As a registered nurse i just want to applaud you for opening up yourself to personal questions. We are all different in so many ways. Love your videos, take care.
I shared 19 years of my life with a woman with a muscular disease and she was afraid she would lose me on several occasions: (1) when she just met me, (2) when she needed extra oxygen and (3) when she needed medication that was pumped into her vein 24/7. She never lost me, but I lost her: she died in April 2021. And by the way... we had a wonderful sex-life. She had full sensation, so she could enjoy it as much as I did.
They ask if husband is satisfied. LOOK at her. She's lovely. Of course he is satisfied. And it gives me strength to hear all of your stories. On a deep level. Ok people do a lot of complaining instead of living life (I'm guilty of it).
My sister understands these issues because she has Spina Bifida, and she has the full capacity to have orgasms by using her brain!!! I am an able-bodied female who previously had full function up until my mid forties, but now I am nearing menopause, and I am struggling with loss of feeling and function…Now, It feels as if my entire sensual body has died already. I feel grief, and I miss the good feelings, and menopause hasn’t even happened yet.
I'm not paralyzed, don't know anyone who is... but I loved this video!! So informative & I absolutely love how candid and confident you are. Thank you for sharing such intimate details ☺️
I'm a retired anaesthetic nurse from Scotland. I think your an amazing young woman. To have become paralysed at just 13 years of age it would have been completely understandable if you'd just withdrawn right into yourself. You've obviously had amazing parents to have encouraged you to become a positive role model for paralysed people, especially young ones. I adore your sense of everything is to be laughed about especially embarrising accidents. I'm betting your an amazing mum and I think your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful wife. There's a saying I don't know if you know it but it most certainly describes you, "your a breath of fresh air". Carry on enjoying life, it passes us by so quickly.
Thank you for being so honest! That helped me, I am still a wheelchair baby, just 2 years in. I have trouble finding people to date, but to see someone is married and it's possible to cope with sexuality is really inspiring and comforting.
My best advice is to never apologize for your disability. Own all parts of it and set the tone going into a relationship that these things are part of your life (wheelchair, bowel, bladder), and they can take it or leave it!
You are a doll!! I'm over 60 now and have Asperger's... been without intimacy over 20 years and can't really say I miss it, or ever knew if I really had it. Your story touches my heart and sharing it with us all is very brave and I'm proud of you!
Thank you for being so open and honest about this topic, I think alot of people are just genuinely curious about stuff like this, and there's not many people who will be so open about it 🙂
Yeah I wanna help educate people who would never be brave enough to ask. I was too shy to ask these questions and it took me WAY too long to figure stuff out!
Holy cow, you take "living your authentic self" to a whole new level I can only wish more people in this world had half of your strength! Thank you for your insights, Live well!!
Your forthcoming answers are going to help so many people. Because a lot of folks won’t talk about lack of sensation post paralysis, (which is their right) it can cause those experiencing it to feel self-conscious or ashamed. You are amazing! ❤
I worked as a certified nurse assistant for a couple years and these sorts of questions crossed my mind, so I appreciate your candor. I specifically love the way you talk about how the whole experience is set free by your imagination.
Thank you so much for discussing this openly. I have a spinal cord injury, and eventhough I learned to walk again, I deal with many physical challenges. It feels overwhelming at times. Your video showed me there is a "normal" life I can dream of.
I don't think my wife was ever able to have an orgasm. It was quite a few years before we were able to talk about it honestly. She was diagnosed with MS about a year and 5 months after we were married. Of course, then we were able to trace symptoms to back before we met, and I suspect failure to reach orgasm was one of them, if I had known. I pride myself on being a non-selfish lover, and so the situation is hard to understand, but I think your video has contributed to my understanding. My wife was always an enthusiastic sex partner, though she didn't masturbate or enjoy sex toys. I just thought she was a "quiet" orgasmer, which I had seen before. I inquired after her satisfaction, and she declared herself satisfied. As her feeling diminished, she complained I wasn't giving her enough foreplay, so it seemed she was getting something out of it. Eventually, it became obvious that no amount of foreplay could compensate.
Thank you for sharing your most inter-personal experiences with us. I have spent 30 years and countless hours in the Operating Room working with surgeons as a trained RN and now a consultant for a major healthcare company helping patients with spinal injuries. I see the patients when they arrive to the OR in need of serious care, but I rarely get see the outcomes on how well these patients do long term. We all take our jobs very seriously in the OR and we want to provide the best possible care to give patients the best chance possible. It is so rewarding to see someone like yourself, positive, energetic and such a uplifting person. Thank you so much for sharing your strong spirit , awesome attitude and your personal experiences. God Bless
I'm lucky that I have lots of support and people that push me to be better all the time. I think it would be a pretty miserable life if I spent it being angry!
I was involved with a woman who was paraplegic when I was young. She was very quick to have an orgasm, I think because we were very keen on each other at first, so she was sort of 'fired up' even before we started ! She had a lot of muscle wastage in her legs. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but she was a lovely person. I think if we had talked as openly as you do, it might have gone better.
You are amazing. I had many talks with my Mom whom had MS and was full on needing a wheelchair. Thank you for letting people know that even though you are “less abled” you still are ALIVE. Love you!❤️
I was sooo amazed how open and confident you spoke on this subject. Your doing a great service for people who struggle with disabilities thank you for your strength and courage.
What an amazing attitude, and something we can all learn from. It sounds like you took the fear that your husband might be unfaithful and turned into a strength by being more self-affirmative + looking for ways to make the sexual portion of your relationship even better. This is how we all need to deal with burdensome fears! Thanks much for sharing your story.....it's inspiring! 👍👍
Brittney thank you for always being so honest and opened. You’re one fantastic educator, I can’t start to thank you for all you’ve shared here, it been so informative.
You know, at the end of the day, even though you can’t “feel it” I think you have down what is important and that’s the intimacy with your husband. Some people chase the physical pleasure and completely overlook the emotional connection.
@@EmpoweredPara my boyfriend and me have been working on this for years and it‘s a delight to hear stuff from your perspective! Society is SO weird about sex and spreads so many false „information“ and often prioritizes the physical act, especially for men, so it‘s hard to dismantle all of that false stuff and find out the real information for my boyfriend and me. I wish we would hear about the emotional part of sex way more often, it‘s so overlooked and people spend years figuring that out because there is just not enough awareness.
I'm not sure how this got suggested to me but I was curious as I am interested in people. I really admire your frank and honest outlook and understand how much support you are giving to others. Well done you
What a delightfully honest Frank & beautiful young woman you are. You will probably never know how many people you have helped over all these 'unspeakable ' situations & making them all so normal. May your God bless you
I am really lost for words. Your amazing positive attitude portrays what the mind can overcome. Your outlook on life encompassing a strong dertermination to function and be positive with this disability is amazing. Rehabilitators/paralegics and just everyone battling with a disorder or disability would benefit so much from your story. Thanks for telling it!
A very brave and well-done explanation of your situation. Having two kids, and being a Mom and wife makes you the Beautiful catch!!! Best wishes to you and the family! Positive prayers as well!
That depends entirely on whether or not the worry is grounded in reality. If you meet someone and you start worrying before you even know that person there's a good chance that's a you problem. Granted by the time you're considering marriage that should be already worked through.
I admire your courage and willingness to openly discuss these topics .many people are curious about these topics but probably are either misinformed or unsure about how to ask these questions because of fear of accidental offending someone. Your a very inspirational and courageous woman.
thanks! It took me a while to gain the courage to share such personal things but you guys make me feel really great about doing it! I hope it helps educate people!
