How to Get Motivated and Stay Motivated

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    Knowing how to get motivated is really important.
    How to stay motivated is even more important.
    There are tons of videos teaching tips and tricks and rah rah motivation, but in this video I’m going to teach you how your brain works so you understand the principle behind how to get motivated and how to stay motivated. You’re going to learn how dopamine, the neurotransmitter of reward and motivation, works in your brain, and four simple things you can do to get motivated and stay that way.
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    I’m Emma McAdam. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and I have worked in various settings of change and growth since 2004. My experience includes juvenile corrections, adventure therapy programs, wilderness therapy programs, an eating disorder treatment center, a residential treatment center, and I currently work in an outpatient therapy clinic.
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  • @brigittegroenendijk2124
    @brigittegroenendijk2124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1365

    If you feel overwhelmed by a to do list, reverse it! Some days my to do list is daunting and I just ditch it completely, start a small task and write it down when I’m done. Even small things like taking my vitamins. Instead of crossing off something, you can see what you have accomplished! Mrs Hinch calls it the Tadaa list :)

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      Ooh I like that!

    • @bw753
      @bw753 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Thank you for sharing! I'm starting my Tadaa list today :)

    • @natashamudford4011
      @natashamudford4011 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      That's brilliant, and I'm glad you shared it on this very worthy channel! The name "Tadaa" makes all the difference. I had thought of doing such a list before, but having this name for it envisions a trumpet blast and a hand flourish, in a magician's hat, white gloves and tuxedo. I'm not a big fan of magic, but I'm a big fan of this idea! Thanks again!

    • @brigittegroenendijk2124
      @brigittegroenendijk2124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@natashamudford4011 haha yes! I feel like saying tadaa everytime I’ve done something. You described it perfectly. It’s all about the feeling you create :)

    • @brigittegroenendijk2124
      @brigittegroenendijk2124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@bw753 how did it go? :)

  • @laurabeaudry3905
    @laurabeaudry3905 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1041

    I am also a therapist. This video is beyond AMAZING. Your ability to clearly explain mental health concepts so anyone can understand and act to improve their lives is a gift. Thank you for sharing you knowledge and gift with this community! 😊

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Thanks Laura 😀

    • @xokochamciexo
      @xokochamciexo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      you are so right Emma you are truly wonderful

    • @lisatai8482
      @lisatai8482 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Absolutely

    • @CBReptiles1
      @CBReptiles1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She’s the best out there! On TH-cam and in real life ;)

    • @joannesimmons3700
      @joannesimmons3700 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Well said, my sentiments exactly! She is the best!

  • @MzShonuff123
    @MzShonuff123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +308

    “I’ll just watch TH-cam videos until I feel motivated!” I feel attacked and seen at the same time 😂😂

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      i do the same thing sometimes!

    • @mariamalhotra8228
      @mariamalhotra8228 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      😄

    • @ReggieLouise
      @ReggieLouise ปีที่แล้ว

      Also guilty, and lying in bed while doing it!

    • @jennydawson1281
      @jennydawson1281 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me right now ! In bed watching and also looking at weight loss videos!

    • @Butterfly_lyf
      @Butterfly_lyf 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too😂

  • @AshTries24
    @AshTries24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +479

    Guilty of “waiting to become motivated” to begin my tasks, which is repeating my anxiety cycles.
    Didn’t realize this.
    Today, I pushed myself to do my tasks then I became motivated to do more. It WORKED. I had a really productive day.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      So Awesome!!

