I am a 78 year old gay man.... I have been attracted to men since I was a toddler..... first boyfriend, I was 12 he was 26... I pursued him and we were together for 7 years before I moved to Colorado..... I have been in relationships most of my life.... husband of 25 years died 2006 and have been single since then.... been involved in gay organizations, a gay motorcycle club for 45 years and gay rodeo for 42 years.... have been told I should write a book, but too lazy.... grin have had so many adventures in my life.... rodeo my motorcycle in 44 of the lower 48 states back in the 70's.... still own them but not riding anymore.... love your podcast and will watch more of them as I move along in life..... love to you all.... Dick/Tgramps
Your incredible journey and rich experiences are truly inspiring! Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your life with us. We're honored to have you as our viewer and listener, and we'd love to hear more of your stories. Sending lots of love your way! 🌈❤
@@Tragic.Kingdom First of all, I pursued him..... and we were not in a sexual relationship until I was 16.... just a loving one..... My Dad kept warning us to be careful cause he could have gone to prison... I knew all about gay sexual things when I was 12... had progressive Dad who didn't want me to be uniformed.....
Listening to all of you is always so enlighting! I am very grateful, and I know many of us are, for letting us listen to your personal, and even intimate, stories. I have never been in a support group because I don´t think I have ever needed it, but now that I found you, it always makes me feel better.
What a topic! I can relate to a couple of you... namely Matt and Reno. Sex in my youth was how I got validation, basically using people and tossing them away. I can think of a few guys I hurt in the process. They did not deserve that and I regret it now. And like Reno, when I visit my porn outlets, I'm in and out. I never thought much about it, but cumming seemed like something to get out of the way so I could get to more important things. It's as if I know it has to be done, but there def could be some shame in there. We talk, we learn, we grow!
Great episode!! Suggestion.. As a Black gay, queer cisgendered male; my Blackness the most salient how about a deep reflective episode on racism particular anti blackness with in the gay/ queer community
Thank you for your feedback and suggestion! We’re glad you enjoyed the episode. Addressing anti-Blackness within the gay/queer community is crucial, and we’ll definitely consider a deep, reflective episode on this important topic. 🌟🏳🌈
This topic deserves an even deeper look. As a gay man myself I'm always wondering what the "normal" or "healthy" way of having sex is. I do prefer emotionally connected sex, mechanical sex doesn't do it for me. The downside of seeking to emotionally connect with the sex partners is that you can always develop intense feelings and risk falling in love. This is a dilemma I think because as a gay man, having regular sex with other men is "normal" for me but it's always playing with fire. Also, I wonder if gay sex has other meanings, e.g. like introducing younger gay men to sex, like a guidance aspect. Would love to see these points discussed.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's incredibly brave to open up about these complex issues. Your points about emotional connection, the risks of falling in love, and the potential for mentorship within the gay community are all fascinating and deserve further exploration. It's clear that there's a lot more to unpack when it comes to gay sexuality and relationships.❤
I am the same way.... it is called Demi-sexual.... I have spent most of my life in long term relationships.... was with my husband for 25 years before he died in 2006.....
Credit for not considering gold-star a negative term. Bottom-shamong could probably be the subject of a profitable series of episodes. It's one of the last frontiers of anti-gay attitudes from thsoe who preen themselves on their ally status.
I had had this also, it's such an intimidating. "You're so intense, so present", when I think I was just being a normal emotionally connected human in sex. The first man's point made me cry. I relate so much. Also as it is a macro trend in the gay community (commodification of self as sex object, stripped of vulnerability).
Calan in the beginning is speaking my language! I thought I was the only one like this! I am extremely present and connected physically, emotionally, and spiritually during sex. The only difference between me and Calan is that men fall in love with me more often than they run away from me.
What was said toward the end regarding intimacy and connection filling an emotional void only to discover that sex wasn't what one needed in the moment really hit home. It seems to navigate a situation such as that is so reliant on effective communication. It is more likely that moving slowly with someone allows the time necessary to cultivate those discoveries.
Agreed! It's important to remember that there's no rush to be sexually active. Everyone's journey is different, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!💕💖
You must still be a virgin... that is part of what makes us human!!! as I stated before I was with my BF from age 12, but it was not a sexual one, until I was 16.... and my parents were well aware all the time....
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I want to sincerely thank you all for this!!! The vulnerability and realizations about yourselves along your journeys was very relatable for me.
