Join my Coaches Monthly Q&A call here: bit.ly/MonthlyQAsforCoaches My treat! Each Month we will discuss a Coaching Topic that will support your growth. Get access to the past recordings as well and get your free 1 Resource Development CCE for each month! Woot! 💝 You can also access the TH-cam Recordings with and without the Markers here: bit.ly/youtube-mcc-demos
You are very genuine and so natural that makes watching this very relieving. Not only are you demonstrating a coaching session but I felt like I am also being coached by you at the same place. Thank you for being so generous sharing this video 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing these videos! It means so much. I’ve been looking everywhere for full, proper coaching sessions to watch, observe and learn from, but there’s not much out there. I also love the analogies and the bulding on them throughout the session. It’s genius. I’m learning a lot. Thank you again ❤️
You are so welcome. And, yes, the use of the clients' analogies and metaphors is so powerful to the client having the embodied learning. I really appreciate the comment and that you are getting such benefit from the videos :) Happy Coaching!
Thank you both! It really shows how when we are so deep in our 'story' it is hard to see a way through. Lyssa, you are so graceful in your questioning, observations and the visualization that really shows the beauty of life coaching. I am waiting for the day I can coach like you.
Thank you for the lovely comments. And, Tracey made it very easy to have fun and work deeply. I have some very early recordings that make me sigh, it is all a practice, practice, practice experiment. :)
I love this session so much, I’ve watched it a few times, it’s so informative about showing the required ICF skills. It is so gentle and at the same time allowing for the conversation and topic to progress and get completed, thank you for sharing, it’s really helpful for someone starting this journey.
I am so happy when I hear this! She is such a delightful client and I loved the session myself. Thank you for the comment. Big hug @agatastasiewicz9921
@@LyssadeHart Doing that already! But I strongly feel that there is so much you can offer to people who are not coaches too. The same presence, and the same teaching is needes for everyone.
I am so happy to hear this. And, I mentioned this on another video, I am a different assessor 2 years later. So, I might be a little harder on myself now. Also, getting good familiarity with the PCC Markers will support you on the ICF Exam, whenever you find yourself taking that. :)
Thank you Lyssa for sharing this video. A few things that stood out from me was how you matched the energy and conversation pace of your Coachee and your use of a consistent metaphor (the plate) for the Coachee to identify their solutions and actions. Your use of long conversational style questions gave a sense of a strong connection and relationship with the Coachee. You have given me a lot to think about!
Thank you for the comment @Barbara-Noonan I really pay attention to the metaphors and use them. My next book, Light Up: The Science of Coaching with Metaphors will publish on March 1, so you can see this and many other coaching examples using the metaphors the client brings through out conversations. :)
Thank you so much Lyssa. I am new to this world. My colleague posted on linkedin that he volunteers as a coach and that intrigued me. Before meeting him I wanted to know what coaching means 😊. Thank you so much for sharing this demo publicly. It truly helps👍👏👏
Yay! I am glad I could help you to have a better understanding. And, yes, I have very generous clients who are willing to share their sessions, for education. :)
Dear Lyssa I really loved this piece of work shared by you. Its just a great learning listening to you. Thanks a lot! I am now an ardent follower of your inputs 🙂
Wow! I loved this demonstration! Thank you Lyssa! I'm an absolute newbie in that I'm just starting my journey of becoming a coach. These demos explain so much of what I'm learning. Heartfelt gratitude and blessings 😊🙏
Another inspiring example of a master at work, thank you. One technique which stood out for me in this example was grabbing ahold of the client's metaphor (thanksgiving PLATE) and weaving it through the rest of the conversation. It is affirming and allowed Tracey to continue to build her ideas within a picture that resonates with her. Another part of the secret sauce.
I think that using the client's metaphor is very powerful. My new book, fingers crossed, publishing in January, is on Light Up: The Science of Coaching with Metaphors.
I think it is the beauty of not having special questions, but being fully present with the client and of course their metaphors. :) I am so glad you enjoyed the video.
