I agree too, your work is so valuable. From the few paid therapists and the NHS therapy I've accessed over the last 6 years, no one has given the understanding of what is going on inside me like you do. I've always found talking about emotions and experiences so difficult, that I didn't think it was ever going to work, I felt I was reliving the experience, retraumatised each time. What you give is really powerful to help realise the blocks and clogs in the system. This nutshell is finally feeling ready to open! I've not gone through your videos from the beginning but based on those I've watched I feel encouraged to begin the journey. 💕 Truly grateful
I work for the 988 hotline and recommend this channel almost everyday. The people I talk to can’t afford therapy and have little experience with emotional intellect. I think you might be saving lives by sharing this knowledge! I just have to say this. The definition of practicing is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. I think the person who said that has never tried hard to be good at something.
LOVE that you dispelled the myth that "time heals all wounds." Time heals *some* wounds, but different strategies are necessary for different stuff. You don't put a band-aid on a bullet hole, nor do you perform invasive surgery on a paper cut. 👍🏼👍🏼
And some wounds don't heal, you just learn to live with it, to accept that the pain is there, like a the loss of a loved one. The only thing time helps with, is being able to talk about them or think about them without breaking down entirely.
Amen. Until Jesus returns, wounds will still be present. Not all are gone and fixed. That doesn't they can't be overcome and left in the past as much as possible, through the help of understanding ourselves and through the help of Christ. I know he's helped me.
Very well said. I'm having a hard time processing my emotions lately and am working to be in the right mental space. It is nice to know there are others out this that feel this way too.
1)Name it to tame it 2)write and explore your emotions 3)Avoiding your emotions can hurt you (gotta figure out what to do with them) 4)Nervous system hyperarousal (6 steps to process).Train your body to be calmer so that you can process your emotions 5)core beliefs (subconscious labeling) 6) blame mode or victim mode(forgiveness, boundaries) 7) worry part of the brain vs solving part of the brain 8)brain differences - get third party involved(therapist, family member, friend)
Your highly informative and FREE therapy sessions have made a tremendous impact on my life. I can’t believe at the age of 53 I am just learning how to face my PTSD and other anxiety fueled emotions. I have been in therapy sessions many times throughout early childhood and adulthood due to my tragic life experiences. But I have never, ever been shared this type of information that has truly really help me get through my day-to-day life. Please, I beg you do not ever stop making these videos! PLEASE. Thank you from my heart.
I’ve been sabotaging myself for about two years now, turned down every job or project offers. Refuse to hang out with friends and I just sleep all day.. Im not excited about anything and i feel super numb.. So thank you so much for this. I will try my best to come out from this depression and be my true self again.
Keep doing the videos! I started at the beginning of this playlist and bought a journal to take notes and practice the techniques and a few months later I am a new person. Keep persevering.
@@ananyachatterjee2323 Therapy in a nutshell playlist is really good. Make sure you take notes of important things you learn so you can look back on it
Thank the Lord we can understand ourselves to a point where we can improve every day. And prayer has never gone out of use, even if you're asking God to help you understand the way your brain works.
When I see Emma McAdam, I feel the same way as when I see a golden retriever; I know I am going to feel better very very soon! If you know how much I love dogs, you will know this is the greatest compliment I can give. Emma is a real treasure of TH-cam!
This CD is very calming th-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq the first meditation focuses on breathing, the second guides you through the Buddhist metta bhavana--loving kindness to all, and the third is a meditation to be used when walking. him is originally from Scotland, so there is a little accent to his voice, but it is very soothing and not at all distracting. If you are a beginner to meditation, this CD will walk you through all the steps of relaxing and breathing as well as sending out the positive thoughts of love and kindness that will be returned to you. We have several CD's, but this one is a favorite that we choose most often.
I could cry with gratitude, Ive been in trauma therapy for over a year but have needed a concrete explanation like this for so long. You have saved me, thank you
Avoidance = anxiety is the opposite of my experience. For example, I developed a phone phobia after working in a debt recovery call centre as a teenager. Trying to push through calls made it worse. I implemented a policy of "I don't do phones" and insisted on text-only communication for a few years. After a few years, it was like I'd forgotten what it was about calls that scared me and was able to start doing them again. Same with public speaking: that phobia got worse and worse while at uni, but a few years later I volunteered to speak publicly because I couldn't remember what was scary about it.
@@diamondsdeluge7452 Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@sharonlee4917 I have been doing the breath observing meditataion since the last 15 years and enjoying life but a strong desire for change is needed without any expectations. Only then meditation works. It is so simple. Why stop? You will gain something and lose nothing. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Thank you so much for including number 7. My neuro-differences have been so hidden for so long and no therapist has ever understood how to help properly. Your explanation of this has opened doors inside me that were bolted shut for a very long time. I kept getting told "there's nothing wrong with you" and yet the solutions I was given could only take me so far, and now I understand why. I can't express enough my gratitude for breaking this down. 🙏🙏🙏
I’ve been to about 5 different therapists at this point and the last 2 didn’t actually see/hear me and said I “seemed great, I don’t know if you really need therapy any more” while I’m still struggling every day to process and overcome my CPTSD, on top of other things. Your videos have helped me break through some issues I’ve been struggling with for YEARS in a matter of minutes…thank you x1000 this channel is a lifesaver
I have GERD-induced anxiety (and vice versa), and I just discovered your channel from episode 12, and in just a couple hours after two severe attacks over the weekend I’m able to stand with my arms at my sides instead of constantly clutching my chest due to pain. It’s the most relaxed I’ve felt in days and I could honestly cry. I plan to rewatch these videos and seek out a psychologist, because I just need to thank you for how much this has helped. It’s been a very rough time, and I’m just so happy to feel the slightest bit better.
