The Power Of Hope In Breakups

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  • @CoachCraigKenneth
    @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +43

    The internet is filled with negativity… You will see tons of comments by people who have mental health issues, a negative mindset, and their only thing they know about breakups is what happened to them.
    Focus on personal growth. Get into the habit of doing The Knowledge and Creative Healing Course 30 minutes a day. It will change your life and will give you far better chances of re-attracting your ex! It’s a win either way ❤️

    • @kursengamer4699
      @kursengamer4699 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And like I’ve heard you say before- watch out for sharing your thoughts with your family and some of your friends because they have bad attitudes towards your ex and will not be helpful

  • @djthamlas_tbs
    @djthamlas_tbs ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Whether you’re hopeless or not, the most important thing is reaching a place where you’re fine without them, because you were fine before they came into your life. You’ll be fine after💯

    • @AakashKumar-tn6yh
      @AakashKumar-tn6yh ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you so much. I needed to hear that.❤❤

    • @bobaygaming1978
      @bobaygaming1978 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      And if you weren’t fine before them, why would they want you? You need to have your own purpose before you can be in a healthy place for a strong relationship!

  • @arr204
    @arr204 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    There is no hope in my situation. A very long and sad story. Eventually, NC just painfully turns into never hearing from them again. Just work on yourself and keep moving forward. Meet new people and trust in love again.

  • @jdanistheman
    @jdanistheman ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I do have hope for my breakup but my hope is that I feel 100% like myself again and that I find a healthy partner who isn’t abusive. I didn’t realize I was emotionally abused until after my breakup. I wanted my ex back so bad and now I want absolutely nothing to do with her. I was once 100% comfortable on my own before I knew she existed and I’m getting back to that but the abuse is taking a while to heal from. Although I know how to be alone, I can’t shake my desire for connection. I just want to be healthy enough for my new partner.

  • @SFragger100
    @SFragger100 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    No contact IS brutal.
    Brokeup almost 5 months ago, had sporadic text contact which led to nowhere for around 3-4 months (maybe around once every month because she was at risk of spinal injury and was checking with her when she had medical appointments), but after this crisis passed and she ghosted me afterwards, I decided to pull the plug and go indefinite NC.
    Hit the gym, started sports, restarted an academic program after work which I had stopped during the pandemic, started a CBT course, found this channel and bought the workbooks and going through them, watched hundreds of videos at this point....
    ....I wish I could get her back, I love her...and to be honest after all this time I feel it slipping away. Maybe I went into NC too late.
    But I'll keep slogging on. I know I can change for the better. Thanks for everything Craig and team.

    • @sparks6477
      @sparks6477 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anything new?

    • @SFragger100
      @SFragger100 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sparks6477 blocked heh. At this point, I'm just healing myself.

  • @fuyooooo
    @fuyooooo ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The best thing that happened to me was meeting my ex girlfriend and dating for almost 1 year. The relationship was toxic and I admittedly allowed myself to stay there longer than I should've due to my insecurities. She cheated on me, stonewalled, lied and eventually ghosted. It was a blessing in disguise because I came out it valuing myself more, understanding attachment theory and prioritizing self-improvement through no contact.

  • @darrenblagburn6774
    @darrenblagburn6774 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    been in nc for almost 3 months since the breakup. haven't talked or anything, but still have hope in it and for myself. since the breakup I've gotten back into the gym, lost 15 pounds, got a new job and back into my hobbies. keep doing the work everyone no matter the outcome

    • @jjaceawe
      @jjaceawe ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Stay strong im just over 3 months. Accidentally saw her out in public and i left right after but nothing yet sadly.

    • @vasilisvks1448
      @vasilisvks1448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      update bro?

  • @jonathanbuyck2031
    @jonathanbuyck2031 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    No contact is a brutal process... I needed this video.... One month in .. been doing workbooks and healing course

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And what do you think of the Course/Workbooks so far?

    • @jonathanbuyck2031
      @jonathanbuyck2031 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@CoachCraigKenneththey are great. Some emotional moments though on questions I didn't think would be hard to answer .. like "who was kindest to you in life?" But I know it's necessary. learning a lot. Taking notes as well on your masterclass videos.

    • @cristiinas
      @cristiinas ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes it is..one month NC here too..We got this 🙂

  • @stephenpessenbacher9854
    @stephenpessenbacher9854 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've been an avid viewer of this channel. It has instilled hope in me, but as of today, my ex is a complete write-off. Move on kings, you deserve better. There are a lot of fish in the ocean. Stay motivated, not for your ex, but for yourself. Show your ex that her actions was a mistake. Show no sympathy to anybody but yourself.

