Why Men Have Problems With The Twin Flame Connections
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ม.ค. 2019
- There are many issues that come up for men ,when the connections hits them.Most of these are talked about in this video .
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Sometimes I feel this Twin flame stuff is an excuse for the other party to use you and come in out as they please. I’m not putting up with it anymore I deserve better than some punk ass man that runs. Why abandon a gem no one does that. A real man will know when they have something special that they can’t find nowhere else. I’m tired of the excuses. I’m moving on.
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if u can move on then move on
I was treated very good & bad at the same time. This relationship taught me how I REALLY want to be treated and how I will never take shit of anyone and anymore. TF or any person for that matter.
Good for you. The TF thing is a spiritual trap for many people. Not saying it's BS necessarily but it can be a real distraction from things that matter most, like genuine spiritual awakening.
If you run, I'm not chasing after you, regardless of how much I love you. If you leave, stay gone.
My twin words “as you wish” when I told him I didn’t want to hear about him anymore.
The twin flame is not the plan B. It is the plan.
Yes you are totally right, it is 'THE' plan ... there is no plan B ... 🙂
Yassss
I had sex with my tf for 2,5 years until I realized that it’s in my power to stop this back n forth dance.. so I told him it’s not working for me anymore and until we’re exclusive and in a serious committed relationship there will be no sex (and yes, I want marriage too!). It’s been 10 months and we still hasn’t had sex however he stayed around and he respects me a lot more for it now. We both have grown a lot and he now realizes that in order to have me in his life romantically, he needs to change and he can’t have his cake and eat it too.
I realized that if I allow him to take me for granted and don’t demand respect, then nothing in this world will change. I’m doing it for the collective. I’m doing it for my son. I’m doing it for other women. Change starts within US- if we want another person to change, we need to change first! That’s my motto and it seems to be working so far as he’s finally sees my worth and respects my boundaries (which I never had before!), blame it on my childhood. It was all about finding self worth and value for me and for my tf, my other half, it was all about finding his self love 🔥🔥❤️❤️. I do not believe that we can have multiple tf’s. With this type of connection.. no, it’s not possible or it wasn’t your true tf in the first place.
Bang on! And yes! while the entire twin flame connection got completely hijacked, and bastardised on too many levels to keep count of...and all on the back of peoples ancient existential wounding and their programmed search for outside solutions and completion...
Personally I think the actual original connections are rare and not everyone has a divine complementary on that level...
It's this Equality BS infiltrating this "twin community" that can only take off in a general climate of (however hidden) shame AND ego-driven hierarchy structures that has made everyone now run around and search for their "twin" ...
when these connections really are entirely mission based and can only come into their game-changing potentials if their invitation towards radical self love is innerstood and fully embodied so the intense alchemical transformations of fire that are an intrinsic part of this process into union, both inner and outer!
are consciously used to clear out ALL debris and falsity attached to the egoic construct...
That they are ultimately therefore also a destroyer of the old dysfunctional relationship templates is an implicit gain for the greater collective🤸🏻♀️🌞😎♥️🎆
I soon need to gain this kind of strength and create this boundary with my TF. I'm working hard on it. I think he has gotten that point also of almost taking for granted that i will "always be there"...as we have had a 'secret relationship"/been sleeping together for nearly two years. I've got to pick myself up and realize my worth. Is there any advice you can provide? What finally pushed you to create this boundary? Thank you
I disagree...you only have 1 twin flame....as 2 would be triplet twin flame...and more quads twin flame....
It make whole twin flame thing comical...
You only get 1...the rest are soul connections. ..
I feel live energy all the time when anyone has positive thoughts about me i feel the love energy ib my heart...it doese not mean that person is my twin...i use to be confused with this...but realise its not the case...
So i disagree we only have 1 twin true twin only
Releasing the fear of losing him was so hard but so amazing. Then after some time for myself, he showed up.
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You ONLY have ONE Twin Flame. A Twin Flame connection WILL BE unlike any other connection you have in your life, it will be undeniably distinguishable. You will inevitably have a spiritual awakening as well. A Twin Flame connection is the discovery of your higher self, self-love & unconditional love. You love that person so deeply that you cannot help it, but you learn to love yourself more & not settle for someone who's emotionally immature, stuck in their ego & not capable of loving you the way you know you ought to be loved. Whether you end up with your twin or not, in the end, you just hope that they grow & transform into the highest version of themself that you always saw from the start. It's not about tying anyone down, because real pure unconditional love is free & pure & everflowing with or without that person in your life.
This guy clearly stated he's not part of the "spiritual community" so he has never endured a spiritual connection like a Twin Flame. No one can EVER truly understand the Twin Flame experience unless they have lived it themselves.
Amen to that 🙏
Thanks for this! My twin picked another women over me. That was my last attempt at trying to have him for myself…anyways he came back after 4 YEARS of NC. But I’ve chosen to keep my distance. I can’t take him serious.
I’ve followed a few of Mel’s videos. It seems like his earlier content is more applicable to a spiritual divine unique connection. Seems this later content finds a more jaded viewpoint with less of the spiritual and more of the physical. Sad to see. I was really gravitating to his content on being less romanticized focus. But honestly, this video is quite close minded.