    • @NathalieLazo
      @NathalieLazo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      So awesome! What a great win that was for you!! The more you do that, you are now self-motivated! Remember to celebrate small wins during your journey! You're awesome! :)

    • @emmawakeham2273
      @emmawakeham2273 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Amazing, thank you so much xxxx

  • @chiragshukla3910
    @chiragshukla3910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    Summary of the video in six points - how to stay motivated:
    1. Action doesn't follow motivation; motivation follows action. Want to do that one thing? Don't wait for motivation. Just go do it!
    2. Take a moment to write down your values. Remind yourself what the purpose of your life may be. That can drive you to do things.
    3. Track your accomplishments. Create a way to keep track of what you've achieved so you always remember that you're accomplishing tasks.
    4. Reward yourself before a task. E.g., thinking how good you'll feel once a task is over is one way of rewarding yourself before a task.
    5. Don't reward yourself for bad behaviour. If you're procrastinating and start doing something fun instead of doing what you're supposed to, you're rewarding yourself for bad behaviour. Use boredom as a motivator if you must.
    6. Stop beating yourself up. It's bad for you in the short and long term.
    Bonus: when you've achieved a task, regardless of how small it may be, celebrate it. Give yourself credit. Release the dopamine to let your mind know "this was good! Let's do more."

  • @rkndmr7324
    @rkndmr7324 3 ปีที่แล้ว +365

    When u said „good work u are trying to get better“ I cried. This video is exactly what I needed

    • @apex_blue
      @apex_blue 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@dasdwdw when I saw this comment I didn’t expect it to hit that hard when when she said that I actually cried

    • @louisewolfe8442
      @louisewolfe8442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Omgoodness! Knew that criticism was a motivation killer!!
      Love the little positive step in - toward another! Build on progress not perfection!!

    • @majesticwonder
      @majesticwonder ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @dumpsterfire6351
      @dumpsterfire6351 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don’t cry - Smile

  • @khorshidbanoo1158
    @khorshidbanoo1158 3 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    am i the only one who takes notes while watching these videos?
    so helpful as always:)

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      awesome! if you are willing to learn the skills, your life will get better :)

    • @luckygardeniasdashboardcon9214
      @luckygardeniasdashboardcon9214 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I am right there with you... Jumped up to get a pen and paper!

    • @sadiquereyaj2086
      @sadiquereyaj2086 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I am always do but it is only helpfull when you apply it in reality.
      And when you start applying it, other factors of your life start telling that your paper notes are just a hypothesis

    • @brigittegroenendijk2124
      @brigittegroenendijk2124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yes! I have a document on my pc with links to the videos and a short summary. I write what she says and how this works/affects me. So when she gives examples I write what my situation is. This works wonders!

    • @zoemilinkovic
      @zoemilinkovic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am watching it on repeat.

  • @lylyluvda916
    @lylyluvda916 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    “The more you do, the more you are motivated.”
    This shook me.
    I’ve lost a lot of motivation, and this is what I needed to hear. I’m gonna also take some other tips here like marking the stupid little boxes in a tracker, and imagine how I feel once I reach my goals.
    It sounds so silly, but I do genuinely feel good when I complete the tasks I’ve put off for a bit.

  • @mcitheaterclass537
    @mcitheaterclass537 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    And remember, when you feel like procrastinating, put it off! Seriously though, I've been depressed for 40 years. I think she just showed me why. I'm in shock. 12 therapists and thousands of dollars, when what I really needed may have been this one video.

    • @manumaman3339
      @manumaman3339 ปีที่แล้ว

      👍👍

    • @majesticwonder
      @majesticwonder ปีที่แล้ว

      I know rite!!!!

    • @cakevictim
      @cakevictim ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too. All my life being told “finishing that task is it’s own reward” meant nothing to me, and now I understand why. This is life- changing.

  • @stephenrice4208
    @stephenrice4208 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’m 62 and I’ve had anxiety, depression, fear, and motivational issues my whole life. All of your information is great and I could listen to you all day long but that’s not getting me off the couch. I’ll finish this video and then I’ll go make the bed and find something else that needs doing. Then I’ll make one of my rewards to watch another of your videos.

  • @TrangNguyen-si9kz
    @TrangNguyen-si9kz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Thank you for your helpful video!!
    How to stay motivated:
    1. Write down your values!
    2. Track your accomplishment!
    3. Reward yourself before the task!
    4. Stop rewarding bad behavior!
    5. Stop negative self-talk!
    I love u, u guys can do it, make it and conquer it!!

