I disagree. Share goals with those people who you absolutely know 100% they are going to contribute to the achievement of those goals, and no one else.
This is so true. I started writing a book in 2017 and got it published in 2019. Even my sister and parents didnt knew that i was secretly writing a book. They got to know it after i told them that i have sent the manuscript to the publisher. And luckily with God'd blessing - Today i'm the youngest male author of my city.
Prophet Muhammad of Islam said : اقضوا حوائجكم بالكتمان "Achieve your goals with silence. Also said, " قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم "استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان فإن كل ذي نعمة محسود" "Assign yourself to fulfill your needs with silence, for everyone who has grace is envied."
The statement about not telling people your goals is especially true when the other person is a narcissist. The narcissist will actually work to block your goals.
Not just narcissists. Some people need you to suffer to feel good about themselves. They hate seeing others succeed, and if you do succeed, they will put down your accomplishment by saying anybody could have done it, or that it won't last, ect.. It is jealousy.
Do you think it helps you get your goals accomplished? or do you think you would do better if you didn't tell them and kind of did it in your own time?
@@J90JAM Not necessarily we can call them Toxic, but are trained by this society to want you to be, a go get a job type like others did before them, and question every dam thing you do the opposite of that. Ive been a entrepreneur for sometime and been successful and they still can't or won't me to fit in that fkn box and I never will...
I agree. Happens with me. Everytime I tell someone I am doing this, I end up a failure. But last year, I worked very hard very lowkey towards a goal which I thought was impossible to achieve once upon a time. And very happy to say I accomplished the goal with flying colors.
Wow same thing happened to me. I kept my mouth shut about my submissions last month and alot was accepted but twice when I mentioned I was going to submit, it didn't workout.
@@bopthestage4412 Just Like when your parents break you computer saying "it's worthless, stop playing video games! you will just break it! matter a fact give me that damn computer!", and then 10 years later your making way more money they they ever did.
@@bopthestage4412 Not like if you tell someone who happen to be a narcissist......he/she will make sure you are not reaching your goals without you first knowing it.
In 1993 I told my dad that I wanted to go to college. He laughed at me. Then told me that I was better suited to be a teamster. His laughing at me motivated me. I received 4.0 gpa thru all of my college years. Iv been an engineer for many years now. Sometimes telling people can result in useful motivation.
Think failing is alright, you always learn from it. And you had the balls to do it in the first place. But i understand your statement jealous people will only make fun if you fail. Cheers
I don't know you life and of course, this question might not be addressed to you especially but : why dont trying to be surrounded by more careful and caring people ?
Yep! This happened to me, I’ve never felt more ashamed. But I take it as a life lesson, to never tell anyone about my future goals ever again, not worth feeling the extreme guilt of knowing that people know you failed lol.
Option 4, is true, my Grandma were born in 1919, she always had said, "never share your plans with others they will have negative thoughts about it and I u will never reach your goals ". This is so true
@Life, Love, and other things You also assume the work towards your goal is not enjoyable. It may be challenging at times but the joy comes from an inner glow of satisfaction.
Correct me if I'm wrong, i believe and thought the same; in light of the information shared in this video, if you are successful and share your "how to" steps to be successful, such as this video, then you are a distasteful braggart. My take is that information that is shared is a way to keep things in check and balance. I have now something to weigh against your actions.
g man let people do what they want my cousin told his goals all the time now he is a multi million air people listen you can tell you’re goals as much as you want nothing will affect your inspiration for you’re goals if you are really wanting to achieve them. People that get stuff done without saying it’s the same thing people think differently come on this dude made his own opinion not to balance but to fuck you over if you want to learn.
@@adrianhernandez8598 i believe you mistook my comment. You just agreed with me. To be clear, sharing información is good to keep things balance. Lack of knowlegde of how something is done is called an advantage, sleight of hand in magic, or capitalize in finance over the other who doesn't know.
I tend not to talk about my goals because like the video says, talk is cheap but results are what matters. If I work toward my goals and people notice changes in my life (#4), that's great. If I fail to meet my goals and nothing changes (#2), at least I don't have to explain anything to anyone, or feel guilty for disappointing anyone but myself. On the other hand, sharing a goal with just one friend or mentor who will hold you accountable can be a game changer. I've found it especially useful for kicking bad habits or making good ones. I find a friend who wants to kick - or make - the same habit, and ask if we could be accountability partners. We agree to be completely honest and help each other along on a regular basis. I find that when I'm tempted to give up, the wish to help my friend and not let them down gives me strength to keep going. Plus, having a partner on the journey makes it much more rewarding.
I understand your point. But on the other hand, when we share with others, new ideas might come up, another person might give you a hand, networking is created...Teamwork is real. Exchanging informations, sharing concerns or highlights of our projects can be extremely efficient and productive.
true and you definitely need different perspectives. I feel like he's saying don't say what you're gonna do just to say it, especially if you haven't put any effort into what your goal is.
Also when you share your goals people can hold you accountable and helps to motivate the individual to achieve the set objective. I believe in sharing the goals and action to ensure that the objective is achieved
I was just searching for a comment like this. You can't forget that people might help you, be it financially, emotionally, professionally or anything, may gifting you not just with information and knowledge, but above all, opening or giving you possibilities to achieve that goal or even new ones to think about
Yeah, it doesn't allow you to really open up to anyone, if there's always this thing you can't talk about. If you can talk about your dreams and goals with someone, it really helps the bonding
"Work hard in silence and let your success make the noise." This quote is unrivalled. When you tell your goals to someone else, they either will give your negative vibes or tend to pull you down and say," You can't do this. " People can't do things themselves and then they tell you," you can't do it. " That is why I tend to remain quiet most of the time.
