#1 reason women lose interest is because of their own attachment issues and emotional unavailability. If you have to play games to get a woman to be with you, you won’t ever be able to be yourself and it will never last. Find someone secure who can connect on a deeper level and cut all this nonsense.
So true I’m 23 years old and going through a similar situation, showed neediness & turned a new girl off because my emotions weren’t in tune after a long time of being single and out of the loop. Being a better man and losing attachment to the outcome will make me better. Spot on.
4 years older than you, but honestly sort of in the same subject/boat as you. I had a second chance/have one and it’s going a little rocky right now, but we got a lot of things situated, boundaries set, and with my anxiety in check, I’m really focusing on me and I feel better than ever! You as a human being, with our emotions, we are like a bank, if you give give give, you won’t have anything to give at some point, unless you refill that bank a.k.a. taking care of yourself in a good way, and if you keep taking care of yourself that’s when other will be attracted not only to you, but the energy you bring too
@@luzian2410 so I just stopped trying to talk to her, I also didn’t post anything on social media during the week. And she texted me this past weekend, I didn’t answer her right away, I waited till the morning after. (Don’t wait longer than 24 hours and don’t wait less than 1 hour) she told me she was sorry for how she didn’t say anything anymore. I didn’t say that I forgave her but I just said I was good. Keep it short and simple when they come back. I don’t know for sure yet if she came back because she really likes me or if she just wants attention but time will tell. And remember don’t get attached to an outcome
Fellas, if she loses interest, she never really liked you in the first place. She was just liking you for how you made her feel at the moment, and when that stopped, her attraction for you stopped. You cant negotiate attraction. Why do you want to walk on eggshells to keep someones interest high? Love should flow easily and naturally without pressure or conditions. If you both fall off and get back together 2 or more times, then you know she really likes you. If she looks for you if yall stop talking, then she likes you. If she sacrifices things and invests in you, then she likes you. This is how you test a womans true interest and attraction towards you to determine if shes worth investing in because most women are lazy daters and very selfish. So if she investing in you, she likes you bro. Reward her back by reciprocating it back to her. If she dont, move on till you find it
You move along and continue to focus on becoming your best self. She didn’t lose interest. She just doesn’t feel worthy of the light and blessing that you are. If she decides to come back to you as you continue your grind, awesome. If she doesn’t come back, I wish her well. 🤷🏻♂️ Plain and simple.
So , if she leave you that means she doesn't love or care about you. She's gone. But. If she left why? Maybe you was wrong about something Maybe it's your fault Then fix. She will come-back to you If you work on you, show her you changed, how she told you (please listen to me, or do not argue with me, or love me, show that you love me.) Or please work, do more money. Nothing wrong if you work for you and your wife or girlfriend. That is the life Then she will come back and have strong relationship
I made the mistake of contacting her after 2 weeks - regret this! We’re meeting up today and we might break up today sadly. I love her but it may also be a blessing. I’m also looking forward to not having these panic attacks once it’s all over
Try not to think about it this much because it will have a negative affect. Just be yourself and if she doesn't have feeling's for you then it's her loss. It's when you start to focuses too much on how other people tell you how to act, it screws everything up.
I let my lady breathe because if I’m always in her face she will grow tired of me so her having a life outside of me is important she doesn’t loose interest because the moments we share we are grateful for
If she loses interest, let her. Don't even try. It's a game. Move on and never put any emotion into a woman ever again. Ever wonder why the woman you don't care for is interested in you/has a crush on you? It's because you don't care at all. Yet the woman you like has an unpredictable interest level. Don't waste your time. Focus on yourself. You are the prize; you just don't believe it yet.
It's not that you don't care that gets us attracted. It's that you show that you have potential and don't go all in too fast. You take the time to know who this woman is and not just blinded by beauty/looks. You have standards and thats what will set you apart. :-)
@Apollonia Ponti I partially agree with your message. You should never be blinded by a woman/never put her on a pedestal--a woman shouldn't put a man on a pedestal. A woman losing interest is inevitable. It will happen, even if there is balance in the relationship. Your advice is sound but it's only temporary. At some point, interest will wane and nothing can be done to regain it (if you care to regain it). I suppose it's fine to continually work at keeping a woman attracted to you/keeping a relationship intact. You'll have some satisfying relationships. However, modifying your behavior, following steps to keep a woman, is a bit ridiculous and is essentially being blinded. I honestly do not believe a woman can maintain a harmonious relationship long term. With that said, I appreciate your work, videos, and advice. It is truly helpful and appreciated.
@@trollhunter3944 the majority of woman will and are like that, but yeah, it’s mostly men how has to do the hard part as you said keeping the girl interested, but that for women who doesn’t appreciate you, be lovable, kind, respectful, comprehensive, give her lot’s of hugs and kisses, make her feel that you actually love her cos common we as a man are with our partners cos we love them more that ourselves if you know what I mean, so in summary, not all women are like that, they just look for attention and beneficial satisfaction for other guys as well. Those women have high “ego” so don’t even bother, but as you said yeah is inevitable sometime that might happen, but like I said, if she really loves you and you really loves her as well, there’s no need to worry about it. and if you intend to marry and start a happy family with that woman because she’s the love of your life, do it, you and her will never regret that decision, you took the decision to make your life better and happier with that woman, so never back up in love.( do this with the right woman, like really do it with the right woman, there are a few out there waiting to be discovered. And yeah we know all women we meet won’t have an interest in us, and that’s simple cos of the Beauty/looks, so only do this with women that really appreciate your efforts, after that is game over And please I know that we all know that you may reply to me saying, ‘ok this might work, or yeah it’s the reality, but at the end she’ll be tired of me of something”, like I said do this with the right woman, not those girls that show up everything to the public, a woman that respect herself and have boundaries as well as we do have boundaries as well, the ones that are reserved, those women; think way back let say 60 years ago, dating wasn’t to difficult back then, and it should never be, so plan accordingly( I know this is off-topic, but you get me) PD: I’m a man so please don’t be confused by my profile picture Lastly, I really appreciate your time reading this(sorry for taking the minute you wasted reading this, but I hope it can help you at least in something to know and view that not all woman lost intersect in men; if you both love each other(if she really appreciates that, doesn’t matter the years you guys been together, she’ll never will leave your side, ever). Have a nice day my friend and take good care of yourself as well, that’s really important. Lastly, forgot to tell, give her your all! We just live once, in your relationships, doesn’t matter if it didn’t work out on your previous relationship, just keep giving your all in every relationship, the girl that stay with you for life will show up someday, so don’t be scared of breakups or being too harsh on yourself, keep moving forward and remember to always love a Woman deeply, there’s one that will stay with you forever so keep giving all the love you got in every relationship
*When a woman pulls away, the first step is to assess the situation. Reflect on recent interactions - were there any signs of disinterest? Understanding her perspective can help you address any issues. Once you know what went wrong, you can approach the situation more effectively.*
My ex and I had a wonderful 5 years. After she left I rapidly improved myself and we ended up unintentionally meeting up, she noticed my progress and practically begged for a second chance. Saying she loved me, leaving was a mistake and she lied about all the bad things she said lead to the breakup. But a month after I come home, her texts stop, and we talk, she doesn't want to try again. She took my second chance for granted. So I suggested we don't talk anymore
If they lose interest it's because they've been pumped and dumped so many times they can't be with a high quality man who respects women. Lots of women are very high count these days. Find the quality women who have self respect.
