My ex tried this. He started getting into the red pill movement and tried to implement rules for me in my own home. He was living in my home rent free. He told me he was the man of the house and he will do what he wants. I quickly shut that down reminding him this was my house and he didn’t pay for anything besides groceries. It all came to a head when I came home to him scolding me saying I took to long to get home and he wanted to dinner in the next hour. I don’t know where he got the audacity to do this. But in that moment, I just told him to pack his things and get out because we were done. You will not believe how fast he backtracked saying he was joking. And he has nowhere to go. And I can’t throw two years down the drain. All the excuses in the book. But I did not budge. He refused to leave saying he would claim squatters rights. I just simply called my dad and my brothers and they came over and assisted him with moving out.
"Assisted him with moving out" is gold.😂🤣😭 But also, did that audacious fool really wait for the real men to show up to "assist him with moving out"? Embarrassing. No sense of shame whatsoever.
"What's your is mine, what's mine is mine" is why men see a divorce of taking 1/2 of HIS stuff. He doesn't see her as anything else but another commodity he can stick it in & isn't worthy of stability. They would rather see women homeless than to be without them so now that there's hobos-xuals everywhere they're getting their karma. Don't let stray dogs in unless they have 4 legs & a wagging tail.
The guy I am dating now said one day he wants to live together in my house. I told him I believe in separate homes are best for long term relationships at our age (I'm 53). I'm not about to mother and care for anyone at this age. I like my free time, space and starfishing in my bed too much.
Ladies who starfish have entered the chat! That's a big reason why I could never live w/a man (I'm 42) cuz whenever I think about it it's always pick which side you sleep on. HELLO ALL sides ARE my side + ALL the closet space!
I don't even let them sleep over - 🗣 GO HOME ROGER!! I had one come over and started playing music loud and was refusing to turn it down. Kicked him out. This is my home not a frat house.
@@queenlcq7901 Exactly! Cause that's what it was giving. A person who has freedom in their own home doesn't need to come and make noise in mine. Come to find he lied about living alone and lived with his sister. Felt even more justified in turfing him 😊
Ugh - I get it! Guy I dated casually was playing loud music as well, dancing around acting stupid, on the front and back porch trying to be seen like an attention wh*re, and the pièce de résistance - leaning half of his big body on my granite countertops - scrolling on his phone like it’s a counter at a burger joint. Sir. No - Man-child - get ta steppin’!!!! 🤬🤬🤬. (He also kept angling to move in, thank God I wiggled right on out of that situationship!)
My friend married a few years back, they live separately. When I met her I asked why. She said she’s used to her own space 🤷🏽♀️. If I ever decide to get married I’ll do the same. Ideally the house must be substantial enough (mansion sized) so that we can both live comfortably in separate quarters of the house or at least separate bedrooms. I’m not living cooped up with no man. Also, if all you want is companionship, there’s no need for a man. Instead, get some friends & a pet. Animals are loyal, men aren’t.
When he moved in I had him get a post office box for his mail. When things started going south, I warned him staying out all night could end our relationship. When I had enough I waited for him to leave that day, packed his stuff, rented a storage unit, moved his stuff into it, took pics to show it was in good shape, and kept a copy of the rental agreement. Then went home, changed the locks, taped a note and a key to the unit on my door explaining where his stuff was and he was paid up for a month. Sent a copy of the note and rental agreement to his p.o. box return receipt. When he called cussing I invited him to take me to court. Of course, he didn't.
I refuse to let anyone live with me. I live in a nice neighborhood, in a 4-bd 2.5 bath, full finished basement on a 1-acre lot. My former partner and I were LAT (living apart together). He had his own home before I purchased mine and we never lived together; his bills were his responsibility, my bills were mine. One other thing to consider; it can be dangerous if a woman lets a man move in and she tells him he has to leave. He may decide to become violent. This happens all too frequently. Stay safe ladies. ❤❤
Please continue spreading this message. It boggles my mind that women don’t refer back to their upbringing, the news, or sociological observations, police records. MEN ARE THE SOLE REASON OF VIOLENCE IN THE DOMESTIC SPHERE
This has happened to lots of women, then she's to scared to call the cops. She had to have an exit plan to leave her own home. She finally calls the cops and moves out of her own home. If she doesn't move out, he will come back when he gets out of jail.
i remember when i started speaking on the LAT move and people looked at me weirdly....i was soo ahead of my time lol i swear!!! i tried living with 2 men in whole life and every since i been living alone i will never live with another man!!!nope u stay in ur home i will stay in mine and we can have sleep overs lol IM SOOO SERIOUS!
People think Hobosegguals season is fall, because they want to stay through winter, but I met this guy in spring. On our first date (He wanted to come over to my house, to see where I lived. I never invited him over to my house, he followed me home) After he saw how big the house was, he asked me if I wanted a roommate. That was all the red flags I needed, this guy was living in his car, I didn’t know that. He kept texting me all summer, begging me to hangout. No Pookie.
@@PandaHead602 They’re trying to get in your house, because if they live in the car, it’s hot and uncomfortable. I never thought of that, that’s why I’m taking my time, and focusing on myself.
6:34 what do women bring to the table? Mofo we are the table, the kitchen, the entire house. Other than taking years off our lives and making us ugly, what do you bring to the table?
Happen to me aged me fast as Hell now were divorce trying to get back my youthful look I had when I met him has been so hard,I owned my house as well Sold it to get rid of him also
One of my best friends is about to move her hobosexual boyfriend into her small 1 bedroom condo. She's even spending thousands to "get more organized" and "make room for him" in the condo. 😭 She won't listen to reason and says she doesn't want to be "lectured" even by friends of ours who have been burned by the same type of situation. A smart person learns from their mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others. Be WISE, not SMART!
You have to let her learn her lesson. You can warn people til you’re blue in the face,but if they won’t listen they won’t listen. Some people just have to learn the hard way
@craziebarbietalks692 I learn from watching others, I don't need to make the mistake myself. I try not to be hardheaded and pay attention to wisdom. But not everyone is like that and just like you said, apparently my friend is the kind who'd rather fall on her face herself. I've never taken care of a man and don't need to to know it's a bum position, I watched enough women do it and saw them all get burned 😵💫
And these are the men who talk down on women who buy their own homes 👏🏾 Talking about they'll only buy when they have a family. Right 😂 And we were told our standards are high when we said have your own house AND car, sir.
@@mine332way069 a lot of men truly see women as damsels in distress. however, woman on the daily are showing them that it's not true. so their brains are glitching. they were raised to believe that the majority of us need saving. now their dreams of being the knight in shining armor are being dashed. they can't cope.
I have NEVER lived w/ a man nor do i desire to. I'm 30 & take pride in my space & privacy. I've been asked "Dont you want someone to come home to at the end of the day?" I sure as hell dont. 😂
Get a pet, then you can happily tell them you have someone to come home to, and the pet doesn't even expect you to cook a whole dinner for it and do its laundry.
I was told by my mom and grandma that you don’t let a man move in with you, never give a man money, and if he can’t afford to buy a house for you both for your marriage, you shouldn’t marry him. I’ve lived by this, and they were right.
If I own a home and car and a man doesn't, that is a complete red flag and stops me in my tracks. I immediately walk the other way. NEVER entertain men who are not on your level or better. I don't know why women REFUSE to heed this advice. My boyfriend (nor any man) will NEVER live with me. If he becomes homeless for whatever reason, he better go find his mama because my house is a MAN FREE ZONE (except when I need something repaired.)
That's what I'm talking about the main major 4 criterias if you want to be with me ! # 1 Job and money they both goes together ! # 2 , I DON'T SHACK , # 3 have a CAR because you're not going to be using mine !! if I don't have a car I can use YOURS from time to time here and there . # 4 I don't have a joint bank account with you you got me Twisted it ain't happening .
They are way too desperate out here that’s why. Like how are u a whole home owner but dating a man that doesn’t even have his own apartment.🙄🙄🙄🙄They are desperate and make delusional decisions that expect that we women are gonna have empathy for them. How are GROWN women this delusional. I just can’t.🙄🙄🙄🙄
Yes they do, I encountered a white hobosecsual a few years back on a dating app. Kept asking me about my home, how many rooms I had, who I live with & if I needed a house mate. I blocked his number twice because he kept contacting me on different phones lol 🙄. Last I heard he moved back in with his mother, he’s 35, with a decent job but couldn’t afford to a home. It’s tough out here ladies & men these days are getting desperate 👀.
The bottom line is don’t date a man who is financially irresponsible. If all of your family and friends warn you about him, listen to them. There are worse things than being alone.
Don't move in with a man. Don't take care of anyone who isn't your ride or die bestie, a pet, a plant, or your own child. If anything, the stories about women buying homes together and being platonic life partners sound like the absolute dream, especially if you don't have the means to buy a home on your own.
I would also tell anyone don’t EVER move somebody into your home including brother, cousin, friend . Check the laws in your state but a guest can quickly turn into a tenant. You will have to evict them to get them out.
I made this mistake. Letting a coworker hobo redpill (didn’t know) live in a spare room. I’m so traumatized from the experience, I can’t even talk about it. 5 years later and I still get random texts and vms from this dude. No reply. Just keeps coming back.
I on the other hand had a male friend with a spare room . I moved in and on putrpose didnt sign a lease so i can move out at ANY point if I decide he annoys me, which I did xD
@@kattodoggo3868 good for you sis. We won’t be making those mistakes again. This dude would beat his meat for 6 hours a night, loudly. I could hear the damn smacking sound. Soooooo traumatic.
I almost let a casual friend come and live with me for what she said would be a little while. But then I remembered one time that she turned an event for me into an event for her/her friends (who were absolute strangers to me), and I thought better of it because that showed no consideration. Plus, it was out of my character for a start. I have a 4-bedroom house, but I don't want anyone else living with me. I love living ALONE! And I just know she would have had strangers coming to my house.
There are so many women online talking about their dating horror stories with men and its everything from not being able to get men to leave their homes, to infidelity, abuse, manipulation, down to weaponizing incompetence. Yet men still holler "choose better." If millions of women are ending up with bad men, that means there aren't ENOUGH good men to go around and some women sompley aren't gonna get one. With that being the case, why is everyone so surprised that so many women are choosing to be peacefully single to avoid the hell of relationships?
“I hate to deceive him.” That comment on the screen made me roll my eyes! How are you deceiving a man after he refuses to leave???? So you have to sneak and get a new home because of HIM! Some women still don’t get it sadly. Dont continue to date the man after you move into your new home either! End it all!