Big props for coming out and discussing these topics. I'm not going to lie, I've wondered some of those questions but would never feel comfortable asking someone in your situation these types of questions.
I love your open and honest videos. The reason you are so successful is because you answer questions that everyone wants to ask but are too afraid to, openly that is. So thankful. You , your life and physical situation in life is very interesting. Thanks!
Awesome, thank you for your honesty! I've been a subscriber for some time. I don't comment much. I'm new to the disabled community with nerve disease that is taking away the use of my legs. I have watched many of your videos. They're very informative and much appreciated! Having been able bodied and now disabled, my thought process has obviously changed a bit. While there have been a few rude people, I have found that most people are kind and helpful. Thanks again for your help along the way!
@@EmpoweredPara I have wondered this for awhile and felt like I could ask you because you seem like such a forthright, honest and helpful person. Does earning money from your channel affect your SSDI or SSI benefits. I know SSDI and SSI are not enough to live on but having Medicare is a huge help and not something disabled people can do without. I see quite a few disabled people with YT channels so I was curious.
@@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 I don't have the answer, but I'm replying because I'm not sure Brittany does either. She's Canadian so I don't know if they have SSI/SSDI there. I know the Healthcare system is different. I don't know what their equivalent is to our SSDI or Medicare.
I actually genuinely was curious about this whole topic. I was doing a little bit of a research on the internet , came across a couple of articles. But honestly , the fact that I had a chance to listen to you as a person who first handedly experiences it , you made things much more cleaerer. I respect you so much for having the courage to educate and inform people on such a sensitive and personal topic. I have been an internet user for almost 20+ years and I mustn't have posted more than 10 comments on TH-cam my entire life. I just had an urge to express my appreciation to you :) God bless you and your family
Took me a few years to get brave enough to share such personal things! Thanks for taking the time to tell me how important yoy think my content is! Definitely reassuring knowing I'm not just sharing gross stuff no one cares about lol!
I LOVE that u answered these questions! There is SO much more to sex than just being able bodied. If u have A strong connection, love, safety, trust and compassion between u and your partner your sex life will be amazing no matter what your body is capable or not capable of doing.
It is so brave and kind to share this topic, as you always do! Sexuality is still something that I have not been able to cope since my injury two years ago. It's something I need to do, but body acceptance first is being hard and libido seems to have dissapear..I imagine is a matter of time.I didn't know about the nerve vagus, though. I will look into that!
Don't be afraid to talk with a sex therapist if it's something you want to address, they could probably offer a lot of guidance and help you process these concerns in a healthy way.
I am new to your channel. I am a doctor of Psychology and in a wheelchair due to last stage kidney failure. Recently retired i find i am always looking for interesting people. Well I found you. Your content is interesting. thank you for being open and sharing your life. You have courage . You have a beautiful soul and that is wonderful no matter any other limitations you may have...
I try to be informative and entertaining! Nothing worse than boring, very serious disability related content lol. I got enough of that in the hospital lol
I can appreciate your last point about what's within your control to affect, and the self-fulfilling nature of the thoughts and attitude you choose to hold. It's within a context completely foreign to me, but seems like it could feel insurmountable. Your positivity is really strong, robust. Your worldview and sense of self are amazing. I had not expected this from my YT reccs, but thank you for sharing a perspective I had never seen or thought about much.
Thank you for being so open with questions like this. I’ve seen other videos where a person with a disability is asked these questions and they’re very vague in their answers and dance around the subject. I know not every person with a disability is the same, but in a way it’s nice to have a definitive answer from someone
I'm a very quiet person myself .... I could never talk about being differently abled like you do. I want to thank you for being so brave about your physical condition and openly talk about it. You are definitely a strong person and blessed to have a wonderful spouse who loves you. Not many disabled have that blessing.
The algorithm brought me by, and I'm happy to subscribe. My wife is in a chair, your content will help me. I admire and respect your honesty, thank you for this. Happy New Year!
Thanks for being so honest. It's very helpful and encouraging! I can tell that your husband adores you, and guys like that don't cheat. I was a little sad for you at the beginning of the video, but it reminded me of how many people who lose their hearing say that it forced them to a way more intimate way of communicating with people and they're glad. You probably have felt intimate emotions the rest of us will never experience!
Such a sweetheart. I'm so glad to hear that you have a family just at the point I was wondering if you would be able to have children. Love and prayers x
I want to commend you for being so brave to tackle these questions, and answer them with the candor and truthfulness that you did. I also congratulate you on your outlook on life and your positive attitude.
It's natural to be curious and I'm tired of all the stigma surrounding disability. Silence grows stigma, honesty and information helps remove stigma I believe!
First, yes, you are quite beautiful and your outlook is unquestionably healthy. Second, when it comes to whether or not your husband is fulfilled, I don't think many people have given much thought to the fact that he would be a fool not to be fulfilled. He's under no pressure to "perform", so sex is without the pressure therefore extremely liberating. More to the point, if he's any kind of man, sans performance anxiety, his concentration is now freed to be on you, not on himself. From a man's perspective, your husband is in one of the best positions a married man can be in. He gets to sleep with a beautiful woman, doesn't have to worry about her cheating on him, can use his imagination to make her happy sexually, and most important, he gets to take care of her in a way that expresses his boundless love. In short, he's a very lucky guy. And God bless you M'am, you're an example of greatness in womankind.
Hello, enjoyed your video. 39yr old male. I have a broken back and I have difficulty with sex and can not organism offen. I get embarrassed and had been criticize for not being able to or lose all interest because pain is to much. It's been 2 years and I'm still learning but makes me not even want to leave the house. Feels good to share. Thanks.
From a man's perspective. I am married with kids and my wife is a 3 time cancer survivor. There has been many times in our marriage where I wasn't fulfilled sexually and at times it made me really frustrated. I will say that I never explored or considered cheating on my wife because of it as she is my best friend and I would expect the same from her if our roles were reversed. She got cancer about 5 years after we were married and right when she was pregnant with our second, so I had no way of knowing that she would have many health problems. You, however, were paralyzed before you were married, so he knew what he was in for and he should have realized what he was in for. All that being said, no person is worth anyone's time or effort if they won't respect you or the relationship enough to not be faithful. You have a great man at your side. Keep your head up and thank you so much for your vid!
Britany, I felt I had to react to your brave and awesome video. You are Amazing! God bless you and the experiences you have had and how you took them and turned yourself into such great person. The way you approach your challenges and carefully consider your emotions and attitudes and your relationships is one of the most advanced and healthy examples of someone being truly masterful and in control of their life that I have encountered. It's brilliant! You diagnosed a negative feedback loop, dug into it to gain understanding, and then had the moral courage to make corrections to your own perspective and reactions to turn it into a positive thing. This positive thoughts approach was very inspirational and, sadly, is something that is beyond what most people would have found themselves capable of conceiving, let alone being able to follow through with. Keep on inspiring the world with your brilliance, beauty, and wisdom! Cheers!
Thank you for this informative and honest insight. I am a medical resident and I learn from your videos things that I have not learned during my education so far. 👍
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I came across your post by chance. I found it informative and I admire your honesty. Your husband is certainly a lucky man, long may you both enjoy life's journey
I applaud your candor and bravery these are questions I've had about people paralyzed for many many years but never really asked thank you so much for sharing so much personal stuff I applaud you and I'm glad you and your husband are good!
What an amazing video with an awesome perspective. I especially love your points about choosing to trust and not worrying about the little things as long as you love your husband. Such a great and wholesome thing to put out there for people that need to hear it.
