I identify with your emotional outburst about your treatment. it is honorable. it is deeply rooted. you have a heart for the underdog. you are a champion. never be ashamed of your desire to champion those who are being bullied.
Rubeauti - it is very moving how you so sincerely and genuinely care about improving your own understanding and the understanding of others of you country and the lives of Filipinos. It will take many years, and inspired wisdom, for some of the improvements you hope for to come to pass … I do doubt that the needed wisdom / guidance will come from the top of the political leadership as it seems that, in the Philippines, wise and inspiring leaders do not get elected. And so, if wise guidance will not come from the ranks of government, the challenge will fall on your generation to find ways to inspire your fellow Filipinos (who already dream for more), to dare for more and make changes at the grass roots. Keep up the good work with your messages.
@@Rubeauti perhaps too small to be heard, as one voice - but with 20k+ followers your voice grows louder … but when your voice is combined and echoes with the voices of many others it can and will effect change.
That's exactly what the economic background problem with the Philippines is in general.. they just pipedream about what could be.. And that's it.. there are no innovative MEN in charge from the stinking Government on down.. it's self Doomed mixing Superstition with Religious beliefs and approaches.. THIS is a major part of why the Philippines women are seeking American men!! Don't bother me. I've been observing this for decades.. It is what it is because you accept it as final and leave it at that.. You cannot help those who are not willing to help themselves.. YES I'm open opinionated because such a beautiful culture suffering for The reasoning of shear ignorance!! I'm interested in Pinay women, but not for that reason..
It will require many more touching speeches such as this one. But please don't resign, keep yourself going. You and women like you are the PH's only hope for improvement. 🥰
@@bbjazzmanjazzman7721 Preach it brother. I too have tried to help with volunteering, organizing where I even pay the way, it is an exercise in futility. Best from the USA.
I love that you are a very strong woman and have a very gentle soul. One more people to come independence and brave like you may be the Philippines to change with their customer service and the whole theme of your podcast today was very genuine thank you for your time
When your a Filipino and moved to the US as a child you develop western culture. My folks don’t understand or accept this way of thinking they expect there kids to stay the way they were as a child growing up in the Philippines. Education is the key to better oneself.
I'm not Philippino but I belong to a Philippino church community. I have seen the assimilation into American culture eradicate the Philippino culture. When I come in I salute my elders with the Beso de Mano yet the philippinos have fallen away form that tradition. The Black Chist is not celebrated in the Catholic churches and there are no comparsas playing traditional music and folkloric dances have be dropped for the new video line dance. At this rate Philippino culture will be non existent. In New York with each passing generation. Since America is a melting pot I Invite you to bring something to put into the melting pot to add more flavor.
Filipino culture is better in that regard American culture is toxic coming from an American. We leave to date filipina women for that reason. Hate to say it but don’t fall for the western bs
The woman I married there in Tarlac is going through the exact thing your talking about here and I hope this will help her. You have helped me bye understanding what she may be going through. So you are doing such important things and I believe you will make a difference in many people's lives. Because I can see from your videos that it's in your DNA . I love you, Thank you!
That was a real open and from the heart video Rubeauti, and it was obviously hard to do. I understand your frustrations, as I have experienced how hard even simple things are to do there. The country needs more people with your mentality, in positions of power where they can try to change things gradually. Part of the charm of the Philippines is its different pace of life, but many things are made far more complicated than they need to be. The feelings of helplessness are sad to see, it’s an acceptance and resignation to the hand that they have been dealt. Until things change at local or National government level, it’s hard to see how things will change. Keep speaking out, your channel and influence might help in some ways. Never give up.
Love you sister Rubeauti.....your a very beautiful soul. I just wanted to crawl through my computer screen and give you a big hug. I can't even begin to imagine being raised and living in that type of culture/environment. Growing up in The States we're taught to always question everything.....maybe too much. "That is the process, there is nothing we can do." "Two thirty minute lunch breaks! WT? And, "just collecting money." I get frustrated with my country, can't imagine trying to navigate yours. And yet the Filipino people are some of nicest, sweetest, will take their shirt off their back to help u type of people.....from what I've seen and the Filipinos I've known in The States. God bless. Keep your head up.....hugs
Prayers daily for the Philippines, talaga. Filipinos/Filipinas, I've worked with are some of the smartest people, yet humble people, I've ever met. Enjoyed very much so, your videos.
This was an interesting video, I could feel your frustration as you described your ordeal for the drivers license. It is funny in the US people complain about getting our divers licenses and license plates for our cars, but it is nothing like what you must deal with. I was sad watching you relive the helplessness you felt. Please stay positive, you are a wonderful lady and are trying your best. Take care.
Your insight into Filipino life is so revealing. With all due respect, you do not possess the Filipino mindset i have observed elsewhere. I have heard students and administrators complain about mandatory English but you are the most shining example of using English well. you have made yourself globally relevant. I wish you so much success and look forward to EVERY video you create.
Wow! You articulate these issues very well. I think the cultural habit of (saving face) contribute hugely to the problem, many Asian cultures places more value on saving face then holding self and others accountable, while on the surface this may seem Noble, the long term effect is not good. Even in your example with the eyelashes the concern was for not embarrassing him rather than holding him accountable. Filipinos are not helpless, they just have not realized their power, I think overtime this will change.
Rubeauti it depends on the individual, you have to learn confrontation, stand your ground, if you have to complain do it in a subtle way to be peaceful, if you don't confront then people will take advantage or walk all over you..
I love Filipinos and their resilience and willingness to learn and work hard. I hope to help start and grow businesses for them even though I am retiring there. And I adore you and love you. ❤️
Such a moving plea. Sending hugs for you. The people struggled for the whole existance since the Spanish arrived, first against Spain, then against the US, then the Japanese, then the Marcos regime. It takes time and freedom to become a real nation but I think you have the right ideas. No amount of history can beat you down forever. Humans live best when they live free and care about each other. You will succeed no matter how long it takes if people have hearts like yours. ❤😘
@@Rubeauti Be careful about taking in reductionist social theories. While the good ones are based upon objective observation, human behavior is complex and individuals may react differently from the same stimuli when variables are tweaked a bit. The authors of these behavior theories all have narrative to fit into what or how they think it is. There is however objective truth. I agree with you about Filipinos not able to accept constructive criticism. Still, a negative learned behavior. I disagree with you about Filipino culture not westernized. Among all the Indo-Pacific islanders ( Islands Southeast Asia) the Philippines is an "anomaly" in that part of the world because it is the most westernized. Filipinos do not understand that the "Asian" thing they think is "Asian" actually has its roots from the western colonial past which is also the solution in my opinion. The Philippines is a Hispanized and Americanized culture mixed with the diverse groups of people and cultures. For without Spain, your country will not exist. Another thing I disagree with Tagalog nationalists and academic leftist elite alike is that the negative colonial social construct they imagine coming from the west is the reason for the social problems. When they are really embedded in your culture. The Datu culture mentality. Which is an outdated mentality because it offers no growth but decay. While western style social structure from the colonial past may have contributed to further some of the negative socialization in Filipino society because of the divide in the social hierarchy to a certain extent. Your young people must not make the mistake that your oppressors these days are anyone "colonial". Sure, it can change. First start in socializing Filipinos to take care of their trash everywhere. Start small. Then go from there. Don't expect anything from the government. And no, Moses will not come to lead people out of slavery if you wait for it to happen. It will be more of the same. Understand that your people again voted the same group of people who destroyed everything of what was good and what could have been.