It’s possible that you can’t, but equally it’s possible that you can. The important thing for me is that *you* determine that for yourself by finding out what something involves, i.e. researching it for yourself. And if someone says, “Told you so!”, say to them, “How did you know? No, no! I’m not going to say anything! I want you to tell me how you knew that...” (Bet you any money they can’t... 😒)
You'll be hated if you act happy or fall in love-- if you are pretty or quirky... People doesn't need a reason to hate you, they will regardless. Don't let "people hating you" keep you away from celebrating your wins, true friends rejoice listening to good things that happens to good friends c:
I talk about dieting a lot because it makes it easier for me to actually not overeat around others and I feel a kind of pressure to improve my physic 🙆♀️ but I guess it's different for everyone. I now have reached my final goal in weightloss
There are levels of "telling your goals" Your inner circle = tell them everything Your support network = what they need to know so you can get the info you need. Your acquaintances = 1 line party conversations.
I totally agree. Friends and family most often will try to discourage and poo poo a dream or vision you have. This negative feedback can be intended or unintentional. This for several reasons: first, they love you and don’t want you to move away for their own selfish reasons. Next, they are “ sticks in the mud “ of their own boring, predictable lives and are somewhat jealous of you for going forward in something new and exciting. Let’s keep this in mind when a friend or loved one comes to us with news of their own to pursue a dream or vision for their future that may not include us. Best to not share our plans, particularly details, to everyone until it’s a done deal so to speak. Then just do it!!!
sometimes i feel like telling others your goals can be good, cuz now you have a responsibility to prove them wrong, and u can use that as a motivation.
Postive outlook: In some cases when you speak on your goals you manifest it. Depending on the people you tell they will go around speaking of your goals as well hopefully in a positive way which contributes to speaking it into existence. Sometimes I move in silence and sometimes I tell people what I have planned. I don't think negative because I don't want to attract negative, but to each its own.
Agree. Completely depends on the person you are telling. I like to have something things nearly 100% together before I start discussing. Either way the right ppl can hell you reach those goals, encourage you through difficulty, or be accountability partners
“Seek help in having your needs met by being discreet (silent) , for everyone who is blessed with something is envied.” Over 1400 years ago the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him gave the same exact advice.
Some people become more motivated when they articulate their goals to others because they feel an additional sense of responsibility to accomplish them. You accomplish your goals by taking action, regardless of you who tell. This video was based on nothing empirical and I’m amazed this channel is this successful
When you speak about your goals to others you give them the opportunity to create your reality for you. If they think in their mind, damn he can’t accomplish that and put more emotional energy behind it than you can put behind actually doing, then you’ll end up having them manifest Road blockages in your life that never needed to be there
When someone shares with me a positive goal, especially when it lines up with something I have knowledge and experience in, I get excited for them and offer encouragement and suggestions. I can't think of one time where I considered them an ahole.
I think it is very dangerous to divide people into "good", "boring" and "these people are the best people" - do yourself a favor and watch your thinking about people and how you price and judge them. We all struggle in different ways and for reasons you can't see on the outside.
@Mutleymondoplease help me to see where i judged, i don't get it.From my perspective i only mentioned the danger of judging.I know we do it, but i don't believe it's inescapable :) sending you all my love and peace! And to everyone else!
Mutleymondo yes,I meant the conversation related to this topic only where you ll both had your own perspective and disagreements.true my English is pathetic 😆.Anyways ..Good day!!
Yes, I am a work towards my goals in silence kind of gal! I know so many people who announce to me they are going to quit smoking, apply for a certain job, take up surfing, whatever. And then they never do anything! Not sure what they expect to get out of telling everyone they are going to do something and then just looking foolish because they continue with the same old same old nothing. Intrinsic motivation will keep a person going. Relying on external motivation and validation is doomed to fail.
@Life, Love, and other things Not sure you understood the meaning of my comment. I did not "brag" about anything. I did not state I reached a specific goal. Only confirmed what the video stated about keeping goals to yourself instead of looking like you never accomplish anything.
I told my goals to my ex mann, i said i want to studied E-bussines but he said to me pls dont talk to other ppl except me cos he think i cant achive it. But now am studied 2yr E-Bussines i got it 👏👏 so we have to becarefull with whom to tell our goals 🥰
Im a teenager who is going to do big things, after this video Im not telling people my goals. edit: people are saying i won't do big things since i already told people, well that isn't true since i didn't tell anyone in real life about my goals. Online i am anonymous But thanks for the support
Prophet of Islam may peace be upon him said: “Seek help in having your needs met by being discreet, for everyone who is blessed with something is envied.”
Also, some people want you to fail and will try to sabotage your plans. They failed with their plans and want someone else to be pitiful with. Misery loves company...
Only tell people directly involved in the accomplishment for example if your goal is to write a book only tell the editor, publisher and the distributor. Your friends and family will only get jealous and tell you 100 reason why you can’t write the book.
Then they aren't your friends. I have had many goals that I've achieved as well as ones I haven't. I had a good base of people supporting me the whole way through. Tell people your goals. As long as they are the right people.
As soon as I tell someone something I’m working on, it starts to fail, or I get the feeling that I have to live up to it, which causes me to perform badly on the project.
I think I have always known this and have experienced both sides--talking about my goals and shutting up about my goals. I found that talking about them seemed to release the energy needed to achieve them, whereas keeping quiet stored and increased the needed energy. I am glad to hear this expressed in this way. Thank you 🙏
Be aware, don't tell anyone your goals or dreams for your own sake! A few days ago I have experienced a big disappointment due to telling my wish to people. Every time I've spoken about my dream or my goal, It has failed me. Every-single- time! I was having a lot of challenges then I was not able to accomplish this dream or goal while the people I've told about were living my dream easily... No matter what, I had always something wrong happening to me. I've realized that lately. Hopefully, I have always been able to see the good out of any sad situations. So, starting from today, I won't tell anyone about my goals, my dreams etc... I will keep them secretly in my heart ❤️.
