I keep running into people that have the same personality as my narcissistic mother, they're obviously miserable, but try to say they're the happiest people on earth 🌎 yeah um k. 😏
I noticed the same thing. When you ignore and go no contact on them, after a little while they start really getting pissed, and they try various mind boggling ideas/stunts to try and get a reaction from you. They will almost push the boundaries. They will also pretend to be normal, to try and win you back. The best thing you can do to get your life back (and your life does come back) is physically distance yourself and never look back.
Mine has been reaching out to my mom and friends, Thank goodness I told them about it.. She cannot bring herself to talk to them that I have blocked all contact with her, And she’s trying to provoke me using my mom… But I explained to my mom what was going on. I’m waiting for a smear campaigns… which will not be successful anyway, because my friends are aware of her behaviors… Also her family.
for me it was that he told me my wrong birthday when he knows my actual birthday. i got pissed at him & rage baited him to admit that he did it out of pettiness. his defeatist attitude told me he did it out of pettiness 😂😂 they’re losers & will forever be stuck in the loser zone 😭
You are absolutely right damn I was very confused when he was begging me to forgive all his mistakes and literally also insulting me and getting very upset at me at the same time. It’s very wild. I am grateful to be free from that boy in a man’s body.
I also noticed, every time they see I'm minding my own business! i don't like dramas and they are failing to make me jealous then they become like this
After over 40 years of narcissistic abuse, if I ever came across one now I know how to deal, just laugh and walk off and ignore. I'm at the age where I DGAF, wish I knew this then.
Your understanding and expertise is a wonderful thing. I'm glad you took this path to enlighten the rest of us. We are so blind while we're involved with the Narc; it's great to get out of it, but also great to have it explained so well.
I experienced all 4 of these signs from my 2 narci's...I am so grateful for the beautiful life that I have now, year and a half into my healing! Thank you with all heart Danish...for all you say and do. ✨
That last one really hit home. He's always playing the victim when nothing has happened to him. He's even made my health issues a problem that he has to deal with! (He doesn't, I look after myself). They are truly pathetic.
@@STSCanada1984 I trying to run out of this but I'm so stuck in with him 😔 I wish you all the best but finding it hard to break 💔 tree it's so draining I think I was the only one but they so maltivie and sneay , as you know
Sending you love and emotional support. I was able to leave when I asked myself if I felt like I had wasted five years of my life with this man. I thought long and hard and the answer was yes. But I didn’t get the courage to leave until I asked myself if in 20 years, will I feel like I have wasted 20 years of my life? And my answer was yes. Sweetheart, you deserve love and happiness. The love you feel for your narcissist comes from within you and you emanate that love forward. You CAN re-direct the love in your heart to someone who deserves you. You must! Hugs!
Very true. I've experienced all four. Learning about narcissism from channels like this pne has definitely made me much stronger against their tactics. I've become a 'difficult' person, difficult to manipulate haha.
I've won!!! I used to worry about everything they did or said about me until I walked away. I healed my enmeshment and went on with my wonderful life that only I created, where they have no place. I know they are my parents, but they were garbage and no parent at all. They never did anything for me and then tried to ruin my good relationships with both of my children. They are going to get karma for that. Thank you Danish, you're my hero and you helped save my life.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
I made many mistakes in falling into their trap but these last 2 yrs watching these videos have been great training and now I can detect one of these demons when they open their mouth.
My narc mother raged at me recently because I refused to do something for her (it was against the law/rules). She tried to shame me by mentioning other people..."SHE earns $120k/yr with just a bachelor's degree"..."THEY bought their parents a luxury car." My response: "Good for them." I couldn't care less.
This is very common with many parents in general... but it doesn't mean she's a narcissist. It's a narc trait for sure but we all have some of that, since it's a spectrum.. but it's possible that ur mother's intention is good (like she wants you to have a good life and do well in life, be happy etc) but the issue is her idea of what's best for u may be different than your idea. But since she cares so much, she resorts to toxic tactics to try to force u to live her way. And I'm not saying it's OK for parents to do this... but be careful about labeling them as a narc as that can make ur relationship with them very difficult if you're just seeing them in that image. That being said, I hope u figure out how to deal with it or to live elsewhere. My mom compares me to others all the time cz I'm unemployed, single, 34.. and it's annoying and toxic.. but it's more easy for me to tolerate it knowing that her intention is good.. she compares cz she has a false belief that I need those things to be happy (as many people believe) so she's pushing me to live that way. But I live my way now
@@lennonbarretto If you were give to me a list of traits and characteristics that describe a narc, my mother would match all of them except for sexual abuse. That is how I realized she is a narc and a lot of things make sense now knowing what she is. Even my friends were horrified and labeled her 'abusive' when I've shared some of my experiences (both emotional and physical abuse). Some of my relatives were surprised too. The signs were all there...my only regret is not realizing much sooner.
