Woman Says She Gives Out Her Phone Number Because Some Men Cannot Take Rejection
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- Woman says she gives out her number to men if they ask and her husband isn’t around because some men cannot take rejection and also so she can make it home safe.
*I MEAN WE DID JUST SEE A MAN STAB TWINS OVER NOT GETTING A PHONE NUMBER* 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Damn Ass Shame!!
I was going to say the same thing.She gave him her IG instead and he still killed her its frightening.
That made me really sad the fact that he waited out of the store to get his revenge is really evil
Where were they.... Stay away from them
@@DanitiaAfonsoewaall men are evil to me and can't be trusted
But i thought women were the emotional one!
Right😅
Yep
Most of these idiots don't realize that anger is an emotion.
Exactly
Men are overly emotional and emotionally unstable
I used to wear a fake wedding ring and tell the guys my husband was a crazy cop. Worked every time.
I should try this one lol. My method was to say i have six kids wih different men..... It doesn't work on some men 😢
Lol! These same men that are saying they don't want you to have a high body count or be a single mom. The silliness is getting pathetic.😂
i used to that as well
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@@Alice15210 some dusty is going to be like “can I help you make number 7” 🤢🤢
Nah. I've been choked and forced to give my number before going home from school in Chicago. He held me there and threatened to beat me if my phone didn't ring (if I gave me a fake number). They will kill you for saying no...
Women NEED to keep speaking on the violence, harassment and fear men put them through on the daily until the world is tired of hearing about it like we are living it.
I rejected a man on the Metra, in broad daylight, and he pinned me down on my back in the seat. He was on top of me with all of his weight and no one did anything while I screamed. Some people started leaving to go into another car, and a woman just sat diagnally from us watching. It was one of the worst experiences of my life.
So sorry you had to experience that and I agree we need to keep talking about it. Thanks for sharing your experience with us ❤️❤️
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I really hope you are doing okay and in a much safer area. They are crazy and feel entitled. Smh
There weren’t any real men on there if none helped you. Society is sick.
I am so sorry that this happened to you.
Women and men need to live separately. But, Women will never push it that far. I am so sorry for what happened to u. What happened to u? Was not about rejection or saying no. This is about control. And men feel entitled to control Women.
My life instantly got safer as soon as I stopped going to clubs. There's nothing there but creeps and predatory males using the dark and substances to take advantage of people...
So true
I never went to clubs and bars because i can’t stand obnoxious, unruly and belligerent drunk people. But this is probably why I haven’t really experienced getting harassed by incels as much. I also rarely go anywhere at night by myself. The only time i’m out alone at night is when it’s for work or letting my dog out. Other than that, i stay in the house at night.
facts.
@@anonnnymousthegreatKinda sad women can't go out. Women can't leave their houses it's been normalized too much.
They slipping Mickey’s in women’s drinks.
I don't hear ANY of the so called "good guys." Even making videos saying that Men need to be checked or stopped. Which proves my point Get your Gun license because these "good guy's" are afraid of the same MEN we're worried about. Save yourself!!
And get gun owners insurance as well!!!
It pays to clean the crime scene, your days off from work going to trial and for the lawyer to represent you in the event you need to use your gun!
Exactly. That's why I can't stand the "not all men" argument.
Yes have both, gun license and gun insurance as well as a lawyer
VERY HEAVY on the “afraid” part! Nice Guys ™️ are a bunch of punks and weak cowards who find it easier to shame and punch down on women because they can’t even defend themselves from the men they’re resentful of! They wouldn’t dare step to men’s faces about how they treat women. They rather point the finger at women instead of looking in the mirror and addressing the REAL problem!
@@AniWho268 do y'all make videos telling women not to financially objectify, disrespect, or falsely accuse men? I thought not.
These men are unhinged. I try to avoid them at all costs . Gay clubs have been safer for me.
Same, but they go there too- it's time to strap up
@@77kc_77RIGHT! They are worse than mosquitoes. Like ugh. Everywhere
@@melpho3635 I even came across several working at a woman's refuge. They were creepy and too comfortable there as well.
@@hopefulfortomorrow1039men shouldn't be allowed anywhere near a women's refuge. It's for women.
I love gay men and drag queens. I’ve loved since I was young. But I love them now more than ever. We have GOT to embrace them! They are OUR allies!!!
I’m in the US and I don’t go to any urban based functions. If I pull up to a corner store and there is one Dusty standing outside of it I put my car in reverse. I am a homebody and I do my groceries curbside or delivery. It is a shame women have to go this far to be left the Hell alone.
Same all my groceries are delivered
this is all me 💯
I remember seeing a video from your country. Where a nurse walked into a convenience store to by wine after work & 5 guys started harassing her. It triggered a bad memory. I realized this is not just my country, & women are unsafe everywhere
Same, sis.
Yep! Black people have called me anti-social for YEARS and I’ve always said Yep! I don’t do urban events either. No picnics, stores, parties, etc. If there’s men loitering outside I’m not getting out the car. No gatherings. It’s always some mess going on or waiting to happen. The energy is trash.
I love being at home and out of the chaos.
Priscilla, a woman having children does not stop a lot of these men either. They just want to add themselves as another baby daddy.
I have been followed out in public whilst with my child. Effing creeps they are.
Yes true but when I am with all three of my kids they shy away abit as compared to when I am alone or with one of my kids and that’s just my personal experience it might be different for other women so I get it.