They’re not supposed to get it. She’s a product of patriarchy where women are taught to be nice and not hurt men in any way. That’s why her mindset is f*cked up. We need to stop getting angry at these women and understand they’re still lost in patriarchy sauce and they need to be led in the right direction.
My mom managed to feel a bit guilty using my dad's money to finish the house and then drop divorce papers. Dad forgot it was pre-marital property. I share that story with pride. He was trying to push us onto the streets at that same time, so no guilt in my soul over it.
People should first understand that you don't have to live in the same residence to maintain a romantic relationship. Plenty of people have very healthy, strong romantic relationships and live in 2 separate residences. The second circumstance is that the person becomes a tenant once they take up occupancy in a property and legally have to be evicted to remove these individuals. People need to learn to love themselves to avoid these 100% preventable situations.
You shouldn't move in with someone or let them move in with you in general, unless you're moving to a new home you both will have ownership over. Moving in with him gives him power over you, but let him move in and he can take advantage of you financially and legally remain there. For those who want to risk it anyhow, better make sure you've got some legally binding agreements, in writing, with signatures, that cover things that may be important to you in this situation: mortgage/rent/bill payment sharing, lease agreements, maybe even a legal agreement that he's got to move out if the relationship ends. And this isn't something you should trust a guy you've only known for 6 months with. Better make sure you've known him for a long enough time to know how trustworthy he is with finances and whether he manages his own affairs well (i.e. his own bills, mortgage/rent, and basic chores like cooking and cleaning, because if you're living with him, you probably don't want him to be helpless). Don't let him receive any mail at your house unless you're married, because at least in the U.S., using your address for mail gives him squatter's rights. And to avoid any especially dangerous situations, make sure all your property, insurance, and inheritance will go to someone other than your partner (unless you're happily married, of course). I am sure there are some situations where men have moved into women's homes without issues. Otherwise women wouldn't keep falling for this trick. But if you found a good one, he also won't argue about signing legal agreements that protect you or push to have you allow him to receive mail at your address. If he argues or resists or questions why, that's a red flag you should not ignore.
Agreed! A friend of mine, her dad (he’s approx. 65) has a fiancée. But they both have their own home, that are close to each other and they like it that way….she runs a business out of her in addition to it being her home so she’s staying put!
@@cheesedemon88 Depending where you live, what sort of income you can make, and some other factors, it's possible. It's also much easier if you don't have children. My concern would be what happens if a separate-living couple has kids. It would be more practical to live together for childcare and pooling your resources, and living together also makes it harder for a man to turn into a deadbeat or absentee dad.
I will never move a man into my house that I’m dating. In order for me to live with a man, he has to buy me a property and I can move in there with him. I will keep my property to rent out.
The day I bought my house, I told myself the exact same thing! Ain’t no way any man will move into “my house”. I’m not combining my home with another person and make for a bunch of legal confusion when I pass because my assets are going to my children and no one else
@@NaiSaysto the both of you, I hope you make a lot of money renting out your spare rooms. At least you come out of that interaction with a gain. God bless. Trynna be a homeowner myself in this tough market 💪🏻
One time my friend and I (both female) visited someone we havent seen in a while. He had a friend living on the couch (A). Some how I ended up being alone on the balcony with A. He flirted with me. Later I told me female friend. She said: "of course he flirted with you. He needs a new place to live and a girl is much nicer then having to sleep on a couch. I didn't know "hobosexuals" were a thing.
See.....my being a cold introvert keeps me from making decisions like these. Cause a man interrupting my clean, quiet solitude for longer than a weekend....? Nah. Gotta put a ring on it first playa.
It happened to me at 24 years old. He ruined my credit and when i kicked him out of my house he went and got a nice house with a roommate and he always paid the bills there. These type of men hate women and are very competitive with us even though they try to mask that at first
And yet men are wondering why women don't want or car for marriage and kids. We are tired of looking older than we are, stressed out, doing ALL the parenting and home maintenance. When they tell me "you hit the wall", I say "What you REALLY saying is DAMN!!!! Another woman that's not taking BS!!!!!"
Sorry I see everyday homeless, dry and mean lonely men. They are like tired, crazy of mean. Without women, they spiral and end up in the streets. On the other hand, all lonely women are doing well, good looking and fresh especially when they stick together. So I think that what men really mean by "you are hitting the wall" / "you'll die alone with your cats" is that they talk about themselves.
when males say they want a family they're hoping she envisions a family and kids & falls for it what he's actually selling to her is he's the full on family she care takes him full stop any kids are hostages & collateral for him to make sure as his new slave you don't leave his fiefdom he's making you build.
I did this once with my first bf many years ago. Didn’t move in completely but he stayed with me regularly. Years later when I realised he had no intention of marrying me, I dumped him. The problem was, my home at that time was full of memories of him & I didn’t have the money to move. So he moved on easily but I really struggled to. I only really moved on mentally & emotionally when I moved out of that property. Now I don’t *EVER* invite men to my home, plus I like to see their home so I know he’s living right, financially stable & can afford me because I’m not cheap. Also, another reason is that a lot of men are stalkers & usually guys act crazy when they get dumped.
Amen and im sorry u went thru that. It’s not easy when u give ur all and all they do is use u. I’m content being by myself right now taking care of my two babies and giving them great childhood memories as best as I can. Spending my money on me and mines!
Wow! I'm so sorry you went through that. I went through something similar and now do the same thing. No one can come to my house. His level of dysfunction definitely left its mark, and it has taken me years to work through it.
I let a man live with me one time , never again !! ,it was literally like living with a child , it was such a miserable time in my life I would hate to come home , I never allowed him to put his name on my lease or get mail to my place , that’s how I was able to get him out my apartment
No lies!! Met a guy and started dating him, few months in he "jokingly" suggested that he "knew" I wanted him to move in with me. When I stopped dying laughing, realizing he was staring at me dead ass serious, I just said "nah I'm good". He blocked me, that night🤣. Then tried to circle back weeks later through social media, because I def blocked him too, just to ask why I still had him blocked.. bruh tf ??
@PraiseTheFSMonster At this point, there are too many women doing this to let it slide. We are aware who these men really are and some of us are still not protecting ourselves. It's getting to harder to have empathy for "mistakes" brought about by ego or lack of investigation.
My ex basically moved into my place without me really noticing then he started telling ME the rules in my own house. He’d get mad when I’d say “this is my house”. This is eye opening 😅😂 #hobo
what were the rules he was trying to enforce? another woman here said her man was complaining about no dinner being made and her coming home “too late” 🫡
@@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken honestly can barely remember I have a habit of blocking out poor memories: no falling asleep on my couch while watching tv (I’d fall asleep cause I was a full time student & employee at the time), my dog couldn’t on the couch (I bought the couch for her to hang w me while I work…it’s basically hers LOL), my dog couldn’t be in my bed (again…). Petty ones: I had to fold my wash cloths 🤣, I couldn’t cuss…(I cuss all the time), always had to be “clothed” bc ppl could “see me” (they couldn’t haha but i also like being nakey in my house 😩). Took my side of the bed cause didn’t want to be next to the wall (…same…) Bigger ones that kind of made me feel unsafe when i was - couldn’t go out the back door at night to walk the dog bc it wasn’t safe (it’s extremely safe), couldnt walk where there isn’t light posts in the dark (it literally gets dark at 6p for over half the year here). Petty - couldn’t have the windows down in my car (what dog wants ride around without windows down or at least cracked?) 😂🤣 hope this helps! I know they’re kinda dumb, but idc I was the one paying the ~$1400 in living expenses 😩 we were only together for likeeee 5 mos
How does that happen that someone moves into your home without you noticing? He would have to be staying more than usual and bringing his stuff over. I’ve always lived in my own place but stayed over at boyfriend’s places and they’ve stayed at mine. I always leave or they leave. However, people definitely have their habits and their ways of doing things.
Ladies stop falling for the "Drizzle drizzle". If a man's not a provider then he's not worth his salt in a relationship. Don't fall for it w/your sons either. He's a 25yr old flop. You probably want grandbabies.. how is he going to provide for any grand babies? Do you really want a deadbeat for a son?
Also my brother is the wandering narcissistic hobo. After I kicked him out, he had to move out of his place after less than two years. He was not paying his rent on time and he had to leave. Now they are threatening to sue both him and my mom because he won’t pay them what he owes them. He also messed up my mom’s credit because she co-signed for him. Now he is living with a female friend, her mother, and his friend’s kids. He also told me he got fired from his job. At first, he was coming to me, mom, and my grandma for money but we stopped giving him money. Now he is trying to get into his dad’s good graces so he can use him because we stopped giving him money and letting him stay with either me or my mom. He is 26 years old and still can’t take care of himself. 🙄
Have a raggedy cousin who tried this on his ex wife, they were only marries a short time but he thought he could dictate who lived or visited her house, and when she divorced he thought he was entitled to half of her house, that she bought well before they met and then had the audacity to try and claim half of her retirement. Needless to say the judge was baffled by his audacity and he got nothing
In my state if they stay for 10 years of marriage, they have ownership no matter that their name is not on the deed. Also, if a person spends more than 14 consecutive days in a dwelling they are a tenant especially if mail is delivered there. Put your assets in a trust. Then you will have no problems
Or your car! My tag came due a few months after I got married and while we were at the DMV, my husband was like "while we're here we might as well put my name on the title since we're married now" lmao excuse the fuck sir? I wasn't born yesterday. I don't care how happy we might be now, I'm not about to make it any easier for you to clean me out when you fall out of love. First of many red flags, to no one's surprise.
That's what prenups are for you'll be able to keep everything that you possess before marriage ! For that soon to be husband or soon to be wife doesn't sign it, you don't need to marry them
@@BlkOnyx0508 In some states property is immediately all mutual on marriage unless you've got a prenuptual agreement. Be safe out there! If you own anything as expensive as a house, a prenup should be a given. Red flag if he doesn't want to sign it or shows any argument or resistance. That's your property. A good man won't want to take it away from you.
I drop a man as soon as he starts pushing to cohabitate. I prefer my own space, always. I enjoy sleepovers, but only for a weekend at most. Some of these men smugly ask what I would do if I got married. I say "the closest we'll get is separate master bedrooms ... and that's IF I agree to live in the same home in the first place". I fought hard to get to a place where I can be on my own two feet and not have to compromise how I live for anyone else. As soon as a man tries to stake his claim on MY territory, his days are numbered.