I love your channel and I think it's awesome how open you are with answering questions like this. My brother in law was in a relationship with a woman who became paralyzed and they both were able to enjoy sex because she said a lot of it was imagination based as well. She also could enjoy other physical things during sex like the touching part. I think a lot of people forget that intimacy is a major thing that is so important and it's not all about actual intercourse. I can definitely see how if I ever were to be involved with someone who was unable to feel that specific thing that it probably wouldn't be a huge deal because there's more to it than just that.
Wow. You are doing amazing things with this platform. You mentioned your mother in a previous video. I only recently discovered your content. As a parent of 5 kinds I know that your mother (perhaps both parents) deserve a lot of credit for raising such a confident, smart, self-sufficient and inspirational young lady.
They do! My mom always made me feel grateful about the life I get to live no matter how challenging. They were slso an amazing source of support when I needed it most!
Wow. Such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful attitude... There are a lot of women without physical impairments who are much more handicapped. Your husband is a very, very lucky man to have found you. Apparently, he is also a very good man, to have won your affection. Thank you for sharing.
Absolutely enjoyed your answers to, very personal questions, they were questions that I've been curious about myself, thank you for your beautiful attitude, I really appreciate the respect you have for your husband. True Love is a bond that can never be broken!
You, your husband and your family are such beautiful people. The only thing I know about you and your fam, is getting to know you. But if your husband doesn't worry about you peeing/pooing and/or being messy, and the fact that you both show the love you have for each other and family shows just how faithful and loving you all are. You truly show what a credit your whole family is. I promise you have nothing to fear, and neither does your husband. Thank you for your vids. May God continue to bless you and yours, hooroo for now from Down Under.
I had a girlfriend who had two poop accidents during sex and without any disability being involved whatsoever. She was more upset about it than I was. And told me a few weeks later that she cried about it afterwards when she was alone and I was no longer around(I don't know if that was the first time or the second time.) It didn't really bother me too much because I don't have a weak stomach for stuff. We cleaned it and she did laundry, no biggie. If anything I kind've thought of it as a compliment, like I sent her to Neptune to the degree that she pooped herself lol🤙 And this actually happened two different times!
Go to the pet store and get some Vetricin Gel to apply to potential contact wounds. My amputee wife uses it each night before bed for pressure spots from her prosthetic. It also works on inflamed hair folicles, too. Some paras use it when they cath. It is very safe. Hypochlorous acid is a naturally occurring substance in the body. Love your channel.
@@EmpoweredPara It is not a numbing cream. It is a wound healing liquid/gel that can also prevent infection. It is anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and can defeat MRSA, Covid, staph, strepp, yeasts/fungus, and more. Women use it on infected eye lash follicles. When you get those contact wounds on your skin, apply it. It can help reduce UTIs, too. It is far better than antibiotics ointments. It does not cause microbes to develop resistance/tolerance to it. Google hypochlorous acid. Contact/pressure wounds can be so hard to heal.
Brittany you are beautiful and amazing!! I'm an above knee amputee and I've had all kinds of questions throughout my life. Thank you for sharing and being so open.
god only knows how i came across this video.. but i couldnt stop watching, you are so engaging and your honesty is just incredible... what a lucky man your husband is
Thank you for being cool enough to make this and answering questions I have asked myself in my head, but more just for being you. People like you make disabilities seem like normal life, it's hard as hell but we can manage, physical or psychological 🤘♥️
I don't have much to say. I'm just glad you found a man who loves you for you, and does what he can to make you happy. And, as if not more important, you seem to enjoy and reciprocate. The latter is even rarer in my (admittedly male) experience. I'm just happy you two have each other.
sexual intercourse is only a small part of sex, I think for play starts from when you awake in the morning and by that i mean being kind and loving towards each other. lets face it if you have had bad words in the morning with your partner don't expect that person to want to be intermate with you at night. you are very beautiful, intelligent, funny, brave and a great mother and a great wife, your husband thinks the world of you. you two have so much love for each other and that is something very special as not everyone finds that in their lifetime. Hugs from Manchester England xox
I want to thank you 🙏 for opening up about your life as you live! I mean, I lost my eyesight at 47 but I guess it’s as how you live your life! You’re an amazing beautiful woman! Thank you
If you were paralyzed when you met, all through dating, and he married you, pretty safe bet it's not a problem for him lol. Plus being a knockout helps too, I'm sure he has some jealous friends! That was really interesting, thanks for sharing.
"Where there is a will there is a way" I just stumbled into the video and I find it highly informative & enlightening. I am glad that you are living full life. Remember looks is only skin deep.
I’m not paralyzed but there’s lotta numbness because I’m a diabetic type two probably more than 25 years now and it takes a toll on one’s body. I’m 72 and I just subscribed to your channel because I’m finding it very interesting to learn these things that you’re talking about.
Another paralysed individual on YT answered some questions and was offended that she would be asked this kind of thing on the 2nd or 3rd date. But if someone really likes you and potentially signs up for monogamy resulting in a life of celibacy, that would be quite important I'd say.
I'm also a paraplegic. Your videos was both awkward and informative. Thanks for your honesty and openness Joe. I may not be dating, but I agree with what you said.
As a male, married 32 years, separated for 2, and unfulfilled for many years, I want to say that all I ever wanted from my wife was her willingness to share her body with me. The sense of rejection when someone is never in the mood really hurts. I feel like I could be completely fulfilled by a paralyzed person. Mostly what's important is approval and smiles!
OK. I am going to try and unpack this so that you don't fall into the same hole again, because there are certain things that guys do that can wind up with this happening and once it happens it can be very difficult to get out of: 1] Sometimes guys project there own shames on to women around sex. If something does not turn you on, just say it is not YOUR thing without making any judgements about the act itself or the person suggesting it. We just all have our own turn ons and turn offs, but by going 'yuck that is disgusting', you could stifle variation and fun. 2] Operate good boundaries, no means no. For you and them. This builds trust and opens up intimacy. 3] Communicate about what you like and how you like it. More pressure, less pressure, faster, slower, here, not there, not today thanks, maybe another time. 4] Ensure that you are affectionate without loading that affection with an expectation that sex will occur. Because it quickly comes across as:- 'you only cuddle me as a sign that you want s3x and not as a sign of love or support'
Damn that sounds rough as hell. But you definitely have the right attitude about the situation. Sex and all it entails is great but it’s not the only thing that matters in life. It’s not a measurement of love merely an aspect of it. As my health teacher told us way back in seventh grade. “Love is not having sex with someone after a fun date. Love is getting up at two in the morning on a work night to change your child’s dirty diaper so that your wife can get a few extra hours of sleep”. I’m glad to see the strength of character that isn’t swayed by the modern mindset of pleasure first. Honor second. I’m glad to see that this malady hasn’t broken you but made you strong. Personally I couldn’t cheat on my wife even if she couldn’t have sex with me because I love her and couldn’t bare the thought of doing something so horrible to her. And I believe with all my heart that your husband is like me in that regard. Despite the stereotype we’re labeled with, guys do love and do feel emotions we just express them differently. And if he is a man he will stick with you for life because he took that vow knowing that this was how the relationship would work. Sex may not work in some aspects for you two but you both have more to you than just the physical act and it shows. (Sex isn’t that big of a deal once you reach a certain age anyway. You more often than not just wanna chill and enjoy some hobbies together. So from a guy who can feel sex I’ll give you that bit of comfort. It’s good but not so much that it’s like going without air. More like going without sugar. The more often you go without it the more you realize that you don’t need it. You just enjoy it for the dopamine and endorphin hit.). Anyway I enjoyed hearing your take and experience on the subject. Not paralyzed myself but no less empathetic and inspired by your honesty and boldness. All the best to you. You’ve earned a new subscriber.
welcome! Love the love you have for your wife! My husband would agree that sex isn't everything! But we make sure it's an important part of our marriage even though it looks different!
