@@altars.of.madness Well, not trying to be rude or anything, but, maybe they are not "true" friends? If you know what I mean...Have you tried to ask them about that?
Me too. Intact just did coz a friend got upset about something I said when I didn't even mean to be rude. But again I only ended up apologizing like a million times.
@@joubertrouret2769 that's not always the case! Some girls would love a sensitive man! I say, hang in there, and may the right girl come your way at the right time, and may you both enjoy a lifetime of joy, love and happiness 🙏💖
1.Picking up on every emotion. 0:40 2.Perciving every little detail. 1:10 3.Being able to catch lies. 1:43 4.Taking things too slow. 2:06 5.Getting overwhelmed too easily. 2:37 6.Needing too much space. 3:09 7.Being too conflict averse. 3:42 8.Neglecting your own self care. 4:28
3:09 I went to the theater and because we were only about six people in there I sat two seats away from my companion and they got offended. Why bump elbows if there is that much space and no one nearby. Prefer to go by myself sometimes.
My partner is a HSP and I fell in love with her because of how wonderful and heartful she is and the level of mutual understanding that I have never even dreamed of. Of course it comes with its share of issues and sometimes every day life feels like walking through a minefield, but, hey, I am not saint as well and have my own flaws that she has to deal with. And we work on it, because from the moment we met in TH-cam comment section we knew we are meant for each other =) 3 years have past and we continue to stay in love with each other =)
So cute!! Also, I'm HSP and my boyfriend who has been 2 years with me, told me the same thing!! We met in a critical time and I helped him. He told me nobody has understood him as much as I do. And yes sometimes it's bad because I'm sensitive to his mood changes but we are working on it!
@@didi7074 I met someone that understoods me. But the only problem is... She is no longer in same school as me... *She just completed Elementary School.* And I think I'm HSP too
I am dating an HSP for more than half a year now and I am here to tell you that's it's been the best 7 months of my life so far, and counting. All those things mentioned in the video as "why it's hard to date an HSP" are actually the reasons why I love him so deeply. The amount of love you get from an HSP is absolutely unprecedented. ❤
Make sure it is HSP and not a narcissist. They can appear similiar if you don't know them well enough, or blindsided by love. Narcs can be highly sensitive as well.
I've been in a relationship with a HSP and some or these reasons were why we broke up, but this was also my fault and I think if we had better communication and if i had more tried to understand her i feel like it would have work. I don't think you guys are hard to love, we just have to make a little bit of effort to understand you and to make the relationship work, but that's kinda what you have to do with everybody not only hsp. Btw i think your kindness and sensitivity make you Amaziiing (ive never love someone more than my hsp girlfriend she was so loving and sweet) please guys just be who you are and if someone thinks you are too hard to love just leave them you deserve someone who loves every part or you!!
My bf broke up for the same reason I was too much for him and he said I was hard to love and this video confirms it . He still loves me so do I but bcoz of my problems we can't continue and I die crying about it everyday afterall why is it always my fault and how do I change myself when I literally try everyday but nthin changes , I just wish there was a place only for HSPs so we could cherish each other and not people who leave us alone bcoz of smthin that's out of our control . I can try and I did try to reduce the intensity of my episodes but he couldn't wait for me so well I as always reside alone :)
It wouldnt work no matter how hard you try because the bar keeps rising and it piles up while you think everything is going well while they are secretly boiling or dying inside until it erupts catching you offguard and ruins your mood further turning you slowly but surely into their therapist.
I'm the only one hsp that just can't find any guy to love me as I m they only come to use me So terrified it is for me. I always find a guy who just need me to take care of them and my needs are not fulfilled at all.
Here are the 8 things listed, if you don't want to be spoiled, just scroll on. Have a nice day! 😙✌️ 1. Picking up on every emotion 2. Perceiving every Little detail 3. Being able to catch lies 4. Taking Things too slow 5. Getting overhelmed too easily 6. Needing too much space 7. Being too conflict averse 8. Neglecting your own self care
Something to add: being physically ill (colds, flu, or bad allergies even) causes an hsp's internal balance and emotional stability to falter. This effectively does the same as us partying constantly or being overstimulated. I tend to overread things and get irritable and emotionally distressed much easier when I'm sick and find myself even more exhausted than usual.
1.Picking Up on Every Emotion 2.Recieving every detail 3.Being able to catch lies 4.Taking things to slow 5.Getting overwhelmed too easily 6.Needing too much space 7.Being conflict averse 8.Neglecting your own self care
I feel with you, I also lost my first boyfriend due to my flaws as a HSP. I try to love and accept myself for the person I am but sometimes it's hard and sobering...
It’s ok guys, you’re worth more than being left because they can’t appreciate or understand who you are. Your sensitive nature makes u strong in a own kind of way, and you/we deserve love so don’t worry ❤️
@@pupsischwein65 Hey, maybe that person wasn't the right one for you. There's more people in this world to meet and love, so don't worry, one day you will find someone who will accept you and your flaws. I'm talking from my experiences in life as a HSP
I just feel like these kinds of videos indicating what HSP’s are often overlook the people who’ve learned to deal with being HSP. I’m sure many people relate to many of these, and yet have also learned how to blend in. If you’re too sensitive, you pretend that you’re not. If you read people easily, you act like you’re oblivious. If you notice a slight change in behaviour or tone, you play it off. A scene played so well that you almost forget it’s just a mask that you’re wearing. So as much as I relate to this, I feel like half the individuals who are HSP, inadvertently conditioned themselves to feel otherwise
you know what? yes. Your comment is very articulate and I relate. I have to adapt to my sensitivity or be trapped in anxiety. But no matter the length I go to, it’s still to protect my sensitive core. I find myself adopting a very honest and bold personality recently. It helps.
I relate to your comment. When I watched this video, my mind suddenly said to me "That reminds me of old you" & then it made sense why I didn't had that many friends in my childhood. I adopted myself to the loneliness while in return, that same loneliness got me more closer to myself & in that time, I found many, manyy entertaining things for myself
@ S Han. I became friends with some of my best friends when I was still a shy and apologetic person. They’ve seen too many aspects of my personality to care about how I present myself (honestly baffling). The extra boldness helps me a lot with other people though. If I can cut to the core of the conversation, it stops me from overthinking the little things. What I’m doing is not out of resentment, luckily, but just sheer practicality.
I've always ALWAYS been misunderstood. Though all I wanted is to help. And we HSP's never ask for help and overthink too much, which makes us always anxious. It's like we feel disconnected with the world. It's hard to find someone where there is a real connection!
gamer360 That’s so true! When l back off because it is to give people space , it’s wrong, if l ‘ encourage’ too much I’m being overbearing, yet from my POV, I’m doing what everyone else does but doesn’t get complained at! I rarely get upset with what is going on for me, it’s wanting others to see it’s all good that exhausts me lol
lol I can relate but more and more I'm becoming content with being somewhat disconnected from the world. It gives me space to think for and be myself. And lately I just feel more and more inclined to be somewhat solitary.
@@Every634 yeah I'm into spirituality. I wouldn't say I've had any spiritual awakening tho. Far from it really. I've always found it kind of hard to connect with God or whatever the Divine might be. It just doesn't seem that God speaks to be personally like some others claim. I've just become more solitary in the past few years, not really by choice. But as I have I've noticed how much group think affects me, and presumably others as well. I just like being able to think for myself, and build my life around that, like relationships and life choices etc
This video actually made me cry because all I’ve always wanted was unconditional love since I didn’t get it from my parents and knowing that I’m hard to love kinda hurts but whatever :’)
You are worthy of unconditional love, support, happiness and everything good in life!!! You deserve loving friends, caring people around you and a lot of self love! I'm sorry your parents didn't give that to you... I really am... And I wish I could do more that just this but really, you're a person that's worth loving no matter what
Im an hsp and not afraid to admit i am hard to love... but when it has happened it was worth all the pain. The self care is the key. I learned to love myself above all and to treat everyone and living thing as an extension of myself. But, it gets complicated. Its hard being this way. As one poster said, a blessing and a curse. I can never push my self away is what i tell myself.
As of lately, for me, as an HSP, the most difficult thing from this list is taking proper care of myself. I've always prioritized the needs of others over mine and at this point (26yo) it feels completely alien to me that I should focus on myself and put myself first. Even though it's difficult, it's kind of empowering to finally speak my own mind and know what I can truly offer and what I really need in people. I've always given too much attention to people who didn't really reciprocate this back, which always leads to situations where I silently suffer with my thoughts and emotions. After realizing this, I'll focus my attention on people who I can really connect with and who care for me. Has anyone had a similar story? 🤔
Hi,I can so relate to this,at this stage I am withdrawing from people and it's not always good,what I do need is to find people who believe in me and who I can be a blessing to!May you also find those people in your life!
@Vintage Art sorry to hear you're also struggling and that you got hurt. I can only recommend trying to focus on putting yourself and your well being first. The right people will sooner or later come. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Give it time and things will get better, I believe in you, you'll figure it out. 😇
I can relate to all of you and i have a can of worms i can whoop out and pandoras box lol Once it's opened, it's hard to close it. I think many of us with softer kinder nature have been the caretakers of other ppl's problems and pacifiers, i always had to drop everything i did to save others, otherwise closest environment lashed out at me and made me feel guilt and bad about myself for not ficing their problems or lives. I started to pull the handbrake roughly about a year ago when i turned 35 years old, I left everything and everyone behind, to start taking care of myself, note also that i have been in chronic stress, mental health & physical depletion and chronic illnesses emerging from eglecting myself and my needs. I have been neglected all my life, always bread crumbs & inferior treatment, by ppl i thought had good interests for me. Now i dont even know who to trust, i feel like rveryone is out to get me and i cut ppl off immediately. I have been alone all my life, now im even lonelier but at least I don't feel like im at the front battle fronts and being shot at or being used as a shield. I am mentioning this, because i have given ppl so much love & kindness, to only being treated as a doormat or taken advantage of, and i think i give to othets, because i think we who are wounded, i feel broken, we are the ones that actually need the love, kindness and healing, that is why we give or do this yo others, we have not had any boundaries, so we sometimes think we are responsible for others or their wellbeing. If i can advise you to listen to Dr Gabor Maté, Dr Caroline leaf, Marisa Peer, Louise Hay, and even some new person i came across; Jaques Fresco i think not listened much from him. Atm i decided to isolate myself, ot out of fear, but to remove all labels, strip myself off of all false titles, narrations etc from others, so that I can rebuild and reparent myself. I have never been in a romantic relationship due to all my fears of abandonment qnd all abuse i've had until now....but no more! Claim your power back and your birthright to live a healthy life ❤🍀 God bless & help us forgive & forget and move on to calmer waters 😊
I think this is my biggest issue too. And because I care so much about the people around me and how they feel and how they respond to my feelings, it makes me feel neglected and unimportant when they don't understand me. And I'm never able to take time for myself because I'm always worried about everybody else, so I'm never able to really figure out why I'm feeling so overwhelmed AND empty ALL the time
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I feel the same exact way. I have no friends because I don’t want to get hurt anymore. Sometimes it hurts to realize that I don’t have a single friend, but I know that it’s for the better.
