My Thai Wife Died of AIDS

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 มิ.ย. 2024
  • In this emotionally charged video, we delve into the devastating story of a British man who unknowingly spent eight years of his life married to a Thai woman who carried a hidden secret. It was only on the day his beloved wife passed away that he discovered the unimaginable truth-she had been living with HIV all along and had chosen to keep it a secret from him.
    Prepare to be moved as we navigate this heartrending journey, where love, trust, and truth intersect in ways that will leave you questioning the boundaries of love and the strength of the human spirit. This video is a poignant reminder of the power of honesty and the dire consequences of silence within the most intimate relationships. #thairishtimes #thailand #phuket
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    00:00 Intro
    01:13 Moving to Thailand & My First Thai Girlfriend
    08:26 Moving from Pattaya to Phuket
    11:12 The 2004 Tsunami
    12:17 Married life in Phuket
    15:21 My Thai Wife dies from AIDS
    25:59 How I dealt with my wife's death
    30:05 Changing my name to Hong Kong Phooey
    33:28 How do you deal with the unanswered questions?

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  • @yourdadsvan6763
    @yourdadsvan6763 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +474

    Thank you Pete for letting my share my story. Nothing but love. ❤

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      It was a pleasure Gary, wishing you nothing but the best

    • @lawell2006
      @lawell2006 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Well done Gary for being brave and sharing you're story. Very heartbreaking. Big love to you.

    • @yourdadsvan6763
      @yourdadsvan6763 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@lawell2006 thank you.

    • @andyburton8346
      @andyburton8346 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I recently heard a very similar story on Thai talk with Dan

    • @dgs931
      @dgs931 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Keep strong fella best of luck ;)

  • @deeeeeee988
    @deeeeeee988 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +826

    I think it's absolutly disgusting that a person would not disclose a potentially life ending desease to their husband /wife

    • @SG-wx8zm
      @SG-wx8zm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +106

      I used to work with HIV patients. There was a patient I remember who contracted HIV in Thailand and point blank refused to tell his wife. This was despite doctors telling him that if the wife became sick and died, he would be facing serious criminal charges.

    • @SG-wx8zm
      @SG-wx8zm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      Did she even know? I met a 72 year old lady who was diagnosed late in life and genuinely couldn’t even recall how she’d gotten infected.

    • @patremagilbert682
      @patremagilbert682 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Terrible

    • @donaldlangdon
      @donaldlangdon 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      many dont in the thai bar industry

    • @tsitsidzumbunu7968
      @tsitsidzumbunu7968 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Sad story

  • @zandilenkabinde9058
    @zandilenkabinde9058 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +259

    It is cruel to knowingly have unprotected sex when you know you’re HIV positive.

    • @daughterofenoch677
      @daughterofenoch677 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      It's a rough world these people live in. They do what they have to do.

    • @JohnS-gf4sz
      @JohnS-gf4sz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Cruel? Beating your dog for pissing on your carpet is cruel. This kind of shit is straight evil...

    • @sugarpuff2978
      @sugarpuff2978 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@JohnS-gf4szYou think beating a dog is okay??

    • @JohnS-gf4sz
      @JohnS-gf4sz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sugarpuff2978 Where in your peanut sized brain did you come to that conclusion?

    • @tinam761
      @tinam761 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      She may not have known …

  • @pysiux7371
    @pysiux7371 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +245

    My husband secretly traveled to foreign countries and he was cheating when he was supposed to be traveling for work. Once i found out i never shared a bed with him again. I divorced him and have lost all trust in men. I praise God daily that i never contracted anything from my ex Please always be honest with the people you claim to love. Im praying for everyone who has been hurt by their spouses and hope your lives will be blessed. 🙏🏾❤

    • @user-ng6ed9er4y
      @user-ng6ed9er4y 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      I had to go throught the same thing except that I was pregnant when he did that. I am happily divorced now. Cant blame the prostitutes, they are just working...

    • @candyluna2929
      @candyluna2929 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Yuck...he was probably with underage girls. I wouldn't want him to have custody of the kids

    • @thisisme3238
      @thisisme3238 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Lady, you made the right move...letting him go!

    • @nenala7684
      @nenala7684 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Now how did you figure he was sleeping around? Foreign women don't call or text lol

    • @lifeisimportantkate
      @lifeisimportantkate 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I agree that happened to me. I cried when I found out. I ran to the clinic to get tested. I was cleared of all STDs I divorced him straight away.

  • @tashaw3636
    @tashaw3636 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +346

    As a nurse ive had so many patients from Asia talk about the hepatitis epidemic there as well. Always get tested in the beginning of a relationship and if your partner not willing to get tested may be hiding something. I hope this man will find healing and peace of mind.