You remind me of my late husband. He was loyal and loving in the same way. However at 70 I don’t think the desire for intimacy has left nor will it. I probably will never have another relationship but if the right person came along, well??? Keep on with your wonderful marriage and cherish each day as though it’s the last.
I didn't search for this video, but it did answer some longheld questions of mine that I would never dare to ask someone in your position. Thank you for your frankness!
I am a quadriplegic and I've been having crazy explosive orgasms. But they just started after years of being disabled. I've been in a wheelchair for 30 years and I recently figured out how to have an orgasm. Not that I haven't had sex all these years but just recently I had some changes in my physiological condition and was able to do a little bit of experimenting, and I found that I have orgasms that last way longer than anything I ever had before and definitely longer than my partner. On average they're about 20 minutes lo. This is the orgasm not just the sex, and they can go up to an hour. If I'm not careful, actually they will come back when I'm least expecting it and just sort of hit me when I'm in the middle of a conversation or having dinner. It's a completely new world for me. Thanks for opening up on this topic.
@@EmpoweredPara I got hurt when I was 20. I was sexually active at the time and breaking my neck as you can, imagine, was a huge blow. My doctor at the time recommended using a condom catheter so that I could empty my bladder. Which I did for a couple decades. Every day putting on a new one. It’s a little odd, because I am not a complete injury, but I can’t move anything below my level of injury. I can feel, but not in the way that you would necessarily want to feel. I can’t feel hot. I can’t feel doll I can’t feel warm or sharp. What I feel is pressure and it usually comes in the form of pain. When I’ve been touched down in that area, I get this feeling of pressure but can’t localize it so this is how it went for about 30 years. I began to get bladder infections on a regular basis, and my doctor recommended going to a super pubic. I did that about four years ago if you’re doing the math I am 54 now. After a couple months of having the catheter off, I was noticing something that was kind of scary. I thought I might be sick or something because every time somebody washed me up in that particular area, I would get these flashes of light behind my eyes. This is about the time I met someone, I contacted my doctor and told him that I was thinking about being intimate, and I haven’t really maintained that area very well as far as whether or not, it works since my surgery to put the superpubic in. He recommended using a penis pump about once a week to maintain my abilities to perform. I worked up the courage and asked my assistant to put that on for me one evening. Thinking I would only do it for a couple minutes to make sure I didn’t do anything weird to my skin. After about 30 seconds, I began to get really scared. I started having the shaking feeling all through my body. It felt honestly like a stroke. I couldn’t really control what was going on. My heart was racing. My arms were stretch straight out and I began to realize that it wasn’t a stroke. It was an orgasm, no foreplay no lead up or build up. It just started. Then it continued and continued and continued. After removing the pump, it still went on and on into the night for about three hours until I took some Valium and it knocked me out. The next day I woke up and it started rolling again, I went for about three days with orgasms hitting me about every hour and lasting for 10 minutes to 30 minutes. At a time I could be sitting in a meeting, eating riding in the car. It was terrifying to be honest. Contacted my doctor and he said try using it again and see if it changes anything. It did oh my God I did it. I thought I was having crazy orgasms before this threw me into another realm of existence for about an hour. And then stopped. I now have full control over this new ability. If I use the pump, I have an orgasm mind blowing orgasm. There is no build up it just starts. On top of all of this, I’ve begun to feel my body in new ways. I think it is creating pathways that have been long dormant. I’m a research scientist in a tech company and I am absolutely fascinated by this and think that there’s some sort of research that should be done but as far as I can tell, no one has ever experienced anything like this. It’s thrilling and exciting and I wish I would’ve been able to do it when I first got injured but honestly, I think it probably was the journey I was on and it may not have worked then. At least that’s what I tell myself.
Yes but did you find the person to be intimate with? Lol. Sounds like you’re doing ok by yourself but would you have the same effect with a human male instead? I ask because I’m a 70 year old widow (don’t look it, don’t feel it mentally, physically is another story) and for quite a number of years my husband was unable to manage intercourse due to severe back injuries. After his death my daughter suggested sex toys but I want the other 97% of the guy not just 8” of him lol. I envy you though. Maybe if I could manage your deal I’d relax a bit. Good luck! You sound so self-sufficient.
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Weird YT recommendation but I'm glad to see the comments showing support to everyone.
As a registered nurse i just want to applaud you for opening up yourself to personal questions. We are all different in so many ways. Love your videos, take care.
Love answering ALL the questions lol. TMI is my super power haha!
Can she get pregnant?
@@dogfoot1874 They mentioned two kids, so...
@@EmpoweredPara what an episode to discover your channel
@@dogfoot1874 yep! Fertility and reproduction are not affected by a SCI in women
I shared 19 years of my life with a woman with a muscular disease and she was afraid she would lose me on several occasions: (1) when she just met me, (2) when she needed extra oxygen and (3) when she needed medication that was pumped into her vein 24/7.
She never lost me, but I lost her: she died in April 2021.
And by the way... we had a wonderful sex-life. She had full sensation, so she could enjoy it as much as I did.
I'm sorry for you loss. 😔 Sounds like you had a beautiful love story.
Im too sorry for your loss.
Having known love is pretty much the most we can ask of life.
Dats sum KANGZ & QUANES SHIET FOO FROM WACKANDA. PROUD YALL HIT DA GROUND ROLLIN
They ask if husband is satisfied. LOOK at her. She's lovely. Of course he is satisfied. And it gives me strength to hear all of your stories. On a deep level. Ok people do a lot of complaining instead of living life (I'm guilty of it).
My sister understands these issues because she has Spina Bifida, and she has the full capacity to have orgasms by using her brain!!!
I am an able-bodied female who previously had full function up until my mid forties, but now I am nearing menopause, and I am struggling with loss of feeling and function…Now, It feels as if my entire sensual body has died already. I feel grief, and I miss the good feelings, and menopause hasn’t even happened yet.
I'm not paralyzed, don't know anyone who is... but I loved this video!! So informative & I absolutely love how candid and confident you are. Thank you for sharing such intimate details ☺️
Thanks!!!
I am a disabled person who was disabled from birth and thank you I was so unconfident that I have not got married yet because of that.
I'm a retired anaesthetic nurse from Scotland. I think your an amazing young woman. To have become paralysed at just 13 years of age it would have been completely understandable if you'd just withdrawn right into yourself. You've obviously had amazing parents to have encouraged you to become a positive role model for paralysed people, especially young ones. I adore your sense of everything is to be laughed about especially embarrising accidents. I'm betting your an amazing mum and I think your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful wife. There's a saying I don't know if you know it but it most certainly describes you, "your a breath of fresh air". Carry on enjoying life, it passes us by so quickly.
thank you so much!!
What a lovely comment 💕✨😊
Thank you for being so honest! That helped me, I am still a wheelchair baby, just 2 years in. I have trouble finding people to date, but to see someone is married and it's possible to cope with sexuality is really inspiring and comforting.
My best advice is to never apologize for your disability. Own all parts of it and set the tone going into a relationship that these things are part of your life (wheelchair, bowel, bladder), and they can take it or leave it!
You are a doll!! I'm over 60 now and have Asperger's... been without intimacy over 20 years and can't really say I miss it, or ever knew if I really had it. Your story touches my heart and sharing it with us all is very brave and I'm proud of you!