@@ThisBraveHeart don't give up though, there's always someone out there who can be a great friend to you and vice versa. I'm happy to say that I'm doing a lot better than before because I started focusing on my inner problems that I've been pushing aside pretending they don't exist and once I've faced them one by one and accepting my flaws I felt much better
Definitely a mixture between intellectual, sensual and emotional! 1) I always draw back any information or situation to existential questions trying to figure out the sense of life 2) I see more colours as a tetrachromat & have an extremely sensitive nose and ears 3) I am struggling to physically bear emotions because they are sooo strong that it makes me feel sick
Same but next level no one has kinda ever seen my true self I have never met someone that isn't mainstream normal type of thinking kinda the good part is that there is people like me out there.
I get so overstimulated when dealing with other people. My youngest son is also a HSP. We keep each other in check sometimes. My other two sons are the total opposite.
Thats kind of the same for me. I most likely have HSP and my sisters are the total oppostie. But I don't like to share my feelings with people most of the time.
Psych2Go I would say yes to a sense. We know each other strengths and limits easier than someone that is a little more outgoing. But sometimes I have to double check myself so that I don’t bring down the other person, if I know they are highly sensitive as well.
Being a HSP has caused me to hate myself. I'm just learning to be content with who I am. I want nothing more than to be able to do literally anything without caring or worry about what other people think of me. I cry multiple times everyday about the smallest of things. My biggest fear is crying in front of people, even people I'm comfortable with like my mom or brother, because all I imagine is them saying "Here goes this crybaby again🙄" Im scared of people thinking I'm this vulnerable, naive crybaby.....I am one....but I don't want people to know that. I'm scared of being a pushover, saying yes when I want to say no, letting people walk all over me and giving them the benefit of the doubt when they don't deserve it. One of the worst parts about being a HSP is being surrounded by people who aren't. Nobody understands you, even those who try to. Can't tell you how many times I've heard someone say "Its not that serious." Can't tell you how many times I've tried to tell MYSELF it's not that serious. Trying to take constructive criticism without feeling hurt is hard. Try to share your feelings without obsessing over wether or not it will offend someone else is hard. Try not to be a people-pleaser is hard. Trying with every bone in your body, not to make it look like you care or that you're hurt, but being unable to stop the waterworks from coming and think "I failed again" is hard.
I feel the same exact way I’m afraid of telling people these things too and I don’t have any HSP friends so it makes it harder to tell them how I really feel.
I understand and felt allll of what you just said. It is hard navigating life especially relationships being an HSP. I am only on day one of even hearing anything about HSpersons but I feel so much better knowing I am not alone and neither are you! Believe me, I know how tough it can be..I too have a hard time loving myself for being such a sensitive person but try to find the beauty in it as I am trying to do starting today. Don't worry and please know that you are not alone!! We are special people. :)
"HSP are hard to be loved" ( from societies that are damaged, deceitful, or simply too busy making money that people take barely or no time to discover how we function. HSPs actually love and love even too much very easily, however this love is mostly directed to others, rather themselves ;))
Me: attends school disco *1 hour later* friend: "why are you crying on the bench outside?" Me: trying to hold back a emotional outburst whilst attempting to explain why im on the bench outside *I left 20 minutes later*
Me at prom. Bc I picked up that the group I hung out with in yr11 didn't really like me. I got this confirmed a few days ago by a mate who was in that group but he did like me as a friend but wanted to be in that group so kind of had to side with them... So... Yh.
I’m an HSP. I really dislike this title. Saying someone is “difficult to love” isn’t true and it’s not fair. We already feel bad enough, and I think this really could have been phrased better.
I'm probably an HSP as well. I didn't necessarily get upset by this video, because if there's bad things about us, there's good things too. Also, it just adds more depth to me as a person. Sure, I am struggling with these things in my life right now, but I know what I need to do. I'm just not sure if I'm brave enough.
I wasn’t upset by the video, I was upset by the title and felt it could have been phrased better. Saying someone is “difficult to love” is extremely degrading, HSP or not.
I'm an HSP. I was always told I was too sensitive by my parents; my brother's wife; some friends; my kids, and ex-husband. I told my boyfriend I thought I'd never find someone who could fully love and appreciate my personality. He tells me the one thing that stands out about me is my compassion for others. I accept how I am, and understand there will always be some people who will see my personality as unpleasant. I curb it when I'm around most people who don't ( want to) understand me, and I give freely to those that truly appreciate me as I am.
I am an HSP, but I pretend like I am not. I don't show others like I am vulnerable or naive, but I feel like I am dying inside. But I want to fall in love with an HSP too, because I know HSPs fall harder and understand you emotionally on a deeper level
you'll never find one if you keep hiding a crucial side of your character, you can't hide something so important neither feel sorry about it. be yourself for god's sake! (I'm a HSP as well)
I tried to fall in love with an HSP. Turns out he was a narcissist. After research, I realised that narcs can also be HSP's. In fact they become narcs also bcz of their sensitivity which they couldn't handle bcz of circumstances. the flipside though is that my relationship with him was deeply fulfilling.
4:41 "You make everyone else's problems your problem" I always put other people needs before mine and it has taken so long for me realize that I have to take care myself and to put myself before others especially after realizing that people won't do the same for me. Personally one of the best but also worst things of being a HSP is that i'am so empathetic.
@@jacquelinehowell1485 sure I just think it's sad that a lot of people here more tend to "give up" so soon/ don't see their own quality, than just accept how the are and put hard work into love. highly intense love is just such a beautiful (sometimes draining) thing. I'm curious if people who get offended by those statements, a more likely to victimise themselves and I feel really sorry for them. (hope you could understand what I meant. I'm not a native speaker)
I hate this about myself, honestly. Emotions suck sometime. Being hyperaware and hyper vigilant is freaking exhausting. It makes me so angry that I can't turn this off or feel like I will never get better and get "rid of this".
Honestly this video is when a HSP is in imbalanced relationship dynamics... I’ll explain why for each number! 🙃 1. Absorbing emotions - If the other person distances themselves as a result of essentially absorbing the HSPs emotions this triggers those with anxious attachment style... It’s a fine line between stonewalling and genuine need for space. If genuine need for space is needed it should be done when both parties are not in a highly activated emotional state and should be communicated as clearly as possible! 2. Perceiving every detail - rather than see how there’s likely a bit of truth in the details seen that most miss the HSP is gaslighted and if the idea that the HSP is seeing things that aren’t there becomes internalized, the HSP then becomes out of touch with their intuition. Anyone who studies microexpressions quickly learns there is a lot of validity in subtle and lightning fast emotional output. But honestly most people aren’t capable of that kind of transparency because most of the word operates from a highly unconscious state 💭 3. Catching lies - Big whoop, we’re not interested in being around inauthentic people. Only a problem if you’re surrounded by fakes. I feel for people who have families built on lies tho. 🌧💙🙏 4. Taking things too slow - that’s a boundary thing and honestly anyone who’s ever been screwed over would understand the need to slow things down. Pressuring someone is no bueno. 5. Getting overwhelmed too easily - JUST HANG W INTROVERtS 6. Need alone time - here the fault is in the HSP, definitely communicate when you need time alone to process and integrate sensory input. Going MIA for days in your close relationships is a shitty thing to do if you just ghost your loved ones haha 🤨 7. Conflict adverse - The state of our world currently does not see the value in conflict because conflict at this time is used as a way to cause further separation and disintegration. If a conflict has truth and understanding as its goal then this is a non issue because any other things that could stem from that conversation, especially hurtful things that carry on a conflict beyond the original point of contention is not necessary. Poof! There goes your fear of conflict 8. Lack of self care - if you’re hanging around people who know how to meet their needs you don’t need to be putting them above yourself 😓 This does NOT apply when you have pets or kids or plants that are actually dependent on the HSP.
Awesome points! And the getting overwhelmed easily thing...geez haha people just thrive better in different environments and have different needs. If you’re with someone who makes you feel bad for being overwhelmed (which is super uncomfortable)in a situation society thinks you should thrive in but you don’t typically do, and they don’t care about your needs, it might not be a good relationship
This was so helpfull! Thanks! I struggle soo much with number 6.. A guy I am dating just texted me why he doesn't hear from me and I donnn't knowww what to do
Throughout my whole life I've always been called a crybaby and someone who over thinks *way* too much.. Its starting to click. I related to all of these.. To a part where it actually kinda hurts tbh..
As an HSP, I can relate to this in many ways. I remember talking to a girl over text for about two weeks while getting to know her, and then a week later she wanted to end it. We both liked each other, but she told me that she doesn't want to deal with a sensitive person. To this day, that still hurts me because I already have enough emotional struggles in my life and that most girls that I've tried to talk to either feel the same way about me as that one girl did or is in a relationship already. This is why I'm so scared and angry to even try to ask someone out or get to know her because all the negative memories would crawl back to my mind, and I often beat myself up over it because I wonder if I ever did anything wrong or if there's something really wrong with me....
Im sorry you had to go through that one day you will find the right person everone is not the same so that was them you just did not get to the right person yet dont give up maybe its harder for a guy not sure being a girl for the most part my boyfriends were suportive try not to let it hurt you so much i just means it was not meant to be but dont change you the right person will like and except you for it hope this helps take care
I am used to being on my own, I just recently realized I am an HSP but it has been years that I have just known that I might never find "someone", even just a best friend to me seems unrealistic. That's why I love animals, my cat is a great companion.
Sweetie just use law of vabrationa and law of attraction. It changed my life . I used to think like u too but I have got a new view of life🤗. Look on them and learn to use them .I promise you want regret it 😉
At first I was a bit sad to see that I’m ‘difficult to love’ as an HSP, but by the end of the video I felt a little more understood and it warmed my heart :)
I was an HSP for much of my childhood and adolescence. I had all of those problems, including being conflict averse. I agreed with everything my classmates said in order to avoid their wrath. Instead, I kept my opinions to myself and built resentment, which lasted for 22 years.
I can relate to everything except the ‘don’t like to party’ stuff. I like to go out with friends and get totally silly. Idk it lets all my stress out. And the not standing up for yourself. I stand Up for myself but i do hate conflict.
I m like that as well.....but I also don't always take the blame on myself and say sorry a million times to make up with someone when the fault was not mine.....and i am not good at catching lies.....
@Black Weirdo i can get the context of facial expressions in a normal convo very much...i do percieve, the uncontrolled small facial expressions ppl give away, quite good.....but in lying peple are verryy practiced lol....and the other important point because of which i give peple benefit of the doubt is that i dont want to act against them until i am sure that they are lying.....because i dont want them to suffer because of my DOUBT, I am ready to suffer until I am sure... So many factorss....its funny..
What may be interpreted as weekness can be your ultimate strength. Learn to embrace them and you can navigate more easily through life. I too, fit these descriptions of an HSP. Over time and the difficult personal challenges that I have experienced through life. I have learned manage better relationships, whilst empowering my sensitivity. Needless to say, it is not easy in today's society.