@@HonourGratitude are you writing it in regard of the uniqueness of the tf?
@@moranankri not just that - this video accounts for a lot of 3D perspectives on why a man might be fearful of a commitment. It also has a rather jaded view from Mel on that as well. Seems off topic for a twin flame spiritual journey and more on topic for typical relationship advice
Not all of us are after money when it comes to divorce. I've been divorced twice, WANTING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING from my exs.
Michi Gilbert Exactly I don't want a gold digger tag rather go hungry if I had to.
He never says ALL, he says majority which we know is true statistically.
I don’t see the complication. There’s nothing worse than meeting this love and then staying in an unfulfilling loveless marriage. If you’re married and you meet your twin flame, you’re most likely already in a weak place in your marriage. Staying and living in that resistance while longing for your twin flame is far harder than divorce because you’re living a lie.
I'm a male who's recently met my twin flame. We are both in marriage. It's not really an issue. Most of the people on youtube are just talking shit and have no idea what a twin flame connection is. Most are just desperate females wanting to find love. And then you have "awakened" females taking advantage of them by spewing out this bullshit romanticized version of twin flames... If you listen to any of them, guaranteed you're going to complicate things or believe every second person you meet is a twin flame. Out of all the videos I've watched to describing this phenomenon this guys videos are the most real. A twin flame connection can't fit into a "model" with x amount of stages ect. Each one is different and unique. If you haven't met your twin flame and you're watching these videos, do yourself a favor and stop watching them. It's going to make you live in a dellusional state and block any opportunity you may actually have of meeting a twin flame.
@@scriptshamanji5400 the intense love and sexual pull you experience with your twin truly makes a loveless marriage intolerable. Even as he states, most twins who are already married who meet their twin tend to be in marriages that are fading out. There is a strong romantic nature to this connection and for that reason, I do believe that twin flames are by design meant to experience that. If you don’t intensely desire to be with your twin flame, you most likely haven’t truly met them. The soul wants it, not the mind.
I've never had sex with him. I dont have to. And the fact that someone on this planet loves me as much as he does make me walk in my power. I don't want to lose that. I'd never force him to make it more. It's even in the numbers.
In my experience, what causes my Twin to run, is the PAIN our relationship and the situation causes to me, to himself and to everybody else. Believe me or not when a man loves a woman he is ready to change the world and to change his world and to commit. Being committed doesn’t mean necessarily to get married. No it’s not. The twin runs every time he sees the pain and the anger in us that he thinks he is responsible of. We don’t want to see that nor to believe, but as long as this man is a true Twin for us, he is in pain too.
I had no idea about this “Twin flame” thing until after mine ran away. I am Male, my TF is female. Mostly I think that this twin flame thing isn’t real, that instead, I am just completely insane and must have imagined all the things I have felt during this process.
Yep def feeling like I am the definition of insanity. I think these "twins" that are in union just want to use it as a fairytale story of sorts
You made me laugh...pretty much true, I mean read Kahil Gibran and Rumi. But I ask you will you Ever Forget it? And when your frequency goes up and you find yourself in 5D...You just FEEL what you felt....and Union is yours! Yes it will be like a fairy tale...but then that is what 5D is like!
Wow the situation described as both twins being married and leaving behind old belief systems was the exact thing that happened with me and my twin. He was scared to leave after 14 years of a toxic marriage bc of his kids. He finally left and we've been together in union ever since. Thanks for sharing your perspectives . Much appreciated
"Dysfunctional families are a norm these days". That's true Mel.... glad that it's changing. ☆☆☆
As a Df I cannot agree more. I personally felt during the last months is that we merged on a soul level. And I stopped judging his actions but followed my intuition of how he might perceive and feel things. And it turns out I was spot on... exactly what you said. Kundalini has massive impact. A lot of the unprocessed trauma and things that need healing gets triggered so strong and ego kicks in and fights the feeling of merging with the feminine. I agree 100% with you
I respectively disagree that we have more than 1 twin flame. But great video.
Mel. I feel like you are guiding me from the other side... I hear you tell me that you are far ahead of your time and all of the information is up there on the internet. and here I am embarking on years of your teachings that are divinely inspired. Thank you!
Why would I ever need to find another twin flame, one was enough! This is the greatest pain, though the good is excelling anything you ever dreamed of, it's a love in Universal dimensions. I wouldn't consciously ask for another one, no way.
So sad you are gone, it feels as if you are still here... ✨
I absolutely wish I could say thank you to this man. So wise. So evolved and solid and truthful in what he says. Not very many thinkers like him who talk so candidly on this subject.
Can u imagine a twin flame male/runner group? I imagine if they were capable of that they wouldn't be running.