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      While Hep is curable most people have no idea that you can buy a used Lamborghini for the same amount as a full treatment course.

    • @ivoted7199
      @ivoted7199 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Good advice!

    • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
      @pearlperlitavenegas2023 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@SwethaG-tu8qgabsolutely!

    • @jumpiam8477
      @jumpiam8477 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      When I applied for a green card, I need to provide a document to prove that I am free from all the transfered diseases. I forgot what is that form call.

    • @hanawolfgang
      @hanawolfgang 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Wdym u had so many patients from asia? You live in asia? 😂 Asia is not a country yk

  • @indiragandhi6445
    @indiragandhi6445 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +285

    As an Asian woman this is my advise: most of these foreigners have been in too many countries and most are into different women too so be very careful in dealing with them. If you happen to have a relationship with them, take extra precautions by not dealing with unprotected sex or better yet submit to a test..your health is the most important. Dont just get in bed with them. A momentary flirtations could cause you your life...in the same manner than men should do the same. If a woman in just firrst meeting or 2 get in bed with you, you know then what she does or did with other men..i think i would sound judgmental with this statement but please take this as just a word of caution

    • @pamspencer5733
      @pamspencer5733 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Alot of men are bisexual! And don't use protection! Use a condom every time,trust nobody. So many people lie, it's deadly🕵️

    • @SG-wx8zm
      @SG-wx8zm 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's true; a large number of people with HIV do not even know that they have it.

    • @AnotherTruth
      @AnotherTruth 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Very safe advice. Thank you

    • @meeshiemaya
      @meeshiemaya 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What about the Asian women?! You must be angels, aren't you?! Even a bellend assumes silence when required! Supposedly, everything is wrong with you!😅😂

    • @meeshiemaya
      @meeshiemaya 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@AnotherTruth; and right as rain!😅 Hehehe🎉
      Utterly diabolical!

  • @gisgndecan0111
    @gisgndecan0111 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    As an outsider and not related, I felt a strong relief hearing the test was negative!!! All the best to you, Gary!!!

  • @exnihilo415
    @exnihilo415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +439

    This is exactly why with any relationship you get serious about, always go with them to the doctor and do a full STD panel. It costs almost nothing and then you both have piece of mind. People will spend enormous amounts of money on a relationship and then not even do the most basic bit of healthcare. Boggles the mind.

    • @user-jh8no1zb9e
      @user-jh8no1zb9e 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      i dont know anyone thats ever done that

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      @@user-jh8no1zb9e Annnnnd that’s why STIs are such a big problem. Stigma and negligence.

    • @graerindley6312
      @graerindley6312 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      different people feel differently about risks, freedom of choice.

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      @@graerindley6312 Obviously. You’re welcome to play a dozen games of Russian roulette if you wish. I won’t stop you. Go right ahead. Be my guest. I’m not in a relationship with you.

    • @packageism
      @packageism 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Not all of enter into relationships with bar girls and dubious women

  • @lawell2006
    @lawell2006 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +231

    Very brave man for discussing such a painful part of his past. I wish him all the best in his future. A genuinely nice guy. Much love.

    • @glengamble526
      @glengamble526 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      He seems like a really good man. Such a sad story.

    • @lovepower1440
      @lovepower1440 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      How fo you know ???? Just because he talked ???? 😢😢😢😮😮😮

    • @thisisme3238
      @thisisme3238 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Personally, I feel sorry for this guy. He knows he will have Aids soon and that he will die from it.

    • @suemount6042
      @suemount6042 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thisisme3238he’s tested negative this time so it’s not a forgone conclusion that he will develop HIV and AIDS down the line hopefully he wont

    • @htenajsantos8232
      @htenajsantos8232 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@lovepower1440😂😂😂

  • @spazmonkey3815
    @spazmonkey3815 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I worked on an AIDS floor in a hospital for 7 years in the 80's (as an RN).
    My question for this obviously devastated man is: How could you not tell she had AIDS? They become tremendously ill with many different diseases at the same time. The muscle wasting alone should have been a red flag months before her death.
    BTW it is difficult but not impossible for a woman to give a man AIDS. It depend a lot on the type of unprotected sex one has.

  • @domestix1
    @domestix1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

    I hope this poor man and their daughter can find peace.The fact he doesn’t blame her and still loves her shows how much they loved one another

    • @fs5775
      @fs5775 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Gary seems like a lovely man

    • @kiwioffgrid2437
      @kiwioffgrid2437 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If she loved him then she would have used protection to avoid passing on her HIV/AIDS.

