As a registered nurse i just want to applaud you for opening up yourself to personal questions. We are all different in so many ways. Love your videos, take care.
I'm not paralyzed, don't know anyone who is... but I loved this video!! So informative & I absolutely love how candid and confident you are. Thank you for sharing such intimate details ☺️
I shared 19 years of my life with a woman with a muscular disease and she was afraid she would lose me on several occasions: (1) when she just met me, (2) when she needed extra oxygen and (3) when she needed medication that was pumped into her vein 24/7. She never lost me, but I lost her: she died in April 2021. And by the way... we had a wonderful sex-life. She had full sensation, so she could enjoy it as much as I did.
They ask if husband is satisfied. LOOK at her. She's lovely. Of course he is satisfied. And it gives me strength to hear all of your stories. On a deep level. Ok people do a lot of complaining instead of living life (I'm guilty of it).
My sister understands these issues because she has Spina Bifida, and she has the full capacity to have orgasms by using her brain!!! I am an able-bodied female who previously had full function up until my mid forties, but now I am nearing menopause, and I am struggling with loss of feeling and function…Now, It feels as if my entire sensual body has died already. I feel grief, and I miss the good feelings, and menopause hasn’t even happened yet.
Thank you for being so honest! That helped me, I am still a wheelchair baby, just 2 years in. I have trouble finding people to date, but to see someone is married and it's possible to cope with sexuality is really inspiring and comforting.
My best advice is to never apologize for your disability. Own all parts of it and set the tone going into a relationship that these things are part of your life (wheelchair, bowel, bladder), and they can take it or leave it!
Holy cow, you take "living your authentic self" to a whole new level I can only wish more people in this world had half of your strength! Thank you for your insights, Live well!!
I'm a retired anaesthetic nurse from Scotland. I think your an amazing young woman. To have become paralysed at just 13 years of age it would have been completely understandable if you'd just withdrawn right into yourself. You've obviously had amazing parents to have encouraged you to become a positive role model for paralysed people, especially young ones. I adore your sense of everything is to be laughed about especially embarrising accidents. I'm betting your an amazing mum and I think your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful wife. There's a saying I don't know if you know it but it most certainly describes you, "your a breath of fresh air". Carry on enjoying life, it passes us by so quickly.
You are a doll!! I'm over 60 now and have Asperger's... been without intimacy over 20 years and can't really say I miss it, or ever knew if I really had it. Your story touches my heart and sharing it with us all is very brave and I'm proud of you!
Females and sex. Only way they can enjoy it is if the guy tapes a thousand dollar bill to the ceiling. As a man who's been in a chair, I can tell you I miss it everyday. Of course, as a Man, I can also tell you that I gave a damn about it to start with. Not so with women.
Thank you for being so open and honest about this topic, I think alot of people are just genuinely curious about stuff like this, and there's not many people who will be so open about it 🙂
Yeah I wanna help educate people who would never be brave enough to ask. I was too shy to ask these questions and it took me WAY too long to figure stuff out!
I worked as a certified nurse assistant for a couple years and these sorts of questions crossed my mind, so I appreciate your candor. I specifically love the way you talk about how the whole experience is set free by your imagination.
Thank you so much for discussing this openly. I have a spinal cord injury, and eventhough I learned to walk again, I deal with many physical challenges. It feels overwhelming at times. Your video showed me there is a "normal" life I can dream of.
Your forthcoming answers are going to help so many people. Because a lot of folks won’t talk about lack of sensation post paralysis, (which is their right) it can cause those experiencing it to feel self-conscious or ashamed. You are amazing! ❤
What a delightfully honest Frank & beautiful young woman you are. You will probably never know how many people you have helped over all these 'unspeakable ' situations & making them all so normal. May your God bless you
I was sooo amazed how open and confident you spoke on this subject. Your doing a great service for people who struggle with disabilities thank you for your strength and courage.
I'm not sure how this got suggested to me but I was curious as I am interested in people. I really admire your frank and honest outlook and understand how much support you are giving to others. Well done you
Thank you for sharing your most inter-personal experiences with us. I have spent 30 years and countless hours in the Operating Room working with surgeons as a trained RN and now a consultant for a major healthcare company helping patients with spinal injuries. I see the patients when they arrive to the OR in need of serious care, but I rarely get see the outcomes on how well these patients do long term. We all take our jobs very seriously in the OR and we want to provide the best possible care to give patients the best chance possible. It is so rewarding to see someone like yourself, positive, energetic and such a uplifting person. Thank you so much for sharing your strong spirit , awesome attitude and your personal experiences. God Bless
I'm lucky that I have lots of support and people that push me to be better all the time. I think it would be a pretty miserable life if I spent it being angry!
What an amazing attitude, and something we can all learn from. It sounds like you took the fear that your husband might be unfaithful and turned into a strength by being more self-affirmative + looking for ways to make the sexual portion of your relationship even better. This is how we all need to deal with burdensome fears! Thanks much for sharing your story.....it's inspiring! 👍👍
A very brave and well-done explanation of your situation. Having two kids, and being a Mom and wife makes you the Beautiful catch!!! Best wishes to you and the family! Positive prayers as well!
Brittney thank you for always being so honest and opened. You’re one fantastic educator, I can’t start to thank you for all you’ve shared here, it been so informative.
I am new to your channel. I am a doctor of Psychology and in a wheelchair due to last stage kidney failure. Recently retired i find i am always looking for interesting people. Well I found you. Your content is interesting. thank you for being open and sharing your life. You have courage . You have a beautiful soul and that is wonderful no matter any other limitations you may have...
I try to be informative and entertaining! Nothing worse than boring, very serious disability related content lol. I got enough of that in the hospital lol
I admire your courage and willingness to openly discuss these topics .many people are curious about these topics but probably are either misinformed or unsure about how to ask these questions because of fear of accidental offending someone. Your a very inspirational and courageous woman.
thanks! It took me a while to gain the courage to share such personal things but you guys make me feel really great about doing it! I hope it helps educate people!