As for respecting the energy or connection, i want to add my two cents. I found you just after my twin and i separated. I have gone around to many tf speakers but always came back to you, off and on, because you validated my experiences and made it make some sense. Here is what I began experiencing. I began playing with this energy and opened myself fully to the lessons that his soul wanted to help me with. Surprise, surprise, i began seeing relationship dynamics in a totally new light. I began seeing his energy in many of my relationships and it showed up as barriers i needed to address, confront, heal, and transmute. Through him i was able to start addressing problems that had always been thorns in my side. This twin energy showed up in certain key relationships with super strong intensity and then explosions, but each time i know i moved to a new level. I became aware that this energy was helping me help others and retemplate them as you say. Oddly, the best place i recognized it in is with my daughter. I see so many aspects of the dysfunctional patterns of both my twin and i, my family, her dad and his family, etc. in her. Because of my awareness, i have worked with her and built so much trust and dancing ability with her, that we have cleared so much genetic heritage and general dysfunctional relationship problems. It is truly amazing to know that i have healed the next generation and that she will do far more than i ever could because she won't have to face these ingrained and unquestioned disfunctions. Each clearing leaves me in awe and feeling lighter. My twin and i have signed up for a difficult experience. We are from different countries, like you once mentioned, and he hates Americans, God, and any form of free thinking and spirituality. We are diametrically opposed. I accept that we may never meet again, but i will always dance with his energy because our mission is too important. I have healed myself and others so much because of him and the intense soul searching that i did; i refuse to take this energy lightly or even engage in games of social conditioning.
When I left my marriage I didn’t have a plan B, but I did feel my Twin’s energy guiding me. I didn’t meet him until 4 years later. Now we’re in separation and I still have no plan B. I’ve moved on but each person I meet, even karmic soul mates, show me how much my Twin is the one. Maybe just not in this lifetime 🤷🏻♀️💫
I lie to myself and judge myself which is damaging enough to my progress.
There will never be evolution of relationships as long as the runner runs and the chaser chases. Thanks Mel, you've made the explanation so clear and on point.
If we-TF are supposed to be a new model of relationship, how can we do it if we are not together physically. How we supposed to have children ( or raise them ) if we can't be together. How we supposed to teach the others unconditional love if we are not together in 3D. I know each of us is powerful but being together with each other is the key, to proof that love can always win. Am I right or I don't understand something? I found my happiness with in me but still I have a problem to understanding when someone says that twins may not be together in 3D. That's very confusing...
I was thinking about that.. And the time is showing me day by day that the Dm are not take action never and think about his DF forever.. It is so hard to feel this, accepting that, and move on.. With what? Yes, I know I will be happy with some one.. But I will always know that he is NOT THE ONE..
Agreed. And who gave all of these so-called "spiritual gurus" all the answers to these things? And do those answers really fit into every single person's lives, and their relationship with their TF or anyone in life? I do my best to love myself, I was even single for around 7 years, working on myself. But after I met this girl and spent time with her, TF label or not, I constantly come to the conclusion that I am my best self when I am with her. I genuinely enjoy life more and have more willpower to better myself in every way, shape, and form. I cannot buy into the idea that we came here to be alone, and not be with someone who is so perfect for us.
Ewelina K I’m in a real tf union and I do believe that once you’ve met your tf in 3D and done the work then the relationship is imminent. It’s been 3,5 years for me and my other half (last 10 months has been sex free) and we’re very close to a full on relationship. We both know that it doesn’t matter how much we would try to be with other ppl it would never be the same as our tf connection so we’re not even trying anymore, it’s pointless and no, we don’t have plan B because we both know we’re meant to be together. he has done his work too and he is very close making us official. It’s just there’s a little bit more shadow work to be done (release the ego and pride which is the hardest part of this journey) but he’s getting there too. Plus he has a financial karma to solve which he’s also working on very hard right now.
I unsubscribed from most of the yt tarot readers and so called “spiritual healers” and left just a few who I like to watch and who has really helped me to grow and evolve. Blessings xx
@@missy8046 Thank you for your message❤. I'm truly happy for you❣ I know what I have in my heart and I feel blessed being on this journey. You are right too much informations making us confuse. I can see how I change and evaluate almost every day. I have a feeling it's speeding up faster and faster. It's like Something pushing me forward, like there is no more time to waste. Best regards
Ewelina K my Twin Flame has been coming to me in 4D/5D for over 3 years now. I do not feel we will ever be together 3D. I Could be surprised... true! But he is from far away...and his Service to Humanity and Mother Earth require the tapestry his life is woven into. Meeting my TF in 4D...but having my awakening of what a TF is like while I am in 3D makes it possible to chose creating him in 5D. In 5D there is no time and all possibilities exist simultaneously... I chose to Create him in Union with me in 5D! What you think of in 5D you instantly Create! The purpose of learning of his existence is so I have him 5D+ infinity! Lol it will be Easy...I think of him All The Time! ❤
Thank YOU! I’m a woman, I totally agree with you. I’m like you in the fact that I believe in being direct and honest about things. No BS, no fluff. My guy has been going through the stuff you’re talking about and I’ve respected what was happening before I knew about twin flame connections. He was doing the back n forth. I stopped it and he got upset for a bit but got the hint. I wont settle for less or be used while you figure stuff out. I will spend my life alone before I’ll do that. He has no clue whats happening to him, it scares the crap out of him bcuz of the control that you talk about. He must get there on his own. He gets a little freaked with me bcuz I’m like you. No BS, be honest, be real and be respectful. He’s never experienced someone like me and he’s learning. His ex-wife was one of the typical nightmarish women that piss me off and make us look bad. Just as there are men who do that too. Its hard to open your heart after you’ve been burned. This video gave me the extra insight I needed to better understand and confirm things I feel and see. Thank you so very much!
