Why Silence Always Works On Your Ex
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ย. 2024
- Why Silence Always Works On Your Ex. Silence is a very powerful move during a breakup. It teaches your ex that they can't take you for granted and that there are consequences for breaking up with you. In this video, Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Victoria discuss why silence always works on your ex and makes them fear losing you. It's imperative that your ex feels the fear of losing you if you want them to regret their decision and want you back!
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Can you please do a video on people who break up but work at the same job or go to the same college, should the dumpee be polite & say hi to the dumper. How to handle that situation.
So how about you Craig? Are you single? 😊
Where is Margaret?
I find you can ease your anxiety in no contact, but you cant do much about the sadness. Its just unavoidable
Our exes voluntarily left us. They don't want us in their life anymore. Why bother fussing about them? It's a waste of time. Dude, I met a hot co-worker that I'm trying to date. But she's very quiet and keeps to herself. I don't know how to get her. She's so fine.
Sorta....just gotta work through it and not sit in it
You have to be proactive about working on yourself otherwise the sadness and self pity can become a vicious cycle. Saying this from experience. 6 months and still not completely out of the tunnel
@@OS253your comment is shallow and unhelpful. feelings arent logical, so appealing to the "why be sad" is really irrelevant.
I'm going to therapy (CBT) for over 4 months now.
I expected some kind of magic trick (or a technique really) that will solve my problems in the blink of an eye.
You know, like when you want to lift something heavy and instead of trying to just use your arms like a caveman, you instead use a device like a crane or something?
I expected something similar to exist in the mind.
Took me 3 months to realize that just isn't how it works.
I first had to find some things that I knew would be good for me in the long run, but I wasn't in the mood for doing them.
Then I had to force myself into doing those things.
The more I do it, the more I actually start enjoying it.
As I start enjoying myself, my sadness is decreasing.
So actually there is something you can do about the sadness, but it really requires work and takes a lot of time, just as the coaches say.
For years I thought watching these videos and reading similar articles is the work, but no.
It's just part of the work.
The real work is putting yourself out there and doing activities you know you could enjoy later.
Preferably with other people.
Even if at first you don't feel like meeting them, you'll grow closer to them eventually and start enjoying their company.
SILENCE is a powerful SCREAM !!
Sure is
Perfectly stated krissy
I personally think exes only come back when life gives them lemons. No point in waiting. Date and move on with your life. Life is to precious to wait for something that may or may not happen.
Disagree, depends on the bond
I agree, majority of the time, their life is worse without you, so they want you back.
Yeah, but what defines a lemon in the eyes of your ex? Whatever doesn’t stack up to the value they left behind. Now maybe you weren’t your best self towards the end of the relationship, something dropped their attraction for you… but they won’t forget you or your potential when you’re at your best, they’ll reflect and remember a the general goodness of you compared to any person they meet.
If you think about it, when they came to you originally they’d most likely already been with and dumped a stack of people, they picked and stuck with you because attraction was there, then maybe love. They might come back, if they are a quality person who you do care about do the work and get them back - because life is too short to have a disposable attitude, if you love them and if they feel like home, get them back. Let them see the lemons, just means you’re the apple and when they come back make sure you’re the shiniest, most juicy apple on the tree.
Exactly. Usually when an ex breaks up with you ..not in all situations but most they have been talking to someone or have been seeing someone in some circumstances, they already had there option or options lined up when they finally broke it off because usually the dumper does not dump you without having someone else of interest . And your right ,, I think the only time you hear from them again is when they figure out the new supply isn’t what they thought it would be .. from experience… don’t contact them ever again after they dumped you , don’t wait for them , work on personal growth and when your ready .. date . But I suggest take plenty of time for personal growth and healing
I've been almost a month of NC now. I've not heard from her at all. The hardest part for me is wanting to reach out or ask questions, but I revert back to these videos and focus on myself to NOT reach out. For anyone reading this,each day does get slightly easier but you will still miss them.
Can I ask how you're doing now? Did you ever hear anything? Are you much more healed? I'm 3 weeks in and I feel like I'm falling apart 😢
@youtubeuser8556 hey there hope your doing OK. You can do this.
I'm 3 months on and feel a lot more healed. Eating better, going to the gym which helped. I do think of her but I'm comfortable with being without her now. I'm of the mindset if she wants to talk she knows how to find me. Good luck
Most men need to understand that they are dealing with damaged women and you cannot repair them.(Coach M❤)
Move past them and move on to someone who is more normal and open to a normal relationship, which will be a difficult proposition due to the dynamics of your previous encounter. If you find these videos, as I did, the way we ALL did; you're not involved with a normal, mentally healthy person. That is why we are here.