I'm sorry life is difficult there. But I really admire the strength and resilience of the Philippine people. You're strong, VERY SMART, and beautiful. I hope you make a difference in your country. ❤
Hi Rubeauti. I have been living in Japan for about 15 years, and like the Philippines, there is much here that the west can learn from, especially how people think more about each other and not just about themselves. You are a wonderful example of a person who thinks about others first, which is something that used to happen in the US, but rarely does anymore. Yet, like the words and phrases you mentioned, the Japanese have a word, “Shoganai,” which means, “There’s nothing anyone can do about it.” And so, very little changes because very few complain or try to change the things that are wrong - especially endless bureaucracy that seems to go around in circles. The only way things will improve is if pressure comes from the people who fight for change. If no one speaks out, governments only become more entrenched in what works for government, not for the people. Keep doing what you are doing; awareness is the first step in all change, and everyone deserves to be respected. Gambatte!
Rubeauti, you have encapsulated the nature of my Scottish parents entirely. I've never heard this phrase "learned helplessness" before but when I heard it, I gasped. Thank you for introducing me to this concept. Many more of the behaviours of my parents when I was growing up make more sense to me now.❤
RubeBeauty, you have an intelligent mind with a focus on empathy. You have a lot to teach us. You need to run for office to take on issues important in your community. Councilperson Rube, we share the same cause, helping others and trying to solve apathy amongst our people. You and I share many attributes that I know are admirable.
I've taught my Filipina to stand up for herself and since she's a supervisor at her job it's a requirement to have the courage to tell your people what's expected of them. We make a wonderful team together and we love how our relationship has grown in the last 5yrs. Thank you so much for you helpful videos Rubeauti. We love you young lady
I think an important step for anyone to better his/her own life is to realize that other possibilities exist. This is also true for a community or even an entire nation. It's very hard to see beyond one's own experiences, though. It takes a visionary like you, or several, to help people see that alternatives exist, and to realize injustice and inefficiency aren't things that should be accepted --- even though practically speaking they must be tolerated sometimes. (Our Department of Motor Vehicles is also not a place anyone enjoys going to. But after hearing about your experiences, I'm not going to complain about ours again.) I hope your channel is viewed extensively by your fellow Filipinos; as well as by foreigners who are interested in visiting, or perhaps living in, the Philippines. You're doing your countrymen a valuable service by talking about these issues and offering up the idea that things could be better. I agree with some other comments that you might want to consider becoming a politician. You obviously have the skills for it. The best politicians are often those who don't really want the job.
Rubeauti, I have worked with a lot of Filipino mariners, and what you describe in this video is exactly what they told me. Thank you for confirming it.
My wife & I spent most of our vacation trying to straighten out a deed in Masbate City. A judge had OK'd my father-in-law gifting me property even though I'm American (which is not legal). My sister-in-law STILL has to go to into town (a 2-hour ride on a motorcycle) every few months to try to straighten it out for once and for all. There's always some problem popping up. Corruption & 'kicking the can further down the road' instead of fixing problems are commonplace throughout the country. And yet the amazing Filipino population keeps smiling.
Until you Foreigners wake up and realize what you already know; A foreigner cannot own land in the Philippines ,no matter how much you try to dream it away and find a way to circumvent the facts! Now you spend your life trying to fix what you broke, and use your sisters-in-law to do it!
@@jesse75 As an American, I don't have the same ties my wife does. It's a great place to visit, but I can't stoop down to fit in. Ain't gonna happen...
Hello from Belgium ! I have found myself at random diving in filipino culture. Indeed I have been in LDR relationship since 4 February this year and totally agree with your analysis. Frankly I do appreciate your country as well. I discovered your very informative channel a few weeks ago. One learn a lot when watching your very interesting youtube videos. This is the very first time someone like you analyses this topic under this prism or psychoanalytical view (cultural attitudes and beliefs, even spanish and american colonialism scars, etc.). I am from Congo-Kinshasa (very center of Africa) but I do subscribe to all you said 'cause it is in a large majority common traits or characteristics in most of developping countries. If you have the opportunity to discuss with some Africans who are intellectually honest they will recognize what you are saying about filipino culture is also roughly similar to african culture attitude facing authority and so on ! But Rubeauti as an intellectual young lady you are, tell me you have never ever been raised or grown up in any western countries as mentioned a viewer (@Airraicd) down below? A second question which maybe quite sensitive or a kind of "hot potato", before spanish christianism around 1521, what was the real filipino beliefs because we all know that filipino people did not wait for the Spaniards to teach them the existence of god or the Creator ? Rubeauti, believe me or not, this question is also valid for us or me as an African, because the Portuguese came in Congo-Kinshasa around 1482/83 with the christianism. Before the arrival of the latter we had our proper beliefs which is seen today by most of population (i.d. priests, pastors and authorities who studied in the West or are westernised) as a bad thing or witchcraft ! Some academics from Africa and Western countries label this phenomenom as an alienation or a kind of Stockolm syndrom. I will end up by this african proverb : "As long as lions don't have their own historians, hunting stories will always extol the glory of the hunters".
Hey you complain and speak your mind, you have that right! I’m behind you 100%. remember this when you’re in a relationship too don’t keep your feelings inside and cause problems. Communications is the best way too resolve problems.
You have great insights into the Philippines. Your thoughts are heart felt...I appreciate you because I have seen the same thing. I love your channel... a beautiful people treated so harsh
6:00 this is a correct assessment, I've seen it myself. However even tho you might see all these things as somewhat lesser characters. I find myself admiring Filipinos very much. You guys are one of the nicest people in the world.
Thank you very much for this! You have really helped me to better understand my filipina wife. We live here in the U.S. and have been married for 9 years. I have often been confused about her response/reaction to many things as If she doesn't seem to care. I just assumed that it must be culture based, I guess I was correct. I am Afro-American (original black american) and "we" have been taught to RAISE HOLY HELL if need be. Regardless of what ANYBODY thinks in order to affect change if something is wrong. Which is why I could never understand why do Filipinos just tolerate a lot of stuff that they shouldn't in the PH. I used to criticize the PH for things being often sub-standard and question why do the people tolerate it. Now, thanks to you, I see the reason and the reasoning behind it all. My wife would never explain it to me. When I would ask her questions about the news on GMA Network. She would just say " I don't know" or "That's just the way it is". Thanks again for your enlightenment. I'm going to share this video with my wife. Take care. 😊
Dear Rubeauti a very touching and personal video. I think that what you refer to being helpless is what I would call fatalism. Accepting your situation without attempting to change it. My experience is: it doesn't really matter how often you fall down as long as you get up one time more than falling down. Not sure if this is western thinking but I simply don't believe that things are as they are and cannot be changed. It takes a bit of courage and there is no guarantee that it will work, but if yu don't do anything for sure nothing can/will change. So should you ever be again in a situation where you feel helpless: try to be courageous and do not accept it as it is. And don't worry too much about what others may think about you: most importantly, you must be ok with what you think is best for you. As for the apalling ignorance of PH authorities: shame on them for treating those who pay their salaries so badly. You are right to complain, but I understand it must be hard for you as it is against your asian culture. Be strong!