My goal is to stop looking to TH-cam ads to tell me how to be and to use past experiences as my guide. Including the idea of non experience, doing something completely new to see what happens. Like this.😱
@@ledsabbath3298 praying is more the life . In prayer is the ancient secret of the inner power of mankind. It been lost. And not everyone knows how to really pray. That is why Jesus said anything you pray for and believe it It will happen. But it goes more deep is not just praying and that is it.
LEVANTATE Y ORA a prayer is worthless if the person isn’t willing to make the sacrifices and effort to achieve greatness I’m sorry but your prayer won’t have any affect whatsoever on those that have no ambition or does that have ambition and are destined fir great things .
This makes sense; however, what about accountability? I've always been told it's best to share your goal with someone so they can help you stay on task and make you account to finish the goal if need be.
This is so true. I have experienced it personally. The plans I tell people before doing never happen, but plans that I execute quietly always succeed. I feel like the plans I share before doing is something that I’m not confident about that’s why I get the urges to share and get an opinion rather than brag about the idea.
When you tell people your goals, you become more interested in *talking* about your goals vs actually accomplishing them. So keep your mouth shut, your head down and get to work!
And here I am, sharing with people my thoughts, hearing their opinions, socializing, exchange ideas, not arrogant or anything. It looks like you drew in your mind those categorize and throw it on reality, missing out its complex. Good exercise if it help you be productive but not as a wide world view. I find it very useful to talk to people, exchange ideas and opinions, socialize..
Don't tell people your goals because you don't know who your enemy is, even your closets friends can be your worst enemy. They will try to get in your way so do not succeed, so that is another reason why you shouldn't tell anyone.
I did a mistake in life. I left my job. And told my parents I.would follow my own path. Two years I did nothing. They tied my mind and I tied myself. Now I am back to job hunt.
If your goals relate to achieving wealth or high status, then there is quite some respect given to the silent doer type. If your goal though is change on a societal level, collective action, see "Fridays for future", the climate change strikes, then in order to achieve your goal you will need not only to tell people, but to tell the entire world and to work together to achieve a more sustainable future. The same thing applies for any sort of collective action, like a labour strike, for example. We push ourselves as a group to stand by our commitments and work towards more equitable conditions. That cannot be achieved by simply shutting up and working, but by working together and building community.
Disagree. If the FfF people would spend their time cleaning their environments, stop flying around the world and so on, they would achieve their goals. But by protesting they don’t achieve anything but being annoying.
@@Visual_Writer spot on. I don't understand why, in trying to support silent do-ers, Alina uses the example of noisy annoying NON-do-ers that at best shout self-righteous virtue signals and terrorize everyone with protests. A silent do-er is really the opposite of her example.
You are talking about type c people: you do and show bieng an arrogant and productive at same time. Now coming to collective action: Plan and work secreatly on it, like organising a protest in the main street with lot of people is not effective uh untill u and your team silently plants the trees in your area and gradually increase the green cover effectively :)
The problem with that, even though you can motivate and create a movement that way. Your basically giving the vested interests that have control over said system your game plan. The Trojan horse or element of surprise is the best way. And trust a very few group of people
Telling one of my project to my room mate got me not only a collaborator but also a motivation to keep up with his efforts - I don't think my project would have got very far without his input
This is legit. I applied for a scholarship in 2015, no one knew about it, not even my family. They found out about it three months before I'm flying overseas. 😅
Generally I tell people my plans because this motivates me. When I don’t tell it to anyone I can quit anytime. When people around me know my plans I continue working on so that I don’t need to confess myself being lazy Thank you for video, I might try this strategy next time
In some cases you can work harder when you don't want to disappoint someone close to you :) Although, most people sadly just find excuses instead of doing the work.
People also project themselves onto others. Like you have a massive bodacious goal but your friend could/would never do the same so he says "that's risky, sounds dangerous, are you sure you can achieve? You sound crazy!". TELL NOBODY. Next time you go for a catch up just turn up in your sports car and $2000 suit and WAIT FOR THEM TO ASK YOU "What have you been up to". When you tell them pay attention to their face. The INSTANT reaction tells how they really feel about you. If their face drops, even for a moment, they're a hater. If they break into a smile then they have your back.
I don’t know, I think it’s fine to have a few close confidants to discuss your goals and dreams with. You want to choose people who are truly supportive and won’t poke holes in them or sabotage you, but it can be extremely helpful to have accountability and support while you try to accomplish something. Working in stoic silence also eliminates collaboration and fresh ideas that might be gained from talking to other people, and it’s nice to have someone to celebrate your midpoint achievements with as well. So I would say that there is probably a happy medium in there somewhere. ❤️
The worst thing about telling other people is the amount of people talking you out of your goals because they can't fathom anything like it and want to keep you down.
It’s good to write down your goals, tell someone close to you. Not the masses. Once you know what you want, know it’s possible and believe you can get their set the intention.
The reason you should stop telling people your goals is because you’re adding their energy to your plan. You’re adding their doubt, their opinions, their reasons for why it might not work and also you’re putting eyes on yourself. Do you want everyone watching and critiquing your weight loss or do you just want to do it? Do you want someone telling you why you might not be good at a certain area of study or a job, or do you just want to go for it? Your personal goals are not a group project. They are yours. Everytime I’ve told someone my goals, I told them like it was a done deal (like the video said) and if for some reason I couldn’t deliver, I was not only back at square one, but I felt entirely worse about it. I move in silence now. No one really knows what I’m up to. When you tell people things prematurely, you’re giving away the energy for it on some level. People can influence you and talk you into/out of things. They can plant seeds of doubt. I want to plant my own seeds in my own garden. No need for an audience.
