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Sacha Slone wait! I’m an empath but, I know weird words and junk because, my dad threw the tv out cos it was immoral lol! So I had only books, and when I’d read all the books in the house, (and the ones I’d borrowed from the library that week) I was basically left with the dictionary. I didn’t enjoy that much though but, some of the words are still in my head. That said I don’t use them in conversation, or a daily basis, it’s handy for quizzes tho!🤣🤣
It's not about the words, it's about the fact that the other person is trying to game you via emotional manipulation --using language. The "weird word example" is just *one small* example of how a sociopath uses language to manipulate our emotional well-being. // If your intent is *not to manipulate* then this specific example would not apply to everyday direct honest communication! Does that make more sense?
Since you said you have read a lot, I have a quick question about vocabulary: every once in a while I will use an advanced vocab term that I can't remember ever using before and I can never remember where I've heard/read the word before, but I know the word. It's like my brain has a bunch of vocab stored away in my unconscious mind and every once in a while the word will surface! It is SO bizarre when that happens. Does that ever happen to you?
Sacha Slone yes, all the time! I think I described someone as an old tarter once. My friend was like “Where the hells that word come from?.” Me “ I literally don’t know, I know it was appropriate to the conversation tho” her “ yeah I know your bright, tell me what it is” “ it’s a nasty, evil, bitter old woman type thing, you know takes no prisoners,” her “ I’m looking that up when we get home to mine” 🤣🤣
That smile... damn. If you even suspect someone is a sociopath, run. Trying to beat them at their own game for self-gratifying Brownie points, is suicide.
@@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900 You can't win. Because unlike them, those who aren't sociopaths have limits. That's why you can never, ever beat them at their game, because they'll always go that one step further.
@@mobwatch8119 Most sociopaths have some level of narcissism. One thing you can do (while maintaining relative anonymity) is to take away anything that fuels into their grandiose self image. All you really have to do is act slightly less impressed and watch the magic happen. Your alibis being, “it’s just what I expect from you.” This gives the illusion that you’re rooting for them while they tear themselves in two, constantly trying to outperform their previous endeavors. This is just one of many many ways and keeps you safe for the most part.* *If you’re in contact with a sociopath with Machiavellian tendencies, you’re already in danger compared to someone who is not. You know your situation better than anyone else and always act accordingly.
@@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900good luck, dumbass. That’s a game for sociopaths, narcissists, and shrinks. I promise you there is levels to those people, and it gets dark. They’re not stupid, or necessarily even intentionally evil, but they will get something out of you without even trying. It’s in their nature, and they tend to be very very smart.
A lot of sociopaths actually DO know the definitions of the words they use, furthermore, these plans that are discussed rely on absolute control of the conversation and near flawless execution of the plan. If a sociopath were to catch on at almost any point during the implementation of the plan, they could easily turn the tables by making you look like a snob concerned with correcting other peoples vocabulary. Try and remember, while sociopaths have diluted emotions, they're not a computer program you just beat with a thought out plan. they adapt to the situation and find workarounds to either play the power player and make themselves look smart while demeaning you, or play the victim and make you look like an asshole.
i think i have valuble input here considering im a sociopath.not self proclaimed but diagnosed with antisocial personality and intermettentexplessive disorders since i was in juvanile hall hall and i can tell you that i dont think this video is properly titled because i dont think what shes describing is a sociopath perse rather someone more ike my uncle who does just what shes saying and he does from being insecure about his intelligence you can say "oh nick how can you just assume he feel inadequate" if your taking my word for one thing than take it for this to.and actually i enjoy vocabulary words i ferverently studied them with much zeal during my incarceration and even in school or at home ive made rap music with my older brother since i was a child and had a flare for mixing complicated words and double entendres, but refrain from using them in conversation because if you have noticed people with genius level iq talk equally to you and make things easy to interpret while my uncle compensates and does enjoy that feeling over mental dominance, but if you dont feel as dumb as their trying to make you feel, id say just speak your mind dont falter to much and keep your wits about you. oh and that comment about us not being artistic or creative? my lady what we do everyday is art in it of its self.
I've found it's much wiser and safer to not engage or argue with any nasty or overbearing person because these people are often extremely angry and vindictive.Getting yourself targeted as a Sociopath's Enemy is very easy and definitely not worth it...that's why you shouldn't argue with these Maniacs and instead avoid talking or having any interactions with them.
OlymPigs2010 Sociopaths aren't maniacs, some aren't dangerous as others. Like me, I'm a sociopath, but I don't have too many symptoms as others may do. It's OK to befriend a sociopath because unlike pychopaths, we could have friends with emotion.
I ve seen them having to have control over the conversation. They don't want you to talk. I find it easier to just look at their eyes and let them know without talking that you know what they are. They will avoid you after that. The only thing that frightens them is being exposed as monsters.
+Kollin011 Indeed. I notice a lot of the more empath types including my own experiences have listened to so many conversations, they are quick to recognize the sociopath and its incredibly fake conversations. They subtle cues of hesitation to draw lies and overly charm fascade of a superficial personality with subtle resistances to imperfections, pretending they are perfect instead.
Mary Boubard Grey rock method, though. You can't win against them, but you can stop playing their game. Watch those videos from the "surviving narcissism" channel. Dr les Carter is such a wholesome man.
@@Medietos @Claudia Bothner You can't control what another person does. Maybe you have some dependency issues as well, most people who trauma bond with narcs have. You can't change a Narc. Seek out therapy yourself, being in an abusive relationship actually can even cause PTSD. You're worth it. It seems scary, but you're not responsible for how others relate to you. You're only responsible to protect yourself from abusive people and you're worth it. I'm just a random person on the internet and by far not qualified to give you advice on how to handle the situation at hand. You need to get help and develop an exit plan. You're not stuck. You're free as a bird you just need to understand that you have powerful wings.
Anyone would disengage from someone who spends several minutes looking at their phone while you're trying to talk to them, it's bad manners and super assholish
I've lived with a sociopath/psychopath for over 10 years and all this negative attention you're describing giving one of these malformed beings just fuels their nasty agenda and emboldens them to do more harm. And, yes, anyone would make a face when you treat them like this... because what you described here is just plain being rude.
OMG...my husband uses this ALL the time. So much my 12 yr old son asked me where's the certificate/degree. My response was to laugh and say I'm wondering that too.
I know dude, it's really patronizing that she assumes just because somebody has a personality disorder that they don't understand University level vocabulary, AKA "big words". I don't think she realizes how many surgeons, lawyers, ceos, professors, and other extremely intelligent and gifted people are psychopaths.
I'm sorry, but i dont see how making someone spell a word and offer its definition is any way to repel a sociopath. the person is going to educate the listener on the word and continue talking [otherwise they wouldnt have chosen that word.] Honestly, this video should be titled "how to excuse yourself from conversation by being really rude" i say this girl is a sociopath in thinking this "advice" is brilliant.
hi sacha. i am rather smitten with you. a narcissistic sociopath has made me their plaything recently. you have really great advice. thank you for giving me strength.
This girl is clueless. Sociopaths do not memorize facts, they do everything on the fly at the spur of the moment. They do not play a logic-based fact game - they play a manipulative one where their opponent has to play by rules but they themselves don't. There is only ONE way to win with a sociopath, and that is to avoid them.
Not Sure the thing that bothers me the most is the dumb moronic people that blindly follow them and cheer them on even though what they said was completely stupid as hell. They said it with confidence though so “they won” right? Fucking Hell
@@briancooley8777 I am also stunned at how many people follow them and think they are just the best people. They do alot of favors, so you owe them. They are Super Sneaky and Fucked up Individuals.... RUN AND laugh while you are getting away from them....that will piss them off
If you prevail over a sociopath in a debate you will have an enemy for LIFE unless they can get you back and they will try you can count on it. You can make them afraid of you by sticking to your guns and not flinching or budging while at the same time indicating to them that you are ON TO THEM and you're not having any of it. They love to play games so don't engage them.
Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!
Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!
Better title: *"How to Be More of a Sociopath Than Any Person You May Encounter"* Why would you go to such effort to confront a stranger? How crazy do you have to be to take a simple encounter, and turn it into a battle? This video is NUTS! So if I tell you that my first girlfriend was somewhat unprepossessing, you'll whip out your phone to ask for a verbatim definition, because you didn't pay attention in school? Then you would call me a sociopath? How about your disorder of being an unnecessary pedant, with an inability to have a normal conversation, and refusing to make eye contact with a person you're having a conversation with, and picking fights with people you barely know?
yep, just saw your comment, she is just a bitch. The way she talks that fake smile that takes up half of her face and you can obviously see how vicious she is from miles away. All these videos about Narcissism yet, clearly she is the patient here. Watch how she is talking, like she is sharing with us something so important that only she figured out; She is so happy and she feels so proud she thinks she is amazing. Go figure, she probably thinks we all here are sociopaths now and we want to break her down or something lol.
What I like about the counter manipulation strategies you recommend is that you are taking back your power; you are gaining control of the situation. With people like that you have to play "the game" and look at them with detached curiosity. It can even be fun when you don't take them so seriously. That was our mistake in the first place, taking these clowns seriously and in the scheme of things they're no more important than you or me. You're letting them know you're not taken in by them in the least (your knees aren't turning to jelly and you aren't shaking in your boots). I can imagine the jaw drop effect of your acquaintance, lol! Wish I could have been there. Absolutely brilliant, Sacha! These narcopaths love to flash their brains. Btw, I don't mind being around a really learned person just so long as they aren't condescending me. We don't have malicious intent (like they do), therefore these counter manipulation techniques are great!! Thank you.
As a sociopath, I have to say that some (like myself) don't try to manipulate people. I never saw myself as a good person (Even in my childhood.), but I did know that if I tried hard enough I could be. I worked hard to to be an individual deserving of trust, and you are fueling a very dangerous stigma around people like me- who have no control of the disorder they were diagnosed with.
⚠️Irony Incoming⚠️* If you’re actively trying to be a good person (assuming you’re improving as you go) you do, via a technicality, “have control over your diagnosis.” *Pertaining to the correction of language used by S-paths. Also, I mean this in all good fun, do let me know if I’m crossing a line. Side note, I have “high functioning ASD” so… one letter off amirite?😏 jk again. Please though, if you deem it necessary roast my autism. Not only would it be justified, I guarantee (if it’s good) I’ll laugh. Much love and I hope the stigma wears away. Anyone can at least follow the ‘norms’ and ’be good’. It’s convenient if nothing else. Not everyone (yes, even with a diagnosed deficit in their capacity for empathy) can be evil. Personally, I don’t think it’d be their best interest 😉😉
Sure. And relationships with narcissists Are healthy. Sociopathy is a Cluster of behavior which affects Otter people negatively. U cant eridacte That. If you Would it would not be sociopathy
I have adopted this triangulation tactic by accident. My daughter in law loves to dominate my time by making conversation when I’m getting ready for work or working on a project. I have learned to just stay focused on what I’m doing and reply what did you say until she gets tired of it.
