Amirah Zaky Speaks About Vaginismus & Intimacy Issues in Muslim Marriages (EP.071)

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  • @amirahzaky
    @amirahzaky หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Thank you for having me on your podcast. I hope many people find benefit in listening to our discussion.

    • @Bulalebm8294
      @Bulalebm8294 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You are doing a good job, please keep going and Allah bless you.

    • @bkbk4726
      @bkbk4726 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Mohmmed/Islam recommends cutting/mutilating the pleasure spot (clitoris) of a woman and there by refusing the woman sexual pleasure physiologically as well creating a lifelong mental scar by making them develop a low self-esteem about their own vegina.
      And you expect such a person/religion to provide answers to women's sexual problems.
      COMMON GROW-UP.

  • @sabrinacoolest
    @sabrinacoolest หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Shes a decent sister . Please support her . She's talking about real life issues

  • @unknownboo8738
    @unknownboo8738 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    why are so many people pressed by this ?
    so many women go through these challenges let’s speak about them and educate others, she has clean intentions and it’s to spread awareness.
    Only people who go through this will understand truly, let’s show compassion and mercy instead of make it a whole taboo.
    May Allah reward her and bless her.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you ❤

    • @Ancientofdayz1
      @Ancientofdayz1 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's the extremist Muslim men who are angry about it because they consider women as objects in Islam as people don't matter

  • @mariaawad1956
    @mariaawad1956 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Asslam alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa barakatuhu. I have to say special thanks to sister Amira for educating on us on intimacy. The Muslim ummah have reached to heightened levels of divorce, that these issues needs to be formal addressed to avoid misunderstandings in relationships and divorce. It’s far better to be well informed rather than getting ideas from haram sources that are contradictory to the Deen. It may be that people do not want to discuss these topics, but it’s that fact that we are not talking and not educating is why problems are happening in a marriage. Consequently breaking families and ending in divorce. We must prevent this, by educating.

  • @iNikkah
    @iNikkah หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Well done KSR for this discussion, I commend you for talking about something that’s so taboo in our communities, the sister was so right when she said our objectives should be to create happy healthy marriages, I wish more people would be open minded about taking coaching sessions not just when they’re in dire need of

  • @AyJay49
    @AyJay49 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So lovely hearing Amirah link everything back to the religion. I didn't like how certain words were shyed away from but I've read on another comment Amirah explain why. Even then i would take it as an opportunity to educate your children. Educate your children before the world does. First time watching this guys podcast, not the best interviewer, didn't seem prepared even though he had the questions infront of him. Alas Amirah you were very polite and your words were eloquent. The comments section really does remind us of how much work needs to be done.
    For people saying you shouldn't be speaking about this, please use some logic, self reflect, and go speak to the Muslims in your community and also the children and think if theyre being educated in these issues aligned with faith or not.
    Superb work Amirah

  • @HudaAli-tw4ve
    @HudaAli-tw4ve หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Amezing kazi all the women you brought up to the podcast are outstanding another beneficial episode as a woman used to heard that first time doing it it’s painful or you bleed but no one talks about how they come out that or solve it absolutely all Muslims country are the same very good episode jazaka alaah khayr bro kazi and the sister

    • @sidebysidepod
      @sidebysidepod  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you my sister. 💪

  • @IbnSaifi
    @IbnSaifi หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Great and important episode. Well done.

  • @aminataummassya5404
    @aminataummassya5404 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Very beautiful conversation!!! Thank you!

  • @thaniau9621
    @thaniau9621 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such an important topic! Thank you for creating a space to have this discussion. Thank you to the sister for sharing your knowledge!

  • @scarlettkhan9667
    @scarlettkhan9667 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a great idea to have a Muslim female intimacy specialist.
    Asian mothers wouldn’t dare give their daughters advice on their first night of marriage.
    I think a lot of older sisters are so busy with wedding preparations that they don’t sit down with their bride sister to tell her how to prepare for her first night, men don’t read this -->for example buying lubricants etc or even a pep talk to say take it easy, you don’t have to go all the way on the first night etc.
    If social media can help Muslim brides and even young grooms to be then it’s a good thing.