Thanks!
My shipmate in navy met a woman in wheelchair from accident. He absolutely adored her, still does over 40 years later
buddy hit his fetish jackpot
Thank you for being so open and honest about this topic, I think alot of people are just genuinely curious about stuff like this, and there's not many people who will be so open about it 🙂
Yeah I wanna help educate people who would never be brave enough to ask. I was too shy to ask these questions and it took me WAY too long to figure stuff out!
Holy cow, you take "living your authentic self" to a whole new level I can only wish more people in this world had half of your strength! Thank you for your insights, Live well!!
So genuine and honest. You are a breath of fresh air.
Why thank you!
Your forthcoming answers are going to help so many people. Because a lot of folks won’t talk about lack of sensation post paralysis, (which is their right) it can cause those experiencing it to feel self-conscious or ashamed. You are amazing! ❤
Thank you! I hope my honesty is helpful!
I worked as a certified nurse assistant for a couple years and these sorts of questions crossed my mind, so I appreciate your candor.
I specifically love the way you talk about how the whole experience is set free by your imagination.
Thank you so much for discussing this openly. I have a spinal cord injury, and eventhough I learned to walk again, I deal with many physical challenges. It feels overwhelming at times. Your video showed me there is a "normal" life I can dream of.
I love how positive you are. Confidence is very important to a fulfilling life.
Confidence is key!
I don't think my wife was ever able to have an orgasm. It was quite a few years before we were able to talk about it honestly. She was diagnosed with MS about a year and 5 months after we were married. Of course, then we were able to trace symptoms to back before we met, and I suspect failure to reach orgasm was one of them, if I had known. I pride myself on being a non-selfish lover, and so the situation is hard to understand, but I think your video has contributed to my understanding.
My wife was always an enthusiastic sex partner, though she didn't masturbate or enjoy sex toys. I just thought she was a "quiet" orgasmer, which I had seen before. I inquired after her satisfaction, and she declared herself satisfied. As her feeling diminished, she complained I wasn't giving her enough foreplay, so it seemed she was getting something out of it. Eventually, it became obvious that no amount of foreplay could compensate.
Can I ask how you felt about all that?
Thank you for sharing your most inter-personal experiences with us. I have spent 30 years and countless hours in the Operating Room working with surgeons as a trained RN and now a consultant for a major healthcare company helping patients with spinal injuries. I see the patients when they arrive to the OR in need of serious care, but I rarely get see the outcomes on how well these patients do long term. We all take our jobs very seriously in the OR and we want to provide the best possible care to give patients the best chance possible. It is so rewarding to see someone like yourself, positive, energetic and such a uplifting person.
Thank you so much for sharing your strong spirit , awesome attitude and your
personal experiences.
God Bless
I'm lucky that I have lots of support and people that push me to be better all the time. I think it would be a pretty miserable life if I spent it being angry!
I was involved with a woman who was paraplegic when I was young. She was very quick to have an orgasm, I think because we were very keen on each other at first, so she was sort of 'fired up' even before we started ! She had a lot of muscle wastage in her legs. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but she was a lovely person. I think if we had talked as openly as you do, it might have gone better.
Cool that you remember her so well!
You are amazing. I had many talks with my Mom whom had MS and was full on needing a wheelchair. Thank you for letting people know that even though you are “less abled” you still are ALIVE. Love you!❤️
My sister is in a wheelchair with MS. She's nightmare.
I was sooo amazed how open and confident you spoke on this subject. Your doing a great service for people who struggle with disabilities thank you for your strength and courage.
Thanks for the kind feedback!
What an amazing attitude, and something we can all learn from. It sounds like you took the fear that your husband might be unfaithful and turned into a strength by being more self-affirmative + looking for ways to make the sexual portion of your relationship even better. This is how we all need to deal with burdensome fears! Thanks much for sharing your story.....it's inspiring! 👍👍
Your comment applies to everyone!
Brittney thank you for always being so honest and opened. You’re one fantastic educator, I can’t start to thank you for all you’ve shared here, it been so informative.
just out here making sure people get their weekly dose of TMI lol
@@EmpoweredPara LMAO Brittney you’re to funny, my sides are splitting from laughing.
You know, at the end of the day, even though you can’t “feel it” I think you have down what is important and that’s the intimacy with your husband. Some people chase the physical pleasure and completely overlook the emotional connection.
Yeah I guess I have the opportunity to be more emotionally connected through sex!
@@EmpoweredPara my boyfriend and me have been working on this for years and it‘s a delight to hear stuff from your perspective!
Society is SO weird about sex and spreads so many false „information“ and often prioritizes the physical act, especially for men, so it‘s hard to dismantle all of that false stuff and find out the real information for my boyfriend and me.
I wish we would hear about the emotional part of sex way more often, it‘s so overlooked and people spend years figuring that out because there is just not enough awareness.
I'm not sure how this got suggested to me but I was curious as I am interested in people. I really admire your frank and honest outlook and understand how much support you are giving to others. Well done you
thanks!
What a delightfully honest Frank & beautiful young woman you are. You will probably never know how many people you have helped over all these 'unspeakable ' situations & making them all so normal.
May your God bless you
I am really lost for words. Your amazing positive attitude portrays what the mind can overcome. Your outlook on life encompassing a strong dertermination to function and be positive with this disability is amazing. Rehabilitators/paralegics and just everyone battling with a disorder or disability would benefit so much from your story. Thanks for telling it!
That was awesome. You found the words I wish I had.
A very brave and well-done explanation of your situation. Having two kids, and being a Mom and wife makes you the Beautiful catch!!! Best wishes to you and the family! Positive prayers as well!
thanks ❤️!
No spouse is worth having or keeping if you have to worry about him/her cheating. That's a fact.
You got that right!
I so agree.
Yes, when that trust is gone, it doesn’t matter if the cheating is real or imagined
Sometimes the worry comes internally however, and that’s something that needs to be worked on personally
That depends entirely on whether or not the worry is grounded in reality. If you meet someone and you start worrying before you even know that person there's a good chance that's a you problem. Granted by the time you're considering marriage that should be already worked through.
I admire your courage and willingness to openly discuss these topics .many people are curious about these topics but probably are either misinformed or unsure about how to ask these questions because of fear of accidental offending someone. Your a very inspirational and courageous woman.
thanks! It took me a while to gain the courage to share such personal things but you guys make me feel really great about doing it! I hope it helps educate people!
I love your honesty and complete answers. Your husband is a lucky man.
Thanks! I think he's lucky too lol 😉
Big props for coming out and discussing these topics. I'm not going to lie, I've wondered some of those questions but would never feel comfortable asking someone in your situation these types of questions.
I love your open and honest videos. The reason you are so successful is because you answer questions that everyone wants to ask but are too afraid to, openly that is. So thankful. You , your life and physical situation in life is very interesting. Thanks!
Thanks! That's exactly what I aim to do so I'm glad it comes across that way!
Awesome, thank you for your honesty! I've been a subscriber for some time. I don't comment much. I'm new to the disabled community with nerve disease that is taking away the use of my legs. I have watched many of your videos. They're very informative and much appreciated! Having been able bodied and now disabled, my thought process has obviously changed a bit. While there have been a few rude people, I have found that most people are kind and helpful. Thanks again for your help along the way!
My pleasure!
You are a great teacher--so much great knowledge to help us face challenges.