Maybe one day I'll visit the Philippines.... Maybe one day we'll meet.. You inspire me and I'm sure so many..many other people to visit, meet it's people and experience what the Philippines has too offer. I appreciate your honesty, opinions, insight and thoughtfulness when making these videos. Thank you.
Genuine tears of anger!!!! Totally justified !!!!!! The people at that office can use some lessons in learning how to deal with customers. If they don't learn from their mistakes, how will they ever learn the correct way to work with customers. Management needs to learn the same lessons. Management should help their employees on dealing with difficult customers and try to calm the employee and the customer. Maybe even turn an unhappy customer into a happy customer. This will not work in some cases, but if you don't try, you will never know.
I believe this learned helplessness mindset can be traced back several centuries to when the Spanish (and later, the US) colonized the Philippines. There was an article I read that detailed the Padrino System of governance and how it has shaped the bureaucracy with red tape by design. Pakkisama is another term that was mentioned.....meaning, to go with the majority, don't question things. For significant change to take hold, its going to require more than just a change in thinking. More like a revolution that vets out all of the old order corruption and replace it with people who can set a course of change that will take several generations to become established.
You are an amazing woman and I'm not just saying that, I mean it. The only way to make changes happen is to share experiences and thoughts with others to raise awareness of the problems we see even if we feel less than happy about having to do it, you are doing that and I can see how much you care about others through your emotions, you and people like you will start the change for the betterment for the people, I'm sure of it.
Truly amazing video. This is important and people will listen, and in time things will change. You are a good person, you are not complicit. Keep up the excellent work.
I recall my good friend from the Philippines who had the same mentality I've really been trying to help her break that mentality and build some confidence in herself so far I'm glad she's doing so well for herself
Wow, another great video! Thank you for talking about (in my humble opinion) probably the biggest reason the Phils, which has so much potential, is behind other advancing asian economies. Would this be acceptable in Japan, Korea, Taiwan, HK or Singapore? It actually wouldn't even be acceptable in Vietnam or China. Keep talking about these topics. You are clearly passionate about it. There is a big difference between criticizing authority and/or your own culture, and finding a better solution because it''s JUST COMMON SENSE. Good job. Keep spreading the word!
True to life of our Filipino culture..we are indeed resilient people and easily adapt to changing situations.Your vlog is sureal and inspiring to all especially to the ones who are not in that culture of being privileged and feelimg entitled...living in the US for 45 yrs now I feel a lot of folks are so arrogant since they don't know how to be deficient in almost everything, they are so used to be comfortable in most levels in life.
I have never visited your country, however you have given an insight that most channels do not articulate in such a thoughtful way. Keep going. You can make a change. Believe in the power of the individual. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your emotions about the disrespectful behaviors in your country. Change will come about when you and all citizens rebell against the status quo. That is why Americans are more efficient though not perfect. Speak up and use social media to no longer accept the poor behaviors of your government and its agencies. Learned helplessness leads to hopelessness and depression. Never give up the fight for respectful treatment by your government. It belongs to you and all the citizens of Philippines. Allow yourselves righteous indignation and do not stop openly criticizing bad behaving government officials. God bless you for speaking up.
Rubeauty, you are not just beautiful but compassionate and intelligent. I was impressed by your presentation as well as your desire for your people to have better lives.
Thank you so much for this video. My parents were born in the Philippines and I was born here in Australia. After 30+ years being in Australia my parents still find it hard to say no or to openly disagree with something or someone. It frustrates me because they don’t seem to progress and don’t enjoy the freedoms that come from being openly critical to get what they truly want or need. They say the same thing, it is what it is, instead of standing up for what’s right and pursuing what is rightfully theirs. Thank you for listening hehe
This was an excellent video and the commentary provided. A great research question and wonderfully excecuted. Thx. I'm enjoying the channel. Stay motivated!
Thanks for this and for your sharp English. In similar situations, I usually offer a faulty office my service to find and hire a qualified person to do the job and invoice them for my HR role.
Rubeauti i can see the piety of your culture and its a wonderful atribute to have only dark heated people will treat goid manners in this way. I am sorry you had these experiences it shows how some treat their fellow citizens.all because they feel they have power.
You are a beautiful human being I can see that you are very emotional over the situation. It’s like you say it is what it is and you have to make the best of it 🌹
I saw this in the hygienic aspects of the PI. 35 years ago they didn't have drinkable water at the faucet in the kitchen and still to this date most kitchens still don't have drinkable water. Every stream or river I saw had a milky hew to them and the banks of them smelt of sewer and strewn with piles and piles of trash, and still to this day 35 years later it is this way. The sewer is another thing that hasn't changed, open sewers, sewer water running into there rivers and streams, walking in sewer water after every heavy rain. These are just some of the basic of necessities that need to be corrected and that by saying what is is what is nothing gets corrected and nothing ever changes. If you could get one generation to make the change then things will change but until then it will always stay the same. I feel your Pain Rubeauti and just hope that some day the country as a whole will open their eyes to the changes that are needed.
@@Rubeauti I think what Your doing is a start because until it is discussed publicly and out in the open then people will start to be held accountable for their actions and change can start to be made.(remembering that it wont happen overnight but over years) keep up the good work.
Great video and outlines the attitude generally in the office. My partner transferred land into her name, she had to get up at 5 am, take two buses to get to the registration office by 8 am in the island. Take a number and join the queue. The computers were off line for 10 days, but no one knew when they would be operative again, she journeyed there everydsy along with many many others too. The system was very frustrating, it eventually was completed but with extra unnecessary expense.
Thanks for this Heartfelt Deep Discussion. I have Shared this , on my Facebook where I have More than 3,500 Friends on my Friends list. Hopefully, Enough people will see it, and begin the Long Road to Repair in the Philippines. Keep the Videos Coming , Because I Believe you Have What People both Inside the Phils and Outside, Need to Hear.
Hey Rubeauti, lovely video as usual. I realized this with my Filipina fiancé and her family. I'm from Trinidad and Tobago in the Caribbean (not to be associated in Trinidad in the Philippines lol). I see with my fiancé's family that there are many things she cannot say as it would deem disrespectful in her family's eyes but when she's with me she feels so free. This video helped me understand more as to why. Salamat ^_^
Rubeauti, very moving presentation! So many times even here in the USA people struggle with learned hopelessness. People who have been beaten down and “hushed” but still want to speak up but don’t. We all struggle and it’s time we say enough is enough instead of it is what it is. I too struggle with the mentality of it is what is and feel like what is the use? Things will never change. Well maybe sometime we will be able to see the reality of changed attitudes and start to make a difference in this world and stop accepting, “It is what it is!”