You will never know just how much your videos have helped me since I found them last night, I've taken back a little more power in my relationship...sadly I'm currently in a relationship with someone who embodies every evil trait of a sociopath. I found your video last night on changing your name to change your life as a alternative to suicide, been beaten down for over a year now, the first year was heaven, but once he had me everything changed. Thank you so much for these videos. Watching and listening has got me grounded and I really needed it. Thank you thank you
Keep studying and fill up your tool box with lots of counter-manipulation tactics. Even if you decide not to counter-manipulate, you will feel empowered knowing you have the TOOLS to run circles around that fool.
Hi I'm not sure of your qualifications or prior experiences with a true psychopath, sociopath or a person with narcissistic or similar personality disorders. But my experience of a boss with all those traits is stay away. Get space distance and time. They are deadly, you will end up harming yourself to end it. In my workplace scenario, I was worn down by 3 years of manipulation, bullying, intimidation, threats and I thought I was on top of the situation. Then one day I just broke, couldn't play the game anymore. It was such a gradual process with sporadic episodes of attacks followed by praise, that you had no idea if you were going to be patted or stabbed in the back. A deliberate ploy to create Anxiety and self doubt. The problem with this type of person is that they don't hunt alone! Because they believe so strongly in themselves, they usually have mentored others around them as a buffer, or if you like the people that pull the trigger after they have loaded the gun. These support people are also the legacy that these type of people feel they need to leave in their wake. I have spent the last 3 years with PTSD trying to recover from my experiences and the friends and Colleagues I watched being systematically destroyed. My boss was so good at it that (he was a principal) that he even managed to manipulate his way through all complaints against him that were registered at a higher level for twenty years. It has gone past a Departmental level into a formal investigation against the Department, and to the next level again, to an ombudsman. I have fought solidly for nearly 3 years to get this far. I have been utterly destroyed, I have made attempts to take my own life because of the depth of depression I suffer, the Anxiety has left me all but house bound, I self harm, numerous ways and my family has to see this. My advice is get out, don't play games with these people, it will only encourage more focus on yourself. If it's your boss, don't bother being a whistleblower as no one will back you or fight beside you. I was part of the school's leadership team, year level coordinator (preparatory year), OH&S coordinator, First Aid coordinator, involved in the IT committee, Maths committee, a school council member and fixed most of the smaller handyman jobs around the school. Even with all of these qualifications and extra curricular roles I was hunted. Then when I did not turn up to work the parents were led to believe I was terminally ill and was not expected back. At a party with someone who's to big for their britches, your tactic may be something you could do, but I would have to question your motives and psychological reasons for acting that way instead of steering clear of the idiot. I believe that some of your advice is extremely dangerous and is encouraging people to play a game against a person that has no empathy or regard for anyone! And you want to embarrass them? As a teacher I have seen children as young as 7 that have shown psycho/sociopathic tendencies and from very good supportive families who have concerns themselves. I therefore believe in that it is possible that these people are born with these principles and therefore have many years of experience in doing what they do. They are better at it than you! If you do manage to show them up then they will seek revenge. Embarrassing people full stop is enough reason for most people to at least be agitated, yet alone dancing with the devil! They have no moral boundaries, no feelings for you, and only care about themselves. Your encouraging people to play Russian Roulette.
I love when you produce longer videos (such as this). I mean, like 10 minutes long or more. Your material is so interesting that I can't get enough! :)
+Diamondtree31 oh, wow, what a fabulous compliment! Thank you for the positive feedback. I love to know I am providing value to my peers and to targets of abuse. :-)
I recommend anyone who is sincere, that self reflects often and tends to be a genuine person. Stay away from sociopaths, Ignore them, don't engage in conversation with them. If they ask you "what was that?" Do not repeat yourself.
She's actually describing a cerebral narcissist. It's not the same thing, but they are very similar. There's no point in wrestling around in the mud with them like you're a pig yourself, and if hurting them is really the goal, then indifference is the most powerful weapon. Just act like you're bored and they don't matter. It's really the only psychological self-defense that there is with them.
***** I should've ignored these idiots with their narrow mindset. You know what they say. "when you argue with a fool it is hard for others to discern who the smart one is." LOL! I shouldn't have sunk to their level.
I love how she even addresses the main issue herself. She says in the description that you should redirect sociopaths with "non-stop interruptions and non-stop annoying questions." Just because someone uses big words doesn't mean that they deserve to be emotionally assaulted and taunted. I have a vastly expansive vocabulary, so therefore I must be interrupted by someone who thinks that I am abusing them. If anyone is being is emotionally manipulating, it is you, ma'am. Also, if you could be a little less passive-aggressive, yeah, that would be great.
I did this with a narcissist, she kept arguing with someone about a subject they were well read on, so I pulled out my phone and googled what we were discussing, and she immediately started to back-pedal and say I didn’t have to look it up but I did it anyway :)
Wow Sasha you really pushed some buttons💪. Before I knew anything about all this I figured out how to stop my ex husbands word salad. I just started saying "site your source, where did you learn this, etc". He'd shut up real fast and leave me alone and of course never answered me. BTW you're not irritating. I would love to have you as a friend in this "narcy" world!
This is completely unrealistic for most people, they just don't want to act like a total weirdo, not to mention that this is a pretty cartoony view of psychopaths, or that most people using difficult words most likely aren't psychopaths at all. So in effect you'll act like a weirdo while antagonizing a non-psychopath while the actual psychopath is the seemingly ordinary person by your side that you don't suspect at all. It's true that psychopaths crave superiority, but they’re also keenly aware of the need for secrecy from a young age, so they learn how to act normally. Any description of psychopaths that basically says they have horns and wear black hats is false. You can't actually tell that easily, and thinking you can will make you more vulnerable. "But he seemed so normal" is more likely the case.
According to you, not letting a con artist manipulate you by being a sociopath yourself (lying about word definitions is a con and a manipulation)... yes very funny.
Kya Lucero no one is blaming her for what ever happened to her or anyone victimized by one... but to justify lowering yourself to the same level of a sociopath? there are far better ways to prove a point than deceit or malice... or name-calling.
I met a sociopath, he was my friend. A sociopath is made so I felt bad, he was broken. As soon as I started to pick up on his lies he destroyed my life. I had to leave the city. I still cant explain what he did and how he done it but it psychological fucked me up. He made me lose all the important people in my life, he made me out as the manipulative one. Ever since I've not talked to people really, I just feel disconnected from the world ever since I'm not numb but I dont feel exactly. I remember he tried to scare and intimidate me, he told me if I didnt go to bed he would smash a vodka bottle, I told him too go for it and I wasnt scared, he smashed the bottle and just stared at me. He never done anything, it was all threats like he was trying to make me smaller and scared and listen to him but I wasnt, at the same time I had alot of doubt but I wasnt letting him see how he was braking me. He really broke me.
I’d also like to highlight that most sociopaths… are not diagnosed and aren’t aware that they are a sociopath. So it’s best to just not engage. They truly believe what they’re doing is normal
There was this guy in my martial arts class that would bring up names and references of obscure masters that no one even heard of (not even our teacher), you couldn't look these people up. So my reply to him was always "that's nice" (as if I were patting him on the head) "that's not what we are working on here today" with a vacant smile on my face, and then immediately focused back on the class even more intently. What a pain in the butt...
I use to work with a sociopath and after correcting him, he snapped by calling me names while walking away as if he had a chip on his shoulder. After threatening other co-workers our boss tried getting him fired, but her boss was too stupid to pick up on how crazy this guy was. The sociopath was actually promoted to another position.
I appreciate your perspective. I'm wondering though, in a social setting, most people want to feel comfortable and avoid awkward situations at all costs. Don't you think this could backfire and cause yourself to be alienated from those witnessing the perceived confrontation? I realize this is effective, but I also think your own counter actions might intimidate others. It may cause concern of how you will react to something they discuss, yes? Of course, it would be due to the fact that they don't understand the purpose behind your actions and the intended sociopath. Thoughts?
this sociopath has been harassing a group of my friends for 3 years because we excluded him when he tried to turn everyone against eachother.. 3 years.... most people don't recognize how fucked up and unnatural sociopaths are, just hard to grasp how unpredictable and even dangerous they can be until you get targetted by one
you can't make a sociopath feel awkward. avoiding eye contact that means very little to nothing to a sociopath, it wouldn't affect them in the slightest
is there anything wrong with using "hi def" words, the meaning of which one is certain?? i'm just curious. i can't imagine anyone throwing out phrases they are unfamiliar with. where i work, they tell us all the time to be "wordsmiths" b/c our job can get kind of boring. it tosses things up a bit. does this mean everyone at my workplace is a sociopath??? i've noticed some people never use words that are more than one or two syllabels. given all the words that are out there, isn't this kind of lazy??? i love it if someone asks me about a word i am using and i only try to use words i feel would mean something to another person. sometimes these may be big words, i never thought that made me a sociopath . . .
so having a command of diction and vocabulary and a sharp memory more than likely makes one a sociopath? being well read makes you a sociopath? why the hell would you want to even try and manipulate a sociopath? does this lady have any expertise in psychology or the pathologies of personalities?
i dont see the relevance of giving me a link to that video unless you are passive aggressively suggesting that my previous comment somehow constituted verbal abuse. i simply asked a legitimate question about any certifications that would validate the tips and or advice you give on your videos. seeing as most of the content on your channel is directed towards dealing with people who have, in some cases, very serious and often dangerous personality disorders; where is the harm in me asking if you have any academic or clinical experience in dealing with these kinds of people?
No, not at all. I just wanted to provide another example of how to get a verbal abuser to peacefully voluntarily disengage. The goal is to distract and redirect without being overtly defiant[in the eyes of the abuser].
Ok, well keep on keeping on. Hopefully your videos help someone in one of these situations. It seems like you have a decent amount of personal experience in dealing with sociopaths and narcissists. I hope that doesnt effect you too harshly. Its dangerous even being exposed to people like that for any extended amount of time, both emotionally and unfortunately physically. It takes a certain type of person with a great deal of mental fortitude and knowledge to safely interact with socio/psycho/narc personalities on a regular basis. I hope that isnt the case for you. Speaking from personal experience, emotional manipulation is the toughest aspect for myself and most others to cope with. The mind is the most powerful tool humanity has in its toolbox and to me is the most important scientific frontier we can explore. Encourage yourself and others to never take it for granted, especially when some minds are so warped and twisted with the aforementioned disorders. Just be extremely cautious and mindful in meting out advice in dealing with individuals who take great pleasure in said forms of manipulation. Ill step off my soapbox now. I apologize for the length of this comment but it seemed the only course of action open to me.