Aponti you are given the best advice to ur customers. You encourange and given the best support to ur customers. I can see that you want all the best for people . This is ur real gift .
When a woman loses interest run as fast as you can! If she isn't interested in you for who you are don't waste another minute of your energy on her. Instead use it on yourself and on those who value your time. There is good info on this video but it's not healthy and will just hurt you more in the end chasing someone that isn't interested or lost interest.
run? run from what? if you’re running from something, it’s because it’s chasing you. something or someone that has no interest in you, isn’t gonna chase you. “running” from someone that loses interest, is really just you taking your L, turning around & simply walking away.
EXACTLY! I’m not a fan of this video at all. I was exhausted just listening to everything I’d have to do to keep/gain her interest back. I’m going to be me, certainly focus on self improvement and if that’s enough for her, great.
@@shivani815 If you want to go through a bunch of hoops because a women doesn’t value who you are, that’s up to you. If Input a solid effort in, I’ve done my part.
LOVE ALL YOUR CONTENT!! Finding your channel is the best thing that happened to me! Broken hearted after a break up but I know I will get through it and be a better person in the end. Thank you!!!!!
@@ApolloniaPonti ex wanted space and I didn't respect her wishes and said "you can become the best person in the world, I don't want you" is it over? It was a 2yr relationship
This exact thing happened to me I tried too hard for someone I thought was perfect for me and she needed and ask for space and a break so yea I learned a lesson from her and myself Thank You for video🙏🏿
Of course we try and do the best we can in the moment. But sometimes, even doing what she wants is not enough. You can't believe women anymore. Best strategy is be yourself, be honest, be upfront and let the chips fall where they may. Don't chase, but be present. Check up on her every other day or so, feel her reactions and questions and go from there. Always be the first one to invite but not the first one to ask. Woemn are fickle, so be you and they'll either like you or they won't.
This is why all men should never place all energy into just one female, unless they're in a full on relationship. Never let her manipulate you into getting rid of girls who orbit, give her a sense of fear that if she's not on point, theirs another girl who will be on point. You don't have to be a d*CK but also don't let her get too comfortable. That's when she looses interest. Maybe women should just stop the mind games and actually just focus on investing her time into both herself and the relationship. Which most don't. Games games and more games. I'm done with playing games now, and I think to worry too much about this stuff actually creates an obsession within ourselves. If she pulls away cool, let her calm down or what ever. Whilst she does that.... Talk to other girls it's simple
If she's not interested, she's not interested. Move on. Life is NOT about holding on to people who don't want to be there. Find somebody who IS interrested and worth the investment.
imagine ended up being married to her......then, at 50......she removes her makeup to take a shower and when she is done..........HOLY SHIT!!!! wheres my wife????
Yup. Be there, meet their needs (At least the ones they actually tell you) and put the effort in. This whole you can’t do too much but have to do something. Geesh, I’m tired just trying to think of how to navigate. 😂
Here are some good questions to ask that get at the heart of this topic. 1.) Is there a chance that a relationship is more successful if the woman is more needy than the man? 2.) Does society look down upon men being needy more than women? Men understand the subtleties between chasing and pursuing and you'll have a better chance. Also have an abundance mindset and work on yourself.
That's how I found them 3 years ago or so I used Google to help me figure out a way to solve my issues and their videos were recommended an it took off from there just like your statement crazy how that works amen .
I noticed I've been attached texting her like crazy and it's not giving her the opportunity to pursue me in return. I can tell she has lost a little interest but still willing to hold on strong to what we can possibly have together. She's loyal and faithful to me as she knows I am to her also. The two of us don't want to lose what the both of us worked so hard towards.
Nothing. Never value ANYONE over yourself. Sometimes, complete uninvested autonomy can be excruciatingly painful and lonely, as I've found out the hard way. It takes a lot of strength. For instance, a woman I saw just before Christmas texted me - her texting NEVER goes anywhere - I'd get more response from a brick wall, so when she asked me how I was and she replied "just ok?" my main reaction was "god, I'm tired of this shit." I didn't even bother replying some ridiculous reply just to continue a conversation that seemed to be going nowhere.
Yes, but really worth it. Once you get past the need for someone to make your life "complete", you find that it is complete of itself. Then you are free to explore your life for yourself.
It's not going anywhere because you're not taking it anywhere. You as the man need to cut to the chase. You need to be the leader. Tell her what you want and she can take it or leave it.
Omg you are spot on Apollonia! Confidence and ownership is vulnerability ❤ I was in fear of showing that side in my past relationship. The vulnerability part of this video is me 💯% I'm great with talking to women. I lack the ability to sustain that emotional connection. I know i need to work on this if I am to enter into a new relationship. I love your advice. It's like you can read my mind and my feelings. I love you Apollonia 😊 Keep up the great work!
This video was SPOT ON, the vulnerability, the how did i act accountability, just kept hitting the mark lol going thru a rough patch now in my relationship not sure if it will last or not was going good for about 9 months and boom.
then she never loved you in the first place. like how many men would she find better than the current one. how many exes will she have to be satisfied. if she finds the one she loves it doesn't matter if he is better than the next or previous. women need to know how to love and not just keep moving unto the next
@ivan cud my man, true , they have to learn how to love, Sometimes women are sick they get nervous and the love fades, then she is loosing interest in you. Or there was abuse or violence in relationship
This is very helpful information. I'm currently going through a period in my relationship where my partner seems like to be losing interest in our relationship so this information is quite profound for me at the moment. Really appreciate it
Its not rocket science....just live your life and the right women will come along....women will come and go but they are not the right ones...u cant force it....the right women will follow your lead...be a man and king at all times....dont let women make u lose your focus....
I tell ppl all the time we all are not meant to get along and be liked by everyone no two ppl are alike nothing wrong with having different opinions and different ways of doing things
When my ex girlfriend said she lost interest in me I told her okey go find other guy then but you will miss all the things I use to do with you. Told her take care god speed I told her I love u but if you want go go I'm not chasing u
One I was dating, hit me with the friend zone..I Mean ,time money, and effort went out the window..this definently helped because 2 weeks past and she wonders why I don't call/text anymore
I lose interest in everyone. i go from excited to wanting to find reasons to blow it up, usually within a month. I think I'm afraid of commitment, getting hurt, losing control, being vulnerable, all of the above. And just revert back to living like I know how, not all that happy but safe from volatility.
Great advice, you sound like a person that has sincerity and humility. For men: Do not waste your time and resources on delusional, entitled, and non-traditional, non-marriage material women. Enjoy life alone to the fullest without having a toxic woman, who will just use your resources and your life until she jumps to blood suck another beta-Bob.
This video really spoke to me. Why in the world did i think i would be enough after getting a certain kind of woman? And i like how i could pin point my insecurities, and work on them so the next time i see another woman im attracted to i wont be attached and shoe case needy behaviors.
Apollonia, I am using your advices and I feel things are progressing better for me. I am not doing the whole "Nice guy" method but I enjoy talking with her as much as I can. I give myself my time and I do not just answer right way and I let her know at times if I will be in a meeting or out etc so boundaries are created to respect my time, but why would I feel like when I am talking to her, I get excited and want to engage. There is interest and I am not being the "bully" whop forces what I want when I want it on her. I did that before with someone, not cool. I am showing understanding to this person like I have not done before. I realize it is not just about me me me, but I have to take into account another persons choices as well.