Emma, may God bless you. May you be crowned in heaven for this good deed and I pray that God meets you at your point of need. May His love continuously be made manifest in your life. You've been such a blessing to those of us who can't afford therapy. And I'm thankful for you, your material has helped me process emotions and memories that have been tormenting for a while. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you. Blessings. x
I truly trust your speaking style. Your enthusiasm is not faked.you genuinely believe in and carry the messages forth, in an honest way. I really like and trust you as my therapist. May FatherGod love, keep, bless, and help you heal others and self. And me ! Lol
This makes so much sense! I’ve dealt with trauma/PTSD from an abusive marriage and it’s hung on for many many years. It’s pretty draining to have it right in front of you, even though it has been over for years. This helps me realize it’s not my fault (I’m not crazy like he said I was), that it’s a natural reaction. Thank you very much. ❤
These videos are so invaluable. I've been dealing with an intense anxiety relapse since June, and it took until this week to realize I've plateaued and day-to-day stressors overwhelm me so much because I try to fill my time with so much avoidance. I try to keep busy and a schedule with WFH, making sure I workout during the day, etc., but never sit down, identify my emotions, and just keep sputtering in this cycle. This causes me to feel perpetually anxious, and constantly reflexive. I've always been bad at labeling my emotions since pre-teen traumatic factors, but I'm so glad this is something I can actively now work on.
Thank you sincerely for these videos. AS someone with limited insurance, it has been very hard finding a therapist for CPTSD. Your voice and aura are so comforting. I feel safe listening to you. I have a rumination about 27 years in an abusive marriage. I have accepted my own lack of skills in the marriage, and I wish him a healthy life because he is the father of our children. What I can't seem to process is the 27 years I "lost". He had a double life, chronic liar and cheater and had numerous affairs (girlfriends) locally and in other states. I can't get past the feeling that my whole life with him was a lie, and that I was married to a stranger for all those years, like even though I was there, the life was a total lie, that there was no relationship. I keep going back to mourning alll those years I lost. So many "traumatic events" to process, and that make no sense. I have to accept that, yes, I will never make sense of these events.
I'm so sorry Carol, that sounds like an awful situation. I think anyone would struggle with that transition and processing through all that. Keep working, if can get better! ❤
I came from a family that never resolved issues and left it like running from an emotional explosion, every man for themselves, too messed up to be able to help the others. So to me an argument was always a horrible thing to avoid. Victims blaming and judging to the point that even hearing my name was fear of more pain to come. So to say there is a lot of unresolved issues and loose ends would be an understatement. It is like not being able to function if everything is not going well as it should, with extreme reactions, worries, doubts and fears. So I have been needing this stuff of yours Emma, but have been avoiding doing so... thank you. Being overwhelmed with too much information or too much emotion from being triggered has hindered me from being me. Yet if I have a clear head I can help others see solutions.
1. Do something you used to love Do something new you may like Get a pet, get a part time job in customer service or back room. Sounds like you may have gone thru some kinda of trauma
I had a PTSD freeze response recently and it was very scary. I couldn’t move or barely talk for 20 minutes. I’ve been avoiding the emotions for decades and I’m stuck in a debilitated state. The emotional and physical pain is so intense and I can’t do it all at once. Thank you for this video!!!
I have chronic anxiety, and I frequently have freeze responses (2-4 times a week on average). Its just as scary each and every time it happens. I hope you do not have to experience it much more. I know its terrible. I wish you successful treatments
@@samuelpenney5925 it’s really scary the first time but after a lot of internal work (no prescription drugs for me), I learned to allow myself to feel. I basically suffered so many career and general life failures because of my fear and freeze responses so enough was finally enough. I allowed myself to feel my fear (and all other feelings) and am making progress especially with gradual exposure to that fear.
I feel one the most important aspects of being a decent therapist is having a report with your clients. I am hyper sensitive about people and because of abuse look for the slightest reason not to trust them. Miss Emma as we say here in the south is one of the only people who I can relax and listen to what she says without thinking she'll try and harm me or worse.
Over the past several months I have gotten this far through this playlist and I can't tell you how much it is already helping, and I'm not even finished! I used to have anxiety every second of the day and weekly/monthly panic attacks. I've tried several therapists/medications and nothing really helped. These videos have changed my life! I'm rarely anxious to the point where I'm paralyzed or can't breathe and I feel like I have control over my life/thoughts/feelings again, no more panic attacks. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ you've changed my life.
I have had therapy and have taken medication for over 20 years. Some years I have felt better than others, but it has never gone away. It's a cycle! I have learned so much and yet forget it all when I fall into a hole. I want to move through bad memories or opinions of myself instead of repeating old habits.
Very interesting point there about neurodivergent people processing emotions differently and the possible problems with that. It seems like another small but really important detail that potentially a lot of people need to learn about. I particularly appreciate how you catch things like this where others miss. Cheers!
Thanks Emil. In residential treatment we had this amazing testing psychologist who was able to identify kids with processing difficulties and it really helped us work with them.
Avoiding something you have anxiety about causes you to be more anxious, because when you avoid it and survive your brain thinks that you survived BECAUSE you avoided it, which your brain takes to be a signal to make you anxious about that thing, then worsening your anxiety about it. Good explanation!
Eye opener! God bless your work dear. You are doing an amazing job in helping me and I’m sure helping many others in finding clarity in confusion times. Praying for God to bless you abundantly 🙏🏻
Emma, cannot thank you enough. 2 days of your videos and I understand my brain, mental health so much better. Grateful for bumping into you amongst the myriad of content on TH-cam ❤️❤️
One of my earliest memories was about my parents discussing how they were in debt by 4K. A lot of money back in the day. I thought it was my fault and grew up thinking i was just a financial burden on my parents. I couldn't have been older than 4. I never thought about how this early memory affected my perspective and life until just now. Thank you!
9:10 Problem you cannot solve and you cannot stop thinking about. This is where rumination and stress comes from. If you're dealing with somebody in the background that is using coercive control to undermine your ability to make a decision. Many of these tactics are: gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, moving the goal post and so on. When it becomes toxic stress. When your body goes into the stress state inflammation happens globally in your body reducing your blood vessels. Preventing your body from being able to digest, rest, stops your immune/limbic and the reproductive system. I hope this information helps? Awesome videos keep up the good work 👍
Dear Emma, I want to say thank you so much. Ever since I watched your videos, I have improved in terms of my mental health and more equipped with the knowledge to face the trauma squarely. I am on my journey of recovering PTSD, anxiety, depression and sucidial tendencies. Your disposition and voice is really comforting, sincere and assuring. It is not so clinical and cold. I can't afford the traditional therapy so your videos really helps me to identify my emotions , my thought process and healing journey. Finally, it is so relatable !