Hi. I'm a sociopath. and no. I'm not in anyway a danger to anyone, because I'm aware of what I am and that it is best in my case to stay alone. I also find it disrespectful how u want to threat the ones of my kind since it wasn't in any way my intention or decission to become what I am. I was born this way and I believe the others aren't different in that.
I like to move it move it I was diagnosed as a young child. You don't need to hide it, I highly doubt that you asked to be the way you are. Embrace it, after all, we are the powerful ones...
Sometimes the hyper intelligent and socially awkward person uses the same tactic at the beginning. They misread providing info they find interesting as a social opening.
Number one way of not getting involved with a socio? Ignore. I'm very good at sousing these people out, mostly because they have a greasy, cold, prickling feelings about them with dull, spacy eyes to boot. Not only will it drive most of them completely bonkers, it could be the one thing to reveal themselves. Once they start into a rage, they can't seem to stop, and it truly is a sight to behold, but still remain calm. Number two...don't believe a single gotdang thing that comes out of their mouths. Not a thing. The value of their words are as good as that automated voice at the checkout-machine at a WalMart. Thirdly, if you can, find a way to get away, and lastly, if you can't, and you start to feel an attack coming on, well, do what you got to do to make it go away. Lastly, never, ever lose your cool. Ever. I've had a lifetime to practice this, but some may find it a challenge. Once you view the socio as a spectacle freak of nature and you the observer, it might help you a bit. Besides, I've had enough practice with some suspect ones. You just need to be witty and know how to counter their games, because they all run off of the same hardware at the end of the day. One thing I notice about most socios, they will skillfully try and set up instances where you "have" to follow their "rules." Most of the time, it starts off ever so small, but it's noticeable, and sometimes even in the form of a favor, but look out for a commanding, or forced-sweet undertone. For a small example, I used to work at an office that had gates that worked on a turn-style system and was activated with a card code. One girl, obvious socio from the jump I was ignoring, and she knew it, thought it would be a perfect opportunity to "command" me to punch in my key first, because the in and out line was going in order. Trouble was, she was supposed to be the one to go through the door first, but she wanted to prove a point (in front of everyone in that line). When I refused, she was getting redder and redder in the face, and took to literally barking orders at me to pass though. It didn't matter that she was holding up the line, those dull little eyes were dead-set on me following her commands. Then, one of the wooden doors beside the electric door opened, I asked the woman nicely to hold the regular door open for me when I went through, and she did. The look on the other's woman's face spelled out that not only did she want to strangle me, she was beet red and shaking from rage. As I walked further, all I could hear was animalistic screaming, and people going "wtf?" Turns out, her behavior she said was my fault. The mantra of people like this is always a "look what you made me do". THAT'S a sociopath. It's no wonder the next day she had her "posse" giving low-volume threats my way, and friends standing by the entrance watching me, spitting at me to stay in my place, and that I wasn't shit. You know, the usual. I just smiled and waved. One of them tried to follow me home, but guess who sped off when I got too close to a police station? Then came the "snitch" accusations. Of course. Years later, turns out that same socio freak was on the news for kidnapping and trying to "pimp out" a drugged up woman and her underaged daughter. She and her probably equally effed up boyfriend had bludgeoned both victims, for...you guessed it.....not following her orders, and the daughter victim wouldn't stop crying. Now the freak's in the slammer, and won't be able to hurt anyone on the outside anymore, she's among her own kind, seeing that prison is chock full of people like her, and I say a-goooood riddance. If a socio has targeted you, you have something they want, period, and if you pay attention, you can usually have a glean on what it is. Most socios may leave you alone if they feel you're not worth their time, but some do like a "challenge", because remember, they don't process things, or feel like the rest of us. They need constant entertainment, and that's not your job. Perhaps they may even take you as a threat, and their actions may justify the ends in their minds. I know just what to do when they play victim, try to make me look bad, or try and order me to do something in front of others to make themselves look more in control. There were at least 4 of them who knew I was ignoring them, and literally went to poke me on my back and neck. No response. They laughed at first, but you could see the rage building in those dull eyes. if you simply must communicate with these people, text, email, and document every exchange, and use short, simple words. You may need it later. Stay calm and distant. If you gotta take one of these freaks to court, same thing. There's always an exit strategy, and when they start their flare-ups and games, just leave them hanging. Just walk away. Or fake a phone call. If they try and bark orders at you, tell you they're "talking to you", or command you to come here like some dog, stay silent, and record them discreetly. Let the evidence add up. If they want to corner you and ask why you're not talking to them, or giving them what they want, (most likely in front of people), just be like, "I just don't think we're compatible people." Then leave. Yeah, they might mirror you, or mock you within earshot, but who cares? The moment they snap is when you click your discreet recorder, and if they wanna dance, one bullet to the brain is enough to take them down. Or a stun gun. Or a jab at the throat...everyone needs to breathe. If it's one thing these people are, it's sadistic, so playing up the scared and afraid act is enough to give them their fix and let their guard down for long enough. The more you stay silent, and the more others can see the nature of the socio, things will start to reveal themselves to even the most loyal flying monkeys out there. Why is this increasingly raging person always ragging on the silent one who's just doing his/her business? Yeah, most will feign "heartbrokenness" , turn on the theatrics, fan themselves and be all like "I just don't know what came over me...that person brings out the worst in me, I try so hard to be nice, I don't understand boo hoo", but it'll begin to add up. One day, the socio-freak's going to do something so vile and slip up, no one can ignore it, and people come back to you and ask you how you knew about the socio. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but it's going to happen. Let the socio expose themselves, or work in a way to expose them that doesn't point back to you. Once a dark triad is exposed, most either do these things: 80% just dip out, head to parts unknown to be someone else's lovely problem. 10% sulk, back out and try to put on a more civil and humble face, but it don't last long. Maybe claim to find Jebus or some crap, and the other 10% just go into pure meltdown "idgaf" mode. With which I recommend a stun gun, or calling the cops to let them know you got a crazed lunatic on the premises, which a sound recording of the demon-antics going on should back you up on. All sociopaths like to convince you that they are suuuch niiiiice people...until you get on their bad side. Some may even present themselves as the "loveable" azzhole. Which is vague, because "getting on their bad side" can range from you ignoring them, not giving into their antics, or not giving them something they want, you having something they want, them thinking you have something they want, or they just think you think you're better than them, or they thought you rolled your eyes, or you looked at them the wrong way. These people are just unhinged, and I just don't see them as people. In other words, these people are garbage. If the socio is dumb enough to trespass on your property, follow you out into the woods, or a dark alley, take out the trash. Simple. Just shut up about it, or have a damn good case of self defense, because really.....do you really think most people are actually gonna miss someone as utterly insufferable as a narc/sociopath/psychopath? Heck, I'd imagine most people would throw a party because the little toxic pill just up and magically disappeared, and lifted a weight of dread off of their shoulders. They know what they are and they know EXACTLY what they are doing, and I don't got time for NONE of it.
+Sacha Slone. Thank you for the video. Has this ever backfired on you? For instance, has a sociopath ever been flattered that you hang on their every sophisticated word, and take the time to seem extraordinarily interested in their unique speech, and vocabulary? Another scenario that comes to mind is this, has a sociopath ever been so intelligent to counter-manipulate your belittling manipulation by making you feel small by not knowing the definition of the type of words that said sociopath throws around as if they were common? Just curious, always trying to up my game :)
that sounds like a chronological liar, but with false sense of grandeur, many sociopaths and psychopaths make up things to make them appear better than they actually are; they're very charming.
A "chronological liar"? Does that mean they wear a watch when they're playing those evil mind games? My last gf was a pathological liar (with a touch of sociopathy), and she fucked my mind up so thoroughly, I'm too scared to have another relationship. I've been celibate since mid-2000. I'm not kidding. At least I save money on Valentine's Day.
@@blackpeter70 The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout and Homecoming by John Bradshaw. Those two books helped me so much after my pattern of sociopaths. Highly recommend.
Sasha, I had to pause the video midway to comment that you had me burst into uncontrollable laughter. I haven't laughed like this in a very long time, you're hilarious! Thank you for posting this video.
Every time I argue with a sociopath or narc I employ logic and this makes them crumble because literally not one of these people operates from a logical realm. Easy way to see if they're a true narc or sociopath is to see how many ad hominem attacks they use because normally they use A LOTTTTTTT
"And at this point the sociopath will disengage"... I don't think it mathers if the person in front of you is a sociopath or not, literaly every person I know or could think of would disengage in this situation, you just made the most uncomfortable and weird situation ever right here lady.. If you do this everytime someone uses a word or reference something you don't know then I sincerely hope for the ppl around you that you don't often go to social events ^^
why why why look at the effort you're putting into counteracting they're issues ?? just ignore people you don't get on with and love the ones you do you're playing the game basically look at the satisfaction on your face to be nasty to someone else
You would get fucked up against a sociopath, who would immediately know you're trying to ''counter-manipulate'' them, and just because someone uses a word you don't know doesn't mean they're a sociopath. I, an actual sociopath, would destroy someone who tried doing this. as well sociopaths aren't walking up to people and being like ''hi i'm a sociopath'', we blend in, we could be anyone, a high functioning sociopath would be able to fully entrance you long before you even realise you're being used. I, myself personally, Have had these kinds of tactics used against me, and i still manipulated the shit out of them afterwards. it's about out smarting the target, not simply belittling and being a dick, so ''countering'' a sociopath will only make them want to fuck you up even more. you're going to get hurt if you use this against a real sociopath.
I Have been scapegoated and bullied in extremely cruel and emotionally abuse ways for my entire life by my narcissistic mother. Finally is advice that lets me not just run a way quietly and go no contact. I dont want to actually inflict any real pain or serious problems, BUT I am also tired of just taking it, being the mature one, or getting back on this high rode that honestly has zero affect on her. THANK YOU for giving me some tools and advice that with let me get back at her gently and feel a small sense of victory after 35 years of torment.
This sounds like sociopathy for idiots. Step one, question their intelligence and vocabulary. Step two, when fact checking their vocabulary, choose an alternate answer so they appear wrong. Step three, be condescending and don't make eye contact to mask your own uncertainty during the conversation. Step four, create a you tube video to gloat over your victory. Step five, congratulate and swell your ego for being a sociopath by self projecting your own sociopathic tendencies onto others.
uh, no. did you actually watch this entire video? if you've taken any basic psyc classes, you'll know this is good info. it's about disarming the abuser; this is how you take your power back.
Nicole Rose / Empathic Soulwriter Come on, that's just what scientific data and psychological research says. Don't you know that if a sociopath can disagree with one's counter-manipulation techniques, then that automatically trumps the science because they're always right? It's right there in their God complex!
They make statements rather than converse, they do this based on an assumption others won't understand their reference. The minute you you express knowledge on the subject they shut down the conversation on the topic which they initiated. They're very shifty in withdrawal of topic the moment they release you know more. Conversation is a monologue with sociopaths, scripted, you listen whilst they speak, these conversations are bland, jailed with cliches & jargon phrases, no substance or humour.