As I sat and listen to your video I was amazed at your insight on the subject matter mentioned in your video. Your very versed on a lot of things for your age and that is a compliment . You nailed it on every issue you talked of. Keep up the great videos and be the spokes lady to bring the truth out to your people. COGNITIVE DISSONANC can be hard to crack and doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is just crazy.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS INFORMACION AND TO HELP US UNDERSTAND PHILIPPINES CULTURE... IT SHOW THE EMPATHY YOU FEELFOR YOUR PEOPLE AND FRUSTRATION TOWARDS THE GOVERNMENT LOCK OF CARE FOR THEIR CITIZENS.. IT ALSO SHOW YOUR INNER BEAUTY.. GOD BLESS YOU..!! AND KEEP EDUCATING US AND YOUR PEOPLE. SLOWLY YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.. !! 🙏🏼😘
I sympathize with you and agree that the people in positions of authority frequently abuse authority, especially when the environment helps them to do so, and this includes the kindness of the citizens.
When I was in the Navy I saw this done a lot and realized that there were two schools of thought when dealing with issues like that. 1. We've always done it that way meant someone on a corporate ladder told a subordinate to do something and they did it without ever knowing why or even how it was to be done and the process repeated whether it fixed the problem or not. 2. A person did understand what was being asked of them and found many different solutions and found the best solution and TAUGHT that and EXPLAINED THE REASON WHY it was done that way!!!!
A topic about Philippine culture/socialization I have never heard mentioned, let alone discussed and you did an admirable & sincere job presenting it !!!! I learned something new today because of YOU. Thanx so much Ru !!
You are an amazing woman. That was so informative and from the heart. You are like all the brave people in the past who have effected change in their countries. Keep speaking your mind, you have so much to offer your fellow Filipinos. I pray learned helplessness becomes a thing of the past for the wonderful people of your country.
Hi Rubeauti. This was a great topic and I here many Filipinos complaining about the same things. So far I have not encountered any of that kind of thing dealing with government type offices. The only thing I have had to deal with since arriving in the Philippines is getting a visa extension and I did that through a consultant so I would not have to go through a big run around to get it done. I will at some point have to go to get a drivers license and not looking forward to that. I have chatted with many Filipinos here and in Canada since I started coming here and watching a lot of video of the Philippines. I often hear about how bad it is to get anything done and how they seem to push you off to someone else. You are right is seems some don't even know their job or what the rules are and sometimes it seems they are making things up as they go. It also seems complaints fall on deaf ears. There needs to be changes in government officials but they don't listen and just keep doing things the way they have always been done. It is very sad when you have to go though so much crap just to get a drivers license renewed or replaced. That should be a very simple and straight forward thing to get done. The Philippines needs more people like you to push for change but I know it will never be easy. There needs be more learning and proper training for people when they get these jobs. I know things in the west are not perfect but the Philippine government could learn a few things if only they were willing to make changes in how things are done here but seems they don't really care. The only one I see that is getting away from how some things are done is the governor in Cebu. She was ahead of everyone else on the covid thing. A lot of people don't like progress but sooner or later you have to progress or get left behind the rest of the world. Keep up the good work. Keep smiling and stay safe
Thank you Rubeauti for your video ... Other saying I heard was "That's Life" and for confrontation, I do know a lot of filipinas that would be very confrontational to me when they do not get what they want...calling me names and inconsiderate or, selfish and not caring, when it is just asking for something unrealistic...to be exact money. It is true that Filipino processes are sooooo extremely disorganized. They put something together and never think of the consequences people go through. It is so much waist of money for many people just trying to get a simple thing done with anything. You are so right about so many things you covered here. It is very sad
Thank you. This was very interesting. I have been living in Philippines for 5 years now. As a foreigner i don't understand the thought process sometimes. But, I know it is because I was raised differently. A follow up video of solutions or ways to think differently might be useful also. Great video
Please talk about that group of Filipinos who do not have this mentality and take advantage of those who have learned helplessness. These are the guys who bribe and mistreat fellow Filipinos with no regrets. This opportunists are the people that need to be corrected . Thank you for bringing this to awareness.
that was extremely interesting video and I completely understand where your coming from and your right about learning to challenge authority but to an extent over here in the USA people challenge everything TO MUCH but I personally have sometimes experienced the helplessness due due repeated failure you just have to learn to overcome it but thank you for your insight and a great video🙏❤
thank you for this. you're the 2nd time i heard terminology, and now, i'm aware of it which i did myself for most of my life. now, i need to watch what i do. btw, i've lived in the states most of my life & next year, i'm moving to the Philippines. i can't wait.
You are a Light in the mist of chaos and confusion. You were born for such a time as this to help your people raise the level of their consciousness for change so that they can affect change. I love your heart for research and practical application. You are making an impact and difference in people's lives. ✨
Thank you for this video. This is very enlightening for me as a newbie here. IMO what the Philippines needs is government officials like you. I would really encourage you to run for public office since your qualifications appear to exceed the vast majority of those already in office. I hope that you continue making your videos, they are a benefit to everyone who lives here.
This is one of your best videos and very informative. If I ever come to the Philippines I’m afraid challenging operations and difficult conditions may be too much for me. I’m tolerant and understanding but not sure I can handle it. Thanks.
I identify with your emotional outburst about your treatment. it is honorable. it is deeply rooted. you have a heart for the underdog. you are a champion. never be ashamed of your desire to champion those who are being bullied.
Rubeauti - it is very moving how you so sincerely and genuinely care about improving your own understanding and the understanding of others of you country and the lives of Filipinos. It will take many years, and inspired wisdom, for some of the improvements you hope for to come to pass … I do doubt that the needed wisdom / guidance will come from the top of the political leadership as it seems that, in the Philippines, wise and inspiring leaders do not get elected. And so, if wise guidance will not come from the ranks of government, the challenge will fall on your generation to find ways to inspire your fellow Filipinos (who already dream for more), to dare for more and make changes at the grass roots. Keep up the good work with your messages.
@@Rubeauti perhaps too small to be heard, as one voice - but with 20k+ followers your voice grows louder … but when your voice is combined and echoes with the voices of many others it can and will effect change.
That's exactly what the economic background problem with the Philippines is in general.. they just pipedream about what could be..
And that's it.. there are no innovative MEN in charge from the stinking Government on down.. it's self Doomed mixing Superstition with Religious beliefs and approaches..
THIS is a major part of why the Philippines women are seeking American men!!
Don't bother me. I've been observing this for decades..
It is what it is because you accept it as final and leave it at that..
You cannot help those who are not willing to help themselves..
YES I'm open opinionated because such a beautiful culture suffering for
The reasoning of shear ignorance!!
I'm interested in Pinay women, but not for that reason..
Yes I love to keep up with the work to get together with you so much my beautiful angel
It will require many more touching speeches such as this one. But please don't resign, keep yourself going. You and women like you are the PH's only hope for improvement. 🥰
@@bbjazzmanjazzman7721 Preach it brother. I too have tried to help with volunteering, organizing where I even pay the way, it is an exercise in futility. Best from the USA.
