Single mothers are often comfortable with their position, but the child not having a good male role model is the one that actually suffers. The odds of that child falling into criminal or economic trouble is much greater without a father.
Yep ..... father died when I was 5 so grew up without ...... did OK but my mother was out of her depth when my balls dropped .... best way of describing my teen years, 'unguided missile' ..... I needed a father .... and grandfather, uncles, cousins do not cut it.
@@red-hat-mike I think comments are biased because we are watching the channel creator talk to her sister. So most posters are being considerate... but even in the comments and her body language you can see she isn't 100% comfortable with the situation.
Well, she admitted that she didn't work for 10 years because of her introverted personality and that was a mistake. It has taken a while, but she has obviously made positive changes because she has realized the error in her ways. Hence, she accepts responsibility for her actions.
@@red-hat-mike ..Thats correct - kids actually raise themselves, feed themselves, wash their own cloths & dishes, cook for themselves etc - they dont need parents to raise them at all.
Children really need both parents. I've known so many kids raised by a single mom and they all ached for a father. It is a sad state of affairs, but sometimes unavoilable.
I lived in a two parent home and yearned to get rid of my father who beat the shit out of me and my Mom. I would have much preferred a single parent home earlier, but it took until I could leave on my own accord at 14.
Hey Rubeauti. My Filipina girlfriend had a young daughter. Wasn’t looking for a Filipina with children. But happier I did find her. It’s a blessing. Thanks for the video. Your sister is adorable. Jerry
@@jerryneely1993 jerry , that’s interesting to think about. But aren’t all the Filipina someone’s saved video game , just without the extra player? I get it though. But I have a premade family which is ok. The little girl is just adorable. But thanks for that. Your right. My name is Jerry as well
@@theking1446 hey bro I wish you the best of luck with that little kid, I just know I’m 37 make around 50 grand a year and I started getting back into shape and I see all my other old girlfriends looking bad at 37… my point is u have value if u wanna settle for a single mom that’s ur choice, if u have a good job and your not a total fat fuck and u stay active guys like us only raise in value, but I hope it all works out for u my guy
Single mothers is one of many reasons why the PH is such a wonderful place for older foreigners… I personally looked for single mothers because at 48 I can’t have any more children and I know a Filipina with no children will want them… So single mothers were a must for me personally… Great Vid Ru!
I was told in my youth that “ youth is the cousin to insanity”. (smiling). We live and we learn, it’s all apart of growing up. Some life lessons are tougher than others only to teach us what we are made of, a test to show how strong we really are. Well done little sister. Well done.
Wow great interview. She seems like she really has her life together. She looks so young I had a hard time imagining she has a 10 year old. I have alot of respect for her
@@Rubeauti I raised my son as a single father and I also had help from my 4 sisters and my parents. the word mistake was a bad choice of words on my part. my son is a great gift and so is your nephew. watching that birthday video made my heart warm. your family reminds me of my family. One of my other favorite videos is your mom interviewing you. You said you think your father is proud of you. my opinion is he is VERY proud, you are a saint and your words and voice helps people
you guys are so natural in front of the camera :) it's so sad to see that so many children don't get to grow up with both parents together, this is not just a Philippines problem it's a problem around the world, I was lucky to grow up with both parents and the only thing that broke that bond was my father dying of Cancer when I was just 18 years old growing up in the 60s 70s was totally different back then families stayed together and worked things out instead of walking away
Fatherless children are a problem around the world yet having the same problem in the Philippines with its older culture shows that the Philippine value system did not make a difference. So when looking for a partner, you are betting on the individual and not the Filipino culture.
Great to see a responsible woman. And a proud mother as well. I also agree that being a noisy home and nosy one at that is problematic. I like my quiet home and life. I wish the very best for her in the future and nice that she has a great sister to help out. I could only imagine having such a great woman at my side like her.
Here in Sweden, I never had any help in taking care of my son. I had to do all of it alone. The support system you have over there is amazing. Something I would have only dreamt of.
I am from Germany and recently dating a Filipina from Negros Oriental. She is a sinle mom for about 9 years. She did everything for her daughter. At the moment we plan i move to her so we 3 will be a family
Me personally speaking for just my self. The thing that would keep me from getting involved with a single mom is falling in love with her only to have the child's father come back into the moms life after years of not supporting her and the child or even communicating with her.
Some life lessons we only learn by going through the experience. Doesn't matter how much your parents, family, friends try to tell you. We don't understand until we've seen it ourselves. I think that young boy has a wonderful Mum and an Auntie who will make sure he has the best of life! Wish all of you all the good things that you can dream of! ❤️😘
Unlike the US, if a Filipina mom separates from her spouse there's a good reason. But I'm sensing the feeling of modernity. She can hold herself accountable unlike most modern women, but her son will bear the weight of his father's absence. Pray for him.
I ask my GF before…. How can you handle so much difficulty in yr life ?? She tell me “ I am pure Pinay, we are born to face problems “ her faith in God and not worry much the future defines her. Your sister has a great attitude and will find happiness in her life !! You are Filipina… you are strong and resilient in all situations!! Sana all !! 🇵🇭👍🏻👊🏻
I consider myself a lucky man I've found true love not just from my partner but being accepted by her kids I love them like my own and I'm truly blessed
Rubeauti your sister is a strong lady, she has realized her faults. The main thing is she cares about her son, And with you as his aunt he is going to be okay. Look I think your sister is very beautiful, and I,m sure she will have no problem finding some other man if she really wants to.
We all need to walk our own paths in life. It's important to remember that decisions are made along the way that we may not understand, but we were not there when the other person faced their choice. You can never go back! Now they and everyone need to help make the best of their choice. Hindsight is always 20/20!
Opo - with the deepest respect to the young ladies - The issues with the all to common cases of single mothers in the Philippines is A, the notion that it's a catholic country, which suits the misogynistic male dominated governments, B the difficulties in divorce, C, the complacency with men having multiple relationships and C, the lack of contraception by both women and men.
Ms. Rebuti thank you for sharing this interview.....though your sister seems secured with her decision of being single, ..life can be much more fulfilling in a loving relationship....based on your sister's responses she may have been with a wrong partner....it's sad that she has given up, she seems sweet, honest, purposeful with so much to offer...not to mention she's so lovely.....please tell her not to close the door to companionship due to one bad apple....from the beginning, God said, is not good for man to be alone...the same is meant for a woman....Miss Rubeati, you're wise beyond your years...help your sister with advise...how to find a good apple among a large basket of men.....