One time, my narc mom yelled at me to go downstairs, run across the street to catch a dog. It was a very large, aggressive breed and just got loose from somebody's house. I refused (I weigh 100# like the dog did) and she got soooo angry. I walked away and that made her madder. She was literally insane. Wanted to see me get hurt. Sadists. She died from COVID. R.I.P. Mother 7/5/2024. Stay warm down there.
The human sinful spirits are selfishness, jealousy, greed, spitful revenge, hatred, laziness, and probably a couple more. A persons eyes grow dark when they are overwhelmed with evil and desire to murder another. Thats the spooky part that I've seen.
Shhhh*t ! That's scary ! I never witnessed this. Only one time I've seen like multiple horrible face under the skin of a woman. FULL OF ANGER !!! I almost felt on the floor due to the powerful negative dark energy !! 😨😨😱
My father, mother, and six brothers and sisters were and are narcissists. I’m scarred from the physical and mental abuse they dished out on a daily basis on me. They are never going to stop harming me, so I’ve stopped talking to them on the phone or in person, because no contact is the only way to protect myself. My older brother and sister still stalk me everyday, as they are determined to end my life and are looking for an opportunity. What a stressful way for me to live.
Sweetheart you are not the only one who has grown up with an entire narc family both my parents and three older siblings were and I was abused by them all when they would get mad with each other because I was the youngest and smallest they would attack me to take their anger out I left when I was 15 at 51 I have no contact I check on my 80 year old father but he still acts like he is to good to speak to me so I dint really bother other than checking on him but something I realized you will heal when you realize that garbage is their garbage and set it down and stop carrying it through your life as if you own it because you don't its their baggage not yours let it go and live your life
My mother did this when I went low contact. She'd text me often saying she missed me, how are you, so and so asked for you, why don't you respond...etc. but when I replied, she'd ignore me or just send a "K". Until I got pissed and basically told her wtf, talk to me or don't, make up your mind. And then she was all, oooh you're so mean to your mother, i only want to care for you! After that I went no contact and she has made zero effort to reach out. I do see evidence of her spy attempts tho
My mother pumps information about me from everyone she possibly can. Since I give no information to anyone she is livid. I gray rock her on the phone and I can hear her rage in her voice, it is funny to listen to her attempts to keep it in check. It seeps out w/certain things she says, I ignore it and chuckle to myself. She is so frustrated that she is unable to get anything from me, she has gotten to the point where at times she comes right out and asks the question vs dancing around it. It comes out absolutely po’d b/c she feels she deserves to know where I go, who I see, along w/knowing my health issues so she can tell everyone my business to show how “close” we are🙄. It’s nice to ignore her.
I have a narcissitic grandma and bipolar mom. I leave with my grandma and mom moved on because she couldn't suport her critics no more. At first i didn't understand what cristics she's talking about because i tought she was exagerating, but then, grandma's toxic behavior started to affect me in the social life. I now have social anxiety and depresion. Mom helps me a lot. She come visits me 3-4 times a week and she is the one who told me about grandma being narcissitic. I hope with some help from videos like this, I can become a stronger person. (Sorry for my english)
!! I left my abuser 2 years ago or should I say defeated him! I can say after I left I had an all can describe it as is, a spiritual awakening! My abuse changed my life in the most profound way possible! And I can say 2 years later, I am grateful for this experience because if not for it I would not feel the passion I do to make this world a better place, to be a human who is love, and light to the world, because someone tried to steal that soul from me but they didn’t win!! They took me to my deepest depth and I decided to swim around and figure out the whys in me and I dug in to heal all my trauma, so that I may never bleed on another. I chose to wear my abuse as honor and share my journey because I believe if I can help one person find their whole healed love worthy self, then it truly was worth it!!! #loveisstilltheanswer # butnowweseeclearer
I guess I've defeated them way back based on this because i never would buy into the false narrative delusion...as my covert narc wife's accusations became so ridiculous, and would start tripping up when questioned how in the heck they even remotely make any sense, she'd double down 😂 gimme a break...I'd start to hold the things she would call me, and see how they fit her, Jackpot! Projection, a trait of a narcissist! Ding ding ding! Now this person has a name and I started to figure them out. Thanks!
Well, I had all four done to me, but I was too nice to notice and blew up in rage and anger in his face…so I failed 😨 BUT, I left him for good now‼️❣️👍💯Happy Happy Joy Joy 🤩 Tha is so much 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Finally started distancing myself after 5 years on and off. Had a baby so it's no longer what I can entertain. The further away I get the more abusive I can see it was. Now he's apparently abused his meds and relapsed and it's my fault because I ignored his nonsense. Its crazy because I can suddenly see how delusional this has all been so his attempts no longer work. I have love for him but have decided I now need to love myself more so I can be okay for my child. I'm starting to learn how to breathe and live again without feeling constant anxiety.
All facts and all experienced but #3 was despicable. I was never a jealous person which is why the narc had free reign to do his narc business behind my back but at the discard he has everyone believing in the jealous crazy person who can't accept that he moved on. Smdh
Good, I AM doing it right! Thank you, Doc 💛 I'd L❤VE it if you'd go into more information about what the Narc. Mind goes through during this? How they spiral? etc.. And most importantly, HOW they create the comparison? Examples would be EXCELLENT.