  • @momotajchowdhury1245
    @momotajchowdhury1245 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank You 🙏 brother kazi for your podcast and Thanks to the sister Amira zaky for discussing and sharing and bringing this important subject on intermacy within a marriage.

  • @rabiasultana8775
    @rabiasultana8775 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Notice it’s mostly the men who comment negatively?! It’s educational for goodness sake!

    • @k.h4807
      @k.h4807 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Exactly! And imagine if you and your spouse going through this and end up getting divorced over this! Education and insight can help many married couples stay married!

    • @abaIdrisiyas
      @abaIdrisiyas หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@k.h4807 what are Doctors for then.
      I'm sorry you lose all deceny talking about how wet you get during sex to another man.
      And to back up this business and get clients the sister uses Islam to promote her work.
      Has she consulted a scholar that she intends to speak explicitly about her own sex life? I doubt it.

    • @k.h4807
      @k.h4807 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @abaIdrisiyas can't get GP appointments these days and many of them are non muslim and won't be as understanding. I work in the NHS and most non Muslim docs will be like go on the pill and just use lubricants and try with different partners. Non Muslim health care profrssionals will promote usually unislamic ideas and solutions. We need more Muslims in health, esp female health.

    • @aishaali9691
      @aishaali9691 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They actually have issues that they need to fix. Bottom tier.

    • @journeybeyondthesea
      @journeybeyondthesea หลายเดือนก่อน

      Because the shoe fits for them

  • @morehman6071
    @morehman6071 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A good topic of discussion for another podcast would be, 'what is compatibility in marriage'. The incompatibility between some marriages is understandable e.g. A lot of Brit-Paks and Brit-Bangalis were put into arranged to back home cousin marriages during 1990s and 2000s. However, for those lucky chaps who chose their own marriage partners and did several interviews/ dinner dates/ coffee dates, then why the incompatibility? Especially, if the 2 people are school friends/College friends/Uni friends!!!!
    This is a general question, not an attack on the sister.

  • @new_moon1728
    @new_moon1728 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm sorry, but I feel the interviewer could have asked better questions. Also, his accent made it sound like his nose was blocked, which was a bit distracting. He accidentally used inappropriate words like 'crap' and 'shit,' which felt out of place for an Islamic podcast. Perhaps more preparation and careful language choices would help in the future.

    • @sidebysidepod
      @sidebysidepod  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You are absolutely right about everything else, except for the choice of questions. We ask questions that we believe will benefit our audience. Alhamdulillah, we are fortunate to have a very mature and sophisticated audience, both men and women. Regarding my use of words and slang, I’m happy to keep using them until I find better alternatives. We host a diverse range of guests, and as such, I wouldn’t say we’re solely an Islamic podcast. I like to think of ourselves as a bridge between knowledge and the evolving society.

    • @new_moon1728
      @new_moon1728 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I understand your point, but since all your guests are Muslim and your audience likely expects content that aligns with Islamic values, using such language can come across as disrespectful. Whether or not you consider your podcast strictly religious, it still represents Muslims. Using polite and appropriate language would show professionalism, demonstrate respect for your guests, and enhance your reputation with the audience. It’s in your own best interest to maintain a higher standard of speech, as it will attract more respect and credibility for both you and your podcast in the long run. Anyway, that’s all I’ll say on this.

  • @gof4st3r
    @gof4st3r หลายเดือนก่อน

    Respect sister, in my eyes ur a role model for that

  • @gigimonrose3992
    @gigimonrose3992 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Amirah! Thankyou for this video. I understand wanting to keep it professional and feeling reluctant to use certain terminology but I think it would’ve been useful for you to openly say the words you wanted to. I.e: Sex, penetration, porn, etc.
    We need to open up these taboos.
    Also thankyou for opening up about your divorce. I was wondering what happened there and I assume it wasn’t easy. Wanted to congratulate you on your bravery. Best of luck with everything. ❤

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hiya! The reason I used certain words was because it was discussed with the host prior to recording that I would be mindful of the words I used… the host mentioned that his kids might watch the show… so I was more restrained/mindful when speaking during this interview than usual as I wanted to be respectful to the host’s wishes. Thank you for your kind comment ❤

  • @Radz.486
    @Radz.486 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’m sorry but is she allowed to discuss this stuff with a man that has no connection to her?

