Coach Wayne is so correct when he said not to get hung up with someone who is not interested in you. Why waste your time with someone who may never want you when there are lots of other women who may want you more. Give yourself a HIGHER VALUE!
Thank you Corey, I just asked my dream girl to marry me and and with tears in her eyes she said yes!! Guys corey is the king of kings what he teaches WORKS!
Listen to him. I fucked it up after the second date, projected my neediness and started talking about labels "boyfriend/girlfriend" after getting drunk. Patience, patience, patience....
All you can do is pull back. Give her space. Let her find her interest again. No guarantees. Maybe she will maybe she won’t. You got to be ok with that.
This guy is the word on how to handle everything in life. What a dude. The mistakes I’ve made....all here....over and over....I’m 47 called very good looking work out 5 times a week ....often people say you must have hundreds of women. No because I was falling in love too easily due to zero self worth and a shyness. I’m now going to be winning ....thanks to Corey.
The best way to achieve what Corey is talking about is through building a larger window of tolerance. That means, learning to deal with uncertainty more effectively. The best way I know of dealing with this is through meditation of some sort. Meditation has a profound affect on the brain in allowing it to 'cool off' in times of duress where ordinarily the limbic (primal) system hijacks the brain and the person's prefrontal cortex (where rational though and judgment are centered) takes a back seat. What meditation does is it thwarts this process and allows the prefrontal cortex to remain 'online' so you can avoid falling into the trap of reacting to things, rather than responding to situations.
Actually, I've done regular breathing exercises during the Actor workshop classes that I took at the time. I've also tried a new exercise that's helped me overcome my sleep problem, since working late hours were starting to affect my sleep schedule during the week. So, it wasn't a one-time thing.
@msgirl01 women don't want a man who shares his feelings and act like a girl. You're just another example of women saying they want one thing and wanting something else.
This man changed my life, my ex girlfriend broke up with me little over 2 months ago, I started watching his videos. He talked about a man need to be on his purpose. Of course I begged, pleaded and chased my ex for 2 weeks before discovering this channel, guys now am on my purpose, have my own business, have my TH-cam channel and a lot has changed in my life and guess what? I don’t want my ex anymore.
I applied these techniques and it is absolutely essential that men do the same. Thank you Corey for all your work, I have directed a lot of my friends toward your channel, both single and in a relationship...all have benefited greatly. This new girl I just started dating is absolutely obsessed with me and all I did was keep myself slightly distant, slow to respond..and never texted her until she started a conversation. Easy
Corey, you are an absolute badass. I'm 48, and I'm not a bad looking guy and have enough smarts that I've done fairly well with women through most of my life. I got your book just over a month ago, and I was able to zero in on the mistakes I was making and I was able to immediately start to correct them. Much of what I was doing wrong, you cover in videos such as this one. I've noticed results much faster than I expected, as I've hooked up with two women in the past week. One of them just might be a keeper. I'm going to continue reading and getting this information into me. If I knew what you teach 20 years ago, my phone would have never stopped ringing. Young dudes - listen to Corey. He knows his shit.
I started reading his book and watching videos when I was 22. I had never even had a girlfriend. I’m now 29. I’ve grown so much. I’ve been in a 2 1/2 year relationship that ended because i saw needy, insecure behavior I didn’t like. I hook up with multiple girls per week. I’m not perfect and usually screw up moving from the dating phase to the relationship phase, but I think I’ve finally started to get that part down too
@@davidaustin8424 The biggest takeaway for me has been that patience pays off with women. I mentioned I'd done fairly well with women before finding CW, but my biggest mistake was moving too fast at times, and I'd lost a lot of opportunity with women due to that. Once I discovered that was my problem and took steps to remedy it, I wasn't prepared for many of the hookups I've had since. I've had to take breaks from dating at times because it's gotten too overwhelming.
@@JeffKMayo I know the feeling. When there’s 4-5 different girls all trying to come over at any one point, it almost gets annoying. Such a terrible problem to have 😉 sometimes I just want to be alone and tell them to stay home hahah
One of my favorite verses from Proverbs! Proverbs 25:28 “Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self control. “ Proverbs 14:29 “A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.” Thanks Coach for everything! God bless you all and stay centered. Uncertainty is a feminine trait!
Never show that your bothered by anything she says or does. If she is disrepectful, pull away. But dont say what is upsetting you, thisll make you SUPER mysterious. Just be happy/focused/busy with your purpose. Never show your bothered. If shes wanting to hangout/blowing up your phone your doing things right. If not, pull back.
key component that's missing is a woman's menstruation cycle. Luteal phase and the days where have PMS there will be virtually no attraction. In my limited experience they are usually only attracted to you when they're ovulating. That's probably the reason why in most of Corey's Wayne videos the answers are always similar, just back off and create some distance for a week or two and they will come back to you when they're ready.
Bernie O'Connell lol ask the fisherman, not the fish... Corey is more then just hooking up and getting laid. Sadly you can’t see that. :/ I wish you a lot luck in your relationships.
@@bernieoconnell5515 no...you're the fool....Corey mostly talks about a guy's life purpose, self worth etc.....getting 'laid' is just a side line....his main argument is building your own self-esteem and life and being a solid confident man.
When I feel anxious or unsure from passed failures with relationships I come to your videos. Usually listening to your videos or book help calm me. Hardest part is for me to believe I’m worthy to find someone I want.
Thank you so much for making these videos. I was was born with Asperger Syndrome and as a result do not naturally learn social skills. Your video has help me a lot understand dating in general and I feel like i am kinda begging to understand it a little.
Oddly enough what's worked for me is when a woman wants more and more of me I completely shut off emotionally and I start pulling away. Works like gang busters! Everytime
Thank you for your videos Corey, they always bring me back under center when I find myself spiralling mentally. Don’t sleep on the effect the “illusion of action” can have!
I don't even get fearful and uneasy any more. If she's not behaving the way I desire I just get bored and move on. Trying to get her to change her behavior is just so fucking tedious. I guess it's progress. Though I find myself bored more often than not.