You are amazing. I had many talks with my Mom whom had MS and was full on needing a wheelchair. Thank you for letting people know that even though you are “less abled” you still are ALIVE. Love you!❤️
I am really lost for words. Your amazing positive attitude portrays what the mind can overcome. Your outlook on life encompassing a strong dertermination to function and be positive with this disability is amazing. Rehabilitators/paralegics and just everyone battling with a disorder or disability would benefit so much from your story. Thanks for telling it!
I don't think my wife was ever able to have an orgasm. It was quite a few years before we were able to talk about it honestly. She was diagnosed with MS about a year and 5 months after we were married. Of course, then we were able to trace symptoms to back before we met, and I suspect failure to reach orgasm was one of them, if I had known. I pride myself on being a non-selfish lover, and so the situation is hard to understand, but I think your video has contributed to my understanding. My wife was always an enthusiastic sex partner, though she didn't masturbate or enjoy sex toys. I just thought she was a "quiet" orgasmer, which I had seen before. I inquired after her satisfaction, and she declared herself satisfied. As her feeling diminished, she complained I wasn't giving her enough foreplay, so it seemed she was getting something out of it. Eventually, it became obvious that no amount of foreplay could compensate.
Don't feel bad. A woman wants an orgasm like a duck wants a rowboat. Look at it this way: You saved yourself the eventual false rape charges when she decides to take off.
I love your open and honest videos. The reason you are so successful is because you answer questions that everyone wants to ask but are too afraid to, openly that is. So thankful. You , your life and physical situation in life is very interesting. Thanks!
Big props for coming out and discussing these topics. I'm not going to lie, I've wondered some of those questions but would never feel comfortable asking someone in your situation these types of questions.
I actually genuinely was curious about this whole topic. I was doing a little bit of a research on the internet , came across a couple of articles. But honestly , the fact that I had a chance to listen to you as a person who first handedly experiences it , you made things much more cleaerer. I respect you so much for having the courage to educate and inform people on such a sensitive and personal topic. I have been an internet user for almost 20+ years and I mustn't have posted more than 10 comments on TH-cam my entire life. I just had an urge to express my appreciation to you :) God bless you and your family
Took me a few years to get brave enough to share such personal things! Thanks for taking the time to tell me how important yoy think my content is! Definitely reassuring knowing I'm not just sharing gross stuff no one cares about lol!
I can appreciate your last point about what's within your control to affect, and the self-fulfilling nature of the thoughts and attitude you choose to hold. It's within a context completely foreign to me, but seems like it could feel insurmountable. Your positivity is really strong, robust. Your worldview and sense of self are amazing. I had not expected this from my YT reccs, but thank you for sharing a perspective I had never seen or thought about much.
Awesome, thank you for your honesty! I've been a subscriber for some time. I don't comment much. I'm new to the disabled community with nerve disease that is taking away the use of my legs. I have watched many of your videos. They're very informative and much appreciated! Having been able bodied and now disabled, my thought process has obviously changed a bit. While there have been a few rude people, I have found that most people are kind and helpful. Thanks again for your help along the way!
@@EmpoweredPara I have wondered this for awhile and felt like I could ask you because you seem like such a forthright, honest and helpful person. Does earning money from your channel affect your SSDI or SSI benefits. I know SSDI and SSI are not enough to live on but having Medicare is a huge help and not something disabled people can do without. I see quite a few disabled people with YT channels so I was curious.
@@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 I don't have the answer, but I'm replying because I'm not sure Brittany does either. She's Canadian so I don't know if they have SSI/SSDI there. I know the Healthcare system is different. I don't know what their equivalent is to our SSDI or Medicare.
The algorithm brought me by, and I'm happy to subscribe. My wife is in a chair, your content will help me. I admire and respect your honesty, thank you for this. Happy New Year!
Wow. You are doing amazing things with this platform. You mentioned your mother in a previous video. I only recently discovered your content. As a parent of 5 kinds I know that your mother (perhaps both parents) deserve a lot of credit for raising such a confident, smart, self-sufficient and inspirational young lady.
They do! My mom always made me feel grateful about the life I get to live no matter how challenging. They were slso an amazing source of support when I needed it most!
It is so brave and kind to share this topic, as you always do! Sexuality is still something that I have not been able to cope since my injury two years ago. It's something I need to do, but body acceptance first is being hard and libido seems to have dissapear..I imagine is a matter of time.I didn't know about the nerve vagus, though. I will look into that!
Don't be afraid to talk with a sex therapist if it's something you want to address, they could probably offer a lot of guidance and help you process these concerns in a healthy way.
Thank you for being so open with questions like this. I’ve seen other videos where a person with a disability is asked these questions and they’re very vague in their answers and dance around the subject. I know not every person with a disability is the same, but in a way it’s nice to have a definitive answer from someone
It's natural to be curious and I'm tired of all the stigma surrounding disability. Silence grows stigma, honesty and information helps remove stigma I believe!
I want to commend you for being so brave to tackle these questions, and answer them with the candor and truthfulness that you did. I also congratulate you on your outlook on life and your positive attitude.
I was involved with a woman who was paraplegic when I was young. She was very quick to have an orgasm, I think because we were very keen on each other at first, so she was sort of 'fired up' even before we started ! She had a lot of muscle wastage in her legs. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but she was a lovely person. I think if we had talked as openly as you do, it might have gone better.
I came across your post by chance. I found it informative and I admire your honesty. Your husband is certainly a lucky man, long may you both enjoy life's journey
I LOVE that u answered these questions! There is SO much more to sex than just being able bodied. If u have A strong connection, love, safety, trust and compassion between u and your partner your sex life will be amazing no matter what your body is capable or not capable of doing.
