I am fully aware of that. I have been noticing it for a long time and it pisses me off. Why is he so anti-man When he's a man himself?
Working cars in general involves oil and dirt not just on the engine Fun fact a drive shaft runs underneath the car And dirt is usually thrown onto it Suspension what is that in that's in the wheel housing where's the wheel housing where the wheel is And what gets thrown in there more dirt All inches of a car when it comes to work except for the interior involved dirt
S.1. Nta. You were 8, you didn't kill him. She's manipulating you 100%. She cheated let her know it was an accident and I was 8, a kid. You cheated at 19 not a kid, goodbye
Late husband story: I can’t even imagine being in this guys shoes, I try to arrive at important events with like 20-30 min to spare. Being at time to leave and not even vaguely prepared, that’s not average lateness, that’s deliberate.
I'm a pleasure, Dom, and usually 5-7 O's is when the safe word comes out. Once, got a very stubborn partner up to 11, but she walked like a newborn deer for the rest of the day.
I live with my brother and his wife. When they were house hunting, she wanted a house with a pool. My brother said that all 3 of us had to take care of the pool. After 4 years, she hasn’t cleaned the pool once. It’s always been my brother and I
Story 2: there is a much simpler way this situation could have been avoided: ASK OP WHAT HIS SPICE LEVEL IS! Where I live, there are a ton of restaurants that serve spicy food where you can determine your level of spice. And if a food is typically pretty spicy, you ask the person what their level of spice is. You don't just make assumptions
There's an update on the Get Ready story. The husband kept 'fixing' his car whenever the wife and kids needed anything. OP(wife) read a bunch of the comments from the original thread and realized that the husbands behavior was off. She spoke to her kids and found out that the husband has been aggressive with them and treating them poorly. OP confronted the husband and he's checked out and wants out of the marriage and no longer wants anything to do with the kids as well. So they are divorcing.
Good for OP
The one with the husband and the birthday dinner- that showed up on BORU. She got around to realizing that hes only ever late to THEIR stuff [stuff for the kids, stuff for her] but NEVER late to his own stuff. Turns out he was also awful in other ways. I believe shes seeking a split and he immediately said he wanted nothing to do with the kids. Sad, but at least shes getting out
Honestly, it’s better that he doesn’t involve himself with the kids. He’ll only hurt them in the long run
He wants nothing to do with OP nor the kids. It’s sad but he gets what he wants by the divorce. He wants to be alone then so be it.
quickly popping onto this to say that the husband was mega shitty if the fact that he was late to OP's MOTHER'S FUNERAL is anything to go on frankly he should have been booted out the door like a loony tune the second he pulled that, and his excuse for it was that "He WaS iN a MeEtINg aT WorK"
It is me, or it sounds that he wanted this... like he had a mistress or something
Yep, read that recently, good on her for ending that relationship. Poor kids though...
Fourth story: NTA. She's not "feeling nothing", she's being intencionally demeaning for no good reason. I think she wants to manipulate OP by making him feel pathetic.
She has a much better sex life than most women her age have ever had, historically. Treating women as... well, people is a very recent thing, relatively speaking.
Definitely, but boy does this not make her look good to her friends either. And, like what else does she want from him? A pony? If she had problems, she should've brought it up in private because it will guaranteed get the opposite reaction from all parties involved as seen by literally everyone feeling awkward after.
It’s nice to see someone actually saying something about this one. Too often guys are thought about as just get their rock off and be done. Some actually do care about their partner’s enjoyment as well.
And uses his integrity against. Next time OP should go down to her level
She sounds like a really mean person. Not only was what she said of course going to hurt OP, but it would also have humiliated him. She doesn't appear to realise how horrible she would have appeared to her friends.
And what the heck... 10 months! If she cared anything for her husband she would have sought counselling.
Story 2: I'm Moroccan myself. Based on both social, cultural and religious experiences, the parents are at least 80% likely to be homophobic, and the rest is definitely classism. I feel terrible for OP and I hope the boyfriend has a serious sit down with his parents.
Not sure OP will be doing any sitting down anytime soon...
@@damienhailey118I really feel for him. It's incredible the parents haven't disowned his boyfriend already, maybe he's an only child and he's their only son
But if he wants to keep OP he needs to step up
Thats what I was thinking. Morocco is not exactly an LGBTQ friendly country.