Please understand that Jesus loves you more than you can possibly know. He longs to have fellowship with you. The most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way. Please let me share with you how you can know you have a home in heaven. The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity. Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: Your sin separates you from God. Romans 3:23 For all have sinned (yes, you too) and come short of the glory of God; A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell. Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world. John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world. Jesus loved you so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in your place so that you could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else. There is no greater love than that! John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever (that means you) believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today! Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified. 6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. Friend, Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him! You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to you if you will simply receive it by faith. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9. Not of works, lest any man should boast. God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him. Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you friend, that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good. John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire. Please don't wait! Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! I would love to meet you in heaven someday. Get your name written down in the Lambs Book of Life. God bless you! ---------------------------------------------------------------- If you would like more information or don't have a church to attend, we livestream our services and would love for you to join us even across the continents. facebook.com/regkelly.table/ www.libertyfaith.net/contact-us
Wow. So true. Sometimes this is how dating feels, they way you described the Disney movie, reliving it all the way to the rejection over and over, never really enjoying the time. This is so good.
Now I can understand my hatters. blame mode and playing the victim. Easy to read them now so thanks. Now I can process the emotion process. So powerful thanks.
Oh this is so good. I've seen that ruminating endless loop in myself and others. I discovered endlessly listening is not helpful to the other person when they are so stuck.
I’ve been trying to overcome my trauma of my relapse(s). I have a fear of failure. You’ve helped me so much, and I know I can overcome this. This is my last ‘lesson’. It can be scary, but I know I can do it. Progress, not perfection. Thank you 🤍 and God Bless.
Please understand that Jesus loves you more than you can possibly know. He longs to have fellowship with you. The most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way. Please let me share with you how you can know you have a home in heaven. The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity. Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: Your sin separates you from God. Romans 3:23 For all have sinned (yes, you too) and come short of the glory of God; A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell. Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world. John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world. Jesus loved you so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in your place so that you could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else. There is no greater love than that! John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever (that means you) believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today! Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified. 6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. Friend, Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him! You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to you if you will simply receive it by faith. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9. Not of works, lest any man should boast. God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him. Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you friend, that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good. John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire. Please don't wait! Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! I would love to meet you in heaven someday. Get your name written down in the Lambs Book of Life. God bless you! ---------------------------------------------------------------- If you would like more information or don't have a church to attend, we livestream our services and would love for you to join us even across the continents. facebook.com/regkelly.table/ www.libertyfaith.net/contact-us
You are simply the best! The most comprehensive zero BS content ever! Without keeping us in limbo you always generously walk us through each and every topic you discuss and provide actionable solutions! Thank you!
You are a Godsend!! I was terrified tonight, then started watching your videos and feel 1000% better. Don't ever stop making these videos please! You are truly saving lives and God will bless you dearly!
I really don't like or eat fish and so that fish analogy was so cathartic. I feel like as soon as im starting to feel off Im gunna say "I need this fish OUT of my factory!" Im just learning about Defusing myself from my thoughts from you and this was a great help.
At 9:14 I relate. Agonizing over choice of flooring. Female Behavior: Analyze Research Go-To-More-Stores Talk-to-others Repeat until seen all options Male Behavior: Speaking for males everywhere ... we mostly just need something "Functional"
I was washing dishes as I listened to this video. I stopped to do the tapping exercise and had my eyes closed to contemplate on my rating. As I was appreciating the decrease and thinking of the number my cat jumped up to get to the kitchen window and he almost went into the sink. The timing and scenario gave humor and a sudden trial for practicing this information. Thank you for your content!
I have always felt less than, not enough and a torture survivor who beat me every day (I do not dwell on it and forgive this person) leaving me in a state of constant paralyzing fear. The abuser is gone now. I have had 2 years of very effective therapy but continue to go straight to panic. It does take some time to re frame your thinking however, I will not give up! Thank you Emma so very much.
In case you're wondering how fast people move through your course, I'm hitting this one today (January 23), and I watched parts one and two on November 1 - been going one at a time since then. Your videos have been absolutely crucial for me in my mental health journey, as I lost access to my mental healthcare provider at the start of October. You really are a godsend, thank you for making these videos.
@@noneofyourbuizness thanks friend ❤️ as I've been going through, I realize that a lot of times I still have to come back to basics. Name it to tame it all over again, and peel back another layer. I hope you're finding peace in your journey as well!!
@@professorstarlight2268 hope you are still going strong. I'm relatively new to here but usually do one every couple of days but I circle back often to earlier one's.
Its ironic, I came from better health because you came highly recommended in the groupinars. Thank you for these videos! They help alot! Much love to yea
I have discovered that I release hurts much more quickly when I forgive!!! "I love, and I forgive you and I release the transgression" say it over and over, I usually do this in the shower.
This is actually really helpful, thank you! I get overwhelmed by things that so many people seem to be able to do easily. If I have to buy something, I end up in a research vortex that lasts most of the day, and the only way I can get out is by forcing myself to choose one from the shortlist I've made - it's awful! I feel like I'm wasting so much of my life on these vortices. I've been trying to put my body into action when it comes to doing certain things, almost before my brain can load up the stress response that involves overthinking it, telling myself I can't do it or that there's no point, etc. If I can keep it up, it gets easier, and I'm trying to capture how it feels when I do it - namely, that it takes me much less time and energy to do the thing than it would to avoid it and allow the guilt and worry to settle in.
Plusy, Reduce negative thoughts and comparison with others. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
ur entire channel is litterally what I’ve learnt being in the system for so long and it’s like the entire curriculum of most partials in Massachusetts (ik im overgeneralizing)
Your channel is amazing Emma it has really changed my life for so much of the better! I have lost so much weight and I have finally changed my mindset about how I think of food and how I trest my anxiety/guilt if i do mess up on by eating things that are bad for me. I lost 150 pounds and I actually feel genuine joy 😊
Let me share, I had a mental block using an injector pen, repeating this video makes me brave enough to push the button, for the past couple weeks. Not painful, just a mental block. Thanks for helping me with this moment.