@@EmpoweredPara I have wondered this for awhile and felt like I could ask you because you seem like such a forthright, honest and helpful person. Does earning money from your channel affect your SSDI or SSI benefits. I know SSDI and SSI are not enough to live on but having Medicare is a huge help and not something disabled people can do without. I see quite a few disabled people with YT channels so I was curious.
@@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 I don't have the answer, but I'm replying because I'm not sure Brittany does either. She's Canadian so I don't know if they have SSI/SSDI there. I know the Healthcare system is different. I don't know what their equivalent is to our SSDI or Medicare.
I actually genuinely was curious about this whole topic. I was doing a little bit of a research on the internet , came across a couple of articles. But honestly , the fact that I had a chance to listen to you as a person who first handedly experiences it , you made things much more cleaerer. I respect you so much for having the courage to educate and inform people on such a sensitive and personal topic. I have been an internet user for almost 20+ years and I mustn't have posted more than 10 comments on TH-cam my entire life. I just had an urge to express my appreciation to you :) God bless you and your family
Took me a few years to get brave enough to share such personal things! Thanks for taking the time to tell me how important yoy think my content is! Definitely reassuring knowing I'm not just sharing gross stuff no one cares about lol!
I LOVE that u answered these questions!
There is SO much more to sex than just being able bodied. If u have A strong connection, love, safety, trust and compassion between u and your partner your sex life will be amazing no matter what your body is capable or not capable of doing.
agreed!
One of the rare people on the internet who is actually stunning and brave. I learned something from you.
It is so brave and kind to share this topic, as you always do! Sexuality is still something that I have not been able to cope since my injury two years ago. It's something I need to do, but body acceptance first is being hard and libido seems to have dissapear..I imagine is a matter of time.I didn't know about the nerve vagus, though. I will look into that!
You'll get there! Work on body acceptance first:)
Don't be afraid to talk with a sex therapist if it's something you want to address, they could probably offer a lot of guidance and help you process these concerns in a healthy way.
I am new to your channel. I am a doctor of Psychology and in a wheelchair due to last stage kidney failure. Recently retired i find i am always looking for interesting people. Well I found you. Your content is interesting. thank you for being open and sharing your life. You have courage . You have a beautiful soul and that is wonderful no matter any other limitations you may have...
I try to be informative and entertaining! Nothing worse than boring, very serious disability related content lol. I got enough of that in the hospital lol
I can appreciate your last point about what's within your control to affect, and the self-fulfilling nature of the thoughts and attitude you choose to hold. It's within a context completely foreign to me, but seems like it could feel insurmountable.
Your positivity is really strong, robust. Your worldview and sense of self are amazing. I had not expected this from my YT reccs, but thank you for sharing a perspective I had never seen or thought about much.
Its heart warming to hear you still found a husband and had kids, so you still have a loving family.
Thank you for being so open with questions like this. I’ve seen other videos where a person with a disability is asked these questions and they’re very vague in their answers and dance around the subject. I know not every person with a disability is the same, but in a way it’s nice to have a definitive answer from someone
I'm a very quiet person myself .... I could never talk about being differently abled like you do. I want to thank you for being so brave about your physical condition and openly talk about it. You are definitely a strong person and blessed to have a wonderful spouse who loves you. Not many disabled have that blessing.
I'm definitely blessed!
That is such a good point we all need to remember. If we do not try we cannot do anything.
I learned the hard way lol
Your views on self confidence in relationships is so relevant to my life. Thank you for your inspiring words ❤
Love how honest you are.
The algorithm brought me by, and I'm happy to subscribe. My wife is in a chair, your content will help me.
I admire and respect your honesty, thank you for this.
Happy New Year!
You are a very brave woman! Thank you for sharing such a personal story. Wish you and your husband a wonderful life!
Thanks for being so honest. It's very helpful and encouraging! I can tell that your husband adores you, and guys like that don't cheat. I was a little sad for you at the beginning of the video, but it reminded me of how many people who lose their hearing say that it forced them to a way more intimate way of communicating with people and they're glad. You probably have felt intimate emotions the rest of us will never experience!
Such a sweetheart. I'm so glad to hear that you have a family just at the point I was wondering if you would be able to have children. Love and prayers x
I want to commend you for being so brave to tackle these questions, and answer them with the candor and truthfulness that you did. I also congratulate you on your outlook on life and your positive attitude.
Thanks!
Super cool of you to enlighten people's curiosity with such honesty and class. Your husband is a lucky man.
Wow. 😳 you answered questions most people are to afraid to ask. Young lady, you are one of a kind👍
It's natural to be curious and I'm tired of all the stigma surrounding disability. Silence grows stigma, honesty and information helps remove stigma I believe!
First, yes, you are quite beautiful and your outlook is unquestionably healthy. Second, when it comes to whether or not your husband is fulfilled, I don't think many people have given much thought to the fact that he would be a fool not to be fulfilled. He's under no pressure to "perform", so sex is without the pressure therefore extremely liberating. More to the point, if he's any kind of man, sans performance anxiety, his concentration is now freed to be on you, not on himself. From a man's perspective, your husband is in one of the best positions a married man can be in. He gets to sleep with a beautiful woman, doesn't have to worry about her cheating on him, can use his imagination to make her happy sexually, and most important, he gets to take care of her in a way that expresses his boundless love. In short, he's a very lucky guy. And God bless you M'am, you're an example of greatness in womankind.
You are a shining light of positivity. God bless you.
Hello, enjoyed your video. 39yr old male. I have a broken back and I have difficulty with sex and can not organism offen. I get embarrassed and had been criticize for not being able to or lose all interest because pain is to much. It's been 2 years and I'm still learning but makes me not even want to leave the house. Feels good to share. Thanks.
From a man's perspective. I am married with kids and my wife is a 3 time cancer survivor. There has been many times in our marriage where I wasn't fulfilled sexually and at times it made me really frustrated. I will say that I never explored or considered cheating on my wife because of it as she is my best friend and I would expect the same from her if our roles were reversed. She got cancer about 5 years after we were married and right when she was pregnant with our second, so I had no way of knowing that she would have many health problems. You, however, were paralyzed before you were married, so he knew what he was in for and he should have realized what he was in for. All that being said, no person is worth anyone's time or effort if they won't respect you or the relationship enough to not be faithful.
You have a great man at your side. Keep your head up and thank you so much for your vid!
Your wife must be one heck of a fighter!
Britany, I felt I had to react to your brave and awesome video. You are Amazing! God bless you and the experiences you have had and how you took them and turned yourself into such great person. The way you approach your challenges and carefully consider your emotions and attitudes and your relationships is one of the most advanced and healthy examples of someone being truly masterful and in control of their life that I have encountered. It's brilliant! You diagnosed a negative feedback loop, dug into it to gain understanding, and then had the moral courage to make corrections to your own perspective and reactions to turn it into a positive thing. This positive thoughts approach was very inspirational and, sadly, is something that is beyond what most people would have found themselves capable of conceiving, let alone being able to follow through with. Keep on inspiring the world with your brilliance, beauty, and wisdom! Cheers!
Thank you for this informative and honest insight. I am a medical resident and I learn from your videos things that I have not learned during my education so far. 👍
External experience is a great teacher
Your candour is amazing and your direct,comfortable approach in sharing your experiences is really wonderful. I applaud you!!
Thanks! I try my best to make touchy subjects easy to talk about!
👋i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world! Happy New year 🎆 🙏🌍
I'm originally from Canada currently living in California ☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭😊
I came across your post by chance. I found it informative and I admire your honesty. Your husband is certainly a lucky man, long may you both enjoy life's journey
I applaud your candor and bravery these are questions I've had about people paralyzed for many many years but never really asked thank you so much for sharing so much personal stuff I applaud you and I'm glad you and your husband are good!