Your sister is taking the steps now, thanks to her sister :) She just needs to keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing this with us. We hope to see you back. If you can't get a divorce, why get married? This seems to be setting up single mom's.
It's a shame for a child to grow up without both parents. How unfortunate this family weakness has become acceptable in this day and age. My heart goes out to the innocent children.
Depression is a tough battle and even more so when others are criticising you and not being supportive, hard being alone and having no support and you're doing all of that while raising your child, you look amazing and sound like you're winning that battle. 🙂💋 I thought I would touch on that as its not something alot of people would openly talk about and not something alot of people understand or want to recognise but well done 🫂💋
Can't help but notice how the man took no culpability in this situation. Nothing about him was mentioned and how he was just as much involved in developing her situation. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's important to recognize all parties. It's also important to recognize how little life training she got. Young people make mistakes because of a lack of education and effective mentoring. They try a new way, try something different, and there are reasons for that. Bottom line: hold the man accountable.
I see a very tense lady in your sister who seems to be very angry and guarded to protect herself. It's normal reaction when bad things happen. I don't know her but she needs to forgive herself. This is life. She'll be a much wiser woman. Keep moving forward. It will be ok.
She might be happy being a single mom. But believe me no man wants a woman with a kid. Especially, if he wants to get married and start a family. It might be harsh but it's the truth 🤨
Honestly her attitude seems very much like American women, but we are all human. Living together before marriage, leaving because the guy was broke, then apparently excluding the guy from the son’s life are all very irresponsible behaviors if you aren’t in a committed relationship. She also seems to have no clear career goals or life plan, or even objectives for her kid besides him not becoming a criminal or disrespectful. It was also pretty disturbing thinking every relationship is horrible because of one mistake. Rubeauti seems way more mature and rational, and I get that they’re sisters, so maybe interviewing someone who wasn’t related would’ve revealed more, since her sister wasn’t volunteering her thoughts. Jet is still young, but having seen the huge numbers of single moms in the Philippines is definitely something that is problematic. And having them being completely dependent on family to survive is also sadly common. But for the men who can step in for these women , kudos to you guys.
Decades ago divorced women and single moms were shamed, sometimes even ostracized by their families. Not saying that was right, but nowadays financial difficulties seem to be the only consequences they face.
Better for the boy to have a male role model even if that male is still working on himself. It's not perfect but it is preferable to being raised exclusively by women. (Excluding incidents of abuse of course)
Rubeauti, is there any way one can talk or chat with you beside here about advice? u seem extremely honest and sincere. I am planning a trip to philipphins for the first time ever! and there are so many scams and girls and or youtubers that are western which i don't want to talk to about philipphins, because i like to chat with local people??
Your sister is a very beautiful and intelligent woman, she appears very responsible, having learned from her first bad choice, unlike many single parents, with 3,4 or even 5 children from different fathers. I think she is excellent wife material.
I think you have distorted the issue, by treating getting pregnant as a crime, and not a social issue - and literally forcing your sister several times to "take responsibility" for her actions. I'm gobsmacked at the lack of sensibility you have shown.Your sister going out and eventually getting pregnant (not optimal, but not a crime) has more to due with the lack of parental preparation, governmental malfeasance, and cultural rigidity, than actions by your sister. She is guilty of nothing, but poor circumstances, and lack of support at that time. It was tough to watch you, who seemingly knew nothing about what your sister was going through at the time, sit there like a pedantic nun, encouraging her to admit "her responsibility". Very, very disappointing. Your sister deserves better. Deserves a more compassionate and understanding family. She seems amazingly nice. I wish for her only the best things in 2023. While there are many beautiful aspects of the Philippines, one of the ugly aspects are the judgmental hoards promoting hateful "chizmiz" in cycles that never end. Stop sitting in judgment - you are not qualified. Only G-d can do that, and start being more kind. If Rubeauti can't do it, there is not much hope for filipino society...
Well, I would make the argument that most teenagers crash cars when they're learning to drive... 😃...Are they irresponsible? Maybe. But it all comes down to the fact that they just don't know how to drive yet. Life doesn't come with an instruction manual. And sometimes we get ourselves into situations that, even with the best of intentions we find ourselves in an untenable position that is unbearable, depressing, or downright creepy and we have to bail...Life is live and learn. It is by definition full of mistakes. But here is the paradox...Is your nephew a mistake, Rubi? I think you would vehemently scream "No!" at that thought, right?...So what's the point of passing judgment on your sister at this point? Her "mistake" and her "irresponsibility" gave you one of the great joys of your life, not to mention hers...Let it go... 🤗
That was an abrupt ending! 😂😂😂 Oh well, life works the same way sometimes. Good interview with your sister and often young women and men leave home trying to escape something from their parents home; and not calculating the cost and the responsibility of pulling full weight on your own. I'm assuming that your sister didn't go to college but you did Rubeauti. 4,000 php even in 2011 doing construction work is poverty wages. Of course money is going to be a problem, but the sex is still good. Then a baby arrives and even more babies for some women and the men bailout. The cycle continues. I love your content Rubeauti and I hope more Filipinos are tuning into your channel. Intelligence is very beautiful and sexy. Nothing like a smart and intelligent woman. Cheers 🥂🥂
Rubi exposing her sister on the hot seat as been reckless and irresponsible for 10 minutes. Haha Although, true. The real reason for so many single moms is a lack of self restraint, lack of values and principles. It's a lack of desire to seek holiness.
Desperation can set in when there are few job opportunities and parents feel entitled to your support. Add a culture that prohibits living-together or use of birth control, and it's a recipe for problems.
Harsh words such as irresponsible, mistake , fault… I do feel there is tension . Probably not all is being said. Okay, private family issues. Should remain that way. She was young, no knowledge about life, probably liked / loved her bf. And nature did its job.
I think she's happy with herself, because she has joy within her soul, and love herself. Her previous relationship took her joy, and happiness away. A man that is established, treats a woman well, and handles all of his responiblies, would have married her years ago, and still be married today. He would be financially, emotinally, and spiritually stable. Your life would be different as a married Queen. She is happy to be a single woman, not a single mom, because she has peace of mind. But her child needs a father for male structured discipline.
You say your sister was unemployed for 10 years. She stayed home taking care of her son. Isnt that what a mother should do. Give the son support and self worth. That will make him a good responsible Man in the future. That is so important. Trust me dont make him feel like a burden. He is the gift that he is. If the father is gone so be it. His loss.
