Advice to Muslim women about sex, desire and unrealistic expectations with The Village Auntie
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- Sex educator, The Village Auntie, talks about sex and spirituality.
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"When you accept your flaws, no one can weaponise them against you." Can I get this printed on a T-shirt please?!?
That's the story of my life - I should get it tattooed on my neck.
@@SativaSeanLasVegas Tattoos are ugly, specially on women
@@ttt3258 Yup i never found it attractive on females, but its their choice anyway.
YOU CAN TAKE YOUR MASK OF NOW
I'm interested in converting. And I'm seeking out to learn more about Islam for if and when I take my Shahada. I don't know any Muslims where I live and there are no mosque either. It's so encouraging when I come across Muslims online that are spreading a good message. Thank you sisters for this video.
we welcome you open arm
Salam sister, you are welcome to connect with me and I can InshAllah guide you somewhat through this journey InshAllah
AsSalaam Alaikum. Yes yes yes. Also you can get with me please. What area do you live in?
@@TaniaTanii I would greatly appreciate that. How would I connect with you sister.
@@reservedharmoni9924 I welcome your help. I currently live in North Carolina. How can I connect with you?
I am Christian but I respect you guys a lot, I love your teachings and the way you are so modest, I am 21 just learning these things actually. I have learned a lot from this vidoe. ❤️ May your Allah bless you.
Only when one is under the headship of Christ, a man can love his wife as Christ loves the church and she in turn will reciprocate .
Your Allah...? Allah is a word for God or translates to God in English. It’s perfect because is has no plural and no masculine or famine nature.
All Abrahamic religions have this word.
Ask Allah for guidance and if Christianity is the true path then surely it will lead you to Islam.
@@greenlobster9171 Allah means “‘The God” . The God of the Bible is YHVH. The God of the Quran is Allah ( not sure what his name is) was worshipped by Mohammed father abd - Allah as slave of Allah long before moahmmed was made his prophet.
@@greenlobster9171 exactly, Allah was worshipped by moahmmed father and ancestors
@Welcome's House I do read my Bible, I was just appreating their religion and how modest they are.
As a woman who is Native American, African American & Puerto Rican… and yes, Muslim, this convo was much needed. Jazakallahu khair Auntie cuz I learned a lot and this gave me so much clarity!!! I’m not married, but I look forward to the day 🎉 Insha’Allah
Wow! Native American, African American, Puerto Rican and Muslim? That's all goodness in one. Your future husband is a lucky man ☺️
I am glad I found this talk. I am not Muslim - yet. I was raised to not trust it, but as an older woman now I look for myself and I am finding there is so much freedom in it in many ways. To speak of things such as this in this way as the Village Auntie does - would get you kicked out of the churches I was raised in. I am also divorcing - a man of 33 years who in the last 10 years has not been faithful and left me to be alone at home, interest in sex gone and more. I refuse to be treated so and out aside for other women. But I have…. Found a man, a Muslim man, who wishes to marry me even though we have only chatted online and via text and shared pictures. I cannot have kids anymore and am older. He does not wish children unless we take in any in need and is fine with my age. He does not pressure me to become Muslim either. This open conversation about intimacy with your partner makes me think, maybe this is where I should be. Thank you for sharing all of this. The next year will determine if I will marry him, we will meet face to face in maybe 8 months. But I feel such connection in my head, heart and yes sexually already even not know that’s of him. Thank you! I hope I can find my way enough to know if Islam is my place and to know if he is my destiny as well. I just want happiness and a simple, honest life - serving how I should.
May God bless you all.
I Know If You Determine To Became Muslim and Marry Him You Will Life A Happiness And Simple Life Insha allah And Hope To Take That Decision
I took my Shahada in Mersin about 6 weeks ago and I have come home and begun getting involved with my local Masjid. Love it and am very happy. My mother even noticed a change in me - appearing more peaceful and happy and less stressed. Now I complete this divorce and MashaAllah - I may have a house in Turkey I may go to see in next month or so - and then if I buy it - home is taken care of and the man I spoke of will join me n Turkey and he has already said he will take care of me = house or not! I am feeling very blessed! Allah is great!!
@@rebeccahenkins1697 el hamdu Lilah that you took your shahada!!!! Happy for you!
Just few words, as a new convert that you are dont forget that you did the best thing that you could do. But being muslim is something that everybody HAVE to be! If we wanna see the Face of our Creator, Allah... and of course being in paradise.... its a "package".