I think the issue here is women shouldn't tell men they're living alone. Say you live with family or friends. If they find out you're alone, tell them in the future you'd like roommates.
PRO TIP: If a man pretends to be sick at your place and your fine letting him stay overnight (i wouldn't) but that's the limit. If he claims he can't get up or pretends to be so weak or deeply sleep get in his ear and say I'm going to call an ambulance and you can pay the $800 or so dollars when they get here and take you away. They will use all kinds of ways to get and stay in your house. It's up to you to not let them.
@@silververnallbells191 Damn. Even better. I don't let them in at all. I currently do have a great little mess from a decorating project but that's the excuse ALL the time. And if I have to give an excuse to not let someone in them I know to block them. I don't deal with people who need excuses and deflecting about my personal space and time.
@@ariahlea I got the idea when a girl was taking about her date came in to use the bathroom and asked could he rest a little bit on her couch before driving home. He then fell asleep and she says she couldn't wake him up. She thought he was faking but let him stay.
NEVER let a man move into your home. If it's a serious relationship, get a new home together (that he pays for) and always KEEP YOUR ORIGINAL PROPERTY! Preferably atp in life, I have my own and he has his. I see him whenever I want to be bothered.
My ex husband (arranged marriage) in the last 10 years of our marriage made good money but somehow there was always something more worthy of his income than our household bills. In the last two years the only bill that I thought he was responsible for was the internet, but then I found out that my adult sons who didn't even live there were talked into paying it for years under the excuse "you need the high speed internet for when you visit us and want to play video games". So don't judge based on his good car, good job and good income. Just because he's got it doesn't mean he will want to spend it. If he feels entitled to your residence for free then there is no amount of his income will benefit you. Yes, solid income is a requirement but not the whole story.
This!, my mother's friend married a lawyer that made good money, he dressed expensive clothes and have a nice car. The man never payed a bill!, he was so focused on himself that he never helper with anything and dont make me talk about his parental skills. She had 2-3 jobs to pay for the mortage and everything else. Then the man left her (and never divorce her) for a younger woman...
In most states, a person establishes residency after living with you for only 30 days. Living together is not worth it. Just NEVER do it. Ladies, when you own your own property - place it in a trust (with the right to sell the property) BEFORE you get married. Believe me the guy's family celebrates when they move in with you.
Ladies over a certain age be careful. There are men looking for stable women who will not be having kids to take care of them, their baby mamss, their kids, sending money to their cousins in Mozambique and pay for school fees for his kids from his WIFE in his homeland.
My friend warned me not to let a man know you own a house. She said, “That’s how I got my first husband.” He came over on the pretext of “helping” her. He never owned anything, yet he was “helping” a homeowner
And Ladies also be Aware of some of them will try to Rush u into a Relationship or Marry you just to Move into your House. Do not let no Man stay with you, he needs to have his Own Place, be Wise and stay Safe.
Yes, One of our older family friends was in her 70s when she met a man who proposed right away and they moved in together and got married and literally one year later he filed for divorce so he can get half of her retirement.
Sorry, I’m sticking to tradition! If I’m not married, I’m not living with no man period!!! To the “this could also happen if you get married!” gang, I’ll take my chances 🤷🏾♀️🤪
This isn't about married or single. It's about losing your property to a man who only ever wanted you for your property. He'll take your peace and take your home. He hated your autonomy.
I will say the only benefits of living with a man is to figure out if you actually are compatible. Because everybody’s great during the dating phase, but then when they move-in, you really see what that person‘s like, like they can’t dump the garbage for some reason then you come home from a trip And there’s maggots on the floor. That’s when you know it’s time to go because if you were married, it would be so much worse.
@@latsnojokelee6434Many studies have shown there’s no benefit. My friends who tried living with a man before marriage, quickly regretted it as they broke up. The ones who moved in ONCE married, are still together! It’s either you’re committed or NOT. If you’re half in/half out, of course you’ll find something wrong with that person and leave quickly. Marriage kinda forces you to work through things because you made that commitment to your spouse.
Ladies, this means ANY man. It could be your brother, cousins, zesty friend, uncle, dad, stepdad, etc....real quick, my brother is a total and complete bum and he lives in another state, which I wish he would stay BUT my sister lets him plant a "garden" in her backyard instead of telling him to get lost because she is using him for resources and it is an excuse for him to "fall back on" all the women in the family in this state. It gives him an excuse to come ringing our doorbells. I wish my sister would STOP. It's putting unnecessary stress on everyone. It's gotten to the point, I am just going to have to call the police the next time he comes to my door.
you should cut the contact next time he rings on the doorbell tell him to get lost wont leave you property? Call the police, that will teach him one call is all it takes.
Why do you feel the need to answer your door?! I have a bum brother as well, but when he’d pop up I’d look out my window, saw it was him & wouldn’t answer. He eventually got the hint.
So true, I’ve been yelling this. Keep the same energy for Every Male, they have the power to get whatever they want but choose to be homeless and live off of women 😢
As an introvert, I've perfected the art of never opening the door unless a package is being delivered or a scheduled serviceperson has arrived to perform their task. No exceptions.
Y’all…this is why I am selective about dating! If he does not even own a sofa, you do not get to come over. We’re not dating to sit your ass on my sofa cuz you live with your parents!!! Helllll to the nahhhh. We women are the gate keepers!
I can’t wrap my head around how women should sell their homes in order to get a man out of their house. And another another thing, if any man wanna come over, he get one or two strikes, depending on how I feel after that you coming over here without contributing.
They don’t want to file a civil case and go to court and get a restraining order. That’s what’s also not being mentioned. It’s because some women STILL want to be attached to that man when she gets her new place. Otherwise, it depends on the state law.
I’m pretty sure that with the laws favoring squatters it’s quicker to sell the house than go through the courts and have it take YEARS. Because it’s not a quick solution to file a lawsuit.
This is part of why I broke up with my boyfriend. Without any discussion, he assumed that eventually he would move into my apartment that I have lived in alone and paid for by myself for seven years. I said I would either, if anything be moving into a bigger house, or nothing at all. He literally invited himself to live with me casually and honestly it made me laugh. What makes you think you’re going to live in my home that I have literally worked my ass off for including being able to manage keeping this apartment through lockdowns when I wasn’t able to work and I spent a year and a half thinking I was gonna lose my home every single day. He also said he wouldn’t be able to “make it work“ unless he lived with me, meaning that he couldn’t afford his own apartment. Not my problem. Goodbye.
My father was a part time process server for real estate attorneys and one thing my father said a a hundred times “do not allow anyone to stay at your house for a night.. don’t do holiday dinners bc that the worst time of year” they stay for the night and never leave
Before I left my husband, i swore to myself, I will NEVER HAVE A MAN OVER FOR NOTHING!!!! I had small to pre-teen kids. Nope!!!! I saw to many lifetime movies, heard horrible stories, of child abuse, sexual abuse etc. My home was OUR Castle and peace. And its not for trying. I dated a lot. And boy did they try😂😂😂😂😂 Even get mad at me too😮😮😮😮. Yeah baby, No!.
Moving in? I don't even let these men know where I live. They have not passed the test. I have dated men for months on end and they never know my address. You're not about to stalk my ash.
This! I can’t even imagine giving them my address. So you can pop up mad when I break it off, now I’m calling the police and being watched by my neighbors like a soap opera?? Not on my watch. 😂
The biggest mistake I made was letting my guy friend move in with me for a couple of weeks back in college. He wasn’t my real friend. I found out that he was a hobosexual using me the whole time until he found another girl to live with. I also let my brother stay with me for two weeks for free and he was dirty and very disrespectful to me. He would also show up late at night disrupting my sleep every night because he worked a late shift. I only let him stay with me because he was in the process of getting his own apartment but he had to wait a month to move into his apartment. My mom kicked him out and did not want him coming back. I had to kick my own brother out my place. Never again. I would never let my boyfriend move in with me. I told him that if he wanted us to live together, we are buying a house together. I also told my man that we need to get married first before buying a home together. We are now getting married next year.
Haha I had a man bring little things and kept bringing more trying to subtly move in. I packed everything back in a plastic bag and when it was full and he was leaving I was like hey take this bag this is ur stuff lol😂😂😂😂 don’t leave nothing over here! We can be together separately. I’m not taking care of a man if he’s not taking care of me first. I will treat u how u treat me.
When I bought my first apartment my parents warned me not to let a guy move in with me unless he signs an agreement that he cannot take my home if we breakup. I thought they were being overly cautious then i met a girl who bought her own house with her own money, lived in it with her serious bf for like 7 years and when they broke up he argued he had a right to the house and they had to sell it 😢 if you own anything of value get a co-habitation agreement or a pre-nup before you move in with someone, people can turn nasty when a relationship ends
Yall just realized this😂...no man can visit me...we meet strictly at restaurant...and i am not going to your house till we hit at least 1 and half years...
I let one guy stay over for a bit while he was looking for a job. When I came home from WORK, he had rearranged my living room so he could play video games more comfortably. Nope! Had to go!
The worst thing I ever did in my life was let a man move in. Don’t ever move a man in or help them financially you will regret it eventually. I didn’t know these different types of men exist. You will lose everything dealing with them.
I had a repairman over to my properrty. We got to talking and I stupidly divulged some personal problems I was going through, in addition to the fact that I am a widow. His attitude and demeanor instantly changed. Talking about how I could really live in a place like this, I could fix your house up, you wouldn't have to worry. Then flirting with me and gave me his number. Firstly, I was offended he thought I was that desperate and secondly, I saw how desperate he was to move into my home. Obviously, I never called that fool back. There are plenty of repairmen in the sea 😂 Also, Priscilla is my mother's name and my granddaughter's middle name. Bless your mother for giving you such a beautiful name. It suits you. I so enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work!
I remember trying online dating about 12 years ago and I remember some fool telling me he could see himself living with me. The fuck you can. First and last time ever talking to him. I’m not into hobosexuality.
I was with this man for 3 years. When my lease was up and I was looking for a place I couldn’t stay with him, which was fine. When I got my apartment, he wanted to stay with me and I said no ma’am. Relationship ended In Texas it’s three days then they become a tenant.