My goal is to stop telling everyone my goals.
passdasalt you’re already off to a bad start haha
Lol!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I like these type of paradoxes 😅
Lol you won't achieve that goal.
I've noticed that, whenever i tell anyone I'm doing something it never gets done.
Me too bro
True even me
True true true
Same
True!!
Share your goals with those who may be able to help you reach them but don't go round telling them to everybody.
I disagree. Share goals with those people who you absolutely know 100% they are going to contribute to the achievement of those goals, and no one else.
True because sometimes it becomes pretty much impossible to hide your goals .
True man
I agree. Share only to your family and to close one.
@@Timithos that's what he said lmao
"Work hard in silence and let success make the noise" - I love that saying!
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Such a great quote, and what I needed!
Yes me too!
Likewise.
"An open oven bakes no bread." -Paulo Coehlo
Oooh i like that one!
Interesting
Paulo Coelho*
Nice one!
That is great thank you for sharing the quote!!
People are negative. If you talk about your goals and wishes they will send out negative vibes. In other words keep your mouth shut.
Exactly
Jane Marinelli - totally agree
or if you got to good strong conscience you just ignore them
@Jane Marinelli
Or they will proof to you why it can’t be achieved!
Jane Marinelli so true. They’re called haters.
"If they don't know your dreams then they can't shoot 'em down" - J. Cole
That's kool.
Right on.
Nice!
It's safer not to know, if a person tells you his intentions understand you're not safe anymore
Love this.
This is so true. I started writing a book in 2017 and got it published in 2019. Even my sister and parents didnt knew that i was secretly writing a book. They got to know it after i told them that i have sent the manuscript to the publisher. And luckily with God'd blessing - Today i'm the youngest male author of my city.
Congrats. That's awesome!!
@@Winchester1973 Thank you so much brother!
Prophet Muhammad of Islam said : اقضوا حوائجكم بالكتمان "Achieve your goals with silence.
Also said, " قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم "استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان فإن كل ذي نعمة محسود" "Assign yourself
to fulfill your needs with silence, for everyone who has grace is envied."
@@RH-vr7cs i looked that up an it turns out it was a imam ali who said that
So happy to hear that! Congratulations
The statement about not telling people your goals is especially true when the other person is a narcissist. The narcissist will actually work to block your goals.
Not just narcissists. Some people need you to suffer to feel good about themselves. They hate seeing others succeed, and if you do succeed, they will put down your accomplishment by saying anybody could have done it, or that it won't last, ect.. It is jealousy.
Agree..
But healthy people will remember your goals and support you.
But usually people taking granted of people like that,
Such a wonderfull people,,
I feel pressured when I tell people my goals because they keep asking about it so I start feeling rushed
Good you won't live forever
Wow,, keep telling then, you are surrounded by caring people
They remember your goals and they care about the progress.
You are lucky girl!!
Do you think it helps you get your goals accomplished? or do you think you would do better if you didn't tell them and kind of did it in your own time?
True
Be vague and ask the same question.
SOMETIMES BEING ALONE WILL HELP ALSO AND DONT TELL FAMILY NEITHER THEY ARE THE BIGGEST DREAM KILLERS ALIVE...
m sway my god, facts
You got that rigth women and family will kill your goals
m sway factssss
@@J90JAM Not necessarily we can call them Toxic, but are trained by this society to want you to be, a go get a job type like others did before them, and question every dam thing you do the opposite of that. Ive been a entrepreneur for sometime and been successful and they still can't or won't me to fit in that fkn box and I never will...
That’s why I’m moving to another country and isolating myself for a year. Just work!
I agree. Happens with me. Everytime I tell someone I am doing this, I end up a failure. But last year, I worked very hard very lowkey towards a goal which I thought was impossible to achieve once upon a time. And very happy to say I accomplished the goal with flying colors.
That is so true!!! Happened to me this year. Well, I've learned my lesson 😄
Wow same thing happened to me. I kept my mouth shut about my submissions last month and alot was accepted but twice when I mentioned I was going to submit, it didn't workout.
Lulu - Congratulations- ! Very happy for you, and for the others here.
Sincerely.
Good for you!! Keep achieving and let the success make the noise!
Driving test? School test?
If no one knows what you're up to, no one's gonna stop you. #DelayedGratification
Oh gosh this is good
But if someone knows about it and they stop you, you'll just want more of it, don't you?
@@bopthestage4412 Just Like when your parents break you computer saying "it's worthless, stop playing video games! you will just break it! matter a fact give me that damn computer!", and then 10 years later your making way more money they they ever did.
@@bopthestage4412
Not like if you tell someone who happen to be a narcissist......he/she will make sure you are not reaching your goals without you first knowing it.
t shirt!!
In 1993 I told my dad that I wanted to go to college. He laughed at me. Then told me that I was better suited to be a teamster. His laughing at me motivated me. I received 4.0 gpa thru all of my college years. Iv been an engineer for many years now. Sometimes telling people can result in useful motivation.
Wow,,,
I wish i could be like you.
God, please let his ash get to me so i can be as strong as him,
father is different than mother tho...
I don’t even feel comfortable telling other about my goals because they’re too big
Don't say TOO BIG. Nothing is too big. You can do it. Whatever it is, don't let me know. But you can do it
@@twentytwoedits2442 step by step
@@macd1327 facts
To make a long story short actions speak louder than words
Step ur wave game up gee
another reason for this is that, if you fail, people will know you failed.