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I am a 78 year old gay man.... I have been attracted to men since I was a toddler..... first boyfriend, I was 12 he was 26... I pursued him and we were together for 7 years before I moved to Colorado..... I have been in relationships most of my life.... husband of 25 years died 2006 and have been single since then.... been involved in gay organizations, a gay motorcycle club for 45 years and gay rodeo for 42 years.... have been told I should write a book, but too lazy.... grin have had so many adventures in my life.... rodeo my motorcycle in 44 of the lower 48 states back in the 70's.... still own them but not riding anymore.... love your podcast and will watch more of them as I move along in life..... love to you all.... Dick/Tgramps
Your incredible journey and rich experiences are truly inspiring! Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your life with us. We're honored to have you as our viewer and listener, and we'd love to hear more of your stories. Sending lots of love your way! 🌈❤
12 , 26 - that's child abuse
@@Tragic.Kingdom First of all, I pursued him..... and we were not in a sexual relationship until I was 16.... just a loving one..... My Dad kept warning us to be careful cause he could have gone to prison... I knew all about gay sexual things when I was 12... had progressive Dad who didn't want me to be uniformed.....
Listening to all of you is always so enlighting! I am very grateful, and I know many of us are, for letting us listen to your personal, and even intimate, stories. I have never been in a support group because I don´t think I have ever needed it, but now that I found you, it always makes me feel better.
What a topic! I can relate to a couple of you... namely Matt and Reno. Sex in my youth was how I got validation, basically using people and tossing them away. I can think of a few guys I hurt in the process. They did not deserve that and I regret it now. And like Reno, when I visit my porn outlets, I'm in and out. I never thought much about it, but cumming seemed like something to get out of the way so I could get to more important things. It's as if I know it has to be done, but there def could be some shame in there. We talk, we learn, we grow!
Great episode!! Suggestion.. As a Black gay, queer cisgendered male; my Blackness the most salient how about a deep reflective episode on racism particular anti blackness with in the gay/ queer community
Thank you for your feedback and suggestion! We’re glad you enjoyed the episode. Addressing anti-Blackness within the gay/queer community is crucial, and we’ll definitely consider a deep, reflective episode on this important topic. 🌟🏳🌈
This topic deserves an even deeper look. As a gay man myself I'm always wondering what the "normal" or "healthy" way of having sex is. I do prefer emotionally connected sex, mechanical sex doesn't do it for me. The downside of seeking to emotionally connect with the sex partners is that you can always develop intense feelings and risk falling in love. This is a dilemma I think because as a gay man, having regular sex with other men is "normal" for me but it's always playing with fire.
Also, I wonder if gay sex has other meanings, e.g. like introducing younger gay men to sex, like a guidance aspect. Would love to see these points discussed.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's incredibly brave to open up about these complex issues. Your points about emotional connection, the risks of falling in love, and the potential for mentorship within the gay community are all fascinating and deserve further exploration. It's clear that there's a lot more to unpack when it comes to gay sexuality and relationships.❤
I am the same way.... it is called Demi-sexual.... I have spent most of my life in long term relationships.... was with my husband for 25 years before he died in 2006.....
I had a guy leave as we were getting started. He said, "I could fall in love with you, and I cannot do this."
Credit for not considering gold-star a negative term.
Bottom-shamong could probably be the subject of a profitable series of episodes. It's one of the last frontiers of anti-gay attitudes from thsoe who preen themselves on their ally status.
Thank you for this and we'll definitely consider it for next episodes. Stay tuned :)
@24:29 ! Thank you so much for being Vulnerable and sharing your authentic selves ❣
I had had this also, it's such an intimidating. "You're so intense, so present", when I think I was just being a normal emotionally connected human in sex. The first man's point made me cry. I relate so much. Also as it is a macro trend in the gay community (commodification of self as sex object, stripped of vulnerability).
I appreciate all of your honesty and transparency. Your experiences are enlightening for me. Always learning!
Calan in the beginning is speaking my language! I thought I was the only one like this! I am extremely present and connected physically, emotionally, and spiritually during sex. The only difference between me and Calan is that men fall in love with me more often than they run away from me.
Love this podcast
Oh, wow! Thank you so much. This inspires us to create more.🥰
I wish there was more verbal communication, as opposed to physical communication.
What was said toward the end regarding intimacy and connection filling an emotional void only to discover that sex wasn't what one needed in the moment really hit home. It seems to navigate a situation such as that is so reliant on effective communication. It is more likely that moving slowly with someone allows the time necessary to cultivate those discoveries.
Thank you for the video.
For me, a lot of the gays define themselves first and foremost by sex and sexuality, not by personality.
Great vid and convo! ❤
Thank you 🙏
Hey Matt, how does one get into the tantra community? sounds appealing
Reno has some rather interesting thoughts about what constitutes sex, near the end of this discussion, IMHO.
I absolutely love deep kissing a man Calaln, so I get it.
@ 32.00 - u dont need to sexually active during teenage yrs. Good lord 🙏🏼
Agreed! It's important to remember that there's no rush to be sexually active. Everyone's journey is different, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!💕💖
@@GayMenGoingDeeper of course 🙏🏼
You must still be a virgin... that is part of what makes us human!!! as I stated before I was with my BF from age 12, but it was not a sexual one, until I was 16.... and my parents were well aware all the time....