I say take a page out of Jon Cena's book . You have them sign a contract before you live with them. You can get it through a lawyer or you can get it notarized. Make sure you have an updated WILL as well. I had a boyfriend that wanted me to move in with him, I declined because he was filthy and he just wanted a live in maid. Yeah we broke up. The lady talking about global men. Honey global men are looking for the lonely and gullible as well. I have a friend that had a good relationship with her apartment manager and she didn't want to pay money to break the lease, so she interviewed people to take over her part of the rent. When her ex-boyfriend left for work she moved her stuff out and the person moved their stuff in. There was a new lease made accompanied by a legal document, and everything. Mean while she moved to a different apartment that was still owned by the same management company, it was just located somewhere else.
It happened to me. A guy I knew since I was 14 and considered a friend, later in life became a romance. After we were together I found out he was losing his home. But like a dumb *ss I chose love and let him move in. He restored a jeep and bought lots of toys and all I got was debt trying to cover it all! 6 years and he took two months to move out, torturing me every day with the nastiest behavior. And he threatened if I threw him out he legally lived there and he would take me to court. I am so glad he is gone and no one is ever moving in here again. I’ll lie and say I rent if I ever bother with another.
Yes, I made a PSA about this on my channel too. The man technically has legal rights to your dwelling when you allow him to move in. You might even need to involve the courts to remove him. Not to mention, many women lose their lives because they tell the man to move out. It’s not worth giving up the rights to your property and endangering your life just to make a man happy. Please ladies, look out for yourselves.
y mom abusie hobo literally threatened her that he will kich her out of her own place. she later then put his name on a lease. God strike such women with thunder
A man should ONLY be moving you into HIS place that he OWNS, not the other way around, and even then, keep the place you already own or plan to have a 2nd property just in your name. I'm waiting to be a fiancee to do any of this, anyway. Men will switch up on you with a quickness and start playing power moves on you. I would rather live in a woman only commune than ever live with a man I'm not married to.
Yep read a book from a woman in 1911 who also noticed the switch up too. This is also why males want women to stop dressing up and nice after he's with her due to she's peacocking for others (which patriarchy taught her to do yet the males should be peacocking for her) and he doesn't want his property peacocking that's his job once she glows him up and he can get a second or eight side chick.
I can’t imagine feeling sorry enough to let someone capable of out earning me, if we had the same job, and who is not subject the the pink taxes and financial discrimination that I face as a woman, live with me rent free. And setting rules and having relationship expectation is on another level. Go be king of your own castle ➡️🚪
My dad and his partner have lived apart all their relationship, and theirs is the only one I've seen last the past 10 years with no hiccups 🔥 My dad is an absolute nightmare to live with so that ship would go down immediately if they cohabitated
Thats what happened to me the only way he was able to leave was by getting evicted and i did do a lease so he was able to get evicted. Never let a man move him. Punk men.
Single females another good example video you're getting good free experience advice ! Don't SHACK, " aka " don't live with any man don't let them move in with you if you're not married to him ! You have already established accomplished earned 💯 % on your own by being single ! DON'T SETTLE DON'T DROP DOWN TO 0% WITHOUT ANY INTEREST !!
My last bf wanted to move in, but he didnt wipe his feet before coming into my house. And then those same dirty bare feet in my bed. Not gonna happen. I think we broke up for awhile
Hygiene is an important aspect of daily living. People who don't have the same standards for hygiene move in together, they say and soon find that out.
Wow...what crazy law in...the US? In my country a man (or woman) does not have a right to a house just becsuse he slept there for some months or years. In my country this men would try to preasure you to get into a renting contract 😅
Oh yes best believe it this is true!! my fiancé told me his co-worker came to him and told him he is using his girlfriend for her crib and home boys and he cheats on her with different women and he says he just using her for a place to stay because he wanted to get out his mom house i was shocked af
I watched all my cousins and uncles do this growing up. Only moving out of my grandma house to move in with their girlfriend and then back to my grandma’s when things end. I told myself I’m gonna live on my own because I refuse to deal with any of that.
The woman who spoke about narcissists taking control of your territory reminded me of a terrifying experience I had years ago. I was a single mom, kids were around 9 and 13, and my husband had died 2 years earler. I had a woman friend who invited me to a party with her huge family. At the end of the party, a guy I didn't know asked if I would drive him home. I agreed, but as we were leaving, my friend noticed him following me to my car and she called out to him. She told him not to mess with me, and she was kind of intense about it. Enough so that I became a bit cautious. Foreshadowing. He immediately began trying to control me in a subtly intimidating way. We would get to where he told me to go, but then he'd act like the person's car wasn't there, so he'd want to go somewhere else. I knew I didn't want him to know where my house was. It took me almost two days to get him out of my car and afterwards I was so scared, I filed a police report because I knew he would find my house. The police advised me to move. I was packing up the house, had friends over, all lights on, dogs ready, baseball bats ready when late at night three days after escaping him, the guy, "Slim", showed up in my backyard in a ski mask and gloves. He wasn't expecting the motion-sensor flood lights, the barking dogs, nor the handful of friends waiting there for him. Don't give rides to strangers.
Wow! That first lady does not look 57 years old. She looks great. On another note, the way I got my ex out of my place was I distracted him by turning his attention to saving the money he lost while he was with the ex he kept going back and forth to. She conned him out of his money. By the time he got with me, they were broken up, sort of, and he didn't have anything. Long story short, to keep him from quitting his job on purpose, I told him to use that job to replenish what he lost with her, which implied he would have something when he tried to return to her again. Once he saved more than $3,000, I kicked him out, packed all his stuff in trash bags, put him in the cab, we went to the storage facility, I even helped him take the stuff out, and then I got back into the cab and went back home. He tried coming back. Nope. I didn't let him in. It's been since Feb. 2016, and I'm proud of myself for it. I will never let a man move in with me again.
I will be 57 in a few days and I only lived with my ex husband in erly '90. I have been living alone since. I will never live with a man who is not my husband and I will never have a husband. I am happy single for all those years. My most miserable time in my life is when I was in a relationship with someone.
Don’t do it ladies. As soon as he moved in, receives one piece of mail, he is officially tenant and you have to evict him legally to get him out. Literally you can put his crap by the curb and change the locks while he is away and if he knows the law, he can call the cops and he has every right to get back into your home. Even if he paid not one cent. Don’t do it ladies.
I've definitely made some bad relationship choices, but I have never put myself in that type of danger. Ladies, love is beautiful, but safety should be your #1.
Funny. The whole reason why the man is the head is cause he puts the roof over the family. The fact that man tryina command respect in the woman's own house 🥴 Guess he's tripping, can't put two n' two together 😂
My ex tried this. He started getting into the red pill movement and tried to implement rules for me in my own home. He was living in my home rent free. He told me he was the man of the house and he will do what he wants. I quickly shut that down reminding him this was my house and he didn’t pay for anything besides groceries. It all came to a head when I came home to him scolding me saying I took to long to get home and he wanted to dinner in the next hour. I don’t know where he got the audacity to do this. But in that moment, I just told him to pack his things and get out because we were done. You will not believe how fast he backtracked saying he was joking. And he has nowhere to go. And I can’t throw two years down the drain. All the excuses in the book. But I did not budge. He refused to leave saying he would claim squatters rights. I just simply called my dad and my brothers and they came over and assisted him with moving out.
"Assisted him with moving out" is gold.😂🤣😭 But also, did that audacious fool really wait for the real men to show up to "assist him with moving out"? Embarrassing. No sense of shame whatsoever.
I’m sorry but squatters should not have rights
Such an alpha male he had to be escorted off the premises! I can’t with these fools
I'm glad you are rid of that nightmare
what the hell? how old was this child?
Men are simple; "what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine". EVERY. TIME.
You nailed it. A book could be written on that philosophy of men alone. They have aeons of rigid thinking to dissolve
"What's your is mine, what's mine is mine" is why men see a divorce of taking 1/2 of HIS stuff. He doesn't see her as anything else but another commodity he can stick it in & isn't worthy of stability. They would rather see women homeless than to be without them so now that there's hobos-xuals everywhere they're getting their karma. Don't let stray dogs in unless they have 4 legs & a wagging tail.
Grown Boys are SIMPLE 💯
You forgot the "Wo".
@@TheSecondFlockwow……good one bro. That had to hurt😂😂
The guy I am dating now said one day he wants to live together in my house. I told him I believe in separate homes are best for long term relationships at our age (I'm 53). I'm not about to mother and care for anyone at this age. I like my free time, space and starfishing in my bed too much.
Ladies who starfish have entered the chat!
That's a big reason why I could never live w/a man (I'm 42) cuz whenever I think about it it's always pick which side you sleep on. HELLO ALL sides ARE my side + ALL the closet space!
100%
And you're STILL with him!!! 🙄 He gave you ONE 🚩🚩🚩 how many more do you need!!! 🙄
I hate sharing my bed.
The second he said he wants to live in ur home, u should have ended that relationship. That man is a bum and wants to live off u. 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩
I don't even let them sleep over - 🗣 GO HOME ROGER!!
I had one come over and started playing music loud and was refusing to turn it down. Kicked him out. This is my home not a frat house.
At this point just say you don't have a house/place either lol.. 😂😂😂
@@queenlcq7901 Exactly! Cause that's what it was giving. A person who has freedom in their own home doesn't need to come and make noise in mine. Come to find he lied about living alone and lived with his sister. Felt even more justified in turfing him 😊
GO HOME ROGER ! hit em with that sister,sister
GO HOME ROGER! GO HOME TO YOUR HOMIES YOU LOVE SOO MUCH!!!
I DON'T RUN A FREE HANG OUT PLACE WTF
Ugh - I get it! Guy I dated casually was playing loud music as well, dancing around acting stupid, on the front and back porch trying to be seen like an attention wh*re, and the pièce de résistance - leaning half of his big body on my granite countertops - scrolling on his phone like it’s a counter at a burger joint. Sir. No - Man-child - get ta steppin’!!!! 🤬🤬🤬. (He also kept angling to move in, thank God I wiggled right on out of that situationship!)
Why can't both parties live in their respective homes?
At that age??? Companionship is what's needed....not moving in together. 😂
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Why do you think you need "companionship"? Most men aren't worth bothering with.
They want a “mom”
My friend married a few years back, they live separately. When I met her I asked why. She said she’s used to her own space 🤷🏽♀️. If I ever decide to get married I’ll do the same. Ideally the house must be substantial enough (mansion sized) so that we can both live comfortably in separate quarters of the house or at least separate bedrooms. I’m not living cooped up with no man. Also, if all you want is companionship, there’s no need for a man. Instead, get some friends & a pet. Animals are loyal, men aren’t.
