My unbelieving husband cheated multiple times, left the home and refuses to reconcile. Im so thankful that the Lord says “if they leave let them do so, the Lord has called you to peace” and I will. I was fighting so hard for something that i should have let go. Thank you!
i am going through the same thing. i understand how you feel. especially as the belieivng spouse it is very hard to discern whether or not you should stand or just let go
I feel for each and everyone of you women of God.... but question and ask yourselves this do you believe that threw you God can save your husband and also save your marriage???
My unbelieving spouse is in sin, is violent in different ways and watches things he shouldn't . He wanted a divorce before but now we are just giving time while we are separated , thr world and his career changed him , he is a bitter hateful man and doesnt find any meaning in his personal life therefore he doesnt even check on me . He wanted to work things out and be better but now he went back into being negative, hateful and spending weeks without even a message. When we do meet again after he comes back to his city from working in a different hospital( he is a doctor) we are meant to decide things, but he said this time apart would be good for his to work on himself but all it happens its him getting more cold and hateful and ignorant towards me , he hates when i speak about becoming a better man or about God , he hates the world and just wants to be alone and work even it makes him miserable and stressed. I cry to God day and night in prayer, i bless my husband and ask God to open his eyes , but i if my husband really ends up asking for a divorce again i hope its final , because i dont want him to keep me dragging in this rollercoaster , where one time he says he wants to work things and be better and then changes his behavior completely. Im tired of living like this . EVEN I KNOW MY IDENTITY IS IN CHRIST , THIS IS NOT WHAT GOD WANTS FOR US, TO LIVE IN PAIN WITH A UNBELIEVER.
That’s insane, if a spouse is a child monster, drug addict, alcoholic. If someone beats the piss out of their spouse or kids you should divorce. I’m not going to make it .
There’s nothing God can not do. He is the God of the impossible. it is NEVER his will for a marriage to fail. No matter the circumstances. His word said that the marriage covenant represents His relationship with the church. He has never left the church no matter the circumstance and he always forgives us and takes us back.
Marriage covenants represents his relationship with the church." God wouldn't cheat on, abandon, or abuse the church either so... I'm not forgiving infidelity, abuse, or abandonment. I'm not spending the rest of my life unhappy because of a man. A man that God sent won't hurt you
@@katherinecurran8336 Praying that you would attain God's wisdom and understanding. We must be wise and be careful that you do not get a STD. If you are wise, you are wise for yourself; if you scoff, you alone will bear it alone.
Emotional neglect could actually be undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder. Check it out. I think my husband has that and ocd (or maybe ocpd) pretty bad.
Divorce and "leaving" are 2 separate things. You can leave, without divorcing - thus saith the Lord. 1Cor 7:10, 11. And unto the married I command, yet not I, BUT THE LORD, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and ***IF SHE DEPART***, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
I honestly don’t know what to do. My husband keeps cheating, he already has 4 kids. He come home late and thinks I shouldnt address the elephant in the room. He told me Saturday that he wish he never married me. And he body shames me about my weight everytime we get in an argument. This isn’t healthly. I’m not looking to start a relationship with a new man because I know God hates devorce. I just want to know that God wouldn’t be upset with me if I separated from my husband. And just focus on raising my kids
Hi just wanted to know what happened did you leave or stay?? My husband of 26 years has a mistress..we have 4 kids as well..I don't believe in divorce..but I also love my husband.. he insults me as well belittles me.. I think about all our good times but lately its been more sad then good. I pray day and night for my husband to be my husband instead of a single man.. God i really do love my husband I just hate what he does..
God is Good Always and we should not forget to listen to the Lord and our connection to the Lord, not always look to the words of man that was written for God. God does talk to us, it's just up to us to listen. Lord, please bless everyone here and who isn't present. I really did appreciate this conversation though. I am going through some really hard times right now and watching discussions that involve the Lord are helping to heal me.
Thank you for this response, Taylor. I too am going through a season, but I am beginning to see the joy in it. My situation has not necessarily changed, but my perspective has. God has made me stronger in his image than I ever would have been if not gone through (going through ) this trying season. I will add you to my prayer list Taylor and I hope you can remember me in your prayer time as well.