  • @user-ng6ed9er4y
    @user-ng6ed9er4y 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    How irresponsible, negligent and ignorant is, not to tell your partner that you have AIDS!!! sure she knew it. The fact that AIDS wasnt detected in blood tests, it doesnt mean that there is no risk of developing the illness. I dont understand these relationships with Thai women, zero communication, sexually transmitted diseases, drugs, affairs, infected lovers, no real intimacy, everything is allowed except true love.

    • @Rif-hq9ki
      @Rif-hq9ki 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      This day and age who doesn't know Thailand is a red light district. Proceed with caution with those women.

    • @Valerie-gn1rr
      @Valerie-gn1rr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      So glad to read your comment! I don't understand many of these relationships either and how naive many men seem to get when in contact to these women.. It's seems that genuine love, without money transactions, doesn't seem to interest these men anymore.

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you interested in knitting your own shirt? No? So that's why you rather buy it.
      There are a lot of foreigners here who are interested in love but do NOT seek it with pleasure girls. The relationship with them is business, service (sex) for money. Both needs should be separated. Many foreigners can't do that.
      If you are looking for a love relationship here, your chances are most probably not better than at home, I would even guess worse due to a lack of cultural understanding and language skills. It needs effort, too.

    • @davidb2206
      @davidb2206 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True love is not possible for millions of men. They would prefer it, but it is not an option. Also, the testosterone-driven sex instinct is INTENSE, especially in younger men (and thank God for that, which is why we all are here). What would YOU have them do?

  • @TheYoyozo
    @TheYoyozo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    My heart breaks for his loss. I am also frustrated at how her isolation probably cost her the chance to get the medical care she needed. Looking back, there were already very good treatments that were available for people with AIDS.

  • @joelb099
    @joelb099 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +146

    Sad story, but for many thai "working women" , a true story.I also had known a beautiful thai woman (she passed away from aids at age 38. Her name was Kaya. Her story was this: Kaya started working in Nana Go go dance bars from age 17- 25.. Got too old for the bars at age 25, had stashed away some substantial money, so decided to go to school and earned a business degree in just 3 years from bangkok university. But heres where the trouble starts : she had a nice job at a company doing their marketing for a decent salary but Kaya wanted more $.. So at age 32, she went back to into prostitution and became a freelancer only on the weekends. And her regular job never knew the wiser.. She had her own website and was very discrete. But somewhere between age 34-36 she contracted Aids from a client, as she had a policy that if the client paid substantially more money, he wouldnt have to use a condom..I met Kaya just 2 1/2 years before she passed away at my GF's house and the ONLY reason she shared her life story with me is because she knew her health was in major decline and had already been diagnosed by the hospital...One of her best friend is also my thai girlfriend.She looked very sick and frail having no energy and she figured she had nothing to hide so she sat there for an hour and told me her story in broken english...Let this be a lesson to all western guys: Yes , thai women are drop dead georgeous at age 35... but what did she do for work to make all that $$$??... ask yourself that question and get her tested, before you decide not to use the condom.

    • @didiermo7523
      @didiermo7523 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Bro i even get scared of having sex with a condom

    • @MariAngelical23
      @MariAngelical23 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Thanks for the advice
      If only people would know.

    • @AmberU
      @AmberU 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I agree you can’t just be reckless because your driven by lust

    • @AfricanUSA-th9ov
      @AfricanUSA-th9ov 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      He Was Chasing After Women With Money And Be Reckless. If You Listen To Him, He Got A Settlement From His First Marriage Before Going To Thailand. He Is Going Back To Thailand To Look For Another Rich Call Girl's.

    • @Iflie
      @Iflie 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Yeah even here in the Netherlands a prostitute who had a whole family said she'd not use a condom for extra money and if he seemed trustworthy. The very definition of a guy who goes to prostitutes and likes not using a condom makes them untrustworthy. And that woman had zero reason to do that for the money. She could end up infecting her husband and she had young kids to care for.
      You can imagine young poor women have very little choice when it comes to condom use at work but some women make terrible choices by themselves.

  • @annaking1375
    @annaking1375 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This was a great piece. Thank you both for sharing!!!

  • @nimblemonkey
    @nimblemonkey 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thanks for sharing your story! Wishing you all the best, mate.

  • @kolis_lady
    @kolis_lady 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    wow, this popped up on my feed and I’m so glad I watched. Thanks so much for sharing. Amazing story.💯

  • @patriciarowe6685
    @patriciarowe6685 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Sending you nothing but love Gary. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

  • @Zabel72
    @Zabel72 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thanks for sharing
    Your story Gary Big respect
    It touched me deeply
    Sending good energy and thoughts your way 🙏

  • @taxitoloei2055
    @taxitoloei2055 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    I sincerely wish Gary and his daughter well after such a traumatic loss.

