If you feel overwhelmed by a to do list, reverse it! Some days my to do list is daunting and I just ditch it completely, start a small task and write it down when I’m done. Even small things like taking my vitamins. Instead of crossing off something, you can see what you have accomplished! Mrs Hinch calls it the Tadaa list :)
That's brilliant, and I'm glad you shared it on this very worthy channel! The name "Tadaa" makes all the difference. I had thought of doing such a list before, but having this name for it envisions a trumpet blast and a hand flourish, in a magician's hat, white gloves and tuxedo. I'm not a big fan of magic, but I'm a big fan of this idea! Thanks again!
@@natashamudford4011 haha yes! I feel like saying tadaa everytime I’ve done something. You described it perfectly. It’s all about the feeling you create :)
I am also a therapist. This video is beyond AMAZING. Your ability to clearly explain mental health concepts so anyone can understand and act to improve their lives is a gift. Thank you for sharing you knowledge and gift with this community! 😊
My business coach does a "Brain Dump" every day first thing when she gets to her office. Dumps everything out on the paper. Absolutely everything, even if it has nothing to do with work. Then she gets a coffee, takes a few minutes, then goes through that list and picks out only the things that are most important as the days' "to do list'. After she gets even some of it done she takes another break, rewards herself somehow, and begins again. She said she feels great all day and rarely feels overwhelmed. Especially if she gets the things she doesn't like doing done first. Then the rest of the day is a bonus. I like it.
I like it, too! I used to be on top of things, then came TH-cam..... and my home went to hell in a hand basket. SO much to do to get that order back I do long for. I like your bosse's approach, and am gonna give it a shot!
Summary of the video in six points - how to stay motivated: 1. Action doesn't follow motivation; motivation follows action. Want to do that one thing? Don't wait for motivation. Just go do it! 2. Take a moment to write down your values. Remind yourself what the purpose of your life may be. That can drive you to do things. 3. Track your accomplishments. Create a way to keep track of what you've achieved so you always remember that you're accomplishing tasks. 4. Reward yourself before a task. E.g., thinking how good you'll feel once a task is over is one way of rewarding yourself before a task. 5. Don't reward yourself for bad behaviour. If you're procrastinating and start doing something fun instead of doing what you're supposed to, you're rewarding yourself for bad behaviour. Use boredom as a motivator if you must. 6. Stop beating yourself up. It's bad for you in the short and long term. Bonus: when you've achieved a task, regardless of how small it may be, celebrate it. Give yourself credit. Release the dopamine to let your mind know "this was good! Let's do more."
Guilty of “waiting to become motivated” to begin my tasks, which is repeating my anxiety cycles. Didn’t realize this. Today, I pushed myself to do my tasks then I became motivated to do more. It WORKED. I had a really productive day.
So awesome! What a great win that was for you!! The more you do that, you are now self-motivated! Remember to celebrate small wins during your journey! You're awesome! :)
I’m 62 and I’ve had anxiety, depression, fear, and motivational issues my whole life. All of your information is great and I could listen to you all day long but that’s not getting me off the couch. I’ll finish this video and then I’ll go make the bed and find something else that needs doing. Then I’ll make one of my rewards to watch another of your videos.
“The more you do, the more you are motivated.” This shook me. I’ve lost a lot of motivation, and this is what I needed to hear. I’m gonna also take some other tips here like marking the stupid little boxes in a tracker, and imagine how I feel once I reach my goals. It sounds so silly, but I do genuinely feel good when I complete the tasks I’ve put off for a bit.
This sounds so simple in theory but just being talked through it really made me realise how much I rely on bursts of motivation and how I reward my procrastination all the time
And remember, when you feel like procrastinating, put it off! Seriously though, I've been depressed for 40 years. I think she just showed me why. I'm in shock. 12 therapists and thousands of dollars, when what I really needed may have been this one video.
I am always do but it is only helpfull when you apply it in reality. And when you start applying it, other factors of your life start telling that your paper notes are just a hypothesis
Yes! I have a document on my pc with links to the videos and a short summary. I write what she says and how this works/affects me. So when she gives examples I write what my situation is. This works wonders!
Making supper, esp. a bigger supper used to be a daunting task that I would put off until I was starved, or just pick instead and not eat a decent meal. I had a friend who did a genius thing that helped so much. She would slowly get her utensils and ingredients out. Then she'd start cutting or prepping things. When the cooking part came, it was a lot less to do than starting it all from scratch. I've done it every since.
That’s how I empty the dishwasher! “I will just empty the top rack while the coffee brews.” I can empty that silverware basket before this commercial is over!
My mother's advice when I was 10 years old in 1963: "if you have to do something, learn to enjoy it." Learning to find joy in everything you do motivates you to move on to the next task. I love calisthenics, exercising 3 hours a day, sometimes only an hour, and when I start sometimes I'm too exhausted to continue. But after a few short exercises, dopamine kicks in and motivates me to do even more. Dopamine also kicks in when I see people who smoke, drink in excess, exhibit road rage, and give myself a pat on the back for not having any self-destructive vices (intrinsic Rewards).
Thank you for your helpful video!! How to stay motivated: 1. Write down your values! 2. Track your accomplishment! 3. Reward yourself before the task! 4. Stop rewarding bad behavior! 5. Stop negative self-talk! I love u, u guys can do it, make it and conquer it!!
Hi Emma, I found you when I was in the lowest point of my life. You have helped me alot. I can't thank you enough for putting out those videos for us. I pray for you and your family's good health,joy,happiness.
i've been struggling with lack of motivation for 14 years. I've had bouts of depression, taken anti-depressants, tried CBT and other therapy, none of which helped me in any way to get motivated - watching 2 of Emma's motivation videos has had more impact than any of that. Emma, you are TOTALLY AMAZING! And I will be watching more of your videos, you hit the nail on the head every time, you explain things so clearly, you give such do-able advice and recommendations that are having such an incredible impact on my life. THANK YOU!
Thank you for posting this video. I never noticed that my upbringing destroyed any motivation in me by believiing that if I failed it was all my fault, but if I succeeded it was because someone, or something else was the reason for me achieving it. There was never a reward for me accomplishing anything, just guilt and shame. Now I understand that I was never lazy (like they said) I was afraid. As usual, your posts are helping me grow and become the person I desire to be.
You just helped me realize I use fear to motivate myself to do well in school. I was actually raised in a fearful manner where I was exposed to lots of parental threats and emotional abuse to where I basically didn't say anything and hid a lot of my problems and stress. It's like I'm reconstructing that for myself now. Thanks for this, it really helped me take a step in understanding myself today. Now to apply my new understanding: the fun part. 🙂
Ditto. Resulted in trauma from childhood. As an adult, it's as if I'm re-learning life from scratch from teaching myself healthy values & actions that I would teach my child one day if I want to raise them in a proactive, supportive home.