You’re amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
The twin flame community is making me feel crazy to be honest.
It’s nice to have someone who’s grounded talk about it in a normal way. takes of a lot of pressure for me as well.
The part that’s bs is the multiple twin flames, and maybe because you are not that all into God. God has shown me many things. Regardless if it’s possible for you to have multiple twin flames, God is very detailed, there is only one person he will choose for you. Almost always!
Victoria Cathcart I completely agree:)
Twin means two. The concept of Twin Flames is one soul split in two. You can have multiple soul mates but having multiple twin flames makes no sense.
Cosmicgirl Twin flame is t w o of the same. The concept of twin flame is two souls split which is divine feminine and divine masculine. That is what a twin flame is. If you have multiple “Twin” flames then it is no longer a twin flame. You now have something similar to a horcrux like in Harry Potter where your soul is split into several parts. Which isn’t biblical so if you do believe in twin flames or multi flames don’t say “God showed me”. I don’t know if your talking about abrahamic God or yourself or the universe as God. But it’s okay to say “I believe I have twin flames or multi flames” but don’t try to back up your claims by saying “God” showed you.
@@cosmicgirl9164 Split means one whole separated into two parts. Twin means two. One whole split into two parts. If one soul is being shared by two bodies then that is still a twin soul... and the concept of twin flame is one body is the divine masculine and one body is the divine feminine. A multi-flame would be one soul split into multiple parts like a horcrux on Harry Potter. You said you have multi-flames means you have the same soul being shared with multiple people on earth and within that, it would mean you have triple, quadruple etc masculine, and feminine energies. Which makes no sense if you're talking about Abrahamic God. When you say God and your spirit as in the universe and yourself then OK you can tell yourself whatever and it would be valid.
@@cosmicgirl9164 And my mistake in my reply four days ago I said the "concept of the twin flame is two souls split." I meant one soul split as I said in earlier replies.
Yes I have had heart connection with more than one person but the overwhelming intensity of “TF” can only be one. The synchronization and parallel lives can only be with one. If you are lucky enough to cross paths with your true “other half” then the choice is yours to work/heal yourself for union in this lifetime. Be honest with yourself and choose to live your authentic life, which ever way you see it
My twin flame was a much more spiritual person than I was at the beginning even though I'm a woman and he's a man. I'm still married to someone else and I haven't seen or heard from my twin flame in over 2 years. I think the fact that my twin already had a good handle on spiritual matters helped me considerably in my development. Heart to heart connections are manifesting on a larger scale than I ever thought possible when all this started. My views about relationships were really childish and limited back then compared to the views I have now.
Feel very similar about my situation! Plus it helped that my Twin is 17 yrs younger than I 😊 ...it made it easier not to rush in something I had no clue about and drop a marriage that had a great foundation and deep friendship, plus a child that came out of it.😉 .. Since one of the main purpose of TF connections is to change how we view and engage in relationships - all types- I think we are somewhat in the right path 🤗
This seems to be a very 3D view on what is supposed twin flames, but in my opinion seems to more accurately describe soul mates (aka karmic relationships). If it truly is about TFs then the men who feel this way need to purge their fear and wounds.
Gratitude for this message! You speak truth my friend. I have found it very helpful to step outside of the pain of separation and find compassion for all the men who stay trapped in UN loving relationships with women who are more about security and ownership than love.you said women allow a hurtfull situations to continue due to fear of LOSS of love,and apparently men stay in hurtfull situations due to fear of LOSS of control, power etc.the healing starts with practicing UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, because that is REAL LOVE💕
Have been thinking about your perspective on Twin Flames. For me a twin is your mirror opposite and the same applies to Twin Flames - they are the counterpart within our souls and are here to teach us the really difficult things nobody else can. They are our 'other half' but not in the way that society understands this phrase - there is a big unconditional aspect in the connection and its a vibrational one which goes much deeper than a soul mate does. I see Soul Mates as part of our karmic growth but in a different way. They are part of our soul group and are here to help us clear karma and then move forward once the lesson has been learnt. For me, they are 2 different energetic influences on our lives.
twin flame is just one ,and God)))
"Respect the Connection" ... Keep that in mind Lovers. Thank you Mel. 🙏🌞
You're sooo real and I respect that and yourself out of soooo effin many readings I've watched. I felt like thus, this was a intervention within my own perspective and awareness. Much appreciated man!
You speak in vague generalities. You declared that you know what ladies want in regard to their twin flames. I thought to myself 'hold on. This doesn't speak to my own choices and experience.'
I decided at 14 that I wasn't going to marry or have children. I've never regretted that choice. I was inspired by Katharine Hepburn who at the time I came of age, expressed the opinion that if women want careers, they shouldn't marry and have children. In so many words she said you can't be a servant of two masters; either the marriage and the kids are going to suffer or your commitment to manifest dreams and aspirations will be compromised. It was the first time I'd heard a role model I admired publicly state that a woman can be other than a wife and mother.
I sent my twin flame packing about 16 years ago. He did something (or rather didn't do something) that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I told him I would miss him (and I do) but that we should part ways and asked him to never call me again. He's been true to his word.
I noticed that more than a few times you referred to any belief or perception that you don't share as being bullshit. By all means state your disagreement or that you see things differently. But calling other people's perceptions bullshit lacks civility and is mean-spirited.