This information provided by Emma McAdam, in this video is pure "gold". This is the kind of info that therapists charge $$$ hundreds of dollars for per hour. Emma lays out this information very clearly. Many light bulbs went off while watching this video. All I can say is thank you for providing such a valuable resource - this channel is great!
Holy hell I'm 37 years old and I just finally heard what I needed to here...for the first time. I can't even think what to say right now. Thank you ...I think. I hope I get through this. I've listened to Matè, even Peterson and lots of podcasts but I couldn't hear something...it still didn't make sense to me. That's the best thing I can think of to say other than just thank you. Thank you thank you thank you thank you. I hope this helps. I'm hoping. By the way I'm 37 and I'm a gay guy. So it would appear us Drama Queens are very VERY MUCH still a thing ;) Thank you for this.
thank you! my being stuck for decades has squelched my dreams… like a scratched CD that keeps repeating by rethinking vs resolution and charging forward
I love your analogies! It really helps to understand things in a tangible way! Such practical advice - to calm your body when emotions get intense. I'm 46 and I still don't think I've learned this skill. It's about being consciously aware and intentional in the moment. All of this, again, was so helpful and interesting!
@Lisa M Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am grateful to have access to therapy AND to have heard your words. The way you explain the relationship with your emotions and how it could interfere with your partner, something clicks for me when you explain it. Thank you so much for your analogies and metaphors. 💜
I did avoidance when you started talking about the child and her little sister because I knew how that was going to end. When I realized that I was avoiding rewinded it and sat through it. I’m thankful because I was able to receive the full message
I feel that you are the only one who understands what is going inside of me. Even my therapists seem that they are judging me instead of helping. And many time i feel re-traumatized by them
I like this so far and I'm only on avoidance but I do feel like this is worth mentioning with flashbacks and negative thought spirals I kept reliving things at night it made me panic so I kept interrupting it and saying STOP (sometimes out loud, loudly! STOP STOP STOOPPPPPP!!!!) when it would get too much. Eventually they stopped and I dont get panic spirals as I called them, at night or really at all anymore. I then learned this is an actual therapy technique and I am the most dysregulated emotionally unhealthy person in many ways-- I have Autism and ADHD and a narcissistic mother so was never taught about my emotions, but personally for me this was not avoidance it was a necessary end and I havent had that issue in years. It helped me, I am a believer of this technique, its hard for me to disagree with people because of my codependency but in this case I disagree that this is avoidance it felt necessary and it's one less thing making me a mess now haha I study psychology now and want to become a psychologist and study officially. Most of my research is web based but I have an autistic special interest in it. I hope me disagreeing on this one thing doesn't make you sad I really am enjoying what I've watched so far and your video is very professional
I feel so blessed that I found you!! I’ve passed your name along and friends are signing up for your program!! I will when I get a job! Thank you for offering so many amazing podcasts for FREE! You are a blessing Emma!
Valerie, Attachment can lead to misery especially with a person. Keep yourself active with a job etc. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@VC-or4iv Oberving the breath meditation has been a habit with me for many years.I feel relaxed beacuse my brain has been reprogrammed. Read about positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search. Read my msg and follow the practice with patience. Try to reduce medication to the lowest mg to prevent any major side effects. Take control of your thoughts with daily meditation. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Your videos have be absolutely essential for me! I'm very grateful for the time and effort you put into these very informative and compassionate videos! 🥰
thank you for putting trauma response in regards to avoidance in a new perspective. The story of your daughter and the movie was like wow... i get that and that example of having disagreements in relationships and getting so upset and just checking out and i get silent. I really appreciate your videos.
I am sharing this with my daughters who could benefit from this, but ultimately they're responsible for their own actions in life. and admittedly I am suffering with this myself but I am taking steps to help myself.
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Your platform is such a blessing for those who cannot access/afford traditional therapy. Thank you for your work.
Try vipasana meditation it will help for releasing emotions
Thanks Shalini
I agree too, your work is so valuable. From the few paid therapists and the NHS therapy I've accessed over the last 6 years, no one has given the understanding of what is going on inside me like you do. I've always found talking about emotions and experiences so difficult, that I didn't think it was ever going to work, I felt I was reliving the experience, retraumatised each time. What you give is really powerful to help realise the blocks and clogs in the system. This nutshell is finally feeling ready to open! I've not gone through your videos from the beginning but based on those I've watched I feel encouraged to begin the journey. 💕 Truly grateful
Can you say something on how to cope with emotions that are stuck in your head. When anger comes up I get terrible headache's...
I also think this way. Thank you
I work for the 988 hotline and recommend this channel almost everyday. The people I talk to can’t afford therapy and have little experience with emotional intellect.
I think you might be saving lives by sharing this knowledge!
I just have to say this. The definition of practicing is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. I think the person who said that has never tried hard to be good at something.
LOVE that you dispelled the myth that "time heals all wounds." Time heals *some* wounds, but different strategies are necessary for different stuff. You don't put a band-aid on a bullet hole, nor do you perform invasive surgery on a paper cut. 👍🏼👍🏼
Well said!
Analogies are not one size fits all.
And some wounds don't heal, you just learn to live with it, to accept that the pain is there, like a the loss of a loved one. The only thing time helps with, is being able to talk about them or think about them without breaking down entirely.
Well said 😊
Amen. Until Jesus returns, wounds will still be present. Not all are gone and fixed. That doesn't they can't be overcome and left in the past as much as possible, through the help of understanding ourselves and through the help of Christ. I know he's helped me.
Very well said. I'm having a hard time processing my emotions lately and am working to be in the right mental space. It is nice to know there are others out this that feel this way too.
1)Name it to tame it
2)write and explore your emotions
3)Avoiding your emotions can hurt you (gotta figure out what to do with them)
4)Nervous system hyperarousal (6 steps to process).Train your body to be calmer so that you can process your emotions
5)core beliefs (subconscious labeling)
6) blame mode or victim mode(forgiveness, boundaries)
7) worry part of the brain vs solving part of the brain
8)brain differences
- get third party involved(therapist, family member, friend)
great summary :)
@@TherapyinaNutshell Thanks Emma!!💙
thanks YOU
Thats amazing of you. But sometimes I feel the need to avoid my emotions because they are sooo intense.