My mom left my dad, but she still says that she is with god, god leads her... My dad was the best husband possible, my mom „just stopped loving him“ and left us. She says god lead her that way. Now (2 years later) she wants back in my life, but not in my dads. She doesn‘t see the sin in what shes doing, eventhough I keep telling her. I dont know what to do
Well, what about a person posing as a believer, who has even been in the ministry, but who is actually an abuser? The verbal, emotional, mental, financial abuse of a narcissistically abusive husband did and continues to do MUCH MORE DAMAGE than his physical harms did to me. I would have preferred he HAD been unfaithful over what he did do. And his abuse while in ministry destroyed my children. I don't believe the only qualifiers to be infidelity, nor even only physical abuse. I got over that decades ago. The mental, emotional and financial abuse (forcing me to provide for him.... disgusting!), is my issue today and is why I'm working on getting away. The men in the church have done nothing but discourage me from leaving, yet they also refuse to hold him accountable. It is hypocrtical to pressure the abused spouse to stay, even if he isn't cheating. Unfaithfulness has other forms.
hank you for sharing your story. This is my current situation, My husband went to church with me and was the sweetest, kindest man during our courtship. Then we got married bought the house and i found out very quickly he was still connecting in some capacity with a woman from work, sexual photos and texts and hair on his clothes. Hes a cop and a very proud man so confronting him even in the kindest ways only led to the last 2 years of emotional mental and verbal abuse. Its now escalated to violence such as punching holes in our walls and running at me if i dare attempt to confront him or share my feeling. I found steroids in his gym bag and in his 13 yr old sons closet tucked away in his gun bag yet he refuses to say they're his...but im so confused about what God is telling me or not telling me bc i have no proof of actual infidelity and he hasn't actually hit me but im about to have a hysterectomy and i have developed. multiple hemorrhaging cysts and fibroids all since the time we got married due to stress and anxiety and the worst fear ive ever felt. I stay praying for his heart to soften and for the Lord to open his eyes bc by me living by setting a righteous example and showing him grace he may change. I pray so much for our marriage but i think he may be a narcissist and so im in therapy bc he makes me feel insane. listening to podcasts like this seem to only make me feel more awful for even thinking of divorce, even separation is hard bc he pressures me to give in and i have nowhere to go and renting is so expensive. Please pray for wisdom and guidance and any biblical advice using sound doctrine would be greatly appreciated. ❤
@@FRUITANDLIGHT I'm so sorry for what you have been going through with him. I will pray for you. I too can relate to much of what you have experienced and am also torn as to whether to divorce my husband or not. It's still abuse, even if they don't make physical contact with your face/other part of body. Instead of indications of affair with another, I caught my husband enjoying porn and so I have to wonder if pornography is a form of adultery thus grounds for Biblical divorce. I also had a total hysterectomy in 2019 after the doctor had already gotten the small stage 1 cancer out of my cervix in a surgical procedure a few months prior. That's a long story that I won't go into. With the total hyst, they found no more traces of cancer in me but the loss of my perfectly good ovaries, uterus, etc., lymph nodes and even part of my omentum have left me with little to no stamina and a loss of so much zest for life that I used to have. This has not helped when it comes to feeling like I can even be strong enough physically to live on my own again. I feel like that allows my husband to control me further and keep me with him. It's not good; I lost a lot of my former independence and confidence because of that total hyst. If you haven't had your hyst yet already, please please please consider going to every Christian healing ministry/service/conference that you can find first before going under the knife. Go online and research natural and non-invasive methods of removing/reducing/slowing the growth of what you're dealing with before going under the knife. From what I recall seeing in a obgyn video, there are now things that even doctors can do that can help shrink fibroids etc. The reason why many tend to offer surgery moreso than non-invasive methods is because surgery is a huge moneymaker from the insurance for them. Take it from me, you don't want a controlling abusive man to have more control over you when you find yourself weaker from loss of hormone/endocrine function and from loss of the center of your vitality. Our reproductive and hormone producing organs are crucial to our overall bodily system strength and energy and their loss can affect so many parts of our bodies from the brain to muscles to heart to skin etc. I found that out the hard way. Feel free to reply if you would like to talk more. Be safe🙏
Jesus said what GOD has joined together let not man separate. Meaning if God brought you into the marriage, it’s forever. God doesn’t bring you into all marriages though.