Thanks for being so honest. It's very helpful and encouraging! I can tell that your husband adores you, and guys like that don't cheat. I was a little sad for you at the beginning of the video, but it reminded me of how many people who lose their hearing say that it forced them to a way more intimate way of communicating with people and they're glad. You probably have felt intimate emotions the rest of us will never experience!
You know, at the end of the day, even though you can’t “feel it” I think you have down what is important and that’s the intimacy with your husband. Some people chase the physical pleasure and completely overlook the emotional connection.
@@EmpoweredPara my boyfriend and me have been working on this for years and it‘s a delight to hear stuff from your perspective! Society is SO weird about sex and spreads so many false „information“ and often prioritizes the physical act, especially for men, so it‘s hard to dismantle all of that false stuff and find out the real information for my boyfriend and me. I wish we would hear about the emotional part of sex way more often, it‘s so overlooked and people spend years figuring that out because there is just not enough awareness.
Thank you for this informative and honest insight. I am a medical resident and I learn from your videos things that I have not learned during my education so far. 👍
I'm a very quiet person myself .... I could never talk about being differently abled like you do. I want to thank you for being so brave about your physical condition and openly talk about it. You are definitely a strong person and blessed to have a wonderful spouse who loves you. Not many disabled have that blessing.
👋i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world! Happy New year 🎆 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Canada currently living in California ☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭😊
Absolutely enjoyed your answers to, very personal questions, they were questions that I've been curious about myself, thank you for your beautiful attitude, I really appreciate the respect you have for your husband. True Love is a bond that can never be broken!
I applaud your candor and bravery these are questions I've had about people paralyzed for many many years but never really asked thank you so much for sharing so much personal stuff I applaud you and I'm glad you and your husband are good!
Hi there and hello I have just come across your post and I am a full-time wheelchair user and I have always had my disability but it got worse as I I’ve got older. Thank you for being so upfront with what you were saying about your experiences and what it’s like for you as a disabled person in the bedroom let’s say :-). I have subscribed to your channel because I think this issue is very very important and nobody wants to talk about it or discuss it with anybody else so thank you for being there. By the way my name is Martin and I am from England :-)
What an amazing video with an awesome perspective. I especially love your points about choosing to trust and not worrying about the little things as long as you love your husband. Such a great and wholesome thing to put out there for people that need to hear it.
From a man's perspective. I am married with kids and my wife is a 3 time cancer survivor. There has been many times in our marriage where I wasn't fulfilled sexually and at times it made me really frustrated. I will say that I never explored or considered cheating on my wife because of it as she is my best friend and I would expect the same from her if our roles were reversed. She got cancer about 5 years after we were married and right when she was pregnant with our second, so I had no way of knowing that she would have many health problems. You, however, were paralyzed before you were married, so he knew what he was in for and he should have realized what he was in for. All that being said, no person is worth anyone's time or effort if they won't respect you or the relationship enough to not be faithful. You have a great man at your side. Keep your head up and thank you so much for your vid!
Britany, I felt I had to react to your brave and awesome video. You are Amazing! God bless you and the experiences you have had and how you took them and turned yourself into such great person. The way you approach your challenges and carefully consider your emotions and attitudes and your relationships is one of the most advanced and healthy examples of someone being truly masterful and in control of their life that I have encountered. It's brilliant! You diagnosed a negative feedback loop, dug into it to gain understanding, and then had the moral courage to make corrections to your own perspective and reactions to turn it into a positive thing. This positive thoughts approach was very inspirational and, sadly, is something that is beyond what most people would have found themselves capable of conceiving, let alone being able to follow through with. Keep on inspiring the world with your brilliance, beauty, and wisdom! Cheers!
I didn’t know until very recently that these videos can be sorted by “most popular”. This one has a million views now! Well over a million views! Incredible! Brittney, can you ever imagine that this particular video would be the Most Popular?? And I’ve watched this particular video only 5 times LOL!
"Where there is a will there is a way" I just stumbled into the video and I find it highly informative & enlightening. I am glad that you are living full life. Remember looks is only skin deep.
Such a sweetheart. I'm so glad to hear that you have a family just at the point I was wondering if you would be able to have children. Love and prayers x
That depends entirely on whether or not the worry is grounded in reality. If you meet someone and you start worrying before you even know that person there's a good chance that's a you problem. Granted by the time you're considering marriage that should be already worked through.
Thank you for being cool enough to make this and answering questions I have asked myself in my head, but more just for being you. People like you make disabilities seem like normal life, it's hard as hell but we can manage, physical or psychological 🤘♥️
I didn't search for this video, but it did answer some longheld questions of mine that I would never dare to ask someone in your position. Thank you for your frankness!
I love your channel and I think it's awesome how open you are with answering questions like this. My brother in law was in a relationship with a woman who became paralyzed and they both were able to enjoy sex because she said a lot of it was imagination based as well. She also could enjoy other physical things during sex like the touching part. I think a lot of people forget that intimacy is a major thing that is so important and it's not all about actual intercourse. I can definitely see how if I ever were to be involved with someone who was unable to feel that specific thing that it probably wouldn't be a huge deal because there's more to it than just that.
Hello, enjoyed your video. 39yr old male. I have a broken back and I have difficulty with sex and can not organism offen. I get embarrassed and had been criticize for not being able to or lose all interest because pain is to much. It's been 2 years and I'm still learning but makes me not even want to leave the house. Feels good to share. Thanks.