Wow I gotta say you said it in such a interesting manner actually I was and being raised in a fearful manner where its all about society and literally not about us... but now iam learning a new job and making money 💰 🙂♥️
I am the exact same way! I realized recently that I have NEVER been able to self-motivate without a looming deadline, leading to extreme procrastination and a LOT of anxiety. I'm trying to break out of that and just, being kind to myself
Wow, you saying that made me realize that I also used fear to ensure I was successful in what I valued. When I recently began the transition to adult hood and college, I just balled up and allowed my stress to take over. In a way, the fear that was induced throughout child hood motivated me. Now I have to rewire my brain to gain motivation without a negative driving force
I've been struggling with chronic procrastination all my life, I suspect I am an undiagnosed Adult ADHD. Your videos are sensational Emma. I've spent years in counselling hoping to be given a model of good mental health. Your simple yet profound words are transformative to me. What a gift to the world. What a legacy you leave. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :))
I am sorry you had such bad counselling, that they weren't competent or willing to engae to get you helped!. That has been my own experience too, I have lost my life to rubbish and wish I had listened to my disturbed mother who happened to be right about most psychologists etc.Why does no-one do like memma and others online? I think they withhold us knowledge in order to keeo us coming and giving out a lot of money for years. They don't want us to get well as quickly as we could, confirmed also by former therapist Daniel Mackler (Has a YT video on why he stopped being one, it helps at least lifting the fear that it was my fault not egtting help.)Do the 12 steps programs instead?
This is the same skill I was taught regarding my depression. You can’t wait until you feel better to do something, you have to do something in order to feel better. It’s helped me so much!
Hello Emma, I am so glad I found you! Since adolescence I have lived every day as if it were my last. What motivated me was my 6th grade teacher who I overheard telling my parents I won't do much past the 6th grade. I didn't get sad. I got mad. Now I am a very senior citizen who was a dynamic individual12 years ago. In spite of graduate degrees, knowledge of 5 languages, studying art and music, living in Europe, teaching graduates, young adults and children along with many more reinventions of myself, I am finding difficulty revisiting those accomplishments that made me happy. I write you now with anxiety, depression, and the stress that comes with caring for a loved one who is ill. You have provided me with some sensible and convincing strategies to try and find myself again. Thank you very much.
Thanks for sharing. I too inherited the care of an older sibling. It is my excuse for not excelling or setting goals for myself. I hope this video will help me take back my joy and self care.
Building Intrinsic Motivation 1. Take down a moment to write down your values 2. Track your accomplishments 3. Reward yourself before the task 4. Stop rewarding bad behavior 5. Stop the negative Self talk + Thank you very much Ms. Emma for this wonderful video. I find it hard to really move on from past lost and it's been quite a while that I've been stuck at the bottom of the pit, but I believe God graced us life to live for His purpose and I'm trying to embrace and stay with this truth. I don't want to pity myself for the mistakes I have done, sometimes life lessons are learned best with hard truths. I tend to be a people pleaser and most of the time I find it hard to face the truth on myself. I don't want to justify anymore my desolations and yeah, little by little, with one step at a time, I'll try and make it happen to live life courageously to be able to fully live it. Thank you so much again for your sense of mission and may God always bless you, your family and your work. May you be able to help and reach out more people from different walks of life that need to build up this good habit.
I can’t explain how grateful I am for you. I used to go to therapy but one day she called me and said they are pausing their practices because of Covid and when they resumed they didn’t even contact me or try to work over the phone. I trusted the therapist and I told myself I’d never go to one again. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I’ve been struggling with depression, adhd and ocd for so long and when I get in a rut it’s so hard to get out. This is my longest one by far been almost 1.8 years but your video has helped me see ways in which I can increase motivation and function like I used to thank you!
I am a 76 yr old practicing dentist who graduated #1 in my class and I still like my work, but I want to learn to play the piano and have been unable to force myself to get started on what will be a difficult journey. I think you have given me the keys I need. Thank you.
I seriously cannot believe there are ANY dislikes on this video. What you said is absolutely brilliant, and beyond helpful. You explained so perfectly, and made me feel like this is something tangible I can do for myself. God bless you!!
Absolutely loved this! I had gotten back into bed, felt like sleeping and feeling low, now I'm up, getting dressed and feeling motivated to enjoy the beautiful day that it is. Thank you 😊
This may apply perfectly to people with relatively stable feelings of self worth and confidence, however, anyone who has been abused and traumatized around achievement may understand that taking a productive action unlikely results in a reward/dopamine reaction, but instead triggers feelings of deep shame or sadness; maybe anger towards one's abusers, but that's on the good days. I can't remember the last time any of my actions resulted in a feeling of reward - most of the time I have to draw from sheer willpower and get through an extremely ugly process of inhibition, feelings of worthlessness and grief - and I know it's that way for many others, too. I don't mean to devalue the content of these videos, I know they're incredibly helpful to many people and I have learned a lot from them as well. Sometimes I just think that they oversimplify reality; or maybe rely too closely on the theoretical formula, disregarding that there are obstacles created - especially through early or chronic abuse or other forms of trauma - that can't always be bypassed or even worked through easily. It makes me feel lonely, frustrated and defective at times, watching these videos, trying to apply what they teach me and then realizing that it just doesn't work the same way for me.
The fact that I could feel my muscles in my entire face and head shift and an actual positive feeling at the first "good job!" says I definitely found the right video. I've seen it come up but I've been *that* low and overwhelmed - I couldn't bring myself to even watch the video. I'm glad I finally did. Good job me!
I had no idea I was causing myself depression. I push myself so hard everyday and I hate when people praise me for it, especially when i think I can do better. In my head I believe I am giving myself room to grow but in reality I’ve been stunting my own growth and causing misery.
As a university student with depression and humongous workload, I just want to say thank you so much for making all these videos. I should have found this video and this channel in general last school year. I was a mess. But, oh well, the past can’t be changed anyways. I hope I do better this upcoming semester. You’ve helped me greatly this past month. Thank you so so much!!
I love this! The dopamine reward makes so much sense in terms of motivating us. I follow Law of Attraction coaches who recommend changing how you feel as much as possible, and now it makes sense that if there is not a true feeling of accomplishment or reward, you end up feeling even more anxious about manifesting. That's why "rah rah" forms of motivation are not as effective because you need to actually bask in how good something feels and not just distract yourself. I really appreciate how you brought out that you can't feel motivated all the time, but you can develop habits that can motivate you more easily and more frequently. Thanks so much!
Thankyou so much Being a medical student I constantly kept thinking I'm not working hard enough and not doing enough and pushing away my hobbies for one day when I felt I had accomplished something .This felt so much better to hear that one needs to appreciate even the tiniest things and in actuality nothing is tiny.
I have recently lost my father and motivation just went down hill from there but I found this video today and already just from the video I feel motivated to try and fix my life and most importantly build myself up to be the motivated person I used to be. Thank you so much for this video.