My call sign shd be: beentheredonethatX4
@@user-kn8nh9pw1u Glad you’re doing better man. Did she ever reach out?
@@user-kn8nh9pw1u Any update now that you're through the worst of it?
I'll be honest, I started tearing up with what this writer said in relation to Margaret.
I love silence. If nothing productive, peaceful, happy, loving to talk about then the silence is music to my ears.
Margaret was such a gem....so happy her knowledge lives on
LISTEN GUYS, i was watching these videos everyday when i broke up, and i wanted to contact her every second but i didnt.. i gave her space and contacted her after a few months, showed her that i understand where she was coming from and also worked on myselfin the meantime... she now wants me back in her life... dont give up... Give some space and when you feel the timing is right make contact.
update?
Still together, it's better than the first time. I promise you guys im telling the truth. We moved in together 5 months ago into a different apartment then where we first lived.@@luckyb0y474
@@luckyb0y474 I replied, but somehow comment is not there anymore. Anyways, like I said, we're still together and its' better than it used to be before the break up. We both grew and worked on ourselves in the meantime. Guys i watched this video everyday and if u geniuenely believe that you had a good connection (not only wish but truly believe)... there is a chance to get her back. I trusted no contact and it really works. And i helped another friend of mine to learn about no contact and he got her ex back too (sadly they later broke up again, but no contact did help him get her interest once again when they first broke up. )
Can you please give us an update?
And were still together
The truth is most of the time they never come back, regardless of how strong your no contact/silent approach is. That's reality. Just use the time to work on yourself and meet someone new.
well it worked all three times for me…
Worked for me. Depending on their personalities it could be weeks, months, but they came back. By then I decided if I want them or not.
You just weren’t the one they wanted! That’s the real reality.
9 out of my 10 came bck 🤷🏻♂️
It DOES work if they really cared about you. IT DOES
It sounds like she's his rebound-girl. He's clearly not finished with his ex, still too many feelings, still going through a process and not really ready for a new deep longterm relationship.
Silence speaks volumes, the irony.
I feel bad for this girl, she can do better. Never be with someone who is confused about you. ❤
You should be with someone who is excited to be with you.
I thank God everyday for my man ❤
Last year, 2022, I went thro hell after being dumped after 10yrs. I loved him so so much. Knocked me sideways.
I listened to you guys and immediately went no contact which was so so hard. After 7 months of being single I met a new man, who I'm still with, about to hit 8 months in 2 wks. He's adorable, infact hes everything my ex wasn't.
Xmas 2022 my ex sent me a Xmas card, sending me "all of my love", I remained no contact. I realised he was just trying to hoover me. In a year he's gone thro 4 women!
I'm so grateful and thankful that I listened to you guys every single night in the 7 months before I met my new guy, you really REALLY helped me thro the power of your knowledge and advice.
Continue what you're doing, you're life savers.
And I miss you Margaret. R.I.P.
It’s going on a year of no contact. Think my avoidant ex of 5 years is gone. Not even sure why she did what she did and don’t have much hope that she will reach out to me. Tired of being stuck in the same place, but I am slowly moving on as it is too tiring to think about her anymore. Life is too short to worry about someone who leaves you for no apparent reason. Karma will find her and teach her a life’s lesson one day. I won’t know or even care.
Feel you bro....I'm five months in and lost all hope.
Was I perfect? Fuck no....I've got a list of flaws as long as the Wall of China. But did I love her? Did I try my best to support her when even her own daughter didn't give a fuck?
Yeah. And at the risk of sounding melodramatic...since she left? The sun grew duller, the nights are longer, and the silence louder...
...I just want this shitty pain stop at this point.
@@SFragger100 nice to watch Craig’s videos. They help, but I doubt my ex will ever come back. Best to move on , date again and realize that she doesn’t care about you or how much pain you are in. She probably monkey branched to someone else. The best revenge is to live a good life without her.
@@SFragger100you got to work on that long list of flaws first and foremost! Dont you want to be a better version of yourself ? For you and for the next woman in your life
Let go if its longer than 6 months, otherwise you are just torturing yourself imo
I'm only 2 and a half minutes into this piece, but already love the observation by Victoria that many people are scared of silence. That's so true! Silence is loud if someone's used to being talked and listened to.