First, yes, you are quite beautiful and your outlook is unquestionably healthy. Second, when it comes to whether or not your husband is fulfilled, I don't think many people have given much thought to the fact that he would be a fool not to be fulfilled. He's under no pressure to "perform", so sex is without the pressure therefore extremely liberating. More to the point, if he's any kind of man, sans performance anxiety, his concentration is now freed to be on you, not on himself. From a man's perspective, your husband is in one of the best positions a married man can be in. He gets to sleep with a beautiful woman, doesn't have to worry about her cheating on him, can use his imagination to make her happy sexually, and most important, he gets to take care of her in a way that expresses his boundless love. In short, he's a very lucky guy. And God bless you M'am, you're an example of greatness in womankind.
god only knows how i came across this video.. but i couldnt stop watching, you are so engaging and your honesty is just incredible... what a lucky man your husband is
You, your husband and your family are such beautiful people. The only thing I know about you and your fam, is getting to know you. But if your husband doesn't worry about you peeing/pooing and/or being messy, and the fact that you both show the love you have for each other and family shows just how faithful and loving you all are. You truly show what a credit your whole family is. I promise you have nothing to fear, and neither does your husband. Thank you for your vids. May God continue to bless you and yours, hooroo for now from Down Under.
I want to thank you 🙏 for opening up about your life as you live! I mean, I lost my eyesight at 47 but I guess it’s as how you live your life! You’re an amazing beautiful woman! Thank you
Wow. Such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful attitude... There are a lot of women without physical impairments who are much more handicapped. Your husband is a very, very lucky man to have found you. Apparently, he is also a very good man, to have won your affection. Thank you for sharing.
Brittany you are beautiful and amazing!! I'm an above knee amputee and I've had all kinds of questions throughout my life. Thank you for sharing and being so open.
Love how open and honest you are in answering and telling all those (including me) with questions. So if you cannot feel anything from the chest down (meaning your legs) what does it feel like to touch your legs is it numb feeling or you just don't feel anything? Does it feel weird?
Go to the pet store and get some Vetricin Gel to apply to potential contact wounds. My amputee wife uses it each night before bed for pressure spots from her prosthetic. It also works on inflamed hair folicles, too. Some paras use it when they cath. It is very safe. Hypochlorous acid is a naturally occurring substance in the body. Love your channel.
@@EmpoweredPara It is not a numbing cream. It is a wound healing liquid/gel that can also prevent infection. It is anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and can defeat MRSA, Covid, staph, strepp, yeasts/fungus, and more. Women use it on infected eye lash follicles. When you get those contact wounds on your skin, apply it. It can help reduce UTIs, too. It is far better than antibiotics ointments. It does not cause microbes to develop resistance/tolerance to it. Google hypochlorous acid. Contact/pressure wounds can be so hard to heal.
If you were paralyzed when you met, all through dating, and he married you, pretty safe bet it's not a problem for him lol. Plus being a knockout helps too, I'm sure he has some jealous friends! That was really interesting, thanks for sharing.
I'm also a paraplegic. Your videos was both awkward and informative. Thanks for your honesty and openness Joe. I may not be dating, but I agree with what you said.
As a registered nurse i just want to applaud you for opening up yourself to personal questions. We are all different in so many ways. Love your videos, take care.
Love answering ALL the questions lol. TMI is my super power haha!
Can she get pregnant?
@@dogfoot1874 They mentioned two kids, so...
@@EmpoweredPara what an episode to discover your channel
@@dogfoot1874 yep! Fertility and reproduction are not affected by a SCI in women
Weird YT recommendation but I'm glad to see the comments showing support to everyone.
I'm not paralyzed, don't know anyone who is... but I loved this video!! So informative & I absolutely love how candid and confident you are. Thank you for sharing such intimate details ☺️
Thanks!!!
I am a disabled person who was disabled from birth and thank you I was so unconfident that I have not got married yet because of that.
I shared 19 years of my life with a woman with a muscular disease and she was afraid she would lose me on several occasions: (1) when she just met me, (2) when she needed extra oxygen and (3) when she needed medication that was pumped into her vein 24/7.
She never lost me, but I lost her: she died in April 2021.
And by the way... we had a wonderful sex-life. She had full sensation, so she could enjoy it as much as I did.
I'm sorry for you loss. 😔 Sounds like you had a beautiful love story.
Im too sorry for your loss.
Having known love is pretty much the most we can ask of life.
Dats sum KANGZ & QUANES SHIET FOO FROM WACKANDA. PROUD YALL HIT DA GROUND ROLLIN
They ask if husband is satisfied. LOOK at her. She's lovely. Of course he is satisfied. And it gives me strength to hear all of your stories. On a deep level. Ok people do a lot of complaining instead of living life (I'm guilty of it).
My sister understands these issues because she has Spina Bifida, and she has the full capacity to have orgasms by using her brain!!!
I am an able-bodied female who previously had full function up until my mid forties, but now I am nearing menopause, and I am struggling with loss of feeling and function…Now, It feels as if my entire sensual body has died already. I feel grief, and I miss the good feelings, and menopause hasn’t even happened yet.
Thank you for being so honest! That helped me, I am still a wheelchair baby, just 2 years in. I have trouble finding people to date, but to see someone is married and it's possible to cope with sexuality is really inspiring and comforting.
My best advice is to never apologize for your disability. Own all parts of it and set the tone going into a relationship that these things are part of your life (wheelchair, bowel, bladder), and they can take it or leave it!
Holy cow, you take "living your authentic self" to a whole new level I can only wish more people in this world had half of your strength! Thank you for your insights, Live well!!
I'm a retired anaesthetic nurse from Scotland. I think your an amazing young woman. To have become paralysed at just 13 years of age it would have been completely understandable if you'd just withdrawn right into yourself. You've obviously had amazing parents to have encouraged you to become a positive role model for paralysed people, especially young ones. I adore your sense of everything is to be laughed about especially embarrising accidents. I'm betting your an amazing mum and I think your husband is very lucky to have such a wonderful wife. There's a saying I don't know if you know it but it most certainly describes you, "your a breath of fresh air". Carry on enjoying life, it passes us by so quickly.
thank you so much!!