Citizen Goose then let them know.
Think failing is alright, you always learn from it. And you had the balls to do it in the first place.
But i understand your statement jealous people will only make fun if you fail.
Cheers
I don't know you life and of course, this question might not be addressed to you especially but : why dont trying to be surrounded by more careful and caring people ?
Yep! This happened to me, I’ve never felt more ashamed. But I take it as a life lesson, to never tell anyone about my future goals ever again, not worth feeling the extreme guilt of knowing that people know you failed lol.
@@antoninatgerauteur9306 sure, share it with them, but not literally everyone
Never tell anybody your goals because they will tell you it can't be done or you should not do that... they'll do anything to stifle your goals!
yes or the fact that in case it doesn't work out as planned at a timely fashion they will question you why isn't it happening for you right away
Or they could do it until you do
Dan Stafford and most of the times, they do this out of jealousy
@@Jackgritty28 - great/wise advice. ( :
.... Thanks.. for offering... some sort of Help.
yes, people told me i won't be able to do things, but they are jealous.
My goals are so secretive, even I don't know it.
confuse them with your silence and shock them with your results
Option 4, is true, my Grandma were born in 1919, she always had said,
"never share your plans with others they will have negative thoughts about it and I u will never reach your goals ". This is so true
speak less
work more...
@Life, Love, and other things Speaking about meaningful things isn't the same as sharing your individual goals.
@Life, Love, and other things You also assume the work towards your goal is not enjoyable. It may be challenging at times but the joy comes from an inner glow of satisfaction.
@Life, Love, and other things Inner zen smile ' Ditto'
Yes!..highly agree..work hard let the success do the noise..amen
talk less,
work more
In the age of social media, this message is extremely poignant.
what do you mean by that?
Successful people dont need validation from social medias
Correct me if I'm wrong, i believe and thought the same; in light of the information shared in this video, if you are successful and share your "how to" steps to be successful, such as this video, then you are a distasteful braggart. My take is that information that is shared is a way to keep things in check and balance. I have now something to weigh against your actions.
g man let people do what they want my cousin told his goals all the time now he is a multi million air people listen you can tell you’re goals as much as you want nothing will affect your inspiration for you’re goals if you are really wanting to achieve them. People that get stuff done without saying it’s the same thing people think differently come on this dude made his own opinion not to balance but to fuck you over if you want to learn.
@@adrianhernandez8598 i believe you mistook my comment. You just agreed with me. To be clear, sharing información is good to keep things balance. Lack of knowlegde of how something is done is called an advantage, sleight of hand in magic, or capitalize in finance over the other who doesn't know.
g man i just wanted to put my opinion in words like that so people can understand and also I know I agreed with you 🤙🏼😂
I tend not to talk about my goals because like the video says, talk is cheap but results are what matters. If I work toward my goals and people notice changes in my life (#4), that's great. If I fail to meet my goals and nothing changes (#2), at least I don't have to explain anything to anyone, or feel guilty for disappointing anyone but myself.
On the other hand, sharing a goal with just one friend or mentor who will hold you accountable can be a game changer. I've found it especially useful for kicking bad habits or making good ones. I find a friend who wants to kick - or make - the same habit, and ask if we could be accountability partners. We agree to be completely honest and help each other along on a regular basis. I find that when I'm tempted to give up, the wish to help my friend and not let them down gives me strength to keep going. Plus, having a partner on the journey makes it much more rewarding.
I agree with you
Some goals are so large that they require the help and support of others.
Yes true
@@4givemeGodIloveypu Your 3 friends has the same vision as you? Or they are there to support u?
A good lesson for life: talk less and do more!
Yess!
Its not true ... people who brag about thier point of views allways wins.
I understand your point. But on the other hand, when we share with others, new ideas might come up, another person might give you a hand, networking is created...Teamwork is real. Exchanging informations, sharing concerns or highlights of our projects can be extremely efficient and productive.
true and you definitely need different perspectives. I feel like he's saying don't say what you're gonna do just to say it, especially if you haven't put any effort into what your goal is.
I also think being necessary to "share" your goals with maybe 3/4 people. Just to get new ideas or to get a feedback in order to fix some failures.
Also when you share your goals people can hold you accountable and helps to motivate the individual to achieve the set objective. I believe in sharing the goals and action to ensure that the objective is achieved
Tell to those who support you in good and bad...in my case thats maybe 3 or 4 "real" friends
I was just searching for a comment like this. You can't forget that people might help you, be it financially, emotionally, professionally or anything, may gifting you not just with information and knowledge, but above all, opening or giving you possibilities to achieve that goal or even new ones to think about
"Don't tell people your goals, just take action" that's an incredible advise but people won't stop asking... It's not possible to keep it quiet
Get some headphones and play the music loud. If they insist, "It's none of your concern" is also an answer.
"Let your results do the talking."
So true! Thanks 😊
I've told people my goals every step of the way and accomplished all.
Yes that's my secret too
Same lol we must be broken or this video is kinda dumb lol
This video has a part that talks about people who tell everyone and achieve their goals
Yeah, it doesn't allow you to really open up to anyone, if there's always this thing you can't talk about. If you can talk about your dreams and goals with someone, it really helps the bonding
@@DavidHowe-nv1nb samee
"Work hard in silence and let your success make the noise."
This quote is unrivalled.
When you tell your goals to someone else, they either will give your negative vibes or tend to pull you down and say," You can't do this. "
People can't do things themselves and then they tell you," you can't do it. "
That is why I tend to remain quiet most of the time.