Seeing coach Victoria always reminds me that there’s always more beautiful women than my ex. (Not meaning this in a flirtatious way)❤😂 . Thank you guys for the best advice 🔥
Shes very pretty, and has that caring and understanding motherly energy to her. Her and Craig have been a tremendous help for me
Needed this one today. She broke up with me about 3 months ago (I don’t see you in my future). 1st month was confusing as we tried working through it and even had some dates and spent the night together a couple of times. then came the “I need space”. Been doing NC since (except for a couple of reach outs 🤦♂️). Found some stuff of hers at my place and reached out to see she wanted them back and had a meet up. Just spoke for 5-10 mins, just how’s things are going, And haven’t heard from her since. I miss her a lot, we had such a great connection. I see now what I have to work on in my life. Had a couple of dates since her but no real sparks. Now just working on myself and improving everyday. If she contacts me again, cool. If not, so be it. But I always cherish the fantastic 8 months we had together.
Same happened to me and I went through the torment but you gotta go through hell to get to heaven. I know where she stands with me and that's good enough to say good bye.
I definitely agree with coach Craig on these toxic tik tokers handing out blind advice due to their own personal outcome and spreading bad energy to all that listen. Listen to Coach Craig and Victoria. Also condolences. Miss Margaret and will never forget her wise words.
@DanlaaDdjej hi
I think this guy's with his ex and exploring whether it will work with her or not. The woman on the background is being used as a backup and she shouldn't be accepting that and looking for a way to get him back.
I understand her anxiety and it takes time to recover from this. Different people- Different time frame to recover....
For example- it took me 1 year to recover from 1 month relationship.
Same it took me almost a year to recover from 1 month of actual dating and 6 months of talking stage 😔
I was in a relationship that lasted just under 3 months (2 months of actual dating and 3 weeks of being 'on a break'). It's been 5 months since the breakup (he said he felt no sparks with me and that whatever love he felt for me kept decreasing day by day) and I am still reeling from it. I cried every day for 4 months. It's only in the last month that I started to cry a little less, but I am still crying every day. I feel stupid for still crying, especially after what he did to me, but I am still so very sad that the relationship is over. I was truly in love with that man.
Shorter term ones are harder to get over in my opinion
Love this video! She is a rebound. Love about the video that show some exes still love you or confused about the bc even though sometimes they are in a relationship with another ppl,. Is good to know that sometimes they are not as happy as we think they are or so sure about their new relationship not matter that high connection or chemistry between them.
Exactly, I was just amazed that Craig didn't point this out. Obvious rebound.
Shes not a rebound, shes being used as a rebound.
@@Cornelius1212 lol why would he do that to someone who needed help
I found this video very helpful and encouraging. It’s a good reminder that we can focus on our own needs. Love the workbooks.❤
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Everyday that goes by without him, alone and pregnant at the moment…knowing I’m trying to forgive the father of my unborn baby, understanding the pressure on his end that he was going through…I just want to shut down and forget I ever loved him. I’m numb…He’ll still be around for our son, but I’m just tired….tired of waiting and tired of loving him everyday when he’s not even here by my side (I know that f***** still loves me). I’m done fighting for anybody. They can all go fly a f**** kite.
Love yourself and your baby. The only 2 important people in this scenario. Stay strong . If a man abandons you both at a time like this he doesnt deserve one moments thought wasted on him .
There's KARMA for the father of your baby. ✨
Sounds like an extremely trying position to be in. Given the time that has passed, you will have likely had your baby. Hope all is ok.
I let go after 2 years she came back talking about regrets and not putting in effort to work things out...well she pulled away again after getting a promotion at work .now I pulled away as well .
I'm confused but just doing my self improvements again it's been hard .🤷♂️🤦♂️i guess she'll come around when she is ready...not sure its an excuse or what ..ill just keep working and doing my life
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Relationships are all about pulling away and gaining power huh. Damm shame.
Aye. Promotions...tend to do that.
My ex graduated, changed jobs, was fired and became a nervous wreck on antidepressants. Her next job wasn't better and helped her to cover her rent. That was on top of an injury that wouldn't heal that turned out to be a bone disease after five years of we visiting every specialist/chiro/physio we could think of), a stage 1 cancer, and other shit. Even her daughter walked out on her. She finally got a new job, a major promotion with a massive salary bump, and bought her house (that she fell for a scam that wiped out her bank account snd me and ger daughter shelled out the deposit is another story - and when her daughter left she sent ger via lawyer to give the money back within months, so I shelled out to help as she was barely afloat with all the debts).