I’m a girl. I like guys that can handle their emotions. That’s all. I like it when they have a tough exterior but a soft inside. Or when he opens up to me about WHO he is and not HOW he feels, but when other people are around he regains himself back to surface level conversation until we’re alone again. I like it when he cares even if he won’t tell me or pretends to not care but takes notice when I’m leaving. 1.) Give me a subtle hint that my presence matters 2.) Open up to me when we’re alone +how to get my heart
Although I never understood the concept of pulling away (especially being an adult) as I like to be around the girl I care about but in many cases this seems to work even on the most difficult situations!
If you text her too much and she stops responding... (Being needy and not giving space). 1. Make sure she has all your contact details 2. Ensure you were clear what you wanted and said what you felt while totally respectful of her possibly different perspective and feelings. 3. Delete all your conversations and her contact nos. 4. Now wait for her to get back to you and this time... Only reply to her messages with equal or even less replies. 5. Be prepared this time it might take weeks for her to reply (if it all) but deleting her no. Is the only way you can stop sliding even further and pushing her to the point that she will ghost you. Put some trust in what the initial energy and connection is all about. When she is ready she will return.
Anytime I show any interest after a date verbally. Even a simple positive things go south. I wont even say. "Hey I really enjoyed myself" Instant pullback. Corey is 100% right and this only get worse older. I am 63. I have game but the rules have changed. Never say ya like them.
It's literally like he says a hundred times, "women are more attracted to a man who's feelings are unclear." I've lost so many women telling them I like them or showing how much I care. It's terrible.
JDBarraza how fucked up a world we live in, where men, criticised for not being able to express their emotions and feelings, now don’t express their emotions and feelings, for the games we’re now having to play. All women are incredibly complex creatures.
Corey, I must say that happening into your TH-cam videos has indeed been an auspicious blessing,as I'm ameliorating myself from my simp abits with women. Thanks a million.
Sadly I experienced this with men where I give them the hint but they back up more and fail to make the date. They call and text but don't make dates. So I end up ignoring then blocking them. Who needs to have "good morning beautiful" on their phone every day but no date? It's ridiculous!
D3TOSS No. One thing a man really need a to have over a woman is initiation. Women can try wearing the pants all they want. But they will be miserable doing this. If that's how a relationship starts, it's also gonna be the cause for the end.
I've been listening to your videos from dawn to dusk lately and I have found it's a) great common sense and b) a great way to 'stop before you leap' and make stupid mistakes with people! I find you have a smiley way of talking that projects total confidence and it makes me feel very positive in my daily life. It's easier than you think to be a man, cutting out your own bullshit, not tolerating anyone else's bullshit is one way that goes a long way!
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Dude every video is the same thing 80% pursuing! She does the pursuing! Genius brother! I hope to shake your hand someday Dr Wayne
This is great in the beginning if you just want to get her interested, but if you play these games for too long then you will appear not interested and she will actually give up on you.
You're doing it wrong. Setting dates is the man's job and that indicates interest. Coach also goes into detail in his book about what happens if the girl you're seeing wants more contact from you and all you're doing is setting dates. You can make her feel special without over-pursuing or being her therapist.
Wanna hear something weird guys. Last year when I was going through a serious breakup, I met his super hot girl just to “use” her to get over my ex, and tbh I was really mean to her, I told her she was a bitch and I wa nasty to her and always put her down. I also told her that her current bf was boring and probably fucks bad. And I would also ignore her randomly for a few days. One day she told me she was in love with me. That scared the hell out of me and made me think “what did I do to this poor girl, this isn’t me”. But yeah...here I am, short guy, balding, having a 9/10 woman telling me she loves me. The guy who doesn’t give a fuck gets the girl.
@@nickp3949 bro so you helped her cheat? I've had two friends commit suicide from being cheated on. Be a better man and consider the consequences of your actions
I know. Thanks man. I was in a really bad place at the time. I know that’s no excuse to do that to somebody, but I’m a better man now. Thanks for the encouragement!
@@nickp3949 That's called an abusive relationship you fuckwit. You put her down so often she felt like she wasn't good enough for anyone so she settled for the only guy that will put up with her.
this happen to me and messed it up BIG TIME because of my jealousy and insecurities. Now she wants nothing with me. But I really want her back. I just order your book Coach.
Thankyou Corey, this shit works! i met a girl i really liked we dated, she seemed to be losing interest so i went no contact, really hard to do, i was nervous as hell and nearly gave in and txtd her... 3 days later and bam i get a phone call, feels awsome.
Falling in love is a process which takes a certain amount of time depending on many factors, you shouldn't fall in love too fast in comparison to your partner because that will make you too needy and you shouldn't leave too much space because then she loses interest, try to somewhat match his/hers interest and try to build it up but not too fast and don't stand still, keep pushing at a comfortable rate.
I'm a woman and this perfectly applies to my current situation. Btw we're in a long distance relationship. Last time we talked, he said he had tough days involving his family. We were sweet and flirty (I want to at least help him to de-stress) before we ended our conversation for the night. Then he pulled away for 2 days. I reached out the 3rd day, wanna check if he's okay. Now it's been a week, and he hasnt responded. I left a voice message today to reach out again. I'm getting worried what might have happened.. 😭
It's important to understand that Corey doesn't call you insecure to make you feel shit. He does it because he imagines his past self in every email. He's been through it, that's why he can say it with such certainty
All guys should know love take times pressure don't work for women, I wish my boy friend know this,Take me a fews month to following in love with him, but now to late,
Here's something to take note about young women in particular, study how she is with everything in her life, does she move alot? does she change jobs alot? is she constantly changing the color and style of her hair? This will also most likely be applied to her mentality in relationships. Until she matures and settles down, she will not be stable material to have a long lasting relationship with. So as soon as you may get her, expect at some point to lose her if this is the way she is.
Corey I love your videos and I think you help alot of young guys in particular that's getting involved with girls probably for a rare time in their lives. These guys are over investing themselves in girls that have a low interest level to begin with. We as all people should be just going out and having fun and if and when someone special comes along and sticks in our lives, thats when we can invest a little more in them.