  • @sharonpowell6109
    @sharonpowell6109 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I Got My Ex Back!! Thank U Coach Craig Kenneth❤❤❤

  • @Aloo371
    @Aloo371 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My ex left me 15 days ago. I followed trash advices from friends and internet and texted him, he did not respond. I felt hopeless. Then my friends and internet gurus said. Forget him. Move on. If he wanted to he would blah blah. These advices made me stuck in my loop. Now that i am listening to your videos everyday. I am doing self care, workout, painting. Because it is so refreshing to hope for something. Also im a muslim so i started praying 5 times prayers. I must say it is so soothing to imagine that in few months you will be a different and better person and they will see youu. This thought keeps me motivated. I must say im just so happy i found this channel. There is so much positivity in it. Because you guys do not forget that we are human beings. Every other guru on the internet are just trying to make you a robot saying FORGET ABOUT THEMM, THEY ARE NOT THE ONE!!. A person who is already grieving cannot feel happy to hear these words. GOD BLESS YOU❤
    Ps: i do feel anxious daily but i keep myself busy

    • @bforto.2082
      @bforto.2082 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dude the friends are the worsssst. Ive learned so far that I should not tell every friend about my feelings bc they dont knwo the connection we had with our exes. Some even called me stupid for having hopes and defending my ex... the loop thing is so real

  • @jclau77
    @jclau77 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    For me and my situation, I have zero percent hope, literally hopeless, and zero chance of them coming back.
    I love your content, Craig, but I personally believe that hope is a dangerous concept to believe in as there will always be a part of you that won't move on and keep you from moving onto the future.
    It's always best to have zero hope of your ex coming back cause at the end of the day no contact is supposed to be for you and you alone and if you keep hoping for them to come back you won't truly move on. But, I don't mean that there is no such thing as hope.
    I do hope that I am going to get through this, but I don't hope to get my ex back, especially since I got blocked not too long ago and I'd rather not get attached on a potential outcome that might never happen but that's just my personal opinion and I respect everyone's opinions in regards to this topic

    • @Zemohc
      @Zemohc ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think you're right. You drive yourself crazy having hope that things will change and/or magically happen.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Use hope to obsess on personal growth… not an ex!

    • @jclau77
      @jclau77 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@CoachCraigKenneth words truly spoken! Don't hope that your ex will come back, hope that you will become a better version of yourself at the end of the tunnel when it comes to the personal growth! Keep doing what you're doing Craig!

  • @supaloc
    @supaloc ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Been in no contact for 8 months now( we were married for 11 years). Her new boyfriend moved in right after I moved out. She hasn’t reached out yet and on top of that one of our dogs died (we have 5 Belgian Malinois) 2 weeks ago and she didn’t even tell me. One of my colleagues told me the news. I was at rock bottom again. I really lost hope because the behavior is the message. I get it. Well, back to finding my mental point of origin and let everything else go.

    • @Duckkakao
      @Duckkakao 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you now @supaloc

  • @imatexan3
    @imatexan3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have so much hope, especially when I’ve seen her check my stories, she’s in a long distance rebound and even with hoping, I know she won’t reach out and come back. 4 months in and I’ve been down and reached out every month. Time to stop and fully go NC and work, which is much easier said than done.
    We were together roughly 4 years and I’m sure she jumped into a rebound for the past 3 months, 1.5 of those months has been long distance.

  • @themanman165
    @themanman165 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have a lot of hope, my girlfriend keeps saying that she’s thinking about us getting back together but since I said some things in an argument that I shouldn’t of said six weeks ago now she said that she wants to be sure before we get back together.. she doesn’t want my anger to get worse, but I told her I’ve been working on myself I went to anger management classes I’ve been reading books and I have really been trying to better myself but she says she does miss me but right now it’s not enough😢 so I told her everything I’ve been doing and I told her now that I have to move on with my life and if she wants to she can reach out to me and stop me, I can’t keep waiting! She said she’s going to reach out to me when she comes up with her answer, last time we spoke was Sunday and I’m done reaching out I’m not reaching out no more

  • @iconoclast6555
    @iconoclast6555 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm so glad that I found this video. So many other advice out there - although well-meaning, made me lose hope of getting my ex back, and it even spiraled down to me losing hope on having another relationship with someone else, lost of hope on life itself. This video made me realize that the reason why I'm not motivated to get out of bed anymore is because while I tried my best to give up hope on getting my ex back for fear of being hurt and disappointed, it made me lose hope on myself as well.

