Being too nice to someone can make them “bad”
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ค. 2024
- Some of the theories and content in the article are derived from Bert Hellinger's "Love's Hidden Symmetry"
0:00 The Paradox of Innocence in Relationships
0:32 Why a sense of innocence can often cause pain in your relationships
2:39 How to break out cycle of innocence
3:51 Embracing Self-Worth in Love
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This is why it’s important to be a “kind” person and not a “nice”person. Nice people are doormats and are nice for the wrong reasons. A person who is truly kind has boundaries and self-worth and others can feel that!
Absolutely, you make a great point! Being "kind" rather than just "nice" is essential. Nice people can sometimes be taken advantage of because they don't have clear boundaries. A truly kind person, however, has self-worth and sets boundaries, which others respect and appreciate.
Nope. Kind people are nice. If someone takes advantage of you because you are too nice then they are bad people you didn't make them bad
You are right
I wouldn't say being too nice can make a truly kind person be bad to you. Even if they saw the potential for taking advantage of your excessive niceness, they wouldn't do it because of their moral code. However, being too nice to any sort of person can possibly put you in a bad situation. It's not that you MAKE them bad, it's just that you make it easier or more tempting for them to use you. Also, you have to communicate your needs as well in a relationship, and not expect your partner to be a mind reader.
You're absolutely right !
@indyd9322 Thanks for saying that. They keep "teaching" nice people to stop being nice to everyone not to be taken advantage of but I hardly see teaching people not to take advantage of kindness and why not to and it bothers me a lot.
Their reasoning is that people don't change, they don't get it but to me that's just not holding people responsable for their actions. People aren't stupid. Your comment made me feel lighter.
Did this man literally read my diaries from childhood till now?? How does he know my life perfectly😯
Only interacting over texts is a way to lose any relationship. Your partner cannot read you properly and things get lost in translation. Its not easy the only thing you can really do is just be nice and hope you're partner understands that
AGREE!! Text communication is greater than voice communication, which is greater than video communication, but nothing beats face-to-face interaction.
"You need to be selfish for another person to the selfless. If you're always selfless you're making the person out to be selfish."
this takes the blame off the bad person and puts it solely on the person being good, sometimes a bad person can make you too good or a people pleaser.
I appreciate your perspective. It's crucial to acknowledge that the dynamic between two people can be complex. While being "too nice" can sometimes lead to negative outcomes, it's also true that a bad person can exploit or manipulate this kindness, turning someone into a people pleaser.
Pleasers attract controllers
Thank you! This is so brilliant!
this is priceless!
thank you 🙏
Yes, it seems like shadow matter as well. So we need to focus on not to split the feelings all bad all good to have emotional balance.
The people pleasers in the comments are fighting tooth and nail to defend their people pleasing😅 instead of seeing the point
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Omg this is tooo much misleading to be an a nice person can force someone to be the bad person this is a very creative joke! Are u serious not all theory applied in human behaviours in psychology what kind of nonsense it is ! If you deal with people in integrity and value them it's clear indication that this is the treat you want to yourself! A person who can not bare to be low educated emotionally and less consideration over and over will admit to be the bad person to cut the road and the effort for himself to start from the basics ..we all know people who is not mature emotionally no one will last with them even if you start yalling and say what is your right! They will still use it against you when they feel in danger or angery of you ! Or you pissed them off ..those people don't want to make the work for themselves and from wisdom to see the end of road before it's start and not wish someone will change by time or for you ! You are overthinking of yourself when you think like that we all know the bad and the right and yes we are Human we can flip side here to there but to cut the road and not elevate or self and mind intellectually or emotionally and say this their problem they didn't ask for what they want they where super nice and they want to be perfect okay I will do the job and be the bad person for them ! Can you imagine how cruel and not mature that can be the person who is kind and polite and considerate he is the one whom will bring to himself the problems in this life and can't find way of his happiness because of an idiot people constantly doing wrong and don't want to do the job for themselves and be considerate.. it's basic in all over the world in all religions and cultures whom is doing the right thing and say the right thing and act in kind way and understandable way they will be rewarded with peaceful mind soul and even life afterwards..no one is perfect so people whom they are acting bad should understand that not the way back ! Me myself if i saw an understandable person a kind person a nice person I will respect his way in living and I will respect his decision in whatever he wants even if I saw that he shouldn't be upset on such situation but if that how he look like I will respect his desire to exclude me from his life ..the world now is exploding with narcissistic people psychopaths and etc.. it's going down day by day wars killing manipulation we need to stand and embrace goodness in people and protect and stand with people in need ..if we feed people minds with this and am not talking about the nice people the bad people this is like a green light to be worse if they saw a sense of honesty or kindness cause this their fault
I Assume The Word And Thing That contain "Too" is not Good In This World In my opinion ! Now Don't Be Too ____
I remember watching another video somewhere about polarity. How sometimes we are TOO something, so we attract people into our lives who are TOO of the opposite of whatever you’re TOO much of. This can be a lesson to you, or maybe to both.
So yes, we need that balance.
@@Quebonitoeslobonito123 now you are being too sure more Precisely Judgemental and judgement means Estimation , no estimation can be 100% Right, But you are Too ____
@@TheExistenceClass0 Can you explain how I’m being judgmental? When I used the word “you” I meant in the example, not actually you specifically. Or maybe you meant something else, and it went over my head lol
@@Quebonitoeslobonito123 Yes It Did hh ! No I will Not Expain It cuz it will go over Ur head Again 🤦🏽♂️ I am Simply Saying my friend that All You've Said In ur Comment Is You Not We its Your Judgement About a Thing Not Pure Truth ! Ok ? 🤜🤛
@@Quebonitoeslobonito123 thy Shalt not Judge Man ! Even if ur Judgement Is True It will be True not more than 70% for Every Judgement Is A Estimation Of Truth not pure Truth ! Now Ok ? 👊
oof this is me.
This is a bit over the top here😮
We give in because it's easier or just not that important.
When it matters ,or goes too far, we speak up 😮
Ugh please stop this coercive mind control, thanks
The video highlights one perspective, showing how being too nice can sometimes lead to negative outcomes. It's not a universal truth but rather one scenario that can happen.🤝
Some of the theories and content in the video are based on Bert Hellinger's work in "Love's Hidden Symmetry," which explores these complex dynamics in relationships.
In good partnerships balance of give and take is important. But a good partner can communicate to other partner that they are too giving. Too giving partner can adjust.
In narcissistic relationship one party will give until they break, other party will take until they are bored. Than taker will call the giver a bad partner, because takers have low self esteem and are not able to deal with responsibility and shame.