Hey, single straight lady here, just eavesdropping on what you guys are talking about. I''m 55 now so not too much into dating much anymore, but I was curious. Watched a couple of these videos, and this man is on to something. When I saw this title I got excited because this is a subject that I have tried to broach in a couple relationship starts that only ended up shaking my guy too much and made him more clingy. That's a huge turnoff! I have always been up front about needing my space, my hobbies, etc. but it seems that guys just want to be absorbed into my life, and they stop living their own. It makes me claustrophobic! (I am pretty cool though and my "tribe is downright righteous. Plus I'm super humble too! lol) But there really is something so attractive about a little mystery, someone just a tad bit elusive, but not tooooo much! It's a fine line, I know, but if it's too easy to get, who wants it right? It's a two way street! I am not saying to play any head games, just don't stop doing your own thing! Don't try to just melt into your girls life, and don't 'expect her to do that for you either.
Hi Lori I need woman advice if can help me out.. I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action 1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake… What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit What should I had said and do? 2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort. I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% .. 3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym What would a Alpha Musculine man do ? Please help..Thank you
Great verse Cory KJV Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit (mind, anger, body) is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
here is a pretty interesting story i want to share. bare with me so it was new years eve in the city sf. i think it was 2014. anyways i was with a friend by embarcadero just sitting on the pier waiting for 12am to strike.i told myself the goal was to find a new years kiss. but it would be ok if i didn't. anyways thousands of ppl were passing by and the way were postioned they all had to pass by us and we had the alpha male body language down. i made eye contact with lots of ppl. some woman would stare break eye contact contiune on ect. none really caught me eye. the time was 11:30am. as we thought about moving to a different location soon... withing a split second i made eye contact with this girl and like corey wayne says " i could FEEL HER ATTRACTION" it's like it was meant to be. her eye contact was more intense and unwaverly. she happened to be with a guy friend. i was wearing a raiders hat. HE actually came up to us to talk about that. i didn't know they were hanging out. but she came up to us as well. and dude.. her eyes were locked on mine like a deer in the headlights. anways we chatted i bantered. she made it clear the dude she was with was just a friend. by her body lanaguge, attentiveness to me i knew she liked me. the time now as 11: 57. i said how about you be my new years kiss. she blushed and just stared. we talked few a min more. than i said come here...i slowly moved towards her and she acutally kissed me first!. anways. dude got pissed asked were the closed BART station was ( bay area rapid transit) and walked away. lol . she pulled out her phone as if to wait for me to giver her my number but i didn't.. i know i know i still regret it to this day. but it was a cool experience.
Hey coach Corey Wayne I've made that same where i had over pursued to the point that she told me multiple times that she wants to take things slow and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship, so now we recently broke up and I'm not gonna contact her at all I gotta walk away like a man if she comes back, great
Corey you are the man! Really opened my eyes after reading your book and watching hours of your video. I've lost a lot of attractive quality woman due to my silly mistakes after getting comfortable with them. I wished I had seen your material earlier in life. Oh well Im 29 now and still young. Keep the good work up!
People that don't know Corey's work think it's a game. It's only a game in the sense that he's teaching men and women how to respond to our natural essence because weve had too many external influences muddying the water. The "game" is to know youve been condirioned to act AGAINST nature for so long that now it FEELS like a GAME to be natiral. Women don't even know why they respond the way we do to certain actions of men. Some get butt-hurt with his teaching because they've been conditioned to suppress their urge to reach out to a man they are interested in because they think the man should chase them and make all the moves. Yeah. That didn't work for me. I understand myself so much better since I became a Corey student. I'm on my 5tb reading of the book and I watch his videos daily for several hours. The main reason we are so hard to understand as women is what Corey tells you over and over in his videos. We are emotional beings at our core. We rarely tell a guy the truth about why we don't like them because we don't want to hurt his feelings. Most of us have daddys, brothers, and sons. We project how we want them to be treated onto a man we are trying to dump. I married three men and I knew each was a mistake but I was too insecure and weak to stand up for what I wanted because I didn't want to hurt them. And i was too arrogant to realize they deserved better than what I could give them. They loved me and I cared for them but I wasn't in love. I loved them as people but I wasn't attracted to them physically. I just didn't want to hurt them. It's really crazy. And before you ask, none of them were rich. All working class. I also worked. We lived the paycheck yo paycheck life. I didn't use them for money like I know some wonen will do. I just settled because they were nice to me. They were comfortable. I didn't dislike them enough to end it. Now I realize I was being very selfish and arrogant. They deserved a woman who could be in love with them. So, if you want to be with a woman that really WANTS you... please learn from Corey how to pick up on the signs of a woman's interest in you. I promise you, he knows us!!!! I gave plenty of HINTS That I wasn't into them but they over pursued, ignored the signs, and projected their interest onto me. I'll never be that selfish again. I still don't savor hurting a man's feelings but I will be honest from now on as gently as I can. As Corey says, some men are too lazy to work on themselves to become better versions of themselves. Some people are messed up. Some people are users. But most people just want a healthy, happy, successful relationship. If you learn and apply Corey's work, you will become the man a real woman will be crazy over. It's really not that hard if you're willing to put in the effort of knowing yourself, learning the signs of interest a woman gives, and going after your goals in life. Good luck.
What about if you meet a girl, she's way too into you way to fast, so you want to pull back, but she's goes crazy... you want to pull back without it creating attraction..? Help!?
I made the mistake of projecting my emotions on a girl I'vebeen talking to for about 6 months. I've decided to take space for myself, because I refused to ruin her attractiveness to me by putting in too much effort. I'm about 5 days in of no communication with her. I plan on not contacting her until I her from her first. If I don't hear anything in the next couple of weeks, I might throw a feeler out, if I don't have anything else going on. But she's showed me that I need to put myself first. Focus on myself and good things will happen. Don't give up fellas. There are literally billions of beautiful women out there. The moment you think you can't find another just like her, is the moment you start screwing up.