I had asked how to get someone like you. I want someone as good as you. You're married that's awesome but I want someone as good as you. I like your show and it has helped me thank you. When I get done moving I'll join your membership
It was a very nice and helpful video. The points you mentioned were very accurate and really good. Feel very lucky with such a great guide. A lot of love
a loss of interest (let's be honest, we are speaking about sexual interest here) for the same partner is natural. This is something that's carved in genes of women. 3 years at best and her sexual attraction for the same partner drops significantly (there's plenty of studies how the number of intercourse drops with time due to women's refusal to have sex). It's biology, stop pretending that with some psychological tricks and doing backflips you can change something about that. All you can achieve is to make a woman feel gratitude (oh, your so good to me, I can't leave you or betray you) but it's not even close to that sexual attraction (interest, as it's called in this clip) you once had.
Men have to keep things interesting, in bed and out of bed. In bed is self explanatory. Out of bed is more nuanced. You have to value and align with her non sexual presence and experiences. Sustained, happy relationships are possible.
Damn I really like this girl and want her back but I can’t help but notice all the other girls available to me now😭 still gonna get this one back but it definitely helped me see more clear and stay in an abundance mindset
I 33male met this, introverted, catholic school girl 28 that was very sweet and not much of a talker (convo starter). We texted a good bit (big paragraphs) for 2 months because I had covid, and when we met we hugged and smiled and chatted a bit and played darts... I told her she had a cute outfit and she told me mine looks "fitting for the occasion" we were just catching up on what we were talking about on our text messages. However, near the end, I lifted her up and held her like a baby for a photo, she smiled big for the camera. When we walked outside, I said I normally don't kiss on the first date and said "well, come here" and when I went in, she turned her head where I kissed her cheek/hair... it was awkward, but I played it off like it was nothing... We said our byes and 1 hour later she texted me wanting to see me that weekend with heart eye emojis. On our second date, things ended not that great. We played arcades, then bowling, then pool. I saw her, and hugged and said "I didn't know there were two entrances" (I gave her no compliment and she dolled up, too) She had a big smile. fast forward "Stay here while I get our tokens" (she stayed, but eventually followed me
Hi there, I would love to help you with this. I hope you can book a coaching session with me so I can know a little more about what happened between you and this woman in order to give your proper advice. membership.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/
Women just NEVER understand that they ALWAYS subconsciously lose attraction for a man who is “emotionally vulnerable”….. This includes female dating coaches. It’s not what you say ladies, it’s what you do that counts……
I just turned 30 I was dating an older women she was 43 with kids they are older, literally after dating for a year on our anniversary of a year dating on my birthday which was last week she tells me I don’t think this would work out. Know she does have a lot going on although her kids are grown she mentioned she didn’t have the love or the time for me and that we should just “let it be, you never know” which I’ve been here before some one wants to leave you life so they give false hope to make it easy in both ends. She let it be clear that in the beginning she didint want a relationship but after a year we went through a lot together.
I think it’s also my financial situation I have been through some bad hard ship in the past five-six months I lost my job because of covid my business was not doing well I was in the negative I’ve been trying to fight for months to get a decent job but it’s hard.
So I just had had this EXACT same thing play out. She Wanted a relationship, we hit it off HUGE. She would say things like it’s too good to be true etc BUT then she started getting squirrelly and unsure. At the 3 month mark she said she didn’t know, was “messed up” and walked away. 2 weeks later she came back, said it was cause she was scared to get hurt. So I gave it another go. It was MUCH better but she still didn’t seem to be fully in. Didn’t meet a single friend until 6 months. Never met her parents. She was still going through the divorce process and living with parents. So LOTS going on, but started telling me she loved me. At almost a year out of nowhere - I’m going to be too busy, you deserve more, I can’t give you what you need, too much going on. I love you but not in love cause I don’t know if I can. So, moral is, they are not emotionally available - It’s being taken up by all this baggage. They don’t ever fully commit, not to a level of love. Let’s both learn our lesson and not ignore the signs again! Also know, it’s not always cause WE did something to make them lose interest.
I don't chase anyone. Not because I've made it a rule not to chase anyone. But because I've got so much going on in my own life, and options with other women, that I just forget about her if she ghosts me or becomes distant. Usually they come back. And I believe this is why. If your energy is GENUINELY invested in the activities and people that offer genuine interest and returns on your efforts, then you become a magnet. Also, sometimes a woman just isn't that into you. It happens. So effing what. Find someone who is into you or simply be into yourself and your own goals.
Fellas, if she comes back and you take her back, she will have all the power and where will your pride be. Just leave and get on with your life, regardless you’re taking an L.
Somehow I like play games with women and sometimes I asked myself "why do that"? I don't know, but I think it is a kind of fun, and the good thing is I don't have any problem to move on whenever I see a woman is not interested.
Take this with a grain of salt. You shouldn't need to become something you are not. But you should strive for improvement. Videos like this may feel like you are to blame. Sometimes, it's the woman, gents.
How can you tell a woman that's given you her number, texted, and chatted with you on the phone once or twice lost interest or was never really interested in you AT ALL? And how will you know it was because of her or me why nothing progressed? Kinda impossible to know those answers if you've rarely dialouged with her at all from the get go 🤷🏾♂️.
She pull away n come back after 1day but she change alot yeah we talk but not as usual. It seems like uninterested on me. We has been for 6years in relationship. But all suddenly she change ignoring my txt call. Ma'am I really confused please I need your advice thanks.
I am currently so much in pain .. my women completely lost her interest in me. We recently broke up like 4 days ago 😭 And it's completely my fault, i didn't gave her the respect she deserved and didn't value her love . She said a few times that i'll only realise when she's gone .. and she was right. I begged her so much to come back but she's not willing to come back even in the future 😭 I seriously don't know what to do with my life now. I have given her my whole heart
You’re on your 4th date with your new woman…she ask “ can we stay home tonight sit on the back porch talk drink beer and listen to music and I’ll cook supper” and you say ok. The evening goes great supper was great it’s a wonderful date. But then she begins to tell you about a man from her past that s he use to hook up with at the clubs and they clicked and were great on the dance floor together and then she turns to you and says “ and if you and I end up at a place and he is there we are going to dance whether you like it or not!! Then in about 15 minutes she has him on the phone and puts him on speaker so you can hear it and he continuously refers to her as Love throughout the phone call…now remember she is on a date with you… the call last about 15 or 20 minutes and when she finishes she tells you she has just done you a favor by making that call in front of you instead of behind your back! What’s your reaction?
I just don’t know. I asked her to tell me to back off if that was what she wanted. She didn’t say yes and she didn’t say no. What should I do? I talk like her. I told her that I am goal oriented, we actually met in a college class. She still talk to me and then ignore me for at least a day sometimes a little longer I don’t want to lose her.