“Culture” in a million quotes if this is how their government officials act like. Culture is supposed to be enriching, not oppressive.
Those two need to take a flying leap to present time.
@@HobieInTheBox that or they want to keep appearances. So they act like they support their son being gay, but push out any partner he could have with stunts like the food one
First Story, NTA: OP's gf is using straight up manipulation against OP. Her dad's death is not OP's fault. Insane how she used this form of manipulation when SHE cheated
Agree I read the story It sounds like that she either blames OP or she’s using her dad’s death to manipulate him.
@Spongeboyking either way, it's down right ghoulish. She's just a bad person no matter how you cut it.
@@seabass819 facts
@@Spongeboyking or both
Pure evil. Leave her now. Tell her that her Dad would be ashamed of her before you block her.
There is update to 3 story: - Op child had a football match, she left with her kids without her husband cause he again was not ready.
- Another week op kids were going to friends b-day part and father was suppose to drop kids and ofcourse father was working on his car again, when kids complained to father he called them whiny brats. Op left her friends and took her kids to b-day party, but kids missed most of the fun times because of late.
- Op is divorcing her husband, she has enaugh of his constant late or not showing up at all. When op mother died, not only her husband was very late at the funeral, he also didnt showed any emotional support to her.
- He told OP that he no longer wants any involvement in anything to do with the family and will move out ASAP. OP sons and she will go about their lives, and the soon-to-be-ex-husband will go about his.
Oof thanks for the update im sorry to the wife
What a deadbeat, horrible excuse of a father.
God damn, what a scumbag husband. 4.5/5 for his ass, hell, maybe even 5/5 given his lack of care for his own kids.
I believe that’s story 3 story for is the sex story
Thank you for the update
Story 3: I am a chronically late person, I was late to work this morning even, and that husband just sucks. You work on your car THIRTY MINUTES before your WIFE's birthday?? *your* *WIFE* ...do you even like her dude???
Feels like some weird petty power play.
There was an update he said he no longer wanted anything to do with thr family they got divorced
Damn
@@MrPowerpenthat’s sad, but I hope OP finds someone who can treat them well
You should do better. Not respecting other people's time and schedules is sooooo disrespectful.
Op you didn't kill your gfs dad and the fact she's using that as an excuse after cheating on you makes her a massive jerk
I was thinking the same thing. GF's dad died in an accident that OP didn't cause. GF is trying to make herself the victim. OP should ask GF one question: "How does your father's death years ago excuse you cheating on me?" And then he should break up.
If OP relents, she will hold this over him either the rest of his life or whenever she’s done with him. She’s shown her true colors. Get out OP
It’s DISGUSTING.
Yeah first thing I thought for that guy is, "my dude...RUN! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!"😱😱😱
The channel said 4 out of five one way and 5 out of five the other way.
I think either way you slice it. It's 5 out of 5 maybe even six out of five.
That is a scummy thing to do, and I would've ended it on the spot. Manipulation games should be an instant no for everyone, at least in my opinion.
Late husband story: He absolutely did that on purpose! He intentionally ruined her birthday and is now trying to play the victim. What a jackass.
In update op is divorcing her husband cause of constant getting late or not showing up at all.
Yeah, later in he was supposed to take the kids to a friend's birthday and he decided last minute to work on the car again. OP took the kids and the kids were an hour late to the party. The husband was saying the kids were being to sensitive.
@@nevinhernandez448At least the kids got to see why mom felt as she did on her birthday. Dad totally disrespected everyone, not just his family but all other party-goers.
@@shannonp1656 oh they already knew, kids are very observant, this was just final straw situation. OP could tolerate more of the husband's disrespect, but not when it comes to the kids.
@@Mithandune Thank you for the update. He likes to ruin important events for others which is a terrible thing to do.
Last story : hire someone and make *her* pay for it. Shes the one who wanted the pool, if she refuses to do the work then she can pay
And I’m curious to know when she’s “too busy” what prioritizes more than following through a deal made with your spouse?