Excellent, so true! 👌 When we had to move, my daughter suggested we pack for an hour, take a break for an hour, and repeat. We accomplished SO much knowing a break was within reach. 👍🌞
This is literally the best explanation and advice regarding motivation that I've ever found! I've been struggling and searching for answers for a while now. Everything in this video makes so much sense and is really practical. I already feel motivated! Thank you so much for all that you do and for being genuine and caring. You are truly a gift! 💛
Thank you for explaining that an object in motion stays in motion! Because of the pandemic and my ex partner, I just stopped doing… everything… and now don’t understand the lack of motivation until you explained it. I have to get moving again and I’ll naturally find my energy again! Thanks for the wisdom:)
I just wanted to let you know that just the fact of listening to you gets me into a hope state. I feel as if someone actually cares about my struggles. ❤ thank you for choosing your career 🎉May God keep blessing you!
Thank you! I just set up an "Awesome" List on my iPhone for things I've already completed. "Hey, Siri, add showered to my Awesome List." Instantly, I felt motivated. Thank you!
Excellent video! No one has told this truth before. This is so simple yet many of us don’t get it and then we get stuck in the loop of being unmotivated, unorganized and lazy. Thank you so much 🙏
My ADD has led me to begin countless "new and exciting" projects. I know that's not just an ADD thing, but for me, sustained focus has always been a challenge. Then, I look around at all these half finished projects and feel overwhelmed and depressed. I now know I've relied on the dopamine rush I get from the positive feelings and excitement by beginning something new. Your advice and demeanor in this video is a very welcome and sensible elaboration of the Action/Reward/Motivation cycle. So now...my task is to CHOOSE to override the FEELINGS of no motivation by taking ACTION FIRST. Thank you!
This is super helpful for someone like me who has ADHD and it’s very hard for me to get motivated to do the “right thing” even when I have the right amount to do that certain task. ☺️
You are an awsome awsome human being....I've had depression for many years...your videos are what kept me going through all that ...... I'm really grateful for your videos 🙏
This video came at the right time. I've been struggling with motivation the last few months and have been feeling pretty stuck. This video makes so much sense. I've been focusing too much on the feeling rather than the doing. Thank you so much for sharing!
This describes me so much! When you talked about meditation well I was on Aderall for ADHD and Xanax for anxiety all for about 14 years prescribed by doctors! I also struggle with alcohol abuse. Went to treatment almost two years ago and cut off cold turkey from my prescription meds and didn’t drink for two months. I relapsed on drinking but can’t even be on those meds anymore. I have lost interest in doing the things I love so much it drives me crazy! I swear the Adderall being taken away is part of it! My struggle with alcohol and anxiety is the other part! I wouldn’t be able to write a comment like this if I drank to the point of not being capable. Just wanted to share this for someone else who might be in my situation.
Omg this video is AMAZING!!!!! Ive been stuck for years procrastinating from doing important tasks and waiting till I get the motivation. I've watched loads of videos on TH-cam on motivation but this is by far the best one I've seen! I Love the way you simplify everything and give loads of examples, thank you very much x
Thank you! For years I was a super achiever, up until I hit 54 and a series of hospitalizations that ended my lifetime of ballet, costume design and construction, theater work, church work, etc. I had entered the world of fibromyalgia and my scoliosis, kept at bay because of strong muscles due to ballet, kicked in very quickly along with arthritis, bursitis and fibro. 10 years later, I have up to 4 hours in the morning with little pain/. I can’t stretch, walk or exercise much because of crushing pain. Bedtime is around 6 pm, although I may not sleep until after 2 am most nights. From noon on, I’m up and down, out of bed until the pain in my back subsides enough to get up once more. I have no social life or friends… it’s a battle everyday! It is really good to know the process involved in creating the dopamine response. Most of the time I’ve been beating myself up because I’m able to do so little due to physical pain. Now, thanks to you, I know how to treat myself AND to trick my body into that wonderful reward. Thank you!
This is just beyond amazing! Thank you for putting it out. I have been using the same principle from the last two years and I have cultivated so much self-trust and self-discipline within me that not following through on my word is no longer an option. It's all about CONSISTENTLY PRACTICING. After a while, our subconscious gets reprogrammed to the point that our disciplined, intentional habits become the new autopilot. Thank you for making this wonderful video! ❤️
Visualisation of the reward before the exercise event with a sense of curiosity works for me, Like seeing how much baby swans have grown at the nearby park
She talks so kindly and gently and explains things so well. It made me feel calmed down and more positive instead of dreading the load of work i have and this day that has just started lol Ah.. so this is the difference between a good therapist and just some kind person trying to help.
I keep watching this video over and over, and taking notes!!! ❤️ With the virus, most of my normal community activities have gone away, and I am an empty nester (husband still works). I need to create more of a new daily routine, (also to help with anxiety and low level depression) and this is WONDERFUL!!! So many amazing recommendations well organized and packed into 16 minutes! Thank you ❤️!
OMG 🤯 thank you so much. I am very happy to learn this! I was asking my therapist about how to improve my motivation and self esteem but never got a clear answer. You gave me the exact well explained answer I was looking for! Thanks a lot ❤️❤️❤️
Omg this was so informative and your so right . When I didn’t work and had all the time in the world I got nothing done. Now I’m bac teaching and more motivated to do things even after work. I never understood why. Interesting ty
Thanks for watching! I'm pretty sure that most americans have this idealist view of scotland as being a magical place of wonderful accents and beautiful scenery. and Unicorns. :) is it true? As a McAdam I feel like I need to visit someday soon
Like all stereotyoes, partly true indeed, aldo the 50 ways of raining;) But on a sunny day, absolutely heavenly beautifuf mounyains lakes and tbe sea, all together, As soon as freedom to travel is back, ylu are welcome, and all who read the comme ts, too!
I never thought of the idea that I am rewarding procrastination when I watch a show and putting off doing something. This video was eye opening. I also do negative self talk and need to get better about that. Thank you!
I have learned this in the past, but it never “stuck” for me. You explained it in a way that I truly GOT it! Many people in my life naturally understand this concept, but I seemed to struggle with it. After watching this video & taking notes - I think I can apply this! Thank you for breaking it down so perfectly. This truly could be life changing. 💛
This is so well explained. I am listening to it on repeat while kids are "in school" at home. Thank you so much for all you do! Your videos are priceless!
I enjoy your videos. You are highly intelligent and you take complex information and make it simple and understandable. Keep making a difference! We are listening!
I love the way you clarified the self-motivation cycle, particularly the "Action first" part, which really makes sense to me. I remember receiving the same advice but without explanation when I was a kid, that's why it had no effect on me until now. So, thank you very much for the educational clip.
Wow, I didn't know I needed this video. I never thought I had an issue with motivation, but now I know that I have been rewarding the wrong actions. So interesting... Thank you for this insightful video!
Summarizing it like that can be a little problematic too though. As someone who has struggled with motivation, that type of optimism and decisiveness always put me off. Like I didn't even want to think about the concept of motivation, or the relationship between reward and motivation. For people who don't want to think about it, thinking about having a vision, or formulating a plan can be overwhelming. That level of optimism to a pessimist is scary 😅 Like the tl:dr vibe about it just doesn't force us to research and be educated about it
WTf im searching for motivation videos for 10 years this is the completest one you're genius cant believe it thank you like everyone should see this video in their life i think this is one of the most important videos in human history in real thank you i don't know how to appreciate it this can save lives people like you should get immortal❤
I do this with exercise, small steps first to create a habit. Great information in all your videos, 😊 My reward for yoga exercises is a back that is no longer sore lol
Your advice is the best for me! Every time I watch one of your videos, I feel so much better! Suddenly I found the motivation I needed and I will shut down my computer and get things done! Thank you!!!!