  • @pmbluemoon
    @pmbluemoon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You had me at "You watched this instead of a cat video." 🥰👍🤩💯👏 I told myself "SO true!" Thank you!

  • @donaldrose7962
    @donaldrose7962 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My mother's advice when I was 10 years old in 1963: "if you have to do something, learn to enjoy it." Learning to find joy in everything you do motivates you to move on to the next task. I love calisthenics, exercising 3 hours a day, sometimes only an hour, and when I start sometimes I'm too exhausted to continue. But after a few short exercises, dopamine kicks in and motivates me to do even more. Dopamine also kicks in when I see people who smoke, drink in excess, exhibit road rage, and give myself a pat on the back for not having any self-destructive vices (intrinsic Rewards).

  • @minupuningkotin
    @minupuningkotin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    Hi Emma, I found you when I was in the lowest point of my life. You have helped me alot. I can't thank you enough for putting out those videos for us. I pray for you and your family's good health,joy,happiness.

  • @wheinemail
    @wheinemail 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I’m a psychology minor and have never watched a video that was so effective in laying out how motivation works from a truly biological perspective. This is a fantastic video that everybody in the world should be required to watch!

  • @Yosetime
    @Yosetime 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My business coach does a "Brain Dump" every day first thing when she gets to her office. Dumps everything out on the paper. Absolutely everything, even if it has nothing to do with work. Then she gets a coffee, takes a few minutes, then goes through that list and picks out only the things that are most important as the days' "to do list'. After she gets even some of it done she takes another break, rewards herself somehow, and begins again. She said she feels great all day and rarely feels overwhelmed. Especially if she gets the things she doesn't like doing done first. Then the rest of the day is a bonus. I like it.

    • @c.j.9141
      @c.j.9141 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I like it, too! I used to be on top of things, then came TH-cam.....
      and my home went to hell in a hand basket. SO much to do to get that order back I do long for.
      I like your bosse's approach, and am gonna give it a shot!

  • @chelsaroo91
    @chelsaroo91 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    You just helped me realize I use fear to motivate myself to do well in school. I was actually raised in a fearful manner where I was exposed to lots of parental threats and emotional abuse to where I basically didn't say anything and hid a lot of my problems and stress. It's like I'm reconstructing that for myself now. Thanks for this, it really helped me take a step in understanding myself today. Now to apply my new understanding: the fun part. 🙂

    • @drumnbasskim
      @drumnbasskim 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Ditto. Resulted in trauma from childhood. As an adult, it's as if I'm re-learning life from scratch from teaching myself healthy values & actions that I would teach my child one day if I want to raise them in a proactive, supportive home.

    • @zoniazulfiqar2814
      @zoniazulfiqar2814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow I gotta say you said it in such a interesting manner actually I was and being raised in a fearful manner where its all about society and literally not about us... but now iam learning a new job and making money 💰 🙂♥️

    • @na3rial
      @na3rial 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I am the exact same way! I realized recently that I have NEVER been able to self-motivate without a looming deadline, leading to extreme procrastination and a LOT of anxiety. I'm trying to break out of that and just, being kind to myself

    • @ravishingtwinkle3811
      @ravishingtwinkle3811 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@na3rial isn't that ADHD ? Me too Relearning life

    • @randommandom4691
      @randommandom4691 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, you saying that made me realize that I also used fear to ensure I was successful in what I valued. When I recently began the transition to adult hood and college, I just balled up and allowed my stress to take over. In a way, the fear that was induced throughout child hood motivated me. Now I have to rewire my brain to gain motivation without a negative driving force

  • @romaeterna3106
    @romaeterna3106 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hello Emma, I am so glad I found you! Since adolescence I have lived every day as if it were my last. What motivated me was my 6th grade teacher who I overheard telling my parents I won't do much past the 6th grade. I didn't get sad. I got mad. Now I am a very senior citizen who was a dynamic individual12 years ago. In spite of graduate degrees, knowledge of 5 languages, studying art and music, living in Europe, teaching graduates, young adults and children along with many more reinventions of myself, I am finding difficulty revisiting those accomplishments that made me happy. I write you now with anxiety, depression, and the stress that comes with caring for a loved one who is ill. You have provided me with some sensible and convincing strategies to try and find myself again. Thank you very much.