Depends if there thinking you're intelligent enough for a real conversation with them. In a bizarre way sociopaths are highly rational so they tend to kinda enjoy the company of intelligent people. Kinda
step 1: casually aprouch human step 2:get stabbed by the sociopath for annoying them step 3: die but know that the guys gonna get caught since he left the weapon in you and had no gloves on
I like the idea of what you're trying to do, to empower people to know what to do in the event that they think they encounter somebody who is potentially a threat to them. But these disorders are on a spectrum and it's nearly impossible to detect that somebody is a sociopath from just meeting them assuming they're blending well. In my experience walking around with your guard constantly up like this is a great way to come across as an asshole when you really are just trying to defend yourself in what seems like a threatening situation. Sure you may discourage most unempathetic personality types but you're also limiting yourself exceptionally in social situations by doing so in my opinion. Again i'm not any kind of expert this is just my opinion on the topic after reading several books on the topic.
I did something like this to a friend of mine who had similar Sociopathic traits to my stepfather. He simply pulled his phone out, checked the website for the definition, read the one that I didn't read out loud and showed it to everyone else. Everyone thought I was a complete idiot and an asshole for the next week or so. Some Sociopaths may try and prove themselves if they feel like it will make their "opponent" look bad. Keep in mind that it's always about what they can gain. They can fake humility and aren't beyond making themselves look bad to make themselves look better in the long run. I guess it all depends on how experienced the Sociopath is. The smart ones gain information about you to help them get what they want and as soon as you become more trouble than you're worth, they will first use the bad things they know about you against you and then dump you on the sidewalk like you're nothing.
Even Sociopaths who are a stranger to you always make you feel as if you have broken some unspoken rule or agreement if you try to get away from them. It is eerie and very alarming. I wish I'd known these strategies before. It's really unnerving when a sociopath/narc homes in on you. They have honed their predatory skills to a point where you sometimes cannot extract yourself from them in a social setting, they are that focussed on you as a target. This technique to break their horrendous eye contact, and the way to quickly bore them and make them walk away is ingenious. I'm going to use it. Thank-you Sacha.
wow you sound like the kind of person people will try to avoid at partys or social gatherings. any time somebody uses a word you dont know, you pop out your phone and start questioning them as to the meaning of the word whilst refusing to make eye contact... thats how you make ANYBODY feel uncomfortable
everyone is different there are some really creative people that just happen to be sociopaths. A lot of people have stereotypes and put sociopaths is this little box which is ignorant. Truth is they all have different/unique personalities just like everybody else.
FlipFlopGaming they are attracted to new forms of creativity created by other people but lack originality to create it themselves she said that already....spot on..
No thats not spot on. Sociopaths lack EMPATHY, it has nothing to do with creativity. Sociopaths are not clones, they are humans and every sociopath is there own person. They are all different people with different personalities and skills.You need to learn how to open up that closed mind of yours.
after years of dealing with all sorts of people, i can give you the only responce needed for an interaction with a sociopath or anyone really, these tips are ok but definitely make you out to be an ass, head in your phone when someone is talking to you is quite rude and if its with a sociopath could be painting a target on your back, so to speak. so i've found the best way when you want end a conversation without ramifications is to siple be suuuper friendly but control the conversation, by telling a story or being complimentary, whatever, only thing you need to do is not let them much time to reply, make it a 1 sided conversation, if they start tallking about something cut in with an "oh my gosh that reminds me of this time when..." etc. nobody likes not being able to get a word it but its kriptonite to a sociopath and they will make a mental note to avoid you as much as possible. without any negative thoughts
i am a sociopath its somthing i cant control it has fucked up many relationships i myself am a harmless person i am loving loved and dont appreciate how we are looked at some are crazy af and ones like me notice whats wrong and try our best to mask it we just want to be normal im not a monster.
She's being far too generalized. A lot of high IQ people who are actually brilliant do indeed know a lot of trivia. Ever what Jeopardy? I think we are viewing a takes one to know one vid.
Whoa ! This girl is damaged goods. It would appear to me that a narcissist/sociopath is a person living in the bubble of finding fault with others, then counter-punching the perception of fault, Then broadcasting the process, over and over. Whoever did this to you, just LET IT GO. And step down from whatever meds are giving you those insane eyes.
I'm amazed how many people haven't watched or listened to this video properly, to understand its purpose. It's not about 'becoming' a sociopath or bring rude - it's about knowing a strategy to get a sociopath to LEAVE YOU ALONE when you have no other choice
Letting someone take over conversation is often times how I get what I want. You learn the people you're talking too easier that way, learn what they like and how they act.
I've met a few like this, but mostly those who loved to quote phrases or theories, then I'll ask "oh, cool and who says that?" or where did you read that? I will really like to go and find the book and read it too" LOL BTW I'll try that idea you gave and see.
Marko Feller no! believe me I know someone who are sociopath..they always want to win and be the number one..and they also dont like when you ignore them..thy cannot think why did you ignore them..what they know and want is you always under their control and agree with their decision.. shit..I hate sociopath..they are mostly like hypocrite
Why was I under the impression I was listening to a sociopath while watching this video? What I'm saying is, sociopaths are so good at manipulating people that you don't just spot them at a party randomly and know how to protect yourself against them. No, there is no way to protect yourself other than to cut ties. Really.
lol sweet heart i think you might be a bit of a sociopath yourself , im sure i am as well . Hell i think everyone is somewhat of a sociopath when in defense mode . but what do i know im a tard !!
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Sacha! I can see what is going on in the comments: so many people trying to discredit you, involuntarily outing themselves as narcs/sociopaths. They project their disability onto you which is one of the most primitive mechanisms, I think. Why would anyone care so much or even think of calling you a sociopath? 😂 It's ridiculous. Even if you were wrong sometimes (everyone is), you do the right thing and you helped me a lot when I was abused (and called a monster myself afterwards, just like you :)) I hope you are perfectly aware of what's going on there and that you are okay. Sending love!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
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Sacha Slone wait! I’m an empath but, I know weird words and junk because, my dad threw the tv out cos it was immoral lol! So I had only books, and when I’d read all the books in the house, (and the ones I’d borrowed from the library that week) I was basically left with the dictionary. I didn’t enjoy that much though but, some of the words are still in my head. That said I don’t use them in conversation, or a daily basis, it’s handy for quizzes tho!🤣🤣
It's not about the words, it's about the fact that the other person is trying to game you via emotional manipulation --using language. The "weird word example" is just *one small* example of how a sociopath uses language to manipulate our emotional well-being. // If your intent is *not to manipulate* then this specific example would not apply to everyday direct honest communication! Does that make more sense?
Sacha Slone absolutely, I was just joking. I didn’t take it to heart lol! Awesome videos though, thank you x
Since you said you have read a lot, I have a quick question about vocabulary: every once in a while I will use an advanced vocab term that I can't remember ever using before and I can never remember where I've heard/read the word before, but I know the word. It's like my brain has a bunch of vocab stored away in my unconscious mind and every once in a while the word will surface! It is SO bizarre when that happens. Does that ever happen to you?
Sacha Slone yes, all the time! I think I described someone as an old tarter once. My friend was like “Where the hells that word come from?.” Me “ I literally don’t know, I know it was appropriate to the conversation tho” her “ yeah I know your bright, tell me what it is” “ it’s a nasty, evil, bitter old woman type thing, you know takes no prisoners,” her “ I’m looking that up when we get home to mine” 🤣🤣
That smile... damn. If you even suspect someone is a sociopath, run. Trying to beat them at their own game for self-gratifying Brownie points, is suicide.
thats why I'm gonna do it
@@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900 You can't win. Because unlike them, those who aren't sociopaths have limits. That's why you can never, ever beat them at their game, because they'll always go that one step further.
@@mobwatch8119 Most sociopaths have some level of narcissism. One thing you can do (while maintaining relative anonymity) is to take away anything that fuels into their grandiose self image. All you really have to do is act slightly less impressed and watch the magic happen. Your alibis being, “it’s just what I expect from you.” This gives the illusion that you’re rooting for them while they tear themselves in two, constantly trying to outperform their previous endeavors. This is just one of many many ways and keeps you safe for the most part.*
*If you’re in contact with a sociopath with Machiavellian tendencies, you’re already in danger compared to someone who is not. You know your situation better than anyone else and always act accordingly.
@@hopeyouhaveagoodday3900good luck, dumbass. That’s a game for sociopaths, narcissists, and shrinks. I promise you there is levels to those people, and it gets dark. They’re not stupid, or necessarily even intentionally evil, but they will get something out of you without even trying. It’s in their nature, and they tend to be very very smart.
A lot of sociopaths actually DO know the definitions of the words they use, furthermore, these plans that are discussed rely on absolute control of the conversation and near flawless execution of the plan. If a sociopath were to catch on at almost any point during the implementation of the plan, they could easily turn the tables by making you look like a snob concerned with correcting other peoples vocabulary. Try and remember, while sociopaths have diluted emotions, they're not a computer program you just beat with a thought out plan. they adapt to the situation and find workarounds to either play the power player and make themselves look smart while demeaning you, or play the victim and make you look like an asshole.
To add on your figures I would like to inform that they easily portray a persuasive manner that can easily manipulate most of the people in the world.
i think i have valuble input here considering im a sociopath.not self proclaimed but diagnosed with antisocial personality and intermettentexplessive disorders since i was in juvanile hall hall and i can tell you that i dont think this video is properly titled because i dont think what shes describing is a sociopath perse rather someone more ike my uncle who does just what shes saying and he does from being insecure about his intelligence you can say "oh nick how can you just assume he feel inadequate" if your taking my word for one thing than take it for this to.and actually i enjoy vocabulary words i ferverently studied them with much zeal during my incarceration and even in school or at home ive made rap music with my older brother since i was a child and had a flare for mixing complicated words and double entendres, but refrain from using them in conversation because if you have noticed people with genius level iq talk equally to you and make things easy to interpret while my uncle compensates and does enjoy that feeling over mental dominance, but if you dont feel as dumb as their trying to make you feel, id say just speak your mind dont falter to much and keep your wits about you. oh and that comment about us not being artistic or creative? my lady what we do everyday is art in it of its self.
you read and studied in prison but cant differentiate between they're their and there?
Well said.
Orion Felis 4? ha..
How to get stabbed by a Sociopath...
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Tell that to Santa.
Roses Bloom i want to go to jail...
Sociopaths will usually not care about going to jail. Psychopaths do
flamemadragon can i bring crack in jail?
I've found it's much wiser and safer to not engage or argue with any nasty or overbearing person because these people are often extremely angry and vindictive.Getting yourself targeted as a Sociopath's Enemy is very easy and definitely not worth it...that's why you shouldn't argue with these Maniacs and instead avoid talking or having any interactions with them.
the best way to keep me from doing what I do, is to stay away.
you said it right.
