200 job applications and resumes sent - not even a "Sorry, no thanks". Fuckin' been there. It's rough when even McDonalds is ignoring your application and having to resort that low because everyone ignores you. Story of my life. Feeling like there is an agenda against you when it's impossible because these people don't even know you exist.
The idea that people so frequently lie on their resumes is such a disservice in the job market. Employers should ask for what they actually need, not constantly ask for the great sage of the universe to handle data entry. Prospective employees should stop saying they are those great sages, because it gives the impression to employers that the world is just riddled with these absolute masters of life. Transparency should be a requirement, not some sort of weird luxury to wave in front of people.
Thank you for sharing about your job-hunting! It's really hard to get a job that doesn't make you totally exhausted, it's also hard to get a job where you get your needs met.
Preparing for a job was so extensive due to monotropism and bent the personality in so many directions that I don’t even know my needs or preferences. Parents or an absent social circle gave no motivation so I guess alexithymia is real. I can apply for a “cozy” administration job though, since I have graduated law, and we are supposed to read more literally there.
Great raw video exposing the real Elena and the stress of job hunting. I hope you did send a video attached to your applications, that is playing to your strengths and making the application stand out from others. Love following your journey in life. I liked seeing the red faced red eyed Elena after completing a run!😉🥵. Just remember job hunting takes time, a positive reply will most certainly come soon!
At job interviews i don't focus on proving my skills, i focus on interacting well with everyone, making small talk, getting along with everyone around me. I treat the interview as their opportunity to get to know me as a person. I focus on small talk which helps put them at ease. If they feel comfortable being with me, they'll feel comfortable hiring me. For me an aspie, Small Talk is a lot of work. Making conversation is a lot of work. I can do it now because i've studied and learned the tools. The other big help was hiring a professional resume formatter/writer. That person fixed my resume up so employers could glance at it and say, "This person is what we are looking for. Get an interview with her." Best wishes job hunting! Aspies have strengths and abilities. I know you are good at analyzing relationships and how people relate to one another. And very good at creating TH-cam videos, which I have enjoyed viewing. Best wishes!
My job hunting process has given me burnout. This is really the first time I actually understood that I was dealing with burnout. 1.5 years of searching and counting.
Literally sums up all my issues with gaining meaningful employment as an autistic individual. It's such a sad waste of human capital and honestly, seeing employers change their methodologies wouldn't just benefits us but also people with other, more common conditions like anxiety and depression. Glad to see you speaking up and giving us a voice - hopefully the right people hear it and implement changes where possible. Fantastic video, it was a real pleasure to watch.
Thank you for making this video. I went through this process last year from September to December. I applied to 215+ jobs, only interviewed 7 of them, and only got 1 offer. Job hunting in the current market is an absolute nightmare, and it is especially worse for us autistic people. Not only am I really bad at writing resumes, but I tend to botch every interview I do because of some social insider code that my brain is just incapable of comprehending. Where did you used to live before moving to Toronto? I am also hoping to try moving to Canada for Working Holiday or something like that in the near future. I would love to learn what your experience has been like moving to Toronto: such as finding an apartment, how to move/buy furnitures and stuff, figuring out how to get around, making bank accounts, and etc.
I just got a proper job for the first time in 2 years, was hospitalized and told my boss about it, haven't had a reply in 2 weeks. Don't even feel valued at all, wondering what the point was even accepting the job in the first place. Dealing with neurotypical people literally drains every bit of energy I have.
@@elenacarr0ll Damn right. I've worked harder than most people I work with, and I still get singled out for being 'weird'. Its just pointless. May as well go back to claiming government benefits, doesn't matter if there's a stigma around that because there's one around my existence anyway.
@@Weaselthebassist Hang in there! First off, I hope you get well soon. I can definetely empathize since I was about to switch careers, then recently had some health issues myself. Also I hope you have good luck with your boss. Of course you aren't supposed to be able to be fired for being hospitalized legally, but if you have issues, it is better to fight for the job you have, then to try and explained why you are no longer working at your last job in an interview. There are some of us neurotypicals who understand and do care. Hopefully your employer will be open minded enough to learn. There is hope out there, and I hope you can continue moving forward trying to shine as brightly as you can. I have learnt that that is the best way forward, at least when dealing with existential challenges such as health issues.
Thank you for sharing this. I've been feeling anxious for a while about jobs and ways I can get money. I used to work at Wendy's and I quit after like seven months because it left me burnt out. I remember when I was searching for jobs and all I could think about was, is this job going to burn me out. The whole experience was anxiety-ridden. But again thank you for sharing this. I wish you the best.