Im not here for make ot put troubles in your business never but... you have people saying with mouth im muslim but are far from it, you have muslims practicing but can lie for them interest etc etc.... so be aware of that and pay attention please!! Just a little advice from a muslim.
I truly love and deeply appreciate your videos!! This channel has been helping me so much! I found Islam 5 months ago. I have not fully commited yet, because of the preconceptions that I was told about Islam and the false claims about the way it regards male and female, husband and wife dynamics. My character and whole existence is being challenged by learning more about it. It is truly a battle within me, because I have to deconstruct myself, in order to overcome the negative effects of being raised as a "strong, independent woman, who should not try to please a man", because I was taught that it is a sign of weakness and negatively regarded servitude. I am just begining to understand what it truly means to be a woman! So these videos are making my journey to Islam, and to become a woman and a loving person so much easier! Thank you!!
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MashAllah TabarkAllah - May Allah make your path easy and grant you success in this world and the hereafter! Ameen
6 years in as a revert brother here and we are always working on ourselves, may Allah bless you always
May Allah make it easy for you
That was such a beautiful write up. Wow, couldn't have said it better. This is truly the plight of many of those that are waking up to the reality of the current human condition. As well as the plight of those who found Islam and Islam went to them, it truly is a difficult undertaking the peeling off of the negative and false preconceived ideas. Wish you the best sis, keep seeking that knowledge but don't overwhelm yourself. One step at a time, as cliche as it is, is the best approach.
This Auntie didn't disappoint! I learned so much and as someone who has been married to the same man for nearly 5 decades, I got some important info on what to do to get past the boredom.🤣😂🙃
give us the ☕️ aunty, I’ve been married for 2 years now
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Tea ☕️ lol ??
Salam mualikum, I’m a Muslim brother West Indian back ground but grew up in new York. I totally agree with everything auntie said. At the same time I had no idea of the state of mind of some Muslim women in regards to how they view sex and marriage. No wonder why the divorce rate is so high these days. We definitely need to fix the problem with in our selves first. And return back to the authentic Sunnah. Great show and very educational and Entertaining at the same time.
Hi I'm a Christian but I love ur teachers ,may God continue to blessed us all
Are you married my dear?
Aunty never disappoints. What would we do without you?!😭😫 May Allah bless you for the work and light you continue to put into our community. ❤️
Call her sister instead Aunty!
will never understand a Muslim mothers giving her 6y old to be raped by an old man .Muslim women keep this satanic stonekisser cult alive
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Thanks u so much AllAh also made it easier u bless u Zahra mustafa😍😍
As a man listening to this, the conversation was very insightful
I am not Muslim, but I enjoyed learning to this. I am tired of society and sometimes our communities (I am a black U.S. American woman) dictating what sexuality should look according to them. Over my years, I struggled with my sexuality and my sensuality. Now I am at a point that I have become numb and uninterested. Truly, I believe that they both can exude beautifully when one has confidence.
I’ve been waiting for this collab💃🏽💃🏽
Maasha Allah, jazakumullahu khayran
love the Village Auntie!! I thank you Na'ima for hosting this beautiful and very informative talk. May Allah bless both of you strong intelligent women for helping our Ummah! I am 25 yrs old unmarried now, I have a fear of how to discuss this issues in courtship but now I feel more confident when the time comes. Loves you all
DM me sister Nadia, I am single too, let’s talk about marriage inshallah
I am a Muslim man definitely learned a lot from this conversation Thankyou. May Allah bless all of the Muslimahs (Sex between married partners is considered a act of worship)
Lol it’s an act of nature that was designed to bring pleasure to partakes,you religious people need a spiritual awakening
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@@TheJuicyfruit200 we already awake queen
@YYY MMM there is a supreme ruler over all things here in this world you will see here soon enough. Thankyou for your presentation though I have read it and it brought me even closer to my faith May Allah protect us all
@@cheqreligion I'm checking out some of your song's
As someone who’s from Africa and half senegalese, she’s so right about Senegal about sexiness and sexuality for all men and women. So ingrained in us since age 5 years old I dear say, and very much encouraged. This was a great show, thank you!
I could listen to her years and years....she speaks soo beautifully...
don't know how I ended up here but I enjoyed it. Alhamdullilah!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 this was so good MashaAllah glad it's being spoken about!
