This can definitely be a reason. But it typically all boils down to someone not feeling liked, loved or respected. I would say taking each other for granted would fall under the disrespect category. Thank you for your comment Ben!
This simplified such a complex topic in a way that is easy to understand. I feel like I can now give a voice to the various challenges in my relationship. The most prevalent thing for me is not feeling respected in very extreme ways. What if the other partner is actually incapable of understanding how they are contributing to a person feeling unloved, disliked, or disrespected? My situation has incredibly extreme ‘symptoms’.
Regarding Respect : It was eye opening to hear you say that understanding what makes another person feel respected is essential-in other words it is a subjective experience to feel respected, that must be understood by the spouse. However, what if one person is acting in a way that looses respect from the other? How does that affect the dynamic of the relationship? Does respect need to not only be given but perceived by the other?
Hi Aundrea I prayed for you guys this morning that things will start getting better in your marriage. Keep your chin up and make God bigger He will get you through this:)
It does need to be given, but by BOTH parties. Sometimes it takes doing something similar to make my husband see what makes me feel disrespected. I only use it as a last resort but men are visual and sometimes don’t get it until they actually experience and see what you were trying to tell them. I do it with love and not vindictiveness. And then we talk about it and have a laugh about it. Now this will only work if you have a husband that doesn’t have obvious anger issues and Is open to learning and communication and making your relationship stronger and better. I wouldn’t advise it in a very volatile or unhealthy toxic relationship that had already gotten to that point in that case I would definitely consult a licensed therapist or psychiatrist That specializes in couples therapy or marriage counseling.
In USA and in western countries many marriages fail because "they make small things very big. They are overly touchy and sensitive people. ". This is not the case in India and other Eastern countries, people are more normal and take things as it comes, and don't analyze much . In western society, people's feelings get easily because it is more individualistic culture. Life can be more fun. But people, especially western world has made things much more complicated in marriages. It is like everyone is king and queen. They feel very entitled. I would like if Marriage Helper can do videos on why marriages work in Eastern countries. While being said that it is impossible to change western culture. They have gone too far. If your spouse is offended by you, your marriage is done.
Some marriage fails everywhere whether East or West but percentage are higher in the western culture. Your suggested study would be interesting and I believe it will be worth it if we can learn something new to save our marriages.
But don’t you think living together day in and day out especially if you’re in a long-term marriage over 25 years you’re bound to offend each other sometimes. Do you mean offending someone and then not apologizing?
Thank you so much Mariz Cultivo. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on TH-cam. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ Blessings,
@@cassandravanhornwyman9022 I’m sorry to hear that. It’s been 10months since we first separated, and 7months since I’ve heard anything from her. I knew then that she had no desire to work things out, but I had held on to hope. At this point, I haven’t known what to do because all contact has been blocked (even though I tried to give plenty of space and not be excessive at all) I’ve sent one letter and haven’t gotten a response. I’ve so badly not wanted to give up, but I don’t see any hope for this? I feel it’s biblical and honorable to try and work things out, and I have wanted to but it just doesn’t seem possible
@@MarriageHelper I try my hardest every day to be so open and honest..I do everything I can for my Husband, I really feel like Im missing something. I so eed Guidance...all my love and time and 100 percent loyalty doesnt seem to be enough to speak the secret life we lead...how can we move back in together , and stop this fake presentaion...we love each other and i honor my vows but we live separately when i want to yell our lo e from the rooftops ..what can i do Please help @Marriage Helper
Hi marriage helper! This is a wonderful video that covers a lot of good information on marriage. My question is should I share this video with my wife who’s wanting a divorce would this be a PUSH?
I’m srry that you’re going through a tough streak, the blessing is that you and your spouse can repair your union:) So am I, I was ready to throw in the towel last week but I’m gonna give things another try if the necessary changes are put forth by my counterpart and myself. Nothing more draining than an unhappy marriage 😢
Hey cons4231, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
Thanks for your comment! We actually have a video we did on this a while back, and a midlife crisis actually doesn't exist. People identify it as a midlife crisis when in fact it is someone grieving. And grief comes from the loss of someone or something, or the change in a normal pattern or behavior. AKA job loss, loss of a partner or friend, a change in lifestyle, etc can all lead someone to act in a way that others would term a "midlife crisis". Hope this helps! Blessings,
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Complacency, taking each other for granted
This can definitely be a reason. But it typically all boils down to someone not feeling liked, loved or respected. I would say taking each other for granted would fall under the disrespect category. Thank you for your comment Ben!
Exactly right Ben.
And of course the willingness to listen and work through making the necessary changes to show love, respect, honor, etc.
This simplified such a complex topic in a way that is easy to understand. I feel like I can now give a voice to the various challenges in my relationship. The most prevalent thing for me is not feeling respected in very extreme ways. What if the other partner is actually incapable of understanding how they are contributing to a person feeling unloved, disliked, or disrespected? My situation has incredibly extreme ‘symptoms’.
