How To Stay Married (So Far) #7 : Dealing With The Heartbreak Of Miscarriage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ม.ค. 2018
- In a highly emotive episode, we talk about a painful issue that sadly many people have to deal with - miscarriage. Talking about how the different ways it affects both people in the relationship, this podcast episode takes you through the heartbreak each time it happened and the way as individuals we both dealt and felt about it.
I always thought I would be a mum. I had a termination when I was 21, I believed it was the right decision at the time and had no regrets. The I married at 30 and had 1 miscarriage followed by never being able to get pregnant again. I have always wondered on my darkest days if having the termination caused damage that caused my infertility or if it was the universes way of punishing me for ending my first pregnancy. My infertility was never discussed, my family have always just believed I chose not to have children and assumed not having children didn't bother me. That's my fault for never talking about how I really felt about it, not even with my husband. Listening to your fears and your empathy about women who go through similar experiences but never have a child meant more to me than you'll ever know. My infertility has always felt invisible but watching this made it feel seen for the first time. Thank you xxxxx
Thankyou for sharing your story. I have had 5 miscarriages and my 6th pregnancy was ectopic. I have no living children, I then had to have a hysterectomy at 31 year's old. I always wanted children and never really talk about my miscarriages. I think about my children often. You are both fantastic parents and I appreciate you sharing as not enough people talk about such difficult subjects 💜
Raw honest and inspiring courage. Me and my husband had a healthy daughter followed by three miscarriages. One I had similarly placed in a small box and kept for months until I felt ready to have a small service and cremation in the garden with my husband and our baby daughter. We now have a six week old newborn baby. It was the most difficult emotional pregnancy. I again was also waiting to miscarry. I would have horrific baby loss dreams and every scan would convince myself she would be dead. I cried with you both watching this. It's really good hearing marks experiences too as my husband has never been able to talk to me about it. He wouldn't attach any feelings to our newest daughter until I was about 20 weeks gone. Thank you for sharing. Xx
I cannot thank you enough for sharing your story. I have had six miscarriages and the loss of twins at 23 weeks gestation. I have not yet had a baby to bring home. Your story gives me hope, makes me not want to give up. You are so candid it is refreshing. Not many people speak of miscarriage the way you have. The raw, primal emotions you go through things people do not dare to share. I am grateful I came across this video today. You two are so very strong.
Nadia and Mark - I have only just watched this as I never realised you had spoken so openly about your tragic losses. Me and my partner had a miscarriage in May after years of trying to conceive. Our joy turned to grief so suddenly and I have been truly shocked at how miscarriage is still such a taboo subject. Many friends and family members don’t understand the loss experienced and I think that unless you have been through it, you never really understand the emotions that come with the grief. Anger, loneliness, jealousy of other pregnant women etc. I am still trying to find the strength to try again. Thank you for speaking about your experiences xx
Thank you for talking so honestly about this, i cried my entire way through this podcast, both of your bravery is amazing. Again i can't thank you both enough for this.
Even though I have never experienced a miscarriage, I have had two abortions in the past couple of years and I very much relate to what you said about the feeling of guilt. My sister in law is having IVF as she’s struggling to conceive, I haven’t told her about my pregnancies as I feel so guilty as it’s almost like rubbing it in. Fantastic podcast, so emotional and so real. X
I just listened to this episode about how to deal with miscarriage & I was in floods of tears listening to your experience. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks, my husband & I have been trying for a baby for 16 years without any success. I really admire you both for speaking so openly about your experience & for being empathetic to others who have gone through it too & not been able to go on and have children. Thank you for discussing this sensitive issue as a lot of people out there are suffering in silence. 😢
I had four miscarriages and eventually stopped trying to have children. Hearing this was so so painful, yet healing. I am glad you managed to have wonderful kids and I am now at peace with what happened to me and I am finding new ways to channel my maternal instincts. Unfortunately the pain caused by the miscarriages eventually took a toll on the relationship I had with my husband and we split up. Nadia don't feel guilty, every baby that did manage to arrive in this world is a blessing and I am so glad they are gowing up in a loving family. I love all the babies in the world.