Masha Allah. I really enjoy the conversation, we need more videos from sister Angelica. Thank you sister Naima for having her❤💖
Assalamu alaikum. Jazaki-Allah khairan sister Na’ima. Wallahi what you are doing to the umah is great. As a man, I find your videos most educative.
Salamulakum. I've never seen Muslimas talk so open and honest about that specific topic. All I can say is "Masha'Allah, I love it". Jazakallah, look forward to more content. Very informative 👍 👌
I love the vibes in this whole conversation. Jazakillahu khairan for sharing this beautiful incite.
Allaahumma baarik alayhunna. Maa shaa Allaah u are doing a lot for the young sisters out there. As practicing women we need to be open with our daughters (and our sons) so they don't have to seek knowledge elsewhere and inevitably fall into misinformation. Marriage is the only relationship that our beautiful religion permits us to express our sexuality, be open with our femininity etc, yet it's often shrouded in this cloak of disgust that many women take with them into marriage. This needs to stop. Shyness is part of faith, but it also has its place and limits. Alhamdulillaahi Raabil Aalameen.
Jazakunnallaahu khair
I’m not a Muslim but this was a very interesting conversation!
Love this conversation! Thank you!
Masha Allah what a good topic to talk about. May Almighty Allah make us benefit from everything we learnt. God bless our parents,spouses,siblings and relatives.
Masha Allah beautiful lecture and well digested... I like your guest she is very calm and she answered the questions beautifully 😍😍😍
Assalaamu Alaikum good conversation loved it I'm a revert and has been married for 4 years and mashallah me and my husband have amazing relations and self confidence and acceptance of your body is truly important and being open minded and understanding what you both like and jus exploring together gives this amazing connection
Needed this!! Jazzakallahu khair sisters
I cannot begin to tell you how much I enjoyed this video. Everything she said about Senegalese culture I can definitely confirm. Men & women are taught how to be "Djongue" from a young age. And I think it is so important for Muslims to have representation when it comes to sexuality. I thank God everyday that I have been born in such an open family. I got married this year and my mother is the one who guided me through my first few nights with my husband the things we openly discuss would be cringey to some but I wouldn't have it any other way.😄
Woman who is "djongue" = "Djongoma" isn't it? Don't ask me about how i know about that 😂
Our of curiosity are the women who don’t have the ‘curves’ seen as unsexy?
Fear, shame, guilt....sound right. Thank you for sharing!
This was great! I’m a new Muslim.
Thank you sisters for shedding light on this subject. As a man I find women with hijab much more sexy and authentic than the opposite form. Men of value look for modest women for marriage in a realistic world. May Allah swt preserve you.
women with hijab are sexy ? Bro May Allah guide you. Lower your gaze maybe
Ma sha Allah, great conversation! Definitely some food for thought!
Maa shaa Allah! Really enjoyed this conversation! The work you both are doing is greatly appreciated. BarakAllahu feekum.
@42:46SubhanAllah! What an amazing perspective. JazakAllahu khair for this entire conversation!!
i'm a man and covered women are way more attractive to my eyes. there i don't see woman only ,but i also see good morality.
I'm FAMILY LIFE COACH listening to this it's a great knowledgeable topic that many have to Embrace,Many HUSBAND'S are addicted to porn bcz THE WIFE'S will say it's Haram to be sexually active.Many SISTERS HAVE no idea what is Orgasm.And we have many DIVORCE cases on less ATTRACTION SPOUSES. MARRIAGE becomes a Duty of a must be for the sake of this and that,I'm very happy that you guys are BRAVE and honest enough to FEED us with WHAT is CURRENT issues. May ALLAH Reward you both as we are talking about HALAL sex in a MARRIAGE.
I found your comment interesting.. I think young adults need to learn alot before getting married.
that is because those women are not physically attracted to there husbands and there husbands don't know how to turn them on.
Exactly lots of Couples gets divorced because of sexless marriage
Jazaakumu Laah khairan..I always learn when I listen to Sis Naima and guests..they study the deen and incorporate them in their field.
Allahu Akbar
Allah bless you Sis for all your works
I pray I be like you 🙏
Nothing but facts!!! I needed this, Thank you❤
I love this conversation,Alhumdulillah! I’ve Been married 48 years and you are speaking so much truth. Jazakallah Karan.