I wish you all of the luck in the world. The worst obstacle will be the voice of anxiety whispering in your ear that you aren't good enough. Don't let it hijack your intuition, and keep going :) We are always here for you if you need someone to debunk the lies anxiety likes to say ;) I really hope you not only find a job, but one you love to do :)
I really like the idea of a video being included with your resume, I might have to try that. I’m also job seeking at the moment, and having a really difficult time with it. I’ve had quite a few interviews, at lots of promising sounding jobs, but have not gotten any of them. Interviewing is just not my strong suit at all… I really struggle to come up with answers on the spot, to keep conversation going, I’m not very charismatic or anything… My experience is solid and my resume reflects that, but as soon as employers actually meet me in person, they’re not interested anymore.
Did you know you can apply for ODSP (Ontario Disability Support Program)? It's money received from the government every month for neurodiverse people. If you'd be interested. You don’t have to go that route of course.
May not be helpful. I live in USA. I was in the IT industry. Recently diagnosed Audhd at 58 yrs old. Retired early as I had started struggling at work and since discovered autistic burnout. I have spent last 18 months working on self to return to work. I did obtain a position helping people with extensive needs in the neuro divergent community. If would love to be successful and helpful but am worried I may struggle. Anyway I did want to point out another possible field although I can only imagine position will be tough but highly rewarding for both parties, if I can cope well enough.
Thank you for this, it helped me feel less alone 💖 I'm currently looking for a job after recovering from burnout from my previous job and I feel like such a failure for never hearing back from any of the jobs I applied to (and never knowing what I did wrong in the application) but just like everything, it takes longer than you'd expect 🥲 Sending love to all of you lovely souls going through this 💚
200 job applications and resumes sent - not even a "Sorry, no thanks". Fuckin' been there.
It's rough when even McDonalds is ignoring your application and having to resort that low because everyone ignores you. Story of my life. Feeling like there is an agenda against you when it's impossible because these people don't even know you exist.
this
I'm currently at around 400
have had several interviews but they sniff out my conversational defects very quickly
Three job applications a day? That's impressive, I barely managed one a week.
The idea that people so frequently lie on their resumes is such a disservice in the job market. Employers should ask for what they actually need, not constantly ask for the great sage of the universe to handle data entry. Prospective employees should stop saying they are those great sages, because it gives the impression to employers that the world is just riddled with these absolute masters of life. Transparency should be a requirement, not some sort of weird luxury to wave in front of people.
Thank you for sharing about your job-hunting! It's really hard to get a job that doesn't make you totally exhausted, it's also hard to get a job where you get your needs met.
Exactly!! That’s why we have to be so careful and specific with jobs we apply for 🌈
Preparing for a job was so extensive due to monotropism and bent the personality in so many directions that I don’t even know my needs or preferences. Parents or an absent social circle gave no motivation so I guess alexithymia is real. I can apply for a “cozy” administration job though, since I have graduated law, and we are supposed to read more literally there.
Great raw video exposing the real Elena and the stress of job hunting. I hope you did send a video attached to your applications, that is playing to your strengths and making the application stand out from others. Love following your journey in life. I liked seeing the red faced red eyed Elena after completing a run!😉🥵. Just remember job hunting takes time, a positive reply will most certainly come soon!
At job interviews i don't focus on proving my skills, i focus on interacting well with everyone, making small talk, getting along with everyone around me. I treat the interview as their opportunity to get to know me as a person. I focus on small talk which helps put them at ease. If they feel comfortable being with me, they'll feel comfortable hiring me.
For me an aspie, Small Talk is a lot of work. Making conversation is a lot of work. I can do it now because i've studied and learned the tools.
The other big help was hiring a professional resume formatter/writer. That person fixed my resume up so employers could glance at it and say, "This person is what we are looking for. Get an interview with her."
Best wishes job hunting! Aspies have strengths and abilities. I know you are good at analyzing relationships and how people relate to one another. And very good at creating TH-cam videos, which I have enjoyed viewing.
Best wishes!
My job hunting process has given me burnout. This is really the first time I actually understood that I was dealing with burnout. 1.5 years of searching and counting.
Literally sums up all my issues with gaining meaningful employment as an autistic individual. It's such a sad waste of human capital and honestly, seeing employers change their methodologies wouldn't just benefits us but also people with other, more common conditions like anxiety and depression. Glad to see you speaking up and giving us a voice - hopefully the right people hear it and implement changes where possible.
Fantastic video, it was a real pleasure to watch.
So true and very well-put.