I love that you are a very strong woman and have a very gentle soul. One more people to come independence and brave like you may be the Philippines to change with their customer service and the whole theme of your podcast today was very genuine thank you for your time
I agree with you! I wish all Filipinos has the same mentality as Ms. Rubeauti. 🌹👍
When your a Filipino and moved to the US as a child you develop western culture. My folks don’t understand or accept this way of thinking they expect there kids to stay the way they were as a child growing up in the Philippines. Education is the key to better oneself.
I'm not Philippino but I belong to a Philippino church community. I have seen the assimilation into American culture eradicate the Philippino culture. When I come in I salute my elders with the Beso de Mano yet the philippinos have fallen away form that tradition. The Black Chist is not celebrated in the Catholic churches and there are no comparsas playing traditional music and folkloric dances have be dropped for the new video line dance. At this rate Philippino culture will be non existent. In New York with each passing generation. Since America is a melting pot I Invite you to bring something to put into the melting pot to add more flavor.
Filipino culture is better in that regard American culture is toxic coming from an American. We leave to date filipina women for that reason. Hate to say it but don’t fall for the western bs
When YOU'RE a... They expect THEIR kids to...
That all depends
@@woodpeckery damn didn’t know you are the English police..lol
The woman I married there in Tarlac is going through the exact thing your talking about here and I hope this will help her. You have helped me bye understanding what she may be going through. So you are doing such important things and I believe you will make a difference in many people's lives. Because I can see from your videos that it's in your DNA . I love you, Thank you!
That was a real open and from the heart video Rubeauti, and it was obviously hard to do. I understand your frustrations, as I have experienced how hard even simple things are to do there. The country needs more people with your mentality, in positions of power where they can try to change things gradually. Part of the charm of the Philippines is its different pace of life, but many things are made far more complicated than they need to be. The feelings of helplessness are sad to see, it’s an acceptance and resignation to the hand that they have been dealt. Until things change at local or National government level, it’s hard to see how things will change. Keep speaking out, your channel and influence might help in some ways. Never give up.
Love you sister Rubeauti.....your a very beautiful soul. I just wanted to crawl through my computer screen and give you a big hug. I can't even begin to imagine being raised and living in that type of culture/environment. Growing up in The States we're taught to always question everything.....maybe too much. "That is the process, there is nothing we can do." "Two thirty minute lunch breaks! WT? And, "just collecting money." I get frustrated with my country, can't imagine trying to navigate yours. And yet the Filipino people are some of nicest, sweetest, will take their shirt off their back to help u type of people.....from what I've seen and the Filipinos I've known in The States. God bless. Keep your head up.....hugs
Prayers daily for the Philippines, talaga. Filipinos/Filipinas, I've worked with are some of the smartest people, yet humble people, I've ever met.
Enjoyed very much so, your videos.
This was an interesting video, I could feel your frustration as you described your ordeal for the drivers license. It is funny in the US people complain about getting our divers licenses and license plates for our cars, but it is nothing like what you must deal with. I was sad watching you relive the helplessness you felt. Please stay positive, you are a wonderful lady and are trying your best. Take care.
You truly are a beautiful soul. Keep doing what you are doing because it will bring about change.
Your insight into Filipino life is so revealing. With all due respect, you do not possess the Filipino mindset i have observed elsewhere. I have heard students and administrators complain about mandatory English but you are the most shining example of using English well. you have made yourself globally relevant. I wish you so much success and look forward to EVERY video you create.
Wow! You articulate these issues very well. I think the cultural habit of (saving face) contribute hugely to the problem, many Asian cultures places more value on saving face then holding self and others accountable, while on the surface this may seem Noble, the long term effect is not good.
Even in your example with the eyelashes the concern was for not embarrassing him rather than holding him accountable.
Filipinos are not helpless, they just have not realized their power, I think overtime this will change.
...and I just want to add that you are a strong representative of the Pilipino point of view. You are an incredible resource.
I can't take in what you're saying because I can't tear my eyes away. Next time I will listen to you with a mask on my eyes
You did a great job. Keep going. Don't give up. I love the Philippines, but sometime it can be a headache.
Rubeauti it depends on the individual, you have to learn confrontation, stand your ground, if you have to complain do it in a subtle way to be peaceful, if you don't confront then people will take advantage or
walk all over you..
well done Maguire you speak truth to injustice and Gov incompetence ...you are a brave lady and I hope you can work your way around these problems
I love Filipinos and their resilience and willingness to learn and work hard. I hope to help start and grow businesses for them even though I am retiring there. And I adore you and love you. ❤️
You have to keep on top of a business. It will not run itself.
Keep it small and manageable.
Such a moving plea. Sending hugs for you. The people struggled for the whole existance since the Spanish arrived, first against Spain, then against the US, then the Japanese, then the Marcos regime. It takes time and freedom to become a real nation but I think you have the right ideas. No amount of history can beat you down forever. Humans live best when they live free and care about each other. You will succeed no matter how long it takes if people have hearts like yours. ❤😘
@@Rubeauti you did the right thing! I love that you see injustice and unfairness and hae to fight it ❤😘
@@Rubeauti Be careful about taking in reductionist social theories. While the good ones are based upon objective observation, human behavior is complex and individuals may react differently from the same stimuli when variables are tweaked a bit. The authors of these behavior theories all have narrative to fit into what or how they think it is. There is however objective truth. I agree with you about Filipinos not able to accept constructive criticism. Still, a negative learned behavior. I disagree with you about Filipino culture not westernized. Among all the Indo-Pacific islanders ( Islands Southeast Asia) the Philippines is an "anomaly" in that part of the world because it is the most westernized. Filipinos do not understand that the "Asian" thing they think is "Asian" actually has its roots from the western colonial past which is also the solution in my opinion. The Philippines is a Hispanized and Americanized culture mixed with the diverse groups of people and cultures. For without Spain, your country will not exist. Another thing I disagree with Tagalog nationalists and academic leftist elite alike is that the negative colonial social construct they imagine coming from the west is the reason for the social problems. When they are really embedded in your culture. The Datu culture mentality. Which is an outdated mentality because it offers no growth but decay. While western style social structure from the colonial past may have contributed to further some of the negative socialization in Filipino society because of the divide in the social hierarchy to a certain extent. Your young people must not make the mistake that your oppressors these days are anyone "colonial". Sure, it can change. First start in socializing Filipinos to take care of their trash everywhere. Start small. Then go from there. Don't expect anything from the government. And no, Moses will not come to lead people out of slavery if you wait for it to happen. It will be more of the same. Understand that your people again voted the same group of people who destroyed everything of what was good and what could have been.