Is this why we have the separation process, to give the man time to think because he gets back in his head?
Those who doubt this connection exists have never experienced it. What ever you want to label it in an effort to have a term to reference. If you do not believe in it that is fine. There is a lot of information about the existence of this type of connection written about through the ages in all forms of literature, it is well documented. Why watch this then talk smack especially someone who is apparently ill informed or perhaps made a poor relationship choice and wants to blame the failure on someone else. ? We all have free will, no one is forced to watch this, take the advice of or pay for readings ect. Move along if this is not your cup of tea.
Really good perspective. I have honored my connection eventhough we are not together. I chose to allow this relationship to flow until... and it did and something inside of me said stop and I did. I hurt no more. I do not long for him anymore because I chose to allow understanding and growth on my part only, yet I wish him the best on his continued journey. He opened my heart which had been closed for 10 year due to my marriage/divorce from my ex-husband. Last year I told my twin that I was thankful for that, but not so much him and how he hurt me. He has growth as we all do and I will continue on with mine. I am thankful and now open in ways I never knew possible. Thanks for your perspective on this subject matter.
i've just found this channel a day ago. has been a great gift to listen, living gift. thank you
I know a lot of people can't handle your knowledge, wisdom, and truth....but I love it and appreciate it! Thank you for all your guidance and time to the collective!
Love the no nonsense approach. Respect the connection. So true. This is not an easy ride but its all about unconditional Love. Stay true to that and the ride will bring the reward in the end.
Thank you SO much sir for making this video!! I very much appreciate your no nonsense approach, please continue to put out this amazing content 🙏🏼
I looked up twin flame for men because I get tired of getting advice from women who tell me to wait around for the other person. No that's what women do. They wait for men to ask them out. I'm the man. I have to pursue women. If I'm waiting around for a woman to see I'm her twin flame and asking me out I'll be waiting for a long time.
You got it! Go hunting:)
Very true.
This is the first video of yours I watch, fell on your channel today... I enjoy your bluntness and expertise as well as your flow. Thank you for the guidance, much love!! xo
The basis of the dynamic of this 'twin flame' connection is that you only have ONE other soul counterpart--based off of the ancient concept theorized by Plato where a soul is divided in half upon incarnation. Thus, based off of the definition of 'twin flames', it's theoretically impossible for you to have more than ONE half of your soul. There are not that many fractions of your soul being divided in such a way based in this theory. In regards to SOULMATES and others in your soul family--there can exist and infinite amount. While this is all 'theorized', when you are truly involved in such an eternal bond, you intuitively are able to tap into and understand this dynamic for better understanding of its true dynamic. But your explanation of the patterns of behavior, spiritual dynamic of independent evolution/awakening, etc. is on point and I'm in deep reverence of your clarity in this respect of the connection. x
Good talk, but two things. People need to define the term twin flame before using it. It seems many people think that feeling "in love" implies twin flames, whereas to me it implies a split on the monad level or that of its soul on a planet. I'm not the ageless wisdom expert. I just know a little, this may not be the complete or true definition. And finally, I noticed West took pains to say he didn't blame women. I do. They took the lead of the feminatzis to show hatred toward men, and chose to be greedy during divorce.
Thank you Mel. This is confirmation of what my universe has been telling me for years about the divine masculines that have entered my life. I would love to hear more of what you have to say about this. Please do a part 2 video! Much love to you and Nicole, Michelle J.
In this age of too much information. Relish you two’s private friendship It’s a gift of special connection. Give him the room he needs to put his perspective on it and he will honor perimeters you both put to this union. Keep faith. Listen truly. Be there in their need to understand.
ive always knew God had big plans for me. This connection is the biggest gift of my life...ps: im watching this video for the 2nd time.... Randomly 😍i have no idea what the fuck is going on with my so called twin bs for about a month right now and i dont give a shit... i am happy...i am evolving at the speed of light ✨❤️ love you Mel
Even after all these years, man I still respect you
This video was so good - I didn’t want it to end!!
I agree with what you said that a lot of society is in the diaper age. The way I took what you said is a lot of people are not being responsible for the choices they have made and is allowing disrespect within any relationship. I myself am guilty of it. I was immature and childish, to many people are not being held accountable. Which is another part that happens to all. If you want a true relationship accept your flaws and that of your partner. No one is a floor mat to be walked all over. We each have our good and bad. Thank you for the video. I enjoyed it.
Thank you for the honesty.
It is a unique process everyone. Both the DF and DM are overwhelmed with the total loss of identity, the fear and the pain. It is about focusing on yourself in order to break all the dysfunctional patterns of the mental mind, it’s about healing the mind the body and the soul.
There is not a “split” soul... there is a soul incarnated in two or more bodies, and the twinflames connections are about the contract and what you have set up to do before coming down here again. So yes respect the connection, respect yourself, be focused on your healing and your journey and remember that this energy is like a compass that always brings you back inside yourself.
Has been ridiculously painful, life changing and amazing.
As in my journey I understood that I am here to bring balance to my male and female energy inside my body. My TF helps me do that, that he is going through all that I have gone through in his own way. So love him just for that, and if you are pissy and winy then keep working on yourself and your balance.
