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- First-time sex, sex education for Muslims and advice on vaginismus - I talk with Amirah Zaky, sex educator and vaginismus coach in this episode of The Marriage Conversation.
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Thank you for having me as a your guest, sister Na’ima. I really enjoyed our conversation and I hope everyone who watches this video finds benefit in it ❤️
It was wonderful to have you on the show!
This was excellent. May Allah reward you for what you are doing
@Bobby Rahman again and again this Hadith is misinterpreted…. How can the wife respond straight away if she has a reason to not wanting to to do? Are you a robot ? 0 commom sense or sympathy… is your wife not a living human being to have a reason at times to not want to do it? Its very simple yet you make it so difficult. Fear Allah yourself for talking about women in such way. Learn the interpretation pf the Hadith, even if a couple did not do if for months its what fits them, you cannot speak for all men. Who are you to say she will receive a sin? A women came to talk about an issue such as the condition vaginismus, and she’s sining ? Watch what you type and share online and fear Allah on how you speak about women.
@@daijobuuuuuuu 💯agree with you. Marriage is about understanding and sex needs to be made with understanding as well.
Masha’Allah. I received a huge boost to my emaan when I realised that sharing intimacy was something that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’alaa wants us to do, wants us to enjoy as women and brings us great reward. One thing that I do think is very important is to make the dua for intimacy at the start and also the silent dua at the time of climax every time, so that we are reminded that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’alaa is with us and has given us the gift of sexual satisfaction. We should also always ensure that we praise and thank Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’alaa for this beautiful gift and pray that the unmarried can find spouses.
Good point there. Amiin
Jazakallahu kheir
Ameen❤️
InshaAllah....
As I’m preparing for my future marriage.. I come across this video and I am enthralled to listen to this discussion on intimacy as taught by our religion. It’s an act of ibadah that is least discussed about in the open. This is all new to me and totally opens up a perspective towards marriage and kind of lifting some of my worries as a woman. Thank you so much for this discussion. May Allah bless us in leading a life of good Muslim
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I’m so grateful to see that this important unspoken topic , that everyone at one point in life, goes through and wonder, that you ladies were able to point out and made aware, is an amazing start to positive change for both men and women.
MashaAllah this is so important to be talking about! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I would also highly recommend the intimacy series with The3muslims and Gabriel al Romani 😄
awesome awesome awesome!!! Love this for our sisters in Islam !! May Allah bless your efforts!!
Well done Amirah for sharing your experience. I would suggest that using lubricants early on may help avoid the trauma of painful first experience and consequently reduce vaginismus. May Allah reward you for helping to improve the experiences of many new weds to come.
I'm glad to have come across this talk Alhamdulillah. A lot of my questions have been answered here.
I glad there is someone in islamic women society to speak about these serious issues. Many marraiges are leading into a sexless marraige which leads to divorce due to lack of sex education. I know it better since 5 years. Its very depressing, lonely, shameful and makes one to cheat. I hope most of mens and womens will be educated with such kind of video. Jazaak Allak Wa Khair. I wish I could be able to reach to Amirah Zaky by which my wife can get consult.
There's no excuse por cheating 😢
Education is definitely needed. Sex is something to give to the husband, and the wife. It's sadaqah-theres no loss. Marriage is to protect each other from Zinna. It's not a tool to control the husband by giving less but by- The more you give, the more you get. So, you can have your cake and eat it too.
MashaAllah so beneficial. Jazakallah khair for the advice. I particularly enjoyed learning about the mindset shifts for wives to enjoy their sexual lives with their husbands.
Sis Naima the volume of your mic is very low.
Simple solution... as a man married for 10 years happily Alhamdulillah.
When you get married consider it like youre beginning your dating journey. You not goin to sleep with someone on ur first night specially when you anxious about it.
Talk kiss mess around. The usual, till u guys are comfy and ready, and it will then happen when it happens.
JAk for addressing this 💛💛💛
Great topic! Learned a lot. I would love to share this video with my future wife as well at the right time
Oh I'm really enjoying this session. Jazaakumullahu bikhair
This has been a very educative video for me. Jazakallahu kheir sisters
Thank you for this amazing conversation!! Could you upload a video about feminine and masculine energy, in islam?
Thanks for this informative talk. I found it very useful. No women talk on this topic in our region.
May Allah reword both of you jannah for such importana informations,, thank you very much
Thank you, much needed convo, shared. ❤
Jazakillah so much, may Allah reward all Ameen
So u covered the delicate topic on very wider and narrower aspects highly appreciative and informative video this will act as a guiding light for all those newbies both men / women
As salamu alai kum wa rahmatula wa barkatuhu. May Allah s.w.t pardon you purify you and grant you greater guidance and wealth and protections ameen
Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe. Quran 2:223
I’m in my 20s with a libido so high it’s so hard to control. I don’t know how to stop such overpowering urges.
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Very important video, especially given the rape culture that muslims are raised with. A female shouldn’t have to give a man sex if she doesn’t want it, because of the fear that Allah will be angry at them if they say no to their husbands.
Allah isn’t a monster and would never ever say that.
Also I think the couple should talk about sex before they are married so that they know what to expect from one another before getting married
What is the point of you marrying me if you do not want give me sex while you are not sick or in sad situation!