@sandypeters2257 True. In answer to prayers before I got married, God led me to Psalm 1 and instructed my heart to "Wait'. I was disobedient and married him anyway several months later. For 16 years I have paid dearly for that disobedience. But does that mean I now have to stay in the marriage if there is abuse of many kinds and him looking at soft porn (which I wonder if that's adultery)?
As I listen, have you ever considered what happens due to the facts that men have fists, and are ready to use them? Even against a woman 8 months pregnant with his son?
Sexual immorality is many things any sexual abuse or sexual behaviors like having sex with themselves watching porn and lusting over others is adultery any homosexual thinking or behavior any sexual related issues not limited god will make it clear sometimes god will help those to repent from this behavior but unfortunately too many people’s free will won’t allow this change and unfortunately not all relationships continue on I pray god will touch everyone whose struggling in these categories may our will align with Gods will and he show us how to get through every situation that is unfortunate amen
There is NO obvious implication in that specific scripture that the spouse who abandoned the marriage was “going to go off and marry someone else or commit adultery”: When you add on to scripture or interpret its meaning based solely on your opinion, in most cases you end up changing the true meaning of the scripture. There’s a bit of difference in someone abandoning a marriage and someone committing adultery
Please let this be a sign for someone…Don’t divorce your cheating lying drug abusing spouse just so that you can finally find the love that you deserve with someone else. We all deserve Death but Gods grace and mercy has not condemned us. Separate and devote your life to God.Please deny yourself and love on your children. Do not associate yourselves with those who do evil. “The spouse”Teach them according to your conduct how Jesus loves and what he hates. Pray that your spouse repents and gives their life to Jesus and accepts him as their lord and savior. Don’t fall victim to taking them back. You can pray at a distance. Trust God with your marriage and watch how God blesses you❤️ don’t teach them to jump from marriage to marriage teach your children by your conduct to wait on God and to separate from anything that does not give God glory❤️
So I been married to my wife going on 7 years and this year she cheated on me emotionally and has an emotional connection (soul tie) with another man. She is a believer but has backslid in the faith. She doesn’t want to reconcile and she is unrepentant. Do I leave? She deprives me sexually because she is sexually involved with someone else and porn.
My question is if you try to forgive somebody for the act of adultery and years later still see things in them that lead you to believe that behavior would be repeated is it still OK to decide years later that you need out of the marriage?
We married as unbelievers 16 years ago & have 2 children together. I became a Christian 2 + years ago and my husband left us abruptly and without warning 5 months ago. He doesn’t love me and says he will never come back. He is looking for someone else and is angry I’m a Christian and that 1 of our 2 children have given their life to Christ. I keep reading 1 Corinthians 7:15 telling me to let him go and how do I know I will save my husband. The problem is we are heartbroken and I would like my marriage restored but my husband has free will and seems happy to have left and is pushing me to get solicitors involved to legally separate and divorce. I want neither but all I can do is pray. I don’t want a life of hoping and holding on to a man that may never come back. I’m unsure what God wants. Does he want to restore my marriage or for me to get over my unbelieving husband and move on?
if you are following God you would treat each other as God commands if not your following man law when you under a commands you follow them are you are under man law
What about if you got married in Gods eyes but then found out that the husband was already married to someone else, does it makes the 2nd marriage null and void? According to the Bible, are there any scriptures that speak to this? Is it okay for the 2nd wife to leave the union due to fraud?
yes and that's illegal in some states. with that being said, that put you in mind of the scripture that shall not covet, now that you have the knowledge that he has a wife former wife..yesss
Your husband deceived you. How did you not know? Was he divorced from the first wife or still married to her? If he is still married then yes he's not your husband and you should be glad because he is a deceitful liar what else is he keeping from you? I hope you find peace in all of this.
So...God wants you to stay in a marriage that's abusive, but you can leave if someone cheats? This sounds crazy...so you can die holding on to a marriage, but the moment someone sleeps with someone, you're free!
Well, unless he physically abandoned you and your children for years never came back (how) you know wth he is doing (adultry) so divorce is very possible
My wife often pulls me further from God. It has been causing lots of issues for me in our marriage. That’s only scratching the surface. I don’t think she has cheated though. I want to leave her. I don’t want to go against Gods word though
@j.g.9038 I have the same experience with my husband. For 16 years there has been spiritual battle after spiritual battle after spiritual battle right in my own home and it's exhausting.