Being visibly pregnant doesn't always deter them either. 🙄
That’s true some of these men are just something else.
@@Lokian_Mermaidomg my son is 8 now and I remember being 35 weeks pregnant and having a guy straight up say "I love pregnant women they deserve to be dated" 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ at that time I was already in a relationship and that man really said "well can I be your friend you call at night" DUDE IM PREGNANT, HOT, BOOBIES LEAKING, ASS ITCH, ELBOW ASHY PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE 😂😂🤦🏾♀️
So true, I give them my husband number, and I tell them what time to call. So far so good. Men can’t take rejection- u say NO and they freak out. And ladies it don’t matter if your married, men today have no respect. Ugh. 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽😞
That is smart! My only fear would be that sometimes they call on the spot, if the wrong one calls who knows what their stupid response might be.
Smart move but might want to be careful because of male agrusion and what if the guy tried to come to your house.
Smart move. When I get a bf/husband I should start doing that.
@@hevabmore I say it is my home number, I don’t have my cell with me. 😁🤷🏽♀️
@@daishawilliams8301 how would they know where you live.? 🤦🏽
Be cautious about even handing out your number, as they might be able to use it to find your address...
Exactly. Use a google number.
I was thinking something similar. They could start harassing you or spitefully signing you up for nonsense that will get you countless spam calls.
@@KRW3321 They can do it on the burner number harass you there
I have a Google number that I give to them. I've memorized it and all. Men actually call you as soon as you give them the number to see if it's fake. The abuse I've suffered for my number is REAL. 😢
l agree
When I was younger a man asked for My number. I said no politely and he asked me why. I was uncomfortable to answer truthfully but I continued walking. He then followed me up the street shouting loudly and saying i was full of myself trying to intimidate me. It was during the day also. In the end I gave him my number just so he would stop following me. I had to change my whole route home after this as he would shout abuse because I blocked the number. I didn't even know this man. I was only 15 at the time but this is Nottingham uk also like one of the ladies mentioned in the video
You didn't owe him an explanation- he should have accepted the rejection and moved on
So sorry that happened to you. Glad you were able to protect yourself. I wish we didn't have to go through this.
This is why I never tell them out right I’m not interested I know the abuse will start. It’s textbook. I gave my number to someone last week immediately regretted it blocked him and now I’m worrying about if I bump into him again. Imagine worrying about someone verbally or even physically attacking you just because you didn’t
Text them back. The reality we live in 💀 my crush didn’t text me back, I’m still polite to him and respectful lmao
He is the one that's full of himself thinking you have to like him back.
How will this same person expect any friendship with a woman???
I started wearing sunglasses and a face mask when I’m out. They’re less likely to approach you when they can’t see your whole face and make eye contact with you.
Every day and everywhere. Mask and sunglasses. 😅
@@queensavage9896 even your profile pic 😭😂
So sad we have to do this so many men are worse that animals
Smart move 😀
The stitches made me angry for the women.
It's heartbreaking 🤦🏾♀️
What is so crazy because my male friends they don’t seem to understand and I tell them if I’m in the area by myself or there’s a limited amount of people around that don’t know me and a guy asked me for my number and I said no ,he hits me ,I can guarantee you ,me being a black woman nobody will run to my aid
True they will just stare and do nothing.
Maybe said males are not your friends if they can't understand the obvious, even after your explanation.
Those guys are not your friends.
I'M A SINGLE WOMAN...SO I LIKE TO BE HOME BEFORE THE SUN GOES DOWN. IF I LEAVE THE HOSE AT NIGHT. I'M WITH A FRIEND OR SOMEBODY...BECAUSE I HAVE CHECKED THE AREA I LIVE IN OFFENDER LIST AND THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY PREDATORS IN MY CITY. NO I HAVE PER SPRAY, A TAAAZY, CAN FIGHT, HAVE PERFECT AIM🔫🎯. BUT I STILL DON'T WANT TO RISK AN ATTACK. MOST COME UP BEHIND WOMEN. OH I FORGOT TO MENTION THE LAST TIME SOMEONE ASKED FOR MY NUMBER IT WAS A DUDE YELLING "EYE CAN I GET YOU NUMBER FROM ACROSS THE STREET I PRETENDED TO BE ON THE PHONE. THEN REALLY DIALED UP MY FATHER. 95% OF THE MALES IN THIS 🌍 HAVE MADE IT UNSAFE FOR WOMEN. AND IT'S SADLY GETTING WORSE. THERE ARE GUYS ADVISING OTHER GUYS ONLINE 🍇 WOMEN WHO REJECT THEM. AND THOUSANDS OF LIKES...BEATING ON WOMEN WITH 🧱 FR BEING TURNED DOWN &THEN SOME...LADIES BE CAREFUL OUT HERE FRFR.
It's not that they don't understand, thru don't want to nor care to. It's a choice.
I bet if those same incels that harass women get the same harassment from gay men, they would feel unsafe and uncomfortable like women feel when they approach women unasked and uninvited.
I hate to say this but it’s the incels who behave like this. That’s why even though women complain about players and f boys, they are not much of a threat to us, they can get women so they don’t tend to hassle one woman. Plus they have big egos so if you reject them they won’t even pay you mind again. But a lonely man who can’t get women is going to get nasty eventually. And instead of working on themselves to become more desirable to women they become destructive towards us too. Confident men are safer than insecure ones. The most masculine men I know do not behave like that they keep their emotions in check and I hate all these buzzwords but it’s the only way I can describe it.