    • @ayanahmad1343
      @ayanahmad1343 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, I am also thinking the same.
      We as muslims are not allowed to talk about sexual stuffs with our mahrams and she is talking about this topic with a non-mahram.

  • @samia6888
    @samia6888 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Is this okay to do? Talk about intimacy in front of a man who isn’t your husband?

    • @ayanahmad1343
      @ayanahmad1343 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, I am also thinking the same.
      We as muslims are not allowed to talk about sexual stuffs with our mahrams and she is talking about this topic with a non-mahram.

  • @drllsense9939
    @drllsense9939 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I believe she has good intentions and that she's trying to do some good educational stuff but the way that she's going about it especially on her channel with models of the human anatomy and stuff like that I'm almost 100% sure that it's not allowed within the deen of islam and there are definitely more respectful discreet ways in which to do it

    • @aishaali9691
      @aishaali9691 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Women need to see models like that to understand their anatomy. If someone finds that provocative then that's their problem and they need to do some heart work.

  • @ansarrazak22
    @ansarrazak22 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Unfortunately there’s a tinge of feminism/liberalism from the sister… I feel the push back of woman up on the back of the man up comment; on point… thus the response was flustered unfortunately

  • @Teenam338
    @Teenam338 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wrong thumbnail... but only Islam have clear rules of marriage and intimacy. Islam encourages husband and wife to take care of each other desires and even make up yourself for your spouse also all this is Count as Ebadah.... what's difficult...it will be difficult if u don't learn islamic values and mix it with different countries cultures which r very bad and against islamic values and disrespectful for both spouses... so plzzz learn it islamically it very clear, simple rules and create love in any marriage

  • @priusa8113
    @priusa8113 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sister should speak behind a veil or on a podcast mode without her face being shown due to the sensitivity of this issue

  • @Shahan-AbuMusa
    @Shahan-AbuMusa หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Muslims should have more shame and sense. These matters don't need to be discussed in this way and can encourage further lewdness amongst our youth and community overall. Study the Fiqh of marriage with a good teacher and you'll cover this and more. Or simply ask a knowledgeable Imam directly if you have a specific question. It's as simple as that. Sexual health issues people should take up with their GPs who can diagnose and treat those InshaAllah. There's no Islamic need for brothers and sisters to sit down and do social media podcasts about this.

    • @ahsanroman3020
      @ahsanroman3020 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don't worry brother. Soon, we will see more people without haya, and they will work harder to solve all of the problems in the Muslim word. But these people don't know they are the definition of problem. This is what happens when people don't have haya, and try to be smart. This is why today Muslim Virgin men are criticized as they are worst war criminals in the planet for wanting a virgin wife.

  • @sma1566
    @sma1566 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Wats wrong with u with this thumbnail so provocative and disrespectful

    • @Blaze0071
      @Blaze0071 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      The thumbnail is just her face

    • @naviifra2374
      @naviifra2374 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      whats wrong with it?

    • @gof4st3r
      @gof4st3r หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How old are u

  • @sticksstones7718
    @sticksstones7718 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thsnk you

  • @LifewithYousufHussain
    @LifewithYousufHussain หลายเดือนก่อน

    Brother, poor choice of words in the thumbnail . Will draw away the very people who would benefit from this.

  • @omaimafaris1074
    @omaimafaris1074 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great job how can we invite you to Canada to talk to our community:)

  • @mrblubed
    @mrblubed หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This thumbnail is terrible

    • @sali96
      @sali96 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      What was the thunbnail? It just shows her face unless he changed it?

  • @zaarahmed9354
    @zaarahmed9354 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Haya sholom nai ..
    Don't be deluded you're doing good work

    • @aishaali9691
      @aishaali9691 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I do wonder how you'd treat this if you ever afflicted with it (God forbid). Take your small mind elsewhere.