    • @ilax4244
      @ilax4244 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sharing. I too inherited the care of an older sibling. It is my excuse for not excelling or setting goals for myself. I hope this video will help me take back my joy and self care.

  • @helenwalden4380
    @helenwalden4380 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I've been struggling with chronic procrastination all my life, I suspect I am an undiagnosed Adult ADHD. Your videos are sensational Emma. I've spent years in counselling hoping to be given a model of good mental health. Your simple yet profound words are transformative to me. What a gift to the world. What a legacy you leave. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :))

    • @Medietos
      @Medietos 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am sorry you had such bad counselling, that they weren't competent or willing to engae to get you helped!. That has been my own experience too, I have lost my life to rubbish and wish I had listened to my disturbed mother who happened to be right about most psychologists etc.Why does no-one do like memma and others online? I think they withhold us knowledge in order to keeo us coming and giving out a lot of money for years. They don't want us to get well as quickly as we could, confirmed also by former therapist Daniel Mackler (Has a YT video on why he stopped being one, it helps at least lifting the fear that it was my fault not egtting help.)Do the 12 steps programs instead?

  • @saintejeannedarc9460
    @saintejeannedarc9460 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Making supper, esp. a bigger supper used to be a daunting task that I would put off until I was starved, or just pick instead and not eat a decent meal. I had a friend who did a genius thing that helped so much. She would slowly get her utensils and ingredients out. Then she'd start cutting or prepping things. When the cooking part came, it was a lot less to do than starting it all from scratch. I've done it every since.

  • @Jo-nr6vx
    @Jo-nr6vx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Absolutely loved this! I had gotten back into bed, felt like sleeping and feeling low, now I'm up, getting dressed and feeling motivated to enjoy the beautiful day that it is. Thank you 😊

  • @user-nz5qb7jq6p
    @user-nz5qb7jq6p 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Building Intrinsic Motivation
    1. Take down a moment to write down your values
    2. Track your accomplishments
    3. Reward yourself before the task
    4. Stop rewarding bad behavior
    5. Stop the negative Self talk
    + Thank you very much Ms. Emma for this wonderful video.
    I find it hard to really move on from past lost and it's been quite a while that I've been stuck at the bottom of the pit,
    but I believe God graced us life to live for His purpose and I'm trying to embrace and stay with this truth.
    I don't want to pity myself for the mistakes I have done, sometimes life lessons are learned best with hard truths.
    I tend to be a people pleaser and most of the time I find it hard to face the truth on myself.
    I don't want to justify anymore my desolations and yeah, little by little, with one step at a time,
    I'll try and make it happen to live life courageously to be able to fully live it.
    Thank you so much again for your sense of mission and may God always bless you, your family and your work.
    May you be able to help and reach out more people from different walks of life that need to build up this good habit.

  • @rachaelgalvez435
    @rachaelgalvez435 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Your friend is not the only student having trouble with motivation these days. I'm going to share this with my teens!

  • @smileofthecentury
    @smileofthecentury 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    What do you want to be doing with your one wild and precious life? I love that poem. God bless you Emma

  • @timmatheson4926
    @timmatheson4926 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for posting this video. I never noticed that my upbringing destroyed any motivation in me by believiing that if I failed it was all my fault, but if I succeeded it was because someone, or something else was the reason for me achieving it. There was never a reward for me accomplishing anything, just guilt and shame. Now I understand that I was never lazy (like they said) I was afraid. As usual, your posts are helping me grow and become the person I desire to be.

  • @NooraShab
    @NooraShab 3 ปีที่แล้ว +155

    We love you Emma, you are a real life-saver! Hope you and your family will have a content year ahead!

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks Shabna! I hope you have a wonderful year ahead too!

  • @leorolland
    @leorolland 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    You seem like such a kind person thank you for your motivating videos..