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For me a massive red flag is if a guy is ALWAYS worried about "looking gay" that man is violent fs.
The worst thing is when older women minimize the problem because they dealt with a different calibre of men or/and they just don't get harassed anymore. These are the same people that get annoyed when they are called 'out of touch'.
They think it’s not a problem because it doesn’t effect them ignorance is bliss hey
YIKES!!! I'm Gen X and I definitely see the issues. I was only 10 when predators STARTED to OPENLY flirt with me and I barely looked 8.
I remember men and boys getting their entitled feelings hurt because I wasn't interested.... Especially if getting called out to from a car. Then the "F yous" start because I rejected them and hurt their entitled egos.. 🙄🙄🙄
@@Lokian_Mermaid I guess it depends on where they live. I can see harassment being a big thing in America especially the hood in those days but harassment has only become dire for us recently.
@@hopefulfortomorrow1039
I wasn't even in the Hood at the time. But it was on a very busy street with all kinds of ppl driving by. I was 17 and at that age, I looked 13. Demons everywhere.
My heart breaks for you that such cursed behavior has ended up making its way over to you. Infections spread if not contained and stopped. I pray that you are able to stay safe. ❤️
I have some stories from my youth, and we used to give out fake phone numbers too. However men seem to have become way more agressive these days. I can remember that there were many situations where other men stepped in to stop someone from doing something stupid, and it seems that this is not the case anymore. E.g in the situation where the girl at the club was grabbed by the hair, in my youth at least one other random guy would have stepped in and would have told that man to leave her alone. Maybe men have stopped having male friendships and going out with "the boys", so they are not checking on each other's behaviour anymore? I don't know what has changed.
My friend got a bottle thrown at her when I was in college .. ever since then .. I was like omg .. I’m gonna just give the number and block later
Yes! I had a "gentleman" flick his lit cigarette into my face when I rejected him.
I love your picture ❤
I have a Google number that I give to them. I've memorized it and all. Men actually call you as soon as you give them the number to see if it's fake. The abuse I've suffered for my number is REAL. 😢
@@AlyssaIrvine thank you 😊
@@mogulmade exactly they do .. I just give ., with me if you’re not stored in my phone .. I don’t answer the call
They approach me at the gas pump, grocery store, gym, restaurant AGGRESSIVELY panhandling and asking for money and when I say I don't have it: they start calling me out and screaming. "yes, you do you B, you owe me." I hate going to the gas station, but it can't be avoided, and I live alone. It's getting dangerous for EVERYONE and it's men from ALL demographics, doing this, it doesn't matter. Ladies, if you can in your state, please start carrying. It's the wild wild west.
I don't think East Asian men mostly act like this but they will eventually since they are becoming a monolith. I use to feel safe around South Asian and Arab men but they have become extremely creepy too.
Its time to move to a different area hun. Thank goodness I don't get harassed at gas pumps. That's crazy 😳
A young lady lost her life in south London. A young man was attempting to give a bunch of flowers to a young lady that she did not want to accept. The young man had a knife and used it. Very traumatic for that young lady’s family.
Yeah that was so so heartbreaking.
If she was carrying she would have been here
@@77kc_77they aren’t allowed to carry.
@goddessakina we aren't even allowed pepper spray in the UK
She was only a school kid too 😢
I have a fake phone number that I exclusively give out to men for this reason. Just use one of those apps.
If I like/trust him, he graduates to my real line
I don't entertain men at all so I don't give them false hope- 🤷
Exactly. There are plenty of apps that have free phone numbers. I have 2 apps with different lines on my phone. Works like a charm.
@@77kc_77 honey i get u r point.but some men are so aggresive and egoist.but i agree with u i would the same but some ppl live alone and scared and its not safe they could follow us, stalk us and harass us also could beat the shit out of us coz they are physically stronger than us
If it's a no,ITS NO! and If they touch you,bring out your little electric friend
@@Srijakonduru9 I'm going to use my 2A point blank and period may want to carry
It's disgusting & disturbing that I can relate to this. They hate us but they want us at the same time.
Which makes them hate us more.
They want us to ruin us. They want s*x, service, and destruction. That's why they come to us despite hating us. They want what we can give, they don't want who we actually are.
They only want to satisfy their animalistic urges, that is all they see a woman as.
After that story about a woman nearly getting her eyeball bit out her skull because she said no thank you to a man… I got and memorized a Google number.
I have been SA'd in a club, (many years ago) just walking past a group of men, I've had a bottle thrown at me when I was 9 months pregnant and a pit bull set out on me for rejecting a man.
This is not nearly an exhaustive list of how men have acted violent towards me. They are predators and I avoid them if I can.
Ma'am what are you doing in a club 9 months pregnant??? Of course going to a club will increase the chances of you being SA'd.
@@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee9531 😐
@@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee9531 i’m pretty sure she was talking about separate incidents (1. SA in club, 2. bottle thrown, 3. pit bull).
Also, being in a club is not a justification for SA. it’s wrong no matter who or where it happens and is ALWAYS the fault of the perpetrator, not the victim. women shouldn’t have to stop having fun and living our lives because men can’t control themselves (which is literally the point of this video)
Thanks for the clarification. I'm not justifying SA in clubs but when people are wasted, you will get SA by anyone. It's worse nowadays because women are likely to get SA'd by other women too. Thanks to the lgbt movement. And now you got trans women using the women's restroom. Anything can happen.