  • @helen3389
    @helen3389 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A guy I was never even committed to, came back after two weeks. For no good reasons though. Then after four years he contacted me when I had completely forgotten about his existence even, texting me and telling me he had a dream about me. I spoke with him and told him i was happy he was doing well cuz I truly did not care about him. He was the anxious one this time when I didnt answer in time😅

  • @HenriqueMartins.English
    @HenriqueMartins.English ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s been 60 days in no contact. I’m losing hope. I’m focused on myself, therapy with psychologist, self development, gym, my new clothing online business that I started during this period. I want my ex back but I’m hopeless. 60 days without even wanting to know if I'm okay? it's like he doesn't care about me. But thanks for the video, maybe I can still develop some hope

    • @pamk380
      @pamk380 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey, how long were you together for? And what was the reason for the break up? X

  • @AllenB-mz5vl
    @AllenB-mz5vl ปีที่แล้ว +2

    5 months in, trying to hang in there

  • @rosemariescrivano3439
    @rosemariescrivano3439 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The videos and workbooks have given me confidence & hope. Great message!❤

  • @Babycreamedcat
    @Babycreamedcat ปีที่แล้ว +1

    9 months post break up and I still have hope. I’ve done a ton of work in myself both before and after this relationship. Sadly I think he left BECAUSE he felt like he was the one who wasn’t good enough for me. I’ve improved myself even more after this but I still miss him, it hurts. But I haven’t slipped back into fully destructive habits which is good for the future.

    • @alanzo428
      @alanzo428 ปีที่แล้ว

      After 9 months I felt the weirdest feeling that I had got her pregnant and she simply ran away with my kid. Lots of my exes have totally vanished after break up so I'm always wondering why.

  • @gwortman3515
    @gwortman3515 ปีที่แล้ว

    Without hope mankind will not survive nor thrive in the midst of hopelessness and despair.

  • @psalms1163
    @psalms1163 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video dynamic duo..

  • @EyeBelieveSo
    @EyeBelieveSo ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Been in nc since my ex broke up with me. Almost four months and she reached out asking to hang out and talk. I reluctantly agreed and didn’t let my emotions get in the way. Unfortunately for her the grass wasn’t greener and now she’s in an even worse place than I was when she broke up with me. Now she wants to be friends and remain in each others lives but still wants to be single. I’ll continue nc but I still love her and want her back but not like this.

    • @yungpep
      @yungpep ปีที่แล้ว

      What happened next bro

    • @EyeBelieveSo
      @EyeBelieveSo ปีที่แล้ว

      @@yungpep well things keep getting worse for her and it’s looking like she may become homeless. I still love her and care about here but I’m not her bf anymore so I can’t help her the way I wish I could. It’s just sad to see someone you love wanting to go through this, and it just doesn’t make sense to me what she’s doing.

  • @magnushauge4973
    @magnushauge4973 ปีที่แล้ว

    Here comes my little breakup story, because i dont know what to do...
    My ex gf of nearly 6 years broke up with me a little over 2 months ago because she felt like we grew apart and wanted different things, but after a little digging, she told me it was because of my jealousy towards her best guy friend who she met in school after me and her was a thing. I felt like we had a lovely relationship, we weren't the best at texting with each other, often misunderstanding messages, but we had an awesome time together when we were together irl. We had it all planned and 1 week before she broke up with me she told me about the living room furniture she wanted for our apartment.
    She always told me she didn't feel anything toward her best friend or that he wasn't her type or that he was not interested in her (even though he wrote a letter stating his feelings towards her about 2 years ago). He also always talked about her parents as his inlaws and told her i was a bad bf, so on and so on.
    We wrote a bit after the breakup and met each other one time just to talk things over where she stated that she loved me but was not in love with me and that she felt like she was losing a family member. I stupidly asked if she broke up because she had feelings for another, but she clearly stated that she did not have feelings for anybody. She then went on a trip with the guy best friend (which was planned a long time ago and we had talked about it together) and when she came back she said she was still debating with herself if it was the right choice to break up with me and that she cried a lot during that time, but 5 days later she said she was dating her best friend.
    i dont know if its a rebound to get away from the hard feelings of the breakup or if she had it planned for a long time to get together with him. He is nearly the complete opposite of me which also confuses me. I am a dark-haired guy with an athletic body, goggles, and a beard, and love doing things myself such as woodworking or other creative things like music. He is blond-haired, wants to be an entrepreneur with his own company, and mainly plays golf and paddle tennis in his free time, he has scoliosis so he also needs to train a lot or he will be worse of and might need to be operated in his back again (he has had multiple operations and still looks a little skewed. I know they enjoyed their time together back when we were a couple, but i just dont see what she sees in him at all and i know im biased.
    For some reason, i still have hope that it is a rebound and that she will come back to me, but i also know that they were good friends before they became a thing and it might mean the end for me. Even her family wrote to me that they didnt understand the breakup and that i was always welcome at their house.
    TLDR: my gf of 6 years broke up with me and a month later she was dating her guy best friend. I dont know what to do.