OlymPigs2010 Good advice !
But sometimes you are trapped and have to work with people day-to-day, so it's good to know tactics to get them to spend their energy elsewhere.
...there's an old saying "The Strong Give Up and Leave...Whereas the Weak Give Up and Stay!"
OlymPigs2010 Sociopaths aren't maniacs, some aren't dangerous as others. Like me, I'm a sociopath, but I don't have too many symptoms as others may do. It's OK to befriend a sociopath because unlike pychopaths, we could have friends with emotion.
So be more sociopath then the sociopath? 🤔 too much work. Rather just ignore them 😂
Sound advice!
how to beat a sociopath be a bigger sociopath or a psychopath
I ve seen them having to have control over the conversation. They don't want you to talk. I find it easier to just look at their eyes and let them know without talking that you know what they are. They will avoid you after that. The only thing that frightens them is being exposed as monsters.
+Kollin011 Indeed. I notice a lot of the more empath types including my own experiences have listened to so many conversations, they are quick to recognize the sociopath and its incredibly fake conversations. They subtle cues of hesitation to draw lies and overly charm fascade of a superficial personality with subtle resistances to imperfections, pretending they are perfect instead.
Or just don't acknowledge them that'll piss them off too
You don't want to piss them off, though. You want to be quite certain what they're, without them knowing that you know.
It seems we cant win ,dont look at him it pisses him off or ..go no contact ,which pisses him off more....sigh..
Mary Boubard Grey rock method, though. You can't win against them, but you can stop playing their game. Watch those videos from the "surviving narcissism" channel. Dr les Carter is such a wholesome man.
K. A R M A wins:)
@@Medietos @Claudia Bothner You can't control what another person does. Maybe you have some dependency issues as well, most people who trauma bond with narcs have. You can't change a Narc. Seek out therapy yourself, being in an abusive relationship actually can even cause PTSD. You're worth it. It seems scary, but you're not responsible for how others relate to you. You're only responsible to protect yourself from abusive people and you're worth it. I'm just a random person on the internet and by far not qualified to give you advice on how to handle the situation at hand. You need to get help and develop an exit plan. You're not stuck. You're free as a bird you just need to understand that you have powerful wings.
Anyone would disengage from someone who spends several minutes looking at their phone while you're trying to talk to them, it's bad manners and super assholish
If you try to emulate a sociopaths manipulation, they will really like you. It's always more fun when others join in on the game.
Just don't get freaked out, or show fear, and you will be just fine. ;)
I've lived with a sociopath/psychopath for over 10 years and all this negative attention you're describing giving one of these malformed beings just fuels their nasty agenda and emboldens them to do more harm. And, yes, anyone would make a face when you treat them like this... because what you described here is just plain being rude.
Leananshae man i feel you on this so hard
Yes and that is what they count on.
Sociopaths are Rude.... They always push the boundaries of decency.
They also say they went to college when they never really did
+Catalina MaGoo One semester in City College and they are devaluing MBAs as sellouts.
thats a liar, simple as that😉
or if they did go they think it makes them special and superior
OMG...my husband uses this ALL the time. So much my 12 yr old son asked me where's the certificate/degree. My response was to laugh and say I'm wondering that too.
That sounds credible -- or were in the military I might add... Wait, this isn't a specific person is it?
this is ridiculous, I am astounded by her counterproductive means of reciprocal manipulation. (insert other big words that futher my point.)
I would like to see her scenario played out.
I know dude, it's really patronizing that she assumes just because somebody has a personality disorder that they don't understand University level vocabulary, AKA "big words". I don't think she realizes how many surgeons, lawyers, ceos, professors, and other extremely intelligent and gifted people are psychopaths.
I'm sorry, but i dont see how making someone spell a word and offer its definition is any way to repel a sociopath.
the person is going to educate the listener on the word and continue talking [otherwise they wouldnt have chosen that word.]
Honestly, this video should be titled "how to excuse yourself from conversation by being really rude"
i say this girl is a sociopath in thinking this "advice" is brilliant.
hi sacha. i am rather
smitten with you. a narcissistic sociopath has made me their plaything recently. you have really great advice. thank you for giving me strength.
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
Thank you! :-) // I appreciate your feedback! ❤
This girl is clueless. Sociopaths do not memorize facts, they do everything on the fly at the spur of the moment. They do not play a logic-based fact game - they play a manipulative one where their opponent has to play by rules but they themselves don't.
There is only ONE way to win with a sociopath, and that is to avoid them.
Not Sure the thing that bothers me the most is the dumb moronic people that blindly follow them and cheer them on even though what they said was completely stupid as hell. They said it with confidence though so “they won” right? Fucking Hell
Or to shoot them
@@briancooley8777 I am also stunned at how many people follow them and think they are just the best people.
They do alot of favors, so you owe them. They are Super Sneaky and Fucked up Individuals.... RUN AND laugh while you are getting away from them....that will piss them off
COOLkid123 goodForLife_103 ok coolkid
Or beat them up that Will work to
If you prevail over a sociopath in a debate you will have an enemy for LIFE unless they can get you back and they will try you can count on it. You can make them afraid of you by sticking to your guns and not flinching or budging while at the same time indicating to them that you are ON TO THEM and you're not having any of it. They love to play games so don't engage them.
Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!
Roger Hornaday, oh I have a fetish of engaging sociopaths and love to debate with them. It is self gratification to know that sociopaths are nothing but a huge bs! I love the look on sociopaths face when I bet them in their own games. you have to learn everything about sociopaths and know their games and I love to show them their wrong. Sociopaths cannot stand me because I know how to twist their own words and thoughts to prove that they are nothing. My ex is a big sociopath. I learned from ex and I used my own tactics to reflect bs back to ex. Ex even had friends of sociopath and they all cannot stand me. they think I am stupid because they want to win and they could not. So the war continued until they gave up. Ha ha!!!!
Ashtoreth Ashtoreth1 Spoken like a true sociopath....
Ashtoreth Ashtoreth1 Also, sociopaths do not just "give up"...they WAIT. 😁😁😁😉
TastyCritters, oh yeah, lol the waiting game. I forgot about that lol!😉
Better title: *"How to Be More of a Sociopath Than Any Person You May Encounter"* Why would you go to such effort to confront a stranger? How crazy do you have to be to take a simple encounter, and turn it into a battle? This video is NUTS! So if I tell you that my first girlfriend was somewhat unprepossessing, you'll whip out your phone to ask for a verbatim definition, because you didn't pay attention in school? Then you would call me a sociopath? How about your disorder of being an unnecessary pedant, with an inability to have a normal conversation, and refusing to make eye contact with a person you're having a conversation with, and picking fights with people you barely know?
8literbeater
Omfg, YES!
Spot-the-Fuck-ON
yup you pegged her...wing nut...lol
YES!!!!
8literbeater, because it's fun!!!!
yep, just saw your comment, she is just a bitch.
The way she talks that fake smile that takes up half of her face and you can obviously see how vicious she is from miles away.
All these videos about Narcissism yet, clearly she is the patient here. Watch how she is talking, like she is sharing with us something so important that only she figured out; She is so happy and she feels so proud she thinks she is amazing.
Go figure, she probably thinks we all here are sociopaths now and we want to break her down or something lol.
What I like about the counter manipulation strategies you recommend is that you are taking back your power; you are gaining control of the situation. With people like that you have to play "the game" and look at them with detached curiosity. It can even be fun when you don't take them so seriously. That was our mistake in the first place, taking these clowns seriously and in the scheme of things they're no more important than you or me. You're letting them know you're not taken in by them in the least (your knees aren't turning to jelly and you aren't shaking in your boots). I can imagine the jaw drop effect of your acquaintance, lol! Wish I could have been there. Absolutely brilliant, Sacha! These narcopaths love to flash their brains. Btw, I don't mind being around a really learned person just so long as they aren't condescending me. We don't have malicious intent (like they do), therefore these counter manipulation techniques are great!! Thank you.
As a sociopath, I have to say that some (like myself) don't try to manipulate people. I never saw myself as a good person (Even in my childhood.), but I did know that if I tried hard enough I could be. I worked hard to to be an individual deserving of trust, and you are fueling a very dangerous stigma around people like me- who have no control of the disorder they were diagnosed with.
⚠️Irony Incoming⚠️* If you’re actively trying to be a good person (assuming you’re improving as you go) you do, via a technicality, “have control over your diagnosis.”
*Pertaining to the correction of language used by S-paths. Also, I mean this in all good fun, do let me know if I’m crossing a line. Side note, I have “high functioning ASD” so… one letter off amirite?😏 jk again. Please though, if you deem it necessary roast my autism. Not only would it be justified, I guarantee (if it’s good) I’ll laugh. Much love and I hope the stigma wears away. Anyone can at least follow the ‘norms’ and ’be good’. It’s convenient if nothing else. Not everyone (yes, even with a diagnosed deficit in their capacity for empathy) can be evil. Personally, I don’t think it’d be their best interest 😉😉
Sure. And relationships with narcissists Are healthy. Sociopathy is a Cluster of behavior which affects Otter people negatively. U cant eridacte That. If you Would it would not be sociopathy
I have adopted this triangulation tactic by accident. My daughter in law loves to dominate my time by making conversation when I’m getting ready for work or working on a project. I have learned to just stay focused on what I’m doing and reply what did you say until she gets tired of it.
Don't fuck with a sociopath. They will get even with you someway or another eventually.
Don't fuck with an educated empath. They will get even with you someway or another eventually.
I have not heard that about INTJ's // I am an ENFP :-D
Thank you for your compassion❤❤
Thank you for your compassion❤❤
casemonsterxxx You clearly are not a female, otherwise you would have appreciated the hearts. 🍌🍌 I wonder if you like bananas better?
This actually marginalises you from everyone else involved. People think you're disrespectful, pedantic and rude if you do this.
I'm a high IQ EMPATH I beat them at their own game, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, I go deep or correct them.
Same
Who's them?
Theresa Brewer I can go deep too lol. J/k I find myself at times having great mental agility at times.
Some may mock you and make fun of you all the same, some don't care at all.
Theresa Brewer Just be aware that if you cross an imaginary line, you may end up dead.
You will never know just how much your videos have helped me since I found them last night, I've taken back a little more power in my relationship...sadly I'm currently in a relationship with someone who embodies every evil trait of a sociopath. I found your video last night on changing your name to change your life as a alternative to suicide, been beaten down for over a year now, the first year was heaven, but once he had me everything changed. Thank you so much for these videos. Watching and listening has got me grounded and I really needed it. Thank you thank you
Keep studying and fill up your tool box with lots of counter-manipulation tactics. Even if you decide not to counter-manipulate, you will feel empowered knowing you have the TOOLS to run circles around that fool.