I’ve recently discovered I’m an HSP, and it’s been like a weight lifted off my shoulders. For years I’ve wondered why I am the way I am, if I overreact or being too sensitive and needed to toughen up my skin like everyone tells me. Knowing now I’m an HSP I can feels like I can finally explain to people why I am the way I am :)
i recently discovered im an HSP and i'm laughing at how accurate this is, my boyfriend told me he feels bad when he's sad bc it makes me feel really sad if he's sad and thus believes he caused it. also, i want things slowly and not too much physical connection but rather emotional, but he is a physical lover. i usually dont talk about my opinions or when im mad at someone, it tends to backfire. my boyfriend told me to love myself and take care of myself bc he realises i always try to take care of him first
I am an HSP, this happened so often, except to my bestfriend. When she cried, I cried. I am HSP + Introvert so relationship is not an easy one and I never date anyone.
Raka Paramita exactly! sometimes some guys have thought I was a simple person, but in reality, I’m a little complicated. I suffer from body dysmorphia, anxiety, and social anxiety, my current boyfriend had to learn and grow alongside me in order to help me. we’re at an age of exploring more intimately, but I’ve been hesitant because of my dysmorphia. still though, I’d feel bad and would force myself a lot previously, it caused me multiple breakdowns and periods of isolation and unhappiness. I finally opened up to him about it, and he understood, which made me so happy, as he knew I could be there for him in different ways from what he can do for me.
Jenna isela It happens and it’s completely okay! Don’t force yourself and talk with your significant other, they’ll surely understand if they truly care and love you :)
This is totally accurate for me. Especially the parts about taking things too slowly, being easily overwhelmed and being conflict averse. Thank you for this video.
I love how this channel upload videos showing the negative sides of sensitive people and empaths as well! We're not always super good and have our own toxic traits to deal. Specially the traits that are very toxic for ourselves firstly, rather than to the people around us. Anyways, it's nice to be aware lol
As an HSP it's weird to not know this fact before hand because HSP are observant, of others and more of themselves. So if you didn't know you're probably not even an HSP. Because some people might think of themselves to be sensitive (out of narc traits, or other) but aren't really HSP, no offense to anyone, just a fact.
The only thing I have in common with this is number 3, I take honesty too seriously and I usually catch people when they're lying and try to disassociate with them
I agree with you, but I've also found out that the world is built on lying & withholding information. So, it doesn't give you a favourable view of society.
We’re not hard to love. We have higher needs and expectations but are also bringing an abundance of love and compassion to a relationship. Our needs will only be matched by people who are patient, secure, and kind hearted and if you’re chasing away those that aren’t, who cares? Because of my being an HSP, I eventually found a wonderful spouse who I’ve been happily married to for 16 years and ran off everyone else not worthy of sharing my life with. I call that a win. Long story short, you’re all perfect and not hard to love at for the right people.
Thanks for replying but when you have seen a wrong relationship in the past is it difficult to find right one in future too,because you become paranoid and dont trust anyone and be single all your life?
Sushma tummala before my marriage, I was involved (on and off) with someone who was physically and emotionally abusive for years. I know it’s hard but I’m a firm believer that we look for the love we think we deserve. In other words, at that time in my life I did not feel I was deserving of love therefore excepted an abusive relationship. Once I realized and excepted the good things about myself, I only excepted the kind of love I now have. There will always be negative experiences in our lives so we have to teach ourselves to see past those to see and create positive ones. 😊
I'm an HSP, and every point in this video rings true, especially the part about self care. Many is the time I've tried to "pour from an empty cup", probably even more that I recognize. And it's difficult not to feel that taking time away - investing in "me time" - isn't selfish even after learning its value.
My partner and I both have like 98% of the HSP traits in different areas. This makes our relationship extremely emotionally tiring at times because we both tend to get stressed with our own problems but we both also fight so hard to work things out and the love and attention we give when we're not stressed is just amazing.
Nah! Its just gives direction because now you know that you may need to be around others who "get" you, understand, and can show compassion. You're not crazy! You're just very perceptive and sensitive. Be aware, be smart, and find people who truly are good HSP's and find some confidence and trust. They're people and not God. They can shoulder this world with you. :)
I can relate with every single point, and it feels good! It feels good to finally understand what is going on with me. All my life people would tell me, that I am the problem in every issue. I was literally hated for asking questions, becauss I saw things , that people did not want anyone to see. Espacially when parents are fighting and then tell you, “everything is fine.“ I grew up believing, that there is something mentally wrong with me. Until three years ago, when a therapist looked at me and said, “You are a HSP. You have never heard about it? Well, how are you supposed to control it, if you do not even know what it is?“ Finally knowing and learning about HSP and basically myself feels amazing. And I hope, that one day, I will be able to relax and enjoy being around people. PS: I have learned that something like “it did not mean anything“ does not exist. There is always a reason for a slight change of ton or facial expressions.
I do relate to this video except for avoiding conflict. In the past, I would run away and move abroad to avoid conflict. Lately, I have learnt to embrace confrontation. Its crucial for emotional growth sometimes and it feels, its going towards a path to self acceptance. I used to also allow extremely narcissistic people to make me walk on eggshells ( my mum for example) I used to be imprisoned by feelings. Now I express them. I have noticed how bottling feelings used to make me ill or over eat. But worse, it can make others assume that they could disregard our boundaries. Now I am like f it! This is me. Like Ella sings: love me or leave me... Take care of yourselves! A big hug!
I truly resonate with this. I’ve been trying to emotionally grow out of this emotion people pleasing mindset because it has allowed so many people to walk all over me and looking back and even now I’m so sick and tired of letting that happen because of my emotions and avoiding the conflict. I want to attack it head on and just say f it and say what I need/want to say so I can avoid being walked over. I’m working on it so hard but I’m struggling and I just want to change. Being sensitive is consuming me and it makes my life so difficult, having relationships with people whether that be romantic or not. It’s just so frustrating and I want to be better.
I’m an HSP who falls for people too easily. If I find someone unique in my own way of perception, then I’ll give them the world right away and it’s often a colossal mistake... it ends up with my boundaries being overstepped. What’s more, people often compliment me a lot at the beginning but once they know me better, they claim their right to underestimate me and call me out and laugh about my ‘sensitivity’. ‘You need to grow up’ etc ...
That title I honestly find offensive. I understand HSP's may often be difficult to understand and therefore interact with - but saying they are hard to love goes waaaay too far! Imagine someone saying to you "It's so hard to love you because you're sensitive all the time" or some crap like that. My advice: Don't be with someone who says that. It's not harder to love HSP's than it is to love someone with any level of sensetivity. What's hard is being with someone who doesn't accept you as you are. Please correct that mistake. I don't want any HSP thinking there was something wrong with her/him or it's "harder for them to find love". What a load of duck poop.
@Jackie Bruhn Hey uhm, I know this might come completely out of the blue for you and it's something I thought might be helpful. You opened up about how bad it felt to read the title and getting all the negative implications behind it. Now I'm honestly not anywhere close to self-acceptance yet. However, it looks like the way to not feel bad about any judgemental stuff is to not believe it. So to get really "bulletproof", it takes believing there's nothing wrong with you... Which I know is super difficult but yeah it helps me as a goal.
Sorry but for most people they are harder to love. Just because they are harder to love than the average person doesn't mean their impossible to love or you should leave them becuase their hard to love. If you actually love someone none of this matters to you
@@Twiti47 I understand that in terms of numbers, HSP's generally have fewer compatible partners. So other people won't find them "harder to love" instead they'll tend to not be as attracted to them. They're just not a match and it's nobody's fault. And you're right if you love someone, you don't love them less because they're an HSP (or a person of any level of sensetivity for that matter). I think what going on is people mean to say "HSP's are generally more difficult to have a relationship with and they're more difficult to understand than non-HSP's." That's true for non-HSP's a.k.a. most people. What's very judgemental, offensive and untrue is to then try to make it short and simple by saying "They're harder to love". Loving a person is not easy or hard, love just happens or doesn't happen. Relationships are what's hard.
Yeah, I thought that too and posted my own comment about it. :/ Especially since this video is ABOUT highly-sensitive people! Like, bruh! They're literally called "highly-sensitive people", and you tell them they're "hard to love" and somehow expect them not to take it personally?? Watching the video helped a little since it eventually became clear that they meant "love" as in "have a nice, long, stable relationship with", but they definitely could've and should've worded the title better.
Omg! This video is spot on! At this age i think it might have been best for someone like me to have stayed alone. Everything is so difficult and a constant struggle especially when surrounded by people who do not understand or maybe cannot understand, most of the time i feel so foreign. HSP are rare.
Both me and my husband are HSPs and it's a blessing and a nightmare at the time haha. Especially the "you feel each other emotions AND experiences them" and oh the "need for space" are so true.
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I cannot believe what your content has unlocked for ME! TY so much. It doesn't replace therapy, but it can keep you making new discoveries that help you feel more comfortable in your body/environs.
Justinduthy Smith I play fortnight too but I am not that addicted to it since I am always bad at it. It’s nice to hear this from someone who has the same problem as me. I hope this problem for both of us stops soon. ❤️💕
Say that again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And it’s twice the magnitude of the love given/healing offered. I constantly try to coach myself so much through moments of hurt/fear/disappointment/betrayal to lessen the magnitude of hurt, to make lovingness more bearable. Because at the end of the day I damn sure know the world needs us HSPs.
Thank you for the video 😊 💠This is what I've learned in my life as an HSP: 🔸If this trait has reached this point in human evolution is because it's a USEFUL trait. 🔸It's necessary because mediators are the ones that PREDICT the positive or negative consecuencies of the present emotions and behaviours in the future. 🔸We retain all the emotional information of the community and then SMOOTH the conflicts. 🔸This emotional SUPERPOWERS are hard to manage. It requires practice and time to find the correct balance⚖️ 🔸Many times we can lose control of this "magical weapon" and it can hurt instead of cure🗡️🛡️ 🔸It's important to control the urge to overthink everything. Many things and behaviours are very random and are not that important to spend time on the details. Just move on whenever you can 🧠 🔸Conflicts and argues are part of life. All living beings have differences and need to settle things to resolve them and move on. 🔸Hiding or evading a situation is useful sometimes but, it could also lead to resentment in both sides.
The fact that being an empath is not a real thing and being highly sensitive is. Being a empathic being means you were raised right and have normal feelings, empathic feelings like most humans have the tendency to experience. Besides that there is the irony that a lot of the "empaths" on the internet lack insight in other personalities and don't understand others, especially when the other has less empathy. So thinking you understand a feeling because you can link the other to an experience you've had is different then reading/understanding others who are different from you.
empath /ˈɛmpaθ/ noun (*chiefly in science fiction*) a person with the *paranormal* ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual I mean the difference is one is real and the other is fiction, hate to break it to ya bud
I'm also an INFP-T! But somehow, my zodiac sign (sagittarius) gives me the strength to face the hard times & lifts up my mood in a mere night or 2 days after (I really thank my zodiac for it. It helps me balance myself). Sometimes, my fiery, sagittarius personality comes out too much that it changes the "I" in INFP to "E" resulting me behaving like an extrovert 😅
@@devashrijoshi9079 they are, but what's funny is that my mum also took the personality type test and it turned out we're both INFJ, making us 2 in the same home :D
The “don’t like to party/overwhelming places” hit hard. At lunch sometimes I will just leave the cafeteria and go straight to the spot where me and my friends hangout because too much is going on around me. And I always have to stand in a certain spot so that I can see the entire area and know that no one can sneak up behind me
Wow thanks so much that title really hit hard. Sure I’ve watched like 3 of your videos about hsp’s and I relate to almost everyone of them… but you don’t really need to put that. It already made me realize it more.