  • @maryannschumacher1370
    @maryannschumacher1370 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent, so true! 👌 When we had to move, my daughter suggested we pack for an hour, take a break for an hour, and repeat. We accomplished SO much knowing a break was within reach. 👍🌞

  • @amberklein1560
    @amberklein1560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you! I just set up an "Awesome" List on my iPhone for things I've already completed. "Hey, Siri, add showered to my Awesome List." Instantly, I felt motivated. Thank you!

  • @smolseal
    @smolseal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    As a university student with depression and humongous workload, I just want to say thank you so much for making all these videos. I should have found this video and this channel in general last school year. I was a mess. But, oh well, the past can’t be changed anyways. I hope I do better this upcoming semester. You’ve helped me greatly this past month. Thank you so so much!!

    • @ilax4244
      @ilax4244 ปีที่แล้ว

      You recognized your problem and found the help you need. Both of with God's help will be successful. One day at a time.

  • @Benni777
    @Benni777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This is super helpful for someone like me who has ADHD and it’s very hard for me to get motivated to do the “right thing” even when I have the right amount to do that certain task. ☺️

  • @johnnywishbone932
    @johnnywishbone932 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found this channel after praying for help. You are a God send gift to my life. Thank you God. Thank you Emma ✝️❤️!

  • @ratunkuuu
    @ratunkuuu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you.
    i like "The more you do the more motivated you are"
    Greetings from Scotland!

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thanks for watching! I'm pretty sure that most americans have this idealist view of scotland as being a magical place of wonderful accents and beautiful scenery. and Unicorns. :) is it true? As a McAdam I feel like I need to visit someday soon

    • @ratunkuuu
      @ratunkuuu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Like all stereotyoes, partly true indeed, aldo the 50 ways of raining;)
      But on a sunny day, absolutely heavenly beautifuf mounyains lakes and tbe sea, all together,
      As soon as freedom to travel is back, ylu are welcome, and all who read the comme ts, too!

  • @RachelBayati
    @RachelBayati 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    This video came at the right time. I've been struggling with motivation the last few months and have been feeling pretty stuck. This video makes so much sense. I've been focusing too much on the feeling rather than the doing. Thank you so much for sharing!

  • @johnski2645
    @johnski2645 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sometimes you come across a video that makes so much sense and can literally change your life. I’m so glad I came across this one. It’s amazing!

  • @WithPassionUK
    @WithPassionUK 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excellent, I’ve been stuck in bed/ sofa for 3 days and watching this video has just inspired me to finish the dishwasher task. Thank you 🙏

  • @music7915
    @music7915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can’t explain how grateful I am for you. I used to go to therapy but one day she called me and said they are pausing their practices because of Covid and when they resumed they didn’t even contact me or try to work over the phone. I trusted the therapist and I told myself I’d never go to one again. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I’ve been struggling with depression, adhd and ocd for so long and when I get in a rut it’s so hard to get out. This is my longest one by far been almost 1.8 years but your video has helped me see ways in which I can increase motivation and function like I used to thank you!

  • @Sheernee
    @Sheernee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thanks Emma I'm glad I found you I'm living on an island so it's hard for me to access this info. I'm going through a lot of stuff so thanks alot

  • @Rebecca-sx5vg
    @Rebecca-sx5vg ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for explaining that an object in motion stays in motion! Because of the pandemic and my ex partner, I just stopped doing… everything… and now don’t understand the lack of motivation until you explained it. I have to get moving again and I’ll naturally find my energy again! Thanks for the wisdom:)

  • @marslennon1
    @marslennon1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you once more, too bad i couldn't even spend 65 a month for any therapy, but these tips are very powerful. Namasté!

    • @lisajohnson6351
      @lisajohnson6351 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Believe me, her tips are so much more efficient than most therapy!
      At least from my vast experiences.
      And you can check her tips out anytime you want.

    • @Dbiss
      @Dbiss 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lisajohnson6351 agreed!