A wise man once said: “Real G’s move in silence like lasagna”
That man was lil Wayne 🔥🔥
Lol!
and yet he was the loudest guy in the industry. doesnt apply here
Hot banana hot banana
😂😂😂😂
Lil wayne
I love it when people tell me I can't, makes me more determined to prove them wrong.
I‘m exactly the opposite.
It’s possible that you can’t, but equally it’s possible that you can. The important thing for me is that *you* determine that for yourself by finding out what something involves, i.e. researching it for yourself. And if someone says, “Told you so!”, say to them, “How did you know? No, no! I’m not going to say anything! I want you to tell me how you knew that...” (Bet you any money they can’t... 😒)
you cant do anything lolollll
"Work hard in silence and let success make the noise". I really like that proverb.
"Don't talk the talk. Walk the walk"
Never reveal your future plans or past successes. You will be hated if you do.
AttitudeOfGratitude, wow, so true.
What one thinks is there business. Nothing to do with me.
You'll be hated if you act happy or fall in love-- if you are pretty or quirky...
People doesn't need a reason to hate you, they will regardless.
Don't let "people hating you" keep you away from celebrating your wins, true friends rejoice listening to good things that happens to good friends c:
Surround yourself with people that have already achieved something great. They will inspire and motivate you!
Real friends will be happy when you share your achievements
It’s like a diet. Ppl who talk about it a lot never really lose weight lol
I talk about dieting a lot because it makes it easier for me to actually not overeat around others and I feel a kind of pressure to improve my physic 🙆♀️ but I guess it's different for everyone. I now have reached my final goal in weightloss
Lol exactly I can attest to that
이달의소녀 이브 hi
Like DJ Khaled 😂😂
@@mickieskiros5990 why?lol
There are levels of "telling your goals"
Your inner circle = tell them everything
Your support network = what they need to know so you can get the info you need.
Your acquaintances = 1 line party conversations.
ehhh even telling your inner circle can be disastrous with the best intentions
still disagree. dont tell anyone. you can find what you need online much faster and most of the time much better quality.
I totally agree. Friends and family most often will try to discourage and poo poo a dream or vision you have. This negative feedback can be intended or unintentional.
This for several reasons: first, they love you and don’t want you to move away for their own selfish reasons. Next, they are
“ sticks in the mud “ of their own boring, predictable lives and are somewhat jealous of you for going forward in something new and exciting.
Let’s keep this in mind when a friend or loved one comes to us with news of their own to pursue a dream or vision for their future that may not include us.
Best to not share our plans, particularly details, to everyone until it’s a done deal so to speak. Then just do it!!!
"Work hard in silence and let success produce the noise". Love it ❤️
I told my friend I am going to marry that girl and a year later she married my friend.
plot twist
Omg, what a bad thing sorry for that.
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thats messed up, kill that friend jk
Same thing happen to me hmm my closest friend
Don't talk about it, be about it. When you don't express it in words it'll somehow express or manifest in actions
Ppl ask why I'm soo quiet but then my see results , and they stay silent .
mom: so do you have any goals in life...?
me: ya but i can't tell u
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Heheheh😹
I said that to my mom too😂
Freak i already tell my grandma my dream before i not yet know this video😟, I dont know what to doo😖, i hope she dont destroy my dream
@@JennicaChou I think she will bless you...most of the grandparents love their grandchilds...
sometimes i feel like telling others your goals can be good, cuz now you have a responsibility to prove them wrong, and u can use that as a motivation.
it often doesn't work
i've tried it
Postive outlook: In some cases when you speak on your goals you manifest it. Depending on the people you tell they will go around speaking of your goals as well hopefully in a positive way which contributes to speaking it into existence.
Sometimes I move in silence and sometimes I tell people what I have planned. I don't think negative because I don't want to attract negative, but to each its own.
Agree. Completely depends on the person you are telling. I like to have something things nearly 100% together before I start discussing. Either way the right ppl can hell you reach those goals, encourage you through difficulty, or be accountability partners
Me to TH-cam: Thanks for recommending this video at the right time🙏
Dont tell your goals, some people dont want you to succeed.
Most people
Or some want you to succeed actually. They will be cheerful to you
“Seek help in having your needs met by being discreet (silent) , for everyone who is blessed with something is envied.” Over 1400 years ago the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him gave the same exact advice.
t shir!!!
@ Jotan ....so true...my jealous, envious relatives are the first ones who don't want me to succeed!
Some people become more motivated when they articulate their goals to others because they feel an additional sense of responsibility to accomplish them. You accomplish your goals by taking action, regardless of you who tell. This video was based on nothing empirical and I’m amazed this channel is this successful
When you speak about your goals to others you give them the opportunity to create your reality for you. If they think in their mind, damn he can’t accomplish that and put more emotional energy behind it than you can put behind actually doing, then you’ll end up having them manifest Road blockages in your life that never needed to be there
that s sooo true..
When someone shares with me a positive goal, especially when it lines up with something I have knowledge and experience in, I get excited for them and offer encouragement and suggestions. I can't think of one time where I considered them an ahole.
I think it is very dangerous to divide people into "good", "boring" and "these people are the best people" - do yourself a favor and watch your thinking about people and how you price and judge them. We all struggle in different ways and for reasons you can't see on the outside.
@Mutleymondoplease help me to see where i judged, i don't get it.From my perspective i only mentioned the danger of judging.I know we do it, but i don't believe it's inescapable :) sending you all my love and peace! And to everyone else!
Woww!your conversations sounded really interesting😂
@Mutleymondo no more duality
@Mutleymondo you're smart and enlightened 👍
Mutleymondo yes,I meant the conversation related to this topic only where you ll both had your own perspective and disagreements.true my English is pathetic 😆.Anyways ..Good day!!