I've always wondered why they would do that and why narcissists always compare you to other people ... I'm not motivated by jealousy I don't really care about what anyone accomplishes or doesn't not my life..wow thanks
Im in this situation now it breaks my heart and I’m oversleeping all the time wake up crying sleeping with tears in my face. I feel so used financially and emotionally I did so much and wasn’t worthy. All this future faking kept me optimistic but whenever he had the chance I wasn’t thought of…. I feel suicidal sometimes but watching these videos calms me somehow. Thank you 🙏
I went NC with my dad and entire family. Been a year, he's been pushing boundaries so hard. He did many unimaginable things which were horror and legally criminal but still no response from me. He's going crazy, i did suffer a lot but i silenced myself since i felt disgusted to imagine seeing his face again. I just continued living my life. But wasn't easy in the beginning, it got worse before it got better.
💯 👌🏾 I'm not even in his life , haven't been for over 8yrs,but for some reason he thought I was going to be jealous of his baby mama. He's leaving her now, correction, he's kicked her out with a toddler after she helped create havoc in my life. I guess she failed to make me jealous.After ignoring him when we last met at the kids' event,apparently I left him because he was experiencing financial issues and I was the aggressive partner. Whoever feels brave enough to ask me, I just tell them I don't talk about my former marriage I have a new marriage I'm preparing for, and I tell them to believe whatever they want to believe and I'm at peace. Even their spiritual attacks on me and my partner, God closed that gate, no more entry into my life, can't even use the kids anymore. He's in a roller coaster of emotions, one minute he's so sad and regretful, the next minute, he's upset and will show me who he is 🙄.
Wow, this is so enlightening to me for real. I really felt the last one over the others. I’m in a situation with a narcissist where for 4 years, I had to consistently apologize and talk to him about how sorry I am about something I know and other people know( his ex friends) I didn’t do. He broke up with me 2 times in the last 4 years. He slept with other women and I went on a date and slept with one person I was seeing at the time. He kicked me out and said he didn’t want me( which I found out because he was already talking to another woman) and I didn’t have anywhere to go except his dad’s house. I lived there and he drove to his dad’s house and went through my phone and he starts crying and bawling saying that I cheated on him with the guy I was seeing. Then turned around and told all his friends what happened ( they were living with us when he kicked me out) and none of them confronted him. ( because he made a big deal about it with his father, his father kicked me out, living me homeless). He told me that I can move back in with him until I get on my feet, but he doesn’t wanna be with a cheating woman. Which doesn’t make sense because he broke up with me for another woman, made me leave and live at his dad’s house, then I dated and slept with someone else. How is this cheating? Like honestly….i still had not gotten myself together to moved out because he is also taking all my money continuously and almost everytime we argue…. He keeps bringing it up.
Thank you! 😁 I have arrived! I achieved this with the love and protection from my Lord and Savior Christ, which I must make known as to where the wisdom and strenghth came from and that when I am weak he is strong!! It has taking me years to get to this place, and I now realize what I've been dealing with and what i have learned to master! Praise my God! The God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob! All the Glory goes to My Lord and Savior! 🥰❤️❤️❤️😇
I don't think it is possible to defeat a narc, because they live in their own delusional world, so they'll never grow up. In my opinion this is the most irritating about them, that you can't do anything else, just move away as far as possible from them. Because if you have a child that behaves this way, you can teach them not to do that but you can't teach a narc how to behave, they refuse to listen.
They get defeated when they slide into depression. Yes, they still blame everyone but themselves, lack any accountability & feel sorry for themselves. But trust me after so many failed relationships & encounters they do start to realise that maybe they are the problem, for a little bit, then they get depressed, feel sorry for themselves, blame someone else & the cycle repeats. They are very unhappy people.
Yes my husband has all signs u stated in ur videos and one additional sign my husband always ask and take my advice for many work but just do as he want and when something happens wrong he blame me for not giving right advice
THIS IS MY TIME TO SAY BADLY THEIR ACTIONS FOR THANKS A DREAM. AND THEY TOP SECRETS ANYMORE. THEY ARE MY OFTENTIMES OF THANKYOU WITH WHEN YOU ABUSERS BEFORE NEVER CONTACTED FOR TEN K YEARS. ALSO, NEVER ABUSERS FOR ENGLISH FRUITFULNESS WITH KIDS. BUT THAT IS ALWAYS MANIPULATE THEM. WE DON'T COMPLETELY EMPATHY FOR WHEN A ABUSERS.
Danish, happy to see this video bcs sometimes things happen that are so confusing. Earlier this year while watching Super Bowl, I got a one line text from a relative who had not been speaking to me "Are you watching to Super Bowl." Surprised and happy to hear from them I sent back a "Yes, and are you? Give me a call" Then nothing for 2 weeks so I stupidly left a message on their phone asking them to give me a call just to chat. I got back a blistering text reply, making something out of nothing. I felt like such an idiot to have taken the bait. I have not heard another word in all the following months. I felt like the first inquiry was just a set up, as I hadnt heard from them in a long time before, and for some reason to get hostile over nothing. Needless to say, If there is a next time, I will not even answer. What is the point of such actions on their part?