You can’t know what to expect if you never lived a married life. These are things you can only find out after.
In a sahih hadith if a woman refuses her husbands call in order to anger him (weaponising intimacy) then angels will curse her till the morning
I guess a man would respond to you, "Well I shouldn't have to feed and clothe her if I don't want to".🤷🏾♂️
@@leilaabdelmeguid3977 the chance of saying such a thing should not even arise tbh because had it been a man who can't provide he'd always be considered ineligible for marriage.
So that should necessarily mean a woman who is of a disloyal/disobedient/"free thinker" personality is ineligible from the get go, obedience being fundamental responsibility & whatever that might entail, therefore a man should never have to reach that point of saying that in the first place!
there's no such thing as 'rape culture'. sex is not negotiable in a marriage. if the woman refuses to put out she gets replaced with another who values a healthy sex life and wants to fuck her husband instead of wasting time on social media. talking about sex before marriage is pretty pointless and simply a way to manipulate the man
Still can’t understand why it has to be “night time”? Can be during day/night time🤔
It doesn’t have to be night time, it can be anytime
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Sexual desire should be satisfied through marriage, God states in the Quran. Both husband and wife get rewarded by God for performing sexual intercourse. If either of the spouses refuse sex for a valid reason, then it is acceptable and both may enjoy other forms pleasure such as oal sex except anul sex which is forbidden.
"Force not your slave-girls to whoredom (prostitution) if they desire chastity, that you may seek enjoyment of this life. But if anyone forces them, then after such compulsion, Allah is oft-forgiving." Quran 24:33
BarakAllahu Feeki
Easy talk, try applying your advice once you got babies.
Hi sister, thanks, does she have a book
No I don’t have a book published yet but I am currently writing my book which will be released at the end of 2022 or early 2023 inshaAllah
There is always an attempt to distort Muslim women in the media
Unfortunately, in Muslim countries, families do not give their children enough information about sex. They think this is shameful.
This was really informative. The only thing that I still can't get over with or more like feel "repelling" towards the idea is having to take ghusl so frequently. Mostly the hair washing part, not the rest of the body. I understand that ghusl is mandatory but as someone who has problems with my cervical spine and vertigo I often feel dizzy after washing my hair when I don't dry the part around my nape enough so I sometimes really worry what would happen if I ever get married, how am I going to handle it. Like, you do ghusl after you period and then have sex the same day you have bathe for a secon time within hours
If I understand correctly, if you braid your hair then you can simply pour a small amount of water over your head 3 times instead. Don't quote me on it though, you'll have to do your own research too.
Try changing up how you bathe. Try getting a stool, sitting in the bathroom and using a bucket.
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Very informative May Allah reward you but the example with your own husband wasn’t that much necessary It’s clear husbands and wives private moments should be kept between them even our prophet Mohammad pbuh talked about it.
It was just a reminder if I happened to hurt someone I’m sorry BarakAllahu feeki
This video made me lose my brain cells
I didn’t' like the wording. You could say it indirectly instead of directly mentioning the name of those private parts and how those were functioning. I came here after listening discussion on polygyny but became sad.
Knowledge is made obligatory upon Muslims.
Who says you gotta SCHEDULE SEX?? NO! It should not be a chore and this absolutely contradicts her previous point! Ridiculous sex advice! Most feminine WANT to feel TAKEN! By her man, if hes a strong masculine figure, he will LEAD the sexual experience! Guys, do not listen to this nonsense! This is all new age nonsense, which will ruin your sex lives and impact your marriage
3 times a month ??? TWICE A WEEK ?????? What GARBAGE! Which Masculine man would accept sex twice a week?? Absolute GARBAGE! These women are probably just aware of whimpy pathetic men
Also, like "acts of worship" - remember, you've gotta do those even if you don't feel like it - have this perspective as well. of course there should be consideration but don't whitewash this by saying "oh you both have to be in the mood and what not" NO! - sometimes you don't want Fast all day because its tough BUT its ramadan and you Must! Thats why Allah SWT put reward in sex too, so that theres the belief that "Ok even though I may not be in the mood, But imma do this for Allah's sake etc"
@@Shehryar486 the world trying to make men feminize and women turn masculine.
People have different ways to do but I hope you get the point of this whole thing. Do what you want but make sure you and your wife are on the same page and she is happy with what you’re happy with and you aren’t forcing her. Have your own agenda but just make sure you aren’t only think about yourself because you are not independent and have a partner.
@@Shehryar486 wrong you can’t force your wife to have sex. She shouldn’t force herself if she isn’t in the mood. You’re so ignorant smh. Do you not know that it’ll be a painful and uncomfortable experience for her? You can not compare it to forcing yourself to fast during Ramadan. It’s not the same thing. There are psychological impacts there as well.
She doesn’t realise her mindset was a big aspect to her problem fixing your character mindset would be a good thing to highlight as well. ( trust your creator) Fearing dunya bad idea fix your character mindset
It is better to put more trust in Allah It’s funny hearing her she don’t blame her mind set (character) with that mind set even pregnancies will be worsened more then it should be checking your character is good idea, and self education with family (ask) (please not your dad) self soothing career infectious negatively to others
She should refrain from addressing Fiqhi questions. thats not her domain
You should be ashamed talking about this with a hijab