That’s a longtime MashAllah, my marriage lasted 3 months, guess it’s not for everyone
@@richardredmond1480 don’t give up. There is always hope. In Sha Allah things works out for you in the long run.
Applause. What's your secret?
@@user-yy4bt1pi4d make Dua for me and the rest of our Ummah that have issues in their Marriages. May Allah make it easy for all of us. Ameen
I'm a revert back 26years ago, I love the Qur'an and our beloved Prophet ❤ he was so romantic with his wives and gave the most amount of respect to women.....different countries and cultures definitely have different views on marriage,love and sex......and most are sadly very oppressive 😔this closed view can ruin men and women's lives because of the lack of advice and discussion around these topics... .I find this soooo sad💔
Ustadhas Nai'ma and Angelica do valuable work. God bless them. Theirs is not a divisive rhetoric, but one of men and women working together for the common purpose of servitude to one's Creators and service to his creation.
One point ought to be borne in mind during these conversations: when we talk about "problems in the 'Muslim' community" regarding Anglosphere marriages, we tend to mean south Asian demographics - particularly the UK. This is inevitable by proportion alone, but I believe that these problems are a result of deep-set dysfunctionalities. Such dysfunctionalities include - primarily - the squalid ignorance regarding basic rights and responsibilities of the Shariah in letter and spirit, with the predominance of a village Islam and superstition in a cosmopolitan metropolis. This is compounded by customs of multi-generational cousin marriages, infantilised adult males with Madonna complexes, and unnecessary taboos regarding sex.
My friends who work as imams report that south Asian wives regularly complain to them of the sexual inadequacies of their husbands. None of this is inevitable. Education can transform for the better. But until mosques open up for these conversations, the status quo continues.
I have long argued that south Asians (as a general rule, across their varied demographics) ought not to be spokesmen for the Muslim population as a whole. South Asians do not see their non-Muslim neighbours as their "people", their qawm, to use the Quranic Arabic term of how the Prophets addressed their nations. South Asians, owing to the colonial experience too, have complexes that make them unreliable as healthy visionaries for our communities.
On the other hand, indigenous Britons ('black,' 'white' and anyone else who have healthy relationships with their non-Muslim family and friends) ought to lead the Muslim peoples of the UK. It is only the likes of Sheikh Habeeb Akande (a British Azhar graduate of a Nigerian descent), Imam Shadeed Muhammad of Delaware, our two speakers above, and others of non-south Asian backgrounds, who have done the work that was overdue in this vital part of our lives. There have been legalistic works by south Asian scholars, but they are unable to tap into the reserves of resentment and pathologies of sexually frustrated young folk. Most of these south Asian scholars have lived in all male environments, had an arranged marriage, and never had to demonstrate any "Game" in their lives.
To God alone do we raise our hopes for the reforms required. He has power over all matters. May he champion all those doing good and compound their works for the greater fulfilment for all. And God knows best!
Wonderful discussion 💞
Thank you my sister's ! May Allah bless you & may He be pleased with your efforts. Teach on !
This was great MashAllah. I love the open & honest conversation. It touched on a lot of important points we are currently facing in social related to sexuality.
Jazakallah khair for such a great video this was so beneficial and I always learn a lot from village auntie 🧡
JazakAllah khyran Sisters, I enjoyed this.❤🖤💜
Loved the conversation
Has the planning been shared, I'm curious to read how you can plan intimacy, especially with young children! BarakAllahu fikunna for the educational and eye-opening content
This was refreshing.
I love this talk, learnt a lot from this, and wrote down alot of notes Ma sha Allah. Would be needing this and more when I get married again. Bi IdniLlah
Love you lots sisters 💓 💗 💛 💕
Subscribed, liked and sharing this In shaa Allah
@King Sultan Aameen thumma aameen, JazakumLlah Khayran. Yes I am
MashaAllah this was worth the time.
Beautiful explanation ❤️
MashAllah 💕
Love her vibe...have her again...
I’m very happy I found this channel I would love to talk to my sis village auntie 😊👍👍👍
Beautiful talk MashaAllah I’m surprised because we have hadiths and knowledgeable Scholars who talk openly about sex of what’s prohibited and what’s halal during intercourse etc I’ve learned a lot from there. Personally my culture it was seen as ‘weird’ there was that sense of shyness to it but Alhamdulillah for auntys like you that gave me that sex talk plus research of cos halal through reading books as well.😅 thank you for this beautiful talk can’t wait for more
Great talk and advice!!! 🥰
So blessed -- to find the Village Auntie, and this particular conversation!