I have literally NEVER been SA'd by a lesbian. They don't even treat me differently when I reject them. Thank you for clarifying the obvious 😐
I live in Brooklyn N.Y it’s a war zone for women I’m single and no kids so I can’t even use kids as an excuse smh be safe to my ladies worldwide 🙏🏾
Hey, I'm in Brooklyn too. Get Bear spray, it's technically not illegal here. You can get it from a sporting good store. Amazon won't deliver it to NYC. Whenever I go down south I bring back a ton for friends.
I literally move around at night like Voldemort in the woods when the centaur found him sucking on unicorn blood. No feet, just cloak, floating over banisters at the speed of light. I walk in the shadows. No tight clothes. No makeup. No cleavage. NOWHERE is safe.
True. I always feel safer when I’m covered up, wear a face mask and sunglasses too
@@DearStephanieX damn RIGHT!
It’s best not to give a man your real number either. Use Google voice or Text now or another phone app. I’ve had a man stalk me for years. I blocked his number and he kept texting me from fake numbers. Your address and social media is attached to your real phone number. It’s too dangerous to give out your number to strangers.
I put myself in a bad predicament by making a Google number on the spot. When it went to voicemail, it announced that it was a Google number & he got angry. Luckily, I was in a crowded Walmart, but I had walked there so I was scared to walk home. Had to call my dad. Moral of the story: Set the voicemail up in advance & call the number yourself to make sure it doesn't announce.
The culture conditions them like this. Once they reach pre-puberty, the culture has more of a hold on them than their parents.
My new favorite thing is demanding to be taken to an expensive restaurant. Like ok pick me up here we are going to this restaurant i exprnothing less. When are you free. And they cant get away from me fast enough.
😂👌🏽
You can make it even worse by inviting them to church, they’ll run away from that too 😅
Good thinking 😂
That Jamaican man from the movie Belly literally grabbed my neck and pushed me into a wall at a club because I rejected him.
I was once walking with my sister (around 9 at the time) and this little boy around the same age as her just came up to her and hit her. I wanted to hit him but we were outside his home so I yell at him until he starts crying _then_ this woman comes out their compound and asks him what's going on. This _child_ had the audacity to say he hit my sister because she didn't smile at him 😒, they start this ish so young.
This just blows me away.
Wow!!!!
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Mom is being abused. No kid just does that. He's mimicking what he sees in his home life.
@@juanita_rocksteady2761 Mom doesn't care enough to correct her son or leave. She only came out because her pwecious thon was being yelled at.
I remember using a pay phone years ago and a car full of hood dudes pulled up behind me and one dude asked for my number.. I shook my head no and turned back to face the pay phone Then I felt something hit my back and something started falling down all over me... They had thrown sunflower seeds at me the bus was approaching and they drove off laughing. Although I wasn't hurt I thought about what else could have happened if the bus hadn't showed up.
I had a man pull a gun out of his pocket because I wouldn’t look at him when I didn’t give him my attention I drove off so fast the scariest thing I been through in my life ladies please be safe
Omg! Glad you’re okay.
@@paperorpaper thank you 🙏
These men are crazy these days 🙏
I had a man threaten to mug me for all my donuts simply because I ignored him when he was asking for one. I had my large pink headphones on and that still didn't keep me safe from these men demanding my attention through violence. He knew my kind were the expensive Voodoo Donuts, he was some young local bum in Portland OR asking a block away from Voodoo Donuts when I was just on my way to the light rail there. I stopped a cop that happened to be driving up and told him the situation, I even pointed to the guy across the street on tge corner. He listened and just drove past me. Even the male cops don't care about a female threatened like that.
@@user-ly3li3ex8c smh that’s sad the cops don’t care we all need to become licensed to carry it’s scary out here I’m scared to go places alone at night if I don’t have to go I wait until the morning at lease someone can witness or the altercation can be caught on camera
The man who said he owns a shotting class and was offering a free shooting class for women literally made me cry 🥺🥺💙
We need more men like that. Theres so many cowards out there who turn the other cheek and dont intervene because its not their "business".
I have done that multiple times over the years. Now in my 30s, i try to establish a boundary and say no. Then they ask u why. Don't you have no shame sir?
Some of them look so rough and they don't approach you nicely, nor try to have a conversation first but asking u for your number. What reason did you give me to want to give u my number?
Thank god for this place where others can relate because I’m tired of been called too sensitive, or too dramatic for worrying about my effing safety. Getting home safely as a woman is an underated blessing and it shouldn’t have to be 😞
They really get mad when they’re trying to talk to a girl that’s really not what they usually go for and she rejects them. They lose their minds. To them the woman should be honored that they tried to holla at her in the first place. How dare she say no.
Stop being afraid and practice your 2nd Amendment rights. If you live in a state where you cannot move. I as a blk woman refuse to live anywhere that I can't protect myself. Be safe out there ladies.
And be sure that state also protects women’s RIGHTS
Those states that protect "women's" rights are the states that does not protect your 2nd amendment right.
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And men wonder why us women stay to our self they are too scary to talk to
Ive been doing this for about the last 15 years. You can't say no politely bc they think bc you're being nice that somehow no means yes. You can't be mean bc that can get you killed or assaulted. You can't say you have a bf or are a lesbian bc they will just say you're lying and continue to follow you and harass you. So I learned the best way to avoid all of that was just to give my number and get out of there with my life and without being worried abt being harmed in any way. Smh
Have you tried getting a Google number? I think there maybe personal safety apps that supply fake numbers.