Great video. I was thinking if your sister was depressed, some omega 3's or a generic antidepressant might help. There is no shame in seeking help, and it could improve her life. Some of them may help with social anxiety as well.
I agree with sis. Living with inlaws sounds atrocious. A man should build his kingdom (money) and castle (house) before he looks for a wife. A girl shouldn't date a man without a kingdom and castle. Being financially stable and having a house shows the man is serious and ready. He has worked hard to obtain these things. The girl can move in and make the house a home. Take care of the home, the man (be his peace and bedroom fun), take care of and kidos. Man takes care of all financial needs and showers his wife with support, affection, affirmation, & reassurance. Easy.
@@TimeToTravel-u2x maybe true however, we are the leaders. Lead by example. Men can still do the right thing and pursue a traditional woman...which is a smaller % of women but they're still out there.
I praise strong, hardworking single moms but for me, I do not prefer a single mom I hope to find a partner who will start our own family when I move to Cebu
It's tough even in the Philippines. If you date a single mother I wouldn't unless she wanted kids with me. What are you getting in return if you have no kids? But it's better to date someone single but it's up to you guys !
@@Rubeauti definitely. If a man is willing to give it a chance hey it could work but it's alot. It was a choice and then they are single moms and that's why it maybe hard for some women in the Philippines to date maybe because most men don't date single mothers. Some men all over the world be afraid of the baggage.
This is good personal and interesting video and don't quite agree with Irresponsible !! Life can be learning and adjustments experience part or most of time and appears that she does these things very well !!!
Single mothers try their best ... unfortunately a fatherless child most of the time ends up being as emotional as the mother growing up ...as they inherit the mother's spirit. meaning they tend to over react to difficulties, have lots of stress, anxiety etc.. thus having a harder laife and maybe commiting crime or suicide
I think the most important thing for a young lady to understand is when you look to make yourself available to a man, that the main goal should be, is that man capable to be able to provide for a family by himself with no outside help. That thought should not involve anything to do with height or looks, but everything to do with character and actions. A women is the gatekeeper of who has sex and children. A man is the gatekeeper of who has a relationship or marriage. Choose wisely.
It's very sad and distressing that so few children and even young adults are properly taught about sexual health worldwide and all that entails. Obviously to include the being a single mother or father. We can do so much better when we get the typical fears out of the way as the parents or as the potential father/mother. I am a very optimistic person having come through life and death health situations myself. That said, if folks realized where things are heading (See Geopolitical Strategists like Peter Ziehan) in the next years, decade or two with the global economies, they might say no instead of falling prey to hormones. The global economies and demographics from China and Russia to E.U. and Japan are falling apart rapidly by and large. Famine in China is highly likely as well as elsewhere it is already beginning to hit a stride few would ever wish to see. So its up to us older and wiser folks to educate ourselves better to educate them better on when and why to have a child. They then can plan wisely as they see fit for not only economic reasons but for preconceptual health reasons as so many babes are born from very unhealthy mothers and fathers setting them up for a life of unneeded suffering. It's my hope to continue teaching preconseptual health and opportunity rich living for the unborn so when they are born, expected or not, they have the best chance at a beautiful life as they can have on this crazy little planet we call earth. :)
Interesting video. In the Philippines, some women who end up being single moms, are somewhat like that, going to say they are happier being a single mom because of some perceived freedom they have over a relationship with a partner. But what actually happens is the woman's parents will take her back because the elders will not be able to turn away from their granchildren. In some sense, at times the woman's parent may even have a sense of guilt over the situation of their child's single mom dilemma. So some single mom's would go back to their families and thus the multi-generational household will exist. In the absence of the father, the grandfather or other older male relatives may become then the child's male role model. Of course this varies in each family's personal relationships. In some sense this makes the single mom feel she has freedom, where in fact she is needlessly throwing the responsibility of parenthood back to her own parents. Such is the family orientation in the Philippines, at times the parent's unconditional generosity will be abused by their erring daughter. But there are also situations, where more truly conservative families will not ever accept the partner their daughter's took on. So these older clan will give an ultimatum to the daughter, ditch that guy or risk being disowned by your family's clan. It may sound like too dramatic, but it does happen, and more often than not, the daughter cannot risk being disowned, especially if her ancestral family has some status/ old wealth in the Philippines. Whoever that guy is, it will take more than guts and brave face before he will be accepted by the ancestral family. There are just some cases where a woman at times way too naive and sparks of rebellion from ones parents that leads to unfavorable relationships and having a child out of wedlock. Then too late to find out her partner is not ready at all to assume fatherhood let alone be a legal husband, so naive woman ends up being a single mom with a child. These days social media and celebrity's life makes huge impact on impressionable young women, so some thinks it is okay to disregard common sense when in a relationship, hence, unwarranted pregnancies occur. It is good if the mother realizes her mistake and takes on the responsibility of being a mother, or is lucky enough to have strong clan support to help raise the child.
I tried to get with a single mother but it quickly devolved to where it turned out all she wanted was a baby sitter and the worst part was she was using her daughter as a weapon..........I no longer talk to her but it has made me weary of single mothers.........sucks but thats how I will look at it from now on.....
love you ❤ love your videos 💕 Back in the sixties, single parenthood was very high in African-American communities compared to other groups in the US society. They did quite an intensive study on this phenomenon. The report identified four key findings as to why single-parent families are in high numbers among black communities. 1, Low income was number one. 70% of single parents earned less on average, and the middle class had 5% of single-parent families back in the sixties in the USA. 2, Low education level. 66% of single parents did not finish high school, compared to 28% of single-parent families among high-school and college graduates. 3, Lack of moral compass. This came as a surprise to the social scientist because almost 86% of the single-parent attended church services on a weekly bases. 4, Emotional damages endured in childhood. About 45% of single-parent families came from single-parent families. Thus, significant regeneration was detected. Another considerable difference was identified: trustworthiness, the lack of it. Every individual is subject to these forces. Despite, one acknowledges it or not. Great numbers of Millennials cannot hold a job, nor can they build meaningful relationships with one another. The reasons are the same today as for the black communities in the USA way back in the sixties.
@@neilgunns8391 Good question. Back then, the high number of single-parent families was limited to African-American communities. Now, it is a worldwide phenomenon. ;(
@@derekintheph8935 It is worse these days than it was sixty years ago, not only the single-parent families but across the board in our societies. Cannot be any doubt as a human species, we are heading to self-destruction. the only communities that would be able to survive are the religious communities like the Amish, Mennonite, Hutterite, and Bruderhof. These religious communities are self-sufficient and strong family-based collectives.