You’re so very right! Thank you for putting your thoughts down for others to see 💜
Thank you for making this video.
I went through this process last year from September to December. I applied to 215+ jobs, only interviewed 7 of them, and only got 1 offer. Job hunting in the current market is an absolute nightmare, and it is especially worse for us autistic people. Not only am I really bad at writing resumes, but I tend to botch every interview I do because of some social insider code that my brain is just incapable of comprehending.
Where did you used to live before moving to Toronto?
I am also hoping to try moving to Canada for Working Holiday or something like that in the near future. I would love to learn what your experience has been like moving to Toronto: such as finding an apartment, how to move/buy furnitures and stuff, figuring out how to get around, making bank accounts, and etc.
Great insights mate.
Orion!! Such a fan- thank you ☺️
Preciate you Elena for looking out for us sis!! 🥺🫶
I got you!!!
I just got a proper job for the first time in 2 years, was hospitalized and told my boss about it, haven't had a reply in 2 weeks. Don't even feel valued at all, wondering what the point was even accepting the job in the first place. Dealing with neurotypical people literally drains every bit of energy I have.
Oh wow I get it. No doubt you are the hardest of workers too. I’m sorry you have felt just like another sheep to walk through the business’ doors
@@elenacarr0ll Damn right. I've worked harder than most people I work with, and I still get singled out for being 'weird'. Its just pointless. May as well go back to claiming government benefits, doesn't matter if there's a stigma around that because there's one around my existence anyway.
@@Weaselthebassist Hang in there! First off, I hope you get well soon. I can definetely empathize since I was about to switch careers, then recently had some health issues myself. Also I hope you have good luck with your boss. Of course you aren't supposed to be able to be fired for being hospitalized legally, but if you have issues, it is better to fight for the job you have, then to try and explained why you are no longer working at your last job in an interview.
There are some of us neurotypicals who understand and do care. Hopefully your employer will be open minded enough to learn. There is hope out there, and I hope you can continue moving forward trying to shine as brightly as you can. I have learnt that that is the best way forward, at least when dealing with existential challenges such as health issues.
Thank you for sharing this. I've been feeling anxious for a while about jobs and ways I can get money. I used to work at Wendy's and I quit after like seven months because it left me burnt out. I remember when I was searching for jobs and all I could think about was, is this job going to burn me out. The whole experience was anxiety-ridden. But again thank you for sharing this. I wish you the best.
I wish you all of the luck in the world. The worst obstacle will be the voice of anxiety whispering in your ear that you aren't good enough. Don't let it hijack your intuition, and keep going :) We are always here for you if you need someone to debunk the lies anxiety likes to say ;)
I really hope you not only find a job, but one you love to do :)
I really like the idea of a video being included with your resume, I might have to try that.
I’m also job seeking at the moment, and having a really difficult time with it. I’ve had quite a few interviews, at lots of promising sounding jobs, but have not gotten any of them. Interviewing is just not my strong suit at all… I really struggle to come up with answers on the spot, to keep conversation going, I’m not very charismatic or anything… My experience is solid and my resume reflects that, but as soon as employers actually meet me in person, they’re not interested anymore.
I do admire you. Moving to another country and going job hunting. Looks like you’re doing great.
Thank you 🥹
Have you modeled as a job? Or considered it?
Did you know you can apply for ODSP (Ontario Disability Support Program)? It's money received from the government every month for neurodiverse people. If you'd be interested. You don’t have to go that route of course.
I wish the US had something like that, that actually functioned properly
Yes job hunting when it pertains to Autistic people is extremely difficult, as I spent years trying & trying, Yet don't give up no matter what
you got this dawg, keep hunting till something else clicks. (finding a different alternative)
🥹🥹🥹
May not be helpful. I live in USA. I was in the IT industry. Recently diagnosed Audhd at 58 yrs old. Retired early as I had started struggling at work and since discovered autistic burnout. I have spent last 18 months working on self to return to work. I did obtain a position helping people with extensive needs in the neuro divergent community. If would love to be successful and helpful but am worried I may struggle. Anyway I did want to point out another possible field although I can only imagine position will be tough but highly rewarding for both parties, if I can cope well enough.
Thank you for this, it helped me feel less alone 💖 I'm currently looking for a job after recovering from burnout from my previous job and I feel like such a failure for never hearing back from any of the jobs I applied to (and never knowing what I did wrong in the application) but just like everything, it takes longer than you'd expect 🥲 Sending love to all of you lovely souls going through this 💚
thank you for sharing with us your journey
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Good luck in Canada