No He would not! God hates divorce and wants reconciliation, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Why! Because two are better than one and because remarriage IS adultery when one’s spouse is still living. You are bound for life. Luke 16:18 Mark 10:11-12 Romans 7:3 1 Cor. 6:9-10 The exception clause in Matt. 19:9 is regarding divorce only, NOT remarriage. The pharisees question was regarding divorce, not remarriage. Further, Jesus was answering their question in response to Moses’s law, not God’s law. Moses made the law because of hard hearts. God never approved that, and it was not so from the beginning. Mark and Luke specifically state remarriage is adultery. The apostle Paul confirms this in. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Remarriage is the opposite of what God wanted in the case of the Israelites and Hosea and Gomer. The church teaches that remarriage is justified after infidelity but that is not so. Remarriage is pursued in order to appease one’s own desires. Itching ears twist the scripture (Matt. 19:9) in order to serve self. Paul was not speaking for himself when he stated that one is bound until death 1 Cor. 7:39. Reconciliation is what God desires. That is what true forgiveness is.
God doesn't expect you to be abused. Separate yourself and do what you need to do to be safe. Focus on your relationship to God, pray for your spouse and let God deal with them
Adultery is not a biblical reason to terminate a marriage. Neither is abandonment. Too many leaders teaching, interpreting scripture wrong!! That is not what it says! The only biblical reason for terminating a marriage is DEATH!! That’s it!! Don’t enter into the covenant lightly.
I’m so sorry 😢 That’s so awful! I think the Holy Spirit has the answer for you. No human can answer that one. May you love!no matter what! in Jesus’ name.
It isnt adultery in the original Greek/Hebrew language though, its fornication (pornia). One (adultery) is within a marriage, and fornication is outside a marriage. So this part, which is a huge part, of your teaching is incorrect. Sorry!
There is no “ caveat” for leaving a marriage. There was a provision issued on two points which is adultery & being married to an unbeliever. You can leave for that as well if one doesn’t adhere to Gods will. Smh It’s not that you’re “allowed, it’s expected” . It sucks but who’s going to be the one to do best in his eyes and be blessed in his eyes?
My unbelieving husband cheated multiple times, left the home and refuses to reconcile. Im so thankful that the Lord says “if they leave let them do so, the Lord has called you to peace” and I will. I was fighting so hard for something that i should have let go. Thank you!
Did you leave him?
i am going through the same thing. i understand how you feel. especially as the belieivng spouse it is very hard to discern whether or not you should stand or just let go
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I'm in the same shoes..
Let's link up and compare notes if you don't mind
I feel for each and everyone of you women of God.... but question and ask yourselves this do you believe that threw you God can save your husband and also save your marriage???
My unbelieving spouse is in sin, is violent in different ways and watches things he shouldn't . He wanted a divorce before but now we are just giving time while we are separated , thr world and his career changed him , he is a bitter hateful man and doesnt find any meaning in his personal life therefore he doesnt even check on me . He wanted to work things out and be better but now he went back into being negative, hateful and spending weeks without even a message. When we do meet again after he comes back to his city from working in a different hospital( he is a doctor) we are meant to decide things, but he said this time apart would be good for his to work on himself but all it happens its him getting more cold and hateful and ignorant towards me , he hates when i speak about becoming a better man or about God , he hates the world and just wants to be alone and work even it makes him miserable and stressed. I cry to God day and night in prayer, i bless my husband and ask God to open his eyes , but i if my husband really ends up asking for a divorce again i hope its final , because i dont want him to keep me dragging in this rollercoaster , where one time he says he wants to work things and be better and then changes his behavior completely. Im tired of living like this . EVEN I KNOW MY IDENTITY IS IN CHRIST , THIS IS NOT WHAT GOD WANTS FOR US, TO LIVE IN PAIN WITH A UNBELIEVER.
If you and your children are being neglected, beaten, sexually abused or treated horribly - then you leave. Period.
Leave…but not divorce. Biblically speaking
Call the police. That is NOT grounds for divorce. That’s grounds for a prison sentence!
That’s insane, if a spouse is a child monster, drug addict, alcoholic. If someone beats the piss out of their spouse or kids you should divorce. I’m not going to make it .