  • @marshalmichael129
    @marshalmichael129 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for sharing with us this heartfelt story.

  • @Cosmic_Code
    @Cosmic_Code 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Thanks for taking these taboo stories up with great serious journalism. You have a serious angle and i always respect that. I settled in the first minutes here and already feel sorry for the guy.... Hope things will be better. Greetings/Denmark

  • @rubyparchment5523
    @rubyparchment5523 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Condolences, Sir. Dealing with a death is hard enough, but to have a shock is too much.

  • @hawaiianborn1044
    @hawaiianborn1044 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    With all respect, the wife had AIDS for quite a good bit! Clearly, all who knew and her situation kept it from you. As that was just cruel and wrong!

    • @marcK599.
      @marcK599. 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Are you sure she knew she had it? You’re an expert

    • @mermaid30019
      @mermaid30019 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@marcK599. he said the signs was there so she definitely knew. She lied and told him it was a blood issue.

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What about the farang who might have given it to her in the first place? One of those crybabies who think a condom ruins their manhood and pleasure?

  • @JuneK618
    @JuneK618 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Oh gosh what a heartbreaking story. Sorry for your loss Gary. Thank you for sharing such a personal loss. I wish you the best with your daughter. You’re a very inspiring person. ❤

  • @jimcraiggeezer
    @jimcraiggeezer 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Absolutely great interview.. very open fella.. wish him and his daughter all the best 🙏.

  • @BillonBass
    @BillonBass 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    My condolences to you. What a story. Very brave to share it. I can’t even imagine what you’ve gone through. Hold those close to you tight. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @asdasdfasfasdfasdf
    @asdasdfasfasdfasdf 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I commend your strength Gary, truly incredible. Hope things go well for you when you return to Phuket, best.

  • @tingtongtom...droneoperato2440
    @tingtongtom...droneoperato2440 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Keep up the great work you do. Though I’m weary of watching this story I look forward to your positive demeanour. Thank you. I hope to get through this. Best to you.

  • @jjjjjjjjooolllllllllll8395
    @jjjjjjjjooolllllllllll8395 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your story

  • @worldview2134
    @worldview2134 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +136

    Amazing person. A absolute blessing he didn’t get HIV.
    Pete is an absolute amazing soul. I loved this interview.

    • @particleinthewave8378
      @particleinthewave8378 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As long as she was using her meds and had an undetectable viral load she cannot pass along the HIV virus

    • @omega-nf5ku
      @omega-nf5ku 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Chances of getting hiv from unprotected vaginal sex with an HIV+ partner is 1 out of 10000 thousand. Not a blessing at all

    • @essohnalvine154
      @essohnalvine154 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes he didn't have because she wasn't a hoe and stop having body counts and most importantly taking her medication very effectively so he will be fine

    • @Kekaweek
      @Kekaweek 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Why have I never found a story of a woman sexually transmitting it to a man?

    • @omega-nf5ku
      @omega-nf5ku 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Kekaweek it almost rarely happens unless its anal sex

  • @crx5555
    @crx5555 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks for sharing the story it's very interesting

  • @davebull5379
    @davebull5379 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    That is shocking, the poor guy. He has such a good look back attitude so clearly a good man. Hope everything works out for him.

  • @roustabout4fun
    @roustabout4fun 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Heavy stuff! Sorry for his loss. Gosh, quite a story and wish him well.

  • @ccarey3574
    @ccarey3574 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So sorry for your loss Gary, and thank you for sharing your story.

  • @marialuna0325
    @marialuna0325 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So sorry thank you for sharing your story I know it can’t be easy and I am so sorry for your loss I send my condolences to you and your family ❤️🙏🏼

  • @didiermo7523
    @didiermo7523 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Lovely man. Thank you for sharing your story. My condolences to you and your family. Your a great guy mate.

  • @rickysackfield8796
    @rickysackfield8796 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great video pete so sad 😢

  • @mrrob6730
    @mrrob6730 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Brave. Good luck going forward mate!

  • @heleng9940
    @heleng9940 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    So sorry for your loss Garry. A very kind and compassionate man.

