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stop calling me out ffs XD i wish there would be more knowledge like this out there available for everyone, in more depth

I watch this video everyday😢😢 This is what i have to cultivate self love😢😢

I love your content and it is really helping me. Thanks for making them. I just have a question, you mentioned that opposite-gender parents shape our ideal and real partner criteria and you put and example of a boy and his mother. Does it happen the same if, for example, it's the father the frail one? Or does this just happen with opposite-gender parents? Thanks for your time.

Wow. Its like this video is 110% for me. Everything about my childhood, my mother and a recent bout of limerence is all right here.

Content good as always

very true, morals should always be number 1 priority for everyone. If someone goes against what you believe in ethically you should scrutinise and/or leave them so that they change. Nice video btw <333

Bro gave non sugar-coated love advises for real 💀🚬

Is this your voice or an ai voice? It kinda sounds robotic, the content is great, but the voice is kind of generic

ok, now this video will make me watch all your other ones. lot to be learned here. currently im struggling with shedding the defense mechanisms from vulnerablities that seemingly doesnt serve me anymore, its kinda fucked that you need help to unravel your blind spots, when they are literally about not asking for help, for never receiving anything adequate. might even get into psychology, on an academic level this time. also, does the name Gábor Máté rings a bell? got huge amounts of insight from him

bro comes to rescue

I doubt there are any people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, who can't think of a fair number of situations in which they procrastinated. The Barnum Effect. That's how horoscopes and spirit-callers work. OMG!!! A RELATIVE ACTUALLY DIED IN THE LAST 10 YEARS!!! THIS IS EXACTLY ABOUT ME!! Yes, almost everyone has had a relative die in the last 10 years. 90% of people fit this abstract description.

POV: you can think critically so there's no such thing as a Problem... just a temporary inconvenience.... common sense, and critical thinking are a superpower nowadays... Always the smartest kid in every class... realized how much of a fucking waste the education system was. graduated a full semester early just to not deal with that nonsense anymore. Good luck to this generation.

I encountered that kind of problems with friends, but in women, sadly.

My mother couldn't do nothing, a nor b, hence she is still working and my father is lying in bed all day

How can I do 'B'. What I know, If there is a conflict, we need to talk. We can't sit with the problem and let our emotions fade away. I know these things. What can I show him more

They aren’t frightening at all, click bait

I am that man. I want to come out and learn to solve problems. But I have no clue how to start or work

I just love the fact that you're attacking exactly one person with this "help" video, not leaving any room for other possibilities or viewpoints You're just tossing your nightmare into the middle of the room like a big black spider

I had a girl treat me like this She sucked

I can showcase this as my biography😐

being objective, noticing my difficult feelings, and not suppressing them have helped me feel like I've achieved emotional independance. Studied from Stoicism and the art of Happiness most recently but I've been working on it my whole life. I used to feel like true love was worth me suffering for. I need to work on me for a while first to be able to stay true to what I want and not feeling swept away but I feel like I'm who I need to be right now. Hope people dealing with relationship issues can find peace.

Instead of making the presentation static add more animation and motion into it add relevant videos and dont talk in a monotonous voice thats why u r underrated

Utter nonsense. I was the giver and lover in my relationship only to be served with divorce notice. Never gonna be the giver again.

I’m grateful to have stumbled upon this video. That was an excellent analysis and felt it actually applied more to my professional career than my relationships. At 45, I’m still trying to figure out myself and in turn the world.

This is an absolute must-watch and rewatch for anyone who grew up in a toxic family and wants to break the cycle! Really helpful and comfortably structured video. Thank you very much! I needed this.

This is a huge fallacy!!!! It is a half truth! Only counting for one group of pleasers / givers! I like to give for the giving! Seeing other people happy! Why? I don't know? I best guess is that I want to treat people how I want to be treated! What you describe is a trait of some people, but not at all all of them! The opposite is much worse! The assumptions! That that kindness is to manipulate or demand something in return, except for showing gratefulness in a simple thank you or smile! Because anti-social and selfish people perceive your kindness as manipulative, or makes themselves feel they have to reciprocate, but with more is a misguided feeling from their side! What this kind of stupidity only does is making good people feel bitter and frustrated and it ends up in very much most people only really doing nice things to manipulate! The self-fulfilling prophecy! That is how it is to date! I get hated for BEING kind! Being accused of DOING kind, but probably not am! The only thing I would be guilty of is want people to be happy and show me they are! Is that selfish? Not at all! If you want to see it that way, than, besides being a very narrow thinker, you should at least appreciate the win-win of that "selfishness"! Also because of this mindset you describe, people feel entitled to anti-social, selfish behavior and call that good! And that is the state most people are in! Only caring about yourself is the only right way and others accept it, because they are allowed to be selfish themselves then! Your way of reasoning hurts all the good people!!! You punishing good behavior with that reasoning and it is playing out its evil work every day! I am disgusted by it and bad people turn it up-side down and are precise the people you say the good people apparently seem to be in your description! A F-ing awful way of looking into the world! Everybody who thinks like this has an lousy moral compass and should be re-educated immediately! Worst psychological inside ever this video! (I had a psych who had accused me of exactly the same way of evil thinking when I said I like to being kind to people! She diagnosed me as a cluster B personality type and thought everything I said in that session was manipulation! Disgusting way of thinking! She was evil herself and thus she just could not imagine how true good people think and behave! And you are just one of those! Evil and unable to see and distinguish true good from faked good! Again, Disgusting and only contributing and advocating for being even less of a good person, this video!