I found out I'm an HSP through watching these videos, they describe me to a T. I used to get bullied when I was younger for all the times I would cry. I still cry a lot today, but luckily my partner is very supportive of me. Its really comforting to know that I'm not the only one who experiences these things.
First of all, I'd like to say that I am in love with the art style. Second, I can recognize that a lot of the things mentioned in the video are how I am behaving. I didn't know there was a specific term for that. The only thing which I don't see in me is the first one "Picking up on every emotion". It can make a difference on how someone is feeling, but it isn't influencing me in any way. There are a lot of people who don't know how to take care of people with HSP and this makes some days pretty difficult
I was a really hard baby and my mom realised I was an HSP, and since then I have continued showing all the signs of it. I love being an HSP, but I hate how vulnerable it makes me, since I was used by my narcissistic father all my childhood and teenhood, and I guess I’m scared of being used again. And sometimes it can be overwhelming, being an HSP. But I also love my sensitive life, love all the intense emotions I feel, and being an artist, it is really helpful. I hate conflicts, but I never avoid them since that feels even worse. Instead I always confront people, if I have enough relationship with them, so that we can get the conflict over with in the same day.
Thank you for the videos! It has changed the way I see myself and constantly wondering what's wrong with me. Most of my life I've felt lost and alone and not knowing how to express what I feel. If you guys had time could you please look into the topic of children with HSP who experienced abuse as well as parents who committed suicide. Thank you again for your time to putting these together .
I had/have the experience of falling easily for a person with HSP. I'm releaved that the video says it can be one of the most rewarding relationships I'm ever in. I'm on the fence, but I really really want it to work. So thank you for the encouragement.
My wife and I have both been accused of being too sensitive enough times that I made a video about it! And started watching videos like this. I didnt even know their was such a classification of "HSP" until very recently. I think it is dangerous to blame too much emphasis on someone being an HSP because it may just a few steps away from gaslighting.
I can relate to most of the 8 things, but as a guy, I’m often made to feel weak by others comments because guys “shouldn’t be” sensitive and emotional. I know that’s “Toxic Masculinity” - but I still feel that most women want and expect their guy to be a strong unemotional man.
I like the title, I immediately related and want to understand why this can sometimes feel like the case in my life. It will help me be mindful of others and also help me blame myself less, for we a re all different. Also, it's psychology, nothing applies across the board guys. Thank you psych2go xx
1). Picking up on every emotion 2). Perceiving every little detail (changes in tone of voice or facial expressions) 3). Catching lies 4). Taking things too slow (usually based on past experiences) 5). Getting overwhelmed too easily 6). Needing too much space 7). Being too conflict averse (avoiding conflict at all cost) 8). Neglecting your own self-care (putting others before you)
1:35 As a highly sensitive person (or empath), I can say that most HSP would notice that that person is acting WEIRD. Nobody scratches their neck like that when they are happy and calm.
This made so much sense... So many things that I recognized. This made me cry, because I am totally emotional frustrated and tired and some of these explanations made realize why some people said some hurting stuff...
This is a dysfunctional HSP. I’m a highly HSP. Learned my gifts and understanding them better, still learning. Some HSP can be connected to the magnetic energy of the moon. Which helps to not be so overwhelmed in situations. Please do not be serious. That’s the worst you can do to yourself. Just understand your own feelings,and also connecting to your inner child in having fun. Which creates more of higher and healthier frequencies. Have compassion for those others too. Yes we can spot out lies. But choosing to not react and focusing on inner love for yourself, it will draw you to other people who won’t lie.
The way I see HSP is that we are just intense feelers. When something bad happens, we cry, we overthink it, we try to move on and we get frustrated. However, when something good happens, we become very happy and we stop worrying for a moment. I always hated myself for crying so much, (especially when I cry in front of people it feels so humiliating). I was always told I was too sensitive and that I need to stop overthinking. Now, I understand myself better. HSP are good. You are good. It's a beautiful thing that your emotions are strong. It's cool to see the small details in life. All HSP are beautiful and are the opposite of being "hard to love".
Hey everyone! Fun fact, I'm also an HSP! For those who want to learn more about HSP or themselves, what topics would you suggest? Comment below :)
Hi, I've already commented this but, I'm doing it again. Could you make a video on what does it mean if you often feel sad but have no idea why?
@@amperzand14 That's a good one. How about "X reasons why you feel sad often'?
'Why Zodiac signs act a certain way' please!
@@Psych2go Yeah, that would be good. Thanks for taking the suggestion!
How HSP's deal with toxic people and bullying
Being a HSP is a bless and a curse. People will fall in love easily with your personality but then will say "it's too much" for them.
So true..
Definitely.
Defo
Didi So true, sometimes I feel like my friends don’t like me anymore because of me being a HSP...
@@altars.of.madness Well, not trying to be rude or anything, but, maybe they are not "true" friends? If you know what I mean...Have you tried to ask them about that?
If someone’s mad at me, I bawl my eyes out and say I’m sorry like 10 million times
Esmeralda _Star too real 😥
Me too
Me too. Intact just did coz a friend got upset about something I said when I didn't even mean to be rude. But again I only ended up apologizing like a million times.
Me too, I always say sorry and I easily feel guilty even If other people say I'm not lol
ikr😅😅😅 it literally consumes my entire day
Highly sensitive beings suffer more but they also love harder
Totally
True but it doesn't matter if your sensitivity just makes you unlovable
@@joubertrouret2769 what do you mean,?
@@Every634 what i mean is that girls dont like sensitive guys. So yeah i have a lot of love to give, but nobody wants to give it to me.
@@joubertrouret2769 that's not always the case! Some girls would love a sensitive man! I say, hang in there, and may the right girl come your way at the right time, and may you both enjoy a lifetime of joy, love and happiness 🙏💖
1.Picking up on every emotion. 0:40
2.Perciving every little detail. 1:10
3.Being able to catch lies. 1:43
4.Taking things too slow. 2:06
5.Getting overwhelmed too easily. 2:37
6.Needing too much space. 3:09
7.Being too conflict averse. 3:42
8.Neglecting your own self care. 4:28
True
Ah thanks. That is why it’s too much hard work! Exhausting! 😮💨
3:09 I went to the theater and because we were only about six people in there I sat two seats away from my companion and they got offended. Why bump elbows if there is that much space and no one nearby. Prefer to go by myself sometimes.
I was hoping someone did this. Thank you
@@eloisebrynleethat would destroy me😂😂
My partner is a HSP and I fell in love with her because of how wonderful and heartful she is and the level of mutual understanding that I have never even dreamed of. Of course it comes with its share of issues and sometimes every day life feels like walking through a minefield, but, hey, I am not saint as well and have my own flaws that she has to deal with. And we work on it, because from the moment we met in TH-cam comment section we knew we are meant for each other =) 3 years have past and we continue to stay in love with each other =)
This is so cute
So cute!! Also, I'm HSP and my boyfriend who has been 2 years with me, told me the same thing!! We met in a critical time and I helped him. He told me nobody has understood him as much as I do. And yes sometimes it's bad because I'm sensitive to his mood changes but we are working on it!
@@didi7074 I met someone that understoods me. But the only problem is... She is no longer in same school as me... *She just completed Elementary School.* And I think I'm HSP too
Yow, meeting each other in youtube comment section? Dat so cool 🤩
Wow congrats. I hope you may be able to stay together even longer.
The "hard to love" part of the title is terrible, they could've approached it another way. But the video is still worth it.
Ikrrr that also bothered me!
As they know we r sensitive towards these things haha they should have known better
Quite dissappointing
People make us hard to love
Nahied Laila 😭😭😭😭right I find it hilarious that they even went there. they knowwww
I am dating an HSP for more than half a year now and I am here to tell you that's it's been the best 7 months of my life so far, and counting. All those things mentioned in the video as "why it's hard to date an HSP" are actually the reasons why I love him so deeply. The amount of love you get from an HSP is absolutely unprecedented. ❤
Aww he must me lucky to date you. Wish I could find someone like you who could understand a hsp like me...
Ownnnn he is so lucky to have found you! Cant way for the day I find someone like you ^_^. Wishing you both all the happiness in the world ♡
this made my day😭❤ thankyou, I am an HSP I thought I would never have the chance to have a deep and real relationship
Thanks. This was encouraging to read..
Make sure it is HSP and not a narcissist. They can appear similiar if you don't know them well enough, or blindsided by love. Narcs can be highly sensitive as well.
I've been in a relationship with a HSP and some or these reasons were why we broke up, but this was also my fault and I think if we had better communication and if i had more tried to understand her i feel like it would have work. I don't think you guys are hard to love, we just have to make a little bit of effort to understand you and to make the relationship work, but that's kinda what you have to do with everybody not only hsp.
Btw i think your kindness and sensitivity make you Amaziiing (ive never love someone more than my hsp girlfriend she was so loving and sweet) please guys just be who you are and if someone thinks you are too hard to love just leave them you deserve someone who loves every part or you!!
My bf broke up for the same reason I was too much for him and he said I was hard to love and this video confirms it . He still loves me so do I but bcoz of my problems we can't continue and I die crying about it everyday afterall why is it always my fault and how do I change myself when I literally try everyday but nthin changes , I just wish there was a place only for HSPs so we could cherish each other and not people who leave us alone bcoz of smthin that's out of our control . I can try and I did try to reduce the intensity of my episodes but he couldn't wait for me so well I as always reside alone :)
It wouldnt work no matter how hard you try because the bar keeps rising and it piles up while you think everything is going well while they are secretly boiling or dying inside until it erupts catching you offguard and ruins your mood further turning you slowly but surely into their therapist.
I'm the only one hsp that just can't find any guy to love me as I m they only come to use me So terrified it is for me.
I always find a guy who just need me to take care of them and my needs are not fulfilled at all.
Thank you for saying this❤
This was a bold title choice considering the sensitive audience😂
Brilliant!
Your genius is, indeed, frightening
Lol yes for real😭
Exactly👏👏👍
Exactly
Here are the 8 things listed, if you don't want to be spoiled, just scroll on. Have a nice day! 😙✌️
1. Picking up on every emotion
2. Perceiving every Little detail
3. Being able to catch lies
4. Taking Things too slow
5. Getting overhelmed too easily
6. Needing too much space
7. Being too conflict averse
8. Neglecting your own self care
Thank you but please don’t spoil it too early..watching the video would help support their channel and continue what they are doing..