The last story about the husband who has to clean their swimming pool because of his lazy ass wife is that the husband needs to call in a construction company to remove the pool and then sit down and watch the shit hit the fan afterwards
OPs wife is the adult version of a child promising to take care of a dog. When the kids are more on board about cleaning the pool is telling. I don’t think OP should get rid of the pool yet just in case the kids use it. However he should hold up to his word which he should’ve done in the first place. Either she cleans the pool or pays for pool maintenance out of her own money
Absolutely! I’d have it done on a Saturday. Put out my lawn chair with a fresh pot of coffee and enjoy the show. 😂 I’m 53f and I don’t do a thing with with hot tub my husband bought. Yes, it’s lovely to use but I told him when he said he wanted one that I would not have anything to do with maintenance at all. He agreed and we’ve no issues at all. That wife is a git!
Damn
Then I hope he takes the kids to a pool every once in awhile and not invite wife.
@@lorilancaster5917they are married. Unless they have a prenup, their finances are together
Last story - No, rSlash, the best bet isn't to "hire someone to do it." The best bet is to not bluff, and *stop cleaning it*. If the wife wants to use it, she can clean it. That was the agreement, and she refused to hold up her end of the bargain. She can't have her cake and eat it too.
As a "married man" you should know that a marriage relies on mutual respect as one of the cornerstones. This wife, clearly, does not respect her husband or the effort he puts in for her, at least not regarding the pool. So, the price of that lack of respect is that *her* pool doesn't get cleaned.
thank you, Rslash had a horrible take on that story imo. The problem isn't that the pool isn't getting cleaned it's the blatant disrespect the wife has towards op, especially with that "stop bluffing" comment.
OP has some an extremely severe case of survivor’s guilt and an absolute garbage girlfriend.
She doesn’t actually blame OP, she just used the most hurtful thing she could think of to hurt and manipulate him.
Dump the girl and find a therapist. Good luck.
from what OP said, this seems like a _normal_ survivor's guilt scenario- all he really said is that he felt guilty when the subject came up, which is completely natural. but therapy is probably still a good idea, since it's still a terrible situation and the manipulation would have made that worse.
Last story: don't bluff, ignore the pool until she brings it up, tell her you meant what you said and forced her to clean it. She agreed to your turn start making her live up to it.
Yea
I agree. By capitulating and cleaning the pool he's enabling her dishonesty. Personally her behaviour would be a deal breaker for me.
He's just too busy
Intimacy story:
OP, there is nothing wrong with what you bring to the bedroom. If your wife has issues, she needed to bring them up in the privacy of your marriage, not to others. If it’s true that you complete her 3-4 times per session, BRAVO! I know that being married for a while and having children, can put a damper on your intimate life, but we all go through these ups and downs. Your wife is ungrateful and selfish.
In the food story, the boyfriend should've made an excuse to swap plates with OP and see how the dad reacted.
Story 1: NOPE, NTA. LEAVE HER RIGHT AWAY. The moment ANYONE blames you for an accident and tries to use that to get their way with you, YOU RUN. “My dad is dead because of you, so you shouldn’t break up with me even though I cheated on you” is HORRIFYING. That almost sounds like the set up for a horror movie about a crazy stalker, it’s so bad.
For the last story, I’m petty enough to explain to the kids that the pool is sick, so he needs to sleep it off until mommy can help heal him with the rest of the family. Then use a pool cover and allow my “employees” to reprimand the issue.
End the relationship because the emotional manipulation is insane.
right? the audacity to not clean the pool after you said you would...
im aghast! honestly she should be in jail.
Yep
Third story: NTA. He did it on purpose. He literally did a really time consuming work for half hour before the reservation. Screw him.
Story 1: nta, like she cheated and is trying to guilt trip op cuz of how fate played out that day of her dads death
Last story: "You should have seen it coming."
Weeeeeeell, she should've seen that concrete truck coming to fill in the pool.
Story 2: NTA. You stood up for yourself. You were challenged and you won. (PS I did this to my dad once in a much less vicious setting.) Flush the "better person" nonsense.
On that last story: stop blaming the partner that believed and start blaming the partner that lied.
rSlash: An eight year old who asks someone to buy them a toy is not responsible for someone's death.
Agreed. Reminds me of a line in the show Lomgmire; Jacob Nighthorse says this to Walt Longmire: "So if a man who works at a fracking company books a room in my hotel, suddenly I'm responsible for Global Warming?"
I do agree OP got to GTFO and isn’t the AH because he was a kid but the girlfriend is a solid 5/5 AH because that’s evil to hold something over someone’s head that they did when they were 8 years old
He didn't even DO anything. He was a child who wanted a toy and had no control over anyone else's actions.