Because then they won’t have a mommy. “I hung-eeee. I made poo poo. I made twash.”
I totally get why Oprah doesn't live with or marry Stedman.
Any man is a bum to one of the richest women on Earth 😂
Right, if I ever decide to get into another long term relationship, we’ll live separately.
Remember when she had him living in the pool house during Covid? 😂😂😂
They def live together, just not married.
@@lookatyou5809 yes😂😂 and I didn’t blame her, I would’ve did the same and told him to just stay there😂😂
When he moved in I had him get a post office box for his mail. When things started going south, I warned him staying out all night could end our relationship. When I had enough I waited for him to leave that day, packed his stuff, rented a storage unit, moved his stuff into it, took pics to show it was in good shape, and kept a copy of the rental agreement. Then went home, changed the locks, taped a note and a key to the unit on my door explaining where his stuff was and he was paid up for a month. Sent a copy of the note and rental agreement to his p.o. box return receipt. When he called cussing I invited him to take me to court. Of course, he didn't.
Epic!
Protect your heart and your stuff! Now that's the way to do things. Good on you, taking the steps to take care of yourself and hold your respect.
Very well executed. Fantastic!
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This is how you do it!✨👏🏼
I refuse to let anyone live with me. I live in a nice neighborhood, in a 4-bd 2.5 bath, full finished basement on a 1-acre lot. My former partner and I were LAT (living apart together). He had his own home before I purchased mine and we never lived together; his bills were his responsibility, my bills were mine. One other thing to consider; it can be dangerous if a woman lets a man move in and she tells him he has to leave. He may decide to become violent. This happens all too frequently. Stay safe ladies. ❤❤
Please continue spreading this message. It boggles my mind that women don’t refer back to their upbringing, the news, or sociological observations, police records. MEN ARE THE SOLE REASON OF VIOLENCE IN THE DOMESTIC SPHERE
This has happened to lots of women, then she's to scared to call the cops. She had to have an exit plan to leave her own home. She finally calls the cops and moves out of her own home. If she doesn't move out, he will come back when he gets out of jail.
Oh dang, so did y'all divorce because y'all grew apart or something?
The meekest men can blow TF up.
i remember when i started speaking on the LAT move and people looked at me weirdly....i was soo ahead of my time lol i swear!!! i tried living with 2 men in whole life and every since i been living alone i will never live with another man!!!nope u stay in ur home i will stay in mine and we can have sleep overs lol IM SOOO SERIOUS!
People think Hobosegguals season is fall, because they want to stay through winter, but I met this guy in spring. On our first date (He wanted to come over to my house, to see where I lived. I never invited him over to my house, he followed me home) After he saw how big the house was, he asked me if I wanted a roommate. That was all the red flags I needed, this guy was living in his car, I didn’t know that. He kept texting me all summer, begging me to hangout. No Pookie.
Damn
thats pathetic smh
Summer here in Arizona 111 degrees now!
@@PandaHead602 They’re trying to get in your house, because if they live in the car, it’s hot and uncomfortable. I never thought of that, that’s why I’m taking my time, and focusing on myself.
I was talking to this guy actually named Rayray n he didn't realize how misogynistic he was 😂
6:34 what do women bring to the table? Mofo we are the table, the kitchen, the entire house. Other than taking years off our lives and making us ugly, what do you bring to the table?
Happen to me aged me fast as Hell now were divorce trying to get back my youthful look I had when I met him has been so hard,I owned my house as well Sold it to get rid of him also
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My ex asked me 2x to move in together. He was so mad that I didn’t see the point. I even asked him what I’d get out of it and had nothing to say.
Guess that's the best question ever to ask such dudes.
you saved yourself and are smart💪🏾👑💯🤡🤛🏾
Yup pull the uno card on them cause these men out here asking what women "bring to the table".
@@kittenkat5244 Right! When all males got are 3 trash bags they want to sit by your washer and dryer😒😑🤡🤛🏾
A massive headache. That’s what you’d gain, and he knew it.
One of my best friends is about to move her hobosexual boyfriend into her small 1 bedroom condo. She's even spending thousands to "get more organized" and "make room for him" in the condo. 😭 She won't listen to reason and says she doesn't want to be "lectured" even by friends of ours who have been burned by the same type of situation. A smart person learns from their mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others. Be WISE, not SMART!
You have to let her learn her lesson. You can warn people til you’re blue in the face,but if they won’t listen they won’t listen. Some people just have to learn the hard way
Love this quote
@craziebarbietalks692 I learn from watching others, I don't need to make the mistake myself. I try not to be hardheaded and pay attention to wisdom. But not everyone is like that and just like you said, apparently my friend is the kind who'd rather fall on her face herself. I've never taken care of a man and don't need to to know it's a bum position, I watched enough women do it and saw them all get burned 😵💫
@@SincerelySandchaI can't take credit for the quote, my dad is the one who taught it to me when I was a teenager. He was right!
She has to learn on her own
My ex is still looking for another girl to use for a free home. Feel so sorry for his next victim 😓
yes! Same 🤦🏾♀️
Ditto 🤦🏽♀️cost me thousands in repairs ❤️🖤
My ex did it at least 4 times more after we broke up.
Men will get away with what you allow.
My ex would say “I need to find me some fat low self esteem woman to move in with.
And these are the men who talk down on women who buy their own homes 👏🏾 Talking about they'll only buy when they have a family. Right 😂 And we were told our standards are high when we said have your own house AND car, sir.
Exactly! Can't stand these fools!
Exactly. How your argument is shaming me about my responsible fiscal choices.
@@mine332way069 a lot of men truly see women as damsels in distress. however, woman on the daily are showing them that it's not true. so their brains are glitching. they were raised to believe that the majority of us need saving. now their dreams of being the knight in shining armor are being dashed. they can't cope.
I have NEVER lived w/ a man nor do i desire to. I'm 30 & take pride in my space & privacy. I've been asked "Dont you want someone to come home to at the end of the day?"
I sure as hell dont. 😂
Get a pet, then you can happily tell them you have someone to come home to, and the pet doesn't even expect you to cook a whole dinner for it and do its laundry.
god my female friends even asked that. One realized I was saying thriugh after 4 years of marriage and a newborn. Now she wants a divorce
Haha I’m the same as you 😂
I was told by my mom and grandma that you don’t let a man move in with you, never give a man money, and if he can’t afford to buy a house for you both for your marriage, you shouldn’t marry him. I’ve lived by this, and they were right.
If I own a home and car and a man doesn't, that is a complete red flag and stops me in my tracks. I immediately walk the other way. NEVER entertain men who are not on your level or better. I don't know why women REFUSE to heed this advice.
My boyfriend (nor any man) will NEVER live with me. If he becomes homeless for whatever reason, he better go find his mama because my house is a MAN FREE ZONE (except when I need something repaired.)
That's what I'm talking about the main major 4 criterias if you want to be with me ! # 1 Job and money they both goes together ! # 2 , I DON'T SHACK , # 3 have a CAR because you're not going to be using mine !! if I don't have a car I can use YOURS from time to time here and there . # 4 I don't have a joint bank account with you you got me Twisted it ain't happening .
You know why…
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@AhlSunnah111 That's right, dusty. No grown azz men living in MY house. EVER....
They are way too desperate out here that’s why. Like how are u a whole home owner but dating a man that doesn’t even have his own apartment.🙄🙄🙄🙄They are desperate and make delusional decisions that expect that we women are gonna have empathy for them. How are GROWN women this delusional. I just can’t.🙄🙄🙄🙄
Pookie keeps winning out here... and he comes in all races. Watch out for Pookie!!
☝️- 💯 they ALWAYS find NEW VICTIMS
That's the coul tea🧐🍿☕🤡🤛🏾
THIS
Yes they do, I encountered a white hobosecsual a few years back on a dating app. Kept asking me about my home, how many rooms I had, who I live with & if I needed a house mate. I blocked his number twice because he kept contacting me on different phones lol 🙄. Last I heard he moved back in with his mother, he’s 35, with a decent job but couldn’t afford to a home. It’s tough out here ladies & men these days are getting desperate 👀.
I think the Pookie's for white women are called Billy-Bobs, and for latinos, they're called Little Jokers lol.😂
The bottom line is don’t date a man who is financially irresponsible. If all of your family and friends warn you about him, listen to them.
There are worse things than being alone.
Don't move in with a man. Don't take care of anyone who isn't your ride or die bestie, a pet, a plant, or your own child. If anything, the stories about women buying homes together and being platonic life partners sound like the absolute dream, especially if you don't have the means to buy a home on your own.
Women owning property together always work better Women are definitely more united
My great aunts did that! Way back in the day; they were ahead of the game.
I would also tell anyone don’t EVER move somebody into your home including brother, cousin, friend . Check the laws in your state but a guest can quickly turn into a tenant. You will have to evict them to get them out.
I made this mistake. Letting a coworker hobo redpill (didn’t know) live in a spare room. I’m so traumatized from the experience, I can’t even talk about it. 5 years later and I still get random texts and vms from this dude. No reply. Just keeps coming back.
I on the other hand had a male friend with a spare room . I moved in and on putrpose didnt sign a lease so i can move out at ANY point if I decide he annoys me, which I did xD
@@kattodoggo3868 good for you sis. We won’t be making those mistakes again. This dude would beat his meat for 6 hours a night, loudly. I could hear the damn smacking sound. Soooooo traumatic.
I almost let a casual friend come and live with me for what she said would be a little while. But then I remembered one time that she turned an event for me into an event for her/her friends (who were absolute strangers to me), and I thought better of it because that showed no consideration. Plus, it was out of my character for a start. I have a 4-bedroom house, but I don't want anyone else living with me. I love living ALONE! And I just know she would have had strangers coming to my house.
@@solomoon3083Ummmm....Block Him!!!!!
There are so many women online talking about their dating horror stories with men and its everything from not being able to get men to leave their homes, to infidelity, abuse, manipulation, down to weaponizing incompetence. Yet men still holler "choose better." If millions of women are ending up with bad men, that means there aren't ENOUGH good men to go around and some women sompley aren't gonna get one. With that being the case, why is everyone so surprised that so many women are choosing to be peacefully single to avoid the hell of relationships?
Exactly! 💯
🎯 They know it but they’re desperate continuing to make us believe this narrative 😂
“I hate to deceive him.” That comment on the screen made me roll my eyes! How are you deceiving a man after he refuses to leave???? So you have to sneak and get a new home because of HIM! Some women still don’t get it sadly. Dont continue to date the man after you move into your new home either! End it all!