What if a girl tells you she is super into you.. and is afraid to be to clingy... and a week later she's like "you pressure me too much even tho you dont even realize it".. its so strange when they change their mind like that. I pulled back now and see how it goes.. even though I didnt even do anything haha.. everything is always her idea 95% of time its her investment
The bibles full of stories about "hooking up". Heaps of lessons too. The first one being Adam and Eve. Adam comprised his own strength and position in the garden of eden and gave into Eve after she gave into Satan. Interesting I think
i am experiencing this at work. This guy is using the push pull technique on me. It worked for a couple weeks, but I lost interest because nothing was progressing. I felt he was more interested in the attention than in me. So I put a stop to the flirtation. Now he looks sad walking around the office.
Aww ☹ I don't know whether to laugh or cry about this. I swear, I'm telling you that the tv got us all messed up in relationships man. 😐 I recently had an x come back into my life. Messaged me out of the blue 3 weeks ago. He asked if we could get together etc. And at the last minute he doesn't show up. I have no idea what this game is? I'm lost.
How much pulling away is too much though? I think im quite good at holding back if i feel it's needed, but i have heard that if your partner isn't getting something in the relationship then they may start looking for that thing in someone else. I'll only ever pull away do if i think my gf really isn't putting in effort or starts being disrespectful in an argument or just normal bitch mode conversation. If i feel im right then i will be as distant untill i feel she cares again. Most women only love you in the moment, it can change by the next morning.
If she is being disrespectful then you tell her you don’t appreciate it and you leave the conversation with her. Don’t be angry, just be assertive. Wait until she initiates the next conversation. If you let her disrespect you, she will think less of you.
Hi Corey, I've recently purchased your book but I just have a question or two. What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?
Anytime you find yourself giving more energy than you receive, step back.
This.
This!
So perfectly said!!❤
what example of those energy?
If you’re putting in more effort than the other party
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
absolutely true
Only for those who care
Thanks mom
@@johnb6850 there always mommys tho haha!
Coach Wayne is so correct when he said not to get hung up with someone who is not interested in you. Why waste your time with someone who may never want you when there are lots of other women who may want you more. Give yourself a HIGHER VALUE!
Kevin P spot on
Wait how's it possible that I could see this comment on another video 🤔
martinisawe because it’s true 😂
Yes!!! 👍👍👍
Yup and those women who want you more are ones you dont want lol women are bad news plain and simple!
Thank you Corey, I just asked my dream girl to marry me and and with tears in her eyes she said yes!! Guys corey is the king of kings what he teaches WORKS!
Listen to him. I fucked it up after the second date, projected my neediness and started talking about labels "boyfriend/girlfriend" after getting drunk. Patience, patience, patience....
Did the same shit here man, trying to see if I can still make this work, am I still in control?
The odds are against you unless her interest level was 8-9 at the time of your 'mishaps'
Lol mine was the 4th
All you can do is pull back. Give her space. Let her find her interest again. No guarantees. Maybe she will maybe she won’t. You got to be ok with that.
coach Corey you a real nigga
I am.
#metoo
This guy is the word on how to handle everything in life. What a dude. The mistakes I’ve made....all here....over and over....I’m 47 called very good looking work out 5 times a week ....often people say you must have hundreds of women. No because I was falling in love too easily due to zero self worth and a shyness. I’m now going to be winning ....thanks to Corey.
the art of pulling out
Yes
hahaha
hahahaha damn good one!! the art of pulling out before you nut in her.
Avery NiteStar Glover 😂
Azhadi Asyraf Mohamad hahahahahah!
My man used the Bible to get us laid. Respect.
The best way to achieve what Corey is talking about is through building a larger window of tolerance. That means, learning to deal with uncertainty more effectively. The best way I know of dealing with this is through meditation of some sort. Meditation has a profound affect on the brain in allowing it to 'cool off' in times of duress where ordinarily the limbic (primal) system hijacks the brain and the person's prefrontal cortex (where rational though and judgment are centered) takes a back seat. What meditation does is it thwarts this process and allows the prefrontal cortex to remain 'online' so you can avoid falling into the trap of reacting to things, rather than responding to situations.
jonb5150 Very true, I've done this when a female customer lashed out at me at the bar I've worked at once!
Meditation is like a muscle it has to be done regularly, you can't just use it in a particular situation and expect it to work.
Actually, I've done regular breathing exercises during the Actor workshop classes that I took at the time. I've also tried a new exercise that's helped me overcome my sleep problem, since working late hours were starting to affect my sleep schedule during the week. So, it wasn't a one-time thing.
That's awesome man. Than you're already well ahead of the curve.
Thanks!
Holding back your emotion allows you to always maintain control so she must submit
Yes - if you want a submissive woman who is ok w a man refuses to share his feelings. Seems like a very limited relationship
@msgirl01 women don't want a man who shares his feelings and act like a girl. You're just another example of women saying they want one thing and wanting something else.
@@msgirl01what is your point?
@gretre6016 Not all women are submissive. Some are very independent, and it's different, I'd say from experience.
This man changed my life, my ex girlfriend broke up with me little over 2 months ago, I started watching his videos. He talked about a man need to be on his purpose. Of course I begged, pleaded and chased my ex for 2 weeks before discovering this channel, guys now am on my purpose, have my own business, have my TH-cam channel and a lot has changed in my life and guess what? I don’t want my ex anymore.
Banks da Lone Traveller awesome to hear
Flame Atlas Damnn it been 3 months already. Lol time flies and time heals all wounds. Guys
Flame Atlas be a man do it, but don’t feel bad about rejecting. How many times have you been rejected a job? It all the same bro
I applied these techniques and it is absolutely essential that men do the same. Thank you Corey for all your work, I have directed a lot of my friends toward your channel, both single and in a relationship...all have benefited greatly. This new girl I just started dating is absolutely obsessed with me and all I did was keep myself slightly distant, slow to respond..and never texted her until she started a conversation. Easy
Lol! It’s so true!
That’s key!
Based!
That’s what this girl is doing to me ever since I met her about a week ago got worst after the 1st date tho which was Monday
They're not techniques lol
i didn't have anybody to teach me that shit basically i had to learn it from coach wayne
you and me both bro!