He saves 5/5 for child abusers
Yep. It's also not his fault that the dad died
@@GalliaUchiha its like if i asked for someones dad to make me a steak on the grill and the grill out of sheer randomness decided to explode is that now my fault? or would it have likely exploded regardless and he would still met the same fate?
" My employees took their time off, to go to school" was hilarious and such a solid dad joke. 10/10
Story 1: No that was years ago, neither OP or the dad had any way of knowing what would happen
Story 4: note that she'll say anything but sorry and won't give any of these excuses to the group of people she embarrassed you in front of. In the way did she mean that, no way did she give that answer and meant because she couldn't feel anything after childbirth, even if I want the case why did she wait days later to explain herself in privet? Not to mention she could have mentioned what you did in foreplay giving up with a better answer the question.
^^^^^ Like, crazy how she only clarified what she meant _after_ the fact when they were by themselves, but when in front of everyone, she kept it vague enough to make people think Op sucked overall rather than that she just couldn't really feel a specific part of it
"My dad is dead because of you."
"Our relationship is dead because of you."
Story 1: Nonononono, run run run. Not only is her dad's death not his fault, but who uses her dead father to blackmail OP into a relationship? She's an actual psycho.
The ol' "I'll do 100% of the work if you agree to get it" switch. I'm kind of glad I'm not the only one who fell victim to it. For me, it was a fish tank... She loved looking at the fish, buying the fish, decorating the tank and enjoying it but I did about 90% of the work maintaining it and keeping it healthy. I also ended up being the emotional support when the fish died and she got sad about it... I was also the driver to all the pet stores to find the ones she wanted. XD
This is my dad and my sister to my mum every time they want to grow tomatoes. Always ends up mum doing 99% of the work and me helping her. I don't even like tomatoes!!
Story 2: the boyfriend AND the parents are TA, but especially the boyfriend for not IMMEDIATELY shutting the father down BOTH times OP was given tampered-with food. BF should've given his father the spicy food to demonstrate how well he could handle it and chewed him out for being rude.
Last story - Dude never should have done anything to the pool in the first place. Now his choices are: A- stop and let her deal with green, icky water, or B- give her the number a good pool service and make sure she knows she is paying for 100%, or C- (and this is my fav one) call a contractor to fill it in with cement and be done with it entirely.
Story 2
Okay but if Op didnt eat the food then the dad would be upset about him wasting food. The dad gets a bigger score. And honestly he never would have eaten it if his bf stood up for him more.
Dad gets 2 outa 5 for basically poisoning Op and being such a horid host.
Bf gets 1 outa 5 for not sticking up for Op and not getting Op the new seasoned food himself since he knew his parents didnt like Op
Op gets 0 outs 5 hes the victim, taken to a hostile environment, being judged by home country, and had he refused the food at any point would be judged for that.
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O problems story
Its cuz they are using the toys wrong 😂
Use the buzzer while shes on top.
Get a s*x therapist now!
This.
Story 3-- I HATE it when people are late. My job involves a lot of time-based things, and when people are late, it means their experience is cut short and they lose the money they put into it. This has translated into my personal life-- if you make plans and someone doesn't value your time, either by arriving late or blowing off those plans, then why spend any more time on them or wait around for them? NTA. OP had a commitment, and her husband didn't value her time.
Story 4: Especially with context, that was a really mean comment, like she straight up told OP that he is ULTRA terrible at s3x, heck based on the reactions from other people, it made everyone THAT uncomfortable.
"Too sensitive" my arse, I guess everyone else was "too sensitive" then since they weren't comfortable from the comment either
It could’ve been the drinks that made her say it like that for sure. She should apologize for saying that to them. I did however think that she meant by penetration when she said that. She probably misses enjoying that.
Straight women have told me there is a difference between the real thing and a toy.
Story 1: RUN!! Run fast and run far. That is toxic af.
Story 3: He didn't want to go out. It doesn't matter what he was doing there is no kind of working on your car that takes 5 minutes, and even then he would still doing it when it was time to go.
But it wasn't enough for him to get out of going he wanted you to miss your own birthday celebration because he didn't want to go, so he can take his her feelings and shove it where the sun don't shine. This was your day and the barebone minimum he could do is not try to ruin it by being selfish and petty.