They’re not supposed to get it. She’s a product of patriarchy where women are taught to be nice and not hurt men in any way. That’s why her mindset is f*cked up. We need to stop getting angry at these women and understand they’re still lost in patriarchy sauce and they need to be led in the right direction.
Right! As deceptive as these men are?!?! And, women underestimate how violent they can get when it's over! Countless stories
My mom managed to feel a bit guilty using my dad's money to finish the house and then drop divorce papers. Dad forgot it was pre-marital property. I share that story with pride. He was trying to push us onto the streets at that same time, so no guilt in my soul over it.
People should first understand that you don't have to live in the same residence to maintain a romantic relationship. Plenty of people have very healthy, strong romantic relationships and live in 2 separate residences. The second circumstance is that the person becomes a tenant once they take up occupancy in a property and legally have to be evicted to remove these individuals. People need to learn to love themselves to avoid these 100% preventable situations.
You shouldn't move in with someone or let them move in with you in general, unless you're moving to a new home you both will have ownership over. Moving in with him gives him power over you, but let him move in and he can take advantage of you financially and legally remain there.
For those who want to risk it anyhow, better make sure you've got some legally binding agreements, in writing, with signatures, that cover things that may be important to you in this situation: mortgage/rent/bill payment sharing, lease agreements, maybe even a legal agreement that he's got to move out if the relationship ends. And this isn't something you should trust a guy you've only known for 6 months with. Better make sure you've known him for a long enough time to know how trustworthy he is with finances and whether he manages his own affairs well (i.e. his own bills, mortgage/rent, and basic chores like cooking and cleaning, because if you're living with him, you probably don't want him to be helpless). Don't let him receive any mail at your house unless you're married, because at least in the U.S., using your address for mail gives him squatter's rights. And to avoid any especially dangerous situations, make sure all your property, insurance, and inheritance will go to someone other than your partner (unless you're happily married, of course).
I am sure there are some situations where men have moved into women's homes without issues. Otherwise women wouldn't keep falling for this trick. But if you found a good one, he also won't argue about signing legal agreements that protect you or push to have you allow him to receive mail at your address. If he argues or resists or questions why, that's a red flag you should not ignore.
Agreed! A friend of mine, her dad (he’s approx. 65) has a fiancée. But they both have their own home, that are close to each other and they like it that way….she runs a business out of her in addition to it being her home so she’s staying put!
I get what you’re saying, but who has the money to live alone in this economy?
@@cheesedemon88 Depending where you live, what sort of income you can make, and some other factors, it's possible. It's also much easier if you don't have children.
My concern would be what happens if a separate-living couple has kids. It would be more practical to live together for childcare and pooling your resources, and living together also makes it harder for a man to turn into a deadbeat or absentee dad.
I will never move a man into my house that I’m dating. In order for me to live with a man, he has to buy me a property and I can move in there with him. I will keep my property to rent out.
The day I bought my house, I told myself the exact same thing! Ain’t no way any man will move into “my house”. I’m not combining my home with another person and make for a bunch of legal confusion when I pass because my assets are going to my children and no one else
@@NaiSaysto the both of you, I hope you make a lot of money renting out your spare rooms. At least you come out of that interaction with a gain. God bless. Trynna be a homeowner myself in this tough market 💪🏻
Yup! That's smart!
That's very smart
One time my friend and I (both female) visited someone we havent seen in a while.
He had a friend living on the couch (A). Some how I ended up being alone on the balcony with A. He flirted with me.
Later I told me female friend. She said: "of course he flirted with you. He needs a new place to live and a girl is much nicer then having to sleep on a couch.
I didn't know "hobosexuals" were a thing.
Thank goodness your friend gave you the tea
The kind of man who's comfortable moving in with you will be comfortable not paying for anything. It's the personality type, so learn to read it.
Been there, 💯.
See.....my being a cold introvert keeps me from making decisions like these. Cause a man interrupting my clean, quiet solitude for longer than a weekend....? Nah. Gotta put a ring on it first playa.
You better preach 😂🎉 I never had these problems so I wouldn’t do it now peace of mind is a major key 🔐
It happened to me at 24 years old. He ruined my credit and when i kicked him out of my house he went and got a nice house with a roommate and he always paid the bills there. These type of men hate women and are very competitive with us even though they try to mask that at first
Sometimes they can afford a house but they'd rather mooch on someone else..
And yet men are wondering why women don't want or car for marriage and kids. We are tired of looking older than we are, stressed out, doing ALL the parenting and home maintenance. When they tell me "you hit the wall", I say "What you REALLY saying is DAMN!!!! Another woman that's not taking BS!!!!!"
I happened to like the wall that they claimed I hit.
The 'WALL' is the protection we never knew we needed 🥂🥳
Sorry I see everyday homeless, dry and mean lonely men. They are like tired, crazy of mean. Without women, they spiral and end up in the streets. On the other hand, all lonely women are doing well, good looking and fresh especially when they stick together.
So I think that what men really mean by "you are hitting the wall" / "you'll die alone with your cats" is that they talk about themselves.
@@user-kp3rc4eq8x‼️‼️‼️
when males say they want a family they're hoping she envisions a family and kids & falls for it what he's actually selling to her is he's the full on family she care takes him full stop any kids are hostages & collateral for him to make sure as his new slave you don't leave his fiefdom he's making you build.
I did this once with my first bf many years ago. Didn’t move in completely but he stayed with me regularly. Years later when I realised he had no intention of marrying me, I dumped him. The problem was, my home at that time was full of memories of him & I didn’t have the money to move. So he moved on easily but I really struggled to. I only really moved on mentally & emotionally when I moved out of that property. Now I don’t *EVER* invite men to my home, plus I like to see their home so I know he’s living right, financially stable & can afford me because I’m not cheap. Also, another reason is that a lot of men are stalkers & usually guys act crazy when they get dumped.
Amen and im sorry u went thru that. It’s not easy when u give ur all and all they do is use u. I’m content being by myself right now taking care of my two babies and giving them great childhood memories as best as I can. Spending my money on me and mines!
You make a good point. The memories are like energy
Its really a sin out here, if a woman is doing well for herself
Wow! I'm so sorry you went through that. I went through something similar and now do the same thing. No one can come to my house. His level of dysfunction definitely left its mark, and it has taken me years to work through it.
Sassy girl❤.hope all girls are like u
I let a man live with me one time , never again !! ,it was literally like living with a child , it was such a miserable time in my life I would hate to come home , I never allowed him to put his name on my lease or get mail to my place , that’s how I was able to get him out my apartment
I wouldn't want to live somewhere in not wanted or I'm not on the lease because when ass and teeth fall out, I need every leg to stand on.
Lol 😂😂😂
Facts💯
Omg YES 😂😂😂
Because you have self respect. These ashies have no shame. They’re despicable
No lies!! Met a guy and started dating him, few months in he "jokingly" suggested that he "knew" I wanted him to move in with me. When I stopped dying laughing, realizing he was staring at me dead ass serious, I just said "nah I'm good". He blocked me, that night🤣. Then tried to circle back weeks later through social media, because I def blocked him too, just to ask why I still had him blocked.. bruh tf ??
Live by yourself
*Ladies don't move in with no man
* Man don't need to move in with you
I whether move in a hotel and pay weekly
Can’t believe women are still falling for this trick with all of the information about hobosegguals out there.
So many women desperately want love. They are willing to look past many red flags in hopes of getting it.
Ever heard the phrase "blinded by love"? Maybe have some empathy and stop living up to your name
@PraiseTheFSMonster
At this point, there are too many women doing this to let it slide. We are aware who these men really are and some of us are still not protecting ourselves. It's getting to harder to have empathy for "mistakes" brought about by ego or lack of investigation.
@@PraiseTheFSMonsterIs it love or desperation?
they get D!CKMATIZED !!!!
My ex basically moved into my place without me really noticing then he started telling ME the rules in my own house. He’d get mad when I’d say “this is my house”. This is eye opening 😅😂 #hobo
what were the rules he was trying to enforce? another woman here said her man was complaining about no dinner being made and her coming home “too late” 🫡
@@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken honestly can barely remember I have a habit of blocking out poor memories: no falling asleep on my couch while watching tv (I’d fall asleep cause I was a full time student & employee at the time), my dog couldn’t on the couch (I bought the couch for her to hang w me while I work…it’s basically hers LOL), my dog couldn’t be in my bed (again…).
Petty ones: I had to fold my wash cloths 🤣, I couldn’t cuss…(I cuss all the time), always had to be “clothed” bc ppl could “see me” (they couldn’t haha but i also like being nakey in my house 😩). Took my side of the bed cause didn’t want to be next to the wall (…same…)
Bigger ones that kind of made me feel unsafe when i was - couldn’t go out the back door at night to walk the dog bc it wasn’t safe (it’s extremely safe), couldnt walk where there isn’t light posts in the dark (it literally gets dark at 6p for over half the year here). Petty - couldn’t have the windows down in my car (what dog wants ride around without windows down or at least cracked?) 😂🤣 hope this helps! I know they’re kinda dumb, but idc I was the one paying the ~$1400 in living expenses 😩 we were only together for likeeee 5 mos
How does that happen that someone moves into your home without you noticing? He would have to be staying more than usual and bringing his stuff over. I’ve always lived in my own place but stayed over at boyfriend’s places and they’ve stayed at mine. I always leave or they leave. However, people definitely have their habits and their ways of doing things.
Ladies stop falling for the "Drizzle drizzle". If a man's not a provider then he's not worth his salt in a relationship. Don't fall for it w/your sons either. He's a 25yr old flop. You probably want grandbabies.. how is he going to provide for any grand babies? Do you really want a deadbeat for a son?
That turns into a granny providing for the kids. And they can sperminate way faster than we can scrape together a college fund for each of those kids.
Also my brother is the wandering narcissistic hobo. After I kicked him out, he had to move out of his place after less than two years. He was not paying his rent on time and he had to leave. Now they are threatening to sue both him and my mom because he won’t pay them what he owes them. He also messed up my mom’s credit because she co-signed for him. Now he is living with a female friend, her mother, and his friend’s kids. He also told me he got fired from his job. At first, he was coming to me, mom, and my grandma for money but we stopped giving him money. Now he is trying to get into his dad’s good graces so he can use him because we stopped giving him money and letting him stay with either me or my mom. He is 26 years old and still can’t take care of himself. 🙄
Have a raggedy cousin who tried this on his ex wife, they were only marries a short time but he thought he could dictate who lived or visited her house, and when she divorced he thought he was entitled to half of her house, that she bought well before they met and then had the audacity to try and claim half of her retirement. Needless to say the judge was baffled by his audacity and he got nothing
Don’t put their name on your house.,, even after marriage
That's what prenups are for if they don't want to sign it that's telling you don't need to marry him .