Thanks for honest answers! Rarely can see paralyzed person who so confident like you and can talk about sex so openly.
Yep, that's why I made the video:) Not enough folks talking about it. I want to normalize the curiosity and remove the negative assumptions:)
What an amazing video with an awesome perspective. I especially love your points about choosing to trust and not worrying about the little things as long as you love your husband. Such a great and wholesome thing to put out there for people that need to hear it.
Took me a while to settle into a good headspace so I hope what I've learned helps others!
You are amazing..... Your husband is blessed having you as his wife. My prayers to you and your family 🙏. May God continue to Bless you
Thank you:) I think I'm pretty cool too 😎 lol!
I love your channel and I think it's awesome how open you are with answering questions like this. My brother in law was in a relationship with a woman who became paralyzed and they both were able to enjoy sex because she said a lot of it was imagination based as well. She also could enjoy other physical things during sex like the touching part. I think a lot of people forget that intimacy is a major thing that is so important and it's not all about actual intercourse. I can definitely see how if I ever were to be involved with someone who was unable to feel that specific thing that it probably wouldn't be a huge deal because there's more to it than just that.
yeah it really is more than that!
You are the most confident, comfortable, open person. Your personality is awesome. You Are Beautiful. In every way imaginable
I take every one of those compliments lol! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this honest video on topics too many people are afraid speak about!
Wow. You are doing amazing things with this platform. You mentioned your mother in a previous video. I only recently discovered your content. As a parent of 5 kinds I know that your mother (perhaps both parents) deserve a lot of credit for raising such a confident, smart, self-sufficient and inspirational young lady.
They do! My mom always made me feel grateful about the life I get to live no matter how challenging. They were slso an amazing source of support when I needed it most!
Wow. Such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful attitude... There are a lot of women without physical impairments who are much more handicapped. Your husband is a very, very lucky man to have found you. Apparently, he is also a very good man, to have won your affection. Thank you for sharing.
My husband is an awesome guy!
Absolutely enjoyed your answers to, very personal questions, they were questions that I've been curious about myself, thank you for your beautiful attitude, I really appreciate the respect you have for your husband. True Love is a bond that can never be broken!
You, your husband and your family are such beautiful people. The only thing I know about you and your fam, is getting to know you. But if your husband doesn't worry about you peeing/pooing and/or being messy, and the fact that you both show the love you have for each other and family shows just how faithful and loving you all are. You truly show what a credit your whole family is. I promise you have nothing to fear, and neither does your husband. Thank you for your vids. May God continue to bless you and yours, hooroo for now from Down Under.
It's great that you open up. I could go into detail, but there is no reason. You are great.
I had a girlfriend who had two poop accidents during sex and without any disability being involved whatsoever. She was more upset about it than I was. And told me a few weeks later that she cried about it afterwards when she was alone and I was no longer around(I don't know if that was the first time or the second time.) It didn't really bother me too much because I don't have a weak stomach for stuff. We cleaned it and she did laundry, no biggie. If anything I kind've thought of it as a compliment, like I sent her to Neptune to the degree that she pooped herself lol🤙 And this actually happened two different times!
Jesus dude...and I thought I had good 🍆 lmaooo.
Brings whole new meaning to the phrase "fucked the shit outta her" 😆
@@sorenjensen3863 I remember making that joke to try and make her feel better. I think she felt too embarrassed to laugh about it.
Bro, that's disgusting. The fact that it didn't faze you at all is just weird
@@pedazodetorpedo shit happens 🤷♂️
The fact you came out to answer the most asked questions to you is highly commendable.
Go to the pet store and get some Vetricin Gel to apply to potential contact wounds. My amputee wife uses it each night before bed for pressure spots from her prosthetic. It also works on inflamed hair folicles, too. Some paras use it when they cath. It is very safe. Hypochlorous acid is a naturally occurring substance in the body.
Love your channel.
thanks for the tip, but I can't feel my urethra so don't need numbing cream:)
@@EmpoweredPara It is not a numbing cream. It is a wound healing liquid/gel that can also prevent infection. It is anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and can defeat MRSA, Covid, staph, strepp, yeasts/fungus, and more. Women use it on infected eye lash follicles. When you get those contact wounds on your skin, apply it. It can help reduce UTIs, too. It is far better than antibiotics ointments. It does not cause microbes to develop resistance/tolerance to it. Google hypochlorous acid.
Contact/pressure wounds can be so hard to heal.
You're a Rockstar and inspirational. Wishing you and your husband the best.
Brittany you are beautiful and amazing!! I'm an above knee amputee and I've had all kinds of questions throughout my life. Thank you for sharing and being so open.
You're welcome Kelly! Always happy to answer ANY questions.
god only knows how i came across this video.. but i couldnt stop watching, you are so engaging and your honesty is just incredible... what a lucky man your husband is
thanks!
Thank you for being cool enough to make this and answering questions I have asked myself in my head, but more just for being you. People like you make disabilities seem like normal life, it's hard as hell but we can manage, physical or psychological 🤘♥️
You are so awesome, hopefully you live a healthy, happy life together with your husband and your family. Much love ❤️
Thank you!
Glad to hear how you cope with this and your openens about it..🙏💜
I don't have much to say. I'm just glad you found a man who loves you for you, and does what he can to make you happy. And, as if not more important, you seem to enjoy and reciprocate. The latter is even rarer in my (admittedly male) experience. I'm just happy you two have each other.
sexual intercourse is only a small part of sex, I think for play starts from when you awake in the morning and by that i mean being kind and loving towards each other. lets face it if you have had bad words in the morning with your partner don't expect that person to want to be intermate with you at night. you are very beautiful, intelligent, funny, brave and a great mother and a great wife, your husband thinks the world of you. you two have so much love for each other and that is something very special as not everyone finds that in their lifetime. Hugs from Manchester England xox
Awesome attitude with everything. You can tell you have overcome a lot and your strength has grown because of it. Your husband is a very lucky man.
Thanks Rob! My disability has definitely made me resilient and resourceful!
Thank you for the information! So so appreciate your honesty and openness to share your experience.
Always my pleasure!
I want to thank you 🙏 for opening up about your life as you live! I mean, I lost my eyesight at 47 but I guess it’s as how you live your life! You’re an amazing beautiful woman! Thank you
If you were paralyzed when you met, all through dating, and he married you, pretty safe bet it's not a problem for him lol. Plus being a knockout helps too, I'm sure he has some jealous friends! That was really interesting, thanks for sharing.
"Where there is a will there is a way" I just stumbled into the video and I find it highly informative & enlightening. I am glad that you are living full life. Remember looks is only skin deep.
100%
so brave and so educational .... never really knew all this that you explained ... ty
I’m not paralyzed but there’s lotta numbness because I’m a diabetic type two probably more than 25 years now and it takes a toll on one’s body. I’m 72 and I just subscribed to your channel because I’m finding it very interesting to learn these things that you’re talking about.
welcome!
Another paralysed individual on YT answered some questions and was offended that she would be asked this kind of thing on the 2nd or 3rd date.
But if someone really likes you and potentially signs up for monogamy resulting in a life of celibacy, that would be quite important I'd say.
I'm also a paraplegic. Your videos was both awkward and informative. Thanks for your honesty and openness Joe. I may not be dating, but I agree with what you said.
lol so glad my awkwardness doesn't take away from the informative part!