As someone who works on and does mods to their car, even what should be a 15 minute project can turn to multiple hours. I would never start something 30 minutes before I needed to go to my wife's birthday dinner.
like rslash said, that first girl is either psychopathic for getting with the guy she believes killed her dad just so she can cheat, or sociopathic for manipulating OP with his own displaced guilt - which by the way, that accident was no-one's fault, especially not OP's.
Last story: it’s only a losing battle until you give in. The wife is clearly acting like a child. It’s time to show her that actions have consequences.
Last Story: I think OP's best course of action is to just do nothing. Let your kids know that it's the mom's responsibility to handle the upkeep and wait to see how long before she complains about it. She's calling you on your bluff, so prove your point. Do not handle it anymore. She'll either cave or want it gotten rid of.
Wow, wonder how long that girl was holding on to that card for. She really thought she had the ultimate "get out of jail free" card
If she really blamed him she wouldn't have dated him
Story one, an 8 or 9 year old is never responsible for a death like that! Holy cow! Talk about messed up!
Story 2:OP was in a battlefield of hell and survived,let's all pay respects to his tongue,stomache and especially his AH
Man,That first comment was golden😂😂😂
Story 1: OP that's not your fault, you didn't cause the accident, and you couldn't have predicted it was going to happen.
So if anything you should dumper her for cheating, and go completely NC for the horrific guilt tripping she tried to pull on you. Her reasoning doesn't matter, no answer is going to make her less toxic.
The pool story had me roaring with laughter! ‘My employees had to take time off to attend school’! 😂😂😂 When my husband and I were house hunting in the States, neither of us were interested in a pool. If the right house can along and it had a pool, the first we’d have done is hire a company to fill that thing in! No thank you. He did want a hot tub, which is lovely to have, but I told him he was in charge of that bad boy. I’ve never done anything with it other than enjoy it. We’ve no issues at all. OP should have stuck to his guns from day one! It’d be fabulous if he hired a company to fill it in, remove it, on a Saturday. Set up his lawn chair and enjoy the shite show! His wife is a prat. How much does she actually use the pool? Probably once every few months.
While everyone’s commenting on Story 1, I’m gonna comment on Story 4: as a women, I can vouch that 3-4 o’s in one session is INCREDIBLE. Personally I’ve only experienced maybe 2-3 via one session, and a majority of the time having to do it myself. So I don’t know what the hell OP’s wife is talking about when she says she isn’t satisfied, and I agree with rSlash that her comment was just straight up mean.
Both of my parents are notorious for running late. Mum gets distracted so is late getting ready. Dad tends to not even start getting his shoes or coat on until mum's going to start the car, then forgot something upstairs or had to use the bathroom, or had to give the cat water... when everyone is already in the car. And he gets pissed if she honks lol
Story 2: “You should have been the bigger person…”
Me: queue the worlds biggest eye roll. “GFY dude.”
Also, for the record, NTA. That father is a stubborn POS who lost his own game, and OP was expected to apologize!? My dude, run. This is NOT a family you want to affiliate yourself with.
Seriously, how is this a EHS??? OP literally didn't do anything to deserve getting mistreated. Putting himself thru pain just made his BF's family uncomfortable WHICH IS THE POINT. They're the one singling him out. Also i definitely feel there is homophobia going on, even if they say they accept him. It's not just classism.
Eh OP lost imo, yeah he ate the food, but all he did was give the father the satisfaction of watching him suffer
In his shoes I’d have been like “oh this is a little too much for me” and poured a bunch in the fathers meal, then the balls in his court, either he shuts up and eats it, or he has to admit he made it too spicy for even himself, the former has him in pain and the latter makes him look like the jackass he is
@@HobieInTheBoxThey made OP uncomfortable so OP made them uncomfortable
@@3adgamd3rOr he could tell his bf, “if your dad isn’t going to feed me the same food as the rest of the family, I won’t be eating with your family”
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012Yeah that is easier said than done, the parents could've easily turned around and accused OP of being disrespectful for not eating with them. OP loses either way
I always interpret lateness as a sign that you do not respect me unless there was a genuine emergency or adverse event that caused it.
The last story feels like such a weird take.
"I cant believe you didn't expect your wife to lie to you! Silly OP, you should've seen it coming."
Like...huh?
Yeah, I'm not sure he's ok. To think this behavior is normal is to imply that he goes through it constantly.