In my state if they stay for 10 years of marriage, they have ownership no matter that their name is not on the deed. Also, if a person spends more than 14 consecutive days in a dwelling they are a tenant especially if mail is delivered there. Put your assets in a trust. Then you will have no problems
Or your car! My tag came due a few months after I got married and while we were at the DMV, my husband was like "while we're here we might as well put my name on the title since we're married now" lmao excuse the fuck sir? I wasn't born yesterday. I don't care how happy we might be now, I'm not about to make it any easier for you to clean me out when you fall out of love. First of many red flags, to no one's surprise.
That's what prenups are for you'll be able to keep everything that you possess before marriage ! For that soon to be husband or soon to be wife doesn't sign it, you don't need to marry them
@@BlkOnyx0508 In some states property is immediately all mutual on marriage unless you've got a prenuptual agreement. Be safe out there! If you own anything as expensive as a house, a prenup should be a given. Red flag if he doesn't want to sign it or shows any argument or resistance. That's your property. A good man won't want to take it away from you.
I drop a man as soon as he starts pushing to cohabitate. I prefer my own space, always. I enjoy sleepovers, but only for a weekend at most. Some of these men smugly ask what I would do if I got married. I say "the closest we'll get is separate master bedrooms ... and that's IF I agree to live in the same home in the first place". I fought hard to get to a place where I can be on my own two feet and not have to compromise how I live for anyone else. As soon as a man tries to stake his claim on MY territory, his days are numbered.
I think the issue here is women shouldn't tell men they're living alone. Say you live with family or friends. If they find out you're alone, tell them in the future you'd like roommates.
PRO TIP: If a man pretends to be sick at your place and your fine letting him stay overnight (i wouldn't) but that's the limit. If he claims he can't get up or pretends to be so weak or deeply sleep get in his ear and say I'm going to call an ambulance and you can pay the $800 or so dollars when they get here and take you away.
They will use all kinds of ways to get and stay in your house. It's up to you to not let them.
An ambulance ride in the next city over is $10,000.
@@silververnallbells191 Damn. Even better. I don't let them in at all. I currently do have a great little mess from a decorating project but that's the excuse ALL the time. And if I have to give an excuse to not let someone in them I know to block them. I don't deal with people who need excuses and deflecting about my personal space and time.
That ambulance mention is genius! 😂
@@ariahlea I got the idea when a girl was taking about her date came in to use the bathroom and asked could he rest a little bit on her couch before driving home. He then fell asleep and she says she couldn't wake him up. She thought he was faking but let him stay.
why do so many men have munchausens?
NEVER let a man move into your home. If it's a serious relationship, get a new home together (that he pays for) and always KEEP YOUR ORIGINAL PROPERTY! Preferably atp in life, I have my own and he has his. I see him whenever I want to be bothered.
Wish every woman had a male relative like I did to "persuade" their pest to leave . (6'3 ex marine cousin) 😉
My ex husband (arranged marriage) in the last 10 years of our marriage made good money but somehow there was always something more worthy of his income than our household bills. In the last two years the only bill that I thought he was responsible for was the internet, but then I found out that my adult sons who didn't even live there were talked into paying it for years under the excuse "you need the high speed internet for when you visit us and want to play video games". So don't judge based on his good car, good job and good income. Just because he's got it doesn't mean he will want to spend it. If he feels entitled to your residence for free then there is no amount of his income will benefit you. Yes, solid income is a requirement but not the whole story.
Yup! He must be generous too!
@@gravityclarity 🎯
Yes, generosity with his partner is very important.
This!, my mother's friend married a lawyer that made good money, he dressed expensive clothes and have a nice car. The man never payed a bill!, he was so focused on himself that he never helper with anything and dont make me talk about his parental skills. She had 2-3 jobs to pay for the mortage and everything else. Then the man left her (and never divorce her) for a younger woman...
This is sooo true!
In most states, a person establishes residency after living with you for only 30 days. Living together is not worth it. Just NEVER do it.
Ladies, when you own your own property - place it in a trust (with the right to sell the property) BEFORE you get married.
Believe me the guy's family celebrates when they move in with you.
Ladies over a certain age be careful. There are men looking for stable women who will not be having kids to take care of them, their baby mamss, their kids, sending money to their cousins in Mozambique and pay for school fees for his kids from his WIFE in his homeland.
Been there, never do it again. Men not worth being with,just to not be alone. Home is too peaceful without one.
My friend warned me not to let a man know you own a house. She said, “That’s how I got my first husband.” He came over on the pretext of “helping” her. He never owned anything, yet he was “helping” a homeowner
And Ladies also be Aware of some of them will try to Rush u into a Relationship or Marry you just to Move into your House. Do not let no Man stay with you, he needs to have his Own Place, be Wise and stay Safe.
Yes, One of our older family friends was in her 70s when she met a man who proposed right away and they moved in together and got married and literally one year later he filed for divorce so he can get half of her retirement.
Romance with no finance is a nuisance. Never date or marry a project.
Sorry, I’m sticking to tradition! If I’m not married, I’m not living with no man period!!! To the “this could also happen if you get married!” gang, I’ll take my chances 🤷🏾♀️🤪
This isn't about married or single. It's about losing your property to a man who only ever wanted you for your property. He'll take your peace and take your home. He hated your autonomy.
I will say the only benefits of living with a man is to figure out if you actually are compatible. Because everybody’s great during the dating phase, but then when they move-in, you really see what that person‘s like, like they can’t dump the garbage for some reason then you come home from a trip And there’s maggots on the floor. That’s when you know it’s time to go because if you were married, it would be so much worse.
@@latsnojokelee6434Many studies have shown there’s no benefit. My friends who tried living with a man before marriage, quickly regretted it as they broke up. The ones who moved in ONCE married, are still together! It’s either you’re committed or NOT. If you’re half in/half out, of course you’ll find something wrong with that person and leave quickly. Marriage kinda forces you to work through things because you made that commitment to your spouse.
Factuals.
Amen sister 🥂
Ladies, this means ANY man. It could be your brother, cousins, zesty friend, uncle, dad, stepdad, etc....real quick, my brother is a total and complete bum and he lives in another state, which I wish he would stay BUT my sister lets him plant a "garden" in her backyard instead of telling him to get lost because she is using him for resources and it is an excuse for him to "fall back on" all the women in the family in this state. It gives him an excuse to come ringing our doorbells. I wish my sister would STOP. It's putting unnecessary stress on everyone. It's gotten to the point, I am just going to have to call the police the next time he comes to my door.
you should cut the contact next time he rings on the doorbell tell him to get lost wont leave you property? Call the police, that will teach him one call is all it takes.
Why do you feel the need to answer your door?! I have a bum brother as well, but when he’d pop up I’d look out my window, saw it was him & wouldn’t answer. He eventually got the hint.
So true, I’ve been yelling this. Keep the same energy for Every Male, they have the power to get whatever they want but choose to be homeless and live off of women 😢
Please be safe! Not just you, but all the women whose doorbells he's ringing. These males are dangerous wild cards when they're down on their luck.
As an introvert, I've perfected the art of never opening the door unless a package is being delivered or a scheduled serviceperson has arrived to perform their task. No exceptions.
Nobody talking about how amazing the first lady looks for her age 🌺
Filters
Y’all…this is why I am selective about dating! If he does not even own a sofa, you do not get to come over. We’re not dating to sit your ass on my sofa cuz you live with your parents!!! Helllll to the nahhhh. We women are the gate keepers!
I can’t wrap my head around how women should sell their homes in order to get a man out of their house. And another another thing, if any man wanna come over, he get one or two strikes, depending on how I feel after that you coming over here without contributing.
They don’t want to file a civil case and go to court and get a restraining order. That’s what’s also not being mentioned. It’s because some women STILL want to be attached to that man when she gets her new place. Otherwise, it depends on the state law.
I’m pretty sure that with the laws favoring squatters it’s quicker to sell the house than go through the courts and have it take YEARS. Because it’s not a quick solution to file a lawsuit.
@@LoveK1Depends on the state
If someone lives at an address for 30 days & receives mail, this becomes their legal residence & owner/ leasee must use the courts to get them out
I Made this mistake in 2020. NEVER AGAIN. 🙄
I did mine in 2019...😢. I didn't even want to...regretted so much. We live and learn.
@@africanqueen3320 Thank God we are wiser!
2022 for me
This is part of why I broke up with my boyfriend. Without any discussion, he assumed that eventually he would move into my apartment that I have lived in alone and paid for by myself for seven years. I said I would either, if anything be moving into a bigger house, or nothing at all. He literally invited himself to live with me casually and honestly it made me laugh. What makes you think you’re going to live in my home that I have literally worked my ass off for including being able to manage keeping this apartment through lockdowns when I wasn’t able to work and I spent a year and a half thinking I was gonna lose my home every single day. He also said he wouldn’t be able to “make it work“ unless he lived with me, meaning that he couldn’t afford his own apartment. Not my problem. Goodbye.
My father was a part time process server for real estate attorneys and one thing my father said a a hundred times “do not allow anyone to stay at your house for a night.. don’t do holiday dinners bc that the worst time of year” they stay for the night and never leave
Before I left my husband, i swore to myself, I will NEVER HAVE A MAN OVER FOR NOTHING!!!!
I had small to pre-teen kids.
Nope!!!! I saw to many lifetime movies, heard horrible stories, of child abuse, sexual abuse etc.
My home was OUR Castle and peace.
And its not for trying. I dated a lot. And boy did they try😂😂😂😂😂
Even get mad at me too😮😮😮😮.
Yeah baby, No!.
Yup! *Never* let a man move into your house! Never!
Moving in? I don't even let these men know where I live. They have not passed the test. I have dated men for months on end and they never know my address. You're not about to stalk my ash.