Thank you
Your highly informative and FREE therapy sessions have made a tremendous impact on my life. I can’t believe at the age of 53 I am just learning how to face my PTSD and other anxiety fueled emotions. I have been in therapy sessions many times throughout early childhood and adulthood due to my tragic life experiences. But I have never, ever been shared this type of information that has truly really help me get through my day-to-day life. Please, I beg you do not ever stop making these videos! PLEASE. Thank you from my heart.
I’ve been sabotaging myself for about two years now, turned down every job or project offers. Refuse to hang out with friends and I just sleep all day..
Im not excited about anything and i feel super numb..
So thank you so much for this. I will try my best to come out from this depression and be my true self again.
Keep doing the videos! I started at the beginning of this playlist and bought a journal to take notes and practice the techniques and a few months later I am a new person. Keep persevering.
@@kaitlynjensen4171 hey which playlist did you go through?
@@ananyachatterjee2323 the processes emotions one.
th-cam.com/play/PLiUrrIiqidTWje-Oc4uA6LZZO8vSaHaDL.html
How are you doing now?
@@ananyachatterjee2323 Therapy in a nutshell playlist is really good. Make sure you take notes of important things you learn so you can look back on it
Thank the Lord we can understand ourselves to a point where we can improve every day. And prayer has never gone out of use, even if you're asking God to help you understand the way your brain works.
When I see Emma McAdam, I feel the same way as when I see a golden retriever; I know I am going to feel better very very soon!
If you know how much I love dogs, you will know this is the greatest compliment I can give. Emma is a real treasure of TH-cam!
I literally stopped what I was doing to TUNE IN TO THIS 😍
Thanks :)
Same!
This CD is very calming th-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq the first meditation focuses on breathing, the second guides you through the Buddhist metta bhavana--loving kindness to all, and the third is a meditation to be used when walking. him is originally from Scotland, so there is a little accent to his voice, but it is very soothing and not at all distracting. If you are a beginner to meditation, this CD will walk you through all the steps of relaxing and breathing as well as sending out the positive thoughts of love and kindness that will be returned to you. We have several CD's, but this one is a favorite that we choose most often.
I could cry with gratitude, Ive been in trauma therapy for over a year but have needed a concrete explanation like this for so long. You have saved me, thank you
Avoidance = anxiety is the opposite of my experience. For example, I developed a phone phobia after working in a debt recovery call centre as a teenager. Trying to push through calls made it worse. I implemented a policy of "I don't do phones" and insisted on text-only communication for a few years. After a few years, it was like I'd forgotten what it was about calls that scared me and was able to start doing them again. Same with public speaking: that phobia got worse and worse while at uni, but a few years later I volunteered to speak publicly because I couldn't remember what was scary about it.
this is what my therapist said too, it does not akways help to push yourself doing something that triggers you
You make me feel I’m talking with a close and good friend. I feel listened and loved.
I have a mental block and anxiety I needed to hear this ty
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because these videos on this channel alongside therapy has helped so much !!
Thanks David!
People like you makes media worth the while💝💫
Totally
@@diamondsdeluge7452 Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 how do you sit with it and not judge myself
@@sharonlee4917 I have been doing the breath observing meditataion since the last 15 years and enjoying life but a strong desire for change is needed without any expectations. Only then meditation works. It is so simple. Why stop? You will gain something and lose nothing. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Thank you so much for including number 7. My neuro-differences have been so hidden for so long and no therapist has ever understood how to help properly. Your explanation of this has opened doors inside me that were bolted shut for a very long time. I kept getting told "there's nothing wrong with you" and yet the solutions I was given could only take me so far, and now I understand why. I can't express enough my gratitude for breaking this down. 🙏🙏🙏
I’ve been to about 5 different therapists at this point and the last 2 didn’t actually see/hear me and said I “seemed great, I don’t know if you really need therapy any more” while I’m still struggling every day to process and overcome my CPTSD, on top of other things. Your videos have helped me break through some issues I’ve been struggling with for YEARS in a matter of minutes…thank you x1000 this channel is a lifesaver
Very informative and helpful. Thank you so much, Emma! For anyone reading this: you aren’t alone. There is hope. Sending you my best wishes.
These videos are JUST AMAZING. 10 years therapy helped, kinda. But the cycles never left. 2 weeks here and GREAT skills to just rid it. Thank you!!!
I have GERD-induced anxiety (and vice versa), and I just discovered your channel from episode 12, and in just a couple hours after two severe attacks over the weekend I’m able to stand with my arms at my sides instead of constantly clutching my chest due to pain. It’s the most relaxed I’ve felt in days and I could honestly cry. I plan to rewatch these videos and seek out a psychologist, because I just need to thank you for how much this has helped. It’s been a very rough time, and I’m just so happy to feel the slightest bit better.
Emma, may God bless you. May you be crowned in heaven for this good deed and I pray that God meets you at your point of need. May His love continuously be made manifest in your life. You've been such a blessing to those of us who can't afford therapy. And I'm thankful for you, your material has helped me process emotions and memories that have been tormenting for a while. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you. Blessings. x
I truly trust your speaking style. Your enthusiasm is not faked.you genuinely believe in and carry the messages forth, in an honest way. I really like and trust you as my therapist. May FatherGod love, keep, bless, and help you heal others and self. And me ! Lol
I literally wrote in my notes: "Don't stop the movie when Mufasa dies". Best example ever!
This makes so much sense! I’ve dealt with trauma/PTSD from an abusive marriage and it’s hung on for many many years. It’s pretty draining to have it right in front of you, even though it has been over for years. This helps me realize it’s not my fault (I’m not crazy like he said I was), that it’s a natural reaction. Thank you very much. ❤
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These videos are so invaluable. I've been dealing with an intense anxiety relapse since June, and it took until this week to realize I've plateaued and day-to-day stressors overwhelm me so much because I try to fill my time with so much avoidance. I try to keep busy and a schedule with WFH, making sure I workout during the day, etc., but never sit down, identify my emotions, and just keep sputtering in this cycle. This causes me to feel perpetually anxious, and constantly reflexive. I've always been bad at labeling my emotions since pre-teen traumatic factors, but I'm so glad this is something I can actively now work on.