I met this woman in my apartment complex. She moved in and immediately when I saw her I fell in love with her. This feeling came over me, and I never felt it before in my entire life not even the woman that I was with for so many years getting to know, this woman was amazing, and just how she made me feel when I was around her just like all my problems everything that I was dealing with didn’t mean nothing and I felt like a kid and I just felt so secure and like I was home I’m talking about myself, but she wasn’t very forthcoming about her self And she’s going through a lot of issues and I’m very affectionate how I show with people like I greet people with a hug or a handshake. She didn’t want any of that at first she did that she stopped that quickly. I would wait for her when she would come home from work because we lived in the same apartment complex. It was like I was married to her, and she never once told me how she felt about me. I have known her for almost 2 years just the most sweetest politest woman I’ve ever met with people, but things started that happened and how she acted towards me was like kind of awkward I just felt like she took a vantage of who I was my compassion and my tenderness, my politeness towards her because that’s how I was raised I was opening doors for her that made her uncomfortable cause she never had that done for her, she has amazing kids, three boys, and a girl I had a chance to talk to all of them or at least some of them just a feeling that I got from them was like yes this is good but deep down inside I don’t think she had any feelings for me or she cared to. She kept saying she preferred bad boys I don’t know what that means really she said multiple guys and a lot of verbal stuff and then she moved away close by where she works and we texted for a little bit but that was strange because she never wanted to talk on the phone but she talked my ears off in person and I would text her a lot and she would never really respond or if she did there it was very short, so I haven’t heard from her in two weeks I don’t know what to do. Should I contact her because just feel really hurt like I was here just for what you wanted like I was in this friend zone and that’s where she want to be just to make her happy to be honest I’m just done I don’t really want to contact her because I will get the same results so I’m just gonna wait I’m just gonna live my life enjoy my things and if she contacts me great if she doesn’t, I could care less it just hurts. That’s all that I invested so much of my time and who I am to her and she didn’t want any of it 🥹
You'll find the right one. You sound like a great guy. Some people can't deal with a "gentleman" Oh BTW I have a 4 year old son. Someday when you have your on child. You can't even imagine the amount of love you gave for your own kid. It is so overwhelming and beautiful. Good luck.
She had ghosted me. I confronted her. She told she lost interest and apologized. Then she asks me if we could be friends. The fucking nerve. She ghosted me which is basically ignoring me. I'm sorry but I do not want to be friends with someone I don't respect. And if she ghosts me as a boyfriend, she'll ghost me as a friend...also, being friend zoned is being demoted. It's rather insulting for her to ask me that.
My girlfriend left and she is pregnant with our baby she has left me twice in the pregnancy we are 21 weeks into the pregnancy and now she wants nothing to do with me won’t talk to me or anything keeps dodging me and I keep trying to be there for her but she won’t let she has said there is no more we she can do it on her own and that she doesn’t feel the same as I do
At the end of the day women are scared to be alone and don't want to be alone so if she really lost interest like that nine times out of 10 it has something to do with another guy showing up or coming back or her emotions missing someone... You got women out here who love men to death that cheat on them and everything so you mean to tell me that you did something small and she lost interest lol it's bullshit if she loses interest that much that easily she probably never really had real interest or is one of the other things I said above or everything I said in general
I moved too fast with marriage talk way too soon while we were not even "official." She went to her ex who just got out of jail. I contacted her and she told me I moved way too fast. I friendzoned myself. Lesson learned. Maybe I'll get another chance.
Meh, I don’t buy it. If they are into you, they won’t mind a quick pace. Sure, there is psycho level pace, but if they are constantly hesitant and unsure yet telling you that you are great, there is an issue and it’s hers. The ex was likely always a factor I’m sorry to say. I’ve been here. Had a girl tell me within a week that she has never connected with anyone so quickly, that it was so good it’s scary. Even by 3rd month, didn’t want to “label” It and didn’t meet a single friend until the 6 month point. She still bailed at a year. Red flags that I ignored.
Wow 😮 thank you I’ve been listing to all your videos all day at work and me and my girlfriend are taking a break and it’s resents I’m gonna take all the tips I can thank you I’m interested in knowing more
Very strong message in this video. One of my top three . I need self examination. How can i get one on one coaching . I just went through the situation six weeks ago Kevin
Thank you appollnia ponti..ur most of videos helping us boys a lot to be better and show up better..in life and as a partner..and ofcurse to know the woman psychology.
You are dope and correct I know women like the back of my hand but I didn’t know myself like I needed too and longer you are with someone the more you look for there validation but no it’s your responsibility to know who you are and matter to yourself
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#1 reason women lose interest is because of their own attachment issues and emotional unavailability. If you have to play games to get a woman to be with you, you won’t ever be able to be yourself and it will never last. Find someone secure who can connect on a deeper level and cut all this nonsense.
CT
Amen
truth
💯
Agreed
So true I’m 23 years old and going through a similar situation, showed neediness & turned a new girl off because my emotions weren’t in tune after a long time of being single and out of the loop. Being a better man and losing attachment to the outcome will make me better. Spot on.
Holy shit me too man, same age and everything
@@theapexspidey2555 then what to do please tell
4 years older than you, but honestly sort of in the same subject/boat as you. I had a second chance/have one and it’s going a little rocky right now, but we got a lot of things situated, boundaries set, and with my anxiety in check, I’m really focusing on me and I feel better than ever! You as a human being, with our emotions, we are like a bank, if you give give give, you won’t have anything to give at some point, unless you refill that bank a.k.a. taking care of yourself in a good way, and if you keep taking care of yourself that’s when other will be attracted not only to you, but the energy you bring too
@@luzian2410 so I just stopped trying to talk to her, I also didn’t post anything on social media during the week. And she texted me this past weekend, I didn’t answer her right away, I waited till the morning after. (Don’t wait longer than 24 hours and don’t wait less than 1 hour) she told me she was sorry for how she didn’t say anything anymore. I didn’t say that I forgave her but I just said I was good. Keep it short and simple when they come back. I don’t know for sure yet if she came back because she really likes me or if she just wants attention but time will tell. And remember don’t get attached to an outcome
@@theesalad how did you go about getting your anxiety in check and boundaries set?
Fellas, if she loses interest, she never really liked you in the first place. She was just liking you for how you made her feel at the moment, and when that stopped, her attraction for you stopped. You cant negotiate attraction. Why do you want to walk on eggshells to keep someones interest high? Love should flow easily and naturally without pressure or conditions. If you both fall off and get back together 2 or more times, then you know she really likes you. If she looks for you if yall stop talking, then she likes you. If she sacrifices things and invests in you, then she likes you. This is how you test a womans true interest and attraction towards you to determine if shes worth investing in because most women are lazy daters and very selfish. So if she investing in you, she likes you bro. Reward her back by reciprocating it back to her. If she dont, move on till you find it
You move along and continue to focus on becoming your best self. She didn’t lose interest. She just doesn’t feel worthy of the light and blessing that you are. If she decides to come back to you as you continue your grind, awesome. If she doesn’t come back, I wish her well. 🤷🏻♂️ Plain and simple.
You have good insight.
What is your training?
Do you have an advanced degree or licensure in counseling?
Damn
If she leave she is gone. No matter what never return to her. She did it once she will do it again. Remember my words guys.
I wish that this wasn't the case, but my instinct tells me that you are right
So , if she leave you that means she doesn't love or care about you.
She's gone.
But.
If she left why?
Maybe you was wrong about something
Maybe it's your fault
Then fix.
She will come-back to you
If you work on you, show her you changed, how she told you (please listen to me, or do not argue with me, or love me, show that you love me.)
Or please work, do more money. Nothing wrong if you work for you and your wife or girlfriend. That is the life
Then she will come back and have strong relationship
When you are in a better position, dont take her back, replace her!!! Wake up dude!
@@alienbox440B.S . Nobody got time for that. When she leaves you move on " SIMPLE".
@@alienbox440work for your wife absolutely...a gf lol....I don't think so...