What a lovely comment 💕✨😊
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You are a doll!! I'm over 60 now and have Asperger's... been without intimacy over 20 years and can't really say I miss it, or ever knew if I really had it. Your story touches my heart and sharing it with us all is very brave and I'm proud of you!
Thanks!
Females and sex. Only way they can enjoy it is if the guy tapes a thousand dollar bill to the ceiling. As a man who's been in a chair, I can tell you I miss it everyday. Of course, as a Man, I can also tell you that I gave a damn about it to start with. Not so with women.
So genuine and honest. You are a breath of fresh air.
Why thank you!
Thank you for being so open and honest about this topic, I think alot of people are just genuinely curious about stuff like this, and there's not many people who will be so open about it 🙂
Yeah I wanna help educate people who would never be brave enough to ask. I was too shy to ask these questions and it took me WAY too long to figure stuff out!
I worked as a certified nurse assistant for a couple years and these sorts of questions crossed my mind, so I appreciate your candor.
I specifically love the way you talk about how the whole experience is set free by your imagination.
Thank you so much for discussing this openly. I have a spinal cord injury, and eventhough I learned to walk again, I deal with many physical challenges. It feels overwhelming at times. Your video showed me there is a "normal" life I can dream of.
My shipmate in navy met a woman in wheelchair from accident. He absolutely adored her, still does over 40 years later
buddy hit his fetish jackpot
Your forthcoming answers are going to help so many people. Because a lot of folks won’t talk about lack of sensation post paralysis, (which is their right) it can cause those experiencing it to feel self-conscious or ashamed. You are amazing! ❤
Thank you! I hope my honesty is helpful!
I love how positive you are. Confidence is very important to a fulfilling life.
Confidence is key!
What a delightfully honest Frank & beautiful young woman you are. You will probably never know how many people you have helped over all these 'unspeakable ' situations & making them all so normal.
May your God bless you
I was sooo amazed how open and confident you spoke on this subject. Your doing a great service for people who struggle with disabilities thank you for your strength and courage.
Thanks for the kind feedback!
I'm not sure how this got suggested to me but I was curious as I am interested in people. I really admire your frank and honest outlook and understand how much support you are giving to others. Well done you
thanks!
Thank you for sharing your most inter-personal experiences with us. I have spent 30 years and countless hours in the Operating Room working with surgeons as a trained RN and now a consultant for a major healthcare company helping patients with spinal injuries. I see the patients when they arrive to the OR in need of serious care, but I rarely get see the outcomes on how well these patients do long term. We all take our jobs very seriously in the OR and we want to provide the best possible care to give patients the best chance possible. It is so rewarding to see someone like yourself, positive, energetic and such a uplifting person.
Thank you so much for sharing your strong spirit , awesome attitude and your
personal experiences.
God Bless
I'm lucky that I have lots of support and people that push me to be better all the time. I think it would be a pretty miserable life if I spent it being angry!
Love how honest you are.
What an amazing attitude, and something we can all learn from. It sounds like you took the fear that your husband might be unfaithful and turned into a strength by being more self-affirmative + looking for ways to make the sexual portion of your relationship even better. This is how we all need to deal with burdensome fears! Thanks much for sharing your story.....it's inspiring! 👍👍
Your comment applies to everyone!
The fact you came out to answer the most asked questions to you is highly commendable.
A very brave and well-done explanation of your situation. Having two kids, and being a Mom and wife makes you the Beautiful catch!!! Best wishes to you and the family! Positive prayers as well!
thanks ❤️!
Thank you for being transparent in this vulnerable context. We are curious creatures and we appreciate the real talk! Congrats to you and your hubby.
Brittney thank you for always being so honest and opened. You’re one fantastic educator, I can’t start to thank you for all you’ve shared here, it been so informative.
just out here making sure people get their weekly dose of TMI lol
@@EmpoweredPara LMAO Brittney you’re to funny, my sides are splitting from laughing.
I am new to your channel. I am a doctor of Psychology and in a wheelchair due to last stage kidney failure. Recently retired i find i am always looking for interesting people. Well I found you. Your content is interesting. thank you for being open and sharing your life. You have courage . You have a beautiful soul and that is wonderful no matter any other limitations you may have...
I try to be informative and entertaining! Nothing worse than boring, very serious disability related content lol. I got enough of that in the hospital lol
I admire your courage and willingness to openly discuss these topics .many people are curious about these topics but probably are either misinformed or unsure about how to ask these questions because of fear of accidental offending someone. Your a very inspirational and courageous woman.
thanks! It took me a while to gain the courage to share such personal things but you guys make me feel really great about doing it! I hope it helps educate people!
You are amazing. I had many talks with my Mom whom had MS and was full on needing a wheelchair. Thank you for letting people know that even though you are “less abled” you still are ALIVE. Love you!❤️
My sister is in a wheelchair with MS. She's nightmare.
I am really lost for words. Your amazing positive attitude portrays what the mind can overcome. Your outlook on life encompassing a strong dertermination to function and be positive with this disability is amazing. Rehabilitators/paralegics and just everyone battling with a disorder or disability would benefit so much from your story. Thanks for telling it!
That was awesome. You found the words I wish I had.
I don't think my wife was ever able to have an orgasm. It was quite a few years before we were able to talk about it honestly. She was diagnosed with MS about a year and 5 months after we were married. Of course, then we were able to trace symptoms to back before we met, and I suspect failure to reach orgasm was one of them, if I had known. I pride myself on being a non-selfish lover, and so the situation is hard to understand, but I think your video has contributed to my understanding.