  • @ayanahmad1343
    @ayanahmad1343 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    47:32 Shaitan is messing up with your mind. This is an authentic hadith and we should obey it without asking any questions. Allah SWT has mentioned several times in the holy Quran that Obey Allah and the Prophet (P.B.U.H). We should accept whatever is said in the Quran and Hadith without asking questions. Then why are you asking that why did Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said this in the hadith. Whatever he said, we simply have to obey without asking any questions.

  • @brummyguy3716
    @brummyguy3716 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    After 16 years, she realised they weren’t compatible! 🤔

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      For 16 years, the husband and wife (me) tried their best to make it work. We didn’t just choose to divorce straight away in the first year… we exhausted all our options first, just like Islam teaches us. And I clearly mentioned in this podcast that I wouldn’t be sharing the fine details about why I got divorced, hence why I simply stated it was because we were not compatible. If you think you have a “right” to try to insult my honour, I have every right to stand up for myself.

    • @sidebysidepod
      @sidebysidepod  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Brother it can happen to anyone at anytime. Let’s not talk about such matters. Marriage is in the hands of Allah.

    • @morehman6071
      @morehman6071 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@amirahzakyA good topic of discussion for another podcast would be, 'what is compatibility in marriage'. The incompatibility between some marriages is understandable e.g. A lot of Brit-Paks and Brit-Bangalis were put into arranged to back home cousin marriages during 1990s and 2000s. However, for those lucky chaps who chose their own marriage partners and did several interviews/ dinner dates/ coffee dates, then why the incompatibility? Especially, if the 2 people are school friends/College friends/Uni friends!!!!
      This is a general question, not an attack on the sister.

    • @ekjonaki
      @ekjonaki หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@morehman6071 sometimes people have different levels of religiousness, and one causes the other to slip...and nothing is worth your deen. Sometimes people experience various types of abuse, sometimes the intimacy issue just does not work, sometimes they keep triggering each other's childhood wounds and they just drive each other crazier and crazier. a lot can happen within marriage.

    • @morehman6071
      @morehman6071 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ekjonaki to be able to get married to your childhood sweetheart from school/College days is a dream come true for most people from indo-pak background

  • @daisybee5943
    @daisybee5943 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Shame, you don't need to chat about everything openly. We go to the doctors if we have problems, not chat show.

  • @mohammedrahman660
    @mohammedrahman660 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Intimacy should not be discussed before marriage why. We live in an over sexualised world where sexual access and expectations have sky rocketed. If we start discussing sex, naturally, we will be curious and end up watching porn and potentially committing Zina. Also, especially women, they will end up dissatisfied and move on to other men. Boundaries will be broken, and fantasies will be revealed that will cause major problems.
    Furthermore, about sex drive. The sister mentioned that during ovulation, women desire Intimatacy more. That is equivalent for a man on a Tuesday. Everything these days is made about sex. Yes it is important but putting so much on it leads to issues.

    • @ayanahmad1343
      @ayanahmad1343 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, I totally agree with you.
      But some feminists will try to counter your view.
      To these feminists I ask, "How will you feel when a potential suitor will discuss these intimate topics with your sister or daughter?'

  • @sb-dr2pp
    @sb-dr2pp หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great points. The guy however has no skills 😂

  • @ayanahmad1343
    @ayanahmad1343 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why are you asking personal questions like divorce?! This is revealing your true character. Have some shame, respect her privacy.

  • @abaIdrisiyas
    @abaIdrisiyas หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Can i have -1-2-1 appointment i want to talk about erectile dysfunction.

    • @hussainsharmin661
      @hussainsharmin661 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Go speak to your doctor the doctor will help you out

    • @Creator250
      @Creator250 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Eat garlic and honey , also dates and bananas . And sleep well night .

    • @k.h4807
      @k.h4807 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Go speak to your GP

    • @TheTemporary1ne
      @TheTemporary1ne หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Lool he's taking the mick

    • @abaIdrisiyas
      @abaIdrisiyas หลายเดือนก่อน

      @TheTemporary1ne you had to spell it out lol

  • @Adam-kh9rb
    @Adam-kh9rb หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    what the hell have shame

    • @hamda3382
      @hamda3382 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      It’s educational. I’m sure many people who are struggling will find comfort and knowledge in this video.