She moved there, i was supposed to join her but got caught up in a project. Finished it this year, took her out to dinner to celebrate, was talking about moving in as planned...
...and she suddenly said her feelings her changed, she was moving up and that I was a negative to her life, and a deadweight. Right there in the restaurant. And she left.
...it's sad how people forget what you did for them when fortune smiles on them..ey?
Omg, that's fckin horrible. I'm sorry man
I did no contact well. Then we met up. No contact got her curious. We met up to swap things and we had an awesome interaction full of hugs and laughs. It was good to just see the girl I fell in love with again. But seeing her messed me up and I’m at square one again. I knew it would happen, but it hit me hard
I am so sorry to hear about your friend Margaret. I learned a lot from her on TH-cam.
what is that mean?
@@aribasyed6709 from my understanding she died. I hope I'm wrong!
@@kidavis7024 yeah sadly, I saw a video on Coach Craig's website about her departure. I learned a lot from her.
How long is long enough? 6 months? A year? 2 years? Till the sun burns out?
omg. its so sad to hear that margaret has passed. she was fun and full of wisdom..
Looking Deeply into everything everyone on here has a heart of gold. They have learnt acceptance and like me want to better themselves. Iv messed up im in the dog house. But iv learnt the hard way that chasing doesnt cut it. Im currently day 6 of no contact.
Stay strong everyone out there and i hope everything works out for you 🥰
In the silence heal get closer to God 🙏🙏 it's very sad situation once you heal you don't want that bad energy in your life to suck your energy away live your best life and good will follow you tell us how to get them out of your head stop thinking about them
If my current partner admitted to mixed feelings even when stating the issues in the relationship with ex, I think I’d move on.
I don’t think he’s ready to be with any new person.
Also, I love the way you two interact after reading a small part of the email and that give your feedback in response, vs reading the entire email and giving feedback at the end.
I was with my ex for 7 months. She kept accusing me of cheating. (Ive never cheated on anyone and never will). We lived together in a nice trailer moving state-to-state and then one day she said she had to go home to her family. She packed all her stuff and left and then called me and told me she couldnt trust me and wanted to end things. I would do everything to tell her i wasnt cheating but she wouldnt believe me. 2 weeks later shes with someone else in a relationship. Less than one month after that, shes single again. I dont know if i want her back or not but i just wish she couldve trusted me. Ive been cheated on before and i would never want to put someone through that type of pain. Sigh.
Sounds like a fearful avoidant attachment style. I had the same expeirence in my 3 year relationship and it was exhausting. Did she ever reach out?
my anger caused my break up with my girlfriend, I didn’t physically hit her but I said some things in an argument that I shouldn’t of said! We broke up six weeks ago and we kind of talk I know I shouldn’t do it and she’s like I’m still thinking about it, I miss you but I’m worried that when we get married your anger is going to get worse! I spoke to her yesterday, I asked her do you miss me and she said yes I miss you but I don’t know if I see a future with you because of your anger! Now I already told her that I’m working to become a better person I took an anger management classes and bettering myself and doing all of that and she’s saying I’m still considering it I’m still processing my feelings, so now I have to go into no contact and leave her be but it still sucks
If you expect them to trust you, it's only fair that you come to them as a finished product not a working product.
It sucks cuz it feels one sided. But that's what it's gonna take.
Is it anger or she is attacking your masculinity saying it’s anger. It seems like what lots of feminist women in the west do nowadays. They attack men’s boundaries calling it controlling and misogynistic.
Such a huge and immediate red flag when somebody is still attached to their ex or the family of their ex. I don't get involved with anybody like that, and nobody else should either. Obviously, they have issues with moving on, and it's selfish for them to expect their new relationship to endure them keeping their ex or their family in their life. Obviously, they haven't moved on or would not still be associating with these people. Let them have them and move on. Let them live in the past while you move on and find somebody who actually wants to be with you and doesn't drag that garbage into their new relationship.
Dude's obviously triangulating and trying to see what he can get away with while having a back-up.
New girlfriend's empathy is a self-respect and self-love hit.
Leave him alone and move on with someone who knows what he wants without baggage and can clearly explain what a relationship means to him so you (new gf) can determine if it really aligns with YOURS, has red flags worth addressing, or deal breakers.