  • @margarettownsley9500
    @margarettownsley9500 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    Big respect to Gary for sharing such a personal story that takes guts especially when he’s still in the process of emotionally hurting I wish him all the best for his future thank you both Pete & Gary

  • @sickbuffalo9902
    @sickbuffalo9902 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    Sorry for your loss Gary.
    Myself and my mate used to go to Thailand a lot and had two regular girlfriends my mate became unwell about 14 years ago due to the fact he had caught HIV, he contacted the Thai girlfriend who he had finished with a couple of years before and she had the test and was also HIV positive.Ever time I visited Thailand me and the wife would meet up with his ex girlfriend as she was a friend of mine and the wife.5 years ago we celebrated new years eve together and we returned home a few days later.6 weeks later we got the call that she had died of Hiv.
    The girl had been in a long term relationship with a older falang for about 8 years and like Garry I dont believe he new and still doesn't to this day.

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      You might want to tell him about it so that he can take ARVs and other necessary medication if he needs to, to boost his immunity and to prolong his life.

    • @welikegoodies
      @welikegoodies 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      She was a friend that didn’t tell your mate or the new guy she had hiv?
      Knowingly handing out death sentences to men? Sorry but that’s not what I’d call a friend. It’s frightening.

    • @mamahustru
      @mamahustru 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So older falang is spreading HIV unknowingly and you are ok with that?

    • @africaine4889
      @africaine4889 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@welikegoodiesexactly

    • @continuousself-improvement1879
      @continuousself-improvement1879 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Tell him.

  • @feonjun
    @feonjun 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    This man has gone through a lot. Me growing up in that part of the world, it's an unfortunate that a lot of poor and desperate women living in that part of the world have to do what it takes to survive and provide for the family. This is not to take away this man's struggles. I feel for him.

    • @loisaustin6200
      @loisaustin6200 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      My heart breaks for him, one of the saddest stories I've heard in a long time. I wish him well and send prayers.

    • @feonjun
      @feonjun 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@loisaustin6200 It's a sad state of the world. I know it's *_"What If"_* type of thing to say, but it need to be said. Imagine if the west stopped meddling in Asia's political affairs since the end of WW2, but, instead, help Asian countries and making money at the same time for the west, it would be a better world.

  • @beverlyhills7883
    @beverlyhills7883 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Decent, dignified, respectful. We can all learn from this bloke about how to live our lives when adversity comes a knocking.

    • @MsAchampion
      @MsAchampion 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is off topic butbi simply adore the way that you all say bloke. Love it! 😊❤

  • @jim.pearsall
    @jim.pearsall 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Such a sad situation… heart breaking. 😢 Take one step at a time forward. 🙏🏻

  • @Deanoj77
    @Deanoj77 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanx for sharing your sad story mate . Very brave of you! All the best in the future.

  • @frankiefourfingers6717
    @frankiefourfingers6717 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Gary - Serious respect to you for sharing. My sincere condolences to you and your daughter. May the future bring you happiness and peace.

  • @summerbreeze7066
    @summerbreeze7066 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Such a heartbreaking story. My heart goes out to him.

  • @haraldevensen9727
    @haraldevensen9727 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    This is heartbreaking to watch. I feel so sorry for this man, you can tell his pain goes so deep.... And big respect and thanks to him for sharing this story with the world. I'm happy he did not catch it himself. But what a terrible thing to have to go through, losing his wife like that... Just unbelievable. I wish him all the best for the future. And thanks for bringing us his story, Pete.

    • @debbiebarrow7557
      @debbiebarrow7557 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@nancysamuelson9357
      God is concerned about our hearts nothing else 🙏🔥🙄

  • @mikeparker6322
    @mikeparker6322 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great interview and your content is great.

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks very much 🙏🙏🙏

  • @kevindockery5182
    @kevindockery5182 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Pete, I am trying to play catch up on your videos. You look great mate.

  • @TheLovely990
    @TheLovely990 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow! Thanks for sharing. Hopefully you are getting check often and doing ok.💕💕

  • @megl8756
    @megl8756 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sorry for your lost, you seem like a really nice person. God bless.

  • @oywatters9415
    @oywatters9415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Life can be quite cruel. Just counting my blessings. All the best to Gary! Thank you Pete🙏

    • @libatalklieb5793
      @libatalklieb5793 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don't fall for his bullshit.

  • @marilynaderson6568
    @marilynaderson6568 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so sorry - all blessings to you, hugs.

  • @ginahamlyn2569
    @ginahamlyn2569 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    What an amazing person who obviously loved his wife very much. Thank you for sharing and being so open, all the very best going forward with your life.

  • @sirvicemanone
    @sirvicemanone 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I found out a few days ago that the Thai woman I had met in online dating and had been talking to for over 2 years and was in love with and planning on joining and perhaps marrying in Thailand has HIV.
    I am 68 years old and she is 64 years old .
    It is a very difficult thing to hear from someone I love.
    Years ago I had a very close friend die from AIDS.
    It is a very sad situation.
    Thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you for your channel and sharing interviews like this.