Better late than never bro
I find myself always coming back to your videos years after I found them because the value of the information is priceless
Dude just read the book 10 to 15 times ;)
Corey, you are an absolute badass. I'm 48, and I'm not a bad looking guy and have enough smarts that I've done fairly well with women through most of my life. I got your book just over a month ago, and I was able to zero in on the mistakes I was making and I was able to immediately start to correct them. Much of what I was doing wrong, you cover in videos such as this one. I've noticed results much faster than I expected, as I've hooked up with two women in the past week. One of them just might be a keeper. I'm going to continue reading and getting this information into me. If I knew what you teach 20 years ago, my phone would have never stopped ringing. Young dudes - listen to Corey. He knows his shit.
How are you doing now? Do you still follow CW?
I started reading his book and watching videos when I was 22. I had never even had a girlfriend. I’m now 29. I’ve grown so much. I’ve been in a 2 1/2 year relationship that ended because i saw needy, insecure behavior I didn’t like. I hook up with multiple girls per week. I’m not perfect and usually screw up moving from the dating phase to the relationship phase, but I think I’ve finally started to get that part down too
@@davidaustin8424 The biggest takeaway for me has been that patience pays off with women. I mentioned I'd done fairly well with women before finding CW, but my biggest mistake was moving too fast at times, and I'd lost a lot of opportunity with women due to that. Once I discovered that was my problem and took steps to remedy it, I wasn't prepared for many of the hookups I've had since. I've had to take breaks from dating at times because it's gotten too overwhelming.
@@JeffKMayo I know the feeling. When there’s 4-5 different girls all trying to come over at any one point, it almost gets annoying. Such a terrible problem to have 😉 sometimes I just want to be alone and tell them to stay home hahah
What techniques specifically are you talking about
One of my favorite verses from Proverbs! Proverbs 25:28 “Like a city whose walls are broken down
is a man who lacks self control. “
Proverbs 14:29
“A patient man has great
understanding,
but a quick-tempered man displays
folly.”
Thanks Coach for everything! God bless you all and stay centered. Uncertainty is a feminine trait!
Never show that your bothered by anything she says or does. If she is disrepectful, pull away. But dont say what is upsetting you, thisll make you SUPER mysterious. Just be happy/focused/busy with your purpose. Never show your bothered. If shes wanting to hangout/blowing up your phone your doing things right. If not, pull back.
key component that's missing is a woman's menstruation cycle. Luteal phase and the days where have PMS there will be virtually no attraction. In my limited experience they are usually only attracted to you when they're ovulating. That's probably the reason why in most of Corey's Wayne videos the answers are always similar, just back off and create some distance for a week or two and they will come back to you when they're ready.
So true brother. Good point.
Beel 7
My girlfriend is on birth control + anti depressants
Zero libido. Her hormones are all out of place.
@@bernieoconnell5515 some beta bitch talk from you, youre wrong corey is a powerhouse
Bernie O'Connell lol ask the fisherman, not the fish... Corey is more then just hooking up and getting laid. Sadly you can’t see that. :/ I wish you a lot luck in your relationships.
@@bernieoconnell5515 no...you're the fool....Corey mostly talks about a guy's life purpose, self worth etc.....getting 'laid' is just a side line....his main argument is building your own self-esteem and life and being a solid confident man.
When I feel anxious or unsure from passed failures with relationships I come to your videos. Usually listening to your videos or book help calm me. Hardest part is for me to believe I’m worthy to find someone I want.
Thank you so much for making these videos. I was was born with Asperger Syndrome and as a result do not naturally learn social skills. Your video has help me a lot understand dating in general and I feel like i am kinda begging to understand it a little.
+1660-279-6625💬 👈Thanks for watching, I have something real big I would love to introduce you to™✓
Oddly enough what's worked for me is when a woman wants more and more of me I completely shut off emotionally and I start pulling away. Works like gang busters! Everytime
Thank you for your videos Corey, they always bring me back under center when I find myself spiralling mentally. Don’t sleep on the effect the “illusion of action” can have!
This guy shortened my learning curve by atleast 10 years
We need a video about the Art of Pulling Out.
coolbuddydude1 pulling out is for betas
@@AndyGinny1 This is a channel for betas though
Lol you sound beta
@@AndyGinny1 sure
Absolute genius. Everything Corey says rings true and is exactly how it should be.
Corey what makes you so good is you don't sugar coat shit and tell it how it is. Honesty is the key to success.
I don't even get fearful and uneasy any more. If she's not behaving the way I desire I just get bored and move on. Trying to get her to change her behavior is just so fucking tedious. I guess it's progress. Though I find myself bored more often than not.
AgeOfBile very true vice versa as well
Love this
A relationship is built on constant fun, like a butterfly going through stages in life. Except it never ends until you both die old.
I’m a girl. I like guys that can handle their emotions. That’s all. I like it when they have a tough exterior but a soft inside. Or when he opens up to me about WHO he is and not HOW he feels, but when other people are around he regains himself back to surface level conversation until we’re alone again.
I like it when he cares even if he won’t tell me or pretends to not care but takes notice when I’m leaving.
1.) Give me a subtle hint that my presence matters
2.) Open up to me when we’re alone
+how to get my heart
My dad has the weakest pull out game,that’s why i was born
If you cant control your anger you are as helplessly as a city without walls.
Although I never understood the concept of pulling away (especially being an adult) as I like to be around the girl I care about but in many cases this seems to work even on the most difficult situations!
Its horrible. But works a lot. I wish things weren’t this way… but wishing doesn’t matter..
nope
as a man we have to not care sadly about a lot of things
If you text her too much and she stops responding... (Being needy and not giving space).
1. Make sure she has all your contact details
2. Ensure you were clear what you wanted and said what you felt while totally respectful of her possibly different perspective and feelings.
3. Delete all your conversations and her contact nos.
4. Now wait for her to get back to you and this time... Only reply to her messages with equal or even less replies.
5. Be prepared this time it might take weeks for her to reply (if it all) but deleting her no. Is the only way you can stop sliding even further and pushing her to the point that she will ghost you.