"A victim of circumstances you did not create" Oh bollocks! My covert narcissistic ex girlfriend did this for the first few years, almost 30 years ago . She was 16 and already had mastered some serious manipulative techniques.
they're love booming again these past few days after made me go hell made me go anxious and all!what is happening?!?!they always made me confused always Nowadays they are pretending to be nice!?!?!?!
A healthy partner wants calm,care and trust. Narcissist wants chaos to make a partner look unstable. Suspicious activities and dismissing feelings, making up stories to be a victim. The relationship is always about their happiness. He didn't cry when his mother passed, now he gets teary-eyed to make his "pain" real. No transparency to keep a person on edge. His countless bad behavior doesn't matter. The narcissist is very calculated in all the relationship. Lies and saying very little when I want answers. A narcissistic person is not capable of providing, protecting and having a healthy emotional relationship.
AND THEY WILL ABUSERS WILL TRUTH. RIGHT NOW TO THEIR MANIPULATION SKILLS ANYMORE. THEY ARE WAS JUST REALIZED EXACTLY FOR THEM. AND DON'T JUST SLEEPING FOR MY ABUSE. THIS IS SO TRULY THANKYOU. RIGHT NOW, DANISHLY NARCISSISTS.
They still get away with everything. Doesnt matter we defeat them or not, they may lose in their lives but they definitely got what they wanted outta this relationship and that alone is a win. Idc who got defeated, but the narcissist definitely gets away with it.
My mom has one foot out the door and my dad has started hiding things just to see her search for an hour and lie to her that he doesn’t know where it is. Yesterday he did this with the Keys. He works from home and put them in his pocket. I was on FaceTime with her when she asked if he knew where they were and he said no. My sister ended up being half an hour late for a commitment because he wanted to win the battle he created
They truly are pitiful
Honestly
I keep running into people that have the same personality as my narcissistic mother, they're obviously miserable, but try to say they're the happiest people on earth 🌎 yeah um k. 😏
Fact
They truly are pitiful
Yes
I noticed the same thing. When you ignore and go no contact on them, after a little while they start really getting pissed, and they try various mind boggling ideas/stunts to try and get a reaction from you. They will almost push the boundaries. They will also pretend to be normal, to try and win you back. The best thing you can do to get your life back (and your life does come back) is physically distance yourself and never look back.
I'm usually single for years, when I cut my narcissistic toxic Aunt off, she Hoovers sending messages she knows a guy she wants to hook me up with. 😅
Mine has been reaching out to my mom and friends,
Thank goodness I told them about it..
She cannot bring herself to talk to them that I have blocked all contact with her,
And she’s trying to provoke me using my mom… But I explained to my mom what was going on.
I’m waiting for a smear campaigns… which will not be successful anyway, because my friends are aware of her behaviors… Also her family.
for me it was that he told me my wrong birthday when he knows my actual birthday. i got pissed at him & rage baited him to admit that he did it out of pettiness. his defeatist attitude told me he did it out of pettiness 😂😂 they’re losers & will forever be stuck in the loser zone 😭
You are absolutely right damn I was very confused when he was begging me to forgive all his mistakes and literally also insulting me and getting very upset at me at the same time. It’s very wild. I am grateful to be free from that boy in a man’s body.
I also noticed, every time they see I'm minding my own business! i don't like dramas and they are failing to make me jealous then they become like this
they are like children 😂
Yup! Total brats😂
Horrible ghost 👻
Children don't behave like that.....demons do.
demons* call them for what they are
Yes I noticed that too 😂my older brother one of them.
After over 40 years of narcissistic abuse, if I ever came across one now I know how to deal, just laugh and walk off and ignore. I'm at the age where I DGAF, wish I knew this then.
Yes! I can spot one in a crowd now. Wisdom rules! LOL!
Your understanding and expertise is a wonderful thing. I'm glad you took this path to enlighten the rest of us. We are so blind while we're involved with the Narc; it's great to get out of it, but also great to have it explained so well.
Amen brother AMEN !!! Narcissists are so predictable I recognize my older sister in all of this
Same with my mum and younger sister.
I experienced all 4 of these signs from my 2 narci's...I am so grateful for the beautiful life that I have now, year and a half into my healing! Thank you with all heart Danish...for all you say and do. ✨
I'm so glad to see you right now. An island of sanity for me
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That last one really hit home. He's always playing the victim when nothing has happened to him. He's even made my health issues a problem that he has to deal with! (He doesn't, I look after myself). They are truly pathetic.
I can relate
Maybe he’s the reason for your health issues.