Not giving a shit and improving yourself always work
I made the mistake of contacting her after 2 weeks - regret this! We’re meeting up today and we might break up today sadly. I love her but it may also be a blessing. I’m also looking forward to not having these panic attacks once it’s all over
Did y'all break up
I'm so sorry Josh
Try not to think about it this much because it will have a negative affect. Just be yourself and if she doesn't have feeling's for you then it's her loss. It's when you start to focuses too much on how other people tell you how to act, it screws everything up.
Yes, this was too much. Unless you are completely absent and not contributing at all, if she loses interest, that’s on her.
I let my lady breathe because if I’m always in her face she will grow tired of me so her having a life outside of me is important she doesn’t loose interest because the moments we share we are grateful for
That is a good point
then why are you here
@ashellofamanformerlyknowna3694why are you hating ? Lol 😂 he doing a good job what are you doing ?😊
If she loses interest, let her. Don't even try. It's a game. Move on and never put any emotion into a woman ever again. Ever wonder why the woman you don't care for is interested in you/has a crush on you? It's because you don't care at all. Yet the woman you like has an unpredictable interest level. Don't waste your time. Focus on yourself. You are the prize; you just don't believe it yet.
It's not that you don't care that gets us attracted. It's that you show that you have potential and don't go all in too fast. You take the time to know who this woman is and not just blinded by beauty/looks. You have standards and thats what will set you apart. :-)
@Apollonia Ponti I partially agree with your message. You should never be blinded by a woman/never put her on a pedestal--a woman shouldn't put a man on a pedestal. A woman losing interest is inevitable. It will happen, even if there is balance in the relationship. Your advice is sound but it's only temporary. At some point, interest will wane and nothing can be done to regain it (if you care to regain it). I suppose it's fine to continually work at keeping a woman attracted to you/keeping a relationship intact. You'll have some satisfying relationships. However, modifying your behavior, following steps to keep a woman, is a bit ridiculous and is essentially being blinded. I honestly do not believe a woman can maintain a harmonious relationship long term. With that said, I appreciate your work, videos, and advice. It is truly helpful and appreciated.
💯💯💯
Okay bro
@@trollhunter3944 the majority of woman will and are like that, but yeah, it’s mostly men how has to do the hard part as you said keeping the girl interested, but that for women who doesn’t appreciate you, be lovable, kind, respectful, comprehensive, give her lot’s of hugs and kisses, make her feel that you actually love her cos common we as a man are with our partners cos we love them more that ourselves if you know what I mean, so in summary, not all women are like that, they just look for attention and beneficial satisfaction for other guys as well. Those women have high “ego” so don’t even bother, but as you said yeah is inevitable sometime that might happen, but like I said, if she really loves you and you really loves her as well, there’s no need to worry about it. and if you intend to marry and start a happy family with that woman because she’s the love of your life, do it, you and her will never regret that decision, you took the decision to make your life better and happier with that woman, so never back up in love.( do this with the right woman, like really do it with the right woman, there are a few out there waiting to be discovered.
And yeah we know all women we meet won’t have an interest in us, and that’s simple cos of the Beauty/looks, so only do this with women that really appreciate your efforts, after that is game over
And please I know that we all know that you may reply to me saying, ‘ok this might work, or yeah it’s the reality, but at the end she’ll be tired of me of something”, like I said do this with the right woman, not those girls that show up everything to the public, a woman that respect herself and have boundaries as well as we do have boundaries as well, the ones that are reserved, those women; think way back let say 60 years ago, dating wasn’t to difficult back then, and it should never be, so plan accordingly( I know this is off-topic, but you get me)
PD: I’m a man so please don’t be confused by my profile picture
Lastly, I really appreciate your time reading this(sorry for taking the minute you wasted reading this, but I hope it can help you at least in something to know and view that not all woman lost intersect in men; if you both love each other(if she really appreciates that, doesn’t matter the years you guys been together, she’ll never will leave your side, ever).
Have a nice day my friend and take good care of yourself as well, that’s really important.
Lastly, forgot to tell, give her your all! We just live once, in your relationships, doesn’t matter if it didn’t work out on your previous relationship, just keep giving your all in every relationship, the girl that stay with you for life will show up someday, so don’t be scared of breakups or being too harsh on yourself, keep moving forward and remember to always love a Woman deeply, there’s one that will stay with you forever so keep giving all the love you got in every relationship
It's her loss you are the prize if she doesn't follow your lead let her go and find someone else don't chase her replace her
Best one yet ty!!
*When a woman pulls away, the first step is to assess the situation. Reflect on recent interactions - were there any signs of disinterest? Understanding her perspective can help you address any issues. Once you know what went wrong, you can approach the situation more effectively.*
My ex and I had a wonderful 5 years.
After she left I rapidly improved myself and we ended up unintentionally meeting up, she noticed my progress and practically begged for a second chance. Saying she loved me, leaving was a mistake and she lied about all the bad things she said lead to the breakup. But a month after I come home, her texts stop, and we talk, she doesn't want to try again. She took my second chance for granted. So I suggested we don't talk anymore
That is a good point 👉
Damn bruh
Question bro. What was your thoughts when said she lied about all the bad things she said lead to the breakup? I was in a similar situation.
She's a narcissist dude. You fell for it.
You got got by a narcissist. She had you come back just so she could power trip off rejecting you again.
If they lose interest it's because they've been pumped and dumped so many times they can't be with a high quality man who respects women. Lots of women are very high count these days. Find the quality women who have self respect.
Apollonia you are the most generous and intelligent relationship coach I’ve ever heard. Bless your heart.
Aponti you are given the best advice to ur customers. You encourange and given the best support to ur customers.
I can see that you want all the best for people .
This is ur real gift .
Thank you so much! Love hearing about things like this.
When a woman loses interest run as fast as you can! If she isn't interested in you for who you are don't waste another minute of your energy on her. Instead use it on yourself and on those who value your time. There is good info on this video but it's not healthy and will just hurt you more in the end chasing someone that isn't interested or lost interest.
So true
run? run from what? if you’re running from something, it’s because it’s chasing you. something or someone that has no interest in you, isn’t gonna chase you. “running” from someone that loses interest, is really just you taking your L, turning around & simply walking away.
@@shivani815 it’s usually good to run away from any hazard: explosives, poisonous plants, toxic women 😂
EXACTLY! I’m not a fan of this video at all. I was exhausted just listening to everything I’d have to do to keep/gain her interest back. I’m going to be me, certainly focus on self improvement and if that’s enough for her, great.
@@shivani815 If you want to go through a bunch of hoops because a women doesn’t value who you are, that’s up to you. If Input a solid effort in, I’ve done my part.
LOVE ALL YOUR CONTENT!! Finding your channel is the best thing that happened to me! Broken hearted after a break up but I know I will get through it and be a better person in the end. Thank you!!!!!
You got this! I'm excited that you are here. Thank you for your comment and letting me know. xoxo
-Apollonia
@@ApolloniaPonti ex wanted space and I didn't respect her wishes and said "you can become the best person in the world, I don't want you" is it over? It was a 2yr relationship
@@ApolloniaPonti What can a man do if he is feeling depolarized with feminine behavior? Maybe feeling a little burnt out on dating?
I love her content
This exact thing happened to me I tried too hard for someone I thought was perfect for me and she needed and ask for space and a break so yea I learned a lesson from her and myself Thank You for video🙏🏿
Of course we try and do the best we can in the moment. But sometimes, even doing what she wants is not enough. You can't believe women anymore. Best strategy is be yourself, be honest, be upfront and let the chips fall where they may. Don't chase, but be present. Check up on her every other day or so, feel her reactions and questions and go from there. Always be the first one to invite but not the first one to ask. Woemn are fickle, so be you and they'll either like you or they won't.