Hi Lyssa, Thank you so much for sharing your sessions with us. That´s very generous. I love how the WHY was explored and how the session naturally led to the client unblocking her situation. Amazing! Quick question - I have noticed that you refer to asking open-ended questions to stay non-directive but you sometimes use closed questions. Is there a reason for this? ´ie: Are there any other things that need exploring...?.´ I was also surprised by the fact that you shared your ´observation/reading´ of what the client was saying when she said she didn´t know how to get off the board. The binary comment. Could we have asked - what would make saying I need a month off easier? or something along those lines? Is it ok to share our opinion about what the coachee says? I am still training so I am sorry if my questions are missing the point! Thanks again for putting your sessions up.
Dear Lyssa, Thank you for sharing the coaching demonstration; it means a lot to me, especially since I am preparing for my coaching examination for the Global Executive Coaching Diploma (GECD) with CDI Africa. I have taken notes of the PCC markers.
Wow I loved every bit of this conversation 💬. Amazed and I would like one day to be able to carry on a similar coaching session with others. Thank you 😊
Thank you Rabia! All it takes is some intention, some practice, and a some time. Coaching is a skill just like any other. I think back on my own coaching, 2012 and I am better coach 10 years later. My guess is, in 10 years, I will say that as I continued to grow and reflect on my conversations and coaching transcripts, I will be a better coach than I am now. :) Here's to a Coaching Mindset and Continual Coaching Growth!
The way you were able to redirect and get your client focused on the topic of most importance for the day, you let your client lead and she came to many a ha moments on her own. I saw a demo from another coaching channe that seemed more like an interview but yours was exactly what Im currently learning.
@@MomMadness1 Thank you for the feedback. And I agree, this wasn't an interview :) I also agree getting to what is important to the client is an important key to having ahas. Thank you again for your thoughts.
Thank you for both of you! This was an excellent demo in so many ways, I made a lot of notes, too. I really liked your natural relationship during the session and this certain lightness during the discussion, it was just a really, really nice experience to watch, so thank you.
Loved watching this. Excellent and lovely coaching session. I am amazed at how these questions surface important and breakthrough insights (in a short period of time too). The pace is relaxed and welcoming.
Thank you so much for your comments and for visiting my video. I'm delighted you found it useful. It is amazing how fast insights can happen for our clients when we use their language and metaphors. If I may ever answer any questions for you or if you have a specific topic around professional coaching you would like addressed, please reach out to me! Cheers, Lyssa
@@LyssadeHart I actually have something in mind. There are times, the hour of coaching is almost up and the coachee/client is nowhere near in achieving the goal/purpose for the session s/he set for herself/himself. How do I end the session? Currently, I've been extending the sessions until the goal/purpose is met. But I feel this is not sustainable approach in the long run. I'm still working on getting my ACC. Thanks Lyssa
@@Icecandy1882 Great question. I agree, it's not sustainable. And, I do have some thoughts. Let me think on them and I will probably do a video, I am 99.999% sure that you are not alone. :)
I just did a LinkedIn Live on this, I think we will be loading it soon. It's a short video. And, again, it will be coming soon. :) Thanks for the great question.
Thank you Lyssa for all that you do. I have been following your content for some time now and find it very beneficial. Just wanted to ask where can we find the transcript analysis that you refer to in the slides with your markers? You state it has choice points and leading vs being lead. I've had a look on your website and on the course TH-cam and MCC demos but can only find the videos and transcript there.
Hi, Coach Lyssa, It is so nice having a coaching demo with PCC maker, thanks for yor lovely sharing. I have a question when you clarify what is the goal of this session（what is driving this proceastination), why you asking "what is the experience you are not procratinatng"?
I so appreciate the work you are doing to supplement our learning as we approach coaching as a profession. One question - you reference - during the early questions around procrastination - a "transcript analysis" where you "talk about choice points - leading vs. being led." Is this analysis available somewhere? I ask because that point - leading vs being led - is so critical to me - I would really absorb whatever thoughts and guidance you might have on that - and of course it is so digestible within the context of the filmed session so I feel like I would really learn from it. Thank you again - I'm a huge fan of your work!