    • @sirvicemanone
      @sirvicemanone 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am really grieving about this and even another "secret" she revealed the evening I wrote the previous post.
      I can somewhat relate deeply to the interviewee.
      I'm reeling and dazed and can only depend on my Christian faith to understand this cruel point in my life.
      God bless you all 🙏🙌🫶

    • @yourdadsvan6763
      @yourdadsvan6763 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m sorry for your pain. It’s possible to live a normal life whilst HIV +. If she is taking the AntiViral drugs she can lead a normal life. Hope it all works out for you

  • @glengamble526
    @glengamble526 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

    If you understand the survival mindset of some Thai people, it might be easier to understand how she handled this. While I certainly don’t condone her behaviour, I’m pretty certain (if I had to guess) it was fear driven, and by that I mean-she maybe felt she was going be dumped by him if she revealed her health status. Even if she got the right antiviral meds, she’d probably feel he’d ‘let her go’ and she’d not only be without a husband and provider, but that no one else would want her in her illness. And that maybe her and her daughter would be out on the streets, with no money or options. To be clear-I’m NOT saying that this happened or saying he WOULD ‘dump’ her-I don’t know, though he seems to still love her a great deal and seems like a kind person that would have cared for her, regardless. Also, my guessing this to be the case doesn’t mean I think she was a cold, calculating person: more likely she was a protective Mama Bear, worried about herself and her family: it doesn’t mean I’m thinking the worst of her. And please understand-I’m NOT judging anyone in this story-it’s not my place to. Until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes, we have zero right to judge or guess motives.
    That said…
    It was incredibly irresponsible to treat this man that way. To expose him to a potentially deadly virus, without his knowledge. I understand that poverty (if in fact, she was poor or from a poor background) and shame make people do terrible things. But this is unconscionable, at least in my opinion. And with THAT said, I’m glad she’s no longer in pain or suffering. I’m sure she was a good person, essentially-as you can tell he loved her very much.
    This story could have a had far worse ending for both. I’m glad he’s ok and my heart goes out to him.

    • @tdgdbs1
      @tdgdbs1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So, murder is OK with you?

    • @packageism
      @packageism 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Well said sir

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I agree. This is very much a scenario worth considering when entering into any relationship. The exact chain of reasoning applies there also which leads to nondisclosure. That said, it all can be avoided by going with your partner to the doctor and getting a full STI panel done and then everyone knows what’s up. If she won’t go then you know something is up. In another comment Gary said that she actually died of a heart attack. It’s entirely possible that she was on ARV medication and didn’t actually die of AIDS which is very uncommon today since ARV meds are both cheap and simple to take in Thailand and available at every hospital and overwhelming effecting at completely stopping viral replication. AIDS doesn’t kill you with a heart attack. It’s usually pneumonia or another infection. If she was on ARV meds her chances of giving Gary HIV are just about zero. It’s not me saying that; it’s the CDC saying that. This is a complex story and I don’t know that Gary really got the full story about her medical history. Just because someone had HIV when they died doesn’t mean they died of AIDS. AIDS relates to CD4 cells in your blood below a certain threshold. People with HIV and are on treatment (nothing more complicated than a pill a day) have almost normal lifespans.

    • @Neednoy2
      @Neednoy2 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@exnihilo415 @thairish time Pete you should pin this post. Good info.

    • @koma7778
      @koma7778 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      She can't be a good person if she literally put the person who loves her at risk of death and suffering. Good people are stronger. Sorry but ....this is no way to behave.

  • @lovesees4320
    @lovesees4320 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a brave life Your Living!
    Well done for talking about it, it helps you & others to Speak truth 🕊

  • @carolinehemp187
    @carolinehemp187 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a strong and beautiful soul ..the respect and grace you have for your wife.love from Dublin

  • @grahamstewart615
    @grahamstewart615 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Heart goes out to you mate.
    Respect

  • @jimmyboysmovies1972
    @jimmyboysmovies1972 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What an emotional story Pete from Gary 🙏🙏🙏 and well done on changing the tone to lighten everyone mood with his name change. Still the main aspect of the story was not lost on anyone.