Never get manipulated into triangulation tactics. You deserve better!
Exes in present is a no-fly zone, can make you feel like competing, are desperate, or push you to find your value and stick to your healthy boundaries because your standards require that of you.
Don't put your life on hold.
Keep taking care of yourself first!
My ex left me about 8 months ago, and there’s been absolutely no contact on both ends, only extremely tiny breadcrumbs on her end earlier in no contact, we ran into eachother a couple weeks ago and all she could do was tell me everything she’s been up to, she seemed absolutely still emotionally invested and I feel like no contact has been working, that being said; I made the mistake of texting her a day later saying I’m here if she needs to talk, she responded that same day but at night with a very basic glad everyone’s doing well in the family, and now I regret breaking no contact. Idk if I screwed things up or she has moved on and will never reach out now.
any update?
I've been listening to your coaching for 2 weeks on a daily basis, from old ones to new ones back and forth. I just found out from this clip today that Margaret is no longer with us and I am terribly sad.
Silence put a person under conviction like Jesus did when writing on the ground
Sounds like a rebound relationship. Like we’re talking here 4 months after a long 2 year relationship.. there’s still feelings lingers there the memories, attachment that they had together is incomparable to the person you just met. So yes all you have to is do no contact and dont bother him. Let him figure out things while you’re away. Goodluck! 🙏🏻
My ex is a jerk!!! He doesn't know what the heck is no-contact!!! If I can push him away by positive or negative attention, then I'm doing it!!! Just stay away from the voice of a guy like that. He called me up a month ago to sing romantic songs BECAUSE he's a jerk!!! He didn't even say if he was single again or not!!! These are womanizing jerks!!! They are clueless and take women for granted!!! They just want to live rent free in your head!!!
@DanlaaDdjej What's wrong with you? Why would I want to buy into your scam? I share a story of my life and you think I'm despret??? I got married after knowing my ex. Then, a divorce. There's no way you're going to put me back with any jerk!
Do you really want to wait for an ex who will return after many months of your breakup ? The e most probably already has passed to new relationships , maybe more than one , already attached with others , been used by others, then after getting slammed by others, come to you saying that yeah i actually loved you , i wanna be with you ?.
Really? Is that the thing you want ?
Somone who came back within 3 months , and didn't go in with another person, only they can be accepted
I completely agree with you. I was broken up with my ex for about 7 months and he told me had gone oh 2 lunch dates and I found out he had slept with someone. In that time, he would communicate with me very lazily when he felt like it through messages only wanting to try again. Never asked me to meet, besides at midnight or late when he was drunk, which is less respect than he was giving these new dates. It’s turned me off big time. I blocked him, and that’s the last time I will deal with him. There’s no going back after that, specifically because he was seeing if the grass was greener while keeping me there in case he decided he wanted me.
@@astrid8433 he was just using you as a backup plan, as if nothing else works , then I'll return to her then. Make him realize he was wrong. You deserve far better than being a backup for someone
After 4 break ups (2 of them being serious) I lost all hope. He also said he still has hope cause he believes in fairytales but I should move on. Whatever, I'm tired.
Wtf does that even mean
@@themanman165 which part?
@@ioanacmr he still has hope because he believes in fairytales
@@themanman165it means that he wants to leave the door open in case his life doesn't turn out as good as he was hoping for.
And if he knows that she's still waiting it will give him security
That's the real meaning of that
@@BBD1 I think he doesn't want to feel pressured knowing I'm waiting or something, that it's not fair to me to wait and I should just move on. I set up a boundary telling him if he wants to work on things he can text me but otherwise I'll respect his decision and leave him alone, so in a way he knows I still wanna give it a shot, if he is willing to put in effort as much. After that he blocked me but not everywhere.
Interesting
I’m “an ex” and according to him I was he live of his life, when he broke up with me he said “I will always love you” - he broke up with me while triggered, jealous and mad, it’s been almost 5 months. He went on a trip (we had planned) with a female friend of his, I know .. have a feeling, he won’t be able to make work with anyone else … not saying it out of arrogance, I just know he’s never been loved by any woman the way that I showed him my love- so good luck to any woman that dates him after me 🤷🏻♀️ ( my advise, don’t get emotionally invested) this guy will most likely try to rekindle things with his ex of 2 yrs. even the drama bonded them.
will you go with him if he ask you or at least send boarding ticket to your email?