I'd really like to believe that Rslash isn't in a toxic relationship, but yeah I think he's misjudged the seriousness of the situation a bit. Maybe he lowered his guard because of the lighthearted jokes OP made, or maybe his partner being a bit irresponsible with chores isn't a dealbreaker for him. We don't know what OP's overall relationship dynamic is either, and they didn't indicate that there's any underlying issues with the wife. Maybe, even, Rslash is just tired of having to judge toxic people and wants to give her the benefit of the doubt?
Anyway, imo OP shouldn't just brush it off. The wife keeps frustrating and invalidating him, so they should have a serious talk about it before problems build up. Hopefully, it turns out to be a minor issue that they can find compromise on.
1st story: Dump that hoarfrost. Her dad would be ashamed of her.
(Am a woman myself) What I'm going to comment on here is not true for every woman, afab person, etc. Just want to share what I've learned in my own s3xual wellness journey and by doing some research.
A lot of women are generally able to "finish" multiple times in a session (they have the potential to, sometimes it takes work to find out what works for them in the first place though) as it doesn't take most of our bodies the extra cooldown time that most men/amab people generally need between finishing. Some women are able to finish from penetration, but not all. It's only a small percentage who can (can't remember exact numbers but I am pretty sure it's less than 40%). But that's why what the OP is doing in the bedroom is important: if both partners are able to finish, regardless of the ways that that is happening, as long as it's consensual then that's awesome! OP sounds like he works hard to prioritize her pleasure, and I appreciate that. There have been relationships where I have felt used if it is just penetration, as I typically do not finish from it without outside help (toys are great, highly recommend).
What I'm trying to say is - in the intimacy story, from what we're hearing from OP, he sounds like a great partner in the bedroom. He gets her off, and then afterward gets to finish himself. It sounds like a great time to me, and I've always appreciated when partners are willing to prioritize my pleasure first before they finish themselves (as their "cooldown" time is longer than mine and I can keep going for them). If his wife is having issues, she should talk to him privately about those rather than embarrassing him in front of people (friends, even) in public. That's super disrespectful, and just straight up mean. Like, what the heck? Do you even like him?? I'm not a huge fan of public shaming in general, and will say that in this situation it's even MORE uncalled for because if OP's story is truthful, he is a very good and thoughtful partner.
I feel bad for him. If what's going on isn't working for her, she needs to communicate about it. He seems like a reasonable guy, and like he would be open and receptive to trying to help her receive pleasure in other ways if the current ones are no longer working. OMG it's like he loves her or something! Lol
I wish him the best.
Story 1: NTA. That level of manipulation says a lot about someone's character. Run Forest, run!
More like "Run away and Never return, Simba"
ESH on the second post, BF could do a **lot** more to rein in his bigoted parents but he doesn’t.
The bf who got mad at his partner for eating the overspiced food and barely even attempted to defend his boyfriend is actually the biggest AH in that story.
5:34 bro what? No!
Also as someone who has gorged down painful spicy foods, I never had it bother me the next day. Not even in my stool
5:57 I mean what? No one was questioning that!
6:43 I just don’t agree. OP is petty revenge. Not the same thing!
14:25 obvious bait and switch? Seen what coming? Nothing came! Wha-? She’s gonna do the pool whether she likes it or not
Capsaicin remains active even after exposure to stomach acid and the alkalinity of the rest of the gi tract, a lot of people regret eating spicy foods because of the dreaded round 2.
Not everyone is affected granted, but still
@@BeefMeisterSupreme mmmm
Story 4: It's disrespectful to EVERYONE attending the dinner for him to be late, but especially to OP when the dinner is to celebrate her birthday. Since she provides the context that he makes them late to everything she just needs to keep leaving him for events to hold him accountable.
Story 2: no argument here the dad is the worst person in this entire story, and I get what OP was trying to do. But in the end I'm pretty sure the guys not losing sleep over you almost killing yourself eating food that you described "unedible". Plus you ended up cutting your BF 3 days of his vacation taking care of you. I got nothing against being petty and flexing on some dirtbag, but not at your own risk.
I wonder how many uploads before rslash realizes he's still on pre DST schedule... or admits he changed to mess with us lol
Second story, OP should have swapped plates with his BF's dad.
That "most obvious bait and switch in the history of marriage" comment makes me wonder what slashes wife tricked him into buying 😂
Blaming OP for the GF’s dad’s death is like blaming the holocaust on ArchDuke Franz Ferdinand’s limo driver.