Truth. On point 3, religion is about the super-ego and salvation (not ethics). On point 4, being conditionally loved (like Utang na loob) and living where low levels of social trust (just 4% in PH) lead to being damaged with notable narcissism.
Being single definitely better than being with the wrong person, but being with the right person creates an effortless relationship . My Filipina’s family hates me because I’m divorced with two daughters . Hey even dislike the fact I own a company and I’m successful because it makes them feel inferior. We have been together four years and are at the point of killing each other . She needs to choose between her happiness or listen to her family and break up with me . Any advise anyone?
@@Rubeauti not married yet, this year maybe, and I say maybe because of the friction they are causing , the problem is they are very religious and they see divorce as immoral, she just came back from Philippines and they again told her a big NO, we do not approve of your relationship. We have invested four years into this relationship and at this point I’m ready to pull the plug, it’s going to hurt like hell I mean she’s a beautiful girl inside and out. But sometimes we just can’t get what we want. Sincerely, Mr tragic .
There are religious Christian people that think if you divorce and remarry you are causing your partner to commit adultery in perpetuity, so basically even if you marry their daughter, you are condemning their daughter to hell for all eternity. You can give her an ultimatum, which usually doesn't work out well in the end, or break it off. There are many wonderful filipinas and their families who will accept you. Life is hard enough, why choose drama and bullcrap?
Here’s a very antiquated idea ..not having a child before marriage. As a women you need to know your worth..you instantly devalue yourself with having a child out of wedlock. This also goes hand in hand with the guy allowing it too, it takes two to tango.
Your sister still gets compliments on her looks and the full weight of being without a man will not sink in until her looks fade. She might want to get a OFW job while she still can.
I see this was asked a few times. The flip side would be "Why not?" As a local guy who see this all the time I'm surprised it isn't obvious to other nationalities. The girls are wearing relatively short dresses, which is more comfortable at home. The position and angle of the camera is pointing directly at an area that they don't want to be seen / screenshot. Maybe it's a problem because you want to see it? Haha just kidding guys. Without the pillow they would be putting a hand on it instead, which is more awkward.
These two look like half sisters. In the RP and in many other countries the number of single mother households is rapidly increasing. This is one factor as to why a lot of younger men in the RP appear and act effeminate. Boys raised by single moms and their Ates. These young boys have zero male role models during their formative years but still have the ability 15 years down the road to impregnate another young girl who will repeat the process. It is a VERY difficult process to break because it becomes systemic in portions of the society. I wish your sister luck and happiness but even more so I wish that your nephew become a strong and capable man.
Doing your best in a difficult situation is admirable, but I don't get all these Filipinas claiming how proud they are. Raising a child without a father is a difficulty, not an accomplishment.
Every woman is comfortable lying to herself about her bad decisions because she's the star in the movie in her head where everybody else is the villain 😂
Single mom syndrome… Should not be like that from the 3 sides: the mom, a new partner and the child. If she encounters a nice person ( m/f) at the right moment, she will not think rationally “ I must remain a single mom” If a person meets her and likes her, there will be no rationality “ I don’t want a woman with a child” If her child would be brought into the relation , the child will not act like “kill him!” How do I know this, you think? BTDT😊 Succesfully to a certain degree.
I find it a bit strange even watching my own mother growing up. I do not understand this "Happy to be single" lifestyle. Basically says I'd rather struggle alone and than with someone. It is this very same kind of woman that unintentionally puts pressure on her children to stay with her long after they reached adulthood because they don't want mom to be alone. Again, you don't want to argue about money......really, but you're single, how is that any better? Everything she said is like talking to a 15 year old.
@@Rubeauti I tried my best not to insult your sister, but I find it frustrating. I am Black from Chicago and my mother and aunt fall into every troupe in the book and me, 34 years living with my 36 year old brother and mother not because we can't afford to move out on our own we already did, but it was because our mother was by herself and struggling when she didn't need to and we felt obligated to move in with her to make her life comfortable. I just see this in your sister in her future.
Lots of good single mums who want a good partner, it's not about being a single mum, it's about some baggage they may carry like putting all guys in the same basket and putting all responsibility of their previous partners problems on the new partner
She will have a rude surprise when her son is 20. The odds are 90% plus that he will end up a criminal. This is not an idle criticism. Her son must have a father near at hand. This is based on real scientific research. I think the challenges this woman faces are serious. She needs help from laws and society
Single mothers are often comfortable with their position, but the child not having a good male role model is the one that actually suffers. The odds of that child falling into criminal or economic trouble is much greater without a father.
@@Rubeauti agree also
I agree with you, the child needs a father figure in their life, the child needs both father and mother for a balanced up bringing
Yep ..... father died when I was 5 so grew up without ...... did OK but my mother was out of her depth when my balls dropped .... best way of describing my teen years, 'unguided missile' ..... I needed a father .... and grandfather, uncles, cousins do not cut it.
Adoption can help. Sometimes grandparents or step parents can step in but they need discipline to make it work, be they blood or not.
Facts,,
Wow, a woman who takes accepts responsibility for her actions ❤️
how so? she didn't work for 10 yrs.
@@red-hat-mike I think comments are biased because we are watching the channel creator talk to her sister. So most posters are being considerate... but even in the comments and her body language you can see she isn't 100% comfortable with the situation.
Well, she admitted that she didn't work for 10 years because of her introverted personality and that was a mistake. It has taken a while, but she has obviously made positive changes because she has realized the error in her ways. Hence, she accepts responsibility for her actions.
@@red-hat-mike ..Thats correct - kids actually raise themselves, feed themselves, wash their own cloths & dishes, cook for themselves etc - they dont need parents to raise them at all.
Children really need both parents. I've known so many kids raised by a single mom and they all ached for a father. It is a sad state of affairs, but sometimes unavoilable.
I lived in a two parent home and yearned to get rid of my father who beat the shit out of me and my Mom. I would have much preferred a single parent home earlier, but it took until I could leave on my own accord at 14.
Hey Rubeauti. My Filipina girlfriend had a young daughter. Wasn’t looking for a Filipina with children. But happier I did find her. It’s a blessing. Thanks for the video. Your sister is adorable. Jerry
So your playing another guys saved video game, why would u date a single mom, u need to have more respect for yourself brother.