I'm sorry life is difficult there. But I really admire the strength and resilience of the Philippine people. You're strong, VERY SMART, and beautiful. I hope you make a difference in your country. ❤
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Hi Rubeauti. I have been living in Japan for about 15 years, and like the Philippines, there is much here that the west can learn from, especially how people think more about each other and not just about themselves. You are a wonderful example of a person who thinks about others first, which is something that used to happen in the US, but rarely does anymore. Yet, like the words and phrases you mentioned, the Japanese have a word, “Shoganai,” which means, “There’s nothing anyone can do about it.” And so, very little changes because very few complain or try to change the things that are wrong - especially endless bureaucracy that seems to go around in circles. The only way things will improve is if pressure comes from the people who fight for change. If no one speaks out, governments only become more entrenched in what works for government, not for the people. Keep doing what you are doing; awareness is the first step in all change, and everyone deserves to be respected. Gambatte!
Rubeauti, you have encapsulated the nature of my Scottish parents entirely. I've never heard this phrase "learned helplessness" before but when I heard it, I gasped. Thank you for introducing me to this concept. Many more of the behaviours of my parents when I was growing up make more sense to me now.❤
RubeBeauty, you have an intelligent mind with a focus on empathy. You have a lot to teach us. You need to run for office to take on issues important in your community. Councilperson Rube, we share the same cause, helping others and trying to solve apathy amongst our people. You and I share many attributes that I know are admirable.
i agree. The reason I start watching your video's is your strong sense of social awareness and social justice. KEEP GOING
I've taught my Filipina to stand up for herself and since she's a supervisor at her job it's a requirement to have the courage to tell your people what's expected of them. We make a wonderful team together and we love how our relationship has grown in the last 5yrs. Thank you so much for you helpful videos Rubeauti. We love you young lady
I think an important step for anyone to better his/her own life is to realize that other possibilities exist. This is also true for a community or even an entire nation. It's very hard to see beyond one's own experiences, though. It takes a visionary like you, or several, to help people see that alternatives exist, and to realize injustice and inefficiency aren't things that should be accepted --- even though practically speaking they must be tolerated sometimes. (Our Department of Motor Vehicles is also not a place anyone enjoys going to. But after hearing about your experiences, I'm not going to complain about ours again.) I hope your channel is viewed extensively by your fellow Filipinos; as well as by foreigners who are interested in visiting, or perhaps living in, the Philippines. You're doing your countrymen a valuable service by talking about these issues and offering up the idea that things could be better. I agree with some other comments that you might want to consider becoming a politician. You obviously have the skills for it. The best politicians are often those who don't really want the job.
Rubeauti, I have worked with a lot of Filipino mariners, and what you describe in this video is exactly what they told me. Thank you for confirming it.
Your videos are some of the most insightful about the Philippines. Really enjoy them!
My wife & I spent most of our vacation trying to straighten out a deed in Masbate City. A judge had OK'd my father-in-law gifting me property even though I'm American (which is not legal). My sister-in-law STILL has to go to into town (a 2-hour ride on a motorcycle) every few months to try to straighten it out for once and for all. There's always some problem popping up. Corruption & 'kicking the can further down the road' instead of fixing problems are commonplace throughout the country. And yet the amazing Filipino population keeps smiling.
Until you Foreigners wake up and realize what you already know; A foreigner cannot own land in the
Philippines ,no matter how much you try to dream it away and find a way to circumvent the facts!
Now you spend your life trying to fix what you broke, and use your sisters-in-law to do it!
Pay bribe. Get it over with. When in Rome do as the Roman's.
You can't change the people. Change yourself or get out.
@@jesse75 As an American, I don't have the same ties my wife does. It's a great place to visit, but I can't stoop down to fit in. Ain't gonna happen...
@@BrianHeimbuecher I used to think like that. Sometimes compromise is better than rigid.
Hello from Belgium ! I have found myself at random diving in filipino culture. Indeed I have been in LDR relationship since 4 February this year and totally agree with your analysis. Frankly I do appreciate your country as well. I discovered your very informative channel a few weeks ago. One learn a lot when watching your very interesting youtube videos. This is the very first time someone like you analyses this topic under this prism or psychoanalytical view (cultural attitudes and beliefs, even spanish and american colonialism scars, etc.). I am from Congo-Kinshasa (very center of Africa) but I do subscribe to all you said 'cause it is in a large majority common traits or characteristics in most of developping countries. If you have the opportunity to discuss with some Africans who are intellectually honest they will recognize what you are saying about filipino culture is also roughly similar to african culture attitude facing authority and so on ! But Rubeauti as an intellectual young lady you are, tell me you have never ever been raised or grown up in any western countries as mentioned a viewer (@Airraicd) down below? A second question which maybe quite sensitive or a kind of "hot potato", before spanish christianism around 1521, what was the real filipino beliefs because we all know that filipino people did not wait for the Spaniards to teach them the existence of god or the Creator ? Rubeauti, believe me or not, this question is also valid for us or me as an African, because the Portuguese came in Congo-Kinshasa around 1482/83 with the christianism. Before the arrival of the latter we had our proper beliefs which is seen today by most of population (i.d. priests, pastors and authorities who studied in the West or are westernised) as a bad thing or witchcraft ! Some academics from Africa and Western countries label this phenomenom as an alienation or a kind of Stockolm syndrom. I will end up by this african proverb : "As long as lions don't have their own historians, hunting stories will always extol the glory of the hunters".
Hey you complain and speak your mind, you have that right! I’m behind you 100%. remember this when you’re in a relationship too don’t keep your feelings inside and cause problems. Communications is the best way too resolve problems.
You have great insights into the Philippines. Your thoughts are heart felt...I appreciate you because I have seen the same thing.
I love your channel... a beautiful people treated so harsh
Been here over 3 years and she is spot on
6:00 this is a correct assessment, I've seen it myself. However even tho you might see all these things as somewhat lesser characters. I find myself admiring Filipinos very much. You guys are one of the nicest people in the world.
Thank you very much for this! You have really helped me to better understand my filipina wife. We live here in the U.S. and have been married for 9 years. I have often been confused about her response/reaction to many things as If she doesn't seem to care. I just assumed that it must be culture based, I guess I was correct. I am Afro-American (original black american) and "we" have been taught to RAISE HOLY HELL if need be. Regardless of what ANYBODY thinks in order to affect change if something is wrong. Which is why I could never understand why do Filipinos just tolerate a lot of stuff that they shouldn't in the PH. I used to criticize the PH for things being often sub-standard and question why do the people tolerate it. Now, thanks to you, I see the reason and the reasoning behind it all. My wife would never explain it to me. When I would ask her questions about the news on GMA Network. She would just say " I don't know" or "That's just the way it is". Thanks again for your enlightenment. I'm going to share this video with my wife. Take care. 😊
What I respect about you is your sense of fairness. You really are a champion for those who are having a hard time.
Congratulations 🎉 on 20k :)
Dear Rubeauti
a very touching and personal video.
I think that what you refer to being helpless is what I would call fatalism. Accepting your situation without attempting to change it. My experience is: it doesn't really matter how often you fall down as long as you get up one time more than falling down. Not sure if this is western thinking but I simply don't believe that things are as they are and cannot be changed. It takes a bit of courage and there is no guarantee that it will work, but if yu don't do anything for sure nothing can/will change. So should you ever be again in a situation where you feel helpless: try to be courageous and do not accept it as it is. And don't worry too much about what others may think about you: most importantly, you must be ok with what you think is best for you.