"Always be the first one to invite but not the first one to ask" what dat mean
It's always an opportunity for growth. Focus on your own health and business goals!
I would definitely focus on my own health 💯
This is why all men should never place all energy into just one female, unless they're in a full on relationship. Never let her manipulate you into getting rid of girls who orbit, give her a sense of fear that if she's not on point, theirs another girl who will be on point.
You don't have to be a d*CK but also don't let her get too comfortable. That's when she looses interest.
Maybe women should just stop the mind games and actually just focus on investing her time into both herself and the relationship. Which most don't. Games games and more games.
I'm done with playing games now, and I think to worry too much about this stuff actually creates an obsession within ourselves.
If she pulls away cool, let her calm down or what ever. Whilst she does that.... Talk to other girls it's simple
If she's not interested, she's not interested. Move on. Life is NOT about holding on to people who don't want to be there. Find somebody who IS interrested and worth the investment.
You definitely should move on
imagine ended up being married to her......then, at 50......she removes her makeup to take a shower and when she is done..........HOLY SHIT!!!! wheres my wife????
Until that person isn't because you were needy. Do you remove investment then again?
I agree but I think the issue she speaks of happens to people repeatedly. So it helps on the next woman .
Yup. Be there, meet their needs (At least the ones they actually tell you) and put the effort in. This whole you can’t do too much but have to do something. Geesh, I’m tired just trying to think of how to navigate. 😂
Here are some good questions to ask that get at the heart of this topic.
1.) Is there a chance that a relationship is more successful if the woman is more needy than the man?
2.) Does society look down upon men being needy more than women?
Men understand the subtleties between chasing and pursuing and you'll have a better chance. Also have an abundance mindset and work on yourself.
Exactly what I needed in this particular moment. Crazy how that works.
That's how I found them 3 years ago or so I used Google to help me figure out a way to solve my issues and their videos were recommended an it took off from there just like your statement crazy how that works amen .
So do i
I haven’t spent a dime with you apolonia but you have impacted my life and relationship for the better I’m soooo grateful for you
So am i
I noticed I've been attached texting her like crazy and it's not giving her the opportunity to pursue me in return. I can tell she has lost a little interest but still willing to hold on strong to what we can possibly have together. She's loyal and faithful to me as she knows I am to her also. The two of us don't want to lose what the both of us worked so hard towards.
You said it ego, once people learn how to take responsibility and disregard your own ego, you just lead a better life period.
Nothing.
Never value ANYONE over yourself.
Sometimes, complete uninvested autonomy can be excruciatingly painful and lonely, as I've found out the hard way. It takes a lot of strength.
For instance, a woman I saw just before Christmas texted me - her texting NEVER goes anywhere - I'd get more response from a brick wall, so when she asked me how I was and she replied "just ok?" my main reaction was "god, I'm tired of this shit." I didn't even bother replying some ridiculous reply just to continue a conversation that seemed to be going nowhere.
Yes, but really worth it. Once you get past the need for someone to make your life "complete", you find that it is complete of itself. Then you are free to explore your life for yourself.
That is a good point
It's not going anywhere because you're not taking it anywhere. You as the man need to cut to the chase. You need to be the leader. Tell her what you want and she can take it or leave it.
Absolutely fuckin right.
Lonely sucks
Omg you are spot on Apollonia! Confidence and ownership is vulnerability ❤ I was in fear of showing that side in my past relationship. The vulnerability part of this video is me 💯%
I'm great with talking to women. I lack the ability to sustain that emotional connection. I know i need to work on this if I am to enter into a new relationship. I love your advice. It's like you can read my mind and my feelings. I love you Apollonia 😊
Keep up the great work!
This video was SPOT ON, the vulnerability, the how did i act accountability, just kept hitting the mark lol going thru a rough patch now in my relationship not sure if it will last or not was going good for about 9 months and boom.
Sometimes women lose Interest because she find someone better and doesn’t find you attractive
then she never loved you in the first place. like how many men would she find better than the current one. how many exes will she have to be satisfied. if she finds the one she loves it doesn't matter if he is better than the next or previous. women need to know how to love and not just keep moving unto the next
Damn
Fuqqked up but true
99% true. Then 1% if she has problems (sick)
@ivan cud my man, true , they have to learn how to love,
Sometimes women are sick they get nervous and the love fades, then she is loosing interest in you.
Or there was abuse or violence in relationship
This is very helpful information. I'm currently going through a period in my relationship where my partner seems like to be losing interest in our relationship so this information is quite profound for me at the moment. Really appreciate it
You're so welcome! xoxo thank you for your comment
Same her
Facts
Its not rocket science....just live your life and the right women will come along....women will come and go but they are not the right ones...u cant force it....the right women will follow your lead...be a man and king at all times....dont let women make u lose your focus....
@@thomasbowers9538 amen
I like your style by constantly giving free game for years to those who are lost! It's all true!
Fact
FFS GUYS! Don't be a nice guy, be a GOOD guy. Learn the difference!
It doesn't matter what type of guy you are; she will lose interest at some point.
How do u be good without being nice lol
@@trollhunter3944 THEIR BRAINS ARE A CONVOLUTED PIECE OF SHEET!!!😉
This is very helpful, thanks a lot. Detachment always works to a certain extent.
I tell ppl all the time we all are not meant to get along and be liked by everyone no two ppl are alike nothing wrong with having different opinions and different ways of doing things
For sure
When my ex girlfriend said she lost interest in me I told her okey go find other guy then but you will miss all the things I use to do with you. Told her take care god speed I told her I love u but if you want go go I'm not chasing u
Ok - so did she come back??
Remember you are always loved😍
I like every thing you have put on the table. I have gone through that, i'm telling myself i'll leave her alone.
I would definitely leave her alone too if this happened to me when i have a girlfriend.!
Came to this channel for ways to get her back to me. Stay for content about self-help thank you Ms Ponti
I'm always happy to help!
Treat them like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan.
Treat her like a queen and she'll treat you like a peasant.
AP, love the passion you put into your content! Really inspirational 🙌
One I was dating, hit me with the friend zone..I Mean ,time money, and effort went out the window..this definently helped because 2 weeks past and she wonders why I don't call/text anymore
Im trying to get out of the friend zone too
Dre B, move on and be the damn King you are. Take your small losses and move on before they become HUGE life changing losses.
@@briar35981 most definitely 🙏🏽
I lose interest in everyone. i go from excited to wanting to find reasons to blow it up, usually within a month. I think I'm afraid of commitment, getting hurt, losing control, being vulnerable, all of the above. And just revert back to living like I know how, not all that happy but safe from volatility.
You might need to try to look inside of yourself and find out why. You may lose the "one"
Great advice, you sound like a person that has sincerity and humility.
For men: Do not waste your time and resources on delusional, entitled, and non-traditional, non-marriage material women.
Enjoy life alone to the fullest without having a toxic woman, who will just use your resources and your life until she jumps to blood suck another beta-Bob.
This video really spoke to me. Why in the world did i think i would be enough after getting a certain kind of woman? And i like how i could pin point my insecurities, and work on them so the next time i see another woman im attracted to i wont be attached and shoe case needy behaviors.