There’s nothing God can not do. He is the God of the impossible. it is NEVER his will for a marriage to fail. No matter the circumstances. His word said that the marriage covenant represents His relationship with the church. He has never left the church no matter the circumstance and he always forgives us and takes us back.
Yes but not all people act as they should and can never live perfectly as God is. People fail and fall short of God's role
Where is that in the Bible I would love to read it
What if she cheat on you so much, what you would do?
Marriage covenants represents his relationship with the church." God wouldn't cheat on, abandon, or abuse the church either so... I'm not forgiving infidelity, abuse, or abandonment. I'm not spending the rest of my life unhappy because of a man. A man that God sent won't hurt you
As we are forgiven we too are called to forgive. Anything can be forgiven and restored.
What if the other spouse doesn't receive the forgiveness or grace and continues to pursue sexual sin? Please pray for my marriage
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@@katherinecurran8336 Praying that you would attain God's wisdom and understanding. We must be wise and be careful that you do not get a STD. If you are wise, you are wise for yourself; if you scoff, you alone will bear it alone.
And how many live with total emotional neglect. That's abuse in itself.
Emotional neglect could actually be undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder. Check it out. I think my husband has that and ocd (or maybe ocpd) pretty bad.
Divorce and "leaving" are 2 separate things. You can leave, without divorcing - thus saith the Lord. 1Cor 7:10, 11. And unto the married I command, yet not I, BUT THE LORD, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and ***IF SHE DEPART***, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
I honestly don’t know what to do. My husband keeps cheating, he already has 4 kids. He come home late and thinks I shouldnt address the elephant in the room. He told me Saturday that he wish he never married me. And he body shames me about my weight everytime we get in an argument. This isn’t healthly. I’m not looking to start a relationship with a new man because I know God hates devorce. I just want to know that God wouldn’t be upset with me if I separated from my husband. And just focus on raising my kids
Leave. Adultery is different. You gotta get out of there
You can separate and pray for him ask god to change him
Hi just wanted to know what happened did you leave or stay?? My husband of 26 years has a mistress..we have 4 kids as well..I don't believe in divorce..but I also love my husband.. he insults me as well belittles me.. I think about all our good times but lately its been more sad then good. I pray day and night for my husband to be my husband instead of a single man.. God i really do love my husband I just hate what he does..
If he cheats on you leave. God is okay with you leaving in this case.
God is Good Always and we should not forget to listen to the Lord and our connection to the Lord, not always look to the words of man that was written for God. God does talk to us, it's just up to us to listen. Lord, please bless everyone here and who isn't present. I really did appreciate this conversation though. I am going through some really hard times right now and watching discussions that involve the Lord are helping to heal me.
Thank you for this response, Taylor. I too am going through a season, but I am beginning to see the joy in it. My situation has not necessarily changed, but my perspective has. God has made me stronger in his image than I ever would have been if not gone through (going through ) this trying season. I will add you to my prayer list Taylor and I hope you can remember me in your prayer time as well.
Why do a lot of Christian marriages fail because they don’t pray and ask God should I marry this person.
I'm deep im despair..don't know how to go on. This marriage has crippled me. Ending it is also hard
Praying for you❤️ I feel the same
I also experienced despair and great sorrow. I wish I could hug you. I left when I became afraid. I had passed the walking on eggs phase.
how are you doing these days? hugs ❣️
Greed is the root of divorce, mankind don't know how to be satisfied with what they have.
My mom left my dad, but she still says that she is with god, god leads her... My dad was the best husband possible, my mom „just stopped loving him“ and left us. She says god lead her that way. Now (2 years later) she wants back in my life, but not in my dads. She doesn‘t see the sin in what shes doing, eventhough I keep telling her. I dont know what to do
Can you bring her talk to a minister or pastor with you? Maybe you could help her to see it with the help of a Godly third parson?