@@jerryneely1993 jerry , that’s interesting to think about. But aren’t all the Filipina someone’s saved video game , just without the extra player? I get it though. But I have a premade family which is ok. The little girl is just adorable. But thanks for that. Your right. My name is Jerry as well
@@theking1446 hey bro I wish you the best of luck with that little kid, I just know I’m 37 make around 50 grand a year and I started getting back into shape and I see all my other old girlfriends looking bad at 37… my point is u have value if u wanna settle for a single mom that’s ur choice, if u have a good job and your not a total fat fuck and u stay active guys like us only raise in value, but I hope it all works out for u my guy
Single mothers is one of many reasons why the PH is such a wonderful place for older foreigners… I personally looked for single mothers because at 48 I can’t have any more children and I know a Filipina with no children will want them… So single mothers were a must for me personally… Great Vid Ru!
She seems to have learnt from her mistakes, a very mature attitude.
Rubi they are learning curve not mistake. She is learning as she goes smart girl.
She’s beautiful!
I was told in my youth that “ youth is the cousin to insanity”. (smiling). We live and we learn, it’s all apart of growing up. Some life lessons are tougher than others only to teach us what we are made of, a test to show how strong we really are.
Well done little sister. Well done.
Wow great interview. She seems like she really has her life together. She looks so young I had a hard time imagining she has a 10 year old. I have alot of respect for her
Everyone makes mistakes when they are young, only the strongest learn from those mistakes. she is very wise
@@Rubeauti I raised my son as a single father and I also had help from my 4 sisters and my parents. the word mistake was a bad choice of words on my part. my son is a great gift and so is your nephew. watching that birthday video made my heart warm. your family reminds me of my family. One of my other favorite videos is your mom interviewing you. You said you think your father is proud of you. my opinion is he is VERY proud, you are a saint and your words and voice helps people
Some mistakes are unrecoverable
you guys are so natural in front of the camera :) it's so sad to see that so many children don't get to grow up with both parents together, this is not just a Philippines problem it's a problem around the world, I was lucky to grow up with both parents and the only thing that broke that bond was my father dying of Cancer when I was just 18 years old growing up in the 60s 70s was totally different back then families stayed together and worked things out instead of walking away
Fatherless children are a problem around the world yet having the same problem in the Philippines with its older culture shows that the Philippine value system did not make a difference.
So when looking for a partner, you are betting on the individual and not the Filipino culture.
Great to see a responsible woman. And a proud mother as well. I also agree that being a noisy home and nosy one at that is problematic. I like my quiet home and life. I wish the very best for her in the future and nice that she has a great sister to help out. I could only imagine having such a great woman at my side like her.
Here in Sweden, I never had any help in taking care of my son. I had to do all of it alone. The support system you have over there is amazing. Something I would have only dreamt of.
I am from Germany and recently dating a Filipina from Negros Oriental. She is a sinle mom for about 9 years. She did everything for her daughter. At the moment we plan i move to her so we 3 will be a family
Me personally speaking for just my self. The thing that would keep me from getting involved with a single mom is falling in love with her only to have the child's father come back into the moms life after years of not supporting her and the child or even communicating with her.
I dont want the drama
Some life lessons we only learn by going through the experience. Doesn't matter how much your parents, family, friends try to tell you. We don't understand until we've seen it ourselves. I think that young boy has a wonderful Mum and an Auntie who will make sure he has the best of life! Wish all of you all the good things that you can dream of! ❤️😘
Even though you got pregnant with out being married, your son is still the love of your life and a gift of God!:)
Unlike the US, if a Filipina mom separates from her spouse there's a good reason. But I'm sensing the feeling of modernity. She can hold herself accountable unlike most modern women, but her son will bear the weight of his father's absence. Pray for him.
Your sister is awesome i would not mind meeting a single mom like her. She actually takes responsibility for her actions.
I hope your sister will get her own channel. Nice personality and seems like she is grown to her responsibility as a single mom.
Basically your sister is just growing in Maturity and it's a process !!!
This was a really good podcast Episode. These types of conversations are not easy to talk about, thank you both for having such a real conversation.
I enjoyed this video. It's good to get your sister's perspective on the topic. Cheers!
Also I cant believe that your sister is the same girl from your live stream. She is beautiful.
I ask my GF before…. How can you handle so much difficulty in yr life ?? She tell me “ I am pure Pinay, we are born to face problems “ her faith in God and not worry much the future defines her. Your sister has a great attitude and will find happiness in her life !! You are Filipina… you are strong and resilient in all situations!! Sana all !! 🇵🇭👍🏻👊🏻
Lmfao ask her why women CREATE their own problems the answer will shock you
I consider myself a lucky man I've found true love not just from my partner but being accepted by her kids I love them like my own and I'm truly blessed
Rubeauti your sister is a strong lady, she has realized her faults. The main thing is she cares about her son,
And with you as his aunt he is going to be okay. Look I think your sister is very beautiful, and I,m sure she will have no problem finding some other man if she really wants to.
We all need to walk our own paths in life. It's important to remember that decisions are made along the way that we may not understand, but we were not there when the other person faced their choice. You can never go back! Now they and everyone need to help make the best of their choice. Hindsight is always 20/20!
Opo - with the deepest respect to the young ladies - The issues with the all to common cases of single mothers in the Philippines is A, the notion that it's a catholic country, which suits the misogynistic male dominated governments, B the difficulties in divorce, C, the complacency with men having multiple relationships and C, the lack of contraception by both women and men.
I love this format I know I said before when I watched the whole video the other day you sister is gorgeous and so are you 😍😍🙏💋💗
I'm introverted but get along with others quite quickly.
Ms. Rebuti thank you for sharing this interview.....though your sister seems secured with her decision of being single, ..life can be much more fulfilling in a loving relationship....based on your sister's responses she may have been with a wrong partner....it's sad that she has given up, she seems sweet, honest, purposeful with so much to offer...not to mention she's so lovely.....please tell her not to close the door to companionship due to one bad apple....from the beginning, God said, is not good for man to be alone...the same is meant for a woman....Miss Rubeati, you're wise beyond your years...help your sister with advise...how to find a good apple among a large basket of men.....
Great video great mom you cover everything 😎 R always GBU And Family Always 🙏 ❤ 🇺🇸
the US have alot of single moms as well...and these US single moms are pampered by the US GOVERNMENT and local social services
Your sister is taking the steps now, thanks to her sister :)
She just needs to keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing this with us. We hope to see you back.
If you can't get a divorce, why get married? This seems to be setting up single mom's.