Hi @GiaWhite, I use RaeNotes as the transcript analysis element, they have the competencies baked into the program, so that is easy to start to check ALL the competencies that your question meets, and at each of my questions, I might consider other CPs to what I asked. I do this to expand my ear on possible ways of being curious, based on what the client offered me. :)
Thank you so much Lyssa for these demo videos they are very helpful. I like your light fun style, it resonate with me. I love to have fun with my clients as well. I have a question for you though, what was the clue for you through the conversation to pull up the word "INTEGRITY "?
Hi Dalia, thank you for this question. I had to sit with it for a bit. What had INTEGRITY show up for me? My first, off the cuff, thought was, “It just bubbled to the surface for me, intuitively.” But the more I thought about it I knew; it could only bubble up intuitively if something had prompted me to hear it. So, I went back into the transcript. What I keyed in on subconsciously was through the series of the response to my questions. Starting with, “What does procrastination mean for you?” Client: I have specific things that need to be done. I know they need to be done. Then I asked, “What is the experience you're having when you are not procrastinating, and things are getting done the way that you would like them to be. Like you're doing what you need to be doing?” Client: I'm productive. I’m able to focus and get tasks done. The word would be productive. There were a series of questions that led to the client describing: "Because I have a lot of demands and other people, um their productivity depends on me. If I don't get my piece done, then they can't get their piece done." When I hear someone describing that other people’s work DEPENDS on them, and they aren’t getting it done, it piqued my curiosity about the value under that belief. Which, for me, brought the word INTEGRITY. I hope this helps to understand my intuition for testing my hypothesis, which then I tested by asking about the word that had shown up. I think coaching is to a large degree, coaches testing their assumptions and curiosities. :)
@@Icecandy1882 I thought it was such a useful inquiry. I enjoyed reflecting on where integrity emerged. I’m glad the exercise was useful for you as well. 😀
Really great flow. Really liked the plate metaphor. My only critique would be that the coach didn't leave much space between the coachee's answers and her questions, even talking over the coachee at times.
Yes, I am a work in progress. :) I do stop myself, but sometimes do talk over and then have to stop. I agree with the feedback . With enough trust, the client doesn't take it badly, just pressing on with her thoughts.
Greetings Lyssa, thank you for sharing these great videos, I'm probably watching this the 5th time 😄. 10.44: "How does that answer your 'why' about the procrastination?", in the video you attach core competency 8, my first impression is that it's competency 7, I'm curious what makes it more growth than awareness?
Hi @Victoromollo7042, That is a really great question. There is some subjectivity to my choices, and I agree with you, I think that question at 10:44 does Evoke Awareness, I think it also is in alignment with Trust and Safety, Presence, and Listening as well. I am not sure "why" I didn't add those. I love that you caught that! I do think that it demonstrates CC8. I must have wanted to make sure that I got that one, since it was happening in the middle of the session. :)
Hello Lyssa, what a wonderful experience. The video embodies what Coaching is. Would you be willing to share some recommendations and suggestions to me, I’m interested in becoming a Life Coach. I’d like to partner with an organization that offers the accreditation and credentials needed to high credibility. Any advice you’re willing to share would be appreciated.
Hi @RadiantRyker50 I think this would be a great topic of a video. My first thought is that you look on the ICF website for programs and then you interview several to see if they resonate with your interests. How do they teach? What is their focus? And, could you speak with a few past students? Remember when it comes to any education you are the consumer and so doing your due diligence is going to be your first most important step. :) Great question!
hi Lyssa, this demo was very insightful - thank you for sharing! I have one question: at the very end you said: "This is a beautiful word". What are your thoughts about labeling the activities of our clients? What I mean is whether we should take our position as coaches towards certain phrases/actions or remain completely neutral?