Same worst phase with anxiety since last june ! Wish you all the best
Thank you sincerely for these videos. AS someone with limited insurance, it has been very hard finding a therapist for CPTSD. Your voice and aura are so comforting. I feel safe listening to you. I have a rumination about 27 years in an abusive marriage. I have accepted my own lack of skills in the marriage, and I wish him a healthy life because he is the father of our children. What I can't seem to process is the 27 years I "lost". He had a double life, chronic liar and cheater and had numerous affairs (girlfriends) locally and in other states. I can't get past the feeling that my whole life with him was a lie, and that I was married to a stranger for all those years, like even though I was there, the life was a total lie, that there was no relationship. I keep going back to mourning alll those years I lost. So many "traumatic events" to process, and that make no sense. I have to accept that, yes, I will never make sense of these events.
I'm so sorry Carol, that sounds like an awful situation. I think anyone would struggle with that transition and processing through all that. Keep working, if can get better! ❤
I came from a family that never resolved issues and left it like running from an emotional explosion, every man for themselves, too messed up to be able to help the others. So to me an argument was always a horrible thing to avoid. Victims blaming and judging to the point that even hearing my name was fear of more pain to come. So to say there is a lot of unresolved issues and loose ends would be an understatement. It is like not being able to function if everything is not going well as it should, with extreme reactions, worries, doubts and fears. So I have been needing this stuff of yours Emma, but have been avoiding doing so... thank you. Being overwhelmed with too much information or too much emotion from being triggered has hindered me from being me. Yet if I have a clear head I can help others see solutions.
As you mentioned yr little girl . i am 86yr but i still go through this i love yr videos .so many of us. You are helping. I am from india
can you make a video on steps you can take when you feel like youve lost yourself and your ability to connect with people?
1. Do something you used to love
Do something new you may like
Get a pet, get a part time job in customer service or back room.
Sounds like you may have gone thru some kinda of trauma
What Emma talks about is kinda deep but she makes it very understandable, i really like that.🙂
It’s a blessing to have you on here my dear, endless thanks for your precious work🙏
Thanks William
I had a PTSD freeze response recently and it was very scary. I couldn’t move or barely talk for 20 minutes. I’ve been avoiding the emotions for decades and I’m stuck in a debilitated state. The emotional and physical pain is so intense and I can’t do it all at once. Thank you for this video!!!
I have chronic anxiety, and I frequently have freeze responses (2-4 times a week on average). Its just as scary each and every time it happens. I hope you do not have to experience it much more. I know its terrible. I wish you successful treatments
Same I’ve been having freeze responses for years without even knowing it was called a freeze response lol so glad I found her channel ❤
@@samuelpenney5925 it’s really scary the first time but after a lot of internal work (no prescription drugs for me), I learned to allow myself to feel. I basically suffered so many career and general life failures because of my fear and freeze responses so enough was finally enough. I allowed myself to feel my fear (and all other feelings) and am making progress especially with gradual exposure to that fear.
Thank you for your videos. I told my therapist about them and told my cousin who's a therapist. These are a Godsend!
I feel one the most important aspects of being a decent therapist is having a report with your clients. I am hyper sensitive about people and because of abuse look for the slightest reason not to trust them. Miss Emma as we say here in the south is one of the only people who I can relax and listen to what she says without thinking she'll try and harm me or worse.
Over the past several months I have gotten this far through this playlist and I can't tell you how much it is already helping, and I'm not even finished! I used to have anxiety every second of the day and weekly/monthly panic attacks. I've tried several therapists/medications and nothing really helped. These videos have changed my life! I'm rarely anxious to the point where I'm paralyzed or can't breathe and I feel like I have control over my life/thoughts/feelings again, no more panic attacks. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ you've changed my life.
I love to see you as therapist who is very enthusiastic and commitment in serving people. Love you
I have done therapy, a lot, finally I feel empowered and a bit if Hope. I am hudgely grateful. You are a beautiful blessing. Thank you.
I have had therapy and have taken medication for over 20 years. Some years I have felt better than others, but it has never gone away. It's a cycle! I have learned so much and yet forget it all when I fall into a hole. I want to move through bad memories or opinions of myself instead of repeating old habits.
Jill, Try to reduce medication to the lowest mg. Do the following daily to fel better===
You are the best on TH-cam no joke. I’m a nurse practitioner and I sent all of my patients to this page. You are doing great work!!
It's like getting free therapy. Thanks maam 🌻
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Very interesting point there about neurodivergent people processing emotions differently and the possible problems with that. It seems like another small but really important detail that potentially a lot of people need to learn about. I particularly appreciate how you catch things like this where others miss.
Cheers!
Thanks Emil. In residential treatment we had this amazing testing psychologist who was able to identify kids with processing difficulties and it really helped us work with them.
I totally agree!
Very interesting 🤓🙂.
Thank you!
God bless you & your efforts.
Avoiding something you have anxiety about causes you to be more anxious, because when you avoid it and survive your brain thinks that you survived BECAUSE you avoided it, which your brain takes to be a signal to make you anxious about that thing, then worsening your anxiety about it. Good explanation!
Yes for those of us who cannot afford good therapy, you ae just a saint 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amazing, grateful for your work, tons of love and thanks❤🎉❤🌺✨
I really liked the lion king metaphor! Yes, just ten minutes (or less) longer and the traumatic negative emotions will be over
Eye opener! God bless your work dear. You are doing an amazing job in helping me and I’m sure helping many others in finding clarity in confusion times. Praying for God to bless you abundantly 🙏🏻
Emma, cannot thank you enough. 2 days of your videos and I understand my brain, mental health so much better. Grateful for bumping into you amongst the myriad of content on TH-cam ❤️❤️
One of my earliest memories was about my parents discussing how they were in debt by 4K. A lot of money back in the day. I thought it was my fault and grew up thinking i was just a financial burden on my parents. I couldn't have been older than 4. I never thought about how this early memory affected my perspective and life until just now. Thank you!