Regarding Respect : It was eye opening to hear you say that understanding what makes another person feel respected is essential-in other words it is a subjective experience to feel respected, that must be understood by the spouse. However, what if one person is acting in a way that looses respect from the other? How does that affect the dynamic of the relationship? Does respect need to not only be given but perceived by the other?
Hi Aundrea I prayed for you guys this morning that things will start getting better in your marriage. Keep your chin up and make God bigger He will get you through this:)
It does need to be given, but by BOTH parties. Sometimes it takes doing something similar to make my husband see what makes me feel disrespected. I only use it as a last resort but men are visual and sometimes don’t get it until they actually experience and see what you were trying to tell them. I do it with love and not vindictiveness. And then we talk about it and have a laugh about it. Now this will only work if you have a husband that doesn’t have obvious anger issues and Is open to learning and communication and making your relationship stronger and better. I wouldn’t advise it in a very volatile or unhealthy toxic relationship that had already gotten to that point in that case I would definitely consult a licensed therapist or psychiatrist That specializes in couples therapy or marriage counseling.
Never feel like my needs are met. He’s addicted to alcohol, drugs and women at 50. I’m 52 almost 15 years of marriage
In USA and in western countries many marriages fail because "they make small things very big. They are overly touchy and sensitive people. ". This is not the case in India and other Eastern countries, people are more normal and take things as it comes, and don't analyze much . In western society, people's feelings get easily because it is more individualistic culture.
Life can be more fun. But people, especially western world has made things much more complicated in marriages. It is like everyone is king and queen. They feel very entitled.
I would like if Marriage Helper can do videos on why marriages work in Eastern countries.
While being said that it is impossible to change western culture. They have gone too far. If your spouse is offended by you, your marriage is done.
Some marriage fails everywhere whether East or West but percentage are higher in the western culture. Your suggested study would be interesting and I believe it will be worth it if we can learn something new to save our marriages.
Spot on! In my case my Russian wife was very family oriented but then she got infected and indicated by the " Western " evil and decaying society.
But don’t you think living together day in and day out especially if you’re in a long-term marriage over 25 years you’re bound to offend each other sometimes. Do you mean offending someone and then not apologizing?
narcissism is the primary reason
Have you seen these?
marriagehelper.com/can-a-narcissist-change/
marriagehelper.com/married-to-a-narcissist-cbw/
And other diagnosed personality disorders.
Have you seen this? marriagehelper.com/can-a-narcissist-change/
This is truly the best conversation.
This was great conversation..lookin forward to next episode on subject! Thank You!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for being a part of our community here on TH-cam. We will see you in the next episode!
Now I know why it happened to us.
Thank you for sharing with us.
I just went through an unwanted (for me) divorce as well. I’m very sorry for your loss
Thank you so much Mariz Cultivo. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on TH-cam. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
Blessings,
@@MarriageHelper Thank you so much for your enlightenment. I appreciate it. God bless
@@chansemurphy5304 feeling your pain..never give up.🙏🏼💞
@@cassandravanhornwyman9022 I’m sorry to hear that. It’s been 10months since we first separated, and 7months since I’ve heard anything from her. I knew then that she had no desire to work things out, but I had held on to hope. At this point, I haven’t known what to do because all contact has been blocked (even though I tried to give plenty of space and not be excessive at all) I’ve sent one letter and haven’t gotten a response. I’ve so badly not wanted to give up, but I don’t see any hope for this? I feel it’s biblical and honorable to try and work things out, and I have wanted to but it just doesn’t seem possible
Communication, open, honest, and ongoing will resolve those issues.
Honesty and transparency combined with consistency over time will always lead to a solid marriage with your spouse. Thanks for your comment Donna!
@@MarriageHelper Yes! You're welcome. I enjoy your videos and teachings.
@@MarriageHelper Thankful for all that you share.
@@MarriageHelper I try my hardest every day to be so open and honest..I do everything I can for my Husband, I really feel like Im missing something. I so eed Guidance...all my love and time and 100 percent loyalty doesnt seem to be enough to speak the secret life we lead...how can we move back in together , and stop this fake presentaion...we love each other and i honor my vows but we live separately when i want to yell our lo e from the rooftops ..what can i do
Please help @Marriage Helper
Hi marriage helper! This is a wonderful video that covers a lot of good information on marriage. My question is should I share this video with my wife who’s wanting a divorce would this be a PUSH?
Great question? 🙏🏼
I love your shirt, Kimberly.
I did everything wrong. After watching I feel my marriage definitely doomed.
I’m srry that you’re going through a tough streak, the blessing is that you and your spouse can repair your union:) So am I, I was ready to throw in the towel last week but I’m gonna give things another try if the necessary changes are put forth by my counterpart and myself. Nothing more draining than an unhappy marriage 😢
Hey cons4231, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
Midlife crisis
Thanks for your comment! We actually have a video we did on this a while back, and a midlife crisis actually doesn't exist. People identify it as a midlife crisis when in fact it is someone grieving. And grief comes from the loss of someone or something, or the change in a normal pattern or behavior. AKA job loss, loss of a partner or friend, a change in lifestyle, etc can all lead someone to act in a way that others would term a "midlife crisis". Hope this helps! Blessings,