Well, what about a person posing as a believer, who has even been in the ministry, but who is actually an abuser? The verbal, emotional, mental, financial abuse of a narcissistically abusive husband did and continues to do MUCH MORE DAMAGE than his physical harms did to me. I would have preferred he HAD been unfaithful over what he did do. And his abuse while in ministry destroyed my children. I don't believe the only qualifiers to be infidelity, nor even only physical abuse. I got over that decades ago. The mental, emotional and financial abuse (forcing me to provide for him.... disgusting!), is my issue today and is why I'm working on getting away. The men in the church have done nothing but discourage me from leaving, yet they also refuse to hold him accountable. It is hypocrtical to pressure the abused spouse to stay, even if he isn't cheating. Unfaithfulness has other forms.
hank you for sharing your story. This is my current situation, My husband went to church with me and was the sweetest, kindest man during our courtship. Then we got married bought the house and i found out very quickly he was still connecting in some capacity with a woman from work, sexual photos and texts and hair on his clothes. Hes a cop and a very proud man so confronting him even in the kindest ways only led to the last 2 years of emotional mental and verbal abuse. Its now escalated to violence such as punching holes in our walls and running at me if i dare attempt to confront him or share my feeling. I found steroids in his gym bag and in his 13 yr old sons closet tucked away in his gun bag yet he refuses to say they're his...but im so confused about what God is telling me or not telling me bc i have no proof of actual infidelity and he hasn't actually hit me but im about to have a hysterectomy and i have developed. multiple hemorrhaging cysts and fibroids all since the time we got married due to stress and anxiety and the worst fear ive ever felt. I stay praying for his heart to soften and for the Lord to open his eyes bc by me living by setting a righteous example and showing him grace he may change. I pray so much for our marriage but i think he may be a narcissist and so im in therapy bc he makes me feel insane. listening to podcasts like this seem to only make me feel more awful for even thinking of divorce, even separation is hard bc he pressures me to give in and i have nowhere to go and renting is so expensive. Please pray for wisdom and guidance and any biblical advice using sound doctrine would be greatly appreciated. ❤
@@FRUITANDLIGHT I'm so sorry for what you have been going through with him. I will pray for you. I too can relate to much of what you have experienced and am also torn as to whether to divorce my husband or not. It's still abuse, even if they don't make physical contact with your face/other part of body. Instead of indications of affair with another, I caught my husband enjoying porn and so I have to wonder if pornography is a form of adultery thus grounds for Biblical divorce. I also had a total hysterectomy in 2019 after the doctor had already gotten the small stage 1 cancer out of my cervix in a surgical procedure a few months prior. That's a long story that I won't go into. With the total hyst, they found no more traces of cancer in me but the loss of my perfectly good ovaries, uterus, etc., lymph nodes and even part of my omentum have left me with little to no stamina and a loss of so much zest for life that I used to have. This has not helped when it comes to feeling like I can even be strong enough physically to live on my own again. I feel like that allows my husband to control me further and keep me with him. It's not good; I lost a lot of my former independence and confidence because of that total hyst. If you haven't had your hyst yet already, please please please consider going to every Christian healing ministry/service/conference that you can find first before going under the knife. Go online and research natural and non-invasive methods of removing/reducing/slowing the growth of what you're dealing with before going under the knife. From what I recall seeing in a obgyn video, there are now things that even doctors can do that can help shrink fibroids etc. The reason why many tend to offer surgery moreso than non-invasive methods is because surgery is a huge moneymaker from the insurance for them. Take it from me, you don't want a controlling abusive man to have more control over you when you find yourself weaker from loss of hormone/endocrine function and from loss of the center of your vitality. Our reproductive and hormone producing organs are crucial to our overall bodily system strength and energy and their loss can affect so many parts of our bodies from the brain to muscles to heart to skin etc. I found that out the hard way. Feel free to reply if you would like to talk more. Be safe🙏
Jesus said what GOD has joined together let not man separate. Meaning if God brought you into the marriage, it’s forever. God doesn’t bring you into all marriages though.
@sandypeters2257 True. In answer to prayers before I got married, God led me to Psalm 1 and instructed my heart to "Wait'. I was disobedient and married him anyway several months later. For 16 years I have paid dearly for that disobedience. But does that mean I now have to stay in the marriage if there is abuse of many kinds and him looking at soft porn (which I wonder if that's adultery)?
God hates divorce but He can allow it.
As I listen, have you ever considered what happens due to the facts that men have fists, and are ready to use them? Even against a woman 8 months pregnant with his son?