My ex and I,we planned a trip what is in 5 days,she left me,but I don't know what to do. I don't expect that she will go, but I will feel me sorry if I don't send her that ticket. On another hand, I do no contact now 1 month...I just want to see from your side what you will do or expect from his side.
@vv.8927 let me know before end this 5 days 😂
@@espora_ sorry I just saw this- he emailed me my ticket to use, he still went with his “friend”
Now (almost 7 months later( I think he’s stalking me lol
I'm quite perplexed. This letter is a specific case of a rebound relationship that you usually describe. Why not tell her to turn the page for good, since, as you often say, rebound relationships most of the time have no future?
I appreciate the advice that you give, but you're not keeping it real with this girl... She, unfortunately, was a rebound. He got with her after only 4 months of being out of a 2-year relationship, and he continued to talk to the ex throughout the new relationship instead of cutting her off completely. Now he has dropped the rebound to get back with the ex. Unfortunately for him, the same problems that caused him to dump the ex in the first place are still there, so they will break up again, only this time the ex will dump him first, and at that point he will come crawling back to the rebound. The second time around with the rebound will not work out either, because she will hold resentment over the fact that he left for his ex, and also because she now feels that she's being used. This guy is bouncing back and forth between these two women, and eventually they will BOTH drop him
You know how a faithful dog that's been abandoned.. waits till it dies from heartbreak....
24 years of marriage... I was abandoned as my wife stole my van and left me....out of state.
My life is over.. that's how my heart is and I can't change my heart. She was the one.
Bye.
Hi. .how are you?
@pmdal My heart's restored. God answered and restored our relationship...miracles do happen.
Encouragement to everyone...every relationship is different and unique.
Reflection is good.
Craig is very good at making you feel better but I'm confused why no statistics around no contact are talked about, therapists know the numbers. What I saw in various places when I researched it was that roughly 65% of time you will never hear from them again, about 17% will hear back and get back together and are happy, about 17% get back together and break up for good after that. I don't like it but what all that means is that my chance of success is 17%. If anyone has real, documented statistics I'd love to see them.
It seems a made up statistic. For example, in those numbers there's no room for all of those who indeed hear from them again but don't get back
Any other method commonly believed in is 0% success. Take 17 or leave, your call 🖒
me and my ex are in no contact for 7 months.... i am trying my best but it still hurts sometimes... there are some moments when i want to break no contact but then i think i cant do that
Don't. Was broken up with almost 5 months ago.
Would talk to her maybe once a month because she was at risk of a major surgery but overall I think that hurt things more.
Better to keep the distance and work on yourself.
Yes do no contact guys.
BUT I MISS HIM. (He pull a way and ghosted me).
5months breakups
I belive the power of time can heal. Maybe one days he'll gonna miss me and back to me.
@@lauuu2109 stay strong. If it helps, make a list of what the ex said and did during the relationship and after. It does, puts things in perspective
@@SFragger100thank you.
I will do it.
Did you belive ex will come back?
@@lauuu2109 been almost 5 months for me, which is why I've made the list...
You guys make a great team….cant stop watching! Thanks! 😊👍
I want to move on but it's hard cuz I keep hanging on to the little bit of hope I have of rekindling our relationship. It has been 3 months since our breakup. I stuck with no contact since the beginning and he reached out couple of times. But recently he just stopped completely out of nowhere. Idk why but it has been 1 month since he completely stopped reaching out. I still stuck by the no contact rule. He said he will always help me and be there for me even after the break up if I ever needed it and occasionally checked up on me. But now nothing for a month. I wondered what happened and was what he said just empty promises and just a lie. Bcuz initially post breakup he did help me out once or twice but suddenly everything stopped. Nothing happened to trigger this so idk why. It's hard to continue no contact but I know I have to be strong and carry on. Been trying to work on myself more. Really could use encouragement 😢
I can relate as I’ve experienced the same thing it’s been 7 months since my BU and 3 months of full NC. I still have time if wondering what if/hoping we’ll reconnect but the best thing you can do is pull your energy in to yourself and create a better version of yourself. Whether they come back or not you will be better
@@jgentile34 so true!! Hang in there, we'll get through it eventually. It's really hard but I'm glad to have the support of family and friends. I hope that there will be better days ahead :)
I was doing great then today I wasnt. I was in a relationship with my ex off and on but mostly on for 8 yrs. He proposed April 2019 and after covid things went to hell! August 2019 we were on vacation at a destination wedding and the woman he was paired with in the wedding, apparently had something going on because he married her 2021. I was devastated. He was a cheater and I should have left the first time. In therapy since 2022 and its getting better but i find myself so sad so many things changed after this. I lost so many relationships. I never reached out to him but he has on my birthday twice. I never responded to him. His mother even reached out after his marriage I ignore her messy self as well. Im an older woman so this betrayal bothered me even more as I should have known better. I cant stand him still.