Thank you for this video, Emma. It's exactly what I need right now - information about motivation and defeating procrastination (something I've struggled with for 40+ years). Love your other videos, too. Thanks so much for your contributions to helping people and making the world a better place.
Thank you for this. I have a good understanding of if you accept challenge... you will be rewarded, and knew that I needed to work to get the motivation.. but still, hearing you explain it in such a brilliant way (i.e. it's not magic - it's the brain) really helped. Thank you so much!
I am going to watch this video everyday to get myself more motivated. I consider myself the most demotivated person I know now and that has got to change.
I just noticed the cycle I was in, I was motivated in the wrong direction, I got the dopamine from social media, from just scrolling and that made me want more but it was causing me anxiety to be so dependant on my phone, I was disconnected from the things that actually make me feel fulfilled, I started again with exercise just bc I desperately wanted to get out of that rut and gosh just one action changed it all Thank you so much for your videos 💗 since I saw them I get to understand myself sm better, thatnk you for sharing your work in here, such valuable content and info
I feel like depression for me was because I did too much for other people and not enough for myself. The reasons for it also is believing people you live with aren't part of your problems. In my case people was my problem. They refuse to acknowledge your pain and you put it down deep in your body. Taking advantage of the one that gives too much of herself away. I took back my personal power with Boundaries and believing no one was coming to rescue me, I had to stand alone and learn to love myself before I released myself from depression. I choose to not get depressed again because of people dedicated to keeping me down. I love your videos. Thank you.
Thank you so much! I have really struggled to move forward for a while now and didn’t totally understand what was happening. I had always been pretty motivated and good with routine but the bottom dropped out a while back and I didn’t know why I couldn’t get back up and running. Your video helped me quickly understand what is going on internally and how to adjust. I am so excited to get going now! Thank you!!!
Hi Emma, I keep coming back to this video whenever I feel demotivated and struggling to do what I need to do. Just want to say thank you for everything you do on your channel. Lots of love, from Indonesia.
Good advice. Kinda felt overwhelmed watching this 'cause setting daily routines seems like too much for me. Hard to think about a specific time especially since i've been really drained and overwhelmed by other stuff too. But i need my creativity still, even if it's from time to time. Thank you!
Wow, thank you for the explanation on the action --> reward --> motivation On extrinsic motivation: I started smoking 5 yrs ago and know it is horrible to stop now because is the main reason why I work I'm working hard to develop intrinsic motivation, and knowing that it comes after the action makes me feel relive
Thank you. I am going to try and reset my motivation-action cycle to start with action and not motivation. The reward aspect will be difficult for me as I can be very harsh with myself. I will have to try and lighten up on self criticism.
Self talk is the key, how we verbalize our feelings and it is very easy to catastrophize and exaggerate or say the first thing that comes to mind. However I have just realized that being mindful of our words, noticing our unhealthy self-talk and working towards improving on that. Cheers👍giving ourselves positive feedback for small microwins helps to egg us in further. Tks. Excellent and very helpful video 🙏
Reward yourself after doing things you're unmotivated to do! Great point! Thank you for this! Will remember this for next time! Make sure you also share small wins! Before you know it, you'll be on top of the world! Be well and keep going! :) Love - Nat
This video has helped me tremendously. I’m newly diagnosed ADHD and even on medication, I still have trouble getting motivated. I’ve been using the tips on here for a few weeks now and I feel the most productive I’ve ever been. Just that has raised my self esteem and given me hope that I can accomplish some of my more challenging goals. I did miss a few days of my medicine and found that I was a lot less competent, so I’m learning that I do need meds, but that is not enough. The tip that helped the most is just making my bed to get the ball rolling and build up to more complex tasks. Thank you ❤
"The more you do, the more you are motivated." It's sooo true. While I was single, I studied, worked in the same time, finished law school, had two bussinesses, I was taking singing lessons, learned two foreign languages and I was all the time "on the go". Then I married and my husband prefered me to be a housewife because we moved to another country and we decided that for the moment I will stay home. In time, I lost my motivation, even if I had a lot of free time, I felt it was never enough and I didn't do almost anything. And I was asking myself..how I could do sooo much just 2 years ago and now I just feel so overwhelmed and unmotivated..and here is my answer. Because in time, doing things like cooking and cleaning (which I consider insignificant) made me loose my motivation. Now we have a bussiness together and I do have my part in it, but not as much as I would like. I just understood what happened with my motivation. Thank you!
If you feel overwhelmed by a to do list, reverse it! Some days my to do list is daunting and I just ditch it completely, start a small task and write it down when I’m done. Even small things like taking my vitamins. Instead of crossing off something, you can see what you have accomplished! Mrs Hinch calls it the Tadaa list :)
Ooh I like that!
Thank you for sharing! I'm starting my Tadaa list today :)
That's brilliant, and I'm glad you shared it on this very worthy channel! The name "Tadaa" makes all the difference. I had thought of doing such a list before, but having this name for it envisions a trumpet blast and a hand flourish, in a magician's hat, white gloves and tuxedo. I'm not a big fan of magic, but I'm a big fan of this idea! Thanks again!
@@natashamudford4011 haha yes! I feel like saying tadaa everytime I’ve done something. You described it perfectly. It’s all about the feeling you create :)
@@bw753 how did it go? :)
I am also a therapist. This video is beyond AMAZING. Your ability to clearly explain mental health concepts so anyone can understand and act to improve their lives is a gift. Thank you for sharing you knowledge and gift with this community! 😊
Thanks Laura 😀
you are so right Emma you are truly wonderful
Absolutely
She’s the best out there! On TH-cam and in real life ;)
Well said, my sentiments exactly! She is the best!
My business coach does a "Brain Dump" every day first thing when she gets to her office. Dumps everything out on the paper. Absolutely everything, even if it has nothing to do with work. Then she gets a coffee, takes a few minutes, then goes through that list and picks out only the things that are most important as the days' "to do list'. After she gets even some of it done she takes another break, rewards herself somehow, and begins again. She said she feels great all day and rarely feels overwhelmed. Especially if she gets the things she doesn't like doing done first. Then the rest of the day is a bonus. I like it.
I like it, too! I used to be on top of things, then came TH-cam.....
and my home went to hell in a hand basket. SO much to do to get that order back I do long for.
I like your bosse's approach, and am gonna give it a shot!
Thanks for sharing! Great ideas from her. Be sure to tell her you shared here + I said thank you (even though she didn't know lol).
@@c.j.9141 - How's it going?
“I’ll just watch TH-cam videos until I feel motivated!” I feel attacked and seen at the same time 😂😂
i do the same thing sometimes!
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Also guilty, and lying in bed while doing it!
Me right now ! In bed watching and also looking at weight loss videos!