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks Jimmy🙏🙏

  • @anthonygraham1872
    @anthonygraham1872 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another great interview, but very sad as well.😢

  • @curiousmind6472
    @curiousmind6472 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow, what an incredible story ♥️

  • @Nessyk01
    @Nessyk01 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I’m guessing this story is not rare in Thailand

    • @tinacollins9213
      @tinacollins9213 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I’ve lost 3 friends who went to Thailand they all came back with Full blown Aids I watched them deteriorate it was awful to see

  • @tyhanson2076
    @tyhanson2076 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Today the medical industry has changed so much regarding HIV. My Dr. told me that when she has to tell her patients they have HIV, she tells them, "At least you don't have cancer." Think about that for just a moment. It's more deadly to have cancer than HIV!?!?! wow!!

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      People with HIV who take the ARV meds have almost a normal lifespan. It is amazing what the ARV cocktail has done for people with HIV. Magic Johnson and Greg Louganis are doing just fine after all.

    • @patienceobongo
      @patienceobongo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Or a Kim Kardashian butt

    • @whitepouch0904
      @whitepouch0904 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I know someone who has it and he constantly has to check not just for it but for the health of his liver. The last update I heard was he had some skin lumps. I don’t know if it was related. Don’t make it as if it’s nothing serious. Also, once taken, the effect of his medication makes him nauseous so he has to take every night. If he takes it in the daylight he’ll be unproductive. He is also in constant fear that one day his medication will no longer work and or start to damage his liver.

    • @exnihilo415
      @exnihilo415 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@whitepouch0904 It’s serious but manageable. There are many worse things to have. I know folks with HIV as well. Most don’t have serious side effects but some do. The ARV meds work and there are many different options in ARV meds. The fear that they won’t work is pretty unfounded.

    • @tinacollins9213
      @tinacollins9213 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Aids even people on drugs still get sick aids destroys your white blood cells so the get bab illness

  • @EnglishmaninMalta
    @EnglishmaninMalta 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Just something doesn't gel with this story.... 8 years with a women married!! And you do not know ? I would be the first talking to the doctor, The doctor , staff , hospital , Does not know its you wife ? He are in UK while you wife is sick, or you didn't know either, very strange story !

    • @yourdadsvan6763
      @yourdadsvan6763 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for your comment. Very strange story indeed. if it wasn’t me telling the story I would agree

    • @AfricanUSA-th9ov
      @AfricanUSA-th9ov 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He Was Pimping Her. As Long As She Was Bringing Home Alot Of Money

    • @MrNeversweat
      @MrNeversweat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@AfricanUSA-th9ovprobably

  • @hmmob3956
    @hmmob3956 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Very moving story. This man's pain must be beyond bounds. It is so clear from his eyes.

  • @thomasboyce4666
    @thomasboyce4666 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Feel for you, respect you told your story

  • @samthemanuk
    @samthemanuk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    awful to have to go through that and scary as hell all the best to this man

  • @user-jh8no1zb9e
    @user-jh8no1zb9e 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great job on a tough story

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

  • @stevejaenghan5589
    @stevejaenghan5589 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Here in Thailand, sadly , my cousin and uncle just recently died from HIV . They loved prostitutes , it is not my cup of tea .

    • @violetzulu2174
      @violetzulu2174 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So meaning there are a lot of Proustites in Thai what a country

  • @padraig9445
    @padraig9445 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Gary seems like a great guy! Sorry for you wifes passing, hope you find peace and can move past it all. Glad you are healthy ❤

  • @JAY-wn2hr
    @JAY-wn2hr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First off, massive respect for going on camera and sharing this with the world.
    There is a lot of:What if could have etc. And that's very very understandable.
    But that doesn't bring back the person who is no more.
    *I had the same with a buddy of mine who died during my China days.
    He got on his bike and crashed, he basically went straight into a wall. And till this day (because I know somewhat know of his past and what not) the question remains if he did take his own life.
    Now, to me it is what it is, and it doesn't matter if he did.
    *I just remember the good times we had.
    Again, massive respect mate!
    Life is short, enjoy the moments with your loved ones.

  • @lw1524
    @lw1524 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for sharing and bravery to tell the depth of the situation!!!

  • @ShawnaLynnn
    @ShawnaLynnn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    It takes a special person to deal with all of this and process the way he is. God bless the man and is family. I hope his wife has peace wherever she may be.

  • @jejudo3000
    @jejudo3000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Another good interview Pete mate

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks brother👍🏼

  • @user-wg3rr9jh9h
    @user-wg3rr9jh9h 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Gary “Hong Kông Phooey” Brits is a profoundly loving forgiving person. His love ❤ story, loss, betrayal and forgiveness will make a great movie. Thank you Gary for sharing your story.