As a male, married 32 years, separated for 2, and unfulfilled for many years, I want to say that all I ever wanted from my wife was her willingness to share her body with me. The sense of rejection when someone is never in the mood really hurts. I feel like I could be completely fulfilled by a paralyzed person. Mostly what's important is approval and smiles!
Yeah and a "yes" attitude! I made the decision never to turn down my husband unless I am sick or in severe pain!
OK. I am going to try and unpack this so that you don't fall into the same hole again, because there are certain things that guys do that can wind up with this happening and once it happens it can be very difficult to get out of:
1] Sometimes guys project there own shames on to women around sex. If something does not turn you on, just say it is not YOUR thing without making any judgements about the act itself or the person suggesting it. We just all have our own turn ons and turn offs, but by going 'yuck that is disgusting', you could stifle variation and fun.
2] Operate good boundaries, no means no. For you and them. This builds trust and opens up intimacy.
3] Communicate about what you like and how you like it. More pressure, less pressure, faster, slower, here, not there, not today thanks, maybe another time.
4] Ensure that you are affectionate without loading that affection with an expectation that sex will occur. Because it quickly comes across as:- 'you only cuddle me as a sign that you want s3x and not as a sign of love or support'
@@banana9106 Number 4 all the way lol.
@@EmpoweredPara Yeah, I find that one difficult as lots of guys are like this.
Bless you for being you , such an honesty in you , and I’m sure your breaking down barriers that need to be broken .❤
I hope so!
Thank you so much Brittney for your honesty ! I'm amazed and think I can learn from you and your attitude ! go on like this !
thanks ❤️
You’re honesty is a gift to many and much more than you know. Thank you.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching!
Damn that sounds rough as hell. But you definitely have the right attitude about the situation. Sex and all it entails is great but it’s not the only thing that matters in life. It’s not a measurement of love merely an aspect of it. As my health teacher told us way back in seventh grade. “Love is not having sex with someone after a fun date. Love is getting up at two in the morning on a work night to change your child’s dirty diaper so that your wife can get a few extra hours of sleep”. I’m glad to see the strength of character that isn’t swayed by the modern mindset of pleasure first. Honor second. I’m glad to see that this malady hasn’t broken you but made you strong.
Personally I couldn’t cheat on my wife even if she couldn’t have sex with me because I love her and couldn’t bare the thought of doing something so horrible to her. And I believe with all my heart that your husband is like me in that regard. Despite the stereotype we’re labeled with, guys do love and do feel emotions we just express them differently. And if he is a man he will stick with you for life because he took that vow knowing that this was how the relationship would work. Sex may not work in some aspects for you two but you both have more to you than just the physical act and it shows. (Sex isn’t that big of a deal once you reach a certain age anyway. You more often than not just wanna chill and enjoy some hobbies together. So from a guy who can feel sex I’ll give you that bit of comfort. It’s good but not so much that it’s like going without air. More like going without sugar. The more often you go without it the more you realize that you don’t need it. You just enjoy it for the dopamine and endorphin hit.).
Anyway I enjoyed hearing your take and experience on the subject. Not paralyzed myself but no less empathetic and inspired by your honesty and boldness. All the best to you. You’ve earned a new subscriber.
welcome! Love the love you have for your wife! My husband would agree that sex isn't everything! But we make sure it's an important part of our marriage even though it looks different!
You remind me of my late husband. He was loyal and loving in the same way. However at 70 I don’t think the desire for intimacy has left nor will it. I probably will never have another relationship but if the right person came along, well??? Keep on with your wonderful marriage and cherish each day as though it’s the last.
I didn't search for this video, but it did answer some longheld questions of mine that I would never dare to ask someone in your position. Thank you for your frankness!
I am a quadriplegic and I've been having crazy explosive orgasms. But they just started after years of being disabled. I've been in a wheelchair for 30 years and I recently figured out how to have an orgasm. Not that I haven't had sex all these years but just recently I had some changes in my physiological condition and was able to do a little bit of experimenting, and I found that I have orgasms that last way longer than anything I ever had before and definitely longer than my partner. On average they're about 20 minutes lo. This is the orgasm not just the sex, and they can go up to an hour. If I'm not careful, actually they will come back when I'm least expecting it and just sort of hit me when I'm in the middle of a conversation or having dinner. It's a completely new world for me. Thanks for opening up on this topic.
Do tell! Would love to know how you achieved this!
@@EmpoweredPara I got hurt when I was 20. I was sexually active at the time and breaking my neck as you can, imagine, was a huge blow. My doctor at the time recommended using a condom catheter so that I could empty my bladder. Which I did for a couple decades. Every day putting on a new one. It’s a little odd, because I am not a complete injury, but I can’t move anything below my level of injury. I can feel, but not in the way that you would necessarily want to feel. I can’t feel hot. I can’t feel doll I can’t feel warm or sharp. What I feel is pressure and it usually comes in the form of pain. When I’ve been touched down in that area, I get this feeling of pressure but can’t localize it so this is how it went for about 30 years. I began to get bladder infections on a regular basis, and my doctor recommended going to a super pubic. I did that about four years ago if you’re doing the math I am 54 now. After a couple months of having the catheter off, I was noticing something that was kind of scary. I thought I might be sick or something because every time somebody washed me up in that particular area, I would get these flashes of light behind my eyes. This is about the time I met someone, I contacted my doctor and told him that I was thinking about being intimate, and I haven’t really maintained that area very well as far as whether or not, it works since my surgery to put the superpubic in. He recommended using a penis pump about once a week to maintain my abilities to perform. I worked up the courage and asked my assistant to put that on for me one evening. Thinking I would only do it for a couple minutes to make sure I didn’t do anything weird to my skin. After about 30 seconds, I began to get really scared. I started having the shaking feeling all through my body. It felt honestly like a stroke. I couldn’t really control what was going on. My heart was racing. My arms were stretch straight out and I began to realize that it wasn’t a stroke. It was an orgasm, no foreplay no lead up or build up. It just started. Then it continued and continued and continued. After removing the pump, it still went on and on into the night for about three hours until I took some Valium and it knocked me out. The next day I woke up and it started rolling again, I went for about three days with orgasms hitting me about every hour and lasting for 10 minutes to 30 minutes. At a time I could be sitting in a meeting, eating riding in the car. It was terrifying to be honest. Contacted my doctor and he said try using it again and see if it changes anything. It did oh my God I did it. I thought I was having crazy orgasms before this threw me into another realm of existence for about an hour. And then stopped. I now have full control over this new ability. If I use the pump, I have an orgasm mind blowing orgasm. There is no build up it just starts. On top of all of this, I’ve begun to feel my body in new ways. I think it is creating pathways that have been long dormant. I’m a research scientist in a tech company and I am absolutely fascinated by this and think that there’s some sort of research that should be done but as far as I can tell, no one has ever experienced anything like this. It’s thrilling and exciting and I wish I would’ve been able to do it when I first got injured but honestly, I think it probably was the journey I was on and it may not have worked then. At least that’s what I tell myself.
Have you tried to read about tantra,?
Yes but did you find the person to be intimate with? Lol. Sounds like you’re doing ok by yourself but would you have the same effect with a human male instead? I ask because I’m a 70 year old widow (don’t look it, don’t feel it mentally, physically is another story) and for quite a number of years my husband was unable to manage intercourse due to severe back injuries. After his death my daughter suggested sex toys but I want the other 97% of the guy not just 8” of him lol. I envy you though. Maybe if I could manage your deal I’d relax a bit. Good luck! You sound so self-sufficient.
Mad props for your mindset on your situation. On marriage in general it's nice when your wife puts the effort out, intiaite it show you want your man.