Put some trust in what the initial energy and connection is all about. When she is ready she will return.
in my experience they dont come back once you get needy
Anytime I show any interest after a date verbally. Even a simple positive things go south.
I wont even say. "Hey I really enjoyed myself"
Instant pullback.
Corey is 100% right and this only get worse older. I am 63. I have game but the rules have changed. Never say ya like them.
I have blown it with a few fiiiiine women in the past bc i didnt realize this. Its a shame but who knows what the future holds.
It's literally like he says a hundred times, "women are more attracted to a man who's feelings are unclear." I've lost so many women telling them I like them or showing how much I care. It's terrible.
JDBarraza how fucked up a world we live in, where men, criticised for not being able to express their emotions and feelings, now don’t express their emotions and feelings, for the games we’re now having to play.
All women are incredibly complex creatures.
Corey, I must say that happening into your TH-cam videos has indeed been an auspicious blessing,as I'm ameliorating myself from my simp abits with women. Thanks a million.
Sadly I experienced this with men where I give them the hint but they back up more and fail to make the date. They call and text but don't make dates. So I end up ignoring then blocking them. Who needs to have "good morning beautiful" on their phone every day but no date? It's ridiculous!
Right!!? Give sincere effort & get sincere effort!! Games are for children not mature adults!
Good morning beautiful j/k
LMBO
how about asking the man out? how about initiating the date?
D3TOSS
No. One thing a man really need a to have over a woman is initiation. Women can try wearing the pants all they want. But they will be miserable doing this. If that's how a relationship starts, it's also gonna be the cause for the end.
I used to over pursue so many times in my earlier years. Glad I found Corey's work
I've been listening to your videos from dawn to dusk lately and I have found it's a) great common sense and b) a great way to 'stop before you leap' and make stupid mistakes with people! I find you have a smiley way of talking that projects total confidence and it makes me feel very positive in my daily life. It's easier than you think to be a man, cutting out your own bullshit, not tolerating anyone else's bullshit is one way that goes a long way!
Dude every video is the same thing 80% pursuing! She does the pursuing! Genius brother! I hope to shake your hand someday Dr Wayne
"That was a big fuck up" 😂😂 I love your personality
This is great in the beginning if you just want to get her interested, but if you play these games for too long then you will appear not interested and she will actually give up on you.
You're doing it wrong. Setting dates is the man's job and that indicates interest. Coach also goes into detail in his book about what happens if the girl you're seeing wants more contact from you and all you're doing is setting dates. You can make her feel special without over-pursuing or being her therapist.
Back again, i swear i need to actually learn what you are saying. I find myself recycling the same mistakes every time!
The dude that doesn't care gets the girl
@@nickgardiner898 PREACH BROTHER! 👏
Wanna hear something weird guys. Last year when I was going through a serious breakup, I met his super hot girl just to “use” her to get over my ex, and tbh I was really mean to her, I told her she was a bitch and I wa nasty to her and always put her down. I also told her that her current bf was boring and probably fucks bad. And I would also ignore her randomly for a few days. One day she told me she was in love with me. That scared the hell out of me and made me think “what did I do to this poor girl, this isn’t me”. But yeah...here I am, short guy, balding, having a 9/10 woman telling me she loves me. The guy who doesn’t give a fuck gets the girl.
@@nickp3949 bro so you helped her cheat? I've had two friends commit suicide from being cheated on. Be a better man and consider the consequences of your actions
I know. Thanks man. I was in a really bad place at the time. I know that’s no excuse to do that to somebody, but I’m a better man now. Thanks for the encouragement!
@@nickp3949 That's called an abusive relationship you fuckwit. You put her down so often she felt like she wasn't good enough for anyone so she settled for the only guy that will put up with her.
I would just like to say thanks Coach Corey, your videos have made me a more successful and confident man.
They put me in a trauma bond, I flip the script on them and put them on a reverse trauma bond for life!!!
Corey’s 5+ years ago videos though. The classics. Life saving.
I have the intro music to these videos as my alarm alert to wake me up every morning reminding me to.be ALPHA ✊👏👏💪💪
Steve Gutierrez hahahahaha I like this music tactic
Steve Gutierrez nerd, lol
How can I get it as a Alarm call??????
this happen to me and messed it up BIG TIME because of my jealousy and insecurities. Now she wants nothing with me. But I really want her back. I just order your book Coach.
don't be jealous. be happy smile even she talk to other men
Thankyou Corey, this shit works! i met a girl i really liked we dated, she seemed to be losing interest so i went no contact, really hard to do, i was nervous as hell and nearly gave in and txtd her... 3 days later and bam i get a phone call, feels awsome.
Good job Adam, how is it going with you and her now?
MrBrooklyn4lyfe
much better now i have relaxed and let her dictate the pace
adam thompson Great, i love hearing success stories.
just an update. all is well, she is making 80% of the contact, phone calls texts etc.
I simply did what corey suggests. Stop contact altogether and if she hasn't have made the contact them that would have been the end of it.
Falling in love is a process which takes a certain amount of time depending on many factors, you shouldn't fall in love too fast in comparison to your partner because that will make you too needy and you shouldn't leave too much space because then she loses interest, try to somewhat match his/hers interest and try to build it up but not too fast and don't stand still, keep pushing at a comfortable rate.
This is 100% true, you need to feel the right balance
I'm a woman and this perfectly applies to my current situation. Btw we're in a long distance relationship. Last time we talked, he said he had tough days involving his family. We were sweet and flirty (I want to at least help him to de-stress) before we ended our conversation for the night. Then he pulled away for 2 days. I reached out the 3rd day, wanna check if he's okay. Now it's been a week, and he hasnt responded. I left a voice message today to reach out again. I'm getting worried what might have happened.. 😭
Dark Caesar whatever happened happened
It's important to understand that Corey doesn't call you insecure to make you feel shit.