9:10 Problem you cannot solve and you cannot stop thinking about. This is where rumination and stress comes from. If you're dealing with somebody in the background that is using coercive control to undermine your ability to make a decision. Many of these tactics are: gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, moving the goal post and so on. When it becomes toxic stress. When your body goes into the stress state inflammation happens globally in your body reducing your blood vessels. Preventing your body from being able to digest, rest, stops your immune/limbic and the reproductive system. I hope this information helps? Awesome videos keep up the good work 👍
Dear Emma, I want to say thank you so much. Ever since I watched your videos, I have improved in terms of my mental health and more equipped with the knowledge to face the trauma squarely. I am on my journey of recovering PTSD, anxiety, depression and sucidial tendencies. Your disposition and voice is really comforting, sincere and assuring. It is not so clinical and cold. I can't afford the traditional therapy so your videos really helps me to identify my emotions , my thought process and healing journey. Finally, it is so relatable !
Please understand that Jesus loves you more than you can possibly know. He longs to have fellowship with you. The most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way. Please let me share with you how you can know you have a home in heaven.
The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Your sin separates you from God.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned (yes, you too) and come short of the glory of God;
A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
Jesus loved you so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in your place so that you could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
There is no greater love than that!
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever (that means you) believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
Friend, Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to you if you will simply receive it by faith.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him.
Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you friend, that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
Please don't wait! Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! I would love to meet you in heaven someday. Get your name written down in the Lambs Book of Life. God bless you!
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Thanks. Such good content and wonderful delivery. Your work is making the world a better place.
Wow. So true. Sometimes this is how dating feels, they way you described the Disney movie, reliving it all the way to the rejection over and over, never really enjoying the time. This is so good.
Watching 1/2 of one of your videos has helped me more than 3 therapists and thousands of dollars.
The Lion King metaphor about your little girl made me burst into tears. 😭 Guess I need to write about that one...seems some stuff was triggered.
Now I can understand my hatters. blame mode and playing the victim. Easy to read them now so thanks. Now I can process the emotion process. So powerful thanks.
Oh this is so good. I've seen that ruminating endless loop in myself and others. I discovered endlessly listening is not helpful to the other person when they are so stuck.
I’ve been trying to overcome my trauma of my relapse(s). I have a fear of failure. You’ve helped me so much, and I know I can overcome this. This is my last ‘lesson’.
It can be scary, but I know I can do it. Progress, not perfection. Thank you 🤍 and God Bless.
Please understand that Jesus loves you more than you can possibly know. He longs to have fellowship with you. The most important decision you will ever make is where you will spend eternity. The Bible says that you can know that you have eternal life in heaven, but If you are putting your trust in anything other than the finished work of Jesus on the cross to get you to heaven, you do not understand God's way. Please let me share with you how you can know you have a home in heaven.
The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Your sin separates you from God.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned (yes, you too) and come short of the glory of God;
A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
Jesus loved you so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in your place so that you could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
There is no greater love than that!
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever (that means you) believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
Friend, Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to you if you will simply receive it by faith.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must repent of your sins and call on God for mercy to save you from hell and give you eternal life in heaven with Him.
Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you friend, that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
Please don't wait! Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! I would love to meet you in heaven someday. Get your name written down in the Lambs Book of Life. God bless you!
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You are simply the best! The most comprehensive zero BS content ever! Without keeping us in limbo you always generously walk us through each and every topic you discuss and provide actionable solutions!
Thank you!
You are a Godsend!! I was terrified tonight, then started watching your videos and feel 1000% better. Don't ever stop making these videos please! You are truly saving lives and God will bless you dearly!
I really don't like or eat fish and so that fish analogy was so cathartic. I feel like as soon as im starting to feel off Im gunna say "I need this fish OUT of my factory!" Im just learning about Defusing myself from my thoughts from you and this was a great help.
At 9:14 I relate. Agonizing over choice of flooring.
Female Behavior: Analyze Research Go-To-More-Stores Talk-to-others Repeat until seen all options
Male Behavior: Speaking for males everywhere ... we mostly just need something "Functional"
You’re an absolute blessing. You are the only one I will actually send money to. You’re doing everyone a huge services, God bless you!
im only 6min in and it already helped me a lot. im cyceling my thoughts and feelings for years. i was going cracy in my mind. thank u for this video
I was washing dishes as I listened to this video. I stopped to do the tapping exercise and had my eyes closed to contemplate on my rating. As I was appreciating the decrease and thinking of the number my cat jumped up to get to the kitchen window and he almost went into the sink. The timing and scenario gave humor and a sudden trial for practicing this information. Thank you for your content!
I begin to like what she's saying, and then, I have to listen to another video to find out what I'm supposed to do about a situation.
God bless you. We need to make the world a better place with peace love and compassion
I have always felt less than, not enough and a torture survivor who beat me every day (I do not dwell on it and forgive this person) leaving me in a state of constant paralyzing fear. The abuser is gone now. I have had 2 years of very effective therapy but continue to go straight to panic. It does take some time to re frame your thinking however, I will not give up! Thank you Emma so very much.
In case you're wondering how fast people move through your course, I'm hitting this one today (January 23), and I watched parts one and two on November 1 - been going one at a time since then. Your videos have been absolutely crucial for me in my mental health journey, as I lost access to my mental healthcare provider at the start of October. You really are a godsend, thank you for making these videos.
Hope you doing even better today❤❤
You getting in there !!👌🏼
@@noneofyourbuizness thanks friend ❤️ as I've been going through, I realize that a lot of times I still have to come back to basics. Name it to tame it all over again, and peel back another layer. I hope you're finding peace in your journey as well!!
@@professorstarlight2268 hope you are still going strong. I'm relatively new to here but usually do one every couple of days but I circle back often to earlier one's.
@@Dietconsulting emotionally more stable than ever! I still recommend this series all the time to folks. Best of luck on your journey!
Its ironic, I came from better health because you came highly recommended in the groupinars. Thank you for these videos! They help alot! Much love to yea
I have discovered that I release hurts much more quickly when I forgive!!! "I love, and I forgive you and I release the transgression" say it over and over, I usually do this in the shower.