@Wonderwoman79G Yes I have a Google number
Even if I'm not mean or rude to men, I also try not to be nice to them. I've gotten into trouble being nice. Too many of them mistake basic social decency for romantic/xesual interest. Just because I smiled at you and said hello doesn't mean I want to sleep with you! It's called civility.
@Wonderwoman79G Yes I have a Google number
@joylastname3035 I was telling a male friend about this, and he told me I was wrong for saying no nicely. That when I tell men no I can't be nice about it bc they will think my nice no somehow means yes. But he was speaking to me as if I had done something wrong for being nice. Why should I have to do all that? Why can't no mean NO no matter how "nice" it's said. Men have taught us that we can't be nice to them and then get mad at us when they approach us and we have an attitude. Well you taught us we needed to not just say no but say no in a mean way. Otherwise, you think a nice no means yes. Damned if you do damned if you don't. Smh
I have switched to my native language, complete with a heavy accent to get a man to leave me alone. If I can't speak English, then you can't talk to me,right?
I've also had to take out my wallet to show a man photos of my husband and son to prove I was married to get him to leave me alone. I had a bigger wallet back then, so I had passport sized photos of my family in them. Then, the ones who start insulting you for saying no. When I'm out, I tense up when a man speaks to me cos I'm already thinking of ways to remove myself from that conversation safely if things go sideways because some of them believe you owe them just because they said "hello" or complimented you.
I love the native language tip thanks ☺️
I'm currently learning sign language. I'm not deaf, but I just might start pretending to be when approached by these guys.
I may try that. I will start rambling at them in my language and they'll likely think i'm insane if they aren't my race or leave me alone if they are the same race.
That’s a great idea! They can’t talk ish to you if you can’t hear it. 😂
@@RobertaS127Some of those predators will try even harder if they think you're deaf because they'll think you're easier to take advantage of. I watched a video where a woman did it and the dude looked even more creepily excited when she started signing.
The way I don’t venture out in the dark. I have just as much fun in the daytime. I’m not going into dark spaces with HOARDS of men. This is so scary!
No, is no as a liscened carrier if I feel my life is in danger- I have the right to use my 2A. Sorry , not sorry !
Absolutely. All women need to carry.
@@Childfree334 Where I'm at - not playing with these dudes and going through hoops and loops
@@Childfree334 somebody's son will be on a T shirt 👕 I'm not playing with these men / males
@@77kc_77and that’s on period 😂 not on a tshirt I’m crying 🤭
@@haahmayan9637 yes girl some of these dudes have mental health problems need serious help
I had a incident were me and my sister were at a grocery store and these two guys kept asking me for my phone number and when I said no they started accusing me of being too good for them and i told them that I was 16 at the time but they didn't care one of the guys tried to grab my butt and when he did i yelled and my sister came around the corner with her boyfriend and her man handled it well for now on when I'm by myself and if a weird guy starts hitting on me and I'm not feeling him i will give him a made up phone number.🙏
Do you remember that incident in New York that made the news about a woman at a liquor store buying wine, and they were 2 men beside her at checkout. One of them offered to pay for her wine, and when she refused,politely at that, they attacked her outside. One tried to bite her eye out. She was also bitten on the forehead and severely injured. They asked her if she thought she was better than them. That's all it boils down to; men believing they're entitled to any and all women and a woman saying no is her challenging his "god-given birthright."
I was 9 or 10 the first time I was followed by men in a car. It's happened many times since then. Fake engagement/wedding rings are typical accessories for most of the women I know. Just a couple of days ago a man was trying to get my coworker's number and had to be told that we had called security to get him to leave. And there was still a dude nearby that tried to "not-all-men" us while we were trying to assure this coworker that she did nothing wrong because he took issue with her saying she was scared of men who approach her most of the time. Dude just decided to insert himself into the situation, not when the other guy didn't want to take no for an answer, but when his delicate feefees were hurt over a young woman saying aggressive men scare her. It's infuriating!
Damn how are we supposed to date safely if they cant take being rejected from a stranger...Imagine being a girlfriend and wanting to break up!!! This is sad...Please seek help!!
This is my whole point and why I darent risk it, if someone can’t handle not being texted back imagine how they’d handle being broken up with…
Imagine your whole soul collapsing over hearing no. Where is the escape hatch from this godforsaken place?
I remember so vividly (THIS IS A CORE MEMORY FOR ME BTW) at 14 years old i was sitting at the bus stop heading home. A Honda Civic with about 6-7 guys packed in it stopped by me, the passenger asked for my number, i respectfully said “oh no thank you im ok” he continued to berate me about my number and they all started telling me to get in the car with them (mind you im 14, these guys look like grown men), I did the silly giggle & look around nervously thing we women tend to do when in uncomfortable situations. They rode off cursing me and calling me names, i was like THANK GOD (grateful to only be met with name calling). A few minutes later they ride pass me again and throw rocks, dirt, sticks, and some kind of juice on me while laughing and calling me more names. In that moment it dawned on me how evil men could be.