Honestly, I do think that we label things too much, but then there is our personality. I save my labels for things that sound like the client is happy, having fun, and when they share a powerful insight. I might say, "Brilliant!" or "Amazing." I guess I could contain my thoughts, but this is also about the client being heard and celebrated for their insights or work in the process. I think the danger is when the client says something like, "I'm overwhelmed..." and the coach says, "That's terrible." or "You shouldn't let yourself get like that." I will probably always be a coach who has to tone down her excitement with her clients. I don't have the interest or capability to remain completely neutral. It's not my style. I do hope I don't wash my excitement over the client too much, but so far, they haven't said to tone it down, and I ask them. :)
I know the intent is positive but what a ridiculous coaching demonstration. I would never bring this style of coaching to my clients as they would roll their eyes and never invite the coach back. Executives don't speak this language. They want a credible thought partner they can discuss things with in confidence.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I completely understand that different coaching styles resonate with different people, and it's important to find an approach that aligns with you and your client's needs and expectations. In my experience, the executives I work with do respond well to this style of coaching. When you mention a "thought partner," I interpret it as helping clients independently think through their situation. If an Executive brings the language of a full plate, then that is the way the Executive speaks. I have worked in many industries, one executive in the Tire industry used the idea of different size tires for how to move forward with more ease, as one example. In my 30 years of working with people, I've found that executives don't typically need my expertise to solve their problems. Instead, they benefit from having someone to help them view their challenges with fresh eyes, hear what words light up their brain, and support them in exploring what's holding them back from acting on their own ideas. This demonstration is a moment in time that shows a client having her own insights, her brain lighting up to those insights, and then coming up with her own solutions. I do appreciate your insight into what your executives might prefer. Thank you for your feedback, wishing you continued success in your coaching journey!
@mfandrew You use different coaching methods and techniques depending on the client and their issues. Clearly this approach worked well for this client. When the coach demonstrates understanding, compassion and understanding they create a safe space for the client to open up. Just because people are in executive roles doesn’t mean that this approach wouldn’t work. Executives are often in competitive environments where they don’t get safe space to be vulnerable. Where appropriate, I have used this approach in my coaching practice with executives and found people have responded positively. You should also check out the executive coaching videos of Alicia Marie who uses a similar approach in her business coaching. Try challenging yourself to have an open mind about how different coaching styles might work in various scenarios.
Great question. For me, it fits with Marker 7.5. I am offering an intuition to the client, I am not telling her that the value being impacted is integrity, I am sharing an intuition and asking her if it aligns or not. And, remember, every question affects the direction of the conversation, so it the question inviting the client inside? Or outside? Is the question inviting the client to make meaning or is the coach making the meaning and sharing that with the client. Example: "As your talking, it's clear this is an integrity issue. It shows how much you care, right?" Very different delivery. Thanks for the comment!
@@dariolamela We have a monthly Q&A for coaches on the 3rd Monday of the month, you are welcome to come join us as you continue your learning journey! :)
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You are very genuine and so natural that makes watching this very relieving. Not only are you demonstrating a coaching session but I felt like I am also being coached by you at the same place. Thank you for being so generous sharing this video 🙏
Hi @basahij thank you for the comment and I am so happy that the recording was useful in multiple ways :)
Thank you so much for sharing these videos! It means so much. I’ve been looking everywhere for full, proper coaching sessions to watch, observe and learn from, but there’s not much out there. I also love the analogies and the bulding on them throughout the session. It’s genius. I’m learning a lot. Thank you again ❤️
You are so welcome. And, yes, the use of the clients' analogies and metaphors is so powerful to the client having the embodied learning. I really appreciate the comment and that you are getting such benefit from the videos :) Happy Coaching!
Thank you Coach Lyssa for always being generous with your knowledge.
Thank you Sophia! I am editing our podcast, I am looking forward to sharing you with others.
It is a beautiful session! Enjoyed every minute of it. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for the lovely comment. What did you learn from the demo that you will play with in your coaching?
Thank you both! It really shows how when we are so deep in our 'story' it is hard to see a way through. Lyssa, you are so graceful in your questioning, observations and the visualization that really shows the beauty of life coaching. I am waiting for the day I can coach like you.
Thank you for the lovely comments. And, Tracey made it very easy to have fun and work deeply. I have some very early recordings that make me sigh, it is all a practice, practice, practice experiment. :)
I love this session so much, I’ve watched it a few times, it’s so informative about showing the required ICF skills. It is so gentle and at the same time allowing for the conversation and topic to progress and get completed, thank you for sharing, it’s really helpful for someone starting this journey.
I am so happy when I hear this! She is such a delightful client and I loved the session myself. Thank you for the comment. Big hug @agatastasiewicz9921
This channel should have a million followers ❤
Please help me make that happen! :) Share with all your coaching friends.