This is actually really helpful, thank you! I get overwhelmed by things that so many people seem to be able to do easily. If I have to buy something, I end up in a research vortex that lasts most of the day, and the only way I can get out is by forcing myself to choose one from the shortlist I've made - it's awful! I feel like I'm wasting so much of my life on these vortices. I've been trying to put my body into action when it comes to doing certain things, almost before my brain can load up the stress response that involves overthinking it, telling myself I can't do it or that there's no point, etc. If I can keep it up, it gets easier, and I'm trying to capture how it feels when I do it - namely, that it takes me much less time and energy to do the thing than it would to avoid it and allow the guilt and worry to settle in.
Plusy, Reduce negative thoughts and comparison with others. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
You are absolutely wonderful. Just listening to you helps significantly and I don’t feel as bad for being me.
ur entire channel is litterally what I’ve learnt being in the system for so long and it’s like the entire curriculum of most partials in Massachusetts (ik im overgeneralizing)
Your channel is amazing Emma it has really changed my life for so much of the better! I have lost so much weight and I have finally changed my mindset about how I think of food and how I trest my anxiety/guilt if i do mess up on by eating things that are bad for me. I lost 150 pounds and I actually feel genuine joy 😊
Oh.my.goodie. In 20 minutes you made me understand more than 20 years of therapy...Thank you! You've got a new subscriber 🥰
Let me share, I had a mental block using an injector pen, repeating this video makes me brave enough to push the button, for the past couple weeks. Not painful, just a mental block. Thanks for helping me with this moment.
This information provided by Emma McAdam, in this video is pure "gold". This is the kind of info that therapists charge $$$ hundreds of dollars for per hour. Emma lays out this information very clearly. Many light bulbs went off while watching this video. All I can say is thank you for providing such a valuable resource - this channel is great!
Holy hell I'm 37 years old and I just finally heard what I needed to here...for the first time. I can't even think what to say right now. Thank you ...I think. I hope I get through this. I've listened to Matè, even Peterson and lots of podcasts but I couldn't hear something...it still didn't make sense to me. That's the best thing I can think of to say other than just thank you. Thank you thank you thank you thank you. I hope this helps. I'm hoping. By the way I'm 37 and I'm a gay guy. So it would appear us Drama Queens are very VERY MUCH still a thing ;) Thank you for this.
thank you! my being stuck for decades has squelched my dreams… like a scratched CD that keeps repeating by rethinking vs resolution and charging forward
I love your analogies! It really helps to understand things in a tangible way! Such practical advice - to calm your body when emotions get intense. I'm 46 and I still don't think I've learned this skill. It's about being consciously aware and intentional in the moment. All of this, again, was so helpful and interesting!
Your voice is balming and so is the content of your talk. Pl keep doing more.
I am in such Gratitude to find this platform. The coaching I find more impactful, empowering and uplifting than therapy.
This one video has provided several desperately needed epiphanies for me. Thank you.
@Lisa M Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am grateful to have access to therapy AND to have heard your words. The way you explain the relationship with your emotions and how it could interfere with your partner, something clicks for me when you explain it. Thank you so much for your analogies and metaphors. 💜
Succinct, helpful & a perfect mix of logic & compassion.
Your delivery of these useful strategies is so lovely.
Thank you 🙏🏼🌼
I did avoidance when you started talking about the child and her little sister because I knew how that was going to end. When I realized that I was avoiding rewinded it and sat through it. I’m thankful because I was able to receive the full message
I feel that you are the only one who understands what is going inside of me. Even my therapists seem that they are judging me instead of helping. And many time i feel re-traumatized by them
I like this so far and I'm only on avoidance but I do feel like this is worth mentioning with flashbacks and negative thought spirals I kept reliving things at night it made me panic so I kept interrupting it and saying STOP (sometimes out loud, loudly! STOP STOP STOOPPPPPP!!!!) when it would get too much. Eventually they stopped and I dont get panic spirals as I called them, at night or really at all anymore. I then learned this is an actual therapy technique and I am the most dysregulated emotionally unhealthy person in many ways-- I have Autism and ADHD and a narcissistic mother so was never taught about my emotions, but personally for me this was not avoidance it was a necessary end and I havent had that issue in years. It helped me, I am a believer of this technique, its hard for me to disagree with people because of my codependency but in this case I disagree that this is avoidance it felt necessary and it's one less thing making me a mess now haha
I study psychology now and want to become a psychologist and study officially. Most of my research is web based but I have an autistic special interest in it. I hope me disagreeing on this one thing doesn't make you sad I really am enjoying what I've watched so far and your video is very professional
I feel so blessed that I found you!! I’ve passed your name along and friends are signing up for your program!! I will when I get a job! Thank you for offering so many amazing podcasts for FREE!
You are a blessing Emma!
Synchronicity is real… this appeared to me the time I needed this most. Thank you for your existence. 😊
This channel is gold! Thank you so much for helping us heal and get better 🙏❤
Some great ideas on why we have mental blocks. Thanks
You have been a tremendous help because I’m an emotional wreck most of the times. Saved my life
Could you do a video on anxious- avoidant attachment and how to overcome it?
Valerie, Attachment can lead to misery especially with a person. Keep yourself active with a job etc. Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you so much bless your kind soul, I truly appreciate it.🤍
@@VC-or4iv Oberving the breath meditation has been a habit with me for many years.I feel relaxed beacuse my brain has been reprogrammed. Read about positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search. Read my msg and follow the practice with patience. Try to reduce medication to the lowest mg to prevent any major side effects. Take control of your thoughts with daily meditation. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Your videos have be absolutely essential for me! I'm very grateful for the time and effort you put into these very informative and compassionate videos! 🥰
Thanks Rue
thank you for putting trauma response in regards to avoidance in a new perspective. The story of your daughter and the movie was like wow... i get that and that example of having disagreements in relationships and getting so upset and just checking out and i get silent. I really appreciate your videos.
Emotions cant hurt u but avoiding them can💯
I am sharing this with my daughters who could benefit from this, but ultimately they're responsible for their own actions in life.
and admittedly I am suffering with this myself but I am taking steps to help myself.