Jealousy. Their mindset:”If I could not have it, nobody could. If they could, I will put them in trouble in any way”
@@naomieleonora how can we survive with such demonic behaviors
@@naomieleonora imagine have such kind of waste in your work environment
Hell they are everywhere!@Raywatie-p4n
OMG! I’m actually dealing with this right now.
Run away fast
@@STSCanada1984 I trying to run out of this but I'm so stuck in with him 😔 I wish you all the best but finding it hard to break 💔 tree it's so draining I think I was the only one but they so maltivie and sneay , as you know
Sending you love and emotional support. I was able to leave when I asked myself if I felt like I had wasted five years of my life with this man. I thought long and hard and the answer was yes. But I didn’t get the courage to leave until I asked myself if in 20 years, will I feel like I have wasted 20 years of my life? And my answer was yes. Sweetheart, you deserve love and happiness. The love you feel for your narcissist comes from within you and you emanate that love forward. You CAN re-direct the love in your heart to someone who deserves you. You must! Hugs!
Very true! Don't forget to laugh at their attempts to anger you 😉
I do that but😔 sometimes it's very hard tho
Very true. I've experienced all four. Learning about narcissism from channels like this pne has definitely made me much stronger against their tactics. I've become a 'difficult' person, difficult to manipulate haha.
I've won!!! I used to worry about everything they did or said about me until I walked away. I healed my enmeshment and went on with my wonderful life that only I created, where they have no place. I know they are my parents, but they were garbage and no parent at all. They never did anything for me and then tried to ruin my good relationships with both of my children. They are going to get karma for that. Thank you Danish, you're my hero and you helped save my life.
Karma is true. I have seen it strike down several narcs.
Oh, my,goodness, no contact solves all of this. Fir real. Cut and run
When you have a kid with them?
@@DahabshilOmaha run faster
I can confirm this. I went no contact years ago and my life VASTLY IMPROVED.
@@philipmoore449 I can’t just run he outsmarted me and got majority custody but don’t worry I have a huge surprise for him
Yup exactly. That's their game in 4 easy steps !
This means that I have already defeated her 💪🏻
Amen lol after the breakup these came out
This is so TRUE! I’m so proud of myself for not reacting 💖💯
Thank you ❤they always push your boundaries.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
Ok, you had me right there till the end.
This is so perfect thanks for this man. I am on the verge of going no contact hope everything ends up well.
Sooo helpful 🩷 They need a reaction. Must keep my calm 🙏 don't give them anything.
I made many mistakes in falling into their trap but these last 2 yrs watching these videos have been great training and now I can detect one of these demons when they open their mouth.
My narc mother raged at me recently because I refused to do something for her (it was against the law/rules). She tried to shame me by mentioning other people..."SHE earns $120k/yr with just a bachelor's degree"..."THEY bought their parents a luxury car." My response: "Good for them." I couldn't care less.
Block her.
Ya she alsso does this ..comparing me with others but I just tell her I am happy for them
This is very common with many parents in general... but it doesn't mean she's a narcissist. It's a narc trait for sure but we all have some of that, since it's a spectrum.. but it's possible that ur mother's intention is good (like she wants you to have a good life and do well in life, be happy etc) but the issue is her idea of what's best for u may be different than your idea. But since she cares so much, she resorts to toxic tactics to try to force u to live her way. And I'm not saying it's OK for parents to do this... but be careful about labeling them as a narc as that can make ur relationship with them very difficult if you're just seeing them in that image. That being said, I hope u figure out how to deal with it or to live elsewhere. My mom compares me to others all the time cz I'm unemployed, single, 34.. and it's annoying and toxic.. but it's more easy for me to tolerate it knowing that her intention is good.. she compares cz she has a false belief that I need those things to be happy (as many people believe) so she's pushing me to live that way. But I live my way now
@@lennonbarretto If you were give to me a list of traits and characteristics that describe a narc, my mother would match all of them except for sexual abuse. That is how I realized she is a narc and a lot of things make sense now knowing what she is. Even my friends were horrified and labeled her 'abusive' when I've shared some of my experiences (both emotional and physical abuse). Some of my relatives were surprised too. The signs were all there...my only regret is not realizing much sooner.
One time, my narc mom yelled at me to go downstairs, run across the street to catch a dog. It was a very large, aggressive breed and just got loose from somebody's house. I refused (I weigh 100# like the dog did) and she got soooo angry. I walked away and that made her madder. She was literally insane. Wanted to see me get hurt. Sadists. She died from COVID. R.I.P. Mother 7/5/2024. Stay warm down there.
WOW, my biggest narcissist in my life does everything u listed but always seems to intentionally persuades me to think I’m in the wrong 🙄🥺
Yes I have noticed all these things and it is proven that I have defeated him in real. I'm fucking proud of myself 😎.. Bro, you are doing great job 🙌🏻
The human sinful spirits are selfishness, jealousy, greed, spitful revenge, hatred, laziness, and probably a couple more.
A persons eyes grow dark when they are overwhelmed with evil and desire to murder another. Thats the spooky part that I've seen.