It's a shame for a child to grow up without both parents. How unfortunate this family weakness has become acceptable in this day and age. My heart goes out to the innocent children.
Depression is a tough battle and even more so when others are criticising you and not being supportive, hard being alone and having no support and you're doing all of that while raising your child, you look amazing and sound like you're winning that battle. 🙂💋 I thought I would touch on that as its not something alot of people would openly talk about and not something alot of people understand or want to recognise but well done 🫂💋
Your a beautiful woman. Single moms impress me.
Can't help but notice how the man took no culpability in this situation. Nothing about him was mentioned and how he was just as much involved in developing her situation. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's important to recognize all parties. It's also important to recognize how little life training she got. Young people make mistakes because of a lack of education and effective mentoring. They try a new way, try something different, and there are reasons for that. Bottom line: hold the man accountable.
I see a very tense lady in your sister who seems to be very angry and guarded to protect herself. It's normal reaction when bad things happen. I don't know her but she needs to forgive herself. This is life. She'll be a much wiser woman. Keep moving forward. It will be ok.
I felt her frustrations as well
She might be happy being a single mom. But believe me no man wants a woman with a kid. Especially, if he wants to get married and start a family. It might be harsh but it's the truth 🤨
Honestly her attitude seems very much like American women, but we are all human.
Living together before marriage, leaving because the guy was broke, then apparently excluding the guy from the son’s life are all very irresponsible behaviors if you aren’t in a committed relationship.
She also seems to have no clear career goals or life plan, or even objectives for her kid besides him not becoming a criminal or disrespectful.
It was also pretty disturbing thinking every relationship is horrible because of one mistake. Rubeauti seems way more mature and rational, and I get that they’re sisters, so maybe interviewing someone who wasn’t related would’ve revealed more, since her sister wasn’t volunteering her thoughts.
Jet is still young, but having seen the huge numbers of single moms in the Philippines is definitely something that is problematic. And having them being completely dependent on family to survive is also sadly common. But for the men who can step in for these women , kudos to you guys.
It's hard indeed even as a man raising kids without a partner your sister seems to.be doing well to . Have fun 👍 beautiful two
Decades ago divorced women and single moms were shamed, sometimes even ostracized by their families. Not saying that was right, but nowadays financial difficulties seem to be the only consequences they face.
Better to be single than with the wrong person !!! God Bless !!!
Better for the boy to have a male role model even if that male is still working on himself. It's not perfect but it is preferable to being raised exclusively by women. (Excluding incidents of abuse of course)
@@markmielke5283 Point taken yes that is the way God designed it to be for sure !!!
True happyness is when your comfortable in your own skin being single!!! A partner should just enhance your personal happiness!!!
She needs a true partner that supports her wants and needs.
Rubeauti, is there any way one can talk or chat with you beside here about advice? u seem extremely honest and sincere. I am planning a trip to philipphins for the first time ever! and there are so many scams and girls and or youtubers that are western which i don't want to talk to about philipphins, because i like to chat with local people??
Your sister is a very beautiful and intelligent woman, she appears very responsible, having learned from her first bad choice, unlike many single parents, with 3,4 or even 5 children from different fathers. I think she is excellent wife material.
The good thing about your sister is that she know she was made mistake which is very rare for women this days.
I think you have distorted the issue, by treating getting pregnant as a crime, and not a social issue - and literally forcing your sister several times to "take responsibility" for her actions. I'm gobsmacked at the lack of sensibility you have shown.Your sister going out and eventually getting pregnant (not optimal, but not a crime) has more to due with the lack of parental preparation, governmental malfeasance, and cultural rigidity, than actions by your sister. She is guilty of nothing, but poor circumstances, and lack of support at that time. It was tough to watch you, who seemingly knew nothing about what your sister was going through at the time, sit there like a pedantic nun, encouraging her to admit "her responsibility". Very, very disappointing. Your sister deserves better. Deserves a more compassionate and understanding family. She seems amazingly nice. I wish for her only the best things in 2023. While there are many beautiful aspects of the Philippines, one of the ugly aspects are the judgmental hoards promoting hateful "chizmiz" in cycles that never end. Stop sitting in judgment - you are not qualified. Only G-d can do that, and start being more kind. If Rubeauti can't do it, there is not much hope for filipino society...
Well, I would make the argument that most teenagers crash cars when they're learning to drive... 😃...Are they irresponsible? Maybe. But it all comes down to the fact that they just don't know how to drive yet. Life doesn't come with an instruction manual. And sometimes we get ourselves into situations that, even with the best of intentions we find ourselves in an untenable position that is unbearable, depressing, or downright creepy and we have to bail...Life is live and learn. It is by definition full of mistakes. But here is the paradox...Is your nephew a mistake, Rubi? I think you would vehemently scream "No!" at that thought, right?...So what's the point of passing judgment on your sister at this point? Her
"mistake" and her "irresponsibility" gave you one of the great joys of your life, not to mention hers...Let it go... 🤗
That was an abrupt ending! 😂😂😂 Oh well, life works the same way sometimes. Good interview with your sister and often young women and men leave home trying to escape something from their parents home; and not calculating the cost and the responsibility of pulling full weight on your own. I'm assuming that your sister didn't go to college but you did Rubeauti. 4,000 php even in 2011 doing construction work is poverty wages. Of course money is going to be a problem, but the sex is still good. Then a baby arrives and even more babies for some women and the men bailout. The cycle continues. I love your content Rubeauti and I hope more Filipinos are tuning into your channel. Intelligence is very beautiful and sexy. Nothing like a smart and intelligent woman. Cheers 🥂🥂
She is way too sweet and beautiful to be a single mother. I'd love to step in if I could.
She's a lot like me.
The sister should have her own channel, she has grown to be the smarter one in the family 🤔
Rubi exposing her sister on the hot seat as been reckless and irresponsible for 10 minutes. Haha Although, true. The real reason for so many single moms is a lack of self restraint, lack of values and principles. It's a lack of desire to seek holiness.
Desperation can set in when there are few job opportunities and parents feel entitled to your support. Add a culture that prohibits living-together or use of birth control, and it's a recipe for problems.
Harsh words such as irresponsible, mistake , fault…
I do feel there is tension . Probably not all is being said. Okay, private family issues. Should remain that way.
She was young, no knowledge about life, probably liked / loved her bf. And nature did its job.