I give out of joy, and because I have a higher capacity to do so but not by making myself miserable. Since I give and keep my heart, intentions super clear from day 1- I know it’s truly Gods work if I wasn’t valued or things break apart. I just walk away. That’s why I don’t feel heaviness from past relationships only a sense of peace and liberation from them. God protects my heart & strengthens it

I’m kind of hook in the personality type serie. Hope you can carry on with other personality types as well like INTJ. Thanks for your work.

I think the runner typically controls the relationship

The more I learn about life the more I realize there’s no easy way out. It’s all about genuine character development.

Clear and quickly. It hurts a lot but is needed.

This may be accurate for normal breakups but my last relationship was plagued by her redflag behaviors, and when I finally ended the relationship I felt relieved, not sad that it's over or grieved the "good times" as they were really scarce anyway. The biggest issue I faced after breaking up was that I sincerely tried to find my own mistakes and couldn't come up with any big ones. I have found some areas for improvement yet could not find a red flag I did have. This made me question why did I even love her in the first place? Am I that bad at reading people? Is this the type of women I attract? Did I really deserve such a bad relationship, is this my worth? But after almost 2 months and a hell of a lot reflection I'm starting to make peace with myself and accepting that I too made a big mistake: Starting that relationship in the first place, even before we dated she did show small signs of instability and selfish behavior and I just ignored them thinking they were not out of the "normal" range. Do you have any videos on stuff like this?

Well summoned. Growing through pain this is what I've found myself. Better to grow through pain, to see clearly and come to terms with reality rather than numb out the pain. Meditation can be used as a method to still the mind from the hustle and bustle of mental and emotional activity. When fine tuned correctly we learn to notice the mental impulses that cause emotion. It's not enough to block mental activity and emotions, but important to become aware of what is causing them. Faulty programming and assumptions will cause emotions to trigger again and again until we see clearly the pattern. Stilling the mind is a crucial step to hindering faulty impulses, but rational understanding hinders them from forming. We help others not by sacrificing ourselves and suffering, but by inspiring through example. It's better to understand what we appreciate about ourselves and share that with others, vs fighting for others love and approval.

The audio at the end doesn't align with the time of the subtitles.

This speaks to me ...

These kids were not taught empathy so as adults they lack empathy for themselves and for others. They had modelling of parents who offloaded their responsibility for their emotions off onto their children. The first step is awareness as you say but with a goal to take responsibility for one’s own feelings and being empathetic towards themselves and replaying that same empathy outside to the people in their lives. Simple but very painful.

love yr vides

Self awareness is such an ambiguous term for me. How can I assess what I feel when I’m always my own worst critic?

Love from india ❤️

Great explanation. Thank you.

Dude, I just watched this and your video on alexithymia, what a one-two punch! Basically, I'm the timid guy and my girlfriend fits the alexithymia description pretty well. I've noticed early on that the best I can do is living my life fully. It's amazing how well she can sense my state of mind. When I'm fulfilled and centered everything is smooth and she can open up quite well. When I'm not, talking to her is incredibly hard. Everything is long winded and intellectualised or she gets angry and critical. But I'm starting to get the hang of it and I think she's improving too. I deeply love her and want the best for her/us but it's often very challenging. It felt good to have that be acknowledged here, thanks.

brother is making a videos for people like me however my NDP ex targeted my self esteema nd lost al worth. i dont regret her..i am feeling free that i let go off her

NO ITS CALLED POOR COMMUNICATIONS SKILL AND A BYEBYE TO YOU

This smells like AI content…

Thank you for justifying my narcissistic tendencies.

This is so sad.

Also affecting people with ASD, not just emotional trauma

And I thought I’m stupid or something because I could not understand what I was feeling.😔

Sad! Bt, This's Also A Kind Of Narcissistic Category Emotional Disorder In People.. I Really Doubt Is The Suggestion Given At The End Working On Them Positively Or Not?! Coz, Ultimately! U Said Be Strong Hearted, Do Ur Own & Keep Distances Frm Them Bt, U Can't Do This Wth Ur Partner When U're In Relationship Wth This Mentally/Emotionally Broken Person! Right? This's Not A Healthy Boundaries Btwn Couples/Can't Grow Bond For Long-term & Also Result In End-Up Being Parted... At The End It May Cause Harm/Hurts & Emotional Damages For That Strong & Healthy Person Coz, NEGATIVITY HAS MORE POWER TO BREAK SOMEONE THAN BUILD UP A PERSON'S MENTAL STATE POSITIVELY!

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her