As for the apalling ignorance of PH authorities: shame on them for treating those who pay their salaries so badly. You are right to complain, but I understand it must be hard for you as it is against your asian culture. Be strong!
Maybe one day I'll visit the Philippines.... Maybe one day we'll meet..
You inspire me and I'm sure so many..many other people to visit, meet it's people and experience what the Philippines has too offer.
I appreciate your honesty, opinions, insight and thoughtfulness when making these videos.
Thank you.
Genuine tears of anger!!!! Totally justified !!!!!! The people at that office can use some lessons in learning how to deal with customers. If they don't learn from their mistakes, how will they ever learn the correct way to work with customers. Management needs to learn the same lessons. Management should help their employees on dealing with difficult customers and try to calm the employee and the customer. Maybe even turn an unhappy customer into a happy customer. This will not work in some cases, but if you don't try, you will never know.
I believe this learned helplessness mindset can be traced back several centuries to when the Spanish (and later, the US) colonized the Philippines. There was an article I read that detailed the Padrino System of governance and how it has shaped the bureaucracy with red tape by design. Pakkisama is another term that was mentioned.....meaning, to go with the majority, don't question things. For significant change to take hold, its going to require more than just a change in thinking. More like a revolution that vets out all of the old order corruption and replace it with people who can set a course of change that will take several generations to become established.
Well done here Rubeauti. You chat beautifully well about an important topic that is holding your people and your country back. Bravo again!
You are an amazing woman and I'm not just saying that, I mean it. The only way to make changes happen is to share experiences and thoughts with others to raise awareness of the problems we see even if we feel less than happy about having to do it, you are doing that and I can see how much you care about others through your emotions, you and people like you will start the change for the betterment for the people, I'm sure of it.
Another exceptional vlog. I appreciate you digging beyond the surface and taking a deeper look at your own culture.
I felt your pain and I hope change comes to your country for everyone God is love..............
Truly amazing video. This is important and people will listen, and in time things will change. You are a good person, you are not complicit. Keep up the excellent work.
@Miss Rubeauti ... this is the perfect combination between "victoria secrets" and philosophy!!!!...
I recall my good friend from the Philippines who had the same mentality I've really been trying to help her break that mentality and build some confidence in herself so far I'm glad she's doing so well for herself
You just made me realize that a friend I know there may be suffering from this 😢 thank you for sharing that.
Thank you for this video Rubeauti. Your honesty, empathy, and frustration is well placed.
Rubeauti, you have a beautiful heart caring others. The world needs more compassion.
Thanks for sharing your experience with such sincerity and courage. Best wishes,
Derrick
Wow, another great video! Thank you for talking about (in my humble opinion) probably the biggest reason the Phils, which has so much potential, is behind other advancing asian economies. Would this be acceptable in Japan, Korea, Taiwan, HK or Singapore? It actually wouldn't even be acceptable in Vietnam or China. Keep talking about these topics. You are clearly passionate about it. There is a big difference between criticizing authority and/or your own culture, and finding a better solution because it''s JUST COMMON SENSE. Good job. Keep spreading the word!
True to life of our Filipino culture..we are indeed resilient people and easily adapt to changing situations.Your vlog is sureal and inspiring to all especially to the ones who are not in that culture of being privileged and feelimg entitled...living in the US for 45 yrs now I feel a lot of folks are so arrogant since they don't know how to be deficient in almost everything, they are so used to be comfortable in most levels in life.
I have never visited your country, however you have given an insight that most channels do not articulate in such a thoughtful way. Keep going. You can make a change. Believe in the power of the individual. God bless you.
Powerful and very informative video. Thank you for educating me.
your great,,,i love how you think...so smart
You have a huge, caring heart, and you can't hide it !! ❤🧡💛
Thank you for sharing your emotions about the disrespectful behaviors in your country.
Change will come about when you and all citizens rebell against the status quo. That is why Americans are more efficient though not perfect. Speak up and use social media to no longer accept the poor behaviors of your government and its agencies. Learned helplessness leads to hopelessness and depression.
Never give up the fight for respectful treatment by your government. It belongs to you and all the citizens of Philippines. Allow yourselves righteous indignation and do not stop openly criticizing bad behaving government officials.
God bless you for speaking up.
Excellent vlog of substance. Good job!?
Just watched 3 vids in a row! This channel will explode! Agree?
Rubeauty, you are not just beautiful but compassionate and intelligent. I was impressed by your presentation as well as your desire for your people to have better lives.
Thank you so much for this video. My parents were born in the Philippines and I was born here in Australia. After 30+ years being in Australia my parents still find it hard to say no or to openly disagree with something or someone. It frustrates me because they don’t seem to progress and don’t enjoy the freedoms that come from being openly critical to get what they truly want or need. They say the same thing, it is what it is, instead of standing up for what’s right and pursuing what is rightfully theirs. Thank you for listening hehe
This was an excellent video and the commentary provided. A great research question and wonderfully excecuted. Thx. I'm enjoying the channel. Stay motivated!
Thanks for this and for your sharp English. In similar situations, I usually offer a faulty office my service to find and hire a qualified person to do the job and invoice them for my HR role.
Real, genuine emotion does not require an apology...
Rubeauti i can see the piety of your culture and its a wonderful atribute to have only dark heated people will treat goid manners in this way. I am sorry you had these experiences it shows how some treat their fellow citizens.all because they feel they have power.
Thank you for this so enlightened intelligent video, I'm so impressed!
Always a good education listening to Rubeauti
Communication is the transformation of one self development it comes in many ways you are doing well with the tools.
You are a beautiful human being I can see that you are very emotional over the situation. It’s like you say it is what it is and you have to make the best of it 🌹
She is soft-hearted
I saw this in the hygienic aspects of the PI. 35 years ago they didn't have drinkable water at the faucet in the kitchen and still to this date most kitchens still don't have drinkable water. Every stream or river I saw had a milky hew to them and the banks of them smelt of sewer and strewn with piles and piles of trash, and still to this day 35 years later it is this way. The sewer is another thing that hasn't changed, open sewers, sewer water running into there rivers and streams, walking in sewer water after every heavy rain. These are just some of the basic of necessities that need to be corrected and that by saying what is is what is nothing gets corrected and nothing ever changes. If you could get one generation to make the change then things will change but until then it will always stay the same. I feel your Pain Rubeauti and just hope that some day the country as a whole will open their eyes to the changes that are needed.
@@Rubeauti I think what Your doing is a start because until it is discussed publicly and out in the open then people will start to be held accountable for their actions and change can start to be made.(remembering that it wont happen overnight but over years) keep up the good work.
Great video and outlines the attitude generally in the office. My partner transferred land into her name, she had to get up at 5 am, take two buses to get to the registration office by 8 am in the island. Take a number and join the queue. The computers were off line for 10 days, but no one knew when they would be operative again, she journeyed there everydsy along with many many others too. The system was very frustrating, it eventually was completed but with extra unnecessary expense.
Thanks for this Heartfelt Deep Discussion.
I have Shared this , on my Facebook where I have More than 3,500 Friends on my Friends list.