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Have a vision, have a plan, and make steps everyday 💪🏽

    • @asma-pc1og
      @asma-pc1og 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Summarizing it like that can be a little problematic too though. As someone who has struggled with motivation, that type of optimism and decisiveness always put me off. Like I didn't even want to think about the concept of motivation, or the relationship between reward and motivation. For people who don't want to think about it, thinking about having a vision, or formulating a plan can be overwhelming. That level of optimism to a pessimist is scary 😅
      Like the tl:dr vibe about it just doesn't force us to research and be educated about it

    • @LightyMiner
      @LightyMiner 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@asma-pc1og It's good knowing people out there actually think in line with what is realistic.

    • @natashamudford4011
      @natashamudford4011 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@asma-pc1og What is tl:dr?

    • @LightyMiner
      @LightyMiner 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@natashamudford4011 Too long, didn't read.

  • @megansullivan9238
    @megansullivan9238 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, after procrastinating for months watching useless videos, I finally found this. Your a gem 🙏

  • @JulieSnowstudiojuliesnow3698
    @JulieSnowstudiojuliesnow3698 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I seriously cannot believe there are ANY dislikes on this video. What you said is absolutely brilliant, and beyond helpful. You explained so perfectly, and made me feel like this is something tangible I can do for myself. God bless you!!

  • @Nerdie_
    @Nerdie_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have recently lost my father and motivation just went down hill from there but I found this video today and already just from the video I feel motivated to try and fix my life and most importantly build myself up to be the motivated person I used to be. Thank you so much for this video.

  • @amparocribas7792
    @amparocribas7792 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I just wanted to let you know that just the fact of listening to you gets me into a hope state. I feel as if someone actually cares about my struggles. ❤ thank you for choosing your career 🎉May God keep blessing you!

  • @hritiksingh1996
    @hritiksingh1996 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is just beyond amazing! Thank you for putting it out. I have been using the same principle from the last two years and I have cultivated so much self-trust and self-discipline within me that not following through on my word is no longer an option. It's all about CONSISTENTLY PRACTICING. After a while, our subconscious gets reprogrammed to the point that our disciplined, intentional habits become the new autopilot. Thank you for making this wonderful video! ❤️

  • @sue8370
    @sue8370 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I do this with exercise, small steps first to create a habit. Great information in all your videos, 😊 My reward for yoga exercises is a back that is no longer sore lol

  • @linaornborg
    @linaornborg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I need to exercise today.
    I went on TH-cam to watch a bunch of rah rah type videos and somehow came across this and this was just better.
    Thanks

  • @mitalidesai5814
    @mitalidesai5814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent video! No one has told this truth before. This is so simple yet many of us don’t get it and then we get stuck in the loop of being unmotivated, unorganized and lazy. Thank you so much 🙏

  • @debbiesivertson817
    @debbiesivertson817 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I keep watching this video over and over, and taking notes!!! ❤️ With the virus, most of my normal community activities have gone away, and I am an empty nester (husband still works). I need to create more of a new daily routine, (also to help with anxiety and low level depression) and this is WONDERFUL!!! So many amazing recommendations well organized and packed into 16 minutes! Thank you ❤️!

  • @rbonneauii
    @rbonneauii 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You’re amazing!! Thank you! Such care and empathy in your voice.

  • @dieselexhausted
    @dieselexhausted ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The fact that I could feel my muscles in my entire face and head shift and an actual positive feeling at the first "good job!" says I definitely found the right video. I've seen it come up but I've been *that* low and overwhelmed - I couldn't bring myself to even watch the video. I'm glad I finally did. Good job me!

  • @dianemacknight751
    @dianemacknight751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Omg this video is AMAZING!!!!! Ive been stuck for years procrastinating from doing important tasks and waiting till I get the motivation. I've watched loads of videos on TH-cam on motivation but this is by far the best one I've seen! I Love the way you simplify everything and give loads of examples, thank you very much x

  • @animeshkumar1684
    @animeshkumar1684 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg! This is perfect timing ... really needed this🙏

  • @MusingMaggs
    @MusingMaggs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video. I've been so overwhelmed for so long.