Hi
I'm not sure of your qualifications or prior experiences with a true psychopath, sociopath or a person with narcissistic or similar personality disorders. But my experience of a boss with all those traits is stay away. Get space distance and time. They are deadly, you will end up harming yourself to end it.
In my workplace scenario, I was worn down by 3 years of manipulation, bullying, intimidation, threats and I thought I was on top of the situation.
Then one day I just broke, couldn't play the game anymore.
It was such a gradual process with sporadic episodes of attacks followed by praise, that you had no idea if you were going to be patted or stabbed in the back. A deliberate ploy to create Anxiety and self doubt.
The problem with this type of person is that they don't hunt alone! Because they believe so strongly in themselves, they usually have mentored others around them as a buffer, or if you like the people that pull the trigger after they have loaded the gun. These support people are also the legacy that these type of people feel they need to leave in their wake.
I have spent the last 3 years with PTSD trying to recover from my experiences and the friends and Colleagues I watched being systematically destroyed. My boss was so good at it that (he was a principal) that he even managed to manipulate his way through all complaints against him that were registered at a higher level for twenty years. It has gone past a Departmental level into a formal investigation against the Department, and to the next level again, to an ombudsman.
I have fought solidly for nearly 3 years to get this far. I have been utterly destroyed, I have made attempts to take my own life because of the depth of depression I suffer, the Anxiety has left me all but house bound, I self harm, numerous ways and my family has to see this.
My advice is get out, don't play games with these people, it will only encourage more focus on yourself.
If it's your boss, don't bother being a whistleblower as no one will back you or fight beside you.
I was part of the school's leadership team, year level coordinator (preparatory year), OH&S coordinator, First Aid coordinator, involved in the IT committee, Maths committee, a school council member and fixed most of the smaller handyman jobs around the school.
Even with all of these qualifications and extra curricular roles I was hunted. Then when I did not turn up to work the parents were led to believe I was terminally ill and was not expected back.
At a party with someone who's to big for their britches, your tactic may be something you could do, but I would have to question your motives and psychological reasons for acting that way instead of steering clear of the idiot.
I believe that some of your advice is extremely dangerous and is encouraging people to play a game against a person that has no empathy or regard for anyone! And you want to embarrass them?
As a teacher I have seen children as young as 7 that have shown psycho/sociopathic tendencies and from very good supportive families who have concerns themselves. I therefore believe in that it is possible that these people are born with these principles and therefore have many years of experience in doing what they do. They are better at it than you! If you do manage to show them up then they will seek revenge.
Embarrassing people full stop is enough reason for most people to at least be agitated, yet alone dancing with the devil!
They have no moral boundaries, no feelings for you, and only care about themselves. Your encouraging people to play Russian Roulette.
Because getting under the skin of a sociopath sounds so wise.....-_-'
You put a smile back on my face after a wonderful encounter with a sociopath today
I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!
I love when you produce longer videos (such as this). I mean, like 10 minutes long or more. Your material is so interesting that I can't get enough! :)
+Diamondtree31
oh, wow, what a fabulous compliment! Thank you for the positive feedback. I love to know I am providing value to my peers and to targets of abuse. :-)
I recommend anyone who is sincere, that self reflects often and tends to be a genuine person. Stay away from sociopaths, Ignore them, don't engage in conversation with them. If they ask you "what was that?" Do not repeat yourself.
She's actually describing a cerebral narcissist. It's not the same thing, but they are very similar.
There's no point in wrestling around in the mud with them like you're a pig yourself, and if hurting them is really the goal, then indifference is the most powerful weapon. Just act like you're bored and they don't matter. It's really the only psychological self-defense that there is with them.
as a sociopath i know this would make me extremely angry lol , great advice though
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
This comment section has been the light of my day. I've not seen such bullshit in all my days
what if I understand the big words they are using?
Pretend you don't 😂
This is my husband, exactly! OMG! He never knows the big words he uses!!
animegod92 My husband is a caucasian jew.
Spenser McNett My husband happens to be a caucasian jew, so it must be a white thing.
Spenser McNett My husband is a "white" jew.
***** I should've ignored these idiots with their narrow mindset. You know what they say. "when you argue with a fool it is hard for others to discern who the smart one is." LOL! I shouldn't have sunk to their level.
***** You are so correct. Have a beautiful day, Rachel. BTW, I love your name! :)
I love how she even addresses the main issue herself. She says in the description that you should redirect sociopaths with "non-stop interruptions and non-stop annoying questions." Just because someone uses big words doesn't mean that they deserve to be emotionally assaulted and taunted. I have a vastly expansive vocabulary, so therefore I must be interrupted by someone who thinks that I am abusing them. If anyone is being is emotionally manipulating, it is you, ma'am. Also, if you could be a little less passive-aggressive, yeah, that would be great.
I did this with a narcissist, she kept arguing with someone about a subject they were well read on, so I pulled out my phone and googled what we were discussing, and she immediately started to back-pedal and say I didn’t have to look it up but I did it anyway :)
Wow Sasha you really pushed some buttons💪. Before I knew anything about all this I figured out how to stop my ex husbands word salad. I just started saying "site your source, where did you learn this, etc". He'd shut up real fast and leave me alone and of course never answered me. BTW you're not irritating. I would love to have you as a friend in this "narcy" world!
Thank You :-)
so, uh, you don't happen to be familiar with philosophy, are you?
This is completely unrealistic for most people, they just don't want to act like a total weirdo, not to mention that this is a pretty cartoony view of psychopaths, or that most people using difficult words most likely aren't psychopaths at all. So in effect you'll act like a weirdo while antagonizing a non-psychopath while the actual psychopath is the seemingly ordinary person by your side that you don't suspect at all. It's true that psychopaths crave superiority, but they’re also keenly aware of the need for secrecy from a young age, so they learn how to act normally. Any description of psychopaths that basically says they have horns and wear black hats is false. You can't actually tell that easily, and thinking you can will make you more vulnerable. "But he seemed so normal" is more likely the case.
this isn't about psychopaths. learn the differences between sociopaths and psychopaths. there are many.
re-title: how to be a sociopath
According to you, not letting a con artists manipulate you = sociopath. Now, that is funny.
According to you, not letting a con artist manipulate you by being a sociopath yourself (lying about word definitions is a con and a manipulation)... yes very funny.
Perfect response!!
Victim-blamer. Shame on YOU, actually. Gaslighting ass.
Kya Lucero no one is blaming her for what ever happened to her or anyone victimized by one... but to justify lowering yourself to the same level of a sociopath? there are far better ways to prove a point than deceit or malice... or name-calling.
I met a sociopath, he was my friend. A sociopath is made so I felt bad, he was broken. As soon as I started to pick up on his lies he destroyed my life. I had to leave the city. I still cant explain what he did and how he done it but it psychological fucked me up. He made me lose all the important people in my life, he made me out as the manipulative one. Ever since I've not talked to people really, I just feel disconnected from the world ever since I'm not numb but I dont feel exactly. I remember he tried to scare and intimidate me, he told me if I didnt go to bed he would smash a vodka bottle, I told him too go for it and I wasnt scared, he smashed the bottle and just stared at me. He never done anything, it was all threats like he was trying to make me smaller and scared and listen to him but I wasnt, at the same time I had alot of doubt but I wasnt letting him see how he was braking me. He really broke me.
I’d also like to highlight that most sociopaths… are not diagnosed and aren’t aware that they are a sociopath. So it’s best to just not engage. They truly believe what they’re doing is normal
Or... they'll make you show them the screen lmao.
Lol
That's what I'd do...especially if I know I'm right to a very high degree of certainty. Then if I am a socio I have your ass at that point.
There was this guy in my martial arts class that would bring up names and references of obscure masters that no one even heard of (not even our teacher), you couldn't look these people up. So my reply to him was always "that's nice" (as if I were patting him on the head) "that's not what we are working on here today" with a vacant smile on my face, and then immediately focused back on the class even more intently. What a pain in the butt...
+001Catey
great story!! Thank you for sharing. :-)
Love your videos, Sacha! I wish that I had known about narcissism and sociopaths years ago, I probably could've avoided a lot of heartache!
Thank you Leslie :-)
I agree especially if they have 2_Pops
I use to work with a sociopath and after correcting him, he snapped by calling me names while walking away as if he had a chip on his shoulder. After threatening other co-workers our boss tried getting him fired, but her boss was too stupid to pick up on how crazy this guy was. The sociopath was actually promoted to another position.
typical. :-/
What is your schooling on this topic? ...just curious.
I appreciate your perspective. I'm wondering though, in a social setting, most people want to feel comfortable and avoid awkward situations at all costs. Don't you think this could backfire and cause yourself to be alienated from those witnessing the perceived confrontation? I realize this is effective, but I also think your own counter actions might intimidate others. It may cause concern of how you will react to something they discuss, yes? Of course, it would be due to the fact that they don't understand the purpose behind your actions and the intended sociopath. Thoughts?
this sociopath has been harassing a group of my friends for 3 years because we excluded him when he tried to turn everyone against eachother.. 3 years....
most people don't recognize how fucked up and unnatural sociopaths are, just hard to grasp how unpredictable and even dangerous they can be until you get targetted by one
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
you can't make a sociopath feel awkward. avoiding eye contact that means very little to nothing to a sociopath, it wouldn't affect them in the slightest
is there anything wrong with using "hi def" words, the meaning of which one is certain?? i'm just curious. i can't imagine anyone throwing out phrases they are unfamiliar with. where i work, they tell us all the time to be "wordsmiths" b/c our job can get kind of boring. it tosses things up a bit. does this mean everyone at my workplace is a sociopath??? i've noticed some people never use words that are more than one or two syllabels. given all the words that are out there, isn't this kind of lazy??? i love it if someone asks me about a word i am using and i only try to use words i feel would mean something to another person. sometimes these may be big words, i never thought that made me a sociopath . . .
I'm a sociopath and I despise eye contact and I always check my facts
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
plasma wyvern what's with the eye's? why can't you do that?
jessxxy what do you mean
plasma wyvern why do you despise looking people in the eye?
so having a command of diction and vocabulary and a sharp memory more than likely makes one a sociopath? being well read makes you a sociopath? why the hell would you want to even try and manipulate a sociopath? does this lady have any expertise in psychology or the pathologies of personalities?
What about this technique: th-cam.com/video/csJNRPepv10/w-d-xo.html
i dont see the relevance of giving me a link to that video unless you are passive aggressively suggesting that my previous comment somehow constituted verbal abuse. i simply asked a legitimate question about any certifications that would validate the tips and or advice you give on your videos. seeing as most of the content on your channel is directed towards dealing with people who have, in some cases, very serious and often dangerous personality disorders; where is the harm in me asking if you have any academic or clinical experience in dealing with these kinds of people?
No, not at all. I just wanted to provide another example of how to get a verbal abuser to peacefully voluntarily disengage. The goal is to distract and redirect without being overtly defiant[in the eyes of the abuser].