Me too😂
Summary of the video in six points - how to stay motivated:
1. Action doesn't follow motivation; motivation follows action. Want to do that one thing? Don't wait for motivation. Just go do it!
2. Take a moment to write down your values. Remind yourself what the purpose of your life may be. That can drive you to do things.
3. Track your accomplishments. Create a way to keep track of what you've achieved so you always remember that you're accomplishing tasks.
4. Reward yourself before a task. E.g., thinking how good you'll feel once a task is over is one way of rewarding yourself before a task.
5. Don't reward yourself for bad behaviour. If you're procrastinating and start doing something fun instead of doing what you're supposed to, you're rewarding yourself for bad behaviour. Use boredom as a motivator if you must.
6. Stop beating yourself up. It's bad for you in the short and long term.
Bonus: when you've achieved a task, regardless of how small it may be, celebrate it. Give yourself credit. Release the dopamine to let your mind know "this was good! Let's do more."
Thank you❤
Thank youuuu
I love people like you, thank you 🖤😊🥰🫂☯️
Thank you ❤
Guilty of “waiting to become motivated” to begin my tasks, which is repeating my anxiety cycles.
Didn’t realize this.
Today, I pushed myself to do my tasks then I became motivated to do more. It WORKED. I had a really productive day.
So Awesome!!
So awesome! What a great win that was for you!! The more you do that, you are now self-motivated! Remember to celebrate small wins during your journey! You're awesome! :)
Amazing, thank you so much xxxx
How's it going?
I’m 62 and I’ve had anxiety, depression, fear, and motivational issues my whole life. All of your information is great and I could listen to you all day long but that’s not getting me off the couch. I’ll finish this video and then I’ll go make the bed and find something else that needs doing. Then I’ll make one of my rewards to watch another of your videos.
Did menopause make it worse
@@MISST1971 yes menopause makes it worse. Watch Mary Clair Haver
When u said „good work u are trying to get better“ I cried. This video is exactly what I needed
@@dasdwdw when I saw this comment I didn’t expect it to hit that hard when when she said that I actually cried
Omgoodness! Knew that criticism was a motivation killer!!
Love the little positive step in - toward another! Build on progress not perfection!!
Same
Don’t cry - Smile
“The more you do, the more you are motivated.”
This shook me.
I’ve lost a lot of motivation, and this is what I needed to hear. I’m gonna also take some other tips here like marking the stupid little boxes in a tracker, and imagine how I feel once I reach my goals.
It sounds so silly, but I do genuinely feel good when I complete the tasks I’ve put off for a bit.
This sounds so simple in theory but just being talked through it really made me realise how much I rely on bursts of motivation and how I reward my procrastination all the time
And remember, when you feel like procrastinating, put it off! Seriously though, I've been depressed for 40 years. I think she just showed me why. I'm in shock. 12 therapists and thousands of dollars, when what I really needed may have been this one video.
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I know rite!!!!
Me too. All my life being told “finishing that task is it’s own reward” meant nothing to me, and now I understand why. This is life- changing.
am i the only one who takes notes while watching these videos?
so helpful as always:)
awesome! if you are willing to learn the skills, your life will get better :)
I am right there with you... Jumped up to get a pen and paper!
I am always do but it is only helpfull when you apply it in reality.
And when you start applying it, other factors of your life start telling that your paper notes are just a hypothesis
Yes! I have a document on my pc with links to the videos and a short summary. I write what she says and how this works/affects me. So when she gives examples I write what my situation is. This works wonders!
I am watching it on repeat.
Making supper, esp. a bigger supper used to be a daunting task that I would put off until I was starved, or just pick instead and not eat a decent meal. I had a friend who did a genius thing that helped so much. She would slowly get her utensils and ingredients out. Then she'd start cutting or prepping things. When the cooking part came, it was a lot less to do than starting it all from scratch. I've done it every since.
That’s how I empty the dishwasher! “I will just empty the top rack while the coffee brews.” I can empty that silverware basket before this commercial is over!
My mother's advice when I was 10 years old in 1963: "if you have to do something, learn to enjoy it." Learning to find joy in everything you do motivates you to move on to the next task. I love calisthenics, exercising 3 hours a day, sometimes only an hour, and when I start sometimes I'm too exhausted to continue. But after a few short exercises, dopamine kicks in and motivates me to do even more. Dopamine also kicks in when I see people who smoke, drink in excess, exhibit road rage, and give myself a pat on the back for not having any self-destructive vices (intrinsic Rewards).
Thank you for your helpful video!!
How to stay motivated:
1. Write down your values!
2. Track your accomplishment!
3. Reward yourself before the task!
4. Stop rewarding bad behavior!
5. Stop negative self-talk!
I love u, u guys can do it, make it and conquer it!!
Hi Emma, I found you when I was in the lowest point of my life. You have helped me alot. I can't thank you enough for putting out those videos for us. I pray for you and your family's good health,joy,happiness.
Thank you Anxina, God Bless You!
Thank you very helpful
I'm gonna try your plan
i've been struggling with lack of motivation for 14 years. I've had bouts of depression, taken anti-depressants, tried CBT and other therapy, none of which helped me in any way to get motivated - watching 2 of Emma's motivation videos has had more impact than any of that. Emma, you are TOTALLY AMAZING! And I will be watching more of your videos, you hit the nail on the head every time, you explain things so clearly, you give such do-able advice and recommendations that are having such an incredible impact on my life. THANK YOU!
Thank you for posting this video. I never noticed that my upbringing destroyed any motivation in me by believiing that if I failed it was all my fault, but if I succeeded it was because someone, or something else was the reason for me achieving it. There was never a reward for me accomplishing anything, just guilt and shame. Now I understand that I was never lazy (like they said) I was afraid. As usual, your posts are helping me grow and become the person I desire to be.
You just helped me realize I use fear to motivate myself to do well in school. I was actually raised in a fearful manner where I was exposed to lots of parental threats and emotional abuse to where I basically didn't say anything and hid a lot of my problems and stress. It's like I'm reconstructing that for myself now. Thanks for this, it really helped me take a step in understanding myself today. Now to apply my new understanding: the fun part. 🙂
Ditto. Resulted in trauma from childhood. As an adult, it's as if I'm re-learning life from scratch from teaching myself healthy values & actions that I would teach my child one day if I want to raise them in a proactive, supportive home.
Wow I gotta say you said it in such a interesting manner actually I was and being raised in a fearful manner where its all about society and literally not about us... but now iam learning a new job and making money 💰 🙂♥️
I am the exact same way! I realized recently that I have NEVER been able to self-motivate without a looming deadline, leading to extreme procrastination and a LOT of anxiety. I'm trying to break out of that and just, being kind to myself
@@na3rial isn't that ADHD ? Me too Relearning life
Wow, you saying that made me realize that I also used fear to ensure I was successful in what I valued. When I recently began the transition to adult hood and college, I just balled up and allowed my stress to take over. In a way, the fear that was induced throughout child hood motivated me. Now I have to rewire my brain to gain motivation without a negative driving force
I've been struggling with chronic procrastination all my life, I suspect I am an undiagnosed Adult ADHD. Your videos are sensational Emma. I've spent years in counselling hoping to be given a model of good mental health. Your simple yet profound words are transformative to me. What a gift to the world. What a legacy you leave. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :))
I am sorry you had such bad counselling, that they weren't competent or willing to engae to get you helped!. That has been my own experience too, I have lost my life to rubbish and wish I had listened to my disturbed mother who happened to be right about most psychologists etc.Why does no-one do like memma and others online? I think they withhold us knowledge in order to keeo us coming and giving out a lot of money for years. They don't want us to get well as quickly as we could, confirmed also by former therapist Daniel Mackler (Has a YT video on why he stopped being one, it helps at least lifting the fear that it was my fault not egtting help.)Do the 12 steps programs instead?