Oh my heart ❤️😢😭💋🙏🏻please do a pod cast on home delivery you are so brave. Why did Maddy land on floor? Sorry midwife questions. I lost twin girls full term first pregnancy and your honesty is so deeply touching xxxxx so many ladies tell me during delivery that they had a termination almost confessing because they punish themselves and think they deserve bad outcomes. Heartbreaking and couldn’t be further from the truth. You do deserve happiness xxxx the tablet is called cytotec it wasn’t designed to induce miscarriage it was a side effect which beneficially (awful word) gave women a choice to go home and go through the process they choose instead of a general anesthetic and D&C
How brave if you to be such an eloquent story teller of something so horrific. You’re honesty and insight is so very helpful. Thank you.
You two are as strong as a rock - I have so much admiration for you both. That could not have been easy, to relive all those moments. Life can deal us such a cruel hand at times. So happy to know you have a loving and blessed family unit after all your past heartache. Thank you so much for sharing.
Such a powerful, emotional podcast. You're both incredibly inspiring.. you really are and talking about this will help so many people relate to you I'm sure of it xx
I am the Kiki from my family, my mum had a daughter from her previous marriage then met my dad and they miscarried 4 times the last one at 23 weeks, then at 40 she was pregnant with me, she was stitched straight away to help prevent another miscarriage and after 42 weeks I finally arrived! 32 years later I often wonder if any of the others had survived would I still have got here!
Such wonderful raw insight into the hardest times of life ❤️
You both are such a lovely sensitive couple. God Bless
I love listening to your podcasts. Please post more often. I love how honest you both are xxxx keep them coming
What a remarkable couple. Thank you for sharing your story with us x
Just love you two and the honesty that you share. I look forward to your instalments of How to stay married (So Far). Makes me glad that there are other couples out there that work as hard to stay together, and try to be the best partner that they can be x
Such a brave and strong couple to have gone through what you both have and sharing so publicly 💜❤️💙
Such a lovely family! So moving. Thank you for sharing x
Awww nadia I cried the whole way through this . Thankyou for being so raw and honest with your emotions and the details on what happened. What a tough time you had going through that not just once but 4 times. You are one strong woman mentally and physically !!! Big love to you to mark ... going through all those emotions and watching someone you love go through them must of been so so difficult !! I’m just so happy you both have your beautiful special girls .... what you said about kiki fighting through was so beautiful ... she sure was 💛 ....Your little miracle baby 💛😘 xxx
Nadia and Kaye you are so welcome ❤️❤️ !!! Have a lovely weekend xxx
The best one yet!!!! I've had two and even now with my two kids here with me I still think about all my babies...... Great video guys❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your honesty and laying your emotions right there for us all to see. Nadia you are brilliant and I love you!! And mark too obvs ;-) hehe thank you guys for this video it was heart felt and meant a lot xx
Didnt think I could like you both any more than I already do but I do. So much respect for your honesty. I am so happy you got your babies after so much heartache. 💛💛💛
Mark I think you handled this wonderfully x
Ohhhhhhhhhh my god you 2 been through sooooooo much.....this is sooooooo moving...love your sooooooo bloody much💛💜💛💜💛💜💛💜💛💛💜
You two are amazing 🦋✨ your so strong
Thank you for this. I had an abortion at 19 because I wasn’t ready to have a baby. Then, I found out I was pregnant at 27 last year, not long after a relationship breakup. I made the conscious decision to keep the baby. Then, I miscarried. I was at work and I was in incredible pain, and I didn’t tell anyone. I hadn’t told anyone I was pregnant, so I couldn’t tell anyone I was miscarrying. I have a physically demanding job walking about 7 miles a day around a factory, and I don’t know how I managed that afternoon. I felt like collapsing on the ground. It was days later before I told my Managing Director who I very much trusted. I still haven’t processed it a year later.
Aww heartbreaking..☹️ so glad your family got to be complete.xx
Does mark have two kids ? Only herd the name Izzy? X
I had a complete miscarriage then a missed miscarriage then one when the sac was left. The last one needed two d and Cs. Then we had a Potters syndrome baby who lived six weeks. Then we had our healthy daughter but I had undiagnosed placenta accreta and had to have emergency hysterectomy.
Hugs to you xxx
How long inbetween the miscarriages and how hard did you guys have to try to conceive? Timing etc...pleaasssse
So sad
Love u 2👌👌💕💙
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Boo, I wanted to see the hug! :P :')
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