@@LyssadeHart Doing that already! But I strongly feel that there is so much you can offer to people who are not coaches too. The same presence, and the same teaching is needes for everyone.
@@theamanjhaveri Thank you for your very kind words. You have made my day :)
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wow amazing! thank you also for all the notes with markers! You did such a meticulous job and this allows me to understand even more 🙏
I am so happy to hear this. And, I mentioned this on another video, I am a different assessor 2 years later. So, I might be a little harder on myself now. Also, getting good familiarity with the PCC Markers will support you on the ICF Exam, whenever you find yourself taking that. :)
Thank you Lyssa for sharing this video. A few things that stood out from me was how you matched the energy and conversation pace of your Coachee and your use of a consistent metaphor (the plate) for the Coachee to identify their solutions and actions. Your use of long conversational style questions gave a sense of a strong connection and relationship with the Coachee. You have given me a lot to think about!
Thank you for the comment @Barbara-Noonan I really pay attention to the metaphors and use them. My next book, Light Up: The Science of Coaching with Metaphors will publish on March 1, so you can see this and many other coaching examples using the metaphors the client brings through out conversations. :)
Thank you so much Lyssa. I am new to this world. My colleague posted on linkedin that he volunteers as a coach and that intrigued me. Before meeting him I wanted to know what coaching means 😊. Thank you so much for sharing this demo publicly. It truly helps👍👏👏
Yay! I am glad I could help you to have a better understanding. And, yes, I have very generous clients who are willing to share their sessions, for education. :)
Dear Lyssa I really loved this piece of work shared by you. Its just a great learning listening to you. Thanks a lot! I am now an ardent follower of your inputs 🙂
Thank you for the feedback, I am so glad that you found the channel! :) If you ever have a particular topic you want me to noodle over, let me know.
Wow! I loved this demonstration! Thank you Lyssa! I'm an absolute newbie in that I'm just starting my journey of becoming a coach. These demos explain so much of what I'm learning. Heartfelt gratitude and blessings 😊🙏
I am so glad it serves you on your journey. :) I love that it is putting some perspective on your learning. Thank you for the comment!
Thankyou Lyssa for sharing this video. They are so enriching and thanks to Tracey for partnering and enhancing the viewers learning. GRATITUDE!!!
Thank you, and I must give all the kudos to Tracey for her courage and willingness to share authentically. And, I’m so happy you find it useful. 😀
A seamless coaching session .. wow .. wonderful… thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
You are super welcome! :)
Another inspiring example of a master at work, thank you. One technique which stood out for me in this example was grabbing ahold of the client's metaphor (thanksgiving PLATE) and weaving it through the rest of the conversation. It is affirming and allowed Tracey to continue to build her ideas within a picture that resonates with her. Another part of the secret sauce.
I think that using the client's metaphor is very powerful. My new book, fingers crossed, publishing in January, is on Light Up: The Science of Coaching with Metaphors.
@@LyssadeHart you showcased the technique well here. I look forward to your book. Congratulations !
@@lauramcooley I am getting my first draft/edit back on Friday. I am excited, and a bit nervous :)
Thank you so much Lyssa, Your questions had such wonderful flow, loved it
I think it is the beauty of not having special questions, but being fully present with the client and of course their metaphors. :) I am so glad you enjoyed the video.
Your videos are so helpful and deserve more views. Much appreciated!
Thank you, please feel free to share with all the coaches you know :)
Hi Lyssa,
Thank you so much for sharing your sessions with us. That´s very generous. I love how the WHY was explored and how the session naturally led to the client unblocking her situation. Amazing!
Quick question - I have noticed that you refer to asking open-ended questions to stay non-directive but you sometimes use closed questions. Is there a reason for this? ´ie: Are there any other things that need exploring...?.´
I was also surprised by the fact that you shared your ´observation/reading´ of what the client was saying when she said she didn´t know how to get off the board. The binary comment. Could we have asked - what would make saying I need a month off easier? or something along those lines? Is it ok to share our opinion about what the coachee says?
I am still training so I am sorry if my questions are missing the point!