This is the same skill I was taught regarding my depression. You can’t wait until you feel better to do something, you have to do something in order to feel better. It’s helped me so much!
Hello Emma, I am so glad I found you! Since adolescence I have lived every day as if it were my last. What motivated me was my 6th grade teacher who I overheard telling my parents I won't do much past the 6th grade. I didn't get sad. I got mad. Now I am a very senior citizen who was a dynamic individual12 years ago. In spite of graduate degrees, knowledge of 5 languages, studying art and music, living in Europe, teaching graduates, young adults and children along with many more reinventions of myself, I am finding difficulty revisiting those accomplishments that made me happy. I write you now with anxiety, depression, and the stress that comes with caring for a loved one who is ill. You have provided me with some sensible and convincing strategies to try and find myself again. Thank you very much.
Thanks for sharing. I too inherited the care of an older sibling. It is my excuse for not excelling or setting goals for myself. I hope this video will help me take back my joy and self care.
Building Intrinsic Motivation
1. Take down a moment to write down your values
2. Track your accomplishments
3. Reward yourself before the task
4. Stop rewarding bad behavior
5. Stop the negative Self talk
+ Thank you very much Ms. Emma for this wonderful video.
I find it hard to really move on from past lost and it's been quite a while that I've been stuck at the bottom of the pit,
but I believe God graced us life to live for His purpose and I'm trying to embrace and stay with this truth.
I don't want to pity myself for the mistakes I have done, sometimes life lessons are learned best with hard truths.
I tend to be a people pleaser and most of the time I find it hard to face the truth on myself.
I don't want to justify anymore my desolations and yeah, little by little, with one step at a time,
I'll try and make it happen to live life courageously to be able to fully live it.
Thank you so much again for your sense of mission and may God always bless you, your family and your work.
May you be able to help and reach out more people from different walks of life that need to build up this good habit.
You had me at "You watched this instead of a cat video." 🥰👍🤩💯👏 I told myself "SO true!" Thank you!
Sometimes you come across a video that makes so much sense and can literally change your life. I’m so glad I came across this one. It’s amazing!
I found this channel after praying for help. You are a God send gift to my life. Thank you God. Thank you Emma ✝️❤️!
I need to exercise today.
I went on TH-cam to watch a bunch of rah rah type videos and somehow came across this and this was just better.
Thanks
I can’t explain how grateful I am for you. I used to go to therapy but one day she called me and said they are pausing their practices because of Covid and when they resumed they didn’t even contact me or try to work over the phone. I trusted the therapist and I told myself I’d never go to one again. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I’ve been struggling with depression, adhd and ocd for so long and when I get in a rut it’s so hard to get out. This is my longest one by far been almost 1.8 years but your video has helped me see ways in which I can increase motivation and function like I used to thank you!
We love you Emma, you are a real life-saver! Hope you and your family will have a content year ahead!
Thanks Shabna! I hope you have a wonderful year ahead too!
I am a 76 yr old practicing dentist who graduated #1 in my class and I still like my work, but I want to learn to play the piano and have been unable to force myself to get started on what will be a difficult journey. I think you have given me the keys I need. Thank you.
I seriously cannot believe there are ANY dislikes on this video. What you said is absolutely brilliant, and beyond helpful. You explained so perfectly, and made me feel like this is something tangible I can do for myself. God bless you!!
Thank you, after procrastinating for months watching useless videos, I finally found this. Your a gem 🙏
Absolutely loved this! I had gotten back into bed, felt like sleeping and feeling low, now I'm up, getting dressed and feeling motivated to enjoy the beautiful day that it is. Thank you 😊
This may apply perfectly to people with relatively stable feelings of self worth and confidence, however, anyone who has been abused and traumatized around achievement may understand that taking a productive action unlikely results in a reward/dopamine reaction, but instead triggers feelings of deep shame or sadness; maybe anger towards one's abusers, but that's on the good days. I can't remember the last time any of my actions resulted in a feeling of reward - most of the time I have to draw from sheer willpower and get through an extremely ugly process of inhibition, feelings of worthlessness and grief - and I know it's that way for many others, too.
I don't mean to devalue the content of these videos, I know they're incredibly helpful to many people and I have learned a lot from them as well. Sometimes I just think that they oversimplify reality; or maybe rely too closely on the theoretical formula, disregarding that there are obstacles created - especially through early or chronic abuse or other forms of trauma - that can't always be bypassed or even worked through easily. It makes me feel lonely, frustrated and defective at times, watching these videos, trying to apply what they teach me and then realizing that it just doesn't work the same way for me.
The fact that I could feel my muscles in my entire face and head shift and an actual positive feeling at the first "good job!" says I definitely found the right video. I've seen it come up but I've been *that* low and overwhelmed - I couldn't bring myself to even watch the video. I'm glad I finally did. Good job me!
God bless you, Emma McAdam. You're light when life gets dark.
I had no idea I was causing myself depression. I push myself so hard everyday and I hate when people praise me for it, especially when i think I can do better. In my head I believe I am giving myself room to grow but in reality I’ve been stunting my own growth and causing misery.
As a university student with depression and humongous workload, I just want to say thank you so much for making all these videos. I should have found this video and this channel in general last school year. I was a mess. But, oh well, the past can’t be changed anyways. I hope I do better this upcoming semester. You’ve helped me greatly this past month. Thank you so so much!!
You recognized your problem and found the help you need. Both of with God's help will be successful. One day at a time.
I love this! The dopamine reward makes so much sense in terms of motivating us. I follow Law of Attraction coaches who recommend changing how you feel as much as possible, and now it makes sense that if there is not a true feeling of accomplishment or reward, you end up feeling even more anxious about manifesting. That's why "rah rah" forms of motivation are not as effective because you need to actually bask in how good something feels and not just distract yourself. I really appreciate how you brought out that you can't feel motivated all the time, but you can develop habits that can motivate you more easily and more frequently. Thanks so much!
yeah! thanks for the comment!
Excellent, I’ve been stuck in bed/ sofa for 3 days and watching this video has just inspired me to finish the dishwasher task. Thank you 🙏
Thankyou so much
Being a medical student I constantly kept thinking I'm not working hard enough and not doing enough and pushing away my hobbies for one day when I felt I had accomplished something .This felt so much better to hear that one needs to appreciate even the tiniest things and in actuality nothing is tiny.