Shhhh*t ! That's scary ! I never witnessed this. Only one time I've seen like multiple horrible face under the skin of a woman. FULL OF ANGER !!! I almost felt on the floor due to the powerful negative dark energy !! 😨😨😱
😊😢 so very much true can't take any thing to heart the lies just spils out of his mouth
My father, mother, and six brothers and sisters were and are narcissists. I’m scarred from the physical and mental abuse they dished out on a daily basis on me. They are never going to stop harming me, so I’ve stopped talking to them on the phone or in person, because no contact is the only way to protect myself. My older brother and sister still stalk me everyday, as they are determined to end my life and are looking for an opportunity. What a stressful way for me to live.
avoid them as if they are a deadly disease. Don't budge.
Sweetheart you are not the only one who has grown up with an entire narc family both my parents and three older siblings were and I was abused by them all when they would get mad with each other because I was the youngest and smallest they would attack me to take their anger out
I left when I was 15 at 51 I have no contact I check on my 80 year old father but he still acts like he is to good to speak to me so I dint really bother other than checking on him but something I realized you will heal when you realize that garbage is their garbage and set it down and stop carrying it through your life as if you own it because you don't its their baggage not yours let it go and live your life
@@pattiannepascualthey are a deadly disease the things narcs do cause serious health and mental issues in other ppl that can kill you
Same here my mum is anarcissist and my 3 siblings no peace at home😢💔@@Believersundergroundinitiative
My mother did this when I went low contact. She'd text me often saying she missed me, how are you, so and so asked for you, why don't you respond...etc. but when I replied, she'd ignore me or just send a "K". Until I got pissed and basically told her wtf, talk to me or don't, make up your mind. And then she was all, oooh you're so mean to your mother, i only want to care for you! After that I went no contact and she has made zero effort to reach out. I do see evidence of her spy attempts tho
My mother pumps information about me from everyone she possibly can. Since I give no information to anyone she is livid. I gray rock her on the phone and I can hear her rage in her voice, it is funny to listen to her attempts to keep it in check. It seeps out w/certain things she says, I ignore it and chuckle to myself. She is so frustrated that she is unable to get anything from me, she has gotten to the point where at times she comes right out and asks the question vs dancing around it. It comes out absolutely po’d b/c she feels she deserves to know where I go, who I see, along w/knowing my health issues so she can tell everyone my business to show how “close” we are🙄. It’s nice to ignore her.
@@michelemiktus2312Sounds like my mom. It's heartbreaking. I have limited contact.
Thank you! I needed to see this Short..
They're so ridiculous hahhaa I'm jus done 💯✅ and enlightened by their actions ☺️
Clear conscience. Peaceful rest. 🙏 🕊✨️
I have just started laughing it off. It's so pathetic and hilarious to see the narc act out.
If I weren't so numb,I would be laughing through my tears And the video of you being dragged... hysterical
Spot on. Straight to the point.
I have a narcissitic grandma and bipolar mom. I leave with my grandma and mom moved on because she couldn't suport her critics no more. At first i didn't understand what cristics she's talking about because i tought she was exagerating, but then, grandma's toxic behavior started to affect me in the social life. I now have social anxiety and depresion. Mom helps me a lot. She come visits me 3-4 times a week and she is the one who told me about grandma being narcissitic. I hope with some help from videos like this, I can become a stronger person. (Sorry for my english)
true help all the innocent from this evil doers ❤
❤love u omg decades of many narcs what a ride
!! I left my abuser 2 years ago or should I say defeated him! I can say after I left I had an all can describe it as is, a spiritual awakening! My abuse changed my life in the most profound way possible! And I can say 2 years later, I am grateful for this experience because if not for it I would not feel the passion I do to make this world a better place, to be a human who is love, and light to the world, because someone tried to steal that soul from me but they didn’t win!! They took me to my deepest depth and I decided to swim around and figure out the whys in me and I dug in to heal all my trauma, so that I may never bleed on another. I chose to wear my abuse as honor and share my journey because I believe if I can help one person find their whole healed love worthy self, then it truly was worth it!!! #loveisstilltheanswer # butnowweseeclearer
I guess I've defeated them way back based on this because i never would buy into the false narrative delusion...as my covert narc wife's accusations became so ridiculous, and would start tripping up when questioned how in the heck they even remotely make any sense, she'd double down 😂 gimme a break...I'd start to hold the things she would call me, and see how they fit her, Jackpot! Projection, a trait of a narcissist! Ding ding ding! Now this person has a name and I started to figure them out. Thanks!
Well, I had all four done to me, but I was too nice to notice and blew up in rage and anger in his face…so I failed 😨 BUT, I left him for good now‼️❣️👍💯Happy Happy Joy Joy 🤩 Tha is so much 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Finally started distancing myself after 5 years on and off. Had a baby so it's no longer what I can entertain. The further away I get the more abusive I can see it was. Now he's apparently abused his meds and relapsed and it's my fault because I ignored his nonsense. Its crazy because I can suddenly see how delusional this has all been so his attempts no longer work. I have love for him but have decided I now need to love myself more so I can be okay for my child. I'm starting to learn how to breathe and live again without feeling constant anxiety.