    • @gwortman3515
      @gwortman3515 ปีที่แล้ว

      Find a best ladyfriend for yourself...look for friendship first as the motivator instead of sex and good looks. Good luck.

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo หลายเดือนก่อน

      Did your ex ever reach out to you??

  • @lindawells9328
    @lindawells9328 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yall are only telling the truth in order to help others . Be blessed and safe. Miss . Linda ❤❤❤

  • @drake_o_kid9490
    @drake_o_kid9490 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "I do Skype"
    Me: wait people still do Skype?

  • @jessicab7179
    @jessicab7179 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey craig! thank you for the video. i cannot tell how i feel about my ex anymore, we have been split for 2 months. but would love your thoughts on someone ending a relationship and wanting it to be temporary to "sort out" their future (but doesn't know for how long). making promises to stay loyal after ending it, keeping up profile pictures of you both despite being split up etc etc. is that not an unfair thing to do to someone? actions and words not matching seems like a red flag..

  • @Zemohc
    @Zemohc ปีที่แล้ว

    I got zero hope to little hope at best with regards to relationships. Could be my attachment style. And I have no idea where to even start fixing it. Workbooks aren't helping to much either.

  • @cameronmaddox6005
    @cameronmaddox6005 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My ex is talking / dating a new guy . I have no hope 😢

  • @questionthingss
    @questionthingss 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm not sure if i should keep holding unto hope at this point... We broke up 8 months ago and went complete silent 5 months ago and haven't heard from her even once. Im blocked everywhere even my number... tbh I still love her and would take her back if she apologized and changed but.. oh well life goes on...

  • @kylelovell8711
    @kylelovell8711 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why would you stop your growth at 9 months? Always continue to grow and better yourself

    • @MusicRenos
      @MusicRenos ปีที่แล้ว +5

      he‘s saying to commit to personal growth for AT LEAST 9 months, in order to see true changes in yourself and for them to stick, like habits - he never said to stop after that :)

    • @kylelovell8711
      @kylelovell8711 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wasn’t actually asking why. Was trying to highlight the fact we should never stop working on ourselves. It was in a bad taste. My bad

  • @brianhill6842
    @brianhill6842 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Does this apply to the end of a situationship? Wasn’t my choice to be in one or have it end…so not sure if there can be hope in situationships?

  • @thenameman3261
    @thenameman3261 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please do a video about when you have child(toddler) with your ex and want her back. How does the no contact works?

  • @Mzainie
    @Mzainie ปีที่แล้ว

    He is mine ❤ it’s just a matter of time

  • @AdriWL
    @AdriWL ปีที่แล้ว

    I dont have much hoppe for my selve to be honest butt...... funny story , one of my best friends his BF brake up with her 3 years ago, 2 years later they get together back again , have a baby and are happy!!!! so yes..... :D dont lose hoppe but dont put your live on stop im 6 month in no contanct and it gets better.... ah and BTW my friend is very very very stubborn.

  • @Juanlegend1989
    @Juanlegend1989 ปีที่แล้ว

    It’s been a yeah and a half idk if I should even still have hope

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Are you in therapy? Are you doing the workbooks every day?? You’ve had a year and a half to prepare… but are you?

    • @themanman165
      @themanman165 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think u should really be moving forward my friend

    • @dukefisher1957
      @dukefisher1957 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Never give up on hope! Keep the focus on improving on yourself and moving forward with your life. When the love of my life told me that she was leaving me, I had no other option but to keep moving forward. Three years later I met the woman who became my wife and best friend and lover. We've been together for twenty six years now and still going strong. So don't give up on yourself. Keep improving and move forward.❤

  • @pinkchilldivestmentor
    @pinkchilldivestmentor ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your channel

  • @KimoGotIt
    @KimoGotIt ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Not gonna lie if I pay 200$ to talk to miss victoria, I’m spending the entire time flirting. 😅

  • @greysspace8497
    @greysspace8497 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My avoidant ex from over 2 years ago just sent me a text asking how I was. We stopped communicating and he said he never wanted anything to do with me ever again. That was actually okay with me as it was very unhealthy. I got a coaching from Margaret back in May 2020 & she was very helpful. @CoachCraigKenneth if you would like a success story that doesn’t end up with getting back with an ex, I’d be happy to email you. Love your channel and everything you do. ❤