I have recently lost my father and motivation just went down hill from there but I found this video today and already just from the video I feel motivated to try and fix my life and most importantly build myself up to be the motivated person I used to be. Thank you so much for this video.
What do you want to be doing with your one wild and precious life? I love that poem. God bless you Emma
Excellent, so true! 👌 When we had to move, my daughter suggested we pack for an hour, take a break for an hour, and repeat. We accomplished SO much knowing a break was within reach. 👍🌞
This is literally the best explanation and advice regarding motivation that I've ever found! I've been struggling and searching for answers for a while now. Everything in this video makes so much sense and is really practical. I already feel motivated! Thank you so much for all that you do and for being genuine and caring. You are truly a gift! 💛
Thank you for explaining that an object in motion stays in motion! Because of the pandemic and my ex partner, I just stopped doing… everything… and now don’t understand the lack of motivation until you explained it. I have to get moving again and I’ll naturally find my energy again! Thanks for the wisdom:)
I just wanted to let you know that just the fact of listening to you gets me into a hope state. I feel as if someone actually cares about my struggles. ❤ thank you for choosing your career 🎉May God keep blessing you!
Thank you! I just set up an "Awesome" List on my iPhone for things I've already completed. "Hey, Siri, add showered to my Awesome List." Instantly, I felt motivated. Thank you!
Excellent video! No one has told this truth before. This is so simple yet many of us don’t get it and then we get stuck in the loop of being unmotivated, unorganized and lazy. Thank you so much 🙏
Hands down the best video I saw on youtube related to mental health.
My ADD has led me to begin countless "new and exciting" projects. I know that's not just an ADD thing, but for me, sustained focus has always been a challenge. Then, I look around at all these half finished projects and feel overwhelmed and depressed. I now know I've relied on the dopamine rush I get from the positive feelings and excitement by beginning something new. Your advice and demeanor in this video is a very welcome and sensible elaboration of the Action/Reward/Motivation cycle. So now...my task is to CHOOSE to override the FEELINGS of no motivation by taking ACTION FIRST. Thank you!
This is super helpful for someone like me who has ADHD and it’s very hard for me to get motivated to do the “right thing” even when I have the right amount to do that certain task. ☺️
You are an awsome awsome human being....I've had depression for many years...your videos are what kept me going through all that ...... I'm really grateful for your videos 🙏
This video came at the right time. I've been struggling with motivation the last few months and have been feeling pretty stuck. This video makes so much sense. I've been focusing too much on the feeling rather than the doing. Thank you so much for sharing!
This describes me so much! When you talked about meditation well I was on Aderall for ADHD and Xanax for anxiety all for about 14 years prescribed by doctors! I also struggle with alcohol abuse. Went to treatment almost two years ago and cut off cold turkey from my prescription meds and didn’t drink for two months. I relapsed on drinking but can’t even be on those meds anymore. I have lost interest in doing the things I love so much it drives me crazy! I swear the Adderall being taken away is part of it! My struggle with alcohol and anxiety is the other part! I wouldn’t be able to write a comment like this if I drank to the point of not being capable. Just wanted to share this for someone else who might be in my situation.
Omg this video is AMAZING!!!!! Ive been stuck for years procrastinating from doing important tasks and waiting till I get the motivation. I've watched loads of videos on TH-cam on motivation but this is by far the best one I've seen! I Love the way you simplify everything and give loads of examples, thank you very much x
Thank you! For years I was a super achiever, up until I hit 54 and a series of hospitalizations that ended my lifetime of ballet, costume design and construction, theater work, church work, etc. I had entered the world of fibromyalgia and my scoliosis, kept at bay because of strong muscles due to ballet, kicked in very quickly along with arthritis, bursitis and fibro. 10 years later, I have up to 4 hours in the morning with little pain/. I can’t stretch, walk or exercise much because of crushing pain. Bedtime is around 6 pm, although I may not sleep until after 2 am most nights. From noon on, I’m up and down, out of bed until the pain in my back subsides enough to get up once more. I have no social life or friends… it’s a battle everyday! It is really good to know the process involved in creating the dopamine response. Most of the time I’ve been beating myself up because I’m able to do so little due to physical pain. Now, thanks to you, I know how to treat myself AND to trick my body into that wonderful reward. Thank you!
This is just beyond amazing! Thank you for putting it out. I have been using the same principle from the last two years and I have cultivated so much self-trust and self-discipline within me that not following through on my word is no longer an option. It's all about CONSISTENTLY PRACTICING. After a while, our subconscious gets reprogrammed to the point that our disciplined, intentional habits become the new autopilot. Thank you for making this wonderful video! ❤️
Visualisation of the reward before the exercise event with a sense of curiosity works for me, Like seeing how much baby swans have grown at the nearby park
You seem like such a kind person thank you for your motivating videos..
thank you :)
She talks so kindly and gently and explains things so well. It made me feel calmed down and more positive instead of dreading the load of work i have and this day that has just started lol Ah.. so this is the difference between a good therapist and just some kind person trying to help.
Your friend is not the only student having trouble with motivation these days. I'm going to share this with my teens!
I keep watching this video over and over, and taking notes!!! ❤️ With the virus, most of my normal community activities have gone away, and I am an empty nester (husband still works). I need to create more of a new daily routine, (also to help with anxiety and low level depression) and this is WONDERFUL!!! So many amazing recommendations well organized and packed into 16 minutes! Thank you ❤️!
Besides the great content, the sound of your voice with the “g” in the end of the verbs is extremely comforting to me ❤
OMG 🤯 thank you so much. I am very happy to learn this! I was asking my therapist about how to improve my motivation and self esteem but never got a clear answer. You gave me the exact well explained answer I was looking for! Thanks a lot ❤️❤️❤️
Omg this was so informative and your so right . When I didn’t work and had all the time in the world I got nothing done. Now I’m bac teaching and more motivated to do things even after work. I never understood why. Interesting ty
Thank you.
i like "The more you do the more motivated you are"
Greetings from Scotland!
Thanks for watching! I'm pretty sure that most americans have this idealist view of scotland as being a magical place of wonderful accents and beautiful scenery. and Unicorns. :) is it true? As a McAdam I feel like I need to visit someday soon
Like all stereotyoes, partly true indeed, aldo the 50 ways of raining;)
But on a sunny day, absolutely heavenly beautifuf mounyains lakes and tbe sea, all together,
As soon as freedom to travel is back, ylu are welcome, and all who read the comme ts, too!
I never thought of the idea that I am rewarding procrastination when I watch a show and putting off doing something. This video was eye opening. I also do negative self talk and need to get better about that. Thank you!
I have learned this in the past, but it never “stuck” for me. You explained it in a way that I truly GOT it! Many people in my life naturally understand this concept, but I seemed to struggle with it. After watching this video & taking notes - I think I can apply this! Thank you for breaking it down so perfectly. This truly could be life changing. 💛
Awesome video! I'm a therapist and I'm grateful for your videos - how they help me help my clients! And myself!
This is so well explained. I am listening to it on repeat while kids are "in school" at home. Thank you so much for all you do! Your videos are priceless!