This! I can’t even imagine giving them my address. So you can pop up mad when I break it off, now I’m calling the police and being watched by my neighbors like a soap opera?? Not on my watch. 😂
The biggest mistake I made was letting my guy friend move in with me for a couple of weeks back in college. He wasn’t my real friend. I found out that he was a hobosexual using me the whole time until he found another girl to live with. I also let my brother stay with me for two weeks for free and he was dirty and very disrespectful to me. He would also show up late at night disrupting my sleep every night because he worked a late shift. I only let him stay with me because he was in the process of getting his own apartment but he had to wait a month to move into his apartment. My mom kicked him out and did not want him coming back. I had to kick my own brother out my place. Never again. I would never let my boyfriend move in with me. I told him that if he wanted us to live together, we are buying a house together. I also told my man that we need to get married first before buying a home together. We are now getting married next year.
Haha I had a man bring little things and kept bringing more trying to subtly move in. I packed everything back in a plastic bag and when it was full and he was leaving I was like hey take this bag this is ur stuff lol😂😂😂😂 don’t leave nothing over here! We can be together separately. I’m not taking care of a man if he’s not taking care of me first. I will treat u how u treat me.
Bravo!
🤣🤣 he thought
I love this 😂😂 homie got his dream crushed 😂
When I bought my first apartment my parents warned me not to let a guy move in with me unless he signs an agreement that he cannot take my home if we breakup.
I thought they were being overly cautious then i met a girl who bought her own house with her own money, lived in it with her serious bf for like 7 years and when they broke up he argued he had a right to the house and they had to sell it 😢 if you own anything of value get a co-habitation agreement or a pre-nup before you move in with someone, people can turn nasty when a relationship ends
Yall just realized this😂...no man can visit me...we meet strictly at restaurant...and i am not going to your house till we hit at least 1 and half years...
Sell your house to get a man out is Crazy!! Make sure your home is insured and make sure he's tired and sleep. 🔥🔥Enough said 👀
I let one guy stay over for a bit while he was looking for a job. When I came home from WORK, he had rearranged my living room so he could play video games more comfortably. Nope! Had to go!
Lawd😂
The worst thing I ever did in my life was let a man move in. Don’t ever move a man in or help them financially you will regret it eventually. I didn’t know these different types of men exist. You will lose everything dealing with them.
I had a repairman over to my properrty. We got to talking and I stupidly divulged some personal problems I was going through, in addition to the fact that I am a widow. His attitude and demeanor instantly changed. Talking about how I could really live in a place like this, I could fix your house up, you wouldn't have to worry. Then flirting with me and gave me his number. Firstly, I was offended he thought I was that desperate and secondly, I saw how desperate he was to move into my home. Obviously, I never called that fool back. There are plenty of repairmen in the sea 😂 Also, Priscilla is my mother's name and my granddaughter's middle name. Bless your mother for giving you such a beautiful name. It suits you. I so enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work!
Wow! Men think they can lay up AND get cookie?! Lmao!
I remember trying online dating about 12 years ago and I remember some fool telling me he could see himself living with me. The fuck you can. First and last time ever talking to him. I’m not into hobosexuality.
At this point in my life I'm very comfortable living on my own, especially without a man.
I was with this man for 3 years. When my lease was up and I was looking for a place I couldn’t stay with him, which was fine. When I got my apartment, he wanted to stay with me and I said no ma’am. Relationship ended
In Texas it’s three days then they become a tenant.
3 days?! Dang!
I know transplants be getting got in Texas with the bums.
I say take a page out of Jon Cena's book . You have them sign a contract before you live with them. You can get it through a lawyer or you can get it notarized. Make sure you have an updated WILL as well. I had a boyfriend that wanted me to move in with him, I declined because he was filthy and he just wanted a live in maid. Yeah we broke up.
The lady talking about global men. Honey global men are looking for the lonely and gullible as well.
I have a friend that had a good relationship with her apartment manager and she didn't want to pay money to break the lease, so she interviewed people to take over her part of the rent. When her ex-boyfriend left for work she moved her stuff out and the person moved their stuff in. There was a new lease made accompanied by a legal document, and everything. Mean while she moved to a different apartment that was still owned by the same management company, it was just located somewhere else.
It happened to me. A guy I knew since I was 14 and considered a friend, later in life became a romance. After we were together I found out he was losing his home. But like a dumb *ss I chose love and let him move in. He restored a jeep and bought lots of toys and all I got was debt trying to cover it all! 6 years and he took two months to move out, torturing me every day with the nastiest behavior. And he threatened if I threw him out he legally lived there and he would take me to court. I am so glad he is gone and no one is ever moving in here again. I’ll lie and say I rent if I ever bother with another.
Yes, I made a PSA about this on my channel too. The man technically has legal rights to your dwelling when you allow him to move in. You might even need to involve the courts to remove him. Not to mention, many women lose their lives because they tell the man to move out. It’s not worth giving up the rights to your property and endangering your life just to make a man happy. Please ladies, look out for yourselves.
y mom abusie hobo literally threatened her that he will kich her out of her own place. she later then put his name on a lease. God strike such women with thunder
And keke did NOT listen...smh
They never do
A man should ONLY be moving you into HIS place that he OWNS, not the other way around, and even then, keep the place you already own or plan to have a 2nd property just in your name. I'm waiting to be a fiancee to do any of this, anyway. Men will switch up on you with a quickness and start playing power moves on you. I would rather live in a woman only commune than ever live with a man I'm not married to.
Yep read a book from a woman in 1911 who also noticed the switch up too. This is also why males want women to stop dressing up and nice after he's with her due to she's peacocking for others (which patriarchy taught her to do yet the males should be peacocking for her) and he doesn't want his property peacocking that's his job once she glows him up and he can get a second or eight side chick.
I can’t imagine feeling sorry enough to let someone capable of out earning me, if we had the same job, and who is not subject the the pink taxes and financial discrimination that I face as a woman, live with me rent free. And setting rules and having relationship expectation is on another level. Go be king of your own castle ➡️🚪
My dad and his partner have lived apart all their relationship, and theirs is the only one I've seen last the past 10 years with no hiccups 🔥 My dad is an absolute nightmare to live with so that ship would go down immediately if they cohabitated
I don’t really want to live with anyone honestly 😭 I can’t share my space
You are not alone. I feel the same way. I don't even let people visit me because i feel like my space has been violated.
Thats what happened to me the only way he was able to leave was by getting evicted and i did do a lease so he was able to get evicted. Never let a man move him. Punk men.
Single females another good example video you're getting good free experience advice ! Don't SHACK, " aka " don't live with any man don't let them move in with you if you're not married to him ! You have already established accomplished earned 💯 % on your own by being single ! DON'T SETTLE DON'T DROP DOWN TO 0% WITHOUT ANY INTEREST !!
My ex was too quick to start calling "my" stuff (things I had before I met him) "ours".
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No marriage 💍
No living together
My grandmother told me so
My last bf wanted to move in, but he didnt wipe his feet before coming into my house. And then those same dirty bare feet in my bed. Not gonna happen. I think we broke up for awhile
Hygiene is an important aspect of daily living. People who don't have the same standards for hygiene move in together, they say and soon find that out.
Wow...what crazy law in...the US? In my country a man (or woman) does not have a right to a house just becsuse he slept there for some months or years. In my country this men would try to preasure you to get into a renting contract 😅
Everyone i told i prefer to live separately said i was crazy...but the only people i know thats happily married live separately 🤷🏾♀️
Oh yes best believe it this is true!! my fiancé told me his co-worker came to him and told him he is using his girlfriend for her crib and home boys and he cheats on her with different women and he says he just using her for a place to stay because he wanted to get out his mom house i was shocked af
I watched all my cousins and uncles do this growing up. Only moving out of my grandma house to move in with their girlfriend and then back to my grandma’s when things end. I told myself I’m gonna live on my own because I refuse to deal with any of that.
The woman who spoke about narcissists taking control of your territory reminded me of a terrifying experience I had years ago. I was a single mom, kids were around 9 and 13, and my husband had died 2 years earler. I had a woman friend who invited me to a party with her huge family. At the end of the party, a guy I didn't know asked if I would drive him home. I agreed, but as we were leaving, my friend noticed him following me to my car and she called out to him. She told him not to mess with me, and she was kind of intense about it. Enough so that I became a bit cautious. Foreshadowing. He immediately began trying to control me in a subtly intimidating way. We would get to where he told me to go, but then he'd act like the person's car wasn't there, so he'd want to go somewhere else. I knew I didn't want him to know where my house was. It took me almost two days to get him out of my car and afterwards I was so scared, I filed a police report because I knew he would find my house. The police advised me to move. I was packing up the house, had friends over, all lights on, dogs ready, baseball bats ready when late at night three days after escaping him, the guy, "Slim", showed up in my backyard in a ski mask and gloves. He wasn't expecting the motion-sensor flood lights, the barking dogs, nor the handful of friends waiting there for him. Don't give rides to strangers.
Wow that's a crazy story. Glad you're ok.
I made a mistake in my mid 20s let a broke man move in he didnt pay me for anything barely paid for his own food 😢
Wow! That first lady does not look 57 years old. She looks great. On another note, the way I got my ex out of my place was I distracted him by turning his attention to saving the money he lost while he was with the ex he kept going back and forth to. She conned him out of his money. By the time he got with me, they were broken up, sort of, and he didn't have anything.
Long story short, to keep him from quitting his job on purpose, I told him to use that job to replenish what he lost with her, which implied he would have something when he tried to return to her again. Once he saved more than $3,000, I kicked him out, packed all his stuff in trash bags, put him in the cab, we went to the storage facility, I even helped him take the stuff out, and then I got back into the cab and went back home.
He tried coming back. Nope. I didn't let him in. It's been since Feb. 2016, and I'm proud of myself for it. I will never let a man move in with me again.
I will be 57 in a few days and I only lived with my ex husband in erly '90. I have been living alone since. I will never live with a man who is not my husband and I will never have a husband. I am happy single for all those years. My most miserable time in my life is when I was in a relationship with someone.
Don’t do it ladies. As soon as he moved in, receives one piece of mail, he is officially tenant and you have to evict him legally to get him out. Literally you can put his crap by the curb and change the locks while he is away and if he knows the law, he can call the cops and he has every right to get back into your home. Even if he paid not one cent. Don’t do it ladies.
No man is moving in with me unless he’s paying all my bills & we’re engaged to be married lol otherwise he can stay wherever he’s at 😂
I've definitely made some bad relationship choices, but I have never put myself in that type of danger. Ladies, love is beautiful, but safety should be your #1.
Funny. The whole reason why the man is the head is cause he puts the roof over the family.
The fact that man tryina command respect in the woman's own house 🥴
Guess he's tripping, can't put two n' two together 😂