Think about it! I don’t know if these men had sticks, dirt and rocks just in the car with them (I’d hope not) so that means they pulled away from me, pulled in somewhere, got out the car, picked up all kinds of dirt and stuff, CAME BACK TO WHERE I WAS, JUST TO THROW THE STUFF AT ME?!?!?!!!! GROWN MEN!!!?! They took all that time, effort, and energy out of their day to embarrass me simply because I didn’t want to give my number to one of them or get in the car with them…
I was 14, I’ll be 30 in one week and this memory has stuck with me vividly for many years. It was one of many core memories of how dangerous and hurtful men could be for little to no reason.
You're right, the thought process they went through, just to embarrass and degrade a child. The fact that they didn't even care you were 14 is also a terrifying thought, they definitely wanted to do worse things, why are soooooooo many like this😢.
@@neoloanderson6676 literally and I wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt because I did “mature fast” if you know what I mean but I even had my high school shirt on so regardless yall knew I was a child and y’all decided to embarrass me cause y’all got y’all feelings hurt 🤦🏾♀️
@@sj5218 I understand your benefit of doubt, but like you said your were in a school skirt, I think we tend to make excuses, because we can’t understand how they are so wild and thoughtless, especially at 14, we can’t comprehend why they behave like this, 2023 and 2024, we are really getting clued up! 💕
And this is exactly why women should carry. If they can’t accept that no means no, and attempt to harm you or put your life in danger, be prepared to protect yourself by all means.
The right to defend our life will still cost us our lives behind bars. Getting a gun is not that easy especially if you live in certain states. How about we tell men what they need to do to stop this behavior!!!!!
So glad I live in a stand your ground open carry closed casket state!!! 😏
The only way they will stop is if they have an incentive to stop or men actually come together and make them stop. They don't care what we say. Feminists have been telling them for over 50 years and if anything they do the complete opposite because they hate the idea of women telling them what to do.
Thank you! Plus this is global and not everywhere you can carry a gun!
I live in an open state honey - have a concealed weapon and license
@OGfromQueens Facts same hey sis 🤠 👢
I say I’m a lesbian I use to say I’m married but they started looking at my ring finger. I remember a girl got shot years ago for not giving her number out where I’m from
This is why men think women are playing games - I'm lesbian for real and men don't take women like me serious- men don't care about that
That don't work either
I've tried saying i have a girlfriend, that im a lesbian, but I've had men act like they don't know what that is! Even had a guy say "women cant be gay" lmao
@2:00 Most time i tell them my bf pays my bill checks my records and is crazyy. I've been saying this for 10 yrs and not one has gave me trouble over it. I think the convo is over when I tell them he crazy. If all else fails I tell them that he's here now and look around panicking. So while he looking behind his back..I run off fast 😅
This is golden
Love this 😅
We really need to raise boys differently.
We need to stop birthing so many they're so problematic
They tend to act like this is because of their male peers and the music they listen to. Parents can only do so much and there comes a point when listening to your parents becomes uncool.
WE? 😂 Males are going to male regardless. It's proven that males listen to other males before females in general. They do what they want.
@@hopefulfortomorrow1039 Exactly 💯
Better
Beware posting your personal matters on the internet, peepz. There are a lot of mentally unstable loons or trolls that will twist your words to suit their agenda or just to amuse themselves. The internet isn't a safe space even this part of the internet. It is one of the many reasons why i'm apprehensive to even respond to stuff.
When I walk I my neighborhood for exercise, I carry a very long, heavy metal rod. Multiple times during my walks, men back up down the street or bust u-turns to talk to me (I’m looking crazy and sweaty). I have to square up and hold the rod with two hands. It still usually takes a while and several head shakes (No) that I don’t want them. They usually drive off slowly staring in their rearview or side mirrors. I can’t imagine walking around without it. 😠
Just remember that males have 40% more muscle mass than women, and if you have a contact weapon, they can take it from you.
Get strapped, ma'am. It's safer. Keep distance between yourself and them.
I carry a big can of bear spray. It shoots 30 feet and has a holster. And I carry a knife
Several years ago, a man harassed me at the gym until he got my number. He loudly asked me sexual questions and no one intervened even when he touched me. I eventually had to switch to a different gym…
When I was in college, my friend was approached by a man. She (kindly) told him that she was not interested. He shot her in the face. Now I always give men a Google Voice or Text Now number and block them later. It’s sad that women have to do that but these men are unhinged. It’s better to be safe and just give them a number. You can block them later.
Whenever I get asked, if they have not noticed the wedding ring, I point to it and tell them that I am married. If the still persist" you can have friends cant you?" I tell them I don't believe in new male/female relationships, and that my husband would not approve. Sometimes I even suggest giving my husband's number. That generally stops the pursuit.
There needs to be a law in place to prevent harrassment but of course most laws are made by corrupt men so that likely won't happen. It would have happened already if they weren't mostly corrupt.
@AllUserNamesAreUsed Indeed and i'm also seeing a lot of comments blaming feminism like these men weren't way worse back when women had no rights. They literally legalized women getting raped and beat up by their husbands just to exercise their power. What reason did they have to do those disturbing things when they had power over us if it is all about feminism? The truth is men have always had this false sense of entitlement and they do disturbing things because they can. Feminism and the other stuff just adds fuel to the fire that was already there.
Laws aren't really the problem. It's the lack of enforcement of those laws. Like you said, it's corrupt men. Even if the law is airtight, it only works if it's enforced, so better laws won't make any difference.