  • @rgriffin1402
    @rgriffin1402 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Emma. Your help is so real and easy to follow. I'm so glad I found you!!!

  • @mail2namrata23jlkl
    @mail2namrata23jlkl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video is Godsend. Also, I mean...I have been in a rut. For 4 months. It's been so hard. But now that you have explained the dopamine cycle, I can see what is all wrong in there. Thank you. Thank you so much.
    Important takeaways-
    Action -> Reaction -> motivation
    Reward yourself even small things. Praise yourself. Most depressed people, don't behave well to praises (toxic masculinity and the pressure to stick to it), or keep saying that 'I am a loser'. Instead, praise yourself even if you wrote just a paragraph. Because it's better than a blank page.
    Thank you. God bless you. 🙏

  • @Voguemama
    @Voguemama 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is so true. I did yoga for the first time three weeks ago. My reward is how great it makes me feel after doing it for 30 min. Now I’m looking forward to doing it every single night.

  • @wendytrodd1175
    @wendytrodd1175 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thankyou for presenting this so clearly, with practical scenarios, and in such a caring way with no judgement! 😊

  • @isabt4
    @isabt4 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your videos are so helpful, authentic and honest! Thank you so much ❤️

  • @lisaa6539
    @lisaa6539 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this! It makes so much sense and I'm grateful I can rewatch to remind myself. Your videos are very helpful. Thanks you!

  • @zoemilinkovic
    @zoemilinkovic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This is so well explained. I am listening to it on repeat while kids are "in school" at home. Thank you so much for all you do! Your videos are priceless!

  • @Orcora
    @Orcora 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! Just what I needed to hear.

  • @JC-ke7mj
    @JC-ke7mj 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sweet Moses! THANK YOU! This information is on time and on point!

  • @lulumarie7
    @lulumarie7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is literally the best explanation and advice regarding motivation that I've ever found! I've been struggling and searching for answers for a while now. Everything in this video makes so much sense and is really practical. I already feel motivated! Thank you so much for all that you do and for being genuine and caring. You are truly a gift! 💛

  • @battlehymnoftheempath3610
    @battlehymnoftheempath3610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your an amazing speaker on these topics. You can feel the sympathetic tone in your voice.

  • @thespuditron9387
    @thespuditron9387 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the most important video I've watched lately. Thank you. Thank you.

  • @sarasrivastava7531
    @sarasrivastava7531 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Emma, thank you for this ❤️ and please keep making more such videos ❤️

  • @LianDyogi
    @LianDyogi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This makes so much sense! I always never give myself credit for things I do. Will try to practice :) This was so so helpful. Thank you Emma!

  • @nikkiroberg1
    @nikkiroberg1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much! I have really struggled to move forward for a while now and didn’t totally understand what was happening. I had always been pretty motivated and good with routine but the bottom dropped out a while back and I didn’t know why I couldn’t get back up and running. Your video helped me quickly understand what is going on internally and how to adjust. I am so excited to get going now! Thank you!!!

  • @hubashiakhan4205
    @hubashiakhan4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is incredible! Thank you for putting in so much effort to explain it. You made it so simple.

  • @StereotypeNerd96
    @StereotypeNerd96 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was exactly what I needed to hear today, thank you!

  • @MsWheelera
    @MsWheelera 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Excellent video. Thank you for these reminders. I love your energy, calm voice and how simple yet concise you make your videos.

  • @MysterySteve
    @MysterySteve 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video has helped me immensely. I can't thank you enough. I wish you well, you definitely earned a subscriber outta me

  • @chantalehoule9002
    @chantalehoule9002 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for sharing so generously. God bless you darling!

  • @victorialenka409
    @victorialenka409 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video Emma 🙂 You have helped so many in 2020. I feel so much gratitude for this channel, I recommend you all the time!!

  • @metheiam5714
    @metheiam5714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Good advice. Kinda felt overwhelmed watching this 'cause setting daily routines seems like too much for me. Hard to think about a specific time especially since i've been really drained and overwhelmed by other stuff too. But i need my creativity still, even if it's from time to time. Thank you!