😢I'm so sorry
Yes if it was never GOD'S WILL for you to marry
Hallelujah! The only comment here that said it. 🙌🏾
Sexual immorality is many things any sexual abuse or sexual behaviors like having sex with themselves watching porn and lusting over others is adultery any homosexual thinking or behavior any sexual related issues not limited god will make it clear sometimes god will help those to repent from this behavior but unfortunately too many people’s free will won’t allow this change and unfortunately not all relationships continue on I pray god will touch everyone whose struggling in these categories may our will align with Gods will and he show us how to get through every situation that is unfortunate amen
There is NO obvious implication in that specific scripture that the spouse who abandoned the marriage was “going to go off and marry someone else or commit adultery”:
When you add on to scripture or interpret its meaning based solely on your opinion, in most cases you end up changing the true meaning of the scripture. There’s a bit of difference in someone abandoning a marriage and someone committing adultery
Please let this be a sign for someone…Don’t divorce your cheating lying drug abusing spouse just so that you can finally find the love that you deserve with someone else. We all deserve Death but Gods grace and mercy has not condemned us. Separate and devote your life to God.Please deny yourself and love on your children. Do not associate yourselves with those who do evil. “The spouse”Teach them according to your conduct how Jesus loves and what he hates. Pray that your spouse repents and gives their life to Jesus and accepts him as their lord and savior. Don’t fall victim to taking them back. You can pray at a distance. Trust God with your marriage and watch how God blesses you❤️ don’t teach them to jump from marriage to marriage teach your children by your conduct to wait on God and to separate from anything that does not give God glory❤️
Jesus told be to leave but there was a lot behind it. I test Jesus a lot to make sure a lot of prayer and fasting went into it. So yes it does happen
So I been married to my wife going on 7 years and this year she cheated on me emotionally and has an emotional connection (soul tie) with another man. She is a believer but has backslid in the faith. She doesn’t want to reconcile and she is unrepentant. Do I leave? She deprives me sexually because she is sexually involved with someone else and porn.
What about addiction and domestic violence?
Would love to know and why bible seems silent on it
My question is if you try to forgive somebody for the act of adultery and years later still see things in them that lead you to believe that behavior would be repeated is it still OK to decide years later that you need out of the marriage?
Im going trough that now.
@@hectorperez5851 me too
We married as unbelievers 16 years ago & have 2 children together. I became a Christian 2 + years ago and my husband left us abruptly and without warning 5 months ago. He doesn’t love me and says he will never come back. He is looking for someone else and is angry I’m a Christian and that 1 of our 2 children have given their life to Christ. I keep reading 1 Corinthians 7:15 telling me to let him go and how do I know I will save my husband.
The problem is we are heartbroken and I would like my marriage restored but my husband has free will and seems happy to have left and is pushing me to get solicitors involved to legally separate and divorce. I want neither but all I can do is pray. I don’t want a life of hoping and holding on to a man that may never come back. I’m unsure what God wants. Does he want to restore my marriage or for me to get over my unbelieving husband and move on?
Let him go, God will bring you joy.
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if you are following God you would treat each other as God commands if not your following man law when you under a commands you follow them are you are under man law
What about if you got married in Gods eyes but then found out that the husband was already married to someone else, does it makes the 2nd marriage null and void? According to the Bible, are there any scriptures that speak to this? Is it okay for the 2nd wife to leave the union due to fraud?
yes and that's illegal in some states.
with that being said, that put you in mind of the scripture that shall not covet, now that you have the knowledge that he has a wife former wife..yesss
Your husband deceived you. How did you not know? Was he divorced from the first wife or still married to her? If he is still married then yes he's not your husband and you should be glad because he is a deceitful liar what else is he keeping from you? I hope you find peace in all of this.
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So...God wants you to stay in a marriage that's abusive, but you can leave if someone cheats? This sounds crazy...so you can die holding on to a marriage, but the moment someone sleeps with someone, you're free!
I hope the authors of the video answer this. This is a very valid issue that needs addressing in the church.
Well, unless he physically abandoned you and your children for years never came back (how) you know wth he is doing (adultry) so divorce is very possible
Till death do you part. Counseling and separation till he gets better
@@Mr1bigsal y'all wouldn't say this if it were the woman who did these evil things
My wife often pulls me further from God. It has been causing lots of issues for me in our marriage. That’s only scratching the surface. I don’t think she has cheated though. I want to leave her. I don’t want to go against Gods word though
Pray for her all the more. Don’t leave. Draw closer to the Lord. If she leaves you are free.
do you yourself care about her ?