Solid clip 👌
I think she's happy with herself, because she has joy within her soul, and love herself. Her previous relationship took her joy, and happiness away. A man that is established, treats a woman well, and handles all of his responiblies, would have married her years ago, and still be married today. He would be financially, emotinally, and spiritually stable. Your life would be different as a married Queen. She is happy to be a single woman, not a single mom, because she has peace of mind. But her child needs a father for male structured discipline.
You say your sister was unemployed for 10 years. She stayed home taking care of her son. Isnt that what a mother should do. Give the son support and self worth. That will make him a good responsible Man in the future. That is so important. Trust me dont make him feel like a burden. He is the gift that he is. If the father is gone so be it. His loss.
It's about money, simple. Without it there is a lot of problems.
Great video. I was thinking if your sister was depressed, some omega 3's or a generic antidepressant might help. There is no shame in seeking help, and it could improve her life. Some of them may help with social anxiety as well.
This video cuts off in the middle of the conversation. Have a beautiful day, take care, and God bless you both. 🙏 💔
I agree with sis. Living with inlaws sounds atrocious. A man should build his kingdom (money) and castle (house) before he looks for a wife. A girl shouldn't date a man without a kingdom and castle. Being financially stable and having a house shows the man is serious and ready. He has worked hard to obtain these things. The girl can move in and make the house a home. Take care of the home, the man (be his peace and bedroom fun), take care of and kidos. Man takes care of all financial needs and showers his wife with support, affection, affirmation, & reassurance. Easy.
😂😂..hey Dan...thats not how it works anymore.. Feminism killed it. Very few men are ever going to fall for that trap anymore
@@TimeToTravel-u2x maybe true however, we are the leaders. Lead by example. Men can still do the right thing and pursue a traditional woman...which is a smaller % of women but they're still out there.
@@dancomp80 Maybe...but 90% of men aren't willing to take the risk anymore...
I praise strong, hardworking single moms but for me, I do not prefer a single mom
I hope to find a partner who will start our own family when I move to Cebu
It's tough even in the Philippines. If you date a single mother I wouldn't unless she wanted kids with me. What are you getting in return if you have no kids? But it's better to date someone single but it's up to you guys !
@@Rubeauti definitely. If a man is willing to give it a chance hey it could work but it's alot. It was a choice and then they are single moms and that's why it maybe hard for some women in the Philippines to date maybe because most men don't date single mothers. Some men all over the world be afraid of the baggage.
Amazing that any girl that lovely is alone in this world. Almost shocking, really.
This is good personal and interesting video and don't quite agree with Irresponsible !! Life can be learning and adjustments experience part or most of time and appears that she does these things very well !!!
Single mothers try their best ... unfortunately a fatherless child most of the time ends up being as emotional as the mother growing up ...as they inherit the mother's spirit. meaning they tend to over react to difficulties, have lots of stress, anxiety etc.. thus having a harder laife and maybe commiting crime or suicide
Hi nare kamusta kana ?
The kids still need a good male role model in their life so choose wisely girls ;)
It sounds like she is just making excuses for her leaving the relationship.
I think the most important thing for a young lady to understand is when you look to make yourself available to a man, that the main goal should be, is that man capable to be able to provide for a family by himself with no outside help. That thought should not involve anything to do with height or looks, but everything to do with character and actions. A women is the gatekeeper of who has sex and children. A man is the gatekeeper of who has a relationship or marriage. Choose wisely.
It's very sad and distressing that so few children and even young adults are properly taught about sexual health worldwide and all that entails. Obviously to include the being a single mother or father. We can do so much better when we get the typical fears out of the way as the parents or as the potential father/mother. I am a very optimistic person having come through life and death health situations myself. That said, if folks realized where things are heading (See Geopolitical Strategists like Peter Ziehan) in the next years, decade or two with the global economies, they might say no instead of falling prey to hormones. The global economies and demographics from China and Russia to E.U. and Japan are falling apart rapidly by and large. Famine in China is highly likely as well as elsewhere it is already beginning to hit a stride few would ever wish to see. So its up to us older and wiser folks to educate ourselves better to educate them better on when and why to have a child. They then can plan wisely as they see fit for not only economic reasons but for preconceptual health reasons as so many babes are born from very unhealthy mothers and fathers setting them up for a life of unneeded suffering. It's my hope to continue teaching preconseptual health and opportunity rich living for the unborn so when they are born, expected or not, they have the best chance at a beautiful life as they can have on this crazy little planet we call earth. :)
Interesting video. In the Philippines, some women who end up being single moms, are somewhat like that, going to say they are happier being a single mom because of some perceived freedom they have over a relationship with a partner. But what actually happens is the woman's parents will take her back because the elders will not be able to turn away from their granchildren. In some sense, at times the woman's parent may even have a sense of guilt over the situation of their child's single mom dilemma. So some single mom's would go back to their families and thus the multi-generational household will exist. In the absence of the father, the grandfather or other older male relatives may become then the child's male role model. Of course this varies in each family's personal relationships. In some sense this makes the single mom feel she has freedom, where in fact she is needlessly throwing the responsibility of parenthood back to her own parents. Such is the family orientation in the Philippines, at times the parent's unconditional generosity will be abused by their erring daughter.
But there are also situations, where more truly conservative families will not ever accept the partner their daughter's took on. So these older clan will give an ultimatum to the daughter, ditch that guy or risk being disowned by your family's clan. It may sound like too dramatic, but it does happen, and more often than not, the daughter cannot risk being disowned, especially if her ancestral family has some status/ old wealth in the Philippines. Whoever that guy is, it will take more than guts and brave face before he will be accepted by the ancestral family.
There are just some cases where a woman at times way too naive and sparks of rebellion from ones parents that leads to unfavorable relationships and having a child out of wedlock.
Then too late to find out her partner is not ready at all to assume fatherhood let alone be a legal husband, so naive woman ends up being a single mom with a child.
These days social media and celebrity's life makes huge impact on impressionable young women, so some thinks it is okay to disregard common sense when in a relationship, hence, unwarranted pregnancies occur. It is good if the mother realizes her mistake and takes on the responsibility of being a mother, or is lucky enough to have strong clan support to help raise the child.
I tried to get with a single mother but it quickly devolved to where it turned out all she wanted was a baby sitter and the worst part was she was using her daughter as a weapon..........I no longer talk to her but it has made me weary of single mothers.........sucks but thats how I will look at it from now on.....