Yes, I am a work towards my goals in silence kind of gal! I know so many people who announce to me they are going to quit smoking, apply for a certain job, take up surfing, whatever. And then they never do anything! Not sure what they expect to get out of telling everyone they are going to do something and then just looking foolish because they continue with the same old same old nothing. Intrinsic motivation will keep a person going. Relying on external motivation and validation is doomed to fail.
@Life, Love, and other things Not sure you understood the meaning of my comment. I did not "brag" about anything. I did not state I reached a specific goal. Only confirmed what the video stated about keeping goals to yourself instead of looking like you never accomplish anything.
Thank you
I agree with you, less talking and more doing, but people prefer to brag about themselves than doing something.
I told my goals to my ex mann, i said i want to studied E-bussines but he said to me pls dont talk to other ppl except me cos he think i cant achive it. But now am studied 2yr E-Bussines i got it 👏👏 so we have to becarefull with whom to tell our goals 🥰
Im a teenager who is going to do big things, after this video Im not telling people my goals.
edit: people are saying i won't do big things since i already told people, well that isn't true since i didn't tell anyone in real life about my goals. Online i am anonymous
But thanks for the support
You already said what you going to do: "do big things, not telling anyone"
Good luck.
Ketch Urself you just told me you have big goals
Did he say specifically though? Will he be the best eater?
Oh the arrogance of the youth. Good luck kid, you'll need it.
Yes teens..
Prophet of Islam may peace be upon him said:
“Seek help in having your needs met by being discreet, for everyone who is blessed with something is envied.”
Amen
Ameen
Ameen
Sallallahu alaihi wasallam
t shirt!!
I agree, working and not telling anymore actually makes me happy as well as you always have something in the vault for release. Thanks for the video!
Haha same with me🤭🤫
I usually just tell everyone what my goal is and brag about it and then I put stress on myself, as in: if I don't achieve it, I'm embarassed hahahahah
I also do that for the same reasons and it helped.
Same! It works for me too
But its not not good for your mental health in my opinion.
Same here.
@@Enzo-wx3vw True they try to make u feel guilty
Sometimes, when I tell something to others, they don't really think I can do it. Such a negative people
If i told someone i was going to do something it makes me more determined to get it done !
Work hard in silence,let your success make the noise
قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : "استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان فإن كل ذي نعمة محسود"
Proverbs 17:28
_Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise;
When he closes his lips, he is considered prudent_
"Action speaks more louder than words"
Also, some people want you to fail and will try to sabotage your plans.
They failed with their plans and want someone else to be pitiful with.
Misery loves company...
Only tell people directly involved in the accomplishment for example if your goal is to write a book only tell the editor, publisher and the distributor. Your friends and family will only get jealous and tell you 100 reason why you can’t write the book.
True
Then they aren't your friends. I have had many goals that I've achieved as well as ones I haven't. I had a good base of people supporting me the whole way through. Tell people your goals. As long as they are the right people.
As soon as I tell someone something I’m working on, it starts to fail, or I get the feeling that I have to live up to it, which causes me to perform badly on the project.
Maybe harness the fac you realize that and over come that feeling , living in fear sucks
I think I have always known this and have experienced both sides--talking about my goals and shutting up about my goals. I found that talking about them seemed to release the energy needed to achieve them, whereas keeping quiet stored and increased the needed energy. I am glad to hear this expressed in this way. Thank you 🙏
Be aware, don't tell anyone your goals or dreams for your own sake! A few days ago I have experienced a big disappointment due to telling my wish to people. Every time I've spoken about my dream or my goal, It has failed me. Every-single- time! I was having a lot of challenges then I was not able to accomplish this dream or goal while the people I've told about were living my dream easily... No matter what, I had always something wrong happening to me. I've realized that lately. Hopefully, I have always been able to see the good out of any sad situations. So, starting from today, I won't tell anyone about my goals, my dreams etc... I will keep them secretly in my heart ❤️.
My goal is to stop looking to TH-cam ads to tell me how to be and to use past experiences as my guide.
Including the idea of non experience, doing something completely new to see what happens.
Like this.😱
When you tell the right people you trust they can pray for you
Yes I do that too. like my pastor, if he is a real man of God.
You mean they’ll pray for you to fail lol
What does praying have to do with real life??
@@ledsabbath3298 praying is more the life . In prayer is the ancient secret of the inner power of mankind. It been lost. And not everyone knows how to really pray. That is why Jesus said anything you pray for and believe it It will happen. But it goes more deep is not just praying and that is it.
LEVANTATE Y ORA a prayer is worthless if the person isn’t willing to make the sacrifices and effort to achieve greatness I’m sorry but your prayer won’t have any affect whatsoever on those that have no ambition or does that have ambition and are destined fir great things .
This makes sense; however, what about accountability? I've always been told it's best to share your goal with someone so they can help you stay on task and make you account to finish the goal if need be.
This is so true. I have experienced it personally. The plans I tell people before doing never happen, but plans that I execute quietly always succeed. I feel like the plans I share before doing is something that I’m not confident about that’s why I get the urges to share and get an opinion rather than brag about the idea.
I guess I knew this all along, all I needed was a little reminder. Thank you.
This is very hard to apply!
Thank you for your continuous efforts to make us better than yesterday!
When you tell people your goals, you become more interested in *talking* about your goals vs actually accomplishing them.
So keep your mouth shut, your head down and get to work!