But thnx anyways
@@B2099-b2h ok, I have an idea!
Mindest thank you!!
This is much better
Much appreciated mate ^^
@@B2099-b2h no proplem
Mindest Aww that was nice of you! 😄
Nobody needs to tell a highly sensitive person they're hard to love. I know I'll probably die alone.
Lol same
Haha. True af
No bro I think I got a girlfriend now i don't what are we but at least if she isn't a girlfriend she is a ride to die friend
Stop thinking you will die alone please i know that feeling and I wish nobody that feeling 💙
I feel you.
Something to add: being physically ill (colds, flu, or bad allergies even) causes an hsp's internal balance and emotional stability to falter. This effectively does the same as us partying constantly or being overstimulated. I tend to overread things and get irritable and emotionally distressed much easier when I'm sick and find myself even more exhausted than usual.
1.Picking Up on Every Emotion
2.Recieving every detail
3.Being able to catch lies
4.Taking things to slow
5.Getting overwhelmed too easily
6.Needing too much space
7.Being conflict averse
8.Neglecting your own self care
Thanks for putting this together. Are there any others that are missed?
Hmm... I can say I relate to 4, 6 (I really need tons of space.. or more like "me time" for me) although I didn't got the 7th one
*Receiving (but she said Perceiving)
*Too
I don’t usually need space when in a relationship... is that weird?
I relate to all of them
I'm basically all this.
Kinda hurts to lose someone because of this too.
Now I'm just sad again :c
I feel with you, I also lost my first boyfriend due to my flaws as a HSP. I try to love and accept myself for the person I am but sometimes it's hard and sobering...
@@pupsischwein65 Yeah... I totally get that. I do really hope you are doing better recently.
It’s ok guys, you’re worth more than being left because they can’t appreciate or understand who you are. Your sensitive nature makes u strong in a own kind of way, and you/we deserve love so don’t worry ❤️
@@NatalyG73 Aaaah, thank you
@@pupsischwein65 Hey, maybe that person wasn't the right one for you. There's more people in this world to meet and love, so don't worry, one day you will find someone who will accept you and your flaws. I'm talking from my experiences in life as a HSP
I just feel like these kinds of videos indicating what HSP’s are often overlook the people who’ve learned to deal with being HSP. I’m sure many people relate to many of these, and yet have also learned how to blend in. If you’re too sensitive, you pretend that you’re not. If you read people easily, you act like you’re oblivious. If you notice a slight change in behaviour or tone, you play it off. A scene played so well that you almost forget it’s just a mask that you’re wearing. So as much as I relate to this, I feel like half the individuals who are HSP, inadvertently conditioned themselves to feel otherwise
Putting it that way makes it sound honestly terrifying... O_O I hope I haven't been doing that.
EDIT: Wait, IS it a bad thing?
you know what? yes. Your comment is very articulate and I relate. I have to adapt to my sensitivity or be trapped in anxiety. But no matter the length I go to, it’s still to protect my sensitive core. I find myself adopting a very honest and bold personality recently. It helps.
@@stars_who_knows9254 me too!
I relate to your comment. When I watched this video, my mind suddenly said to me "That reminds me of old you" & then it made sense why I didn't had that many friends in my childhood. I adopted myself to the loneliness while in return, that same loneliness got me more closer to myself & in that time, I found many, manyy entertaining things for myself
@ S Han. I became friends with some of my best friends when I was still a shy and apologetic person. They’ve seen too many aspects of my personality to care about how I present myself (honestly baffling). The extra boldness helps me a lot with other people though. If I can cut to the core of the conversation, it stops me from overthinking the little things. What I’m doing is not out of resentment, luckily, but just sheer practicality.
"Social activity is too stressful and exhausting for you."
I physically do not even have the power to text someone.
😀 are you my twin 😂😂😂 lol
Sameeeeeee o my
this hit
Me me me.
This made me laugh, but I recognize it 😂😵
As an HSP, this video gives me anxiety over my flaws 😩
Me too
We can be HSP together 🙌🏻
Is it really that bad? Now I'm scared to watch
There are almost allways a good and a bad side of a trade🙃☺ Also being HSP. We are as wonderful as we are troublesome😅😆💕 Crazy- fireworks😜🌈🥰
@@tulipanstilkOh that's actually a good way to put it
I've always ALWAYS been misunderstood. Though all I wanted is to help. And we HSP's never ask for help and overthink too much, which makes us always anxious. It's like we feel disconnected with the world. It's hard to find someone where there is a real connection!
gamer360 That’s so true! When l back off because it is to give people space , it’s wrong, if l ‘ encourage’ too much I’m being overbearing, yet from my POV, I’m doing what everyone else does but doesn’t get complained at!
I rarely get upset with what is going on for me, it’s wanting others to see it’s all good that exhausts me lol
So true. I really wish my man will understand
lol I can relate but more and more I'm becoming content with being somewhat disconnected from the world. It gives me space to think for and be myself. And lately I just feel more and more inclined to be somewhat solitary.
@@christopherpape4823 have you had a spiritual awakening sort of thing? Or are you into spirituality?
@@Every634 yeah I'm into spirituality. I wouldn't say I've had any spiritual awakening tho. Far from it really. I've always found it kind of hard to connect with God or whatever the Divine might be. It just doesn't seem that God speaks to be personally like some others claim. I've just become more solitary in the past few years, not really by choice. But as I have I've noticed how much group think affects me, and presumably others as well. I just like being able to think for myself, and build my life around that, like relationships and life choices etc
This video actually made me cry because all I’ve always wanted was unconditional love since I didn’t get it from my parents and knowing that I’m hard to love kinda hurts but whatever :’)
You are worthy of unconditional love, support, happiness and everything good in life!!! You deserve loving friends, caring people around you and a lot of self love! I'm sorry your parents didn't give that to you... I really am... And I wish I could do more that just this but really, you're a person that's worth loving no matter what
You are not hard to love this video had very shitty phrasing
@@Username__74899 that kinda means we all should leave psych2go lol
Im an hsp and not afraid to admit i am hard to love... but when it has happened it was worth all the pain. The self care is the key. I learned to love myself above all and to treat everyone and living thing as an extension of myself. But, it gets complicated. Its hard being this way. As one poster said, a blessing and a curse. I can never push my self away is what i tell myself.
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As of lately, for me, as an HSP, the most difficult thing from this list is taking proper care of myself. I've always prioritized the needs of others over mine and at this point (26yo) it feels completely alien to me that I should focus on myself and put myself first. Even though it's difficult, it's kind of empowering to finally speak my own mind and know what I can truly offer and what I really need in people. I've always given too much attention to people who didn't really reciprocate this back, which always leads to situations where I silently suffer with my thoughts and emotions. After realizing this, I'll focus my attention on people who I can really connect with and who care for me.
Has anyone had a similar story? 🤔
Hi,I can so relate to this,at this stage I am withdrawing from people and it's not always good,what I do need is to find people who believe in me and who I can be a blessing to!May you also find those people in your life!
@Vintage Art sorry to hear you're also struggling and that you got hurt. I can only recommend trying to focus on putting yourself and your well being first. The right people will sooner or later come. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Give it time and things will get better, I believe in you, you'll figure it out. 😇
I can relate to all of you and i have a can of worms i can whoop out and pandoras box lol
Once it's opened, it's hard to close it.
I think many of us with softer kinder nature have been the caretakers of other ppl's problems and pacifiers, i always had to drop everything i did to save others, otherwise closest environment lashed out at me and made me feel guilt and bad about myself for not ficing their problems or lives.
I started to pull the handbrake roughly about a year ago when i turned 35 years old, I left everything and everyone behind, to start taking care of myself, note also that i have been in chronic stress, mental health & physical depletion and chronic illnesses emerging from eglecting myself and my needs.
I have been neglected all my life, always bread crumbs & inferior treatment, by ppl i thought had good interests for me.
Now i dont even know who to trust, i feel like rveryone is out to get me and i cut ppl off immediately. I have been alone all my life, now im even lonelier but at least I don't feel like im at the front battle fronts and being shot at or being used as a shield.
I am mentioning this, because i have given ppl so much love & kindness, to only being treated as a doormat or taken advantage of, and i think i give to othets, because i think we who are wounded, i feel broken, we are the ones that actually need the love, kindness and healing, that is why we give or do this yo others, we have not had any boundaries, so we sometimes think we are responsible for others or their wellbeing.
If i can advise you to listen to Dr Gabor Maté, Dr Caroline leaf, Marisa Peer, Louise Hay, and even some new person i came across; Jaques Fresco i think not listened much from him.
Atm i decided to isolate myself, ot out of fear, but to remove all labels, strip myself off of all false titles, narrations etc from others, so that I can rebuild and reparent myself. I have never been in a romantic relationship due to all my fears of abandonment qnd all abuse i've had until now....but no more!
Claim your power back and your birthright to live a healthy life ❤🍀
God bless & help us forgive & forget and move on to calmer waters 😊
I think this is my biggest issue too. And because I care so much about the people around me and how they feel and how they respond to my feelings, it makes me feel neglected and unimportant when they don't understand me. And I'm never able to take time for myself because I'm always worried about everybody else, so I'm never able to really figure out why I'm feeling so overwhelmed AND empty ALL the time
Jee vidim Cecha! :-)
Naprosto souhlasim! Ale vse da naucit, i kdyz to trva dele. Taky ted pracuji na tom, abych mela samu sebe na 1.miste. Lehke to neni, ale posun tam je! :-))
To all of those HSP’s here, don’t worry you’re still loved
Indeed. We are all
Right
Psych2Go 🤍🤍🤍
Yayea thank you
:3
Me reading the title: “I’m hard to love?!”
IFY
No, you’re not ☺️
YEAH WTF? Blatant manipulation lol
Legit HAHAHA
Same... like thank you Psycho2Go....
Lmao seems like I've never changed, pushing people away is the only way I can stop myself from overthinking and getting hurt
I feel the same exact way. I have no friends because I don’t want to get hurt anymore. Sometimes it hurts to realize that I don’t have a single friend, but I know that it’s for the better.
@@ThisBraveHeart don't give up though, there's always someone out there who can be a great friend to you and vice versa. I'm happy to say that I'm doing a lot better than before because I started focusing on my inner problems that I've been pushing aside pretending they don't exist and once I've faced them one by one and accepting my flaws I felt much better
you never walk alone love 💕
Me too lol
Omg same
Definitely a mixture between intellectual, sensual and emotional!
1) I always draw back any information or situation to existential questions trying to figure out the sense of life
2) I see more colours as a tetrachromat & have an extremely sensitive nose and ears
3) I am struggling to physically bear emotions because they are sooo strong that it makes me feel sick
Your experiences are spot on for someone like me. The very best explanation I've come across as of yet.
This is me exactly sometimes I feel so misunderstood it can be annoying at times😅😪
Thanks for sharing. How do you usually cope when others misunderstand you?