Ok, well keep on keeping on. Hopefully your videos help someone in one of these situations. It seems like you have a decent amount of personal experience in dealing with sociopaths and narcissists. I hope that doesnt effect you too harshly. Its dangerous even being exposed to people like that for any extended amount of time, both emotionally and unfortunately physically. It takes a certain type of person with a great deal of mental fortitude and knowledge to safely interact with socio/psycho/narc personalities on a regular basis. I hope that isnt the case for you. Speaking from personal experience, emotional manipulation is the toughest aspect for myself and most others to cope with. The mind is the most powerful tool humanity has in its toolbox and to me is the most important scientific frontier we can explore. Encourage yourself and others to never take it for granted, especially when some minds are so warped and twisted with the aforementioned disorders. Just be extremely cautious and mindful in meting out advice in dealing with individuals who take great pleasure in said forms of manipulation. Ill step off my soapbox now. I apologize for the length of this comment but it seemed the only course of action open to me.
Tom Cruise does. It must be true, 'cause he said so.
Hi. I'm a sociopath. and no. I'm not in anyway a danger to anyone, because I'm aware of what I am and that it is best in my case to stay alone. I also find it disrespectful how u want to threat the ones of my kind since it wasn't in any way my intention or decission to become what I am. I was born this way and I believe the others aren't different in that.
I like to move it move it I was diagnosed as a young child. You don't need to hide it, I highly doubt that you asked to be the way you are. Embrace it, after all, we are the powerful ones...
Ayşe M-Omer we are all powerful in different ways. But having a superiority complex actually makes one weaker. careful there.
S. L. You are proud that you’re a sociopath?? That’s so disgusting. No one is born a sociopath. You become one because of your sin and pride .
Sometimes the hyper intelligent and socially awkward person uses the same tactic at the beginning. They misread providing info they find interesting as a social opening.
Number one way of not getting involved with a socio? Ignore. I'm very good at sousing these people out, mostly because they have a greasy, cold, prickling feelings about them with dull, spacy eyes to boot. Not only will it drive most of them completely bonkers, it could be the one thing to reveal themselves. Once they start into a rage, they can't seem to stop, and it truly is a sight to behold, but still remain calm. Number two...don't believe a single gotdang thing that comes out of their mouths. Not a thing. The value of their words are as good as that automated voice at the checkout-machine at a WalMart.
Thirdly, if you can, find a way to get away, and lastly, if you can't, and you start to feel an attack coming on, well, do what you got to do to make it go away. Lastly, never, ever lose your cool. Ever. I've had a lifetime to practice this, but some may find it a challenge. Once you view the socio as a spectacle freak of nature and you the observer, it might help you a bit.
Besides, I've had enough practice with some suspect ones. You just need to be witty and know how to counter their games, because they all run off of the same hardware at the end of the day. One thing I notice about most socios, they will skillfully try and set up instances where you "have" to follow their "rules." Most of the time, it starts off ever so small, but it's noticeable, and sometimes even in the form of a favor, but look out for a commanding, or forced-sweet undertone.
For a small example, I used to work at an office that had gates that worked on a turn-style system and was activated with a card code. One girl, obvious socio from the jump I was ignoring, and she knew it, thought it would be a perfect opportunity to "command" me to punch in my key first, because the in and out line was going in order. Trouble was, she was supposed to be the one to go through the door first, but she wanted to prove a point (in front of everyone in that line). When I refused, she was getting redder and redder in the face, and took to literally barking orders at me to pass though. It didn't matter that she was holding up the line, those dull little eyes were dead-set on me following her commands. Then, one of the wooden doors beside the electric door opened, I asked the woman nicely to hold the regular door open for me when I went through, and she did. The look on the other's woman's face spelled out that not only did she want to strangle me, she was beet red and shaking from rage. As I walked further, all I could hear was animalistic screaming, and people going "wtf?" Turns out, her behavior she said was my fault. The mantra of people like this is always a "look what you made me do". THAT'S a sociopath. It's no wonder the next day she had her "posse" giving low-volume threats my way, and friends standing by the entrance watching me, spitting at me to stay in my place, and that I wasn't shit. You know, the usual. I just smiled and waved. One of them tried to follow me home, but guess who sped off when I got too close to a police station? Then came the "snitch" accusations. Of course.
Years later, turns out that same socio freak was on the news for kidnapping and trying to "pimp out" a drugged up woman and her underaged daughter. She and her probably equally effed up boyfriend had bludgeoned both victims, for...you guessed it.....not following her orders, and the daughter victim wouldn't stop crying. Now the freak's in the slammer, and won't be able to hurt anyone on the outside anymore, she's among her own kind, seeing that prison is chock full of people like her, and I say a-goooood riddance.
If a socio has targeted you, you have something they want, period, and if you pay attention, you can usually have a glean on what it is. Most socios may leave you alone if they feel you're not worth their time, but some do like a "challenge", because remember, they don't process things, or feel like the rest of us. They need constant entertainment, and that's not your job.
Perhaps they may even take you as a threat, and their actions may justify the ends in their minds. I know just what to do when they play victim, try to make me look bad, or try and order me to do something in front of others to make themselves look more in control. There were at least 4 of them who knew I was ignoring them, and literally went to poke me on my back and neck. No response. They laughed at first, but you could see the rage building in those dull eyes. if you simply must communicate with these people, text, email, and document every exchange, and use short, simple words. You may need it later. Stay calm and distant. If you gotta take one of these freaks to court, same thing.
There's always an exit strategy, and when they start their flare-ups and games, just leave them hanging. Just walk away. Or fake a phone call. If they try and bark orders at you, tell you they're "talking to you", or command you to come here like some dog, stay silent, and record them discreetly. Let the evidence add up. If they want to corner you and ask why you're not talking to them, or giving them what they want, (most likely in front of people), just be like, "I just don't think we're compatible people." Then leave. Yeah, they might mirror you, or mock you within earshot, but who cares? The moment they snap is when you click your discreet recorder, and if they wanna dance, one bullet to the brain is enough to take them down. Or a stun gun. Or a jab at the throat...everyone needs to breathe. If it's one thing these people are, it's sadistic, so playing up the scared and afraid act is enough to give them their fix and let their guard down for long enough. The more you stay silent, and the more others can see the nature of the socio, things will start to reveal themselves to even the most loyal flying monkeys out there. Why is this increasingly raging person always ragging on the silent one who's just doing his/her business? Yeah, most will feign "heartbrokenness" , turn on the theatrics, fan themselves and be all like "I just don't know what came over me...that person brings out the worst in me, I try so hard to be nice, I don't understand boo hoo", but it'll begin to add up. One day, the socio-freak's going to do something so vile and slip up, no one can ignore it, and people come back to you and ask you how you knew about the socio. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but it's going to happen. Let the socio expose themselves, or work in a way to expose them that doesn't point back to you. Once a dark triad is exposed, most either do these things: 80% just dip out, head to parts unknown to be someone else's lovely problem. 10% sulk, back out and try to put on a more civil and humble face, but it don't last long. Maybe claim to find Jebus or some crap, and the other 10% just go into pure meltdown "idgaf" mode. With which I recommend a stun gun, or calling the cops to let them know you got a crazed lunatic on the premises, which a sound recording of the demon-antics going on should back you up on.
All sociopaths like to convince you that they are suuuch niiiiice people...until you get on their bad side. Some may even present themselves as the "loveable" azzhole. Which is vague, because "getting on their bad side" can range from you ignoring them, not giving into their antics, or not giving them something they want, you having something they want, them thinking you have something they want, or they just think you think you're better than them, or they thought you rolled your eyes, or you looked at them the wrong way. These people are just unhinged, and I just don't see them as people.
In other words, these people are garbage. If the socio is dumb enough to trespass on your property, follow you out into the woods, or a dark alley, take out the trash. Simple. Just shut up about it, or have a damn good case of self defense, because really.....do you really think most people are actually gonna miss someone as utterly insufferable as a narc/sociopath/psychopath? Heck, I'd imagine most people would throw a party because the little toxic pill just up and magically disappeared, and lifted a weight of dread off of their shoulders. They know what they are and they know EXACTLY what they are doing, and I don't got time for NONE of it.
+Sacha Slone. Thank you for the video. Has this ever backfired on you? For instance, has a sociopath ever been flattered that you hang on their every sophisticated word, and take the time to seem extraordinarily interested in their unique speech, and vocabulary? Another scenario that comes to mind is this, has a sociopath ever been so intelligent to counter-manipulate your belittling manipulation by making you feel small by not knowing the definition of the type of words that said sociopath throws around as if they were common? Just curious, always trying to up my game :)
Ever consider that you are teaching them how to counter your counter?
I counter them by giving them the psychopathic stare
is a sociopath the condition where you have the ability to hold 10 point complete made up situations and conversations to handle one situation?
that sounds like a chronological liar, but with false sense of grandeur, many sociopaths and psychopaths make up things to make them appear better than they actually are; they're very charming.
A "chronological liar"? Does that mean they wear a watch when they're playing those evil mind games? My last gf was a pathological liar (with a touch of sociopathy), and she fucked my mind up so thoroughly, I'm too scared to have another relationship. I've been celibate since mid-2000. I'm not kidding. At least I save money on Valentine's Day.
Dude same, I can never be the same.
@@blackpeter70 The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout and Homecoming by John Bradshaw. Those two books helped me so much after my pattern of sociopaths. Highly recommend.
I've done this to a psychopath and you ARE pretty much on point. 💯
Sasha, I had to pause the video midway to comment that you had me burst into uncontrollable laughter. I haven't laughed like this in a very long time, you're hilarious! Thank you for posting this video.
I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!
Every time I argue with a sociopath or narc I employ logic and this makes them crumble because literally not one of these people operates from a logical realm. Easy way to see if they're a true narc or sociopath is to see how many ad hominem attacks they use because normally they use A LOTTTTTTT
Thanks for your tip!
They might crumble for a second which is when you should leave. You don’t want to give them time to build themselves up.
Katherine Smith
This is brilliant. I am definitely putting this into my toolbox
:-)
Zilhah Hadad - Learn how to spell properly might help you out a bit?
You lost me at "Hey".
Thank you my brother is a sociopath and I don’t know how to get him away from me.
You are very welcome! I hope this tactic works. If not try Grey Rock.
It reminds me of Lieutenant Colombo when he keeps stopping the murderer and politely ask him to repeat and to explain
"And at this point the sociopath will disengage"...
I don't think it mathers if the person in front of you is a sociopath or not, literaly every person I know or could think of would disengage in this situation, you just made the most uncomfortable and weird situation ever right here lady..