SO helpful right now. Thank you.
(Long time fan since a painful breakup 4 years ago and I need your help again. I didn’t know about Coach Margaret 😢)
Silence allows feelings to fade away....they skip this fact
And?
Yeah so keep begging and pleading. That’ll work!
What are you supposed to do? Keep begging and pleading?
My ex is married and i got divorced from my husband.This is most painful but it is what is written by God and no one can change it so accept it.
It's been six weeks and I haven't heard anything. She told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship and needed time and space to focus on herself, her career and discover who she is, which I respected. But I think she's met somebody else now so I realising that sucks. I didn't do no contact to get her back, I did it to respect her wishes and so I could heal. But finding that out has set me back a bit.
same bro...6 weeks and I think too she have someone....sucks bro
Our 12 year anniversary is October 29th. My husband just told me that he stopped loving me a year ago and he wants a divorce. I am devastated. I don't know what to do. I feel like I am dying. I just came across your channel. Please someone help me
I know it must feel so horrible and I'm so sorry. Please know there are lots of ways to repair a relationship before it has totally fallen apart. Sometimes, when people fall out of love they don't feel heard or like there's no spark of fun. Look into information by John Gottman about this. I'll pray for you ❤
I had to show strength and no contact came naturally r/t self respect. He called after a month and asked to talk. He picked me up and we sat outside. He complained that his Mom was asking about me all the time. (Parents usually do like me). The conversation was bland and unemotional. He dropped me off. Very depressing.
I went off social media so I wouldn’t see what my wife is going I am married but separated since April she said she was really sorry but she really just wants to be left be we have been In no contact since June the 5th our 3 year marriage anniversary is August 3rd I miss her it’s hard not reaching out to her but I am trying to be strong and have faith that we will work it out thanks for the videos
I’m struggling so much today at Xmas not to contact her. I feel so sad
Wait a minute. Margaret died? I had no idea.
Of course mine will be the ex who is 1 out of 1000 and will marry her rebound after starting to date him the SAME WEEK we broke up. She already thinks they are going to marry and have kids
Been one month of nc after begging for 2 weeks 7 years relationships down the drain smh so hard staying nc I heard she’s been posting a lot of motivational post on fb lately smh seem happy without me
Believe me if they're posting motivational quotes, that means they're hurting.
@@SFragger100 do you think she will reach out eventually?
@@Devdesmond1313 possibly :) don't break her mood by teaching out yourself. That was my mistake. Let her simmer. Good luck :)
@@SFragger100 thank you very much 👏🏾
@@Devdesmond1313yes...you have good chances IF YOU DONT BREAK NO CONTACT
Great video bro
Worked for me, we’re supposed to meet next week for drinks. Fingers crossed it happens but no contact is the way to go. It was incredibly hard as well ngl. I really worked on myself the whole time though and she saw that through Instagram. I did a ton of work on myself
How did it go? How long were you no contact? Was she in a rebound/monkeybranch?
She was trying to be friends and I blocked her…
My BF of 2 years is taking space, said he's under stress and needs to process. He continued to talk now and then to his ex GF (who he called a friend) during our relationship. Going into week 2 and I'm 'homesick' but started dating a new man. He may lose me, he may return. I take it one day at a time 😢 but I have options.
Two weeks and already dating after a 2 year relationship? You need to do some work, girlie. That’s incredibly unhealthy.
@@ginger96963 What you don't know is how many times he's broken up with me and run to his ex. How much abuse am I required to submit to?
Great vlog as always. Could you please do some vlogs on partners that have affairs.
My partner said he might want me to move out due to an issue we've been having. Should I just go ahead and leave? Instead of waiting in a limbo.
Good video, subject, and analysis.
You’re awesome Craig ! 👏
What are your thoughts about the scenario where the ex actually reached out to the boyfriend and caused issues with the rebound relationship? It seems like that ex didn’t follow no contact and it actually played to their advantage
Good question. Curious about this as well.