All facts and all experienced but #3 was despicable. I was never a jealous person which is why the narc had free reign to do his narc business behind my back but at the discard he has everyone believing in the jealous crazy person who can't accept that he moved on. Smdh
This is so true I had these tactics thrown at me
Good, I AM doing it right! Thank you, Doc 💛
I'd L❤VE it if you'd go into more information about what the Narc. Mind goes through during this? How they spiral? etc.. And most importantly, HOW they create the comparison? Examples would be EXCELLENT.
Always the Victim when they created the situation 😡
You truly hit the target with these 4 attitudes, everything fits.
Your recordings help to stay sane when I get in contact with narcissistic craziness.
Yes. The narcissistic I lived with did this to me. So sad
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🫶🏿✌🏿TO ALL!!10/24/24
I've always wondered why they would do that and why narcissists always compare you to other people ... I'm not motivated by jealousy I don't really care about what anyone accomplishes or doesn't not my life..wow thanks
I embrace contrast. I wouldn't have known or appreciated how good life can be if I didnt experience the opposite.
I love your content!! Thank you for making me feel so understood
Im in this situation now it breaks my heart and I’m oversleeping all the time wake up crying sleeping with tears in my face. I feel so used financially and emotionally I did so much and wasn’t worthy. All this future faking kept me optimistic but whenever he had the chance I wasn’t thought of…. I feel suicidal sometimes but watching these videos calms me somehow. Thank you 🙏
I went NC with my dad and entire family. Been a year, he's been pushing boundaries so hard. He did many unimaginable things which were horror and legally criminal but still no response from me. He's going crazy, i did suffer a lot but i silenced myself since i felt disgusted to imagine seeing his face again. I just continued living my life. But wasn't easy in the beginning, it got worse before it got better.
Thank you I needed to hear this
Exactly🔥 always compare you to someone else try to make you jealousy, feel bad, not good enough
💯 👌🏾 I'm not even in his life , haven't been for over 8yrs,but for some reason he thought I was going to be jealous of his baby mama. He's leaving her now, correction, he's kicked her out with a toddler after she helped create havoc in my life. I guess she failed to make me jealous.After ignoring him when we last met at the kids' event,apparently I left him because he was experiencing financial issues and I was the aggressive partner. Whoever feels brave enough to ask me, I just tell them I don't talk about my former marriage I have a new marriage I'm preparing for, and I tell them to believe whatever they want to believe and I'm at peace. Even their spiritual attacks on me and my partner, God closed that gate, no more entry into my life, can't even use the kids anymore. He's in a roller coaster of emotions, one minute he's so sad and regretful, the next minute, he's upset and will show me who he is 🙄.
🤣🤣🤣 all of them have been used upon me. Thank you for showing me this🙏🏻🍀
Wow, this is so enlightening to me for real. I really felt the last one over the others. I’m in a situation with a narcissist where for 4 years, I had to consistently apologize and talk to him about how sorry I am about something I know and other people know( his ex friends) I didn’t do. He broke up with me 2 times in the last 4 years. He slept with other women and I went on a date and slept with one person I was seeing at the time. He kicked me out and said he didn’t want me( which I found out because he was already talking to another woman) and I didn’t have anywhere to go except his dad’s house. I lived there and he drove to his dad’s house and went through my phone and he starts crying and bawling saying that I cheated on him with the guy I was seeing. Then turned around and told all his friends what happened ( they were living with us when he kicked me out) and none of them confronted him. ( because he made a big deal about it with his father, his father kicked me out, living me homeless). He told me that I can move back in with him until I get on my feet, but he doesn’t wanna be with a cheating woman. Which doesn’t make sense because he broke up with me for another woman, made me leave and live at his dad’s house, then I dated and slept with someone else. How is this cheating? Like honestly….i still had not gotten myself together to moved out because he is also taking all my money continuously and almost everytime we argue…. He keeps bringing it up.
Get away from all those people! so toxic…
Thank you, Danish.
Yes all facts I've seen with my own eyes every single one exactly
Thank you! 😁 I have arrived! I achieved this with the love and protection from my Lord and Savior Christ, which I must make known as to where the wisdom and strenghth came from and that when I am weak he is strong!!
It has taking me years to get to this place, and I now realize what I've been dealing with and what i have learned to master!
Praise my God! The God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob!
All the Glory goes to My Lord and Savior! 🥰❤️❤️❤️😇
Yes, especially #1 I experience sabotage All The Time!!
HOT DARN! Danish, you helped me feel VICTORIOUS! 💝
Yes they are pitiful but do not take pity on them speak the truth and walk away
I had a slight advantage due to long distance he couldn't do so much damage,but he did ask for things,and lie.
It’s all about power and not love☹️
Thank you. I needed this today.
I don't think it is possible to defeat a narc, because they live in their own delusional world, so they'll never grow up. In my opinion this is the most irritating about them, that you can't do anything else, just move away as far as possible from them. Because if you have a child that behaves this way, you can teach them not to do that but you can't teach a narc how to behave, they refuse to listen.