I am a thetahealer and that helped me hips understanding what the hell is going on, helped me clear up patterns and heal my wounds. And it is of course a work in progress.
Love and light to all who are on this amazing path of healing!
SO true about the loss of identity thanks for bringing up that point!! I have no problem with it I love being who I am ..but he has a big problem with it people In his culture are fiercely programmed and he is terrified of deprogramming terrified of his authenticity
If he choose that journey is because his souls needs that, and deep down he is capable of freeing himself!
I can empathize, I come form a small Italian community, everyone is deeply catholic and rooted in their own patterns.
For me I felt like the loneliest creature on the planet, the patterns and wounds that came up for me, were painful and scary to deal with.
But I kept going, I am finding more and more people that are living their own awakening, in their own way, as I said it is unique for each and every single one of us.
I love where I am going in my life, I love the change, I even love those days in which I am in my ego and I feel like shit!
As for my TF... in separation, no contact, I broke the pattern he was talking about almost a year ago. Most painful and unsettling thing ever... still is some days.
But we visit each other in dreams and we comunicate telepathically.
I send him love and light often, and hope for him to be happy in his life and I am striving to do in mine.
No one ever said it was going to be easy... but sure is an epic journey!
I agree the men don't like the feeling of loss of control in twin relationship.
Neither do women, just another lesson to learn
@@timothymartin5538 Women don't fight it as much as men imo. After 2 years I was like o.k. what is this? It's been 6 and the person I consider my twin still isn't ready to heel or even explore.
@@july713x3 oh no I totally get that, however the masculine and feminine aspects of control are massively different. excluding weak individuals, masculine control is internal whereas feminine is external, I don't intend it to be a slight on women however it is evidenced in the world quite obviously, the internal control of the masculine is something that perhaps passes people by.
Masculine control is the apitome of discipline, the regulation of self may not be evident in this day and age where the biggest issues of the day focus around the 1% of people who disturb us, however, letting go of that discipline enough to open ones self is a lengthy procedure, one that most feminines will never accept or recognise.
So you're absolutely right, just from the wrong approach in the case of most men, my opinion of course.
@@timothymartin5538 Hmm interesting. I agree. Lord knows I work with a bunch a women and they all think they r the boss of me/others no matter how far down the totem pole from me they are. And the older they get the worse they are. Not all mind u. I find even those are a specific type of women. Women with a a lot of regrets in their life who perhaps didn't follow their dreams or maybe followed a man or their family and have this shame about it they are in denial about and can't own up to and then end up wanting conttol of others so they can feel like they have some authority/power in their lives. So I agree with ur assessment. And.my twin has told.me telepathically that he doesn't like to feel over powered and out of control which the tf phenom makes him feel. It made me feel that way as well but I was like aint no sense working against it, therefore work w/it. I realized not quickly but faster than him it's much much bigger than me. Much much much.. I think he think he's superman and I imagine miserable b/c of it. It just seems silly to not even discuss it. He sort of told me that, told.me I was weak for being so out of control. He's a bit cocky. But I think he has a lot more trauma than I do and therefore trust issues, he has to be in control of at least hiself as u said. Which when a twin to fight that phenom is a herculean task and exhausting. Curious do u consider urself a twin? The runner? Or chaser? And as a man did u find urself unable to surrender to it? How long did it take for u to do so?.
Thank you so much for explaining this. It helps to make the process easier to deal with. And above all it makes sense the way you describe this.
Finally !!!... Someone who talks about this from a 3D perspective.... I have searched absolutely everywhere looking for information but 99.999pc all spoke in 5d or else was full of fluff...I just wanted info explained in a simple down to earth way..I was like the nodding dog people had here in their cars in the late 90s and going...yup that's true...yup spot on...yup that I'd definitely so true how Irish men are well of my generation anyway they think from a realistic way or from the head they leave the romantic ideas out of it...call it the Irish way or whatever...fair play...I found you by absolutely bizarre chance so I was meant to find this channel....fair play lad ... looking forward listening to the rest of your stuff.
But, as far as I know, there's only one TF, not several.
Thank you so very much. Me and my TF are on the right path. I am so pleased with what you have shared.
"Respect the connection" is the best thing I've heard about TF. My LDR (another continent) and I are both single, I'm much older, but we're both up there in age, and neither of us have children. We met online, a film page, grew to love each other deeply, planned to meet this spring, and that may change it all. Perhaps we'll only end up friends. We both are financially strapped which makes everything more difficult. But when we engage we're like children, the words just flow and hours go by like minutes. He "goes quiet" for days and as much as I try to suck it up sometimes I am in agony because I'm always afraid he won't come back to me, but he alway does. Been going on over a year. He sees me on FB laughing and joking, but it's the only thing holds me together. My job is boring and he keeps me company (via bluetooth WhatsApp) for days. Maybe I need to moderate our time together, rather than overindulge and then he takes space. Thinking out loud. But thank you so much for your incredible insight and advice.