My wife was always an enthusiastic sex partner, though she didn't masturbate or enjoy sex toys. I just thought she was a "quiet" orgasmer, which I had seen before. I inquired after her satisfaction, and she declared herself satisfied. As her feeling diminished, she complained I wasn't giving her enough foreplay, so it seemed she was getting something out of it. Eventually, it became obvious that no amount of foreplay could compensate.
Can I ask how you felt about all that?
Don't feel bad. A woman wants an orgasm like a duck wants a rowboat. Look at it this way: You saved yourself the eventual false rape charges when she decides to take off.
I love your open and honest videos. The reason you are so successful is because you answer questions that everyone wants to ask but are too afraid to, openly that is. So thankful. You , your life and physical situation in life is very interesting. Thanks!
Thanks! That's exactly what I aim to do so I'm glad it comes across that way!
Big props for coming out and discussing these topics. I'm not going to lie, I've wondered some of those questions but would never feel comfortable asking someone in your situation these types of questions.
I love your honesty and complete answers. Your husband is a lucky man.
Thanks! I think he's lucky too lol 😉
I actually genuinely was curious about this whole topic. I was doing a little bit of a research on the internet , came across a couple of articles. But honestly , the fact that I had a chance to listen to you as a person who first handedly experiences it , you made things much more cleaerer. I respect you so much for having the courage to educate and inform people on such a sensitive and personal topic. I have been an internet user for almost 20+ years and I mustn't have posted more than 10 comments on TH-cam my entire life. I just had an urge to express my appreciation to you :) God bless you and your family
Took me a few years to get brave enough to share such personal things! Thanks for taking the time to tell me how important yoy think my content is! Definitely reassuring knowing I'm not just sharing gross stuff no one cares about lol!
I can appreciate your last point about what's within your control to affect, and the self-fulfilling nature of the thoughts and attitude you choose to hold. It's within a context completely foreign to me, but seems like it could feel insurmountable.
Your positivity is really strong, robust. Your worldview and sense of self are amazing. I had not expected this from my YT reccs, but thank you for sharing a perspective I had never seen or thought about much.
Awesome, thank you for your honesty! I've been a subscriber for some time. I don't comment much. I'm new to the disabled community with nerve disease that is taking away the use of my legs. I have watched many of your videos. They're very informative and much appreciated! Having been able bodied and now disabled, my thought process has obviously changed a bit. While there have been a few rude people, I have found that most people are kind and helpful. Thanks again for your help along the way!
My pleasure!
You are a great teacher--so much great knowledge to help us face challenges.
@@EmpoweredPara I have wondered this for awhile and felt like I could ask you because you seem like such a forthright, honest and helpful person. Does earning money from your channel affect your SSDI or SSI benefits. I know SSDI and SSI are not enough to live on but having Medicare is a huge help and not something disabled people can do without. I see quite a few disabled people with YT channels so I was curious.
@@talesfromtheleashexpatdogl1426 I don't have the answer, but I'm replying because I'm not sure Brittany does either. She's Canadian so I don't know if they have SSI/SSDI there. I know the Healthcare system is different. I don't know what their equivalent is to our SSDI or Medicare.
The algorithm brought me by, and I'm happy to subscribe. My wife is in a chair, your content will help me.
I admire and respect your honesty, thank you for this.
Happy New Year!
Wow. You are doing amazing things with this platform. You mentioned your mother in a previous video. I only recently discovered your content. As a parent of 5 kinds I know that your mother (perhaps both parents) deserve a lot of credit for raising such a confident, smart, self-sufficient and inspirational young lady.
They do! My mom always made me feel grateful about the life I get to live no matter how challenging. They were slso an amazing source of support when I needed it most!
Your views on self confidence in relationships is so relevant to my life. Thank you for your inspiring words ❤
It is so brave and kind to share this topic, as you always do! Sexuality is still something that I have not been able to cope since my injury two years ago. It's something I need to do, but body acceptance first is being hard and libido seems to have dissapear..I imagine is a matter of time.I didn't know about the nerve vagus, though. I will look into that!
You'll get there! Work on body acceptance first:)
Don't be afraid to talk with a sex therapist if it's something you want to address, they could probably offer a lot of guidance and help you process these concerns in a healthy way.
Thank you for being so open with questions like this. I’ve seen other videos where a person with a disability is asked these questions and they’re very vague in their answers and dance around the subject. I know not every person with a disability is the same, but in a way it’s nice to have a definitive answer from someone
One of the rare people on the internet who is actually stunning and brave. I learned something from you.
It's great that you open up. I could go into detail, but there is no reason. You are great.
Super cool of you to enlighten people's curiosity with such honesty and class. Your husband is a lucky man.
Wow. 😳 you answered questions most people are to afraid to ask. Young lady, you are one of a kind👍
It's natural to be curious and I'm tired of all the stigma surrounding disability. Silence grows stigma, honesty and information helps remove stigma I believe!
I want to commend you for being so brave to tackle these questions, and answer them with the candor and truthfulness that you did. I also congratulate you on your outlook on life and your positive attitude.
Thanks!
You are a very brave woman! Thank you for sharing such a personal story. Wish you and your husband a wonderful life!
I was involved with a woman who was paraplegic when I was young. She was very quick to have an orgasm, I think because we were very keen on each other at first, so she was sort of 'fired up' even before we started ! She had a lot of muscle wastage in her legs. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but she was a lovely person. I think if we had talked as openly as you do, it might have gone better.
Cool that you remember her so well!
Its heart warming to hear you still found a husband and had kids, so you still have a loving family.
I came across your post by chance. I found it informative and I admire your honesty. Your husband is certainly a lucky man, long may you both enjoy life's journey
I LOVE that u answered these questions!
There is SO much more to sex than just being able bodied. If u have A strong connection, love, safety, trust and compassion between u and your partner your sex life will be amazing no matter what your body is capable or not capable of doing.
agreed!