I enjoy your videos. You are highly intelligent and you take complex information and make it simple and understandable. Keep making a difference! We are listening!
I love the way you clarified the self-motivation cycle, particularly the "Action first" part, which really makes sense to me. I remember receiving the same advice but without explanation when I was a kid, that's why it had no effect on me until now.
So, thank you very much for the educational clip.
Wow, I didn't know I needed this video. I never thought I had an issue with motivation, but now I know that I have been rewarding the wrong actions. So interesting... Thank you for this insightful video!
Have a vision, have a plan, and make steps everyday 💪🏽
Summarizing it like that can be a little problematic too though. As someone who has struggled with motivation, that type of optimism and decisiveness always put me off. Like I didn't even want to think about the concept of motivation, or the relationship between reward and motivation. For people who don't want to think about it, thinking about having a vision, or formulating a plan can be overwhelming. That level of optimism to a pessimist is scary 😅
Like the tl:dr vibe about it just doesn't force us to research and be educated about it
@@asma-pc1og It's good knowing people out there actually think in line with what is realistic.
@@asma-pc1og What is tl:dr?
@@natashamudford4011 Too long, didn't read.
WTf im searching for motivation videos for 10 years this is the completest one you're genius cant believe it thank you like everyone should see this video in their life i think this is one of the most important videos in human history in real thank you i don't know how to appreciate it this can save lives people like you should get immortal❤
Thanks Emma I'm glad I found you I'm living on an island so it's hard for me to access this info. I'm going through a lot of stuff so thanks alot
Glad it was helpful!
This is gold! I've shared out to so many people.
I do this with exercise, small steps first to create a habit. Great information in all your videos, 😊 My reward for yoga exercises is a back that is no longer sore lol
Your advice is the best for me! Every time I watch one of your videos, I feel so much better! Suddenly I found the motivation I needed and I will shut down my computer and get things done! Thank you!!!!
Thank you for this video, Emma. It's exactly what I need right now - information about motivation and defeating procrastination (something I've struggled with for 40+ years). Love your other videos, too. Thanks so much for your contributions to helping people and making the world a better place.
Thank you Bruce!
Thank you for this. I have a good understanding of if you accept challenge... you will be rewarded, and knew that I needed to work to get the motivation.. but still, hearing you explain it in such a brilliant way (i.e. it's not magic - it's the brain) really helped. Thank you so much!
This might be the most impactful video on my life that i have ever seen. Thank you so much! So much! 😭❤️
I often use listening to you
as a doing something,
then find myself rewarding with
doing something else.
When
I agree with you
I feel smart.
I am going to watch this video everyday to get myself more motivated. I consider myself the most demotivated person I know now and that has got to change.
I just noticed the cycle I was in, I was motivated in the wrong direction, I got the dopamine from social media, from just scrolling and that made me want more but it was causing me anxiety to be so dependant on my phone, I was disconnected from the things that actually make me feel fulfilled, I started again with exercise just bc I desperately wanted to get out of that rut and gosh just one action changed it all
Thank you so much for your videos 💗 since I saw them I get to understand myself sm better, thatnk you for sharing your work in here, such valuable content and info
Your an amazing speaker on these topics. You can feel the sympathetic tone in your voice.
I feel like depression for me was because I did too much for other people and not enough for myself. The reasons for it also is believing people you live with aren't part of your problems.
In my case people was my problem. They refuse to acknowledge your pain and you put it down deep in your body.
Taking advantage of the one that gives too much of herself away.
I took back my personal power with Boundaries and believing no one was coming to rescue me, I had to stand alone and learn to love myself before I released myself from depression.
I choose to not get depressed again because of people dedicated to keeping me down. I love your videos. Thank you.
Thank you so much! I have really struggled to move forward for a while now and didn’t totally understand what was happening. I had always been pretty motivated and good with routine but the bottom dropped out a while back and I didn’t know why I couldn’t get back up and running. Your video helped me quickly understand what is going on internally and how to adjust. I am so excited to get going now! Thank you!!!
Hi Emma, I keep coming back to this video whenever I feel demotivated and struggling to do what I need to do. Just want to say thank you for everything you do on your channel. Lots of love, from Indonesia.
Good advice. Kinda felt overwhelmed watching this 'cause setting daily routines seems like too much for me. Hard to think about a specific time especially since i've been really drained and overwhelmed by other stuff too. But i need my creativity still, even if it's from time to time. Thank you!
Wow, thank you for the explanation on the action --> reward --> motivation
On extrinsic motivation: I started smoking 5 yrs ago and know it is horrible to stop now because is the main reason why I work
I'm working hard to develop intrinsic motivation, and knowing that it comes after the action makes me feel relive
Thank you. I am going to try and reset my motivation-action cycle to start with action and not motivation. The reward aspect will be difficult for me as I can be very harsh with myself. I will have to try and lighten up on self criticism.
I think every time I watch Emma’s videos I just smile. She is just so great and helpful.
I love this!!!
I thought I had lost it.The motivation.
I'll move towards this as much as I can.
Thank you for the hope!!!
This is so amazing!!!!!
Self talk is the key, how we verbalize our feelings and it is very easy to catastrophize and exaggerate or say the first thing that comes to mind. However I have just realized that being mindful of our words, noticing our unhealthy self-talk and working towards improving on that. Cheers👍giving ourselves positive feedback for small microwins helps to egg us in further. Tks. Excellent and very helpful video 🙏
Just what I needed. Thx! I’m going to start my tasks even though I’m not motivated. And reward myself. Here I go! Seriously! Happy new year!
Reward yourself after doing things you're unmotivated to do! Great point! Thank you for this! Will remember this for next time! Make sure you also share small wins! Before you know it, you'll be on top of the world! Be well and keep going! :) Love - Nat
This video has helped me tremendously. I’m newly diagnosed ADHD and even on medication, I still have trouble getting motivated. I’ve been using the tips on here for a few weeks now and I feel the most productive I’ve ever been. Just that has raised my self esteem and given me hope that I can accomplish some of my more challenging goals. I did miss a few days of my medicine and found that I was a lot less competent, so I’m learning that I do need meds, but that is not enough. The tip that helped the most is just making my bed to get the ball rolling and build up to more complex tasks. Thank you ❤
I’ve been struggling w motivation. This was so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I really enjoy all of your videos. Bless you.
"The more you do, the more you are motivated." It's sooo true. While I was single, I studied, worked in the same time, finished law school, had two bussinesses, I was taking singing lessons, learned two foreign languages and I was all the time "on the go". Then I married and my husband prefered me to be a housewife because we moved to another country and we decided that for the moment I will stay home. In time, I lost my motivation, even if I had a lot of free time, I felt it was never enough and I didn't do almost anything. And I was asking myself..how I could do sooo much just 2 years ago and now I just feel so overwhelmed and unmotivated..and here is my answer. Because in time, doing things like cooking and cleaning (which I consider insignificant) made me loose my motivation. Now we have a bussiness together and I do have my part in it, but not as much as I would like. I just understood what happened with my motivation. Thank you!