He does it because he imagines his past self in every email. He's been through it, that's why he can say it with such certainty
All guys should know love take times pressure don't work for women, I wish my boy friend know this,Take me a fews month to following in love with him, but now to late,
Say that again but much slower
This guy speaks from the heart you can see it and feel it.. love your work man
This coach is fucking awesome! For some reason, I'd always seek advice from women, and ignore his videos. Subscribed now! Bring 'em advices!
great advice! how does he only have 365k subscribers? this guy should have millions of subscribers. this info is priceless
I really respect the fact that corey admits that he acted weak and needy in the past with women ...
What's amazing about how you teach this is that it doesn't take, 6,7,8 failed relationships for this to all work out for you 😎 it takes 1
One of your best videos, thanks for sharing!
Corey you are a genius and you nail it every time.
Without the road map you provide I would be lost.
Could someone please explain what Coach Corey means when he says “maintain your emotional center”?
Being stable emotionally. She can't affect your mood, because she's not that important and her drama is not even a test for you
Here's something to take note about young women in particular, study how she is with everything in her life, does she move alot? does she change jobs alot? is she constantly changing the color and style of her hair? This will also most likely be applied to her mentality in relationships. Until she matures and settles down, she will not be stable material to have a long lasting relationship with. So as soon as you may get her, expect at some point to lose her if this is the way she is.
Rock N facts
Rock N FACTS FACTS FACTS
dude you dont know how thankful i am for all the info i bought book too
Corey I love your videos and I think you help alot of young guys in particular that's getting involved with girls probably for a rare time in their lives. These guys are over investing themselves in girls that have a low interest level to begin with. We as all people should be just going out and having fun and if and when someone special comes along and sticks in our lives, thats when we can invest a little more in them.
Hey, single straight lady here, just eavesdropping on what you guys are talking about. I''m 55 now so not too much into dating much anymore, but I was curious. Watched a couple of these videos, and this man is on to something.
When I saw this title I got excited because this is a subject that I have tried to broach in a couple relationship starts that only ended up shaking my guy too much and made him more clingy. That's a huge turnoff!
I have always been up front about needing my space, my hobbies, etc. but it seems that guys just want to be absorbed into my life, and they stop living their own. It makes me claustrophobic! (I am pretty cool though and my "tribe is downright righteous. Plus I'm super humble too! lol)
But there really is something so attractive about a little mystery, someone just a tad bit elusive, but not tooooo much! It's a fine line, I know, but if it's too easy to get, who wants it right? It's a two way street! I am not saying to play any head games, just don't stop doing your own thing! Don't try to just melt into your girls life, and don't 'expect her to do that for you either.
Hi Lori
I need woman advice if can help me out..
I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
What should I had said and do?
2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
Please help..Thank you
Also in Proverbs, 'Do not give your strength to a woman'. Every man should read it. Basically, a map for your life!!
thank you. God bless you.
Samson should have took note of such advice.
sir you are a legend
A-1 advice Corey💯 this video is the blueprint for a man to operate on a superior level.
Great verse Cory
KJV
Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit (mind, anger, body) is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
you have helped me a lot in my relationship corey. thanks a lot. everything you say about women is bang on..
The dude is absolutely brilliant it literally works to perfection
I love how brutal you are Corey. Makes me laugh. I am enjoying your 3% book mate
here is a pretty interesting story i want to share. bare with me
so it was new years eve in the city sf. i think it was 2014. anyways i was with a friend by embarcadero just sitting on the pier waiting for 12am to strike.i told myself the goal was to find a new years kiss. but it would be ok if i didn't. anyways thousands of ppl were passing by and the way were postioned they all had to pass by us and we had the alpha male body language down. i made eye contact with lots of ppl. some woman would stare break eye contact contiune on ect. none really caught me eye.
the time was 11:30am. as we thought about moving to a different location soon... withing a split second i made eye contact with this girl and like corey wayne says " i could FEEL HER ATTRACTION" it's like it was meant to be. her eye contact was more intense and unwaverly. she happened to be with a guy friend. i was wearing a raiders hat. HE actually came up to us to talk about that. i didn't know they were hanging out. but she came up to us as well. and dude.. her eyes were locked on mine like a deer in the headlights. anways we chatted i bantered. she made it clear the dude she was with was just a friend. by her body lanaguge, attentiveness to me i knew she liked me. the time now as 11: 57. i said how about you be my new years kiss. she blushed and just stared. we talked few a min more. than i said come here...i slowly moved towards her and she acutally kissed me first!. anways. dude got pissed asked were the closed BART station was ( bay area rapid transit) and walked away. lol . she pulled out her phone as if to wait for me to giver her my number but i didn't.. i know i know i still regret it to this day. but it was a cool experience.
the book of proverbs YES!! pure wisdom and thruth bro keep it up ......much love to you
Hey coach Corey Wayne I've made that same where i had over pursued to the point that she told me multiple times that she wants to take things slow and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship, so now we recently broke up and I'm not gonna contact her at all I gotta walk away like a man if she comes back, great
Corey you are the man! Really opened my eyes after reading your book and watching hours of your video. I've lost a lot of attractive quality woman due to my silly mistakes after getting comfortable with them. I wished I had seen your material earlier in life. Oh well Im 29 now and still young. Keep the good work up!
This info is so useful,am going through this same thing man was wondering what do that why I found your video just searching for answers
5:19 "Rinse, cycle, Repeat". Hahah! Oh My God did he really just say that!?
your a fucking legend
you're
Trigga Finger 😂😂😂😂😂
Grown man type wave, blessing to you.
Nice to hear Corey quote the Bible for the first time.
+Naj M.D. If you can't control your emotions you're like a city without walls waiting to be attacked.
Unless that city is Sparta.
Red character there isn’t a god grow up and stop believing in fairy tails.
@@RinneganPathMadara Sparta was conquered by Xerxes
@@Loneski255 What made you have to say that? Seriously? Don't be a bigot.
00:08 just noticed Corey really resembles Thanos
You're right
🤣
Love your advice.. Everything's right on point!!
In my situation the girl started pulling back and forth. Wanted to be persued. -> leave her to the streets ?
The guy in the letter is the kind of man i usually encounter. They must read your book.
Thanks, Corey! This video works for me and my "current" boyfriend.