Lol bold of you to assume I cope when ppl misunderstand me basically I dont it irks me even more and I become even more emotional and hypersensitive
Same
Same
Same but next level no one has kinda ever seen my true self I have never met someone that isn't mainstream normal type of thinking kinda the good part is that there is people like me out there.
I get so overstimulated when dealing with other people. My youngest son is also a HSP. We keep each other in check sometimes. My other two sons are the total opposite.
Thats kind of the same for me. I most likely have HSP and my sisters are the total oppostie. But I don't like to share my feelings with people most of the time.
Do you work better with other HSPs?
Psych2Go I would say yes to a sense. We know each other strengths and limits easier than someone that is a little more outgoing. But sometimes I have to double check myself so that I don’t bring down the other person, if I know they are highly sensitive as well.
Could you guys do a video on what affect two HSPs have on each other/how to tell if someone else is an HSP? I love all your videos btw!
Personally I like the title because “love” is an action and a choice. We are all difficult to love. That doesn’t make any of us unworthy of it.
Such a good positive attitude Courtney! Love it!
Love that💕
Well said!
Wow. You are one beautiful human courtney, i hope you know that..have a good life♥️
As an HSP, exactly the way I look at it
Being a HSP has caused me to hate myself. I'm just learning to be content with who I am. I want nothing more than to be able to do literally anything without caring or worry about what other people think of me. I cry multiple times everyday about the smallest of things. My biggest fear is crying in front of people, even people I'm comfortable with like my mom or brother, because all I imagine is them saying "Here goes this crybaby again🙄" Im scared of people thinking I'm this vulnerable, naive crybaby.....I am one....but I don't want people to know that. I'm scared of being a pushover, saying yes when I want to say no, letting people walk all over me and giving them the benefit of the doubt when they don't deserve it. One of the worst parts about being a HSP is being surrounded by people who aren't. Nobody understands you, even those who try to. Can't tell you how many times I've heard someone say "Its not that serious." Can't tell you how many times I've tried to tell MYSELF it's not that serious. Trying to take constructive criticism without feeling hurt is hard. Try to share your feelings without obsessing over wether or not it will offend someone else is hard. Try not to be a people-pleaser is hard. Trying with every bone in your body, not to make it look like you care or that you're hurt, but being unable to stop the waterworks from coming and think "I failed again" is hard.
I feel the same exact way I’m afraid of telling people these things too and I don’t have any HSP friends so it makes it harder to tell them how I really feel.
as you grow this gets easier. try journaling and giving yourself an outlet to express everything
I understand and felt allll of what you just said. It is hard navigating life especially relationships being an HSP. I am only on day one of even hearing anything about HSpersons but I feel so much better knowing I am not alone and neither are you! Believe me, I know how tough it can be..I too have a hard time loving myself for being such a sensitive person but try to find the beauty in it as I am trying to do starting today. Don't worry and please know that you are not alone!! We are special people. :)
I thought I was the only one!
Omg!!! Same happens to me :'(
"HSP are hard to be loved"
( from societies that are damaged, deceitful, or simply too busy making money that people take barely or no time to discover how we function. HSPs actually love and love even too much very easily, however this love is mostly directed to others, rather themselves ;))
Ssosooooooo true
Exactly
This was so spot on. Being an HSP has been pure hell- Especially at the work place . I wish there were more of us around
Yes, extremely difficult.
Work place is literally the worst
Please no, there needs to be less of them.
@@samuelhakansson6680 Hurtful...all us HSPs should just commit suicide eh?
Put yourself in environments with more HSPs. Ex. careers in the arts.
Me: attends school disco
*1 hour later*
friend: "why are you crying on the bench outside?"
Me: trying to hold back a emotional outburst whilst attempting to explain why im on the bench outside
*I left 20 minutes later*
This is me too lol
Same but I don't show it I act that I enjoying it, I'm really shy person.
Nice profile pic
Me at prom. Bc I picked up that the group I hung out with in yr11 didn't really like me. I got this confirmed a few days ago by a mate who was in that group but he did like me as a friend but wanted to be in that group so kind of had to side with them... So... Yh.
Hollowed Vessel it’s panic at the disco not panic on the bench out side and leave 20 min later
I’m an HSP. I really dislike this title. Saying someone is “difficult to love” isn’t true and it’s not fair. We already feel bad enough, and I think this really could have been phrased better.
I'm probably an HSP as well. I didn't necessarily get upset by this video, because if there's bad things about us, there's good things too. Also, it just adds more depth to me as a person. Sure, I am struggling with these things in my life right now, but I know what I need to do. I'm just not sure if I'm brave enough.
I wasn’t upset by the video, I was upset by the title and felt it could have been phrased better. Saying someone is “difficult to love” is extremely degrading, HSP or not.
lol
Ealdy something funny to you?
Boo-hoo. Life is not fair. Deal with it. 😁
I'm an HSP. I was always told I was too sensitive by my parents; my brother's wife; some friends; my kids, and ex-husband. I told my boyfriend I thought I'd never find someone who could fully love and appreciate my personality. He tells me the one thing that stands out about me is my compassion for others. I accept how I am, and understand there will always be some people who will see my personality as unpleasant. I curb it when I'm around most people who don't ( want to) understand me, and I give freely to those that truly appreciate me as I am.
❤❤❤
How do you control your emotions?
I am an HSP, but I pretend like I am not. I don't show others like I am vulnerable or naive, but I feel like I am dying inside.
But I want to fall in love with an HSP too, because I know HSPs fall harder and understand you emotionally on a deeper level
you'll never find one if you keep hiding a crucial side of your character, you can't hide something so important neither feel sorry about it. be yourself for god's sake! (I'm a HSP as well)
I tried to fall in love with an HSP. Turns out he was a narcissist. After research, I realised that narcs can also be HSP's. In fact they become narcs also bcz of their sensitivity which they couldn't handle bcz of circumstances. the flipside though is that my relationship with him was deeply fulfilling.
Highly sensitive x iNFJ x Introvert life is so hard
spkringyu ୨୧ yes!!! but i also think it’s incredible to be like this, we see life in a more beautiful way :)
I'm infp and feel the same
Periodt
that's me! but yes sometimes I don't even try to explain how I feel :(
that's me! but yes sometimes I don't even try to explain how I feel :(
4:41 "You make everyone else's problems your problem"
I always put other people needs before mine and it has taken so long for me realize that I have to take care myself and to put myself before others especially after realizing that people won't do the same for me. Personally one of the best but also worst things of being a HSP is that i'am so empathetic.
This is a great idea - tell highly sensitive people that they aren’t loveable - because they aren’t sensitive enough!!!
no one said those people AREN'T loveable.
it's just hard sometimes
@@flauschekotze Did you read the title and hundreds of other comments in this thread??
@@jacquelinehowell1485 sure I just think it's sad that a lot of people here more tend to "give up" so soon/ don't see their own quality, than just accept how the are and put hard work into love.
highly intense love is just such a beautiful (sometimes draining) thing.
I'm curious if people who get offended by those statements, a more likely to victimise themselves and I feel really sorry for them.
(hope you could understand what I meant. I'm not a native speaker)
Many will cry after seeing the video
the creator has it as well..she’s just educating us, but i get what you mean.
I hate this about myself, honestly. Emotions suck sometime. Being hyperaware and hyper vigilant is freaking exhausting. It makes me so angry that I can't turn this off or feel like I will never get better and get "rid of this".
I feel those ways, too. I feel doomed.
It is exhausting, and discouraging at times. But you do make the world a better place, hope you know that
@@bradleys_cousin2 I want to! Thanks 😊
I love this art style! Who ever did this deserves a pat on the back!
Yay! We will let our animator van know! She recently joined the team. Do you know anyone who might also be interested?
Honestly this video is when a HSP is in imbalanced relationship dynamics... I’ll explain why for each number! 🙃
1. Absorbing emotions - If the other person distances themselves as a result of essentially absorbing the HSPs emotions this triggers those with anxious attachment style... It’s a fine line between stonewalling and genuine need for space. If genuine need for space is needed it should be done when both parties are not in a highly activated emotional state and should be communicated as clearly as possible!
2. Perceiving every detail - rather than see how there’s likely a bit of truth in the details seen that most miss the HSP is gaslighted and if the idea that the HSP is seeing things that aren’t there becomes internalized, the HSP then becomes out of touch with their intuition. Anyone who studies microexpressions quickly learns there is a lot of validity in subtle and lightning fast emotional output. But honestly most people aren’t capable of that kind of transparency because most of the word operates from a highly unconscious state 💭
3. Catching lies - Big whoop, we’re not interested in being around inauthentic people. Only a problem if you’re surrounded by fakes. I feel for people who have families built on lies tho. 🌧💙🙏
4. Taking things too slow - that’s a boundary thing and honestly anyone who’s ever been screwed over would understand the need to slow things down. Pressuring someone is no bueno.
5. Getting overwhelmed too easily - JUST HANG W INTROVERtS
6. Need alone time - here the fault is in the HSP, definitely communicate when you need time alone to process and integrate sensory input. Going MIA for days in your close relationships is a shitty thing to do if you just ghost your loved ones haha 🤨
7. Conflict adverse - The state of our world currently does not see the value in conflict because conflict at this time is used as a way to cause further separation and disintegration. If a conflict has truth and understanding as its goal then this is a non issue because any other things that could stem from that conversation, especially hurtful things that carry on a conflict beyond the original point of contention is not necessary. Poof! There goes your fear of conflict
8. Lack of self care - if you’re hanging around people who know how to meet their needs you don’t need to be putting them above yourself 😓 This does NOT apply when you have pets or kids or plants that are actually dependent on the HSP.
Awesome points! And the getting overwhelmed easily thing...geez haha people just thrive better in different environments and have different needs. If you’re with someone who makes you feel bad for being overwhelmed (which is super uncomfortable)in a situation society thinks you should thrive in but you don’t typically do, and they don’t care about your needs, it might not be a good relationship
Your last point is an interesting thought, I really appreciate the insight as this is a big issue for me. I've never seen it that way.
A+ for details
If you are not a therapist, you should become one. I loved everything you wrote! ❤️
This was so helpfull! Thanks! I struggle soo much with number 6.. A guy I am dating just texted me why he doesn't hear from me and I donnn't knowww what to do
Throughout my whole life I've always been called a crybaby and someone who over thinks *way* too much.. Its starting to click. I related to all of these.. To a part where it actually kinda hurts tbh..
Look into #actuallyautistic
Cause, same. I rethink now my whole life
@SMILE GIRL same its annoying like cant i just have an emotional heart that yall pretend yall dont got
True
Same, we'll get through this..
As an HSP, I can relate to this in many ways. I remember talking to a girl over text for about two weeks while getting to know her, and then a week later she wanted to end it. We both liked each other, but she told me that she doesn't want to deal with a sensitive person. To this day, that still hurts me because I already have enough emotional struggles in my life and that most girls that I've tried to talk to either feel the same way about me as that one girl did or is in a relationship already.
This is why I'm so scared and angry to even try to ask someone out or get to know her because all the negative memories would crawl back to my mind, and I often beat myself up over it because I wonder if I ever did anything wrong or if there's something really wrong with me....