Thanks again for putting your sessions up.
Dear Lyssa, Thank you for sharing the coaching demonstration; it means a lot to me, especially since I am preparing for my coaching examination for the Global Executive Coaching Diploma (GECD) with CDI Africa. I have taken notes of the PCC markers.
Hi @skttermbugua, I am happy this video is supporting you and I wish you every success! :)
That was done beautifully! Thank you for sharing! ❤❤
Thank you for the lovely comment. :)
Great demo and ICF markers were covered well.
Thank you for the feedback :)
Wow I loved every bit of this conversation 💬. Amazed and I would like one day to be able to carry on a similar coaching session with others. Thank you 😊
Thank you Rabia! All it takes is some intention, some practice, and a some time. Coaching is a skill just like any other. I think back on my own coaching, 2012 and I am better coach 10 years later. My guess is, in 10 years, I will say that as I continued to grow and reflect on my conversations and coaching transcripts, I will be a better coach than I am now. :) Here's to a Coaching Mindset and Continual Coaching Growth!
Thanks so much for sharing this video Lyssa. So helpful. 😊
Yay @CultivatingCultureNZ. I am so happy to hear that the coaching demo was helpful :) Thank you for leaving a comment!
Incredible coaching.
Thank you 🙏 was there something that really spoke to you?
The way you were able to redirect and get your client focused on the topic of most importance for the day, you let your client lead and she came to many a ha moments on her own. I saw a demo from another coaching channe that seemed more like an interview but yours was exactly what Im currently learning.
@@MomMadness1 Thank you for the feedback. And I agree, this wasn't an interview :) I also agree getting to what is important to the client is an important key to having ahas. Thank you again for your thoughts.
Thank you for both of you! This was an excellent demo in so many ways, I made a lot of notes, too. I really liked your natural relationship during the session and this certain lightness during the discussion, it was just a really, really nice experience to watch, so thank you.
Thank you for this feedback. Tracey is such a lovely person and made it really easy to be natural with each other.
Loved watching this. Excellent and lovely coaching session. I am amazed at how these questions surface important and breakthrough insights (in a short period of time too). The pace is relaxed and welcoming.
Thank you so much for your comments and for visiting my video. I'm delighted you found it useful. It is amazing how fast insights can happen for our clients when we use their language and metaphors. If I may ever answer any questions for you or if you have a specific topic around professional coaching you would like addressed, please reach out to me! Cheers, Lyssa
@@LyssadeHart I actually have something in mind. There are times, the hour of coaching is almost up and the coachee/client is nowhere near in achieving the goal/purpose for the session s/he set for herself/himself. How do I end the session? Currently, I've been extending the sessions until the goal/purpose is met. But I feel this is not sustainable approach in the long run. I'm still working on getting my ACC. Thanks Lyssa
@@Icecandy1882 Great question. I agree, it's not sustainable. And, I do have some thoughts. Let me think on them and I will probably do a video, I am 99.999% sure that you are not alone. :)
I just did a LinkedIn Live on this, I think we will be loading it soon. It's a short video. And, again, it will be coming soon. :) Thanks for the great question.
@@LyssadeHart wow! Looking forward to watching it here
As a new coach, this was a great demonstration and the notes are helpful. Thank you!
Yay! And welcome to coaching!
Thank you for offering this gift to us.
You are absolutely welcome! What was your take away from the session?
These videos are GREAT! thanks
You’re welcome and Thank you 😀
Thank you Lyssa for all that you do. I have been following your content for some time now and find it very beneficial. Just wanted to ask where can we find the transcript analysis that you refer to in the slides with your markers? You state it has choice points and leading vs being lead. I've had a look on your website and on the course TH-cam and MCC demos but can only find the videos and transcript there.
Hi @AmenaCoaching you can find this info on my website. All the TH-cam Videos are there. :)
academy.lyssadehart.com/course/youtube-mcc-demos
Hi, Coach Lyssa,
It is so nice having a coaching demo with PCC maker, thanks for yor lovely sharing.
I have a question when you clarify what is the goal of this session（what is driving this proceastination), why you asking "what is the experience you are not procratinatng"?