This is true. I will never forget sitting in the hallways of my college hearing girls on the phone trying to swat away boys who are demanding their social security number. I heard one girl call her friend and she had it on speaker phone and her friend was yelling "Girl, that boy is trying to violate you!" And I was glad that her friend was so supportive and strong for her, but I was shocked at how frequently girls had to deal with this getting her number thing.
If I didn't give you my number, try me. But a lot of younger women do not have the tools yet.
And even now, I have to be alert as I am older. But if someone doesn't understand how modern women are "bitches", man.....come on now. This is why. This is why.
No excuses for this shi.
literally had a man grab me and wouldn’t let me go until i gave him my number. we were in the middle of running to find a restroom and he didn’t care until he got my name and number. it was so weird knowing that a man will risk his own safety to overthrow a woman in the name of his own ego/desires.
Had to give an active gang member my number once 🙂, he wanted to hook up and then I started going into scientific and medical reasons with links to show them the consequences of hooking up with strangers and how it can be life threatening.
umm… he basically called me a weirdo and that I was too smart for my own good whatever that means 💁🏽♀️.
Other times this happened I looked them in the eyes and said ‘my daddy said not to give my number out to strangers” which hits different since my voice is super high pitched and throws them off 😂 most men ain’t about to catch a case as a p3do.
😂 I like the scientific links 😂
Women, I'm so sorry you have to go through this shit
You can’t give fake numbers cause they call you right there and then 😂 so these men know they may get fake number so they check. Basically the pressure women, indirectly threaten them to get number 🤬
They are dumb for doing that as well because even with a real number we can block them as soon as we get home. Smh
There’s apps where you can get a burner number that forwards to your phone
I've had this happen, and it's so scary. Now, when i pass a man on the street, I stay vigilent, avoid eue contact, and walk straight past them like they aren't there, so they don't try to stop me.
I feel so sorry for this. Crazily these things have never happened to me. I am 5’11” and always been about size 14. Men haven’t felt they can physically get away with assaulting me in public EASILY (probably think I wouldn’t be easy if I fight back). However ONE man called me a b in my twenties while HE walked away.
I had a friend that would get followed down the subway at night, presumably a man hoping to attack her!
I am convinced men are starting to actually HATE women to the point of assaulting them. Let’s make sure we train our sons well and hopefully get them a good father figure even if one of your brothers. These men are nuts!
Hunny bunny. Men have always hated women. This is why they were quicker to free slvs and let AA men vote than to give women rights. Hatred for women is stronger than racism. It spans across nations and cultures. It is timeless. The newer Gen is simply having a harder rime concealing it. Maybe 4% of men are actually good people.
Yes. This and also when u give out the number they will hold u HOSTAGE to confirm it’s the right one. It’s so scary. I just give out my number allow them to verify it and then just block them when I’m safely away. wtf r these ppl on. lol
Years ago I worked at Walmart as a cashier. After I ended my shift and was walking out towards the exit, a male customer dressed like some punk rocker (definitely not my type) snuck up behind me and hooked his arm in mine forcefully. I was shocked and scared. Thankfully, the 2 male employees saw what happened to me and pulled him aside to check his cart and receipt. This crazy dude looked like a 3 year old who just dropped his ice cream cone! 😂
Those guys were a Godsend fr. Because WTH
When I go to the club sometimes, I’ll randomly stand in or strike up a conversation if I see they are not comfortable with a guy that is talking to one of my friends.
I’ve even seen men comment under posts like this and say that it’s not true that this happens. Like who are you to deny a woman’s experience? You’re not a woman. Why do you feel the need to talk for a woman. It’s also sad how when a woman is attacked, nobody helps. Men who think like this really need help for real. Learn to take rejection and move on. And stop blaming women for men attacking them. It has nothing to do with what they’re wearing or where they are. Just like women, men know how to control themselves. These certain men choose not to and rather be predators. I know these same men wouldn’t want their daughters to be attacked or taken advantage of
Sadly Women have to unite and help other women. Due to women decentering men,men feel basic human rights shouldn't be extended to women anymore. I truly feel obligated to carry some sort of weapon now to help out my fellow sisters. Women Unite!!!!!
I’ve had men call me while I stand there.. they refuse to take no for an answer. It’s best to be safe and then just block them.
Politely declining doesn't work either, I still got cursed out. I'm already an inteovert, so once I got my car and didn't use public transportation/walk the street as much, it lessened.
i wear shades to prevent eye contact, a ring to pretend i'm married.
So many women want the male gaze, and I'm so relieved when I _don't_ get it. I do everything I can to _keep from_ getting it.
I heard in America that a twins sister was killed by a men because she say no about her number
Yes, this is true
My daughter at 14 said "We were born prey animals". It makes me sick how true this is.
Get yourself a ring. It could be real or fake, just buy a wedding ring and yell them "sorry im married." If they keep pushing just say, "I'm sorry i could never betray my king." Lol they gone respect that bs and leave you alone. As long as they think your attached to another man, they'll leave you alone
They don’t care about a ring/king. Some of the men approaching you are married themselves.
Some will keep insisting, but I found it works to put them in the shoes of another man. I’ve said, “If I were your woman, how would you want me to behave in a situation like this?” The guy respectfully backed off. If not out of respect for me, it was out of consideration for how he’d feel if his wife or girlfriend was out there getting hit on. Unfortunately, you have to finesse your way out of these situations.
@@KRW3321 Yep, they care when it effects them. 😕
And another thing there is another tactic they use to try and get your number. He will ask if you could call his number because he cant find his phone in his car. Be alert and careful out there ladies
And when Mary Crosby said she was scared of the black men hanging in front of 7/11 everyone got mad at her...but when they harm you..Then what!!