Alhamdullilah may Allah bless you both for this conversation
Really learnt alot, JazakaAllah Khair sisters..
I love your channel, I am black & that is what my mother taught.
Brilliant conversation Jazakallah khair sisters
This was so helpful MashaAllah
As salamu alai kum wa rahmatula wa barkatuhu. May Allah s.w.t continue to elevate you in spiritual growth and development ameen
Great discussion ma sha Allah Allahumma baarika alayk. I agree 100%
,,,Sharia law a woman has to bring 4 male witness of her rape :) In Dubai an english girl was raped and accused adultery. In Pakistan young christian gilrs are kidnapped raped and "married to a Muslim" converted to Islam. There is also a lack of recognition of marital rape by mainstream jurists. there is no penal code in Saudi Arabia, and there is no written law which specifically criminalizes rape or prescribes its punishment. In addition, there is no prohibition of marital rape.
Great talks ladies keep it up, thank you
Salam Alaikum Angelica whom I know personally is amazing in this clip: paused, confident professional and very knowledgeable with the subject. I am very proud of both of you masha Allah. May Allah(SWT) guide you and protect you.
Walaikum salaam, Alhaji Moktar! Ameen. Thank you so much for being so supportive. I truly appreciate you. My salaams to Hajia Zubaidat 🙏🏾
Love this!👏🏻❤️
Masha Allah nice speech!!
Sexness is self-confidence that radiates in your face and in the way you talk when you engage in any conversation.
Beautiful talk thanks
Maashallah both sisters, I am enlightened
Assalaamu alaikum sister. This was a interesting topic. I will pass it on.
This was so good mashallah
Great. I love this ❤️
Wow MashaAllah this is a wonderful channel thank u so much ladies... I am a new subscribed💝💝💞💞💞💞💞
As a man I like this conversation but I feel like woman should just be themselves if a man's into you he's gonna find your beautiful and sexy in what you wear
Awesome
Very informative very true
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I want to comment on the opening statement of sister Angelica and she hit a point i have been struggling with regarding the femininity teachings online. It was hard for me to accept the surface level performative stuff. I feel like femininity is an umbrella that has only a branch being addressed online.
I really appreciate Angelica for breaking the ice on this topic!!
Preach, Sis!!
Not many women realize how much sex appeal has to do with self confidence and that tranquil brilliance that is exuded when they are completely comfortable with themselves and they don't have to remind anyone that they are because without saying a word, it's very clear!
Only God knows how much I dont like famine talks because of how shallow and narrow minded they are in general .. but this one is different and unique.. I loved it
Hats off to both ladies and all women around the globe who respect their identity and are proud of themselves outside the influence of modern media
Love this video because your right the ideal of what is sexy is so damaging it’s unbelievable trueness means nothing anymore. To me femininity on the outside is long hair size 12, im5”11 (that’s when I feel most beautiful on the outside) then strong walk confidence in yourself that oozes through all you do every step you take and decision you make belief in yourself intelligent conversation and a strong true laugh I think a lot of our souls have been corrupted by the idea of what others think I don’t want something as simple as my skin colour representing I want true happiness in yourself to be reflected on all of the shit ads they shove down our throats. the chemical ridden food to be gone the “I want it now order online I must have this new thing to feel good” idea to be squashed and I want my people to find their religion again we deserve it
Love love love my sister so proud of you auntie 💕 big sis
Jazak'Allah khayr 💯🥰
I am NOT a Muslim, nor do I have any idea what you are saying. God bless you Madam.
Masha Allah keep on my sisters.
Alhamdulilah we are lucky to have you. sister Naima your sound is less i am struggling to hear you im sorry .
Self-esteem. Always
As a guy, watching this made me notice that I'm repelled by the idea of being attracted to a woman. Like if i see someone on the app that I findattractive, my mind whispers "astagfirullah". Finding women attractive feels wrong.
OMG! SIsters where have you been???! I have always wanted something like this. Mashallah. Barakhallahu feekh
Amazing👏
Deep Conversation
Till now never see so a honest and nice video of moslims
Jakah Allah Khair Auntie
Senegambia 🇬🇲🇸🇳♥️👍🏾she right
Yes if we are not a certain size we not consider attractive
I like your view.