Apollonia, I am using your advices and I feel things are progressing better for me. I am not doing the whole "Nice guy" method but I enjoy talking with her as much as I can. I give myself my time and I do not just answer right way and I let her know at times if I will be in a meeting or out etc so boundaries are created to respect my time, but why would I feel like when I am talking to her, I get excited and want to engage. There is interest and I am not being the "bully" whop forces what I want when I want it on her. I did that before with someone, not cool. I am showing understanding to this person like I have not done before. I realize it is not just about me me me, but I have to take into account another persons choices as well.
Ahhh this is beautiful! Thanks for sharing.
@@ApolloniaPonti so is it safe to do the whole advise without doing the detachment part? he is actually into contact with her.
🧡 Ponti! I think people feel intimidated by muscle..I am trying to do less exercise in order to look more friendly and recieve social support...
I had asked how to get someone like you. I want someone as good as you. You're married that's awesome but I want someone as good as you. I like your show and it has helped me thank you. When I get done moving I'll join your membership
It was a very nice and helpful video. The points you mentioned were very accurate and really good. Feel very lucky with such a great guide. A lot of love
Thank you so much for those kind words Nikhil! I'm always happy to help!
Same her Mrs point
She will never lose interest
If a women that doesnt like herself knows that you like her she'll lose interest
That's like almost every woman today out there.🤣🤡🙆🏻🤦🏻
a loss of interest (let's be honest, we are speaking about sexual interest here) for the same partner is natural. This is something that's carved in genes of women. 3 years at best and her sexual attraction for the same partner drops significantly (there's plenty of studies how the number of intercourse drops with time due to women's refusal to have sex). It's biology, stop pretending that with some psychological tricks and doing backflips you can change something about that. All you can achieve is to make a woman feel gratitude (oh, your so good to me, I can't leave you or betray you) but it's not even close to that sexual attraction (interest, as it's called in this clip) you once had.
Fuck !!! This good information right here. It's the truth. Way more in these few lines than in the whole video.
Men have to keep things interesting, in bed and out of bed. In bed is self explanatory. Out of bed is more nuanced. You have to value and align with her non sexual presence and experiences. Sustained, happy relationships are possible.
@@ICardYou what does a woman have to do?
Just show up?
What a trade
@@ICardYou Just change her every 4 year's.
@@mig7290 damn
What’s wrong with being kind and nice to a woman you’re pursuing??
Damn I really like this girl and want her back but I can’t help but notice all the other girls available to me now😭 still gonna get this one back but it definitely helped me see more clear and stay in an abundance mindset
Social media made it difficult to deal with women
Pretty much
I 33male met this, introverted, catholic school girl 28 that was very sweet and not much of a talker (convo starter). We texted a good bit (big paragraphs) for 2 months because I had covid, and when we met we hugged and smiled and chatted a bit and played darts... I told her she had a cute outfit and she told me mine looks "fitting for the occasion" we were just catching up on what we were talking about on our text messages. However, near the end, I lifted her up and held her like a baby for a photo, she smiled big for the camera. When we walked outside, I said I normally don't kiss on the first date and said "well, come here" and when I went in, she turned her head where I kissed her cheek/hair... it was awkward, but I played it off like it was nothing... We said our byes and 1 hour later she texted me wanting to see me that weekend with heart eye emojis.
On our second date, things ended not that great. We played arcades, then bowling, then pool.
I saw her, and hugged and said "I didn't know there were two entrances" (I gave her no compliment and she dolled up, too) She had a big smile.
fast forward
"Stay here while I get our tokens" (she stayed, but eventually followed me
Hi there,
I would love to help you with this. I hope you can book a coaching session with me so I can know a little more about what happened between you and this woman in order to give your proper advice.
membership.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/
When she loses interest, move on, plenty of fish in the sea....
Women just NEVER understand that they ALWAYS subconsciously lose attraction for a man who is “emotionally vulnerable”….. This includes female dating coaches. It’s not what you say ladies, it’s what you do that counts……
I just turned 30 I was dating an older women she was 43 with kids they are older, literally after dating for a year on our anniversary of a year dating on my birthday which was last week she tells me I don’t think this would work out. Know she does have a lot going on although her kids are grown she mentioned she didn’t have the love or the time for me and that we should just “let it be, you never know” which I’ve been here before some one wants to leave you life so they give false hope to make it easy in both ends. She let it be clear that in the beginning she didint want a relationship but after a year we went through a lot together.
I think it’s also my financial situation I have been through some bad hard ship in the past five-six months I lost my job because of covid my business was not doing well I was in the negative I’ve been trying to fight for months to get a decent job but it’s hard.
Just date women and the right one will come...put yourself first at all times
Most women who end it all say this....sadly these days they have widely more options and can never commit to 1 man
So I just had had this EXACT same thing play out. She Wanted a relationship, we hit it off HUGE. She would say things like it’s too good to be true etc BUT then she started getting squirrelly and unsure. At the 3 month mark she said she didn’t know, was “messed up” and walked away. 2 weeks later she came back, said it was cause she was scared to get hurt. So I gave it another go. It was MUCH better but she still didn’t seem to be fully in. Didn’t meet a single friend until 6 months. Never met her parents. She was still going through the divorce process and living with parents. So LOTS going on, but started telling me she loved me. At almost a year out of nowhere - I’m going to be too busy, you deserve more, I can’t give you what you need, too much going on. I love you but not in love cause I don’t know if I can. So, moral is, they are not emotionally available - It’s being taken up by all this baggage. They don’t ever fully commit, not to a level of love. Let’s both learn our lesson and not ignore the signs again! Also know, it’s not always cause WE did something to make them lose interest.
Your videos are always great Apollonia ponti. I wish I could be friends with you, Natalie and Cynthia. You 3 are kind compassion ladies.
I don't chase anyone. Not because I've made it a rule not to chase anyone. But because I've got so much going on in my own life, and options with other women, that I just forget about her if she ghosts me or becomes distant. Usually they come back. And I believe this is why. If your energy is GENUINELY invested in the activities and people that offer genuine interest and returns on your efforts, then you become a magnet. Also, sometimes a woman just isn't that into you. It happens. So effing what. Find someone who is into you or simply be into yourself and your own goals.
you help us understand and see the relationship in whole different and multi dimensional way and its really helpful.
Fellas, if she comes back and you take her back, she will have all the power and where will your pride be. Just leave and get on with your life, regardless you’re taking an L.
Somehow I like play games with women and sometimes I asked myself "why do that"? I don't know, but I think it is a kind of fun, and the good thing is I don't have any problem to move on whenever I see a woman is not interested.
Plss make a video on if she is with someone else and she doesnt want to be with u but she loves u more
Take this with a grain of salt. You shouldn't need to become something you are not. But you should strive for improvement. Videos like this may feel like you are to blame. Sometimes, it's the woman, gents.
It’s never worth trying to reconnect, chances are she’s toxic and will just do it again.
So many good nuggets here!!!
Thanks hopefully this helps apollonia xx
How can you tell a woman that's given you her number, texted, and chatted with you on the phone once or twice lost interest or was never really interested in you AT ALL? And how will you know it was because of her or me why nothing progressed? Kinda impossible to know those answers if you've rarely dialouged with her at all from the get go 🤷🏾♂️.
She pull away n come back after 1day but she change alot yeah we talk but not as usual. It seems like uninterested on me. We has been for 6years in relationship. But all suddenly she change ignoring my txt call. Ma'am I really confused please I need your advice thanks.
thank you for this. That is exactly what I am doing.