Like, yes. *Technically* they are responsible for the circumstances that allowed the tragedy to happen, but it’s not like they knew the butterfly effect of their innocent action in the moment, and also that’s ignoring that there’s someone else who is directly responsible.
In the case: whoever was at fault for the accident.
Story #1. 1, it's not his fault there was a car accident. 2. He was 8 YEARS OLD! How is an 8 year old responsible for a car accident? 3. I'm guessing he's got a long history with the gf and she's been manipulating him for years but his guilt doesn't see it. She's toxic and he's better off without her.
Fourth story: I have PCOS so I rarely, if ever, finish. I get more joy out of helping my fiance anyway. OP's wife is being a major AH.
I have PCOS too but have as many O’s. as I want,
Especially with toys. Trying to figure out what PCOS has to do with an orgasm unless it’s just pain involved with your fiancé being inside?? Maybe adding some toys to your bedroom time would help? I think everyone deserves a good O in the bedroom!
Story 1: She needs a therapist, not a boyfriend.
Not sure if you can give a score over 5/5 but that first one makes a strong case
1:20 honestly it would never have occurred to me that I should feel guilty because *_I wasn’t there_*
6:10 there was nothing to apologise. You could’ve had your spicy meal and eat it too. And do what Discount Mithral said for you to tell them as well as the fact that you are self made high ranking in your career and all that. Do they not know? Better wait until they change. The 2 of you should go no contact and if they don’t try and then tell them about your job and money that way they can realise their mistake while knowing their son won’t talk to them again. Ya know?
Last one:
Stop cleaning the pool
If she doesn't step up to clean it -
Fill in the pool.
Her lies should have consequences.
RSlash really puted himself on the "O" count 😬 3-4 doesn't even qualify for a quickie in my household. I know it's different for different sets of partners but 15-20 is her current average for the usual 2 hours start to finish, about 6-8 for a quickie.
Story 1: This is one of the easiest and obvious NTA I had ever given. OP, LEAVE. THAT. WOMAN. NOW.
People who are religiously late are just rude…no excuses. It’s just rude and unacceptable
Last Story... imagine if this was a man skipping out on some housework, whether or not explicitly agreed to, and an OP wife complaing. Don't be a misandrist.
Final story: He still has an out ,D. He just has to have the pool filled in and turned into a rock garden.
What idiot suddenly decides to work on their car half an hour before an important family event? Especially since (apparently) OP had her own vehicle? That was totally deliberate. The husband was pulling a power trip, plain and simple. Good for OP not letting him get away with it. And the fact that he didn't bother showing up at the restaurant shows how little he cared about spending time with his family on his wife's birthday. Major red flags there.
Growing up, my dad was also notoriously late. We got to the point of telling him things were earlier than they actually were so he could be some semblance of on time. Unfortunately that didn't effect Christmas one year.
I was about 13 years old. We had all of my siblings and I, my stepmom, and both of my dad's parents waiting patiently for my dad to..................
FIX THE BATHROOM FAUCETS.
We still haven't let him live it down. I'm 40 now.
How many kids were left sitting, starting at their presents with forlorn looks on our faces? 4. There were 4 of us with two other parents holding cameras and one trying to keep breakfast warm.
Edit: I forgot to add that any time a new person would come over for Christmas after that (like spouces to be and such) we would continue to get him back for that one Christmas 27 years ago, by telling them the story. It's almost its own tradition at this point lol.
Drain the pool and fill it in. Way too much maintenance.
Intimacy story is a bit strange you can’t tighten yourself up… it doesn’t work that way! Toys or tools doesn’t matter, it doesn’t loosen after childbirth!
11:50 I'd say if the data is only percentage of women who finish during sessions and not number of times per session, then your answer is "less than once every session"
12:15 I don't think I've ever had a partner in at least the last 10 years or more that didn't finish a bare minimum of 10 times every single session...
I'm laughing at the idea that the Moroccan government employee parents are doing world-changing work.
Late husband story has a couple updates. OP mentions that she used to be a SAHM up until a few years ago, which is also when her husband began being late to all types of family events. She mentions that he's always on time for work and when he's supposed to hang out with friends. She went out with her friends and her husband was supposed to drop their kids off at a birthday party. OP gets a phone call from her oldest when they were supposed to be at the party, tells her that their dad refused to take them and berated them for asking if he could. OP takes them to the party, makes up her mind about the divorce; and in another update she tells him that she wants one and he tells her it's fine, that he wants nothing to do with the family
Anyone who uses a family member's death to guilt trip their partner into staying, regardless of whether or not cheating took place, doesn't deserve the joy of a relationship, period.