Yhhh you got that right coach tiktok preachers are terrible with their terrible psychology degree
lol they don’t have degrees…
Great video bro & sis..
I was in no contact for 25 days there was no response from her.. Finally i decided to unfollowed her. the moment i unfollowed her she blocked me on Instagram.
You broke no contact man....big error
What happenned with Margaret? She no longer works for the channel? I hope she did not pass away
She did..
@@juicerversion1236 oh no, so sad to hear that, she was the best. I'll miss her. RIP
@@juicerversion1236oh nooooo 😢
It worked for me, kinda. After almost four months of no contact, my ex reached out to me wanting to talk. We ended up meeting and talking for hours. She t told me she is in a bad place I’m her life after losing her friends and job. The people she thought she could trust in her life turned out to be a negative influence on her. She wants to remain single so that she can figure things out on her own and doesn’t want to rely on her partner. She also told me that I’m the only person left in her life that knows her and makes her comfortable so now I’m taken back at what I should do. I love her and respect her choice but it looks like ill have to wait longer which is ok with me but I’m not sure it’s healthy?
What are you asking? She wants to friend zone you? To go slow? To have you as a backup plan? To have your emotional help while no one is helping you? Put yourself first dude you look weak by the way you are talking and specially women don't find that attractive
Good luck
@@BBD1 I’m continuing nc. If she needs genuine help like she’s in trouble or something then yes I’ll help. If she needs a ride or advice or something like that then I’m not going to bend over backwards. I love her very much but I have come a long way in my growth and respect myself enough to know where the proper boundaries are. I can’t help how I feel but maybe I need more time.
she wants an emotional safety net. ask yourself, was she there for you when you were going through a hard time in the breakup?
@@EyeBelieveSo take has many time as you want, do not get baited in her selfishness
You might help her if she's in real, real danger but maybe you trying to help and change her was a fact that made her dump you
You cannot save people who don't want to be saved, you cannot be willing to help her more than she's, it sucks I know and you might feel that you failed
Put yourself first
Hope you heal well, good luck
Coach, what if my ex and I are both doing the NO Contact thing, who should reach out first?
Craig I got a question. So if I see a girl I like is it ok for me to ask for her name and ask for her number to get to know her sometime ?
Anybody else rooting for the ex in this video?
Even for the avoidant?
does silence and no contact still work when he broke up with me because of what i did wrong repeatedly for years and he is just drained from me now?
Dynamic duo
I'm anxious and I want to change in secure, where I can buy your workbook?
He started dating very soon
Does silence work if you're blocked?
Thank you.🙏🏽
He said he was content with how his life and I should go out and find someone to spend my life with and I am like then I can’t continue this. And he asked me what I what to do and I just said I need space (cause I didn’t want to be sad) and he said can I call you and I said no I will call you when I am ready. I blocked him. He started to breadcrumb me a few months ago after being consistent and there for me. So confusing and my anxiety went crazy.
Karen first of all, you are insane beautiful! How have you been ? Update ?
Can no contact work a second time?
What happened to Margaret? 🙁
does it work also on situationships ?
I respectfully disagree that discussion 9:30 in the video how the bf was showing the new gf texts that was going on- in TWO separate cases that I experienced, it did not have any validation to solidify the new relationship based on showing texts to and from the ex- I was given full access to what was going on between the bf and the ex but little did I know the guy was trying triangulation and keeping a foot in the door with his ex hey, I'm in a new relationship and I'm setting boundaries -getting the ex jealous, and saying to the new gf hey I'm still in touch with my ex but I set boundaries now compete! Lol and in two separate cases it worked and I did get dumped for the EX! They reconsiled and I was tossed away. I respectfully disagree on this one guys and unfortunately I am living proof. If there's another woman involved and they are NOT indifferent, leave. They HAVE to be indifference towards eachother. That's the only way I can see it actually working out. Yes I do believe some people can be mutual with an ex, it is rare, but can happen BUT they are indifferent when it is successful.
Where’s Margaret?
This explains it th-cam.com/video/1QKQg-eZ58Q/w-d-xo.html
My partner said he doesn't know if he's breaking up with me or not. What should I do? I'm left hanging.
did you go no contact?
coach victoria is in love with me
Omg did Margaret pass away? 😢
Sadly, yes.
@@GordonPavilion😭😭😭😭
Shes kinda hot Craig ;) A keeper!
Great video bro
Dynamic duo
Great video bro