I am currently so much in pain .. my women completely lost her interest in me. We recently broke up like 4 days ago 😭 And it's completely my fault, i didn't gave her the respect she deserved and didn't value her love . She said a few times that i'll only realise when she's gone .. and she was right. I begged her so much to come back but she's not willing to come back even in the future 😭 I seriously don't know what to do with my life now. I have given her my whole heart
Begging always turns women off.
Stop simping NOW! Go into no contact, and stay in that mode. Weather she returns or not… You got this!
You failed already, the moment you begged
You’re on your 4th date with your new woman…she ask “ can we stay home tonight sit on the back porch talk drink beer and listen to music and I’ll cook supper” and you say ok. The evening goes great supper was great it’s a wonderful date. But then she begins to tell you about a man from her past that s he use to hook up with at the clubs and they clicked and were great on the dance floor together and then she turns to you and says “ and if you and I end up at a place and he is there we are going to dance whether you like it or not!! Then in about 15 minutes she has him on the phone and puts him on speaker so you can hear it and he continuously refers to her as Love throughout the phone call…now remember she is on a date with you… the call last about 15 or 20 minutes and when she finishes she tells you she has just done you a favor by making that call in front of you instead of behind your back! What’s your reaction?
😂 She belongs to the streeeeeeeeeets!
Remember: you will never be enough.... no matter who you are or what you do:
Her phone comes first 🎉
I just don’t know. I asked her to tell me to back off if that was what she wanted. She didn’t say yes and she didn’t say no. What should I do? I talk like her. I told her that I am goal oriented, we actually met in a college class. She still talk to me and then ignore me for at least a day sometimes a little longer I don’t want to lose her.
I met this woman in my apartment complex. She moved in and immediately when I saw her I fell in love with her. This feeling came over me, and I never felt it before in my entire life not even the woman that I was with for so many years getting to know, this woman was amazing, and just how she made me feel when I was around her just like all my problems everything that I was dealing with didn’t mean nothing and I felt like a kid and I just felt so secure and like I was home I’m talking about myself, but she wasn’t very forthcoming about her self And she’s going through a lot of issues and I’m very affectionate how I show with people like I greet people with a hug or a handshake. She didn’t want any of that at first she did that she stopped that quickly. I would wait for her when she would come home from work because we lived in the same apartment complex. It was like I was married to her, and she never once told me how she felt about me. I have known her for almost 2 years just the most sweetest politest woman I’ve ever met with people, but things started that happened and how she acted towards me was like kind of awkward I just felt like she took a vantage of who I was my compassion and my tenderness, my politeness towards her because that’s how I was raised I was opening doors for her that made her uncomfortable cause she never had that done for her, she has amazing kids, three boys, and a girl I had a chance to talk to all of them or at least some of them just a feeling that I got from them was like yes this is good but deep down inside I don’t think she had any feelings for me or she cared to. She kept saying she preferred bad boys I don’t know what that means really she said multiple guys and a lot of verbal stuff and then she moved away close by where she works and we texted for a little bit but that was strange because she never wanted to talk on the phone but she talked my ears off in person and I would text her a lot and she would never really respond or if she did there it was very short, so I haven’t heard from her in two weeks I don’t know what to do. Should I contact her because just feel really hurt like I was here just for what you wanted like I was in this friend zone and that’s where she want to be just to make her happy to be honest I’m just done I don’t really want to contact her because I will get the same results so I’m just gonna wait I’m just gonna live my life enjoy my things and if she contacts me great if she doesn’t, I could care less it just hurts. That’s all that I invested so much of my time and who I am to her and she didn’t want any of it 🥹
You'll find the right one. You sound like a great guy. Some people can't deal with a "gentleman"
Oh BTW I have a 4 year old son. Someday when you have your on child. You can't even imagine the amount of love you gave for your own kid. It is so overwhelming and beautiful. Good luck.
What if she lost interest because i didn’t show her that I was interested, and don’t communicate what i wanted with her?
That’s me!!
Bro if you were cool with her and took her out or went out then she knows what's up. Ignore her bro
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This is so helpful
keep doing this videos
much love
Thank you! much love to you too!
Facts
If she loses interest, just don't do anything.
Why??
@@travisandrews3909 because shes not interested.
@@bodyemcal😂😂😂 pretty simple
Thank you very much for this video ✌️😊😊
Going through it right now. Pulled away and never reached out and guess what? She hits me up complaining I am not reaching out 😒
She had ghosted me. I confronted her. She told she lost interest and apologized. Then she asks me if we could be friends. The fucking nerve. She ghosted me which is basically ignoring me. I'm sorry but I do not want to be friends with someone I don't respect. And if she ghosts me as a boyfriend, she'll ghost me as a friend...also, being friend zoned is being demoted. It's rather insulting for her to ask me that.
I overtext
I self sabotage too
Im too nice
I overthink also
Thank you Apollonia, this is wisdom l will take with me.
Regards
Mattias
My girlfriend left and she is pregnant with our baby she has left me twice in the pregnancy we are 21 weeks into the pregnancy and now she wants nothing to do with me won’t talk to me or anything keeps dodging me and I keep trying to be there for her but she won’t let she has said there is no more we she can do it on her own and that she doesn’t feel the same as I do
At the end of the day women are scared to be alone and don't want to be alone so if she really lost interest like that nine times out of 10 it has something to do with another guy showing up or coming back or her emotions missing someone... You got women out here who love men to death that cheat on them and everything so you mean to tell me that you did something small and she lost interest lol it's bullshit if she loses interest that much that easily she probably never really had real interest or is one of the other things I said above or everything I said in general
I moved too fast with marriage talk way too soon while we were not even "official." She went to her ex who just got out of jail. I contacted her and she told me I moved way too fast. I friendzoned myself. Lesson learned. Maybe I'll get another chance.
Meh, I don’t buy it. If they are into you, they won’t mind a quick pace. Sure, there is psycho level pace, but if they are constantly hesitant and unsure yet telling you that you are great, there is an issue and it’s hers. The ex was likely always a factor I’m sorry to say. I’ve been here. Had a girl tell me within a week that she has never connected with anyone so quickly, that it was so good it’s scary. Even by 3rd month, didn’t want to “label” It and didn’t meet a single friend until the 6 month point. She still bailed at a year. Red flags that I ignored.
I played myself...i over pursued her when i shoulda just fell back n cheated...ijs...
Great video thank you for posting it
Wow 😮 thank you I’ve been listing to all your videos all day at work and me and my girlfriend are taking a break and it’s resents I’m gonna take all the tips I can thank you I’m interested in knowing more
Thank you so much for watching! I hope my video was helpful!
@@ApolloniaPonti it was I’m interested in knowing more how can I go about that ?
Are the VIP free Apolonia?
breathe a sigh of relief? get back to doing things that are important? go back to leading a fulfilling life? thank god she's somebody else's problem?
Hmm SEEMS like the universe is LOSING interest this Amazing insightful information Thanks for Sharing Beautiful 🤩
Very strong message in this video. One of my top three . I need self examination. How can i get one on one coaching . I just went through the situation six weeks ago
Kevin
So did i bro
@@travisandrews3909 Whats your story if you don't mind sharing?
Thank you appollnia ponti..ur most of videos helping us boys a lot to be better and show up better..in life and as a partner..and ofcurse to know the woman psychology.
You are dope and correct I know women like the back of my hand but I didn’t know myself like I needed too and longer you are with someone the more you look for there validation but no it’s your responsibility to know who you are and matter to yourself