Im sorry you had to go through that one day you will find the right person everone is not the same so that was them you just did not get to the right person yet dont give up maybe its harder for a guy not sure being a girl for the most part my boyfriends were suportive try not to let it hurt you so much i just means it was not meant to be but dont change you the right person will like and except you for it hope this helps take care
I'm sorry you experienced that. I have the worst time dating as well. You're not alone.
My boyfriend sent me this............
What a cute way of saying that I'm an emotional burden
No, that can’t be correct. I think he must love you
Lmao
I think more he meant to tell you with it that he understands you and even as a HSP he loves you just the way you are..
Yeah .. He loves you
May be
I am used to being on my own, I just recently realized I am an HSP but it has been years that I have just known that I might never find "someone", even just a best friend to me seems unrealistic. That's why I love animals, my cat is a great companion.
This is so me :"
I ❤ BEING DRAMA FREE
and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Sweetie just use law of vabrationa and law of attraction. It changed my life . I used to think like u too but I have got a new view of life🤗. Look on them and learn to use them .I promise you want regret it 😉
Agreed.
At first I was a bit sad to see that I’m ‘difficult to love’ as an HSP, but by the end of the video I felt a little more understood and it warmed my heart :)
I was an HSP for much of my childhood and adolescence. I had all of those problems, including being conflict averse. I agreed with everything my classmates said in order to avoid their wrath. Instead, I kept my opinions to myself and built resentment, which lasted for 22 years.
“You need too much space” I’ve never felt more called out in my life
Dear sensitive people if this vid makes you feel there’s something wrong with you love yourselves you’ll see how is not that difficult at añl
Muchinoi it’s harder to love other first, try it you’ll se how you’ll end up depleted 🤷🏽♀️
@c1981 because it's hard to love yourself when you feel like so much is wrong with you
I can relate to everything except the ‘don’t like to party’ stuff. I like to go out with friends and get totally silly. Idk it lets all my stress out. And the not standing up for yourself. I stand
Up for myself but i do hate conflict.
I m like that as well.....but I also don't always take the blame on myself and say sorry a million times to make up with someone when the fault was not mine.....and i am not good at catching lies.....
You must be an extrover highly sensitive person
nishant chugh i guess so :)
@Black Weirdo i can get the context of facial expressions in a normal convo very much...i do percieve, the uncontrolled small facial expressions ppl give away, quite good.....but in lying peple are verryy practiced lol....and the other important point because of which i give peple benefit of the doubt is that i dont want to act against them until i am sure that they are lying.....because i dont want them to suffer because of my DOUBT, I am ready to suffer until I am sure...
So many factorss....its funny..
Same!
What may be interpreted as weekness can be your ultimate strength. Learn to embrace them and you can navigate more easily through life. I too, fit these descriptions of an HSP. Over time and the difficult personal challenges that I have experienced through life. I have learned manage better relationships, whilst empowering my sensitivity. Needless to say, it is not easy in today's society.
I’ve recently discovered I’m an HSP, and it’s been like a weight lifted off my shoulders. For years I’ve wondered why I am the way I am, if I overreact or being too sensitive and needed to toughen up my skin like everyone tells me. Knowing now I’m an HSP I can feels like I can finally explain to people why I am the way I am :)
i recently discovered im an HSP and i'm laughing at how accurate this is, my boyfriend told me he feels bad when he's sad bc it makes me feel really sad if he's sad and thus believes he caused it. also, i want things slowly and not too much physical connection but rather emotional, but he is a physical lover. i usually dont talk about my opinions or when im mad at someone, it tends to backfire. my boyfriend told me to love myself and take care of myself bc he realises i always try to take care of him first
I am an HSP, this happened so often, except to my bestfriend. When she cried, I cried. I am HSP + Introvert so relationship is not an easy one and I never date anyone.
Same
Raka Paramita exactly! sometimes some guys have thought I was a simple person, but in reality, I’m a little complicated. I suffer from body dysmorphia, anxiety, and social anxiety, my current boyfriend had to learn and grow alongside me in order to help me. we’re at an age of exploring more intimately, but I’ve been hesitant because of my dysmorphia. still though, I’d feel bad and would force myself a lot previously, it caused me multiple breakdowns and periods of isolation and unhappiness. I finally opened up to him about it, and he understood, which made me so happy, as he knew I could be there for him in different ways from what he can do for me.
Jenna isela It happens and it’s completely okay! Don’t force yourself and talk with your significant other, they’ll surely understand if they truly care and love you :)
Right
This is totally accurate for me. Especially the parts about taking things too slowly, being easily overwhelmed and being conflict averse. Thank you for this video.
I love how this channel upload videos showing the negative sides of sensitive people and empaths as well! We're not always super good and have our own toxic traits to deal. Specially the traits that are very toxic for ourselves firstly, rather than to the people around us. Anyways, it's nice to be aware lol
Title is bit tough ESPECIALLY for HSP. Ironically kind of insensitive....
Decopainterandtea Well Said !
I guess she is just being honest
Not really because the creator has it aswell..
It is harsh. But not untruthful
As an HSP it's weird to not know this fact before hand because HSP are observant, of others and more of themselves. So if you didn't know you're probably not even an HSP. Because some people might think of themselves to be sensitive (out of narc traits, or other) but aren't really HSP, no offense to anyone, just a fact.
The only thing I have in common with this is number 3, I take honesty too seriously and I usually catch people when they're lying and try to disassociate with them
That’s an admirable trait to have in this day and age.
@@domo201 yep
Oh hey here you are hello again
@@florapetal811 wdym?
I agree with you, but I've also found out that the world is built on lying & withholding information. So, it doesn't give you a favourable view of society.
We’re not hard to love. We have higher needs and expectations but are also bringing an abundance of love and compassion to a relationship. Our needs will only be matched by people who are patient, secure, and kind hearted and if you’re chasing away those that aren’t, who cares? Because of my being an HSP, I eventually found a wonderful spouse who I’ve been happily married to for 16 years and ran off everyone else not worthy of sharing my life with. I call that a win. Long story short, you’re all perfect and not hard to love at for the right people.
Can you tell more about it? Please
Sushma tummala what would you like to know more about? 😊
Thanks for replying but when you have seen a wrong relationship in the past is it difficult to find right one in future too,because you become paranoid and dont trust anyone and be single all your life?
Sushma tummala before my marriage, I was involved (on and off) with someone who was physically and emotionally abusive for years. I know it’s hard but I’m a firm believer that we look for the love we think we deserve. In other words, at that time in my life I did not feel I was deserving of love therefore excepted an abusive relationship. Once I realized and excepted the good things about myself, I only excepted the kind of love I now have. There will always be negative experiences in our lives so we have to teach ourselves to see past those to see and create positive ones. 😊
I'm an HSP, and every point in this video rings true, especially the part about self care. Many is the time I've tried to "pour from an empty cup", probably even more that I recognize. And it's difficult not to feel that taking time away - investing in "me time" - isn't selfish even after learning its value.
I am an HSP and I have been studying and learning about stoicism. It has helped me so much in changing those difficult traits of being an HSP.
My partner and I both have like 98% of the HSP traits in different areas. This makes our relationship extremely emotionally tiring at times because we both tend to get stressed with our own problems but we both also fight so hard to work things out and the love and attention we give when we're not stressed is just amazing.
This lowkey validates the « i’m unloved/ don’t deserve to be loved » 🥺
Nah! Its just gives direction because now you know that you may need to be around others who "get" you, understand, and can show compassion.
You're not crazy! You're just very perceptive and sensitive. Be aware, be smart, and find people who truly are good HSP's and find some confidence and trust. They're people and not God. They can shoulder this world with you. :)
I can relate with every single point, and it feels good! It feels good to finally understand what is going on with me. All my life people would tell me, that I am the problem in every issue. I was literally hated for asking questions, becauss I saw things , that people did not want anyone to see. Espacially when parents are fighting and then tell you, “everything is fine.“
I grew up believing, that there is something mentally wrong with me. Until three years ago, when a therapist looked at me and said, “You are a HSP. You have never heard about it? Well, how are you supposed to control it, if you do not even know what it is?“
Finally knowing and learning about HSP and basically myself feels amazing. And I hope, that one day, I will be able to relax and enjoy being around people.
PS: I have learned that something like “it did not mean anything“ does not exist. There is always a reason for a slight change of ton or facial expressions.
I do relate to this video except for avoiding conflict. In the past, I would run away and move abroad to avoid conflict. Lately, I have learnt to embrace confrontation. Its crucial for emotional growth sometimes and it feels, its going towards a path to self acceptance. I used to also allow extremely narcissistic people to make me walk on eggshells ( my mum for example) I used to be imprisoned by feelings. Now I express them. I have noticed how bottling feelings used to make me ill or over eat. But worse, it can make others assume that they could disregard our boundaries. Now I am like f it! This is me. Like Ella sings: love me or leave me... Take care of yourselves! A big hug!
I truly resonate with this. I’ve been trying to emotionally grow out of this emotion people pleasing mindset because it has allowed so many people to walk all over me and looking back and even now I’m so sick and tired of letting that happen because of my emotions and avoiding the conflict. I want to attack it head on and just say f it and say what I need/want to say so I can avoid being walked over. I’m working on it so hard but I’m struggling and I just want to change. Being sensitive is consuming me and it makes my life so difficult, having relationships with people whether that be romantic or not. It’s just so frustrating and I want to be better.
I’m an HSP who falls for people too easily. If I find someone unique in my own way of perception, then I’ll give them the world right away and it’s often a colossal mistake... it ends up with my boundaries being overstepped. What’s more, people often compliment me a lot at the beginning but once they know me better, they claim their right to underestimate me and call me out and laugh about my ‘sensitivity’. ‘You need to grow up’ etc ...
Same 😭
That title I honestly find offensive. I understand HSP's may often be difficult to understand and therefore interact with - but saying they are hard to love goes waaaay too far! Imagine someone saying to you "It's so hard to love you because you're sensitive all the time" or some crap like that. My advice: Don't be with someone who says that. It's not harder to love HSP's than it is to love someone with any level of sensetivity. What's hard is being with someone who doesn't accept you as you are.
Please correct that mistake. I don't want any HSP thinking there was something wrong with her/him or it's "harder for them to find love". What a load of duck poop.
@Jackie Bruhn Thank you so much for the kind response! :)
@Jackie Bruhn Hey uhm, I know this might come completely out of the blue for you and it's something I thought might be helpful. You opened up about how bad it felt to read the title and getting all the negative implications behind it. Now I'm honestly not anywhere close to self-acceptance yet. However, it looks like the way to not feel bad about any judgemental stuff is to not believe it. So to get really "bulletproof", it takes believing there's nothing wrong with you... Which I know is super difficult but yeah it helps me as a goal.
Sorry but for most people they are harder to love. Just because they are harder to love than the average person doesn't mean their impossible to love or you should leave them becuase their hard to love. If you actually love someone none of this matters to you
@@Twiti47 I understand that in terms of numbers, HSP's generally have fewer compatible partners.