Just a question: Is your narc a child of yours? My daughter is an evil narcissistic demon, and I am looking for someone to talk to who understands...
They get defeated when they slide into depression. Yes, they still blame everyone but themselves, lack any accountability & feel sorry for themselves. But trust me after so many failed relationships & encounters they do start to realise that maybe they are the problem, for a little bit, then they get depressed, feel sorry for themselves, blame someone else & the cycle repeats. They are very unhappy people.
Yes my husband has all signs u stated in ur videos and one additional sign my husband always ask and take my advice for many work but just do as he want and when something happens wrong he blame me for not giving right advice
You're always correct sir
THIS IS MY TIME TO SAY BADLY THEIR ACTIONS FOR THANKS A DREAM. AND THEY TOP SECRETS ANYMORE. THEY ARE MY OFTENTIMES OF THANKYOU WITH WHEN YOU ABUSERS BEFORE NEVER CONTACTED FOR TEN K YEARS. ALSO, NEVER ABUSERS FOR ENGLISH FRUITFULNESS WITH KIDS. BUT THAT IS ALWAYS MANIPULATE THEM. WE DON'T COMPLETELY EMPATHY FOR WHEN A ABUSERS.
They are cunning but not wise.
I'm glad i beat the high score. I can't wait for the last day i have to ever speak to her again
Danish, happy to see this video bcs sometimes things happen that are so confusing. Earlier this year while watching Super Bowl, I got a one line text from a relative who had not been speaking to me "Are you watching to Super Bowl." Surprised and happy to hear from them I sent back a "Yes, and are you? Give me a call" Then nothing for 2 weeks so I stupidly left a message on their phone asking them to give me a call just to chat. I got back a blistering text reply, making something out of nothing. I felt like such an idiot to have taken the bait. I have not heard another word in all the following months. I felt like the first inquiry was just a set up, as I hadnt heard from them in a long time before, and for some reason to get hostile over nothing. Needless to say, If there is a next time, I will not even answer. What is the point of such actions on their part?
They stalk and TRY to harass me everyday for the last 3 years. I never give them a reaction. 😂
Yep, was literally accused of something I didn’t do just yesterday.
There is no such thing as defeating a narcissist because their horrible mental process causes them to continuously self sabotage
I'm going thru this as we speak
yup, yup, yup & yup! :) thank you!!
That's why I made sure I was the one who left him after he came back. It was simply to build a momentum 😌
Right..... correct..... EXACTLY 💯💯💯
"A victim of circumstances you did not create" Oh bollocks! My covert narcissistic ex girlfriend did this for the first few years, almost 30 years ago . She was 16 and already had mastered some serious manipulative techniques.
Silence is a strong message
Thank you! ❤️🦋🎶
They will use flying monkeys as last resort. They paid them to lie against me but I defeated them bec of pure logic.
Yuuuuup she is defeated then . Thank you for this .
they're love booming again these past few days after made me go hell made me go anxious and all!what is happening?!?!they always made me confused always
Nowadays they are pretending to be nice!?!?!?!
We had two employees in the past that were like this, so happy they’re gone!😊 ❤
You are exactly right.
A healthy partner wants calm,care and trust. Narcissist wants chaos to make a partner look unstable. Suspicious activities and dismissing feelings, making up stories to be a victim. The relationship is always about their happiness. He didn't cry when his mother passed, now he gets teary-eyed to make his "pain" real. No transparency to keep a person on edge. His countless bad behavior doesn't matter. The narcissist is very calculated in all the relationship. Lies and saying very little when I want answers. A narcissistic person is not capable of providing, protecting and having a healthy emotional relationship.
THANK YOU❤MOST USEFUL
Well said!
Yep. All four. Believe me. 30 years of this mess
Empty people have empty lives with people they push around. Not my fault, not my problem. ❤❤❤
AND THEY WILL ABUSERS WILL TRUTH.
RIGHT NOW TO THEIR MANIPULATION SKILLS ANYMORE. THEY ARE WAS JUST REALIZED EXACTLY FOR THEM. AND DON'T JUST SLEEPING FOR MY ABUSE. THIS IS SO TRULY THANKYOU. RIGHT NOW, DANISHLY NARCISSISTS.
Put some headphones on it works like a charm. Do the dishes clean the home put some music loudly and show joy pay them no mind
They still get away with everything. Doesnt matter we defeat them or not, they may lose in their lives but they definitely got what they wanted outta this relationship and that alone is a win. Idc who got defeated, but the narcissist definitely gets away with it.
Thank you ❤
My mom has one foot out the door and my dad has started hiding things just to see her search for an hour and lie to her that he doesn’t know where it is. Yesterday he did this with the Keys. He works from home and put them in his pocket. I was on FaceTime with her when she asked if he knew where they were and he said no. My sister ended up being half an hour late for a commitment because he wanted to win the battle he created
Nailed it!!! ❤🎉