I really need your information. I would be happy if you could help me.
Thanks for being so honest. It's very helpful and encouraging! I can tell that your husband adores you, and guys like that don't cheat. I was a little sad for you at the beginning of the video, but it reminded me of how many people who lose their hearing say that it forced them to a way more intimate way of communicating with people and they're glad. You probably have felt intimate emotions the rest of us will never experience!
You know, at the end of the day, even though you can’t “feel it” I think you have down what is important and that’s the intimacy with your husband. Some people chase the physical pleasure and completely overlook the emotional connection.
Yeah I guess I have the opportunity to be more emotionally connected through sex!
@@EmpoweredPara my boyfriend and me have been working on this for years and it‘s a delight to hear stuff from your perspective!
Society is SO weird about sex and spreads so many false „information“ and often prioritizes the physical act, especially for men, so it‘s hard to dismantle all of that false stuff and find out the real information for my boyfriend and me.
I wish we would hear about the emotional part of sex way more often, it‘s so overlooked and people spend years figuring that out because there is just not enough awareness.
Thank you for this informative and honest insight. I am a medical resident and I learn from your videos things that I have not learned during my education so far. 👍
External experience is a great teacher
Thank you so much for this honest video on topics too many people are afraid speak about!
I'm a very quiet person myself .... I could never talk about being differently abled like you do. I want to thank you for being so brave about your physical condition and openly talk about it. You are definitely a strong person and blessed to have a wonderful spouse who loves you. Not many disabled have that blessing.
I'm definitely blessed!
That is such a good point we all need to remember. If we do not try we cannot do anything.
I learned the hard way lol
It really took courage for you to open up and tell it like it is. I salute you!
Your candour is amazing and your direct,comfortable approach in sharing your experiences is really wonderful. I applaud you!!
Thanks! I try my best to make touchy subjects easy to talk about!
👋i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world! Happy New year 🎆 🙏🌍
I'm originally from Canada currently living in California ☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭😊
Absolutely enjoyed your answers to, very personal questions, they were questions that I've been curious about myself, thank you for your beautiful attitude, I really appreciate the respect you have for your husband. True Love is a bond that can never be broken!
I applaud your candor and bravery these are questions I've had about people paralyzed for many many years but never really asked thank you so much for sharing so much personal stuff I applaud you and I'm glad you and your husband are good!
Hi there and hello I have just come across your post and I am a full-time wheelchair user and I have always had my disability but it got worse as I I’ve got older. Thank you for being so upfront with what you were saying about your experiences and what it’s like for you as a disabled person in the bedroom let’s say :-). I have subscribed to your channel because I think this issue is very very important and nobody wants to talk about it or discuss it with anybody else so thank you for being there. By the way my name is Martin and I am from England :-)
What an amazing video with an awesome perspective. I especially love your points about choosing to trust and not worrying about the little things as long as you love your husband. Such a great and wholesome thing to put out there for people that need to hear it.
Took me a while to settle into a good headspace so I hope what I've learned helps others!
From a man's perspective. I am married with kids and my wife is a 3 time cancer survivor. There has been many times in our marriage where I wasn't fulfilled sexually and at times it made me really frustrated. I will say that I never explored or considered cheating on my wife because of it as she is my best friend and I would expect the same from her if our roles were reversed. She got cancer about 5 years after we were married and right when she was pregnant with our second, so I had no way of knowing that she would have many health problems. You, however, were paralyzed before you were married, so he knew what he was in for and he should have realized what he was in for. All that being said, no person is worth anyone's time or effort if they won't respect you or the relationship enough to not be faithful.
You have a great man at your side. Keep your head up and thank you so much for your vid!
Your wife must be one heck of a fighter!
Britany, I felt I had to react to your brave and awesome video. You are Amazing! God bless you and the experiences you have had and how you took them and turned yourself into such great person. The way you approach your challenges and carefully consider your emotions and attitudes and your relationships is one of the most advanced and healthy examples of someone being truly masterful and in control of their life that I have encountered. It's brilliant! You diagnosed a negative feedback loop, dug into it to gain understanding, and then had the moral courage to make corrections to your own perspective and reactions to turn it into a positive thing. This positive thoughts approach was very inspirational and, sadly, is something that is beyond what most people would have found themselves capable of conceiving, let alone being able to follow through with. Keep on inspiring the world with your brilliance, beauty, and wisdom! Cheers!
I didn’t know until very recently that these videos can be sorted by “most popular”. This one has a million views now! Well over a million views! Incredible! Brittney, can you ever imagine that this particular video would be the Most Popular?? And I’ve watched this particular video only 5 times LOL!
Bless you for being you , such an honesty in you , and I’m sure your breaking down barriers that need to be broken .❤
I hope so!
"Where there is a will there is a way" I just stumbled into the video and I find it highly informative & enlightening. I am glad that you are living full life. Remember looks is only skin deep.
100%
Such a sweetheart. I'm so glad to hear that you have a family just at the point I was wondering if you would be able to have children. Love and prayers x
You're a Rockstar and inspirational. Wishing you and your husband the best.
No spouse is worth having or keeping if you have to worry about him/her cheating. That's a fact.
You got that right!
I so agree.
Yes, when that trust is gone, it doesn’t matter if the cheating is real or imagined
Sometimes the worry comes internally however, and that’s something that needs to be worked on personally
That depends entirely on whether or not the worry is grounded in reality. If you meet someone and you start worrying before you even know that person there's a good chance that's a you problem. Granted by the time you're considering marriage that should be already worked through.
You are a shining light of positivity. God bless you.
Thank you for being cool enough to make this and answering questions I have asked myself in my head, but more just for being you. People like you make disabilities seem like normal life, it's hard as hell but we can manage, physical or psychological 🤘♥️
I didn't search for this video, but it did answer some longheld questions of mine that I would never dare to ask someone in your position. Thank you for your frankness!