Hopefully, Enough people will see it, and begin the Long Road to Repair in the Philippines.
Keep the Videos Coming , Because I Believe you Have What People both Inside the Phils and Outside, Need to Hear.
Hey Rubeauti, lovely video as usual. I realized this with my Filipina fiancé and her family. I'm from Trinidad and Tobago in the Caribbean (not to be associated in Trinidad in the Philippines lol).
I see with my fiancé's family that there are many things she cannot say as it would deem disrespectful in her family's eyes but when she's with me she feels so free. This video helped me understand more as to why. Salamat ^_^
Rubeauti, very moving presentation! So many times even here in the USA people struggle with learned hopelessness. People who have been beaten down and “hushed” but still want to speak up but don’t. We all struggle and it’s time we say enough is enough instead of it is what it is. I too struggle with the mentality of it is what is and feel like what is the use? Things will never change. Well maybe sometime we will be able to see the reality of changed attitudes and start to make a difference in this world and stop accepting, “It is what it is!”
I love how smart you are! Very interesting discussions are on the offer with you. Wise beyond your years 🤗
As I sat and listen to your video I was amazed at your insight on the subject matter mentioned in your video. Your very versed on a lot of things for your age and that is a compliment . You nailed it on every issue you talked of. Keep up the great videos and be the spokes lady to bring the truth out to your people. COGNITIVE DISSONANC can be hard to crack and doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is just crazy.
THANKS FOR SHARING THIS INFORMACION AND TO HELP US UNDERSTAND PHILIPPINES CULTURE... IT SHOW THE EMPATHY YOU FEELFOR YOUR PEOPLE AND FRUSTRATION TOWARDS THE GOVERNMENT LOCK OF CARE FOR THEIR CITIZENS.. IT ALSO SHOW YOUR INNER BEAUTY.. GOD BLESS YOU..!! AND KEEP EDUCATING US AND YOUR PEOPLE. SLOWLY YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.. !! 🙏🏼😘
Excellent Channel 👍 Just the information I was looking for.. Now I understand Ganyant Talaga..
Thanks!
I sympathize with you and agree that the people in positions of authority frequently abuse authority, especially when the environment helps them to do so, and this includes the kindness of the citizens.
Very informative and emotional video about the Filipino people.. I enjoyed learning from it,, also a very lovely lady too, ingat,,💞
When I was in the Navy I saw this done a lot and realized that there were two schools of thought when dealing with issues like that. 1. We've always done it that way meant someone on a corporate ladder told a subordinate to do something and they did it without ever knowing why or even how it was to be done and the process repeated whether it fixed the problem or not. 2. A person did understand what was being asked of them and found many different solutions and found the best solution and TAUGHT that and EXPLAINED THE REASON WHY it was done that way!!!!
A topic about Philippine culture/socialization I have never heard mentioned, let alone discussed and you did an admirable & sincere job presenting it !!!! I learned something new today because of YOU.
Thanx so much Ru !!
You are an amazing woman. That was so informative and from the heart. You are like all the brave people in the past who have effected change in their countries. Keep speaking your mind, you have so much to offer your fellow Filipinos. I pray learned helplessness becomes a thing of the past for the wonderful people of your country.
Good work for your people..it is important that you keep trying to reach 1 pinoy. It's not hopeless...
Hi Rubeauti. This was a great topic and I here many Filipinos complaining about the same things. So far I have not encountered any of that kind of thing dealing with government type offices. The only thing I have had to deal with since arriving in the Philippines is getting a visa extension and I did that through a consultant so I would not have to go through a big run around to get it done. I will at some point have to go to get a drivers license and not looking forward to that. I have chatted with many Filipinos here and in Canada since I started coming here and watching a lot of video of the Philippines. I often hear about how bad it is to get anything done and how they seem to push you off to someone else. You are right is seems some don't even know their job or what the rules are and sometimes it seems they are making things up as they go. It also seems complaints fall on deaf ears. There needs to be changes in government officials but they don't listen and just keep doing things the way they have always been done. It is very sad when you have to go though so much crap just to get a drivers license renewed or replaced. That should be a very simple and straight forward thing to get done. The Philippines needs more people like you to push for change but I know it will never be easy. There needs be more learning and proper training for people when they get these jobs. I know things in the west are not perfect but the Philippine government could learn a few things if only they were willing to make changes in how things are done here but seems they don't really care. The only one I see that is getting away from how some things are done is the governor in Cebu. She was ahead of everyone else on the covid thing. A lot of people don't like progress but sooner or later you have to progress or get left behind the rest of the world. Keep up the good work. Keep smiling and stay safe
Thank you Rubeauti for your video ... Other saying I heard was "That's Life" and for confrontation, I do know a lot of filipinas that would be very confrontational to me when they do not get what they want...calling me names and inconsiderate or, selfish and not caring, when it is just asking for something unrealistic...to be exact money. It is true that Filipino processes are sooooo extremely disorganized. They put something together and never think of the consequences people go through. It is so much waist of money for many people just trying to get a simple thing done with anything. You are so right about so many things you covered here. It is very sad
@@Rubeauti Yes that is true...when not face to face... your right. Thank you so much.
Thank you. This was very interesting. I have been living in Philippines for 5 years now. As a foreigner i don't understand the thought process sometimes. But, I know it is because I was raised differently. A follow up video of solutions or ways to think differently might be useful also. Great video
Please talk about that group of Filipinos who do not have this mentality and take advantage of those who have learned helplessness. These are the guys who bribe and mistreat fellow Filipinos with no regrets. This opportunists are the people that need to be corrected . Thank you for bringing this to awareness.
that was extremely interesting video and I completely understand where your coming from and your right about learning to challenge authority but to an extent over here in the USA people challenge everything TO MUCH but I personally have sometimes experienced the helplessness due due repeated failure you just have to learn to overcome it but thank you for your insight and a great video🙏❤
Great information! Thank you for such an emotional experience. You did great.
Beautiful video! Well done Ms Rubeauti!💜👍🏽
Thank you so much for your intelligent discourse for the first Filipina that I've ever seen on TH-cam effectively describing the Filipino condition
Rubeauti You have a refreshing look at life in the Philippines. Your very passionate about this topic.
thank you for this. you're the 2nd time i heard terminology, and now, i'm aware of it which i did myself for most of my life. now, i need to watch what i do. btw, i've lived in the states most of my life & next year, i'm moving to the Philippines. i can't wait.
You are a Light in the mist of chaos and confusion. You were born for such a time as this to help your people raise the level of their consciousness for change so that they can affect change. I love your heart for research and practical application. You are making an impact and difference in people's lives. ✨
You are very wise to be so young
Thank you for this video. This is very enlightening for me as a newbie here. IMO what the Philippines needs is government officials like you. I would really encourage you to run for public office since your qualifications appear to exceed the vast majority of those already in office. I hope that you continue making your videos, they are a benefit to everyone who lives here.
This is one of your best videos and very informative. If I ever come to the Philippines I’m afraid challenging operations and difficult conditions may be too much for me. I’m tolerant and understanding but not sure I can handle it. Thanks.