  • @marypolcari7321
    @marypolcari7321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this!!!
    I thought I had lost it.The motivation.
    I'll move towards this as much as I can.
    Thank you for the hope!!!
    This is so amazing!!!!!

  • @lesley-annmathews7971
    @lesley-annmathews7971 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanx for this! So glad i found you!!!!

  • @mugen6424
    @mugen6424 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Glad to see how much your channel has grown so far. You used to help me alot in the past, thanks for the amound effort you put into your videos :)

  • @liz3putt
    @liz3putt ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love this video, your message is so inspiring 😊

  • @heatherderganc5984
    @heatherderganc5984 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for this Emma❣️ I realize that a lot of my anxiety comes from procrastination. I will remember ARM. Action! Reward Motivation. Action is key!

  • @shyhouseplant3890
    @shyhouseplant3890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Damn I really needed to hear this today. Immediately subscribed. Thank you for taking the time to explain this in full. I think this is the first time I’ve watched a motivational TH-cam video and actually felt better for watching it. You’re a great speaker (and motivator) Cheers ❤️

  • @chelseyl880
    @chelseyl880 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are so appreciated! 🙏

  • @susans9014
    @susans9014 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the best advice I have ever heard, thank you!!!

  • @Bitachon
    @Bitachon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    *Motivation comes after action*

  • @alwayslearning8365
    @alwayslearning8365 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you. I am going to try and reset my motivation-action cycle to start with action and not motivation. The reward aspect will be difficult for me as I can be very harsh with myself. I will have to try and lighten up on self criticism.

  • @chewytruthseeker5274
    @chewytruthseeker5274 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love your style, thank you 💗🙌💗

  • @TheGreenHaven7
    @TheGreenHaven7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is all I needed. Thank youu.

  • @moniquejackson7741
    @moniquejackson7741 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I love this! The dopamine reward makes so much sense in terms of motivating us. I follow Law of Attraction coaches who recommend changing how you feel as much as possible, and now it makes sense that if there is not a true feeling of accomplishment or reward, you end up feeling even more anxious about manifesting. That's why "rah rah" forms of motivation are not as effective because you need to actually bask in how good something feels and not just distract yourself. I really appreciate how you brought out that you can't feel motivated all the time, but you can develop habits that can motivate you more easily and more frequently. Thanks so much!

  • @nastia4438
    @nastia4438 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow, I didn't know I needed this video. I never thought I had an issue with motivation, but now I know that I have been rewarding the wrong actions. So interesting... Thank you for this insightful video!

  • @openabox2150
    @openabox2150 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much for this!

  • @raulsandoval6495
    @raulsandoval6495 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this!

  • @PurpleFlower22
    @PurpleFlower22 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you 🙏🏻 Just what I needed today. 😌

  • @KitSouther
    @KitSouther 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely love your videos! Thank you 🙏🥰🙌

  • @lydiagibbs9106
    @lydiagibbs9106 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. Your presentations are always clear and concise.....and sooooooo helpful.

  • @MegaTippee
    @MegaTippee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow, I really needed this and found this so helpful: I used to be quite motivated, but this last year seemed to zap all of my Mom and life changes, then Covid-19, carwreck, etc. I am working through all of this other stuff, but am still tired and my husband is quite gifted and accomplished. I feel like I am being over corrected and am literally doing everything wrong.. which is adding to this cycle. This was very very helpful.

  • @downtoearth5108
    @downtoearth5108 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Great stuff Emma. I particular enjoyed the "Stop rewarding bad behaviour" . At first I was wondering what you meant, but then hey it was me. I would turn away and watch a utube video and it became a habit. I knew I was avoiding the task at hand. Your practical advice and understanding of this TOO MUCH EMMA. Thank you many many times.

  • @lintb6030
    @lintb6030 ปีที่แล้ว

    🙏thank you very much! This is what I needed to hear.

  • @congratz9396
    @congratz9396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This might be the most impactful video on my life that i have ever seen. Thank you so much! So much! 😭❤️