Corey you made me a player 😞
Ghhxdf Vhnvc 😂😂😂
Better be a player than alone.
Girls like to be played.
These comments have me rolling xD
And all because we wanted someone special.
People that don't know Corey's work think it's a game. It's only a game in the sense that he's teaching men and women how to respond to our natural essence because weve had too many external influences muddying the water. The "game" is to know youve been condirioned to act AGAINST nature for so long that now it FEELS like a GAME to be natiral. Women don't even know why they respond the way we do to certain actions of men. Some get butt-hurt with his teaching because they've been conditioned to suppress their urge to reach out to a man they are interested in because they think the man should chase them and make all the moves. Yeah. That didn't work for me. I understand myself so much better since I became a Corey student. I'm on my 5tb reading of the book and I watch his videos daily for several hours. The main reason we are so hard to understand as women is what Corey tells you over and over in his videos. We are emotional beings at our core. We rarely tell a guy the truth about why we don't like them because we don't want to hurt his feelings. Most of us have daddys, brothers, and sons. We project how we want them to be treated onto a man we are trying to dump. I married three men and I knew each was a mistake but I was too insecure and weak to stand up for what I wanted because I didn't want to hurt them. And i was too arrogant to realize they deserved better than what I could give them. They loved me and I cared for them but I wasn't in love. I loved them as people but I wasn't attracted to them physically. I just didn't want to hurt them. It's really crazy. And before you ask, none of them were rich. All working class. I also worked. We lived the paycheck yo paycheck life. I didn't use them for money like I know some wonen will do. I just settled because they were nice to me. They were comfortable. I didn't dislike them enough to end it. Now I realize I was being very selfish and arrogant. They deserved a woman who could be in love with them. So, if you want to be with a woman that really WANTS you... please learn from Corey how to pick up on the signs of a woman's interest in you. I promise you, he knows us!!!! I gave plenty of HINTS That I wasn't into them but they over pursued, ignored the signs, and projected their interest onto me. I'll never be that selfish again. I still don't savor hurting a man's feelings but I will be honest from now on as gently as I can. As Corey says, some men are too lazy to work on themselves to become better versions of themselves. Some people are messed up. Some people are users. But most people just want a healthy, happy, successful relationship. If you learn and apply Corey's work, you will become the man a real woman will be crazy over. It's really not that hard if you're willing to put in the effort of knowing yourself, learning the signs of interest a woman gives, and going after your goals in life. Good luck.
What about if you meet a girl, she's way too into you way to fast, so you want to pull back, but she's goes crazy... you want to pull back without it creating attraction..? Help!?
I made the mistake of projecting my emotions on a girl I'vebeen talking to for about 6 months. I've decided to take space for myself, because I refused to ruin her attractiveness to me by putting in too much effort. I'm about 5 days in of no communication with her. I plan on not contacting her until I her from her first. If I don't hear anything in the next couple of weeks, I might throw a feeler out, if I don't have anything else going on. But she's showed me that I need to put myself first. Focus on myself and good things will happen. Don't give up fellas. There are literally billions of beautiful women out there. The moment you think you can't find another just like her, is the moment you start screwing up.
How did it go bro ? In that same situation rn we’re on good terms I’m jus gonna pull back starting today
Your awsoem, I have only been watching for a few days but your methods have already proven to be solid!! I feel better about myself!!
What if a girl tells you she is super into you.. and is afraid to be to clingy... and a week later she's like "you pressure me too much even tho you dont even realize it".. its so strange when they change their mind like that. I pulled back now and see how it goes.. even though I didnt even do anything haha.. everything is always her idea 95% of time its her investment
What’s the update? You get her back? 😂
quoted the bible while discussing how to hookup with women? classic.
@Den Danske Helt but not have premarital sex? What's the point
@@nahtanish People pick and choose what they believe out of the bible all the time. It is a tool to be used as one sees fit.
All kinds of sex in the bible
The bibles full of stories about "hooking up". Heaps of lessons too. The first one being Adam and Eve. Adam comprised his own strength and position in the garden of eden and gave into Eve after she gave into Satan. Interesting I think
Theres a lot of wisdom in the book of proverbs
i get it, fine I'll read your fucking book.
How's it going with the book ?
AceHitEmUp I'm still reading but I'd say it's full of golden nuggets ready to be pick up. I probly gonna read it repeatedly.
Mate how can i get a copy?
Make sure to read it 10-15 times
i am experiencing this at work. This guy is using the push pull technique on me. It worked for a couple weeks, but I lost interest because nothing was progressing. I felt he was more interested in the attention than in me. So I put a stop to the flirtation. Now he looks sad walking around the office.
Sheryl Henderson I used to do thatbwhen I was younger... Your right he just likes the attention and validation. He needs to grow up
Aww ☹
I don't know whether to laugh or cry about this. I swear, I'm telling you that the tv got us all messed up in relationships man. 😐
I recently had an x come back into my life. Messaged me out of the blue 3 weeks ago. He asked if we could get together etc. And at the last minute he doesn't show up. I have no idea what this game is? I'm lost.
Sheryl Henderson first problem is your @ work.
Cannot believe this video is 9 years old
How much pulling away is too much though?
I think im quite good at holding back if i feel it's needed, but i have heard that if your partner isn't getting something in the relationship then they may start looking for that thing in someone else. I'll only ever pull away do if i think my gf really isn't putting in effort or starts being disrespectful in an argument or just normal bitch mode conversation. If i feel im right then i will be as distant untill i feel she cares again. Most women only love you in the moment, it can change by the next morning.
just pull back or push her away when she start disrespectful. no one can accept someone that dumping us. have some self respect bro
If she is being disrespectful then you tell her you don’t appreciate it and you leave the conversation with her. Don’t be angry, just be assertive. Wait until she initiates the next conversation. If you let her disrespect you, she will think less of you.
I've found this stuff works with all relationships not just romantic ones
It’s absolutely essential social skill that parents and schools fail to teach
What can you do if you're in a long distance situation.. applying these same techniques?
Hi Corey, I've recently purchased your book but I just have a question or two.
What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?