God, first story reminded me of the book, The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Main character had blamed himself for the death of his aunt, who died in a car crash while she was on her way to get him a birthday present.
Of course, if you've read that book yourself, then you'll know that is nowhere near the saddest part of the book.
I honestly don't think Wife did anything wrong in the orgasm story.
All she said is "Sex with him does nothing for me"
She's not complaining about not having orgasms SHES ANSWERING A QUESTION THAT WAS ASKED
And 90% of the time when someone says "sex" they're usually referring to some form of penetration. It is NOT an insult to your partner to say "I get nothing from penetration" it's a fact.
Is it upsetting to hear that? Yes, but that doesn't mean she's trying to emasculate OP. She stated a fact.
Most hetero men I've known consider 0-1 "O" for their partner to be enough. The women who passionately hug women that I've known tend to see 4-6 "O"s as normal. So, in my opinion, the dude giving his partner 3-4 "O"s before starting to do what gives him his "O" is ahead of the curve
Last story: Rslash literally gives the wife a lighter rating “because it was obvious.”
Rslash victim blaming a man for trusting his wife’s word
Rslash is notoriously a misandrist. He blames men in general for things. Just noticing?
@@bethanyboarder7751 oh yeah, like the time he listened to a story where a narcissist detailed the most elaborate and brutal workplace psychological abuse I’ve ever heard, described how she make the work-place EXTREMELY hostile and the only justification for it she gave was that “he disagreed with her.” That’s real BTW. It was a few years ago, and it’s really hard to find (so take what I have to say with a grain of salt until you do).
Credit where it’s due, OP was a narcissist so the vast majority of the comment section ALSO missed it, but that doesn’t change the fact that OP explicitly labeled her abuse ACCURATELY, and he described all this as “genius” and went on to say how “satisfying it is to see the tables get turned on this guy,” despite the fact that no one said he did the things OP was doing. Not to OP, or anyone else.
I’m forced to assume that the “tables being turned” are that it’s workplace bullying being done by a woman to a man, and not the other way around, which is SUCH a fucked up thing to think.
Also, there have been countless times over the years where he’s said these objectively, by giving women lower scores than nearly identical situations where the genders are reversed.
@@RealCoolstriker64 I am fully aware of that. I have been noticing it for a long time and it pisses me off. Why is he so anti-man When he's a man himself?
Working cars in general involves oil and dirt not just on the engine Fun fact a drive shaft runs underneath the car And dirt is usually thrown onto it Suspension what is that in that's in the wheel housing where's the wheel housing where the wheel is And what gets thrown in there more dirt All inches of a car when it comes to work except for the interior involved dirt
S.1. Nta. You were 8, you didn't kill him. She's manipulating you 100%. She cheated let her know it was an accident and I was 8, a kid. You cheated at 19 not a kid, goodbye
Late husband story: I can’t even imagine being in this guys shoes, I try to arrive at important events with like 20-30 min to spare. Being at time to leave and not even vaguely prepared, that’s not average lateness, that’s deliberate.
About the pool, you should get some lilies and a couple of ducks for your cement pond. oh, don't forget the coy.
The pool story is really cute, the fact that he called his kids his “employees” he loves those kids bad.
I'm a pleasure, Dom, and usually 5-7 O's is when the safe word comes out. Once, got a very stubborn partner up to 11, but she walked like a newborn deer for the rest of the day.
I live with my brother and his wife. When they were house hunting, she wanted a house with a pool. My brother said that all 3 of us had to take care of the pool. After 4 years, she hasn’t cleaned the pool once. It’s always been my brother and I
Awesome! Thanks. Would love to see an R/entitledParents story again soon
that pool would be filled with concrete by the end of the day
Story 2: there is a much simpler way this situation could have been avoided: ASK OP WHAT HIS SPICE LEVEL IS!
Where I live, there are a ton of restaurants that serve spicy food where you can determine your level of spice. And if a food is typically pretty spicy, you ask the person what their level of spice is. You don't just make assumptions
That first story reminds me of another AITA story where OPs dad died taking her to the hospital and the mom just constantly blamed her for it.