You are welcome, I hope it supports your understanding :)
I got way too into this coaching session. You're an amazing coach Lyssa!
Thank you Michelle :)
I so appreciate the work you are doing to supplement our learning as we approach coaching as a profession. One question - you reference - during the early questions around procrastination - a "transcript analysis" where you "talk about choice points - leading vs. being led." Is this analysis available somewhere? I ask because that point - leading vs being led - is so critical to me - I would really absorb whatever thoughts and guidance you might have on that - and of course it is so digestible within the context of the filmed session so I feel like I would really learn from it. Thank you again - I'm a huge fan of your work!
Hi @GiaWhite, I use RaeNotes as the transcript analysis element, they have the competencies baked into the program, so that is easy to start to check ALL the competencies that your question meets, and at each of my questions, I might consider other CPs to what I asked. I do this to expand my ear on possible ways of being curious, based on what the client offered me. :)
Thank you so much Lyssa for these demo videos they are very helpful. I like your light fun style, it resonate with me. I love to have fun with my clients as well. I have a question for you though, what was the clue for you through the conversation to pull up the word "INTEGRITY "?
Hi Dalia, thank you for this question. I had to sit with it for a bit. What had INTEGRITY show up for me? My first, off the cuff, thought was, “It just bubbled to the surface for me, intuitively.” But the more I thought about it I knew; it could only bubble up intuitively if something had prompted me to hear it. So, I went back into the transcript.
What I keyed in on subconsciously was through the series of the response to my questions. Starting with, “What does procrastination mean for you?”
Client: I have specific things that need to be done. I know they need to be done.
Then I asked, “What is the experience you're having when you are not procrastinating, and things are getting done the way that you would like them to be. Like you're doing what you need to be doing?”
Client: I'm productive. I’m able to focus and get tasks done. The word would be productive.
There were a series of questions that led to the client describing: "Because I have a lot of demands and other people, um their productivity depends on me. If I don't get my piece done, then they can't get their piece done."
When I hear someone describing that other people’s work DEPENDS on them, and they aren’t getting it done, it piqued my curiosity about the value under that belief. Which, for me, brought the word INTEGRITY. I hope this helps to understand my intuition for testing my hypothesis, which then I tested by asking about the word that had shown up.
I think coaching is to a large degree, coaches testing their assumptions and curiosities. :)
Thank you so much Lyssa for the well explained answer.
@@daliah7547 You inspired me to do a video on Intuition :) It should be published in the next few weeks!
@@LyssadeHart thanks for this extended reply. I was curious about that too.
@@Icecandy1882 I thought it was such a useful inquiry. I enjoyed reflecting on where integrity emerged. I’m glad the exercise was useful for you as well. 😀
Really great flow. Really liked the plate metaphor. My only critique would be that the coach didn't leave much space between the coachee's answers and her questions, even talking over the coachee at times.
Yes, I am a work in progress. :) I do stop myself, but sometimes do talk over and then have to stop. I agree with the feedback . With enough trust, the client doesn't take it badly, just pressing on with her thoughts.
Greetings Lyssa, thank you for sharing these great videos, I'm probably watching this the 5th time 😄. 10.44: "How does that answer your 'why' about the procrastination?", in the video you attach core competency 8, my first impression is that it's competency 7, I'm curious what makes it more growth than awareness?
Hi @Victoromollo7042, That is a really great question. There is some subjectivity to my choices, and I agree with you, I think that question at 10:44 does Evoke Awareness, I think it also is in alignment with Trust and Safety, Presence, and Listening as well. I am not sure "why" I didn't add those. I love that you caught that! I do think that it demonstrates CC8. I must have wanted to make sure that I got that one, since it was happening in the middle of the session. :)
Hello Lyssa, what a wonderful experience. The video embodies what Coaching is. Would you be willing to share some recommendations and suggestions to me, I’m interested in becoming a Life Coach. I’d like to partner with an organization that offers the accreditation and credentials needed to high credibility. Any advice you’re willing to share would be appreciated.
Hi @RadiantRyker50 I think this would be a great topic of a video. My first thought is that you look on the ICF website for programs and then you interview several to see if they resonate with your interests. How do they teach? What is their focus? And, could you speak with a few past students?