If you do this everytime someone uses a word or reference something you don't know then I sincerely hope for the ppl around you that you don't often go to social events ^^
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
why why why
look at the effort you're putting into counteracting they're issues ??
just ignore people you don't get on with and love the ones you do
you're playing the game basically
look at the satisfaction on your face to be nasty to someone else
this chick has an axe to grind I think? lmfao plus dont think she gets many invites to partys because she is WAY WAY fucking out there I think 🤔🤔
You would get fucked up against a sociopath, who would immediately know you're trying to ''counter-manipulate'' them, and just because someone uses a word you don't know doesn't mean they're a sociopath. I, an actual sociopath, would destroy someone who tried doing this. as well sociopaths aren't walking up to people and being like ''hi i'm a sociopath'', we blend in, we could be anyone, a high functioning sociopath would be able to fully entrance you long before you even realise you're being used. I, myself personally, Have had these kinds of tactics used against me, and i still manipulated the shit out of them afterwards. it's about out smarting the target, not simply belittling and being a dick, so ''countering'' a sociopath will only make them want to fuck you up even more. you're going to get hurt if you use this against a real sociopath.
I forgot to add, we are actually very creative, you have to be to survive as a sociopath.
I Have been scapegoated and bullied in extremely cruel and emotionally abuse ways for my entire life by my narcissistic mother. Finally is advice that lets me not just run a way quietly and go no contact. I dont want to actually inflict any real pain or serious problems, BUT I am also tired of just taking it, being the mature one, or getting back on this high rode that honestly has zero affect on her. THANK YOU for giving me some tools and advice that with let me get back at her gently and feel a small sense of victory after 35 years of torment.
This sounds like sociopathy for idiots. Step one, question their intelligence and vocabulary. Step two, when fact checking their vocabulary, choose an alternate answer so they appear wrong. Step three, be condescending and don't make eye contact to mask your own uncertainty during the conversation. Step four, create a you tube video to gloat over your victory. Step five, congratulate and swell your ego for being a sociopath by self projecting your own sociopathic tendencies onto others.
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uh, no.
did you actually watch this entire video? if you've taken any basic psyc classes, you'll know this is good info. it's about disarming the abuser; this is how you take your power back.
Nicole Rose / Empathic Soulwriter Come on, that's just what scientific data and psychological research says. Don't you know that if a sociopath can disagree with one's counter-manipulation techniques, then that automatically trumps the science because they're always right? It's right there in their God complex!
@@aroseinwinter05 If you win an argument with a sociopath, they will remember it and get some form of revenge for it
mixwb THAT i agree with, 1000%
They make statements rather than converse, they do this based on an assumption others won't understand their reference. The minute you you express knowledge on the subject they shut down the conversation on the topic which they initiated. They're very shifty in withdrawal of topic the moment they release you know more. Conversation is a monologue with sociopaths, scripted, you listen whilst they speak, these conversations are bland, jailed with cliches & jargon phrases, no substance or humour.
Depends if there thinking you're intelligent enough for a real conversation with them. In a bizarre way sociopaths are highly rational so they tend to kinda enjoy the company of intelligent people. Kinda
@@666mrmongo Until those intelligent people start doing better in life 😂
@@mixwb then the knifes come out 👀
This would annoy anyone girl. You have gone above and beyond to literally kill the whole vibe of the "social" setting.
Andres Sartre lol
Andres Sartre 😂😂😂😂😂😂
GOOD! It ought to annoy them because they annoy us CONSTANTLY. BOO hoo evil fucking snakes are annoyed. Cry me a fucking river.
My dad is the sociopath narcissist so I just have to leave. He can drain me of everything.
Really smart of her that she gives warnings, and tells everyone to be careful using this technique.
Lmao she's teaching us how to get killed by a sociopath
step 1: casually aprouch human step 2:get stabbed by the sociopath for annoying them step 3: die but know that the guys gonna get caught since he left the weapon in you and had no gloves on
You are all kinds of AWESOME!! Just saying😁😁😁 Keep well dear! Thanks for these videos.💐💐💐💐
Thank You :-)
I like the idea of what you're trying to do, to empower people to know what to do in the event that they think they encounter somebody who is potentially a threat to them. But these disorders are on a spectrum and it's nearly impossible to detect that somebody is a sociopath from just meeting them assuming they're blending well. In my experience walking around with your guard constantly up like this is a great way to come across as an asshole when you really are just trying to defend yourself in what seems like a threatening situation. Sure you may discourage most unempathetic personality types but you're also limiting yourself exceptionally in social situations by doing so in my opinion. Again i'm not any kind of expert this is just my opinion on the topic after reading several books on the topic.
I did something like this to a friend of mine who had similar Sociopathic traits to my stepfather. He simply pulled his phone out, checked the website for the definition, read the one that I didn't read out loud and showed it to everyone else. Everyone thought I was a complete idiot and an asshole for the next week or so. Some Sociopaths may try and prove themselves if they feel like it will make their "opponent" look bad. Keep in mind that it's always about what they can gain. They can fake humility and aren't beyond making themselves look bad to make themselves look better in the long run. I guess it all depends on how experienced the Sociopath is. The smart ones gain information about you to help them get what they want and as soon as you become more trouble than you're worth, they will first use the bad things they know about you against you and then dump you on the sidewalk like you're nothing.
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)
Even Sociopaths who are a stranger to you always make you feel as if you have broken some unspoken rule or agreement if you try to get away from them. It is eerie and very alarming.
I wish I'd known these strategies before. It's really unnerving when a sociopath/narc homes in on you. They have honed their predatory skills to a point where you sometimes cannot extract yourself from them in a social setting, they are that focussed on you as a target.
This technique to break their horrendous eye contact, and the way to quickly bore them and make them walk away is ingenious. I'm going to use it. Thank-you Sacha.
wow you sound like the kind of person people will try to avoid at partys or social gatherings. any time somebody uses a word you dont know, you pop out your phone and start questioning them as to the meaning of the word whilst refusing to make eye contact... thats how you make ANYBODY feel uncomfortable
Brilliant!
lol! "Sociopaths are not capable of abstract thought or creativity."
Sorry lady, this is wrong. Sociopaths are VERY creative.
everyone is different there are some really creative people that just happen to be sociopaths. A lot of people have stereotypes and put sociopaths is this little box which is ignorant. Truth is they all have different/unique personalities just like everybody else.
FlipFlopGaming they are attracted to new forms of creativity created by other people but lack originality to create it themselves she said that already....spot on..
FreeriderTruthTemplar No ... some of us are very creative. You obviously don't know much about sociopaths. Sorry.
No thats not spot on. Sociopaths lack EMPATHY, it has nothing to do with creativity. Sociopaths are not clones, they are humans and every sociopath is there own person. They are all different people with different personalities and skills.You need to learn how to open up that closed mind of yours.
GravyBrainz they are not humans and should not be treated as humans.
after years of dealing with all sorts of people, i can give you the only responce needed for an interaction with a sociopath or anyone really, these tips are ok but definitely make you out to be an ass, head in your phone when someone is talking to you is quite rude and if its with a sociopath could be painting a target on your back, so to speak. so i've found the best way when you want end a conversation without ramifications is to siple be suuuper friendly but control the conversation, by telling a story or being complimentary, whatever, only thing you need to do is not let them much time to reply, make it a 1 sided conversation, if they start tallking about something cut in with an "oh my gosh that reminds me of this time when..." etc. nobody likes not being able to get a word it but its kriptonite to a sociopath and they will make a mental note to avoid you as much as possible. without any negative thoughts
i am a sociopath its somthing i cant control it has fucked up many relationships i myself am a harmless person i am loving loved and dont appreciate how we are looked at some are crazy af and ones like me notice whats wrong and try our best to mask it we just want to be normal im not a monster.
She's being far too generalized. A lot of high IQ people who are actually brilliant do indeed know a lot of trivia. Ever what Jeopardy? I think we are viewing a takes one to know one vid.
Use of big words does not indicate sociopathy. It might indicate learnedness or, in the examples you've given, pretension.
Whoa ! This girl is damaged goods.
It would appear to me that a narcissist/sociopath is a person living in the bubble of finding fault with others, then counter-punching the perception of fault, Then broadcasting the process, over and over.
Whoever did this to you, just LET IT GO. And step down from whatever meds are giving you those insane eyes.
What meds are those, cocaine in pill form? 😂
I'm amazed how many people haven't watched or listened to this video properly, to understand its purpose. It's not about 'becoming' a sociopath or bring rude - it's about knowing a strategy to get a sociopath to LEAVE YOU ALONE when you have no other choice
Letting someone take over conversation is often times how I get what I want. You learn the people you're talking too easier that way, learn what they like and how they act.
Yes, that sounds a lot like what I'm saying in my video, 'how to identify a sociopath.' th-cam.com/video/J-V4Sp9RLyo/w-d-xo.html
I've met a few like this, but mostly those who loved to quote phrases or theories, then I'll ask "oh, cool and who says that?" or where did you read that? I will really like to go and find the book and read it too" LOL BTW I'll try that idea you gave and see.
you can remember dates from history class.. you must be a sociopat...
I believe you. :-)
Marko Feller no! believe me I know someone who are sociopath..they always want to win and be the number one..and they also dont like when you ignore them..thy cannot think why did you ignore them..what they know and want is you always under their control and agree with their decision..
shit..I hate sociopath..they are mostly like hypocrite
the moment when Sacha can't see blatant satire
u realy think that works? cute:
Why was I under the impression I was listening to a sociopath while watching this video?
What I'm saying is, sociopaths are so good at manipulating people that you don't just spot them at a party randomly and know how to protect yourself against them. No, there is no way to protect yourself other than to cut ties. Really.
Imagine a sociopath watching this.... Damn....
yo it's fucking hilarious. I was doing some research for DMing a DnD campaign, and I've never been so sidetracked laughing my ass off
lol sweet heart i think you might be a bit of a sociopath yourself , im sure i am as well . Hell i think everyone is somewhat of a sociopath when in defense mode . but what do i know im a tard !!
You could be onto something
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Yuhhh
IDIOT IT THE WORD STILL MEANS THE SAME THING
Please post a new video on how this one should of been called " how to out sociopath a sociopath"
DRD : AHHHHH, as I was listening to her I, had an urge to check the comments. Yours was just ahhhhhhh!!!!! Next ones going to be how to get murdered by a sociopath. Ahhhahhhhhahhhhh!!!!!
Wow. You dont know a lot about socioptahs. But your hear talking like you do.... thats funny.
lkuhhdsfgasdgvdadfg your a sociopath!!! Ha!
This woman knows how to spot us. but that's okay, we are harmless! thanks for uploading!
Sacha! I can see what is going on in the comments: so many people trying to discredit you, involuntarily outing themselves as narcs/sociopaths. They project their disability onto you which is one of the most primitive mechanisms, I think. Why would anyone care so much or even think of calling you a sociopath? 😂 It's ridiculous. Even if you were wrong sometimes (everyone is), you do the right thing and you helped me a lot when I was abused (and called a monster myself afterwards, just like you :)) I hope you are perfectly aware of what's going on there and that you are okay. Sending love!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️