"A nation can only rise as high as to the moral value of its' women"
love you ❤ love your videos 💕 Back in the sixties, single parenthood was very high in African-American communities compared to other groups in the US society. They did quite an intensive study on this phenomenon. The report identified four key findings as to why single-parent families are in high numbers among black communities.
1, Low income was number one. 70% of single parents earned less on average, and the middle class had 5% of single-parent families back in the sixties in the USA.
2, Low education level. 66% of single parents did not finish high school, compared to 28% of single-parent families among high-school and college graduates.
3, Lack of moral compass. This came as a surprise to the social scientist because almost 86% of the single-parent attended church services on a weekly bases.
4, Emotional damages endured in childhood. About 45% of single-parent families came from single-parent families. Thus, significant regeneration was detected. Another considerable difference was identified: trustworthiness, the lack of it.
Every individual is subject to these forces. Despite, one acknowledges it or not. Great numbers of Millennials cannot hold a job, nor can they build meaningful relationships with one another. The reasons are the same today as for the black communities in the USA way back in the sixties.
“Back in the sixties “??? What’s changed?
@@neilgunns8391 it's worse now even 😂
@@neilgunns8391 Good question. Back then, the high number of single-parent families was limited to African-American communities. Now, it is a worldwide phenomenon. ;(
@@derekintheph8935 It is worse these days than it was sixty years ago, not only the single-parent families but across the board in our societies. Cannot be any doubt as a human species, we are heading to self-destruction. the only communities that would be able to survive are the religious communities like the Amish, Mennonite, Hutterite, and Bruderhof. These religious communities are self-sufficient and strong family-based collectives.
Truth. On point 3, religion is about the super-ego and salvation (not ethics). On point 4, being conditionally loved (like Utang na loob) and living where low levels of social trust (just 4% in PH) lead to being damaged with notable narcissism.
I personally don’t understand how a man can walk away from their child.
I would never do that!!!
Being single definitely better than being with the wrong person, but being with the right person creates an effortless relationship . My Filipina’s family hates me because I’m divorced with two daughters . Hey even dislike the fact I own a company and I’m successful because it makes them feel inferior. We have been together four years and are at the point of killing each other . She needs to choose between her happiness or listen to her family and break up with me . Any advise anyone?
@@Rubeauti not married yet, this year maybe, and I say maybe because of the friction they are causing , the problem is they are very religious and they see divorce as immoral, she just came back from Philippines and they again told her a big NO, we do not approve of your relationship. We have invested four years into this relationship and at this point I’m ready to pull the plug, it’s going to hurt like hell I mean she’s a beautiful girl inside and out. But sometimes we just can’t get what we want.
Sincerely,
Mr tragic .
There are religious Christian people that think if you divorce and remarry you are causing your partner to commit adultery in perpetuity, so basically even if you marry their daughter, you are condemning their daughter to hell for all eternity. You can give her an ultimatum, which usually doesn't work out well in the end, or break it off. There are many wonderful filipinas and their families who will accept you. Life is hard enough, why choose drama and bullcrap?
@@manonpurpose6565 hey thanks for the feedback much appreciated. 👍
Here’s a very antiquated idea ..not having a child before marriage. As a women you need to know your worth..you instantly devalue yourself with having a child out of wedlock. This also goes hand in hand with the guy allowing it too, it takes two to tango.
Your sister still gets compliments on her looks and the full weight of being without a man will not sink in until her looks fade.
She might want to get a OFW job while she still can.
GOOD MORNING
Why the pillows ??
I see this was asked a few times. The flip side would be "Why not?" As a local guy who see this all the time I'm surprised it isn't obvious to other nationalities. The girls are wearing relatively short dresses, which is more comfortable at home. The position and angle of the camera is pointing directly at an area that they don't want to be seen / screenshot. Maybe it's a problem because you want to see it? Haha just kidding guys. Without the pillow they would be putting a hand on it instead, which is more awkward.
These two look like half sisters. In the RP and in many other countries the number of single mother households is rapidly increasing. This is one factor as to why a lot of younger men in the RP appear and act effeminate. Boys raised by single moms and their Ates. These young boys have zero male role models during their formative years but still have the ability 15 years down the road to impregnate another young girl who will repeat the process. It is a VERY difficult process to break because it becomes systemic in portions of the society. I wish your sister luck and happiness but even more so I wish that your nephew become a strong and capable man.
Doing your best in a difficult situation is admirable, but I don't get all these Filipinas claiming how proud they are. Raising a child without a father is a difficulty, not an accomplishment.
Every woman is comfortable lying to herself about her bad decisions because she's the star in the movie in her head where everybody else is the villain 😂
One way to lessen single moms...marry them. Hopefully she will appreciate it and leave him. No third party BS.
Your sister should have a TH-cam channel she speak English good 👍
What is your real name
Children need fathers
Single mom syndrome…
Should not be like that from the 3 sides: the mom, a new partner and the child.
If she encounters a nice person ( m/f) at the right moment, she will not think rationally “ I must remain a single mom”
If a person meets her and likes her, there will be no rationality “ I don’t want a woman with a child”
If her child would be brought into the relation , the child will not act like “kill him!”
How do I know this, you think? BTDT😊 Succesfully to a certain degree.
I find it a bit strange even watching my own mother growing up. I do not understand this "Happy to be single" lifestyle. Basically says I'd rather struggle alone and than with someone. It is this very same kind of woman that unintentionally puts pressure on her children to stay with her long after they reached adulthood because they don't want mom to be alone. Again, you don't want to argue about money......really, but you're single, how is that any better? Everything she said is like talking to a 15 year old.
@@Rubeauti I tried my best not to insult your sister, but I find it frustrating. I am Black from Chicago and my mother and aunt fall into every troupe in the book and me, 34 years living with my 36 year old brother and mother not because we can't afford to move out on our own we already did, but it was because our mother was by herself and struggling when she didn't need to and we felt obligated to move in with her to make her life comfortable. I just see this in your sister in her future.
Why are they both holding a pilow?
If only i could trust online dating but America has killed it for me so finding a woman overseas seems impossible
Lots of good single mums who want a good partner, it's not about being a single mum, it's about some baggage they may carry like putting all guys in the same basket and putting all responsibility of their previous partners problems on the new partner
She will have a rude surprise when her son is 20. The odds are 90% plus that he will end up a criminal. This is not an idle criticism. Her son must have a father near at hand. This is based on real scientific research. I think the challenges this woman faces are serious. She needs help from laws and society
u know if u leave a real address people will send u stuff
Maybe she’ll meet a nice guy and learn to be happy. 🙏🏻