I just give em my dad's number. 🤷🏽♀️ And he already knows what's up, lmfao.
I've done it and put my man on the phone. They never keep the same energy! Treated me like I needed freedom papers, but became all soft and apologetic!
Women need to protect the 2nd amendment like their lives depend on it, because it does.
It’s the sad truth unfortunately. I’ve heard many issues it’s turned out the ways she’s explaining. I don’t blame her. She shouldn’t have to do that, but lots of the opposite sex, don’t budge otherwise. Lord have mercy on us all. People are really bonkers, and losing their marbles. ❤️🩹🤦🏾♀️🙏🏾
I did that once. Dude found me thru snapchat, foind my contacts, pretended to be someone else to get me to meet him somewhere. Bad idea!
In a Toronto mall back in the 90s, a bm approached a bw at the entrance and asked for her number (on a piece of paper, this is before cellphones). She said no she's not interested and tried to keep walking. He pulls out a gun and SHOOTS HER IN THE CHEST. These males honestly don't understand that just because you're interested in her doesn't mean she's interested in you too by default. You don't automatically get a chance just cuz YOU'RE interested. To this day, if I tell a man I'm not interested, he wants to know why and starts trying to change my mind or convince me to give a chance. If I'm not interested, I'm not interested. I'm allowed to be attracted. It's not 1 way
Yep this happened to me on my way home from work, u always think u will react a certain way but the amount of stories of woman/girls being killed for saying no is disgusting
I’m an older divorced white woman and I don’t even go to clubs, I’m 49 years old and have grown children and while it’s a relief to not be *as* harassed as young women out there .. I remember how bad that sucks it still happens way too much when ever I’m out and about on my own .. I wear a ring on that finger though it’s not engagement style.. I claim to still be married to my ex try everything in the book talk about my kids but all they see is my husband or sons aren’t with me now.. anything to keep talking to you.. pressuring for you to spend time with me.. saying they are gonna call the number and make sure it’s real.. honestly I’m a very middle aged woman who dresses conservatively and it still happens sooooo much.. wtf is wrong with so many dudes :/
A guy asked for my number while I was at work. I gave him the wrong number, and instead of taking the hint, he came back to my job to confront me about it. I can laugh now, but at the time I was terrified.
This is why my ass be in the house & when I go out I don’t give my number , most men aren’t approaching me asking for it anyways and if I’m out I’m usually in a group or with my man . I’m not obligated to do anything I don’t want to & I’m not going to do so.
Being with your man isn't enough. A woman in SA was hit with a brick by a man she rejected. She was walking with her boyfriend at the time. She had to get her eye surgically removed. A lot of guys are actually crazy. More and more of them don't care if you're with your man. Increase your situational awareness and make sure that you can handle yourself.
A young lady was just stabbed to death for not giving a guy her number and INSTEAD giving him her social media handle. Like got damn. And if you make up numbers, they call right in front of you. What am I to do? Take off running full speed because I know the number is fake..as kids, we'd always give guys the zoo's number. Those days are over.
A burner or Google talk number
@@tc-tm1my got all that on deck, lbvs.
I just give my number and block once they try to contact me. I juat do it so theyll shut up and leave me alone. I dont feel like dealing with an angry man just bc i said no. Ill be using my google number.
I have str8 up pretended to be crazy to get a man to leave me alone.
As someone the lives in the UK its worse because its illegal to carry any form of weapon for self defense, when i was working in a bar the route i took to go home i had to go past other bars and i remember my mum having to warn me to be careful because a girl got killed in that area for rejecting a guy, so i would walk automatically holding my keys between my knuckles and if they asked for my number i would just give them a social media thats public and put on a fake smile because half of the times these men would be legit titans to me, i remember i dude speeding down the road whilst i was about to cross, reversed into the side road i was about to cross so now im just standing there tryina understand wtf he was doing only for him to roll down his window to catcall me, the way my inner sonic said konichiwa and i ran across the main road (i know that was lowkey stupid but fight or flight kicked in) and just called my mum whilst making sure he didn't try to follow me in his car because trying to call the police and get in touch with a human is very hit or miss, i had a guy try to follow me and his friend appeared out of nowhere they eventually left and a gay guy that saw all of it and was already approaching (probably why they left) just offered to walk me home because of how persistent they was
I just give them my number and just block them when I start receiving msgs and calls from them once I get home. A girl in Brooklyn got stabbed in the neck because of this same issue. Sometimes you have to play along just to protect yourself
Yes, women have been doing this for years
you can't even give out a fake one, cause they test right then.
Ladies, get a google voice number. A burner. Memorize it. Use that
I give them our local police department number. There’s multiple ones to choose from. The area code is still the same. So they never know.
Many men call or text then and there to verify if it’s the correct number
I have definitely given out my number even though I didn't want to because I was afraid of the. Reaction they had to me saying no. Men are crazy out here
Get a Google Voice number ladies! Also...most of the time telling a man that you're married works...
No it doesn’t… 😂😂😂😂😂
Once you tell them you are married it just makes them want you more, I have worn fake wedding rings, told them I was married and it never worked.
Telling a man you are married or have a boyfriend does NOTHING.
Theyll say oh you cant have friends or ill treat you better than him
No it doesn't. You get the "what does that mean to me?" and "you can't have friends???".