  • @ijustagirl74
    @ijustagirl74 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I watched my beautful Thai friend Piyai die from aids,his wife gave it to him and he was married and did not know..She was a carrier but was never affected.. It hurts still ..God bless him

    • @dharmahmay4125
      @dharmahmay4125 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Unfortunately there's nothing like carrier....she either was negative or positive. So sad... may your friend RIP😢

  • @ImakemoviesMeFilmSchool
    @ImakemoviesMeFilmSchool 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Oh my god. I am so sorry you didn’t know. My prayers are with you Mr. Gary. I know it’s hard to deal with grief and possibly anger. Focus on the journey of healing my kind sir.

  • @fluffy5534
    @fluffy5534 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great story. To Hong Kong Phooey, sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. May she rest in peace.

  • @Kevin-lo1le
    @Kevin-lo1le 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Super nice guy, I wish him all the luck in the world, a great person.

  • @luisgtz
    @luisgtz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    great interview.

  • @debbieweahkee3820
    @debbieweahkee3820 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Surely this man knows he was at risk being in thailand

  • @nancylong8237
    @nancylong8237 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    There's something so very attractive in this man's composure and attitude. He's also very handsome and would be quite a catch to any woman who's willing to understand and nurture his soul after all he's been through! He's a beautiful person. ❤
    Sending love from Toronto Canada. 🇨🇦

    • @33metrogym
      @33metrogym 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah what a catch dude has aids. U must be really hard up if ur willing to look past that

    • @patriciarowe6685
      @patriciarowe6685 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      English men are the best ❤

    • @RosameloRico
      @RosameloRico 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@patriciarowe6685😣😣

    • @daughterofenoch677
      @daughterofenoch677 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      Wow
      These thirsty women already sending in their CVs

    • @AuthorLHollingsworth
      @AuthorLHollingsworth 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤

  • @bitplaya7432
    @bitplaya7432 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    A lot of guys have a similar story but don't talk about it. All these Thailand stories I hear online none of them involve condoms. Someone's got something

  • @fs5775
    @fs5775 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless this poor poor man. Thank you for allowing him to share his story.

  • @bernadettetitus5212
    @bernadettetitus5212 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are very strong man and you really touch my heart. God bless you and be with you and your daughter all the time. Sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. May her rest in peace 🙏

  • @BeachGuyDave
    @BeachGuyDave 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thoughts and prayers to this guy and his family

    • @clivebaxter6354
      @clivebaxter6354 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you think that will help, really?

  • @markh2615
    @markh2615 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Brilliant story but sad also 😢 🙏🙏

  • @garywinkworth3380
    @garywinkworth3380 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thats terrible mate, im sorry for your loss. i hope your going to be ok.

  • @_Alfa.Bravo_
    @_Alfa.Bravo_ 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    Hey Pete. Thank you very much for making us aware of realistic health risks when we are going to have fun in Asia.
    Feel very sorry for the pain he had to go through, don't think he deserved it. Wish him all the best for his future!!!

  • @TheJavasumatra
    @TheJavasumatra 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Good luck to you Gary.

  • @MarkBennett007
    @MarkBennett007 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The heart mustn’t lead the head in Asia.
    This man is a decent man and his original divorce affected him badly.
    God Bless him

  • @CaznaNaakap
    @CaznaNaakap 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Gary please accept my sincere condolences for you and Goy. You are a gentleman in the true sense of the word. I can see the pain and I felt so much empathy as your story unfolded. You are so strong to put yourself out there and I know that strength of charachter will get you through. I know it is trite to say but time heals. I wish you and Goy all the best my friend. Hope to bump into you one day and have a beer old son.
    Khobkhun mak kap na. Khun Jai Dee Mak. 🙏

  • @ikr2377
    @ikr2377 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Pete my condolences.i hope others can learn from your experience

    • @ThairishTimes
      @ThairishTimes  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Pete is the host. Gary is the guest. My wife is alive and well thank God

    • @ikr2377
      @ikr2377 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ThairishTimes sorry I ment the guest

  • @kennethclaar922
    @kennethclaar922 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I wish you the best . Just look at the support you have from everyone . Hang in there and I wish you the best .

  • @LutherMahoney
    @LutherMahoney 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    If i was this guy i would be getting tested monthly for 2 years straight 😢

    • @yourdadsvan6763
      @yourdadsvan6763 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Try 6 years. I’ve been tested at least twice a year since she passed. I also insist on any new partners to be tested with me

  • @abeliever7029
    @abeliever7029 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lots of love to you, and best wishes going forward. You can't change the past. You have dealt with it as best you could. Have high hopes and aspirations for the future.😊

  • @hariatizainal384
    @hariatizainal384 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ohhhh Man, what a story you had to go through there.......thank god your daughter is always there for you.