I’m starting to realize this through experience because I hadn’t watched this sooner! Thanks and subbed
And here I am, sharing with people my thoughts, hearing their opinions, socializing, exchange ideas, not arrogant or anything. It looks like you drew in your mind those categorize and throw it on reality, missing out its complex. Good exercise if it help you be productive but not as a wide world view. I find it very useful to talk to people, exchange ideas and opinions, socialize..
Don't tell people your goals because you don't know who your enemy is, even your closets friends can be your worst enemy. They will try to get in your way so do not succeed, so that is another reason why you shouldn't tell anyone.
I did a mistake in life. I left my job. And told my parents I.would follow my own path. Two years I did nothing. They tied my mind and I tied myself. Now I am back to job hunt.
don't give information away it always goes against you , especially when telling the truth
If your goals relate to achieving wealth or high status, then there is quite some respect given to the silent doer type. If your goal though is change on a societal level, collective action, see "Fridays for future", the climate change strikes, then in order to achieve your goal you will need not only to tell people, but to tell the entire world and to work together to achieve a more sustainable future. The same thing applies for any sort of collective action, like a labour strike, for example. We push ourselves as a group to stand by our commitments and work towards more equitable conditions. That cannot be achieved by simply shutting up and working, but by working together and building community.
That's right. Go and spread the gospel
Disagree. If the FfF people would spend their time cleaning their environments, stop flying around the world and so on, they would achieve their goals. But by protesting they don’t achieve anything but being annoying.
@@Visual_Writer spot on. I don't understand why, in trying to support silent do-ers, Alina uses the example of noisy annoying NON-do-ers that at best shout self-righteous virtue signals and terrorize everyone with protests. A silent do-er is really the opposite of her example.
You are talking about type c people: you do and show bieng an arrogant and productive at same time.
Now coming to collective action:
Plan and work secreatly on it, like organising a protest in the main street with lot of people is not effective uh untill u and your team silently plants the trees in your area and gradually increase the green cover effectively :)
The problem with that, even though you can motivate and create a movement that way. Your basically giving the vested interests that have control over said system your game plan. The Trojan horse or element of surprise is the best way. And trust a very few group of people
Telling one of my project to my room mate got me not only a collaborator but also a motivation to keep up with his efforts - I don't think my project would have got very far without his input
This is legit. I applied for a scholarship in 2015, no one knew about it, not even my family. They found out about it three months before I'm flying overseas. 😅
Makes sense although we're told to speak our reality into existence... I guess we should talk to ourselves.
Generally I tell people my plans because this motivates me. When I don’t tell it to anyone I can quit anytime. When people around me know my plans I continue working on so that I don’t need to confess myself being lazy
Thank you for video, I might try this strategy next time
for me it´s work the same, i am more motivated when I tell people about my goals. When I tell no one, I have the tendacy to procastinate😂
In some cases you can work harder when you don't want to disappoint someone close to you :) Although, most people sadly just find excuses instead of doing the work.
During teamwork:
Teammate: hey, so what's our goal?
Me: its a secret
You and your team are a unit. You share a goal in common. If it is a personal goal, you are a unit. Just don't tell other teams what your goal is.
@@mattlane4761 That means we can’t tell Donald Trump our goal is to stop coronavirus
People also project themselves onto others. Like you have a massive bodacious goal but your friend could/would never do the same so he says "that's risky, sounds dangerous, are you sure you can achieve? You sound crazy!". TELL NOBODY. Next time you go for a catch up just turn up in your sports car and $2000 suit and WAIT FOR THEM TO ASK YOU "What have you been up to". When you tell them pay attention to their face. The INSTANT reaction tells how they really feel about you. If their face drops, even for a moment, they're a hater. If they break into a smile then they have your back.
I don’t know, I think it’s fine to have a few close confidants to discuss your goals and dreams with. You want to choose people who are truly supportive and won’t poke holes in them or sabotage you, but it can be extremely helpful to have accountability and support while you try to accomplish something. Working in stoic silence also eliminates collaboration and fresh ideas that might be gained from talking to other people, and it’s nice to have someone to celebrate your midpoint achievements with as well. So I would say that there is probably a happy medium in there somewhere. ❤️
Exactly my thoughts
I gotta admit, I’m the last type but sometimes it feel good to drop a lil hint to the ppl who doubted me before I stunt stunt with my completed ting
ALWAYS REMEMBER :
• Saying your goals to someone will demotivate you.
• Saying your goals to yourself will motivate you.
"No great achievement is possible without persistent work" - Bertrand Russell
The worst thing about telling other people is the amount of people talking you out of your goals because they can't fathom anything like it and want to keep you down.
It’s good to write down your goals, tell someone close to you. Not the masses. Once you know what you want, know it’s possible and believe you can get their set the intention.
I’m happy I saw this before 2020 ended . It was a sign to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT ALL 2021 😶
And some people feel they need an “accountability partner”🤦🏽♀️
It works for some people, Who have genuine people who care for them.
This explains a lot of my past experiences. Thank you so much.
The reason you should stop telling people your goals is because you’re adding their energy to your plan. You’re adding their doubt, their opinions, their reasons for why it might not work and also you’re putting eyes on yourself. Do you want everyone watching and critiquing your weight loss or do you just want to do it? Do you want someone telling you why you might not be good at a certain area of study or a job, or do you just want to go for it? Your personal goals are not a group project. They are yours. Everytime I’ve told someone my goals, I told them like it was a done deal (like the video said) and if for some reason I couldn’t deliver, I was not only back at square one, but I felt entirely worse about it. I move in silence now. No one really knows what I’m up to. When you tell people things prematurely, you’re giving away the energy for it on some level. People can influence you and talk you into/out of things. They can plant seeds of doubt. I want to plant my own seeds in my own garden. No need for an audience.
So its another form of instant gratification, especially when they get good responses and validation.