I love your channel and I think it's awesome how open you are with answering questions like this. My brother in law was in a relationship with a woman who became paralyzed and they both were able to enjoy sex because she said a lot of it was imagination based as well. She also could enjoy other physical things during sex like the touching part. I think a lot of people forget that intimacy is a major thing that is so important and it's not all about actual intercourse. I can definitely see how if I ever were to be involved with someone who was unable to feel that specific thing that it probably wouldn't be a huge deal because there's more to it than just that.
yeah it really is more than that!
I admire you enormously as a person, so open, so honest, so much nicer than many able bodied people ❤❤
Hello, enjoyed your video. 39yr old male. I have a broken back and I have difficulty with sex and can not organism offen. I get embarrassed and had been criticize for not being able to or lose all interest because pain is to much. It's been 2 years and I'm still learning but makes me not even want to leave the house. Feels good to share. Thanks.
You are amazing..... Your husband is blessed having you as his wife. My prayers to you and your family 🙏. May God continue to Bless you
Thank you:) I think I'm pretty cool too 😎 lol!
Glad to hear how you cope with this and your openens about it..🙏💜
You are the most confident, comfortable, open person. Your personality is awesome. You Are Beautiful. In every way imaginable
I take every one of those compliments lol! Thank you so much!
First, yes, you are quite beautiful and your outlook is unquestionably healthy. Second, when it comes to whether or not your husband is fulfilled, I don't think many people have given much thought to the fact that he would be a fool not to be fulfilled. He's under no pressure to "perform", so sex is without the pressure therefore extremely liberating. More to the point, if he's any kind of man, sans performance anxiety, his concentration is now freed to be on you, not on himself. From a man's perspective, your husband is in one of the best positions a married man can be in. He gets to sleep with a beautiful woman, doesn't have to worry about her cheating on him, can use his imagination to make her happy sexually, and most important, he gets to take care of her in a way that expresses his boundless love. In short, he's a very lucky guy. And God bless you M'am, you're an example of greatness in womankind.
god only knows how i came across this video.. but i couldnt stop watching, you are so engaging and your honesty is just incredible... what a lucky man your husband is
thanks!
You, your husband and your family are such beautiful people. The only thing I know about you and your fam, is getting to know you. But if your husband doesn't worry about you peeing/pooing and/or being messy, and the fact that you both show the love you have for each other and family shows just how faithful and loving you all are. You truly show what a credit your whole family is. I promise you have nothing to fear, and neither does your husband. Thank you for your vids. May God continue to bless you and yours, hooroo for now from Down Under.
You’re honesty is a gift to many and much more than you know. Thank you.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching!
so brave and so educational .... never really knew all this that you explained ... ty
What a beautiful woman. A totally candid reply to questions many people would find uncomfortable.
Thank you for the information! So so appreciate your honesty and openness to share your experience.
Always my pleasure!
I want to thank you 🙏 for opening up about your life as you live! I mean, I lost my eyesight at 47 but I guess it’s as how you live your life! You’re an amazing beautiful woman! Thank you
Wow. Such a beautiful woman with such a beautiful attitude... There are a lot of women without physical impairments who are much more handicapped. Your husband is a very, very lucky man to have found you. Apparently, he is also a very good man, to have won your affection. Thank you for sharing.
My husband is an awesome guy!
You are so awesome, hopefully you live a healthy, happy life together with your husband and your family. Much love ❤️
Thank you!
Brittany you are beautiful and amazing!! I'm an above knee amputee and I've had all kinds of questions throughout my life. Thank you for sharing and being so open.
You're welcome Kelly! Always happy to answer ANY questions.
Awesome attitude with everything. You can tell you have overcome a lot and your strength has grown because of it. Your husband is a very lucky man.
Thanks Rob! My disability has definitely made me resilient and resourceful!
Love how open and honest you are in answering and telling all those (including me) with questions. So if you cannot feel anything from the chest down (meaning your legs) what does it feel like to touch your legs is it numb feeling or you just don't feel anything? Does it feel weird?
I just don't feel anything.
@Empowered Para
Do you have phantom limb sensation though?
Your strength and common sense gives me hope for humanity in 2022. ..
Thank you so much Brittney for your honesty ! I'm amazed and think I can learn from you and your attitude ! go on like this !
thanks ❤️
That was so brave of you to share all of that. Thank you for your courage.
Go to the pet store and get some Vetricin Gel to apply to potential contact wounds. My amputee wife uses it each night before bed for pressure spots from her prosthetic. It also works on inflamed hair folicles, too. Some paras use it when they cath. It is very safe. Hypochlorous acid is a naturally occurring substance in the body.
Love your channel.
thanks for the tip, but I can't feel my urethra so don't need numbing cream:)
@@EmpoweredPara It is not a numbing cream. It is a wound healing liquid/gel that can also prevent infection. It is anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and can defeat MRSA, Covid, staph, strepp, yeasts/fungus, and more. Women use it on infected eye lash follicles. When you get those contact wounds on your skin, apply it. It can help reduce UTIs, too. It is far better than antibiotics ointments. It does not cause microbes to develop resistance/tolerance to it. Google hypochlorous acid.
Contact/pressure wounds can be so hard to heal.
Respect for you for being so straightforward!I love 🐴🐴🐴! Your positivity and honesty! Thank you so much for this!
You are so welcome!
If you were paralyzed when you met, all through dating, and he married you, pretty safe bet it's not a problem for him lol. Plus being a knockout helps too, I'm sure he has some jealous friends! That was really interesting, thanks for sharing.
I'm also a paraplegic. Your videos was both awkward and informative. Thanks for your honesty and openness Joe. I may not be dating, but I agree with what you said.
lol so glad my awkwardness doesn't take away from the informative part!