I got divorced when we realized how destructive the relationship was for both of us. I went out with my clothes and my computer. I live alone and support myself. No plan B, but I had met my twin flame 2 years previously on the Internet before I was divorced. It's been just a few months since I learned that he was my twin flame and this was after I got divorced and was living alone. We have still not come together. I have experienced much personal growth in these last few months. I hope we will come together, but I realize that we may not and I am not young to say the least, so it's hard. Honestly speaking I don't know if he's married or separated or divorced at the present moment. I completely get what you're saying. I'm just letting go of all my expectations with the realization (comfort) that my life doesn't have all that many dozens of years left to go. The only contact we have had is messaging over the Internet. In the last week I've stopped messaging him, no longer directing any energy toward him. Thanks by the way for all of your advice. It helps on a mental level. But I'm at the point now where I don't care what happens to him. It's his responsibility!
I see a lot of angry female comments....and I totally appreciate why....I think this channeling while crude for some is exactly the tone and use of words that needed to be said to resonate with the proper parties......always goes back to if it doesn't resonate with you then this video is not for you
Exactly. I don't get the point of arguing when your situation doesn't even match what he's talking about 😅
Thank you for the video....so many videos and tarot readers are def for women...... everything you talked about resonates with me right now ......I feel stuck between my wife who we are separated.....also have strong feelings for my feminine....tho she has ghosted me and is scared of the connection......I've been living in a haze and I got a moment of clairty last night.....and your video has reassured me.......I don't choose either one .....I choose myself....I choose to love myself and learn my lessons to become who I am supposed to be....I am all that I am right now!!!! The separation has been amlicable and I do not let the fears of the unknown cripple me.....I choose love and light and my kids are the most important thing to me.....and I know my love can never change and even tho my parents divorced and I had no love that will not happen to my kids ......I subscribed to your channel look fwd to future content thank you again
This is sounds like a normal relationship pattern where both people have unhealthy patterns and unhealthy attachment styles. It's sad that now it's being blamed on twin flame connections. Families have BEEN dysfunctional for eons, we're the generation that's shining a light on all the hidden BS. As for my TF, I don't want to even see him until he comes correct. He has a lot of work to do and I refuse to save him from himself. Whether I end up with him or not, I still wish him true and authentic love and the 🎱🎱 to walk away from that which doesn't serve his highest good, whether personal, professional or otherwise. In the meantime, I have my own spiritual path to lead.
I see y people think that but Normal relationships don’t involve magick. The cosmos twitch in purging demons ect…
I just happen to listen out of curiosity about your point of view. Wow i seriously love your honesty and matter of fact opinion .
I love your brut honesty!! Exactly what I needed to hear.
Thank you for bringing your insight to others. It is so helpful to understand what my DM might be experiencing.
Holy shit I needed this video! Such divine timing, thank you
This was dope as shit. Finally don’t feel crazy for not agreeing with the vast majority of tf “info” out there. I kept feeling like its concept was being manipulated and reading most the comments here and watching this, while I’ll be validating my damn self here on out, this was sure validating to my nagging intuition. Thanks Mel, first video I’ve ever watched of yours. And if tf stuff is bull in general, oh well!! At least I FINALLY got me. That’s what I’m thankful for and will continue forever to align. But your ideas def make some real sense. All the best to everyone 💚🤙🏼✨
Who the hell wants a tf connection much less more than one! Sick of twin flames. I feel that is nonsense guys don't want a commitment. Men to me always have someone whether ga ga are not.
My twin flame wants to get married to me thankfully. I also want to get married to him. Some twin flames will being willing to commit on the bright side. I’d say that we are a very special type of twin flame because Anthony has autism and I have Asperger’s syndrome aka autism spectrum disorder. He’s finally awaken my kundalini. My question that I haven’t found any TH-cam videos on about kundalini awakening is do both twin flame couples experience this spiritual awakening or just one of us?
I think if you're in alignment, both of you can experience that together. But I'm not sure.
I love Mel! He is so real in his messages! Thank you for all the ways you have helped us.😍
I kinda get what you're saying but I think although I am a woman, I have the more masculine energy which is why I am the one running, although I am probably the only one aware of the Twin Flame situation. I have known my Twin flame since we were in kindergarten and it just never worked out when we were younger. Then I had a open shot when we were both single in my late 20s but then we were in different countries and after about 10yrs of not seeing him, we met up and spending a week together, I came back home and decided not to persue it for so many reasons. Part of it being someone how I felt life had tainted us both and it just was too much. Now I am in another relationship, have had another child and yet my heart aches for him all the time. Is there any remedy for this? I need help.
Thank you for this. I had no idea what this was. I thought I was going crazy. Now the run/chase makes sense. I have not heard the male side for the very reasons you say. I did say I was done, and told him I could love him forever and his absence would not change that. I so appreciate you.
unconditional love is the way home... that is why we all are coming in here... it is not easy, it is about opening our hearts in moments where there are only the feelings of running or fighting... puuuh, what a challenge this is... stopping, holding on, breathing and feeling the love that our "twin" remembers us to... we all here, seeing these videos, knowing exactly how it feels... it is a decision... our decision in every little moment... not easy but possible... thank you mel 💕🙏💕and thanks to you all, doing this "Job" here for healing the energies of "separation"...
Thank you for sharing this information, I needed to hear this.