So other people won't find them "harder to love" instead they'll tend to not be as attracted to them. They're just not a match and it's nobody's fault.
And you're right if you love someone, you don't love them less because they're an HSP (or a person of any level of sensetivity for that matter).
I think what going on is people mean to say "HSP's are generally more difficult to have a relationship with and they're more difficult to understand than non-HSP's."
That's true for non-HSP's a.k.a. most people.
What's very judgemental, offensive and untrue is to then try to make it short and simple by saying "They're harder to love". Loving a person is not easy or hard, love just happens or doesn't happen. Relationships are what's hard.
Yeah, I thought that too and posted my own comment about it. :/ Especially since this video is ABOUT highly-sensitive people! Like, bruh! They're literally called "highly-sensitive people", and you tell them they're "hard to love" and somehow expect them not to take it personally?? Watching the video helped a little since it eventually became clear that they meant "love" as in "have a nice, long, stable relationship with", but they definitely could've and should've worded the title better.
Omg! This video is spot on! At this age i think it might have been best for someone like me to have stayed alone. Everything is so difficult and a constant struggle especially when surrounded by people who do not understand or maybe cannot understand, most of the time i feel so foreign. HSP are rare.
Both me and my husband are HSPs and it's a blessing and a nightmare at the time haha. Especially the "you feel each other emotions AND experiences them" and oh the "need for space" are so true.
Make a ‘What Makes a Highly Insensitive Person Hard to Love’.
Highly Impulsive, you mean?
Yeah, insensitive unobservant people are the ones with the problems, not HSPs
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@@vmarieself amen
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This is wholesome, thank you for that
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this is the cringiest thing I've ever read yet I needed it so badly and my day is made, thank you
I cannot believe what your content has unlocked for ME! TY so much. It doesn't replace therapy, but it can keep you making new discoveries that help you feel more comfortable in your body/environs.
Psych2Go: "Very emotional people are hard to love"
Me: *Becomes sociopath*
Psych2Go: :0
It's hard cause the majority of the population isn't like this I guess.
HSP tends to become sociopaths from trauma.
@@MrMisanthrope_ Only trauma I get so far is people being mean to me online on a kid game that I play.
@@paulinalane14268 same especially on fortnite I have trauma from that trash game ever since then I been scared to talk to people online and outside.
Justinduthy Smith I play fortnight too but I am not that addicted to it since I am always bad at it. It’s nice to hear this from someone who has the same problem as me. I hope this problem for both of us stops soon. ❤️💕
People love that we love hard but they don’t expect us to hurt hard too.
Say that again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And it’s twice the magnitude of the love given/healing offered. I constantly try to coach myself so much through moments of hurt/fear/disappointment/betrayal to lessen the magnitude of hurt, to make lovingness more bearable. Because at the end of the day I damn sure know the world needs us HSPs.
It's so weird how all these things are what I do and I never realized I was a HSP
I thought Being sensitive didnt even have a name "HSP" well I guess now I know who I am
Thank you for the video 😊
💠This is what I've learned in my
life as an HSP:
🔸If this trait has reached this point in human evolution is because it's a USEFUL trait.
🔸It's necessary because mediators are the ones that PREDICT the positive or negative consecuencies of the present emotions and behaviours in the future.
🔸We retain all the emotional information of the community and then SMOOTH the conflicts.
🔸This emotional SUPERPOWERS are hard to manage.
It requires practice and time to find the correct balance⚖️
🔸Many times we can lose control of this "magical weapon" and it can hurt instead of cure🗡️🛡️
🔸It's important to control the urge to overthink everything.
Many things and behaviours are very random and are not that important to spend time on the details.
Just move on whenever you can 🧠
🔸Conflicts and argues are part of life.
All living beings have differences and need to settle things to resolve them and move on.
🔸Hiding or evading a situation is useful sometimes but, it could also lead to resentment in both sides.
I’m an Empath so I can relate to these things. However I do understand that there is a difference between an HSP and an Empath.
Some ppl need titles to fit in..
The fact that being an empath is not a real thing and being highly sensitive is. Being a empathic being means you were raised right and have normal feelings, empathic feelings like most humans have the tendency to experience. Besides that there is the irony that a lot of the "empaths" on the internet lack insight in other personalities and don't understand others, especially when the other has less empathy. So thinking you understand a feeling because you can link the other to an experience you've had is different then reading/understanding others who are different from you.
empath
/ˈɛmpaθ/
noun
(*chiefly in science fiction*) a person with the *paranormal* ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual
I mean the difference is one is real and the other is fiction, hate to break it to ya bud
Me: being HSP, really introverted, INFP-T and cancer........
I feel you bro, though my personality changed from INFP-T to INFJ-T somehow
hawkai the personalities are kinda similar but if it really changed... take a test again! I took in 2 years ago and this year and I am still INFP-T
I'm also an INFP-T! But somehow, my zodiac sign (sagittarius) gives me the strength to face the hard times & lifts up my mood in a mere night or 2 days after (I really thank my zodiac for it. It helps me balance myself). Sometimes, my fiery, sagittarius personality comes out too much that it changes the "I" in INFP to "E" resulting me behaving like an extrovert 😅
@@hawkai_4761 aren't INFJ's one of the rarest types?
@@devashrijoshi9079 they are, but what's funny is that my mum also took the personality type test and it turned out we're both INFJ, making us 2 in the same home :D
The “don’t like to party/overwhelming places” hit hard. At lunch sometimes I will just leave the cafeteria and go straight to the spot where me and my friends hangout because too much is going on around me. And I always have to stand in a certain spot so that I can see the entire area and know that no one can sneak up behind me
Wow thanks so much that title really hit hard. Sure I’ve watched like 3 of your videos about hsp’s and I relate to almost everyone of them… but you don’t really need to put that. It already made me realize it more.
I found out I'm an HSP through watching these videos, they describe me to a T. I used to get bullied when I was younger for all the times I would cry. I still cry a lot today, but luckily my partner is very supportive of me. Its really comforting to know that I'm not the only one who experiences these things.
First of all, I'd like to say that I am in love with the art style.
Second, I can recognize that a lot of the things mentioned in the video are how I am behaving.
I didn't know there was a specific term for that.
The only thing which I don't see in me is the first one "Picking up on every emotion". It can make a difference on how someone is feeling, but it isn't influencing me in any way.
There are a lot of people who don't know how to take care of people with HSP and this makes some days pretty difficult
I found this hard to watch as I personally relate to all of these, but starting to understand that it doesn't make me a bad person
I was a really hard baby and my mom realised I was an HSP, and since then I have continued showing all the signs of it. I love being an HSP, but I hate how vulnerable it makes me, since I was used by my narcissistic father all my childhood and teenhood, and I guess I’m scared of being used again. And sometimes it can be overwhelming, being an HSP. But I also love my sensitive life, love all the intense emotions I feel, and being an artist, it is really helpful. I hate conflicts, but I never avoid them since that feels even worse. Instead I always confront people, if I have enough relationship with them, so that we can get the conflict over with in the same day.
Being an HSP is so damn tiring, but I'm proud of it somehow❤️
It is indeed, but it has also very beautiful sides to it too.
Me too. Though we feel disconnected with the world. The way we feel deeply , makes me feel good. It's like I wouldn't want it other way.
i actually love being highly sensitive because it allows me to get creative and inspired very easily and i end up writing some beautiful things.. :)
@@LadyLazarus1027 exactly. Does your name has a meaning, it seems good
gamer360 it’s actually the name of a song that i like from the band kamelot, check it out if you don’t know them :)
Thank you for the videos! It has changed the way I see myself and constantly wondering what's wrong with me. Most of my life I've felt lost and alone and not knowing how to express what I feel. If you guys had time could you please look into the topic of children with HSP who experienced abuse as well as parents who committed suicide. Thank you again for your time to putting these together .
"As an HSP you're very guilty of not taking care of yourself"
*is watching this at 2:30 am with apile of dishes*
me:ummmmhhh
Its 1.50 am
*looking at my trashy room I wanted to clean and my school work I wanted to do*
Me: fuck.
your comment has just made me realized i'm not taking care of myself....
I had/have the experience of falling easily for a person with HSP. I'm releaved that the video says it can be one of the most rewarding relationships I'm ever in. I'm on the fence, but I really really want it to work. So thank you for the encouragement.
I immediately teared up when the HSP was between the arguing couple (parents). Too close to home.
Origin story of why I absolutely HATE conflicts
same
My wife and I have both been accused of being too sensitive enough times that I made a video about it! And started watching videos like this. I didnt even know their was such a classification of "HSP" until very recently. I think it is dangerous to blame too much emphasis on someone being an HSP because it may just a few steps away from gaslighting.
I can relate to most of the 8 things, but as a guy, I’m often made to feel weak by others comments because guys “shouldn’t be” sensitive and emotional. I know that’s “Toxic Masculinity” - but I still feel that most women want and expect their guy to be a strong unemotional man.
You go man
I know right
I like the title, I immediately related and want to understand why this can sometimes feel like the case in my life. It will help me be mindful of others and also help me blame myself less, for we a re all different. Also, it's psychology, nothing applies across the board guys.
Thank you psych2go xx
1). Picking up on every emotion
2). Perceiving every little detail (changes in tone of voice or facial expressions)
3). Catching lies
4). Taking things too slow (usually based on past experiences)
5). Getting overwhelmed too easily
6). Needing too much space
7). Being too conflict averse (avoiding conflict at all cost)
8). Neglecting your own self-care (putting others before you)
You look so cute with the leaves on your heaaaad 🥺🥺🥺🥺
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As a highly sensitive person (or empath), I can say that most HSP would notice that that person is acting WEIRD. Nobody scratches their neck like that when they are happy and calm.
This made so much sense... So many things that I recognized. This made me cry, because I am totally emotional frustrated and tired and some of these explanations made realize why some people said some hurting stuff...
Imagine being a HSP while working at retail customer service💆
This was scary! It's too damn true, it's like you were reading a description of me. Thanks tho for this video
This is a dysfunctional HSP. I’m a highly HSP. Learned my gifts and understanding them better, still learning. Some HSP can be connected to the magnetic energy of the moon. Which helps to not be so overwhelmed in situations. Please do not be serious. That’s the worst you can do to yourself. Just understand your own feelings,and also connecting to your inner child in having fun. Which creates more of higher and healthier frequencies. Have compassion for those others too. Yes we can spot out lies. But choosing to not react and focusing on inner love for yourself, it will draw you to other people who won’t lie.
The way I see HSP is that we are just intense feelers. When something bad happens, we cry, we overthink it, we try to move on and we get frustrated. However, when something good happens, we become very happy and we stop worrying for a moment. I always hated myself for crying so much, (especially when I cry in front of people it feels so humiliating). I was always told I was too sensitive and that I need to stop overthinking. Now, I understand myself better. HSP are good. You are good. It's a beautiful thing that your emotions are strong. It's cool to see the small details in life. All HSP are beautiful and are the opposite of being "hard to love".