Remember when it comes to any education you are the consumer and so doing your due diligence is going to be your first most important step. :) Great question!
@@LyssadeHart thank you for your insight
@@LyssadeHart are you taking new clients, I’m in need of your services.
hi Lyssa, this demo was very insightful - thank you for sharing! I have one question: at the very end you said: "This is a beautiful word". What are your thoughts about labeling the activities of our clients? What I mean is whether we should take our position as coaches towards certain phrases/actions or remain completely neutral?
Honestly, I do think that we label things too much, but then there is our personality. I save my labels for things that sound like the client is happy, having fun, and when they share a powerful insight. I might say, "Brilliant!" or "Amazing." I guess I could contain my thoughts, but this is also about the client being heard and celebrated for their insights or work in the process.
I think the danger is when the client says something like, "I'm overwhelmed..." and the coach says, "That's terrible." or "You shouldn't let yourself get like that."
I will probably always be a coach who has to tone down her excitement with her clients. I don't have the interest or capability to remain completely neutral. It's not my style. I do hope I don't wash my excitement over the client too much, but so far, they haven't said to tone it down, and I ask them. :)
Thank you for the videos
You are welcome. Thanks for the comment :)
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Thank you for sharing. :)
I know the intent is positive but what a ridiculous coaching demonstration. I would never bring this style of coaching to my clients as they would roll their eyes and never invite the coach back. Executives don't speak this language. They want a credible thought partner they can discuss things with in confidence.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I completely understand that different coaching styles resonate with different people, and it's important to find an approach that aligns with you and your client's needs and expectations.
In my experience, the executives I work with do respond well to this style of coaching. When you mention a "thought partner," I interpret it as helping clients independently think through their situation. If an Executive brings the language of a full plate, then that is the way the Executive speaks. I have worked in many industries, one executive in the Tire industry used the idea of different size tires for how to move forward with more ease, as one example.
In my 30 years of working with people, I've found that executives don't typically need my expertise to solve their problems. Instead, they benefit from having someone to help them view their challenges with fresh eyes, hear what words light up their brain, and support them in exploring what's holding them back from acting on their own ideas.
This demonstration is a moment in time that shows a client having her own insights, her brain lighting up to those insights, and then coming up with her own solutions.
I do appreciate your insight into what your executives might prefer. Thank you for your feedback, wishing you continued success in your coaching journey!
@mfandrew You use different coaching methods and techniques depending on the client and their issues. Clearly this approach worked well for this client. When the coach demonstrates understanding, compassion and understanding they create a safe space for the client to open up. Just because people are in executive roles doesn’t mean that this approach wouldn’t work. Executives are often in competitive environments where they don’t get safe space to be vulnerable. Where appropriate, I have used this approach in my coaching practice with executives and found people have responded positively. You should also check out the executive coaching videos of Alicia Marie who uses a similar approach in her business coaching. Try challenging yourself to have an open mind about how different coaching styles might work in various scenarios.
@@clmitchell1166 I think I am going to check our Alica Marie and watch her style :)
7:18 is it okay to give the word integrity to the client and then build further on it? Does this not affect the direction of the conversation?
Great question. For me, it fits with Marker 7.5. I am offering an intuition to the client, I am not telling her that the value being impacted is integrity, I am sharing an intuition and asking her if it aligns or not. And, remember, every question affects the direction of the conversation, so it the question inviting the client inside? Or outside? Is the question inviting the client to make meaning or is the coach making the meaning and sharing that with the client. Example: "As your talking, it's clear this is an integrity issue. It shows how much you care, right?" Very different delivery. Thanks for the comment!
Thank you for the reply! I have just started my ICF PCC fundamentals journey this week and I will definitely subscribe to your channel to learn more!
@@dariolamela We have a monthly Q&A for coaches on the 3rd Monday of the month, you are welcome to come join us as you continue your learning journey! :)
@@LyssadeHart that sounds fascinating! Where can I find more info about that?
@@dariolamela It's pinned in the chat. But here you go Join my Coaches Monthly Q&A call here: bit.ly/MonthlyQAsforCoaches