Love the "diaper age" analogy!😁 It's so true! Thank you!🙏 Rest in peace, Mel!💚
🔴🔴🔴So grateful found you. Sharing with my channel now. We have not had enough MEN speak about their experience as the Divine Masculine and the DIvine Feminines are just confused and DONE with so many. All is Divine but innerstanding is KEY and so grateful...💋 Cosmic Christ
Cosmic Christi Right thank you for telling us the real truth, and being a real man
Yes I was thinking of men needing to start their own TF/Alchemy support group. Totally resonating, thanks Mel!
Hank you for this breakdown. I hope a lot more men resonate with this. I'm a female dealing with my guy saying he wants to be with me but acting differently... I was so worried about how many men disappointed me like this... I'd for get the bigger picture. Stop worrying, hes in between head and heart. I know it's me chasing too much, but other times he seems like he just isnt aware of things hes doing. That's when I had to respect the space. I feel you about TF groups being 90% women and 75% of them bitchin and moan. I had to leave those groups bc that energy was effecting me too much and just focus on myself and what I want to do for myself. Your video helped me see a new perspective. Thank you
It is a blessing. The darkest year of my Life. Learned so much. Thank you
@@janissportsman7174 its definitely a blessing. Not sure if he sees that but I know that. I'm so happy and grateful for going through these things. I too was in a dark place and at that time he made me feel safe ❤
Thank you for the honesty definitely need to hear this 🙏🏼
Once again I thank you for your time spent doing this videos because they are so clear and helpful. I totally see what you mean about male`s problems with commitment bacause that really makes a lot of sense. On the other hand dealing with this situation, for me, has brought much maturity and, in a way, strenght, as I now increasingly feel I can handle much more energy than I used too.. how about that?... .So it is a kind of paradox... thank you so much for all the support. Blessings.
This is EXACTLY what i got from my dm in the beganing... This is almost exactly what he told me through "telepathy" . not all males are like this, but a lot have this concept deep down in their selves.
My TF has been wrestling with these concepts for over a year now. It’s really hard. I’m trying so hard to prepare myself to finally walk away. At the same time I am empathetic toward his situation, and I don’t want him to “leave for me” ....he has to decide for himself whether or not he wants better for his life/true love and happiness.
love the way you explain things ... thank you so much 🙏😊
Very very interesting to hear these insights from a man's perspective , thank you !
Thank you for your insight. Its much appreciated.
This is so crucially important video. God bless you, Mel wherever you dwell 👼
This was really good to hear. I would like to hear more from the male perspective. It’s quite refreshing.
Thank you for another great perspective and truth Mel 👍🏼
I'm glad I just integrated an aspect of our higher self right before watching this. I hope my twin and I can fully harmonize. We have important work to do together. All this other stuff shouldn't be TRUMPING that. I totally agree about the men's groups. Thank you for speaking to that. There are very masculine men in progressive places like San Diego and Bali that are healing their shame and it's encouraging to witness. I think that the need to control is to avoid feeling their shame. I left my marriage and I was fair about it. My ex was well aware of the risks before we got married because I even brought it up. In hindsight, I think he was so confident marrying me because he thought he could control me and was secretly very good at manipulating my emotions. Now that he can't control me, there is no attraction or interest to spend time with me for the sake of our daughter anymore. I threw my wedding rings in a river when I really could have used the money, I guess because of the prison and false promises they represented. I am a Taurus so that is a big deal. I believe that I deserve for my connection to work out and that the importance of the work will bring the light needed to heal and bring peace and unity. It would be a blessing for many I am sure.
Thank you so much for your perspective on things it was very insightful!
thank you Mel for sharing your perspective, it is very helpful and informative. in my observation the law can be cruel and unfair to both genders in different ways. I presume that part of what these unconditional loves will also do is break down unfair, unkind societal structures, eventually, so that we may all live in integrity, honoring each other and honoring joy, and honoring our planet and ourselves as part of it.
Very entertaining GR agree respect connection. I’ll admit I didn’t always but now I do and know what a gift is has been these last 3 years but always knew in my heart it was too much for him to embrace bc of the feeling of loss of control. Let’s hope society starts becoming more functional and I’ll keep an open loving heart for whomever wants to take a leap with me so that 3 energy affects the collective. You are awesome love it. I’m a clean and reformed 12 D twin flamers solo honoring life and all the people who have shaped me.
Hello dear its me again the one that used to sit in the back of the class.. lol my twin lives in Ireland.. its even worse there .. leave a marriage and you are sol .. ive even heard of men paying child support for the others guys children here in america ! lol
Stepping into my own amazingness in stage 2..
i believe that once you let go of the person the things you needed will come to you form other people! life is going to give you your reward what is due to you.. if you are doing the work you will see greatness.. i absolutely love that you got 1.1k up votes on this video!!!
You know what your talking about and you are the real deal!
Thanks Mel . I've had it with all the twin flame hype. I do appreciate your no nonsense take on the relationship dynamic though. Please keep posting
Experience is true knowledge. So helpful thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing this. It is very helpful.
The fem flame can burn a little intense sometimes. Do you know if they make flame adjustment dial that can be installed on some of these ladies to prevent burns?
You think you guys don’t burn just as intensely, or even more? ;) Both fuel the connection...
I burn others when I'm doing a comedy roast but the ladies can be straight savage sometimes with their flame intensity levels. Totally kidding!! Its a feel good burn.
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