@j.g.9038 I have the same experience with my husband. For 16 years there has been spiritual battle after spiritual battle after spiritual battle right in my own home and it's exhausting.
No He would not! God hates divorce and wants reconciliation, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
Why! Because two are better than one and because remarriage IS adultery when one’s spouse is still living. You are bound for life.
Luke 16:18
Mark 10:11-12
Romans 7:3
1 Cor. 6:9-10
The exception clause in Matt. 19:9 is regarding divorce only, NOT remarriage. The pharisees question was regarding divorce, not remarriage.
Further, Jesus was answering their question in response to Moses’s law, not God’s law. Moses made the law because of hard hearts. God never approved that, and it was not so from the beginning.
Mark and Luke specifically state remarriage is adultery. The apostle Paul confirms this in. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
Remarriage is the opposite of what God wanted in the case of the Israelites and Hosea and Gomer.
The church teaches that remarriage is justified after infidelity but that is not so. Remarriage is pursued in order to appease one’s own desires. Itching ears twist the scripture (Matt. 19:9) in order to serve self.
Paul was not speaking for himself when he stated that one is bound until death 1 Cor. 7:39.
Reconciliation is what God desires. That is what true forgiveness is.
What if he doesn’t believe?
Yes He would
Hmm it depends what if your spouse is abusing you?
Yes what then?
God doesn't expect you to be abused. Separate yourself and do what you need to do to be safe. Focus on your relationship to God, pray for your spouse and let God deal with them
How many times you have to forgive a man adultery?
Make him get counseling and you to. Till death do you part
God calls us to forgive all. How many times 7 times 77. However he does permit divorce in the case of adultery. I would pray and seek God's will.
70X7
@@Mr1bigsal he permits divorce for adultery, abandonment, and abuse
Yeah you could separate but not remarried
I need councilling
Adultery is not a biblical reason to terminate a marriage. Neither is abandonment. Too many leaders teaching, interpreting scripture wrong!! That is not what it says! The only biblical reason for terminating a marriage is DEATH!! That’s it!! Don’t enter into the covenant lightly.
Well cheat on me or abuse me, I'm definitely getting a divorce whether it's biblical or not
Lol untrue so not promote that. Sexual immorality, adultery which is one of the commandments
What do i do if my husband has been deported
I’m so sorry 😢 That’s so awful! I think the Holy Spirit has the answer for you. No human can answer that one. May you love!no matter what! in Jesus’ name.
Maybe God rescued you from something.
what about if your spouse is abusive to you and you fear for your life
Separate and pray for god to change him
Or her
Separate and pray for them and let God deal with them. Keep yourself safe. God doesn't expect you to be abused. You are a child of God.
Ok so what if si happened before the marriage?
What if he just wants out and has nothing to do with you?
What about abuse?
Separate counseling till he is better.
Separate and pray for god to change him
King Solomon had 1000 wives 🤷🏻♂️
I WOULD NOT FOLLOW THESE GUYS
THEY KNOW NOT GODS CHARACTER
NEVER CAN YOU DIVORCE
ONLY IF THE PERSON LEAVES
Abuse is a reason. So is infidelity and being married to a nonbeliever.
It isnt adultery in the original Greek/Hebrew language though, its fornication (pornia). One (adultery) is within a marriage, and fornication is outside a marriage. So this part, which is a huge part, of your teaching is incorrect. Sorry!
@kristinem2564 So does that mean if my husband was watching soft porn, he has committed adultery?
That is not true, don’t be misled and read the Bible for yourself
There is no “ caveat” for leaving a marriage. There was a provision issued on two points which is adultery & being married to an unbeliever. You can leave for that as well if one doesn’t adhere to Gods will. Smh
It’s not that you’re “allowed, it’s expected” . It sucks but who’s going to be the one to do best in his eyes and be blessed in his eyes?
You can't leave search harder. Counseling. Till death do you part. Even adultery you can't leave search harder.
Actually adultery you can. As well as abuse. Someone cheats on me their out the door. Better to be single that diseased.